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Ep. 657: Clay Newcomb’s Parenting Philosophy for Raising Young Hunters · Wired To Hunt Podcast

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Speaker 1: Welcome to the Wired to Hunt Podcast, your guide to
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Speaker 1: Go Farther, Stay Longer, and now your host, Mark Kenyon.
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Speaker 2: Welcome to the Wired to Hunt Podcast. I'm your host,
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Speaker 2: Mark Kenyon, and this week on the show, we're diving
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Speaker 2: into the wisdom fill parenting philosophy the Klay Newcomb's leaned
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Speaker 2: down as he's introduced his four children to the hunting lifestyle.
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Speaker 2: All right, welcome to the Wired to Hunt podcast, brought
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Speaker 2: to you by First Light, and this week we are
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Speaker 2: continuing our series on parenting outdoor kids, and specifically today
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Speaker 2: spending a lot of time talking about introducing your children
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Speaker 2: to hunting. And our guest today, as I mentioned at
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Speaker 2: the top, is the one and only Clay Newcomb. If
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Speaker 2: you are not familiar with Clay Newcomb, I don't know.
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Speaker 2: You must have been living under a rock or something.
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Speaker 2: Clay is one of my colleagues here at Meat Eater.
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Speaker 2: He's the host of the Bear Grease podcast, host of
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Speaker 2: the Bear Grease road Show on the Media to YouTube channel,
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Speaker 2: and I think one of our foremost thinkers, speakers, and
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Speaker 2: storytellers within the hunting and outdoor community. He's a just
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Speaker 2: a wise man. He is full of intuitions and insights
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Speaker 2: and ideas and fascinations that I think we all can
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Speaker 2: learn from. And so today that was my hope, is
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Speaker 2: that we could get my friend Clay here to share
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Speaker 2: a little bit of his experience in his journey as
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Speaker 2: a dad and trying to introduce his kids and teach
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Speaker 2: his kids about hunting and using hunting as an opportunity
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Speaker 2: to grow young men and women. And he's had a
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Speaker 2: lot of experience doing it. He has four children, two girls,
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Speaker 2: two boys, and the oldest of which is twenty one.
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Speaker 2: So he's been doing this for twenty one years now.
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Speaker 2: He has seen what has worked, he's seen what hasn't
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Speaker 2: worked as well. He has lived it, he's learned it.
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Speaker 2: He has a lot to share. And man, I just
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Speaker 2: wrapped up this conversation with Clay. I think there are
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Speaker 2: some really really nice little gems here we can take
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Speaker 2: away from this. We're gonna learn some things about his philosophy,
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Speaker 2: and I think that is an important takeaway is that
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Speaker 2: you know there isn't necessarily a one right answer to
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Speaker 2: any of these questions about how to introduce your kids
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Speaker 2: to hunting or fishing or the outdoors. There's no specific
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Speaker 2: correct way to do any of these things. But if
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Speaker 2: you can develop a philosophy, if you can develop a
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Speaker 2: set of values or processes that you go through that
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Speaker 2: will inform how you make these decisions, that will guide
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Speaker 2: you as you go through life with your son or
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Speaker 2: daughter and experience all that the natural world has to
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Speaker 2: throw at you together. Having something to fall back on,
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Speaker 2: a foundation, some set of ideas that help you make
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Speaker 2: decisions throughout life. That's going to be helpful. And Clay
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Speaker 2: shares with us his and I think we can all
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Speaker 2: borrow from it in part, maybe in whole, to help
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Speaker 2: us on our own journeys as mothers, fathers, and as hunters.
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Speaker 2: So that's our conversation today. It is fun, it's insightful,
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Speaker 2: and actionable, I think would be the last way I
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Speaker 2: would describe it. So with that out of the way,
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Speaker 2: I don't think we need to be labor this anymore.
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Speaker 2: I think we should just get to my chat with Clay.
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Speaker 2: It's a good one and I hope you enjoy it
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Speaker 2: all right here with me now on the line, we
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Speaker 2: have the one and only Clay nukembe Clay. Thanks for
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Speaker 2: being here. Hey, Mark, I appreciate it, man, Yeah, I
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Speaker 2: appreciate you making time to do this. You are a
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Speaker 2: busy man with a seemingly endless supply of Bear Grease
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Speaker 2: episodes to record in all sorts of adventures. So thanks
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Speaker 2: for clearing the schedule.
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Speaker 3: It's all hype, man, don't tell anybody, but yeah, it's
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Speaker 3: it's it's it's not hard. I just, like you know,
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Speaker 3: roll into work just whenever I want and don't travel much.
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Speaker 3: It's easy, Mark, This is no big deal.
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Speaker 2: You know what. You're good at a lot of stuff, Clay,
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Speaker 2: but Lion is not one of them. Hey, what's what's
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Speaker 2: the word on that Country Life? How's stuff going on
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Speaker 2: that so far for Brent and you?
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Speaker 4: Oh, man, it's it's I think it's going really well.
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Speaker 3: So at the time we're recording, there's three episodes of
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Speaker 3: this Country Life which have come out, which are the
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Speaker 3: host of that show? Is my good friend your friend too,
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Speaker 3: Mark Brent Reeves. Brent's from Arkansas. Brent's kind of been
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Speaker 3: on the Bear Grease cruise since the beginning, not officially,
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Speaker 3: but he's been involved in my podcast for a while
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Speaker 3: and just a longtime friend. And so he now has
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Speaker 3: a podcast. It's short, it's twenty minutes long. It's a monologue,
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Speaker 3: it's kind of funny. It funny folksy teaches you a
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Speaker 3: little bit, and just a real lighthearted, little little narrative
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Speaker 3: about country living man. And it's going good. We're getting
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Speaker 3: a lot of good feedback on it. And it's on
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Speaker 3: the bear Grease feed So it's like part of kind
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Speaker 3: of the bear Grease world, kind of like Foundations is
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Speaker 3: for you and Tony Yep exactly.
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Speaker 2: So Brent had an episode talking about the different things
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Speaker 2: in his pocket. Right, has that made you at all
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Speaker 2: any more self conscious about what's in your pocket? Or
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Speaker 2: have you have you started thinking about that a little
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Speaker 2: more now that folks are probably asking you about that,
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Speaker 2: you know what? Brent?
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Speaker 3: He sometimes people in media might like exaggerate the stuff
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Speaker 3: that they do. Like for example, they might talk about
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Speaker 3: all the stuff they carry in their pocket, but really
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Speaker 3: on any given day they might not actually have that stuff. Brent,
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Speaker 3: for real, for the last forty years has literally carried
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Speaker 3: all that stuff in his pocket. Anything you do with him,
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Speaker 3: you can be like, hey, Brent, where's that buckeye, and
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Speaker 3: he's got the buckeye, which is shocking to me. He
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Speaker 3: always has his case knife, he always has his pocket.
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Speaker 3: I mean, it's not a joke what he did me
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Speaker 3: Mark Man. Any given day, it's a wild card what
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Speaker 3: I've got in my pocket. I don't have any routine,
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Speaker 3: but I have been influenced by Brent, and I have
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Speaker 3: been carrying a pocket knife, which honestly too much people surprise.
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Speaker 3: Maybe I don't always have a knife on me, and
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Speaker 3: I'm a little ashamed to say that, but it's just
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Speaker 3: the truth.
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Speaker 4: But I have been carrying a case case trapper.
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Speaker 3: With me nice last month or two because someone gave
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Speaker 3: me one, and I've actually really, I really like it.
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Speaker 2: I've been torn on the knife thing. I've always had
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Speaker 2: this little keychain knife. It literally looks like a key,
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Speaker 2: but it has a little tiny knife that folds out
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Speaker 2: of it. So it's very handy to have. You know,
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Speaker 2: I don't open a package or cut a you know,
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Speaker 2: small piece of rope or something in a pinch. But
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Speaker 2: I've debated bringing an actual, nice, bigger folding knife with me,
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Speaker 2: and I'm always off and on about that. I'll carry
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Speaker 2: it around sometimes and it seems like bulky when you
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Speaker 2: don't need it ninety percent of the time, but that
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Speaker 2: ten percent when you do, it's really nice to have
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Speaker 2: that larger, more functional piece. So I don't know, you'll
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Speaker 2: have to tell me what the report is after a
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Speaker 2: few more months, Carrien hears.
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Speaker 3: What I've what I've learned about carrying this, this pocket
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Speaker 3: knife I've been carrying is it's it's almost like just
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Speaker 3: having something to do with your hands, like I'm holding
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Speaker 3: it right now, not even I think I was holding
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Speaker 3: it before we even started talking about this, Like I
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Speaker 3: just kind of I just kind of fiddle with it
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Speaker 3: all day, and it's I'm just conscious of it, and
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Speaker 3: it's that's it's almost like you just use it, like
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Speaker 3: not as a functional knife, but it's just like something
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Speaker 3: to to fiddle with.
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Speaker 4: That's that's that's bad. Maybe that's maybe this is not
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Speaker 4: a good crutch, but I don't know.
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Speaker 2: It could be better than some things I used to. Uh.
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Speaker 2: I used to spin my cell phone as like a
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Speaker 2: fidget thing. I would just spin it in my fingers
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Speaker 2: and that led to me dropping it and having some
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Speaker 2: damage several times. So knife is a better option. Ah
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Speaker 2: On the topic of hand though, other than what's in
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Speaker 2: our pocket, clay. As you know, I'm doing the series
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Speaker 2: about parenting outdoor kids, talking about you know, we spend
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Speaker 2: so much time on this podcast talking about how to
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Speaker 2: hunt deer, how to hunt, how to kill deer, how
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Speaker 2: to how to pattern deer, how to do all this
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Speaker 2: kind of stuff, and we'd like to sess over all that.
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Speaker 2: But I frequently think, why don't we? I shouldn't say that.
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Speaker 2: I don't frequently think this. I think about this sometimes
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Speaker 2: and tell myself I should be thinking about it more often,
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Speaker 2: Which is how come we don't spend as much time
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Speaker 2: debating and discussing how to get our kids and teach
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Speaker 2: our kids about this stuff. Why don't we spend as
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Speaker 2: much time doing that as we do obsessing over where's
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Speaker 2: this big buck going to be tomorrow? Or how old
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Speaker 2: is this buck? Or what pinch point will be the
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Speaker 2: right one. So that's all to say. I wanted to
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Speaker 2: give it some attention because I'm assuming you would say
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Speaker 2: this would be true for you too, that as a parent,
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Speaker 2: once you do become a father or a mother, it
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Speaker 2: totally changes your priorities. It totally changes everything about how
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Speaker 2: you experience the outdoors. But a lot of times we
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Speaker 2: just kind of go along with the flow and we
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Speaker 2: figure stuff out, and we don't actually explicitly talk about
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Speaker 2: this with other people, like how do you do this?
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Speaker 2: Or how do you do it right? Or how do
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Speaker 2: you do it wrong? Or what are some lessons we
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Speaker 2: can learn? And I don't know if that's just because
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Speaker 2: everyone's experiencing it and so we don't feel like we
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Speaker 2: need to talk about it, or if or if maybe
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Speaker 2: it's because there's no real way to claim expertise on
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Speaker 2: the topic. I don't know what it is, but well,
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Speaker 2: I mean tell me this, Clay, would you consider yourself
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Speaker 2: an expert on teaching your kids how to hunt or
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Speaker 2: fish or be outdoors people?
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Speaker 4: No? I No, I don't. I don't know that. Yeah,
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Speaker 4: I don't know that.
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Speaker 3: It's a it's a it's a categorization that could be
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Speaker 3: labeled expert or not expert.
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Speaker 4: Because it's such a.
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Speaker 3: It's such a it's such a complicated thing because we're
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Speaker 3: always well, let me step back. I think it is
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Speaker 3: good for us to talk about this stuff and for
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Speaker 3: every parent to think about it consciously, because anything we
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Speaker 3: don't think about consciously, don't discuss, don't have some philosophy
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Speaker 3: and even more than a plan, it's a philosophy, and
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Speaker 3: that's different like a plan is like we're gonna A
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Speaker 3: plan is more.
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Speaker 4: External, like we're gonna do this, this, and this.
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Speaker 3: A philosophy is a is an ideology of why we're
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Speaker 3: doing what we're doing. And so if you don't have
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Speaker 3: a plan and a philosophy, then you you result. You
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Speaker 3: fall back to your default, which every one of us
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Speaker 3: has a default way that we deal with our kids,
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Speaker 3: which is often very flawed. And the thing about parenthood
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Speaker 3: and mark your parent, I'm a parent and we were
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Speaker 3: both parented by parents, is that is that anybody on
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Speaker 3: planet Earth can look back at and see the places
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Speaker 3: where their parents got stuff right, but also the places
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Speaker 3: where their parents got stuff wrong.
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Speaker 4: And the idea.
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Speaker 3: Is that you would be able to ethically look back
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Speaker 3: to your parents they did and be like, you know what,
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Speaker 3: I'm gonna do something different. They tried hard, you know
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Speaker 3: most of the time, most in general, most parents are
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Speaker 3: trying pretty hard.
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Speaker 4: Some aren't.
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Speaker 3: But and you can say I'm going to do something
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Speaker 3: different than they did, and then I'm going to take
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Speaker 3: the good things and replicate that. But if you're unconscious
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Speaker 3: of that you just can replicate negative patterns, and so yeah, absolutely,
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Speaker 3: I think I think we got to take this serious.
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Speaker 3: And I think there's some kind of tropes out there
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Speaker 3: about how to introduce kids to the outdoors that are
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Speaker 3: just not that productive, And yeah, I want to we
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Speaker 3: can talk about those things for sure.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, we definitely do it. I love that point you
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Speaker 2: make about how you know, I think parenting can be
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Speaker 2: based on a philosophy, not necessarily like a set of
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Speaker 2: steps or a strategy, but a philosophy that you can
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Speaker 2: always fall back on or or I got to believe
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Speaker 2: that that is also informed by like a value system. Right,
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Speaker 2: there's all these things that come down the line that
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Speaker 2: maybe we haven't experienced before, but we have a philosophy
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Speaker 2: or a set of values that we can lean on
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Speaker 2: to guide us, to help us make those new decisions
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Speaker 2: or you know, kind of weather this unfamiliar territory. So yeah,
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Speaker 2: I want to get into what your philosophy is, what
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Speaker 2: some of those negative tropes are. But before that, I
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Speaker 2: want to first get a little more context. I'd like
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Speaker 2: to personally even just better understand a little bit of
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Speaker 2: how your early years built you to who you are
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Speaker 2: and led to the parent that you are now. You
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Speaker 2: mentioned this idea that a lot of us, for some
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Speaker 2: of us, it's the only real training we had in
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Speaker 2: parenting is just looking back on how we were parented,
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Speaker 2: right as you just mentioned, and probably for all of us,
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Speaker 2: we can think of good and we can think of bad.
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Speaker 2: What do you remember about your childhood, Clay, What those
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Speaker 2: early years were like when your dad or other family
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Speaker 2: members or friends were helping introduce you to hunting and
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Speaker 2: the outdoors. What stands out as being those formative experiences
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Speaker 2: or lessons.
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Speaker 3: So I can talk pretty freely about this because I've
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Speaker 3: talked very freely about it with my with my dad,
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Speaker 3: who everybody in the Bear Grease world knows because he's
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Speaker 3: on my podcast a lot. He's I have a I
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Speaker 3: have a great relationship with my dad, and and so
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Speaker 3: I would have I was born in seventy nine, so
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Speaker 3: I grew up in the eighties, you know, as a
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Speaker 3: as an adolescent and teenager in the nineties, and the
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Speaker 3: the idea of introducing kids into the outdoors, the philosophy
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Speaker 3: of the age was very different back then, and and
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Speaker 3: the philosophy was there was very little coddling, There was
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Speaker 3: very little actually trying to make an experience pleasant for
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Speaker 3: a kid. It was it was more just like, Hey,
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Speaker 3: if you're gonna go hunting with me, this is where
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Speaker 3: it's gonna go, and this is the way it's gonna be.
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Speaker 4: And it wasn't like our dads were jerks.
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Speaker 3: It's just that's just I mean, like my dad, he
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Speaker 3: worked a regular job and could only hunt on the
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Speaker 3: weekends and didn't hunt very much on Sunday, so he
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Speaker 3: kind of had like one day a week to hunt.
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Speaker 3: He was a very serious bowhunter for what he had
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Speaker 3: and so man, he wasn't gonna let much get in
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Speaker 3: the way of him doing what he needed to do
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Speaker 3: to kill a deer, you know, during the postseason on
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Speaker 3: public land in Arkansas. And so I had to just
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Speaker 3: kind of get with the program. And both of my
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Speaker 3: brothers didn't really like that program too much. And I
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Speaker 3: think Dad would say, you know, he was probably pretty
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Speaker 3: pretty hard to deal with back in those days. I mean,
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Speaker 3: he just wasn't very accommodating, and honestly, I don't know
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Speaker 3: that either of my brothers would have ever been that
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Speaker 3: interested in it. And I'll kind of get into that
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Speaker 3: a little bit later when I talk about I don't
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Speaker 3: think all of our kids have to be hunters, nor
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Speaker 3: do they want to be hunters.
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Speaker 2: Yea.
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Speaker 3: And so I'm not sure if he'd have done stuff different,
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Speaker 3: if if the results would have been any different, because
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Speaker 3: I have two brothers that don't hunting is not a
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Speaker 3: big part of their lives. They both have hunted, and
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Speaker 3: one of them is kind of getting back into it.
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Speaker 3: But now, my first memory of bow hunting was the
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Speaker 3: first time my dad actually took me out to hunt
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Speaker 3: and I could.
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Speaker 4: I had a bows in the fourth grade.
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Speaker 3: It'd been shooting, could pull forty pounds, was legal to hunt.
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Speaker 3: Dad took me out and put me in a tree
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Speaker 3: stand way before daylight, and Mark I got, well, he
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Speaker 3: puts me in the tree stand. It's like, man, I'll
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Speaker 3: be back at ten o'clock and it is black dark.
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Speaker 4: And how old he's going.
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Speaker 3: I was in the fourth grade, so I would have
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Speaker 3: been I think, nine years old. And he's not like
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Speaker 3: going like one hundred yards on the ridge. He's getting
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Speaker 3: in this truck and driving, you know, miles to some
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Speaker 3: other place. And and I got scared to death and
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Speaker 3: just started crying, I mean straight up crying. And it
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Speaker 3: was a terrible experience, and he ended up taking me
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Speaker 3: down and just kind of like leaving me in the
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Speaker 3: truck while he went and hunted, and uh it it
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Speaker 3: it was very traumatic for me, but I kept hunting
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Speaker 3: with him and he did accommodate me a lot after that,
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Speaker 3: but it was a negative experience. And so anyway, I
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Speaker 3: think a lot of guys my age, your age would
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Speaker 3: would probably have fairly similar experiences of dads that were
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Speaker 3: just pretty hardcore, you know.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, So, so I love these stories of your childhood
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Speaker 2: with your with your dad. I like to joke about
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Speaker 2: how me and Gary would have got along real well
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Speaker 2: when it came to deer hunting because we were on
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Speaker 2: the same pronom.
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Speaker 3: Yeah.
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Speaker 2: Ye, but you told me when I was down there
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Speaker 2: hunting with you guys a couple of years ago and
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Speaker 2: I was talking with your dad, you had told me
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Speaker 2: some of this, and you talked about kind of your
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Speaker 2: dad's attention to detail and obsessiveness with things like scent
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Speaker 2: control and and really having a detailed deer hunting program,
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Speaker 2: and how his obsessiveness on that side of things actually
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Speaker 2: drove you away from that style of hunting and that seriousness.
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Speaker 2: Can you can you expand on that a little bit,
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Speaker 2: A little bit, how like these experiences you had early
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Speaker 2: on shaped who you then became as a hunter.
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Speaker 3: Well, yeah, so he my dad, you know, his philosophy,
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Speaker 3: just to sum it up, would be to control the
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Speaker 3: things that you can control to the t.
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Speaker 4: And he grew up in the Yeah.
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Speaker 3: Yeah, and and and actually that's my philosophy too. It's
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Speaker 3: just it's my emphasis is in a different place. Yeah.
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Speaker 3: And and so he grew up. He in the nineties
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Speaker 3: kind of came of age and became a really good
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Speaker 3: deer hunter for hit, for our area and for what
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Speaker 3: he had and and a lot of that revolved around
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Speaker 3: sink control. And so he just was like hyper meticulous
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Speaker 3: about sink control. And he was kind of a gear guy.
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Speaker 3: He loved gear, He loved tweaking on tree stands, he
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Speaker 3: loves I mean, my earliest memories of bow hunting are
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Speaker 3: being out in our.
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Speaker 4: Yard at our lighted outdoor.
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Speaker 3: Archery range, shooting our bows at like eleven o'clock at night,
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Speaker 3: trying to get dialed in to go hunt the next day.
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Speaker 3: And it's not like we waited till the last minute.
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Speaker 3: It just thirty years ago, bows were just.
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Speaker 4: Different than they are now.
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Speaker 3: I mean, you know, you just had to shoot all
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Speaker 3: the time to stay consistent. And anyway, Dad loved tweaking
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Speaker 3: on gear, and so that made me be ultra simplistic
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Speaker 3: in my gear. Like if you sat down and meet
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Speaker 3: with me and start talking about deer hunting, the last
19:55
Speaker 3: thing I'm interested in is gear. People are like, what
19:58
Speaker 3: kind of setup do you have? And I'm just like,
20:01
Speaker 3: I don't know. I mean, I do know. I mean,
20:04
Speaker 3: I'm very proficient in the woods, so you know, I've
20:07
Speaker 3: got some fundamental understanding of gear, and but but it's
20:12
Speaker 3: not what I get excited about. I don't get excited
20:16
Speaker 3: about tinkering with bows, and I don't get excited about
20:21
Speaker 3: all this kind of in my mind, the man made
20:24
Speaker 3: side of deer hunting than honting. I get very excited
20:27
Speaker 3: about being in the woods, hunting strategy in the woods.
20:33
Speaker 3: And and so I wouldn't say I certainly wouldn't say
20:37
Speaker 3: I'm any less serious. I mean, in some ways I'm
20:40
Speaker 3: more serious than my dad, but my focus was in
20:44
Speaker 3: a different place, and absolutely it came from his obsession
20:48
Speaker 3: with it. And it's funny because my son bar Newcomb,
20:51
Speaker 3: who's become a really good deer hunter, himself. He is,
20:55
Speaker 3: he's kind of gone the other way back towards like
20:58
Speaker 3: he talked to Paul and it's like, man, Grandpa, I
21:02
Speaker 3: think you got this figured out. I think my dad's
21:04
Speaker 3: kind of kind of light on the details when it
21:07
Speaker 3: comes to some of this stuff. So, you know, it's
21:10
Speaker 3: like this pendulum swinging.
21:12
Speaker 4: You know.
21:13
Speaker 3: But but no, I think generationally we we learned and
21:19
Speaker 3: there's a whole lot of stuff that I absolutely are
21:22
Speaker 3: fundamental to who I am and how I bowhunt that
21:25
Speaker 3: came from Gary Nukem, you know.
21:26
Speaker 2: Yeah. So so to overgeneralize and correct me if I'm
21:31
Speaker 2: overgeneralizing this too much. But if I were to say,
21:33
Speaker 2: what were some of the things that didn't work so
21:36
Speaker 2: well for you? It was maybe, you know, being pushed
21:41
Speaker 2: into your dad's way of doing things too much, to
21:45
Speaker 2: too much of a degree, and maybe sooner than you
21:48
Speaker 2: were ready. Would you say, if you had to kind
21:50
Speaker 2: of really simplify some of the challenges of Gary's approach,
21:54
Speaker 2: that kind of shaped you for better or for worse.
21:57
Speaker 2: On that side, I think that was the challenge, was
21:59
Speaker 2: that was maybe that side of things.
22:01
Speaker 3: Well, I'm not entirely sure I can I understand fully
22:06
Speaker 3: what you're saying there, I didn't kind of develop my
22:10
Speaker 3: own world until I was grown. Like, I did everything
22:13
Speaker 3: he asked me to do and wanted me to do.
22:16
Speaker 4: And that's the only reason I.
22:17
Speaker 3: Was successful when I was young was because I just
22:20
Speaker 3: I went with his plan. But then when I started
22:23
Speaker 3: hunting on my own and moved away, I was like,
22:25
Speaker 3: you know, I could do things a little different.
22:27
Speaker 2: Yeah, let me rephrase that question, Claire, real quick. If
22:30
Speaker 2: you were to look back on your childhood and the
22:34
Speaker 2: way your dad introduced you to these things, if you
22:37
Speaker 2: had to point your finger at what worked and what
22:40
Speaker 2: didn't work, could you point me at a couple of
22:43
Speaker 2: things on each or one on each side of that.
22:48
Speaker 3: Well, I don't want to say that what he was
22:51
Speaker 3: doing didn't work. And maybe I'm still understand your question
22:54
Speaker 3: back because his system worked great for him, and it
22:58
Speaker 3: was more just about how we wanted to hunt that
23:02
Speaker 3: was a little different, So I'm still not I mean,
23:07
Speaker 3: like the difference in us today would be primarily the
23:12
Speaker 3: way we handle scent control.
23:14
Speaker 4: Is is that kind of what you're leaning towards?
23:16
Speaker 2: More so what worked for you as a kid when
23:20
Speaker 2: you were learning to hunt and learning to be an outdoorsman,
23:23
Speaker 2: and your dad was trying to teach you these things,
23:24
Speaker 2: or whoever else you were hanging out with that was
23:26
Speaker 2: teaching about these things and bringing you in. I'm curious
23:29
Speaker 2: that what were the things that seemed to connect with you,
23:31
Speaker 2: like what got you into the outdoors? What were the
23:33
Speaker 2: things that your dad did that made you be like, man,
23:37
Speaker 2: I do want to be a hunter. Man, I love this.
23:38
Speaker 2: This is how I learned some stuff. And then what
23:40
Speaker 2: were some of those things that Gary did or didn't
23:43
Speaker 2: do that made you think like I don't really want
23:45
Speaker 2: to go out and do this or this was traumatic
23:48
Speaker 2: you know, or are the examples of that From a parenting.
23:50
Speaker 3: Perspective, Well, I would say the dominating theme of my
23:56
Speaker 3: childhood with my dad was very positive, I mean, very
24:01
Speaker 3: excited about deer hunting. He was he he he portrayed
24:06
Speaker 3: it to me in a very appealing way. The way
24:09
Speaker 3: he talked about it, the way he dealt with it. It
24:12
Speaker 3: was clear to me that this is something that was
24:14
Speaker 3: highly that he highly valued, and so I wanted to
24:17
Speaker 3: highly value it. And and I would say that's probably
24:23
Speaker 3: the uh. Well, and aside from just the excitement of of.
24:30
Speaker 4: Killing deer with a bow.
24:31
Speaker 3: When I was young in in our area, very few
24:36
Speaker 3: kids were. I mean, for real, I was probably the
24:38
Speaker 3: only kid in my grade that was killing deer with
24:41
Speaker 3: a bow consistently in high school and stuff. And oh
24:46
Speaker 3: there was a lot of accolades that came from that
24:48
Speaker 3: and satisfaction.
24:50
Speaker 4: And it was all just because.
24:51
Speaker 3: I was I mean, my dad was putting me on deer,
24:53
Speaker 3: you know, and we were easing I mean, we were
24:56
Speaker 3: hunting public land. It wasn't like we're hunting over feet
24:58
Speaker 3: nobody was hunting over feet back.
25:02
Speaker 4: And so yeah, he did a.
25:04
Speaker 3: Fantastic job of portraying this lifestyle and just the camaraderie
25:10
Speaker 3: he had with his friends. All that was great. And
25:16
Speaker 3: I can't really point to anything he did wrong other
25:19
Speaker 3: than just I mean, for real, I don't know that
25:22
Speaker 3: he did it wrong.
25:22
Speaker 4: It just was what he had to deal with.
25:27
Speaker 3: I remember one time on Saturdays, if we went with him,
25:31
Speaker 3: we hunted pretty far away from our house, and so
25:33
Speaker 3: if you were committed to go, you had to hunt
25:35
Speaker 3: all day. And I remember one day I wanted to
25:39
Speaker 3: come back to some kind of school get together in
25:42
Speaker 3: the afternoon, and so I went with him that morning
25:45
Speaker 3: and then I was like hey, dad, can I go home?
25:47
Speaker 3: Which meant he would have to go home, and he
25:49
Speaker 3: took me home. I remember it was kind of like,
25:51
Speaker 3: what you want to go home? But he accommodated me
25:55
Speaker 3: on that. I remember that, which would have been hard
25:58
Speaker 3: for him because he got had to skip out.
26:01
Speaker 2: So yeah, he.
26:02
Speaker 4: Did a lot of stuff, right. I don't know if
26:04
Speaker 4: that answers your question, Mark, No, that does?
26:06
Speaker 2: That does? Is there anything now that you're a dad
26:09
Speaker 2: yourself and you've been one for twenty one years? Is
26:12
Speaker 2: there anything that you can point directly back to your
26:17
Speaker 2: dad as as something that you've carried forward with your
26:21
Speaker 2: own kids. So something your dad did with you that
26:24
Speaker 2: when you became a father, you were like, man, I
26:26
Speaker 2: gotta do the same thing with my boys or my
26:28
Speaker 2: daughters when I'm teaching them to hunt or bringing them
26:31
Speaker 2: outside or whatever it is.
26:34
Speaker 4: He was.
26:34
Speaker 3: He was very intentional with teaching us what was going on,
26:38
Speaker 3: Like he wouldn't. I still see, like competent fathers doing
26:43
Speaker 3: this kind of stuff today is just like taking a
26:46
Speaker 3: kid out and just putting him in a tree and
26:49
Speaker 3: letting him hunt without teaching him.
26:51
Speaker 4: I had friends that I went to school with.
26:53
Speaker 3: Whose dads did that and they killed deer, you know,
26:57
Speaker 3: with rifles and stuff. And we me and that kid
27:00
Speaker 3: would go out in the woods and they would have
27:04
Speaker 3: no clue really what was going on in deer hunting.
27:07
Speaker 3: And I would be like, man, we got to find
27:08
Speaker 3: some tracks and trails and scrapes and rubs and funnels
27:12
Speaker 3: and pinch points and and and you know, and I
27:15
Speaker 3: would just be like talking a different language because Dad
27:18
Speaker 3: trained me that way. So, so, really, teaching your kid
27:21
Speaker 3: to be a woodsman, and that's what I have really
27:25
Speaker 3: tried to do, and haven't haven't some some kids are
27:31
Speaker 3: going to be very receptive to that and others less receptive.
27:34
Speaker 3: But giving him, you know, he gave me the tools
27:39
Speaker 3: that I needed to be a successful hunter and trained me.
27:44
Speaker 3: I mean he trained me, you know, very intentionally as
27:48
Speaker 3: a young kid. And I've tried to do that.
27:50
Speaker 2: Yeah. Do you do you feel like, maybe you don't
27:52
Speaker 2: know the answer to this, but do you feel like
27:54
Speaker 2: your father took the same approach with your two brothers
27:57
Speaker 2: and it was just that they were just a different
27:59
Speaker 2: personality types, so they weren't receptive or was there something
28:03
Speaker 2: else that led to them just not connecting with this
28:06
Speaker 2: lifestyle the way it has for you.
28:09
Speaker 3: Yeah, I think he did. I think he would have
28:11
Speaker 3: had the same approach with them. They just kind of
28:16
Speaker 3: had less interest from the beginning. I feel like they
28:20
Speaker 3: did and he And that kind of goes into one
28:24
Speaker 3: of my points, Mark, is that every kid is different,
28:26
Speaker 3: and so you to give them all a chance, you
28:32
Speaker 3: kind of got to have a different strategy with each
28:34
Speaker 3: of them. And I think he did have the same
28:36
Speaker 3: strategy with all of us, like exactly the same and
28:40
Speaker 3: so and I just had a natural tendency to lean
28:44
Speaker 3: into all this stuff, and my other brothers they just
28:48
Speaker 3: didn't as much. And that's what I've seen with my
28:52
Speaker 3: kids is the way I treat bar Nukem, who he's
28:56
Speaker 3: now seventeen and really is a competent hunter. I mean,
28:59
Speaker 3: you could just turn them out of the truck just
29:01
Speaker 3: about anywhere and say, hey, go kill an elk, go
29:06
Speaker 3: kill a bear, go kill a deer, and I feel
29:09
Speaker 3: like you'd have a pretty good chance. He just understands
29:12
Speaker 3: what's going on, and I'm much harder on him. I'm
29:17
Speaker 3: just very different with him that I am the other
29:22
Speaker 3: kids that are also hunters but just aren't as interested.
29:27
Speaker 4: As Bear is.
29:28
Speaker 3: And I would be a little more accommodating to them.
29:31
Speaker 3: I would not be as a as aggressive in planning
29:37
Speaker 3: with them, you know. And so that goes to that
29:43
Speaker 3: one of the things that I wanted to bring up
29:45
Speaker 3: is just like every kid's different and you got to
29:46
Speaker 3: treat them different.
29:48
Speaker 4: You know.
29:49
Speaker 2: Is it a situation in your experience with your kids
29:53
Speaker 2: where you try to introduce them in the same way
29:58
Speaker 2: and then see how they react to it, and then
30:01
Speaker 2: you say, Okay, these two are on board with this,
30:04
Speaker 2: but these two it's it seems like it's going to
30:06
Speaker 2: be different, So I'm going to have to change my
30:08
Speaker 2: approach or you know, how do you? I guess what
30:10
Speaker 2: I'm getting at here, Clay, is what has been your
30:13
Speaker 2: experience trying to assess each of your children and their
30:16
Speaker 2: interest and how they're ready for the next thing, or
30:19
Speaker 2: how interested or not interested they are, and how much
30:23
Speaker 2: pushing or training or I don't know, what's that been
30:28
Speaker 2: like for you?
30:29
Speaker 3: Okay, I think that there's there are eight There are
30:34
Speaker 3: sectors of a child's development up until they're eighteen years old,
30:37
Speaker 3: when the parental influence is different at different times from
30:42
Speaker 3: zero to about eight years old. Mark, I don't I
30:47
Speaker 3: didn't let my kids make very many decisions. I made
30:50
Speaker 3: decisions for them, and I would I would be and
30:55
Speaker 3: this isn't dogmatic. I didn't do this every time, but
30:57
Speaker 3: to generalize, I decided when the kids went hunting with
31:02
Speaker 3: me and when they didn't. So it wasn't like, hey,
31:04
Speaker 3: do you want to wake up and go deer hunting
31:06
Speaker 3: in the morning, you know, ask a seven year old.
31:12
Speaker 3: I didn't get They're not ready to make that choice.
31:15
Speaker 3: I would say, Hey, we're going deer hunting in the morning.
31:18
Speaker 3: I'll wake up, We're have some breakfast, we're gonna we're
31:22
Speaker 3: gonna go out, we're gonna have a good time. We're
31:24
Speaker 3: gonna do this, and I would. I would basically interpret
31:30
Speaker 3: for them what they needed to be doing to give
31:33
Speaker 3: them the exposure that they needed. And then from about
31:38
Speaker 3: eight to fourteen, you start giving them some more choices
31:44
Speaker 3: because their preferences have begun to be formed and you
31:48
Speaker 3: don't want to oppress them. But also they're not fully
31:51
Speaker 3: making choices on their own. But that's when you might
31:54
Speaker 3: be like, hey, we're gonna go fishing over here. Would
31:58
Speaker 3: you like to come or would you like to you know,
32:00
Speaker 3: go do X activity, and you know, you give them
32:04
Speaker 3: a little bit more choice. There are times when you
32:06
Speaker 3: would just be like, hey, we're going hunting in the morning,
32:08
Speaker 3: this is the way it's going to go down, and
32:11
Speaker 3: you just make them do it. And then you know,
32:14
Speaker 3: by the time they're about fourteen, fifteen.
32:18
Speaker 4: To eighteen, there's a.
32:20
Speaker 3: Lot more choice, a lot more choice with them. Son,
32:23
Speaker 3: do you do you want to go deer hunting in
32:25
Speaker 3: the morning? If you do, you know you need to
32:27
Speaker 3: be up, you need to be ready. And so I
32:30
Speaker 3: think our hunting is a great place to to implement
32:36
Speaker 3: some of these just responsibility.
32:42
Speaker 4: Things that the kids are going to have to deal
32:44
Speaker 4: with in life. So I would.
32:46
Speaker 3: Say, and then in each in each sector of that,
32:51
Speaker 3: you're evaluating, you know, does this kid enjoy this? Do
32:54
Speaker 3: you think they're gonna grow up and want to do this?
32:58
Speaker 3: And my two boys are pretty different. Bear is just
33:02
Speaker 3: naturally just like just interested wanting to learn. My second son,
33:11
Speaker 3: he he loves to go. He's less interested in the details.
33:16
Speaker 3: And I think he'll come back to hunting and it'll
33:21
Speaker 3: be a big part of his life someday.
33:22
Speaker 4: I really do.
33:23
Speaker 3: He's I asked him the day, I said, Shepherd, how
33:25
Speaker 3: many deer have you killed? And he said, he said,
33:27
Speaker 3: he killed eleven deer and he's killed two bears. He's
33:33
Speaker 3: coon hunted with me a lot, but it's not his
33:36
Speaker 3: the driver of his life, you know, And you know
33:39
Speaker 3: you just kind of perceive that. So I'm I treat
33:43
Speaker 3: shepherd different than I do bear.
33:58
Speaker 2: What about differences between between your boys and your girls?
34:01
Speaker 2: You've got two of each, have you? Is there any
34:07
Speaker 2: noticeable difference in this approach you've taken between the two
34:11
Speaker 2: genders or is it just like child by child They're
34:13
Speaker 2: all different their own ways, regardless of if they're boys
34:16
Speaker 2: or girls.
34:18
Speaker 3: I would say it leans toward the latter of what
34:20
Speaker 3: you just said. My oldest daughter hunted with me when
34:24
Speaker 3: she was young. She liked turkey hunting. She's killed deer
34:27
Speaker 3: and turkey. But she was just from the very beginning,
34:31
Speaker 3: I just knew she wasn't going to probably be a
34:34
Speaker 3: real active hunter. We could just tell that, you know,
34:36
Speaker 3: she just wasn't that interested in it. My second daughter
34:41
Speaker 3: was very interested in it, and until she was about fifteen,
34:47
Speaker 3: I would say she was She was probably the toughest
34:50
Speaker 3: hunter of all the kids. Like if I was going
34:52
Speaker 3: on a difficult hunt, that wasn't going to be much fun,
34:56
Speaker 3: but wanted to take one of the kids.
34:58
Speaker 4: I would have taken River.
35:02
Speaker 3: And and she's still very interested in hunting. She she
35:06
Speaker 3: moved off to go to college, and so she hadn't
35:09
Speaker 3: hunted much the.
35:09
Speaker 4: Last couple of years.
35:11
Speaker 3: But I tried to treat them the same for the
35:14
Speaker 3: most part. Unfortunately, as they've gotten older, it is a
35:20
Speaker 3: little different with girls.
35:21
Speaker 4: And you know, somebody could get mad at me for saying.
35:24
Speaker 2: This, but.
35:28
Speaker 3: I'm a little less comfortable with my girls going out
35:31
Speaker 3: on public land. My girl going out on public land
35:35
Speaker 3: by herself doing stuff. I just am It's just the
35:38
Speaker 3: nature of the world we live in. And I've run
35:40
Speaker 3: into that because at times there's been times in the
35:43
Speaker 3: past when Rivers like, hey, I'm going to go out
35:45
Speaker 3: and do this, and I'm like, well, okay, let me
35:49
Speaker 3: think about that River where where I absolutely would let
35:52
Speaker 3: my son do it. And uh, that's just the truth
35:55
Speaker 3: of it, And it's an issue of safety and an
35:59
Speaker 3: issue of context. River at times has wanted to take
36:04
Speaker 3: the dogs out coon hunting at night by yourself on
36:07
Speaker 3: public land, and I've had to just be like, River,
36:11
Speaker 3: you can't if barrow go it.
36:13
Speaker 4: Did it y'all can go.
36:14
Speaker 3: And and I think that's okay to acknowledge that kind
36:18
Speaker 3: of stuff.
36:19
Speaker 2: Yeah, is there anything else you found over the years
36:22
Speaker 2: with your two girls? Well, I guess you wouldn't have
36:25
Speaker 2: known until you had boys afterwards. But were there any
36:28
Speaker 2: other things that had to shift with your approach with
36:30
Speaker 2: the girls versus the boys, or when you had when
36:33
Speaker 2: you started going through these experiences with your boys you realized, oh, wow,
36:36
Speaker 2: I can do it totally different now. And that being
36:40
Speaker 2: because your two boys are both younger than your two girls, right, that's.
36:43
Speaker 4: Right, two older girls and two younger boys.
36:45
Speaker 2: Yeah, So were there any other things where you realize, like,
36:48
Speaker 2: this does require fundamentally different touch or or set of
36:53
Speaker 2: you know, ideas, or could you apply the same general
36:56
Speaker 2: philosophy across all four?
36:58
Speaker 3: I think they were the same, Mark, I really do.
37:00
Speaker 3: I I didn't treat the girls much different than the boys.
37:05
Speaker 4: I really didn't.
37:05
Speaker 3: I I just just tried to to to teach them,
37:13
Speaker 3: tried to I did everything about the same.
37:16
Speaker 4: I really did.
37:18
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's one thing that I don't regret at all.
37:22
Speaker 2: But I I only I only have boys, so I'll
37:26
Speaker 2: never know what that is like or what differences may
37:30
Speaker 2: or may not be there.
37:31
Speaker 3: Come on, Mark, you're not quitting, honest, Sorry, Clay.
37:37
Speaker 2: I try not to be a quitter, but this is
37:38
Speaker 2: one phase in life where I am sign sealed and
37:41
Speaker 2: dotted delivered. I'm done.
37:43
Speaker 4: Okay, Okay. There can be surprises.
37:46
Speaker 3: I mean, I don't know the details of all the
37:47
Speaker 3: medical procedures, but stuff happens.
37:50
Speaker 2: Man. Yeah, we'll be having some stern conversations with the
37:53
Speaker 2: doctor if that ends up being the case. Clay, you
37:58
Speaker 2: hit on something a second ago, though, I want to
38:00
Speaker 2: dive into more because it's one of the big questions
38:06
Speaker 2: that I found myself wrestling with just in these first
38:10
Speaker 2: you know, five years of being a dad, and everyone
38:13
Speaker 2: I've talked to so far on this topic I've brought
38:15
Speaker 2: it up to, and that is this idea that you
38:20
Speaker 2: discussed kind of early on with your children. How you
38:24
Speaker 2: know hunting can be this opportunity to teach important lessons
38:29
Speaker 2: like responsibility and toughness, and so as you describe when
38:33
Speaker 2: your kids were younger, in your mind, you were saying, man,
38:36
Speaker 2: they just need to get out and do this thing.
38:37
Speaker 2: They don't necessarily know why or how, but I'm gonna
38:41
Speaker 2: I'm gonna tell them, Hey, we're going we're gonna be
38:43
Speaker 2: out there at this time, we're doing this thing. So
38:46
Speaker 2: there's that approach, there's putting your kids out there to
38:49
Speaker 2: do these things and developing some toughness, some fortitude, some
38:54
Speaker 2: developing some skills that will be important for them. That's
38:57
Speaker 2: that's one side of the hunting equation that I think
39:00
Speaker 2: hunting brings to the table for kids. There's this other
39:03
Speaker 2: side that a lot of folks talk about, which is, well,
39:05
Speaker 2: you got to keep it fun. You got to make
39:07
Speaker 2: sure they're enjoying the experience. You got to let them
39:09
Speaker 2: have some some choice in the matter, because if they're
39:13
Speaker 2: not enjoying it, then you're gonna push them out of
39:16
Speaker 2: this thing and they're not gonna want to do it anymore.
39:18
Speaker 2: And so it seems like there's this balance between trying
39:20
Speaker 2: to make the experience fun and enjoyable for them so
39:23
Speaker 2: that they develop a passion themselves, versus using hunting as
39:27
Speaker 2: an opportunity to teach important life lessons. How have you
39:31
Speaker 2: thought about that dilemma or that balancing act and how
39:37
Speaker 2: have you tried to approach that yourself.
39:39
Speaker 3: Yeah, that's a good that's a complex and a good question.
39:44
Speaker 4: I think it all.
39:44
Speaker 3: Goes back to these age brackets of kids and how
39:49
Speaker 3: parents interact with the kids during these particular seasons of life.
39:54
Speaker 4: My kids early on and early on in their life.
39:58
Speaker 3: I was not full time in the outdoor industry, so
40:00
Speaker 3: it's not like this was my job, but it was
40:03
Speaker 3: very much a lifestyle that I was. I wanted to
40:06
Speaker 3: live and so and Misty wanted to live. I mean,
40:10
Speaker 3: our life revolved around us eating wild game, you know,
40:14
Speaker 3: every day of the year, and being a family that
40:18
Speaker 3: loved nature and interacted with nature. And so my kids
40:22
Speaker 3: kind of I would like to think that they just
40:24
Speaker 3: woke up one day and gained consciousness that not every
40:30
Speaker 3: kid in the world had to do what they did.
40:33
Speaker 3: It's kind of like it's just like if you live
40:36
Speaker 3: on a farm, you wake up and you do the work,
40:38
Speaker 3: and you do the chores, and this is just my life.
40:41
Speaker 3: You know, a farm kid doesn't have an option to
40:44
Speaker 3: be anything different. That's the way we kind of handled hunting,
40:49
Speaker 3: and not that it was like a job.
40:53
Speaker 4: But it's just like, yes, what we do, it's like
40:57
Speaker 4: and I.
40:58
Speaker 3: Made a very the one thing that you know, man,
41:01
Speaker 3: when your kids are as old as mine, Mistery and
41:04
Speaker 3: Mark almost I would say weekly, if not three times
41:07
Speaker 3: a week, talk about the way we raised our kids
41:11
Speaker 3: and things we did right and things that we did wrong.
41:14
Speaker 3: And the one thing that we did right was for
41:20
Speaker 3: a decade plus, anywhere I went unless it just absolutely
41:25
Speaker 3: could not, I couldn't take a kid, which there was
41:27
Speaker 3: certainly hunts.
41:28
Speaker 4: I didn't take kids on.
41:30
Speaker 3: But man, if I went to the grocery store, if
41:32
Speaker 3: I went to bid a landscape job, if I went
41:34
Speaker 3: to scout, if I went to do anything, man, I
41:38
Speaker 3: just was dragging those kids with me everywhere I went,
41:41
Speaker 3: not for fun, just because they just needed to be
41:45
Speaker 3: with me.
41:46
Speaker 4: I wanted to talk to them. I wanted to teach him.
41:48
Speaker 3: I wanted to just be having be there observing me
41:51
Speaker 3: being a human. And that exposure today spent man that
41:56
Speaker 3: like kids have phones and kids have parents think the
42:00
Speaker 3: trend of the age is to think that kids have
42:03
Speaker 3: all these options and you'll damage them if you don't
42:05
Speaker 3: let them make choices.
42:07
Speaker 4: And boy, the biggest mistake that I feel like I.
42:10
Speaker 3: See parents doing is reasoning with a five year old
42:14
Speaker 3: or reasoning with a four year old. You don't reason
42:17
Speaker 3: with them, You interpret life for them and let them
42:20
Speaker 3: know how things are gonna go and and uh, and
42:24
Speaker 3: then as they get older and more mature, you begin
42:26
Speaker 3: to introduce choices and responsibility and all these things. I'm
42:32
Speaker 3: not answering your question directly, but basically, hunting. Hunting is
42:37
Speaker 3: just it's just a platform to teach your kids about
42:43
Speaker 3: all kinds of stuff. And am I out there like saying, now, son,
42:46
Speaker 3: this is a life lesson. When the acron falls from
42:49
Speaker 3: the tree, it becomes no, it's just like get out there,
42:53
Speaker 3: and I mean, you know we we we gotta work hard,
42:59
Speaker 3: we gotta we we've got to understand.
43:01
Speaker 4: I mean it just life happens, you know.
43:04
Speaker 3: Just even hey, we're going hunting, Go get the drinks,
43:07
Speaker 3: put them in the truck, and then come back and
43:09
Speaker 3: get those ratchet straps out of the garage and put
43:11
Speaker 3: them in the truck. I mean, just the exercise of
43:14
Speaker 3: having a plan, doing it, acting on it.
43:19
Speaker 4: There's just lessons all over it, you know.
43:21
Speaker 3: And then the rare time when you're actually kill an animal, Yeah,
43:25
Speaker 3: that's when you can be strategic about implementing ideology of
43:30
Speaker 3: why we do this and taking care of the meat
43:33
Speaker 3: and this is our food and this is healthy and
43:35
Speaker 3: sustainable and good and this is a celebration and this
43:38
Speaker 3: is you know, this is a pinnacle moment of our life,
43:44
Speaker 3: you know, at an external level.
43:46
Speaker 2: So yeah, yeah, I want to I want to dive
43:50
Speaker 2: into two parts of what you just said there. But
43:55
Speaker 2: first the I want to explore an example of this
43:58
Speaker 2: whole toughness versus experience or fun versus toughness kind of situation.
44:03
Speaker 2: And I want to see how you deal with this.
44:06
Speaker 2: As an example, Let's say you were out there with
44:09
Speaker 2: one of your boys when they were let's say six
44:12
Speaker 2: or seven. This is that first phase of that parenting
44:17
Speaker 2: child relationship you've described. Let's say you're out in the
44:21
Speaker 2: hunt and you're sitting together somewhere and starts raining, and
44:26
Speaker 2: it's cold and it's windy and it's rainy, and you've
44:29
Speaker 2: been out there for a couple hours already and things
44:32
Speaker 2: haven't been going your way. But in your mind, you know,
44:36
Speaker 2: let's say we're turkey hunt maybe, and you know that, man,
44:39
Speaker 2: if we stick it out till nine o'clock or ten o'clock,
44:41
Speaker 2: there'll be that second wave of a gobbler starting to
44:43
Speaker 2: cruise through, and you know it could pick up. So
44:48
Speaker 2: in this situation, your son is cold and he's sick
44:51
Speaker 2: and tired of it, and he says, Dad, I want
44:53
Speaker 2: to go home. This is kind of miserable. In your mind,
44:57
Speaker 2: would you say, all right, he's not having fun anymore.
45:01
Speaker 2: We should get out of here to keep this from
45:03
Speaker 2: becoming a miserable situation. Or would you say, nope, son,
45:07
Speaker 2: this is this is how it goes sometimes, and in
45:10
Speaker 2: your mind you're thinking, man, you're gonna better for it,
45:11
Speaker 2: because you're gonna learn how to deal with being uncomfortable.
45:14
Speaker 2: And we'll see how some perseverance, you know, leads to
45:17
Speaker 2: better things. Maybe if we stick it out. What would
45:19
Speaker 2: you do in that kind of situation.
45:21
Speaker 3: It's totally subjective to what's going on in that kid's life.
45:26
Speaker 3: I when Bear Newcomb was he was probably he was
45:32
Speaker 3: probably eight years old. It was open today, Arkansas bear season.
45:36
Speaker 3: I wanted him to be with me in the tree
45:38
Speaker 3: when I hunted, and we went in and set for
45:43
Speaker 3: I think I'm gonna say six hours. It may have
45:45
Speaker 3: been longer than that, and it rained the last three
45:47
Speaker 3: hours of daylight. And he was the kind of kid that.
45:55
Speaker 4: Liked that.
45:55
Speaker 3: He knew it was hard, and he enjoyed the feeling.
46:01
Speaker 3: Like he was tough, and I was feeding him that.
46:03
Speaker 3: You know, I was like, bear, man, I think if
46:07
Speaker 3: we just set it out, I think we got a
46:09
Speaker 3: chance of the bear. And you know, you know I
46:13
Speaker 3: and he could tell that if he set it out,
46:16
Speaker 3: I was gonna like that and he was going to
46:19
Speaker 3: be tough and validated.
46:21
Speaker 4: And he he bought into that.
46:23
Speaker 3: And when we sat till dark, and to this day
46:26
Speaker 3: we talk about that because we sat so long in
46:30
Speaker 3: the dark that just waiting for a bear, just like
46:34
Speaker 3: last light that people back at camp came to check
46:37
Speaker 3: on us because they thought, surely they're gonna get down.
46:39
Speaker 3: You know, it's raining. Something's happened. And to the boy bear,
46:43
Speaker 3: the guy's back at camp were just bear.
46:45
Speaker 5: You sat there the whole time in the rain, goy,
46:48
Speaker 5: you know, And it became probably a really pinnacle moment
46:52
Speaker 5: for him. Yeah, another kid of mine, I absolutely probably
46:57
Speaker 5: wouldn't have done that.
46:58
Speaker 3: It might have ruined him. It might have just made
47:02
Speaker 3: them get back in the truck and be like this guy,
47:05
Speaker 3: my dad is crazy. This is the last thing I
47:08
Speaker 3: want to do. So it's tough, man, it's tough. You
47:13
Speaker 3: got to feed them just the right amount of toughness,
47:17
Speaker 3: and I think a lot of it would have to
47:18
Speaker 3: do with what you agreed upon before and how you communicated.
47:21
Speaker 3: I mean, sometimes it's like, son, we're going to go
47:23
Speaker 3: out today and if you want to come, I want
47:25
Speaker 3: you to come. But if we go, we're going to
47:27
Speaker 3: sit till dark no matter what. You know, if it rains,
47:30
Speaker 3: we're gonna be ready, We're gonna have some snacks. You know,
47:33
Speaker 3: it's just about communication. And if they agree to it
47:36
Speaker 3: and then get out there and want to change the agreement,
47:38
Speaker 3: then you might have the leverage as a parent to
47:40
Speaker 3: be like, son, we're going to sit it out, okay,
47:43
Speaker 3: and you know this is what we planned and we're going.
47:45
Speaker 4: To stick with it.
47:46
Speaker 3: Or if you just went out and things went really
47:50
Speaker 3: bad really quick, you might just be like, hey, man,
47:52
Speaker 3: let's let's jump in the truck and go home. I mean,
47:54
Speaker 3: your your kid has to trust you that you're not
47:57
Speaker 3: that you're not going to just you know, put them
48:02
Speaker 3: in a really tough situation that they weren't ready for,
48:06
Speaker 3: so that it's such a complex situation mark you understand.
48:09
Speaker 3: And then a lot a lot with even what's going
48:11
Speaker 3: on individually with that kid, you know, Yeah, it's a
48:16
Speaker 3: it's it's it's a lot of contextual things that would
48:20
Speaker 3: make that decision.
48:21
Speaker 2: So you're telling me there's no simple step by step
48:24
Speaker 2: handguide I can look at that's gonna give me all
48:27
Speaker 2: the perfect answers for every situation. Cli that is exactly right, Mark, Yeah,
48:33
Speaker 2: that Uh. This is That's why this parenting thing, I
48:37
Speaker 2: think can't be talked about enough because there is no
48:40
Speaker 2: one right answer. There's no clear cut way to do
48:43
Speaker 2: any of this stuff. It all comes down to case
48:45
Speaker 2: by case context. It comes down to your kids and
48:49
Speaker 2: the current moment in reading the situation. And and that's
48:53
Speaker 2: why I think what you said at the beginning is
48:55
Speaker 2: probably so important. Having a philosophy or a set of
48:59
Speaker 2: values for like having a system, right, Like, you're not
49:03
Speaker 2: going to have a rule book. There's not going to
49:05
Speaker 2: be like a ABCD is always going to be the
49:08
Speaker 2: way it goes. Every situation is going to be different.
49:10
Speaker 2: We're going to encounter all these different circumstances. But if
49:13
Speaker 2: we have a basic philosophy that we can lean back on, say, okay,
49:17
Speaker 2: well I've never seen this before, but I do know
49:20
Speaker 2: that A, B and C are really important to how
49:22
Speaker 2: I make these parenting decisions, and I will run this
49:24
Speaker 2: new circumstance through that philosophy, and that will give me
49:29
Speaker 2: the way to approach this thing, right. I mean, I
49:32
Speaker 2: think that's what we have to try to be building,
49:34
Speaker 2: is building what our philosophy is and then learning how
49:39
Speaker 2: to apply that to each new day.
49:42
Speaker 3: Mm hmm, Mark, I have I have four things here
49:46
Speaker 3: that I think if I think I can say I'm
49:49
Speaker 3: right now and to make sense in the context of
49:52
Speaker 3: our conversation, I've got kind of some bullet point bullet
49:57
Speaker 3: point statements about introducing kids the outdoors.
50:00
Speaker 4: Can I run through those?
50:01
Speaker 2: I would love to hear them?
50:03
Speaker 3: Okay, Point number one and this would be on a
50:07
Speaker 3: power point if I presented it to a group of people.
50:10
Speaker 3: If you had said, Clay, I need to hear a
50:12
Speaker 3: presentation about how to introduce kids to the outdoors.
50:14
Speaker 4: What's important? These four things would be on it. Number one.
50:19
Speaker 4: The parent, the adult has.
50:21
Speaker 3: To be a whole safe person who a kid would
50:24
Speaker 3: want to be around.
50:25
Speaker 4: In general.
50:27
Speaker 3: You know, this is like taking it way back, like
50:30
Speaker 3: we could be talking about sports, like how to intro
50:32
Speaker 3: produce your kids to sports, how to introduce your kids
50:35
Speaker 3: to cooking, how to introduce your kids to horseback riding.
50:39
Speaker 3: And the number one thing is is that you've got
50:43
Speaker 3: to be a person that a kid would would would
50:49
Speaker 3: want to be around and enjoy being around, you know,
50:53
Speaker 3: because if you're if you're a tyrant, if you're if
50:57
Speaker 3: you are dismissive, if you're not engaging with these kids,
51:02
Speaker 3: and then all of a sudden, you want to take
51:03
Speaker 3: them hunting and be super engaging. And I think this
51:06
Speaker 3: might be more of an example for like hunters outside
51:11
Speaker 3: of a direct family that were maybe trying to introduce
51:13
Speaker 3: a kid into hunting, not your own kid. It's just like,
51:18
Speaker 3: I mean, if your kid doesn't want to go with
51:20
Speaker 3: you to the grocery store, they're probably not going to
51:22
Speaker 3: want to go with you hunting either, you know. So
51:24
Speaker 3: that's like a fundamental thing. Part two would just be
51:28
Speaker 3: every kid's difference. So you got to make it right
51:30
Speaker 3: for them, you know, the idea that you got to
51:33
Speaker 3: have be loaded with snacks and make it easy and
51:35
Speaker 3: make it simple and make it fun. And that works
51:39
Speaker 3: for some some it's not the best strategy. It certainly wasn't.
51:43
Speaker 3: The strategy that got me into hunting was making it easy.
51:48
Speaker 3: Some of my kids I've intentionally made it hard for them.
51:51
Speaker 3: I mean, bear nukemb, we were hunting bears over bait
51:54
Speaker 3: for years and years and that's just the way we
51:56
Speaker 3: hunted bears. I intentionally told bar Nukem, because yeah, bear
52:01
Speaker 3: hunting over bait is for sure a higher probability of
52:04
Speaker 3: success than hunting out in national forest. I mean way
52:07
Speaker 3: harder hunting a national forest. And bear could have killed
52:12
Speaker 3: a bear over bait when he was six years old
52:14
Speaker 3: and I told him, I said, son, I think you
52:16
Speaker 3: ought to kill a bear in national forest for your
52:19
Speaker 3: first bear. And so he every year watched his brothers
52:22
Speaker 3: and sisters kill bears and other people, and he could
52:25
Speaker 3: have gone and sat on a bait, and he didn't.
52:26
Speaker 3: And he finally killed when a national forest when he
52:28
Speaker 3: was fifteen. Like, we made it hard on purpose. But
52:33
Speaker 3: my second son, I let him kill a bear over
52:35
Speaker 3: bait when he was like twelve, so make it different.
52:41
Speaker 4: And then.
52:44
Speaker 3: Basically the philosophy that I would have would be that
52:49
Speaker 3: I want to introduce the kids to the excitement of
52:52
Speaker 3: interacting with nature. That's what we're doing, and that would
52:56
Speaker 3: be teaching them about the woods, teaching them about the
53:00
Speaker 3: the trees, the mushrooms, the grass, the barn owls, the foxes,
53:05
Speaker 3: the coyotes, the river systems, the mountains. You know, having
53:09
Speaker 3: an understanding and interpreting that for them. I mean, a
53:12
Speaker 3: kid drives, drives. You drive past a mountain, and a
53:15
Speaker 3: kid doesn't know that that's cool. I mean drive past
53:18
Speaker 3: the mountain and be like, look at that mountain, man,
53:21
Speaker 3: And that thing was formed by when tectonic plates bumped
53:24
Speaker 3: up against each other so long ago that humans don't
53:28
Speaker 3: even have record of it. And and the top of
53:31
Speaker 3: that mountain there's different animals that live up there then
53:34
Speaker 3: live at the bottom. And on the north side of
53:37
Speaker 3: that mountain there's a whole different set of trees than
53:40
Speaker 3: is on the south side of that mountain.
53:42
Speaker 4: That's wild.
53:43
Speaker 3: Like just being excited about it, like interpreting for them
53:48
Speaker 3: when you hear barred out, My goodness, did you hear
53:50
Speaker 3: that barred out? And you know, so that's a philosophy.
53:55
Speaker 3: It's like, I want my kids to to see value
54:00
Speaker 3: and interaction nature. And then you know that comes down
54:03
Speaker 3: to actually taking an animal and taking it home and
54:05
Speaker 3: eating it. But the main thing that I would say
54:08
Speaker 3: is that not every kid is going to be a hunter.
54:11
Speaker 3: And so, but what we want to do is leave
54:16
Speaker 3: every kid that we interact with with a positive impression
54:22
Speaker 3: about hunting in the natural world. So like, my oldest
54:28
Speaker 3: daughter's not up, she's probably not gonna be a big hunter,
54:31
Speaker 3: and she may never hunt again the rest of his life.
54:34
Speaker 3: But my goal with her was that when she leaves
54:37
Speaker 3: my house and she goes out into the world, she's
54:40
Speaker 3: proud that her dad is a hunter and that her
54:44
Speaker 3: family ate wild game, and that hunting is this positive
54:50
Speaker 3: thing in American culture. And that's what we can do,
54:54
Speaker 3: I think, with every kid, because they're just not gonna
54:57
Speaker 3: be hunters.
54:58
Speaker 4: Like, you know, you take.
54:59
Speaker 3: Ten kids, it's probably about the national percentage of people
55:05
Speaker 3: that our hunters are gonna be hunters.
55:08
Speaker 4: I mean, you know you do.
55:10
Speaker 3: And I don't know what that would be. Two or
55:11
Speaker 3: three of them at most would end up having some
55:14
Speaker 3: connection to hunting. Seven of them aren't. But those seven
55:17
Speaker 3: that aren't can at least be like, yeah, my uncle
55:21
Speaker 3: was a hunter.
55:21
Speaker 4: Yeah, that's really cool. He was a pleasant human to
55:24
Speaker 4: be around.
55:25
Speaker 3: They they were they they dealt with this thing in
55:30
Speaker 3: a competent, intelligent way, and they wouldn't describe it like that.
55:34
Speaker 4: But you understand.
55:36
Speaker 3: So the goal is I just want my kids to
55:40
Speaker 3: have positive impressions of this lifestyle. And that's really meaningful
55:46
Speaker 3: in our broader society, as most people aren't gonna be hunters.
55:49
Speaker 4: We don't need them to.
55:50
Speaker 3: Be hunters, but we need and want people to view
55:53
Speaker 3: hunting for what it is, and it's this great platform
55:56
Speaker 3: for conservating wild places and wild animals, and it's not
56:02
Speaker 3: just this barbaric thing that is is dead and dying, you.
56:07
Speaker 4: Know, yea. So those are those are my four things.
56:11
Speaker 2: Those are great, Clay. I'm curious how you what your
56:18
Speaker 2: take is on how to handle that last point you
56:21
Speaker 2: brought up, that being the fact that not every child
56:23
Speaker 2: grew up to be a hunter, and you mentioned your
56:25
Speaker 2: oldest daughter is an example of that. I imagine this
56:29
Speaker 2: being a challenge as a parent trying to read that situation,
56:35
Speaker 2: trying to decide or understand, Man, is my kid just
56:39
Speaker 2: not that into it? And should I keep pushing it?
56:42
Speaker 2: Should I keep introducing it? Should I keep offering it?
56:44
Speaker 2: Should I keep trying to move the needle there? Or
56:48
Speaker 2: do I just need to accept this situation and recognize, Okay,
56:53
Speaker 2: Bill or Jenny or whatever she's she or he just
56:56
Speaker 2: is not. This isn't going to be their thing, and
56:58
Speaker 2: I just need to stop pounding it because that's just
57:01
Speaker 2: making it worse. What has either been your personal experience
57:04
Speaker 2: dealing with that with your daughter, or what would your
57:07
Speaker 2: advice be to someone else who might be trying to
57:10
Speaker 2: wrestle with that themselves right now? How do you understand
57:14
Speaker 2: that and deal with it?
57:16
Speaker 3: I think a simple answer to a complex question, as
57:20
Speaker 3: it goes back to those age brackets of parental influence
57:23
Speaker 3: inside of a kid's life. Your five year old is
57:26
Speaker 3: not capable really of deciding whether they're going to be
57:29
Speaker 3: a lifelong hunter or not. A sixteen year old has
57:34
Speaker 3: a much more robust understanding of whether this is something
57:40
Speaker 3: that's going to be a part of their life or not.
57:43
Speaker 3: Not totally, but they've got a much better understanding than
57:46
Speaker 3: of five year old. So you know, if your five
57:49
Speaker 3: year old doesn't want to go hunting and that's a
57:51
Speaker 3: big part of your life, I would say absolutely, don't
57:55
Speaker 3: give them a choice. Make them go with you, make
57:57
Speaker 3: it fun, Do make it fun, to accommodate them.
58:02
Speaker 4: But.
58:04
Speaker 3: Build it in is just this is well, and I
58:09
Speaker 3: think parents just give kids too much choice. Your kid
58:12
Speaker 3: was put in your family for a reason, and you
58:15
Speaker 3: and your wife get to decide the culture of your family.
58:18
Speaker 3: That's the design of the universe, and you have the
58:22
Speaker 3: right to say this is who we are. And then
58:25
Speaker 3: as they graduate out of that, they get to make choices.
58:28
Speaker 3: So what I'm saying is there's there's a time period
58:35
Speaker 3: when you do push it pretty hard, and then there's
58:38
Speaker 3: a time period when you let go. So I think
58:40
Speaker 3: just as the kid gets older, you see this is
58:42
Speaker 3: not a major thing for them, you can you can
58:45
Speaker 3: back off a little bit.
58:46
Speaker 2: You know. This brings me to another one of my
59:03
Speaker 2: current questions of the topic that I'm thinking a lot
59:08
Speaker 2: about right now with my oldest son, who is just
59:12
Speaker 2: seems to be really really into all this stuff, like
59:15
Speaker 2: he's just eating it up. He's obsessed. He wants to
59:17
Speaker 2: hunt all the time, he wants to fish all the time,
59:19
Speaker 2: he wants to go with me on every hunt, he
59:21
Speaker 2: wants to see it all, do it all. He's really
59:25
Speaker 2: eaten up with it. So I am wondering about and
59:32
Speaker 2: wrestling with and thinking about the appropriate way to foster
59:39
Speaker 2: that excitement and that fund that he has right now
59:41
Speaker 2: his love for the thing. How do I balance that
59:44
Speaker 2: with also the necessary teaching of the seriousness of this
59:50
Speaker 2: and the sacredness of life and taking a life and
59:56
Speaker 2: teaching respect for this kind of stuff. And you know,
59:59
Speaker 2: an example this would be, you know, a lot of
1:00:01
Speaker 2: young kids get a BB gun at some point. And
1:00:04
Speaker 2: I don't know if your childhood was like this, Clay,
1:00:06
Speaker 2: but I got a BB gun at one point, and
1:00:07
Speaker 2: I was just like a little kid that wanted to
1:00:09
Speaker 2: go on a tear and I wanted to hunt every
1:00:10
Speaker 2: little bird I saw and every little chipmunk. And that
1:00:15
Speaker 2: was probably part of what, you know, helped my progression
1:00:19
Speaker 2: as a hunter, and just having those experiences as a
1:00:21
Speaker 2: little kid and learning to do the thing myself. On
1:00:26
Speaker 2: the flip side, how do you introduce, you know, concepts
1:00:33
Speaker 2: of not taking more than you need or not killing
1:00:36
Speaker 2: something flippantly. And I'm wondering now, as my son has
1:00:39
Speaker 2: a BB gun and I'm trying to think, like, man,
1:00:41
Speaker 2: how do I make sure he's still enjoying himself? But
1:00:44
Speaker 2: also when do I introduce these concepts? How do I
1:00:47
Speaker 2: introduce these concepts without it being over his head or
1:00:51
Speaker 2: without it smashing the fun out of it? Because I'm like, no,
1:00:53
Speaker 2: you have to this this. Did you experience any of
1:00:57
Speaker 2: that yourself, Clay, what are your thoughts on that balancing act?
1:01:00
Speaker 4: You know, I think I think it is.
1:01:06
Speaker 3: It should just be kind of intuitive how you it was,
1:01:11
Speaker 3: it was you would scale down your philosophy to the
1:01:14
Speaker 3: knowledge level of the child, just like you would with anything.
1:01:17
Speaker 3: Like when you're driving in a car and your four
1:01:20
Speaker 3: year olds in the back seat and he says, Dad,
1:01:23
Speaker 3: why do you why are you driving like that? Why
1:01:26
Speaker 3: do you drive on this side of the road or
1:01:28
Speaker 3: why did you stop there? And you're like, well, Sun,
1:01:32
Speaker 3: when you drive and the red light's on, you have
1:01:34
Speaker 3: to stop. When it's green, you go. You know, you
1:01:37
Speaker 3: just dumb down driving, or you know there's a speed limit,
1:01:41
Speaker 3: there's this, and and I think it's the exact same way.
1:01:45
Speaker 3: Like you, as an adult have this pretty complex, pretty
1:01:49
Speaker 3: robust system of ethics and values that dictate that Yep,
1:01:54
Speaker 3: I will shoot a deer out of a tree stand
1:01:56
Speaker 3: in October, November, and December, but I won't shoot one
1:02:02
Speaker 3: with a rifle out of season in June. It's like,
1:02:06
Speaker 3: you know, uh, that's really clear, and and so you
1:02:10
Speaker 3: just translate it down so when your son brings home
1:02:13
Speaker 3: a bird that he's shot.
1:02:15
Speaker 4: You be like, wow, son, good shot. How did it happen?
1:02:19
Speaker 4: Where were we at?
1:02:20
Speaker 3: And you'd be like, man, this is a beautiful bird.
1:02:22
Speaker 3: Look at these wings. Can you believe this? This is incredible?
1:02:25
Speaker 3: And you know, when you're dealing with birds and baby guns,
1:02:28
Speaker 3: that's a little gray area there, but I think we
1:02:31
Speaker 3: all did that. And then you say, man, this this bird.
1:02:35
Speaker 3: You know, we gotta we gotta find a way to
1:02:38
Speaker 3: a bird's wrong. Example, let's let's use a game they
1:02:41
Speaker 3: kill a quail and you're like, and it's in season,
1:02:44
Speaker 3: you'd be like, oh, man, this is beautiful, incredible shot.
1:02:46
Speaker 4: Good job. Well we gotta we're gonna eat this, We're
1:02:49
Speaker 4: gonna use it.
1:02:50
Speaker 3: Just bringing it down and yeah, and when the sacredness
1:02:55
Speaker 3: of law that I think is instilled in a kid
1:02:57
Speaker 3: very early, and it's totally done by parent describing that,
1:03:01
Speaker 3: you know, at their level and and and understand that
1:03:05
Speaker 3: we don't take an animal's life flippantly, but also that
1:03:08
Speaker 3: it's very normal, you know, to eat stuff has to die.
1:03:15
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's uh, I think what you're saying resonates with me.
1:03:20
Speaker 2: It's it's all about reading your child and where they're
1:03:24
Speaker 2: at speaking at their their language, at their level, and
1:03:29
Speaker 2: balancing the the joy of the moment with the seriousness
1:03:32
Speaker 2: of it. But man, it's it's It does also sometimes
1:03:36
Speaker 2: seem or at least maybe this isn't for everyone. But
1:03:39
Speaker 2: I constantly find myself looking back and saying, did I
1:03:43
Speaker 2: do that right? Am I doing this the right way?
1:03:46
Speaker 2: Am I? Am I screwing up my kid? Or am
1:03:47
Speaker 2: I setting him up for success? Was he too young
1:03:50
Speaker 2: to see me? Got that deer? Is he old enough
1:03:53
Speaker 2: to understand this? And should I have him out with
1:03:55
Speaker 2: me when I'm doing this? Is this? Is this too soon?
1:03:58
Speaker 2: Is this too much?
1:04:00
Speaker 6: You know?
1:04:00
Speaker 2: I'm constantly wrestling with those kinds of things as I'm
1:04:02
Speaker 2: navigating these waters for the first time, doing the best
1:04:05
Speaker 2: I can. But there's no report card that you get
1:04:08
Speaker 2: at the end of the day that says, well, you
1:04:10
Speaker 2: did this right. You got an A here, you got
1:04:11
Speaker 2: to be here, and a C there. You know, I
1:04:13
Speaker 2: don't have that report card. So it's one of those
1:04:17
Speaker 2: things that you never quite know and you just hope
1:04:20
Speaker 2: that you're doing it the right way.
1:04:21
Speaker 3: Yeah, I think you just got to expose them to it.
1:04:26
Speaker 4: I've had somebody ask.
1:04:27
Speaker 3: Me that before, like would you let your kids watch
1:04:31
Speaker 3: you get here, and oh gosh, absolutely. From the very beginning,
1:04:36
Speaker 3: it's just like kind of a I like, just a
1:04:41
Speaker 3: common sense approach to parenting. It's that if this is
1:04:44
Speaker 3: something that's permissible for me to be doing, then it's
1:04:48
Speaker 3: okay for my kid to be introduced to it at
1:04:50
Speaker 3: some level, you know. So it's like, absolutely, let them
1:04:55
Speaker 3: watch you get a deer. Talk to them about the
1:04:57
Speaker 3: sanctity of life while you're doing it, and talk to
1:05:00
Speaker 3: them about food on the table, talk to them about
1:05:02
Speaker 3: the life of this end, you know, at the level
1:05:04
Speaker 3: that they can understand.
1:05:05
Speaker 4: But the other extreme is that we just bombard them.
1:05:10
Speaker 3: With with all this philosophy that they're not ready for.
1:05:14
Speaker 4: I mean, sometimes you just gotta let them shoot the bird, you.
1:05:16
Speaker 6: Know, yeah, and uh and and and then at a
1:05:20
Speaker 6: later time it's like, hey, done, we're probably we probably
1:05:25
Speaker 6: ought to only shoot birds that you know, that we
1:05:30
Speaker 6: need or that we specific kind of targeting or or
1:05:33
Speaker 6: you know, not you know, introducing some level of responsibility
1:05:38
Speaker 6: into the thing, you know, in stewardship.
1:05:40
Speaker 2: Yeah, so, uh, what about time away from your kids?
1:05:47
Speaker 2: You mentioned this a little bit how early on when
1:05:49
Speaker 2: they were young, you were taking them everywhere with you,
1:05:53
Speaker 2: but you know, except for certain hunts where they couldn't
1:05:55
Speaker 2: join you. And so this is the thing I've thought
1:05:58
Speaker 2: a lot about, which is, you know, when I when
1:06:00
Speaker 2: I hear about my dad's childhood or when I look
1:06:03
Speaker 2: at my childhood, I can hardly think of any hunts
1:06:06
Speaker 2: he was doing that I wasn't with him, you know,
1:06:08
Speaker 2: once I was you know, old enough to tag along,
1:06:10
Speaker 2: and he always talks about man he was with his
1:06:12
Speaker 2: dad all the time. I am at a situation in
1:06:17
Speaker 2: you too where I want to take my kids with
1:06:19
Speaker 2: me on on lots and lots and lots of these experiences,
1:06:22
Speaker 2: but I also, you know, I also want to still
1:06:25
Speaker 2: do my own thing. I also want to be able
1:06:27
Speaker 2: to go on these hunts or have to go on
1:06:29
Speaker 2: these different experiences where it just wouldn't be safe for
1:06:32
Speaker 2: possible to bring my boys along for some of these things.
1:06:36
Speaker 2: And so I find myself sitting out there on day
1:06:38
Speaker 2: seven of a you know, rut hunt where I haven't
1:06:41
Speaker 2: seen my kids in seven days, or where you're in
1:06:43
Speaker 2: Alaska on a moose hunt or something you haven't seen
1:06:45
Speaker 2: your kids for fourteen days or whatever. How have you
1:06:49
Speaker 2: thought about over your twenty one years as a father,
1:06:52
Speaker 2: Clay thought about this balancing act of balancing our own
1:06:56
Speaker 2: personal obsession or passion for hunting and the time and
1:07:00
Speaker 2: we spend out there by ourselves, and knowing that every
1:07:04
Speaker 2: time we're out there by ourselves doing this thing, we
1:07:06
Speaker 2: are not spending time with our kids. How have you
1:07:10
Speaker 2: thought about that, How have you tried to approach that
1:07:12
Speaker 2: balance of balancing your own personal interest in time doing
1:07:16
Speaker 2: this with the time with your kids.
1:07:19
Speaker 3: Well, I think you've used the key word there, and
1:07:22
Speaker 3: that is balance. And because there's got to be a balance,
1:07:27
Speaker 3: Like there's absolutely times when you're gonna go hunting and
1:07:32
Speaker 3: your kids can't come, and that's okay. That is so
1:07:36
Speaker 3: introduces boundaries to your kids that are going to be
1:07:39
Speaker 3: in every other part of their life.
1:07:40
Speaker 4: So I think it's okay.
1:07:42
Speaker 3: I think it also goes back to family architecture, which
1:07:44
Speaker 3: family architecture would just be like, what is the design
1:07:48
Speaker 3: of your family that you are using to live life successfully?
1:07:53
Speaker 3: And if you're if you're a hunter and your serious
1:07:59
Speaker 3: deer hunter, and you you and your wife feel like
1:08:03
Speaker 3: this is an important part of your life and what
1:08:06
Speaker 3: you're supposed to be doing, then then absolutely I mean,
1:08:12
Speaker 3: there's gonna be You're gonna you're gonna go to Iowa
1:08:15
Speaker 3: and hunt for seven days once a year and it's
1:08:17
Speaker 3: just okay.
1:08:19
Speaker 4: And you know, my dad did.
1:08:20
Speaker 3: That, and I remember some of my most exciting times
1:08:23
Speaker 3: of hunting was when he was gone, and I could
1:08:26
Speaker 3: not wait to hear how it went.
1:08:29
Speaker 4: That was a big part.
1:08:31
Speaker 3: And I don't know if my dad, I don't know
1:08:33
Speaker 3: how that happened, but I vividly remember once Dad went
1:08:36
Speaker 3: to South Texas deer hunting, and the whole week I
1:08:39
Speaker 3: was just I mean, I was talking to the kids
1:08:41
Speaker 3: at school, Man, my dad's down in Texas. He might
1:08:44
Speaker 3: kill the world record down there, I told. I remember
1:08:47
Speaker 3: thinking that, I mean, because it's like it's possible. Yeah,
1:08:50
Speaker 3: I mean he's in Texas and uh and so yeah,
1:08:56
Speaker 3: it's it's balanced and and you and.
1:08:58
Speaker 4: I both know it.
1:08:59
Speaker 3: There the seasons of life when things are permissible and
1:09:02
Speaker 3: when they're not. When my kids were young, I was
1:09:05
Speaker 3: not in the outdoor industry, and it would not have
1:09:08
Speaker 3: been permissible for me to devote, you know, just an
1:09:13
Speaker 3: incredible amount of time to being gone, like financially and
1:09:17
Speaker 3: Leaven Misty with the kids, like there was just a
1:09:18
Speaker 3: time when that wasn't quite as.
1:09:21
Speaker 4: Normal as it would be today.
1:09:23
Speaker 3: And now their kids are older, and so I think
1:09:25
Speaker 3: the balance of life and with your spouse is trying
1:09:27
Speaker 3: to find what's the correct architecture for our family, you know,
1:09:31
Speaker 3: because you don't Yeah, I mean, hunting is not is
1:09:35
Speaker 3: not really that important in the big scheme of things.
1:09:38
Speaker 3: It's it's you've got to you've got to find a
1:09:42
Speaker 3: way to balance life.
1:09:45
Speaker 4: And it's going to be different for everybody.
1:09:46
Speaker 3: I mean, you know, we go to you know, I'm
1:09:49
Speaker 3: really involved in our church and involved a lot of
1:09:52
Speaker 3: other men's lives, and it's like I hu more than
1:09:55
Speaker 3: any of them, and it's because architecture of our family.
1:09:58
Speaker 4: It's like it's my job.
1:09:59
Speaker 3: And even if it wasn't my job, it was, it's
1:10:03
Speaker 3: just it's just I built my life this way on purpose.
1:10:09
Speaker 3: And uh, there's other guys that maybe just hunt one
1:10:11
Speaker 3: or two weekends a year and that's kind of the
1:10:14
Speaker 3: architecture of their life. So it's like what's correct for you,
1:10:17
Speaker 3: what works? And a lot of that's determined by you
1:10:20
Speaker 3: and your spouse and how you decide you want to
1:10:22
Speaker 3: live your life, you know, and if and if it's right,
1:10:26
Speaker 3: it'll be great for your kids, you know it'll be
1:10:29
Speaker 3: it'll be good for your wife, it'll be good for
1:10:31
Speaker 3: your kids. And if it's detrimental to them, then you know,
1:10:35
Speaker 3: that's where you start making adjustments. And it might just
1:10:37
Speaker 3: be a seasonal adjustment of you know what, I probably
1:10:40
Speaker 3: can't go on a ten day hunt. I could go
1:10:42
Speaker 3: on a six day hunt during this period of time.
1:10:46
Speaker 4: I understand.
1:10:47
Speaker 3: I can't go on three big hunts every year, you
1:10:49
Speaker 3: know what, I'm just gonna go on too. And I
1:10:52
Speaker 3: think that's the maturity that we got to have as parents,
1:10:54
Speaker 3: is knowing when those times are and and and when
1:10:59
Speaker 3: they're not, and just kind of being okay with it.
1:11:01
Speaker 3: And it's kind of a bummer and it's just life.
1:11:05
Speaker 3: But you know, you're really fired up when you're in
1:11:07
Speaker 3: your twenties, and then by the time you're in your thirties,
1:11:10
Speaker 3: you're you're you're competent, you have a little more money,
1:11:15
Speaker 3: you may have a little more time, and but oftentimes
1:11:19
Speaker 3: in our thirties is when our kids are kind of
1:11:22
Speaker 3: in the heat of their development, and so it feels
1:11:26
Speaker 3: like parenting overlaps in conflicting ways. Sometimes our natural desire
1:11:32
Speaker 3: to want to go and do stuff, and it just
1:11:35
Speaker 3: you just got to find the balance, you know.
1:11:37
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, so true. And I think a lot of
1:11:39
Speaker 2: it is just trial and error too, Like we to
1:11:43
Speaker 2: all of the stuff, right, we don't know, We're not
1:11:45
Speaker 2: necessarily going to know the right answer to every one
1:11:48
Speaker 2: of these situations. So you try something, you try the
1:11:51
Speaker 2: best you can figure and then you got to read
1:11:53
Speaker 2: it and assess, Okay, you know, how did this last
1:11:56
Speaker 2: year go? Did I have the balance right? Or was
1:12:00
Speaker 2: that trip with my boy? Did I push it too far?
1:12:03
Speaker 2: Did I not push it enough? And then try again
1:12:06
Speaker 2: a little bit different next time, and just keep on learning.
1:12:08
Speaker 2: I mean, it's the same thing as becoming a better
1:12:11
Speaker 2: deer hunter, right, It's you try something, you assess how
1:12:15
Speaker 2: it went, and then you adjust. You try something, you assess,
1:12:18
Speaker 2: you adjust. I think as long as you keep trying
1:12:21
Speaker 2: to learn and keep trying to adjust, you're going to
1:12:23
Speaker 2: move in the right direction. But that's a process, and
1:12:28
Speaker 2: it takes it takes thoughtfulness and a sense of purpose,
1:12:33
Speaker 2: Like you're going into it knowing that this is a
1:12:35
Speaker 2: process and knowing that you're trying to learn versus just
1:12:38
Speaker 2: blindly doing stuff and not thinking about it at all.
1:12:42
Speaker 2: There's something there, a little of a hard pivot, Clay.
1:12:46
Speaker 2: But one thing I was curious about before I let
1:12:49
Speaker 2: you go is this, If I were to look at
1:12:53
Speaker 2: Clay Newcombe and your connection to hunting, it seems like
1:12:58
Speaker 2: hunting for you has been something as connected you to
1:13:00
Speaker 2: the past uniquely. Like that's something that I feel like
1:13:03
Speaker 2: you talk about a lot. You have seemed to allow
1:13:07
Speaker 2: that to inform much of who you are as a
1:13:10
Speaker 2: hunter and otherwise. And I'm just curious if that's something
1:13:14
Speaker 2: that came to you by way of your family. Was
1:13:17
Speaker 2: that Was that something your dad was talking to you
1:13:19
Speaker 2: about when you were a kid. Was he talking about, well, well,
1:13:21
Speaker 2: we're doing this and this is the kind of thing
1:13:23
Speaker 2: that our ancestors did, or that Daniel Boone did, or
1:13:25
Speaker 2: that so and so did and or does that? Was
1:13:28
Speaker 2: that something that's naturally developed for you? And uh, you
1:13:32
Speaker 2: sought it out yourself. That's that. That's part one of
1:13:35
Speaker 2: my questions. Part two is then how I'll get lost?
1:13:40
Speaker 4: Get lost? Because I think I've got a good answer.
1:13:43
Speaker 3: I think that I saw, No, my dad would not
1:13:46
Speaker 3: have been interested in history. I would not have been
1:13:49
Speaker 3: that interested in history.
1:13:51
Speaker 4: Growing up. But I think that I came out of.
1:13:56
Speaker 3: I kind of came into adulthood and recognized that I
1:14:02
Speaker 3: came out of a very cultured place. And by cultured,
1:14:06
Speaker 3: I mean things were done on purpose, things were this
1:14:11
Speaker 3: is the way that people thought about this, this is
1:14:14
Speaker 3: the way people handled that, this is the this is
1:14:17
Speaker 3: what people valued like And I'm talking about in the
1:14:19
Speaker 3: hunting space.
1:14:21
Speaker 4: And I became curious as.
1:14:25
Speaker 3: To why we were the way we were, And I
1:14:28
Speaker 3: think I just kind of bumped into looking back at
1:14:32
Speaker 3: some of these guys and being like, oh, Gary nukeom
1:14:36
Speaker 3: is that way because of this thing way back in
1:14:39
Speaker 3: American history or the.
1:14:42
Speaker 4: History of the South.
1:14:43
Speaker 3: And it was really interesting to me because I think
1:14:46
Speaker 3: we're influenced by a whole bunch of stuff that we're
1:14:49
Speaker 3: unconscious of. And so you know, just and you've heard
1:14:52
Speaker 3: me say it, Mark, but a great example is that,
1:14:56
Speaker 3: you know, Daniel Boone introduced to the world old really
1:15:01
Speaker 3: the idea of loving and cherishing wilderness and solitude. Before that,
1:15:06
Speaker 3: in the general, the general philosophy of the world was
1:15:11
Speaker 3: that the wilderness is where you went to die. The wilderness.
1:15:15
Speaker 3: You know, we were we had been trying to get
1:15:17
Speaker 3: away from wilderness for a gazillion years, and we came
1:15:21
Speaker 3: into civilization, and then this American boon went to Kentucky
1:15:25
Speaker 3: and someone wrote a book, and how much of it
1:15:27
Speaker 3: he did I was on purpose, I don't know. But
1:15:30
Speaker 3: he talked about solitude and loving wilderness, and all of
1:15:33
Speaker 3: a sudden, Americans were like, Yeah, we don't have big
1:15:36
Speaker 3: cities and beautiful thousand year old architecture. What we have
1:15:40
Speaker 3: is wilderness, and and that became a part of the
1:15:43
Speaker 3: American identity, was love of wilderness and solitude. And it's like,
1:15:48
Speaker 3: that's why we love bow hunting, that's why we have
1:15:52
Speaker 3: all this public land that you know, was like, hey,
1:15:55
Speaker 3: let's let's save some of this. That's why we have
1:15:58
Speaker 3: federal wilderness. Is that the ideology of somebody way back.
1:16:02
Speaker 3: Leopold and a bunch of these guys were like, man,
1:16:05
Speaker 3: let's save some of this, just as it was for
1:16:08
Speaker 3: people to go and find solitude. And I think it's
1:16:12
Speaker 3: interesting to just see where that connects.
1:16:14
Speaker 4: To the past.
1:16:15
Speaker 5: Mm hm.
1:16:16
Speaker 2: So then part two. My question then is have you
1:16:19
Speaker 2: tried to help your children make those connections, make those
1:16:24
Speaker 2: connections during their childhood when you were raising bears, A Hunter,
1:16:27
Speaker 2: were you bringing these stories up and talking about these things?
1:16:31
Speaker 2: If so, you know, I'd love to hear more about that.
1:16:34
Speaker 3: Or if not, you know, the answer to this mark
1:16:37
Speaker 3: all day every day brother man. Living with me is
1:16:40
Speaker 3: like it's like Misty Misty and the kids. They would
1:16:44
Speaker 3: tell you it's like NonStop Beargrease podcast.
1:16:47
Speaker 4: Man.
1:16:48
Speaker 3: I talk at them all the time, and I'm joking
1:16:53
Speaker 3: and kind of making fun of myself because they make
1:16:55
Speaker 3: fun of me. They kind of roll their eyes sometimes,
1:16:59
Speaker 3: but I know they're just joking. I think so much
1:17:03
Speaker 3: of parenthood. I I talked at my kids for years,
1:17:08
Speaker 3: like if we're riding in the truck and they're not
1:17:10
Speaker 3: talking and they're eight years old and we traveled a lot,
1:17:14
Speaker 3: just all the time. Yeah, and I would just talk
1:17:18
Speaker 3: to him, I mean, just tell him stuff that was
1:17:21
Speaker 3: way over their head, but just just thinking this is
1:17:25
Speaker 3: gonna be it's gonna be more developmental for them to
1:17:28
Speaker 3: hear their dad just talking than than to just sit
1:17:33
Speaker 3: there or to listen to dumb country music, you know.
1:17:37
Speaker 4: And and that really was the philosophy that I had.
1:17:39
Speaker 4: I mean, I and I think Gary Nucom did that
1:17:42
Speaker 4: to me. Uh, he really did.
1:17:44
Speaker 3: Dad loved just he just would talk to me and
1:17:49
Speaker 3: and and.
1:17:49
Speaker 4: Not ask much from me at times.
1:17:52
Speaker 3: And I've done that with my kids, and so yeah,
1:17:56
Speaker 3: they they know about all this.
1:17:58
Speaker 4: I think.
1:17:58
Speaker 3: I think we've got to interpret for our kids and
1:18:00
Speaker 3: show our kids what we're passionate about, and we don't
1:18:04
Speaker 3: have to amend that for them. Like I don't really
1:18:06
Speaker 3: care if my kids think Daniel Boone is cool. I do,
1:18:09
Speaker 3: and I'm gonna talk to him about it, and I'm
1:18:11
Speaker 3: gonna tell them all this stuff.
1:18:13
Speaker 4: And and I think that they.
1:18:15
Speaker 3: May not care about Boone, but it teaches them how
1:18:18
Speaker 3: to to be passionate and informed, and they'll take that
1:18:23
Speaker 3: template for their life and go out and be passionate
1:18:26
Speaker 3: about something, you know.
1:18:27
Speaker 4: Yeah, So so I don't.
1:18:29
Speaker 3: I don't tell them what I think they want or
1:18:31
Speaker 3: need to hear. I just I'm trying to just be
1:18:35
Speaker 3: who I am and and and and show that to him.
1:18:40
Speaker 2: You know. Yeah. That resonates with That resonates with me
1:18:43
Speaker 2: a lot. And I'm gonna use you next time. My
1:18:47
Speaker 2: wife rolls her eyes at me, and you know, bemoans
1:18:50
Speaker 2: the fact that I'm a constant. She calls me a
1:18:52
Speaker 2: tour guide whenever we go anywhere with kids or even
1:18:54
Speaker 2: with other people. I'm like, well, this is this moan
1:18:57
Speaker 2: and this thing happened here, and two hundred years ago,
1:18:59
Speaker 2: this thing happened and did you know that, A, B,
1:19:01
Speaker 2: and C and so, Yeah, they feel the same way
1:19:03
Speaker 2: about me as it sounds like your family does about you.
1:19:06
Speaker 2: So I'm going to tell my wife next time, like
1:19:08
Speaker 2: Clay said, this was a good thing to do and
1:19:09
Speaker 2: that she should appreciate it, and I will say the
1:19:11
Speaker 2: same thing to my boys and we'll.
1:19:13
Speaker 4: See that absolutely their ears off.
1:19:19
Speaker 2: Man, I'm going to keep on keeping on. So I
1:19:21
Speaker 2: got one last question for he then, Given your fascination,
1:19:26
Speaker 2: I think would be fair to say of the history
1:19:28
Speaker 2: of hunting and the American wilderness and rural America and
1:19:35
Speaker 2: these different things that you've you've dove into over the
1:19:37
Speaker 2: course of the years of the Bear Grease podcast and
1:19:40
Speaker 2: much of our other work, I'm curious if you can
1:19:43
Speaker 2: point to any one lesson that you have tried to
1:19:48
Speaker 2: share with your own children that came to you from
1:19:52
Speaker 2: someone in history, someone like Daniel Boone or the ancient
1:19:55
Speaker 2: American hunting cultures, or or Warner Glenn or any of
1:19:59
Speaker 2: these folks that you've studied over the years, can you
1:20:02
Speaker 2: point to one lesson from one of them that has
1:20:05
Speaker 2: been important for you to pass on to your children.
1:20:08
Speaker 3: Hmm, Man, that is a really specific question. Mark if I.
1:20:17
Speaker 4: You know, a lot of my.
1:20:19
Speaker 3: Deep dive study of history, to be honest with you,
1:20:22
Speaker 3: has come in more recent years.
1:20:29
Speaker 4: I think that's a tough question.
1:20:32
Speaker 3: It's a fair question, because I think I would talk
1:20:37
Speaker 3: to him about that kind of stuff all the time.
1:20:39
Speaker 3: I don't know that I've got a real I can't say, like, well,
1:20:41
Speaker 3: Boone went into Kentucky and did this and did this,
1:20:44
Speaker 3: and so this is why we're doing this, Like it's
1:20:46
Speaker 3: not quite that direct, you know, sure.
1:20:49
Speaker 4: I think I think maybe in general Boone.
1:20:56
Speaker 3: Probably reading Robert Morgan's book Boone ten or twelve years ago,
1:21:03
Speaker 3: one of the most fascinating things to me was how
1:21:07
Speaker 3: so much of Boone, who's this American icon was influenced
1:21:12
Speaker 3: by Native Americans. Boone was Boone because of his interaction
1:21:17
Speaker 3: and adopting and being taught the ways that Native Americans
1:21:23
Speaker 3: interacted with the landscape here, and so you know so
1:21:27
Speaker 3: much of and so I think that brought back into
1:21:30
Speaker 3: me a deep appreciation for Native American cultures, which I've translated.
1:21:35
Speaker 4: That to my kids.
1:21:36
Speaker 3: I feel like just when we you know, with all
1:21:39
Speaker 3: the stone points we find and us just talking about it.
1:21:44
Speaker 3: So I don't because my original fascination wasn't necessarily with
1:21:49
Speaker 3: Native Americans. It would have been more with you know,
1:21:52
Speaker 3: people like Boone or Crockett or whoever.
1:21:57
Speaker 2: So may not be exactly what you're looking for, Mark,
1:22:01
Speaker 2: but Clay, I'm never looking for anything other than the
1:22:05
Speaker 2: thing that's on the tip of your tongue. That's true
1:22:08
Speaker 2: to you, and you always you never disappoint You've You've
1:22:13
Speaker 2: shared a lot of really interesting ideas here, Clay that
1:22:17
Speaker 2: have helped me personally. I think there's some things here
1:22:19
Speaker 2: that can help me in my thinking and my practice
1:22:21
Speaker 2: as a as a father. So I thank you for that, Clay.
1:22:27
Speaker 3: Right, Well, you're a great You're I said it the
1:22:30
Speaker 3: first time you I was on one of your podcasts, Mark,
1:22:34
Speaker 3: is that you're you're a fantastic interviewer. You asked a
1:22:37
Speaker 3: lot of really insightful questions and that's meaningful.
1:22:42
Speaker 2: So well, thanks, I got one last question for you
1:22:45
Speaker 2: then on that Oh you've you've said you had one
1:22:47
Speaker 2: last question like four times. I know that's one of
1:22:50
Speaker 2: my interviewer tricks to keep dragging you along. Clay, you
1:22:53
Speaker 2: write that down and try it out next time.
1:22:55
Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, I love it.
1:22:56
Speaker 2: Oh. My last question is simply, what is there anything
1:23:01
Speaker 2: folks should be looking forward to? Can you preview anything
1:23:04
Speaker 2: that's coming down the line on the Bear Grease podcast
1:23:07
Speaker 2: or Brent's podcast, anything that folks need to know about
1:23:10
Speaker 2: the work that you're doing that they can look forward
1:23:12
Speaker 2: to and that they should come and check out in
1:23:14
Speaker 2: the coming weeks or months. Yeah.
1:23:16
Speaker 4: I don't ever do this. I would never do this.
1:23:20
Speaker 3: On a Bear Grease feed, like tell people what I'm
1:23:23
Speaker 3: working on, but I'll tell you and your people, Mark,
1:23:25
Speaker 3: all right, when does this come out?
1:23:27
Speaker 2: This will come out on May? So this is next week,
1:23:34
Speaker 2: So May.
1:23:36
Speaker 4: Eighteenth, Okay, no problem, we are.
1:23:42
Speaker 3: I'm working on a robust series on Davy Krockt, which
1:23:47
Speaker 3: is it kind of it's funny. It's funny that you
1:23:50
Speaker 3: brought up what you did. We don't always do these
1:23:56
Speaker 3: kind of big time iconic folk Key Rose.
1:24:03
Speaker 4: You know, one of the main our big historical series
1:24:06
Speaker 4: that we've done. We did what on Daniel Boone, which was.
1:24:10
Speaker 3: Maybe one of our most popular ones we ever did
1:24:13
Speaker 3: a lot A lot of them are are are lesser
1:24:16
Speaker 3: known people like Hult Collier, who was African American guy
1:24:21
Speaker 3: that guided Teddy Roosevelt for the bear that would influence
1:24:25
Speaker 3: the Teddy Bear. That was one of the most fascinating
1:24:28
Speaker 3: series we ever did. Hulk Collier was born a slave
1:24:33
Speaker 3: and ended up guiding the president on two bear hunts.
1:24:38
Speaker 4: Uh, Hult Collier.
1:24:39
Speaker 3: We did a series on Cumpsa, which was the Shawnee
1:24:43
Speaker 3: leader who was just lived an incredible life, incredible story.
1:24:51
Speaker 3: And then, uh, we're now doing this Crockett series. And
1:24:56
Speaker 3: we don't do always historic stuff. I mean, I know
1:24:58
Speaker 3: a lot of your people probably aren't. Maybe they're not
1:25:01
Speaker 3: listening to Bear Grease, but we do. We do stuff
1:25:04
Speaker 3: on living people. We do basically anything is on the
1:25:09
Speaker 3: table that is of interest too well to me.
1:25:15
Speaker 2: I'm excited about that Crockett series. My son Everett loved
1:25:19
Speaker 2: your Boone series. And just this morning we had a request.
1:25:25
Speaker 2: We just got to our place out in Idaho. So
1:25:27
Speaker 2: we're sitting at the breakfast table and we're looking out
1:25:29
Speaker 2: over the mountains and my son says, hey, Dad, can
1:25:32
Speaker 2: we listen to the Davy Crockett song? And so we
1:25:34
Speaker 2: put on the Ballad of Davy Crockett by Fest Parker,
1:25:37
Speaker 2: and then and then after that we listened to the
1:25:40
Speaker 2: Daniel Boone song by fest Parker, so it's fresh on
1:25:43
Speaker 2: my mind too.
1:25:44
Speaker 4: Wow, that's awesome, man.
1:25:46
Speaker 3: That's funny that we're going to talk a lot about
1:25:50
Speaker 3: that song and the Walt Disney stuff that that made
1:25:53
Speaker 3: that famous Crockett.
1:25:55
Speaker 4: Crockett's life is pretty fascinating.
1:25:57
Speaker 2: Yeah, I'll be looking forward to that one, and I'm
1:25:59
Speaker 2: sure my boys will too. So keep up the great work, Clay.
1:26:03
Speaker 2: You are doing world class stuff. And I know I'm
1:26:06
Speaker 2: not the only one who appreciates it, but for everyone
1:26:09
Speaker 2: out there, I will just say one more time, thank you.
1:26:12
Speaker 4: All right, appreciate it, Mark, Thanks for the kind words, all.
1:26:16
Speaker 2: Right, and that's a wrap. Thank you for listening, Thanks
1:26:19
Speaker 2: for being here, Thanks for continuing on this journey as
1:26:21
Speaker 2: we discuss our role as parents and how we can
1:26:25
Speaker 2: introduce our children to this incredible wild world that we
1:26:30
Speaker 2: get to enjoy. As I mentioned already, make sure you're
1:26:34
Speaker 2: checking out everything over in the Bear Grease World, the
1:26:37
Speaker 2: Bear Grease road Show, the Bear Grease Podcast, this country life.
1:26:41
Speaker 2: All that is great. Clay has a lot to offer
1:26:45
Speaker 2: and we're thankful and fortunate that he's putting it out
1:26:48
Speaker 2: of there into the world. So check it out, subscribe
1:26:50
Speaker 2: to his podcast, watch the YouTube videos, and until next time,
1:26:54
Speaker 2: my friends, thanks for being here, and stay wired to