Ep. 354. When Your Boundary Changes the Relationship: Grieving the Role You Used to Play

The Healing You Method with Gloria Lybecker · Oct 14, 2026 · 39m

A boundary doesn't only change what you will or won't do. It can change the role you have been playing in the relationship, and the grief that follows is often hard to name, especially when no one has left.

In this episode, Gloria Lybecker and Gail Donohue explore what can happen after a boundary holds: the role of the one who always says yes, keeps the peace, or never seems to need anything, and why a relationship organized around that pattern may not know how to reorganize around the person you are becoming. They talk about how a boundary can feel sudden to the other person when it has been…