Latest / Stories That Live In Us / Kentucky: Postmasters & Snapping Turtles (with Caitlyn Bruns & Paul Abell) | Episode 104
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- 0:00Crista Cowan: What number are you?
- 0:01Paul Abell: Ten.
- 0:01Paul Abell: You're the youngest?
- 0:02Paul Abell: I missed the baby.
- 0:04Paul Abell: I'm not okay.
- 0:04Paul Abell: I did a lot of people.
- 0:06Caitlyn Bruns: Are you the baby though?
- 0:07Paul Abell: No, I'm not the baby.
- 0:08Paul Abell: Number four is the baby.
- 0:09Paul Abell: But I've always my parents always call me the baby.
- 0:14Crista Cowan: You brought that up.
- 0:15Crista Cowan: I need you to tell me what that means.
- 0:17Crista Cowan: Stories That Live in Us is a podcast that inspires you to form deep connections with your family, past, present, and future.
- 0:25Crista Cowan: I'm Crista Cowan, known online as The Barefoot Genealogist.
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- 0:55Crista Cowan: What do Beyoncé's mother, Kentucky, and a genetic scientist have in common?
- 1:04Crista Cowan: It's not the beginning of a bad joke.
- 1:06Crista Cowan: It's actually part of today's story.
- 1:10Crista Cowan: About a year ago, I was on a business trip in Chicago.
- 1:15Crista Cowan: Now, Ancestry was partnering with Beyoncé's mother on her book tour.
- 1:22Crista Cowan: She released this fantastic book called Matriarch.
- 1:25Crista Cowan: She talked all about how she had researched her family history using Ancestry.
- 1:31Crista Cowan: And so it was very natural for us to be there as part of the book tour.
- 1:34Crista Cowan: Well, in the marketing department at Ancestry, we have a woman named Caitlyn Bruns who is responsible for strategic partnerships.
- 1:42Crista Cowan: And so she had been the point person for all of these events.
- 1:47Crista Cowan: And I got asked to go to that particular event as one of the genealogists to be in the room, helping people make family history discoveries.
- 1:56Crista Cowan: Ancestry has more than a thousand employees.
- 2:00Crista Cowan: And so that means that we don't know everybody that works here.
- 2:03Crista Cowan: We don't often get to work with people unless we're put in situations like that.
- 2:08Crista Cowan: And so I was standing in that room at that book tour in Chicago, and I got to know Caitlyn a little bit better.
- 2:18Crista Cowan: She was more than just a name and somebody on the marketing team here at Ancestry.
- 2:22Crista Cowan: As we got to talking, I realized she had actually come into the marketing department from DNA.
- 2:27Crista Cowan: She was a genetic scientist who had been part of strategic partnerships for our DNA ops team here at Ancestry for quite a while.
- 2:37Crista Cowan: And her story was fascinating as she was explaining her career.
- 2:42Crista Cowan: But then she let it slip that she was from Kentucky.
- 2:47Crista Cowan: And I was a little bit taken aback because she had no discernible accent at all.
- 2:53Crista Cowan: And then she started talking about how not only was she from Kentucky, but both her parents were from Kentucky, and all four of her grandparents were from Kentucky.
- 3:02Crista Cowan: And she has probably one of the deepest Kentucky-rooted family trees that I have ever heard of.
- 3:10Crista Cowan: So when she started talking about family reunions with her family and some of the stories of her parents, I was so charmed and just knew we had to get her on the episode about Kentucky.
- 3:26Crista Cowan: Well, when I invited her to do that, she told me that her dad was going to be visiting Utah.
- 3:32Crista Cowan: And wouldn't it be fun if we could get him in the podcast studio with her to tell his stories?
- 3:39Crista Cowan: And let me tell you, Mr.
- 3:41Crista Cowan: Paul Abel sounds like he's from Kentucky.
- 3:44Crista Cowan: And maybe Caitlyn does a little bit too, as she sits next to him on the couch and talks about their family stories.
- 3:52Crista Cowan: Enjoy my conversation with Paul Abel and Caitlyn Bruns.
- 3:56Crista Cowan: Well, I'm so excited you're both here.
- 3:58Crista Cowan: I have a special spot in my heart for father-daughter relationships.
- 4:02Crista Cowan: And you guys are the first to be on our couch as two guests.
- 4:06Crista Cowan: So super excited about that.
- 4:08Crista Cowan: Caitlyn, let's start with you.
- 4:11Crista Cowan: I would love to hear what it was like growing up in your family.
- 4:15Crista Cowan: So tell us a little bit about just your family and your growing up years.
- 4:19Caitlyn Bruns: Yeah, so grew up in Kentucky.
- 4:21Caitlyn Bruns: We were about an hour or so for my grandparents, both sets.
- 4:26Caitlyn Bruns: So it was always really nice to be able to go back and see one side of the family and the other side of the family at the same time.
- 4:33Caitlyn Bruns: A little bit of different dynamics given that my dad is one of ten and my mom is only one of three.
- 4:39Caitlyn Bruns: So a little bit of different uh decibels when you when you showed up at the house.
- 4:45Crista Cowan: I love that.
- 4:46Crista Cowan: And how many of you are there?
- 4:49Caitlyn Bruns: Only one of me.
- 4:50Caitlyn Bruns: Okay.
- 4:50Caitlyn Bruns: Yes.
- 4:51Caitlyn Bruns: So no siblings.
- 4:52Caitlyn Bruns: No siblings, and I only have one daughter.
- 4:54Crista Cowan: So and did you live in the same place your whole growing up years, or did you move around that community?
- 5:01Caitlyn Bruns: Um, we moved a little bit, but pretty much the same place.
- 5:04Caitlyn Bruns: Like I went to the same school system all the way through.
- 5:07Caitlyn Bruns: Okay.
- 5:08Caitlyn Bruns: Well, there you go.
- 5:08Caitlyn Bruns: Paul, glad you're here.
- 5:11Paul Abell: For having me.
- 5:12Crista Cowan: Excited to hear a little bit more about you, and I'm gonna ask you a question that I ask a lot of people.
- 5:16Crista Cowan: Can you tell me the story of how you met Caitlyn's mother?
- 5:21Paul Abell: Believe it or not, it was in genetics class.
- 5:24Crista Cowan: What?
- 5:25Paul Abell: Yes.
- 5:25Paul Abell: She was taking it as a graduate class.
- 5:28Paul Abell: I was taking it as an undergraduate.
- 5:33Crista Cowan: We met her.
- 5:34Crista Cowan: I love that.
- 5:35Crista Cowan: How old were you?
- 5:36Crista Cowan: Twenty-three.
- 5:37Crista Cowan: Okay, and is she the same age?
- 5:39Paul Abell: No, she was had a little age on me.
- 5:42Crista Cowan: Okay.
- 5:43Crista Cowan: A little?
- 5:44Crista Cowan: How many is a little?
- 5:45Paul Abell: Uh about five.
- 5:46Crista Cowan: Okay.
- 5:47Paul Abell: Yeah.
- 5:47Paul Abell: She was she's five years older than me.
- 5:50Caitlyn Bruns: Okay, I love that.
- 5:51Caitlyn Bruns: But y'all knew each other's siblings.
- 5:53Paul Abell: We yes.
- 5:54Paul Abell: I played softball with with her brother.
- 5:56Paul Abell: Okay.
- 5:57Paul Abell: And then my s I have a sister, there's ten of us.
- 6:00Paul Abell: So I had a sister her age, and I seen her in the uh, they was on the drill team together, which I didn't pay any attention, you know, then or whatever.
- 6:11Paul Abell: But uh but yeah, and then Lynn Doug, her her uh my wife's uh brother played softball together, so uh got to know her dad through that way.
- 6:22Crista Cowan: So you knew the family?
- 6:24Paul Abell: I knew the family.
- 6:25Crista Cowan: Okay, and but because she was older than you, but i it didn't just occur to you to pursue her until you were also older.
- 6:31Crista Cowan: Exactly.
- 6:32Crista Cowan: Okay, right.
- 6:33Crista Cowan: And did you have to pursue her or was it Yeah?
- 6:39Paul Abell: There's nothing easy in this world.
- 6:41Crista Cowan: Okay.
- 6:41Crista Cowan: Um how long did you guys date before you got married?
- 6:45Paul Abell: About a year and a half.
- 6:46Crista Cowan: Okay.
- 6:47Paul Abell: Yeah, it wasn't it wasn't long.
- 6:49Crista Cowan: Okay.
- 6:50Paul Abell: We knew right away.
- 6:51Paul Abell: Pretty pretty close.
- 6:52Paul Abell: I mean, you know, uh I never had a uh what you call a real girlfriend.
- 6:59Paul Abell: So she was it from the Yeah, I I never planned on getting married.
- 7:04Crista Cowan: Okay.
- 7:04Crista Cowan: What's her name?
- 7:06Crista Cowan: Kathy.
- 7:07Crista Cowan: Kathy.
- 7:08Crista Cowan: And how long until Caitlyn came along?
- 7:12Paul Abell: Um we got married in eighty six and she was born in eighty eight, so two years.
- 7:18Crista Cowan: Okay.
- 7:18Crista Cowan: I love that.
- 7:20Crista Cowan: And what is your favorite thing about being a father?
- 7:24Paul Abell: Well, just saying what she's accomplished.
- 7:27Crista Cowan: I love that.
- 7:28Crista Cowan: Tell me about your mom.
- 7:29Crista Cowan: What it like as you watched your parents' relationship growing up.
- 7:32Crista Cowan: What was that like?
- 7:33Caitlyn Bruns: Um, I've always thought it was really good.
- 7:36Caitlyn Bruns: They always seemed to work pretty well together and kind of balancing who did did what.
- 7:41Caitlyn Bruns: Um, and they were both always there for me.
- 7:44Caitlyn Bruns: I mean, I remember dad would usually take me to school and then mom would pick me up from school.
- 7:51Caitlyn Bruns: Um, so yeah, I it's good.
- 7:54Crista Cowan: I love that.
- 7:55Crista Cowan: And now you have a granddaughter.
- 7:58Crista Cowan: Oh, yeah.
- 7:58Crista Cowan: And I have met your granddaughter.
- 8:00Crista Cowan: She and she loves you.
- 8:03Crista Cowan: She was so excited that you were coming to visit.
- 8:06Crista Cowan: Yep.
- 8:07Crista Cowan: She likes us.
- 8:08Crista Cowan: She had to tell us all about it.
- 8:10Crista Cowan: What is your favorite thing to do with her?
- 8:12Paul Abell: Really anything, because just watching her reminds me a lot of Caitlyn.
- 8:16Paul Abell: So reliving that.
- 8:19Crista Cowan: Yeah, yeah, I love that.
- 8:21Crista Cowan: That's beautiful.
- 8:22Crista Cowan: Um, so one of 10 kids.
- 8:25Crista Cowan: What was that like?
- 8:26Paul Abell: Well, I weighed 154 pounds when I graduated high school.
- 8:31Paul Abell: Someone moved out and I gained a little bit.
- 8:35Crista Cowan: More food available.
- 8:36Paul Abell: Well, yeah, there was more room around the table.
- 8:39Paul Abell: But well, and I guess that's why uh I always hung around older people.
- 8:45Paul Abell: And probably hence I married somebody older.
- 8:49Paul Abell: Because of my older siblings.
- 8:51Paul Abell: Yeah.
- 8:51Paul Abell: What number are you?
- 8:52Paul Abell: Ten.
- 8:53Paul Abell: You're the youngest?
- 8:54Paul Abell: I missed the baby.
- 8:55Paul Abell: The baby.
- 8:55Paul Abell: I'm the baby.
- 8:55Paul Abell: Oh, okay.
- 8:56Paul Abell: I didn't like the baby.
- 8:57Caitlyn Bruns: Are you the baby though?
- 8:59Paul Abell: No, I'm not the baby.
- 8:59Paul Abell: Number four is the baby.
- 9:01Paul Abell: But I've always my parents always call me the baby.
- 9:04Paul Abell: You brought that up.
- 9:07Crista Cowan: I need you to tell me what that means.
- 9:09Caitlyn Bruns: I just have all of them have always said that number four is the baby.
- 9:13Caitlyn Bruns: Daddy's the youngest, uh-huh.
- 9:14Caitlyn Bruns: But number four is the baby.
- 9:16Caitlyn Bruns: Okay.
- 9:16Caitlyn Bruns: That's what I feel like there's a story there.
- 9:19Paul Abell: Well, yeah, well, there's a lot of stories.
- 9:22Crista Cowan: Are you gonna tell any of them?
- 9:24Paul Abell: Well, like if you see my mom's pictures, you've seen him let her dress tail.
- 9:30Paul Abell: Uh so he was a momless boy.
- 9:32Crista Cowan: Yeah.
- 9:32Crista Cowan: Okay.
- 9:33Crista Cowan: Is is he still kinda in his heart?
- 9:36Paul Abell: In his heart, but we all of us, yeah.
- 9:38Crista Cowan: Pretty much.
- 9:38Crista Cowan: Oh.
- 9:38Crista Cowan: Okay.
- 9:39Crista Cowan: So so tell me about tell me about your parents.
- 9:42Paul Abell: Well, my dad served in war too.
- 9:45Paul Abell: And uh he um later after work, he became a mailman, and he did that for 28 years.
- 9:55Paul Abell: Uh yeah, 29 years, I think.
- 9:57Paul Abell: And then he uh he retired and he farmed on the side.
- 10:01Paul Abell: So hence that's what we did.
- 10:03Paul Abell: We grew 33 acres of the back uh had we raised six hogs every year for our family to eat and two two cows, and we processed her own meat.
- 10:15Paul Abell: And anyway, and then my mom, she was staying home mom, and then uh when some of them left the house and got older, she started driving the school bus.
- 10:23Paul Abell: She drove the school bus for 16 years, but we was all pretty tight-knit family.
- 10:29Crista Cowan: Sounds like that.
- 10:30Crista Cowan: That's amazing.
- 10:30Paul Abell: Yeah.
- 10:31Crista Cowan: Caitlyn, do you know the story of how your grandparents met?
- 10:33Crista Cowan: I don't know how they met.
- 10:37Paul Abell: Well, they met on a double date.
- 10:39Paul Abell: Uh I ironically, my mom was dating James Sherwood Sanders, and her sister was dating my dad, James Emmanuel Abel.
- 10:54Paul Abell: And they some way or the other, they swapped up some way or the other later on.
- 11:01Paul Abell: I mean, it didn't work out or whatever.
- 11:03Crista Cowan: Sure.
- 11:03Crista Cowan: So that's that's uh So they met on a devil date while they were with other people.
- 11:08Paul Abell: Right.
- 11:08Paul Abell: They was with their si those two sisters.
- 11:11Crista Cowan: Okay.
- 11:11Crista Cowan: Now you know.
- 11:13Crista Cowan: I know.
- 11:14Crista Cowan: Um tell me about a little bit about your other set of grandparents, Caitlyn.
- 11:20Caitlyn Bruns: So um my mom's parents, uh, Mimi and Poppy.
- 11:24Caitlyn Bruns: Um, my dad was or my grandfather was an electrician, and Mimi was a stay-at-home mom.
- 11:31Caitlyn Bruns: Um, they're not from Adair County, they're from Cumberland County, right?
- 11:37Caitlyn Bruns: No, James.
- 11:39Paul Abell: Well, uh your dad your granddad is from Cumberland County, and when they built Del Hollow Lake, they run them, you know, the flood, got them out and they redone, and they moved on top of the hill, and then not long after that, they his dad moved to Adair County.
- 11:54Paul Abell: And then her grandmother, Joyce uh Lloyd, she's from Russell County, which they all neighbor.
- 12:03Paul Abell: They all neighbor um Adair County.
- 12:06Crista Cowan: Okay.
- 12:06Crista Cowan: That's what we're and Russell County is still in Kentucky?
- 12:09Crista Cowan: Yes.
- 12:09Crista Cowan: Yeah.
- 12:10Crista Cowan: There's Russell County in Virginia too, isn't there?
- 12:13Crista Cowan: Okay.
- 12:13Crista Cowan: Well that gets confusing.
- 12:15Paul Abell: Yeah, it it does.
- 12:16Paul Abell: They all they couldn't think of anything else when they came, so they just renamed ever.
- 12:20Paul Abell: Okay.
- 12:21Crista Cowan: Do you remember the first time you met Kathy's parents?
- 12:24Paul Abell: I met her dad at us like I say, I played softball with her brother.
- 12:28Paul Abell: Okay.
- 12:28Paul Abell: And he was very uh supportive of his children.
- 12:34Crista Cowan: And there were three of them?
- 12:35Paul Abell: There was three of them.
- 12:36Paul Abell: And uh he came to all the Doug's games.
- 12:38Paul Abell: So I met him there.
- 12:40Crista Cowan: That's amazing.
- 12:40Crista Cowan: And then what about her mom?
- 12:42Paul Abell: Well, her mom, I probably didn't really m meet her to talk to her until me and Kathy started dating.
- 12:49Crista Cowan: Yeah.
- 12:49Crista Cowan: Okay.
- 12:50Paul Abell: And we fit right in because she had several eight siblings or so, so Yeah.
- 12:55Paul Abell: And they they treated me like a son.
- 12:58Crista Cowan: Oh, I love that.
- 12:59Crista Cowan: And so as you were growing up, Caitlyn, how far apart did your two sets of grandparents live from each other?
- 13:04Caitlyn Bruns: Like 20 minutes.
- 13:05Caitlyn Bruns: Okay.
- 13:06Caitlyn Bruns: Like very close.
- 13:07Caitlyn Bruns: So we were like an hour away from them, but they were only 20 minutes from each other.
- 13:12Caitlyn Bruns: Okay.
- 13:13Crista Cowan: Yeah.
- 13:13Caitlyn Bruns: So it was very easy to get to go see both sides every time we would go there.
- 13:18Crista Cowan: And that's so unique because I think in a lot of families, there's like this like gravitational pull toward one side of the family or the other.
- 13:26Crista Cowan: So you're in a really unique situation where you have these relationships before you even meet your wife, and then your grandparents living so close together.
- 13:34Crista Cowan: That's amazing.
- 13:35Caitlyn Bruns: And it's kind of funny because on my mom's side, I'm the oldest grandchild.
- 13:40Caitlyn Bruns: On his side, I'm the youngest grandchild.
- 13:43Caitlyn Bruns: So I just got to like experience both dynamics.
- 13:46Crista Cowan: So does that mean your grandparents, like one set of grandparents, was a lot older than the other, right?
- 13:50Caitlyn Bruns: No, they were like basically the same age.
- 13:52Caitlyn Bruns: It's just that my he's just the youngest.
- 13:55Caitlyn Bruns: Sure.
- 13:56Caitlyn Bruns: So his parents were just older by the time they got dormant.
- 13:59Caitlyn Bruns: Yeah.
- 14:01Paul Abell: Just takes a while to get my mom and her grandfather, Gene Hoots, they're only five days.
- 14:08Paul Abell: My my mom's five days older than him.
- 14:11Crista Cowan: Okay.
- 14:11Crista Cowan: You know, so Okay.
- 14:12Crista Cowan: And now you now because the grant the your maternal grandparents lived in a different county, they did they know each other uh before you He was a well-known Kathy's father, Gene Hoots.
- 14:26Paul Abell: He was a well-known electrician.
- 14:28Paul Abell: So and then he was on the fire department rescue squad.
- 14:32Paul Abell: He was very a community oriented person.
- 14:36Paul Abell: Yeah.
- 14:36Paul Abell: And her his uh wife was also.
- 14:39Paul Abell: That's amazing.
- 14:40Paul Abell: So everybody knew the Hootses.
- 14:42Paul Abell: And I I knew who they was, you know, growing up, but I didn't know them in detail.
- 14:49Crista Cowan: Sure, yeah, that's amazing.
- 14:51Crista Cowan: So you've got these deep Kentucky roots.
- 14:54Crista Cowan: How deep do they go?
- 14:56Paul Abell: Pretty deep.
- 14:57Paul Abell: Yeah.
- 14:59Crista Cowan: Walk me through it.
- 15:01Paul Abell: Well, they came down there and from Maryland.
- 15:05Paul Abell: My side my side did.
- 15:06Paul Abell: Came from the Abels came from Maryland and then uh in like before the revolution.
- 15:12Paul Abell: Right after the revolution with getting the land grants from the Revolutionary War.
- 15:16Crista Cowan: Okay.
- 15:17Paul Abell: They settled most of the ones that they came along with the the group they came with was uh Catholics.
- 15:25Paul Abell: And they came with the Cats.
- 15:26Paul Abell: Oh, from Maryland, let me say that.
- 15:28Crista Cowan: From Maryland, yeah.
- 15:28Paul Abell: So they came to Rolling Fort, Washington, Nelson, in Marion County.
- 15:33Paul Abell: It's called Roland Fort.
- 15:35Paul Abell: So that's where the Catholic settlement started or in of course hence Marion County, Maryland, you know.
- 15:42Crista Cowan: Yeah.
- 15:42Paul Abell: So that's where they got that.
- 15:44Crista Cowan: But your family wasn't Catholic.
- 15:46Paul Abell: Yes, they were.
- 15:46Paul Abell: They were.
- 15:47Paul Abell: Oh, my was Catholic.
- 15:48Paul Abell: They came with that.
- 15:49Paul Abell: And then my uh grandparent that came, uh, for some reason or other he didn't stay at Rolling Fort long.
- 15:56Paul Abell: He came over to Casey Creek with with another set of Catholics.
- 16:02Paul Abell: Okay.
- 16:03Paul Abell: And then we've been there ever since.
- 16:06Paul Abell: And then so that was Joshua and uh the third great grandparent.
- 16:14Paul Abell: And then on the other side, the one uh other other grandparents.
- 16:19Paul Abell: Well, my my to back it up a little bit, my my uh father's mom and dad are third cousins.
- 16:29Crista Cowan: Okay.
- 16:30Paul Abell: So they came down together, you know.
- 16:33Crista Cowan: Cause when you start getting on some of those little creeks and haulers in Kentucky, there's not a lot of people to choose from.
- 16:43Paul Abell: You know, and they're Catholic.
- 16:45Crista Cowan: They're Catholic and they said a lot of people to choose from because of that, too.
- 16:48Crista Cowan: Right.
- 16:48Crista Cowan: Yeah.
- 16:49Paul Abell: And so they came down and then the Wethingtons, my mom was a Wellington, and they came came down with them from Maryland.
- 16:59Crista Cowan: Okay.
- 17:00Crista Cowan: So So y'all have been there a long time.
- 17:03Paul Abell: Yeah.
- 17:04Paul Abell: Um Yeah, like 18, I think about 18, um the earliest was was about uh 1840, 18 18, right after the revolution.
- 17:18Crista Cowan: So they're going after their land grants from their service.
- 17:20Paul Abell: Yeah.
- 17:21Crista Cowan: Okay.
- 17:21Crista Cowan: Um is that true on your mom's side as well, Caitlin?
- 17:25Caitlyn Bruns: Yes.
- 17:25Caitlyn Bruns: Not all of the the bat the branches, but we're definitely the one uh Revolutionary War person that had the land grant and came over to.
- 17:35Caitlyn Bruns: Okay.
- 17:36Paul Abell: Uh my my wife's side came from North Carolina, Virginia.
- 17:40Crista Cowan: Yeah.
- 17:41Paul Abell: Mine pretty much strictly come from Maryland, but they all came through on land grants.
- 17:46Paul Abell: But they they come, they come down and up.
- 17:49Paul Abell: Mine came down and old and old, you know, only but they they settled there.
- 17:55Paul Abell: And uh hers was mostly from North Carolina and Virginia.
- 17:59Crista Cowan: Okay.
- 18:00Crista Cowan: And so what like did you grow up, Caitlin, knowing like this kind of history and some of these stories, or is this something that you've just gotten into since you've worked here?
- 18:11Caitlyn Bruns: Um, so dad was doing ancestry when it, you know, ancestry.com when it first came out, when I was in elementary school, um, he had two uncles that were really into it.
- 18:25Caitlyn Bruns: And kind of the next generation from them was passed on to dad.
- 18:30Caitlyn Bruns: Okay.
- 18:31Caitlyn Bruns: You're an OG customer.
- 18:34Caitlyn Bruns: I love that.
- 18:35Caitlyn Bruns: When it was on the C D.
- 18:37Paul Abell: Yeah, uh C D.
- 18:39Paul Abell: Yeah.
- 18:42Crista Cowan: That's amazing.
- 18:43Crista Cowan: So what was the draw?
- 18:45Crista Cowan: Like, if you've lived in the same place for generations, if you know your family stories, like what was it that you were trying to do?
- 18:52Paul Abell: Well, that was a problem.
- 18:53Paul Abell: I didn't have a draw for a long time.
- 18:55Paul Abell: I had a I had a second, my dad's uh first cousin, my second cousin, he was really into it in this uh Cincinnati Library.
- 19:06Paul Abell: He was the librarian there, and he did a lot of genealogy there.
- 19:12Paul Abell: And then my uncle Alan Thomas is in Ohio and he did a lot, and they tried to get me interested, like as a child.
- 19:19Paul Abell: I've I've got a little uh pedigree, so to speak, of one, you know, earlier and they would give me this and that, and I just I was like, I already know all that and it and but then when she came along and I thought I need to check out and just sort of dig a little deeper.
- 19:39Paul Abell: And then lots of times you probably don't know this, but lots of times stories that you think are there, you'll find out a little different.
- 19:48Paul Abell: Wow, I and I know you don't you haven't figured that out yet, but you'll and then there'll be some it's that you haven't heard of or whatever, but but uh so tell me oh so I oh I have so many questions.
- 20:02Crista Cowan: So tell me, is there like some tall tale in your family that you like grew up hearing or believing that you proved was not true?
- 20:10Paul Abell: Well, I mean I'm still pursuing.
- 20:13Crista Cowan: Okay.
- 20:15Paul Abell: But um the for the for the American uh for the Civil War is one of them.
- 20:22Paul Abell: I'll I'll tell this in real quick.
- 20:24Paul Abell: The Civil War, uh I supposed I had two great grandpaws that fought one Confederate, one Union.
- 20:32Paul Abell: And then my digging, I see that there's both Union.
- 20:38Paul Abell: But there's a 10th uh regiment that depending on how you write it down, there's one in Confederate and there's one in Union, but the information I have, you know, I always was told that uh the two great grandparents fought against each other, or you know, not fought against each other, but they're on different sides.
- 21:02Paul Abell: Yeah.
- 21:02Paul Abell: Uh they went different ways or whatever.
- 21:04Crista Cowan: But well, and Kentucky is notorious for that, right?
- 21:07Paul Abell: Well, we're we're they're a border state.
- 21:09Paul Abell: People neither know or speak, and they brothers fought.
- 21:12Paul Abell: There's some cases that actual brothers fought against each other or so.
- 21:19Paul Abell: But that that's one or a woman, and there's just a lot of a lot of different stuff that you try to figure out if it's true or not.
- 21:31Crista Cowan: So you're so your uncles couldn't get you interested in family history, but you know, the birth of a child will do that, right?
- 21:37Crista Cowan: Like all of a sudden people have this spark of interest, and now it sounds like that just was all the hook you needed to get into.
- 21:44Paul Abell: Yeah, it did it was.
- 21:45Paul Abell: And then um, I mean, I just it it's fascinating though, even though they're not really big tails or whatever, you know, just to see and see how they migrated and some of the stuff that they went through to get to who they're at and Well maybe and yeah.
- 22:02Paul Abell: It's just pretty interesting.
- 22:04Crista Cowan: I love that.
- 22:05Crista Cowan: So Caitlin, there's a there's a family cabin, right?
- 22:09Crista Cowan: Tell me about that.
- 22:10Caitlyn Bruns: So his grandparents' house is about a mile from my green and granddaddy's house, his parents' house.
- 22:20Caitlyn Bruns: And they had passed before I was born, but we'd always go to Green and Granddaddies and he'd say, There's Mim and Papa's house.
- 22:28Caitlyn Bruns: And um now, since my grandparents have passed, it's been passed on to Daddy.
- 22:34Caitlyn Bruns: And um it's kind of just a nice place to go.
- 22:38Caitlyn Bruns: It's right on Casey Creek.
- 22:40Caitlyn Bruns: Um very pretty scenery around there, but it's actually three cabins, as far as I understand, if this is right, three cabins put together.
- 22:50Caitlyn Bruns: And the cabins have their own life prior to the house.
- 22:55Caitlyn Bruns: And one was a post office and one was a general store.
- 23:00Caitlyn Bruns: All right.
- 23:00Caitlyn Bruns: And then there's also a smoke house back there.
- 23:03Caitlyn Bruns: So it's a whole property.
- 23:05Crista Cowan: Yeah.
- 23:06Crista Cowan: Yeah.
- 23:06Crista Cowan: And so were those buildings moved from somewhere else to the property, or were they always there?
- 23:12Paul Abell: The way the way the I understand it they was to get they're in an L shape, the three that were made the house, there's two up front and then there's one behind it, and then the smokehouse is behind it.
- 23:23Paul Abell: And it still has the physical outside uh logs.
- 23:28Paul Abell: And in 1876, when my great-grandmother, she married the Abel from the Sanders side, they were the ones that owned this at the time.
- 23:39Paul Abell: Then they enclosed that the dog trot and all that stuff, you know.
- 23:44Paul Abell: They enclosed that and made a L-shaped farmhouse.
- 23:47Paul Abell: And it's got the white weatherboarding.
- 23:49Paul Abell: You know, it still got the wood weatherboarding on the side.
- 23:54Paul Abell: I got I acquired it in 2010 when my dad died.
- 23:59Paul Abell: I bought it from my mom.
- 24:00Paul Abell: So then I tore all the floors out and put them back in.
- 24:06Paul Abell: And when my siblings or whoever comes, they stay there and then I deer hunt.
- 24:13Paul Abell: So I go up there and stay.
- 24:15Paul Abell: Or sometimes uh when she comes home or whatever, we'll we might stay out there or something.
- 24:20Paul Abell: But it's sort of and then now in the last since I retired, when my could take it back a little further, when my grandparents were living, they would be as many as a hundred to her, like at Mother's Day, Father's Day, or Thanksgiving or Christmas.
- 24:36Paul Abell: You didn't know who was going to show up.
- 24:38Paul Abell: And when I mean a hundred, I'm not I mean a hundred.
- 24:41Paul Abell: No, I I'm not estimating, you know.
- 24:44Paul Abell: And then uh so over the years it sort of went up to my to my parents, you know, after my grandparents passed.
- 24:52Paul Abell: But my dad got it from my grandmother before she died, he bought it off of her.
- 24:57Paul Abell: And then uh now, since I've retired, I sort of brought it back up for a family or a community family thing.
- 25:06Paul Abell: So I had a big turtle cook.
- 25:09Paul Abell: Uh what is a turtle cook?
- 25:11Paul Abell: Well, you you know what a snapping turtle is?
- 25:16Paul Abell: Uh-huh.
- 25:17Paul Abell: Okay.
- 25:17Paul Abell: So in the spring.
- 25:19Crista Cowan: How big are they?
- 25:20Paul Abell: Well, it depends.
- 25:21Paul Abell: The biggest one we had wouldn't fit in a five-gallon bucket this year.
- 25:24Paul Abell: It was it was about this big.
- 25:26Crista Cowan: Oh my goodness.
- 25:27Paul Abell: But they range in different you don't want a little one, they don't have much meat on them, but they ra you know, they raise around.
- 25:33Paul Abell: So we and then some of my cousins on the Wellington side, we gathered them up and got them ready, and then we had a big turtle cook.
- 25:42Paul Abell: We had about a hundred.
- 25:43Paul Abell: Do you broil them?
- 25:44Paul Abell: Do you barbecue them with two?
- 25:46Paul Abell: Well, no, you you sort of cook them like chicken.
- 25:49Crista Cowan: Okay.
- 25:50Paul Abell: Uh you with your own little we we put them in a uh electric skillet and cooked them until they was almost done, and then you butter them up real good and put them in rentals wrap and put them in the oven for another two hours, about 200 degrees.
- 26:06Paul Abell: And then we also had deer, elk, uh rabbit, fish on the side if you want to like turtle.
- 26:16Crista Cowan: I've never I've had a lot of things, but I have never had turtle.
- 26:19Paul Abell: You need to try.
- 26:20Crista Cowan: Apparently.
- 26:21Paul Abell: Just don't think about it, it's a turtle, just what you need to try.
- 26:25Paul Abell: But anyway, uh so I've sort of sort of redone that.
- 26:30Paul Abell: And then like I've got a couple of brothers that hunt, so during deer season we'll stay there.
- 26:35Paul Abell: So now it's sort of like um like a family retreat?
- 26:39Paul Abell: Family retreat, sort of, or yeah.
- 26:42Crista Cowan: Okay.
- 26:42Paul Abell: So we've used it for that.
- 26:44Crista Cowan: Is that like why did you get it and not any of your other siblings?
- 26:50Paul Abell: Well there.
- 26:56Crista Cowan: Okay.
- 26:57Paul Abell: No, uh, I don't I don't really know.
- 26:59Paul Abell: My mom asked me, and before she asked anybody else, I said yes.
- 27:03Paul Abell: Yeah.
- 27:04Crista Cowan: Do you think maybe it has something to do with the fact that he invites everybody there?
- 27:07Crista Cowan: Would everybody have been as generous as that?
- 27:10Crista Cowan: Maybe not.
- 27:11Crista Cowan: Okay.
- 27:11Crista Cowan: Maybe, right?
- 27:13Paul Abell: Probably sure.
- 27:14Crista Cowan: Yeah, I mean, it sounds like you understand the importance of family and you've been involved in family history and you know the stories, and so you understand the significance of that place.
- 27:22Paul Abell: Yeah.
- 27:22Paul Abell: In a way that maybe they don't all that's that's probably a good way to put it.
- 27:26Crista Cowan: Yeah.
- 27:26Crista Cowan: Yeah.
- 27:27Crista Cowan: That's amazing.
- 27:28Crista Cowan: Are there pictures or other family heirlooms at the at the cabin?
- 27:33Crista Cowan: Tell me about that.
- 27:34Paul Abell: Well, I've just tried uh what I had.
- 27:36Paul Abell: Some uh some of the farm equipment used is is uh hanging around, and then uh pictures of different ones, and I'm adding to it all the time, you know.
- 27:46Paul Abell: And then some of my siblings will give give me something that maybe they got.
- 27:51Paul Abell: I got a rocking chair that my great-grandmother had.
- 27:55Paul Abell: And then my dad had a uh quilt that my great-grandmother had that wasn't quilted, and my mom quilted it.
- 28:05Paul Abell: And I acquired it off of her.
- 28:07Paul Abell: It's a tumbling block tumbling block pattern.
- 28:10Crista Cowan: I don't know.
- 28:10Crista Cowan: I do know what that is.
- 28:12Paul Abell: I have several quilts, this but they hang around up there too.
- 28:16Crista Cowan: That's amazing.
- 28:16Paul Abell: Me and my wife.
- 28:17Paul Abell: Well, we don't have as many now 'cause Caitlin and Norley take up uh they get the ones they want.
- 28:23Paul Abell: But we have, I don't know, sixty or seventy quilts or something.
- 28:28Paul Abell: Wow.
- 28:29Paul Abell: We have several that my mom and grandmother that lived there uh quilted themselves, you know.
- 28:36Crista Cowan: So That's beautiful.
- 28:37Paul Abell: But I have pictures and and just a lot of uh stuff.
- 28:41Paul Abell: I had an aunt that didn't marry till she was fifty-one, so she got a lot of the um able stuff.
- 28:48Paul Abell: And then later on in her years, she gave it to me.
- 28:52Paul Abell: And some of it she gave it to me before I had the house.
- 28:57Paul Abell: Yeah.
- 28:57Paul Abell: And then after I got it, then she gave me a lot more.
- 29:00Paul Abell: She knew I was gonna do something with it, so I put it back in there, you know.
- 29:05Crista Cowan: So thoughtful.
- 29:06Crista Cowan: I love that.
- 29:07Crista Cowan: Yeah.
- 29:07Crista Cowan: Um, you know, uh, you grew up an only child, but with these nine older siblings of your dad's, do you know how many first cousins you have?
- 29:16Crista Cowan: Thirty-two.
- 29:17Crista Cowan: That you you knew that number right off the top of your head.
- 29:21Crista Cowan: So even though you're the youngest, did you like have relationships with them as you were growing up?
- 29:26Caitlyn Bruns: Oh yeah.
- 29:27Caitlyn Bruns: Um, there's a lot that are um there's a lot of girls kind of towards the tail end, and they're probably between three and five years older than me.
- 29:38Caitlyn Bruns: There's four in that range.
- 29:39Caitlyn Bruns: So I hung out with them a lot, and they'd take me out and you know, I learned some things earlier than maybe some other people would have learned some things.
- 29:51Caitlyn Bruns: Um but and then I have um a boy cousin, Matt, that came down to western uh Kentucky and went to school, and he would babysit me a lot.
- 30:05Caitlyn Bruns: Um, and I had a really kind of close relationship with me because he would just take me wherever he was going and I would hang out with him and his friends.
- 30:14Caitlyn Bruns: And um I really appreciated having that time and he didn't treat me like he was babysitting me, but that's definitely what he was doing.
- 30:25Crista Cowan: Nice.
- 30:25Crista Cowan: And then like with your aunt with your aunts and uncles, you also I assume had relationships with them.
- 30:31Crista Cowan: Did everybody stay close or did they kind of spread out?
- 30:34Caitlyn Bruns: Seven of them stayed very close.
- 30:36Caitlyn Bruns: And then there's I have an uncle in Texas, uh, aunt in Colorado who went there and stayed after graduating high school.
- 30:47Caitlyn Bruns: Um, and then an aunt in New York.
- 30:50Caitlyn Bruns: Okay.
- 30:51Crista Cowan: So a few of them have scattered.
- 30:54Crista Cowan: But uh does anybody like, you know, now that you own this property, it sounds like you have some gatherings together, but has there been another big gathering?
- 31:02Crista Cowan: Are there plans for a big reunion of everybody?
- 31:05Paul Abell: I've had four or five years ago, I had about 100 at Christmas.
- 31:10Paul Abell: And then in June, I had 60 or 70.
- 31:16Paul Abell: The no siblings that live away, they came in.
- 31:20Paul Abell: And it's hard now.
- 31:22Paul Abell: People were, you know, and this and that, and they got their own families.
- 31:26Paul Abell: But I I had one back in June.
- 31:28Paul Abell: Uh and then I planned uh I've already got four scheduled for a neck this coming this coming year.
- 31:36Paul Abell: I love that.
- 31:37Paul Abell: So and people can come and a lot of them are cousins that come, you know, that live there close still, and uh but are family friends or whatever, or people I grew up with, and a lot of people uh that I grew up with I didn't get to see until actually I had that turtle cup.
- 31:55Paul Abell: And then, you know, we reunited or whatever.
- 31:58Crista Cowan: And how many of those people you grew up with are you actually related to?
- 32:01Paul Abell: Well, I don't know.
- 32:02Paul Abell: Yeah.
- 32:03Paul Abell: Pretty much everybody up in that Wyoming.
- 32:07Caitlyn Bruns: One thing we didn't say is that so I grew up in Bowen Green like an hour away, but my parents now have moved back to Adara County.
- 32:14Caitlyn Bruns: They're in my mom's parents' house now.
- 32:17Caitlyn Bruns: So that's why it's easier to have more of these things.
- 32:21Caitlyn Bruns: Right.
- 32:22Paul Abell: That's when I retired, then we remodel, we we acquired her parents' house also.
- 32:28Paul Abell: So when then when I retired, we remodeled it and got it fixed.
- 32:34Caitlyn Bruns: But it's in town.
- 32:35Paul Abell: It's in town.
- 32:36Paul Abell: Where she grew up.
- 32:37Paul Abell: It's where she grew up.
- 32:38Paul Abell: Yeah.
- 32:38Paul Abell: It's the house she grew up in.
- 32:40Paul Abell: So we live there and then I'm twenty miles from from this.
- 32:44Crista Cowan: From the cabin.
- 32:45Crista Cowan: Yeah.
- 32:46Crista Cowan: Okay.
- 32:46Crista Cowan: And what's the name of the town?
- 32:48Paul Abell: Columbia, Kentucky.
- 32:49Crista Cowan: Columbia.
- 32:50Paul Abell: And then the cabin's in Rowley.
- 32:52Paul Abell: It used to be called K it was called the post office was Casey Creek, Kentucky.
- 32:56Paul Abell: But now the address is Columbia.
- 32:59Paul Abell: They the it's closed since I grew up.
- 33:02Paul Abell: The the the little uh post office is closed.
- 33:06Paul Abell: But getting back to the cabin, William Riley Sanders was the one that uh had the cabins, you know, and then he was the postmaster at this she said that he used to be a post office, sir.
- 33:20Paul Abell: He was a postmaster two different uh times in his time.
- 33:25Paul Abell: And then his daughter acquired it, which is my great-grandmother, and then her son, my grandfather, uh Joseph Clarenceable, he was post all he was he carried the mail on a mule and then went to a Jeep, and then my dad carried the mail.
- 33:46Paul Abell: And then I worked for UPS.
- 33:52Crista Cowan: So you don't just have deep Kentucky routes, you've got deep community service registers.
- 33:56Paul Abell: Deep service routes, and then my brother carried the mail too.
- 33:59Paul Abell: That one in Texas, he retired from the post office.
- 34:02Paul Abell: So that post office just sort of had a little line in there, you know, you know.
- 34:07Crista Cowan: Yeah.
- 34:07Crista Cowan: The post office has family history too.
- 34:10Paul Abell: Right.
- 34:10Crista Cowan: I love that.
- 34:11Crista Cowan: That's within the yeah.
- 34:12Crista Cowan: That's amazing.
- 34:13Crista Cowan: So Caitlin has 32 first cousins on you on her daddy's side.
- 34:17Crista Cowan: Do you know how many you have?
- 34:19Paul Abell: Oh no.
- 34:20Paul Abell: I'm finding them every day.
- 34:23Paul Abell: First first cousins, I don't know, I I probably I don't I don't know.
- 34:30Paul Abell: Probably 50.
- 34:32Paul Abell: Okay.
- 34:32Paul Abell: Because everybody had I I haven't really counted on.
- 34:36Crista Cowan: And then because your family's been there for generations, right?
- 34:39Crista Cowan: Like second cousins and third cousins.
- 34:41Crista Cowan: Friends was family.
- 34:42Paul Abell: You know what I mean?
- 34:43Paul Abell: So you didn't really think of them as cousins, you know, unless you was talking with somebody else.
- 34:50Paul Abell: Yeah.
- 34:50Paul Abell: But growing up, they was friends.
- 34:53Paul Abell: Yeah.
- 34:53Paul Abell: You know, that's who you went hunting with or double dating or, you know, worked with or whatever, you know, or what whatever you was doing, you know.
- 35:04Paul Abell: Yeah.
- 35:04Paul Abell: But it was a lot.
- 35:07Crista Cowan: Yeah.
- 35:07Crista Cowan: I think there's something really unique about living in that kind of a community, though, right?
- 35:13Paul Abell: Well, you didn't want to mess with nobody in there.
- 35:15Crista Cowan: Right.
- 35:16Paul Abell: Because we all looked out for each other.
- 35:19Crista Cowan: Yeah.
- 35:19Crista Cowan: Yeah, absolutely.
- 35:20Crista Cowan: I mean, uh Caitlyn, what is it about growing up in Kentucky and in that kind of an environment and that kind of a family that you realize maybe growing up seemed normal, but now you're like, that was really unique and special.
- 35:36Caitlyn Bruns: I think just like seeing both sets of my grandparents all the time was something that is very unique and something that most people don't get to do.
- 35:45Caitlyn Bruns: Yeah.
- 35:46Caitlyn Bruns: Yeah.
- 35:46Caitlyn Bruns: What does it mean to you to be from Kentucky?
- 35:50Caitlyn Bruns: Um, I think it is one of those things, like there's a saying that I've heard, and they probably say this about every state, but people from Kentucky are either coming home or they're at home or they've been at home.
- 36:03Caitlyn Bruns: And I think Kentucky always feels like home.
- 36:07Caitlyn Bruns: And when I say that, it, you know, it's that's where I'm from.
- 36:10Caitlyn Bruns: I really feel like I'm a Kentucky person.
- 36:13Caitlyn Bruns: It doesn't matter how long I'm gonna be in Utah.
- 36:16Caitlyn Bruns: I don't know that I'll ever be in a Utah.
- 36:19Crista Cowan: And yet somehow you manage to escape without the accent.
- 36:23Caitlyn Bruns: Yeah.
- 36:25Crista Cowan: Stor some stories on that.
- 36:26Crista Cowan: But that's fine.
- 36:29Crista Cowan: Paul, what about you?
- 36:31Crista Cowan: What does it mean to be from Kentucky?
- 36:33Paul Abell: Well, I I was born and bred there, so that's where I call home.
- 36:39Crista Cowan: Yeah.
- 36:40Crista Cowan: You never never thought about leaving?
- 36:43Paul Abell: Not no, I'd never hell.
- 36:44Paul Abell: You know, a lot of a lot of people do us, but I went to Bowling Green, which was uh was about eighty, ninety miles away.
- 36:54Paul Abell: And I was too far then.
- 36:57Crista Cowan: Yeah.
- 36:57Paul Abell: Sound like But I mean I was still in Kentucky, but I was too far from home.
- 37:01Paul Abell: Yeah.
- 37:01Paul Abell: I mean, you know, home place, you know, but uh I'm just one of those that uh satisfied with where I was at, you know.
- 37:13Crista Cowan: Well, it sounds like a beautiful place, and there is something to be said for having deep roots in a place.
- 37:19Crista Cowan: And I think it's really admirable and beautiful that you're caring for your family heritage the way you are.
- 37:24Crista Cowan: I think that's really lovely.
- 37:26Crista Cowan: Thank you both for being here.
- 37:27Crista Cowan: I appreciate your appreciate your depth of connection to Kentucky, but also just lovely hearing you share family stories together.
- 37:36Caitlyn Bruns: Thank you for having us.
- 37:37Paul Abell: Thanks for having us.
- 37:38Paul Abell: Appreciate it.
- 37:40Caitlyn Bruns: Studio sponsored by Ancestry.