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Let's Recharge Your Relationship: Introducing The Sexy 30 Day Challenge · The Ultimate Intimacy Podcast

• 0:00
  Nick: This is just the bonus episode today.
• 0:05
  Amy: On the ultimate intimacy podcast.
• 0:07
  Nick: With Nick and Amy.
• 0:10
  Amy: Today's just a little bit different.
• 0:12
  Amy: We just wanted to share that tomorrow starts.
• 0:16
  Amy: Do you know what tomorrow is?
• 0:20
  Nick: The.
• 0:21
  Nick: What did you name it?
• 0:23
  Amy: It's Sexy September starting tomorrow.
• 0:25
  Nick: How could I forget that?
• 0:27
  Amy: Sexy September yes.
• 0:29
  Nick: I don't know how I forgot that.
• 0:31
  Amy: Every married couple needs to know about Sexy September.
• 0:33
  Nick: I love Sexy September.
• 0:35
  Amy: Yes, so we wanted to share something with you that we created, we hand designed for you, just.
• 0:45
  Nick: And when, amy, we want you to jump in with us.
• 0:47
  Nick: When Amy said we, she means me, you.
• 0:50
  Amy: You mean me?
• 0:50
  Amy: Yes, that's it when.
• 0:52
  Nick: Amy says we, she means her.
• 0:55
  Amy: I created for you, because I'm giving it to Nick, because I want to have Sexy September.
• 1:02
  Nick: I won't turn you down.
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  Amy: And Sexy September is actually not just about Sexy September.
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  Amy: It's about connecting emotionally, sexually, physically, spiritually, romantically, and it's going to be a challenge that we're throwing out that we're gonna take, and I've made it fun.
• 1:22
  Amy: It's not just another.
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  Amy: Here's a calendar.
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  Amy: Do these things on these days.
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  Amy: We're gonna explain it to you why we created it, what's entailed and why it's gonna be awesome.
• 1:31
  Nick: Yeah.
• 1:32
  Amy: Right, yep, I love it.
• 1:34
  Amy: No, I was just yeah, I was smiling and happy and so we're gonna call it Because we don't want it to just be September.
• 1:42
  Amy: Anyone that listens to this, whether it's months down the road, weeks later, you can start this challenge at any time.
• 1:49
  Amy: So we're actually gonna call it the relationship recharge, and I like those wordings because sometimes we need a recharge, like we just need some resparks.
• 1:59
  Nick: Right, yeah, your battery wears out.
• 2:01
  Nick: It doesn't mean that things are bad.
• 2:02
  Nick: You just need a recharge.
• 2:04
  Nick: You need to get going again.
• 2:06
  Amy: That's marriage.
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  Amy: You just need a little jump kick.
• 2:08
  Amy: So this is a 30-day marriage challenge.
• 2:12
  Amy: You can take longer, you can do it quicker.
• 2:14
  Amy: It's really like up to you how you want to do this, and I made it a Like you could do it a couple different ways to make it super fun.
• 2:22
  Amy: So instead of just throwing out a calendar and being like this is what we're doing every day for the next 30 days, I created it a little bit different.
• 2:29
  Amy: I actually made it so that you can create your own challenges on the days that you want them.
• 2:37
  Amy: So if, like, it's date night, friday nights and you're like this is a good night to be intimate, you can pick challenges that do that.
• 2:43
  Amy: Or up on Sundays or a good time to emotionally connect, you can throw that on a Sunday.
• 2:49
  Amy: So the way this is going to work, you can either like cut these up so we made them into cute like almost coupons, so you could cut them up and put them in a bowl and just pick one randomly to make it fun for the challenge.
• 3:02
  Amy: You could just print it off, or just even look at it on your phone and just go in order and then just cross them off as you do them, or you could like decide which days go where.
• 3:13
  Amy: So you can kind of do this a couple different ways, but they're really fun things.
• 3:17
  Nick: Yeah, just totally fit whatever you're feeling like or whatever you're in the mood.
• 3:21
  Nick: You can kind of just pick whatever ones you want.
• 3:23
  Amy: And the coupons are super cute.
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  Amy: So there's going to be like a technology-free day, a sleep naked tonight.
• 3:28
  Amy: Lower spouse or low-desire spouse initiates.
• 3:32
  Amy: Tonight.
• 3:33
  Amy: There's some fun date challenges, talking challenges, giving surprises kind of challenges, physical touch challenges, just all sorts of like different challenges, and there's extra ones so that if there's a few that you're just like I don't want to do that, or a couple wild choice card.
• 3:51
  Nick: Yeah, there's quite a few.
• 3:52
  Amy: There's a lot of options.
• 3:54
  Amy: So it's kind of like create your own challenge with just a ton of really fun, cute ideas.
• 4:00
  Amy: We're also providing a love notes and initiating cards.
• 4:05
  Amy: So for me it's really hard, and we get this a lot from husbands or wives that have like a lower-desire spouse.
• 4:12
  Amy: It's hard for us to initiate when it's not on our mind, right.
• 4:16
  Amy: Like there's a lot of times like Nick wishes that I initiated more and I'm doing a lot better at it.
• 4:20
  Amy: But when it's not something on my mind or my body's not telling me that I wanna make love, it's hard to think about.
• 4:25
  Amy: Like that's not gonna come across my mind.
• 4:27
  Amy: So there's some initiating challenges in this sexy September or relationship recharge challenge for the lower drive to initiate, which is awesome, because sometimes I just need to be reminded that I need to do that.
• 4:42
  Amy: So a fun part of this is that we have some little initiating cards.
• 4:46
  Amy: If you heard our jokes, we have a new way of initiating.
• 4:50
  Amy: Nick will do something I'll be like is that your way of initiating?
• 4:52
  Amy: And when I say that, he knows that I'm initiating right.
• 4:55
  Nick: That's fun, yeah, exactly.
• 4:57
  Amy: It's kind of our private joke now when we're initiating.
• 4:59
  Amy: So there's a couple like little coupons that are like a cute way to like hand it to your leave it somewhere for your spouse to know that you're initiating.
• 5:07
  Amy: I also have some printable coupons on there, like you make me happy because one of the challenges is to write your spouse a love note.
• 5:16
  Amy: So there's a cute little love note or gratitude card that you can leave your spouse somewhere.
• 5:20
  Amy: So it comes with that it also.
• 5:22
  Amy: Some of the challenges are like try something new in the bedroom.
• 5:26
  Amy: So we have made a chart a printable chart or that you can use on your phone of like different positions all in one place that you can like cross out when you try those.
• 5:37
  Nick: Or and the fun thing about this is there's been a couple of positions aiming at like okay, we'll try this.
• 5:43
  Nick: I have no idea.
• 5:45
  Amy: That doesn't look super great.
• 5:46
  Amy: It doesn't look like it's even gonna work.
• 5:47
  Nick: I don't even know how it works, and we've tried them.
• 5:49
  Nick: We're like this is actually really good, really fun, yeah, and it's great for both of us.
• 5:56
  Amy: So that's a great about.
• 5:57
  Amy: We're also, you know, tying the sexual intimacy into this challenge because it's really important for your marriage.
• 6:02
  Amy: But, like we always say, emotional connection it's gotta be the foundation, right.
• 6:07
  Amy: So this challenge is to help you, you know, talk, communicate about things, but also bring back that romance and those sparks into marriage, like better date nights, planning date nights, holding hands more, just like those kind of things.
• 6:19
  Amy: So it also comes with, like bucket list and some day ideas and some I don't know, just some fun and easier way to have these conversations and to connect deeper.
• 6:32
  Amy: Like I'm really excited for this challenge because I think it'll be a little bit different and maybe, with some of the printables or slash charts that we're giving you, it could make it a little bit easier to discuss and plan out right.
• 6:43
  Nick: Yeah, I think it'll be really fun.
• 6:45
  Amy: I think that's gonna be a ton of fun and, like we always say, it's all about intentions.
• 6:49
  Amy: So, if you're interested in joining us with the Sexy September, this awesome challenge, romance connection that you want, we all want our marriage right.
• 6:59
  Amy: It's all about intentions.
• 7:00
  Amy: So, just taking that first little step to be like let's commit to this together, let's let's make this month amazing.
• 7:06
  Amy: If both people like do that and they're like okay, I'm willing to dive all in and kind of change how the affections going in our marriage try a little harder with that non-sexual physical touch, more sexual touch, more awesome conversations.
• 7:20
  Amy: I think this is huge.
• 7:21
  Nick: Well, and even just the simple things mean so much to each other, like when you do the little simple things for me, you know, such as give me a coupon or something like that, that means the world to me and hopefully vice versa.
• 7:33
  Nick: So even just something like this challenge, just, you know, writing a little love note or giving your spouse a coupon or different things like that can just really change the dynamics.
• 7:45
  Nick: I mean, it could be so meaningful to your spouse just to let them know that you're thinking about them.
• 7:50
  Amy: And I think it comes down to preparation too.
• 7:52
  Amy: When you put a challenge in front of you, like if you're doing like a diet, you get the recipes, you, you chart out what you're going to eat, right, You're?
• 7:59
  Nick: you chart out some discipline there and you're constantly doing things You're working towards something.
• 8:04
  Amy: You're laying it out, You're, you're making a plan right.
• 8:07
  Amy: Absolutely I think the same thing has to come to our marriages.
• 8:10
  Amy: We have to plan out, being more intentional and some and I hope that this challenge helps, because when something's laid in front of me and I'm organized and I'm like, okay, I need to do this, I need to try this, this is my goal today, this is our goal today.
• 8:23
  Amy: We're going to try harder at this.
• 8:25
  Amy: When I lay it out and either put it on my calendar or have something reminding me, I feel like it becomes more of a a focus a focus, for sure.
• 8:36
  Amy: But also I think you get more.
• 8:38
  Amy: I don't know, you set goals but you start to accomplish them and actually they turn into habits.
• 8:45
  Amy: Right, they turn into habits.
• 8:47
  Nick: I love it that you're exactly right.
• 8:48
  Nick: This helps turn things into more habits in the relationship to where, rather than having you have to get something to do, it.
• 8:58
  Nick: Hopefully it'll put things in motion to where you just start doing these things.
• 9:02
  Amy: Yeah, so I think it's.
• 9:05
  Amy: If you're interested, I hope you'll jump on board with us for our September challenge, or just start it whenever you hear this or are interested, if you really want to jump start, recharge your marriage.
• 9:15
  Amy: I'm really looking forward to this.
• 9:18
  Nick: Yeah, we'll put a link in the show notes and then you can also go to shopultimateintubacycom.
• 9:23
  Amy: Look for either the sexy September challenge or after September.
• 9:29
  Amy: We're just going to call it the relationship recharge challenge, because it could be at any time.
• 9:35
  Amy: So we hope you'll jump on board with us.
• 9:37
  Amy: It's all laid out for you.
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  Amy: We have simplified it, we've made it cute, we made it fun, we made it easy to access.
• 9:43
  Amy: I don't know.
• 9:45
  Amy: I think it's going to be awesome.
• 9:47
  Nick: I do too.
• 9:48
  Nick: I'm excited.