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Self-Confidence: Morning Motivation to Start Your Day Strong · Motivation Mindset Podcast

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  Speaker 1: You see what happens is this then that an individual
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  Speaker 1: who all his life long has played the social game
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  Speaker 1: is then says, well, now I've done that, I've assumed
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  Speaker 1: this role. I've become identified with Ticke, Taylor, Solda, Seila,
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  Speaker 1: whatever it was.
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  Speaker 2: But now who am I really?
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  Speaker 1: In order to find that out? I have to go
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  Speaker 1: off by myself.
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  Speaker 2: Why, because.
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  Speaker 1: You have a role conception, a mosque conception of yourself,
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  Speaker 1: because other people tell.
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  Speaker 3: You who you are. If belief is a construct, then
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  Speaker 3: like any other construct, it can be manipulated and changed,
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  Speaker 3: and at any moment you can choose to believe something
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  Speaker 3: new about yourself. Now, the weird thing about belief is
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  Speaker 3: as soon as you change that belief, it becomes true.
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  Speaker 3: Why that is I will never quite understand what weird
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  Speaker 3: quirk of human evolution has left us in a space
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  Speaker 3: where simply believing it makes it true. If you think
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  Speaker 3: you're dumb, guess what you're dumb, and you will act
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  Speaker 3: in accordance with that belief, and that should scare.
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  Speaker 2: The shit out of you.
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  Speaker 4: So if you think about it. People wake up in
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  Speaker 4: the morning, they begin to think about their problems. Those
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  Speaker 4: problems are circuits of memories, in the brain. Each one
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  Speaker 4: of those memories are connected to people and things at
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  Speaker 4: certain times in places. And if the brain is a
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  Speaker 4: record of the past, the moment they start their day,
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  Speaker 4: they're already thinking in the past. Each one of those
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  Speaker 4: memories has an emotion. Emotions are the end product of
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  Speaker 4: past experiences. So the moment they recall those memories of
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  Speaker 4: their problems, they all of a sudden feel unhappy, they
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  Speaker 4: feel sad, they feel pain. Now, how you think and
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  Speaker 4: how you feel creates your state of being. So the
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  Speaker 4: person's entire state of being when they start their day
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  Speaker 4: is in the past. So what does that mean? The
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  Speaker 4: familiar past will sooner or later be predictable future. So
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  Speaker 4: if you believe that your thoughts have something to do
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  Speaker 4: with your destiny, and you can't think greater than how
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  Speaker 4: you feel or feelings have become the means of thinking
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  Speaker 4: by very definition of emotions, you're thinking in the past,
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  Speaker 4: and for the most part, you're going to keep creating
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  Speaker 4: the same life. So then people grab their cell phone,
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  Speaker 4: they check their what's up, They check their text, they
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  Speaker 4: check their emails, they check Facebook.
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  Speaker 2: They take a picture of their field, they.
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  Speaker 4: Post it on Facebook. They tweet something, they do Instagram,
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  Speaker 4: they check the news, and now they feel really connected
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  Speaker 4: to everything that's known in their life. And then they
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  Speaker 4: go through a series of routine behaviors.
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  Speaker 5: They get out of.
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  Speaker 4: Bed on the same side, they go to the toilet,
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  Speaker 4: they get a cup of coffee, they take a shower,
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  Speaker 4: they get dressed, they drive to work the same way.
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  Speaker 2: They need the same things, they.
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  Speaker 4: See the same people, they'll push the same emotional buttons,
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  Speaker 4: and that becomes the routine, and it becomes like a program.
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  Speaker 4: So now they've lost their free will to a program
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  Speaker 4: and no unseen hand doing it to them. So when
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  Speaker 4: it comes time to change, the redundancy of that cycle
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  Speaker 4: becomes a subconscious program. So now ninety five percent of
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  Speaker 4: who we are by the time we're thirty five years
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  Speaker 4: old is a memorized set of behaviors, emotional reactions, unconscious habits,
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  Speaker 4: hardwired attitudes, beliefs, and perceptions that function like a computer program.
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  Speaker 3: The mind is the matrix in and of itself. Right
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  Speaker 3: now today, in this moment, I promise you, the matrix
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  Speaker 3: has you. If you guys know David Foster Wallace's concept
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  Speaker 3: of this is water to a fish. Water is so
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  Speaker 3: ubiquitous it ceases to exist. Now, we all have that
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  Speaker 3: same thing, and it's playing on us and it's keeping
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  Speaker 3: us from becoming who we want to become. And that
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  Speaker 3: thing is our mindset, it's our belief system. It is
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  Speaker 3: so ever present, it is so ingrained into the fabric
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  Speaker 3: of who you are and the way that you process data,
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  Speaker 3: you don't even notice it. You don't even know that
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  Speaker 3: it's real. And this is the thing that impacts your life.
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  Speaker 3: It is your inability to see that your mindset controls
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  Speaker 3: everything that it is water in and of itself. Now,
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  Speaker 3: when I heard this from Shakespeare, I realized that once
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  Speaker 3: you become aware of the water, you can change everything.
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  Speaker 4: So then person can say, with their five percent of
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  Speaker 4: their conscious mind, I want to be healthy, I want
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  Speaker 4: to be happy, I want to be free. But the
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  Speaker 4: body is on a whole different program. So then how
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  Speaker 4: do you begin to make those changes. Well, you have
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  Speaker 4: to get beyond the analytical mind, because what separates the
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  Speaker 4: conscious mind from the subconscious mind is the analytical mind.
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  Speaker 4: And that's where meditation comes in, because you can teach
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  Speaker 4: people to practice how to change their brainworth slow them down,
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  Speaker 4: and when they do that properly, they do enter the
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  Speaker 4: operating system where they can begin to make some really
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  Speaker 4: important changes. So most people then wait for crisis or
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  Speaker 4: trauma or disease or diagnosis, and they wait for loss,
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  Speaker 4: some tragedy to make up their mind to change. In
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  Speaker 4: my message is why waiting? And you can learn and
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  Speaker 4: change in a state of pain and suffering, or you
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  Speaker 4: can learn and change in a state of joy and inspiration.
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  Speaker 4: I think right now, the cool thing is that people
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  Speaker 4: are waking up.
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  Speaker 6: Every public appearance that I've made that's related to the
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  Speaker 6: sort of topics that we're discussing is overwhelmingly men. It's
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  Speaker 6: like eighty five to ninety percent. And so I thought, wow,
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  Speaker 6: that's weird, Like what the hell's going on here exactly?
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  Speaker 6: And then the other thing I've noticed is that I've
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  Speaker 6: been talking a lot to the crowds that I've been
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  Speaker 6: talking to not about rights but about responsibility, right, because
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  Speaker 6: you can't have the bloody conversation what are you doing?
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  Speaker 6: You can't have the conversation about rights without the conversation
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  Speaker 6: about responsibility because your rights are my responsibility. That's what
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  Speaker 6: they are technically, So you just can't have only half
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  Speaker 6: of that discussion. And we're only having half that discussion,
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  Speaker 6: and the question is, well, what they hell are you
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  Speaker 6: leaving out if you only have that half of the discussion,
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  Speaker 6: And the answer is, while you're leaving out responsibility. And
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  Speaker 6: then the question is, well, what are you leaving out
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  Speaker 6: if you're leaving out responsibility? And the answer might be, well,
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  Speaker 6: maybe you're leaving out the meaning of life. That's what
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  Speaker 6: it looks like to me. It's like, here you are
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  Speaker 6: suffering away. What makes it worthwhile?
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  Speaker 2: Right? You know, you're.
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  Speaker 6: Completely out, You're completely you have no idea what you're
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  Speaker 6: It's almost impossible to describe how bad an idea that is. Responsibility.
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  Speaker 2: That's what gives life meaning.
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  Speaker 6: It's like lift a load, then you can tolerate yourself right,
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  Speaker 6: because look at you're useless, easily hurt, easily killed. Why
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  Speaker 6: should you have any self respect? That's the story of
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  Speaker 6: the fall. Pick something up and carry it, pick make
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  Speaker 6: it heavy enough so that you can think, yeah, well,
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  Speaker 6: useless as I am, at least I could move that
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  Speaker 6: from there to there.
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  Speaker 1: Well.
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  Speaker 6: What's really cool about that is that when I talk
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  Speaker 6: to these crowds about this, the men's eyes light up.
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  Speaker 6: That's very like I've seen that phenomena because I've been
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  Speaker 6: talking about this mythological material for a long time, and
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  Speaker 6: I can see when I'm watching crowds people, you know,
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  Speaker 6: their eyebrows lift, their eyes let light up because I
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  Speaker 6: put something together for them. That's what mythological stories do.
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  Speaker 6: So I'm not taking responsibility for that. That's what the
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  Speaker 6: stories do. So I say the story and people go click, click, click,
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  Speaker 6: you know, and their eyes light up. But this responsibility thing,
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  Speaker 6: that's a whole new order of this is that young
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  Speaker 6: men are so hungry for that it is unbelievable. It
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  Speaker 6: just blows me away. It's like, really, that's what's that's
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  Speaker 6: the counterculture. Grow the hell up and do something useful.
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  Speaker 7: Really, I could do that.
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  Speaker 6: Oh, I'm so excited by that idea. No one ever
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  Speaker 6: mentioned that before.
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  Speaker 7: It's like rights, rights, rights, rights, Jesus, it's it's it's appalling,
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  Speaker 7: it's and I feel that that's deeply felt by the
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  Speaker 7: people who are who are coming out.
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  Speaker 6: To to listen to these sorts of things. They've had
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  Speaker 6: enough of that, so and they better have because it's
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  Speaker 6: a non productive mode of being.
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  Speaker 8: Responsibility man, life has no duplicate, as Jerry Jackson would say,
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  Speaker 8: And so you want to do life on your terms.
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  Speaker 5: You want to do you You want to live each
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  Speaker 5: day as if it were your last and give it
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  Speaker 5: everything you have. And that's what I'm focused on it
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  Speaker 5: my seventy seventh year on the planet is to finish
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  Speaker 5: strong and to do things that will impact my children
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  Speaker 5: and my grandchildren and my great grandchildren and live a
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  Speaker 5: life that will outlive me. As we look at now
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  Speaker 5: where we are, there's a reckoning that's going on, and
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  Speaker 5: this is an incredible time to really turn things to
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  Speaker 5: your advantage. And there are a lot of people right
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  Speaker 5: now are looking and asking the question what's next? Because
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  Speaker 5: life is disruptive, but also in the process it's transformational
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  Speaker 5: because when there's a disruption, you have to transform yourself
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  Speaker 5: to accommodate the disruptions.
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  Speaker 2: You don't want to just be a victim or a witness.
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  Speaker 5: You want to be engaged and on top of your
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  Speaker 5: game in order to go to that next level.
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  Speaker 2: And New York requires that.
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  Speaker 5: The world requires that right now more than ever before.
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  Speaker 5: I ask a young man who was taking my bags,
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  Speaker 5: I said, what's your passion?
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  Speaker 2: He said, my children, he said. In a split.
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  Speaker 5: Second, that grabbed me because that's where I'm coming from.
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  Speaker 2: My children. That's my passion.
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  Speaker 5: The things that I do to generate, buddy, that's one thing.
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  Speaker 5: But my passion is to help my kids have the
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  Speaker 5: tools they need to live a meaningful, success impactful life,
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  Speaker 5: to be an asset to the world rather than a liability.
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  Speaker 2: And I know many of you feel the same way.
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  Speaker 5: And so as you look at yourself, look at your goals,
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  Speaker 5: and look at what do you want to do? How
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  Speaker 5: many of you are hongry for greatness? Let me see
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  Speaker 5: some hearts up in here, up in here. You have
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  Speaker 5: greatness in you. You have built in greatness. But that greatness,
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  Speaker 5: it must be focused on that greatness, it must be
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  Speaker 5: cultivated and developed. That greatness it must be called forth.
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  Speaker 5: And as you work on yourself and work on your dreams,
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  Speaker 5: and realize that you've been given the power, authority, and
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  Speaker 5: dominion to do more than you can ever begin to imagine.