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The one word we can't say on-air....but wish we could! · Scotty and Abby UNFILTERED

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  Speaker 1: Tampa Bay's best music is Maggic nine. It's Magic ninety
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  Speaker 1: four nine, no filter. I don't know. I'm working on
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  Speaker 1: the things with this.
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  Speaker 2: It's probably gonna change, but it's Scottie and Abby Hello.
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  Speaker 2: And what we're doing is just talking a little bit
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  Speaker 2: more in depth on maybe some of the things that
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  Speaker 2: we cover in the show or on social media, to
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  Speaker 2: give you a little bit more context. Because what's special
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  Speaker 2: about this platform is that we could talk about things
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  Speaker 2: that maybe right now can't be talked about on air.
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  Speaker 2: And there's definitely some subjects in general that will never
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  Speaker 2: be able to be talked on air, just with the
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  Speaker 2: nature of radio.
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  Speaker 3: Chapel rounds nipples exactly. Like the first note I got
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  Speaker 3: from Scotty, like, my first hey, don't say that on
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  Speaker 3: air was yet you said nipples four times.
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  Speaker 1: We're flagged.
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  Speaker 3: We're gonna need to pull back, and I'm like, it's
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  Speaker 3: just anatomy. It's like seeing elbow or wenus you part
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  Speaker 3: of your anatomy, I know.
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  Speaker 2: And that's the weird part about radio, because when we're
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  Speaker 2: doing the actual show live, there are certain things that
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  Speaker 2: you want to make sure you don't say to shock
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  Speaker 2: the listener, and on Magic ninety four nine. I always
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  Speaker 2: think of, Okay, if somebody's in the car with their
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  Speaker 2: kids and they're going to school, how could I say
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  Speaker 2: something that the parents understand? But for the kids, they
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  Speaker 2: just it goes right over their head. They're just happy
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  Speaker 2: to hear us on the radio.
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  Speaker 3: So we used to do that too. We would relate
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  Speaker 3: intimacy with playing piano and so, like, I'm good at
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  Speaker 3: innu windows. But I was legitimately thinking, like, I don't
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  Speaker 3: know that I have a good replacement word for nipple.
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  Speaker 3: Do you know what I mean? Like, if you were
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  Speaker 3: going to come up with a replacement word for nipple,
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  Speaker 3: what is appropriate?
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  Speaker 1: There's not one? I know.
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  Speaker 3: I think I said chest today, I'm like she had
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  Speaker 3: her chest pierced, and.
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  Speaker 2: I think that kind of gives enough context where you're like, Okay,
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  Speaker 2: I get what you're saying. Which that's how I would
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  Speaker 2: probably approach it on the air. I don't think it's
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  Speaker 2: something that always needs to be like that. But I
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  Speaker 2: definitely have said things on this station that I have
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  Speaker 2: had pushback from and I'm like, oh, I didn't know,
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  Speaker 2: because before I was on Magic ninety four nine, I
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  Speaker 2: was on a like a top forty station, and you
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  Speaker 2: could say more because it's not as shocking. It's almost expected.
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  Speaker 2: And wasn't that what like the show you were on
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  Speaker 2: before this?
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, but there were things that, like I forgot about
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  Speaker 3: radio rules because there's certain words you're actually not allowed
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  Speaker 3: to say on this yes, and you're just supposed to
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  Speaker 3: know them, but nobody gives you a list, Like if
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  Speaker 3: you google the list words you're not allowed to say
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  Speaker 3: on the radio, there's not a list, so you kind
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  Speaker 3: of have to find out the hard way. And so
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  Speaker 3: I remember there was one week where I said, how
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  Speaker 3: on filter can we be on here?
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  Speaker 4: Can I be unfiltered?
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, go ahead, we'll find out. This is literally like
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  Speaker 2: unwrapping a new present. We are discovering the gift together.
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  Speaker 2: And so anything that happens here, if all of a sudden,
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  Speaker 2: it just cuts out that when we got told it
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  Speaker 2: was not allowed.
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  Speaker 3: So I'm going to say a word so on. There
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  Speaker 3: was like one week where I just kept saying the
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  Speaker 3: word dick over and over again.
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  Speaker 1: Oh my god.
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  Speaker 3: But I wasn't in what context. I wasn't using it
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  Speaker 3: in the context of like somebody's peepe I was saying, like,
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  Speaker 3: oh I he was being such a dick and they
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  Speaker 3: were like, Abby, you can't say that.
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  Speaker 1: And I'm like, You're like, why not I say that
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  Speaker 1: with my friends?
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  Speaker 3: I was like, where's the list? Someone show me the list.
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  Speaker 3: And then there's some convoluted rules like you're allowed to
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  Speaker 3: say ass but you can't say asshole. Yes, so we
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  Speaker 3: would always have to say a whole or ask whole
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  Speaker 3: that one's pushing it, that one really is pushing it.
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  Speaker 2: I would not be putting that one out there because
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  Speaker 2: I know I would get in trouble because somebody, here's
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  Speaker 2: what I don't want to do. I would never want
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  Speaker 2: to like have a DM that's like somebody's like, I, well,
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  Speaker 2: I've had it before, but it's like I can't believe
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  Speaker 2: you said that. We were listening and you put this
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  Speaker 2: out there, and I'm like, I've had to explain back
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  Speaker 2: in the day, like look, that is not what I meant.
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  Speaker 2: This is actually what you heard. Because sometimes people are
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  Speaker 2: listening very often I do this too of them in
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  Speaker 2: the car, like this kind of secondhand listening. You're looking
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  Speaker 2: at a tree or a bird or talking to your
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  Speaker 2: kids in the back and you hear something on the radio.
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  Speaker 2: But sometimes you don't hear exactly what they say. But
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  Speaker 2: I've had people like think they knew what I said,
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  Speaker 2: and they're.
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  Speaker 1: Like, I can't believe you. And I'm like, what what
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  Speaker 1: did I do?
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  Speaker 3: And they're like, you said that.
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  Speaker 2: I have to pull the audio and i'll send it
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  Speaker 2: to him. I really didn't say that, and they're like,
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  Speaker 2: I've did that, you weren't. It's okay, you didn't hear
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  Speaker 2: it properly, but also I'm sorry.
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  Speaker 3: Agree to disagree.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, it's like, I know that got close to it.
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  Speaker 2: I think the only time I've ever gotten believed. So
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  Speaker 2: every now and then there's a radio station, there's a
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  Speaker 2: dump button in the station. We actually don't want to
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  Speaker 2: have one here yet in Magic ninety four nine, but
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  Speaker 2: in the old station I worked on, we had a
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  Speaker 2: dump button.
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  Speaker 1: That's like, if the radio.
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  Speaker 2: Station is like fifteen seconds ahead from what you're hearing
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  Speaker 2: in your car, and just in case anybody gets on
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  Speaker 2: the phone and they say something inappropriate, you could dump it.
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  Speaker 2: It'll just delete the last fifteen seconds. And when I
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  Speaker 2: was a producer, I didn't know. I was just you know,
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  Speaker 2: we were vibing. It was hot, and I said, oh
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  Speaker 2: my gosh, and again parent warning, it's not even that bad.
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  Speaker 2: But I said, ah, I'm sweating on my titties.
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  Speaker 3: Oh, I forgot. You can't say titties either.
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  Speaker 1: I didn't know. I just I hadn't.
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  Speaker 2: I was just in the in the conversation, it was
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  Speaker 2: just so free flowing.
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  Speaker 3: But again, there's no list. There is no list, and
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  Speaker 3: titties object like, titties is one of my favorite words.
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  Speaker 3: I used to say this all the time, Like when
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  Speaker 3: my boss retired, I was like, please, like, before we
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  Speaker 3: go out the air.
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  Speaker 4: Can I please say titties on air?
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  Speaker 3: It's such a fun word. But there's no list that
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  Speaker 3: says you can't say titties.
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  Speaker 2: And that's why I was so confused. I felt so embarrassed.
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  Speaker 2: But also I was so confused because I was like,
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  Speaker 2: what's wrong with that? And it was just one of
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  Speaker 2: those things of you wouldn't want to say it in
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  Speaker 2: front of a family because now, who knows, the kid
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  Speaker 2: might be repeating it in the classroom. And I felt
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  Speaker 2: so dumb. But I was like, dang, I didn't know that.
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  Speaker 2: I knew, of course, cuss words, but titties.
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  Speaker 3: Titties is like it's so inoffensive and it's so fine,
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  Speaker 3: and isn't it like a northern thing.
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  Speaker 1: Don't you say, like this is tits? Is that a thing?
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  Speaker 2: No?
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  Speaker 3: I thought that was like a British thing, like you're
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  Speaker 3: the tits.
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  Speaker 1: Oh, I thought it was just up in like Boston.
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  Speaker 1: They're like, ah, this is tits.
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  Speaker 3: Who has said that ever?
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  Speaker 1: I think I've seen it on the movie.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, sure, I saw that movie too.
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  Speaker 2: Okay, well, those are the things I've obviously gotten in
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  Speaker 2: trouble for.
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  Speaker 3: I loved Goodwill Hunting.
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  Speaker 1: Okay.
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  Speaker 3: When Ben Affleck says that it really makes.
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  Speaker 2: That scene, it really does. He really gets really deep
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  Speaker 2: when he says, this is the tits. I love the
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  Speaker 2: scene really bring home that poetry with the tits.
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  Speaker 3: And then and when Matt Damon goes, yeah, not only
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  Speaker 3: is this the tits, this is titty delicious.
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  Speaker 2: I'm gonna be so curious if we're able to actually
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  Speaker 2: put this episode out.
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  Speaker 1: This is a whole new experiment.
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  Speaker 2: But but the whole point of this is to start to
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  Speaker 2: get to know whether you have followed along because you
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  Speaker 2: followed Abby's story for this long and you're just like,
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  Speaker 2: I cannot wait to see everything she does here in
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  Speaker 2: Tampa Bay, or maybe you followed me and you're like
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  Speaker 2: oh wait.
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  Speaker 1: This is a whole new evolution of a.
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  Speaker 2: Show that is so exciting because we've gotten to now
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  Speaker 2: step into the new world of what The Morning Show
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  Speaker 2: and Magic ninety four nine will be like. And so
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  Speaker 2: to pull the curtain back yesterday, we got to do
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  Speaker 2: a lot of cool things like checking out the different
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  Speaker 2: areas in Tampa Bay. We're doing a little pro movid
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  Speaker 2: that at this point you've probably already seen up on
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  Speaker 2: Instagram or Facebook or TikTok. So we went and checked
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  Speaker 2: out the Flamingo, which you said, you've never seen Phoebe
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  Speaker 2: before that moment at TPA.
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  Speaker 1: Is that correct?
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  Speaker 4: I have never seen Phoebe in the flesh.
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  Speaker 2: Now what are your first impressions, Because I'll be honest,
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  Speaker 2: but Phoebe is an icon in this Tampa Bay community,
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  Speaker 2: and it was very controversial when they put up that
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  Speaker 2: Flamingo because everyone had a vote on the name, and
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  Speaker 2: so there's a lot of people that still don't even
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  Speaker 2: accept the name Phoebe. They think it should have been
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  Speaker 2: named Kevin, like Kevin that was just one of the
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  Speaker 2: names that people put it in there, like this would
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  Speaker 2: be perfect a Kevin, But Phoebe took off and so
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  Speaker 2: What were your impressions about the first time seeing Was
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  Speaker 2: it overwhelming? Was it underwhelming? Did it not make sense?
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  Speaker 4: Well? Truly, her presence brought me to my knees.
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  Speaker 1: I was beautiful.
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  Speaker 3: I walked in and I said, this, this is her,
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  Speaker 3: this is home. You know when you see those videos
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  Speaker 3: of dizzy adults and they stay the castle for the
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  Speaker 3: first time and they're like, oh my god, that's it.
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  Speaker 3: That's how I felt.
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  Speaker 4: I was like, oh my god, phoebe there she is.
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  Speaker 4: We do need to work on her skincare regime.
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  Speaker 1: What's wrong with her skin?
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  Speaker 3: Little bumpy, she's a flamingo.
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  Speaker 4: Well, you know, she needs a little bit of retinal.
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  Speaker 2: Little face cream, a little night cream. I have this
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  Speaker 2: like I think it's a dark spot corrector in my car.
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  Speaker 3: She needs a couple of those.
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  Speaker 2: I got that from a woman at CVS, though, and
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  Speaker 2: I think it was is that like a now that
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  Speaker 2: I'm thinking about, is that a diss What she gave me,
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  Speaker 2: She like literally gave.
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  Speaker 1: Me a sample.
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  Speaker 2: I had to go in there and get like, Okay,
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  Speaker 2: first off, I do the show on Fox thirteen called
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  Speaker 2: Florida for Real, and so it's like we're filming it
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  Speaker 2: in the TV studio and the lights are very bright,
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  Speaker 2: so my natural shine really shines. Boys got some oily skin. Yeah,
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  Speaker 2: And so they're like, you need to go pick up
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  Speaker 2: like a little powder. I have no idea where you
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  Speaker 2: get powder. I don't know how makeup works. But I
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  Speaker 2: go in and I start talking to this sweet woman
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  Speaker 2: who's like telling me all the different ones I could get,
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  Speaker 2: and then we're just chit chat and she's like, and
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  Speaker 2: by the way.
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  Speaker 1: Here's this and it's a dark spot corrector. And now
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  Speaker 1: that I'm thinking.
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  Speaker 2: About it, is that a diss Is she looking out
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  Speaker 2: or what she's seeing something in me that I didn't
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  Speaker 2: see in myself.
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  Speaker 3: She might just be she might have samples that she's
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  Speaker 3: just been giving out all week. Like it's a thing
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  Speaker 3: like land Com or whatever, dropped it off at Sephora
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  Speaker 3: and to treat you. They're giving it out so that
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  Speaker 3: you try it and want to buy it.
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  Speaker 2: So I shouldn't get offunded by have dark spot. What
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  Speaker 2: I don't even understand what the dark spot is is
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  Speaker 2: like a freckle.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, maybe she saw your aura and she's like, this
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  Speaker 3: guy needs a little more energy.
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  Speaker 1: This guy definitely needs a little more dark spots. In
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  Speaker 1: his life.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, let's correct the darkness happening in his life. Let's
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  Speaker 3: get rid of it.
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  Speaker 2: Well, I guess that's what I need to bring now
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  Speaker 2: to Phoebe. But you were okay, was it everything you've
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  Speaker 2: ever imagined when you saw that flamingo?
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  Speaker 3: Everything and more? Actually, she does, like I said, need
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  Speaker 3: need a skincare.
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  Speaker 4: But she was there and.
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  Speaker 3: People, I mean, she's like a celebrity that people were
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  Speaker 3: crowding around her. I thought they were there to see me.
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  Speaker 3: They're like taking out their phone.
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  Speaker 1: It's like, oh my god, Abby's in town. I know
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  Speaker 1: she had this reveal. What were some of them when
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  Speaker 1: you saw her?
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  Speaker 2: Obviously that's like now you're gonna have to when you
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  Speaker 2: go to the airport. Every time you go. You're supposed
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  Speaker 2: to say hello, you're supposed to wave, you're supposed to
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  Speaker 2: take a picture. It's a moment. But the reason we
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  Speaker 2: were there is because we started to do these little
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  Speaker 2: like you've done a beautiful job of like teasing, and
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  Speaker 2: especially if you've been watching Abby's Instagram of how she
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  Speaker 2: has teased where she's going, what she's doing in this
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  Speaker 2: next chapter of this career. What have been some of
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  Speaker 2: the reactions to the pictures, like could you tell us, like,
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  Speaker 2: what are some of the things that you put up
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  Speaker 2: as the teas?
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  Speaker 1: What was the thought process and the tees?
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  Speaker 2: Did anybody understand it? Were people confuse? Like what has
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  Speaker 2: the reaction been?
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  Speaker 3: Yeah? So I started out putting emojis in the thought
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  Speaker 3: the thought bubble on my Instagram, thinking, oh, only people
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  Speaker 3: that go to my bio or are really.
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  Speaker 4: Not obsessive is the wrong word.
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  Speaker 3: But like really dedicated and interested followers interesting intrigued only, yes,
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  Speaker 3: only if the people who are truly intrigued are going
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  Speaker 3: to see this. And then when I first started putting
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  Speaker 3: them up, a lot of people started noticing them. And
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  Speaker 3: the first one I put up was like a Sunshine,
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  Speaker 3: which I thought, like, mke go unnoticed because it was
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  Speaker 3: like sunny and at.
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  Speaker 4: Lanta that day.
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  Speaker 1: It's just a sunshine day.
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  Speaker 3: And then I did a Flamingo, and then I think
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  Speaker 3: some people started to catch on because I always saw
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  Speaker 3: the sun, so you must be moving to Florida or something.
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  Speaker 3: And then I started doing songs that had some kind
• 10:54
  Speaker 3: of overarching theme of Tampa, whether the artist is from Tampa.
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  Speaker 3: Maybe the song foods to Florida in some way I
• 11:02
  Speaker 3: was just I was just like, I want to do
• 11:04
  Speaker 3: things that if you're keeping track, if you're keeping score
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  Speaker 3: at home, you're gonna get it.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah.
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  Speaker 3: But if you're just randomly seeing me put a Doughci
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  Speaker 3: song out, you're not gonna be like, oh yeah, Abby's
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  Speaker 3: referencing Tampa.
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  Speaker 2: But it's so genius though, because if you start to
• 11:16
  Speaker 2: follow the puzzle pieces, it's like, I don't know if
• 11:18
  Speaker 2: anybody's sitting at home like writing notes of like, oh,
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  Speaker 2: today's she put a sunshine, then yesterday put Doci that
• 11:25
  Speaker 2: must have been Docy's from Tampa, Like Barry, I talk
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  Speaker 2: to friends all the time and they're like, I'll tell them, oh, yeah,
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  Speaker 2: Dochi's right to hear from our backyard Tampa Bay And
• 11:34
  Speaker 2: they're like, who I'm like Doci. They're like, oh yeah,
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  Speaker 2: no Doci. I'm like, yeah, she's from Tampa. So like
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  Speaker 2: people are just we're so in the now that for
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  Speaker 2: like the general public, they're like, I had no idea.
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  Speaker 3: That's what I mean is I think if you actually
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  Speaker 3: care that it's sort of like me telling you ahead
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  Speaker 3: of time. Like if you're somebody who's actually keeping track
• 11:51
  Speaker 3: and you want to listen to our show once I
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  Speaker 3: get here, you're gonna figure it out, and so you're
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  Speaker 3: gonna get get blessed with that information. Whereas if you're
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  Speaker 3: just like a casual follower, you're gonna see the up
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  Speaker 3: close of Phoebe's eye and go, what the hell is that?
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  Speaker 2: Like, what is wrong with her instant story? Is she
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  Speaker 2: messing up? Did shed drop her phone and accidentally take
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  Speaker 2: a picture? Because that's kind of what it looked like.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, but I waited to do that kind of thing
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  Speaker 3: towards the end where people were really paying attention of
• 12:14
  Speaker 3: where I am at, because if I had done it
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  Speaker 3: three weeks ago, people would have thought it was a mistake.
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  Speaker 3: Whereas they know I'm here, they know an announcement's coming
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  Speaker 3: Thursday or you know whenever this is, the announcement is
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  Speaker 3: coming Thursday as specified. Yes, so they're paying more attention,
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  Speaker 3: and so the I from Phoebe didn't make a lot
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  Speaker 3: of sense to people. And then finally I posted an
• 12:33
  Speaker 3: up close of Phoebe's bumpy as skin, and there were
• 12:38
  Speaker 3: some people that know who Phoebe is, say in Tampa,
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  Speaker 3: and so that was kind of my way of telling
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  Speaker 3: people who live in Tampa, Hey, get ready, you're about to.
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  Speaker 4: Get a new morning show.
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  Speaker 1: That's exactly right.
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  Speaker 4: But if you're not in Tampa, you have no idea.
• 12:50
  Speaker 1: It's very confusing, very confusing, like what's this pink foot? Yeah,
• 12:53
  Speaker 1: it doesn't make any sense exactly.
• 12:54
  Speaker 3: But then if you're really again invested, I'm sure somebody
• 12:57
  Speaker 3: posted it on Reddit or we have a Facebook page
• 12:59
  Speaker 3: from the former show I was on. And so again,
• 13:01
  Speaker 3: if you're really invested, someone's going to go that's in Tampa.
• 13:04
  Speaker 3: And then it's kind of like me telling you ahead
• 13:05
  Speaker 3: of time. Yeah, but you still don't know yet until
• 13:08
  Speaker 3: I announce, but you'll you'll want to know if you're
• 13:10
  Speaker 3: getting confirmed on Thursday.
• 13:12
  Speaker 2: Now, do you have more fun teasing or are you
• 13:13
  Speaker 2: gonna be excited to just finally announce it?
• 13:15
  Speaker 3: I was would say like, I'm kind of having a
• 13:16
  Speaker 3: lot of fun teasing, but I do think I've sort
• 13:18
  Speaker 3: of exhausted people's patients. Yeah, I'm such a people pleaser
• 13:21
  Speaker 3: that every time I post an eastrike, I feel kind
• 13:24
  Speaker 3: of bad about it.
• 13:25
  Speaker 2: Yeah, It's like there's a delicate balance between when do
• 13:28
  Speaker 2: you start the teas and how long do you carry
• 13:30
  Speaker 2: someone through because in this day of age, our attention
• 13:33
  Speaker 2: span is horrible. Like if there's a show, Oh, this
• 13:37
  Speaker 2: happens so many times where you love a good show
• 13:39
  Speaker 2: on Netflix and then they're like, all right, new season
• 13:41
  Speaker 2: coming out three years from now.
• 13:44
  Speaker 1: That's it.
• 13:45
  Speaker 2: That's why I didn't watch the new avatars. I loved
• 13:47
  Speaker 2: the first one, and then they took what eleven years
• 13:51
  Speaker 2: to come out with a new one. I was like,
• 13:52
  Speaker 2: all right, I'm good, I've moved on. How long has it?
• 13:55
  Speaker 1: When did you starting this? It's been two weeks a week.
• 13:57
  Speaker 1: What has it been.
• 13:57
  Speaker 3: I think I started teasing when I signed my paperwork,
• 14:00
  Speaker 3: which would have been maybe three three weeks ago.
• 14:02
  Speaker 1: Oh nice, okay, so just like subtle.
• 14:03
  Speaker 3: Things, yeah, subtle things. I started with the emojis. I
• 14:06
  Speaker 3: started with like a sunshine again, a palm tree. I
• 14:09
  Speaker 3: think I did a dolphin at one point. It was
• 14:11
  Speaker 3: really aggressively obvious when I think I put a pirate flag.
• 14:14
  Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, I don't know how many other places in
• 14:17
  Speaker 2: the country just represent a pirate flag in the random
• 14:20
  Speaker 2: January month, maybe like the Raiders.
• 14:22
  Speaker 3: Maybe are they still in Vegas like people throughout Vegas?
• 14:27
  Speaker 2: So a bad guess what I okay, if we were
• 14:30
  Speaker 2: to look at like a percentage, how many people, you
• 14:32
  Speaker 2: think have guessed it properly that you're coming to Sampa Bay.
• 14:34
  Speaker 3: Not a lot. Actually the top runner is Nashville right now,
• 14:38
  Speaker 3: because I posted about Taylor Swift, and so I think
• 14:39
  Speaker 3: people saw that one photo instead of Doughchi, Aaron Carter,
• 14:44
  Speaker 3: Tom Cruise, like all these things I piece up. Other
• 14:46
  Speaker 3: people they saw they saw the one Tailor Swift thing,
• 14:48
  Speaker 3: and they're like, Nashville, that's it.
• 14:50
  Speaker 1: Well, you also did put up a picture of your boots.
• 14:52
  Speaker 3: Yes, did I post my boots?
• 14:53
  Speaker 2: Oh?
• 14:54
  Speaker 3: Yeah, my boots, So they thought like, oh country. The
• 15:00
  Speaker 3: The other thing that got a lot of traction was
• 15:01
  Speaker 3: I did an up close photo of the Magic ninety
• 15:03
  Speaker 3: four to nine logoaking yellow, but people thought it was
• 15:06
  Speaker 3: maroon and yellow. Yes, So then a lot of people
• 15:08
  Speaker 3: started throwing out the Commanders or New Mexico or Arizona
• 15:13
  Speaker 3: things that have those colors in the flag. I'm like,
• 15:15
  Speaker 3: it's not a flag, it's not bad, it's the logo.
• 15:19
  Speaker 2: But I do give people credit for a lot of
• 15:20
  Speaker 2: their creative guesses. Especially what's interesting is because when we
• 15:24
  Speaker 2: were talking about it, all the different places that people
• 15:26
  Speaker 2: put out there, I'm like, that's fascinating that you would
• 15:29
  Speaker 2: put either this together that I'm going to Vegas or
• 15:32
  Speaker 2: this means that I'm going to Nashville, or this means
• 15:33
  Speaker 2: I'm moving out of the country. Then somebody had that
• 15:36
  Speaker 2: you were going out of the Country's a right.
• 15:38
  Speaker 3: A couple people said Spain because I think they thought
• 15:40
  Speaker 3: it was an up close of the Spain.
• 15:42
  Speaker 1: Flag that would be amazing.
• 15:43
  Speaker 3: But that's how I know. Like, it's interesting because some
• 15:47
  Speaker 3: people are really invested, like some people like, where's your
• 15:49
  Speaker 3: substack this week? And then other people are casual followers
• 15:51
  Speaker 3: to where they didn't see me post a couple of
• 15:54
  Speaker 3: days ago that I was driving ten hours. So a
• 15:56
  Speaker 3: lot of people have been trying to do the math.
• 15:57
  Speaker 3: They're like, Okay, she said she was driving ten ho
• 16:00
  Speaker 3: so what's ten hours from Atlanta?
• 16:01
  Speaker 1: Ten hours? You took a bad route?
• 16:04
  Speaker 3: Well, I was gonna The thing is, I said that
• 16:06
  Speaker 3: I was gonna stop in Jacksonville. Oh no, So Jacksonville
• 16:11
  Speaker 3: would have been like seven hours, and then Jacksonville Tampa
• 16:14
  Speaker 3: would have been like three ish hours. So I said
• 16:16
  Speaker 3: ten plus hours. I'm like, it could have been anywhere
• 16:17
  Speaker 3: between ten and one hundred hours.
• 16:18
  Speaker 1: That's true.
• 16:19
  Speaker 2: I mean the range is there I'm trying to think,
• 16:21
  Speaker 2: where would you go ten hours from Atlanta?
• 16:22
  Speaker 1: Would that be Nashville? That makes sense?
• 16:24
  Speaker 3: No, it was Chicago. Oh my gosh, Chicago's ten hours,
• 16:27
  Speaker 3: But not a lot of people are saying Chicago.
• 16:29
  Speaker 2: That actually seems Why does it seem so much Further,
• 16:32
  Speaker 2: I thought, yeah, like, if I have picture of map
• 16:34
  Speaker 2: am I Atlanta, Chicago is it? I guess because Atlanta
• 16:37
  Speaker 2: is actually way up into Georgia. It really is pretty
• 16:39
  Speaker 2: much outside of it at that point.
• 16:40
  Speaker 3: I know in Nashville's four hours. So I'm surprised that
• 16:43
  Speaker 3: Nashville's getting as many guesses as it is right now
• 16:47
  Speaker 3: before it's been announced, because I'm like, Nashville is really
• 16:49
  Speaker 3: close to Atlanta, and I wouldn't have said ten hours
• 16:51
  Speaker 3: if it was Nashville. And then the other ones that
• 16:53
  Speaker 3: I'm getting a lot of recently are Dallas. Yeah yehaws right,
• 16:58
  Speaker 3: And I'm surprised because Dallas it wasn't a city that
• 17:00
  Speaker 3: I interviewed with, and the ones that the cities that
• 17:05
  Speaker 3: I actually interviewed with, like, they're the ones getting guessed
• 17:07
  Speaker 3: the least interesting.
• 17:08
  Speaker 1: Did you tell people where you're interviewing?
• 17:10
  Speaker 3: No, But I thought I was kind of obvious. I
• 17:12
  Speaker 3: thought people were gonna catch on really really quickly, because
• 17:14
  Speaker 3: right after the show ended, I flew to Tampa, uh
• 17:18
  Speaker 3: and then I flew to New York in Austin in December,
• 17:22
  Speaker 3: and so I thought people really were going to like
• 17:24
  Speaker 3: catch on that, like, those were the three cities I
• 17:26
  Speaker 3: was interviewing with, and nobody those are like the three
• 17:30
  Speaker 3: getting guessed the least. A lot of people were saying
• 17:32
  Speaker 3: New York because I like posted a lot of photos
• 17:34
  Speaker 3: in New York.
• 17:34
  Speaker 1: Yeah, but.
• 17:36
  Speaker 4: Really no one said Austin. And Austin was another city.
• 17:38
  Speaker 1: I was talking to a what a fun city? In general?
• 17:41
  Speaker 2: I get what's cool is you actually did look at
• 17:43
  Speaker 2: really cool cities. Yes, like everywhere that you looked at,
• 17:45
  Speaker 2: it's like that would be exciting, that would be bright,
• 17:47
  Speaker 2: that would be fun. The only one that would be
• 17:50
  Speaker 2: extremely hard, I feel like, would be New York just
• 17:52
  Speaker 2: because I'm just the cold would literally kill me.
• 17:55
  Speaker 4: It would be the worst time to move to New
• 17:56
  Speaker 4: York right now.
• 17:57
  Speaker 3: Absolutely, can you imagine moving in this weather because it's
• 17:59
  Speaker 3: like I remember I was seeing somebody visiting there like
• 18:02
  Speaker 3: a week or two ago, and it's just like piles
• 18:04
  Speaker 3: and piles of snow.
• 18:05
  Speaker 2: I'm like, oh my god, I don't know how people
• 18:07
  Speaker 2: function in it where it's like every day you have
• 18:10
  Speaker 2: to put on what twelve layers, shovel a driveway, preheat
• 18:14
  Speaker 2: your car, Like it just seems wow, how lazy do
• 18:17
  Speaker 2: I sound?
• 18:17
  Speaker 1: That just seems so exhausting.
• 18:19
  Speaker 3: So exhausting, whereas we can we.
• 18:21
  Speaker 2: Just have to put on a coat, that's it, put
• 18:23
  Speaker 2: on a hoodie for the most part, and if it's
• 18:25
  Speaker 2: really that cold, it's like, okay, I could put on
• 18:26
  Speaker 2: a long sleep for a second, because then the next
• 18:28
  Speaker 2: thing you know, you're gonna be inside again and it's
• 18:30
  Speaker 2: only gonna last. Like this is kind of funny because
• 18:32
  Speaker 2: since you've been here, it has been cold and it
• 18:34
  Speaker 2: hasn't been breezy. But in like a week, it's going
• 18:37
  Speaker 2: to be back to just normal seventy degrees and it's
• 18:39
  Speaker 2: gonna be amazing.
• 18:40
  Speaker 3: It's gonna be perfect weather.
• 18:41
  Speaker 4: It's gonna be gorgeous.
• 18:42
  Speaker 3: Jill is gonna come around and be like, oh my god,
• 18:44
  Speaker 3: get me to New York.
• 18:45
  Speaker 2: Yeah, that part is Vancouver. Put me in a literal
• 18:48
  Speaker 2: pile of snow.
• 18:49
  Speaker 3: Please.
• 18:50
  Speaker 2: Now I know you're tailing us off the air. About
• 18:53
  Speaker 2: your substack what is a substack.
• 18:55
  Speaker 3: Substack is it's a it can be a subscription. Well,
• 18:59
  Speaker 3: it is a subscription service. So I like to write,
• 19:01
  Speaker 3: and so it's a place for me. I started it
• 19:05
  Speaker 3: right after the show ended because I just was like,
• 19:07
  Speaker 3: I need a place to put my thoughts down in
• 19:09
  Speaker 3: therapy is really expensive.
• 19:11
  Speaker 1: Yeah, that'lp be my own therapist.
• 19:13
  Speaker 3: That was the first way I started dropping Easter Eggs
• 19:16
  Speaker 3: was I started writing about cities that I was considering
• 19:22
  Speaker 3: moving to, and so it was a way for me
• 19:25
  Speaker 3: to keep people that follow me a engaged in the journey,
• 19:27
  Speaker 3: but be also a way for me to be like,
• 19:29
  Speaker 3: I'm kind of going through a lot right now, and
• 19:31
  Speaker 3: here's what's happening. Because I don't have an outlet to
• 19:34
  Speaker 3: talk about it anymore. And so it started with just
• 19:37
  Speaker 3: me kind of venting and exploring that creative side of me.
• 19:40
  Speaker 4: And then I was like, well, you know rents do.
• 19:44
  Speaker 3: So I also started like a paid side where I'm like,
• 19:46
  Speaker 3: if you want to know what's really going on in
• 19:48
  Speaker 3: my head, and you want me to kind of get
• 19:50
  Speaker 3: really personal and talk about like my family life or
• 19:52
  Speaker 3: things that I don't really want the general public to know.
• 19:55
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm trying to think, how I haven't read your
• 19:57
  Speaker 2: sub stack. I know it's been talked about, but like,
• 19:59
  Speaker 2: how personal do you get?
• 20:02
  Speaker 3: I talk about really personal things, and I I'm better
• 20:06
  Speaker 3: at having boundaries than I used to be. But like
• 20:09
  Speaker 3: after Thanksgibbing, I remember I was having some really complicated
• 20:12
  Speaker 3: feelings about wanting kids because I'm just not somebody who's
• 20:15
  Speaker 3: ever really wanted them. And then my family, my cousin
• 20:19
  Speaker 3: and my other cousin, they both just had baby girls,
• 20:21
  Speaker 3: and literally it's the first time in my life I
• 20:23
  Speaker 3: was like, oh my god, like do I want a baby?
• 20:26
  Speaker 1: Can arrest?
• 20:27
  Speaker 3: But I have, like some I have some conflicting feelings
• 20:29
  Speaker 3: about that, and I didn't just want to put it
• 20:32
  Speaker 3: out there for Reddit to tear apart. Yeah.
• 20:34
  Speaker 2: God, the Internet, like the just the random space of
• 20:37
  Speaker 2: the public Internet is probably the most cruel space ever
• 20:39
  Speaker 2: I know. And I'm just like, I'm gonna go after
• 20:41
  Speaker 2: you for no reason.
• 20:42
  Speaker 1: Okay.
• 20:42
  Speaker 3: I also film a lot of things kind of wine drunk,
• 20:44
  Speaker 3: So I'm like, let me put this in a safe
• 20:46
  Speaker 3: place whereas like, if you want to read this and
• 20:47
  Speaker 3: tear this apart, like at the very least, like you know, subscribe.
• 20:51
  Speaker 3: So yeah, and I just talked about some of those,
• 20:54
  Speaker 3: like really personal feelings, or I just talked about things
• 20:56
  Speaker 3: that maybe I didn't want the general employer to find out,
• 20:59
  Speaker 3: like oh, I had an interview last week, like things
• 21:01
  Speaker 3: that like you have to be very invested in me
• 21:04
  Speaker 3: if you're gonna subscribe to that part of my substack.
• 21:07
  Speaker 2: So yeah, but I think those are the things that
• 21:08
  Speaker 2: makes us so human, Like that's some of the things
• 21:10
  Speaker 2: that when I first got into radio, brought it to life.
• 21:13
  Speaker 1: Yeah, it's knowing that my story.
• 21:16
  Speaker 2: Is something that I'm going through, but I'm not going
• 21:18
  Speaker 2: through alone, yes, or like the bigger picture of this,
• 21:21
  Speaker 2: it's somebody that messages you after and they say, I'm
• 21:23
  Speaker 2: so glad that you brought that up because I'm going
• 21:25
  Speaker 2: through the exact same thing. Isn't that the whole point
• 21:27
  Speaker 2: of having the power of a microphone to be able
• 21:30
  Speaker 2: to connect people, to be open with them. And I
• 21:33
  Speaker 2: think that's where we talked about this a couple of
• 21:35
  Speaker 2: days ago, where sometimes it could feel like if you
• 21:37
  Speaker 2: just follow me on Instagram or you listen to me
• 21:39
  Speaker 2: on the radio, in certain timeframes, you could think that
• 21:42
  Speaker 2: life is just a ball of sunshine and rainbows every
• 21:44
  Speaker 2: day of the week.
• 21:46
  Speaker 1: And the reality is.
• 21:46
  Speaker 2: That's why it's also really cool to have open spaces
• 21:49
  Speaker 2: to conversation.
• 21:49
  Speaker 1: That's not the biggest picture.
• 21:52
  Speaker 2: That's a part of the picture, that's a part of
• 21:54
  Speaker 2: the frame, but it's not the bigger side of things.
• 21:57
  Speaker 1: But it's also what makes us human.
• 21:58
  Speaker 2: Yeah, And I think hopefully that is what allows you
• 22:01
  Speaker 2: to see like, oh, wow, man, I'm going through a
• 22:04
  Speaker 2: lot of the same crap that Abby's going through.
• 22:05
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 22:06
  Speaker 4: It makes people feel less alone.
• 22:07
  Speaker 3: Yeah, And that's one of the most terrifying things ever,
• 22:10
  Speaker 3: is to feel like I'm on this planet and I'm
• 22:12
  Speaker 3: the only person experiencing this, Whereas you would think it
• 22:15
  Speaker 3: would make you feel worse that, like, oh, I'm not
• 22:17
  Speaker 3: original because I'm not the only person going through this,
• 22:19
  Speaker 3: But like, I think the reality is it's very validating, like, oh,
• 22:23
  Speaker 3: Abby's story looks different than mine, but her emotions are
• 22:25
  Speaker 3: still the same.
• 22:26
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 22:26
  Speaker 2: And if for me, I'm seeing someone that's gone through
• 22:29
  Speaker 2: something similar, the feeling I get internally is like, wow,
• 22:32
  Speaker 2: if they could get through it, well, then there's hope
• 22:34
  Speaker 2: that I could get through it too.
• 22:36
  Speaker 3: For sure. And I think that was kind of my
• 22:38
  Speaker 3: hope too. And I think something I sort of have
• 22:41
  Speaker 3: to push back against. Is is it narcissistic to put
• 22:44
  Speaker 3: out this kind of thing, Like is it self centered
• 22:46
  Speaker 3: to think that people are paying so much attention to
• 22:48
  Speaker 3: my substack or my Instagram about like the strigs that
• 22:51
  Speaker 3: I'm dropping, that they you know what I mean. Like,
• 22:52
  Speaker 3: there's a lot of those thoughts I have to push
• 22:54
  Speaker 3: back on. But then I also have to remember that
• 22:56
  Speaker 3: there's I love following people's stories. Correct, you know, in
• 23:00
  Speaker 3: three years people can see the despair that I felt
• 23:04
  Speaker 3: in the beginning of losing a job that I loved
• 23:06
  Speaker 3: and see what was built from that.
• 23:08
  Speaker 2: Yeah, and it's a beauty. It's literally why we go
• 23:10
  Speaker 2: and watch a movie for the story. We're invested, because
• 23:13
  Speaker 2: we want to see how this story unfolds. Because sometimes
• 23:17
  Speaker 2: what I've learned is as much as it sounds like
• 23:19
  Speaker 2: a narcissistic side to just say here's my life, I'm
• 23:22
  Speaker 2: gonna share every video and photo and me me, me, No,
• 23:26
  Speaker 2: I don't think people. I never go out it as
• 23:28
  Speaker 2: a way of like, oh gosh, I hope you just
• 23:29
  Speaker 2: care so much about me. I've always gone about the
• 23:31
  Speaker 2: frame of like, hmm, I wonder how this connects to
• 23:34
  Speaker 2: somebody else or I wonder like for me, it's like,
• 23:36
  Speaker 2: how does this lift somebody in their day or inspire
• 23:39
  Speaker 2: or get someone to think differently, versus like I hope
• 23:42
  Speaker 2: you just pay attention to me, Like, no, I want
• 23:44
  Speaker 2: to give my life as an outlet for your life.
• 23:46
  Speaker 2: So if you're right now you're going through a tough
• 23:48
  Speaker 2: time and you're like I just I literally need an escape,
• 23:51
  Speaker 2: well then perfect. Hopefully I can provide that escape, and
• 23:53
  Speaker 2: then when I'm going through something, hopefully you can look
• 23:55
  Speaker 2: at it and say, man, I really appreciate them being
• 23:58
  Speaker 2: so open and maybe inspire one that it connects my
• 24:01
  Speaker 2: story and your story, but maybe it looks at it
• 24:04
  Speaker 2: as you know what, it's gonna inspire me to be
• 24:06
  Speaker 2: more open about what's going on in my life. Like
• 24:08
  Speaker 2: that's been the biggest thing that I've shared either on
• 24:11
  Speaker 2: social or on the radio, Like any challenge that I've
• 24:14
  Speaker 2: just shared openly. It's been so interesting to see the
• 24:16
  Speaker 2: reaction because most people are like, man, that's given me
• 24:19
  Speaker 2: the courage to say something like I made a post
• 24:21
  Speaker 2: recently about the solo journey that it's like all right,
• 24:23
  Speaker 2: finding myself again being alone in the world, going on
• 24:25
  Speaker 2: new adventures trying to do all these things that make
• 24:27
  Speaker 2: me feel very uncomfortable, and oh my gosh, the amount
• 24:30
  Speaker 2: of messages that I got and the comments that I
• 24:32
  Speaker 2: got were just like, I'm so glad you said this
• 24:34
  Speaker 2: because I'm going through the exact same thing. I'm like, well,
• 24:36
  Speaker 2: thank god, because I felt like such an idiot putting
• 24:38
  Speaker 2: that post up I did. I felt so self conscious, like,
• 24:40
  Speaker 2: oh gosh, this is gonna make me look like a weenie.
• 24:42
  Speaker 2: But it was just the actual emotion. I feel very
• 24:45
  Speaker 2: much alone in this chapter of life. It's exciting, but
• 24:48
  Speaker 2: it's nerve racking. But then to see how many people respond,
• 24:51
  Speaker 2: you're like, oh, I guess there's a reason I felt
• 24:54
  Speaker 2: that pull to put that out in the universe, not
• 24:56
  Speaker 2: to make it about me, but to make it about us.
• 24:59
  Speaker 3: Well, it's related. I mean, if you've ever been in
• 25:01
  Speaker 3: a long term relationship and you're navigating that for the
• 25:03
  Speaker 3: first time, there's no rule book or manual to figure
• 25:07
  Speaker 3: out how to make sense of those emotions because everything
• 25:10
  Speaker 3: you used to do with somebody else you now have
• 25:12
  Speaker 3: to find joy in doing by yourself, which is tough.
• 25:14
  Speaker 3: And I said this to you yesterday. It takes a
• 25:16
  Speaker 3: lot of courage to make that decision, because it's so
• 25:19
  Speaker 3: many people stay in those relationships for a lot of reasons.
• 25:21
  Speaker 3: A lot of people think they can't do better, or
• 25:23
  Speaker 3: they would just rather do the comfortable thing and stay
• 25:25
  Speaker 3: in it, or they don't want to lose out on
• 25:28
  Speaker 3: all the investment in that relationship. It's like the sunk
• 25:31
  Speaker 3: cost fallacy.
• 25:32
  Speaker 2: Yes, absolutely, you've put so much time and effort and
• 25:35
  Speaker 2: honestly money and all these thoughts and plans and then
• 25:39
  Speaker 2: to say no more that is a I mean again,
• 25:43
  Speaker 2: if it's like your first time ever hearing me, I
• 25:45
  Speaker 2: just got out of a four year relationship, and honestly,
• 25:47
  Speaker 2: there's no hard feelings toward each other. It was just
• 25:50
  Speaker 2: it was literally the right thing to do for both
• 25:53
  Speaker 2: of us. I wanted her to live her best life.
• 25:55
  Speaker 2: I wanted me to live my best life. But it
• 25:56
  Speaker 2: was those thoughts were just circling, like, you've put so
• 26:00
  Speaker 2: much into this, Is this something that you could just
• 26:02
  Speaker 2: keep doing?
• 26:03
  Speaker 1: Is there a way to fix this?
• 26:04
  Speaker 2: And at a certain point you have to say to yourself,
• 26:06
  Speaker 2: I think are actually going to be better off And
• 26:08
  Speaker 2: what's crazy is now we are, like we'll be better
• 26:11
  Speaker 2: off as friends and I've never really been friends with
• 26:14
  Speaker 2: anybody I've broken up with or gone into a relationship with.
• 26:17
  Speaker 2: But it is fascinating because now when we talk it's
• 26:19
  Speaker 2: so much it literally feels more natural where you're like, oh,
• 26:22
  Speaker 2: there's no pressure for romantic side of this. We're just
• 26:25
  Speaker 2: two friends catching up and there's no like, oh you
• 26:28
  Speaker 2: have to do this or I have to do this,
• 26:30
  Speaker 2: or expectations for each other.
• 26:31
  Speaker 1: Huh.
• 26:32
  Speaker 2: Interesting, But it took a lot of time of thinking
• 26:35
  Speaker 2: through exactly that of HM put a lot of time
• 26:37
  Speaker 2: into this, Yeah, what's it going to be like when
• 26:39
  Speaker 2: I say and we should split?
• 26:40
  Speaker 3: And I think that's why it's important to share that,
• 26:42
  Speaker 3: and why I think this specific morning show is going
• 26:45
  Speaker 3: to be really interesting for people to listen to is
• 26:47
  Speaker 3: we're both pretty much the same age, in the same
• 26:50
  Speaker 3: phase of life, but different things got us here. Whereas
• 26:54
  Speaker 3: I think it'd be interesting like I've been chronically single,
• 26:57
  Speaker 3: where I kind of feel like maybe I'm gonna walk
• 26:59
  Speaker 3: you through is like to be single? Whereas how funny
• 27:05
  Speaker 3: would it be like you me chronically single? What if
• 27:08
  Speaker 3: I get into a relationship while I'm in Tampa and
• 27:10
  Speaker 3: then like I need someone to tell me how do
• 27:12
  Speaker 3: I function as a duo for the first time in
• 27:15
  Speaker 3: my life?
• 27:15
  Speaker 2: Gosh, I could so. I mean, I honestly have this
• 27:18
  Speaker 2: internal feeling. I know that you've said you've been chronically single,
• 27:20
  Speaker 2: but I do have this feeling like I think it's
• 27:23
  Speaker 2: going to happen. I don't know what it is, but
• 27:24
  Speaker 2: there's just the thought in my head that's like, that's
• 27:26
  Speaker 2: gonna be the role in a couple months, somebody's gonna
• 27:29
  Speaker 2: pop around. You're gonna feel a connection. You're gonna be like,
• 27:32
  Speaker 2: I don't know if I want this. I'm gonna be
• 27:33
  Speaker 2: like Abby, I think this is something that should probably
• 27:35
  Speaker 2: lean into, give it a chance, see where it goes,
• 27:38
  Speaker 2: and next thing, you know, six months, you're actually gonna
• 27:40
  Speaker 2: be a relationship. And then I'm gonna be the chronically
• 27:42
  Speaker 2: single I really do see that.
• 27:44
  Speaker 3: And then I'm apt to like, run you away from
• 27:45
  Speaker 3: all the girls. I'll be like, you know, she's bad
• 27:47
  Speaker 3: for you.
• 27:48
  Speaker 2: That's gonna be, honestly the hardest thought, Like I want
• 27:51
  Speaker 2: to the hardest part so far about being into the
• 27:54
  Speaker 2: single world has been I don't like to hurt people.
• 28:00
  Speaker 2: And I'm not talking physically, but like literally emotionally of
• 28:03
  Speaker 2: like I don't want to go on a date with
• 28:04
  Speaker 2: somebody and then have that hard conversation of like, you know,
• 28:09
  Speaker 2: it's not working out because I.
• 28:10
  Speaker 1: Just don't want them to take it personally.
• 28:12
  Speaker 2: I just don't want to be that person that's like
• 28:13
  Speaker 2: make you feel less about yourself, make you question yourself
• 28:16
  Speaker 2: or doubt yourself. That honestly freaks me out internally.
• 28:18
  Speaker 1: Because I'm like, no, no, no, no. I just look
• 28:20
  Speaker 1: at it as we're just not compatible. We're not two people.
• 28:24
  Speaker 3: You would think that would make sense, but I mean,
• 28:25
  Speaker 3: no one's gonna feel that way when you reject them.
• 28:27
  Speaker 3: I know that's like a hard thing to wrap your
• 28:29
  Speaker 3: mind around. Is I know, no matter what, you're gonna
• 28:33
  Speaker 3: hurt somebody.
• 28:33
  Speaker 2: I know, but that I think there's also a weight
• 28:36
  Speaker 2: of it that's like, oh gosh, especially if you know
• 28:39
  Speaker 2: that I do a morning show in Tampa Bay and
• 28:41
  Speaker 2: you're like, I just don't want someone to, like, I
• 28:44
  Speaker 2: don't know, want have a bad impression of me in
• 28:46
  Speaker 2: their mind, Like then think of me as the guy
• 28:49
  Speaker 2: that's aid jerk on the radio all because I said
• 28:51
  Speaker 2: no to going on a date.
• 28:52
  Speaker 4: Well, you're gonna get posted in one of those Facebook
• 28:54
  Speaker 4: groups you know. That's the worst part.
• 28:56
  Speaker 1: Aren't there like, aren't there face?
• 28:57
  Speaker 2: I obviously can't get in, but there's specifically like women
• 29:00
  Speaker 2: in groups that like share men not to go on
• 29:03
  Speaker 2: dates with.
• 29:03
  Speaker 1: Correct.
• 29:04
  Speaker 3: I cannot reveal what the name of it is because
• 29:06
  Speaker 3: I've already been kicked out of one for doing this
• 29:08
  Speaker 3: exact thing.
• 29:09
  Speaker 1: I don't know the name of it.
• 29:10
  Speaker 3: For the love of God, let me stay in this group.
• 29:12
  Speaker 3: I'm not going to talk about it.
• 29:14
  Speaker 1: No, I don't need to know who's in there.
• 29:15
  Speaker 2: But that would suck because at least what I've always
• 29:18
  Speaker 2: wanted to do is make sure that like and I
• 29:20
  Speaker 2: guess you can't always get your side of the story
• 29:22
  Speaker 2: in there, but I would want to at least be
• 29:24
  Speaker 2: able to say, like, hello, it just didn't work out.
• 29:27
  Speaker 2: But I'm sure somebody will come along try to trash
• 29:31
  Speaker 2: my name, and I hope that no matter what, if
• 29:33
  Speaker 2: you're in this community, if you're in this squad, if
• 29:35
  Speaker 2: you're in this soul listening circle, that you understand always
• 29:38
  Speaker 2: my intentions. I try to be as authentic, loving, caring
• 29:41
  Speaker 2: as possible. So it freaks me out that somebody, probably
• 29:45
  Speaker 2: just by odds, is not going to see that.
• 29:48
  Speaker 4: Well, here's the thing.
• 29:48
  Speaker 3: Some people use it for good, some people use it
• 29:50
  Speaker 3: for evil, and then some people don't know how to
• 29:52
  Speaker 3: use it. Because sometimes I'll get on those those groups
• 29:55
  Speaker 3: and I've seen a couple of people that I've matched
• 29:57
  Speaker 3: with a couple of times, and sometimes it's validating because
• 29:59
  Speaker 3: I'm like, yeah, I went to too, but I'm not
• 30:00
  Speaker 3: gonna say it. I'm not going to engage. I just
• 30:02
  Speaker 3: want to see what other people are going through. But
• 30:04
  Speaker 3: ninety percent of the posts are usually women who have
• 30:07
  Speaker 3: matched with someone and they have a date set on Saturday,
• 30:10
  Speaker 3: and they're like, any tea before I go on this date.
• 30:13
  Speaker 3: And I love it when I see women step into
• 30:15
  Speaker 3: the comments that go girl, go on the date.
• 30:17
  Speaker 2: First before you like, just go see what it's like,
• 30:20
  Speaker 2: see what it's like, Skien.
• 30:22
  Speaker 3: Yeah, do you like him? We don't know if you
• 30:24
  Speaker 3: like him yet, go on the date.
• 30:25
  Speaker 1: First, Yeah, don't let That's actually a good point.
• 30:27
  Speaker 2: I have a good friend that's so worried that somebody
• 30:29
  Speaker 2: else is going to try to trash their name, and
• 30:30
  Speaker 2: I'm like, if somebody doesn't give you the time of
• 30:32
  Speaker 2: day to even see what you're like in person, to
• 30:35
  Speaker 2: hear yourself like, well, then I wouldn't want to be
• 30:37
  Speaker 2: with them either, because they're not even giving me a chance.
• 30:40
  Speaker 2: But if I ever do get put into one of
• 30:42
  Speaker 2: those groups, would you tell me.
• 30:44
  Speaker 3: I don't know that I can reveal that information publicly
• 30:49
  Speaker 3: because I don't want to get kicked out of the
• 30:50
  Speaker 3: g That's true.
• 30:50
  Speaker 2: You don't have to, and I don't need to know.
• 30:52
  Speaker 2: That's fine, Like I'm so excited. Here's what's so interesting
• 30:55
  Speaker 2: about this time period. As certain dates work out, or
• 30:58
  Speaker 2: as I try to shoot my shot and I get rejected,
• 31:00
  Speaker 2: I always look at it as okay, fine, like this
• 31:02
  Speaker 2: is getting me one step closer to like my wife,
• 31:06
  Speaker 2: and I really do because it's been kind of embarrassing.
• 31:10
  Speaker 2: It's like you're like finally getting the courage. You're like,
• 31:12
  Speaker 2: you know what, I'm gonna ask you out. Then you
• 31:15
  Speaker 2: get ghosted, and so immediately my mind's like, gosh, you
• 31:19
  Speaker 2: see it's because of you. And I'm like, you know what, No,
• 31:22
  Speaker 2: let me speak back to it. And I'm like, no,
• 31:24
  Speaker 2: that's because that means somewhere down the line is my wife.
• 31:27
  Speaker 2: And I couldn't interact with it right now, with this person,
• 31:29
  Speaker 2: because there's somebody better that's waiting or.
• 31:31
  Speaker 3: Maybe she rejected you and you just have to convince
• 31:33
  Speaker 3: her that she's she's your wife.
• 31:34
  Speaker 1: Nice, keep going back? How many times?
• 31:37
  Speaker 2: Actually we'll end with this because this is something my
• 31:40
  Speaker 2: buddy and I were talking, and I don't think the
• 31:41
  Speaker 2: advice from guys is always the best advice. If somebody
• 31:44
  Speaker 2: slides up into your DMS and you do not get like,
• 31:47
  Speaker 2: let's say, let's say I slide up into somebody's DMS.
• 31:50
  Speaker 1: They do not see the message.
• 31:52
  Speaker 4: Apparently, define not see the message.
• 31:55
  Speaker 1: I doesn't say red.
• 31:56
  Speaker 3: Okay, so it doesn't say red.
• 31:58
  Speaker 1: And they don't reply.
• 31:59
  Speaker 3: Do you follow this person? Do they follow you?
• 32:01
  Speaker 1: Yes?
• 32:02
  Speaker 3: Okay, so you're mutual followers and they don't quote unquote
• 32:06
  Speaker 3: see your.
• 32:06
  Speaker 1: Message they quote unquote. I know it sounds so stupid.
• 32:09
  Speaker 3: Nuts they saw it.
• 32:11
  Speaker 1: Then, I know they saw it. Do you double No,
• 32:15
  Speaker 1: that's what I thought too.
• 32:16
  Speaker 3: I know exactly who you're referencing to.
• 32:18
  Speaker 2: Oh my god, Oh this is Oh well, my thought
• 32:22
  Speaker 2: is okay, let's say, if I see this is gonna
• 32:26
  Speaker 2: be the adventures of Scott Single now trying to navigate this.
• 32:29
  Speaker 2: If I see them in person, do I say anything?
• 32:31
  Speaker 3: If you saw them in person, you go, hey, why
• 32:33
  Speaker 3: did you see my DM? Please let her bow out
• 32:35
  Speaker 3: with grace.
• 32:36
  Speaker 4: It is.
• 32:37
  Speaker 3: It is as tough as it is to approach someone.
• 32:39
  Speaker 3: And I always respect someone shooting their shot, like I
• 32:42
  Speaker 3: like to think I'm one of the nice ones, Like
• 32:44
  Speaker 3: I've never looked at a guy and gone, oh, you're
• 32:47
  Speaker 3: gonna ask me out? But sometimes it does put you
• 32:49
  Speaker 3: in an impossible position, like you said, where if you're
• 32:52
  Speaker 3: breaking breaking up with someone, it's so easy for you
• 32:54
  Speaker 3: to become the villain or for them to lash out
• 32:57
  Speaker 3: at you. And the same thing is for women when
• 32:58
  Speaker 3: they get approached. Whereas if I'm not interested in you,
• 33:01
  Speaker 3: like if you're cornering me into like are you attracted
• 33:03
  Speaker 3: to me? Or ask me a question like what a problem?
• 33:06
  Speaker 3: What's the problem? Like what do you want me? What
• 33:08
  Speaker 3: do you want me to say? And so sometimes I
• 33:10
  Speaker 3: think just ignoring it is sort of the polite way
• 33:12
  Speaker 3: of letting you live in the delusion of maybe she
• 33:14
  Speaker 3: just didn't see it, when in reality, am.
• 33:16
  Speaker 1: I'm a delusion land you know, I'm the lulu.
• 33:19
  Speaker 3: Whereas she saw it, but she doesn't want to put
• 33:21
  Speaker 3: in writing I don't want to date you.
• 33:24
  Speaker 2: I would so rather that like just say no, I'm
• 33:27
  Speaker 2: not interested and be like all right, cool, Like I
• 33:29
  Speaker 2: get it. But I also get it because I have
• 33:31
  Speaker 2: heard horror stories from women that have said guys have
• 33:34
  Speaker 2: just lost it when they've been rejected.
• 33:36
  Speaker 3: They retaliate thing, Whereas I don't want to deal with that,
• 33:39
  Speaker 3: Whereas I feel like it's just the easiest thing for
• 33:41
  Speaker 3: me to do.
• 33:42
  Speaker 4: It's just not say anything.
• 33:43
  Speaker 1: That's fine, and you know what. That's what I mean.
• 33:45
  Speaker 2: When I had that whole internal thought process with myself,
• 33:47
  Speaker 2: I was like, you know what, it's cool that they
• 33:49
  Speaker 2: didn't reply. I needed to do this for myself to
• 33:51
  Speaker 2: have this strength and the courage to shoot my shot.
• 33:53
  Speaker 2: And if you don't reply, that means I'm just one
• 33:55
  Speaker 2: step closer to my wife exactly, and one day she's
• 33:57
  Speaker 2: going to a free shape when I shoot my shot.
• 33:59
  Speaker 1: Ye. I appreciate.
• 34:01
  Speaker 2: If you're listening to this and you followed along with
• 34:03
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• 34:05
  Speaker 1: Abbey, what's your social media?
• 34:07
  Speaker 3: At the Abbey Murphy Everywhere?
• 34:08
  Speaker 2: You could also follow the station at Magic ninety four
• 34:11
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• 34:14
  Speaker 1: You can slot up in my DMS. I promise to
• 34:16
  Speaker 1: reply it's Scott t Y avelin