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Episode 32 - You Minding Your Own Business When It Comes Focusing On Yourself And Not Everyone Else. · You Minding Your Own Business

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  Speaker 1: Welcome Welcome to you Minding your Own business and finding
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  Speaker 1: your inners.
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  Speaker 2: You're Sorry wrong podcasts. Welcome to you.
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  Speaker 1: Minding your Own Business and with Self Respect leads to
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  Speaker 1: self Love radio podcast. I'm your host, Scott, It's auction Mary.
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  Speaker 1: I'm'a thank you guys for joining me for this episode.
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  Speaker 1: Minding your Own Business radio podcast and with Self Respect
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  Speaker 1: leads to self Love Radio podcast.
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  Speaker 2: A little Bit about Me.
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  Speaker 1: I am a certified recovery, healing and recovery coach that's
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  Speaker 1: their purpose the new and better youth through self discovery.
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  Speaker 2: I help people in multiple.
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  Speaker 1: Different fasts of recovery being able to heal to the
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  Speaker 1: point of where not only it's about, you know, obtaining
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  Speaker 1: the healing, but it's also about maintaining the recovery. So
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  Speaker 1: it's not just about healing and then going through the
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  Speaker 1: same things over and over and over again. It's about
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  Speaker 1: healing and no longer going through these situations, and when
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  Speaker 2: Dealing with them. In the right way.
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  Speaker 1: Now, these two podcasts when it comes to recovery, one
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  Speaker 1: is about self esteem, self worth, and self values and
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  Speaker 2: Y'all have had a long day.
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  Speaker 1: I didn't get very much sleep last night. But the
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  Speaker 1: podcast has to go on now. Today's topic is going
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  Speaker 1: to be a two for one today. This one is
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  Speaker 1: all about the fact of the matter of why you
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  Speaker 1: base yourself and why do you lower yourself for people
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  Speaker 1: that will never do the same for you, For people
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  Speaker 1: that actually are not any better than you are. The
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  Speaker 1: crazy part is I don't really understand why we do it,
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  Speaker 1: but I know why. But it's taught behavior more so
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  Speaker 1: than anything. And the one thing the reason I created
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  Speaker 1: you minding your own business is because it's too many
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  Speaker 1: people minding everybody else's is that the one that feeds them.
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  Speaker 1: When I stopped minding, when I started minding my own
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  Speaker 1: business and not worrying about everybody else, I became a
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  Speaker 1: whole happier person. Now that's one of the hardest things
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  Speaker 1: to do in all honesty, because with minding your own
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  Speaker 1: business and self esteem, self worth, self value, self respect,
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  Speaker 1: self confidence, believing in yourself even when no one else does,
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  Speaker 1: it's kind of hard because you have to maintain it.
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  Speaker 1: And that's one of the hardest things to do, is
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  Speaker 1: maintain your self esteem, especially when you got people attacking you,
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  Speaker 1: bullying you, harassing you, doing all these negative things to you.
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  Speaker 2: It's kind of hard to have a high.
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  Speaker 1: Self esteem when you got people tryna lower it every
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  Speaker 1: single day.
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  Speaker 2: It is hard.
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  Speaker 1: It's hard to mind the business that pay you when
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  Speaker 1: it's always being thrown in your face on social media.
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  Speaker 2: Cause today I.
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  Speaker 1: Was you know, on my phone out strolling and I
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  Speaker 1: was like, I'm putting my phone down today.
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  Speaker 2: I got off work and I.
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  Speaker 1: Strolled a little bit cause I try to keep up
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  Speaker 1: with the country Wayne skits cause I've been doing them
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  Speaker 1: on social media. But I'm about to bring that to
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  Speaker 1: my podcast very very soon. But I'll be doing that
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  Speaker 1: very soon, but I haven't decided when. But what I
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  Speaker 1: will say is when it comes to you minding your
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  Speaker 1: own business, I'll start. I'll start with that one because
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  Speaker 1: that's the one I didn't do yesterday. When you mind
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  Speaker 1: the business that pays you, that means you're not worried
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  Speaker 1: about when nobody else is doing except you. And the
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  Speaker 1: people that you are concerned about are the people that
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  Speaker 1: add to what you're doing, or they add to your life,
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  Speaker 1: or there's somebody that can impact and affect your life.
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  Speaker 1: Those are people that you need to worry about. As
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  Speaker 1: far as with self respect leads to self love, it
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  Speaker 1: comes down to people lowering themselves in order to build
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  Speaker 1: somebody else up because of their insecurity and their issues.
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  Speaker 1: There are a lot of people that wanna be captain
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  Speaker 1: saber holes, build a bears, build a dollar, seat fillers,
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  Speaker 1: and people pleasers. And they're willing to do anything to
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  Speaker 1: be loved, liked, to appreciate the value, to want it
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  Speaker 1: needed to be a part of something, to be validated,
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  Speaker 1: to be approved of, to be accepted, for somebody to
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  Speaker 1: know your worth and proven some people. The fact of
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  Speaker 1: what people are willing to do to make somebody like
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  Speaker 1: you in some type of way is absolutely ridiculous. A
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  Speaker 1: lot of people go with against everything that is right
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  Speaker 1: to do something wrong, and that's where the issue is.
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  Speaker 1: A lot of people know what they're doing is wrong,
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  Speaker 1: but they do it because of a feeling that doesn't
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  Speaker 1: even last long. So the fact that you're up here
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  Speaker 1: giving up everything for some of it would never give
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  Speaker 1: it up for you is a problem. And what I
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  Speaker 1: tell people is the person that should be the person
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  Speaker 1: that should have the high self esteem, should be the
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  Speaker 1: person that is the godly person, regardless of what.
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  Speaker 2: They look like.
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  Speaker 1: I feel like, if you're a godly person, you shouldn't
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  Speaker 1: have to lower yourself to anybody, cause.
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  Speaker 2: Jesus never did. Jesus never lowered himself for anybody.
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  Speaker 1: But yet you have all these people telling you you
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  Speaker 1: have to lower yourself, you have to accept what somebody
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  Speaker 1: does to you, and you have to just appreciate.
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  Speaker 2: No, you don't. You ain't gotta sap nothing.
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  Speaker 1: So at the end of the day, like I said,
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  Speaker 1: the fact that you know, some people want to break people.
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  Speaker 1: So let me give you an example. Cardi B is
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  Speaker 1: a good example of this. Cardi B has come a
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  Speaker 1: long way because at one time, Cardi B used to
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  Speaker 1: get on these platforms ever time somebody says something bout
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  Speaker 1: and she used to go off.
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  Speaker 2: Now since she.
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  Speaker 1: Had them kids, they done humble her. They done humbled
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  Speaker 1: her tremendously. Now her album is coming out September nineteenth,
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  Speaker 1: and we already got people already running off at the
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  Speaker 1: mouth talking about how it's paola that she got one
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  Speaker 1: point two million dollars off the album and it ain't
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  Speaker 1: even out yet. And then you got Nicki Minaj who
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  Speaker 1: is spiraling out of control about rot Nation.
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  Speaker 2: At the end of the day, this is insane. It's insane.
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  Speaker 1: But you have two women that could co that could coexist,
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  Speaker 1: but yet you have one that cannot allow the other
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  Speaker 1: one to coexist. But she's not focused on Cardi B.
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  Speaker 1: She is focused on Rotten Nation. And my whole thing
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  Speaker 1: is she is pissed.
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  Speaker 2: It's beastly. The fact that she saw you know, Cardi
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  Speaker 2: B with with Kelly.
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  Speaker 1: Rowland and with Tina and they were up there having
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  Speaker 1: a good time.
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  Speaker 2: She is this NIGGI is absolutely upset.
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  Speaker 1: NIGGI wanted them girls that you can't be friends with
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  Speaker 1: somebody's that she don't like, and that's not fair. You
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  Speaker 1: can't tell me I can't be friends with somebody because
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  Speaker 1: you ain't friends with 'em. They ain't got nothing to
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  Speaker 1: do with me. That person ain't done nothing to me.
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  Speaker 1: But at the same time, I do understand it though,
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  Speaker 1: if it's somebody that I don't like and I gotta
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  Speaker 1: worry about you talking trash about them is different than
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  Speaker 1: somebody who does. So as long as she doesn't bring
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  Speaker 1: it bring it much b mm. Long as she don't
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  Speaker 1: bring me up to somebody who I don't like, I
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  Speaker 1: don't care. But at the end of the day, it's
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  Speaker 1: Nikki is spiring. She is purity spiraling out of control.
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  Speaker 1: Cause at first it was Cardi B, but now it's
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  Speaker 1: Rock Nation. She is strictly going after jay Z and
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  Speaker 1: this is insane. So again, when you mind the business
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  Speaker 1: that pays you, I don't see the rents, but I
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  Speaker 1: hear about it, because when when I'm on t TikTok,
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  Speaker 1: that's when I see it. You know, everybody talking about
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  Speaker 1: her aspiring. But if you take six months and don't
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  Speaker 1: get on any social media platform except when you're doing
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  Speaker 1: your actual business stuff, you will see how different and
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  Speaker 1: more healthier you will be. When you mind the business
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  Speaker 1: that pays you and you only focus on your health
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  Speaker 1: and wellness internally and externally, you make really good decisions
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  Speaker 1: and choices that that your action behavior can be proud of.
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  Speaker 1: You're not being impacted and affected by other people but yourself.
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  Speaker 2: You just mind the business that pays you and you
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  Speaker 2: don't care.
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  Speaker 1: Your self esteem, self worth, and self value is intact
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  Speaker 1: your respect, it's something you demand. Your confidence is there
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  Speaker 1: regardless of what you look like. And you'd rather be
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  Speaker 1: alone than be unhappy.
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  Speaker 2: That's what I mean.
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  Speaker 1: At the end of the day, a lot of people
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  Speaker 1: try to stop people shine their growth, their development, their maturity,
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  Speaker 1: their evolution and them evolving, and yet still they can't.
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  Speaker 1: You know, at the end of the day, people, whether
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  Speaker 1: you want them to or not, if they're gonna thrive,
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  Speaker 1: They're gonna thrive no matter what. But in the end,
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  Speaker 1: like I said, I woke up today and what made
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  Speaker 1: me talk about this was I woke up today my
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  Speaker 1: eyes were pear to her cause I don't I don't
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  Speaker 1: have my eye drop. So I gotta get them tomorrow
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  Speaker 1: and have them delivered here. But I'm just sitting here
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  Speaker 1: and I'm just like, is it even worth it? The
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  Speaker 1: answer is no, So I said, you know what, this evening,
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  Speaker 1: I'm putting my phone down. I'm actually gonna go to
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  Speaker 1: sleep and get some rest early.
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  Speaker 2: Come tired.
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  Speaker 1: That's why I'm doing this podcast so early, because I
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  Speaker 1: am tired. But in the end, you don't wanna be
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  Speaker 1: sick because I remember back in the day, we used
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  Speaker 1: to you know, kids used to be outside all day,
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  Speaker 1: every day, outside having a good time. If a little
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  Speaker 1: boy liked you, he used to beat up. Yeah, they
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  Speaker 1: used to hit you just to show that they liked you.
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  Speaker 1: But you know, back then, kids could be kids. Now
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  Speaker 1: kids are more so adults. Kids can't even be kids
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  Speaker 1: no more. Kids can't even go outside to the playground
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  Speaker 1: no more. Kids can't even ride they bikes no more,
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  Speaker 1: because they gotta worry about somebody kidnapping somebody's kids. You
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  Speaker 1: can't even move a man into your house because you
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  Speaker 1: gotta worry about them doing some of your kids. That's
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  Speaker 1: how bad things are right now, and the reality of
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  Speaker 1: it is we don't even realize how bad things are.
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  Speaker 1: What's even more crazier is the HIV and the STD
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  Speaker 1: epidemic as well as the full blown AIDS has pretty
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  Speaker 1: much back. So between all of these things that could
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  Speaker 1: be prevented if people made better choices, you just doing
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  Speaker 1: what feels right to you, not understanding there are consequences
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  Speaker 1: and repercussions for the things you do, and for every
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  Speaker 1: action there is a reaction. There certainly is. But what
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  Speaker 1: I will say is, when it comes to these situations,
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  Speaker 1: your self esteem, self work, and self values determines not
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  Speaker 1: only how you feel about yourself, but how some people
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  Speaker 1: will see you.
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  Speaker 2: Cause here's my thing.
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  Speaker 1: Some people don't have to get on social media and
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  Speaker 1: show off everything and get attention. And I don't understand
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  Speaker 1: why a lot of pretty girls for they have to
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  Speaker 1: do that and they don't have to, but they do
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  Speaker 1: it anyway. That's because that's what society has told them,
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  Speaker 1: but doesn't mean it's right. But me personally, if I
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  Speaker 1: was dropped dead gorgeous woman, I certainly wouldn't be out
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  Speaker 1: there like that.
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  Speaker 2: I wouldn't.
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  Speaker 1: So at the end of the day, So I don't know.
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  Speaker 2: Like I said, a lot of people don't.
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  Speaker 1: Understand that being vulnerable can be a good and bathom now,
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  Speaker 1: being vulnerable can be you being honest. And one thing
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  Speaker 1: about vulnerability is it's really hard to do because you
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  Speaker 1: don't want nobody taking it and turning your something that
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  Speaker 1: is your weakness and using against you to destroy you
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  Speaker 1: with it. A lot of people use your weaknesses to
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  Speaker 1: destroy you. They use your feelings to take advantage of you,
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  Speaker 1: to manipulate, bamboozo, scam con lie, do all of these
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  Speaker 1: things on you. A lot of y'all are lowering yourselves
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  Speaker 1: for people that will never do it for you. It's
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  Speaker 1: never gonna be reciprocated. It's always gonna be one sided,
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  Speaker 1: and when you finally say something about it, they make
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  Speaker 1: excuses for it.
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  Speaker 2: So let me give you a good example of this.
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  Speaker 1: Let's say, for example, a girl is dating a guy.
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  Speaker 1: She does not want to have sex, but she's being
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  Speaker 1: pure pressured into it, and she's standing her ground and
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  Speaker 1: she's like, no, I don't want to have sex. I
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  Speaker 1: don't wanna get pregnant, and I and I'm not trying
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  Speaker 1: to do the man In case of condoms, the guy says, oh,
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  Speaker 1: but I'm but I wear a condom. And so after
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  Speaker 1: a bunch of peer pressure, she gives in. She gives in,
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  Speaker 1: but in all actuality, he didn't use that condom. Now
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  Speaker 1: she's pregnant.
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  Speaker 2: Now she might have.
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  Speaker 1: HIV, full blown AIDS or that STD. Now this boy
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  Speaker 1: goes and tells the whole entire school that she's a hope,
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  Speaker 1: all because she slept with him one time. Sometimes you
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  Speaker 1: gotta stick to the word no, no matter what. I
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  Speaker 1: don't care what somebody says, it does. The answer is no,
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  Speaker 1: because it ain't worth it. A lot of us look
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  Speaker 1: back in our forties and fifties and we look at
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  Speaker 1: all the men and women we slept, but women in particular,
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  Speaker 1: we look at all the men we slept with, and
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  Speaker 1: we like, why why do we do this to ourselves?
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  Speaker 1: You're sleeping with men that are not even giving you
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  Speaker 1: their last name. So I want people to understand that
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  Speaker 1: if that man's not geting his last name, he doesn't.
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  Speaker 2: Deserve much between your legs. So it's just some things.
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  Speaker 1: When I say, mind the business that pays you that
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  Speaker 1: means that if you stand on business, stand on business,
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  Speaker 1: and I don't care what somebody does, the answer is no.
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  Speaker 1: If I said no, I stand on it. I'm not
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  Speaker 1: changing my mind. I'm not going to all to what
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  Speaker 1: I said. I said no, and it on it. My
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  Speaker 1: whole thing now is I've learned that certain things are
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  Speaker 1: just one sided and they just are. And no matter what,
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  Speaker 1: when it comes to healing, you gotta realize that other
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  Speaker 1: person ain't you. It ain't your job to try to personally,
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  Speaker 1: not professionally, personally, try to be a builder, bear to
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  Speaker 1: somebody that's not trying to build themselves.
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  Speaker 2: And when they met you, they weren't trying to build themselves.
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  Speaker 1: But all it is is they love a person that
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  Speaker 1: can build them. And that's the one thing about sloth
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  Speaker 1: is it's a lot of lazy people that people try
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  Speaker 1: to make respec ain't never gonna be responsible, and they
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  Speaker 1: gonna keep living off somebody else and keep having somebody
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  Speaker 1: else take care of them. It's just like when you
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  Speaker 1: go back and you look at all your exes and
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  Speaker 1: you look at the women they're married to. Now, some
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  Speaker 1: of these women are not even nowhere near the woman
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  Speaker 1: that you are, or the man that you are. When
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  Speaker 1: it comes to a female, some of them may not
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  Speaker 1: even be attractive at all.
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  Speaker 2: And you were, like, you mean to say me, he.
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  Speaker 1: Shows huh mm, because those are the only women that's
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  Speaker 1: gonna do what he wants them to do.
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  Speaker 2: So at the end of the.
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  Speaker 1: Day, like I said, you know, when I found out
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  Speaker 1: my ex got married, I didn't even care.
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  Speaker 2: I didn't care.
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  Speaker 1: Now I kind of thought about it for a second,
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  Speaker 1: and I realized I wasted seven years. That's the only
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  Speaker 1: thing I thought. I wasted seven years. This girl wasn't
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  Speaker 1: even with him that long, and yet he married her.
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  Speaker 1: So that's what I mean. Sometimes you gotta realize how
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  Speaker 1: value valuable your time is and how much you value it.
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  Speaker 1: So if your time is that important, then you better
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  Speaker 1: use it wisely, meaning that you better not be lowing
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  Speaker 1: yourself and giving up your apartments and giving up your
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  Speaker 1: houses for people that when you move in they gonna
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  Speaker 1: be wanting you to.
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  Speaker 2: Cook and clean.
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  Speaker 1: And you're like, dude, why don't you do this? Because again,
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  Speaker 1: these men have met women, their mothers were the ones
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  Speaker 1: that did it all, and because their mothers did it all,
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  Speaker 1: now they want you to do it all. So yeah,
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  Speaker 1: that's how that go. Does it make it right? No,
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  Speaker 1: it don't. So all I'm saying, all I'm saying to
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  Speaker 1: you is when it comes down to these situations, don't
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  Speaker 1: nothing shocked. Don't nothing shock me when it comes to
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  Speaker 1: stuff like this, because it don't. In the end, you
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  Speaker 1: gonna always have people that's going to try to test
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  Speaker 1: your patience. You always gonna have people that want somebody
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  Speaker 1: to bow down to them, but you ain't somebody I
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  Speaker 1: need to bow down too. There's always somebody that's gonna
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  Speaker 1: want you to do something that goes against everything that's right,
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  Speaker 1: to do something wrong.
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  Speaker 2: They always people always go on somebody to commit.
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  Speaker 1: A crime with them, so they don't go down by
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  Speaker 1: themselves and they have somebody else to blame.
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  Speaker 2: And that's how recovery works.
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  Speaker 1: When you look back at your situation, nine to nine
• 18:17
  Speaker 1: point nine nine percent of the things you did, you
• 18:19
  Speaker 1: didn't do because you wanted to. You did it because
• 18:21
  Speaker 1: you were obligated to during the time that you start
• 18:25
  Speaker 1: doing things on your own, when you start traveling, meeting
• 18:28
  Speaker 1: new people, so on and so forth. So you just
• 18:31
  Speaker 1: gotta be mindful of that. So it is what it is.
• 18:39
  Speaker 1: So a lot of people give up their dreams because
• 18:42
  Speaker 1: of their insecurities and their fears and of rejection and
• 18:46
  Speaker 1: their fears that it may or may not work out,
• 18:48
  Speaker 1: and they psyche themselves out.
• 18:49
  Speaker 2: Cause I'm the one that has done that.
• 18:52
  Speaker 1: So I learned now that you know, I gotta put
• 18:55
  Speaker 1: my phone down for a little while. I gotta get
• 18:57
  Speaker 1: down to business. I got to get out hand. I
• 19:00
  Speaker 1: had to get out here and get myself back to
• 19:03
  Speaker 1: where I need to be because as long as I'm
• 19:04
  Speaker 1: on social media, I ain't never gonna do nothing. I'll
• 19:08
  Speaker 1: be on social media strolling and then the next thing
• 19:10
  Speaker 1: I know is it's eleven or twelve o'clock at night.
• 19:13
  Speaker 1: We're on our phones all the time.
• 19:15
  Speaker 2: We don't never put them down. See, they never put
• 19:18
  Speaker 2: social media on phones.
• 19:20
  Speaker 1: We wouldn't even we would not be actually on our
• 19:23
  Speaker 1: phones like that, to be honest, but they did. So
• 19:27
  Speaker 1: now people can't even put their phones down when they're
• 19:29
  Speaker 1: in the car. They can't even put their phone down
• 19:31
  Speaker 1: when they driving. Now.
• 19:32
  Speaker 2: I understand having.
• 19:33
  Speaker 1: Google, cause Google is actually something that works, but to
• 19:37
  Speaker 1: have these other apps, I don't think they should be
• 19:38
  Speaker 1: on these phones because it's just too much. And the
• 19:41
  Speaker 1: fact that you can't even put your phone down enough
• 19:44
  Speaker 1: to work. But yet you can't even read a whole
• 19:46
  Speaker 1: entire book, But yet you can watch a video that
• 19:50
  Speaker 1: right there tells me something. They right, So, like I said,
• 19:53
  Speaker 1: if you're if you're in a relationship, and you're doing
• 19:57
  Speaker 1: it by yourself, then you might as well leave that
• 19:59
  Speaker 1: person where they're at. There's no point of being somebody
• 20:02
  Speaker 1: that's not helping you, that's not making your life better
• 20:05
  Speaker 1: in any way shape from a fashion. So no, but
• 20:13
  Speaker 1: like I said, it's always some always, but it's not
• 20:18
  Speaker 1: a question of how you fall, is a question of
• 20:20
  Speaker 1: how you rise.
• 20:22
  Speaker 2: So I won't people to understand. I get it.
• 20:25
  Speaker 1: Minding your own business and your self esteem is the
• 20:28
  Speaker 1: hardest thing to do, just like it's hard to.
• 20:31
  Speaker 2: Maintain being healthy. So let's use that for example. Health
• 20:35
  Speaker 2: and wellness.
• 20:36
  Speaker 1: For example, you have a lot of people that may
• 20:39
  Speaker 1: not look like they are not unhealthy, but they are
• 20:43
  Speaker 1: in other aspects.
• 20:45
  Speaker 2: So yeah, they may have muscles.
• 20:47
  Speaker 1: And they may look good, but that don't mean they
• 20:50
  Speaker 1: have you know, mental health issues, or they don't mean
• 20:53
  Speaker 1: they don't have, you know, issues as far as insecurities
• 20:56
  Speaker 1: as far as their looks. So, like I said, you
• 20:59
  Speaker 1: be a maze is how many people have addictions that
• 21:02
  Speaker 1: you know nothing about. Gambling, sex, addiction, They have addictions
• 21:08
  Speaker 1: to what other people think. There's a lot of different,
• 21:12
  Speaker 1: you know, addictions a lot of people don't even know
• 21:15
  Speaker 1: are addictions. People pleasing seat fillers, captain saber hos, that
• 21:21
  Speaker 1: type of thing.
• 21:22
  Speaker 2: So there are things out here that you will not.
• 21:26
  Speaker 1: Think are addictions, but they are. You have a lot
• 21:29
  Speaker 1: of people that have self esteem issues even though they
• 21:33
  Speaker 1: dropped dead gorgeous. You have people that went and got
• 21:35
  Speaker 1: plastic surgery. So the fact that you're sitting up here
• 21:39
  Speaker 1: thinking something's wrong with you because you are what you
• 21:43
  Speaker 1: are and you accept it, it doesn't mean the world
• 21:46
  Speaker 1: going to accept it just because you do. But the
• 21:49
  Speaker 1: whole world ain't supposed to Your people are your people,
• 21:54
  Speaker 1: and those are the people that God will bring to you,
• 21:57
  Speaker 1: and you ain't gotta go look it for them. They'll
• 21:59
  Speaker 1: they'll come to you or y'all will meet each other.
• 22:03
  Speaker 1: But in the end, the people that's meant to support you,
• 22:06
  Speaker 1: it's not when you get on social media and you
• 22:08
  Speaker 1: just yep yep, yep, yep, yep, yep, yep, yep, yep,
• 22:11
  Speaker 1: yep yep, yep, yep, yet yet yep. And you're like
• 22:13
  Speaker 1: meyami yamy'm y'm yammy, I'm y'm meyammy, i'm me, i'm
• 22:16
  Speaker 1: me a mayammy.
• 22:16
  Speaker 2: Now may i'my a maya, i'm ilm me. You know
• 22:18
  Speaker 2: what I'm saying. It's just like that. So, yeah, people coming.
• 22:23
  Speaker 1: To your channel and yeah they're there, and yeah they
• 22:27
  Speaker 1: support you, but when they come to buy something, they
• 22:31
  Speaker 1: ain't trying to support you. When it meta most a
• 22:34
  Speaker 1: lot of people, yeah they'll go on there and listen
• 22:36
  Speaker 1: to you talk as long as it's free. They'll sit
• 22:37
  Speaker 1: there and listen to you all their own, But when
• 22:40
  Speaker 1: they come to money be involved. It ain't happening. Seriously,
• 22:44
  Speaker 1: it ain't happening. So I'm not saying any of this
• 22:47
  Speaker 1: to be mean, but I am saying this because there's
• 22:50
  Speaker 1: times where we have to cut off and say, you
• 22:53
  Speaker 1: know what, let me cut off of the world for
• 22:54
  Speaker 1: a little while, let me read the Bible for a
• 22:57
  Speaker 1: little bit, let me go write a book, let me
• 22:59
  Speaker 1: focus on because that's what I'm getting ready to do
• 23:02
  Speaker 1: because I said to myself, you know what, don't get
• 23:05
  Speaker 1: me wrong, I love country Wayne.
• 23:07
  Speaker 2: I love doing the country Wayne Skits. But I got
• 23:10
  Speaker 2: a two books that I gotta write.
• 23:11
  Speaker 1: I got courses I gotta do, so I don't really
• 23:14
  Speaker 1: have time to sit up here, and beyond social media strolling,
• 23:19
  Speaker 1: it's too many other things I gotta do. I can
• 23:21
  Speaker 1: go downstairs and ride the bike my mama got downstairs,
• 23:24
  Speaker 1: but that thing makes my m I she I gottaet
• 23:26
  Speaker 1: a cover on it. But at the end of the day,
• 23:28
  Speaker 1: there's so many things that I can do. But what
• 23:33
  Speaker 1: matters is that I'm not just wasting my time.
• 23:36
  Speaker 2: And that's the thing. So in regardless of who it
• 23:39
  Speaker 2: is or what relationship it is, the last thing you need.
• 23:45
  Speaker 1: Is that.
• 23:49
  Speaker 2: So that's the old wonder of those So, like I said,
• 23:56
  Speaker 2: just like Beyonce, Beyonce made it know.
• 23:59
  Speaker 1: She said I used to be people please boy. When
• 24:01
  Speaker 1: she said that, they hit home from me, and I
• 24:03
  Speaker 1: believe it. I believe Beyonce used to be a people
• 24:06
  Speaker 1: pleaser because she was in the industry since she was fifteen.
• 24:11
  Speaker 1: So the fact that she had to do what everybody
• 24:14
  Speaker 1: told her to do. It's just like when she talked
• 24:16
  Speaker 1: about LaTavia and LaToya, she never wanted them to read
• 24:21
  Speaker 1: to leave the group.
• 24:22
  Speaker 2: Matthew made that decision. I'm glad they made up.
• 24:25
  Speaker 1: I'm glad that they were all together. But you know what,
• 24:28
  Speaker 1: everybody pissed off because beyoncey brought Molly Cyrus and jay
• 24:32
  Speaker 1: Z performed in Paris. My whole thing is that girl
• 24:36
  Speaker 1: can do what she wanted. She got the right and
• 24:40
  Speaker 1: the reason why because over in Paris they're buying Sacred,
• 24:43
  Speaker 1: they're buying her house and Derrion, they're buying her her
• 24:46
  Speaker 1: Blue Ivy, so they're buying her Dida stuff.
• 24:50
  Speaker 2: So that's what I'm saying. She only going where people.
• 24:53
  Speaker 1: Actually buy her stuff because eventually Beyonce is retiring and
• 24:57
  Speaker 1: a lot of people don't notice retirement. After this last hour,
• 25:00
  Speaker 1: she's retiring and when she do, she is stepping down.
• 25:05
  Speaker 1: Now every once in a while she might tour, but
• 25:07
  Speaker 1: she gonna tour up into them kids, you know, go
• 25:11
  Speaker 1: back to school and then she takes her time off.
• 25:15
  Speaker 1: So that's why she trying to get through all of
• 25:17
  Speaker 1: these all of the United States dates before they go
• 25:21
  Speaker 1: back to school. And I don't blame 'em, And that's
• 25:24
  Speaker 1: why she's switching to Sacred and stuff like that.
• 25:26
  Speaker 2: But the problem is Beyonce waited too late.
• 25:29
  Speaker 1: Beyond say she would have did it when she was
• 25:30
  Speaker 1: twenty one with her career, when she became a solo artist,
• 25:34
  Speaker 1: that's when she should have done it. When she should
• 25:37
  Speaker 1: have done Sacred and she should have done House of Derryon.
• 25:39
  Speaker 1: When she did House derry On, it still would have
• 25:42
  Speaker 1: did it well. If she would have had a designer
• 25:44
  Speaker 1: to design. Beyonce could have a found a fashion house
• 25:47
  Speaker 1: if she wanted to. She just didn't do it, and
• 25:50
  Speaker 1: now that she sees Rihanna doing it now she wants
• 25:53
  Speaker 1: to do it. The problem is she waited too late.
• 25:57
  Speaker 1: Rihanna took that time, and I don't blame her. Say,
• 26:00
  Speaker 1: you know what, I'm taking a break from the music industry.
• 26:03
  Speaker 1: I'm stressed out, I'm tired. Everybody keep throwing it on
• 26:06
  Speaker 1: Facebook with Chris Brown and what happened with us.
• 26:08
  Speaker 2: I can't do it.
• 26:09
  Speaker 1: I don't blame at all. So again, when you mind
• 26:13
  Speaker 1: the business that pays you, that's exactly what you do.
• 26:16
  Speaker 1: Mind the business that pays you. When you get away
• 26:21
  Speaker 1: from the world and go into silence and nobody knows
• 26:25
  Speaker 1: where you are and what you're doing, but you let
• 26:27
  Speaker 1: you know.
• 26:28
  Speaker 2: I'm still breathing.
• 26:30
  Speaker 1: But imagine how much stuff you can get accomplished if
• 26:33
  Speaker 1: you just put your phone now, Imagine how much stuff
• 26:36
  Speaker 1: you can actually do if you just say, you know what,
• 26:38
  Speaker 1: I'm taking a break from all this nonsense, cause that's
• 26:42
  Speaker 1: exactly what I'm doing right now, taking a break.
• 26:46
  Speaker 2: Because don't hit me wrong.
• 26:47
  Speaker 1: We're oversaturating our brains with too much information, way way
• 26:53
  Speaker 1: too much information, and.
• 26:55
  Speaker 2: A lot of people can't handle it.
• 26:57
  Speaker 1: And then when your eyes start hurting because you went
• 27:00
  Speaker 1: from being on a computer for eight hours to now
• 27:04
  Speaker 1: being on your phone, to now being on your television
• 27:08
  Speaker 1: or your laptop, that's a lot. Give yourself time to break.
• 27:15
  Speaker 1: And for those of y'all who.
• 27:16
  Speaker 2: Don't, I want you to look.
• 27:24
  Speaker 1: So all I'm saying that y'all is it's okay to
• 27:28
  Speaker 1: be pulled from the world. It's okay to turn off
• 27:31
  Speaker 1: your phone. It's okay to be by yourself for a while.
• 27:34
  Speaker 1: It's okay not to be chosen, because, like I said,
• 27:38
  Speaker 1: just because you're chosen does not mean things are gonna
• 27:41
  Speaker 1: be better for you. There are a lot of people
• 27:43
  Speaker 1: that are chosen and they still don't want you there.
• 27:46
  Speaker 1: And that's the part we don't talk about. To be
• 27:49
  Speaker 1: chosen and they still don't want you there. So even
• 27:54
  Speaker 1: though you're allowed, and even though you're chosen, it doesn't
• 27:58
  Speaker 1: mean these people are persons really want you there, or
• 28:02
  Speaker 1: if they do, it comes with an agenda. So, like
• 28:05
  Speaker 1: I said, you know, I get it, I completely and
• 28:10
  Speaker 1: utterly understand, but you have to understand rejection can also
• 28:16
  Speaker 1: be a good thing. Rejection means you ain't meant to
• 28:20
  Speaker 1: be there, and it's okay that you're not. But what
• 28:22
  Speaker 1: you're told is even if somebody tells you no, to
• 28:25
  Speaker 1: keep going and keep doing it, no, it just means
• 28:28
  Speaker 1: you're not meant to do it there. Sometimes it might
• 28:31
  Speaker 1: be meant for you to create something that is of
• 28:33
  Speaker 1: your own. Sometimes you may have to go and do
• 28:36
  Speaker 1: something where you may have to make less money, but
• 28:39
  Speaker 1: guess what you're achieves on. So at the end of
• 28:43
  Speaker 1: the day, it's not always good to be with the
• 28:45
  Speaker 1: best of the best because people gonna overlook you, cause
• 28:48
  Speaker 1: everybody's the best of the best. But if you're somebody
• 28:51
  Speaker 1: that can build a bunch of people and make something
• 28:53
  Speaker 1: of your own, and also build a bunch of people
• 28:56
  Speaker 1: and help them to be the best vision themselves, that's there.
• 29:00
  Speaker 2: It's accomplishment. And that shows leadership.
• 29:03
  Speaker 1: So I get it, and I even understand the fact
• 29:05
  Speaker 1: that for some of y'all you may think that it's
• 29:09
  Speaker 1: good to be in other people's business.
• 29:11
  Speaker 2: No, you need to mind the business that pays you.
• 29:14
  Speaker 1: As far as your self esteem, self worth, self respect,
• 29:17
  Speaker 1: stop worrying about what other people think. If you love
• 29:20
  Speaker 1: yourself and you value yourself, and you have confidence and
• 29:22
  Speaker 1: you believe in yourself even when nobody else does, it
• 29:25
  Speaker 1: don't matter what nobody else says. Even if the world
• 29:28
  Speaker 1: don't like you, you don't care because at the end
• 29:30
  Speaker 1: of the day, you ain't trying to please the world.
• 29:32
  Speaker 1: You're trying to please the few, and that is what
• 29:36
  Speaker 1: matters more than anything in the world. So I just
• 29:38
  Speaker 1: wanted to come on here and just do a short
• 29:40
  Speaker 1: podcast today and just tell you it's okay to mind
• 29:45
  Speaker 1: your business and demand respect because instead of wanting to
• 29:51
  Speaker 1: be loved, you wanna be respect because when you get respect,
• 29:54
  Speaker 1: you get all of that anyway. So with that being said,
• 29:56
  Speaker 1: thank Gods for joining me for this episode. I'm your host,
• 29:59
  Speaker 1: Guy is Asha Maria. I appreciate y'all, I love y'all,
• 30:03
  Speaker 1: and I'll see y'all later. By y'all