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Why Do Narcissists Like To Record You At Your Worst Moments? · The Mental Healness Podcast

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  So why do narcissist and other toxic people now?
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  Not just narcissist, narcissist and other toxic people?
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  Why do they love to record you at your worst moments, like when
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  things are not going well in your life or when you finally
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  snap to something that they have done, like you just caught them
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  lying. Look, they just smacked you and
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  you're, hey, they hit you and you put your fist up and then
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  you're running at them. They put their phone out and
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  record you. Why do they do that type of
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  stuff? Why do they pull their phone out
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  when you're at your worst moment?
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  Y'all? That's what we're talking about
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  today, y'all. And of course, if you're new
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  here, my name is Lee Hammock. I'm a diagnosed narcissist
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  myself. And welcome to another episode
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  of The Narcissist Code. Let's get in.
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  Welcome back, folks. Welcome back.
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  Welcome back. Yes, narcissist and those pesky
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  damn cameras. Why do they whip them out so
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  ferociously like a sword? They whip.
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  They whip their phone out like a sword and record you at your
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  worst moments. Why the hell did they do that?
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  What do y'all think? I know as a narcissistic person,
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  a lot of them will record you because they want to have a way
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  to play the victim later on. Like there are a ton of toxic
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  narcissistic people that have absolutely that, that absolutely
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  know that they have done you wrong.
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  They know that they've been horrible to you.
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  They know they put you through hell.
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  They know right. But they also want to be able to
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  play the victim. So if I can treat you horribly
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  for a long time, but I can get you on camera when you are
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  reacting to me, I can play the victim later on.
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  I can just say, let's say, let's say I didn't treat April
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  horrible for 20 years, right? Me and Abel been around for 20
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  years. I didn't treat her horrible for
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  20 years and she finally snapped and just started attacking me.
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  You're swinging at me. I put in phone.
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  I'm like April, leave. April, stop.
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  April is April. You're scaring me.
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  April, stop it. You're going crazy.
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  You're so delusional. I haven't done anything to you.
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  I got her. I got her now right people are
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  going to see I can show this video to people right I can show
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  this video to people and absolutely play the victim here
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  and when I absolutely can't what's going on Angel not your
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  baby first time I'm thankfully you found me too appreciate it
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  thanks for being here. Let's just say like and now I
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  got that who's that emotional insurance able said it like it's
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  emotional insurance. I got you I got you right now
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  I'm the victim here. Can y'all not see that I'm the
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  victim here, right? And now, yes, people think that
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  you are the problem. They look at you like you're the
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  issue. You see what I'm saying?
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  You did this. Hey, I don't know.
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  Look, see, there's there's y'all crazy.
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  You see, I'm the victim here. I just try to be a good man.
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  You can't be a good man. You can't be a good man these
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  days. What I was just saying with
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  these crazy women, I hear you. See what I didn't see?
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  This is what happened. This is what this is what
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  happened. When you try, when you try to
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  finally be a good man, this is what happened.
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  You, you pay for it, right? Did you end up paying for it?
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  You can't do nothing right to these people.
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  Blah, blah, blah, blah, bleep, bleep.
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  You know what I'm saying, Dale, do this type of stuff to you all
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  the damn time in order to absolutely positively play the
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  victim later on. And yes, there's so many people
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  that do this right here. Like I said, who's it is so
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  documentation, spending energy for negativity.
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  Yes, they will bait you. A lot of them like to bait you.
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  It's like finding like having a little fish, you know what I'm
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  saying? It's like finding the perfect
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  bait to get this to finding the perfect bait to get you because
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  once I got you, I got you. Now you're stuck.
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  Once I get you on camera, you can't win, right?
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  You can't win. Well, you can't win because not
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  not everybody's going to believe me, right?
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  Yeah. You know, your, if your
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  reputation has been good, not everybody's going to believe me.
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  You see what I'm saying? Not everybody's going to believe
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  me. Not everybody's going to be your
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  believe your toxic ex-boyfriend or girlfriend, husband, wife,
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  whatever, right? Some people will believe you
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  because they know you, right? So it won't work on everybody,
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  but for those flying monkeys or those blind supporters,
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  absolutely, positively, hell yeah, it'll work.
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  Then it'll work on the people who don't know what the hell is
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  actually going on. It will work on them, right?
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  It will. And This is why I tell people to
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  control your reactions or you'd be just like Kim said.
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  Look at her acting evil. I told y'all she was crazy.
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  This evil, nasty woman. Kim is an evil, nasty woman.
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  Nasty. I ain't never done nothing.
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  All I did was try to be there for look.
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  This is this is what I get right here.
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  Y'all, this is the thanks I get. This is what happening right
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  here. Y'all this.
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  You see what I go through? Y'all see what I go through.
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  Y'all see what I got to deal with.
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  And they lose they damn minds. They absolutely, positively want
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  to try to find a way to play the victim.
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  You know what I'm saying? Who said this right here?
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  Renee said. What they are documenting is the
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  follower of their reactive abuse.
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  Reactive abuse comes from your side of things, right?
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  You're the one who's reacting, right?
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  Reactive abuse is you reacting to the abuse, so you're reacting
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  to them. So they love to catch the
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  reactive abuse on the camera. You're reacting to their abuse,
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  so you might look like the abuser.
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  And it's why I tell so many people and people keep.
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  Some people get mad when I say this.
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  You have to control your reactions.
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  And I know people just like, well, that's not fair.
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  I'm not. Yeah.
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  I don't make the rules. I'm trying to keep y'all out of
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  jail. Well, they, they look, I'm
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  trying to keep you from getting locked up from getting from
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  being from being, yo being the person that's being abused and
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  you getting locked up or you getting into trouble can be
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  detrimental to your damn mental health.
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  It absolutely can. It can be detrimental to your
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  mental health. It really, truly, it really,
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  truly can, really truly can. That's what I'm saying.
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  Like imagine you getting your ass beat, like they beating
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  y'all ass every single night they swing and they they come
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  home and swing on you. They come home and hit you with
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  that damn hook right there, right.
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  They come, they come home and hit you.
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  And then you find look, you've been taking boxing lessons like
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  damn Jennifer Lopez in the movie enough you finally decided to
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  fight back. They hit you right.
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  You know what, you ain't know I've been practicing back, back,
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  back. You look, you start hitting with
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  a two piece, you kick them, you do the little spinning Rooney,
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  and then guess what? They pull the phone out when you
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  drop kicking them. They put the phone on when you
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  say hey, yeah, hurry up, hurry up.
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  And then you go to jail. You've been getting beat up for
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  years. They come arrest you and now you
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  go to jail. You see what I'm saying?
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  That's why it's so important to control those reacts.
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  I'm not. Again, I know not everybody
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  wants to hear that. I know everybody wants to hear
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  hear me say that. But that's why it's so important
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  to control those damn reactions. It just is.
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  They push you to snap so they can point the finger.
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  Absolutely true. Absolutely.
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  They want you to be the one that snaps because guess what happens
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  if you snap? I can play the victim.
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  That's why I love recording you at your worst moments.
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  So they can make you feel horrible.
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  Like if you, if you, if you're suffering through your worst
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  moments and this person is pointing a camera at you,
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  they're just belittling you. There's sometimes they sometimes
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  like they don't, they don't even record you just to show other
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  people. Sometimes they record you to
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  show you, like just to have evidence to blackmail you,
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  right? They have evidence to blackmail
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  you and to show you what you've been doing.
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  They'll tell you straight up, look how abusive you are, Look
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  how horrible you are. Like you be crying.
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  Look you. It's not always, it's not always
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  in a moment of reactive abuse. Sometimes you're just sad.
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  Sometimes you're grieving. Sometimes someone in your life
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  has passed away or gotten sick or going through something.
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  Sometimes you're just sad. And then they still record you,
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  like they record you to make you seem like you're over.
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  You're like you're overreacting. Your emotions for some reason
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  are an overreaction. Why are you crying for like look
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  at this pathetic. What are you doing crying?
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  Yeah, your mom and dad died and so did the dog and your house,
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  Your house you grew up in got fell into a sinkhole in a car.
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  You had flooded out. And then, like you're saying in
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  the job you had fired you and then your bank account got
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  scammed. You had scammed from some people
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  overseas. Yeah, but why are you crying
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  for? You know what?
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  Guess what happened to me? I ain't crying.
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  If that would happen to me, I wouldn't cry.
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  Look at that. You're pathetic.
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  They belittle you while you're crying sometimes and I always
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  reactive abuse. Sometimes you're grieving.
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  And a lot of times they look some narcissists, when they
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  recording you in those moments, they really don't understand
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  those emotions that you're going through.
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  They don't have any. Those are the people, those are
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  the narcissistic people that have very little if if any
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  empathy at all. Just absolutely very little, if
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  any empathy at all. That's what be happening right
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  there. So that's what I'm just saying
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  like yeah, you got you have you are responsible for protecting
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  yourself, right? You are, you absolutely will.
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  Who said this right here? Belittling will lead you to low
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  self esteem. They can't, absolutely can't,
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  especially if you already have low self esteem or low
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  self-confidence. Being being belittled while
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  you're grieving and hurting and sad can absolutely lead you into
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  a take you to a dark place. Y'all you have these evil
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  bastards and whatnot. What's going on ago these evil
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  bastards I heard that are leading you into a dark place.
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  They absolutely, they absolutely can you mean and it's what ends
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  up happening. So you had you have to protect
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  yourself. You have to control those
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  reactions. You have to be the one that's in
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  charge and empowered because if not, they want to just keep you
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  there. Like they'll belittle you and
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  won't break up with you. And I know this can be confusing
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  to some people You like, wait, what the hell?
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  They'll be little lately that belittle you but won't break up
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  with you. What kind of sense does that
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  make? What kind of sense does that
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  make at all, right? But again, I got to ask you have
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  what have you ever seen a narcissist that is actively out
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  here that's making sense, right? What have you ever seen that
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  happen? Right?
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  I know I make sense, but not just me, anybody.
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  There's some other stuff for a narcissist out here.
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  But like a narcissist that you're dealing with in your real
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  everyday life, What have you ever seen them make sense and
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  whatnot, right? And this one is, it's what ends
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  up happening. That's what goes on.
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  They feed off all your emotions. Absolutely yes.
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  channel memberships. But yeah, yeah, they will record
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  you, they will project upon you and they will treat you
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  horrible. That's why I said you always got
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  to be be prepared when you're dealing with somebody like this.
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  You know what I'm saying? You always have to be prepared.
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  And she said my ex-husband had so many videos of me crying and
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  screaming at him. I saw them one time while I went
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  through his phone and it made me so sick to my stomach house see
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  myself lose my mind. Yep, that's what I said.
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  They sometimes they record you just to mess with you.
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  Right now he can so calmly record me having a whole episode
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  because he was a cheater or super mean dad to my kids.
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  It was here. I just joined your live, but I
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  saw the title. Oh there you go.
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  Well, welcome to the live. Yeah, they can get you right
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  there. I'm telling you these, these
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  type of relationships can have you reacting to a point where
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  you don't recognize yourself. You don't even know who you are.
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  Right, Right. They will.
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  You only recognize who you are. It can be kind of crazy.
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  It seems everyone is narcissist to a certain extent and a lot of
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  people have narcissistic traits but not to the point where it's
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  pathological or they're breaking up they're breaking people down.
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  Even if you found out they cheated they will blame you for
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  that. Oh absolutely.
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  And then if you have a reaction to them cheating they'll just
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  like look how crazy you are. I'm not even I'm not even
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  cheating on you. I'm not cheating.
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  Hey damn I can't have friends. I get a friend and look at you
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  screaming trying to you try to take my life for having a
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  friend. Wow, y'all see what I got to
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  deal with Wow Y'all see the stuff I go through?
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  Wow, right. Would seek yeah, would secretly
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  record. So he knew how to set up
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  anything. Yep, Yep, some and those are
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  those are people that like psychopathic right there when
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  they when they already have a plan to get you to react.
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  Those are y'all might be dealing with a psycho again, if you
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  think you're dealing with a narcissist or a psychopath and
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  you don't have kids with them, do not have kids with them.
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  Please, for the love of God, do not have kids with them if you
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  feel like you're dealing with a psychopath, like seriously,
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  yo-yo, don't intentionally make your life harder than with
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  somebody. There's a so horrible.
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  launching this week. I'm sending the videos to the
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  edit was sending my first video to the editor today to be edited
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  and it will be up I think Friday or might go live Monday.
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  I'm doing 2. I'm trying to do 2 a week.
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  I have some more to record and what I have some more to record
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  later. But the mental illness podcast
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  is launching soon because people don't watch my videos about
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  narcissism anymore. There's not hardly any people on
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  the live right now. People don't care about
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