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Kevin Compton - Stories of Leadership and Finding Balance as a Dad · Quarterback DadCast | Intentional Fatherhood & Leadership at Home

• 0:03
  Kevin Compton: Hi, I'm Riley.
• 0:04
  Casey Jacox: And I'm Ryder and this is my Dad's Show.
• 0:07
  Casey Jacox: Hey everyone its Casey Jacox , with the quarterback Dadcast.
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• 1:37
  Casey Jacox: Hey everybody, it's Casey Jac ox with the quarterback dadcast we are recording in May.
• 1:40
  Casey Jacox: This episode will come out in the coming months, but I'm grateful again as we continue down this journey of season four of the podcast.
• 1:50
  Casey Jacox: And our next guest is once.
• 1:52
  Casey Jacox: He once was a fantastic student intern for the Charlotte Hornets.
• 1:57
  Casey Jacox: He now is the executive director of delivery at GDH consulting.
• 2:00
  Casey Jacox: Prior to that, he spent 16 years at Apex.
• 2:03
  Casey Jacox: But, more importantly, Kevin Compton, our next guest, is a great dude.
• 2:09
  Casey Jacox: He is someone I've met in his consulting journey and I'm excited to learn about Kevin the dad and how he's working hard to become the ultimate leader or quarterback of his households Without further ado.
• 2:19
  Casey Jacox: Mr Compton, welcome to the quarterback dadcast.
• 2:22
  Casey Jacox: Thanks for having me Appreciate it.
• 2:25
  Casey Jacox: Are you blushing?
• 2:27
  Kevin Compton: A little bit yeah.
• 2:30
  Casey Jacox: Well, we always start each episode of gratitude, so tell me, what are you most grateful for as a father?
• 2:34
  Casey Jacox: Today, a new day right.
• 2:37
  Kevin Compton: I mean, every day you start new and you got to.
• 2:41
  Kevin Compton: I know it sounds cliche, but it's true.
• 2:43
  Kevin Compton: You got to wake up and say thanks for what I have and obviously we're all frustrated at things that are out there, but you know, you got to appreciate the good things that we have and having three kids and household and you know all that.
• 3:00
  Kevin Compton: You got to appreciate that.
• 3:02
  Casey Jacox: It's good man, it's funny.
• 3:03
  Casey Jacox: You, I think you stole my notes.
• 3:05
  Casey Jacox: You saw my notes in my gratitude journal because it said God thanks for waking me up today.
• 3:09
  Casey Jacox: Yep, I mean as silly as this, but I think I totally agree with you.
• 3:13
  Casey Jacox: I think when you start today with the right mindset of that, we always have stuff going on.
• 3:17
  Casey Jacox: We always have shenanigans, drama hopefully not, but there's usually something that's not quite right.
• 3:22
  Casey Jacox: But if we can figure out something to be positive about, like it, just what a great mindset to have.
• 3:28
  Casey Jacox: And if dads, if you're not doing that, try it and watch what happens to your psyche, if you make that a habit, because it just brings more positive positivity and, I think, peace to oneself.
• 3:41
  Casey Jacox: I'm grateful for the last two days.
• 3:43
  Casey Jacox: I told us before we recorded I was lucky to watch my son.
• 3:46
  Casey Jacox: I would say being a golf parent is stressful because you can't, you're not supposed to talk to them when they have a bad shot.
• 3:53
  Casey Jacox: You can't say come on bud and the.
• 3:56
  Casey Jacox: He decided to put dad on the.
• 3:58
  Casey Jacox: Just the frickin nervous energy he had.
• 4:00
  Casey Jacox: He made like three or four 10 to 15 footers for par just scrambling.
• 4:05
  Casey Jacox: Yesterday with this iron game got a little wonky, but still post a good score, but I just got so stressful watching some of these picks that because I can't do anything about it, right and so.
• 4:14
  Casey Jacox: But I was grateful for the time spent with him and walk in and just being outside and it was fun, so I'm grateful for that opportunity.
• 4:23
  Casey Jacox: Okay, so you mentioned three kids.
• 4:26
  Casey Jacox: I want to go inside the comps and huddle and tell me about each member of the squad, including your wife, and tell me about what everyone's up to right now.
• 4:35
  Kevin Compton: Well, so I've got a 10 year old daughter going on 11 and she is, she's in all all things sports but not committed to one.
• 4:48
  Kevin Compton: So she's on dance, she's about to do cheerleading, she wants to try out for softball, she's done basketball, just got done with her.
• 4:58
  Kevin Compton: Her team, by the way, won the championship, which is pretty awesome.
• 5:04
  Kevin Compton: So she was pretty frustrated because she played in goalie and the game the championship game right away was two to zero the other team, but she, yeah, so it wasn't looking good but but she was able to recover and I think they ended up winning five to two or six to two.
• 5:25
  Kevin Compton: So, yeah, so that's her.
• 5:28
  Kevin Compton: And then my middle son, he's seven, going on eight, he's in first grade and he's kind of the opposite, as my daughter is.
• 5:38
  Kevin Compton: He is all things soccer and soccer.
• 5:40
  Kevin Compton: Only told him a million times you want to try baseball, you want to try, nope, I want to do soccer.
• 5:46
  Kevin Compton: That's my thing he says.
• 5:50
  Kevin Compton: His dream obviously is he wants to make it to the World Cup, and so recently he tried out for a competitive travel soccer team, which kind of scares me as a parent to go down that route, which I'm sure all parents have of sports kids have done at some point, but he made it, which is awesome.
• 6:12
  Kevin Compton: So he starts that in August.
• 6:15
  Kevin Compton: And now our journey starts with, you know that, all committing to traveling.
• 6:21
  Kevin Compton: So that's that.
• 6:23
  Kevin Compton: And then my youngest he just turned four about a month ago and he is in a preschool program.
• 6:33
  Kevin Compton: He is definitely Mr Personality.
• 6:36
  Kevin Compton: He is, you know, my daughter is is very outgoing, very social.
• 6:43
  Kevin Compton: My middle son, he is, you know, engineering mind, loves to fix things, you know, just get along with anyone.
• 6:52
  Kevin Compton: And then my youngest he is like we swear he's going to be a class clown, like he is just all over the place.
• 6:59
  Kevin Compton: You know, he's the one in preschool where you know someone's another kid's walking away and he's like, hey, hey, come back.
• 7:07
  Kevin Compton: You know, come back here, come give me a hug.
• 7:09
  Kevin Compton: Yeah, so he's he's definitely the he's the life of the party, for sure.
• 7:13
  Casey Jacox: The mayor of Charlotte is in the making.
• 7:16
  Kevin Compton: He's.
• 7:16
  Kevin Compton: He's the mayor of the Charlotte or Adam or animal house, one of the two.
• 7:20
  Casey Jacox: So I just talked about animal house yesterday.
• 7:23
  Casey Jacox: That's funny, I was talking to animal, we were quote.
• 7:25
  Casey Jacox: I was quoting animal house to my son's high school golf coach.
• 7:27
  Casey Jacox: Did he know what it was?
• 7:30
  Casey Jacox: Yeah, Well, he also tried to sneak some caddy shotgun.
• 7:33
  Casey Jacox: And I hate when people like try to quote movies, fantastic movies, and they mess it up.
• 7:38
  Casey Jacox: I'm like, bro, you can't quote a movie like that.
• 7:42
  Casey Jacox: And he forgot who Danuncio was with the two gloves, because there was a kid wearing two gloves.
• 7:46
  Casey Jacox: And he's like, what's that guy's name?
• 7:50
  Casey Jacox: And he threw out some random name.
• 7:51
  Casey Jacox: I'm like, no, it's Danuncio two gloves.
• 7:53
  Casey Jacox: Danuncio Mitchell, you're on the first tee.
• 7:55
  Casey Jacox: Anyway, I digress Okay.
• 7:59
  Kevin Compton: I won't, I won't mess it up on my side, so okay, good.
• 8:04
  Kevin Compton: And then my wife.
• 8:05
  Kevin Compton: So we are about to in about a month, we're about to celebrate our 14th marriage year and we've been together since we were 18.
• 8:20
  Kevin Compton: So a long time.
• 8:23
  Kevin Compton: So we met freshman year in college and you know we started off as friends and you know, obviously quickly, boyfriend, girlfriend, and then end up getting married.
• 8:37
  Kevin Compton: And get married what?
• 8:38
  Kevin Compton: 2025, I think, and so that's that.
• 8:42
  Kevin Compton: So she's from, she's from North Carolina, so it's kind of strange.
• 8:49
  Kevin Compton: Anyone that knows Charlotte knows that a lot of people that live in Charlotte aren't from Charlotte.
• 8:55
  Kevin Compton: But she actually was born in Charlotte, which is kind of rare and then she grew up most of her life in Raleigh and then came back to the Charlotte area, and so that's, that's where we're at.
• 9:08
  Casey Jacox: Very cool.
• 9:08
  Casey Jacox: Do you remember how you met?
• 9:10
  Casey Jacox: Was it like class Bar I?
• 9:13
  Kevin Compton: do.
• 9:14
  Kevin Compton: Yeah, we lived in the same dorm hall, so I think of like the worst kind of high rise dorm that you can imagine, not nice, and so each floor was alternating in terms of guy girl, guy girl, etc.
• 9:33
  Kevin Compton: And so I lived on the seventh floor and she lived on the tenth floor and you know, we just kind of ran into each other, we had mutual friends and started hanging out and rest his history Very cool.
• 9:48
  Casey Jacox: And your youngest son.
• 9:49
  Casey Jacox: Why is he not in travel soccer yet?
• 9:53
  Kevin Compton: Well, because he's he's a class clown and he's he did say, though he did say he does want to be like his brother and play soccer.
• 10:03
  Kevin Compton: So we'll, we'll see if that happens.
• 10:06
  Casey Jacox: So if that's the plan we got, to make sure we really get GDH growing, because it's going to be expensive 10 years ahead.
• 10:12
  Kevin Compton: Yeah, it's already on my mind.
• 10:15
  Casey Jacox: Actually my wife and I we we've talked recently.
• 10:18
  Casey Jacox: She's like, oh my God, this is so expensive.
• 10:20
  Casey Jacox: I said, honey, listen, the next two years we are going to spend more money than we want to spend on basketball and golf because, like my son qualified for an event we didn't think he's gonna qualify for us.
• 10:30
  Casey Jacox: With change of vacation plan, travel summer and like we got to just frickin do it.
• 10:36
  Casey Jacox: It's like you know and I go in two years when writers were, one year when writers gone, it won't be as expensive you know, different expenses, but I don't know, I think it just I'll never regret letting them give them opportunities.
• 10:51
  Casey Jacox: I'll never regret, you know, it's sure it's gonna be hard and stressful and figure out how to way to get there, but I just want to.
• 10:57
  Casey Jacox: You know, we're just trying to encourage, like, if they have passions and we can figure out a way to make it happen, then do it.
• 11:02
  Casey Jacox: Yeah, agree, you know, I think it's kind of our dream, just like anything.
• 11:07
  Casey Jacox: You want to leave it, leave it better than you found it, and if we can help give our kids a better life than we had, then I think we're doing something, something positive.
• 11:13
  Casey Jacox: Agreed, okay, I want to go back in time.
• 11:18
  Casey Jacox: I always like asking this question is is tell me about what was life like growing up for you and talk about the impact that your, your parents, had on you or your dad.
• 11:26
  Kevin Compton: Yeah, so I grew up in in Maryland.
• 11:30
  Kevin Compton: So I am a crab cakes and football you know sort of guy.
• 11:35
  Kevin Compton: My whole family lives in the DC metro area.
• 11:42
  Kevin Compton: So my dad grew up in Michigan, pretty much a suburb of Detroit.
• 11:48
  Kevin Compton: My grandpa worked for Chrysler.
• 11:51
  Kevin Compton: He was an engineer at Chrysler and then, I think when my dad was 16 or so, he ended up moving to the DC area and took a job with the department of transportation and they, you know, obviously settled in that area and then my mom they she, she lived in DC.
• 12:19
  Kevin Compton: So, like a lot of people you know from the DC area, they say hey, I'm from DC, but they really live in northern Virginia or southern Maryland.
• 12:26
  Kevin Compton: But my mom actually grew up like in DC White House, in the White House, yeah so.
• 12:37
  Kevin Compton: Yeah, so my dad ended up going to University of Maryland and then my mom went to Gw, george Washington, and my parents actually went to high school together.
• 12:51
  Kevin Compton: So they didn't Sorry, parents if you hear this podcast and I get this wrong, but I'm pretty sure they went to high school together but then my mom went to a different high school and then they didn't end up actually dating until Sometime college time or after, something like that, I probably should know the story better.
• 13:14
  Kevin Compton: But so anyways, long story short, grew up in the Maryland area, you know, because that's where my parents were and, yeah, my mom was.
• 13:29
  Kevin Compton: She was originally, I think when I was born.
• 13:34
  Kevin Compton: My mom was Worked for the government and then she was an editor for a newspaper and then, when I was probably an elementary school or so, she Stayed home, took care of me and then my dad, my dad started off where he worked for a company where they made Motors or, I'm sorry, actuators for motors, for think of like hospital beds and lazy boys and things like that, and so he worked for a company like that and just worked his way up.
• 14:15
  Kevin Compton: You know he worked for that company I think 20, 23, 24 years.
• 14:21
  Kevin Compton: So pretty much you know, from when I was born all the way up until you know after college.
• 14:30
  Casey Jacox: So nice and our mom and dad still with us.
• 14:34
  Kevin Compton: They are yeah, my, my dad actually just turned 70 a month ago.
• 14:38
  Kevin Compton: So dad turned 70 and mom is a Little bit younger.
• 14:44
  Kevin Compton: I won't say your age, mom.
• 14:48
  Casey Jacox: Your dad was down coming the junior highs when he met your mom.
• 14:51
  Casey Jacox: Sounds like.
• 14:51
  Casey Jacox: They're pretty close in age.
• 14:54
  Casey Jacox: I'm joking, I'm.
• 14:56
  Casey Jacox: Do you have any brothers and sisters?
• 14:58
  Kevin Compton: I don't.
• 14:59
  Kevin Compton: I'm an, only the loan the loan pop.
• 15:01
  Kevin Compton: Yeah, I'm an.
• 15:02
  Kevin Compton: Only now.
• 15:03
  Kevin Compton: One thing that's kind of unique about that is so my parents Growing up they hosted exchange students.
• 15:14
  Kevin Compton: Oh, wow and so Pretty much from when I was seven years old all the way until 17, we had exchange students living in our house Anywhere from a year time frame up to three or down to three months or six months.
• 15:31
  Kevin Compton: We had, you know, someone from Germany live with us, someone from Finland.
• 15:38
  Kevin Compton: We had some boys from Ireland live with us Spain, canada so they were pretty much you know, even though you know I was an only child, I felt like growing up we had some presence outside of just me, in the household as a kid.
• 15:58
  Casey Jacox: Did you watch the movie 16 candles growing up?
• 16:00
  Casey Jacox: I've seen it, yeah.
• 16:05
  Kevin Compton: Yeah, I'm not gonna.
• 16:06
  Kevin Compton: I'm not gonna give you a movie.
• 16:11
  Casey Jacox: Or you got there's a lot of 80s movies are with exchange students again that hence the theme out of the gate.
• 16:16
  Casey Jacox: Do you by chance keep in touch with any of those folks?
• 16:21
  Kevin Compton: We do one of them.
• 16:23
  Kevin Compton: We keep in touch with the guy from Finland.
• 16:25
  Kevin Compton: When I was 13 he was 17, I believe, yeah and so he was in high school, I was in middle school, you know, when he came over and he lived with us for a full year and you know.
• 16:42
  Kevin Compton: So that was, that was cool, obviously.
• 16:44
  Kevin Compton: You know we went to school together and Because the school I went to, the middle school, was attached to the high school, so we used to, you know, go to the same, you know place in essence, and so, yeah, we still keep in touch.
• 16:57
  Kevin Compton: And then, really, the others, you know, just like anything, we've kind of fallen out of touch, I think my parents so talk to a few of them here there, but me personally, the only one is from Finland.
• 17:09
  Casey Jacox: Wow, tell me what was that like having having different cultures and different folks in in your house like as a, you know, middle-aged middle middle school kid.
• 17:18
  Casey Jacox: Like what was over.
• 17:19
  Kevin Compton: Some good memories that yeah, it was, it was.
• 17:22
  Kevin Compton: It was cool, you know we Obviously you know what was different about it was, you know, as a kid, you know it's.
• 17:35
  Kevin Compton: It's different me looking back now as an adult compared to when I was a kid.
• 17:40
  Kevin Compton: Back then it was like, okay, well, I just get another kid in the house and I get, I get an older brother, I get someone that's roughly my same age and in that, cool.
• 17:50
  Kevin Compton: So I don't know if I appreciated it as much you know at the time, but obviously looking back on it's, it's pretty cool.
• 18:00
  Kevin Compton: The ones you know, when I was, I think, nine to about 12 or 13, we hosted two different boys from Ireland and that was cool, you know, because they were my same age at the time.
• 18:15
  Kevin Compton: So when they came over it was almost like I got a best buddy, you know, to come over and obviously you know they were really in the soccer and you know so I wasn't that in the soccer at the time, but they got me in the soccer and so so that was cool, it was just it was.
• 18:31
  Kevin Compton: It was a fun experience.
• 18:34
  Casey Jacox: Exchange students.
• 18:35
  Casey Jacox: You mentioned soccer.
• 18:36
  Casey Jacox: Is that when the folks from Ireland came over?
• 18:38
  Casey Jacox: Was that where maybe you first started getting into it?
• 18:40
  Kevin Compton: Or were you into it before, or Well, yeah, so preface that I was not in the soccer growing up.
• 18:47
  Kevin Compton: I mean, I got into soccer during that time frame, but I wouldn't say I got into it from a playing perspective.
• 18:53
  Kevin Compton: I got into it from like watching World Cup and, you know, following it from that perspective.
• 19:00
  Kevin Compton: But I was never into it like growing up.
• 19:01
  Kevin Compton: You know playing it.
• 19:03
  Kevin Compton: Baseball was always, you know baseball.
• 19:07
  Kevin Compton: I played basketball as well.
• 19:08
  Kevin Compton: Those were always kind of the sports that I gravitated to instead.
• 19:12
  Casey Jacox: Okay, as you think back to like Core themes in your house that you're that were like staples of Lessons, character building lessons, like to talk about what Was most important in your house that you took maybe from your childhood.
• 19:29
  Casey Jacox: There you, you will, you and your wife will will make important for your kids.
• 19:37
  Kevin Compton: So growing up and put me on the spot, so I'd say growing up definitely Education, you know, was important.
• 19:46
  Kevin Compton: You know making sure that you know my parents were, were good at, we're good at putting me in any sort of situation where it could help me academically.
• 19:59
  Kevin Compton: You know whether it was.
• 20:01
  Kevin Compton: You know some sort of program to help with some extra learning or as a deeper app or you know whatever it is.
• 20:09
  Kevin Compton: You know anything like that.
• 20:10
  Kevin Compton: They were, they were, you know good at prepping me in any sort of way for the next step.
• 20:16
  Kevin Compton: I Would say you know definitely understanding kind of your roots.
• 20:25
  Kevin Compton: You know is a big one.
• 20:27
  Kevin Compton: You know my, my parents are, you know real kind of big into.
• 20:33
  Kevin Compton: You know my mom is very big into ancestry and you know making sure understanding kind of the roots and you know where we come from and all that sort of stuff.
• 20:45
  Kevin Compton: So you know I definitely say that.
• 20:48
  Kevin Compton: And then I'd say last would be music.
• 20:50
  Kevin Compton: I mean, my parents are really in the music when I say really in the music, like they just got back from a cruise that was Moody Blues, if anyone knows who they are.
• 21:02
  Kevin Compton: So banned from the 60s and 70s.
• 21:05
  Kevin Compton: And so, you know, growing up we always had that.
• 21:08
  Kevin Compton: I had that feel of love for music and you know, I'm sure at the time it was kind of like, yeah, some of this music is crap, but you know, looking back on it, obviously I appreciate a lot of the music and you know, know a lot of the things that they grew up with and so so those are some of the things that stand out.
• 21:30
  Kevin Compton: Did they play?
• 21:31
  Kevin Compton: Did?
• 21:32
  Casey Jacox: they play music.
• 21:34
  Kevin Compton: My mom plays piano.
• 21:35
  Kevin Compton: So that's another thing.
• 21:37
  Kevin Compton: I'm kind of kicking myself, looking back at it is, you know, as a kid you're like, oh, piano, that's not that cool to play, right?
• 21:44
  Kevin Compton: So you know, my mom, growing up, was always like, hey, you want me to teach you how to play.
• 21:50
  Kevin Compton: And I was like, no, no, no, no, no, no, I want to play guitar.
• 21:54
  Kevin Compton: You know, I want to do something cooler but looking back on it, I wish that she did, you know, because nowadays I'm kind of like you know I should, I should pick that up and try to learn how to do it.
• 22:06
  Kevin Compton: But my dad, you know, he, he, he, I would say, knows how to play the guitar.
• 22:12
  Kevin Compton: He's not a guitarist but knows how to play the guitar.
• 22:16
  Kevin Compton: So I started picking up the guitar when I was, I think, in eighth grade or so.
• 22:21
  Kevin Compton: And so you know, I, I have a love for music myself and you know I'm kind of the same deal.
• 22:28
  Kevin Compton: I wouldn't call myself a, you know, expert guitarist, but I definitely like to fit all around and play and you know, you know, have any sort of appreciation for music that I can.
• 22:41
  Kevin Compton: Are you a plucker or a strummer, it depends on the day.
• 22:45
  Kevin Compton: You know my, my wife will say that you know, it's like whenever you try to learn a song on the guitar you have to play the same chords over and over.
• 22:55
  Kevin Compton: And she is kind of like, can you stop playing the same chords over and over?
• 23:03
  Kevin Compton: It's kind of like if you're saying the same song over and over and over.
• 23:07
  Kevin Compton: So my wife kind of gets sick of that.
• 23:09
  Kevin Compton: But again, it just depends.
• 23:12
  Kevin Compton: No, do you sing too?
• 23:13
  Kevin Compton: No, I, I do not have a singing voice.
• 23:17
  Kevin Compton: I mean maybe I can, you know, get away with a slight singing voice, but I'm not trying out for American Idol or anything.
• 23:29
  Casey Jacox: So Well, me neither.
• 23:31
  Casey Jacox: But you get a few soda pops in me.
• 23:35
  Casey Jacox: Yeah, a Bud Lights, I'll let the vocals go.
• 23:38
  Casey Jacox: And there you go.
• 23:39
  Casey Jacox: Sometimes it's fun, it's like therapeutic a little bit.
• 23:42
  Casey Jacox: I can I'm self-taught.
• 23:43
  Casey Jacox: Shout it to Dan Black, dan Back, oh, my boy.
• 23:46
  Casey Jacox: He kind of taught me how to first play a long time ago.
• 23:48
  Casey Jacox: But just learning like G to D or G to E, c, I mean you can play so many songs or you know they're like you learn four or five chords and then it's funny, I can't read music.
• 23:58
  Casey Jacox: I used to play trumpet growing up but I can't read music now.
• 24:01
  Casey Jacox: But if I can see, like if you're like those tab sites, you can see where the notes change and if I, if I can hear it, I can figure out the strumming of it.
• 24:09
  Casey Jacox: Sure, which is, but I couldn't read it.
• 24:12
  Casey Jacox: To say it, life to me.
• 24:14
  Kevin Compton: Well, you know, at at Money Makers we had the whole karaoke session one of the nights and my song that wasn't solo, I did it with other people, but it was Bohemian Rhapsody oh nice, and that was great.
• 24:28
  Kevin Compton: That was, you know, fun time.
• 24:30
  Kevin Compton: So I wouldn't say I'm a karaoke person either, but that was a fun experience.
• 24:36
  Casey Jacox: I see if people who know me I've been made fun of extensively for sometimes being the karaoke hog like embarrassing story.
• 24:44
  Casey Jacox: One time we were in Nashville I think it had like seven straight songs and they're like dude give up the mic.
• 24:50
  Casey Jacox: I'm like, but no one wanted it.
• 24:53
  Casey Jacox: Oh boy, yeah, that's not, that's not me.
• 24:57
  Casey Jacox: So Well, I maybe it's more like a blame.
• 25:01
  Casey Jacox: He's more of like that, you know, ripped from.
• 25:03
  Casey Jacox: Yellowstone.
• 25:05
  Casey Jacox: Yeah, Now do your kids play music.
• 25:09
  Kevin Compton: They do not.
• 25:10
  Kevin Compton: We went down the route years ago where we bought my son, my middle son a guitar.
• 25:16
  Kevin Compton: We bought my daughter a keyboard.
• 25:21
  Kevin Compton: But you know, like a lot of things that kids try, it's kind of like they fiddle with it but lost interest and got interested in something else.
• 25:30
  Kevin Compton: So maybe they'll come back to it, but they haven't, haven't yet.
• 25:37
  Casey Jacox: Yeah, Our kids either they.
• 25:39
  Casey Jacox: My daughter dinked around with piano as a kid.
• 25:41
  Casey Jacox: I actually wish I could tickle the ivory a little bit just to be able to play walking in Memphis you know, that's the only song I want to play.
• 25:48
  Casey Jacox: I'm like, oh my God, you can play that, and then just mic drop and leave and my wife, my wife has.
• 25:54
  Kevin Compton: She can't play any musical instruments, but she's got a good voice, a good singing voice, and her kind of claim to fame is in high school she went to Italy and sang in the Sistine Chapel with like a choir group and she says it like so nonchalant too, and I'm like you have a really good singing voice, but she just, you know, she's too embarrassed.
• 26:20
  Casey Jacox: I too shy.
• 26:21
  Casey Jacox: Well, just record.
• 26:23
  Casey Jacox: But she's not not looking at this on the internet.
• 26:25
  Casey Jacox: I will.
• 26:27
  Casey Jacox: All of a sudden she goes viral and I was moving to Spain and she's going to be like this is world tour singer there you go, you can say it all started on the quarterback dad cast, and then we all go famous.
• 26:36
  Casey Jacox: There you go All right Playing a set.
• 26:39
  Casey Jacox: Oh boy, okay.
• 26:41
  Casey Jacox: So, as you think about, as you think about, like core fundamental principles, you talked about some experiences, but, like, from work effect to emotional intelligence, to grit, to humility, like, was there a theme growing up that you can remember back as a kid, that you will make important in your household as a dad?
• 27:04
  Kevin Compton: Yeah, I mean, the number one thing that stands out to me and my wife would definitely attest to this you know that I inherently have.
• 27:13
  Kevin Compton: And then you know I got from my dad, specifically is my dad, you know.
• 27:18
  Kevin Compton: I saw it growing up where he, you know, started at a specific company again, worked for the same company for 23, 24 years and just worked his way up and just hustled, you know, just worked hard, went after everything.
• 27:33
  Kevin Compton: He, you know, tried to get, wasn't handed anything.
• 27:37
  Kevin Compton: And you know my, what I always saw and what I always got from that is like you have to go after what you want.
• 27:46
  Kevin Compton: And so that's the same thing for me is that, you know, when I've gotten into my career and you just kind of work the ranks up and etc.
• 27:55
  Kevin Compton: You know that's been my whole aura is that I'm just going to go after it, I'm going to work as hard as I possibly can and you know I'm going to go after it.
• 28:04
  Kevin Compton: And so that's the same thing I tell for my kids is I say look like, if you want to be a World Cup soccer player, you know you're not going to do that just by kicking the ball around a few times and get lucky right, you got to, you got to put yourself in the right position and practice and practice, etc.
• 28:22
  Kevin Compton: And so that's really the big thing I'm trying to instill my kids is you want to get somewhere, you got to work for it.
• 28:31
  Kevin Compton: You got to get where you want to get.
• 28:32
  Kevin Compton: So I'd say that's a big one.
• 28:35
  Kevin Compton: I'd say secondly would be just obviously being humble is a big one, Kasey, we've talked about that before.
• 28:46
  Kevin Compton: For me it's like I'm a big person that no matter where you are in life, et cetera, it's like you've got to be humble, You've got to be appreciative of where you've gotten and where you're going to go.
• 29:03
  Kevin Compton: And I think that's a big thing that I want to make sure my kids understand is that you may get these things or a trip to Disney or whatever it may be, but you got to say grounded and be humble and be appreciative that these are great things that not everyone can get.
• 29:22
  Kevin Compton: And so I'd say that and I'd say last would just be that you're growing up.
• 29:30
  Kevin Compton: My parents were always making sure that I didn't always have like one group of friends, if that makes sense Like they were real big on pushing me to say, hey, branch out, like make sure that you see, and talk to this person and talk to this person and do this and do this, and so that was a big thing.
• 29:55
  Kevin Compton: That really stuck with me growing up is that I was a sort of person in high school where I had a bunch of different groups of friends, and that's another thing I'm trying to instill in my kids is like I want them to really have a bunch of different groups of friends, to where it's not just like, hey, I got the same friend and I don't look at anyone else and that's all I do, Like that's a big thing.
• 30:22
  Kevin Compton: I want to make sure that they're getting all different types of experiences, and hence me growing up with exchange students.
• 30:31
  Kevin Compton: That's a big one right there.
• 30:32
  Casey Jacox: So that's good, I mean, you're making me think about.
• 30:35
  Casey Jacox: I think it challenged a lot of families went through and kids is it was coming out of COVID and you know, masked up for years and like I remember talking to my daughter I was like when she was in sixth grade when we first started this down, this crazy, whatever, how long it was for us, for everybody is, hey, is there any cute boys in school?
• 30:54
  Casey Jacox: It's like that's hard to tell.
• 30:55
  Casey Jacox: I had the other masks on.
• 30:56
  Casey Jacox: You know, I'm just making you think like God, what a what, what?
• 31:00
  Casey Jacox: I got so robbed of that time.
• 31:03
  Casey Jacox: And I think, like for like some some families that we know and like even like my daughter I think she's a super athletic outgoing but like it she's we've had to like really work hard on having her kind of improve these her curiosity, her social skills, because you it almost got.
• 31:21
  Casey Jacox: You didn't realize at the time, but going through it, going looking back now it's like, wow, so, and we do the same thing, like it can't just have one friend.
• 31:30
  Casey Jacox: You know, the more that you can try to be friends with a lot of people and you'll be a better person in life, you can kind of help set yourself up for, like whether it's future networking in business or so.
• 31:40
  Casey Jacox: I love that you guys are doing that.
• 31:42
  Casey Jacox: Yeah, I agree.
• 31:43
  Casey Jacox: Okay, as you think about an area of your dad game where you you might not be your best, if you feel comfortable sharing, like, tell me an area of your dad game that you you know, you it's not where you like it, but other dads of home might be able to relate to you where you want to make sure it's improving.
• 32:07
  Kevin Compton: Phew, I could probably bring my wife in and she'll tell you.
• 32:11
  Kevin Compton: You know, I've launched a different stuff now.
• 32:13
  Kevin Compton: I mean the ones that stand out.
• 32:16
  Kevin Compton: I mean obviously patients.
• 32:18
  Kevin Compton: Right, that's one.
• 32:20
  Kevin Compton: I am a patient person, I would say to an extent, but there are definitely times with the kids where I can get impatient, you know, whether it's they're not behaving or they're not like.
• 32:39
  Kevin Compton: I'll give you an example, like my metals on Hello everybody.
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• 33:37
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• 33:42
  Kevin Compton: He is a very, very picky eater, very picky eater, and he's someone where if you put something that looks weird in front of him, I mean he just throws it across for him not literally, but that's kind of his mentality and so just getting him-.
• 33:59
  Casey Jacox: So this is a little great dog food.
• 34:01
  Kevin Compton: Yeah, just getting impatient.
• 34:02
  Kevin Compton: Well, we joke all the time that like he would eat broccoli if we put it in ice cream.
• 34:07
  Kevin Compton: But putting broccoli in front of him is like the worst thing in the world.
• 34:14
  Kevin Compton: But yet my youngest son, he's completely cool with it, no problem.
• 34:18
  Kevin Compton: So I'd say patience, just dealing with that for years on end, I'd say that's definitely one, I would say with having three kids, one thing that always kind of stands out to me is I try to be equal on the amount of time that I spend with them.
• 34:41
  Kevin Compton: And what can happen sometimes, I notice, is I tend to gravitate or spend more time with one kid compared to the other, not purposefully, but just it just kind of happens that way.
• 34:56
  Kevin Compton: And then I kind of look back and feel bad that it's like uh-oh, did I really spend a ton of time with so-and-so because of this?
• 35:06
  Kevin Compton: So, like an example with my middle son, he's really in a soccer right now.
• 35:12
  Kevin Compton: So every time he gets home from school and I get off work he'll wanna go outside and he'll wanna throw the football or kick the soccer ball into the goal or whatever it may be.
• 35:22
  Kevin Compton: He wants to do that every night with me and obviously I wanna do that.
• 35:26
  Kevin Compton: But if I do that every single night, I'm not necessarily putting in time with my daughter or my youngest son.
• 35:34
  Kevin Compton: So I'd say I'm guilty of that sometimes, where I may put too much attention to one kid compared to another, so which I'm sure a lot of parents with multiple kids are guilty of.
• 35:49
  Kevin Compton: So I'd say those would be the two.
• 35:52
  Kevin Compton: I'm sure there's more, but those would be the two that stand out.
• 35:57
  Casey Jacox: Well, you're not in the man-to-man defense so you and your wife gotta go to zone just to be able to kinda.
• 36:01
  Casey Jacox: You know, and you know we have my wife and I have two and you know that's funny.
• 36:07
  Casey Jacox: When you say one-on-one time, it's like my son and me, it's golf.
• 36:12
  Casey Jacox: We do that, that's our thing and I'm like the rebounder for my daughter.
• 36:17
  Casey Jacox: That's our special time where we can talk and ask her questions and laugh and like last night before you know that I mentioned before we started recording their head in the loft, phoenix today for a basketball tournament.
• 36:29
  Casey Jacox: And you know, just having that one-on-one time, but I would imagine that would be hard kind of the balance of you're kinda always questioning yourself or checking yourself Like am I spending enough time?
• 36:40
  Casey Jacox: But I think in the end you gotta give yourself grace.
• 36:42
  Casey Jacox: Know you're doing the best you can.
• 36:44
  Casey Jacox: But patients spoke to me as well.
• 36:46
  Casey Jacox: My dad got rest and soul my pops.
• 36:48
  Casey Jacox: He passed down the lack of patients to me and I sometimes I see me losing my you know shiznit over some stuff.
• 36:56
  Casey Jacox: that's not a big deal sometimes, so I really focus hard on it.
• 37:00
  Casey Jacox: I think having this podcast has really helped.
• 37:02
  Casey Jacox: So you almost get free therapy.
• 37:03
  Casey Jacox: Every time you do it Interview somebody and sometimes I even see my kids, like you know, like Napoleon Dynamite when they get mad at Tina for not eating the food.
• 37:12
  Casey Jacox: Tina eat your food.
• 37:13
  Casey Jacox: Sometimes I feel like my kids talk to my, our dogs, that way.
• 37:16
  Casey Jacox: I'm like kids A dogs don't speak English and yelling at them.
• 37:20
  Casey Jacox: I go imagine when you're a baby if I just yell at you and when you could understand me and tea your food, like you wouldn't respond.
• 37:28
  Kevin Compton: Yeah, it's again it's.
• 37:30
  Kevin Compton: You know, with three kids it's a challenge for sure, and you know it's.
• 37:35
  Kevin Compton: Yeah, I'll just say, as a dad, it's like you learn as you grow, right, I mean it's.
• 37:42
  Kevin Compton: I would say, you know, when I first became a parent, obviously I've, you know, done some things at that time that I don't do anymore because I've learned from my mistakes right.
• 37:57
  Kevin Compton: So you know again, I think it's gonna be the same deal as they continue to get older.
• 38:03
  Kevin Compton: I'm gonna keep growing and learning from from what I've done.
• 38:09
  Casey Jacox: What if you, if you had to like, look back, as, like you know, obviously you went growing up with a.
• 38:15
  Casey Jacox: You're an only child and now having three, yeah, like what?
• 38:20
  Casey Jacox: What's the biggest differences for you?
• 38:22
  Casey Jacox: Just mentally going through that as you, as you think about fatherhood and relationships, yeah, Well, that was, that was really a with my wife and I.
• 38:31
  Kevin Compton: That was a purposeful plan.
• 38:35
  Kevin Compton: Is, you know, we knew from day one we wanted three kids.
• 38:39
  Kevin Compton: Like that wasn't an accident, that wasn't.
• 38:42
  Kevin Compton: You know, that was our plan.
• 38:44
  Kevin Compton: We wanted three kids.
• 38:46
  Kevin Compton: And my whole thing was I said, look, growing up as an only child, I want to grow a big family, like that's what I want, you know, out of my life.
• 38:57
  Kevin Compton: And so you know, I'd say the biggest difference that I noticed is just that, exactly back to my other point is it's just hard to share and get in time right.
• 39:11
  Kevin Compton: When I was an only child, you know, my dad got off work and I wanted to go do something.
• 39:18
  Kevin Compton: His only choice was no, I have to do something adult-wise, or okay, I have to spend time with you.
• 39:28
  Kevin Compton: Right, for me it's I have to juggle what that may be right.
• 39:34
  Kevin Compton: And so the kids see that I would say just also more activity, right, I mean, with three kids, that also means they all have friends that are in and out of the house, or, you know, we go and do stuff, team events, whatever it may be.
• 39:53
  Kevin Compton: And so, obviously, growing up, if it was just me, then it would be just going to my team event, right?
• 40:00
  Kevin Compton: So you know like my daughter and son middle son were both in soccer at the same time.
• 40:09
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• 40:21
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• 41:14
  Casey Jacox: Now let's get back to the podcast.
• 41:17
  Kevin Compton: And so we had to.
• 41:18
  Kevin Compton: You know attack and conquer, you know going to one game compared to the other, and they both played at different fields and they both played.
• 41:27
  Kevin Compton: Some of them played at the same time.
• 41:29
  Kevin Compton: So we had to figure out how to do that, and you know what do we do with our youngest son during that timeframe?
• 41:35
  Kevin Compton: And so, yeah, I just say more coordination.
• 41:39
  Kevin Compton: That definitely stands out 100%.
• 41:44
  Casey Jacox: Yeah, I mean, I think about even, like we just said just now, like my wife's gone this weekend, I'm going to be gone with my son and then we'll go shoot five days without seeing each other, you know, and that's.
• 41:58
  Casey Jacox: But it's a kind of like this every stage has its challenges and blessings and joys, yeah, but I tell you, man, it's going by fast, yeah.
• 42:07
  Casey Jacox: I mean it's not.
• 42:08
  Casey Jacox: You're telling me oh.
• 42:11
  Kevin Compton: I cannot believe.
• 42:12
  Kevin Compton: Well, my wife, the other day she was like you know, you know so-and-so, she's graduating from fifth grade and she's going into middle school and we should look at like a fifth grade graduation, which first of all, it seems weird to get fifth grade graduation gift, but whatever and but it just yeah.
• 42:33
  Kevin Compton: It dawned on me that, wow, I'm going to have a middle schooler here soon and you know, back to what you said before, I just thought of another thing.
• 42:42
  Kevin Compton: You know, a big thing that we try to do with our family is and this isn't like super unique that other people don't do but we are really really big on eating dinner together.
• 42:54
  Kevin Compton: Like that's what we do every single night, whether it's out at a restaurant or we're cooking in.
• 43:05
  Kevin Compton: We definitely say no electronics at the table.
• 43:07
  Kevin Compton: We're big on that and we say grace every single night.
• 43:14
  Kevin Compton: So we're real big on that sort of stuff.
• 43:17
  Kevin Compton: Where that's our, that's our family time, like obviously we have other family time, but every single night we make it a point to where we're sitting down as a family and we almost have like assigned seats but not assigned seats, and so that's what we do and we just talk.
• 43:35
  Kevin Compton: We talk about our day and talk about.
• 43:36
  Kevin Compton: You know what we have upcoming.
• 43:38
  Kevin Compton: And sometimes the kiddos fight, but you know, for the most part it's fun, it's a good time.
• 43:44
  Kevin Compton: I love that.
• 43:44
  Casey Jacox: That's so important.
• 43:45
  Casey Jacox: We were.
• 43:46
  Casey Jacox: It's hard, obviously, as your kids get older with sports activities, but we were big into that as well.
• 43:52
  Casey Jacox: I love the no phone at the dinner table.
• 43:54
  Casey Jacox: I love, we love, we do that as well.
• 43:57
  Casey Jacox: You know one activity I got from another guest in like season one.
• 44:01
  Casey Jacox: It was so powerful and we actually did this during COVID.
• 44:05
  Casey Jacox: Was you go around?
• 44:06
  Casey Jacox: And you're probably your kids are old enough to do it now it's they go around.
• 44:09
  Casey Jacox: They'd say one thing that they appreciate about each person in the family and one thing they appreciate about themselves.
• 44:16
  Casey Jacox: Yeah, and it was such a good exercise because you learn about like what you think your, your son or daughter might like about you as a dad or, and it encourages them also to kind of like show appreciation for their sibling, not just the things they don't like about them.
• 44:33
  Casey Jacox: Yeah, and it was a fun, fun exercise.
• 44:35
  Casey Jacox: We you know we've we haven't done it, we've done it maybe like two or three times in the last three years.
• 44:40
  Casey Jacox: It was kind of a fun, fun exercise that have sent you guys are so big into and for those of us that know them.
• 44:46
  Kevin Compton: We've tried that.
• 44:46
  Kevin Compton: We haven't done the, the second part of that, which is you know what.
• 44:52
  Kevin Compton: What did you say?
• 44:53
  Kevin Compton: And it was one thing they appreciate about each other.
• 44:55
  Casey Jacox: Yeah, they appreciate themselves.
• 44:57
  Kevin Compton: We've just done about each other, not necessarily yourself, but yeah, that's that definitely can be a good one.
• 45:03
  Kevin Compton: We a lot of times we'll we'll turn the dinners into.
• 45:07
  Kevin Compton: My daughter loves doing this is she'll have the dinner be about like, would you rather right?
• 45:15
  Kevin Compton: So, she'll always do like would you rather?
• 45:16
  Kevin Compton: Questions.
• 45:17
  Kevin Compton: And my youngest son, you know again who's four, yeah, he's just silly, and he says the silliest thing.
• 45:23
  Kevin Compton: So you know he'll be like would you rather have $10 or have $2?
• 45:30
  Kevin Compton: And you know it's just like 10.
• 45:34
  Kevin Compton: So yeah, but he'll just say, you know, would you rather be a broccoli or an orange?
• 45:40
  Kevin Compton: You know so, but it's just funny, it's, it's, it's silly, goofy time.
• 45:47
  Casey Jacox: That's good memories, ma'am For sure.
• 45:49
  Casey Jacox: Okay, if you were to think about like three, two or three core, core, foundational, I guess words or foundational themes that you and your wife will use to guide your kids throughout this these next years, before they graduate and go on in the world, tell me what, what a couple of words come to mind that are going to be most important to you guys is from a dad's perspective.
• 46:22
  Kevin Compton: I would say work ethic, so working hard, respect, you know, making sure you treat everyone with respect, and then humble, being humble.
• 46:33
  Kevin Compton: Those would be the main three.
• 46:37
  Casey Jacox: Love it.
• 46:37
  Casey Jacox: And humility is a super important word in my life.
• 46:42
  Casey Jacox: As you know, kevin Shout out to Coach Bob Baldwin.
• 46:47
  Casey Jacox: He told me his quote.
• 46:48
  Casey Jacox: It says if when you're good, I'll tell you, when you're good, you'll tell me, when you're great, I'll tell you and I told my kids that a lot like don't be the first person to tell them how great you are.
• 46:59
  Casey Jacox: Don't be the first person to say man, do you see that throw?
• 47:02
  Casey Jacox: Do you see that catch?
• 47:02
  Casey Jacox: You see that, like you know, I mean, be proud of what you do, but let others it's just.
• 47:09
  Casey Jacox: It's such a endearing and attractive skill set in life to be humble.
• 47:17
  Kevin Compton: I'd say you know, four, if there is a four, is definitely mindset.
• 47:21
  Kevin Compton: You know, I've noticed this with my kids, especially my daughter, because she's the oldest, is you know she'll go into we notice this a lot with like her soccer, where she says, oh, you know, I'm really, I don't think we're gonna win this game, or man, I'm really worried about this test, or I'm really nervous for this situation, Right, I mean, again, that's natural, right, we're all human and, you know, a level of nerves is understandable.
• 47:53
  Kevin Compton: But a big thing that I try to tell her is that if you go into it thinking you're gonna lose, then you've already lost, right.
• 48:00
  Kevin Compton: So you gotta make sure that you go into it thinking you're gonna win, and you may not, but at least you have that mindset going into it.
• 48:10
  Kevin Compton: You know, and that's a big thing that I'm I try to do in my own life is that, again, obviously we all have ups and downs and obstacles, et cetera, that we work through.
• 48:20
  Kevin Compton: But if you try to have a positive mentality about it and you try to, you know, wake up and say, hey, I'm gonna be great at work today, right, I'm gonna do this.
• 48:30
  Kevin Compton: I mean, you got a good shot that you're gonna be great.
• 48:33
  Kevin Compton: But if you wake up every day and you say, hey, I'm not gonna be great, I mean you're already 50% down.
• 48:39
  Kevin Compton: So yeah, that's.
• 48:41
  Kevin Compton: Another big thing is mindset Is I want them to believe you've got it right beyond.
• 48:47
  Casey Jacox: You believe that they can get what they want so good, and for what Kev's talking about.
• 48:55
  Casey Jacox: We can see each other.
• 48:56
  Casey Jacox: You guys can't, since this is only an audio podcast.
• 48:58
  Casey Jacox: But there's a word, the believe sign behind me, and it's from, obviously, ted Lasso.
• 49:02
  Casey Jacox: It's also from a mentor I had in my life, john Kaplan.
• 49:05
  Casey Jacox: He said you know, remind us, do you believe?
• 49:07
  Casey Jacox: What you do matters, and I think it's such an important thing.
• 49:09
  Casey Jacox: I'm glad you mentioned it.
• 49:11
  Casey Jacox: I'm glad you mentioned it.
• 49:12
  Casey Jacox: I think that's as I think about.
• 49:17
  Casey Jacox: When I played in sports like guys, I knew that played professionally.
• 49:19
  Casey Jacox: That's what the difference was.
• 49:21
  Casey Jacox: They had this intense belief, competitive belief, that not arrogance, but belief that they were the best person in the field.
• 49:29
  Casey Jacox: They didn't have to go tell people, but they, in deep down, they shot by shot on the golf course.
• 49:34
  Casey Jacox: You're only as good at that next or that throw or that test, whatever it may be.
• 49:37
  Casey Jacox: But, like I love that you mentioned that and dads and moms, if whoever's listening at home, if you're not focusing on the word believe, do it now and watch what will happen.
• 49:47
  Casey Jacox: Because you know, science says we have 70 to 80,000 thoughts a day.
• 49:51
  Casey Jacox: Of those thoughts, 60 to 80% of those are negative.
• 49:55
  Casey Jacox: So we already know there's all this negativity out there, but if we can try to encourage them to find positivity and choose what's possible almost that, why not?
• 50:04
  Casey Jacox: Me mindset Ma'am, watch out, watch out.
• 50:07
  Casey Jacox: So I love it.
• 50:09
  Casey Jacox: Yeah, for sure.
• 50:10
  Casey Jacox: Okay, as we get ready to wrap up here, tell me how people can learn more about you and GDH.
• 50:19
  Casey Jacox: Tell the folks at home what GDH is all about.
• 50:23
  Kevin Compton: Sure.
• 50:23
  Kevin Compton: So GDH is a IT consulting and staffing firm.
• 50:30
  Kevin Compton: We're based out of Tulsa, oklahoma.
• 50:32
  Kevin Compton: I actually sit in Charlotte, north Carolina, so I sit remote and we've got a nationwide you know reach to where.
• 50:40
  Kevin Compton: Obviously we work with Fortune 500 companies in places, many IT professionals as we can right.
• 50:48
  Kevin Compton: You know, really my role in that is I'm over all things, recruiting, delivery.
• 50:54
  Kevin Compton: So anything from the strategic side to the operation side.
• 50:58
  Kevin Compton: You know that's my thing.
• 51:00
  Kevin Compton: That's pretty much been.
• 51:02
  Kevin Compton: My whole career is on the delivery side.
• 51:04
  Kevin Compton: So you know, really I'm the guy when we get in something that is a big project or just the day to day.
• 51:11
  Kevin Compton: It's like Kevin, how do we do this?
• 51:12
  Kevin Compton: How do we figure this out?
• 51:13
  Kevin Compton: What's the plan?
• 51:14
  Kevin Compton: How do we move forward?
• 51:16
  Kevin Compton: How do we move from being a company that does this to a company that does this right?
• 51:24
  Kevin Compton: So that's really what I do.
• 51:28
  Casey Jacox: Love it.
• 51:28
  Casey Jacox: And if people wanna learn and connect with you, what tell me the best way they can find you LinkedIn.
• 51:36
  Kevin Compton: So I am not a social media person outside of LinkedIn, so I think that's probably the only one.
• 51:42
  Kevin Compton: But yeah, linkedin would be the best.
• 51:46
  Casey Jacox: Awesome.
• 51:46
  Casey Jacox: We'll make sure that's LinkedIn the show notes.
• 51:49
  Casey Jacox: We'll make sure that GDH is LinkedIn the show notes.
• 51:53
  Casey Jacox: It's a great company.
• 51:54
  Casey Jacox: I've been lucky to meet some fantastic people.
• 51:56
  Casey Jacox: Kevin mentioned Money Makers earlier.
• 51:58
  Casey Jacox: That's an annual conference they go to, where I had the chance to speak, and so fun.
• 52:04
  Casey Jacox: Their leadership team does a great job.
• 52:06
  Casey Jacox: So if you don't know about them, make sure you check them out.
• 52:08
  Casey Jacox: We'll make sure everything's linked in the show notes as well as on LinkedIn when this post comes out.
• 52:13
  Casey Jacox: Before we go into the lightning round, if you're to summarize some core themes of our conversation today that dads can take or again whoever's listening can take from our conversation to two or three words of things that we've talked about that they can put into their life right now to become that ultimate quarterback or leader of their household, I mean what comes to mind, Kevin.
• 52:36
  Kevin Compton: I'd say one is you don't have to be perfect.
• 52:39
  Kevin Compton: I mean, none of us are perfect as dads.
• 52:43
  Kevin Compton: I mean, we're all figuring this out as we go, which is scary at times, but is exciting too.
• 52:54
  Kevin Compton: So I definitely would say that I would say whatever you do with your kids, I think my biggest thing I think about every single day is that if I don't go and do something with them or I say this instead of this, they remember those things.
• 53:16
  Kevin Compton: I may not remember it, but they remember those things, meaning they're gonna remember if I'm at a sporting event or not.
• 53:27
  Kevin Compton: And so I have to be intentional and make sure that I may not get every situation right, but I have to make sure that what they're looking at the most is just spending time with me.
• 53:41
  Kevin Compton: That's what they care about.
• 53:42
  Kevin Compton: So when my kids come home, they don't care that I'm at work.
• 53:48
  Kevin Compton: They don't understand it.
• 53:49
  Kevin Compton: They just wanna make sure.
• 53:51
  Kevin Compton: Hey, when do you get off work where we can spend some time?
• 53:54
  Kevin Compton: So I have to make sure I understand that the biggest thing is your kids just wanna spend time with you.
• 54:00
  Kevin Compton: And so whatever you do, it doesn't matter what it is it could be golf or watching a movie or anything, as long as you spend time.
• 54:08
  Kevin Compton: That's the key.
• 54:11
  Casey Jacox: Love it, power being present.
• 54:12
  Casey Jacox: Those are two great ones.
• 54:14
  Casey Jacox: Don't be perfect.
• 54:15
  Casey Jacox: Give yourself grace, everybody, and focus on time, because that hourglass is only speeding up and it's not gonna slow down.
• 54:22
  Casey Jacox: All right.
• 54:23
  Casey Jacox: As we finish up here, it's time to go into the lightning round, where I go random on you.
• 54:26
  Casey Jacox: I ask quick questions to try to get you a laugh.
• 54:28
  Casey Jacox: Your job is to answer them quickly as you can.
• 54:31
  Casey Jacox: Are you ready?
• 54:31
  Casey Jacox: I'm ready.
• 54:33
  Casey Jacox: True or false.
• 54:34
  Casey Jacox: You kicked a 53 yard field goal the last game before they became the commanders.
• 54:45
  Kevin Compton: That would be a false.
• 54:45
  Kevin Compton: However, the team they may need a field goal kicker and I might be qualified, because their team is not very good.
• 54:55
  Casey Jacox: So stretch out Perfect.
• 54:58
  Casey Jacox: Tell me the last book you read.
• 54:59
  Casey Jacox: Good, naked Great book.
• 55:01
  Casey Jacox: Malcolm Gladwell, I'm your.
• 55:03
  Casey Jacox: Patrick Lenzioni, last movie you watched.
• 55:07
  Kevin Compton: Last movie I watched.
• 55:09
  Kevin Compton: The same movies are always on TV right TNT or TBS.
• 55:17
  Kevin Compton: Back to Future, part one.
• 55:19
  Casey Jacox: Well, there we go.
• 55:19
  Casey Jacox: Flex Capacitor.
• 55:20
  Casey Jacox: Love it If I was going to your phone right now.
• 55:24
  Casey Jacox: What is one song you would not want your friends at GDH to know?
• 55:29
  Kevin Compton: you listened to.
• 55:32
  Kevin Compton: Ooh, I'd say probably like Ed Sheeran.
• 55:36
  Casey Jacox: Oh, there we go, perfect.
• 55:39
  Kevin Compton: Funny story about that.
• 55:40
  Kevin Compton: I know this is lighting, but real funny story.
• 55:41
  Kevin Compton: So I went on a golf trip with some guys a couple years ago and I had to charge my phone.
• 55:46
  Kevin Compton: I'm sitting in the back seat.
• 55:47
  Kevin Compton: So I said, hey, can I charge your phone?
• 55:50
  Kevin Compton: So I went to plug it in.
• 55:51
  Kevin Compton: The music came through and the first song that popped up on his radio was Ed Sheeran.
• 55:58
  Kevin Compton: It was a really slow song and they all turned around and looked at me and they were like what are you listening to?
• 56:06
  Kevin Compton: So I'd say, ed, Sheeran, so good.
• 56:10
  Casey Jacox: If you have two book of vacation right now with you and your wife, only, where are you going?
• 56:15
  Kevin Compton: Well, my wife's dream she says this all the time is she wants to go to Mauritius.
• 56:21
  Casey Jacox: Okay, but I have not.
• 56:24
  Kevin Compton: It's an island off the coast of Madagascar.
• 56:27
  Kevin Compton: Wow, why she picked that, I have no idea, but if you ask her every single time, that's where she wants to go.
• 56:35
  Casey Jacox: Mauritius Sounds fantastic.
• 56:37
  Casey Jacox: I thought it was a made up word.
• 56:38
  Casey Jacox: Nope, here we go All right.
• 56:41
  Casey Jacox: Well, speaking of your wife.
• 56:42
  Casey Jacox: If there were two words to describe your wife, tell me what they'd be.
• 56:48
  Kevin Compton: She's definitely strong-willed.
• 56:50
  Kevin Compton: You know she is, and I'd say, independent, okay, strong-willed independent Love.
• 57:01
  Casey Jacox: It Hyphenated first word.
• 57:02
  Casey Jacox: Now, if there was to be a book written about your life so far, tell me the title Work Hard.
• 57:08
  Casey Jacox: Okay, now Work Hard is written.
• 57:11
  Casey Jacox: It's been a fantastic read, everybody loves it.
• 57:14
  Casey Jacox: And now we're going to make that into a Hollywood-themed hit.
• 57:18
  Casey Jacox: Maybe it's going to be on TNT or TBS.
• 57:19
  Casey Jacox: And I need to know who is going to star you in this critically acclaimed new hot movie Ben Affleck.
• 57:25
  Casey Jacox: God, that was so easy and so quick.
• 57:28
  Kevin Compton: Yeah, I mean my facial hair and color of hair is similar to his, so I'll go with him.
• 57:36
  Kevin Compton: That's a good answer.
• 57:39
  Casey Jacox: Okay, lighting around is over.
• 57:41
  Casey Jacox: We both giggled a little bit.
• 57:42
  Casey Jacox: It's been fantastic learning about you, mom, mom and dad.
• 57:45
  Casey Jacox: Great job to you and your wife, and also to your mom and your dad, and I love the history that you know of your parents and it's obviously her the ancestry that your mom is passionate about.
• 57:55
  Casey Jacox: You can tell that it's been passed down to you and just the things you knew.
• 57:58
  Casey Jacox: I want to give a shout out to Acme Homes and Latitude Sitka as well for your continued support and thank you to all of our listeners out there.
• 58:07
  Casey Jacox: It's been a fantastic journey on this.
• 58:11
  Casey Jacox: You know leading this podcast and again grateful for my friend and college teammate, ty Nunes, for helping us get this thing off the ground nearly four years ago.
• 58:17
  Casey Jacox: So, kev, it's been an honor spending time with you.
• 58:20
  Casey Jacox: Thank you again for doing everything you do at GDH, but also thanks again for sharing some of your experience and wisdom as a father and you and your wife raising those three great kids years.
• 58:30
  Casey Jacox: Thanks, casey, appreciate it All.
• 58:32
  Casey Jacox: Right, buddy.