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What They REALLY Meant: Live Translation of Narcissistic Insults · The Mental Healness Podcast

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  Who, who, What's going on, beautiful folks?
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  Today we're translating narcissistic insults to tell you
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  what they really mean. Yesterday's video about how
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  narcissists treat you is really how they feel about themselves
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  is doing well. So I decided to do a Live Today
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  to take a few questions and answers and answer a few
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  questions about some of the insults that narcissists lay
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  into you right. So it's going to be a quick
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  quick Q and AQ and A if you have any questions drop them in the
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  chat and whatnot. I will be reading them on the
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  screen like this first question. Hey Lee, my ex, my ex-husband
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  narc of 15 years, they kicked that I kicked out six months ago
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  doing no contact. Now he is texting my parents and
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  he is stalking me. But but text him.
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  He can't wait to sign the voice papers laugh out loud.
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  So it sounds like he's trying to get your parents on his side.
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  What he, what he's doing right now is trying to build up his
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  reputation with other people in your circle, which most times
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  does not work because the people in your circle know you.
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  But every once in a while there's a like a little
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  straggler. Every once in a while there's a
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  straggler in there that believes them and goes against what you
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  goes against you. Like sometimes it could be a
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  family member, sometimes there could be a friend, it could be
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  somebody right there, right. So it really just kind of
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  depends on the situation. Yeah, in essence.
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  So this does work, but it sound like your ex-husband, your toxic
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  narcissistic ex-husband is just trying to get ahead of something
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  to try to make it seem like he's the victim here.
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  And he done, he did everything that he could to try to make
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  things work and it just wasn't good enough.
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  It wasn't good enough. We didn't listen.
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  So thanks for saying thanks for the question right there.
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  And if you just now join in a live, make sure you check out
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  yesterday's video. Y'all is the the the title of it
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  is how a narcissist treats you is how they feel about
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  themselves. How they treat you is how they
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  feel about themselves. You want to understand the mind
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  of a narcissist and how a narcissist mind truly works in
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  this situation right here right here's the link.
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  I'm gonna drop the link right here.
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  Jeanette says they are not responding.
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  Good. You got good parents then.
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  If your parents are not responding today, pretty much
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  what it is is like a an unknown caller, a spam caller and good
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  for them. You got good parents, wise
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  parents. Your parents know who you are,
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  but everybody else doesn't. Some people don't have that
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  right there, right? Some people have toxic parents
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  or parents who don't like them or parents who say some kind of
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  craziness to them. And just like you need to go
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  back into it. You had a good, you had a good
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  husband, you had a good partner, you had a Good Wife.
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  You had a good this a good that and they'll they'll chastise you
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  and try to put you down for leaving.
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  Next question, why would they treat so many others better than
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  me? So you'll be close.
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  I I talked about this in yesterday's video as well.
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  You're the closest person to them.
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  So you become the dump site for everything that's going on
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  inside. You do.
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  You're close to me. So you become my vent to the
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  world like you become my vent everybody else out here.
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  And yeah, let me preface this. It's not going to sound fair,
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  but because because you are close to me, you get the run off
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  like the first like like you kind of like the thing about
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  like this, the 1st house, the, the house that's closest to the
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  nuclear power plant that explodes or that melts down gets
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  the brunt of it, right? The closest house to that
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  nuclear power plant meltdown is going to get the brunt of
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  everything. The houses in another country,
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  the houses down the street are not going to get it as bad,
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  right? But because you're close to me,
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  you get the worst treatment. Hope that makes sense.
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  Please talk about realistic expectations, Co parenting with
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  narcissists. I'm having health issues trying
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  to cope with stress, basically being a single mind.
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  So in this situation right here, right, it's there's so much
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  nuance to this right 'cause I can't answer like there's so
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  many different directions this can go.
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  I have a lot of videos about my on my channel about Co
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  parenting. In your specific situation, I'll
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  need a little bit more detail. But right here, having health
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  issues, trying to cope with stress, you got to understand
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  who you're dealing with now because you already know what
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  you're going to get. Like a lot of times, people
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  bring more stress to themselves thinking things will be
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  different. You already know who you're
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  dealing with. You already know who your
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  opponent is. You already know their mentality
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  and how their minds work, right? So it's kind of like you, if
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  you're hoping against hope and you're consistently being let
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  down because you hope things will be different, you hope that
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  they'll show some sympathy or some empathy.
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  You're going to bring more stress, more struggle into your
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  own life trying to deal with this right here, right.
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  So it's kind of like in order to get ahead of this, you already
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  got to know, understand who you're dealing with, right?
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  You know, you're you know, you're a Co parent, you know
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  this person, right, you know who they are.
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  So it's kind of like you understand them.
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  So you have to be get get ahead of it right?
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  Always have a Plan B. If you can't have this Co parent
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  helping you out. You had to have a Plan B right?
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  And I said I do one on ones over zoom.
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  If y'all didn't know mental illness.net right here.
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  You want to check those out or I do phone calls as well.
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  Mental illness.net for that as well.
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  Talk about religious narcissists, religious
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  narcissists or I mean, I'm a y'all like when I keep it real,
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  religious narcissists are some of the worst people on the
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  planet. Most religious narcissists are
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  going to be in like governments, the head of churches and stuff
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  like that. Seriously, in this situation
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  right there, like this is this. This is the impact right here.
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  Religious narcissists are the worst people on the planet,
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  plain and simple. Some of them are presidents,
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  some of them are congressmen, some of them are pastors,
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  preachers, mega churches, Christian nationalists.
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  These are horrible fucking people.
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  Evil people, that y'all. If you're a religious person, or
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  if you're a goofy stupid religious person, you believe
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  that these people are also religious.
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  You hold these horrible fucking people in high accord right?
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  Presidents that don't read the Bible, they can't quote a can't
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  quote a Bible verse. Hold the Bible upside down.
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  Y'all look at this person as the high and mighty as God's gift.
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  Y'all are fucking stupid right? Religious people, religious
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  narcissists target other religious Co vulnerable stupid
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  people. And this what ends up happening.
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  I I, I just really get triggered with the religious part of it
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  because so many people just get tied up and twisted and just are
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  just so damn dumb. God, boy, I see we, we have an
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  education problem in, in, in our country 'cause people are
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  fucking stupid, man. I don't get to be triggered with
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  this religious narcissism, OK, Chaplains, ministers, the worst.
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  Yeah, my ex told me I have a smart mouth.
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  So what did that mean? He probably.
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  So could you have a smart mouth, Anna?
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  Yeah, you could have a smart mouth, right?
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  But a lot of times in these situations, what they're really
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  saying is they don't like me. Talk back to them.
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  They don't like when you hold them accountable.
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  They don't like when you have words to say that are not in
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  agreement with what their words are, right?
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  So sometimes that's the easiest, that's not the easiest way.
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  That's the way to go about doing things right there, right?
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  This is how it goes. So you could have a smart mouth
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  and you really could, but sometimes you don't, right?
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  Sometimes they think your mouth is smart because you're not
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  agreeing with me. So I think your mouth is smart
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  and whatnot, right? You're 100% right.
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  Common sense is not so common. You sure about sentiments?
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  Appreciate it. Please explain why narcissistic
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  parents see their children as an extension of themselves.
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  So I don't think all of them see see children's as extensions of
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  themselves. But a lot do.
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  A lot of narcissistic parents do.
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  Right? Especially if I'm insecure and
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  that child is like shining lights on parts of me that I
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  don't like being shined on. That's when I hate that type of
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  stuff, right? There you are.
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  If you, if I see you as an extension of me and you're not
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  being a good extension, is it to me.
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  That's why you get some time. That's why you get some
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  narcissistic parents that discard their children, right?
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  Bingo. Oh, is that right?
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  My narcissist, my ex narcissist is texting me.
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  But don't. But don't call.
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  I told him I was moving on. The texting is like bread
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  crumbing. I've been ignoring him for a
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  while now. I feel better.
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  I have energy. Yeah.
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  Ignore him as much as you as possibly can.
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  You want, you might want to graduate to the blocking though,
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  because ignore him. Take.
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  Ignoring him takes energy, right When you get a message, it takes
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  energy to not read it or to read it and not take it personally.
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  I don't know your whole situation if y'all have kids
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  together or something like that, but that's why it goes right
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  there. He takes my parents all the
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  things he did to me but said I did to him.
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  Yep, you see right there. That's literally the 100% I
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  bought my video yesterday. That's literally they treat you
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  how they feel about themselves and they accuse you of doing
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  what they're actually doing because he that's how you know
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  look, that's how you know that Jeanette's ex know that he was a
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  bad person and that was what he was doing is wrong.
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  That's how you know right? You know, that's how you know
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  that he knows that he was wrong. Like he knows it because he
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  accused her of doing it. That's how you know it's bad and
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  he knows that he did it right. He knows it's bad.
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  Why would a close to B person give that new supply the same
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  exact gifts and the same exact sequence as it did to me?
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  Because that's the patterns right there, right?
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  Those are the patterns that narcissists follow right there.
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  It's easy to give you the same thing that I gave my ex,
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  especially if it if it works. There's a song by Fabulous.
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  There's a song by the rapper Fabulous that goes into that
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  right there. What's this?
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  What is like? I only want it, got it.
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  Like I only want to be with you Fabulous.
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  What's the name of that song right there?
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  I can't let you go. That's the name of that song.
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  I can't let you go by Fabulous. He talks about I he talks about
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  buying his New Girl the same thing he bought his ex but he
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  bought buying a new supply the same thing he got his girl.
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  I cop her one and cop you one too.
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  My ex narc husband that I have no contact has been diagnosed
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  with cancer and is receiving treatment.
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  I do not know what to do. We share a son together.
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  Any advice? So if you're in no contact you
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  can stay no contact right? But there this so this is 1 of
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  dilemmas, man, that you have to do what you feel like you can
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  live with, right? If you're no contact and you can
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  take being no contact if something happens to him and you
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  don't have any, you won't have any regrets.
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  Say no contact, right? If stay in no contact helps you
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  find peace, of course, right. But if you're I don't know how
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  old your son is, but if you have a a young son that's going back
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  and forth, you see what I'm saying?
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  If your son is older, you might can send your condolences or
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  whatever or whatever through, I don't know.
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  This was a tough situation. If it was me, if it was me and
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  you treated, you treated me horribly while we were together.
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  I ain't got, you know what I'm saying?
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  I'm just, it's very difficult for me to just like, Oh my God,
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  I feel bad for you Tammy. What's going on, girl?
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  She says. Why is his smear campaign
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  accusing me of being a lesbian and proclaiming himself to be a
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  martyr? Because this allows him to play
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  the victim right here. Y'all, I'm the victim.
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  I tried to get Tammy everything. I gave Tammy my heart, my soul.
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  And guess what? The whole time she was a
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  lesbian, she was a Butch, she was she was a stud.
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  Tammy was a stud lesbian the whole time.
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  I wasted my time with her. She did not live her truth with
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  me. The whole thing was a lie.
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  You see how easy I played the victim right there by just
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  making up, making up stuff. It just made that up.
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  Narcissists only open their mouth to talk about themselves.
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  They don't have the capacity to talk about somebody else.
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  That's true for the most part. Right there.
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  Right. Unless the narcissist is trying
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  to find a way to make themselves feel better, then yeah, I will
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  absolutely talk about you. You know what I'm saying?
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  If I need to validate myself, I will absolutely talk about you
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  or somebody else. Insults from narcissists are
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  like inside jokes. The recipient of the insult
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  understands it's an insult, but bystanders actually think the
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  narcissist is being reasonable. Yeah, that's called a dog.
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  This could be what we call to what we refer to as dog
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  whistles, right? These are like dog whistles.
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  It's like I say this stuff that I know will trigger you or make
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  you feel bad, but everybody else thinks it's cool, right?
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  Everybody else is just like, that's an amazing joke, Lee.
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  The whole time I'm looking at you, waiting for you to snap
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  away. Gotcha.
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  You see what I'm saying? So that inside jokes, inside
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  triggers, those are really those are really true right there.
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  No problem, Tammy. I always appreciate you, girl.
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  You've been. You've been robbing me for a
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  long time. I appreciate you.
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  I appreciate y'all. I'll be if y'all been around for
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  a long time. I really appreciate y'all.
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  Victoria. Melissa, is this Melissa from
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  the group? What's up, girl?
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  If that is you, Angela, you've been around for a minute too.
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  I already noticed. I noticed the picture profile
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  picture, the yellow profile picture.
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  Narcis are always going to insult you if Yep, Yep, Yep.
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  This is true right here though. Narcis are always going to
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  insult you if you make them feel bad and inferior.
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  This is 1000% true. Yes.
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  Yeah, I don't look, look, no notes.
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  I don't have anything to add to that.
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  You just said everything right there.
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  You said it 100%. I don't get look, I have nothing
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  to add to that. Nothing to add to it.
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  Good job. It was good O you right there.
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  That's how I said hey. You did not say hey.
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  Yeah, I did. He must be getting bored of his
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  new supplies. I thought he was going for good
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  this time so he could be still moving forward but also reaching
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  back. Just because they they could be
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  having good a good time with the new supply or new supplies,
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  right? It doesn't mean that they will
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  leave you alone. That's one thing.
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  It doesn't mean that they will leave you alone just because
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  they are feeling bad. They have new supplies, right?
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  That doesn't mean they'll leave you alone.
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  Wow, I think I'm behind y'all how to go no contact in the same
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  building. So you have to make a plan right
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  here, right? This is this requires planning
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  and a lot of it right, because if I live with you or we work
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  together, it's very especially about jobs are into intertwine.
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  Go no contact as much as possible, right, If no contact
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  is UN is it's very difficult to go no contact.
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  If we if me and you, me and you happy 9193 like I'm call you
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  happy. If me and you happy all working
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  together in the same cubicle and we we have projects and stuff.
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  It's impossible to no contact. So I'm gonna go low contact or
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  what I refer to as on contact. You see what you're saying?
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  You hear the no contact. I call it on contact.
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  Only necessary contact. It's only necessary.
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  Only what is necessary. Only about the kids, only about
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  the job, only about whatever we had to talk about.
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  Only about the bills. You say only necessary contact.
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  On contact. What's going on, Adam?
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  What's going on? Six months no contact.
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  Still he living back with his mom who hates me while stalking
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  me. I know they make this.
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  Is something right there, Right. My ex is in state for renal
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  failure. Oh, no.
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  When I found out and started to understand what he was doing to
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  me, I told the demon I hope his kidneys fall out.
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  I think he wanted to unalive me. But me?
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  Sorry. Oh, goodness gracious.
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  You really. You don't look.
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  If you got my voodoo doll. What?
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  What's your name? Shawn Trees.
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  If you got my voodoo doll, just look.
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  Just Just scratch his head. Look, scratch.
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  Scratch my back for me. Scratch my head.
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  I'm sorry. I didn't do that until you.
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  You got you. You.
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  You got a touch right there. You you hope my kidneys fail.
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  If you got my voodoo doll, Shawn Trees.
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  I'm sorry, is it possible for most of your family men to be
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  narcissists by default? Yeah.
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  You can have a narcissistic cult dynamic, right?
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  You can have a narcissistic cult family dynamic.
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  You absolutely can. What is going on?
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  Oh, this is Melissa from The Good.
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  What's up, girl? How you doing, Melissa?
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  Yeah, Melissa is a thriver. I'm so like, I'm so proud of
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  her. She's doing so that you doing
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  good, girl. Like Melissa escaped and bought
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  a house, moved away. She's doing good.
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  Especially is she is she been battling so many different
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  situations. I'm gonna give you a round
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  applause, girl. Seriously, you're doing good.
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  She's Melissa's in my my my mental health and support group.
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  So I got to watch her journey from very beginning to where
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  she's at right now. And I bought it, got on my own,
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  bought a house. God, good shit.
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  I'm like super. I'm seriously proud of you.
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  Like it's that's super cool. Appreciate the the Super super
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  chat Pearl. My narcissist ex got fired
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  recently and he has and has gone no contact.
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  Prior to getting fired he started being mean, called me a
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  nerd and a narcissist in fact. It's sad but I still want him
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  back. Help.
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  So you can't just turn your feelings off, right?
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  So it's not, it's not sad, it's human.
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  You're a human being. Welcome to the welcome to the
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  human race, right? Well, welcome, welcome to the
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  human race. You have empathy, so don't feel
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  it's not sad. It's humanity.
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  You, it's your humanity still being there.
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  You, you can't just turn your feelings off, right?
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  That's not how feelings work. You know what I mean?
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  So in this situation right here, because you can't just turn your
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  feelings off, you have to find they have to go somewhere.
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  So take your time. Healing takes time.
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  Be kind to yourself. You have a very pre smile too,
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  so you're going to be fine. So be kind to yourself.
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  You're going to be good, but it just takes a while to heal,
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  right? It really does.
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  So as you're healing and moving forward, just understand that
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  it's not your fault. And he, it seemed like he
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  probably knew he was going to get fired because you said prior
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  to him getting fired, he started being mean, called you a nerd
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  and a narcissist. In fact, that means that he was
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  already plotting this stuff, right?
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  That means he already probably knew he was about to get his ass
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  axed from his work and he just started taking his anger out on
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  you. Like my video from yesterday
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  about how narcissists treat you, how they feel about themselves.
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  He was feeling bad because he's going to get fired.
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  So he start calling you fat, start calling you a nerd, which
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  is nothing is wrong with being a nerd.
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  Nothing is wrong with the nothing wrong with being bigger
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  or whatever the case may be, right?
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  So that's cool right there. So thank you for the donation to
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  the channel. Just stay in power.
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  You got this though. Took me 4 years to figure this
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  out. He's a covert, hard to detect.
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  Yeah. Coverts are more subtle.
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  They're sneaky. Narcissist sneaky how you know
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  they're done. Most times you have to be the
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  one to end it completely because they'll keep coming back
• 19:30
  Sometimes if you if you, if they, if they feel like you
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  allow them to, they'll keep come back into your life.
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  Not not the voodoo doll. Yeah, if you, if you got my
• 19:39
  voodoo doll by any chance, if you ended up at your house, just
• 19:42
  set it to the side. Look, just set it to the side.
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  Just be kind to it. You know what I mean?
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  If I keep ignoring him, will he finally leave me alone for good?
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  So I can't guarantee that. I wish I could just say hell
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  yeah. I can't guarantee that though,
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  right? I wish I could.
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  But there's no guarantee that he will absolutely leave you alone.
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  Will you ignore it? You know what I'm saying?
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  There's no guarantee that he will absolutely leave you be.
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  Keep doing it. Block him.
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  Send that message. He was saying.
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  Send that message that, hey, access is cut off.
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  And that way it helps you out right there.
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  Mine came back. You see?
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  No problem, girl. I always appreciate you.
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  They diagnosed they diagnosed me with narcissistic personality
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  disorder. The narcissist very care.
• 20:29
  Those are the narcissist did not a therapist.
• 20:31
  OK, Yeah, they of course they're going to diagnose you.
• 20:34
  You know what? You're the narcissist, not I if
• 20:41
  I keep. Oh, I I've read it already.
• 20:44
  What do you do when narcissists intimidate you to break no
• 20:47
  contact and get a reaction from you?
• 20:49
  Stay no contact as long as you possibly can, Right?
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  Because in these situations, they want to try to get a
• 20:55
  reaction from you because a reaction, a response means
• 20:57
  access, means control. They think they have control
• 21:00
  over your, your emotions, right. This way it goes right here.
• 21:04
  So yeah, she says I'm good. Chantree said I am good.
• 21:08
  Thank you. I need that damn voodoo doll for
• 21:11
  my for my ex sitting next to me in court.
• 21:14
  Oh, yeah, In your opinion, just calling a narcissistic ex my
• 21:20
  narcissist a big narcissistic? Just curiosity.
• 21:22
  No, I don't. I don't think that's
• 21:24
  narcissistic in and of itself because this is how people talk,
• 21:26
  right? It just like my narcissistic ex
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  or my narcissist how people talk, right?
• 21:31
  It's not sometimes. Moving on.
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  I can understand how this how that language right there can
• 21:37
  make you feel like it's narcissistic, but this is how
• 21:39
  people just talk, right? My dog, my pet, my pencil, my
• 21:43
  caffeine pills, my phone. You see what I'm saying?
• 21:47
  This is just the way of describing it.
• 21:48
  It helps you moving forward if you just say my ex or them or
• 21:53
  name them or whatever, right? It helps you moving forward
• 21:55
  because you say my, my narcissist, it does kind of
• 21:58
  claim, claim them. You keep claiming them.
• 22:01
  Language, the words. The words absolutely do matter.
• 22:03
  That right. I want to thank you because you
• 22:08
  helped me a lot to heal. Currently healing from a Hoover
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  attempt where she told me about her new boyfriend and she don't
• 22:13
  want me back. But I solely see the end of my
• 22:15
  journey. There you go, Marco.
• 22:17
  There you go, man. Pretty good.
• 22:18
  You're commenting. Yeah.
• 22:19
  If they tell you about their new person, like, are they really,
• 22:22
  truly happy then? But think about that right
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  there. If I'm telling you about my new
• 22:29
  person, am I really happy? Guess what?
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  You see what I'm saying. If I go in here, let me just
• 22:35
  pick a name right here. If I say guess what, Jeanette,
• 22:40
  my new Boo is amazing. Her hair is redder than yours.
• 22:43
  She's God. She's just.
• 22:45
  Her name is Jeanette. She has three TS in her name and
• 22:48
  two and three ES. He's better than you in every
• 22:51
  way. You see what I'm saying?
• 22:51
  That's stupid. Happy people don't have to let
• 22:55
  you know that they're happy. They just are happy, right?
• 22:57
  Happy people don't torture their exes.
• 22:59
  Happy people don't stalk you. Happy people are not obsessed
• 23:02
  with exes. So are they truly happy?
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  Do they come back after six months after I kicked him out?
• 23:08
  Lee. He might, he might.
• 23:08
  Very well, he was Australian. He might come back.
• 23:11
  You know what I'm saying? Sometimes they'll try to come
• 23:13
  back. They'll they'll test the water.
• 23:14
  They'll test the boundaries and whatnot, right?
• 23:20
  Yeah. If y'all want to check out
• 23:21
  yesterday's video about how narcissists treat you is the way
• 23:24
  they feel about themselves. I just dropped the link in the
• 23:26
  comment section. This is this is what the link
• 23:29
  looks like. Make sure you save it for later.
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  You can check it out yourself right here and it's a a great
• 23:36
  video that I did just yesterday just yesterday.
• 23:41
  I did it yesterday, posted it yesterday.
• 23:44
  Yeah, yesterday. Yes, yes, squid.
• 23:55
  I had a lot of links my abuser or your abuser is what domestic
• 23:58
  violence hotline workers will talk to say folks calling in not
• 24:01
  refer to my OK appreciate that appreciate that when I when I
• 24:03
  said that I think it felt kind of weird.
• 24:05
  So appreciate that right there. Appreciate that a lot of
• 24:08
  location when I said it out loud, I said I was like this
• 24:10
  sounds kind of weird to say my narcissist.
• 24:12
  Then I said I think the words are very important to use.
• 24:14
  I appreciate you sharing that right there.
• 24:16
  Thank you so much. So y'all, I can be corrected Yes
• 24:21
  and awesome. There you go.
• 24:23
  I used to like I, I, I used to watch so much stuff about
• 24:26
  Australia on Discovery Channel. I never wanted to go right.
• 24:32
  I've never wanted to go right to Australia, but my favorite place
• 24:37
  I've ever been is Australia. I went to Sydney, Australia a
• 24:39
  couple years ago to be on to be on the the TV show insight on
• 24:43
  SBS and I had a great time with the Bondi Beach everything.
• 24:48
  It was cool that narc is on ADL. Which one?
• 24:54
  You're most welcome. Appreciate it.
• 24:56
  You have a great funny personality.
• 24:58
  That's why I just like I try to bring humor to healing y'all.
• 25:00
  That's my goal is to make people laugh through this stuff
• 25:02
  sometimes because it can be out. This is a very, very tough
• 25:07
  subject to talk about and that's why I try to bring humor to it.
• 25:10
  I'm about to start doing more short films and stuff too, man.
• 25:13
  Like if y'all are, if y'all are in North Carolina and are on
• 25:16
  some actor stuff, I'm about to start doing short films and
• 25:20
  stuff and stuff like that in North Carolina.
• 25:22
  I live in like the Raleigh dorm area.
• 25:24
  I'm in Hillsborough right now. But you want to be part of my
• 25:26
  films and stuff like that are coming up about toss
• 25:29
  relationship dynamics. Reach out to me, e-mail me.
• 25:33
  Humor is the most important thing in my opinion.
• 25:35
  That's the goal right there. You're most welcome.
• 25:37
  I see I'm going through comments again.
• 25:38
  Y'all narcissist, narcissist who bragged they so good looking and
• 25:43
  can get any girl They constantly.
• 25:45
  Are they secretly insecure? Yeah, I so I used to say stuff
• 25:48
  like that. I might not look at like a
• 25:49
  y'all, but I used to think like that.
• 25:51
  I can get any girl I want. Truth be told, I'm super
• 25:55
  insecure, right? So I'd be so I used to be So I'm
• 25:58
  still right there. I'm married, but but I used to
• 26:00
  be so afraid of rejection that I wouldn't talk to women.
• 26:03
  I would I would hopefully they would come up to me right.
• 26:07
  And when they would come up to me and talk to me, I always felt
• 26:09
  like, OK, this person is attracted to me.
• 26:11
  So my chances of getting rejected are less because you
• 26:13
  talk to me first, right? So I would wait for them to
• 26:16
  initiate contact with me. So when you talk to me, I
• 26:18
  already felt like you were attracted to me.
• 26:20
  So when you were attracted to someone or attracted to me, I
• 26:23
  would feel like I can get away with more stuff.
• 26:25
  I could push the limits a little bit more because you're already
• 26:27
  attracted to me, right? That's how it goes, right?
• 26:29
  That's literally how my mind used to work.
• 26:32
  I'll be afraid to approach women because I would think they were
• 26:33
  going to reject me. So I would wait for them to come
• 26:35
  talk to me. And that's how my mind will
• 26:38
  work, truly. And that's how we'll get them,
• 26:42
  you know? Yep.
• 26:45
  Narcissistic men and narcissistic women too, use
• 26:48
  women to get attention, evaluation.
• 26:49
  Yep. Thank you for sharing.
• 26:51
  I learned so much for you. That's the goal.
• 26:54
  That's the goal. Why won't he sign divorce
• 26:57
  papers? Because he don't want to be
• 26:58
  divorced. He want to stay where he want to
• 27:01
  stay there. That message turns green.
• 27:04
  They lose their damn minds out. I was like, no, when I read
• 27:09
  that. I like this.
• 27:09
  That sounds like something I said before these.
• 27:11
  I was just watching your videos. Yeah, that message go from blue
• 27:14
  to green. They lose their damn minds when
• 27:16
  that's it. When that message turns green,
• 27:18
  they lose it. I promise you.
• 27:22
  Should I be concerned about splitting custody with a narc?
• 27:24
  So I feel like you should always be concerned to a certain
• 27:26
  extent, right? And just monitor the situation
• 27:28
  because you can't always keep them from doing that, right?
• 27:32
  You can't always get full custody, 100% custody.
• 27:35
  So sometimes you have to go pairing with them or pairing
• 27:37
  with them and stuff like that, right?
• 27:38
  Sometimes this is where it goes. I appreciate you lady.
• 27:41
  I didn't have a clue about narcissism, so I live in it.
• 27:43
  I still have feelings, but I didn't have the desire to want
• 27:46
  to be back with him. Good for you.
• 27:47
  I pray for him to be removed from my life.
• 27:49
  My healing and peace is most important.
• 27:51
  Me. I killed his ego in the worst
• 27:52
  way and saw him collapse. There you go.
• 27:54
  I got a video, I got a very recent video about the
• 27:55
  narcissistic collapse because once they, once they feel like
• 27:58
  you're not coming back, they lose their damn mind.
• 28:00
  They collapse, right? Especially if they are
• 28:03
  anticipating you coming back and forth doing this thing over and
• 28:05
  over again. They lose it.
• 28:11
  Why do they triangulate you? Because that right there is the
• 28:14
  ultimate power to turn people against each other and you not
• 28:18
  have to do the work. The people are arguing back and
• 28:20
  forth without you having to do any extra work.
• 28:24
  Power move. Superpower move.
• 28:30
  It's a superpower move. Hold on.
• 28:39
  Wish I could vent to my dad about dating a narc situation,
• 28:42
  but my dad is a narc and my mom is toxic.
• 28:44
  I hate that because there in that situation right there, you
• 28:46
  feel like you're alone. I called it right there be I
• 28:49
  called it. I called it narcissist Island
• 28:51
  right there because it was like, you have nobody else to talk to
• 28:55
  accept these people when they're not, you know, they're not even
• 28:57
  trying to help you out or anything.
• 28:58
  Right? There really is narcissist
• 29:01
  Island and that's how it goes. It really does suck to be in a
• 29:05
  type of situation right there to have or to be dealing with
• 29:07
  people who have this mentality and whatnot as well, you know?
• 29:15
  Anyway, y'all, I've been live for about 30 minutes.
• 29:17
  I'm gonna go I'm gonna be going live like almost every other day
• 29:20
  y'all, so make sure to check out my stuff right here, y'all.
• 29:23
  It's like think I'm tuning into the live and whatnot.
• 29:26
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• 29:32
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