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Pleasure through the Kama Sutra and Tantric Massage: Let's Talk About Sex Baby · The Diva Details

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  Welcome to the Diva Details. Welcome to the Diva Details.
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  Where bold, confident women embrace life unapologetically.
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  From love and sex to wellness and reinvention. We keep it raw, real and powerful.
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  Let's dive in with Diva Mia and Diva Cat.
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  Well, hello, Diva Cat. Hello, Diva Mia.
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  How are you today? I'm great. Actually, the weather is beautiful.
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  I know. I love spring and summer. Yes. Everything is blooming like the rest
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  of us. Well, what do you want to talk about today, Cat?
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  Let's talk about sex, baby. Oh, my goodness, sex.
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  Wow. Sex is a great subject. Sex is a wonderful subject.
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  It's nice to actually be able to talk about it with everyone online here, too.
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  Some people think it's something to be kept in private. I think there's kind
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  of an enlightening age that's coming about where people are more willing to
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  talk about it. People are more open to talk about it with their friends.
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  It's a healthy thing. There's the idea of sexual health. Yeah, absolutely.
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  A lot of people need to talk about it because things happen and they don't know what to do.
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  And I got this really good book. It's called Kama Sutra Sex Guides for Couples.
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  Oh, wow. I need that. I know. It's kind of a nice little book,
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  too. And, you know, I know the Kama Sutra is very patriarchal.
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  Some of it's demeaning to women, but you know what? It's got some good stuff in it, too.
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  You have to remember it was written at a time when that's how civilization was
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  and civilization has evolved.
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  It's kind of an interesting read just to see how things were.
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  You don't have to cancel it for any reason. But it's nice to see how things
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  were in history just to compare to how it is now.
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  Oh, it's all natural things. I don't know why people think it's actually bad.
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  The Kama Sutra, the actual original Kama Sutra book, I have that one as well. Oh, wow.
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  And it's about men taking multiple wives and the woman submitting.
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  And, you know, it's much more derogatory towards women.
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  But, you know, a lot of books have been written since then related to Kama Sutra. Kind of interesting.
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  You know, sex doesn't just start with sex. There's the whole first stage of
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  sex and that includes like seduction and gameplay.
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  I mean, some people play games. I'm not a big game player, but seduction,
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  respecting each other, respecting.
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  That's actually the first step of sex. Yeah, I agree.
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  It's kind of hard to go have sex with somebody you don't respect or somebody
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  if somebody is demeaning you. I know for me.
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  No, I'm not into it. Yeah, I'm not into having sex with somebody that,
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  you know, I was in a relationship one time there where the man would yell at
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  me all day and then expect me to have sex with him.
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  I just not into it. That doesn't work that way.
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  I actually saw that movie Kama Sutra. Did you? Yeah. I got to watch that.
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  I haven't seen that one yet.
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  Getting a woman in the mood is kind of romantic for a man, too.
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  It's good to have you get the right kinds of foods.
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  You dress up. You get the right sounds. Yeah. the right scents,
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  maybe you take a bath together, candles and dimmable light, all those things
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  set kind of the stage for really good sex. Yeah, definitely.
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  I mean, yes, you can have the wham-bam thank you mans once in a while with your partner.
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  It's kind of nice to have, you know, sex. I do have like candle lit,
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  set the mood, dress night, you know, rose petal, the whole bit.
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  When was the last time you did something like that? No. No?
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  I haven't done that for, actually, no. You haven't done it ever?
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  We never have the candle lit. We never have that. No.
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  Oh, well, you're going to have
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  to do that then, Kat. I'm going to have to help you with that one. No.
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  You can do it too, ladies. You don't have to have a man. It is fun when the men do it, though.
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  I will tell you, when a man is romantic, take me home forever. That's all I got to say.
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  Because when a man's romantic and does the candle lights, the rose petals on the bed. Yes.
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  Actually, my niece waiting this weekend and her groom actually, I mean, he didn't do it.
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  Obviously, I don't think so. I think he just ordered the hotel service.
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  They post on their story. And I love the idea.
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  I even told my husband, I said, why didn't we do that? Just go to the hotel
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  and order the room. So they do everything for you.
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  You know? Yeah, that is nice. That is nice. It's one way to go.
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  That's just the idea, you know? It is one way to go. You don't have to do it yourself.
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  It's cheaper to do it yourself, though. Yeah.
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  But, you know, they're on the wedding night, so. Oh, on your wedding night,
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  you want it done for you, for sure. Yeah, yeah.
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  So. Well, you know, this is one way to rekindle a relationship,
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  for sure, is if you do the whole romantic evening, right?
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  You set the stage, because that's the first step of sex, is setting the stage.
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  I like that. I think it's lost a lot in today's relationships as people are
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  in such a hustle and bustle, they forget to set the stage.
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  No, I think to us anyway, I don't know. We're just tired.
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  I understand. But let's say it's just once in a while. Yeah.
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  Maybe just once a month or once a quarter if you can't manage once a month.
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  Just have one extremely romantic night.
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  And you know what the thing is? It'll set the whole, you'll be thinking about
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  that night for a long time. I encourage you, Diva Cat, to do it.
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  I do have to do it. Long weekend's coming. Chocolates?
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  Does he like chocolate? Yes. Okay, because I'm allergic, so that wouldn't work
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  for me. But caramels work for me, though. But no.
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  Chocolates? Uh-huh. And then do, like, rose petals? Yeah.
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  And candles? Yeah. And make sure there's no kids in the house,
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  because this is going to get some crazy sex. Right.
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  And you've got to do it on probably a Saturday. So don't do it on a Friday.
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  Like, they're working Monday through Friday, and Friday's elastic.
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  Do it saturday if you want i can babysit your
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  your son can come over and play here that way you
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  got the evening i'm gonna help you out girl oh my all about the good times make
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  sure i don't get pregnant again oh my gosh don't do that no i cannot do that
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  i don't think you can no yeah i think you'll be okay anyway so yes do that oh
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  i'm excited now i know we can do it this weekend if you want.
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  Talk about rekindle. So every month or at least once a quarter,
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  ladies, send the kids out, have someone watch the kids.
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  Yes. And make it a romantic evening.
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  Yes. And eventually, let's say you have a man that's a little slow.
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  Okay. Eventually, maybe the man will start doing it instead of you.
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  So show them how it's done, ladies. That's what I got to say. Yeah.
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  So do you know what the second phase of sex is? What is it?
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  Foreplay. Is it really? Foreplay is level two. So you've set the stage.
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  And now you begin the foreplay. Now foreplay, what does it start with usually?
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  Kiss. Oh, yeah. Kissing. And did you know there's tons of kissing?
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  There's different locations of kissing.
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  There's different erogenous zones you can kiss. The neck, the inner thighs, behind the knee.
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  Even the armpit, as long as they smell okay. Yeah.
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  The bottom of the feet. Oh, wow. I need to get that book. Where did you get
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  them? The lower stomach. Oh, it's wonderful.
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  Kama Sutra. What's it called? Kama Sutra Sex Guides for Couples.
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  Oh, wow. I get that. What about your ears? I'm really sensitive on my ears.
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  Ears, lower stomach, like right below. Below your belly. Oh.
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  Even your hands, sucking on fingers, things like that are fun.
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  And, of course, the genitalia region, the labia, the clid horus, the vagina, the G-spot.
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  Oh, my gosh, ladies, I'm getting excited just talking about it.
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  It's so cool. And then let's go with the nipples. Hello. Hello.
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  Yes. And the scalp. I mean, some people like their heads rubbed,
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  massage, gentle massaging. That's, you know, part of floor play. Oh, wow.
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  So there's lots of different things. And there's different types of kissing.
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  Huh. Did you know that? Well, I know French kiss. Everybody knows how to French kiss.
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  I think everybody should know how to French kiss at this point.
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  Yeah. If you don't know how to French kiss, go practice.
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  Because you know what, guys, if you can't kiss a woman deeply, passionately, No.
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  It kind of kills the whole stage.
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  I mean, it might work for a little while, but the bad kissers,
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  they just don't work out.
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  Well, the bad kisser, they say it's already turned off, especially you are single
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  people out there. The first kid is a bad kiss.
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  You know, there ain't no going to be no second date. You know what I mean? Yeah. Right?
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  Well, let's talk about the different types of kissing. You ready?
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  Okay, I'm ready. Since we're talking about sex today, this is all.
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  We're going to start with kissing and go from there. Okay.
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  So there's a thing that's called a measured kiss.
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  What is that? So that's where one partner offers their lips,
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  but they don't move them.
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  So like one person is kissing the other person and their lips are static.
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  Oh, wow. There's a throbbing kiss, which is usually, you know,
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  started by a woman, but it can be started by a man.
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  And that's where you touch their lips slowly with your tongue.
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  Uh-huh. And your lower lip slowly moves back and forth. You're kind of sucking
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  on his lip at the same time.
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  Oh, I have got to get that hook. I love that kiss, actually. Mm-hmm. Askew kiss.
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  It's when two people tilt their heads in one direction or one opposite directions
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  and they open their mouth, they press their mouths together.
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  It's probably the most common. And then there's the bent kiss.
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  Oh, wow. And it's the romantic kiss in the Kama Sutra.
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  It's when one partner takes the chin of their lover and tilts it up.
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  And then the other one bends down to kiss their lips. Read that again.
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  It's where what, like, they grab your chin. Okay. And they pull you in with
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  your chin, and then they kiss your lips.
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  It's very romantic. I saw that
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  in Fifty Shade of Grey. Oh, it's very romantic. Oh, he is so hot. Yes.
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  And then there's equal kiss, which is what I think we do most.
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  It includes French kissing.
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  You can kiss, you can lick, you can suck each other's lips, you can suck each
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  other's tongue. Oh, my gosh. Okay.
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  This is probably not the book for me to be talking about today. Not right now.
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  Anyway. And then there's pressure kiss where you just aggressively kiss or suck
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  or passionately bite each other's lips.
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  Oh, wow. I know. I'm sitting here going, hmm.
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  I can see your face. Look at your tongue beat red. All right.
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  Let's keep going. I don't know if I'll make it through this episode, but let's see.
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  There's the top kiss, which when one lover is just kissing the other lover's upper lip. Uh-oh.
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  And then there's the distraction kiss. and that's
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  you know when you come up and you kind of like it's not just limited to their
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  mouth you're like going to kiss their mouth and then you're going to wander
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  then you're going to kiss their mouth again and you're going to wander back
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  okay clip kiss is when you touch the other's tongue or lips with their tongue
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  causing a battle of the tongues okay oh my god there's so many kisses.
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  The stirring kiss that's where you're
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  like you're kissing them they're sweet kisses but you're
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  also like stirring a little bit with their their lips or their
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  tongue uh-huh it's it's sometimes
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  you do it right when they're trying to wake up oh wow so
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  that you can like it kind of wakes them up and then gosh there's so many kisses
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  i'm like oh eyelash kisses i've had those where they kiss your eyelashes that's
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  nice or you kiss their fingers or you kiss to ignite the flame now that,
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  Yeah, so this is, it's kind of vague in the Kama Sutra, but you tend to fall
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  asleep and then you let the other person kiss you to wake you up. Ah, okay.
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  And then a reflecting kiss is to show desire and love without kissing your partner.
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  Uh-huh. It's just a reflection of your partner in a mirror and you're like blowing them a kiss.
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  Huh. Yeah. So many. I'm blowing you a kiss. It's like highlight.
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  Exactly. Okay. Exactly. So there's a lot to learn. And I think people don't
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  realize how much there is to learn.
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  And it's kind of interesting. Get that book. There's different types of rubbing
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  and touching that people enjoy. Do you have a feather?
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  Yes. Oh, feathers are fun with sex, too. So feathers are big in Kama Sutra.
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  I actually have a Kama Sutra kit.
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  Oh, my God. Okay, I'm sharing way too much again. Yeah, I know,
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  right? But I have a Kama Sutra kit, and the kit, you know, you have all kinds
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  of oils and feathers and things like that. Handcups, too?
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  Shh. We're not going to bondage. This is not a bondage conversation today.
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  We're talking normal sex. This is very vanilla. This is as vanilla as we can go. Okay.
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  Vanilla with different sexual positions. We're not doing bondage today.
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  We're doing vanillas just because they were mere allergic to chocolate. Ah!
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  But I do like caramel.
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  Anyway so today is is vanilla well
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  we can we can do another podcast on bondage just
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  not today okay so once you get through foreplay now here's my thought process
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  there's another book i have here it's called tantric orgasm for women oh wow
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  yeah and i'm gonna tell a story before we actually go You did not walk into
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  a bookstore by those, do you? Oh, gosh, no. Wouldn't you be embarrassed?
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  Actually, I wouldn't be embarrassed, but that's okay because I'm very proud
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  and loud. So, literally, there's a story.
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  I can't wait to hear it. So, there's a thing called tantric massage.
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  Have you heard of that? No.
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  It's gaining power and gaining steam, and it's not, okay, it's not prostitution.
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  Okay, is that four hands or two hands? It's two hands. Okay.
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  You can order it in, or you can have it taught to your partner.
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  Now, I'm not going to tell you how I know you can order it in.
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  You need to send out the link or something. Yes, maybe I'll post a link.
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  Anyway, so there's different places. In some states, it's not allowed,
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  but in most states, it's allowed. It's not penetration.
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  Okay. It's just massage in a way that causes a female to have an orgasm.
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  And it's a happy finish without intercourse. It's kind of a happy ending massage.
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  A happy ending massage for a woman.
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  I guess you could have it for a man as well, but most of the time it's more focused on women.
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  And they use it therapeutically now for women that have had trauma. Migraine?
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  No, trauma. Trauma. Or problems in their past, or even just got out of a really
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  bad divorce, or are having sexual issues.
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  And sometimes partners will learn it as a way to help with foreplay.
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  So like part of a massage, you
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  start with a massage, you turn it into fondling, and then it leads to sex.
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  Hello, welcome to new addiction. Now, my only recommendation is don't always
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  make every single massage tantric.
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  Because if you do that and you're a man and you're massaging your wife,
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  as soon as you start rubbing her, she's going to assume that you want sex which
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  is fine but we're not Pavlov's dogs and sometimes it's nice to just get a massage
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  from your partner yes but sometimes they can also be tantric.
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  So tantric massages there's there's classes on it ways to learn about the female
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  anatomy so if you're a man that's struggling out there with pleasing your partner
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  or your wife It might be a good class to take.
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  So Google it because everybody's areas are different.
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  They do have online classes as well.
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  And it's a way for a man to learn how to really satisfy a woman prior to intercourse.
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  Wow. Oh, now that you talked about that. I've seen some planflip around the
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  gym I go to around Valentine's.
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  They're actually giving class how to give couple massage. They might be couples
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  massages But this is tantric It's a little bit different Now there are tantric massages That do not,
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  climax the partner okay there are tantric massages
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  and they the nice thing about the tantric massages if you
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  do hire it out they will only go as far as you allow okay okay
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  you do have to be safe with that right so because
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  unless you know they're a well-respected practitioner
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  you're inviting a person in your house that you don't know or meeting someone
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  somewhere that you don't know but there are actual places
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  you can go that that's what they do well i'm
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  thinking this place is gotta be like license insure
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  well i don't know if they're licensed i
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  don't know if you have a license for what they do now they have
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  tantric massage where it's man on
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  man they have tantric massage when it's woman on
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  woman and then they have tantric massage with man on
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  woman and woman on man also they're just happy finished
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  massages but not in a traditional happy massage
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  definition because a lot of happy massages end
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  with intercourse intercourse too so there
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  you have it so tantric massages they are starting to as people are learning
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  that sexual health is important and a lot of blocks that women have with orgasms
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  are mental tantric massages can help with that oh wow a lot of women that come out of like.
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  Any type of abusive relationship it could be sexually
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  abusive it could have been rape it could have been it could
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  have been molestation they use tantric massage to
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  help them recover mentally and they
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  go slow yeah and it just helps get over
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  the trauma is it part of the therapy what does
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  insurance will pay for no i seriously
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  doubt that one nice try though if you
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  want to get your insurance i want your insurance if they pay right
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  because i will just be using it all the time because that
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  part is a therapy it is therapy it's just a different
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  type it's just different type you know and a
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  lot of people they go to you know couples counseling yeah and
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  they go to couples counseling to work out their issues with their
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  you know personality difficulties and but
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  here's the thing if you don't have a happy sex life
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  with your partner i don't care how many times you
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  work out your personality issues or discuss what
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  makes each other mad you need
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  to work out your sexual issues too so this is one way
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  to improve your sex life i agree i think it's important very important yeah
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  so then after you've got your foreplay done and your tantric massage and you're
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  kissing okay what's next intercourse absolutely stage three stage three now i will say.
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  I like to change positions a lot. What about you?
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  Yeah, I think by then you're probably on the third orgasm, no?
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  She has a lot more orgasms than I do, everyone.
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  I don't know. Well, it depends, you know.
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  So I guess you could be coming on to your third orgasm.
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  If you had a tantric massage and you were kissing and they were messing with
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  you, yeah, you might be on your second or third or fourth. Yeah,
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  because women have multiple. We do. Yeah.
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  We do. And a good tantric massage will give you two to three.
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  Yeah. honestly so yeah do you have to pay for this,
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  Well, if you hire it out, yes. They're not doing it for free.
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  Oh, I have to tell my husband, learn how to do that. Yeah, yeah.
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  That's another book I got to get. You can get this book. It's called Tantric
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  Orgasm for Women. It's by Diana Richardson.
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  That's all. Yeah, so it's, you know, there's a lot of women writing sex books
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  lately. Have you noticed? I know.
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  I only heard about Dr. Ruth, but now it's so many. No, Dr.
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  Ruth, I think, opened the door for a lot of women talking about sex.
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  But it's a much broader conversation now.
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  And like, it's a conversation that people have just going over lunch.
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  I'm telling you. I think it's like we went through feminism where we wanted
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  to have some equal rights, make money.
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  But now we're coming back around and we're like, don't forget about us sexually.
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  We still want to have the good times in the bedroom. And now we're kind of more
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  empowered, too, I think, to have really good sex.
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  Yeah. Great. And how strong you are. you still need to
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  be taken care of at least that part absolutely yes
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  i know i am not done i'm just
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  getting started right yeah i it's amazing
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  how your libido changes in your 40s and
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  50s and it like goes into overdrive and now you're like relieve your youth over
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  all over again i'm telling you i feel like a 16 year old boy i mean it's like
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  you have a libido when you get older that And I think this might be the reason
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  why all these younger men are dating older women,
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  because the women are just like they're ready to go and they know what they
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  like and they know how to express themselves and they know how to talk to a man.
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  And I don't want to call myself Mrs. Robinson because I'm not going that low. Right.
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  Not going that young. But there's a lot of women that are teaching some of these
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  30 and 40 year old boys how to perform.
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  Madonna, her boyfriend's only 27. And she's a while ago. Yeah. I don't know now.
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  But women does need to it's like
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  after 50 especially you got out from the
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  long relationship long back you know yeah it's like you relieve your youth all
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  over again so ladies if you're 50s and divorce and single that's not the end
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  of the road you know we're just getting started and honestly i feel like if
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  you have a happy and a healthy sex life it's gonna help your physical health.
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  Oh, yeah, mentally. It's going to help your mental health. And I think it's
• 21:53
  going to stave off some of the dementia that people have, too.
• 21:56
  Because it keeps you mentally alert. You know what?
• 22:01
  That's a good point. So, see, I'm just trying to save the world from dementia
• 22:05
  by telling them to have lots of sex.
• 22:08
  I agree. Can't be agree more.
• 22:12
  There's different positions here, too. So, we're going to talk about...
• 22:16
  You're going to dive into the positions?
• 22:17
  We're going to talk about, like, several different positions.
• 22:19
  So, Samuka, one of my favorites.
• 22:22
  So, that's where, like, you're leaning against the wall. Okay.
• 22:27
  And having sex leaning against the wall.
• 22:30
  Like both standing up. Both standing. Okay. And leaning.
• 22:34
  Now, this works if the guy is not too tall. If the guy is super tall,
• 22:38
  you're going to have to go into the next position.
• 22:41
  So, the next position is Janu, I'm going to butcher these names, Janu Kupara.
• 22:48
  Janu Kupara. Okay. This is where the man's standing and you're basically straddling
• 22:54
  on his lap and he's holding you. But you could be leaning against a wall or
• 22:58
  not leaning against a wall on that one.
• 23:00
  Both are fun positions. How come they don't have English names?
• 23:04
  Well, this is because this is the Kama Sutra.
• 23:07
  Oh, okay. This is the Kama Sutra. So, yeah, I like the standing one against
• 23:11
  a wall. I love having sex against a wall. It's like my favorite.
• 23:14
  Oh, wow. And so many men can't do it anymore in their 50s.
• 23:18
  I think men in their 50s, they've got to be super lean to do against a wall,
• 23:24
  don't you think? I think that's one of my favorite positions.
• 23:27
  Because you're like, you know, nice fit men. That's why.
• 23:30
  Yes, yes. I love that position. Sex against a wall all day long, ladies. Oh, God. Yes.
• 23:35
  I just I like standing sexual positions. I know a lot of people like let's go to the bedroom.
• 23:41
  Let's get on the bed. But for me, I want creativity and I want it athletic.
• 23:46
  I want sex to be a little athletic.
• 23:49
  So. Well, that's how you started anyway. Now before you go to bed.
• 23:52
  Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Sex against a wall is so much fun. All right,
• 23:55
  and then you can go from sex against the wall, both standing,
• 23:58
  to where you're straddling the man into Janu Kuruppara.
• 24:03
  Okay. Okay, and then...
• 24:06
  We're going to slide right in into Petitaka.
• 24:12
  So this is where the woman is laying down.
• 24:16
  She's kind of like in a position of a child's pose or like or not child's pose. Yeah.
• 24:23
  Kind of like where your knees are up against your chest.
• 24:25
  Like hug your knees? You're hugging your knees. Yeah. Like it. I guess half.
• 24:30
  I don't know what the name is. anyway so this is where
• 24:32
  the man comes behind you and kind of lifts up
• 24:35
  your butt and has sex with you in like a in that
• 24:39
  pose oh wow it's a it's an okay pose not
• 24:43
  that big of a deal then there's the reverse cowgirl i
• 24:46
  do like that one yeah you know why i like the reverse cowgirl
• 24:49
  so it's called versha is the kama sutra name
• 24:52
  the reverse cowgirl i love it because
• 24:55
  there it tends to be their knees are bent okay and
• 24:58
  you can hold on to their knees while you're moving because
• 25:01
  that's one of the things when a woman's on top uh-huh it's
• 25:05
  different than when a man's on top when a woman's on top because our boobs
• 25:08
  are there right uh-huh so like in a missionary position when the man's on top
• 25:13
  he has his arms like next to you or above your head or whatever and that's fine
• 25:17
  when a woman's on top it's hard to put your especially if you have a bigger
• 25:20
  chest like i do to put your arms because Because you're going to be smacking
• 25:25
  him in the face with your boobs. With your boobs.
• 25:27
  So the reverse cowgirl is actually kind of perfect.
• 25:29
  So I have no boobs. So that's an issue for me.
• 25:32
  You're going to be perfect with your reverse cowgirl. Okay, this is an issue
• 25:34
  with the bigger-breasted women.
• 25:36
  So anyway, the reverse cowgirl is great, though, because you hold on to their
• 25:40
  knees, and it's a reverse cowgirl.
• 25:43
  Yeah, so your boobs will never jam to the face. So your boobs never smack them
• 25:45
  in the face. Yes. What about the ballet dancer?
• 25:49
  Now, I've seen people do this in bed and out of bed. It's called Tripadam,
• 25:55
  Tripadam, Tripadam, something like that. And I've seen...
• 26:00
  People do it laying in bed or standing up. I like the standing up position, of course.
• 26:05
  You're facing each other, and then basically the woman picks up one leg,
• 26:10
  and you have sex from that direction.
• 26:11
  Oh, wow. It's kind of nice. Kind of nice, though.
• 26:14
  Yeah, it's nice for penetration, too. Yeah, like a plié, standing split.
• 26:20
  Kind of like a standing, yeah. Kind of like a standing split.
• 26:22
  Not fully split, but like your knees up and, yeah. Uh-huh.
• 26:26
  And then there's Indrani. It's very similar to missionary.
• 26:31
  It's just the women's hips are elevated. It allows for the man to go in a little deeper.
• 26:36
  So if you have a man that's not so large, it's, you know, it's a little bit
• 26:40
  nicer to do than just a standard missionary.
• 26:43
  A standard missionary is great if the guy's a little larger,
• 26:45
  but Andrani's nice because their hips are up and the man has got his knees folded.
• 26:50
  So your butt's kind of resting on his knees.
• 26:54
  It allows for a man not to have to work as hard, too. Mm-hmm.
• 26:58
  And it's not as fast-paced, though, ladies.
• 27:01
  I'm trying to picture it in my head. Yeah. So it's where a woman's hips are
• 27:05
  actually up on a man's legs.
• 27:07
  Mm-hmm. And his legs are bent. So he's, like, kneeling behind her. Okay.
• 27:12
  And it's just not as fast-paced as missionary can be.
• 27:15
  Okay. Because there's not as much gravity force. But it's nice for the slower
• 27:19
  motion. Mm-hmm. And then there's always butterfly. Have you done butterfly?
• 27:22
  Mm-hmm. So butterfly is where both people are kind of scissored and leaning back. Leaning back.
• 27:31
  And that's a fun one, too. I enjoy butterfly a lot.
• 27:35
  That's awesome. It is, you know, it's possible to keep going quickly there in butterfly.
• 27:42
  And then there's, oh, this one's terrible.
• 27:48
  Uffalaka. Uffalaka. So this one is where the man, instead of kneeling,
• 27:54
  he's like, he's up on his knees, holding your hips up and penetrating you that way. So he's kneeling.
• 28:02
  He's kneeling completely, but his hips are up in the air and then your hips
• 28:06
  are onto him. Under me, okay. That one's okay.
• 28:10
  Parsha Samputa, okay, so this
• 28:13
  is also the lateral box. So you can't do this with men that are small.
• 28:18
  Oh, wow. I'm just letting you know. If the guy's really large,
• 28:21
  this is a great one because basically you're laying in bed, you're facing each
• 28:27
  other, and he basically sticks it in from a laying position.
• 28:32
  And so if a guy's small or short, it won't work. Yeah. It won't work at all.
• 28:38
  And then there's the Utana Samputa.
• 28:41
  Utana Samputa. And this is, it's like a modified missionary.
• 28:45
  It's where both people are laying completely, and the man is kind of just bouncing
• 28:49
  up and down with straight legs. Okay.
• 28:51
  Yeah. Kind of like upper dog.
• 28:54
  Yeah, exactly. Like the man's in upward dog position. Yeah. All right. And then the lotus.
• 29:00
  Oh, I like the lotus. So Padmasana is the lotus.
• 29:05
  You have to be very flexible to do the lotus. Yeah, it's really good in a bathtub.
• 29:09
  If they're sitting in the bathtub, like depending on how big your bathtub is,
• 29:13
  I have a really wide bathtub.
• 29:14
  So you can do like cross-legged in the bathtub and then you sit on their lap and that's the lotus.
• 29:21
  It can also work on a sofa, but you're not really cross-legged.
• 29:25
  It's best on the floor or in a bathtub. Yeah.
• 29:28
  Something steady. Something steady. And that's nice, too. Now,
• 29:31
  the woman's pretty much doing all the work on that one because that's the position.
• 29:35
  The nice thing about some of these positions is they're shared. You share the effort.
• 29:40
  Yeah. I like sharing effort. I don't like being the one that's doing all the
• 29:44
  work. And now some guys in our age group, I will tell you, they don't want to do any work at all.
• 29:48
  That's why women go for the younger men. Maybe, maybe.
• 29:52
  There is something to be said to have a nice little hair pull,
• 29:54
  a nice little buddy smack once in a while. Yes, you know. But we're not getting into that today.
• 29:59
  Anyway, so then there's J. Rem Bitaka. Okay.
• 30:06
  So that one also is where you have your legs up over their neck area,
• 30:11
  like on their shoulders. Okay.
• 30:12
  And they are, it's almost like, this flows nicely from missionary into this position.
• 30:20
  So, say you're doing missionary position, and you want to raise your legs up,
• 30:24
  and then you put your legs over their shoulders, and you're still kind of in
• 30:27
  the missionary position. Mm-hmm.
• 30:30
  Magic Mountain also kind of looks like doggy style.
• 30:34
  Magic Mountain, but you're both kneeling, though. You're both kneeling.
• 30:37
  Mm-hmm. And basically, you're set up on pillows, okay?
• 30:41
  See? So, you're kind of going to town, and he's right behind you.
• 30:47
  Mm-hmm. That's good on a bed. Yeah. Mm-hmm.
• 30:50
  The good ex. Oof. What is that? So that's like a scissor position. Mm-hmm.
• 30:58
  You're basically sitting on the bed facing each other's legs,
• 31:01
  so your heads are at opposite positions.
• 31:05
  It's okay. I've done that position before. It's a little awkward depending on
• 31:09
  the size of the guy. Again, I think the guy has to be long.
• 31:13
  It doesn't have to be thick, but long on that one to make that one work well.
• 31:16
  And if you're not nimble, it's difficult, meaning that if your hips aren't flexible,
• 31:23
  it's a little difficult.
• 31:25
  But it's definitely doable. pinball wizard that's
• 31:28
  where they are basically have your head
• 31:31
  down they they're holding on to your hips and
• 31:35
  they're having sex with you that way the cowgirl's
• 31:39
  helper okay so the helper so that's
• 31:42
  a backward no we no the reverse cowgirl is the backwards the cowgirl's helper
• 31:47
  is where you have your hands on their shoulders okay and it's cowgirl style
• 31:52
  so that's nice stand and deliver so this is my favorite favorite this is where
• 32:00
  you're completely against the wall.
• 32:02
  And they pick you up and you have sex completely
• 32:05
  against well i will say this is my favorite yeah i need
• 32:08
  to lose another 50 power for my husband to pick me up no this is
• 32:11
  this is absolutely the way to go i'm telling you
• 32:14
  this is like i don't know what it is about having
• 32:17
  a guy having sex against a wall with a guy i don't know
• 32:19
  it's my thing all right so stand and deliver
• 32:22
  is a great position we're almost done and then there's the
• 32:25
  pretzel and that's where this twist and
• 32:28
  turn yeah so basically you have one leg it's so much fun look at you return
• 32:36
  to be great someone tried this already oh yeah recently so this one this one
• 32:43
  is nice because basically one leg is over,
• 32:46
  one leg is over to let's say their outer thigh.
• 32:51
  So they can still see your upper body and your face. Okay.
• 32:54
  And they're basically scissoring your legs. Okay.
• 32:58
  And you're laying with your, you know, your shoulder kind of sideways,
• 33:01
  but they can still see you and they're on top having sex with you like almost
• 33:05
  missionary, but with one leg across. Oh, wow. It's nice.
• 33:09
  It's really good for penetration uh-huh and
• 33:13
  so if you have a smaller man a guy that's not so big it
• 33:15
  works as well so you have to be very flexible
• 33:19
  you have to be i'm pretty flexible yeah yeah i
• 33:22
  am i'm still very flexible good for you so then
• 33:25
  there's the butter churner and this is where you know the old bicycle position
• 33:29
  okay it's where that your hips are up in the air your head is down on the ground
• 33:33
  and the man is basically you know it's like shoulder stand it's like a shoulder
• 33:39
  stand with the man on top. With the man on top. It's kind of uncomfortable.
• 33:43
  Yeah. Seated wheelbarrows fun, though.
• 33:46
  Seated wheelbarrows. Yeah. So that's where...
• 33:49
  Now, this is nice. So let's say you have a man in a reverse cowgirl position.
• 33:53
  Okay. And then you just put your hands on the floor.
• 33:57
  I see. And they're seated. Like, let's say they're seated and you're in reverse cowgirl.
• 34:00
  Uh-huh. And then you put your hands on the floor. And it's nice because it can
• 34:05
  lead to different positions. Oh, I see.
• 34:07
  Now, it's a little, you're not going to be going very quickly on this position.
• 34:10
  Uh-huh. It's just kind of a fun transition position, I think. But you can do it.
• 34:14
  It does, depending on where your G spot is, it will hit different parts of you.
• 34:19
  And here's the thing, ladies, with all these different positions,
• 34:21
  you need to work with the ones that work for you and give you the most pleasure
• 34:25
  because everybody's a little bit different. Some of them, it looks painful.
• 34:29
  Yeah, yeah, it can be.
• 34:32
  The Arc de Triomphe, okay? So in this position, the man extends their legs out. So he's sitting up.
• 34:41
  You're going to sit on him with your knees bent, okay? And then you're going to lean backwards.
• 34:47
  It's a nice position. You're not going to arc too much.
• 34:52
  And then you're going to rest your head on his legs. And this is a nice slow-moving position.
• 34:58
  It's nice and gentle. And it's really nice for...
• 35:03
  To get a massage in that position while you're doing other things too wow so
• 35:07
  yeah and then there's the chairman where you're just you're sitting reverse
• 35:12
  cowgirl the guy's in a chair.
• 35:14
  And your your back is to his
• 35:17
  face and that is nice too this one
• 35:20
  reaches the g-spot really well that chair better
• 35:23
  be better be very strong yeah well and
• 35:27
  it depends on height too you got to get the right height but if you
• 35:30
  can find the right chair and you're having difficulty with
• 35:33
  the man reaching your g-spot the the reverse you
• 35:37
  know the chairman is a really good way to
• 35:39
  hit your g-spot ladies it's just even with the smaller men
• 35:42
  so really yeah i was wondering but if
• 35:45
  he's too small too short well if he has a belly this isn't
• 35:48
  going to work oh yeah so any of these you
• 35:51
  know the reverse cowgirl so well the reverse cowgirl
• 35:54
  will work with a guy with belly but the regular cowgirl doesn't work so well
• 35:57
  and the chairman doesn't work so well either if
• 36:00
  he has a big belly it only works if the guy's belly is small
• 36:03
  i see and then if it is it's a really good
• 36:06
  position for a man because basically his scrotum will
• 36:09
  come up when his legs are closed and
• 36:12
  you're sitting on top so it actually allows for a deeper penetration
• 36:15
  and better g-spot hit yeah and then there's the
• 36:18
  wheelbarrow and that's where you're on your he's like walking you around like
• 36:21
  a wheelbarrow and your hands are on the ground and it's a wheelbarrow and this
• 36:25
  one is a very good one as well for your g-spot so you know you have to realize
• 36:31
  that a lot of these positions are really really good.
• 36:38
  For hitting different parts yeah but you have to work it which one that works for you don't you,
• 36:44
  do and that's the thing is as you work different positions you're going to find
• 36:49
  different ways to pleasure yourself yeah and then when you go to the tantric
• 36:53
  idea now tantric massage,
• 36:56
  is about awakening okay so
• 36:59
  it's not just about sex so even
• 37:02
  the book the tantric massage the one thing i like about the tantric orgasm for
• 37:06
  women is it's about spiritual awakening oh is it really it truly is and one
• 37:11
  of the things it says is that sex has to be raised higher and higher to its
• 37:15
  ultimate peak and the ultimate peak is called samadhi which is super consciousness,
• 37:22
  so we're not talking just about conscious this is talking about having enough
• 37:27
  sex to get to like an altered level the sex creates enough happy hormones in
• 37:33
  your body that you get elevated to another level oh wow an orgasm has the ability
• 37:40
  to do that it's it's the human's way,
• 37:43
  of drugging you. I mean, honestly, it gives you the most enlightenment.
• 37:47
  You get a different consciousness and it touches every cell in your body.
• 37:51
  The reason we tingle so much is it touches everything.
• 37:54
  I've learned something new today. I have got to get that book.
• 37:57
  And your telomeres may change. You may advance to another level.
• 38:01
  It may decrease aging, reverse aging. Maybe that's why.
• 38:06
  Who knows? Who knows? Orgasm is a spiritual experience. It truly is. It can be.
• 38:11
  It can be. Yes, it is. If you do it right. But I think a lot of people aren't
• 38:15
  doing it right. With the right person, too, though.
• 38:18
  Well, yes. But there's love energy. There's connection.
• 38:24
  The way people are going about sex, it's just, they're making it a chore, and it should not be.
• 38:30
  Sex should be 100% pleasurable, and it should be taking you to the next level.
• 38:35
  Yeah. I think if you need to schedule sex, it's not going to work. Yeah.
• 38:40
  Well, I don't know if scheduling is a good idea, but I think that when you have
• 38:45
  it, it should be orgasmic. I really do.
• 38:48
  And there's different types. You know, there's the orgasm for the man and the orgasm for the women.
• 38:53
  And I don't know if you know anything about Dave Asprey. He's got a couple of videos out there.
• 38:59
  He's saying men should not have an orgasm every time. Really?
• 39:03
  He says that men should not be having an orgasm every time because it's different than a woman.
• 39:09
  And a man will find the most pleasure if he can pleasure a woman two or three
• 39:14
  times in a sexual experience and not ejaculate.
• 39:18
  And then ejaculate maybe every second or third time. And the reason is it's
• 39:23
  actually better for the man.
• 39:26
  When a man has an orgasm, it actually decreases their testosterone.
• 39:30
  And they also go into a state of not wanting to be around the woman for 24 hours.
• 39:34
  Oh, wow. So some women say, well, he turns into a different person after he's
• 39:38
  done. After he's done. Yeah, actually he does. His testosterone goes through the floor.
• 39:42
  Yeah. And he's not that into you after. That's why a lot of times men don't like to snuggle.
• 39:49
  So when a man doesn't ejaculate, his testosterone stays extra high.
• 39:54
  It actually starts to peak and go higher.
• 39:56
  So then the next time when he actually does the ejaculation it's
• 40:00
  like a spiritual experience for a man oh wow
• 40:03
  so if a man is getting off and not finding a lot of pleasure in it especially
• 40:07
  if they've been addicted to porn or whatever maybe it's time to do some tantric
• 40:12
  things where the man is pleasuring the woman it also gives the man a sense of
• 40:17
  control i think to pleasure a woman which is kind of fun. Yeah.
• 40:20
  It allows him to see what he's capable of.
• 40:25
  And that's kind of a man's job. I think so. I mean, we really need to get back to sexual health.
• 40:31
  And some people say we never were there, and we're just now awakening into it.
• 40:36
  But I think sexual health is so very important.
• 40:39
  I think so. But I think it's been around for a long time, because right now
• 40:43
  we just need to choose to talk about it, don't you think?
• 40:46
  I've been talking about it for a while. I do think I am more verbal about it
• 40:51
  now that I've been awakened.
• 40:54
  And I don't think I'm fully awake yet. I think I'm still learning things that I enjoy and like.
• 41:00
  I do know I'm more of a one person.
• 41:04
  And I want to just learn one person.
• 41:07
  That's my goal is to find my person and just to explore with them.
• 41:11
  With them. And enjoy them.
• 41:13
  I now know kind of what I want. Yeah. But I need to have somebody I can actually
• 41:18
  explore with. That's awesome. And here's the thing.
• 41:21
  Just because they're good looking or they're decent in bed doesn't mean that's
• 41:26
  the person you want to explore with.
• 41:28
  My permanent partner will be somebody that I'm comfortable enough with to explore
• 41:32
  and do different things with because I want to try out new things.
• 41:36
  I'm open to change and try new things. And I like to figure out new things.
• 41:41
  So if I can't go back to a marriage where it's always the same thing over and
• 41:47
  over again, I can't do it. That's suffocating. It would be too dull, suffocating.
• 41:52
  And I know, ladies, you may be listening to this and your partner does the same
• 41:55
  position the same way every single time.
• 41:58
  And it may be that he gets you off, then he has sex with you,
• 42:01
  and then he gets you off, and then he has sex with you.
• 42:03
  I mean, I was on the rinse and repeat cycle myself.
• 42:06
  It's fun to be creative, ladies. It was for me. And I'll tell you my story.
• 42:10
  For me, it was oral sex on me.
• 42:13
  Five minutes, I had an orgasm or less.
• 42:16
  And then intercourse, which was two to three minutes. And then we were done.
• 42:21
  And that was it. Then we rinse and repeat it again.
• 42:25
  That's not very fun. At least it wasn't for me. And it got a job.
• 42:29
  It was a job and to
• 42:32
  me that is not the way i want to live
• 42:35
  my life right i did meet a man one time that likes to change positions and i
• 42:42
  was just and i was just like holy moly this is amazing yeah and it wasn't you
• 42:48
  know it wasn't like he was crazy fit but he did well at switching up positions.
• 42:55
  And I like that. Yeah. I enjoy being able to switch positions,
• 42:59
  do different things in one sexual encounter.
• 43:02
  And quite frankly, if it's a two-minute sexual encounter, it's not really my thing either.
• 43:06
  Yeah. So for me, I really want the variety. Yeah. Maybe between you and your
• 43:11
  partner, she'll do some homework, no?
• 43:14
  Yes. Well, once I find my new partner. Yeah. Yes. And,
• 43:20
  I don't know when that will be, but, you know, I know what I want,
• 43:23
  which is kind of nice, too. That's so awesome, though. I think it's coming.
• 43:27
  Oh, maybe in more ways than one. Yes.
• 43:31
  Anyway, so let's talk about coming a little bit more.
• 43:35
  So the breasts are one of the keys for women to have an orgasm.
• 43:42
  And I think that men ignore them too much. And I know there's some women that
• 43:46
  have had implants and they may not be as sensitive. But for us women out there
• 43:50
  that have the original breasts, that are super sensitive, and there are women
• 43:54
  that have had implants and are still super sensitive.
• 43:57
  It depends. It depends. Because I talked to my friend that she had recently had an implant. Yeah.
• 44:04
  Now she's all regretted. She said she doesn't feel it. Maybe it's still numb. How long ago was it?
• 44:10
  Probably six months ago. Yeah, so they said it can take a year to two years
• 44:13
  for the nerve endings to grow back, and they may never fully grow back.
• 44:16
  And then there's some women that have the implants and they get hypersensitive after.
• 44:21
  Oh, wow. So it could go both ways. It could go either way. Yeah.
• 44:24
  When a man messes with your breasts, it's now I'm going to caveat this.
• 44:31
  There are certain ways to mess with a woman's breasts. Okay.
• 44:34
  And we'll go over that too. But when a man touches a woman's breasts,
• 44:38
  it does excite most women.
• 44:40
  We are super hypersensitive there. and I don't know why when you have babies
• 44:45
  and you breastfeed it's not,
• 44:47
  It doesn't do anything for you, but when you're done lactating and you get back
• 44:52
  to normal and you're with your spouse, it's exciting.
• 44:56
  Well, I know this for myself anyway. After you lactate your baby,
• 44:59
  your sex drive goes up sky high. So your sex drive went up. It could be.
• 45:05
  Maybe you need to reproduce your hormone or something. I don't know.
• 45:08
  I don't know. That's a good question to ask. But for lactation,
• 45:12
  once lactation is done, I think that women then go back to normal sensitivities.
• 45:16
  Because I think they have to be desensitized in order for a baby to bite as
• 45:20
  hard as they do anyway. Right.
• 45:22
  Once you have, go back to normal sensitivity, there's, women like different things.
• 45:28
  So some women like to have their breasts softly touched.
• 45:32
  Some women like to have their breasts pinched. Some women like to have them
• 45:37
  licked and some women like to have them bit. And some like to have a combination.
• 45:42
  And I would say the women that are very sensitive do not want their breasts bit.
• 45:48
  Yeah. I mean, they can be nibbled on, but don't bite a woman's breast hard unless
• 45:52
  you really want to hurt her.
• 45:53
  Now, there's women that have less sensitive breasts and biting them is good for them.
• 46:00
  Sometime like a week before you're, you know, monthly, your breast is super sensitive.
• 46:07
  Yes. So your breasts can change.
• 46:09
  But it's one way to really get a woman wet. So I know recently there was a guy
• 46:15
  that I had kissed that could get me wet just from kissing him.
• 46:19
  Oh, wow. He's good. Amazing. He's a nice kisser. And.
• 46:23
  And if you touch my breast, I got
• 46:25
  really, really wet. Now, we didn't do anything, but it was, it was, wow.
• 46:31
  Wow. You can get very excitable just from kissing and breast touching or breast
• 46:37
  licking or breast sucking.
• 46:38
  That's awesome. Yeah. So there are, gosh, I hope that the guys that...
• 46:44
  I hope you're listening. I hope you never listen. Anyway.
• 46:46
  No, I said, I hope you're listening out there. So anyway, the breasts are very
• 46:51
  sensitive. Now, I don't know why men are so non-respectful of women's breasts.
• 46:58
  I will say I've been with a couple people that were, I don't know,
• 47:02
  I felt like I was tuning in Tokyo.
• 47:03
  I felt like it was just all over the place.
• 47:07
  Like it was back and forth. I'm like, slow down. Each breast is special.
• 47:13
  Each breast is an erogenous zone. Each breast is super sensitive.
• 47:18
  And it's almost like a tease. If a man can take a nipple and tease it and play
• 47:24
  with it and be gentle with it, with his tongue, his fingers,
• 47:27
  or whatever it is, ice cubes, whatever, it's fun.
• 47:32
  When they get violent with your breast, from my perspective, it's a turnoff.
• 47:38
  Yeah. So if you want to turn on women, look at them as something very sensitive.
• 47:42
  Well, some women like it hard, so maybe, I don't know. For women,
• 47:46
  here's the idea. I think if you can show a man on their own breast what you
• 47:51
  like, maybe they can repeat it. Right.
• 47:54
  No. But if you've got a guy that's getting a little too violent, say, look, slow down.
• 47:59
  I'm going to show you what I like. And then you can show them.
• 48:02
  On their nipple. Yeah. Okay. That's a good way to go. But breasts are very important
• 48:07
  if you're going to have really good orgasms.
• 48:09
  Because they get you really excited. And people don't realize how important
• 48:13
  they are to the whole orgasm process.
• 48:16
  Because a woman can have an orgasm just from their nipples being played with.
• 48:19
  For sure. So, and a little bit of stroking.
• 48:23
  But mostly, I mean, you can have a orgasm, like, very quickly after you play with a woman's nipples.
• 48:30
  Nipples so if you're a guy that doesn't really like to
• 48:33
  to have oral sex on a woman and you
• 48:35
  only want to do it for a short period of time then play with the nipples for
• 48:40
  five minutes and then maybe use your fingers for five minutes and get her off
• 48:46
  that way and then maybe you do a little bit of oral sex maybe you don't but
• 48:50
  at least do the nipples and the fingers get her off you know
• 48:54
  externally and then have sex it's a great way
• 48:57
  to you know have a man get
• 49:00
  a woman off and make sure she has an orgasm every single time
• 49:03
  and it doesn't take much effort you just
• 49:06
  have to tell him sometime no well i would think that a
• 49:09
  man should want to please a woman every single time they have sex of course
• 49:12
  they do but they don't yeah men out there this is my announcement to the men
• 49:17
  of the world every single time you want to have sex with woman you better get
• 49:20
  her off first because by the time you stick it in and you're done two to six
• 49:24
  minutes later or however long it takes you.
• 49:27
  If you haven't gotten her off she's gonna eventually not want
• 49:30
  to have sex with you anymore yeah because she's like
• 49:33
  wow it's kind of a let down now i've got to go take care of myself right and
• 49:37
  so just saying yeah now you'll you'll get away with it for a little bit yeah
• 49:43
  i think the communication need to be well something that not to be said no here's
• 49:48
  the other thing I think women fake orgasms too much.
• 49:51
  Right. I think so, too. I think we fake it. I think part of the problem is us.
• 49:56
  Because if you're faking orgasms, the guy might think he's actually pleasuring you.
• 50:01
  I see. You have to tell him if you don't get there. Well, he should be able
• 50:04
  to figure that out if you're not getting there.
• 50:06
  If you're faking it, then that's on you. But if you want to have good sex,
• 50:11
  you've got to stop faking it. Yeah.
• 50:13
  And then you've got to say, hey, look, I need to get off before we have intercourse.
• 50:18
  And just say, that's the way it is. Yeah. Now, once you have an orgasm,
• 50:24
  okay, so let's say you've had an orgasm, whether it's fingers,
• 50:27
  tongues, toys, whatever it is in advance. Mm-hmm.
• 50:31
  Then let's talk deep penetration. Okay. Because deep penetration is fun because
• 50:36
  it can give you another orgasm. But that could be painful too, no?
• 50:40
  Yes. If you have a guy that's super long and they hit your cervix,
• 50:43
  I've had that happen. Mm-hmm. That can be painful.
• 50:46
  Yeah. There are positions to slow that down though too.
• 50:51
  So like you can cross your legs in front, which which actually keeps him back a little bit farther.
• 50:57
  You can have a side position or you can have the position laying down that we
• 51:01
  had talked about where you're facing each other. Right.
• 51:03
  And there they don't go all the way. You know, they don't hit your service that way.
• 51:07
  But the best deep penetration positions are where the middle position where
• 51:12
  kind of it's it's kind of like where your knees are up and you're he's right behind you.
• 51:19
  And he's holding on to your legs and he's just hip grinding right into you. I see. Okay.
• 51:28
  The next is missionary. I mean, missionary is a great deep penetration.
• 51:32
  Yeah. Believe it or not, it's a really good deep penetration,
• 51:34
  especially with missionary. If you have your legs a little bit higher,
• 51:37
  they can go a little deeper. Mm-hmm.
• 51:39
  And it's also another good deep penetration position is doggy style.
• 51:44
  It's always worked doggy style. Doggy style works. Doggy style or doggy style
• 51:49
  with the woman where she's kind of her torso's turned is also a good one.
• 51:54
  When a woman sits on top, that's probably one of the deepest positions.
• 51:59
  Depending if the guy has a big belly or not. Again, come to the belly.
• 52:03
  If the guy has a belly, that's not going to work so much. You might have to
• 52:06
  do reverse cowgirl for that to work. and I don't know if you'll get as deep then.
• 52:10
  Yeah. And then if you're kneeling. Yeah, the key is the guy had to be a little
• 52:15
  thick, not too many belly, not too much. Yes.
• 52:18
  And, you know, deep penetration is great, but some of the best positions are
• 52:23
  when your clitoris gets stimulated at the same time while you're having sex.
• 52:27
  So you have to remember that all these different sexual positions are going
• 52:31
  to be based off of, A, how your clitoris is shaped.
• 52:35
  I mean, some women have bigger clitorises than others, as well as,
• 52:41
  you know, the level of penetration. Some women like it deeper than others. I agree.
• 52:46
  Yeah. What's your favorite position? The doggy style.
• 52:50
  Doggy style? Really? Mm-hmm. Do you have orgasms from doggy style?
• 52:53
  Yes. I think part of it, I never tried against the wall.
• 52:58
  Oh, my gosh. The wall is a wonderful thing.
• 53:01
  I just feel like I'm too heavy to be. Well, he doesn't have to pick you up.
• 53:04
  You can just raise a leg and you can have sex that way. Oh, yeah.
• 53:09
  You should try that. Mm-hmm. You can do it in the bathroom where you're against
• 53:14
  the wall and, like, you can even put your leg up on the counter.
• 53:17
  There's different locations. I could go look at your house and I could tell
• 53:20
  you where and how you can have sex. Yeah, no.
• 53:23
  Pretend like, oh, Dave and Mia's going to come feng shui our bathroom.
• 53:26
  I'm going to feng shui. I'm going to feng shui your bathroom.
• 53:29
  Feng shui. Oops. Am I allowed to say that word? I don't think so.
• 53:33
  Bleep, bleep, bleep. Bleep, bleep, bleep.
• 53:41
  Anyway so yeah there's there's different
• 53:44
  and then there's different stimulation zones right so you've got
• 53:47
  your g-spot everybody knows about the g-spot yeah g-spot
• 53:50
  inside there's a g-spot actually in your rectum area too guys yes there's one
• 53:53
  in your your vaginas one in your rectum area as well as for men there's the
• 53:58
  clitoris which everyone loves their little clit yes and then there's deep penetration
• 54:03
  i will say deep penetration is wonderful that is one thing that you don't get from a sex toy.
• 54:08
  Yeah. That's why you cannot just leave with a sex toy. You need humans.
• 54:12
  You need humans. You need the actual full integration.
• 54:16
  I mean, I guess you could... I just don't find that as fun as the real thing.
• 54:20
  And women have great orgasm potential. We can have multiple orgasms, which is amazing.
• 54:26
  Yeah. Women's body, it actually is like God's gift.
• 54:30
  God's gift. Yeah. We have to treat our body very thresuring.
• 54:35
  Yes, we need to treasure our bodies. Our body. Yeah, that's the right word.
• 54:40
  Yeah. If your guy is not big into foreclay, you need to guide him that way.
• 54:47
  But there's other things you can do as well. So they have these little cock
• 54:52
  rings on Amazon and some sex stores that they vibrate.
• 54:57
  So it basically goes around a man's penis. Okay.
• 55:02
  And it vibrates. Now, one of the issues with it is the guy may get off a little faster.
• 55:08
  Yes. But after the guy gets off, guys sometimes will just leave it on until you come.
• 55:15
  It could be a problem. No, they stay in. Oh, okay. And then you may have an orgasm on top of the guy.
• 55:21
  So it's kind of neat. I've actually done that. Oh.
• 55:25
  From experience. What have you not done? I wonder. Oh, my goodness.
• 55:28
  I haven't done a lot of things.
• 55:30
  It may sound like I've got all these expertise, but I really don't.
• 55:33
  I am just willing to explore possibilities.
• 55:37
  Right, right, right. You open up for any ideas. I am open.
• 55:42
  I am open to new ideas.
• 55:46
  So the Kama Sutra, Kama actually means not just sex, but joy in all aspects of life.
• 55:53
  It means joy in love, art, music, and beauty. See?
• 55:57
  Yeah. And it's based off of a Hindu philosophy. Mm-hmm. Dharma, which is duty.
• 56:04
  Okay. Artha, which is wealth. And moksha, which is liberation.
• 56:09
  Huh. The problem is that I think the way the Kama Sutra was written before...
• 56:14
  It was written to liberate women, but it was also, it was so patriarchal that
• 56:18
  it kept women non-liberated.
• 56:20
  I think now is our time to really experience the pleasure that it actually talked about.
• 56:27
  I think you should. And, you know, have you ever been in Pompeii?
• 56:30
  No, I have not. People back then is super creative.
• 56:34
  Yeah. They have, like, it's a house full of women, right?
• 56:38
  Yeah. That's how Kama Sutra all hide the position, again, you know, hanging on the wall.
• 56:43
  Yeah. And that's how they prize the woman by all those positions. Yeah.
• 56:48
  And instead of the arrow to go to that house, it's a side of penis.
• 56:52
  You could follow the penis side instead of follow the... She likes her penises.
• 56:57
  Oh, my God. I took the pictures of it. I love it. Yeah, the penis with the wings. I love it. Yeah.
• 57:03
  So, yeah, it's been around for thousands of thousands of years.
• 57:07
  The Kama Sutra has been around for quite some time.
• 57:11
  Depending on what position, depending on your current energy level,
• 57:14
  you know, you might be 70 years old and you still want to have sex. Oh, yeah.
• 57:18
  But there's ways to do it. I mean, maybe you lay on your side.
• 57:22
  Maybe you do a side position. I mean, it depends on, you know, how you are.
• 57:26
  I will say the side position first thing in the morning when you're still kind
• 57:29
  of groggy is really fun. Yeah.
• 57:31
  And then I would say, you know, it's timing, rhythm, foreplay,
• 57:34
  and other sexual things. Like you can do oral sex.
• 57:38
  I will tell you, men and ladies, the best sex is when you can have a full-on emotional connection.
• 57:45
  If you can connect fully with a person, that's why I don't do one-night stands. Yeah.
• 57:52
  Because I need to have such an emotional connection before I have sex with a person.
• 57:57
  There has to be a buildup towards it. Right.
• 58:00
  So you're never going to have sex on your first date. No. No. Yeah. Maybe a kiss.
• 58:06
  Well, I did have sex with a previous person that I've known that I'd had sex with before.
• 58:11
  And it's the first time we saw each other for a while. But you've known each
• 58:14
  other for a long time. We had, yeah.
• 58:16
  So that was really the only time. But no, I would have to have multiple, multiple dates.
• 58:21
  And honestly, I like kissing on the first date because I can tell a lot from
• 58:25
  a kiss to determine whether or not they're good in bed or not.
• 58:28
  That's why I'm saying kiss is like a breaking point.
• 58:30
  Should we have a second one? Should we have a third one? Yeah.
• 58:32
  Yeah, you can't really tell much about a guy's size from a kiss,
• 58:35
  but you can tell from a kiss whether or not he's going to please you or not.
• 58:39
  If a guy comes in and he's over dominating in a kiss, he's going to be that way in bed.
• 58:43
  That's true. If a guy comes in and he's very playful with his tongue,
• 58:48
  it's going to be really good oral sex.
• 58:50
  And if a guy comes in and is kind of just,
• 58:55
  normal kind of vanilla if you will it's
• 58:59
  probably just going to be sex honestly though i
• 59:02
  can honestly say the guys that don't have a lot of imagination with
• 59:05
  their it's a very vanilla sex yeah and sometimes they're not even into oral
• 59:09
  sex if they don't have a good nope i'm telling you i mean that's kind of a whoo
• 59:14
  that's a real vanilla that's real vanilla like they just want to wham bam thank
• 59:18
  you yeah yeah kissing is important so from a kiss and if they're a terrible
• 59:23
  kisser they make your whole face wet,
• 59:25
  then I just, I can't do it. You feel like you get licked by the dog.
• 59:28
  Exactly. Don't lick me like a dog. Yeah.
• 59:31
  But all these sexual things, it's going to enhance your intimacy.
• 59:34
  And I think people in long-term relationships, if you've been married for a
• 59:38
  while, you really need to try some of this stuff out.
• 59:41
  Sex life is important for a long, happy marriage. It's beyond important.
• 59:45
  It's going to prolong your marriage. It's going to make your marriage funner.
• 59:49
  And try some of this stuff. I mean, it doesn't hurt to try something new.
• 59:54
  I will say one of the things that kills marriages is repetition of the exact
• 59:59
  same thing in the exact same way. There's no imagination.
• 1:00:03
  There's no new fun.
• 1:00:05
  I will say that you got to look at yourself as a temple, though.
• 1:00:08
  What do you mean? Be careful who you have sex with. Oh, yeah.
• 1:00:11
  Your body is a temple, and you need to make sure that whoever you allow into
• 1:00:16
  your temple is the right person. Yes.
• 1:00:19
  And there has to be consent and there has to be mutual pleasure.
• 1:00:24
  So look at your body. It's kind of like connection, no? Well,
• 1:00:27
  it starts with connection.
• 1:00:29
  I do think it's very important for people to realize that no means no.
• 1:00:34
  And you have to have consent and you have to be in a way that there's mutual pleasure without pain.
• 1:00:40
  And we're not talking about bondage or anything like that on this one,
• 1:00:43
  but we will cover that eventually in a podcast.
• 1:00:46
  And even then there has to be mutual consent yeah so
• 1:00:49
  sex positions are important and enjoy
• 1:00:53
  yourself and try these these are so much fun yeah
• 1:00:56
  it's nice to have fun with your partner it's
• 1:00:59
  you can include food yeah i
• 1:01:02
  love a little bit of whipped cream on a man ice cream ice
• 1:01:05
  cream or whipped cream yeah ice cream is a little bit sticky though no fruit
• 1:01:09
  ice cream whipped cream all those things are fun on a man it's pleasurable yeah
• 1:01:16
  and always respect what your partner wants and i don't think we do that enough no i don't think we ask.
• 1:01:25
  I don't think we ask about it. Yeah. Men are just, it's like at a certain point
• 1:01:29
  you just start going through the motions.
• 1:01:31
  But what if today you stopped living life as a zombie?
• 1:01:36
  Yeah. Because that's what it feels like. When you're just going through the
• 1:01:40
  motions, you're living like a zombie.
• 1:01:41
  Yeah. So what if you stopped and you said, let me change something in my life
• 1:01:46
  and let me start with my sex life?
• 1:01:48
  Yeah. Don't you just think like, well, it always come naturally. No, break out from that.
• 1:01:54
  Yes. Yeah, nothing come naturally. It's like it's mindful intimacy.
• 1:01:59
  Yeah, be creative. Yeah, if you're creative and you're intimate and you're doing
• 1:02:05
  something out of the norm, I challenge every person listening to this to find
• 1:02:10
  a new way with your partner, if you have a partner.
• 1:02:13
  Yeah. If you don't, you can imagine it in your mind when you're having your masturbation session.
• 1:02:20
  Right. But find a new way with your partner to do something different. Yeah, definitely.
• 1:02:25
  Yeah. And that's the other thing. My favorite sexual position against a wall. Uh-huh.
• 1:02:31
  Most men are having hip problems. Oh, my God. And I'm sitting here going,
• 1:02:35
  come on, man. I need a man that's got some good hips on him.
• 1:02:38
  He's a hips or knees problem. Oh, man. Well, that's why if you don't want him
• 1:02:42
  to hold you, you can also lean against the wall or even sit in the bathroom.
• 1:02:46
  Sit in a bathroom. Sit in a countertop.
• 1:02:48
  I mean, there's so many things. Anyway, so...
• 1:02:52
  Tantric sex is good. I will say tantric orgasms are better.
• 1:02:57
  They tend to be slower. They tend to be deeper. They take times.
• 1:03:01
  And it causes your whole body to erupt. To tinkling, right? It does.
• 1:03:05
  Yeah. So you can have it from just fingers.
• 1:03:08
  You can have a tantric sex from
• 1:03:10
  oral sex. And you can have it from regular intercourse, too. Yeah, yeah.
• 1:03:14
  With the tantric sex, there's a building, right? It always, tantric sex always
• 1:03:20
  starts with genital stimulation prior to intercourse. Always.
• 1:03:23
  Always. You don't just go straight for it. Tantric sex is not intercourse.
• 1:03:27
  Tantric sex is full-on excitement prior to intercourse. Kind of a foreplay.
• 1:03:33
  Yes. And typically the man is not going to ejaculate at all.
• 1:03:37
  At all. Until intercourse, if he even does then.
• 1:03:41
  Mm-hmm. Because it's going to be completely fulfilling.
• 1:03:44
  Yes. There can be some teasing with tantric sex. okay
• 1:03:47
  you will not need lubrication oh why
• 1:03:51
  because you will be so wet from tantric sex
• 1:03:54
  that there is no need for any type of lubrication and if
• 1:03:57
  you're not wet enough then they haven't done it long enough right
• 1:04:00
  it does it will cause climaxes and
• 1:04:03
  sensations that you have never felt in your body it
• 1:04:07
  will be a spiritual awakening yeah so learn the
• 1:04:11
  tantric sex as well not just the kama sutra Look into tantric sex Yep Typically
• 1:04:16
  a woman is going to experience multiple orgasms When I had my tantric massage
• 1:04:22
  I'm not going to tell you who with Okay When I had my tantric massage I had
• 1:04:27
  three orgasms Oh wow Within an hour.
• 1:04:31
  Some women cry,
• 1:04:33
  Is it really? Some women release trauma during a tantric orgasm. Uh-huh.
• 1:04:37
  So some women will actually cry in a good way, and some people are just releasing stress and anxiety.
• 1:04:44
  There's a feeling of bliss and a high. That is definitely hell from you who
• 1:04:49
  just come out from trauma.
• 1:04:50
  From trauma. And you can feel sensitive afterwards, like super sensitive for days after.
• 1:04:55
  It is so enlightening that for days after, your whole body will just feel tingly
• 1:05:02
  for a while. You just gave me an idea.
• 1:05:04
  I have a friend who just got off on bad divorce. Yes.
• 1:05:09
  And it's a good way to go. Oh, yes. Definitely.
• 1:05:13
  Well, and so you start off in a tantric. And we're going to cover just a little
• 1:05:17
  bit more in the tantric area. So you start off with a tantric massage.
• 1:05:20
  It's like a slow, usually with like some warm oil. It's full body.
• 1:05:27
  And typically you'll start face down. Okay. Just like you would if you were
• 1:05:32
  getting a normal massage. It can be done on a bed.
• 1:05:36
  And typically you'll have an orgasm face down first. Oh, wow.
• 1:05:40
  Yeah. So you have at least one orgasm, maybe two that way.
• 1:05:43
  Everything is consensual. And a lot of times when you're doing tantrics,
• 1:05:47
  there's a lot of communication. Yes.
• 1:05:50
  So, and some breath work, right? So it can, especially with your,
• 1:05:54
  you know, partner, your partner can ask you what you like.
• 1:05:57
  And then breathing deep is good. And your partner may say, breathe deeper,
• 1:06:02
  breathe deeper, breathe into the orgasm.
• 1:06:04
  I mean, it's almost like coaching into your orgasm.
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  It's like coaching session. Yeah. And so you're always typically starting face down.
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  And then after, they'll flip you over like in a normal massage. Okay. Okay.
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  And there's some eye gazing, like you can really connect with a person during
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  tantric massage. So I recommend doing it with a person that you love.
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  Yeah. Somebody who's your forever person or in a long-term relationship with.
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  This is not something you're doing with somebody that you've recently started.
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  Although you could. I mean, it depends on how central you are together. Yeah.
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  And then there's a lot of, you know, massaging of the breasts and the inner thighs and the neck.
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  And eventually the yoni. Everybody knows what yoni is, right?
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  What the yoni is, yeah. Yes, hopefully. Maybe you need to explain that.
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  So the yoni is the clitoris area and the outsides of the arid skin around it.
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  It's the sacred word for vulva, so the external parts of the female anatomy. Anatomy.
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  So it's another erogenous zone that gets massaged.
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  People who don't know you, they must think you've been on to the med school
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  or something. You know the whole anatomy, all the body parts.
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  Well, you kind of need to learn your body parts, right? I mean, it's my body.
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  Yeah. And I need to know what makes me happy and what doesn't.
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  See, a lot of women don't.
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  Well, this is the thing that we need to learn as women is that it's our bodies.
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  Right. And if we don't know how to make ourselves happy, how can we have someone
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  else make us happy? Right.
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  How are you going to be able to tell them to make you happy? Well, exactly.
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  And I'm not just talking sex. I'm talking just in general.
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  Yeah. So, ladies, you need to be happy within yourself first. Right. Learn your body.
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  So I think it's very important for women to know what turns them on.
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  Yeah. How to satisfy yourself. Yeah.
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  Because then when you're happy, personally, you can be happy in yourself,
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  and then you can teach your partner how to make you happy. Of course.
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  Yeah. We've been married for a long time. We've been the same guy for a long
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  time. We know each other.
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  Yeah. You know what I mean? You should totally be doing tantric sex. Oh, yeah.
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  Because when you're with somebody for a long period of time, there
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  is no reason not to know every aspect of what
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  they want sexually yes definitely yeah so
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  do you know every aspect of what he wants sexually yeah see ladies
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  you gotta learn it you have to know and he knows what i wanted yes so you've
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  learned but can you take it to the next level yeah can you have three four or
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  five orgasms in a sexual session yeah i'm thinking the night you have the roses
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  and the candles yeah i think the roses the candles coming right it's gonna have
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  It could be a minimum of three orgasms. Oh, easily.
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  There you go. And no fakie. No more fakie. No more fakie, ladies.
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  Fake is bad. You know, it's an emotional release, too.
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  It's part of healing. When you have tantric massage, and I do recommend it for
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  women that have recently...
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  Had a spouse die, or have recently gone through a breakup or a divorce,
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  a tantric massage is a wonderful way to release that pain and that emotion. Yeah.
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  And it will take you to the next level. It was actually part of my healing.
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  That's what I said. That's, it's called, because it was a therapy.
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  I don't know what it was. It was.
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  It was part, and the person that I did it with was really good. Yeah.
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  And it was part of my healing, and I knew I needed it. Yeah, kind of like Reiki.
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  You know, it's funny, when I got divorced, I didn't want another man to touch me. Oh, wow.
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  I literally, because I'd been with one man for 28 years, right?
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  Right. And I could feel it. Even the thought of allowing another man to touch
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  me kind of freaked me out.
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  And I had a block. I had a psychological block. But you don't feel it right now, do you?
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  Are you ready? I'm ready, man. I'm ready. I have been ready.
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  No, but when I got divorced, I didn't want anyone else to touch me.
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  So I did this to get my control back over my sexuality, over that aspect of
• 1:10:03
  my life. Right. Because I was a little broken there, too.
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  So the orgasm is a wonderful thing. Well, it was the tantric massage.
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  Okay. It wasn't just on having an orgasm, because that I could do.
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  Yeah. It was allowing another man to touch me in a sexual way.
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  Oh, I see. That wasn't my ex-husband.
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  And I needed it. Yeah. And I realized I needed it coming out of my divorce.
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  So I actually had a tantric massage three months after I got divorced.
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  That's awesome. Just because I wouldn't even date.
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  I couldn't go on dates. I couldn't even look at other men.
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  It was, I was a little broken.
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  Little? That's a lot. Well, I've come back pretty well. Yeah,
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  you did. But I think a lot of women go through this.
• 1:10:47
  Well, but you've gone through so many sessions. You research it.
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  To find a way for you to come out the healthy way well i felt it yeah and i
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  was like this is not healthy to not want another man to ever touch me and i would have gotten stuck.
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  And I know women get stuck. Yes. They come out of a divorce or bad relationship
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  or even their, God forbid, their spouse dies.
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  Oh, my God. And they cannot imagine allowing another man to touch them. Yeah.
• 1:11:17
  So there is a thing called tantric massage. Now, and it was so healing.
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  That's interesting. Because I was so blocked.
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  And the other thing it did, it kind of helped sexually awaken me.
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  Mm-hmm the tantric massage took me
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  to the next level and it depends if you if you want to
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  take it to that level if you're having a complete emotional sexual
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  block though you could do it with a friend
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  that knows you could also do it with the your first partner just saying it's
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  something you can do if you feel broken that's awesome yeah so that will help
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  as well the people that are looking for a way to move past yeah because i've
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  known someone that been divorced for so long,
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  get out, bad relationships, all of that.
• 1:12:02
  I think they need that. I met a woman that had been divorced for six years,
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  and she's still never been with anyone else.
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  She wasn't even dating, and she was still bitter at her ex-husband.
• 1:12:11
  Right, because she never get over it. Because they get stuck. Right.
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  I think sexual healing is a way to move on. What is the saying goes?
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  To get over someone, you have to get under someone. Right.
• 1:12:24
  It's kind of true. It's kind of true. You have to fill the nails hole with the
• 1:12:28
  nails. My mother's always told me that. Well, and here's the thing.
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  You don't need good nails.
• 1:12:32
  Here's the thing. After my tantric massage, I did not rush out and go have sex with anyone. You see?
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  I just needed to, I started to date, though. Uh-huh.
• 1:12:42
  I just needed to feel that I was a woman that could still be desired and could
• 1:12:47
  be touched by a man that...
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  Without feeling terrible. And
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  I, because I felt the idea of having a man touch me was disgusting to me.
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  Because I had such a traumatic marriage and divorce.
• 1:13:01
  The divorce was pretty traumatic too. Oh yeah, any divorce. Yes. So you have to move on.
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  For sure. And it's just a wonderful way to move on.
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  That's the best way to move on. And you didn't hurt anybody.
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  And I didn't hurt anyone.
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  You didn't break any laws either. Didn't break any laws. And it was just a massage
• 1:13:21
  with a nice little happy finish for a woman.
• 1:13:23
  A lot cheaper than nasty and it was pay for all those lawyers free.
• 1:13:28
  For sure. Well, and here's the thing. A lot of men have had happy finishes and massages.
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  There are a lot of massage parlors where there's men that get a happy finish.
• 1:13:39
  Oh, wow. So it's kind of a newer thing for women to have a tantric massage.
• 1:13:44
  And the difference is, on a woman, it's a lot more detailed and there's multiple orgasms. Oh, yeah.
• 1:13:52
  Now, tantric massages can also be without orgasm.
• 1:13:55
  So what it's going to do then is it's just going to bring you almost to climax and then back off.
• 1:14:01
  And what it does is it makes you so hypersensitive that you have such a heightened sensitivity.
• 1:14:07
  It also gives you trust and you get to surrender to your partner.
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  So it's it's a
• 1:14:13
  deep connection and it encourages great communication as does this feel good
• 1:14:19
  so it's another way for your partner to learn your body oh wow i think we've
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  covered nearly everything today i think this is a good one that people can actually
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  let us know yeah i think so
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  If you've ever had a tantric massage, let us know.
• 1:14:37
  If you want more information, just private message us. Yeah.
• 1:14:43
  But there's ways to make sure that,
• 1:14:46
  intercourse is as fun as it possibly can be.
• 1:14:49
  And I think we as women need to have a higher standard and start demanding more
• 1:14:53
  from intercourse than we have in the past. For sure. And stop faking.
• 1:14:57
  And stop faking it because intercourse is fun and can be amazing.
• 1:15:01
  Faking is bad. And then you should also, during intercourse,
• 1:15:05
  learn the positions that feel the best for you, not just the ones that feel the best for the guy.
• 1:15:11
  Oh, yeah, definitely. It's your body. You need to know. And a A lot of it's
• 1:15:14
  going to be your body, but also your partner's body.
• 1:15:17
  Like, how active are they? How energetic are they? How flexible are they?
• 1:15:23
  How big are they? How small are they? How long and how wide? I mean, it all matters.
• 1:15:28
  Yeah, it all matters. Some position, if you have big belly, that ain't happening.
• 1:15:32
  Yeah, let's all get rid of our big bellies, make America healthy again. Right.
• 1:15:37
  So, no more big bellies and sex. Right. If you have big belly,
• 1:15:41
  there's no, a lot of position, you cannot do it with big belly.
• 1:15:45
  Well, from a cardiovascular level too, you're not going to be able to sustain
• 1:15:50
  sex as long as if you have big bellies.
• 1:15:53
  Yeah, so. It's best to lose some
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  weight if you can, because it makes sex better, and sex is so important.
• 1:15:59
  Well, the weather is getting nice. Time to get out there and go around the block. Yeah. You know? Yep.
• 1:16:03
  So, is there anything else we need to cover today, Diva Mia?
• 1:16:07
  I don't think so, Diva Cat. I think we got everybody quite excited today after this conversation.
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  Get the massage. I think people are going to be in their bedrooms for a little bit after this podcast.
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  I know I will. All right. This is Diva Mia signing off. This is Diva Cat.
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