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When narcissists are obsessed with you · The Mental Healness Podcast

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  Narcissist can become totally, totally obsessed with you,
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  y'all. That's what we're talking about
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  today. Y'all with narcissistic people
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  refuse to let you go. They claim it's love.
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  It's not love. It's love adjacent.
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  It's like love. It's kind of like sugar and a
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  Splenda. It's not really look might look
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  the same to some people, but it's not the same.
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  If you're new here, my name is Lee Hammock.
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  I'm a diagnosed narcissist and welcome to another episode of
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  the Narcissist Code. Welcome back folks, welcome
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  back, welcome back. I had to drop the intro again.
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  I'm sorry yo. I get hyped when I listen listen
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  to the intro. It just powers me up for the
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  second part of the video. So you will be getting the intro
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  from here on for it. I'm sorry it is decided.
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  No but seriously y'all obsession is not love.
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  Now I know there are some people out there in the world who would
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  love for somebody to be obsessed with them.
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  You see, I see these memes and I see all these.
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  I see the memes and I see all these statuses and people.
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  People will repost some dude getting arrested for stalking
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  his ex and they will be like I if they ain't stalking me, I
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  don't want it. If they are not absolutely
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  obsessed with me, I don't need, I don't even want it.
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  I'm like woo you don't want it Come on now.
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  Come on, come on. We got, we got y'all.
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  You do not want a narcissist, especially a dangerous
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  narcissist obsessed with you. You just do not want that and
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  here's why. Because a lot of them will
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  never, ever leave you alone. There are some narcissists that
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  will never get the hint. They will almost always find a
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  way to see where you are, to come to where you are, and to do
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  a lot of different things to you.
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  There's so many narcissistic people out here that will
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  absolutely, absolutely ruin your damn life because of what they
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  have going on. Absolutely will like you.
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  Break up with them and they're not ready to break up with you.
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  They're not ready for the relationship to end.
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  They don't have a new supply on standby.
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  They have they are not look, they they not ready to move on.
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  You will get a narcissist that will come to your job, that will
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  come to your work. I mean, I see jobbing workers
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  every night. They will come to your house,
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  they will come to your gym, they will come to your walking trail.
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  They will come to your yoga, they'll come to your Pilates.
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  They will come to your kombucha, your favorite kombucha place,
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  your favorite bar, your favorite restaurant.
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  They do not care. They'll wait outside your house.
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  They know you look, especially if they know your schedule.
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  They will wait outside your damn house.
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  They absolutely will. In fact, they will wait outside
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  of your house for you to get home or for you to leave to go
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  to work to try to force you to talk to them.
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  The obsessions can be scary as hell.
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  Again, there are some people out there who did.
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  When you when you see the signs, at first you don't really know.
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  It's a sign of obsession of a, of a possibly obsessed or
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  controlling person. You don't realize it.
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  A lot of y'all think it's sweet at first, right?
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  And I know what you're going to say right now.
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  Well, Lee, why the hell would somebody think obsession is
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  sweet? I'm glad you asked.
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  Because in the mind of a lot of narcissistic people, in their
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  hearts, in the minds of a lot of toxic narcissistic people, like
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  they think like by to controlling your time, it's
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  showing you that they care, right?
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  They will control your time at the beginning of the
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  relationship, like during the love bombing phase, they will
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  absolutely try to control your time.
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  I mean, I'm just telling you they absolutely will.
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  They will absolutely be on the phone with you.
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  Try to be on the phone with you 24 hours a day.
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  And some of y'all think it's sweet.
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  I remember when I first met my ex Lee, they would want to be on
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  the phone all day. Even when I was at work, I had
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  to wear a Bluetooth in my ear and had my hair covering it so
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  they could talk to me or they wouldn't want to talk to me.
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  They just want to listen throughout, listen to me
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  throughout my day. And if they heard another a
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  man's voice, they will lose their damn minds.
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  They hear the woman's voice. They would go crazy.
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  Who is she? Who is that?
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  Who it what they like you. You need to quit that job.
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  I don't want you talking to them.
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  They when they tell you or I don't.
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  It's just I don't want you going to this bar tonight.
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  I don't want you going out with your friends.
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  You know what? It's not that I don't trust you.
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  I just don't trust your friends because your friends are they
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  they're they're they're. They'll put the peer peer
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  pressure on you and they'll make you want to leave me.
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  What the hell if somebody says it's not that I don't trust you,
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  I just don't trust your friends, They don't trust you.
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  They are insecure. That's the 100% what it is.
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  There's not just like they don't they don't like your friends and
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  they think your friends don't like them, maybe for good
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  reason. So they try to isolate you away
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  from your friends. It is not love it.
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  It's it's, it's just not love. They could become super obsessed
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  with you where they will call your job repeatedly.
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  I've seen people lose their jobs because they're narcissistic ex
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  would not leave them alone and just kept repeatedly calling
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  their job over and over and over again.
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  Just kept calling the job over and over again because they
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  because the person wouldn't answer and the boss would be
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  like, who's they calling? Yeah, He answered the phone like
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  this. The phone lines are being tied
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  up. And they will try to get you
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  fired by calling your job. That's a yeah.
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  Is that harassment? In some states, probably, yeah.
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  I was really going to talk to an attorney.
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  They will call your job. They will call your family
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  members consistently. They will go to your parents
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  house, your friend's house, the same friends that they that they
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  claimed they hated or didn't like.
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  They'll call them. I know we don't have a good
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  relationship, but can you please reach out to them for me?
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  I'm about to hurt myself and I didn't even talk to me.
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  When they start the unaliven threats, watch out, seriously
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  watch out because they will absolutely start these threats.
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  They will start threatening to harm themselves.
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  They will start threatening to do stuff to themselves.
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  Narcissistic people just operate on a completely different
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  wavelength. Yeah.
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  And I feel like there's so many people have to realize this by
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  now. Like they operate on a
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  completely different wave, wave wavelength.
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  Like it looks like it might look like love at first.
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  You'd like this person just really cares about me.
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  They just worried about my safety.
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  That's why they want to stop. They want me to FaceTime them
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  all day. They want to.
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  They want me. They want me to fall asleep all
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  the time on FaceTime with them every single night.
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  If I don't fall asleep with them on FaceTime, they think I'm
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  cheating on them. Yeah.
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  What I see there's a red flag. Is that a red flag?
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  Yeah, it seems sweet, like, oh, we just we're just bonding.
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  I love be on the phone with them 24 hours a day.
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  They make lately. You know what, you know what
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  crazy they my ex used to do? They make me take the phone to
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  the bathroom with me. Huh.
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  Huh. Do you get, do you at least get
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  to mute it when you never fart and stuff like no, they don't.
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  If I mute it, they think I'm cheating on them.
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  Yo, that's obsession. That's crazy.
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  That damn they're crazy, let's keep it.
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  Y'all know I got to keep it hot in radio like a Little Caesar's
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  pizza, right? That's damn near crazy if
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  they're doing stuff like that. Y'all.
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  They make me take the phone with me even if I'm in the shower.
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  They make me do this even if I have this going on.
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  Like they are always out to try to find a way to control you.
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  More like the obsessed narcissist is a dangerous
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  narcissist. They just absolutely are.
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  There's no other way around it. The obsessed narcissist can be a
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  very dangerous narcissist and they will absolutely keep doing
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  the same type of stuff over and over again because at the end of
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  the day, they feel like it benefits them.
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  They are so insecure that you're going to leave them that they
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  will. It be hard to let it be hard to
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  get them to leave you alone. And y'all, the crazy thing about
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  this is like when you were dealing with a narcissist that
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  is obsessed with you, they can break up with you.
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  You'll be right here. They can actually break up with
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  you, have a new person that they can be in a full fledge, full
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  blown new relationship where they look happy online, right?
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  They can have all this stuff going on and they guess what,
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  still try to control you, still be obsessed with you to the
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  point where they're still stalking you.
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  What I just told you about them showing, Remember earlier I said
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  they'll show up at your job, they'll show up at your house,
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  they'll show up at your favorite gym, your favorite restaurant.
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  They'll do that stuff even when they're in a new relationship.
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  And sometimes they'll have their new partner tagged alone,
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  sometimes sometimes knowingly, other times unknowingly.
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  They like I said, the Newport, the new partner might not know
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  that this is your gym that you go to this.
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  They might not know this this is your favorite restaurant.
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  They might not know that this is your work.
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  Did you work here? But guess who does?
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  The narcissist. And sometimes I said, y'all hear
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  me say, sometimes knowingly, sometimes unknowingly, because
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  sometimes they absolutely know. Sometimes I did a video only
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  yesterday or maybe yesterday before yesterday.
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  Sometimes the narcissist new supply absolutely, absolutely
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  knows what that they're stalking you, that they're obsessed with
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  you, but and they just they want the approval of the narcissist
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  something. Sometimes you know something is
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  going on inside the mind of the new supply too.
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  It's not just the narcissist all the time being crazy by
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  themselves. The new supply temps can
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  sometimes be just as crazy or I used the word crazy can be just
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  as bad as a narcissist. That's just me y'all.
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  That's just me keeping it high and ready like a Little Caesar's
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  pizza. For real.
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  This is the mindset of a lot of narcissistic people.
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  Like sometimes they can get the new supply to tag on and be
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  manipulative and be aggressive and be toxic as hell and just be
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  a horrible human being overall in general.
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  Like the obsession can be passed on to the new supply.
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  The new supply can be just as obsessed and continue this post
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  separation, stalking, harassment and stuff like that with the
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  narcissist because they become the narcissist biggest flying
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  monkey. The obsession can absolutely be
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  real. But I like I said earlier, they
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  don't have to have a new supply to still be obsessed with you.
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  They can still be doing this obsession stuff with or without
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  a new supply to you. Regardless of what you have
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  going on, you have to protect yourself 'cause I'm telling you,
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  that narcissist, that toxic person or whatever, they
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  themselves don't give a damn. They're going to like you can
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  call the police on them. They'll beg you to drop the
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  restraining order. They'll beg and plead.
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  They'll beg and please stuff about you unblocking them or you
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  just coming to sit down with them to get them a close your
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  conversation or whatever the case may be.
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  Y'all, do not sit down with the narcissist one last time.
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  It might be the last time you. It might be the last time
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  somebody ever sees you again, Somebody ever sees you because
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  the obsession can lead to them trying to take your life too.
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  Again, the obsession can lead to them, some of them trying to
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  take your life. They will try to end your
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  existence because they have lost their mind.
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  They have literally lost their marbles and will become
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  obsession, try to hurt you and harm you.
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