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Wellness Wednesday · Black Girl Interrupted Podcast

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Speaker 1: Black Girlrupt.
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Speaker 2: Y'all already know how y'all already know howirrupt?
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Speaker 1: What's up? What's up? What's up? Y'all? Welcome back to
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another episode of Black Girl Interrupted. Y'all already know who
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it is. It's your favorite girl on the fire before, Baby,
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bringing y'all another episode a Black Girl Interrupted. So tonight
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I'm doing something a little different to night. I want
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to do something wellness Wednesdays. So that's what I want
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to start doing. But y'all, welcome back. I'm so happy
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to see y'all. Please forgive me for not showing up
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for y'all last week. So many of y'all know, I
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had my colonoscopy last week, so I had to start
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my prep a few days early prior to the colonoscopy,
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so it was very impossible for me to do my show.
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But I am here and I am back, and baby,
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guess what, I'm about to start showing up for y'all
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like I promise. But anyway, welcome back. Like I say,
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Happy Wednesday. It is hump Day and tonight I want
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to do something a little different. I just want to
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do my wellness Wednesdays. I think I want to start
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kind of putting that in my podcast where I do
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every you know, one Wednesday out of the month where
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I do a Wellness Wednesday just to check in with everybody,
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because like, so my last episode, I've received quite a
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few messages with regards to my show, and a lot
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of people were like, man, Ash, like you get on
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here and you just be going off. And I was like, okay,
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was that in a bad way? Or but they say no,
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they said, sometimes we need to hear what you're talking about.
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So I said, okay, well, I guess so what I'll
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start doing once a month on Wednesdays is my Wellness
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Wednesdays where we just get in and we just talk
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about anything, like how are you feeling? Like today, it's Wednesday,
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it's hump day, We're a couple of days away from
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the weekend. How are you feeling? What's going on. I'm
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still gonna do my mental health check ins at the
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start of every show. Y'all know that, Like that's not
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gonna change were black Girl interrupted? Because I do have
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to do my mental health check ins, not only for me,
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but for y'all too, Cause I, like I said, I
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do sit back and I see a lot of y'all posts,
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and y'all are really going through it, and if my
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show helps you to get over that hump, then I've
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done exactly what I'm supposed to do. So tonight, like
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I said, it's just wellness Wednesday. We're not gonna do
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an extenuous long show tonight. Just I'm checking in with y'all.
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Like I say, it's Wednesday, I want to do my
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mental health check in. I want to discuss some things
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about upcoming episodes for a Black Girl Interrupted. But tonight
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I just really wanted to be about y'all. So before
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we get started again, y'all already know I gotta do
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my mental health check in. Y'all know this. So anyone
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that's new to the show that's just now tuning in,
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excuse me. I always search for something uplifting, empowering, encouraging
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to someone that may be going through something, someone that
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just needs to hear that I'm proud of you. You're
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doing a great job, don't give up. So that's not
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going to ever change what Black Girl Interrupted, because, as
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y'all know, I advocate and I rally for mental health.
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So before we get started, let's go ahead and let's
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do our mental health check in, and then let's get
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into tonight's conversation.
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Speaker 3: Here we go, where's the wealthiest place in the world.
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Speaker 4: Do you know?
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Speaker 3: It's the graveyard? Because in the graveyard you will find
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inventions never invented. Business has never erected, songs never sungs,
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books never written, Ideas never nurture, people never realized because
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they never prioritize their dreams. They never made them important enough.
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The things that are the most important to you are
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the things that get done.
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Speaker 5: I need you to reevaluate what you're prioritizing in your life.
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Are the things you're doing each day, the things that
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are gonna move you forward in life, lead you to
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a happier, healthier, more fulfilling life. Or are you wondering around, distracted,
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caught up in the noise and chaos of social media, news,
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or what's happening around you.
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Speaker 6: Your focus, your attention is a laser, and what you
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point that laser at is what will grow and increase.
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So I need you to focus on what you are
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focusing on, be aware of how you are using your attention,
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and direct it towards where you want to go in
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your life.
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Speaker 4: You are where you are because of who you are,
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and if you're going to get somewhere else, you're gonna
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have to shame something. I don't care what happens in
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your life. I don't care what it looks like. I
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don't care where you are every single day you wake up,
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if you're gonna have energy, if you're gonna have passion,
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if you're gonna have tribe every day you wake up,
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you've got to start with that vision. Every day when
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I wake up, people say, why are you so excited?
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Because I have a mental picture of where I want
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to be. I have a mental picture of what I
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want to do. And even when I was in an
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abandoned building, I saw that I would not be an
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abandoned building forever. And I was homeless once now old
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two homes because although my circumstance was homeless, my vision wasn't.
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Speaker 7: Your first level is a success in life. The very
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first level is you seeing this like it's clear to you.
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You know exactly what you want, you know exactly when
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you want it, you know exactly what it tastes like,
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you know what it looked like before you really blow up,
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blow and you get success.
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Speaker 4: You literally have it in the palm of your hand
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without having it.
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Speaker 1: What does your dream look like?
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Speaker 3: What does it smell like?
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Speaker 2: What does it taste like?
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Speaker 4: What do you want in your health? What do you
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want financially like? How much money do you want to
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make a year? How do you want to live? Stop
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just waking up like an accident. What do you want?
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And then once you find out what you want, spend
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the rest of your natural life waking up and going
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after it. Look at your belief system every single day,
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stick with it. Don't rush the process, trust the process.
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Don't rush the process. Trust the process. Don't rush the process,
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trust the processor.
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Speaker 8: Stop looking for affirmation, stop looking for somebody the patching
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on the back, and you just get up on Monday
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and grind could get up on Tuesday, and grind could
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get up on Wednesday, and grind can get up on Thursday,
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and grind could get up on Friday and gride And
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if you grind, no day is off, no holidays, no
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snow days.
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Speaker 9: No weekends off, no birthdays.
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Speaker 4: You heard me, and you keep grinding, and you stay persistent,
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and you locked in or day you're gonna wake up
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and you're gonna be exactly where.
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Speaker 9: You brain you mean, this is easy to say, I
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want to be this, I want to do that. Hey
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I want to be significant. Hey, well I like to matter.
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Hey I want to be a millionaire. Here, I want
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to drive a Lamborghini. But unless your actions on a
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daily basis reflect that goal every single time, every single mood,
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every single con second that you're awake, your goals aren't
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really your goals.
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Speaker 4: You just full of shot, because if you really want it,
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nothing would stop you. All of the silly things that
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happened that we let slow us down is related to
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our lack of.
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Speaker 9: Hunger and desperation. So how desperate are you for what
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you want? Everybody wants to wait and pull off the
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things they truly want in their lives for tomorrow, your
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mystical place where ninety nine percent of dreams go to die.
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It's oh, well, you know what I need you to
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done much today? It's okay, I'll wait till tomorrow. Tomorrow's
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gonna be there. No, tomorrow isn't going to be there.
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Speaker 4: Tomorrow, Tomorrow, Tomorrow ain't no such thing as to law.
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We only got today. What I've learned about the greats
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is that they understand it's a sense of urgency that
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once the clock goes out.
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Speaker 9: It's a w or ale.
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Speaker 4: You either win or you lose. There's a sense of urgency.
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You don't have as much time as you think you do,
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so you got to pick up the pace you walk
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in too slow, pick up the pace you move it
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too slow, pick up the pace. You don't have a
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lot of time. You only got twenty four hours, so
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all of your energy needs to go into your goal.
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Why because I love myself too.
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Speaker 7: Much to get distracted.
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Speaker 4: I love myself too much not to execute. But I
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need you to stop just randomly letting stuff happen to you,
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and I need you to take over your life. And
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a schedule is about bossing your time.
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Speaker 9: The secret is to make a plan, execute the plan,
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come obsessed with the plan, and make it your entire life,
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from the time you wake up to the time you
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go to bed for twenty fifteen years. It takes dedication,
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it takes time, It takes effort, It takes obsessive, ridiculous
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amounts of effort. I get sick and tired of people
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telling me how bad they want it, yet their actions
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don't back up that stable. Don't be somebody who talkshit,
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be somebody.
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Speaker 1: Man, let me see you. I really think I need
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let me say let me you know what, Let me
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not even say it because I know I needed to
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hear it because I have not been given BlackGirl inter
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rup the park. That's my one hundred percent. But you
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know what I have just last week, y'all, So forgive
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me for last week, y'all. I have to go get
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my call and oscopy, y'all. I have to make sure
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like everything was good. Like I don't think y'all be understanding.
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But AnyWho, oh y'all again, welcome back to another episode
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of Black Girl Interrupted Podcast. Of course y'all know what's
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your girl? Asks your favorite girl from a five zero
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four baby, bringing y'all another beautiful episode of Black Girl
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Interrupted Podcast. So tonight's wellness Wednesday? And what I what
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I mean by wellness Wednesday is I want to know
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how you guys are feeling. How are you feeling mentally?
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How are you feeling physically? How are you feeling emotionally?
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How are you feeling spiritually? How are you feeling overall?
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What is your wellness? What is your well being like?
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Right now? Hold on? We got a couple of comments.
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Hold on, wait wait wait wait wait holdo ed eve
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before y'all response sold, j'all Beari's tuned in. Hey girl,
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good to see you, good, good, good to see you.
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There's my husband. Hey, hey, Hans, look I'm about to
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call you beautiful. But hey, handsome, I hope you're having
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a great night at work. Uh, I love you. Yes, y'all,
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that is my husband. Now. I have a whole husband.
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Just so y'all know see how that See how that works.
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I'm gonna I popped out on y'all. Ain't nobody knows
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that I have a whole husband now. But the but
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the actual ceremony we put I believe we're still gonna
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do it in December, but I believe he said he
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wants to push it back till February. I don't know.
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We'll see, but but we are gonna have an actual
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ceremony that we are actually gonna stream live on Black
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Girl Interrupted. So for everyone that I did not invite
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to the actual ceremony, y'all will be able to actually
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see the nuptials streaming live. So shout out to my husband.
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That feels so funny to'll say that, but anyway, but
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shout out to my to my dude that that holds
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me down. Thank you, Thank you, bab I love you
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big daddy. Anyway. So tonight, like I say, it's Wellness Wednesday,
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and I feel like it's imperative that I do this,
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Like I said, not only for me, but for y'all.
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I get up here and I do this, especially when
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it comes to the mental health part. I do this
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not just for me, but I do it more for
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y'all because I really don't see a whole lot of
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spaces And that's not to say they're none out there,
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but I don't see very many spaces when it comes
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to the support of mental health to your wellness. And again, y'all,
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please don't I'm not saying that there are not any
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out there. I just haven't run across a whole lot,
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especially for people that look like me. So I want
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to know how are you feeling? For me? Where do
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I even begin? And y'all know I'm as transparent as
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I can never be when I do these shows. Anything
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y'all get from me is not scripted. This is not
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something that I just sit and I say, okay, but
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let me write this down. This is off the top
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of my head. This is I come on here and
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I talk to y'all. Y'all are like my diary because
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I can be open with y'all, I can be vulnerable
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with y'all. I can be transparent and there's no there's
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never any judgment. And that's the beautiful thing about my space.
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You know what I said, I was gonna work on that,
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about this space that I've created for all of us
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Black men, black women, black boys, black girls. But to
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ask where I am in this moment mentally, I'm overwhelmed.
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Let me say that I'm overwhelmed simply because let me
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let me first say this. I'm blessed and I'm grateful
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for everything that God gives me every day. So let
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me say that. Let me let me let me start
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off by saying that I'm forever grateful because without that
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man above, I wouldn't be standing. I wouldn't be standing, sitting, walking,
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moving where I am today. But I work at a
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job and I don't think it's the job itself. It's
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what I have to do every day. That is really
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starting to take a toll on me. My hair is
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it is growing back in as y'all could see. My
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hair is falling out at one point, like really falling out.
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But health wise, I'm good. Mammogram is normal, pap smear
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is normal. My colonoscopy was normal. Uh. They removed two
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polyps that were found in my colon, but they were benign.
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They went back because the second one, it was inflammation
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around the second one, So they were a little concerned
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about that, you know, and they didn't want to alarm
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me and say, oh, it's colon cancer, but they just
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said it was just the inflammation around the polyp itself.
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No cancer. I see him in five years. So health wise,
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i'm good, other than the pain that I feel when
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it comes to my lupus flairs, but other overall, health wise,
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i'm good. I won't complain other than the overall pain
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when you wake up sounded like a whole box of
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rice Chrispies when I wake up. But I'm good. My
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mental it could be better, let me say that, but
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I won't complain because what is complaining and gonna do,
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It's not gonna change the situation. So I say. All
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of that to say is we have to learn to
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stop complaining about things that are out of our control
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and just worry and focus on the things that we
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can control. So I'm saying this to myself today as
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well as I'm saying this to you, stop worrying about
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the things that are out of your control and focus
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on what you can control. If you could control finding
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another you know, if you're not liking your job or
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where you stay, that's within your control because you could
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look for another job, find another place to stay. But
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the other things that are out of your control. Stop
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stressing about that. And I have to tell myself that.
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I get up every day and I'm like, oh man,
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here's another day. Oh man, here's another another issue, here's
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another this, here's another that you know. So I say
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that to say, we have to stop stressing about things
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again that are out of our control, to focus on
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what we can control. We can control who's in our circle,
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we can control who we hang around. We can control
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the energies that we encounter. We can we can control that.
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But everything else, we gotta start leaving that with God,
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and we gotta take our hands off of that. We
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gotta stop asking God to fix things for us if
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we're always in the way. So I ask everyone today,
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it's Wednesday, it is hunt day. How are you feeling today,
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Whether it's if you're not doing good mentally, if you're
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not doing physically, if you're not doing well emotionally, spiritually,
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let's talk about it. What can we do together to
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help you get over that hump? Because you could be
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helping me. You see how that works because I'm at
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a space in my life. Hey miss time, y'all, that's
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my baby, she says. So true. She say, it's a
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daily reminder to myself only what I can do. And
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I think that's where we fall short at is we
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always worry about what's out of our control. We can't
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control the weather, we can't control of our cars break down,
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kids get sick, you get sick. Those are things that
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are out of our control. But there are things we
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can control. We can control our finances. Let's start setting
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money aside for a rainy day. I have to learn that.
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Excuse me. So not only am I saying that to
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you to me, but I'm saying that to y'all. We
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can control the interactions that we have, and that's called boundaries.
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So we need to start setting boundaries. We need to start.
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We need to stop allowing things to things that will
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bring our energy down. We have to stop letting that
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control us because we always want to re you know,
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we always want to get back. We always want to lick.
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Let people do what they gonna do, Let them have that,
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because we can control that, set them, set those boundaries.
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If that's not the type of person or people you
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want to hang with, baby cut ties within people and
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don't explain, that's another thing we need to work on.
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And stop explaining to people what they keep doing to you.
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That's one. That's another thing we can control. We can
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control again who we have in our circle. That's the
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beautiful thing about life is you get to pick and
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choose who's in your life. By setting those boundaries, stop
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allowing people who have that toxic energy, Babe, get away
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from them people, because them people don't mean you're no good.
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And I'm learning that, you know, I'm learning that if
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you'll sit and have a conversation with me about somebody else,
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I can only imagine what you say about me to
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somebody else. Now that I can, we can control that.
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We can control conversations. We can control where we go,
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who we associate with, who we socialize with, who we
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call a friend, who we don't call a friend. We
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can control that. But it's the other stuff that we
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sit and we constantly worry about stuff that's out of
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our control. That's what's making us sick. We're stressing, hair
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falling out, We're losing weight. Yes I'm losing weight, y'all,
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but I'm a Type two diabetic and yes I'm on
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manjar Ro. I don't want to lose weight, but unfortunately
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that's what the medication does. So that's in my control
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because well, in a way it is in my control,
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and then in a way it's not. But then it
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is because if I eat right and exercising and doing
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what I was supposed to do, then I can get
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off this diabetic medication. But that's within my control. But anyway,
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Happy Wednesday. It is hump day, y'all. Again. We are
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two days away from the weekend. Well tomorrow, technically it's
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my Friday eight o'clock bill, I'm out. I'm out. I'll
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see them on Monday. But wellness, Wednesday, What does that
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mean to y'all? Like when I say wellness Wednesday. What
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do you think about when you hear that wellness? How
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are you feeling today? You know, Miss Tanya says, with
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me battling two outawaimmune diseases, I sometimes become so overwhelmed
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with trying to extend myself in so many directions. I
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now say no, can't do it, won't do it, And
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I've decided to resign from my current job. It's too
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much stress and too much mentally draining. Lord, Miss Tanya.
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Why am I in the same boat as you? I'm
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trying to push through with my job. I really truly am.
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Now that's something within my control. I can control that,
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and I'm like you, I'm overwhelmed. I do try to
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extend myself and be in twelve places at one time,
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and I know those are things that I've got to
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I've got to stop, I've got to pull back from.
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But it's just something in me that I just want
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to take care of everybody. I just want every I
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just what's the word. I want everybody to to be Okay.
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I want to be there for everybody. But sometimes I've
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gotten into a point where I've lost myself trying to
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help people, trying to be there for everybody. So I
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guess what I need to do, Like you say, I need,
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I'm needing to learn how to say no. I can't
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do it, won't do it, and I feel bad about it.
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So that's one of the things that I'm working on.
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And I'm glad you even mentioned amassigna because that's what
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I need to do. I do set my boundaries, but
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it's like, man, I still gotta I still gotta do this,
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I still gotta do that. But who's checking on me?
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Who's checking on me? So I agree with you on that.
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I definitely have got to keep implementing no in my
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vocabulary because again, I want to help everybody. You know.
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I look back and I'm like, well, that's my purpose.
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You know, this is why I do what I do
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because I want to help people. I want I want
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to give people the same love and respect that I
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want it. You get what I'm saying. So I guess
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I have to stop doing you know, let me not say.
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I guess. I know. I got to stop doing that.
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I've got to stop overextending myself. But again, I just
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I want to help everybody. I want to be there
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for everybody, you know, another thing. It's time we have
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to stop apologizing for being selfish with ourselves. That's another
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thing we all need to work on is stop apologizing
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to people for being selfish, especially when it comes to you.
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And I've got to stop apologizing to people for being selfish.
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You know, I've got to stop explaining to people what
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they do to me. If that bothers me that they
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continue to do. You know that That's one of the
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things that I have to learn. And not only do
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I say that to me, but I say that to y'all.
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Let me. Oh, there's my sister. Hey, Jeel. For those
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that don't know, Jewel is my sister. That is my
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older sister who has every ounce of my heart. I
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people don't even understand how much I love this woman.
25:32
My sister says, Hey Sis, I'm broken. You're not gonna
25:37
have me on here crime and I but to my
25:42
sister Jewel. For those that do not know, my sister
25:47
lost her mother on Sunday night. So I do ask
25:52
please send prayers to my sister. Anyone that's in the comments,
25:57
everyone that is tuned in, please send your thoughts, send
26:00
your prayers to my sister in her time of bereavement.
26:03
I do ask that we all pull together and please
26:07
love on my sister. Please do because right now my
26:10
sister needs it.
26:12
Speaker 4: H m hmm.
26:21
Speaker 1: To my to my sister, I want to say this
26:28
to you. You have been nothing but amazing. You have
26:40
taught me strength, you have taught me restraint, but you
26:48
also taught me resilience m hm. So it's only right
26:58
that I send that same blove, that I extend that
27:03
same love to you. On those days that I was
27:08
in the dark, you were my flashlight. So it's right
27:15
that I return extend that to you. So to my
27:24
sister Juel, I love you. I am here and whenever
27:30
you are ready, I'm only a phone call away, and
27:35
you know that. So I love you. Mama will absolutely
27:41
be missed. But you ain't got the worry because I'm
27:45
a ball and lips up for you. Don't you even
27:47
worry about it? I got you. I'm a ballom lips up.
27:52
Tanya says, you gotta see about you. I decided to
27:55
see about me. I'm rooting for me in this season
27:58
of my life. Oh girl, Tanya, Girl, you didn't have
28:02
to go down. You didn't have to take me down. Girl,
28:05
you got to help my arms sticking straight up with
28:07
that because this is our winning season. We are standing
28:14
in the midst We've endured the biggest storm and now
28:19
we're encountering the rainbow. And that's the beautiful thing about it,
28:24
is the fact that we've endured the storm, We've made
28:28
it through the storm, and now we see our rainbows.
28:32
You understand, So Tanya says, send them prayers and condolences
28:38
to you jewel sins. What did I tell you, my sisterys?
28:42
Thank you ladies, I got you. Because I feel like
28:47
when we see our sisters falling, it is our duty
28:52
to pick our sisters up and carry them across to
28:55
the finish line. That I need somebody to post that.
29:00
I need somebody to make that a status. If your sister,
29:04
if you see your sister falling down, pick her up
29:09
and help carry her across the finish line, because we
29:12
don't know what our sisters have endured to get to
29:16
where they are. You understand. So again, welcome back to
29:20
another episode of Black Girl interrupted. Of course, it is
29:23
your girl as your favorite girl, Fri and a five
29:25
Z four baby, and we are doing our wellness Wednesday tonight.
29:30
This is not a long episode. I just want to
29:33
tap in because I want to know how everyone's feeling
29:37
today in this moment. How are you feeling my sister?
29:41
She says, she's broken. She's lost her mother. The woman
29:46
that gave her life, the one that nurtured her, the
29:49
woman that carried her, the woman that loved her, has
29:54
now transitioned into a place where there's no more pain,
30:00
a hurt, nor more sorrow. And I'm here. I'm here
30:05
for the journey. Sis. We walked along the journey together
30:09
when Dad passed away. Now we walk along the journey
30:13
now that MoMA's transition, and we gotta keep her legacy
30:17
alive and going. That's what we gotta do. But you grieve,
30:24
and you grieve have a lot. Let me tell you something, Sis,
30:26
you don't never let nobody see it gets better with time,
30:31
because it doesn't.
30:33
Speaker 5: You know that.
30:34
Speaker 1: I know that we just learned how to deal and
30:38
live without the person being here in the physical form.
30:42
So Sis, you take all the time you need. Like
30:46
I told you, I'm gonna sing you something beautiful every day,
30:49
if it's a song, if it's a poem, if it's
30:52
just me telling you I love you. I need you
30:56
to know that I'm here, I promise you, and I'm
30:59
gonna help her carry you all the way across to
31:01
the finish line. That's one thing I'm going to and
31:05
to any other woman that's almost to the finish line
31:11
and something that's happened, that's up to me to pick
31:14
you up and carry you the rest of the way.
31:17
That's what sisters are supposed to do. That's what friends
31:19
are supposed to do. That's what family is supposed to do.
31:24
But this is a moment where we just we leave
31:28
everything where it is here today. That's what tonight we're doing.
31:32
We're gonna leave everything where it is today and we'll
31:35
worry about tomorrow when tomorrow gets here. We can't dwell
31:40
on today because today is almost over with. We gotta
31:43
look at tomorrow because guess what, somebody may not wake
31:49
up tomorrow. Forgive today, let it go today again. We're
31:58
gonna stop focusing and we're in a things that are
32:00
out of our control. We need to take care of
32:04
our well being, our health, our mental, physical, spiritual, emotional help.
32:09
We gotta take care of that, even if that means
32:12
separating yourself from people. Do what you gotta do and
32:17
stop explaining the people. That's the problem with us. We
32:20
always want to sit down and we want to explain
32:22
the people know. We're no longer explaining that if I
32:28
go ghost, you want to really know how I'm doing,
32:32
reach out to me, reach out to me, because people
32:37
that really genuinely love and really care about you, they
32:39
gonna already know, and they're gonna reach out and they're
32:44
gonna say, hey, sis, bro whatever, I love you. I'm
32:48
here whenever you need me. Because what I'm not gonna
32:53
do is I'm not gonna let you get too far
32:55
down in the dark and you stuck and then we
32:59
gotta get shovels to dig you out. Before you get
33:01
to that space, let me pull you out of it.
33:05
Let me help get you to the finished line. Even
33:07
if I can get you all the way across. Let
33:09
me get you as close to it as I can.
33:11
Let me do that for you, because that's whats are
33:15
supposed to do. We're supposed to encourage, what's supposed to empower.
33:17
We're supposed to uplift instead of beating and tearing one
33:21
another down. Because I see too much of that. Now,
33:26
stop because you don't know what a person's going through.
33:32
Stop tearing people down to make you feel better about yourself.
33:37
See jealous spirits walk among us. We are amongst jealous,
33:42
evil spirited people, and we don't even realize that a
33:45
lot of times. Like I told y'all on my last episode,
33:49
y'all need to be able to differentiate between liabilities and assets. See,
33:54
a lot of us are still still socializing with people
33:58
that are liabilities to us, and we're for getting the
34:00
people that are assets. And when I say assets, I
34:03
mean the people that are adding value to our lives.
34:06
You understand what I'm saying. We're so busy trying to
34:08
hold onto these liabilities because they're familiar, and forgetting about
34:12
these assets, and we're losing out on assets because we're
34:17
trying to hold on the liabilities. So I say, today,
34:21
on this beautiful Wednesday, this wellness Wednesday, get rid of
34:26
those liabilities and start acquiring you some assets. I made
34:30
a post the other day. Discernment is real, my love. Okay,
34:34
you have to know the difference between who's a liability
34:37
and who's an asset. Because see me, let me tell
34:39
you something. I've eliminated my liabilities. I did. As you
34:46
could see, there are a few people that normally are
34:49
in the check that are not in here tonight because
34:54
you became a liability. Because sometimes we have to sit
34:59
back and observe our surroundings, and we have to observe
35:02
the people that we allow around us. And I've come
35:07
to the realization that if you'll sit and talk to
35:11
me about somebody else, I could just imagine how my
35:14
name comes up in the conversations when you speak with
35:16
someone else a liability. See, the problem is, y'all are
35:21
so quick to call everybody sists, and y'all call everybody
35:24
bro when they don't even deserve that. But let me
35:30
just mind my business though, let me leave that alone.
35:33
Let me not even run down that rabbit hole. But
35:37
Jule says, I love you more, sist girl, baby, you
35:40
got my whole horsis You already know that? And they
35:43
go on my baby tea, I love you, Thank you
35:45
for my roses. That's one woman right there, baby, that
35:49
gives me my roses while I can still see them.
35:53
That's somebody that cares about me. That's somebody that loves
35:56
me and me and her we don't talk every day,
35:58
but guess what when when I popa oh baby, that
36:03
woman pours into me. Do you hear me? That lady
36:06
pulls pulls into me like syrup on pancakes. That's my
36:11
that's my asset right there, Jewel my asset, Tanya my asset.
36:18
The list goes on. But we have to eliminate those
36:23
liabilities and acquire more assets because assets will get you
36:27
to where you need to be. Liabilities won't do anything
36:29
but delay where you're trying to go. Somebody needs to
36:32
make that a post. Somebody needs to make that a post.
36:37
I'm giving y'all some gems tonight. Absolutely assets at value.
36:43
Liability takes away, it appreciates you. I'm gonna say that again.
36:47
I said that on my last show. Liabilities, depreciate your value,
36:52
get your asset, get you a bunch of assets, get
36:55
your busload of assets, and watch how you go up.
36:59
Watch how you value increases of improves. But wellness, I
37:09
need you to take I need y'all to be taking
37:10
care of you. I need to know have y'all let
37:13
me say this to the fellas. Have y'all had your
37:17
prostage check? Have you had your colonoscopies done? Have y'all
37:22
had mamma now mammograms. I'm so sorry, fellas. But have
37:26
y'all had your blood pressure check? Have you had your
37:28
heart check? Are your diabetic? Are we checking for these fellas?
37:35
My ladies? Have you had your mammograms done this year?
37:38
If you are within the age range, have you had
37:40
your mammogram done? Have you had your pap smears done? Ladies?
37:44
If you are within the age range, have you had
37:46
your colonoscopies done? And I stressed that because last week
37:50
almost every call that I got at work was about
37:52
colonoscopies and mammograms and people that have been diagnosed with cancer,
37:58
people that have been diagnosed without immune diseases. That's what
38:01
I mean when I say wellness. Are we going to
38:05
the doctors like we're supposed to? Are we taking care
38:08
of our physical selves? Are we taking care of our mental?
38:12
Are we taking care of our spiritual? Are we taking
38:14
care of our emotional? Are we stopping in the midst
38:17
of everything and saying thank you God? Are we doing that?
38:23
What are you doing to take care of your well being?
38:27
What are you doing? I need y'all to take care
38:33
of yourselves. If you're down in the dark, reach out
38:38
to somebody please. The suicide rate is increasing, the cancer
38:48
diagnosis increasing, especially amongst black and brown people, particularly black women,
38:56
especially when it comes to breast cancers. Y'all are being
39:01
diagnosed with breast cancer also, fellas, have you gotten your
39:05
prostate check? Fellas? What's going on? Have you done your colonoscopies?
39:10
Only if you are in that range age range? Please
39:13
take care of yourself. I see too many and I
39:17
get too many phone calls people going in the hospice.
39:23
Well being as important. Ladies and gentlemen. Your wellness is important.
39:28
If you can go stand in line to get iPhones,
39:31
if you can stand in line to get the new Android,
39:34
if you can stand in line for the new Jordans,
39:36
you can take yourself to make an appointment to go
39:39
get your health checked. Has anybody been to the dinist
39:41
this year? Have you had your teeth clean? That affects
39:46
your wellness? Gum disease that could trans that could trans
39:50
I'm so sorry that could transmit into your bloodstreak. Are
39:56
we taking care of ourselves? What are we doing? I
40:03
need everyone to get on board. I need to know
40:07
is your wellness okay? Health wise? Can we normalize going
40:14
to the doctor, Can we normalize taking care of our
40:16
mental health? Can we normalize giving the praise to God
40:20
or whoever it is that you pray to. Can we
40:22
normalize that? Can we normalize doing weekly check ins where
40:26
we're checking in with our loved ones and making sure
40:28
that they're good. Can we do that? If we have
40:32
time to share pettiness and foolery on social media, take
40:36
that same time it took and check in with people
40:40
thirty seconds. That's all make these doctors appointments. Shall let's
40:46
end twenty twenty four strong so we can walk into
40:49
twenty twenty five victorious, So we could walk into twenty
40:52
twenty five resilient. That's what I want us to do.
40:57
I want us to take better care of oursls selves.
41:01
Our well being is important, and this is why I'm
41:04
gonna start implementing wellness Wednesdays on Black Girl. Interrupt the
41:08
podcast once one Wednesday out of the month, We're gonna stop.
41:13
And I want to know how everybody's doing. I want
41:17
to know how everybody's doing. I want to know how
41:18
you are feeling. What can we do? What do I
41:21
need to do? What do we need to do? Let's
41:25
cry about it today, but then tomorrow let's discuss solutions.
41:29
That's what I want us to do. I want us
41:32
to normalize respecting one another. You'll get what I'm saying.
41:36
I want us to respect having normal conversations where there's understanding,
41:43
because comprehension is everything. I don't want any type of miscommunication,
41:48
but I want us to work on that. I want
41:51
us to normalize and build healthy sister circles and brother circles.
41:56
I want us to start building bigger spaces, safe spaces,
42:00
not only for the ladies but for the fellas. That's
42:04
what I want us to start doing wellness Wednesday. That's
42:07
what I want us to start talking about. I want
42:09
y'all to come on here, and I want y'all to say,
42:11
you know, I asked you this is what I did
42:12
last week, or this is what I did yesterday, or
42:15
this is what I did today to improve my wellness.
42:21
I'm challenging y'all. I told ya last week before last,
42:26
I want you to write down everything thus far that
42:29
you feel like you haven't accomplished, so we could work
42:33
on it for twenty twenty five. Let's write down what
42:36
we did not accomplish thus far in twenty twenty four,
42:38
so when twenty twenty five roll around, we'll have a
42:41
list of the things that we know that we're gonna
42:43
set out to accomplish. That's what I want us to
42:46
work on. That's part of your wellness is documenting. So
42:53
I didn't get to do this this year. So I
42:55
didn't get to do that this year. But I'm gonna
42:58
make sure this is on the to do list, be
43:01
twenty and twenty five, and I want wellness to be
43:05
number one. I want you to put you first. I
43:10
want you your wellness to be the number one thing
43:14
on your list, and then you do everything else. But
43:19
I want everyone to start putting yourselves first. Start putting
43:22
yourself number one, not number two, not number ten, not
43:26
number twenty five. Stop pushing your wants and your knees
43:29
to the side to suffice everybody else. We're not doing
43:32
that anymore. And that's what I mean for the wellness.
43:37
Take care of us. Like as Tanya says, you gotta
43:41
see about you, she says, I decided to see about me.
43:46
I'm rooting for me in this season of my life.
43:51
I had to go back and I had to show
43:53
this again, this comment again, because a lot of us
43:56
are not a lot of us are not about ourselves.
44:01
A lot of us are not cheering for ourselves. We
44:04
beat ourselves down. We are our own worst enemy. So
44:09
the only thing I want, ever want to do is
44:10
put you first. Put you number one. Put you at
44:15
the top of the list. Put your well being and
44:17
your wellness and your health at the top of the list.
44:20
Everything else can wait, because if something happens to you,
44:23
then what you got people out here that need you.
44:28
You got people out here that are depending on you.
44:34
But I need you to support you, I need you
44:36
to take care of you. I need you to love you.
44:38
I need you to pour into you, and then once
44:41
you're full, then you take care of everything else after that.
44:46
But stop pushing yourself to the side to be there
44:49
for everybody else. We're no longer doing that. We're no
44:54
longer pushing our wants and our needs to the side.
44:57
If you want to take that trip and people, but
45:00
I say they going back out of the last minute,
45:02
bab girl, go take that truck. Stop waiting on people.
45:06
That's your wellness right there, your wellness. Wellness Wednesday? What
45:14
are we doing? What are we doing to help ourselves
45:17
to be better? Date yourself, take yourself out to eat,
45:24
do stuff by yourself, go to the park, go to
45:26
the library, go to the museum, have a date night
45:29
by yourself. But I need you to start putting you first.
45:34
Stop putting yourself second to everybody else, because when it's
45:38
your turn, who puts you first? Take care of yourself.
45:49
Love yourself, pour into yourself. Separate those that mean you're
45:54
no good. Separate yourself from the people that are bringing
45:57
down your energy. Because I don't have a problem with
46:03
telling people I can't talk to you no more. I
46:07
don't have a problem with telling people know you're not
46:09
a welcome in my home. Your energy is bad. But
46:16
one thing that I forgot is to root for me.
46:20
That's one thing I forgot to do, and that's shire
46:23
for me. Support me, push me, root for me. So
46:28
I'm learning, and I hope you ladies and gentlemen do
46:33
the same thing. I just want to know how you
46:36
feeling today. Do you need me to give you a hug?
46:41
Because if you do, here, it is here. I got
46:44
my arms stretched out. I love you, I see you,
46:50
you're doing a great job. I get up. When I
46:56
quit us we're winners over here. When we don't quit,
47:02
no matter how hard the obstacle gets, we don't quit.
47:06
Now we may fall down, but we're not gonna quit.
47:10
We're gonna get up. We're gonna dust ourselves off, and
47:13
we're gonna keep moving. I'll tell you the same thing
47:17
I told y'all two weeks ago. You're and your winning season.
47:21
Everything that you ask for, God is about to give
47:23
it to you. But once he gives it to you,
47:28
you gotta pray on how to keep it, and you
47:33
gotta start off by taking care of yourself, your well being.
47:37
You have to because if you don't care about if
47:40
you don't take care of you, will focus on you.
47:42
Who else will? Who else will? So for my wellness Wednesday,
47:53
my goal is to stop letting this job stress me,
47:59
stop letting things that are out of my control overwhelm me,
48:06
set boundaries, and keep putting me first, because I gotta
48:11
show up for me in order to show up for
48:12
the people that need me. My children need me, My
48:17
husband needs me, my sisters, my mom my brothers, they
48:22
need me. So I gotta take care of me. I
48:28
gotta take care of me. We gotta take care of
48:30
each other. We gotta take care of ourselves again. Like
48:34
Miss Tanya say, we gotta see about us. We gotta see.
48:38
You gotta see about you. You. You gotta see about you,
48:42
not everybody else but you. You gotta focus on you.
48:45
You gotta shift the energy from them to you. You
48:51
deserve the best. We don't deserve subpa treatment. We don't
48:58
deserve mediocre people. We deserve the best. But in order
49:03
to get the best, we have to start acting like
49:05
we are the best. We have to start treating ourselves
49:08
like we are the best. We have to value ourselves
49:11
and know that we're worthy. Regardless of what we've done
49:17
in life, regardless of where we've been, regardless of the
49:21
journeys that we travel along, we still got to show
49:24
for us. We still got to root for us. We
49:26
still got to put us number one, and we don't.
49:31
We don't put ourselves number one. Like mss Tanya say,
49:36
we over extend. Oh snap, they'll go my brother, Big
49:43
low Country Sports, what's going on, faund Let me tell
49:47
you all this, Big low Country Sports. That's my brother.
49:51
When I tell you that's my brother, that's my brother.
49:54
If y'all are football fans sports fanatics, I don't care
49:59
what team. Go follow him right now, Big Low Country Sports,
50:04
Go follow him right now. When I tell you him
50:07
and his wife coach RONI baby, go follow them, Go
50:11
follow my brother right now, not yesterday, but go now,
50:15
go follow him right now because baby, football season that's
50:19
rolling around. Yes, he is a Falcons fan, but hold up,
50:21
not too much of my brother. Though not too much
50:24
of my brother. He's a Falcons fan. But guess what,
50:27
that's my family. That's my brother. I don't care who
50:29
he cheer for. That's my brother. Him and his wife
50:32
as my brother, and that's my sister. And I'm so
50:35
proud of my brother and all the moves that he's making.
50:37
I've been watching you. I see your brother. He say,
50:41
what's good? Says brother, trying to make it. I'm hanging
50:44
in now. I'm trying to catch up with you. But
50:47
you know what, I'm proud of you. I'm so proud
50:50
of you. You stuck with the course and look at
50:53
where you are now. I am so proud of you, brother,
50:55
And I can't wait till we play, y'all, because I'm
50:58
ready to come on the show. I'm ready to talking.
51:00
Little Nod's on the show, so you let me know
51:03
and I'm down. I'm ready who that by the way,
51:07
but I had to I'm so sorry y'all. I had
51:10
to give a shout out to my brother. I had
51:12
to stop because I had to give my brother big
51:14
Low some love. You know what I'm saying. I had
51:16
I had to give my brother some love because my
51:19
brother's doing it. My brother is doing the dawn thing.
51:22
I promise you with his YouTube channel. I'm proud of him.
51:26
I promise I'm proud of him. He said, that's right,
51:29
sis wee family, I'm proud of you too. Thank you, brother,
51:32
because let me tell you something. This is what the
51:34
support looks like. And this is what I mean when
51:36
I say you get your assets. This man right here
51:40
is an asset. He adds value. I added value. When
51:45
my brother first started out during this podcast, oh he
51:48
had hate us and my brother doubted itself. And he's
51:53
a beautiful example. And I'm so glad you jumped on tonight, brother,
51:56
because he's a beautiful example of when I say, when
52:00
you see someone falling, you pick him up and you
52:02
help carry him to the finish line, regardless of where
52:05
you are. And my brother was like, no, no, I
52:09
don't know, and I say, no, you keep going. I
52:13
told him this is for you. Don't worry about what
52:16
the mother. People say because he had some haters, Like
52:19
when I say, he has some haters, And that's how
52:21
you know you're doing something right when you have haters,
52:24
when you have people that don't like to see you shine,
52:26
when you have people that want to step in and
52:28
try to dim your light. Big Low is a prime example.
52:32
So I use him as an example to say to y'all,
52:37
stop letting people dim your life. Put you first. You
52:42
gotta bet on yourself. Sometimes you can't worry about what
52:45
other people say. You gotta bet on you. So my
52:48
brother rolled the dice and he bet on hisself. And
52:51
my brother is doing fantastic, not only with his YouTube channel,
52:55
but he's been traveling, He's been doing a lot of things.
52:58
He's been interacting net work, and some very proud of him.
53:01
So I say all of that to see, as long
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as you bet on yourself, who else can bet against you?
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That's your wellness. Wellness Wednesday, that's where we are. If
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you bet on yourself, who can bet against you? With
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God covering you, you'll never lose. As long as you
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give God the praise the glory God to provide the
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rest of the way for you. God will help you
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along your journey. And that's what I mean when I say, wellness,
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you got to take care of you, not just the physical,
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but you gotta take care of your mental. You gotta
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take care of your emotional. You got to take care
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of your spiritual. You gotta do that. And then watch
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how God blesses you. Watch how God takes care of you.
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Watch how God moves for you. When God said, hold on,
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I got something for you. I got something better coming
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old tight because I know we get nervous. I know
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we like, well, God, how you have, how you gonna provide?
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Oh he does, or he provides big little says, that's
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right them. You breathe life in the family, and I did,
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and never and never ever well. I have a hatred
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bone in my body because you know why, Because I
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want everyone to win. To see other people win makes
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me feel good because I know my time is coming.
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Little by little, a door opens for me. Little by little,
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a door opens for me. And the further I go,
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the more the wider that door gets. So I say
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that to say again to everybody, put you first, take
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care of you first. Don't worry about nobody else. Do
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what's best for you. Stop listening to what people say, Oh,
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well you should do this, you should do that. Do
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what's gonna be beneficial and what's gonna work for you,
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because no one else is gonna walk in your shoes.
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But you, like I told y'all last week before last,
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stop letting people write your stories if they've never lived
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in your in your in your life, if they if
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they've never lived your life. To allowing people to write
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stories about you. Bet against yourself, You'll never lose that weight. Hmm.
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What a way to end the show right when you're
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bad on you who could be against you anyway? But
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I just want to bring the episode to a cold
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Like I said tonight was wellness Wednesday. Just want to
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tap in with y'all how you feel in the day.
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But I do want to let you know effective next
55:59
two Tuesday, because football season has started, and for those
56:03
that do know, I am a die hard Saints fan,
56:05
so I have to be in tune with my team.
56:08
So football season has started, So Black Girl Interrupted will
56:11
now be live on Tuesdays and Wednesdays still the same
56:16
time eight thirty pm Central time, nine thirty Eastern time,
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six thirty Pacific time. Coming up for the new episode.
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So I will be doing an episode tomorrow night, family
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Secrets Reveals. So we are about to get into some
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really deep conversations about the secrets that are kept amongst
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black families or less station incest. Mama's baby dadd is
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maybe ooh ooh, and my Kendrick Lamar voice, But we're
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going to really get into a deep now, Family Secrets Revealed.
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We all why do why are black families like this?
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Why do we withhold information amongst each other? Why do
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we sweep issues that go amongst the family under the rug?
57:16
Why are we not addressing these There will be conversations
57:23
that may be very uncomfortable, some that may be a
57:27
bit a little too open, But that's the only way
57:32
we're going to be able to heal is if we
57:34
address those family secrets. Those things keep us bound. Why
57:42
are we so quick to protect the monsters in the house.
57:47
Why are we so quick to disregard when our children
57:52
come and say they feel uncomfortable being around a particular
57:56
person or particular people. Why do we force our children
58:00
to hug family members and we see that they're very
58:04
uncomfortable around these loved ones. Oh yeah, we're getting into
58:08
those conversations. We're getting into those topics. I wonder what
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they're gonna call me next. I don't know, we'll see,
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but it's time to expose those family secrets. It's time
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to reveal those family secrets. It's time for us to
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snatch the band aids off and address those issues. So
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those are the upcoming episodes for Black Girl Interrupted again.
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Black Girl Interrupted will be streaming live effective next Tuesday,
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every Tuesday, every Wednesday at eight thirty pm Central Time,
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nine thirty Eastern time. Same place We're streaming live on
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audio type, podcasts type of person. I'm available on all
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the streaming platforms. Anyone that is interested in collaborating, please
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y'all send me an email to black Girl Interrupted podcast
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at gmail dot com. Please allow me twenty four to
59:12
forty eight hours twenty four to seventy two hours to
59:15
respond to your email. I'm definitely looking for collaborations. I
59:20
definitely want to collaborate with a lot of people in
59:23
this season before the year ends and walk into the
59:26
new year with some great collaborations, some great guests. So
59:30
always looking for guests, always looking for show ideas. Shoot
59:34
me an email. Let me. Know what would you love
59:37
for me to see discuss on Black Girl Interrupted. Y'all know,
59:39
no conversation is ever too much for Black Girl Interrupted.
59:44
Does it get uncomfortable? Absolutely, But you know what, sometimes
59:48
you gotta get uncomfortable in order to get comfortable. You
59:51
know how that goes. But on that note, I do
59:54
want to bring into a close and I do want
59:56
to say I love you guys so much. Excuse me,
1:00:00
Happy Wednesday. I hope everyone has a beautiful rest of
1:00:05
the night. I hope everyone sleeps well. Don't forget to
1:00:07
pray before you late. I will see you guys tomorrow night,
1:00:11
eight thirty pm Central time, nine thirty Eastern time. Again,
1:00:15
we are getting into those family secrets being revealed. I
1:00:18
may hurt some feelings with this one. I may lose
1:00:21
some friends, family members may unfollow me, but it is
1:00:24
what it is. But this is gonna be a no
1:00:27
holds bar type conversation, So anything goes. So on that note,
1:00:33
I love you guys, be blessed. I will see you
1:00:36
guys tomorrow night, eight thirty pm Central time, nine thirty
1:00:40
Eastern time. I hope everyone has a great day at
1:00:42
work tomorrow. And guess what, Hello, do days.
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