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Age Gap · We Talk Back

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  Speaker 1: Welcome to We Talk Back Podcast, the production of iHeartRadio
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  Speaker 1: and the Black Effect Network.
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  Speaker 2: Talk Talk Talk. We're just two unapologetically black women with
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  Speaker 2: an opinion who talks.
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  Speaker 1: What's up?
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  Speaker 2: Y'all?
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  Speaker 1: Thank you for tuning in for a new episode that
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  Speaker 1: We Talk Back. That show dedicated to you dreamers and chasers.
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  Speaker 1: What's up? Tam Bam Oh, it's your co host, AJ Holling.
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  Speaker 2: You had to think about it. You know who you
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  Speaker 2: wanted to dedicate it to.
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  Speaker 1: Today we dedicated to all the baby mama's, baby Mama's mamas.
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  Speaker 2: Hey, y'all, I love y'all. It's tam Man. I love you. AJ.
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  Speaker 2: How you doing?
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  Speaker 1: Love it to a girl I'm doing?
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  Speaker 2: How was she trying to relax? How was your weekend?
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  Speaker 1: The moving, moving and moving and moving? Still trying to
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  Speaker 1: get organized? Y'all? Be so glad when I am situated
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  Speaker 1: so I can think clearly you still got any house?
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  Speaker 1: No bitch, I have me a very plushed with. First
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  Speaker 1: of all, like betting is very important to Linen's s Fair, Peacock,
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  Speaker 1: those are my favorite betting brands. And I got me
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  Speaker 1: a good ass Stern and Foster. Okay, I don't know
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  Speaker 1: what that is multiple level. It's a mattress se Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: I got me a good bag, or I got to
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  Speaker 1: sleep good. And that's one thing. I'm about to make
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  Speaker 1: these T shirts that say I love to lay down.
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  Speaker 1: That's one of my favorite things to do on your back,
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  Speaker 1: shit back. I definitely love it from the side, because
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  Speaker 1: nobody got to do a whole lot of work from
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  Speaker 1: the side. Listen, choked me a little bit from the side.
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  Speaker 2: What did I do this weekend? Oh, it was one
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  Speaker 2: of my friends, Lexi. She was on the show recently.
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  Speaker 2: It was her thirtieth birthday, so we had a death
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  Speaker 2: to her twenties celebration and everybody came dressed in black.
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  Speaker 2: It was a good time. We went on the rooftop.
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  Speaker 2: They had it catered. It was a really good time.
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  Speaker 2: We had fun at night. That's all I really did,
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  Speaker 2: and then went to work.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, I saw her content for her birthday. Yeah, birthday, Lexi.
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  Speaker 2: Heavy birthday, Lexi. We love you. All right, let's get
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  Speaker 2: it to the sins.
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  Speaker 1: I remember when I was thirty, but yeah, it was just.
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  Speaker 2: A couple of years ago from me. All right, so
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  Speaker 2: let's get into it. Christina mack Baby, Christina Mackie was
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  Speaker 2: so in love just a couple of weeks ago with
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  Speaker 2: Rick Ross, and now it seems they broke up, and
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  Speaker 2: it was video of Rick Ross in the club with
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  Speaker 2: another Redbone chick. And I just feel like when you
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  Speaker 2: start with a guy, you don't need to be publicly
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  Speaker 2: too too loud and proud, honestly, especially with them types
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  Speaker 2: of men, because your videos don't age well oftentimes, like
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  Speaker 2: you all loud and proud and strong and wrong and
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  Speaker 2: now he off with the next battie and it's embarrassing.
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  Speaker 2: So Christina McKie, I guess that was a life lesson
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  Speaker 2: for you. Keep your ship, keep your relationships private and
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  Speaker 2: to yourself.
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  Speaker 1: What's she here for? For a good time not a
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  Speaker 1: long time? Okay? So she got a pair of teeth
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  Speaker 1: out the deal, she got some some internet cloud me
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  Speaker 1: be good or bad. She still has a whatever she
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  Speaker 1: thinks she's got out the relationship.
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  Speaker 2: She got like some type of business and she's selling
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  Speaker 2: something and she set herselves went up. So I mean
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  Speaker 2: that's good. Yeah, that's good.
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  Speaker 1: That's a plus. But I just still can't let a
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  Speaker 1: nigga like Rick Ross do me like that publicly, like
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  Speaker 1: what you mean an like okay, do y'all listen, do
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  Speaker 1: y'all follow to your MP Rick Ross baby Baba like
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  Speaker 1: she always be putting the camera on her feet and
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  Speaker 1: she'd be standing like Penny proud like. And I realized
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  Speaker 1: she does that be because that's how Rick rossby. That's
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  Speaker 1: his stamp.
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  Speaker 2: Oh yeah, he do got a bad bitch.
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  Speaker 1: It's not really a bad bitch stance. It's like a
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  Speaker 1: pigeonholed bull leg stance.
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  Speaker 2: Like you know that last minute I see with his
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  Speaker 2: shirt off where he had them feet cocked to the side.
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  Speaker 2: I was like, Amn, Okay, I.
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  Speaker 1: Just couldn't, man, I just couldn't. Y'all aim for the stars,
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  Speaker 1: because then you can understand why a nigga playing with you.
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  Speaker 2: I like, I just don't understand. I'm a fan of
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  Speaker 2: Rick Ross. He seemed like he got a good personality
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  Speaker 2: in the sense of humor.
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  Speaker 1: I'm pretty sure he's fun He's very funny when not
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  Speaker 1: even trying to be funny. But no, not, no, you
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  Speaker 1: don't get to play with me publicly like that, So yeah,
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  Speaker 1: keep your dumb bitch shit to yourself.
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  Speaker 2: Listen, don't nobody get to play with me publicly. I
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  Speaker 2: don't post, I don't say who I don't know, like
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  Speaker 2: when I when it's over, don't nobody even know it started? Honestly,
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  Speaker 2: I ain't never told nobody shit, I ain't had a
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  Speaker 2: nigga since Tupac died, so public publicly publicly.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, just be quiet. So next on the roster is
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  Speaker 1: Drey and Michaels. Okay, she just revealed that she is
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  Speaker 1: pregnant for her twenty two year old boyfriend I've believed
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  Speaker 1: in a relationship of Jalen Green, and they're overjoyed. Okay,
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  Speaker 1: so she's thirty nine, allegedly because I could have sworn
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  Speaker 1: Drea was older than us.
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  Speaker 2: But okay, yeah, I'm just trying to figure out how
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  Speaker 2: bitches is getting closer and closer in age to me.
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  Speaker 2: That was grooner than me when we was young. So
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  Speaker 2: I don't know. That's crazy.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, So I mean, to each of their own, I'm
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  Speaker 1: not fucking with a twenty two old nigga. I don't
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  Speaker 1: pick up dick and drop it off and I'll pack
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  Speaker 1: bag lunches even though he has a check. It's just
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  Speaker 1: a little bit manipulative to me for a woman that
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  Speaker 1: season to be on someone's twenty two year old son.
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  Speaker 1: Because I mean, men already age slower than women mentally
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  Speaker 1: like the maturity, right, so what's the conversations? Like, what
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  Speaker 1: are y'all talking about?
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  Speaker 2: TikTok there? Tiktoking. I remember when I had my young
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  Speaker 2: nigga and we was this is a while ago, and
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  Speaker 2: I think this is like right when TikTok came out.
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  Speaker 2: We was making a TikTok together, and I was like
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  Speaker 2: trying to pick a song. This nigga gonna say, it
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  Speaker 2: ain't gonna be no luther on there, so just.
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  Speaker 1: Hurry up, boy, fuck you. I wasn't looking for the Luther.
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  Speaker 1: I was looking for Anita Baker.
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  Speaker 2: I don't see nothing wrong with fucking with I like
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  Speaker 2: my I like younger niggas. I don't like twenty two.
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  Speaker 1: That's a baby. That's too acne.
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  Speaker 2: He's stole, no facial hair.
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  Speaker 1: Jump, it's a kid.
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  Speaker 2: He could run and jump on my bed. Like that's
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  Speaker 2: a problem.
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  Speaker 1: I do that, so they ain't a problem. I am
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  Speaker 1: a kid, I'm childish as fuck.
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  Speaker 2: But don't jump on my bed.
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  Speaker 1: Grow your ass, no shoes on, but just yeah, I
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  Speaker 1: like jumping on a bed.
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  Speaker 2: What you need to grow up?
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  Speaker 1: She says, So she says, and actually she said they're
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  Speaker 1: having a girl. Okay, doing May of this year. Drea says,
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  Speaker 1: as a woman, we navigate through so much, often leading
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  Speaker 1: us to question what is my purpose? She wrote in
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  Speaker 1: a lengthy Instagram post an International Woman's Day For me,
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  Speaker 1: the magic lies in motherhood and the awe inspiring ability
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  Speaker 1: to bring life into the world over a span of
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  Speaker 1: two decades. It's my superpower And if anyone excuse me,
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  Speaker 1: and if anything can surpass the wonder of being a
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  Speaker 1: woman is the privilege of bringing another woman into existence. Okay,
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  Speaker 1: you wanted another child. Do you think that it's possible
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  Speaker 1: that she's like washed up with grown men that she's
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  Speaker 1: now like on the playground.
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  Speaker 2: No, she's still fine as hell.
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  Speaker 1: She is fine as hell, But is her track work
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  Speaker 1: a bad? Like with older men, Like, we know who
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  Speaker 1: you are, so this is why you're on the playground
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  Speaker 1: trying to get the kids.
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  Speaker 2: These old men is still trying to knock Drea down.
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  Speaker 2: Don't get it twisted.
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  Speaker 1: But are they keeping her? That's what I'm saying. I
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  Speaker 1: don't know, but yeah, you can get a man to
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  Speaker 1: fuck all day long. Like when women be thinking it's
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  Speaker 1: a flex, I'm sure it's still they want me, But
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  Speaker 1: do are they keeping you? It's a difference.
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  Speaker 2: I'm sure she could keep a grown man, and she
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  Speaker 2: wanted to. There's so many of them out there, right,
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  Speaker 2: and she I don't know, she just wanted that young nigga.
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  Speaker 2: I don't know how it happened. Maybe he was playing
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  Speaker 2: video games with her son and she walked by and
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  Speaker 2: saw his little braid hanging down and was like, yeah,
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  Speaker 2: that's it.
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  Speaker 1: You saw Bernice Burgoho's daughter. She was on lip service,
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  Speaker 1: on Angelie's lip Service, and she said, how her mama
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  Speaker 1: like young guys too, Like, so whenever a guy toops
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  Speaker 1: in her DM, she has to go see if he's
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  Speaker 1: been in her mama DM first before she responds back
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  Speaker 1: to Bernie's virgos. Yeah, her daughter though, the daughter.
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  Speaker 2: Damn, I ain't trying to compete with my mama for niggas.
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  Speaker 2: That's sucks them.
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  Speaker 1: Some fine moments, yeah them, some fine ass moments.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: Speaking of fine ass moments, how about this damn nigga
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  Speaker 1: rx Hector, this rapper who just got out of prison
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  Speaker 1: recently had a birthday party for his mom. She beat cancer,
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  Speaker 1: she's alive, all the good shit. She got a fatty,
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  Speaker 1: he got a fatty. She got a super fatty okay,
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  Speaker 1: And he's on video smacking that fatty and then she
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  Speaker 1: starts making that fatty clap clap for him, for her son,
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  Speaker 1: or for whoever's watching.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't think there was a sexual I don't
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  Speaker 2: think there's a sexual relationship between him and his mama.
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  Speaker 2: But I just think that the boundaries that needed to
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  Speaker 2: be there aren't there, because why is you patting your
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  Speaker 2: mama on the ass like that?
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  Speaker 1: But it was if it was a daughter doing it,
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  Speaker 1: we wouldn't be looking at it crazy.
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  Speaker 2: Right, But that's my mama. Ask that's because we can
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  Speaker 2: walk around in the like past each other naked in
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  Speaker 2: the house as women, and that's normal. But you can't
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  Speaker 2: just be walking past your son naked as a mom right.
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  Speaker 1: When some people probably do. I can say if I
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  Speaker 1: have a kid like a son, like maybe it depends
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  Speaker 1: on it.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, once they get like a little like a big boy.
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  Speaker 1: M because I like to be naked my whole family.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm a naked one too. I love to be naked.
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  Speaker 2: I don't like having on clothes that much. But if
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  Speaker 2: I had a son, it's a time when it's no
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  Speaker 2: longer Okay, for you to have your body parts around him.
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  Speaker 2: So him slapping, I like that him and his mom
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  Speaker 2: is cool and they can have fun together and stuff
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  Speaker 2: like that. I appreciate that relationship as adults. You know,
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  Speaker 2: some people don't talk to or see their mama, But
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  Speaker 2: slapping on her on the ass, like yeah, my mom
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  Speaker 2: got a fat ass.
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  Speaker 1: It's crazy. I feel like he grabbed it a little
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  Speaker 1: bit too. Am I tripping? I feel like he like smack,
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  Speaker 1: like you would think he was at the strip club.
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  Speaker 2: But I don't think it was like he proud that
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  Speaker 2: his mama. Fine, I don't think it was like, yeah,
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  Speaker 2: I tap that. If that was my mama, I fucked
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  Speaker 2: the shit out of you. Like nah, I don't think
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  Speaker 2: it was that energy. It's just inappropriate.
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  Speaker 1: She's at a birthday party. Where is her man at
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  Speaker 1: this birthday party? Y'all think I'd be tripping when I say,
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  Speaker 1: I don't fuck with niggas with mamas. If you have
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  Speaker 1: a mama, if you have a mama, she has to
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  Speaker 1: be in a healthy relationship with a man. If you
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  Speaker 1: got a sister, she has to be in a healthy
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  Speaker 1: relationship with a man. If you have adult daughters, they
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  Speaker 1: have to be in healthy relationships with a man because
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  Speaker 1: I'm not competing right with these women that you're related
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  Speaker 1: to for your relationship. Yeah, I'm not competing with it.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: I can almost imagine like if he's financing her whole
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  Speaker 1: life in a way, because a lot of boys they
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  Speaker 1: can't wait to get older so they can take care
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  Speaker 1: of their mom because they never saw a man do it.
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  Speaker 1: Now you get a woman, and you got to compete
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  Speaker 1: with the mom. H I can that's the type of relationship.
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  Speaker 1: And I can tell that she's really young, she's not
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  Speaker 1: an old mom. Also, I don't know how old the
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  Speaker 1: son is, but it could be a situation where you
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  Speaker 1: fourteen having a baby, Like y'all literally grew up together,
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  Speaker 1: you're and your child, so y'all have a different relationship,
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  Speaker 1: Like y'all are friends more than more so than daughter,
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  Speaker 1: and I mean son and mom. That's what I'm seeing.
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  Speaker 1: I don't think is anything sexual with them. But some women,
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  Speaker 1: particularly black women, right, they think they own their adult sons.
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  Speaker 1: So it's a problem when that adult son gets a
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  Speaker 1: woman in their life. Was first of all, Momy, you
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  Speaker 1: ain't sucking this dick, right. That's why I.
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  Speaker 2: Never feel like I'm in competition because I can do
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  Speaker 2: something that you're just not gonna do. So I don't
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  Speaker 2: never feel.
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  Speaker 1: Like you remember that. Listen. No, I'm not sucking my son, dick,
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  Speaker 1: but listen, it's a girl who had a threesome with
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  Speaker 1: a and son and she was saying how the mom
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  Speaker 1: was Gowking three thousand the son girl?
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  Speaker 2: You black girl.
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  Speaker 1: You didn't see that. She's been on multiple podcasts.
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  Speaker 2: No, that's disgusting.
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  Speaker 1: It happened. And listen, yesterday I started googling that makes
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  Speaker 1: my stomach turn mother son relationships and it's a lot
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  Speaker 1: of people.
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  Speaker 2: Not these are not black people.
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  Speaker 1: But this was a black girl on the podcast.
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  Speaker 2: It was the people that she was sleeping with. Were
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  Speaker 2: they black?
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  Speaker 1: I saw a Hispanic couple doing it. Well, not a
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  Speaker 1: couple because it's a mom and son. But do you
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  Speaker 1: remember last year six this boy randomly appeared at the
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  Speaker 1: doorsteps of a church, all disheveled in a blanket, and
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  Speaker 1: it was a guy, a boy that they had been
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  Speaker 1: looking for since he was sixteen seventeen years old. Come
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  Speaker 1: to find out, his mom had him hostage basically all
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  Speaker 1: these years in the house and had people thinking that
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  Speaker 1: was her husband, but it was her son the whole
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  Speaker 1: time that was supposed missing hispanic.
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  Speaker 2: That's insane.
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  Speaker 1: Yes, I think sometimes it could be reversed. But some
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  Speaker 1: mothers may have an affinity for their sons and it
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  Speaker 1: could be if.
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  Speaker 2: You are doing it with your son, they need to
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  Speaker 2: take you out back and put you down because you
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  Speaker 2: don't need to be you don't need to be allowed
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  Speaker 2: to make any more children. You got the game fucked
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  Speaker 2: up and that's disgusting.
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  Speaker 1: Girl. We and Babylon this is about right for where
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  Speaker 1: we're at. There's a lot of shit that go on
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  Speaker 1: that don't make sense that normal people but are Maybe
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  Speaker 1: we might not be the normal people the Czy.
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  Speaker 2: I don't give a fuck. I just won't be normal
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  Speaker 2: then because ain't nothing. I ain't doing none of that
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  Speaker 2: motherfucker shit.
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  Speaker 1: All right. So last on the docas so Monye's slaughters
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  Speaker 1: open up about her decision to terminate her pregnancy in
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  Speaker 1: twenty twenty two, after she was accused of lying about
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  Speaker 1: being with child. So the Love and Hip Hop Hollywood
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  Speaker 1: veteran tearfully shared via Instagram live on Monday, March eleventh
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  Speaker 1: that she he was forced to end a pregnancy due
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  Speaker 1: to a heart condition at twenty nine weeks long. In
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  Speaker 1: the emotional video, she is seen wiping her tears as
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  Speaker 1: she says, for everybody that's calling me a liar about
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  Speaker 1: my pregnancy, if you were there for me, I love you.
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  Speaker 1: I appreciate you. You saw the medical papers and the ultrasounds,
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  Speaker 1: and you were there for me on the day of
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  Speaker 1: my DNC. I gratefully excuse me. I'm grateful. I am
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  Speaker 1: tired calling out those who didn't believe her about being
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  Speaker 1: pregnant or her marriage. The outspoken star continue to say
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  Speaker 1: that if you can't believe that I was married to
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  Speaker 1: my husband because you think I lied about the pregnancy,
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  Speaker 1: a pregnancy I bled out three times for da da
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  Speaker 1: da da. I think people initially thought that she was
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  Speaker 1: just saying she just randomly had an abortion at twenty
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  Speaker 1: nine weeks. I don't understand that it was her or
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  Speaker 1: the baby that had a heart condition. But this isn't abnormal,
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  Speaker 1: and maybe people don't call it an abortion when it's
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  Speaker 1: a medical procedure when you have to terminate a pregnancy.
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  Speaker 1: But she ultimately either her or the baby had a
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  Speaker 1: problem and they had to end of pregnancy.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, it's a very that's a very very sad thing.
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  Speaker 2: It's a very very sad topic. And it's crazy to
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  Speaker 2: even if she is lying, which I think she isn't,
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  Speaker 2: But it's crazy to even accuse her of that. Let
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  Speaker 2: her have it, you know, let her have it. If
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  Speaker 2: she's saying, you know, she was pregnant, people, why are
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  Speaker 2: people calling her? Her own mom is saying she's lying though,
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  Speaker 2: that's crazy.
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  Speaker 1: And twenty nine weeks is like seven months, so she
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  Speaker 1: would have been showing. So is it possible that she
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  Speaker 1: wasn't showing? Is this you know, maybe the baby.
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  Speaker 2: I see her pregnant, but maybe the baby wasn't growing
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  Speaker 2: properly inside her like it could have been all kinds
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  Speaker 2: of reasons. Why, you know, my heart goes out to her,
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  Speaker 2: you know, if this really happened to her, I'm sorry.
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  Speaker 2: That shit sucks, it does.
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  Speaker 1: I don't know. Child, These actors and actresses be kind
• 17:03
  Speaker 1: of wild.
• 17:04
  Speaker 2: Well is she really? She's a reality star, so she's
• 17:06
  Speaker 2: not even like an actor? Is she? They show up?
• 17:11
  Speaker 1: I think so A lot of that stuff be bullshit.
• 17:14
  Speaker 1: A lot of that stuff be scripted reality TV. Masika
• 17:18
  Speaker 1: came out and said that she was acting basically.
• 17:21
  Speaker 2: A lot of that is acting. Okay, Well, that's fair. Well,
• 17:25
  Speaker 2: I hope she's not acting about this, because that's that's
• 17:28
  Speaker 2: a lot.
• 17:28
  Speaker 1: No. She came out and said she was acting about
• 17:30
  Speaker 1: being pregnant, not like Academy Award winner.
• 17:33
  Speaker 2: And I'm talking about my knees. I hope that what
• 17:35
  Speaker 2: she's saying is not an act, because that's bad carme
• 17:38
  Speaker 2: Coin's baby if it is. But she said she got
• 17:41
  Speaker 2: her tube side after all of this, so she's not
• 17:44
  Speaker 2: trying to be a mom anymore naturally anywhere. All right,
• 17:48
  Speaker 2: hold on, I just want to revert back to something.
• 17:50
  Speaker 2: I know we talked about, Drea, but they're saying that
• 17:53
  Speaker 2: Drake might be dating Lotto's little sister who's a twenty
• 17:57
  Speaker 2: one year old. And that's, like I said, sixteen year
• 18:00
  Speaker 2: of difference. And I don't think, how do you feel
• 18:03
  Speaker 2: about that? Is it okay for him to do it
• 18:04
  Speaker 2: and not dream?
• 18:05
  Speaker 1: No? It's you know, people always like so the women
• 18:07
  Speaker 1: in the comments are always like, when men do it,
• 18:10
  Speaker 1: men do it? Listen, we are better than men. The
• 18:12
  Speaker 1: sooner y'all realize that, the sooner the world actually gets
• 18:14
  Speaker 1: we can't do the shit men do. Okay, we're just better. Okay.
• 18:18
  Speaker 1: This is why anytime something happen. They always blaming, blaming
• 18:21
  Speaker 1: women because we God, and you always blame God when
• 18:23
  Speaker 1: some bad shit happen. Anyway, I feel like it's bad
• 18:28
  Speaker 1: either way. Grown ass men, you know men are We
• 18:32
  Speaker 1: would like to say men are more visual. No, men
• 18:35
  Speaker 1: like easy prey. They like easy prey. A twenty one
• 18:38
  Speaker 1: year old is easy prey like grown women need a
• 18:41
  Speaker 1: lot more shit.
• 18:42
  Speaker 2: Yeah, it's easier. They pussy's tirer. She's twenty one cutchie,
• 18:46
  Speaker 2: real tight.
• 18:47
  Speaker 1: That's who, okay, because what I've heard about.
• 18:49
  Speaker 2: Me girl tooper tight.
• 18:57
  Speaker 1: It's a lot of loose ass twenty one year olds
• 18:59
  Speaker 1: out here, got way more bodies than us.
• 19:01
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I agree, But I feel like my ship is
• 19:05
  Speaker 2: still good too. I ain't pushing no baby out. Yeah
• 19:07
  Speaker 2: I'm still good.
• 19:08
  Speaker 1: But right, I don't even got no gray hair, but
• 19:11
  Speaker 1: be very.
• 19:11
  Speaker 2: Clear, Oh no, I can't. I can't attest to that
• 19:17
  Speaker 2: this thing got some wisdom on it.
• 19:19
  Speaker 1: I got one gray hair that keep popping out my
• 19:21
  Speaker 1: middle finger. That's it on your finger, that's it. Yeah,
• 19:26
  Speaker 1: that's crazy, and I bite that ship out every time.
• 19:29
  Speaker 1: Let me tell you to get rid of gray hair.
• 19:31
  Speaker 1: If y'all got granny pussy around here, y'all gotta take
• 19:33
  Speaker 1: nice and it's like B B three vitamins that gets
• 19:37
  Speaker 1: your black hair growing back.
• 19:39
  Speaker 2: Interesting. I don't listen. I don't have no hair down there,
• 19:43
  Speaker 2: so I don't know what it looked like. It's bad.
• 19:46
  Speaker 1: When the hair growing, it's gonna be Granny the girl.
• 19:49
  Speaker 3: Fuck you all right, y'all, So today we want to
• 19:53
  Speaker 3: talk about because I haven't seen some stuff online, and
• 19:57
  Speaker 3: you know, I like to say we talk back as
• 19:59
  Speaker 3: dedicated to young women.
• 20:00
  Speaker 1: You guys can live vicuriously through all dumbit shit, but
• 20:04
  Speaker 1: you know, how do you catch How do you not
• 20:05
  Speaker 1: catch feelings when dealing with men? When when dating? Is
• 20:10
  Speaker 1: it possible to not catch feelings? So? I mean, you know, women,
• 20:19
  Speaker 1: we are emotional beings, That's what niggas be saying. But
• 20:23
  Speaker 1: I feel like men are actually way more emotional than us.
• 20:27
  Speaker 1: But sometimes we might hallucinate a little bit. Sometimes we
• 20:32
  Speaker 1: may get things misconscrewed when engaging with the oppositieve sec.
• 20:38
  Speaker 1: So how do you have We've already had an episode
• 20:42
  Speaker 1: on dating and like the different levels of dating, but
• 20:44
  Speaker 1: how do you actually date without catching feelings for someone?
• 20:50
  Speaker 2: But let me ask you this, why are we dating
• 20:53
  Speaker 2: and not trying to catch feelings. That's what I don't understand, Like,
• 20:57
  Speaker 2: my whole goal is to always catch feelings.
• 21:02
  Speaker 1: Sometimes women catch feelings with everybody that they're dating. Though,
• 21:07
  Speaker 1: that's the problem if you're not dating multiple people at
• 21:10
  Speaker 1: one time. I'm saying, like, if you're honing in on
• 21:13
  Speaker 1: this one person and you're catching feelings and they aren't,
• 21:17
  Speaker 1: it's a problem, is it not.
• 21:22
  Speaker 2: Yeah, you don't want to be the only one in
• 21:24
  Speaker 2: your feelings.
• 21:26
  Speaker 1: Yeah. So I think a lot of times we may
• 21:28
  Speaker 1: go into relationships or situations for different reasons, right. I
• 21:33
  Speaker 1: think most women probably date with intent, Right. We're not
• 21:36
  Speaker 1: just out here entertaining men without the hopes of the
• 21:40
  Speaker 1: of the situation going to the next level. Right. But
• 21:42
  Speaker 1: men oftentimes are dating to have sex, that's it. They
• 21:47
  Speaker 1: might have five dates this week and instead of dating
• 21:51
  Speaker 1: one person that they really like, who they know is
• 21:55
  Speaker 1: going to give them some cucci, they're just dating five
• 21:58
  Speaker 1: people to see how many they can get kucci from
• 22:02
  Speaker 1: for the week.
• 22:03
  Speaker 2: But I know it's women who date five people to
• 22:08
  Speaker 2: have dinner all week.
• 22:12
  Speaker 1: Call those dinner wars. And that's fine too, But at
• 22:15
  Speaker 1: least one of those dudes she actually likes and is
• 22:17
  Speaker 1: probably not trying to play with like that. Yeah, I agree,
• 22:21
  Speaker 1: But so how do you avoid catching feelings for someone?
• 22:24
  Speaker 1: Isn't always entirely within your control, but here are some
• 22:29
  Speaker 1: strategies to help minimize the chances. And this is and
• 22:34
  Speaker 1: this could be if you're dating multiple people and you're
• 22:37
  Speaker 1: really trying to I feel like sometimes black women have
• 22:40
  Speaker 1: attachment issues. It could be all women, but I'm just
• 22:43
  Speaker 1: saying for us, we're not used to dating. Right to me,
• 22:49
  Speaker 1: you get I think from childhood, we're told to go
• 22:53
  Speaker 1: to school, get money. We're not like dating how white
• 22:58
  Speaker 1: girls get to date at a young age. So once
• 23:03
  Speaker 1: we get like people, we be holding on to them
• 23:06
  Speaker 1: or really like we stay in situations relationships too long,
• 23:09
  Speaker 1: let them go and move on to the next person.
• 23:11
  Speaker 1: So you can you know, as you're doing this, you're
• 23:14
  Speaker 1: you're seeing what it is that you want, what you
• 23:16
  Speaker 1: don't want. You're not staying in a bad situation too
• 23:18
  Speaker 1: fucking long and missing blessings and all the good shit,
• 23:21
  Speaker 1: missing the person you're actually supposed to be.
• 23:24
  Speaker 2: He never took them on a date, and that's crazy.
• 23:27
  Speaker 1: And you're hallucinating like now you're now you have feelings
• 23:31
  Speaker 1: with somebody who has done nothing for you, nothing emotionally,
• 23:35
  Speaker 1: nothing financially, nothing.
• 23:37
  Speaker 2: Just dicking you down.
• 23:39
  Speaker 1: That's it.
• 23:40
  Speaker 2: And if you hear this and you know that, stupid
• 23:42
  Speaker 2: you better leader you want to before the get here.
• 23:45
  Speaker 1: But even getting dicked down, like, how do you avoid
• 23:48
  Speaker 1: emotions when getting dicked down? Like I don't hallucinate even
• 23:52
  Speaker 1: when I'm getting good dick from somebody. I at the
• 23:54
  Speaker 1: minute I see some shit I don't fucking like like nowadays,
• 23:57
  Speaker 1: and it's it's a place I had to get to.
• 23:59
  Speaker 1: It doesn't happen. You just turn your emotions off like
• 24:03
  Speaker 1: that overnight.
• 24:04
  Speaker 2: Oh no, that doesn't work for me. That's why I
• 24:05
  Speaker 2: have to be very selective about who I give my
• 24:07
  Speaker 2: pussy to, because as soon as he hit it, I'd.
• 24:10
  Speaker 1: Be like, we love.
• 24:12
  Speaker 2: I'm a marial.
• 24:15
  Speaker 1: I can be like that one day and the next
• 24:17
  Speaker 1: day I'm not. So maybe it's some Gemini shit. I
• 24:20
  Speaker 1: don't know. No, I got a high tolerance for some bush.
• 24:23
  Speaker 1: And then I'll wake and be like I don't want
• 24:25
  Speaker 1: this anymore, see and I'm out cold turkey and nigga
• 24:29
  Speaker 1: real quick.
• 24:30
  Speaker 2: It takes me a long time to uh, really really
• 24:34
  Speaker 2: really be locked in. But once I'm locked in, it's
• 24:36
  Speaker 2: hard to get me away. Like, oh, we go together, nigga,
• 24:40
  Speaker 2: where you thought you was going?
• 24:42
  Speaker 1: It depends on how we had sex. If we use
• 24:45
  Speaker 1: the condom, I'm not studying your ass. Real you start
• 24:48
  Speaker 1: hitting that pussy ride you're my husband? Where are you
• 24:51
  Speaker 1: like what you thought this was?
• 24:53
  Speaker 2: No, it don't make no difference for me.
• 24:55
  Speaker 1: Nah, it make it like I'm not studying no condom, Dick.
• 24:58
  Speaker 2: I don't feel like.
• 24:59
  Speaker 1: I lost anything.
• 25:01
  Speaker 2: It don't count if we use the condom. It's how you.
• 25:04
  Speaker 1: No, I'm not saying it doesn't count, but as far
• 25:06
  Speaker 1: as like the dick is not that good with plastic
• 25:09
  Speaker 1: on it, Like I'm not falling in love with condom, Dick.
• 25:12
  Speaker 1: I'm not falling in love with condom, Dick. It's only
• 25:15
  Speaker 1: when like we haven't, like weeded sex with no condom,
• 25:20
  Speaker 1: I'm going nuts. Yeah, But even at that point, like
• 25:24
  Speaker 1: I know when to get the fuck on through and
• 25:27
  Speaker 1: I'm in dragged nothing lie, I'm done with it. But
• 25:32
  Speaker 1: the first thing, y'all set boundaries, right, and then I
• 25:36
  Speaker 1: think we all know this right. But applying these things sometimes,
• 25:40
  Speaker 1: Dick can Maybe you shouldn't have sex.
• 25:43
  Speaker 2: Don't let them come to your house and don't go
• 25:46
  Speaker 2: to their house when you first meet a niggas, stop
• 25:48
  Speaker 2: letting it be our first date. Yeah, come in to chill.
• 25:52
  Speaker 2: Stop letting niggas do that.
• 25:54
  Speaker 1: Yeah. I don't go in closed settings with men. I
• 25:57
  Speaker 1: don't plan on having sex with. If I say I'm
• 25:59
  Speaker 1: coming to your house, you're coming to fuck, you better
• 26:01
  Speaker 1: be ready to fuck otherwise it's outside activity. Yeah, I agree,
• 26:08
  Speaker 1: you know, so set boundaries. Be clear with yourself. You
• 26:12
  Speaker 1: heard that. Be clear with yourself first about what you're
• 26:15
  Speaker 1: looking for and what you're not willing to tolerate in
• 26:18
  Speaker 1: a relationship. Stick to those boundaries. I think sometimes when
• 26:25
  Speaker 1: you add sex and for women it does because, like
• 26:28
  Speaker 1: I said, men they just they can have sex with
• 26:30
  Speaker 1: one hundred different women and they don't have feelings with anybody.
• 26:33
  Speaker 1: But women we get confused because unless you are a
• 26:37
  Speaker 1: car hopper or a prostitute, you know, aka prostitute, like
• 26:42
  Speaker 1: your pussy literally runs straight to your heart. So the
• 26:46
  Speaker 1: minute you start having sex with somebody, unless you really really.
• 26:48
  Speaker 2: Just but I don't know, because these young girls kind
• 26:51
  Speaker 2: of different now, they're kind of different. Grown men, grown
• 26:54
  Speaker 2: asks men, how did you do that, teach me.
• 27:02
  Speaker 1: I don't know. I can't, I can't, I can't neither.
• 27:09
  Speaker 1: Focusing on yourself, so have all the things you like
• 27:12
  Speaker 1: to do, keep doing those things. When you start dealing
• 27:15
  Speaker 1: with a man. You don't always have to be super
• 27:17
  Speaker 1: available for somebody you're just dating, So keep busy. Focus
• 27:23
  Speaker 1: on yourself. Invest time and energy into your own interest, hobbies,
• 27:26
  Speaker 1: and personal growth. The more fulfilled you are independently, the
• 27:29
  Speaker 1: less you might feel the need for emotional attachment to
• 27:32
  Speaker 1: someone else. Don't give up your hobbies, bitch.
• 27:36
  Speaker 2: Right and your friends they busy. A lot of girls
• 27:39
  Speaker 2: start seeing a nigga and then don't be friends with
• 27:41
  Speaker 2: their friends no more, Like I.
• 27:43
  Speaker 1: Don't like them type of bitches. I can't stand them,
• 27:46
  Speaker 1: like and I feel like they're usually capricorns.
• 27:50
  Speaker 2: All the caricorns offended.
• 27:51
  Speaker 1: Well, when capricorns get a man.
• 27:57
  Speaker 2: Don't even for them, just somebody dealing with Like, damn,
• 28:01
  Speaker 2: are we still friends? Bitch?
• 28:03
  Speaker 1: You're not gonna hear from them until that relationship start
• 28:06
  Speaker 1: going south and they need somebody to call and talk
• 28:08
  Speaker 1: shit with other than that, like if they're in bliss
• 28:12
  Speaker 1: whatever with whoever, Like they don't have any friends. They
• 28:14
  Speaker 1: fixate on whomever they're in a relationship with. That's a problem.
• 28:18
  Speaker 1: You gotta find balance. You gotta know how to balance
• 28:20
  Speaker 1: relationships and friendship, because, bitch, one of these days you
• 28:23
  Speaker 1: gonna call me and I ain't gonna answer for your
• 28:25
  Speaker 1: ass no more. You can't be treating me like that.
• 28:29
  Speaker 2: My uh, one of my friends got married, which I'm
• 28:31
  Speaker 2: happy for her marriage and all that, like I love them,
• 28:34
  Speaker 2: But now I can't FaceTime you had twelve o'clock no more.
• 28:38
  Speaker 2: I'm into bed with my husband Timmy bitch, you was
• 28:41
  Speaker 2: in the bed with your boyfriend before, and I used
• 28:45
  Speaker 2: to be able to FaceTime you down here your husband.
• 28:47
  Speaker 1: I can't face Tiba at night no more. You meant
• 28:49
  Speaker 1: by I had you meant by? I had a fucking
• 28:51
  Speaker 1: bad time, Yes, yeah, you yall. I used to have
• 28:56
  Speaker 1: a fucking curfew.
• 28:57
  Speaker 2: I couldn't even call her at night. Girl.
• 29:00
  Speaker 1: This bitch used to be like, girl, I gotta go
• 29:01
  Speaker 1: to bed. What you got it?
• 29:06
  Speaker 2: I don't want to.
• 29:07
  Speaker 1: But yes, it didn't even matter what the fuck I
• 29:12
  Speaker 1: was doing. I could have been in the middle of
• 29:13
  Speaker 1: writing my journal or something. Nigga turning light off on me, bitch,
• 29:16
  Speaker 1: like straight disrespect I'm time to go to sleep, and
• 29:20
  Speaker 1: I do have a problem sleeping at night. I feel
• 29:22
  Speaker 1: like this is just two different people. I don't think
• 29:24
  Speaker 1: I'm supposed to sleep at night. I like when the
• 29:26
  Speaker 1: rest of the world is you're not turning, I think, yeah,
• 29:29
  Speaker 1: I think better when everybody else is like like everybody
• 29:33
  Speaker 1: else as sleep, I'm up thinking of a master plan.
• 29:35
  Speaker 1: Like that's when I do my best work daytime. I'm
• 29:38
  Speaker 1: not a morning person.
• 29:39
  Speaker 2: Not that nigga. That nigga said it's nine o'clock, so bitch.
• 29:44
  Speaker 2: I used to be laid in the bed like just
• 29:45
  Speaker 2: couldn't sleep like a kid. She's like mad, you like
• 29:48
  Speaker 2: text me, I can't.
• 29:49
  Speaker 1: Talk shit day So keep keep your keep your hobbies, man,
• 29:58
  Speaker 1: stay busy. When dayton, you know, don't meet somebody and
• 30:01
  Speaker 1: then you automatically start fixating and working them into your
• 30:06
  Speaker 1: lives because men don't work that way. You know, men
• 30:09
  Speaker 1: are loyal to themselves first. That's the problem. A lot
• 30:13
  Speaker 1: of women we give up who we are for relationships.
• 30:17
  Speaker 1: Don't do that. Keep perspective. Remind yourself of the reasons
• 30:22
  Speaker 1: why catch your feelings might not be ideal for you
• 30:24
  Speaker 1: at the moment. Reflect on past experiences to understand patterns
• 30:28
  Speaker 1: and potential pitfalls. You got all these dumb bitch stories.
• 30:31
  Speaker 2: Listen, when I start cutting up, when I start getting
• 30:34
  Speaker 2: to in my head about a nigga that ain't my nigga,
• 30:36
  Speaker 2: I put on flow MILLI. That is not my nigga.
• 30:39
  Speaker 2: That's all I play that. I have to remind myself
• 30:44
  Speaker 2: it's not your nigga.
• 30:44
  Speaker 1: Heard that one I like flow Milly. I hadn't heard
• 30:47
  Speaker 1: that song.
• 30:48
  Speaker 2: Well, I won't send it to you because that's my
• 30:50
  Speaker 2: That's one of my gym songs.
• 30:52
  Speaker 1: So if you got to think about all the bad
• 30:54
  Speaker 1: shit that transpired in a previous relationship to help you,
• 30:58
  Speaker 1: like steady your mind in this current thing you're doing,
• 31:01
  Speaker 1: then do that.
• 31:02
  Speaker 2: Oh that's bad advice.
• 31:04
  Speaker 1: If you start seeing some path No, if you start
• 31:06
  Speaker 1: seeing patterns from a previous situation, Okay, I always go
• 31:10
  Speaker 1: into a new situation. I'd be ready to I like
• 31:12
  Speaker 1: first dates. I be ready to fall in love again.
• 31:14
  Speaker 1: I'm never scared. Okay, I don't ever let like previous shit.
• 31:19
  Speaker 2: But I don't think you should let the old shit
• 31:21
  Speaker 2: got the new shit though.
• 31:23
  Speaker 1: Just no, absolutely not. But still be on the lookout,
• 31:26
  Speaker 1: you know, go in with not with your fucking eyes
• 31:29
  Speaker 1: closed every time. Yeah, not saying that every man is
• 31:32
  Speaker 1: the same, Absolutely not, And sometimes we gotta change it.
• 31:35
  Speaker 1: Don't even be like you you're attracting the same thing
• 31:38
  Speaker 1: because you haven't changed yet, right, I agree there. Yeah,
• 31:42
  Speaker 1: So I'm not saying, like, just discard people because you
• 31:45
  Speaker 1: see some shit that I mean sometimes I don't know.
• 31:48
  Speaker 2: I mean, if you start seeing rag flags that are familiar,
• 31:52
  Speaker 2: definitely you know, exit stage left. But don't be taking
• 31:55
  Speaker 2: that old baggage in the new shit and then spasing
• 31:59
  Speaker 2: on a nigga because of something the nigga did before
• 32:01
  Speaker 2: I done did that.
• 32:02
  Speaker 1: So you don't do that.
• 32:03
  Speaker 2: I'm about to say I've done that, and I didn't
• 32:06
  Speaker 2: even realize I was doing it till it was already done.
• 32:08
  Speaker 2: I was like, damn, I overreacted, didn't I Then I
• 32:12
  Speaker 2: started did you apolog I started crying. I missed my grandma.
• 32:22
  Speaker 1: Shit manipulation boy, Grandma. Remember one time I was crying
• 32:28
  Speaker 1: buy some shit, like I know, I was dead ass
• 32:30
  Speaker 1: fucking ross. I bust out crying and was like shut
• 32:32
  Speaker 1: that fake ask right, caught with a whole nigga in
• 32:39
  Speaker 1: the phone, all type of weard shit.
• 32:40
  Speaker 2: I was doing.
• 32:41
  Speaker 1: Man, Look still, I just want grace because I seen
• 32:45
  Speaker 1: some shit on your fucking phone. I didn't bother you
• 32:46
  Speaker 1: about it. I mind, I goddamn business because I choose
• 32:49
  Speaker 1: to be happy every day. Why are you choosing violence?
• 32:51
  Speaker 2: Right?
• 32:53
  Speaker 1: We all got some shit going. I seen some shit
• 32:55
  Speaker 1: the other day in a nigga phone, and look, I
• 32:57
  Speaker 1: ain't gonna bring it up, so I do some shit.
• 33:04
  Speaker 1: I told that nigga. I was like, shit, I could
• 33:06
  Speaker 1: beast out on you right now, but I want to
• 33:08
  Speaker 1: be happy, right the fuck.
• 33:10
  Speaker 2: I'm gonna let you have that.
• 33:13
  Speaker 1: Date others. Okay, this is the thing that men understand
• 33:16
  Speaker 1: and women don't. We don't know how to date, like
• 33:18
  Speaker 1: what dating actually is, Like, you don't just you're not
• 33:21
  Speaker 1: supposed to just be hanging out with one person. You're
• 33:23
  Speaker 1: supposed to have a roster unless until you're exclusively dating.
• 33:27
  Speaker 1: Then you're supposed to date multiple people. You should be yeah, yeah,
• 33:31
  Speaker 1: keep your options open, like stop getting this one dude
• 33:33
  Speaker 1: you like him, But Dayton, don't.
• 33:34
  Speaker 2: Mean fuck y'all.
• 33:37
  Speaker 1: That's where we be having shit fucked up.
• 33:39
  Speaker 2: And people just have sex so quick now, like two
• 33:42
  Speaker 2: three days and they already having sex. I ain't doing that.
• 33:45
  Speaker 1: If I if I've ever had sex quick with a man,
• 33:48
  Speaker 1: I really just wanted to fuck. Yeah, I already know
• 33:50
  Speaker 1: what time it is. I may not even be expected.
• 33:53
  Speaker 1: I'm not expecting nothing. I have no expectations if I
• 33:55
  Speaker 1: give that pussy up quick. But I think like that's
• 33:57
  Speaker 1: like almost a standard.
• 33:58
  Speaker 2: Now.
• 33:59
  Speaker 1: Niggas think they supposed to have sex with you by
• 34:00
  Speaker 1: the third day because another woman did.
• 34:03
  Speaker 2: That's crazy.
• 34:04
  Speaker 1: That's why we set the standards. We got it. We
• 34:06
  Speaker 1: never all want to be on one accord. But that's
• 34:08
  Speaker 1: why you have to let that man know what your
• 34:11
  Speaker 1: standard is. Deal.
• 34:12
  Speaker 2: I'd be like, I haven't even used my passport yet,
• 34:14
  Speaker 2: what are.
• 34:14
  Speaker 1: You talking about? You ain't did nothing yet, you ain't
• 34:18
  Speaker 1: invested no money yet, nothing.
• 34:19
  Speaker 2: No, you ain't made me feel Always let niggas know.
• 34:21
  Speaker 2: I need to be made to feel special and that
• 34:24
  Speaker 2: and that's and that's what it's gonna take. You know,
• 34:26
  Speaker 2: it's not gonna be just some dinners. It needs to
• 34:28
  Speaker 2: be conversation communication. I need to know that you really
• 34:31
  Speaker 2: fuck with me before I do that with you. At
• 34:33
  Speaker 2: this stage in my life. Should have caught me in.
• 34:36
  Speaker 1: I need I need something.
• 34:38
  Speaker 2: You should have caught me a benedict. My boy, if
• 34:39
  Speaker 2: that's what you was trying to do, I'm grown. I
• 34:45
  Speaker 2: ain't with that. I'm not on that type of time.
• 34:49
  Speaker 2: Especially these roses then came out. They're then fuck the game.
• 34:52
  Speaker 1: Up for y'all for real. Once you come, you come
• 34:55
  Speaker 1: to your senses.
• 34:56
  Speaker 2: Man, two minutes I'll be sleep.
• 35:04
  Speaker 1: So date others. Keep your options open. Keeping your options
• 35:08
  Speaker 1: open can help prevent you from fixating on one person.
• 35:11
  Speaker 1: This doesn't mean leading anyone on, but rather exploring different
• 35:15
  Speaker 1: connections without getting too emotionally invested. Stay grounded, Be mindful
• 35:20
  Speaker 1: of idolizing the person or projecting unrealistic expectations onto them.
• 35:25
  Speaker 1: Try to see them as they are, flaws and all.
• 35:29
  Speaker 1: I think we always fall in love with the potential
• 35:32
  Speaker 1: of men and men men do the same thing with women,
• 35:34
  Speaker 1: right Because I'm not out here saying no fucked up women,
• 35:37
  Speaker 1: because there are.
• 35:38
  Speaker 2: Ooh, let me tell y'all the story. It was this
• 35:40
  Speaker 2: actor that I really liked his character on the movie
• 35:45
  Speaker 2: he was in, and I slid his DMS. We became friends,
• 35:51
  Speaker 2: we started hanging out, and.
• 35:55
  Speaker 1: He was not the same nigga as the character. I
• 35:58
  Speaker 1: was like, I like your care They're better EO you.
• 36:04
  Speaker 1: Most actors are lame. Most rappers are fucking lame when
• 36:08
  Speaker 1: you actually get to know them, like they schizophrenic.
• 36:10
  Speaker 2: My feelings was so hurt. I was like, damn, your
• 36:13
  Speaker 2: character way cooler than you are. So I was idolizing
• 36:18
  Speaker 2: this person who wasn't even that person, you know.
• 36:21
  Speaker 1: And yeah he was acting. But most men are acting
• 36:23
  Speaker 1: when you first meet them, you meeting their representatives.
• 36:25
  Speaker 2: Most people, though not just men, women do that shit too.
• 36:28
  Speaker 2: You don't meet they crazy, they insecure and all that
• 36:30
  Speaker 2: shit at first.
• 36:33
  Speaker 1: I try to put all that shit out when you
• 36:35
  Speaker 1: first meet.
• 36:35
  Speaker 2: Me, you're crazy, insecure?
• 36:37
  Speaker 1: Yes, So you can't say I changed.
• 36:39
  Speaker 2: Non They're gonna be like, I didn't even know this
• 36:42
  Speaker 2: was you. I don't. I mean, there's no reason to
• 36:48
  Speaker 2: present your crazy or insecure in the beginning, right What
• 36:53
  Speaker 2: would be the reason to have that shit, that shit
• 36:55
  Speaker 2: come out gradually?
• 36:55
  Speaker 1: Why? I know, people people do learn your insecurity like crazy,
• 36:59
  Speaker 1: Like my crazy could be different, My crazy could be fun.
• 37:02
  Speaker 2: Yeah you know, yeah, yeah.
• 37:05
  Speaker 1: It's not like I don't have a reason to beast
• 37:09
  Speaker 1: out on you right now, crazy, but my regular crazy
• 37:12
  Speaker 1: is funy. I agree. I'm a little eccentric sometimes the.
• 37:18
  Speaker 2: Bitch walk around with a microphone, so, bitch, because you're
• 37:22
  Speaker 2: gonna hear it. How many bitches y'all know, got a
• 37:26
  Speaker 2: microphone in the purse, like a karaoke microphone, like with
• 37:31
  Speaker 2: a speaker built into that. Bitch, just walking around with
• 37:34
  Speaker 2: it in a person.
• 37:36
  Speaker 1: You're gonna hear me. Maintain distance, okay, limit the amount
• 37:40
  Speaker 1: of time you spend with the person you're trying not
• 37:42
  Speaker 1: to catch feelings for it. This might mean avoiding one
• 37:45
  Speaker 1: on one situations or setting boundaries around communication. Stop being available, bitch,
• 37:52
  Speaker 1: Let that phone ring a couple times, call him back.
• 37:56
  Speaker 1: You could just you know, you could be sitting there
• 37:58
  Speaker 1: looking at it, wanting to pick it up so bad.
• 38:01
  Speaker 1: You cannot let people think that. And I feel like
• 38:04
  Speaker 1: that's why women be falling in love with men oftentimes
• 38:06
  Speaker 1: because men they don't intentionally we have to intentionally not
• 38:10
  Speaker 1: be available, right. Men just naturally do them right. They
• 38:14
  Speaker 1: don't just intentionally not answer the phone. Like when when
• 38:17
  Speaker 1: a woman likes a guy like, were going to be available.
• 38:20
  Speaker 1: You don't want to play no games, but for men
• 38:22
  Speaker 1: to get there. To me, that's not how you get men.
• 38:25
  Speaker 1: I think making them spend money is how you actually
• 38:27
  Speaker 1: keep and get them, get them and keep. Men like investments.
• 38:31
  Speaker 1: Like we value our pussy, they value they pocket. So
• 38:35
  Speaker 1: if you want to keep a man, you got to
• 38:38
  Speaker 1: make them spend some fucking money.
• 38:43
  Speaker 2: Especially with men who got a lot of money, you
• 38:45
  Speaker 2: just another commodity at that point.
• 38:48
  Speaker 1: I don't know. I think even with them, even with them, listen,
• 38:51
  Speaker 1: I mean, you gots some people who just be out
• 38:53
  Speaker 1: here just spending money. But I don't talking about regular men.
• 38:56
  Speaker 1: Everybody don't have access to ballers, So I'm just talking
• 38:59
  Speaker 1: about regular men. And it ain't how much they make
• 39:00
  Speaker 1: and how much they willing to spend on you. So
• 39:03
  Speaker 1: if you make a man invest in you, he's more
• 39:06
  Speaker 1: likely to stay, And if you want to get married,
• 39:09
  Speaker 1: he's more likely to stay with that investment. He's more
• 39:11
  Speaker 1: likely to engage with that investment because he's been paying
• 39:14
  Speaker 1: all your fucking bills for the last year. So stop putting.
• 39:24
  Speaker 1: I think I said this earlier. Don't put yourself in
• 39:26
  Speaker 1: closed settings with men unless you want to have sex
• 39:29
  Speaker 1: with them, Like it's not cool. I feel like that
• 39:31
  Speaker 1: might be teasing a little bit, because in a man's mind,
• 39:34
  Speaker 1: if you come to my house, if I fly you out,
• 39:37
  Speaker 1: somewhere you obviously having sex, right.
• 39:40
  Speaker 2: That's what they in their minds, right, that's what they think.
• 39:43
  Speaker 1: Yeah, so you gotta let them know. But you don't.
• 39:47
  Speaker 2: I don't give a damn where he fly you. You don't
• 39:49
  Speaker 2: owe nobody your body, and if you ain't feeling it,
• 39:51
  Speaker 2: don't do it right. Absolutely, and always have your own money.
• 39:57
  Speaker 2: Don't fly nowhere.
• 39:57
  Speaker 1: To be flying out with no money m hm, putting
• 40:01
  Speaker 1: up goldfundmeans to get back home.
• 40:03
  Speaker 2: I remember I had to reach out to the Red
• 40:07
  Speaker 2: Cross for a bitch to get her home when we was.
• 40:13
  Speaker 1: Not reach out to the Red Cross, not Red Cross
• 40:15
  Speaker 1: giving money for flood out situations.
• 40:17
  Speaker 2: They did. They got her back. Shout out to the
• 40:19
  Speaker 2: Red Cross.
• 40:21
  Speaker 1: And that is not a real thing. I swear, I swear.
• 40:27
  Speaker 2: I don't like one of my homegirls went out with
• 40:32
  Speaker 2: some dude that wasn't right, and she got left somewhere
• 40:36
  Speaker 2: far away from South Carolina, and I called the Red
• 40:38
  Speaker 2: Cross for help and they got her. I think they
• 40:42
  Speaker 2: put her on the Greyhound home. They paid for it.
• 40:48
  Speaker 1: Don't get these bitches no bright ideas.
• 40:51
  Speaker 2: I'm just saying, if you ever get stuck Red Cross
• 40:54
  Speaker 2: with fuck with you. But don't do that. Just go
• 40:56
  Speaker 2: with your own money so you don't have to depend
• 40:59
  Speaker 2: on the charity of others.
• 41:01
  Speaker 1: How stupid some women are. They gonna be using Red
• 41:04
  Speaker 1: Cross to go to a nigga who ain't paid for nothing, right,
• 41:07
  Speaker 1: They're gonna start with the Red Cross, they gonna start.
• 41:13
  Speaker 1: Oh lord, hell, let somebody greyhound yokuci is wild? Right
• 41:17
  Speaker 1: to me?
• 41:18
  Speaker 2: No red Cross and Yokuchi across the country to give
• 41:21
  Speaker 2: it to a nigga who ain't doing nothing for you.
• 41:22
  Speaker 2: It's even crazier.
• 41:24
  Speaker 1: Ooh, Look, seek support is the last one. Talk to
• 41:31
  Speaker 1: friends or therapists, or we talk back about your feelings
• 41:34
  Speaker 1: and strategies for managing them. Sometimes external, external perspectives can
• 41:40
  Speaker 1: provide valuable insight and support.
• 41:43
  Speaker 2: Yes, always, people can see things much clearer from the
• 41:46
  Speaker 2: outside of your shit.
• 41:47
  Speaker 1: Right mm hmmm, Like if I'm not in a dumb
• 41:51
  Speaker 1: bitch mold like, I can help you with your dumb
• 41:53
  Speaker 1: bitch shit. Absolutely shit, even if I'm being a dumb
• 41:56
  Speaker 1: bitch right now. I always got good ad advice for people.
• 41:59
  Speaker 2: I might not take our own advice, but I gotta
• 42:01
  Speaker 2: say it for you. You know, when you in to think
• 42:05
  Speaker 2: of it, it'd be hard. You know when you want
• 42:07
  Speaker 2: to think of it. But mm hmm, but yeah, talk
• 42:10
  Speaker 2: to your friend, the level headed friend.
• 42:14
  Speaker 1: So that's an online list I found. But you know
• 42:16
  Speaker 1: some things I want to give to younger women when Dayton,
• 42:20
  Speaker 1: When a man starts talking about sex, immediately start talking
• 42:23
  Speaker 1: about money. Okay, everybody gotta be uncomfortable. Now you make
• 42:31
  Speaker 1: me uncomfortable, I'm gonna make you uncomfortable, so immediately, I mean,
• 42:35
  Speaker 1: like if he just start rubbing up on your leg,
• 42:38
  Speaker 1: like getting too close to whatever, like, yeah, start talking
• 42:41
  Speaker 1: about money immediately because either he gonna give it to
• 42:43
  Speaker 1: you or he ain't. And you freak clear what you're
• 42:45
  Speaker 1: pussy intack.
• 42:46
  Speaker 2: Or set you know, a boundary with him about what
• 42:51
  Speaker 2: you go for and what you require and don't necessarily
• 42:53
  Speaker 2: have to be.
• 42:54
  Speaker 1: Girl line steppers don't give a fuck about boundaries. Like
• 42:58
  Speaker 1: those are the main people who have a problem with
• 42:59
  Speaker 1: bound There's the people who want to cross them, cross them. Yeah,
• 43:03
  Speaker 1: Like they don't give a shit about your boundaries. So
• 43:06
  Speaker 1: if you're.
• 43:07
  Speaker 2: Gonna media, I'm start talking about money. It's just giving
• 43:10
  Speaker 2: prostitution a little bit right, how how okay?
• 43:14
  Speaker 1: But you can dig my goal, but I can't dig yours.
• 43:18
  Speaker 2: Okay, that's true, you can, but I mean, yeah, but
• 43:22
  Speaker 2: then it seemed like you're ready to play for pay.
• 43:25
  Speaker 1: But you may not. I may not have sex with
• 43:27
  Speaker 1: this person. I just want him to feel as uncomfortable
• 43:30
  Speaker 1: as I am, as as he's made me be. Like
• 43:33
  Speaker 1: I said, we value our kucci, they value their purse. Yeah,
• 43:39
  Speaker 1: I want you to feel as uncomfortable as you've made
• 43:43
  Speaker 1: me at this point.
• 43:45
  Speaker 2: Sorry, let's let's roll play Damn fine as fun them
• 43:50
  Speaker 2: Titty's sitting nice baby, what's up you're trying to what
• 43:53
  Speaker 2: you're trying to do after this?
• 43:54
  Speaker 3: Man?
• 43:55
  Speaker 2: Shit?
• 43:56
  Speaker 1: Man, I just lost these five thousand dollars airrings my
• 44:03
  Speaker 1: grandma gave me, Like yeah, I automatically got some extravagant
• 44:07
  Speaker 1: ass shit. I need some random ask twenty twenty five
• 44:12
  Speaker 1: hundred dollar bill.
• 44:13
  Speaker 2: So so with people like shit, ain't no problem.
• 44:16
  Speaker 1: I repluest the money first, though, and then you fucking
• 44:21
  Speaker 1: though no, I ain't fucking no, I'm still not fucking okay,
• 44:25
  Speaker 1: like you still have to make them do so.
• 44:27
  Speaker 2: So now he doesn't get that quick and you and
• 44:30
  Speaker 2: now he asked for some pussy.
• 44:33
  Speaker 1: I'd have fuck a nigga for nothing. Quicker why not?
• 44:42
  Speaker 1: Why not? What are we saying, like, let's stop acting
• 44:45
  Speaker 1: like men just be out here with abundance of money
• 44:48
  Speaker 1: like that. I don't even realize niggas have money till
• 44:50
  Speaker 1: like my late twenties.
• 44:52
  Speaker 2: The fuck I didn't know.
• 44:54
  Speaker 1: So we're not about to act like we just like
• 44:56
  Speaker 1: men just be out here spending all his money. But
• 44:59
  Speaker 1: at some point, you you gotta find out what he
• 45:00
  Speaker 1: got going on. Ask Men are not afraid to ask
• 45:04
  Speaker 1: for what they want, so why are you?
• 45:06
  Speaker 2: I agree, But don't be talking about money. And then
• 45:11
  Speaker 2: when he throw that money and you still ain't ready
• 45:13
  Speaker 2: to give up, no, kuchi, it might be a problem,
• 45:16
  Speaker 2: That's all I'm saying. Niggas might be ready to I
• 45:20
  Speaker 2: think you, Oh, seron owe me back like you owe
• 45:24
  Speaker 2: your text.
• 45:26
  Speaker 1: If he ain't trying to catch a charge, there's nothing
• 45:28
  Speaker 1: that's gonna happen. He's not going to do anything to you,
• 45:32
  Speaker 1: So what's the problem. And to me, it's easier to
• 45:34
  Speaker 1: ask a man to spend money than to marry you.
• 45:36
  Speaker 1: So if you actually like dating with intention and you're
• 45:39
  Speaker 1: trying to get married, you got to start there first
• 45:41
  Speaker 1: seeing if he's going to take care of you.
• 45:44
  Speaker 2: I agree, but y'all don't mess around it be all
• 45:49
  Speaker 2: fucked ubout selling pussy and you ain't. No, you was
• 45:53
  Speaker 2: doing that because you listen to talk.
• 45:55
  Speaker 1: I'm not selling pussy. That is not selling pussy. Asking
• 46:00
  Speaker 1: you're dating to do some shit for you is not
• 46:02
  Speaker 1: selling pussy.
• 46:03
  Speaker 2: Why not?
• 46:04
  Speaker 1: But I'm just saying, like, if you see, that's that's
• 46:07
  Speaker 1: what men want us to think that, Oh, they want
• 46:10
  Speaker 1: you to value yourself, but the minute you do, it's
• 46:12
  Speaker 1: a problem. If you value yourself monetarily. Yeah, yeah, that's
• 46:18
  Speaker 1: not selling pussy because I want the man that wants me.
• 46:22
  Speaker 2: But all right, so all right, let's say to do
• 46:24
  Speaker 2: nice things for me. If he gave you the five
• 46:26
  Speaker 2: thousand for the earrings that your grandma gave you and
• 46:30
  Speaker 2: you fucking after that, would you have before that?
• 46:34
  Speaker 1: Though? I probably would have. But even if you want
• 46:38
  Speaker 1: to have sex with this person, make them do some
• 46:39
  Speaker 1: shit for you for no.
• 46:40
  Speaker 2: I agree that. I agree, even if it's.
• 46:43
  Speaker 1: Not money, like get your car wash, do things nice
• 46:47
  Speaker 1: things for you. The more a man does for you physically,
• 46:51
  Speaker 1: he's more than likely willing to state.
• 46:54
  Speaker 2: I just said, make that man, require that man to
• 46:57
  Speaker 2: make you feel special, whatever that looks like for you.
• 47:02
  Speaker 1: Yeah, five thousand dollars earrings.
• 47:05
  Speaker 2: Whatever that looks like for you, requires that and until
• 47:08
  Speaker 2: you don't, until you feel like that, don't share your body.
• 47:11
  Speaker 2: That's all. That's how I feel it. Don't put no
• 47:15
  Speaker 2: monetary amount on it.
• 47:18
  Speaker 1: Yeah, but most women are already having sex, and most
• 47:21
  Speaker 1: women have already had sex with a man who didn't
• 47:23
  Speaker 1: do anything for them. So all I'm saying is try
• 47:26
  Speaker 1: to reverse that cycle with the next person you date
• 47:31
  Speaker 1: so you won't feel like you lost in the end.
• 47:36
  Speaker 2: Yeah, it's a cat mouse saying because these niggas is
• 47:39
  Speaker 2: out here like, don't body bitch and shit until they
• 47:42
  Speaker 2: fucking you. And then the girls is like, don't fuck
• 47:44
  Speaker 2: them until he do something for you. He buying you shit.
• 47:48
  Speaker 2: But people keep having babies. So somebody is fucking up
• 47:51
  Speaker 2: the rules. I don't know.
• 47:53
  Speaker 1: It's us. It's women fucking up the rules. It's not men.
• 47:57
  Speaker 1: It's us fucking up the rules because they're the sector
• 48:00
  Speaker 1: of women that's okay with bare minimum bullshit, you know
• 48:05
  Speaker 1: what I'm saying. So then when they come over here
• 48:07
  Speaker 1: until we talk back, Like I always say, it's inflation.
• 48:11
  Speaker 1: It costs a lot over here. It's a problem. Yeah,
• 48:15
  Speaker 1: but if every woman was on the same standard, all
• 48:20
  Speaker 1: men would know that there is there's certain things you
• 48:24
  Speaker 1: gotta come with before you approach a woman. But because
• 48:27
  Speaker 1: there's some bitch always willing to let a nigga sleep
• 48:30
  Speaker 1: on the couch, they're gonna come with a bare minimum
• 48:32
  Speaker 1: because the whole thing is pussy. Like that movie Shiraq,
• 48:36
  Speaker 1: I understand. I don't know if people didn't understand the premise,
• 48:39
  Speaker 1: but it was stupid. But the premise was like, if
• 48:44
  Speaker 1: women stop having sex, men would become better. But if
• 48:47
  Speaker 1: as long as they can still get that thing without
• 48:50
  Speaker 1: having to do anything, they like easy, right, they like easy,
• 48:56
  Speaker 1: So don't be easy. Make it hard for these niggas.
• 48:59
  Speaker 1: That's the last last. Make it hard for them.
• 49:04
  Speaker 2: Just be made to feel special. Whatever that look like
• 49:07
  Speaker 2: for you, sus, whatever that look like, and require it
• 49:11
  Speaker 2: and don't stick beside your your standards.
• 49:14
  Speaker 1: Some women give the pussy up just because somebody gives
• 49:17
  Speaker 1: them a just a small little words of appreciation, wards
• 49:25
  Speaker 1: of appreciation, but just like giving them a compliment, Women
• 49:29
  Speaker 1: get compliments and start giving a pussy up some words.
• 49:33
  Speaker 2: No that's not enough, sis, Yeah.
• 49:35
  Speaker 1: That's not enough, because you are not good within. So
• 49:38
  Speaker 1: any man that comes along and gives you compliments that
• 49:41
  Speaker 1: make you feel good, right, you automatically now fallen in love.
• 49:46
  Speaker 1: And all he's giving you was some fucking words. No,
• 49:49
  Speaker 1: they have to give you more. I agree, and it
• 49:52
  Speaker 1: may not for some it may not look financial, but
• 49:55
  Speaker 1: we all need things.
• 49:57
  Speaker 2: I agree, So for me, like what's your name?
• 50:02
  Speaker 1: Tamar Tomorrow was like, I'm old school. How do I
• 50:05
  Speaker 1: know you like me? If you don't give me.
• 50:06
  Speaker 2: Money, you're not buying me something.
• 50:08
  Speaker 1: If you're not buying me something, I'm confused because men,
• 50:11
  Speaker 1: and I said this before men. Some men they get
• 50:14
  Speaker 1: their ego fed through how many bitches they can run through,
• 50:16
  Speaker 1: and some get their ego fed by how many women
• 50:19
  Speaker 1: they can take care of, how many people they can
• 50:22
  Speaker 1: take care of. I like the latter to like generous men.
• 50:25
  Speaker 1: I like men who feel good. I like to do
• 50:29
  Speaker 1: stuff for people. I like metal gifts. I like it
• 50:31
  Speaker 1: made me feel good to surprise people with stuff sometimes too.
• 50:35
  Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying. If it's a quick cash app,
• 50:37
  Speaker 1: twenty dollars, send me.
• 50:38
  Speaker 2: Something, bitch, send me something now that you like. Now
• 50:41
  Speaker 2: that I know that you, it make you feel good
• 50:43
  Speaker 2: to surprise people with some shit, surprise me with some shit.
• 50:48
  Speaker 2: It's time.
• 50:49
  Speaker 1: It's time ten dollars for lunch. Look, I said. So.
• 50:53
  Speaker 1: The other day one of my guy friends, he sent
• 50:55
  Speaker 1: me a video. It was a girl talking shit about
• 50:58
  Speaker 1: how a guy sent her thirty for lunch, right, and
• 51:02
  Speaker 1: she was like, what the fuck I'm gonna do with third?
• 51:03
  Speaker 1: Like she was being very grateful in the video, But
• 51:07
  Speaker 1: that very morning I had sent my homegirl one hundred
• 51:10
  Speaker 1: dollars for lunch. She was going through some shit I
• 51:13
  Speaker 1: sent her, and it really wasn't for lunch, just whatever
• 51:15
  Speaker 1: she needed to do, but I sent for lunch, right.
• 51:20
  Speaker 1: So you we got to be the men for our
• 51:22
  Speaker 1: homegirls at this point, because I understood what the girl
• 51:25
  Speaker 1: was saying, and I also understand the other side of it.
• 51:27
  Speaker 1: It was a random dude on Instagram trying to do
• 51:30
  Speaker 1: a nice gesture for a random bitch on Instagram, and
• 51:33
  Speaker 1: she was complete nobody. Oh you shit though, no, absolutely not.
• 51:36
  Speaker 1: So somebody gives you anything and you can be appreciates, right.
• 51:40
  Speaker 2: And you can, I mean, you can eat with thirty dollars.
• 51:42
  Speaker 2: It may not be what you're accustomed to eating. Maybe
• 51:46
  Speaker 2: you eat one hundred dollar meals every day for lunch.
• 51:49
  Speaker 1: So me knowing my homegirl, like one hundred dollars was appropriate.
• 51:54
  Speaker 1: But so you can't send me no posts like this
• 51:56
  Speaker 1: when I just sent a bitch one hundred dollars.
• 51:58
  Speaker 2: Yeah, the fuck. But I mean, I get it, I
• 52:03
  Speaker 2: get it, I get I don't get her perspective though,
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  Speaker 2: because this wasn't even nobody. You knew this was a
• 52:09
  Speaker 2: random person since you saw so.
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  Speaker 1: So in her mind she's like, if he wanted to
• 52:12
  Speaker 1: get to know me, he need to have sent more money.
• 52:15
  Speaker 2: Nah, No, he don't need to.
• 52:17
  Speaker 1: I think it's entitlement. It's the entitlement that some men
• 52:19
  Speaker 1: get disgusted with women. I understand. But the same way
• 52:23
  Speaker 1: I'm asking for something from a man, I come.
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  Speaker 2: Through a shit exactly.
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  Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying. I'm gonna make a business better.
• 52:29
  Speaker 1: I'm a business professional. Whatever you got going on, I'm
• 52:31
  Speaker 1: gonna help you with it. Like I come through with
• 52:33
  Speaker 1: right and intrinsic value.
• 52:36
  Speaker 2: And I don't typically ask for shit that I can't
• 52:38
  Speaker 2: provide for myself.
• 52:39
  Speaker 1: That part, that part, and I don't know, because I
• 52:44
  Speaker 1: do save my bags for a big thing that I
• 52:47
  Speaker 1: can't do for myself. Otherwise I'm just doing it for myself.
• 52:50
  Speaker 1: And if you come through with some shit, then thank you.
• 52:52
  Speaker 1: But at this stage I need some big shit. What
• 52:56
  Speaker 1: can't I do for my what can't you do for yourself?
• 52:59
  Speaker 1: At this stage, it's not about what I can do
• 53:02
  Speaker 1: what I don't want.
• 53:03
  Speaker 2: To do right now, I ain't saying this all stuff
• 53:05
  Speaker 2: that I want to do, but push come to shove.
• 53:07
  Speaker 2: If you're not gonna do it, guess who will me?
• 53:11
  Speaker 2: You know somebody me, I'll do it. I could do it,
• 53:17
  Speaker 2: so I know.
• 53:20
  Speaker 1: Somebody somebody gonna do it. Said I'm gonna do it too,
• 53:25
  Speaker 1: because I'm not about to act like I just had
• 53:27
  Speaker 1: niggas finance in my life, my entire life. It's just
• 53:29
  Speaker 1: not true. But I've never been in a relationship with
• 53:33
  Speaker 1: a man who didn't want to take care of me. Now,
• 53:35
  Speaker 1: they probably was doing all the other bullshit, but they
• 53:39
  Speaker 1: were taking care of the shit they're supposed to be
• 53:40
  Speaker 1: taking care of it when it comes. That's all it matters.
• 53:43
  Speaker 1: So don't don't settle, ladies. Don't settle anyway, y'all. Listen,
• 53:49
  Speaker 1: I already said the last last earlier. Just just keep
• 53:52
  Speaker 1: your keep your regrets to a minimum. That's why I
• 53:54
  Speaker 1: like to tell young girls, keep your regrets to a
• 53:57
  Speaker 1: minimum when you're out here.
• 53:59
  Speaker 2: Shit, everybody, not just young girls, all of us, keep
• 54:02
  Speaker 2: your regrets to a minimum and set boundaries for yourself
• 54:07
  Speaker 2: and stick beside them. That's my biggest thing for twenty
• 54:11
  Speaker 2: twenty four is not allowing my empathy for other people's
• 54:16
  Speaker 2: situations to flex my boundaries for myself. Ooh, I've been
• 54:19
  Speaker 2: I've known to do that. Like, well he's his grandmother
• 54:22
  Speaker 2: is sick. Well, well he took a L.
• 54:26
  Speaker 1: He takes benefit of a doubt. I stay giving him
• 54:29
  Speaker 1: motherfucker benefit of the doubt.
• 54:30
  Speaker 2: Oh he took an L. He took a huge L.
• 54:32
  Speaker 2: And then now here my boundaries are flexing. No, stop
• 54:35
  Speaker 2: building l Pray for them and wish them luck and
• 54:38
  Speaker 2: wish them well. But don't flex your own boundaries because
• 54:41
  Speaker 2: of other people. Shit. You mess around in your boundaries
• 54:44
  Speaker 2: laying down by the riverside, I know, trust me. That's
• 54:50
  Speaker 2: my last last.
• 54:52
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