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Teaching Kids How to Give Compliments · Let's Ask the Mamas!

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  Speaker 1: We've got a question for American mamas. Dear mama's, have
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  Speaker 1: you ever thought about teaching your children to give compliments?
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  Speaker 2: Well, let's ask our American mama's Mama Mama.
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  Speaker 1: And joining us now our American mama's tern Outville and
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  Speaker 1: Kimberly Burleson. You know, there's a lot of stuff we
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  Speaker 1: think about teaching our kids. I don't know if I
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  Speaker 1: think about teaching my kids to give compliments. I don't
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  Speaker 1: know if that was something that we necessarily planned other
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  Speaker 1: than modeling perhaps, you know, I mean, like, are you.
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  Speaker 3: Being a complimenter in them seeing you?
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  Speaker 1: Right?
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  Speaker 2: Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: One of the things that we did have was we
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  Speaker 1: wanted to make sure we caught our kids doing something good.
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  Speaker 1: We didn't just want to catch them doing bad. So
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  Speaker 1: there were times where we were intentionally going.
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  Speaker 2: Hey, I see what you did.
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  Speaker 1: That looks great. You did a great job. So we
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  Speaker 1: would intentionally do that. So that's a modeling of a
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  Speaker 1: compliment behavior. But I don't know we never sat down
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  Speaker 1: to other kids, Okay, here's how you give a compliment.
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  Speaker 2: I don't know if we ever did that, right.
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  Speaker 3: I think that that's kind of the beauty of social
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  Speaker 3: media right now, because I don't think any of us
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  Speaker 3: would have thought to teach how to give a compliment.
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  Speaker 3: So we saw this reel where this young mother is
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  Speaker 3: teaching her young I think four year old how to compliment.
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  Speaker 3: They go to target and it's like they pick a person,
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  Speaker 3: they're gonna give that person a compliment, and then she's
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  Speaker 3: teaching the daughter how to respond when some when she
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  Speaker 3: gives a compliment and how they respond. I thought it
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  Speaker 3: was brilliant, and I thought more parents need to do
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  Speaker 3: that because it is a lost art because we think
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  Speaker 3: we're complimenting, people are afraid to do that. They're afraid
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  Speaker 3: to look stupid, they're afraid to feel silly. But I
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  Speaker 3: think it shows also courage, you know parents I love.
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  Speaker 4: And on top of that, it shared and it showed
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  Speaker 4: that it feels good to give a compliment. Like you said,
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  Speaker 4: we do give compliments and we teach our children by
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  Speaker 4: example because we learned by example our parents. Actually, they
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  Speaker 4: told us how important it was to compliment your friends
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  Speaker 4: if you see someone that looks.
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  Speaker 2: Good or.
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  Speaker 4: Yes, yes, you know, that's the importance of it, and
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  Speaker 4: so we do. I think as parents, you teach by example.
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  Speaker 4: But the beautiful thing about this is when they were
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  Speaker 4: rolling through, she said to the little girl. They kind
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  Speaker 4: of took turns, and she said, okay, so you can
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  Speaker 4: tell that lady that her purse looks really like her purse.
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  Speaker 4: She said, I like your purse and she said, oh,
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  Speaker 4: thank you so much. I like your you know, I
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  Speaker 4: like your shirt. And so when they left, she goes, oh,
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  Speaker 4: my gosh, she gave me a compliment back or the
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  Speaker 4: mom said, she gave you a compliment so that she
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  Speaker 4: made it so fun and so cute that the little
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  Speaker 4: girl wanted she was looking for another way to give
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  Speaker 4: a compliment, and then she told her mom it's you know,
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  Speaker 4: your turn. So she's like telling find someone with the
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  Speaker 4: new balanced shoes on. So they looked around until they
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  Speaker 4: found someone, and the mom said, I like your new
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  Speaker 4: balance shoes. Oh thanks, appreciate that, and little girls like, oh,
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  Speaker 4: you know, giggling with their little hands to her face.
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  Speaker 4: And it was such I thought, that is so brilliant
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  Speaker 4: and it was so cute. And then when you're watching it,
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  Speaker 4: you couldn't help but smile and get tickled and realized
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  Speaker 4: the value of that moment between the mom and daughter
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  Speaker 4: and the value that that daughter. I mean, now that
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  Speaker 4: is embedded in her psyche that felt good to her.
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  Speaker 4: She will be a complimenter, and.
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  Speaker 1: Compliments still have an effect on people, not just kids.
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  Speaker 1: But I came home from the store the other day
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  Speaker 1: and I told Wendy. I was like, baby, you're you've
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  Speaker 1: got trouble because I was just at the grocery store
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  Speaker 1: and I had two different women compliment me on how
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  Speaker 1: handsome I am. So I'm just saying out, No, actually
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  Speaker 1: it happened, literally happened. I went to I went to Windy.
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  Speaker 1: I was like, oh, I got compliments this week.
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  Speaker 4: You know what. That's so funny because I never think
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  Speaker 4: to compliment a man.
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  Speaker 1: Well, and that was the other part, because Kimberly you
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  Speaker 1: said people are afraid to give compliments. Yeah, there are
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  Speaker 1: lots of guys who are like, she may be beautiful,
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  Speaker 1: she may I like what she's wearing.
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  Speaker 2: I'm not.
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  Speaker 1: There's no way I'm gonna tell her, hey, I like
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  Speaker 1: your dress, because it's gonna come off like yeah.
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  Speaker 4: Do you know what men do now if they give
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  Speaker 4: a compliment, if they say, if they say I just
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  Speaker 4: want to say, and I'm I'm trying to come on
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  Speaker 4: strong or anything, but I loved your dress. You have
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  Speaker 4: a very feminine dress or whatever they say, And it
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  Speaker 4: is so it's so sweet because always we always take
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  Speaker 4: a compliment, but they qualify it like I'm not I'm
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  Speaker 4: not so weirdo. Where they used to say, you know,
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  Speaker 4: you look lovely or whatever and not think about it.
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  Speaker 4: Now men are scared. But I've never thought to compliment
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  Speaker 4: a man in the store like that, you know, like
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  Speaker 4: you're handsome. That would be weird to me because you
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  Speaker 4: have shopping. But I compliment women. I do, like, I
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  Speaker 4: have zero problem if I see someone. I remember a
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  Speaker 4: girl named Susan Shepherd in the fourth grade and I
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  Speaker 4: was new to the school and I thought she was
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  Speaker 4: so beautiful. She even had a beauty mark and I said,
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  Speaker 4: I said, you are so beautiful. I love the beautiful
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  Speaker 4: I remember, even in the fourth grade. She was like, well,
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  Speaker 4: thank you. And it's not a common thing that girls
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  Speaker 4: will share. But I think because we had the parents
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  Speaker 4: we had, we never you know, if someone was prettier, smarter,
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  Speaker 4: funnier than us, it didn't diminish us and made us
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  Speaker 4: less thand just because we thought they were pretty.
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  Speaker 3: Early I remember when I saw this old lady in
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  Speaker 3: a parking lot and I she was like beautiful, but
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  Speaker 3: she was like ninety four. And I walked up to
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  Speaker 3: her and I said, you were the most beautiful woman
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  Speaker 3: I've ever seen. Into it. I won Most Beautiful at
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  Speaker 3: the University of Texas four years in a row.
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  Speaker 4: Wasn't hobby lobbing.
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  Speaker 1: Right, And you tease one of the largest schools.
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  Speaker 3: Was beautiful to you?
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  Speaker 4: How beautiful? But she wanted us to know I was.
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  Speaker 4: I was everthying.
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  Speaker 1: Actually, wow, So she was ninety four. She may have
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  Speaker 1: been there when my grandmother was there.
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  Speaker 4: So beautiful. Our grandmother also got compliments about her style
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  Speaker 4: and the way she looked, and she shook pride in that.
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  Speaker 1: I can see it. That's that's pretty cool. If you
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  Speaker 1: the brothers, thank you so much.
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  Speaker 4: Thank you,