Latest / She's Next Level / 58: Universal Law Of Fair Exchange Will Make Or Break Your Ability To Receive Without Guilt
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- Darshna Patel: in this world, value is very subjective. it's very skewed So anything you give, anything you receive, it's always in fair exchange, really helps people not do things out of obligation anymore and feeling like I owed somebody. people owing me. Hello everybody and welcome back to the She's Next Level podcast. If you're new here, my name is Darsh and I help women live their most expansive life, look hotter, feel healthier, and be happier. So if that is something that you want to do, then make sure that you subscribe and stick around because we release episodes every week. So today I wanted to talk about a very, very important universal law that I feel like not a lot of people talk about. But when I started learning about it, I was like, my God, everyone needs to know about this because the moment I started implementing it in my life, I started to feel a lot more at ease, more balanced, and really in this energy of worthiness, of feeling worthy to receive. And I know a lot of women struggle with this because, you know, we want to be loved and accepted and we want to belong and we want to feel like we're special and that we're a necessity in people's lives. But When you're out of balance with this law that I'm gonna be talking about, things get really messy. And this is why we tend to feel emotions like guilt, like shame, like resentment. This law really puts that under the bed and it really helps you move forward from a place of alignment and really honestly feel fully and completely worthy to receive anything that you want in your life, but also receive more without having to give so much. And that has been The biggest mission in my life that I have been really dedicated to in figuring out ways to really allow myself to be fully worthy and open to receive more than I even have to give. Because a lot of us do things out of resentment, we do things out of obligation, we do things because we want. People to see that we're important and special and that we belong. So this law is really going to change the fucking game. Make sure that you stay until the end because I'm going to be sharing ways and tools to help you start to implement this in your life, just the way that I have. And I've really been able to see major shifts in the way that I show up, in the way that I am able to receive in my life. So really, really good stuff. So this law is called. The law of fair exchange. And at first, I thought this law was like a money law because I've been really diving deeper into my financial mastery stuff lately. But you can really apply this law into any area of life. what it essentially states is that whatever you're giving, you're always receiving an equal fair exchange, meaning that. It's similar to the law of balance. And if you have not learned about the law of balance, I've mentioned it quite some time. It's literally the foundation of a lot of my work around unconditional self-love. I do have an episode, I will link it in the description box so that you guys can listen to that episode after this one around unconditional self-love because that law really kicks in for creating that in your life. So this law is kind of like a branch and an extension off of that universal law. Which in a nutshell basically states that there's an equal amount of positives and negatives in the world, in every situation, in everyone, in everything. So at the end of the day, the universe has to be in balance. You have the yin, the yang, the up and down, the left, right, right. So it has to be in balance. And this is how the universe operates. So with the law of fair exchange, it basically is a law that really helps people root to their value and understand. The essence of value, because in this world, value is very subjective. It's all a perception. I mean, someone can be, you know, selling something for X amount of price. Another person can sell something just as valuable for another price. So it's very skewed in the world. And this is why it causes us to feel out of balance of what's actually valuable and what's not. That is what really fucks us because what I've learned in my life is that every motherfucking thing is valuable, and I will. Preach that until the day I die, because that has helped me so much and helped me stay at peace and be able to again create from this place of wholeness. So this law around the law of fair exchange, which basically states that everything is balanced and everything is in fair exchange. So anything you give, anything you receive, it's always in fair exchange, really helps people and it's helped me. in my journey, not do things out of obligation anymore and feeling like I owed somebody. even, you know, people owing me. Like if I did something for someone and they didn't didn't do anything back, you know, feeling like how we usually feel like, hey, you gotta do something for me too. It's not like this really cuts out that feeling completely because it's always in fair exchange in some way, somehow. And I know this may be like Hard for you to listen to right now. Cause I I remember when I first heard about it, I was like, but fucking how? how can I get my brain behind this? I got tools for you guys, but it's definitely like a perception training the brain type of thing. But it is always happening regardless. And when we are, you know, feeling obligation energy, when we're feeling resentment energy, all of these lower frequency emotions that stem from us being out of balance with this law. of the universe, it really creates some shit in our lives where people will then start to be like, you owe me money, or they'll start to reflect that back to us by, you know, expecting more from us and all these situations that we do not want to create in our lives. And this is even what has caused me to give more to just prove my worth, you know, to prove that I'm good enough, especially in business where a lot of my lessons have been in my life financially and in business, you know, with clients, like want to do a great job and you want to make sure that they get results. And so I find myself doing things out of obligation or giving more than I even have the capacity for. And then that really Fs up your self-love and it F's up everything in your creator field, which is what I call your EMF field in science terms, which is always what's creating your reality. And so we are going to nip this in the butt today. And one of the reasons why I feel like this law really makes or breaks your ability to receive is because we end up doing things like I had mentioned from obligation energy and from a place of not enoughness. And not enoughness has been a big theme in my life for the longest. And I know it is for a lot of people. And when you get this law on lock and you only start to train yourself to see the value in everything, which is One of the ways that I've been really training myself and getting this law embedded in my fucking brain so that I am constantly in balance is seeing the value in everything because there is. There's always something to learn from, there's always a lesson, there's always growth happening. And as spiritual beings, that is really the purpose of what we came here to do is to fucking grow. And how beautiful is growth! Because I guarantee you. When you look at something that happened, five years ago, 10 years ago that you didn't like in your life, or, you know, maybe it was a breakup, maybe it was a crazy financial investment that you made that didn't go well, there was a lesson that stemmed from it. There was a lot of value that came from it that you would not have learned if you didn't go through it. So even when it comes to like past situations, you can use this law to cut let go of like past resentments and anything to do with the past. And really just move forward. So value can be just things indirectly, And judgment is like a whole nother topic where I have an episode on my podcast talking about judgments a little bit deeper. But I've even found myself, judging everyone else and what the work that they do because I have this ability to see through shit and see like, you know, what's good and legit and what's not. But even that was fucking me because I'm still basing a judgment and I'm still not seeing the value that that thing has. even if the value was perceived negative, right? Around someone making an investment in something and it going terrible. And that is still valuable. Like the whole negative situation gave that person a lesson to grow and to activate new beliefs, new tools. You know, they have their own journey that's kind of planned out from them from their higher self. And so understanding this value equation and seeing value in all different ways and levels and just training yourself to see the value in everything is really gonna help you get this law on lock. It's probably one of the easiest ways in my opinion, because if you can perceive something externally in a certain way, then you're going to feel that internally with your own life as well. this law has also helped me step into my worthiness to receive, regardless of how much I give, regardless of how much I'm able to receive, I have been able to fully step into that belief and knowing that no, I am I've done enough to receive more. Even if someone's like giving more to me and I'm not really giving much to them, I'm like, again, everything is in balance. our perception is the only thing that's not seeing the truth around, how much we've maybe given to them or given to somebody else in the world. if you were to literally put together fucking lists, and I don't even remember half of the people in my life, because I've been through a lot of people in my life from my door of the explore journey of life through moving to so many different places and meeting so many fucking people, especially when you live in New York, it's like a different day, different vibe. It's so much fun. But if I was to even try to put together a list of all the people that I've helped and helped meaning positively impacted their life, whether it was from a positive situation or even a negative perceived situation, there's always positive outcomes in some way, some form. we don't know what people are ever going through. We don't know what's going to pan out in people's lives, but somehow, somehow we are always valuable and we're always giving value. So if you were to even put take a list and write everything down, you would be like, no, I am worthy of compensation. I am worthy to receive the money, the love, the attention, whatever it is. You know, when you do something for a friend like I have, and like I've allowed myself to receive free lunches from my friends because whether I helped them throughout their life and I can go down that memory lane, or I've helped someone else. One of the ways that's also been helping me shift my perception into balance and really be in congruence with this law is to realize that it's not them that's ever giving to me. It is source. And I call God source. You can call God whatever you want, but it is literally source giving back to me. It's source giving to me because I was a match to it. I am worthy to receive it. And that's also been really helping me feel worthy to receive. when it comes to anyone giving to me or even just finding money on the street, because I again was a match to it, because it wouldn't be available to me if I wasn't worthy of receiving it. And so I think understanding even this aspect will really help you guys start to click in and be like, yeah, no, I am worthy to receive, especially as you practice some of the tools that I'm going give you guys, because it is definitely a brain practicing perception practicing tool, but this law will really help you, you know, get into that place of neutrality and really owning your value and feeling worthy to receive. And so some of the ways that you guys can start to notice this law playing out is when you start to feel, you know, lower frequency negative emotions. So, and I don't even like to say negative because it's just like it's high frequency, low frequency, emotions like guilt, emotions like resentment, emotions like the energy of owing and feeling like either people owe you because you've done So much you've overgiven to them, right? Because you're out of balance with this law of fair exchange. Or you feel like you owe people because you feel like you've taken too much from them, which you've never ever taken too much from anyone, because you can't ever take from people because no one ever makes somebody do things. And vice versa. And everything's always a great lesson. Even if they do on their end, it's not your fault. Catch yourself when you're feeling like, you want to do more for somebody as well. Because you have to ask yourself. And if you have intuition trained, intuitively ask yourself, is this a true heart pull? do I genuinely want to do this? Or is this coming from a place of the obligation? Or is this coming from a place of being out of balance with this law of fair exchange? Another way is when people start to tell you that you owe them money. This is a big common one, or that you know, they're making you feel bad in a way for not doing so much for them. Like this is where this law of fair exchange is playing out against you because you are somewhere in your emotions feeling this guilt or this resentment or any type of out of balance feeling from the truth that no, you are worthy of receiving everything that you do for people. back and plus more because we like to do that. And that's also actually another thing that I wanted to mention is that like even the perception that I had around like I want to receive more than I give because who the fucking doesn't, even that was kind of like a perception that's not in congruence with the law of fair exchange because at the end of the day, it's always equal. And I want you guys to really solidify that into your brain is that it's always equal fair exchange. It's never like, you know, I want to receive more than I give. Like No, I I received exactly what I have given throughout my life. And I want you guys to start thinking big picture in that way because you have done so much more and left so much positive impact in the world than you even realize. And so we need to start collecting from the universe compensation for all the shit that we have done, because we have done enough. And one of the things that I want you guys to understand about universal laws as I continue to share them on this podcast with you guys, because there's so many, but I really like to learn the ones that are like the most needle moving, the most important, that really help us feel in balance and feel worthy and whole in our lives, is that universal laws are really just here to help you. get back into balance from any type of perceptional imbalance that we have, any type of emotional imbalance that we feel. it's really there to help us see the truth and we can start to move from a place of alignment versus fear. And it really helps us clear limiting beliefs a lot quicker, a lot easier when we're able to use these laws to help us get back into balance. Cause sometimes, you think it you're stuck, let's just say in your life, right? and usually feeling stuck comes from a belief of like feeling like nothing's working out in your life. Well, The law of fair exchange is definitely out of balance. I would say more of law of focus, which is another universal law that I talked about on my podcast. And when you start to get focused back into how things are working in your life because you're just looking at the wrong things or you're looking at it in the wrong way, then you're able to clear that belief. You're able to actually see, like, no, everything is working out for me. That energy starts to amplify and expand, and then you start to create more of that in your life. And you start to get back into balance, the law of balance and the law of fair exchange. It's really, really interesting, honestly, how all these laws work together in congruence and then like you can see them start to play out as they do. It's really, really cool. since we're talking about the law of fair exchange right now. I want you guys to start focusing on how it's playing out. Like start training yourself and start to see through awareness of like, okay, I see this is happening. I feel like you know that person didn't give me much and they didn't give me what I expected, and I didn't get what I expected from this investment. Or this person, I feel like they're ungrateful. They're not appreciating me for all the things that I do. Like all these tiny ways that we are out of balance and we're not seeing the fair exchange that is happening. I want you guys to catch those moments. and once you do, if you feel like that person owes you, then I want you to start listing out, like make a list, write this out. I really like when you write things out because your body and your brain get involved. And is there's just like a magical thing that happens when you're actually writing things out and you're sitting with things. Write down all the reasons why it is perfect that that scenario has happened. Because there is some type of benefit that is going on. Like, for example, I had made like a $7,000 investment in a program. It was supposed to be all year. And I had made that investment earlier this year, thinking that it was gonna give me exactly what I wanted. I had really high hopes for it, which is also a recipe for disaster. I talk about that in my expectations episodes. I have a lot of episodes that you guys should listen to because. It really helps tie everything together. But I had high hopes, high expectations, and I was really excited. The first two or three months, it was great. And I felt like I was getting exactly what I needed. And then, you know, as you grow, sometimes you kind of just outgrow your mentors or like people and situations. And I started to feel that way with this investment container. And Every month, we meet, and we go over things, we have QA's and all of that. And I just wasn't showing up anymore as I was. And I started to feel like, wow, I honestly didn't feel like that seven thousand dollars was worth it for what I'm receiving. And that is exactly where was out of fair exchange. Because the truth is, is that I have received a lot of value. And even till this day, like it's been almost a whole year. And I have definitely made a lot of peace in that situation that hey, if I could just start to see how I did get some type of value and the fact that I had the money to invest in something like that. And I was able to, you know, get as much as I could out of it. And I know that, hey, if I don't feel like that information is going to accelerate me in my goals right now, I know that that information can accelerate me in the future somehow. And that I still have a sense of increase in my life somehow, somehow. That in itself really helped me get back into balance and also start to notice in things that I did receive a lot of value from. And that I have implemented in my life. Because that's another thing that people do is that they'll get all this knowledge, but they haven't fucking integrated shit. And so they're not seeing the type of results in their life that they want because they're not implementing it. through physical action, through trial and error, through repetition. So in reality, you know, it was also a lesson learned because it was actually a reflection for me. I'm learning to be a lot more discerning before I invest and not be in my emotions when I do that. it was perfect actually, even though that happened, because I got a lot of health information that I wanted out of it. I got a lot of organization tax from it. I got a lot from it that if I was to go back to all the information that I have access to, I know that there's a lot of gold that I can dig in from there. So you guys see how I took a situation where I felt like that person owed me and I balanced it out by seeing the benefits of how no, I actually did get a lot of value for that price. And That really helped me just be at peace with the whole thing. So you guys can use this for any situation, any scenario with somebody, like literally anything, and get that back into balance because the more we like go over past man and all these like types of things that make us in this energy of resentment, of obligation, of just like not enough, the better. we're able to be free and we're able to really be ourselves and move forward in our lives. And then also if you feel like on the other hand, that you owe people that you haven't done enough to receive, I want you guys to start to go into that big picture perspective, go through your life and think about even last week and go through how many people have you impacted in their lives? even if it was a smile on the street to a stranger. You literally made that person's day better. That is worthy of compensation. Because there's a lot of fucking miserable people out here. And a lot of them don't even have emotional intelligence and emotional mastery. And then they just like dump on people. So at least you were the bright light sharing love, sharing positivity. And another example I wanted to share with you guys, a lot it's a lot of financial examples because it's been a theme of my life. But even if you feel like, you know, maybe you owe someone money, that's usually like a popular one. Like I, you know, have had recently this thing around like I owed my dad money, which I'm not gonna pay him back anymore because I've done enough in my life and this is how I'm implementing this law in my life. But you know, he pays for my phone bills and And I haven't paid him for over a year now. And I remember he when he was going on vacation, he was telling me, like, you know, hey, don't forget to give me the money that you owe me. And that kept popping up. And it was really interesting because like that was during the time when I was learning, like first started to learn about the law and then started to implement the law in my life. And ever since I've implemented it, he has not mentioned that I owe him money. And it's because I was able to show myself that no, I have done enough that like, you know, 70 bucks a month for the phone bill is nothing compared to how much I've given him in my life. So like I give him love, I give him joy, I give him purpose and the ability to love me unconditionally, regardless if I give him money back or not. Like What are the things that I'm also teaching him that I'm giving him is also in value for me not giving that money back to him. I'm helping him realize how much money he actually has and the ability to, especially as a man, men love to provide to provide for me. And that really gives men joy and it gives men purpose and it really makes them feel like they're doing something meaningful, which is something that they really thrive on. So I have to really get creative here and find ways to balance that out so that I feel like, no, I have done enough and I am worthy of receiving, you know, compensation of my phone bill being paid. And I don't actually owe him anything because I have done enough. and I did a bit of like directly through him, but then I also increased and added on like Overall in his life, how have I really impacted his life in such a great way? Where it's like, yeah, I am worthy of receiving my phone paid for and indefinitely, if anything. So we're gonna go there. So you guys can start to see how you can implement this law of fair exchange in any situation, any scenario. it is a muscle. And it is practice, practice, practice, but that is only way you get better. And it is so worth using this law in your life to help you get back into that wholeness and out of that obligation energy, out of that resentment. You know, you stop overgiving, you stop chasing, you stop needing from people or anything to start to feel good in your life. To start to actually even feel valuable as yourself and feel enough as you are. So this is like one of my favorite universal laws because it really has helped me start to do things from a place of heart pull and desire versus you know doing things out of obligation. And it's helped me start to also ask for what I need from people and ask with confidence, ask without feeling guilty. and it's really changed the game for me. I want you guys to use some of these tools that I've given you. You know, just start seeing the value in everything, start to see source in everything when you're receiving. You know, be like, wow, this is coming from God. Like, this is not coming from that person, it's coming from God. Start to implement this little tool that it gave you guys around, you know, if you feel like you owe somebody, then start to see how you give in. enough value in their life and everyone else's life, really get that perception back into balance. If you feel like other people owe you, then start to see how you know what they've given you was valuable and get back into balance. Like you want to be out of that owing energy, whether it you're giving it to somebody or somebody's giving it to you, because balance is key. Balance is king. Balast is life. So if you enjoy this episode, please let me know in the Apple reviews. It really helps the podcast grow. And I love hearing back from you guys to see what really resonated, what really helps you the most. And it helps me understand what you guys need. 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