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Mindset - Advice from the Carol Dweck, Inventor of the Growth Mindset · Other Peoples Parenting

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  Are
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  you
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  settled?
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  Are
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  we
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  settled?
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  Are
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  you
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  settled?
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  I'm
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  settled.
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  I'm
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  asking.
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  Well,
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  I
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  think
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  so.
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  Did
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  you
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  read
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  the
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  cards
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  that
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  I
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  wrote?
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  Yeah,
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  I
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  did.
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  Oh,
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  okay.
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  I
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  just
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  want
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  to
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  make
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  sure.
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  Did
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  you
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  read
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  my
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  work?
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  No,
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  I
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  just
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  cut
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  them
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  out
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  and
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  I
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  pasted
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  them.
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  Well,
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  you
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  might
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  have.
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  I
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  might
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  have
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  been
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  busy.
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  I
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  read.
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  I
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  read.
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  Girl,
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  I
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  read.
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  I
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  just
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  wondered.
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  I
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  was
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  reading
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  this
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  book
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  until
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  10:30
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  last
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  night.
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  I'm
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  so
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  sorry.
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  It's
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  okay.
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  If
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  my
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  child
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  had
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  cooperated,
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  it
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  would
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  have
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  been
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  easier.
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  But
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  that's
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  just
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  what
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  happened
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  anyway.
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  Okay.
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  Welcome
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  back
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  to
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  an
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  episode
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  of
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  Other
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  People's
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  Parenting
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  where
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  we
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  read
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  parenting
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  books
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  and
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  review
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  them
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  for
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  you.
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  I'm
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  Skylar
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  Hurwitz,
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  amateur
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  parent,
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  and
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  this
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  is
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  my
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  mom,
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  Karen
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  Quinn.
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  She
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  is
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  a
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  New
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  York
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  Times
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  best
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  selling
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  author
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  and
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  the
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  founder
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  of
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  havocoach
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  and
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  Testing
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  Mom.
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  Hello,
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  Mom.
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  Hi,
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  Skylar.
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  How
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  are
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  you
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  doing
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  today?
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  I'm
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  doing
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  great.
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  I'm
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  doing
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  fine.
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  Yeah?
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  Okay.
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  Ready
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  to
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  go.
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  What's
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  so
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  great
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  about
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  today?
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  Well,
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  it
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  started
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  off
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  kind
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  of
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  bad,
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  but
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  it
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  got
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  better.
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  So
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  what
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  happened
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  to
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  you?
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  Oh,
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  just
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  issues.
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  Taking
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  Mondo
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  to
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  his
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  day
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  camp.
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  My
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  dog,
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  and
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  he's
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  in
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  a
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  barking
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  phase
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  and
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  he
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  barks
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  at
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  all
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  the
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  dogs
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  and
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  I'm
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  so
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  embarrassed.
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  Oh,
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  I
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  know.
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  And
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  I'm
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  trying.
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  I
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  really
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  need
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  to
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  go
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  back
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  to
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  the
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  basics.
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  Barking
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  collar
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  and.
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  Yeah.
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  Anyway,
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  barking
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  collars
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  are
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  very
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  effective.
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  Yeah,
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  I'm
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  going
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  back
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  to
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  the
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  barking
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  collar,
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  but
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  people
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  look
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  at
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  me
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  like,
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  I'm
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  really
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  mean
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  because,
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  you
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  know,
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  you
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  know,
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  he's
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  a
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  little
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  dog.
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  He's
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  got
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  this
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  big,
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  like,
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  barking
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  thing
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  on
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  that
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  spritzes
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  him
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  every
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  time
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  he
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  barks.
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  People
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  are
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  like,
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  who
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  are
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  you?
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  Well,
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  you
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  do
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  what
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  you
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  gotta
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  do.
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  I
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  know.
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  You
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  know,
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  he's
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  small,
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  but
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  he's
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  mighty
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  and
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  he's
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  loud.
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  Well.
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  And,
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  you
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  know,
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  he
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  was
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  barking
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  at
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  this
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  guy
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  yesterday
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  and
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  this
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  big
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  guy,
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  and
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  I
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  said,
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  oh,
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  no,
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  he
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  can't
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  hurt
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  you.
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  And
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  I
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  kind
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  of
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  let
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  him.
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  Was
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  trying
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  to
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  let
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  him
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  get
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  near
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  the
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  guy,
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  and
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  then
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  the
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  guy
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  backs
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  up.
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  I'm
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  like,
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  no.
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  Okay,
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  I'm
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  sorry.
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  Mano
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  is
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  £4.
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  I
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  know
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  he's
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  very
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  small,
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  but.
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  But
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  barking
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  dogs
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  scare
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  people.
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  So
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  anyway,
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  non
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  barking
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  dogs
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  also
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  scare
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  people
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  is
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  something
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  I've
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  discovered.
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  Okay.
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  Yeah,
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  but
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  listen,
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  some
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  people,
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  they
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  just
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  have
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  fears
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  and
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  that's
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  that.
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  Anyway,
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  today
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  we'll
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  be
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  reading
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  Mindset,
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  which
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  I
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  actually
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  really,
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  really
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  loved
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  all
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  the
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  way
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  through.
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  It
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  is
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  by
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  Carol
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  s.
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  Dweck,
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  a
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  PhD
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  who
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  I
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  didn't
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  find
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  annoying.
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  Oh,
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  good.
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  Yeah,
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  yeah.
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  No,
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  no,
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  she's
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  good.
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  She's
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  really
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  good.
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  This
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  book
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  is
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  so
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  well
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  written,
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  and
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  it's
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  great
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  not
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  only
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  for
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  parents,
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  but
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  really
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  for
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  anybody,
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  because
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  it's
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  a
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  book
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  about
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  perspective
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  and
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  choosing
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  to
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  sort
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  of
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  see
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  things
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  either
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  as
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  learning
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  opportunities
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  or
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  as
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  condemnations
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  on
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  your
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  character.
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  Teen,
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  from
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  scientist
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  to
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  parent.
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  How
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  readable
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  was
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  this
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  book
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  for
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  you?
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  Well,
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  I
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  found
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  the
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  book
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  very
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  readable.
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  I
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  mean,
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  it
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  is
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  maybe
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  more
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  of
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  an
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  8
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  as
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  opposed
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  to
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  a
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  10
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  in
• 2:51
  that
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  there
• 2:52
  are
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  lots
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  of
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  studies
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  that
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  she
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  cites,
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  but
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  she
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  tells
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  the
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  studies
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  that
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  she's
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  talking
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  about,
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  like
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  little
• 3:00
  stories,
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  and
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  they're
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  very
• 3:02
  interesting,
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  you
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  know,
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  so
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  it's
• 3:04
  not
• 3:04
  like
• 3:04
  reading
• 3:05
  about
• 3:05
  research
• 3:05
  that
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  you're
• 3:06
  like,
• 3:06
  you
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  know,
• 3:06
  your
• 3:07
  eyes
• 3:07
  glaze
• 3:07
  over,
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  it's
• 3:09
  a
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  good
• 3:09
  story,
• 3:10
  and
• 3:10
  you're
• 3:10
  like,
• 3:10
  yeah,
• 3:11
  that
• 3:11
  proves
• 3:11
  the
• 3:12
  point.
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  So
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  it's
• 3:13
  good,
• 3:14
  it's
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  dense.
• 3:15
  There's
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  a
• 3:15
  lot
• 3:16
  of
• 3:16
  information.
• 3:17
  It's
• 3:17
  not
• 3:17
  just
• 3:18
  about
• 3:18
  children
• 3:19
  and
• 3:19
  learning
• 3:20
  in
• 3:20
  school.
• 3:21
  That's
• 3:21
  a
• 3:21
  big
• 3:21
  part
• 3:22
  of
• 3:22
  it.
• 3:22
  But
• 3:22
  they
• 3:22
  also
• 3:23
  go
• 3:23
  into
• 3:23
  sports
• 3:23
  figures.
• 3:24
  They
• 3:24
  go
• 3:24
  into
• 3:25
  business,
• 3:26
  marriage.
• 3:27
  Yeah.
• 3:27
  So
• 3:28
  covers.
• 3:29
  Covers
• 3:29
  a
• 3:29
  lot
• 3:29
  of
• 3:29
  ground.
• 3:30
  Yeah.
• 3:30
  But
• 3:30
  I
• 3:31
  wanted
• 3:31
  to
• 3:31
  do
• 3:31
  it
• 3:32
  because
• 3:34
  this
• 3:35
  idea,
• 3:36
  her
• 3:36
  idea
• 3:36
  about
• 3:37
  a
• 3:37
  growth
• 3:37
  mindset
• 3:38
  has
• 3:38
  been
• 3:39
  adopted
• 3:39
  by
• 3:39
  so
• 3:40
  many
• 3:40
  schools,
• 3:41
  and
• 3:42
  not
• 3:43
  all
• 3:43
  schools,
• 3:43
  but
• 3:43
  many
• 3:44
  schools
• 3:44
  across
• 3:44
  the
• 3:45
  country.
• 3:45
  And
• 3:46
  so
• 3:46
  if
• 3:47
  you
• 3:47
  have
• 3:47
  a
• 3:47
  child
• 3:47
  in
• 3:48
  school,
• 3:48
  you
• 3:48
  are
• 3:49
  going
• 3:49
  to
• 3:49
  hear
• 3:49
  about
• 3:49
  this
• 3:49
  and
• 3:50
  you're
• 3:50
  going
• 3:50
  to
• 3:51
  hear
• 3:51
  about
• 3:51
  a
• 3:51
  growth
• 3:52
  mindset.
• 3:52
  Well,
• 3:52
  what
• 3:53
  does
• 3:53
  it
• 3:53
  mean?
• 3:54
  I
• 3:54
  thought,
• 3:54
  okay,
• 3:55
  let's
• 3:55
  go
• 3:55
  to
• 3:55
  the
• 3:55
  source.
• 3:56
  Let's
• 3:56
  find
• 3:56
  out
• 3:57
  what
• 3:57
  she
• 3:57
  said
• 3:58
  and
• 3:59
  talk
• 3:59
  about
• 4:00
  it,
• 4:00
  and
• 4:00
  then
• 4:00
  a
• 4:01
  parent
• 4:01
  can
• 4:01
  decide.
• 4:02
  Do
• 4:02
  you
• 4:02
  want
• 4:02
  to
• 4:02
  read
• 4:02
  the
• 4:02
  book
• 4:03
  or
• 4:03
  take
• 4:03
  our
• 4:03
  word
• 4:04
  for
• 4:04
  it?
• 4:05
  Whatever.
• 4:05
  I
• 4:06
  suggest
• 4:06
  both.
• 4:08
  Because
• 4:08
  you
• 4:08
  liked
• 4:08
  it.
• 4:08
  Yeah.
• 4:09
  I
• 4:09
  would
• 4:09
  recommend
• 4:10
  this
• 4:10
  book
• 4:10
  to
• 4:11
  anyone,
• 4:12
  parent
• 4:13
  or
• 4:13
  pessimist.
• 4:15
  Oh,
• 4:15
  yeah.
• 4:15
  Or
• 4:15
  someone
• 4:16
  who's
• 4:16
  struggling
• 4:16
  with
• 4:17
  things
• 4:17
  in
• 4:17
  their
• 4:17
  life
• 4:18
  and
• 4:18
  you're
• 4:18
  wondering
• 4:19
  why.
• 4:19
  Why
• 4:20
  am
• 4:20
  I
• 4:20
  not
• 4:20
  accomplishing
• 4:21
  what
• 4:21
  I
• 4:21
  want
• 4:21
  to
• 4:21
  accomplish?
• 4:22
  This
• 4:23
  will
• 4:23
  give
• 4:23
  you
• 4:23
  a
• 4:23
  lot
• 4:23
  of
• 4:23
  answers
• 4:24
  that
• 4:24
  you
• 4:24
  might
• 4:25
  not
• 4:25
  thought
• 4:25
  about.
• 4:26
  It
• 4:26
  reminds
• 4:26
  me,
• 4:28
  my
• 4:28
  old
• 4:29
  conservatory
• 4:30
  teacher
• 4:31
  Terry
• 4:32
  used
• 4:32
  to
• 4:32
  say
• 4:32
  to
• 4:32
  us,
• 4:33
  you
• 4:33
  know,
• 4:33
  when
• 4:33
  bad
• 4:34
  things
• 4:34
  happen
• 4:34
  to
• 4:34
  you
• 4:35
  during
• 4:35
  your
• 4:35
  days,
• 4:36
  they're
• 4:37
  amazing.
• 4:37
  They're
• 4:37
  a
• 4:38
  gift
• 4:38
  because
• 4:38
  you
• 4:39
  can
• 4:39
  use
• 4:39
  them
• 4:39
  as
• 4:39
  fodder
• 4:40
  in
• 4:40
  your
• 4:40
  work.
• 4:41
  So
• 4:42
  take
• 4:43
  that
• 4:44
  however
• 4:44
  you
• 4:44
  like,
• 4:44
  positively.
• 4:45
  Yeah,
• 4:46
  but
• 4:46
  it's
• 4:46
  like
• 4:46
  everything
• 4:47
  is
• 4:47
  a
• 4:47
  gift,
• 4:47
  even
• 4:48
  when
• 4:48
  it's
• 4:48
  terrible,
• 4:49
  if
• 4:49
  that
• 4:50
  makes
• 4:50
  any
• 4:50
  sense.
• 4:50
  Yeah,
• 4:51
  no,
• 4:51
  it
• 4:52
  does.
• 4:52
  It
• 4:52
  does.
• 4:53
  And
• 4:54
  we'll
• 4:54
  talk
• 4:54
  about
• 4:55
  that
• 4:55
  because,
• 4:56
  you
• 4:56
  know,
• 4:56
  one
• 4:57
  of
• 4:57
  the.
• 4:57
  The
• 4:57
  things
• 4:57
  she
• 4:57
  says
• 4:58
  is
• 4:58
  similar
• 4:59
  kinds
• 4:59
  of
• 4:59
  things
• 5:00
  with
• 5:00
  your
• 5:00
  kids.
• 5:01
  When
• 5:01
  there
• 5:01
  are
• 5:01
  obstacles,
• 5:02
  when
• 5:03
  there
• 5:03
  are
• 5:03
  challenges,
• 5:04
  when
• 5:04
  your
• 5:04
  child
• 5:04
  makes
• 5:04
  a
• 5:05
  C,
• 5:05
  don't
• 5:06
  get
• 5:06
  upset.
• 5:07
  That
• 5:07
  means
• 5:07
  maybe
• 5:08
  they're
• 5:08
  working
• 5:08
  really
• 5:09
  hard
• 5:09
  at
• 5:09
  something
• 5:10
  that
• 5:10
  is
• 5:10
  difficult
• 5:11
  for
• 5:11
  them
• 5:11
  and
• 5:11
  that
• 5:12
  is
• 5:12
  in
• 5:12
  progress.
• 5:13
  Exactly.
• 5:14
  And
• 5:14
  that's
• 5:14
  okay.
• 5:15
  And
• 5:15
  that's
• 5:15
  good.
• 5:16
  I
• 5:17
  feel
• 5:17
  bad
• 5:17
  for
• 5:18
  kids
• 5:18
  whose
• 5:19
  parents
• 5:19
  are
• 5:21
  all
• 5:21
  over
• 5:21
  them
• 5:21
  about,
• 5:22
  you
• 5:22
  have
• 5:22
  to
• 5:22
  go
• 5:23
  to
• 5:23
  Harvard.
• 5:23
  You
• 5:24
  have
• 5:24
  to
• 5:24
  go
• 5:24
  to
• 5:24
  a
• 5:24
  top
• 5:25
  school.
• 5:26
  And
• 5:26
  they
• 5:26
  hear
• 5:26
  that
• 5:26
  from
• 5:27
  the
• 5:27
  time
• 5:27
  they're
• 5:28
  really,
• 5:28
  really.
• 5:30
  I
• 5:30
  think
• 5:30
  that
• 5:30
  it
• 5:31
  can
• 5:31
  really
• 5:31
  mess
• 5:32
  you
• 5:32
  up.
• 5:32
  Yeah.
• 5:32
  I
• 5:33
  also
• 5:33
  know
• 5:33
  plenty
• 5:33
  of
• 5:33
  people
• 5:33
  who
• 5:34
  went
• 5:34
  to
• 5:34
  Harvard
• 5:34
  who
• 5:34
  are
• 5:35
  in
• 5:35
  absolute
• 5:35
  shambles.
• 5:36
  So
• 5:37
  Harvard
• 5:37
  does
• 5:37
  not
• 5:37
  guarantee
• 5:38
  a
• 5:38
  successful
• 5:38
  life.
• 5:39
  Right.
• 5:39
  That's
• 5:39
  true.
• 5:40
  F.
• 5:40
  YI
• 5:41
  that's
• 5:41
  true.
• 5:42
  And
• 5:42
  then
• 5:42
  there
• 5:43
  are
• 5:43
  those
• 5:43
  people
• 5:43
  who
• 5:44
  don't
• 5:44
  even
• 5:44
  go
• 5:44
  to
• 5:44
  college
• 5:45
  and
• 5:45
  they
• 5:45
  do
• 5:46
  amazing
• 5:46
  things.
• 5:46
  Like
• 5:47
  me.
• 5:48
  Yeah,
• 5:49
  I
• 5:49
  wasn't.
• 5:50
  I
• 5:50
  wasn't
• 5:50
  gonna
• 5:50
  point
• 5:51
  that
• 5:51
  out,
• 5:51
  but
• 5:51
  yeah,
• 5:51
  that's
• 5:52
  okay.
• 5:52
  I
• 5:52
  don't
• 5:52
  care
• 5:52
  that
• 5:52
  I
• 5:53
  didn't
• 5:53
  go
• 5:53
  to
• 5:53
  college.
• 5:53
  I
• 5:53
  think
• 5:54
  it
• 5:54
  was
• 5:54
  the
• 5:54
  best
• 5:54
  decision
• 5:55
  I've
• 5:55
  ever
• 5:55
  made
• 5:56
  in
• 5:56
  my
• 5:56
  life.
• 5:57
  For
• 5:57
  me,
• 5:57
  not
• 5:58
  for
• 5:58
  everybody,
• 5:58
  but
• 5:59
  it
• 5:59
  was.
• 6:00
  You
• 6:00
  went
• 6:00
  to
• 6:00
  a
• 6:00
  conservatory.
• 6:01
  Yeah.
• 6:01
  Which
• 6:02
  was
• 6:02
  excellent.
• 6:02
  It
• 6:02
  was
• 6:02
  also.
• 6:03
  It
• 6:03
  was
• 6:03
  a
• 6:03
  different
• 6:03
  kind
• 6:04
  of
• 6:04
  education.
• 6:04
  It
• 6:05
  was
• 6:05
  much
• 6:05
  more
• 6:05
  useful
• 6:06
  for
• 6:06
  me
• 6:07
  just
• 6:07
  as
• 6:07
  a
• 6:07
  person,
• 6:08
  because
• 6:08
  something
• 6:08
  that
• 6:09
  people
• 6:09
  don't
• 6:09
  realize
• 6:09
  is,
• 6:10
  like,
• 6:11
  acting.
• 6:11
  Conservatory
• 6:12
  is
• 6:13
  so
• 6:13
  much
• 6:13
  more
• 6:13
  than
• 6:14
  just
• 6:14
  learning
• 6:14
  how
• 6:14
  to
• 6:14
  act.
• 6:15
  It
• 6:15
  teaches
• 6:15
  you
• 6:15
  about
• 6:16
  empathy.
• 6:16
  It
• 6:17
  teaches
• 6:17
  you
• 6:17
  how
• 6:18
  to
• 6:18
  read
• 6:18
  and
• 6:18
  tell
• 6:19
  stories
• 6:19
  and
• 6:19
  write
• 6:20
  stories.
• 6:20
  Like,
• 6:21
  as
• 6:21
  a
• 6:21
  Meisner
• 6:21
  actor,
• 6:22
  you
• 6:22
  are
• 6:23
  the
• 6:23
  set
• 6:23
  designer,
• 6:24
  the
• 6:24
  writer,
• 6:24
  the
• 6:25
  director,
• 6:25
  the
• 6:26
  actor,
• 6:26
  the
• 6:26
  costume
• 6:27
  designer,
• 6:27
  the
• 6:27
  makeup
• 6:28
  person.
• 6:28
  If
• 6:28
  you
• 6:29
  ever
• 6:29
  see
• 6:29
  someone
• 6:30
  lugging
• 6:30
  a
• 6:30
  gigantic
• 6:31
  suitcase
• 6:32
  on
• 6:32
  a
• 6:32
  subway
• 6:32
  line
• 6:33
  that
• 6:33
  isn't
• 6:33
  going
• 6:33
  to
• 6:33
  jfk,
• 6:34
  they're
• 6:34
  probably
• 6:35
  going
• 6:35
  to
• 6:35
  a
• 6:35
  Meisner
• 6:35
  acting
• 6:36
  studio.
• 6:36
  No
• 6:36
  kidding.
• 6:37
  Okay,
• 6:37
  that's
• 6:38
  interesting.
• 6:38
  So
• 6:39
  you
• 6:39
  learned
• 6:39
  so
• 6:39
  much.
• 6:40
  So
• 6:41
  much.
• 6:41
  Yeah.
• 6:41
  I
• 6:41
  thought
• 6:41
  it
• 6:42
  was
• 6:42
  really
• 6:42
  life
• 6:42
  transforming
• 6:43
  for
• 6:43
  you.
• 6:44
  Totally.
• 6:44
  Yeah,
• 6:45
  totally.
• 6:45
  It
• 6:45
  was.
• 6:45
  And
• 6:46
  it.
• 6:46
  But
• 6:46
  it
• 6:46
  was
• 6:46
  hard
• 6:46
  for
• 6:47
  me
• 6:47
  as
• 6:47
  a
• 6:47
  parent,
• 6:48
  always
• 6:48
  thinking,
• 6:48
  I
• 6:49
  want
• 6:49
  my
• 6:49
  kids
• 6:49
  to
• 6:49
  go
• 6:50
  to
• 6:50
  college
• 6:50
  and
• 6:50
  get
• 6:50
  the
• 6:51
  best
• 6:51
  education.
• 6:52
  And
• 6:52
  at
• 6:52
  first
• 6:52
  we
• 6:53
  were
• 6:53
  preparing
• 6:53
  you
• 6:54
  for
• 6:54
  that.
• 6:54
  And
• 6:54
  then
• 6:54
  suddenly
• 6:55
  it
• 6:55
  made.
• 6:55
  You
• 6:56
  know,
• 6:56
  I
• 6:56
  started
• 6:56
  thinking,
• 6:57
  this
• 6:57
  does
• 6:57
  not
• 6:57
  make
• 6:58
  sense.
• 6:58
  Well,
• 6:58
  then
• 6:58
  you
• 6:58
  saw
• 6:58
  my
• 6:59
  SAT
• 6:59
  scores
• 6:59
  and
• 7:00
  you
• 7:00
  were
• 7:00
  like,
• 7:00
  I
• 7:01
  don't
• 7:01
  think
• 7:01
  she's
• 7:01
  going
• 7:01
  to
• 7:01
  get
• 7:02
  in
• 7:02
  anywhere.
• 7:02
  Well,
• 7:02
  no,
• 7:03
  that
• 7:03
  wasn't
• 7:03
  it.
• 7:04
  Well,
• 7:04
  I
• 7:04
  thought,
• 7:04
  what's
• 7:05
  the
• 7:05
  point
• 7:05
  of
• 7:05
  pushing
• 7:05
  you
• 7:06
  to.
• 7:07
  To
• 7:08
  try
• 7:08
  to
• 7:08
  improve
• 7:09
  your
• 7:09
  score
• 7:09
  to
• 7:10
  get
• 7:10
  in
• 7:10
  somewhere
• 7:11
  when
• 7:12
  you
• 7:12
  should
• 7:12
  not.
• 7:13
  You
• 7:13
  shouldn't
• 7:14
  be
• 7:14
  in
• 7:14
  a
• 7:14
  math
• 7:14
  class
• 7:15
  anymore.
• 7:15
  You
• 7:16
  should
• 7:16
  be
• 7:16
  doing
• 7:16
  something
• 7:16
  different.
• 7:17
  I
• 7:17
  should.
• 7:17
  And
• 7:18
  it
• 7:18
  was
• 7:18
  time.
• 7:18
  And
• 7:19
  so
• 7:19
  it
• 7:19
  didn't
• 7:20
  matter
• 7:20
  anyway.
• 7:20
  It
• 7:21
  was.
• 7:21
  I
• 7:21
  let
• 7:21
  it
• 7:22
  go,
• 7:22
  you
• 7:22
  know,
• 7:23
  I
• 7:23
  let
• 7:23
  the
• 7:23
  dream
• 7:24
  go
• 7:25
  because
• 7:25
  I
• 7:25
  let
• 7:25
  you
• 7:26
  do
• 7:26
  what
• 7:26
  you
• 7:26
  do.
• 7:26
  What
• 7:27
  did
• 7:27
  you
• 7:28
  want
• 7:28
  me
• 7:28
  to
• 7:28
  be
• 7:28
  when,
• 7:30
  like,
• 7:30
  what
• 7:30
  would
• 7:30
  be
• 7:30
  ideal.
• 7:31
  I
• 7:31
  think
• 7:31
  when
• 7:32
  you
• 7:32
  first
• 7:32
  have
• 7:33
  a
• 7:33
  baby
• 7:33
  that
• 7:34
  you
• 7:34
  just.
• 7:34
  You
• 7:34
  want
• 7:34
  the
• 7:35
  best
• 7:35
  for
• 7:35
  them,
• 7:35
  and
• 7:35
  you
• 7:36
  think,
• 7:36
  oh,
• 7:36
  I
• 7:36
  want
• 7:36
  them
• 7:36
  to
• 7:37
  go
• 7:37
  to
• 7:37
  a
• 7:37
  great
• 7:37
  school.
• 7:38
  I
• 7:38
  want
• 7:38
  them
• 7:38
  to
• 7:38
  be
• 7:39
  happy.
• 7:40
  I
• 7:40
  want
• 7:40
  them
• 7:40
  to
• 7:40
  do
• 7:41
  well
• 7:41
  in
• 7:41
  school.
• 7:43
  But
• 7:43
  you
• 7:43
  also
• 7:44
  just
• 7:44
  want
• 7:44
  them
• 7:44
  to
• 7:45
  find
• 7:45
  themselves
• 7:46
  and
• 7:46
  be
• 7:47
  themselves.
• 7:48
  And
• 7:48
  so
• 7:49
  I
• 7:49
  was
• 7:49
  pretty
• 7:49
  open
• 7:49
  to
• 7:50
  that
• 7:50
  also,
• 7:51
  I
• 7:51
  think
• 7:52
  when
• 7:52
  I
• 7:52
  was
• 7:52
  little,
• 7:52
  I
• 7:53
  was
• 7:53
  asked
• 7:53
  in
• 7:53
  preschool
• 7:54
  what
• 7:54
  I
• 7:54
  wanted
• 7:54
  to
• 7:54
  be,
• 7:55
  and
• 7:55
  I
• 7:55
  wanted
• 7:55
  to
• 7:55
  be
• 7:55
  a
• 7:55
  cat.
• 7:57
  Right.
• 7:57
  And
• 7:57
  then
• 7:57
  later,
• 7:58
  you
• 7:58
  wanted
• 7:58
  to
• 7:58
  own
• 7:58
  a
• 7:59
  dog
• 7:59
  circus.
• 7:59
  Yeah.
• 8:00
  Remember?
• 8:00
  And
• 8:00
  now
• 8:01
  I
• 8:01
  do.
• 8:01
  Yeah.
• 8:02
  Now
• 8:02
  I
• 8:02
  do
• 8:02
  own
• 8:02
  a
• 8:02
  dog
• 8:03
  circus.
• 8:03
  You
• 8:03
  kind
• 8:03
  of
• 8:03
  do.
• 8:04
  Yeah.
• 8:05
  But
• 8:05
  we
• 8:05
  should
• 8:05
  talk
• 8:05
  about
• 8:05
  this.
• 8:06
  Yes,
• 8:06
  we'll
• 8:06
  talk
• 8:06
  about
• 8:06
  this.
• 8:07
  Enough
• 8:07
  about
• 8:08
  us.
• 8:08
  Yeah,
• 8:08
  stop.
• 8:09
  Okay,
• 8:09
  back
• 8:10
  to
• 8:10
  the
• 8:10
  book.
• 8:10
  Okay,
• 8:11
  so
• 8:12
  let
• 8:12
  me
• 8:13
  start
• 8:13
  with
• 8:14
  a
• 8:15
  key
• 8:15
  experiment
• 8:16
  that
• 8:17
  Dr.
• 8:17
  Dweck
• 8:19
  performed.
• 8:19
  Dr.
• 8:19
  Dweck.
• 8:20
  Dr.
• 8:20
  Dweck
• 8:21
  performed.
• 8:22
  And
• 8:22
  what
• 8:22
  happened
• 8:22
  was,
• 8:23
  this
• 8:23
  was
• 8:23
  in
• 8:23
  1998,
• 8:24
  she
• 8:24
  took
• 8:25
  two
• 8:25
  very
• 8:26
  evenly
• 8:26
  matched
• 8:27
  groups
• 8:27
  of
• 8:27
  elementary
• 8:28
  school
• 8:28
  students.
• 8:29
  She
• 8:30
  gave
• 8:30
  them
• 8:30
  both
• 8:30
  IQ
• 8:31
  tests
• 8:31
  and
• 8:32
  told
• 8:32
  them
• 8:32
  both
• 8:32
  that
• 8:33
  they
• 8:33
  did
• 8:33
  really
• 8:33
  well.
• 8:34
  But
• 8:34
  to
• 8:35
  one
• 8:35
  group,
• 8:36
  she
• 8:36
  told
• 8:36
  them
• 8:36
  that
• 8:37
  they
• 8:37
  must
• 8:37
  have
• 8:37
  worked
• 8:38
  hard
• 8:38
  to
• 8:38
  do
• 8:39
  so
• 8:39
  well.
• 8:39
  That
• 8:40
  was
• 8:40
  the
• 8:40
  effort
• 8:40
  group.
• 8:41
  And
• 8:41
  then
• 8:41
  with
• 8:42
  the
• 8:42
  other
• 8:42
  group,
• 8:42
  she
• 8:43
  told
• 8:43
  them,
• 8:43
  you
• 8:44
  must
• 8:44
  be
• 8:44
  very
• 8:45
  smart
• 8:45
  to
• 8:46
  have
• 8:46
  done
• 8:46
  so
• 8:46
  well.
• 8:47
  And
• 8:47
  then
• 8:47
  they
• 8:48
  followed
• 8:48
  these
• 8:48
  kids
• 8:49
  over
• 8:49
  time,
• 8:50
  and
• 8:50
  what
• 8:50
  they
• 8:50
  found
• 8:51
  was
• 8:51
  that
• 8:52
  the
• 8:52
  group
• 8:52
  that
• 8:52
  were
• 8:52
  told
• 8:53
  that
• 8:53
  they
• 8:53
  were
• 8:53
  smart,
• 8:54
  they
• 8:55
  later
• 8:55
  didn't
• 8:56
  want
• 8:56
  to
• 8:56
  take
• 8:57
  on
• 8:57
  difficult
• 8:58
  school
• 8:58
  challenges.
• 8:59
  They
• 8:59
  gave
• 8:59
  up
• 9:00
  very
• 9:00
  easily
• 9:00
  in
• 9:00
  the
• 9:01
  face
• 9:01
  of
• 9:01
  tasks
• 9:01
  that
• 9:02
  they
• 9:02
  didn't
• 9:02
  think
• 9:02
  they
• 9:02
  could
• 9:03
  do,
• 9:03
  and
• 9:03
  they
• 9:03
  lost
• 9:04
  confidence
• 9:04
  in
• 9:04
  their
• 9:05
  abilities.
• 9:05
  But
• 9:06
  the
• 9:06
  group,
• 9:06
  the
• 9:07
  children
• 9:07
  that
• 9:07
  were
• 9:08
  praised
• 9:08
  for
• 9:09
  working
• 9:09
  hard
• 9:10
  to
• 9:10
  make
• 9:10
  such
• 9:10
  a
• 9:10
  good
• 9:11
  score,
• 9:11
  they
• 9:12
  were
• 9:12
  much
• 9:12
  more
• 9:12
  likely
• 9:12
  to
• 9:13
  seek
• 9:13
  out
• 9:13
  challenges,
• 9:14
  to
• 9:14
  persist
• 9:15
  in
• 9:15
  the
• 9:15
  face
• 9:15
  of
• 9:15
  difficulty,
• 9:16
  and
• 9:16
  to
• 9:16
  handle
• 9:17
  setbacks
• 9:17
  much,
• 9:17
  much
• 9:18
  more
• 9:18
  easily.
• 9:19
  Then
• 9:20
  later,
• 9:21
  what
• 9:21
  they
• 9:21
  did
• 9:22
  was
• 9:23
  they
• 9:23
  did
• 9:23
  another
• 9:24
  study
• 9:26
  where
• 9:27
  they
• 9:27
  gave
• 9:27
  these
• 9:27
  same
• 9:27
  kids,
• 9:28
  they
• 9:28
  said,
• 9:28
  look,
• 9:28
  would
• 9:28
  you
• 9:29
  like
• 9:29
  some
• 9:29
  practice
• 9:30
  questions?
• 9:31
  And
• 9:31
  you
• 9:31
  can
• 9:31
  do
• 9:32
  even
• 9:32
  better
• 9:33
  the
• 9:33
  next
• 9:33
  time.
• 9:34
  The
• 9:34
  group
• 9:34
  that
• 9:35
  was
• 9:35
  praised
• 9:36
  for
• 9:37
  being
• 9:37
  smart
• 9:38
  did
• 9:38
  not
• 9:38
  want
• 9:38
  the
• 9:38
  practice
• 9:39
  questions.
• 9:39
  They
• 9:40
  didn't
• 9:40
  want
• 9:40
  anything
• 9:41
  that
• 9:41
  might
• 9:41
  ruin
• 9:42
  their
• 9:43
  reputation
• 9:43
  as
• 9:44
  being
• 9:44
  smart,
• 9:44
  so
• 9:45
  they
• 9:45
  didn't
• 9:45
  want
• 9:45
  to
• 9:45
  take
• 9:45
  them
• 9:45
  on.
• 9:46
  But
• 9:46
  the
• 9:46
  effort
• 9:47
  group
• 9:47
  was
• 9:47
  like,
• 9:48
  yeah,
• 9:48
  let
• 9:48
  me
• 9:48
  practice
• 9:49
  harder
• 9:49
  questions.
• 9:50
  Let
• 9:50
  me
• 9:50
  see
• 9:50
  if
• 9:50
  I
• 9:50
  can
• 9:50
  do
• 9:50
  better.
• 9:51
  So
• 9:51
  they
• 9:52
  really
• 9:52
  wanted
• 9:53
  to
• 9:53
  do
• 9:54
  better,
• 9:55
  harder
• 9:55
  questions.
• 9:55
  And
• 9:56
  they
• 9:56
  were
• 9:56
  much
• 9:57
  more
• 9:57
  persistent
• 9:58
  and
• 9:58
  willing
• 9:59
  to
• 9:59
  take
• 9:59
  on
• 9:59
  challenges.
• 10:00
  So
• 10:00
  the
• 10:00
  core
• 10:01
  essentially
• 10:02
  difference
• 10:03
  of
• 10:03
  what
• 10:03
  was
• 10:03
  being
• 10:03
  praised
• 10:04
  in
• 10:04
  each
• 10:04
  group,
• 10:05
  one
• 10:06
  was
• 10:06
  natural
• 10:07
  ability,
• 10:08
  supposedly.
• 10:09
  The
• 10:09
  other
• 10:10
  was
• 10:11
  determination.
• 10:12
  So
• 10:13
  naturally,
• 10:13
  working
• 10:13
  hard.
• 10:14
  Yeah,
• 10:14
  working
• 10:14
  hard.
• 10:14
  So
• 10:15
  natural
• 10:15
  ability
• 10:15
  is
• 10:16
  this
• 10:16
  idea
• 10:16
  that
• 10:16
  you
• 10:17
  are
• 10:17
  born
• 10:17
  with
• 10:18
  a
• 10:18
  certain
• 10:18
  aptitude
• 10:19
  for
• 10:19
  certain
• 10:19
  skills,
• 10:20
  and
• 10:20
  there
• 10:20
  is
• 10:20
  a
• 10:21
  ceiling.
• 10:21
  Right.
• 10:22
  And
• 10:22
  that.
• 10:23
  Yeah,
• 10:23
  well,
• 10:23
  you're
• 10:24
  just
• 10:24
  born
• 10:24
  with
• 10:25
  it
• 10:25
  and
• 10:25
  you're
• 10:26
  just
• 10:26
  smart,
• 10:26
  and
• 10:26
  that's
• 10:27
  as
• 10:27
  good
• 10:27
  as
• 10:27
  it
• 10:27
  will
• 10:27
  ever
• 10:27
  be.
• 10:28
  And
• 10:29
  the
• 10:29
  idea,
• 10:30
  determination
• 10:32
  is
• 10:32
  the
• 10:32
  people's
• 10:33
  talent.
• 10:34
  Anyone
• 10:34
  can
• 10:35
  be
• 10:35
  determined
• 10:35
  because
• 10:36
  determination
• 10:36
  is
• 10:36
  a
• 10:37
  choice.
• 10:37
  Persistence
• 10:38
  is
• 10:38
  a
• 10:38
  choice.
• 10:39
  And
• 10:40
  the
• 10:40
  children
• 10:40
  who
• 10:41
  were
• 10:41
  praised
• 10:41
  for
• 10:41
  being
• 10:41
  determined
• 10:42
  and
• 10:42
  persistent
• 10:44
  were
• 10:44
  less
• 10:45
  married
• 10:45
  to
• 10:45
  this
• 10:46
  idea
• 10:46
  that
• 10:46
  they
• 10:46
  had
• 10:47
  a
• 10:47
  certain
• 10:47
  amount
• 10:48
  of
• 10:48
  talent
• 10:48
  and
• 10:48
  that
• 10:48
  they
• 10:49
  needed
• 10:49
  to
• 10:49
  sort
• 10:49
  of
• 10:50
  protect
• 10:50
  their
• 10:50
  reputation
• 10:51
  and
• 10:51
  protect
• 10:51
  the
• 10:52
  amount
• 10:52
  of
• 10:52
  talent
• 10:52
  that
• 10:52
  they
• 10:53
  had
• 10:54
  perceived
• 10:54
  by
• 10:55
  others.
• 10:55
  Whereas
• 10:55
  the
• 10:56
  other
• 10:56
  kids
• 10:56
  didn't
• 10:57
  have
• 10:57
  that
• 10:59
  mental
• 10:59
  psychological
• 11:00
  restriction.
• 11:01
  Right.
• 11:01
  I
• 11:01
  mean,
• 11:01
  the
• 11:02
  kids
• 11:02
  that
• 11:02
  were
• 11:02
  praised
• 11:03
  for
• 11:03
  working
• 11:03
  hard
• 11:04
  just
• 11:04
  felt
• 11:04
  they
• 11:04
  could
• 11:04
  get
• 11:04
  better.
• 11:05
  Yes.
• 11:05
  They
• 11:05
  said,
• 11:06
  I
• 11:06
  can
• 11:06
  work
• 11:06
  hard,
• 11:06
  I
• 11:07
  can
• 11:07
  get
• 11:07
  better,
• 11:07
  I
• 11:07
  can
• 11:07
  try
• 11:08
  different
• 11:08
  things.
• 11:08
  It's,
• 11:09
  you
• 11:09
  know,
• 11:09
  my
• 11:09
  talent
• 11:10
  is
• 11:10
  limitless
• 11:11
  because
• 11:12
  I
• 11:12
  can
• 11:12
  work
• 11:12
  at
• 11:12
  it.
• 11:13
  Whereas
• 11:13
  the
• 11:13
  other
• 11:14
  group
• 11:14
  was
• 11:14
  like,
• 11:14
  well,
• 11:14
  I'm
• 11:15
  naturally
• 11:15
  talented,
• 11:16
  but
• 11:17
  they
• 11:17
  don't
• 11:17
  want
• 11:17
  anything
• 11:18
  to
• 11:19
  threaten
• 11:19
  that.
• 11:19
  Yeah,
• 11:20
  yeah,
• 11:20
  yeah,
• 11:21
  I
• 11:21
  get
• 11:21
  that.
• 11:22
  Right,
• 11:22
  right.
• 11:23
  So
• 11:24
  then,
• 11:24
  I
• 11:24
  mean,
• 11:25
  so
• 11:25
  that's
• 11:25
  why
• 11:25
  these.
• 11:25
  I'm
• 11:26
  talking
• 11:26
  about
• 11:26
  these
• 11:26
  experiments,
• 11:27
  you
• 11:27
  know,
• 11:27
  that
• 11:27
  they
• 11:28
  talk
• 11:28
  about,
• 11:28
  which
• 11:28
  are.
• 11:29
  Makes
• 11:29
  the
• 11:29
  book
• 11:30
  a
• 11:30
  little
• 11:30
  more
• 11:30
  scientific.
• 11:31
  Yes,
• 11:31
  but
• 11:31
  they
• 11:32
  are
• 11:32
  interesting.
• 11:33
  They
• 11:33
  were
• 11:33
  talking
• 11:34
  about,
• 11:34
  for
• 11:34
  example,
• 11:35
  two
• 11:35
  groups
• 11:36
  of
• 11:36
  kids
• 11:37
  starting
• 11:37
  junior
• 11:38
  high,
• 11:38
  which
• 11:38
  is
• 11:39
  when
• 11:39
  you
• 11:39
  start
• 11:39
  junior
• 11:40
  high.
• 11:40
  I
• 11:40
  mean,
• 11:40
  that's
• 11:41
  when
• 11:41
  school
• 11:41
  gets
• 11:41
  hard.
• 11:41
  Yes.
• 11:42
  Because
• 11:42
  you
• 11:42
  have
• 11:42
  to
• 11:42
  change
• 11:43
  classes
• 11:43
  and
• 11:44
  the
• 11:44
  grading
• 11:44
  gets
• 11:45
  harder.
• 11:45
  School
• 11:45
  was
• 11:46
  hard
• 11:46
  for
• 11:46
  me
• 11:46
  right
• 11:46
  away.
• 11:47
  Well,
• 11:48
  yeah,
• 11:48
  it
• 11:48
  was.
• 11:48
  For
• 11:49
  a
• 11:49
  lot
• 11:49
  of
• 11:49
  reasons.
• 11:49
  Yeah.
• 11:51
  But
• 11:52
  for
• 11:52
  most
• 11:53
  children,
• 11:53
  I
• 11:53
  wish
• 11:54
  I'd
• 11:54
  known
• 11:54
  about
• 11:54
  this
• 11:55
  growth
• 11:55
  mindset.
• 11:56
  I
• 11:56
  could
• 11:57
  have
• 11:57
  tried
• 11:57
  to
• 11:57
  impart
• 11:57
  that.
• 11:58
  Well,
• 11:58
  you
• 11:58
  did.
• 11:59
  Did
• 11:59
  I?
• 11:59
  Yeah,
• 12:00
  Because
• 12:00
  I
• 12:00
  went
• 12:00
  to
• 12:01
  so
• 12:01
  many
• 12:01
  different
• 12:01
  schools,
• 12:02
  I
• 12:02
  had
• 12:02
  to
• 12:02
  be
• 12:02
  flexible
• 12:03
  and
• 12:03
  adaptable,
• 12:04
  and
• 12:04
  you
• 12:04
  always
• 12:04
  encouraged
• 12:05
  me,
• 12:06
  even
• 12:06
  when
• 12:06
  things
• 12:07
  were
• 12:07
  hard.
• 12:07
  You
• 12:07
  also
• 12:07
  didn't
• 12:08
  punish
• 12:08
  me
• 12:08
  when
• 12:08
  I
• 12:08
  didn't
• 12:09
  do
• 12:09
  well.
• 12:10
  You
• 12:10
  just
• 12:10
  kept
• 12:10
  saying,
• 12:11
  just
• 12:11
  keep
• 12:11
  trying.
• 12:12
  Right,
• 12:12
  right.
• 12:13
  You
• 12:13
  can
• 12:13
  do
• 12:13
  more.
• 12:13
  I
• 12:14
  think
• 12:14
  you
• 12:14
  said
• 12:14
  it.
• 12:15
  You
• 12:15
  are
• 12:15
  a
• 12:15
  natural
• 12:16
  growth
• 12:16
  mindset
• 12:17
  person.
• 12:18
  Mostly.
• 12:18
  I
• 12:19
  think
• 12:19
  I
• 12:19
  am.
• 12:19
  And
• 12:19
  they
• 12:19
  do
• 12:20
  say
• 12:20
  in
• 12:20
  the
• 12:20
  book
• 12:20
  that.
• 12:22
  That
• 12:23
  even
• 12:23
  if
• 12:24
  you
• 12:24
  have
• 12:24
  a
• 12:24
  growth
• 12:24
  mindset,
• 12:25
  you
• 12:25
  might
• 12:25
  have
• 12:25
  a
• 12:26
  fixed
• 12:26
  mindset
• 12:26
  with
• 12:27
  certain
• 12:27
  things,
• 12:27
  but
• 12:28
  a
• 12:28
  growth
• 12:28
  mindset
• 12:29
  with
• 12:29
  other
• 12:29
  things?
• 12:30
  Like
• 12:30
  in
• 12:30
  my
• 12:31
  case,
• 12:31
  I'm
• 12:31
  a
• 12:31
  terrible
• 12:31
  singer.
• 12:32
  I
• 12:33
  have
• 12:33
  a
• 12:33
  very
• 12:33
  fixed
• 12:34
  mindset
• 12:34
  about
• 12:34
  that.
• 12:35
  Isn't
• 12:35
  music
• 12:36
  a
• 12:36
  fixed
• 12:37
  ability
• 12:37
  like
• 12:38
  you
• 12:38
  have,
• 12:39
  maybe
• 12:39
  not
• 12:40
  necessarily
• 12:40
  with
• 12:40
  an
• 12:40
  instrument,
• 12:41
  but
• 12:41
  something
• 12:41
  like
• 12:42
  singing?
• 12:42
  Well,
• 12:43
  I
• 12:43
  think
• 12:43
  you
• 12:43
  can
• 12:43
  get
• 12:43
  better
• 12:44
  at
• 12:44
  it
• 12:44
  if
• 12:44
  you
• 12:45
  have
• 12:45
  the
• 12:45
  ability,
• 12:46
  some
• 12:46
  ability.
• 12:47
  I
• 12:47
  just
• 12:48
  feel
• 12:48
  I
• 12:48
  have
• 12:48
  no
• 12:48
  ability.
• 12:49
  So
• 12:49
  that's
• 12:49
  all
• 12:50
  I'm
• 12:50
  saying
• 12:50
  is
• 12:50
  that.
• 12:51
  But
• 12:52
  you
• 12:52
  don't
• 12:52
  have
• 12:52
  to
• 12:53
  get
• 12:53
  better
• 12:54
  at
• 12:54
  everything.
• 12:55
  You
• 12:55
  don't
• 12:55
  all
• 12:55
  have
• 12:56
  to
• 12:56
  be
• 12:56
  everything.
• 12:56
  No,
• 12:57
  no.
• 12:57
  And
• 12:57
  you
• 12:58
  can
• 12:58
  pick
• 12:58
  the
• 12:58
  things
• 12:58
  that
• 12:59
  you
• 12:59
  really
• 12:59
  want
• 13:00
  to
• 13:00
  work
• 13:00
  at,
• 13:00
  getting
• 13:01
  better
• 13:01
  at.
• 13:01
  And
• 13:01
  I
• 13:02
  have
• 13:02
  given
• 13:02
  up.
• 13:03
  I
• 13:03
  will
• 13:03
  never
• 13:04
  work
• 13:04
  at
• 13:04
  trying
• 13:04
  to
• 13:05
  be
• 13:05
  a
• 13:05
  singer.
• 13:05
  But
• 13:05
  I.
• 13:05
  That's
• 13:06
  okay.
• 13:06
  I
• 13:06
  appreciate
• 13:07
  other
• 13:07
  singers.
• 13:08
  But,
• 13:08
  but,
• 13:09
  but
• 13:09
  that's
• 13:10
  what
• 13:10
  she
• 13:10
  says,
• 13:10
  is
• 13:10
  that,
• 13:11
  you
• 13:11
  know,
• 13:11
  you
• 13:11
  can
• 13:11
  pick.
• 13:12
  You
• 13:13
  don't
• 13:13
  have
• 13:13
  to
• 13:13
  work
• 13:13
  it
• 13:13
  at
• 13:14
  all.
• 13:14
  You
• 13:14
  just
• 13:14
  work
• 13:14
  at
• 13:15
  the
• 13:15
  things
• 13:15
  that
• 13:15
  are
• 13:16
  more
• 13:16
  important
• 13:16
  to
• 13:17
  you
• 13:17
  because
• 13:18
  don't
• 13:19
  let
• 13:19
  that
• 13:19
  hold
• 13:19
  you
• 13:20
  back.
• 13:21
  But
• 13:21
  anyway,
• 13:22
  they
• 13:22
  had
• 13:22
  these
• 13:23
  kids
• 13:23
  going
• 13:24
  into
• 13:24
  junior
• 13:24
  high
• 13:25
  and
• 13:25
  they
• 13:26
  tested
• 13:26
  them
• 13:26
  to
• 13:27
  see
• 13:27
  who
• 13:27
  had
• 13:27
  a
• 13:27
  growth
• 13:27
  mindset,
• 13:28
  who
• 13:28
  had
• 13:28
  a
• 13:28
  fixed
• 13:29
  mindset.
• 13:31
  And
• 13:32
  then
• 13:32
  what
• 13:32
  they
• 13:32
  did
• 13:32
  was
• 13:33
  they
• 13:34
  went
• 13:34
  into
• 13:34
  junior
• 13:35
  high
• 13:36
  with
• 13:36
  those
• 13:36
  mindsets
• 13:37
  and
• 13:38
  they
• 13:38
  noticed
• 13:38
  that
• 13:39
  the
• 13:39
  kids
• 13:39
  with
• 13:39
  a
• 13:40
  fixed
• 13:40
  mindset,
• 13:41
  their
• 13:41
  grades
• 13:42
  got
• 13:42
  lower
• 13:42
  and
• 13:43
  lower
• 13:43
  in
• 13:44
  the
• 13:44
  next
• 13:44
  two
• 13:44
  years.
• 13:45
  And
• 13:45
  those
• 13:45
  with
• 13:45
  a
• 13:45
  growth
• 13:46
  mindset
• 13:46
  worked
• 13:47
  very
• 13:47
  hard
• 13:47
  at
• 13:47
  it.
• 13:48
  Their
• 13:48
  grades
• 13:49
  got
• 13:49
  better.
• 13:49
  And
• 13:50
  they
• 13:50
  saw
• 13:50
  the
• 13:50
  same
• 13:50
  thing
• 13:51
  with
• 13:51
  kids
• 13:51
  transitioning
• 13:52
  into
• 13:52
  college.
• 13:53
  Same
• 13:53
  same
• 13:54
  idea.
• 13:55
  So
• 13:55
  I
• 13:55
  think
• 13:55
  it
• 13:55
  is
• 13:56
  really
• 13:56
  important
• 13:57
  to
• 13:57
  instill
• 13:57
  a
• 13:58
  growth
• 13:58
  mindset
• 13:58
  in
• 13:59
  your
• 13:59
  child
• 14:00
  because
• 14:00
  when
• 14:00
  they're
• 14:00
  going
• 14:00
  to
• 14:01
  take
• 14:01
  on
• 14:01
  these
• 14:01
  big
• 14:01
  challenges
• 14:02
  like
• 14:02
  going
• 14:03
  to
• 14:03
  junior
• 14:04
  high
• 14:04
  or
• 14:04
  college,
• 14:05
  you
• 14:05
  want
• 14:06
  them
• 14:06
  to
• 14:06
  realize
• 14:07
  that,
• 14:07
  okay,
• 14:08
  I
• 14:08
  may
• 14:08
  not
• 14:08
  be
• 14:08
  great
• 14:08
  at
• 14:09
  it
• 14:09
  at
• 14:09
  first.
• 14:09
  Yeah.
• 14:10
  But
• 14:10
  I
• 14:10
  can
• 14:10
  get
• 14:11
  better.
• 14:11
  I
• 14:11
  can
• 14:11
  get
• 14:11
  better.
• 14:12
  That's
• 14:12
  right.
• 14:12
  If
• 14:13
  I
• 14:13
  try.
• 14:15
  Yeah.
• 14:16
  So
• 14:17
  anyway,
• 14:18
  so
• 14:18
  she
• 14:18
  also
• 14:19
  says
• 14:19
  that
• 14:20
  just
• 14:22
  adopting
• 14:24
  a
• 14:24
  growth
• 14:24
  mindset
• 14:25
  can
• 14:25
  just
• 14:26
  profoundly
• 14:26
  influence
• 14:27
  your
• 14:27
  life.
• 14:27
  And
• 14:28
  just
• 14:28
  even
• 14:28
  by
• 14:29
  knowing
• 14:29
  that
• 14:29
  there
• 14:30
  are
• 14:30
  two
• 14:30
  mindsets,
• 14:31
  understanding
• 14:32
  this
• 14:32
  can
• 14:33
  make
• 14:33
  a
• 14:33
  big
• 14:33
  difference.
• 14:35
  And
• 14:35
  your
• 14:35
  mindset
• 14:36
  is
• 14:36
  a
• 14:36
  choice.
• 14:37
  It
• 14:37
  kind
• 14:37
  of
• 14:37
  is.
• 14:38
  Yeah.
• 14:39
  I
• 14:39
  think
• 14:40
  so.
• 14:40
  I
• 14:40
  think
• 14:41
  you
• 14:41
  can.
• 14:41
  It's
• 14:42
  like
• 14:42
  being
• 14:42
  an
• 14:42
  optimist
• 14:43
  versus
• 14:43
  being
• 14:43
  a
• 14:43
  pessimist.
• 14:44
  You
• 14:45
  either
• 14:45
  think
• 14:45
  that
• 14:46
  things
• 14:46
  are
• 14:46
  mostly
• 14:47
  positive
• 14:47
  or
• 14:47
  things
• 14:48
  are
• 14:48
  mostly
• 14:48
  negative.
• 14:49
  And
• 14:49
  that
• 14:49
  really
• 14:49
  does
• 14:49
  dictate.
• 14:50
  It
• 14:50
  dictates
• 14:51
  how
• 14:51
  you
• 14:51
  treat
• 14:52
  your
• 14:52
  relationships.
• 14:53
  It
• 14:53
  dictates
• 14:53
  the
• 14:53
  choices
• 14:54
  that
• 14:54
  you
• 14:54
  make.
• 14:55
  You
• 14:55
  know,
• 14:55
  I
• 14:55
  feel
• 14:56
  like
• 14:56
  people
• 14:56
  who
• 14:56
  are
• 14:56
  pessimists
• 14:57
  often
• 14:57
  are
• 14:57
  more
• 14:57
  cautious,
• 14:58
  they're
• 14:58
  more
• 14:59
  risk
• 14:59
  averse.
• 15:00
  Do
• 15:00
  you
• 15:00
  think
• 15:00
  you
• 15:00
  can
• 15:01
  change
• 15:01
  being
• 15:01
  an
• 15:01
  optimist
• 15:02
  or
• 15:02
  a
• 15:02
  pessimist?
• 15:03
  I'm
• 15:03
  probably
• 15:03
  with
• 15:04
  work.
• 15:04
  Yeah.
• 15:05
  You
• 15:05
  think
• 15:05
  so?
• 15:05
  Yeah,
• 15:06
  totally.
• 15:07
  I
• 15:07
  mean,
• 15:07
  if
• 15:07
  you
• 15:08
  understood
• 15:08
  that,
• 15:09
  you
• 15:09
  were
• 15:09
  pessimistic.
• 15:10
  Yeah,
• 15:11
  yeah,
• 15:11
  yeah.
• 15:11
  Again,
• 15:12
  it
• 15:12
  all.
• 15:12
  You
• 15:12
  got
• 15:13
  it.
• 15:13
  It
• 15:13
  starts
• 15:13
  with
• 15:13
  understanding,
• 15:14
  right.
• 15:15
  And
• 15:15
  admitting,
• 15:17
  admitting
• 15:17
  it
• 15:17
  and
• 15:18
  then
• 15:18
  saying,
• 15:18
  okay,
• 15:19
  I'm
• 15:19
  going
• 15:19
  to
• 15:19
  work
• 15:19
  on
• 15:19
  that.
• 15:19
  And
• 15:20
  when
• 15:20
  my
• 15:20
  internal
• 15:21
  voice
• 15:22
  says
• 15:22
  something
• 15:22
  negative,
• 15:23
  I'm
• 15:23
  going
• 15:23
  to
• 15:23
  say,
• 15:24
  hello,
• 15:24
  old
• 15:25
  friend.
• 15:26
  Hello,
• 15:27
  old
• 15:27
  habit.
• 15:27
  No.
• 15:28
  And
• 15:28
  remind
• 15:29
  myself,
• 15:29
  okay,
• 15:29
  let
• 15:30
  me
• 15:30
  turn
• 15:30
  that
• 15:30
  around.
• 15:31
  Yeah,
• 15:31
  maybe
• 15:31
  you
• 15:31
  could.
• 15:34
  Maybe
• 15:34
  you
• 15:34
  could.
• 15:35
  Okay,
• 15:35
  we're
• 15:35
  going
• 15:36
  back
• 15:36
  to
• 15:36
  another
• 15:36
  book.
• 15:36
  We
• 15:37
  read.
• 15:37
  Okay.
• 15:38
  Okay.
• 15:39
  So
• 15:40
  I
• 15:40
  want
• 15:40
  to
• 15:40
  just
• 15:40
  talk
• 15:41
  about
• 15:41
  the
• 15:41
  differences
• 15:42
  between
• 15:42
  fixed
• 15:43
  mindset,
• 15:43
  growth
• 15:43
  mindset,
• 15:44
  so
• 15:44
  people
• 15:44
  really
• 15:45
  see
• 15:45
  it.
• 15:46
  Okay,
• 15:47
  so
• 15:47
  let's
• 15:48
  see.
• 15:48
  So
• 15:48
  some
• 15:48
  of
• 15:49
  the
• 15:49
  things,
• 15:49
  if
• 15:50
  you
• 15:50
  do
• 15:50
  have
• 15:50
  a
• 15:50
  fixed
• 15:51
  mindset,
• 15:52
  when
• 15:52
  you
• 15:53
  don't
• 15:53
  do
• 15:53
  well,
• 15:53
  your
• 15:54
  first
• 15:54
  thought
• 15:54
  is,
• 15:55
  oh,
• 15:55
  I'm
• 15:56
  a
• 15:56
  failure.
• 15:56
  I'm
• 15:57
  a
• 15:57
  loser.
• 15:59
  They
• 15:59
  think,
• 15:59
  as
• 16:00
  we
• 16:00
  said,
• 16:00
  success
• 16:01
  is
• 16:01
  natural
• 16:01
  ability.
• 16:02
  They
• 16:02
  just
• 16:03
  don't
• 16:03
  want
• 16:03
  to
• 16:03
  try
• 16:03
  things
• 16:04
  that
• 16:04
  won't
• 16:04
  turn
• 16:04
  out
• 16:05
  well
• 16:05
  because
• 16:05
  they
• 16:06
  don't
• 16:06
  want
• 16:06
  to
• 16:06
  expose
• 16:07
  their
• 16:07
  deficiencies.
• 16:09
  They're
• 16:09
  protecting
• 16:09
  their
• 16:10
  ego.
• 16:11
  The
• 16:12
  times
• 16:12
  that
• 16:12
  they
• 16:12
  do
• 16:13
  thrive
• 16:14
  is
• 16:14
  when
• 16:14
  things
• 16:15
  are
• 16:15
  just
• 16:15
  within
• 16:15
  their
• 16:16
  grasp
• 16:17
  and
• 16:17
  they're.
• 16:17
  And
• 16:17
  they're
• 16:18
  fine.
• 16:18
  But
• 16:19
  if
• 16:19
  it
• 16:19
  becomes
• 16:19
  too
• 16:19
  challenging.
• 16:20
  No,
• 16:21
  no.
• 16:23
  And
• 16:23
  then
• 16:23
  they
• 16:23
  only
• 16:24
  feel
• 16:24
  smart
• 16:24
  when
• 16:25
  they
• 16:25
  don't
• 16:25
  make
• 16:25
  mistakes.
• 16:26
  And
• 16:27
  when
• 16:27
  they
• 16:27
  finish
• 16:27
  things
• 16:27
  quickly
• 16:28
  and
• 16:28
  perfectly,
• 16:29
  they
• 16:30
  prefer
• 16:30
  effortless
• 16:31
  success,
• 16:32
  since
• 16:33
  that's
• 16:33
  the
• 16:33
  best
• 16:33
  way
• 16:34
  to
• 16:34
  prove
• 16:34
  their
• 16:34
  talents.
• 16:35
  Do
• 16:35
  you
• 16:36
  want
• 16:36
  to
• 16:36
  do
• 16:36
  the
• 16:36
  growth
• 16:36
  mindset
• 16:37
  group?
• 16:37
  Yeah.
• 16:38
  Yeah,
• 16:38
  sure.
• 16:38
  So
• 16:39
  growth
• 16:39
  mindset
• 16:39
  is
• 16:39
  the
• 16:40
  belief
• 16:40
  that
• 16:40
  your
• 16:40
  basic
• 16:41
  qualities
• 16:41
  are
• 16:41
  things
• 16:42
  that
• 16:42
  you
• 16:42
  can
• 16:42
  cultivate
• 16:43
  through
• 16:43
  your
• 16:43
  efforts,
• 16:43
  your
• 16:44
  strategies,
• 16:44
  and
• 16:44
  with
• 16:44
  help
• 16:45
  from
• 16:45
  others,
• 16:46
  which
• 16:46
  helps
• 16:47
  inspire
• 16:47
  a
• 16:47
  passion
• 16:48
  for
• 16:48
  learning,
• 16:49
  for
• 16:49
  improvement.
• 16:51
  So
• 16:51
  it's
• 16:51
  not
• 16:52
  just
• 16:52
  in
• 16:52
  the
• 16:52
  success,
• 16:53
  but
• 16:54
  it's
• 16:54
  in
• 16:54
  the
• 16:54
  journey.
• 16:55
  Absolutely.
• 16:56
  Yeah.
• 16:58
  Which
• 16:59
  I
• 16:59
  can
• 16:59
  appreciate
• 17:00
  because
• 17:01
  my
• 17:01
  journey
• 17:02
  was
• 17:02
  fraught.
• 17:03
  It
• 17:04
  was.
• 17:04
  It
• 17:04
  was
• 17:04
  fraught.
• 17:05
  Your
• 17:05
  school
• 17:06
  journey?
• 17:06
  Yes,
• 17:07
  my
• 17:07
  journey
• 17:08
  in
• 17:08
  life
• 17:08
  and
• 17:09
  in
• 17:09
  school.
• 17:10
  And
• 17:11
  I
• 17:11
  feel
• 17:12
  like
• 17:12
  ultimately
• 17:13
  I
• 17:13
  arrived,
• 17:14
  and
• 17:14
  I'm
• 17:15
  still
• 17:15
  arriving.
• 17:15
  I'm
• 17:16
  growing,
• 17:17
  I'm
• 17:17
  changing
• 17:18
  every
• 17:19
  day.
• 17:20
  Yeah.
• 17:20
  But
• 17:21
  I
• 17:21
  feel
• 17:21
  like
• 17:22
  ultimately
• 17:23
  I'm
• 17:23
  appreciative
• 17:24
  that
• 17:24
  you
• 17:24
  instilled
• 17:24
  a
• 17:24
  growth
• 17:25
  mindset
• 17:25
  in
• 17:25
  me
• 17:25
  when
• 17:26
  I
• 17:26
  was
• 17:26
  really
• 17:26
  little
• 17:26
  because
• 17:27
  there
• 17:27
  were
• 17:28
  all
• 17:28
  these
• 17:28
  situations
• 17:29
  that
• 17:29
  really
• 17:30
  could
• 17:30
  have
• 17:30
  taken
• 17:30
  me
• 17:31
  either
• 17:31
  way.
• 17:32
  And
• 17:33
  you
• 17:33
  always
• 17:34
  encouraged
• 17:34
  me.
• 17:34
  Listen,
• 17:35
  find
• 17:35
  the
• 17:35
  positive.
• 17:37
  What
• 17:37
  can
• 17:37
  we
• 17:38
  learn
• 17:38
  from
• 17:38
  this?
• 17:39
  What
• 17:39
  can
• 17:39
  we
• 17:39
  enjoy
• 17:39
  about
• 17:40
  this
• 17:40
  experience?
• 17:42
  And
• 17:42
  let's
• 17:42
  focus
• 17:43
  on
• 17:43
  that.
• 17:43
  Okay.
• 17:44
  You
• 17:44
  know?
• 17:44
  Good.
• 17:45
  Also,
• 17:45
  I
• 17:46
  have
• 17:46
  some
• 17:46
  notes
• 17:46
  on
• 17:46
  my
• 17:46
  phone
• 17:47
  because
• 17:47
  I
• 17:48
  don't
• 17:48
  have
• 17:48
  a
• 17:48
  printer,
• 17:49
  so
• 17:49
  I
• 17:50
  rely
• 17:50
  on
• 17:50
  my
• 17:51
  mom
• 17:51
  to
• 17:52
  print
• 17:53
  all
• 17:53
  of
• 17:53
  my
• 17:54
  things
• 17:54
  at
• 17:54
  my
• 17:55
  old
• 17:55
  age.
• 17:56
  And
• 17:56
  there
• 17:56
  are
• 17:56
  some
• 17:56
  things
• 17:56
  I'm
• 17:56
  happy
• 17:57
  to
• 17:57
  do
• 17:57
  it.
• 17:57
  Thanks,
• 17:58
  mom.
• 17:58
  Thank
• 17:58
  you.
• 17:58
  And
• 17:59
  there
• 17:59
  are
• 17:59
  some
• 17:59
  things
• 17:59
  I
• 18:00
  actually
• 18:00
  direct
• 18:00
  quotes
• 18:01
  I
• 18:01
  wanted
• 18:01
  to
• 18:01
  read
• 18:01
  about
• 18:02
  growth
• 18:02
  mindset.
• 18:03
  Okay.
• 18:03
  So
• 18:03
  one
• 18:04
  quote
• 18:04
  I
• 18:04
  thought
• 18:04
  was
• 18:04
  really
• 18:04
  interesting
• 18:05
  was,
• 18:06
  not
• 18:06
  only
• 18:06
  do
• 18:07
  genes
• 18:07
  and
• 18:07
  environment
• 18:08
  cooperate
• 18:08
  as
• 18:09
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• 18:09
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• 18:18
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• 18:18
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• 18:19
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• 18:24
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• 18:26
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• 18:33
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• 18:33
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• 18:34
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• 18:35
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• 18:35
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• 18:36
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• 18:36
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• 18:36
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• 18:37
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• 18:41
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• 18:42
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• 18:45
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• 18:46
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• 18:47
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• 18:47
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• 18:47
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• 18:49
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• 18:49
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• 18:49
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• 18:51
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• 18:52
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• 18:52
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• 18:53
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• 18:54
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• 18:54
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• 18:55
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• 18:55
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• 18:55
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• 18:55
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• 18:56
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• 18:56
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• 18:56
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• 18:57
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• 18:57
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• 18:57
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• 18:57
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• 18:58
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• 18:59
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• 19:00
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• 19:01
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• 19:03
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• 19:04
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• 19:05
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• 19:08
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• 19:23
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• 19:26
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• 22:15
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• 22:17
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• 22:23
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• 22:26
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• 22:30
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• 22:31
  time,
• 22:31
  my
• 22:31
  work
• 22:32
  was
• 22:32
  incredibly
• 22:32
  mediocre.
• 22:33
  And
• 22:34
  when
• 22:35
  the
• 22:35
  end
• 22:35
  of
• 22:35
  the
• 22:35
  year
• 22:36
  came
• 22:36
  and
• 22:36
  we
• 22:36
  found
• 22:36
  out
• 22:37
  who
• 22:37
  was
• 22:37
  moving
• 22:37
  to
• 22:37
  the
• 22:38
  next
• 22:38
  year
• 22:39
  and
• 22:39
  who
• 22:39
  was
• 22:39
  not,
• 22:40
  I
• 22:40
  was
• 22:40
  shocked
• 22:41
  when
• 22:41
  my
• 22:42
  teacher
• 22:42
  was
• 22:42
  like,
• 22:42
  listen,
• 22:43
  you
• 22:43
  have
• 22:44
  potential,
• 22:44
  but
• 22:45
  if
• 22:45
  I
• 22:46
  put
• 22:46
  you
• 22:46
  through
• 22:46
  to
• 22:46
  the
• 22:46
  next
• 22:46
  year,
• 22:47
  you're
• 22:47
  gonna
• 22:47
  drown.
• 22:48
  You
• 22:48
  just
• 22:48
  don't
• 22:49
  have
• 22:49
  the
• 22:49
  work
• 22:49
  ethic
• 22:49
  at
• 22:50
  this
• 22:50
  point
• 22:50
  in
• 22:50
  your
• 22:50
  life.
• 22:51
  And
• 22:51
  my
• 22:52
  ego
• 22:52
  took
• 22:53
  such
• 22:53
  a
• 22:53
  hit,
• 22:53
  I
• 22:54
  didn't
• 22:54
  know.
• 22:54
  Yeah,
• 22:55
  you
• 22:55
  didn't
• 22:55
  tell
• 22:55
  me.
• 22:56
  Well,
• 22:57
  I
• 22:57
  did
• 22:57
  eventually,
• 22:58
  because
• 22:58
  I
• 22:58
  then
• 22:59
  took
• 22:59
  two
• 23:00
  years
• 23:00
  off,
• 23:01
  grew
• 23:01
  up
• 23:01
  a
• 23:01
  little
• 23:01
  bit,
• 23:02
  and
• 23:03
  then
• 23:03
  I
• 23:03
  reached
• 23:04
  back
• 23:04
  out
• 23:04
  to
• 23:04
  him
• 23:04
  and
• 23:04
  I
• 23:05
  said,
• 23:05
  I'd
• 23:05
  like
• 23:05
  to
• 23:05
  come
• 23:05
  back,
• 23:06
  and
• 23:06
  I'd
• 23:06
  like
• 23:06
  to
• 23:06
  start
• 23:06
  in
• 23:07
  the
• 23:07
  middle.
• 23:07
  And
• 23:07
  he's
• 23:07
  like,
• 23:07
  well,
• 23:08
  you
• 23:08
  can
• 23:08
  come
• 23:08
  back,
• 23:08
  but
• 23:08
  you
• 23:09
  have
• 23:09
  to
• 23:09
  start
• 23:09
  from
• 23:09
  the
• 23:09
  beginning.
• 23:10
  Was
• 23:10
  that.
• 23:10
  That
• 23:11
  was
• 23:11
  Terry.
• 23:11
  That
• 23:11
  was
• 23:11
  Terry.
• 23:12
  And
• 23:12
  he
• 23:12
  was
• 23:12
  absolutely
• 23:13
  right
• 23:14
  because
• 23:14
  I
• 23:14
  came
• 23:14
  back
• 23:15
  with
• 23:15
  a
• 23:15
  totally
• 23:15
  different
• 23:15
  attitude.
• 23:17
  And
• 23:17
  I
• 23:17
  wanted
• 23:18
  to
• 23:18
  be
• 23:18
  one
• 23:18
  of
• 23:18
  the
• 23:18
  people
• 23:19
  in
• 23:19
  the
• 23:19
  class
• 23:19
  that
• 23:20
  I
• 23:20
  admired
• 23:20
  my
• 23:21
  first
• 23:21
  time
• 23:21
  around.
• 23:22
  And
• 23:22
  I
• 23:23
  understood
• 23:23
  at
• 23:24
  that
• 23:24
  point
• 23:24
  a
• 23:24
  few
• 23:24
  years
• 23:25
  later
• 23:26
  that
• 23:26
  you
• 23:26
  really
• 23:27
  get
• 23:27
  what
• 23:27
  you
• 23:27
  put
• 23:27
  into
• 23:27
  it.
• 23:28
  And
• 23:28
  the
• 23:29
  second
• 23:29
  time
• 23:29
  around,
• 23:30
  I
• 23:30
  was.
• 23:31
  I
• 23:31
  worked
• 23:31
  so
• 23:32
  hard.
• 23:32
  I
• 23:33
  thought
• 23:33
  about
• 23:34
  Everything
• 23:34
  in
• 23:34
  a
• 23:34
  totally
• 23:35
  different
• 23:35
  way.
• 23:35
  I
• 23:35
  became
• 23:36
  completely
• 23:36
  obsessed.
• 23:38
  And
• 23:38
  I
• 23:38
  realized,
• 23:39
  you
• 23:39
  know,
• 23:39
  when
• 23:39
  I
• 23:40
  did
• 23:40
  well,
• 23:40
  it
• 23:40
  was
• 23:41
  the
• 23:41
  absolute
• 23:41
  best
• 23:42
  feeling
• 23:42
  because
• 23:42
  I
• 23:43
  knew
• 23:43
  I
• 23:44
  had
• 23:44
  spent
• 23:44
  the
• 23:44
  entire
• 23:45
  week.
• 23:45
  You
• 23:45
  work
• 23:45
  in
• 23:46
  every
• 23:46
  class.
• 23:47
  And
• 23:47
  I
• 23:47
  knew
• 23:48
  I
• 23:48
  had
• 23:48
  spent
• 23:48
  the
• 23:48
  entire
• 23:49
  week
• 23:50
  obsessing
• 23:50
  over
• 23:51
  what
• 23:51
  I
• 23:51
  was
• 23:51
  gonna
• 23:51
  put
• 23:51
  up
• 23:52
  that
• 23:52
  week.
• 23:53
  And
• 23:53
  consistently,
• 23:54
  it
• 23:54
  was
• 23:55
  so
• 23:55
  much
• 23:55
  better.
• 23:56
  And
• 23:56
  I
• 23:56
  became
• 23:57
  one
• 23:57
  of
• 23:57
  the
• 23:57
  leaders
• 23:58
  in
• 23:58
  the
• 23:58
  class,
• 23:58
  which
• 23:59
  felt
• 24:00
  so
• 24:00
  good.
• 24:01
  Wow.
• 24:01
  And
• 24:01
  that
• 24:01
  was
• 24:01
  like,
• 24:01
  the
• 24:02
  first
• 24:02
  time
• 24:02
  in
• 24:02
  your
• 24:02
  life
• 24:03
  you
• 24:03
  had
• 24:03
  ever
• 24:03
  experienced
• 24:04
  that
• 24:04
  kind
• 24:04
  of
• 24:05
  success,
• 24:05
  I
• 24:05
  would
• 24:05
  say,
• 24:06
  right?
• 24:06
  Totally.
• 24:07
  Yeah.
• 24:07
  Cause
• 24:07
  you
• 24:08
  had
• 24:08
  struggled
• 24:09
  so
• 24:09
  much
• 24:09
  in
• 24:09
  school
• 24:09
  for
• 24:10
  so
• 24:10
  many
• 24:10
  years.
• 24:11
  Wow.
• 24:12
  Okay.
• 24:12
  I
• 24:12
  didn't
• 24:12
  know
• 24:12
  that.
• 24:13
  That's
• 24:13
  very,
• 24:16
  you
• 24:16
  know,
• 24:16
  I
• 24:17
  mean,
• 24:17
  that
• 24:17
  talk
• 24:18
  about
• 24:18
  a
• 24:18
  growth
• 24:18
  mindset.
• 24:19
  Yeah.
• 24:20
  You
• 24:20
  know,
• 24:20
  but
• 24:20
  again,
• 24:20
  it
• 24:21
  took
• 24:21
  time
• 24:21
  and
• 24:21
  space
• 24:22
  to
• 24:22
  realize,
• 24:23
  you
• 24:23
  know
• 24:23
  what?
• 24:24
  He
• 24:24
  was
• 24:24
  right.
• 24:25
  I
• 24:25
  had
• 24:26
  some
• 24:26
  natural
• 24:26
  talent,
• 24:27
  but
• 24:27
  I
• 24:28
  wasn't
• 24:28
  investing
• 24:29
  in
• 24:29
  it
• 24:30
  the
• 24:30
  way
• 24:30
  everyone
• 24:31
  around
• 24:31
  me
• 24:31
  was.
• 24:32
  You
• 24:32
  didn't
• 24:32
  have
• 24:32
  the
• 24:32
  work
• 24:33
  ethic
• 24:33
  at
• 24:33
  the
• 24:33
  time.
• 24:34
  No.
• 24:34
  Yeah.
• 24:35
  That's
• 24:35
  interesting.
• 24:36
  So
• 24:36
  interesting.
• 24:37
  Yeah.
• 24:38
  They
• 24:38
  talk
• 24:38
  about
• 24:38
  just,
• 24:39
  you
• 24:39
  know,
• 24:39
  kids
• 24:40
  with
• 24:40
  people
• 24:40
  with
• 24:40
  a
• 24:40
  growth
• 24:41
  mindset.
• 24:41
  They
• 24:42
  are
• 24:42
  open
• 24:42
  to
• 24:42
  feedback,
• 24:44
  even
• 24:44
  negative
• 24:45
  feedback,
• 24:45
  because
• 24:45
  they
• 24:46
  want
• 24:46
  to
• 24:46
  figure
• 24:46
  out,
• 24:46
  how
• 24:46
  do
• 24:47
  I
• 24:47
  use
• 24:47
  that
• 24:48
  to
• 24:48
  become
• 24:48
  better?
• 24:50
  They
• 24:50
  are
• 24:50
  more
• 24:51
  persistent,
• 24:53
  resilient.
• 24:55
  Anytime
• 24:55
  they
• 24:55
  have
• 24:55
  a
• 24:56
  chance
• 24:56
  to
• 24:56
  learn
• 24:56
  more,
• 24:57
  they
• 24:57
  take
• 24:57
  it
• 24:58
  much
• 24:59
  more
• 24:59
  satisfaction
• 25:00
  in,
• 25:01
  like,
• 25:01
  I
• 25:01
  think
• 25:02
  you
• 25:02
  experienced.
• 25:03
  Totally.
• 25:03
  They
• 25:04
  even
• 25:04
  believe
• 25:04
  that
• 25:05
  geniuses
• 25:05
  have
• 25:06
  to
• 25:06
  work
• 25:06
  hard
• 25:06
  for
• 25:06
  their
• 25:07
  achievement.
• 25:07
  And
• 25:07
  I
• 25:07
  think
• 25:08
  that's
• 25:08
  true.
• 25:08
  Yeah.
• 25:09
  And
• 25:09
  I
• 25:09
  think
• 25:09
  anything
• 25:10
  new,
• 25:10
  whether
• 25:10
  it's
• 25:11
  a
• 25:11
  discovery
• 25:12
  or
• 25:12
  anything
• 25:13
  like
• 25:13
  that,
• 25:13
  it
• 25:14
  takes
• 25:14
  a
• 25:14
  lot
• 25:14
  of
• 25:14
  failure.
• 25:15
  Einstein
• 25:16
  didn't
• 25:16
  just
• 25:16
  immediately
• 25:17
  discover
• 25:18
  relativity.
• 25:19
  It
• 25:19
  took
• 25:19
  a
• 25:19
  lot
• 25:20
  of
• 25:20
  experiments,
• 25:21
  and
• 25:21
  then
• 25:22
  eventually
• 25:22
  he
• 25:22
  got
• 25:22
  there.
• 25:23
  Yeah.
• 25:23
  Well,
• 25:23
  and
• 25:24
  that
• 25:24
  was
• 25:24
  another
• 25:25
  thing
• 25:25
  about
• 25:25
  this
• 25:25
  book,
• 25:25
  which
• 25:26
  is
• 25:26
  fun,
• 25:27
  is
• 25:27
  there
• 25:27
  are
• 25:27
  so
• 25:27
  many
• 25:28
  stories
• 25:28
  about
• 25:29
  people
• 25:30
  that
• 25:30
  we
• 25:30
  know
• 25:30
  about,
• 25:31
  and
• 25:32
  she
• 25:32
  talks
• 25:32
  about
• 25:32
  whether
• 25:33
  or
• 25:33
  not
• 25:33
  they
• 25:33
  have
• 25:34
  or
• 25:34
  had
• 25:34
  a
• 25:34
  growth
• 25:35
  mindset.
• 25:36
  Michael
• 25:36
  Jordan,
• 25:37
  who
• 25:37
  people,
• 25:37
  of
• 25:38
  course,
• 25:38
  know
• 25:38
  about,
• 25:39
  he's
• 25:40
  just
• 25:40
  a
• 25:40
  little
• 25:40
  famous.
• 25:41
  Kind
• 25:41
  of
• 25:41
  famous.
• 25:42
  But
• 25:43
  the
• 25:43
  fact
• 25:43
  that
• 25:45
  he
• 25:45
  didn't
• 25:45
  make
• 25:45
  his
• 25:45
  high
• 25:46
  school
• 25:46
  basketball
• 25:47
  team,
• 25:47
  and
• 25:47
  then
• 25:48
  he
• 25:48
  went
• 25:48
  back
• 25:48
  and
• 25:48
  just
• 25:49
  practiced,
• 25:49
  practice,
• 25:50
  practice,
• 25:50
  and
• 25:50
  got
• 25:50
  better.
• 25:51
  Better.
• 25:51
  And
• 25:52
  he
• 25:52
  became
• 25:52
  Michael
• 25:53
  Jordan.
• 25:54
  But
• 25:54
  then
• 25:54
  they
• 25:55
  talk
• 25:55
  about
• 25:55
  John
• 25:55
  McEnroe,
• 25:56
  who.
• 25:58
  Gifted,
• 25:59
  super
• 25:59
  gifted.
• 26:00
  And
• 26:00
  lot
• 26:01
  of
• 26:01
  natural
• 26:01
  talent,
• 26:02
  but
• 26:02
  had
• 26:02
  a
• 26:02
  fixed
• 26:03
  mindset.
• 26:04
  Totally.
• 26:04
  Which
• 26:04
  boy,
• 26:05
  they
• 26:05
  ream
• 26:06
  him
• 26:06
  in
• 26:06
  this
• 26:07
  role.
• 26:07
  They
• 26:07
  really
• 26:07
  do.
• 26:08
  John
• 26:08
  McEnroe
• 26:09
  gets
• 26:09
  it
• 26:09
  bad.
• 26:09
  I
• 26:09
  know.
• 26:10
  It's
• 26:10
  like
• 26:10
  he
• 26:10
  looks
• 26:11
  like,
• 26:11
  what
• 26:11
  a
• 26:11
  loser.
• 26:12
  Even
• 26:12
  though
• 26:13
  he's
• 26:13
  a
• 26:13
  winner.
• 26:13
  I
• 26:13
  mean,
• 26:13
  he
• 26:14
  did
• 26:14
  win
• 26:14
  a
• 26:14
  lot.
• 26:14
  His
• 26:15
  attitude,
• 26:16
  it
• 26:16
  was
• 26:16
  bad.
• 26:17
  I
• 26:18
  had
• 26:18
  a
• 26:18
  boss
• 26:18
  tell
• 26:18
  me
• 26:19
  too,
• 26:19
  once.
• 26:19
  He's
• 26:20
  like,
• 26:20
  listen,
• 26:20
  a
• 26:21
  good
• 26:21
  attitude
• 26:21
  is
• 26:21
  Free.
• 26:22
  It
• 26:23
  boosts
• 26:23
  morale.
• 26:24
  It
• 26:24
  makes
• 26:24
  everybody
• 26:25
  around
• 26:25
  you
• 26:25
  have
• 26:25
  a
• 26:25
  better
• 26:25
  time.
• 26:26
  If
• 26:26
  you
• 26:27
  can
• 26:27
  bring
• 26:27
  anything
• 26:27
  to
• 26:28
  the
• 26:28
  table,
• 26:28
  bring
• 26:28
  a
• 26:29
  good
• 26:29
  attitude.
• 26:30
  People
• 26:30
  do
• 26:30
  appreciate
• 26:31
  that.
• 26:31
  Oh,
• 26:31
  my
• 26:31
  God,
• 26:32
  do
• 26:32
  they
• 26:32
  ever.
• 26:32
  But
• 26:33
  he
• 26:33
  didn't
• 26:33
  like.
• 26:33
  He
• 26:33
  didn't
• 26:34
  know.
• 26:34
  He
• 26:34
  had
• 26:34
  a
• 26:34
  foul
• 26:35
  attitude.
• 26:35
  He
• 26:35
  had
• 26:35
  a
• 26:35
  bad
• 26:36
  attitude.
• 26:36
  And.
• 26:37
  And
• 26:37
  when
• 26:37
  he
• 26:37
  lost,
• 26:38
  he
• 26:38
  would
• 26:38
  blame
• 26:38
  it
• 26:38
  on
• 26:39
  other
• 26:39
  people.
• 26:41
  Circumstances.
• 26:42
  Something
• 26:42
  was
• 26:42
  wrong.
• 26:43
  He
• 26:43
  was
• 26:43
  robbed.
• 26:44
  You
• 26:44
  know,
• 26:44
  it
• 26:44
  was
• 26:45
  never
• 26:45
  his
• 26:45
  fault.
• 26:46
  He
• 26:46
  ate
• 26:46
  before
• 26:46
  the
• 26:46
  match.
• 26:47
  God
• 26:47
  forbid.
• 26:48
  Something.
• 26:48
  Something
• 26:49
  got
• 26:49
  in
• 26:49
  the.
• 26:50
  And
• 26:51
  then
• 26:51
  of
• 26:51
  course,
• 26:51
  they
• 26:51
  talk
• 26:51
  about
• 26:52
  Thomas
• 26:52
  Edison
• 26:53
  who
• 26:53
  experimented
• 26:54
  and
• 26:54
  just.
• 26:54
  He
• 26:55
  was
• 26:55
  so
• 26:55
  curious.
• 26:56
  Yes.
• 26:56
  And.
• 26:57
  And
• 26:57
  he,
• 26:57
  you
• 26:58
  know,
• 26:58
  all
• 26:59
  of
• 26:59
  so
• 26:59
  many
• 26:59
  experiments
• 27:00
  failed.
• 27:01
  But
• 27:01
  eventually,
• 27:02
  you
• 27:02
  know,
• 27:02
  I
• 27:02
  think
• 27:03
  he
• 27:03
  invented
• 27:03
  the
• 27:03
  light
• 27:03
  bulb.
• 27:03
  Electricity.
• 27:04
  I
• 27:04
  know.
• 27:05
  Well,
• 27:05
  the
• 27:05
  light
• 27:06
  bulb,
• 27:06
  Right.
• 27:06
  Was
• 27:06
  it
• 27:06
  electric?
• 27:07
  I
• 27:07
  don't
• 27:07
  know.
• 27:07
  Well,
• 27:08
  no,
• 27:08
  I
• 27:08
  think
• 27:08
  it
• 27:08
  was.
• 27:08
  We'll
• 27:08
  have
• 27:09
  to
• 27:09
  fact
• 27:09
  check
• 27:09
  ourselves.
• 27:11
  But
• 27:12
  anyway,
• 27:12
  yeah.
• 27:12
  Somebody
• 27:13
  discovered
• 27:13
  electricity
• 27:14
  and
• 27:14
  then
• 27:14
  somebody
• 27:15
  made
• 27:15
  a
• 27:15
  light
• 27:15
  bulb.
• 27:16
  I
• 27:16
  think
• 27:16
  electricity
• 27:16
  was
• 27:17
  Franklin.
• 27:18
  I
• 27:19
  would
• 27:19
  bet
• 27:19
  on
• 27:19
  yours.
• 27:20
  The
• 27:20
  key.
• 27:21
  He
• 27:21
  was
• 27:21
  flying
• 27:22
  a
• 27:22
  kite
• 27:22
  with
• 27:22
  a
• 27:23
  key
• 27:23
  at
• 27:23
  the
• 27:23
  end.
• 27:23
  And
• 27:25
  in
• 27:25
  a
• 27:25
  rainstorm.
• 27:26
  Oh,
• 27:26
  my
• 27:27
  gosh.
• 27:27
  We
• 27:27
  have
• 27:27
  to
• 27:27
  do.
• 27:28
  You
• 27:28
  did
• 27:28
  not
• 27:29
  pay
• 27:29
  attention
• 27:29
  in
• 27:29
  history.
• 27:30
  I
• 27:30
  also
• 27:30
  might
• 27:30
  have
• 27:31
  missed
• 27:31
  that
• 27:31
  segment
• 27:32
  because
• 27:32
  I
• 27:32
  jumped
• 27:32
  around
• 27:33
  so
• 27:33
  much
• 27:33
  different
• 27:33
  schools.
• 27:34
  I
• 27:34
  did
• 27:34
  like
• 27:35
  sedimentary
• 27:36
  rocks
• 27:37
  43
• 27:38
  times.
• 27:38
  I
• 27:39
  know,
• 27:39
  I
• 27:39
  know.
• 27:39
  I
• 27:39
  feel
• 27:40
  so
• 27:40
  bad.
• 27:40
  Skylar
• 27:41
  went
• 27:41
  to
• 27:41
  so
• 27:41
  many
• 27:41
  schools
• 27:42
  because
• 27:42
  we
• 27:42
  were
• 27:42
  looking
• 27:43
  for
• 27:43
  the
• 27:43
  right
• 27:44
  school
• 27:44
  for
• 27:44
  her.
• 27:45
  It's
• 27:46
  totally
• 27:46
  embarrassing
• 27:47
  that
• 27:47
  I
• 27:47
  could
• 27:47
  not
• 27:47
  find.
• 27:48
  Find
• 27:48
  her
• 27:48
  the
• 27:48
  right
• 27:48
  school.
• 27:48
  I
• 27:49
  tried.
• 27:49
  The
• 27:50
  limit
• 27:50
  did
• 27:50
  not
• 27:50
  exist.
• 27:51
  Yeah.
• 27:51
  But
• 27:52
  anyway,
• 27:52
  so
• 27:52
  we
• 27:52
  tried
• 27:53
  many
• 27:53
  schools.
• 27:53
  And
• 27:54
  what
• 27:54
  was
• 27:54
  even
• 27:55
  more
• 27:55
  exciting
• 27:55
  and
• 27:56
  embarrassing
• 27:56
  was
• 27:57
  she
• 27:57
  had
• 27:57
  a
• 27:57
  one
• 27:58
  woman
• 27:58
  show
• 27:58
  called
• 27:59
  Unsatisfactory
• 28:00
  about
• 28:00
  all
• 28:01
  the
• 28:01
  schools
• 28:01
  she
• 28:01
  went
• 28:02
  to
• 28:02
  in
• 28:02
  New
• 28:02
  York
• 28:02
  City.
• 28:03
  And
• 28:03
  in
• 28:04
  search
• 28:04
  of
• 28:04
  the
• 28:04
  right
• 28:04
  school.
• 28:07
  But,
• 28:07
  you
• 28:07
  know,
• 28:07
  I
• 28:08
  loved
• 28:08
  it.
• 28:08
  I
• 28:08
  was
• 28:08
  so
• 28:08
  proud
• 28:09
  of
• 28:09
  you
• 28:09
  for
• 28:09
  doing
• 28:09
  that
• 28:09
  show.
• 28:10
  Thank
• 28:10
  you.
• 28:10
  I
• 28:10
  loved
• 28:11
  that
• 28:11
  show.
• 28:11
  It
• 28:11
  was
• 28:11
  one
• 28:12
  of
• 28:12
  my
• 28:12
  best
• 28:12
  pieces
• 28:12
  of
• 28:13
  work.
• 28:13
  It
• 28:13
  was
• 28:13
  really
• 28:14
  fun.
• 28:14
  I
• 28:14
  wish
• 28:15
  we
• 28:15
  had
• 28:15
  it
• 28:15
  on
• 28:15
  film.
• 28:16
  I
• 28:16
  know,
• 28:16
  but
• 28:16
  that's
• 28:17
  the
• 28:17
  thing
• 28:17
  about
• 28:17
  theater.
• 28:18
  I
• 28:18
  know.
• 28:19
  It
• 28:19
  comes
• 28:19
  and
• 28:19
  it
• 28:20
  goes.
• 28:20
  I
• 28:20
  know.
• 28:20
  That's
• 28:21
  what
• 28:21
  I
• 28:21
  hate
• 28:21
  about
• 28:21
  it.
• 28:21
  I
• 28:22
  love
• 28:22
  it.
• 28:22
  I
• 28:22
  mean,
• 28:22
  I
• 28:22
  love
• 28:23
  it.
• 28:23
  It's
• 28:23
  a.
• 28:23
  It's
• 28:23
  a
• 28:24
  in.
• 28:24
  It's
• 28:24
  an
• 28:25
  in
• 28:25
  the
• 28:25
  moment
• 28:25
  experience.
• 28:26
  Maybe
• 28:26
  someday
• 28:27
  I'll
• 28:28
  revive
• 28:28
  it.
• 28:29
  You
• 28:29
  should.
• 28:30
  You
• 28:30
  never
• 28:30
  know.
• 28:30
  Bring
• 28:31
  it
• 28:31
  back.
• 28:31
  Yeah,
• 28:32
  bring
• 28:32
  it
• 28:32
  back.
• 28:32
  Bring
• 28:33
  it
• 28:33
  back.
• 28:33
  Show
• 28:33
  yourself.
• 28:33
  Although
• 28:34
  the
• 28:34
  week
• 28:34
  before
• 28:34
  it
• 28:35
  went
• 28:35
  up,
• 28:35
  I
• 28:35
  lost
• 28:36
  the
• 28:36
  script.
• 28:36
  The
• 28:37
  script
• 28:37
  disappeared.
• 28:38
  Really?
• 28:38
  My
• 28:39
  computer
• 28:39
  just
• 28:39
  didn't
• 28:40
  work
• 28:40
  anymore.
• 28:40
  Oh,
• 28:41
  my
• 28:41
  God.
• 28:41
  I
• 28:42
  instead.
• 28:43
  Growth
• 28:43
  mindset
• 28:43
  opportunity.
• 28:44
  Okay.
• 28:44
  Instead
• 28:45
  of
• 28:45
  having
• 28:45
  a
• 28:45
  meltdown
• 28:46
  about
• 28:46
  it,
• 28:47
  I
• 28:47
  just
• 28:47
  went
• 28:47
  to
• 28:47
  the
• 28:48
  computer
• 28:48
  store.
• 28:48
  They're
• 28:49
  like,
• 28:49
  this
• 28:49
  is
• 28:49
  gone.
• 28:49
  And
• 28:50
  I
• 28:50
  was
• 28:50
  like,
• 28:50
  all
• 28:50
  right,
• 28:50
  I'm
• 28:51
  just
• 28:51
  gonna
• 28:51
  accept
• 28:51
  my
• 28:51
  fate
• 28:52
  and
• 28:52
  I'm
• 28:52
  gonna
• 28:52
  try
• 28:52
  and
• 28:52
  rewrite
• 28:53
  it
• 28:53
  from
• 28:53
  memory.
• 28:54
  I
• 28:54
  wasn't
• 28:55
  off
• 28:55
  book
• 28:55
  a
• 28:55
  week
• 28:55
  before,
• 28:56
  even
• 28:56
  though
• 28:56
  I
• 28:56
  had
• 28:56
  sold
• 28:57
  a
• 28:57
  gajillion
• 28:57
  tickets.
• 28:58
  Don't
• 28:58
  do
• 28:59
  that.
• 28:59
  But
• 28:59
  I
• 29:00
  did.
• 29:00
  There
• 29:00
  we
• 29:00
  were.
• 29:01
  And
• 29:01
  I
• 29:01
  rewrote
• 29:02
  it
• 29:02
  from
• 29:02
  memory.
• 29:02
  And
• 29:02
  it
• 29:02
  actually
• 29:03
  ended
• 29:03
  up
• 29:03
  being
• 29:03
  better
• 29:04
  because
• 29:04
  all
• 29:04
  the
• 29:04
  parts
• 29:05
  I
• 29:05
  lost
• 29:05
  weren't
• 29:06
  that
• 29:06
  interesting
• 29:06
  to
• 29:06
  begin
• 29:07
  with.
• 29:07
  Oh,
• 29:07
  interesting.
• 29:08
  I
• 29:08
  didn't
• 29:08
  know
• 29:08
  that
• 29:08
  happened.
• 29:09
  That's
• 29:09
  crazy.
• 29:10
  Yeah.
• 29:11
  I
• 29:11
  skipped
• 29:11
  the
• 29:11
  meltdown.
• 29:12
  You
• 29:12
  can
• 29:12
  make
• 29:12
  a
• 29:13
  toy
• 29:13
  and
• 29:14
  skip
• 29:14
  a
• 29:14
  meltdown.
• 29:14
  Especially
• 29:15
  when
• 29:15
  there's
• 29:15
  a
• 29:15
  time
• 29:15
  constraint.
• 29:16
  Right.
• 29:16
  It's
• 29:16
  like,
• 29:16
  I
• 29:17
  gotta
• 29:17
  fix
• 29:17
  this
• 29:17
  and
• 29:18
  I
• 29:18
  gotta
• 29:18
  fix
• 29:18
  this
• 29:18
  today.
• 29:19
  Wow.
• 29:19
  Cause
• 29:20
  the
• 29:20
  show
• 29:20
  must
• 29:20
  go
• 29:20
  on.
• 29:21
  You
• 29:21
  really
• 29:21
  did
• 29:21
  have
• 29:21
  a
• 29:22
  growth
• 29:22
  mindset
• 29:23
  about
• 29:23
  this.
• 29:23
  That's
• 29:23
  great.
• 29:24
  You
• 29:24
  instilled
• 29:24
  it
• 29:24
  in
• 29:24
  me.
• 29:25
  Thank
• 29:25
  you.
• 29:26
  Thanks
• 29:26
  for
• 29:26
  giving
• 29:26
  me
• 29:26
  credit
• 29:27
  for
• 29:27
  that,
• 29:27
  but
• 29:27
  I
• 29:27
  really.
• 29:28
  You
• 29:28
  did.
• 29:28
  You
• 29:29
  didn't
• 29:29
  think
• 29:29
  I
• 29:29
  did.
• 29:29
  Yeah.
• 29:29
  Well,
• 29:30
  again,
• 29:30
  you
• 29:30
  never
• 29:30
  made
• 29:31
  me
• 29:31
  feel
• 29:31
  badly
• 29:31
  when
• 29:32
  I
• 29:32
  wasn't
• 29:32
  perfect.
• 29:33
  Uh
• 29:33
  huh.
• 29:34
  Good.
• 29:34
  Well,
• 29:34
  you're.
• 29:35
  Well,
• 29:35
  I.
• 29:35
  And
• 29:36
  I
• 29:36
  was
• 29:36
  never
• 29:36
  perfect.
• 29:37
  I
• 29:37
  know,
• 29:38
  but
• 29:38
  that's
• 29:38
  okay.
• 29:39
  I
• 29:39
  mean,
• 29:39
  I
• 29:40
  didn't
• 29:40
  care.
• 29:40
  I
• 29:41
  always
• 29:41
  was.
• 29:41
  Was
• 29:41
  your
• 29:42
  best
• 29:42
  cheerleader.
• 29:43
  That
• 29:43
  was
• 29:43
  really
• 29:43
  my
• 29:44
  thing.
• 29:45
  You
• 29:45
  know
• 29:45
  what?
• 29:45
  I
• 29:45
  take
• 29:46
  it
• 29:46
  back
• 29:46
  from
• 29:46
  several
• 29:46
  episodes
• 29:47
  ago,
• 29:47
  you
• 29:48
  were
• 29:48
  my
• 29:48
  Rodney.
• 29:49
  I
• 29:49
  was
• 29:49
  your
• 29:49
  Rodney.
• 29:50
  You
• 29:50
  were
• 29:50
  my
• 29:50
  Rodney.
• 29:51
  You
• 29:51
  and
• 29:52
  the.
• 29:52
  You
• 29:52
  and
• 29:52
  the
• 29:52
  queens
• 29:53
  were
• 29:53
  my
• 29:53
  Rodney.
• 29:55
  Thank
• 29:55
  you.
• 29:56
  You're
• 29:56
  welcome.
• 29:56
  If
• 29:57
  you
• 29:57
  don't
• 29:57
  know
• 29:57
  what
• 29:57
  we're
• 29:58
  talking
• 29:58
  about,
• 29:59
  you
• 29:59
  have
• 29:59
  to
• 29:59
  go
• 30:00
  listen
• 30:00
  to
• 30:00
  the
• 30:00
  Teenage
• 30:01
  Humans
• 30:01
  episode.
• 30:02
  Yeah,
• 30:03
  exactly.
• 30:03
  That's.
• 30:03
  That's.
• 30:04
  We.
• 30:04
  Everybody
• 30:04
  needs
• 30:05
  a
• 30:05
  Rodney.
• 30:05
  Everybody
• 30:05
  needs
• 30:06
  Rodney.
• 30:07
  Okay.
• 30:08
  And
• 30:08
  then
• 30:09
  one
• 30:09
  thing
• 30:09
  that.
• 30:10
  Another
• 30:10
  thing
• 30:10
  she
• 30:11
  said,
• 30:11
  which
• 30:11
  I
• 30:11
  did
• 30:11
  not
• 30:12
  know,
• 30:12
  was
• 30:13
  Alfred
• 30:13
  Binet,
• 30:14
  who
• 30:14
  wrote
• 30:15
  the.
• 30:15
  The
• 30:16
  Stanford
• 30:16
  Binet.
• 30:16
  The
• 30:16
  Stanford
• 30:17
  Binet
• 30:17
  fame.
• 30:18
  The
• 30:18
  IQ
• 30:19
  test.
• 30:19
  He
• 30:20
  thought
• 30:20
  that
• 30:20
  you
• 30:21
  could
• 30:21
  change
• 30:21
  a
• 30:21
  person's
• 30:22
  intelligence
• 30:22
  with
• 30:23
  hard
• 30:23
  work,
• 30:24
  which
• 30:24
  I
• 30:24
  loved
• 30:25
  hearing.
• 30:26
  Because
• 30:26
  I
• 30:26
  can't
• 30:26
  tell
• 30:27
  you
• 30:27
  how
• 30:27
  many
• 30:28
  doctors
• 30:28
  and
• 30:29
  psychologists
• 30:30
  I
• 30:30
  have
• 30:30
  spoken
• 30:31
  to
• 30:31
  through
• 30:31
  the
• 30:31
  years
• 30:32
  who
• 30:32
  believe
• 30:33
  that
• 30:34
  an
• 30:34
  IQ
• 30:34
  test
• 30:35
  score
• 30:36
  is
• 30:36
  fixed.
• 30:38
  And
• 30:38
  originally,
• 30:38
  when
• 30:39
  Sam,
• 30:39
  your
• 30:39
  brother,
• 30:40
  made
• 30:40
  a
• 30:40
  37th
• 30:42
  percentile
• 30:43
  on
• 30:43
  his
• 30:43
  IQ
• 30:44
  and
• 30:44
  I
• 30:44
  was
• 30:44
  told,
• 30:45
  this
• 30:45
  kid
• 30:45
  will
• 30:45
  never
• 30:46
  be
• 30:46
  smart.
• 30:47
  And
• 30:47
  this
• 30:47
  is
• 30:47
  by
• 30:48
  a
• 30:49
  developmental
• 30:49
  pediatrician
• 30:50
  who
• 30:50
  should
• 30:50
  have
• 30:51
  known
• 30:51
  better,
• 30:52
  who
• 30:52
  told
• 30:52
  me
• 30:52
  there
• 30:53
  was
• 30:53
  nothing
• 30:53
  I
• 30:53
  could
• 30:54
  do.
• 30:54
  Nothing.
• 30:55
  Lost
• 30:55
  cause,
• 30:56
  right?
• 30:56
  I
• 30:56
  mean,
• 30:56
  little
• 30:57
  did
• 30:57
  she
• 30:57
  know.
• 30:57
  She
• 30:58
  did
• 30:58
  not
• 30:58
  know
• 30:58
  my
• 30:58
  mom.
• 30:58
  She
• 30:59
  did
• 30:59
  not.
• 30:59
  Well,
• 30:59
  she
• 30:59
  didn't
• 31:00
  know
• 31:00
  me
• 31:00
  and
• 31:01
  grandma
• 31:01
  and
• 31:01
  that
• 31:01
  we
• 31:02
  were
• 31:02
  gonna
• 31:02
  not.
• 31:03
  You
• 31:03
  are
• 31:03
  one
• 31:03
  of
• 31:03
  the
• 31:03
  most
• 31:04
  determined
• 31:04
  people
• 31:04
  I've
• 31:05
  ever
• 31:05
  met.
• 31:06
  Well,
• 31:06
  when
• 31:06
  there's
• 31:06
  something
• 31:07
  important.
• 31:07
  Yeah.
• 31:08
  I
• 31:08
  am
• 31:09
  determined.
• 31:09
  I
• 31:10
  will
• 31:10
  not
• 31:10
  fail.
• 31:10
  But
• 31:11
  you're
• 31:11
  the
• 31:11
  same.
• 31:12
  I
• 31:12
  think
• 31:12
  you're
• 31:12
  very
• 31:12
  much
• 31:13
  like
• 31:13
  that
• 31:13
  when
• 31:13
  there's
• 31:14
  something
• 31:14
  you
• 31:14
  really
• 31:14
  want.
• 31:15
  And
• 31:15
  so
• 31:16
  I
• 31:16
  worked
• 31:16
  with
• 31:16
  Sam
• 31:17
  as
• 31:17
  much
• 31:17
  as
• 31:17
  I
• 31:18
  could.
• 31:18
  We
• 31:18
  turned
• 31:19
  his
• 31:19
  score
• 31:19
  around,
• 31:20
  and
• 31:20
  I
• 31:20
  saw
• 31:21
  that
• 31:21
  you
• 31:21
  can
• 31:21
  change
• 31:22
  it
• 31:22
  score.
• 31:23
  And
• 31:23
  he
• 31:23
  was
• 31:24
  what,
• 31:24
  the
• 31:24
  98th
• 31:25
  percentile?
• 31:26
  No,
• 31:26
  he
• 31:26
  went
• 31:26
  from
• 31:27
  37th
• 31:28
  to
• 31:28
  94th
• 31:29
  percentile.
• 31:29
  But
• 31:30
  still,
• 31:30
  that's
• 31:31
  amazing.
• 31:31
  Yeah.
• 31:31
  And
• 31:31
  I
• 31:32
  tripled
• 31:32
  his
• 31:33
  score
• 31:33
  in
• 31:34
  a
• 31:34
  year.
• 31:34
  And
• 31:35
  he's
• 31:35
  a
• 31:35
  very
• 31:35
  smart
• 31:36
  man.
• 31:36
  Smart
• 31:36
  guy.
• 31:36
  And
• 31:37
  smartest
• 31:37
  guy
• 31:37
  I
• 31:37
  know.
• 31:37
  He's
• 31:38
  what?
• 31:38
  He
• 31:38
  is
• 31:38
  really
• 31:39
  smart.
• 31:39
  But
• 31:39
  anyway,
• 31:41
  so,
• 31:41
  okay,
• 31:41
  so
• 31:42
  what
• 31:42
  does
• 31:42
  this
• 31:42
  all
• 31:43
  mean
• 31:43
  for
• 31:44
  a
• 31:44
  parent
• 31:45
  and
• 31:45
  how
• 31:45
  we
• 31:45
  talk
• 31:46
  to
• 31:46
  our
• 31:46
  kids?
• 31:47
  So
• 31:48
  there's
• 31:48
  a
• 31:48
  lot
• 31:48
  of
• 31:48
  good
• 31:48
  stuff
• 31:48
  here,
• 31:49
  which
• 31:49
  I.
• 31:49
  I
• 31:50
  pulled
• 31:50
  out
• 31:50
  what
• 31:50
  I
• 31:50
  thought
• 31:50
  were
• 31:50
  some
• 31:51
  of
• 31:51
  the
• 31:51
  best
• 31:51
  moments.
• 31:51
  And
• 31:52
  you
• 31:52
  can
• 31:53
  add.
• 31:53
  I'll
• 31:53
  have
• 31:53
  to
• 31:53
  refer
• 31:54
  to
• 31:54
  my
• 31:54
  phone
• 31:54
  because,
• 31:54
  again,
• 31:55
  okay.
• 31:56
  My.
• 31:56
  My
• 31:56
  printing
• 31:57
  didn't
• 31:58
  happen
• 31:58
  in
• 31:58
  time.
• 31:58
  I'm
• 31:59
  sorry.
• 31:59
  It's
• 31:59
  okay.
• 31:59
  That's
• 31:59
  not
• 32:00
  your
• 32:00
  fault.
• 32:00
  It's
• 32:00
  my
• 32:00
  fault.
• 32:01
  All
• 32:01
  right,
• 32:01
  so
• 32:02
  be
• 32:02
  very
• 32:02
  careful
• 32:02
  about
• 32:03
  how
• 32:03
  you
• 32:03
  praise
• 32:03
  your
• 32:03
  child.
• 32:04
  For
• 32:04
  example,
• 32:05
  if
• 32:05
  you
• 32:05
  say
• 32:05
  to
• 32:05
  them,
• 32:06
  oh,
• 32:06
  you
• 32:06
  learn
• 32:06
  that
• 32:07
  so
• 32:07
  quickly.
• 32:07
  You're
• 32:08
  so
• 32:08
  smart.
• 32:09
  The
• 32:09
  child's
• 32:09
  going
• 32:10
  to
• 32:10
  hear,
• 32:10
  oh,
• 32:11
  well,
• 32:11
  if
• 32:11
  I
• 32:11
  don't
• 32:11
  do
• 32:11
  something
• 32:12
  quickly,
• 32:12
  I'm
• 32:12
  not
• 32:13
  smart.
• 32:14
  Look
• 32:14
  at
• 32:14
  that
• 32:15
  drawing.
• 32:15
  You're
• 32:15
  the
• 32:15
  next
• 32:16
  Picasso.
• 32:17
  If
• 32:17
  you
• 32:17
  say
• 32:18
  that,
• 32:18
  a
• 32:18
  child
• 32:18
  may
• 32:19
  not
• 32:19
  want
• 32:20
  to
• 32:20
  draw
• 32:20
  pictures
• 32:21
  that
• 32:22
  are
• 32:22
  hard
• 32:22
  because
• 32:22
  they
• 32:23
  might
• 32:23
  think,
• 32:23
  well,
• 32:23
  I
• 32:24
  can't
• 32:24
  do
• 32:24
  what
• 32:24
  Picasso
• 32:25
  does,
• 32:26
  so.
• 32:26
  And
• 32:26
  then
• 32:27
  you're
• 32:27
  brilliant.
• 32:28
  You
• 32:28
  got
• 32:28
  an
• 32:28
  A
• 32:28
  without
• 32:29
  even
• 32:29
  studying.
• 32:30
  The
• 32:30
  child
• 32:31
  might
• 32:31
  think,
• 32:31
  oh,
• 32:32
  well,
• 32:32
  I
• 32:32
  better
• 32:32
  not
• 32:32
  study
• 32:33
  and
• 32:34
  keep
• 32:34
  doing
• 32:34
  it
• 32:35
  that
• 32:35
  way
• 32:35
  because,
• 32:36
  you
• 32:37
  know,
• 32:37
  because
• 32:37
  what's
• 32:38
  impressive
• 32:38
  is
• 32:38
  my
• 32:39
  natural
• 32:39
  talent.
• 32:39
  And
• 32:40
  not
• 32:40
  exactly.
• 32:41
  Exactly.
• 32:42
  And
• 32:43
  they
• 32:43
  said
• 32:43
  after
• 32:44
  seven
• 32:44
  experiments
• 32:45
  and
• 32:45
  hundreds
• 32:45
  of
• 32:46
  kids,
• 32:46
  they
• 32:46
  learned
• 32:47
  that
• 32:47
  praising
• 32:48
  a
• 32:48
  child's
• 32:48
  intelligence
• 32:50
  harms
• 32:50
  their
• 32:50
  motivation
• 32:51
  and
• 32:52
  their
• 32:52
  performance.
• 32:54
  A
• 32:55
  lot
• 32:55
  of
• 32:55
  parents
• 32:55
  think
• 32:55
  that
• 32:55
  just
• 32:56
  praising
• 32:57
  a
• 32:57
  child
• 32:57
  in
• 32:58
  general
• 32:58
  builds
• 32:58
  their
• 32:59
  confidence,
• 33:00
  but
• 33:00
  instead,
• 33:00
  it
• 33:00
  makes
• 33:01
  them
• 33:01
  doubt
• 33:01
  themselves
• 33:02
  when
• 33:02
  things
• 33:03
  go
• 33:03
  wrong.
• 33:05
  Parents
• 33:06
  should
• 33:06
  teach
• 33:06
  their
• 33:06
  kids
• 33:07
  to
• 33:07
  love
• 33:07
  challenges,
• 33:08
  to
• 33:08
  be
• 33:08
  intrigued
• 33:09
  by
• 33:09
  mistakes,
• 33:10
  to
• 33:10
  enjoy
• 33:11
  effort,
• 33:12
  seek
• 33:12
  new
• 33:12
  strategies,
• 33:14
  and
• 33:15
  keep
• 33:15
  learning.
• 33:17
  And
• 33:18
  then
• 33:18
  there's
• 33:18
  on
• 33:19
  page
• 33:19
  181,
• 33:20
  you
• 33:20
  just
• 33:20
  have
• 33:20
  to
• 33:20
  go
• 33:20
  there.
• 33:21
  But
• 33:21
  they
• 33:21
  just
• 33:22
  give
• 33:22
  you
• 33:22
  a
• 33:22
  whole
• 33:23
  page
• 33:23
  of
• 33:23
  ways
• 33:24
  that
• 33:24
  you
• 33:24
  can
• 33:25
  praise
• 33:25
  your
• 33:25
  child
• 33:28
  that
• 33:28
  will
• 33:28
  really
• 33:28
  be
• 33:29
  helpful
• 33:29
  to
• 33:29
  them
• 33:29
  much
• 33:30
  more.
• 33:30
  They
• 33:30
  have
• 33:30
  to
• 33:31
  be
• 33:31
  very
• 33:31
  specific.
• 33:32
  I'll
• 33:32
  give
• 33:32
  you
• 33:32
  one
• 33:32
  example.
• 33:33
  You
• 33:34
  really
• 33:34
  studied
• 33:34
  for
• 33:35
  your
• 33:35
  test,
• 33:35
  and
• 33:35
  your
• 33:36
  improvement
• 33:36
  shows
• 33:37
  it.
• 33:37
  You
• 33:38
  read
• 33:38
  the
• 33:38
  material
• 33:39
  several
• 33:39
  times,
• 33:39
  you
• 33:39
  outlined
• 33:40
  it,
• 33:40
  you
• 33:40
  tested
• 33:41
  yourself,
• 33:41
  and
• 33:41
  that
• 33:41
  worked.
• 33:42
  So
• 33:43
  specific
• 33:43
  stuff
• 33:44
  like
• 33:44
  that.
• 33:44
  Yes.
• 33:45
  Not
• 33:45
  vague.
• 33:45
  Not
• 33:46
  vague
• 33:46
  like,
• 33:46
  oh,
• 33:47
  that's
• 33:47
  great,
• 33:47
  how
• 33:48
  you
• 33:48
  improved
• 33:48
  your
• 33:48
  score
• 33:49
  like
• 33:49
  that.
• 33:50
  And
• 33:50
  then
• 33:51
  they
• 33:51
  tell
• 33:51
  you
• 33:51
  also
• 33:52
  when
• 33:52
  the
• 33:52
  child
• 33:53
  doesn't
• 33:53
  do
• 33:53
  well,
• 33:54
  what
• 33:54
  to
• 33:54
  say,
• 33:55
  which
• 33:55
  is,
• 33:55
  well,
• 33:56
  I
• 33:56
  like
• 33:56
  the
• 33:56
  effort
• 33:57
  you
• 33:57
  put
• 33:57
  in,
• 33:57
  but
• 33:57
  we
• 33:58
  have
• 33:58
  to
• 33:58
  keep
• 33:58
  working
• 33:59
  on
• 34:00
  figuring
• 34:00
  out
• 34:00
  what.
• 34:01
  What
• 34:01
  you
• 34:01
  don't
• 34:02
  understand
• 34:02
  and
• 34:02
  how
• 34:02
  we
• 34:03
  can
• 34:03
  fix
• 34:03
  that.
• 34:03
  Yes.
• 34:04
  So,
• 34:04
  you
• 34:05
  know,
• 34:05
  you
• 34:05
  can
• 34:05
  still
• 34:05
  praise
• 34:06
  them
• 34:06
  when
• 34:07
  they
• 34:07
  don't
• 34:07
  do
• 34:07
  well,
• 34:08
  but
• 34:09
  so
• 34:09
  they
• 34:09
  praise
• 34:09
  them
• 34:10
  differently.
• 34:10
  Differently.
• 34:11
  Yeah,
• 34:11
  differently.
• 34:12
  Right,
• 34:13
  right.
• 34:14
  Because
• 34:14
  what
• 34:15
  we're
• 34:15
  praising
• 34:15
  is
• 34:15
  the
• 34:16
  effort.
• 34:17
  The
• 34:17
  effort,
• 34:18
  Their
• 34:18
  strategies.
• 34:21
  And
• 34:21
  that
• 34:21
  they
• 34:21
  are
• 34:22
  problem
• 34:22
  solving,
• 34:23
  which
• 34:23
  is
• 34:23
  the.
• 34:24
  As
• 34:24
  a
• 34:25
  person
• 34:25
  in
• 34:25
  the
• 34:25
  world,
• 34:26
  the
• 34:27
  practice.
• 34:28
  Problem
• 34:29
  solving
• 34:29
  is
• 34:29
  a
• 34:29
  muscle.
• 34:30
  The
• 34:30
  more
• 34:31
  you
• 34:31
  problem
• 34:31
  solve,
• 34:32
  the
• 34:32
  stronger
• 34:32
  you
• 34:33
  will
• 34:33
  get
• 34:33
  at
• 34:33
  it.
• 34:33
  The
• 34:34
  more
• 34:34
  creative
• 34:34
  you
• 34:35
  will
• 34:35
  become
• 34:35
  when
• 34:35
  problems
• 34:36
  present
• 34:36
  themselves.
• 34:38
  So
• 34:38
  don't
• 34:39
  look
• 34:39
  at
• 34:39
  problems
• 34:40
  as
• 34:40
  a
• 34:40
  setback.
• 34:40
  They
• 34:41
  are
• 34:41
  all
• 34:41
  opportunities.
• 34:43
  Exactly,
• 34:43
  exactly.
• 34:44
  No,
• 34:44
  that's
• 34:45
  right.
• 34:45
  And
• 34:46
  there's
• 34:47
  a
• 34:47
  misunderstanding,
• 34:48
  she
• 34:48
  said
• 34:48
  about
• 34:49
  what
• 34:49
  growth
• 34:50
  mindset
• 34:50
  praise
• 34:51
  should
• 34:52
  be
• 34:52
  because
• 34:52
  she
• 34:52
  said
• 34:53
  a
• 34:53
  lot
• 34:53
  of
• 34:53
  people
• 34:55
  think
• 34:55
  all
• 34:55
  it
• 34:55
  is
• 34:56
  is
• 34:56
  praising
• 34:57
  a
• 34:57
  child's
• 34:57
  efforts.
• 34:58
  But
• 34:58
  she
• 34:59
  said,
• 34:59
  no,
• 34:59
  no,
• 34:59
  no,
• 34:59
  it's
• 35:00
  much
• 35:00
  more
• 35:00
  than
• 35:00
  that.
• 35:01
  You
• 35:02
  obviously
• 35:02
  praise
• 35:02
  their
• 35:03
  efforts,
• 35:03
  their
• 35:03
  hard
• 35:03
  work,
• 35:04
  but
• 35:04
  you
• 35:04
  praise
• 35:05
  the
• 35:05
  strategies,
• 35:06
  the
• 35:06
  focus,
• 35:07
  the
• 35:08
  perseverance,
• 35:10
  the
• 35:10
  getting
• 35:11
  help
• 35:11
  from
• 35:11
  other
• 35:11
  people.
• 35:12
  Because
• 35:13
  you're
• 35:13
  not
• 35:13
  just
• 35:14
  wanting
• 35:14
  them
• 35:14
  to
• 35:15
  put
• 35:15
  in
• 35:15
  effort
• 35:15
  and
• 35:16
  not
• 35:16
  make
• 35:16
  progress.
• 35:17
  If
• 35:18
  they're
• 35:18
  not
• 35:18
  making
• 35:19
  progress,
• 35:19
  you
• 35:20
  must
• 35:20
  figure
• 35:20
  out
• 35:20
  why
• 35:21
  or
• 35:21
  tell
• 35:21
  them
• 35:22
  to
• 35:22
  try
• 35:22
  something
• 35:22
  else.
• 35:23
  Try
• 35:23
  something
• 35:23
  else.
• 35:23
  Exactly,
• 35:24
  Exactly.
• 35:25
  Right.
• 35:26
  All
• 35:26
  have
• 35:26
  to
• 35:26
  be
• 35:26
  everything.
• 35:27
  It
• 35:27
  takes
• 35:27
  all
• 35:27
  types
• 35:28
  to
• 35:28
  make
• 35:28
  a
• 35:28
  world.
• 35:28
  Yes,
• 35:29
  exactly.
• 35:30
  Exactly.
• 35:30
  Is
• 35:30
  there
• 35:31
  anything
• 35:31
  from
• 35:31
  the.
• 35:31
  From
• 35:31
  your
• 35:32
  notes
• 35:32
  this
• 35:32
  morning
• 35:32
  that
• 35:33
  you
• 35:33
  wanted
• 35:33
  to
• 35:33
  bring
• 35:33
  up
• 35:33
  about
• 35:34
  that?
• 35:34
  I
• 35:34
  can't
• 35:34
  see
• 35:35
  anything
• 35:36
  and
• 35:37
  my
• 35:37
  phone
• 35:37
  doesn't
• 35:37
  recognize
• 35:38
  me.
• 35:38
  Love
• 35:38
  that.
• 35:39
  Oh,
• 35:41
  fixed
• 35:41
  mindset,
• 35:42
  blah,
• 35:42
  blah,
• 35:42
  blah.
• 35:44
  Inside
• 35:44
  the
• 35:44
  mindsets.
• 35:46
  Oh,
• 35:47
  so
• 35:47
  this
• 35:47
  was
• 35:47
  interesting
• 35:48
  when
• 35:48
  it
• 35:48
  came
• 35:48
  to
• 35:48
  relationships.
• 35:49
  Okay,
• 35:49
  so
• 35:50
  the
• 35:50
  way
• 35:51
  people
• 35:51
  with.
• 35:52
  With
• 35:52
  a
• 35:52
  growth
• 35:53
  mindset
• 35:54
  search
• 35:54
  for
• 35:54
  a
• 35:55
  partner
• 35:56
  is
• 35:57
  they
• 35:58
  want
• 35:58
  someone
• 35:59
  who
• 35:59
  sees
• 35:59
  their
• 35:59
  faults
• 36:00
  and
• 36:00
  encourages
• 36:01
  them
• 36:01
  to
• 36:02
  work
• 36:02
  on
• 36:02
  them,
• 36:02
  challenges
• 36:03
  them
• 36:03
  to
• 36:03
  become
• 36:04
  a
• 36:04
  better
• 36:04
  person,
• 36:05
  encourages
• 36:05
  them
• 36:05
  to
• 36:06
  learn
• 36:06
  new
• 36:06
  lessons
• 36:07
  and
• 36:07
  people
• 36:08
  who
• 36:08
  foster
• 36:08
  their
• 36:08
  development.
• 36:09
  Whereas
• 36:10
  people
• 36:10
  with
• 36:10
  a
• 36:10
  fixed
• 36:11
  mindset
• 36:11
  tend
• 36:11
  to
• 36:12
  look
• 36:12
  for
• 36:12
  people
• 36:13
  who
• 36:13
  put
• 36:13
  them
• 36:13
  on
• 36:13
  a
• 36:13
  pedestal,
• 36:14
  make
• 36:14
  them
• 36:14
  feel
• 36:15
  perfect
• 36:15
  and
• 36:15
  worship
• 36:16
  them.
• 36:16
  Oh.
• 36:17
  So
• 36:18
  I
• 36:18
  found
• 36:18
  that
• 36:18
  to
• 36:19
  be
• 36:19
  really
• 36:19
  interesting.
• 36:19
  Okay.
• 36:20
  Because
• 36:22
  one
• 36:22
  feels
• 36:23
  more
• 36:23
  sustainable.
• 36:24
  Right.
• 36:25
  Than
• 36:25
  the
• 36:25
  other
• 36:26
  in
• 36:26
  the
• 36:26
  sense
• 36:27
  that
• 36:27
  nobody
• 36:27
  is
• 36:28
  perfect.
• 36:28
  Another
• 36:28
  quote
• 36:29
  that
• 36:29
  I
• 36:29
  really
• 36:29
  enjoyed
• 36:30
  actually
• 36:30
  from
• 36:30
  that
• 36:30
  section
• 36:31
  was
• 36:34
  that
• 36:34
  everyone
• 36:34
  has
• 36:35
  virtues
• 36:35
  and
• 36:36
  foibles,
• 36:36
  but
• 36:36
  if
• 36:36
  you
• 36:37
  only
• 36:37
  hang
• 36:37
  out
• 36:37
  with
• 36:37
  perfect
• 36:38
  people,
• 36:38
  your
• 36:38
  social
• 36:38
  circle
• 36:39
  will
• 36:39
  be
• 36:39
  very
• 36:40
  impoverished.
• 36:41
  And
• 36:41
  choosing
• 36:41
  a
• 36:42
  partner
• 36:42
  is
• 36:42
  choosing
• 36:43
  a
• 36:43
  set
• 36:43
  of
• 36:43
  problems.
• 36:44
  There
• 36:44
  are
• 36:44
  no
• 36:45
  problem.
• 36:45
  Free
• 36:45
  candidates
• 36:46
  acknowledge
• 36:47
  each
• 36:47
  other's
• 36:47
  limitations
• 36:48
  and
• 36:48
  build
• 36:48
  from
• 36:48
  there.
• 36:50
  So
• 36:50
  if
• 36:50
  you
• 36:50
  sign
• 36:51
  up
• 36:51
  for
• 36:51
  a
• 36:51
  relationship
• 36:52
  with
• 36:52
  the
• 36:52
  expectation
• 36:53
  that
• 36:53
  Your
• 36:53
  partner
• 36:54
  is
• 36:54
  perfect
• 36:54
  or
• 36:55
  that
• 36:55
  you
• 36:55
  want
• 36:55
  to
• 36:55
  be
• 36:56
  seen
• 36:56
  as
• 36:57
  perfect
• 36:58
  if
• 36:58
  you
• 36:58
  make
• 36:58
  a
• 36:58
  mistake.
• 36:59
  You
• 37:00
  know,
• 37:00
  it's
• 37:00
  that
• 37:00
  expression,
• 37:01
  the
• 37:01
  higher
• 37:01
  you
• 37:01
  climb,
• 37:02
  the
• 37:02
  farther
• 37:02
  you
• 37:02
  fall.
• 37:03
  Right.
• 37:03
  Or
• 37:03
  the
• 37:03
  higher
• 37:04
  you
• 37:04
  fall.
• 37:04
  Yeah.
• 37:05
  You
• 37:05
  have
• 37:05
  to
• 37:05
  be
• 37:05
  able
• 37:05
  to
• 37:05
  be
• 37:06
  yourself.
• 37:06
  Yeah.
• 37:06
  You
• 37:07
  have
• 37:07
  to
• 37:07
  be
• 37:07
  able
• 37:07
  to
• 37:08
  be
• 37:08
  yourself
• 37:09
  and
• 37:09
  make
• 37:10
  mistakes,
• 37:10
  and
• 37:11
  also
• 37:11
  for
• 37:11
  it
• 37:11
  to
• 37:12
  be
• 37:12
  okay
• 37:13
  to
• 37:13
  feel
• 37:14
  free
• 37:14
  enough
• 37:14
  to
• 37:14
  make
• 37:15
  mistakes,
• 37:15
  that
• 37:15
  you
• 37:16
  take
• 37:16
  risks.
• 37:17
  You
• 37:17
  know,
• 37:19
  I
• 37:19
  really
• 37:19
  appreciated
• 37:20
  that
• 37:21
  whole
• 37:21
  idea.
• 37:23
  Yeah.
• 37:23
  I
• 37:23
  feel
• 37:23
  like
• 37:24
  you
• 37:24
  have
• 37:24
  done
• 37:24
  that
• 37:25
  in
• 37:25
  your
• 37:25
  relationship,
• 37:26
  that
• 37:26
  you
• 37:27
  guys
• 37:27
  are
• 37:27
  that
• 37:27
  way.
• 37:28
  Yeah.
• 37:28
  And
• 37:28
  in
• 37:28
  the
• 37:29
  beginning,
• 37:29
  it
• 37:29
  wasn't
• 37:29
  super
• 37:30
  easy.
• 37:30
  Like,
• 37:30
  we're
• 37:30
  fundamentally
• 37:31
  pretty
• 37:31
  different,
• 37:32
  but
• 37:33
  both
• 37:33
  of
• 37:33
  us
• 37:33
  made
• 37:34
  the
• 37:34
  choice
• 37:34
  to
• 37:35
  make
• 37:35
  adjustments
• 37:36
  in
• 37:36
  our
• 37:36
  lives
• 37:37
  in
• 37:37
  the
• 37:37
  interest
• 37:38
  of
• 37:38
  our
• 37:38
  relationship,
• 37:39
  you
• 37:39
  know,
• 37:40
  And
• 37:40
  I
• 37:40
  think,
• 37:40
  again,
• 37:41
  it's
• 37:41
  like.
• 37:41
  Like
• 37:42
  he.
• 37:43
  I
• 37:43
  feel
• 37:43
  so
• 37:43
  accepted
• 37:44
  by
• 37:44
  my
• 37:44
  husband,
• 37:45
  and
• 37:45
  I
• 37:45
  fully
• 37:45
  accept
• 37:46
  him,
• 37:46
  too.
• 37:46
  And
• 37:46
  we
• 37:47
  are
• 37:47
  both
• 37:47
  imperfect
• 37:47
  people.
• 37:48
  Good.
• 37:49
  But
• 37:49
  we
• 37:49
  are
• 37:49
  perfect
• 37:49
  for
• 37:49
  each
• 37:50
  other.
• 37:50
  Right.
• 37:50
  Right.
• 37:51
  That's.
• 37:51
  No,
• 37:51
  I
• 37:52
  think
• 37:52
  that's
• 37:52
  really
• 37:52
  good.
• 37:52
  And
• 37:53
  then
• 37:53
  that
• 37:53
  was.
• 37:53
  One
• 37:53
  of
• 37:53
  the
• 37:53
  things
• 37:53
  I
• 37:54
  liked
• 37:54
  about
• 37:54
  this
• 37:54
  book
• 37:55
  in
• 37:55
  general
• 37:56
  is
• 37:56
  that
• 37:56
  it
• 37:57
  certainly
• 37:57
  applies
• 37:58
  to
• 37:58
  children
• 37:59
  and
• 37:59
  raising
• 37:59
  children.
• 38:00
  There's
• 38:00
  a
• 38:00
  lot
• 38:00
  in
• 38:01
  there
• 38:01
  about
• 38:01
  that.
• 38:01
  But
• 38:02
  it
• 38:02
  does
• 38:02
  get
• 38:02
  into
• 38:03
  relationships.
• 38:04
  It
• 38:04
  gets
• 38:04
  into
• 38:05
  using
• 38:06
  growth
• 38:06
  mindset
• 38:06
  in
• 38:07
  business
• 38:09
  and
• 38:09
  in
• 38:10
  sports.
• 38:12
  And,
• 38:12
  I
• 38:13
  mean,
• 38:13
  so
• 38:13
  it
• 38:13
  goes
• 38:14
  beyond
• 38:14
  just
• 38:16
  being
• 38:16
  a
• 38:16
  parenting
• 38:17
  work.
• 38:17
  It's
• 38:18
  much
• 38:18
  more
• 38:18
  than
• 38:19
  that.
• 38:20
  It's
• 38:21
  a
• 38:21
  lifestyle
• 38:21
  choice.
• 38:22
  It
• 38:22
  really
• 38:22
  is.
• 38:23
  No,
• 38:23
  it
• 38:23
  really
• 38:24
  is.
• 38:24
  And
• 38:25
  it's
• 38:25
  funny,
• 38:26
  because
• 38:27
  even
• 38:27
  I,
• 38:28
  an
• 38:28
  educator,
• 38:29
  I
• 38:29
  consider
• 38:30
  myself
• 38:30
  an
• 38:30
  educator.
• 38:31
  You
• 38:31
  are
• 38:31
  an
• 38:31
  educator.
• 38:31
  Well,
• 38:32
  I
• 38:32
  think.
• 38:32
  I
• 38:32
  think
• 38:32
  of
• 38:32
  own
• 38:33
  it.
• 38:33
  I
• 38:33
  own
• 38:33
  it.
• 38:34
  I
• 38:34
  am
• 38:34
  an
• 38:34
  educator.
• 38:36
  But
• 38:37
  even
• 38:37
  I
• 38:38
  so
• 38:39
  easily
• 38:39
  fall
• 38:39
  into
• 38:40
  the
• 38:40
  trap
• 38:41
  of,
• 38:41
  whenever
• 38:42
  I
• 38:42
  see
• 38:42
  your
• 38:43
  baby,
• 38:43
  I'm
• 38:43
  telling
• 38:44
  her,
• 38:44
  oh,
• 38:44
  you
• 38:44
  are
• 38:44
  so
• 38:45
  smart.
• 38:46
  Oh,
• 38:46
  you
• 38:46
  know,
• 38:47
  you're
• 38:47
  gifted.
• 38:47
  She
• 38:48
  is,
• 38:48
  but
• 38:48
  she
• 38:48
  doesn't
• 38:48
  need
• 38:48
  to
• 38:49
  hear
• 38:49
  it
• 38:49
  from
• 38:49
  us.
• 38:49
  No,
• 38:50
  no,
• 38:50
  but
• 38:50
  exactly.
• 38:51
  It's
• 38:51
  like,
• 38:52
  it's
• 38:53
  so
• 38:53
  natural
• 38:54
  to
• 38:54
  say
• 38:54
  that
• 38:54
  is
• 38:55
  all
• 38:55
  I'm
• 38:55
  saying
• 38:56
  to
• 38:57
  a
• 38:57
  beautiful
• 38:57
  little
• 38:57
  baby
• 38:58
  or
• 38:58
  a
• 38:58
  toddler
• 38:59
  or
• 38:59
  whatever.
• 38:59
  And
• 39:00
  we
• 39:00
  really
• 39:00
  have
• 39:01
  to
• 39:01
  remember,
• 39:02
  you
• 39:02
  know,
• 39:03
  when
• 39:03
  we're
• 39:03
  praising
• 39:04
  and
• 39:05
  encouraging,
• 39:06
  what,
• 39:07
  you
• 39:07
  know,
• 39:07
  how
• 39:07
  to
• 39:07
  do
• 39:08
  it.
• 39:08
  Yeah.
• 39:09
  And
• 39:10
  because
• 39:10
  I
• 39:11
  remember
• 39:11
  one
• 39:11
  of
• 39:11
  the
• 39:11
  studies
• 39:12
  that
• 39:12
  was
• 39:12
  in
• 39:12
  the
• 39:13
  book
• 39:13
  was,
• 39:13
  you
• 39:13
  know,
• 39:14
  they
• 39:14
  literally
• 39:15
  showed
• 39:16
  how
• 39:16
  praising
• 39:17
  incorrectly
• 39:19
  lowers
• 39:19
  a
• 39:19
  person's
• 39:20
  iq.
• 39:20
  It
• 39:21
  doesn't.
• 39:21
  So
• 39:22
  it's
• 39:22
  not
• 39:22
  just
• 39:22
  a
• 39:23
  little.
• 39:23
  I
• 39:23
  mean,
• 39:23
  not
• 39:23
  that
• 39:24
  IQ
• 39:24
  is
• 39:24
  everything,
• 39:25
  but
• 39:25
  it's
• 39:25
  like,
• 39:25
  we
• 39:26
  don't
• 39:26
  want
• 39:26
  to
• 39:26
  be
• 39:26
  making
• 39:26
  our
• 39:27
  kids
• 39:27
  less
• 39:27
  smart.
• 39:28
  Yeah.
• 39:29
  We're
• 39:29
  making
• 39:29
  them,
• 39:30
  like,
• 39:30
  less
• 39:30
  invested
• 39:31
  in
• 39:31
  their
• 39:31
  growth.
• 39:32
  Yeah.
• 39:32
  You
• 39:32
  know,
• 39:32
  it's
• 39:33
  like,
• 39:33
  I'm
• 39:33
  good
• 39:33
  enough
• 39:34
  as
• 39:34
  it
• 39:34
  is.
• 39:35
  Obviously,
• 39:35
  I'm
• 39:36
  rest
• 39:36
  on
• 39:36
  this,
• 39:36
  Laurel.
• 39:37
  Grammy
• 39:37
  thinks
• 39:37
  I'm
• 39:38
  gifted.
• 39:38
  That's
• 39:39
  enough.
• 39:39
  That's
• 39:39
  enough
• 39:39
  for
• 39:40
  me.
• 39:40
  No,
• 39:41
  I
• 39:41
  have
• 39:41
  to
• 39:41
  stop
• 39:42
  that.
• 39:42
  Yeah,
• 39:42
  yeah.
• 39:43
  So
• 39:43
  I
• 39:43
  realize
• 39:44
  I
• 39:44
  really
• 39:44
  do
• 39:44
  have
• 39:44
  to
• 39:45
  stop
• 39:45
  that.
• 39:45
  Yeah.
• 39:46
  Listen,
• 39:46
  she
• 39:47
  doesn't
• 39:47
  understand
• 39:48
  anything
• 39:48
  at
• 39:48
  this
• 39:48
  point.
• 39:48
  No,
• 39:48
  I
• 39:49
  know.
• 39:49
  So
• 39:49
  it's
• 39:49
  okay.
• 39:49
  Although
• 39:50
  she
• 39:50
  does
• 39:50
  love
• 39:51
  Dr.
• 39:51
  Seuss
• 39:52
  already.
• 39:52
  Yeah,
• 39:53
  she
• 39:53
  loves
• 39:53
  Dr.
• 39:54
  Seuss.
• 39:54
  She
• 39:54
  loves
• 39:54
  the
• 39:54
  pictures.
• 39:55
  She
• 39:55
  loves
• 39:55
  the
• 39:55
  rhymes.
• 39:57
  She's
• 39:57
  really
• 39:58
  into
• 39:58
  it.
• 39:59
  Good.
• 39:59
  I'm
• 39:59
  so
• 39:59
  happy
• 40:00
  that
• 40:00
  you
• 40:00
  found.
• 40:00
  I
• 40:01
  love
• 40:01
  Dr.
• 40:01
  Seuss
• 40:01
  too.
• 40:02
  I
• 40:02
  know.
• 40:02
  I'm
• 40:02
  gonna
• 40:02
  go
• 40:02
  to
• 40:02
  Barnes
• 40:03
  and
• 40:03
  Noble
• 40:03
  tomorrow
• 40:03
  and
• 40:03
  get
• 40:04
  him
• 40:04
  a
• 40:04
  million.
• 40:06
  She's
• 40:06
  just
• 40:07
  obsessed.
• 40:08
  I
• 40:08
  know.
• 40:08
  Well,
• 40:09
  that's
• 40:09
  good.
• 40:09
  I
• 40:09
  ended
• 40:10
  the
• 40:10
  rhyming
• 40:10
  messages.
• 40:11
  I
• 40:11
  know.
• 40:11
  We
• 40:12
  read
• 40:12
  Horton
• 40:12
  Here's
• 40:12
  a
• 40:12
  who
• 40:13
  last
• 40:13
  night,
• 40:14
  and
• 40:14
  it's
• 40:15
  all
• 40:15
  about,
• 40:16
  you
• 40:16
  know,
• 40:16
  a
• 40:16
  person
• 40:17
  is
• 40:17
  a
• 40:17
  person,
• 40:17
  no
• 40:18
  matter
• 40:18
  how
• 40:18
  small.
• 40:19
  I
• 40:20
  was
• 40:20
  like,
• 40:20
  ah,
• 40:20
  that's
• 40:21
  so
• 40:21
  sweet.
• 40:22
  No
• 40:22
  great
• 40:22
  messages.
• 40:23
  I
• 40:23
  agree.
• 40:24
  So.
• 40:24
  Okay,
• 40:25
  good.
• 40:25
  We'll
• 40:25
  get
• 40:25
  some
• 40:26
  more
• 40:26
  books
• 40:26
  for.
• 40:27
  We
• 40:27
  will.
• 40:28
  And
• 40:28
  what
• 40:28
  I
• 40:28
  was
• 40:28
  gonna
• 40:29
  say
• 40:29
  as
• 40:29
  I
• 40:29
  went
• 40:29
  online
• 40:30
  today,
• 40:31
  there's
• 40:31
  so
• 40:31
  much
• 40:32
  information.
• 40:33
  As
• 40:33
  a
• 40:33
  parent,
• 40:34
  if
• 40:34
  you
• 40:34
  want
• 40:34
  to
• 40:34
  learn
• 40:35
  more
• 40:35
  about
• 40:35
  growth
• 40:36
  mindset,
• 40:37
  you
• 40:37
  can
• 40:37
  look
• 40:37
  it
• 40:37
  up.
• 40:38
  There's
• 40:38
  tons
• 40:38
  of
• 40:38
  articles.
• 40:40
  There
• 40:40
  are
• 40:40
  picture
• 40:41
  books
• 40:41
  about
• 40:42
  a
• 40:42
  growth
• 40:42
  mindset.
• 40:43
  I
• 40:44
  want
• 40:44
  one.
• 40:44
  Well,
• 40:44
  I
• 40:45
  found
• 40:45
  two
• 40:45
  that
• 40:45
  I
• 40:46
  was
• 40:46
  thinking
• 40:46
  of
• 40:46
  ordering
• 40:48
  for
• 40:48
  you
• 40:50
  that
• 40:50
  are
• 40:50
  just
• 40:50
  picture
• 40:51
  books
• 40:51
  for
• 40:51
  me
• 40:51
  and
• 40:51
  for
• 40:52
  my
• 40:52
  baby.
• 40:52
  For
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  the
• 40:52
  baby?
• 40:53
  Really?
• 40:53
  For
• 40:53
  the
• 40:53
  baby.
• 40:54
  Like
• 40:54
  the
• 40:54
  power
• 40:55
  of
• 40:55
  the
• 40:55
  word
• 40:55
  yet.
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  When
• 40:57
  a
• 40:57
  child
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  says,
• 40:57
  well,
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  I
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  can't
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  do
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  that,
• 40:58
  you
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  say,
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  well,
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  you
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  can't
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  do
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  it
• 41:00
  yet.
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  Not
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  with
• 41:01
  that
• 41:02
  attitude.
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  Well,
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  the
• 41:03
  word
• 41:03
  yet
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  is
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  like
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  yet.
• 41:05
  But
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  when
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  you
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  practice,
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  you
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  will
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  be
• 41:07
  able
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  to
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  do
• 41:07
  that.
• 41:07
  So
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  there
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  are
• 41:08
  picture
• 41:08
  books
• 41:09
  that
• 41:09
  you
• 41:09
  can
• 41:09
  read
• 41:10
  to
• 41:10
  your
• 41:10
  kids
• 41:11
  that
• 41:11
  start
• 41:11
  to
• 41:11
  impart
• 41:12
  this
• 41:13
  thought
• 41:13
  process
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  into
• 41:14
  it.
• 41:14
  Yeah.
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  And
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  there's
• 41:16
  also.
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  You're
• 41:17
  gonna
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  love
• 41:17
  this.
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  There's
• 41:19
  some
• 41:19
  episodes
• 41:20
  of
• 41:20
  Sesame
• 41:20
  street
• 41:21
  where
• 41:21
  they're
• 41:22
  doing
• 41:22
  growth
• 41:22
  mindset,
• 41:23
  and
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  the
• 41:24
  power
• 41:24
  of
• 41:24
  the
• 41:24
  word
• 41:24
  yet.
• 41:25
  Wow.
• 41:25
  I
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  know.
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  You
• 41:27
  just
• 41:27
  go
• 41:27
  on
• 41:28
  YouTube
• 41:28
  and
• 41:28
  you
• 41:28
  can
• 41:28
  find
• 41:29
  those.
• 41:30
  So
• 41:30
  there's
• 41:30
  a
• 41:30
  lot
• 41:30
  to
• 41:31
  support
• 41:32
  this
• 41:32
  book.
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  You
• 41:34
  know,
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  if
• 41:34
  you
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  want
• 41:35
  to
• 41:35
  get
• 41:35
  to
• 41:35
  the
• 41:35
  source,
• 41:36
  read
• 41:36
  the
• 41:36
  book,
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  you
• 41:37
  know,
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  because
• 41:38
  you
• 41:38
  can
• 41:38
  see
• 41:39
  all
• 41:39
  the
• 41:39
  ways
• 41:40
  that
• 41:40
  it
• 41:40
  applies.
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  Yeah.
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  You
• 41:42
  can
• 41:42
  see
• 41:42
  all
• 41:42
  the
• 41:42
  research
• 41:43
  behind
• 41:43
  it,
• 41:44
  and
• 41:44
  then
• 41:45
  there's
• 41:45
  a
• 41:45
  lot.
• 41:45
  And
• 41:46
  then
• 41:46
  you're
• 41:46
  gonna
• 41:46
  see
• 41:47
  it
• 41:47
  at
• 41:47
  school
• 41:47
  because
• 41:48
  it's
• 41:48
  in
• 41:49
  most
• 41:49
  schools
• 41:49
  now.
• 41:50
  Thank
• 41:50
  God.
• 41:50
  They're.
• 41:51
  They're
• 41:51
  more
• 41:52
  enlightened.
• 41:53
  Yeah.
• 41:53
  And
• 41:53
  teachers
• 41:54
  have
• 41:54
  a.
• 41:54
  More
• 41:54
  of
• 41:55
  a
• 41:55
  growth
• 41:55
  mindset
• 41:56
  rather
• 41:56
  than
• 41:56
  a
• 41:56
  few
• 41:57
  fixed
• 41:57
  mindset.
• 41:57
  Yeah.
• 41:58
  It's
• 41:58
  good
• 41:58
  that
• 41:58
  something
• 41:59
  like
• 41:59
  that
• 41:59
  has
• 41:59
  proliferated
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  because
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  this
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  is.
• 42:01
  It's
• 42:02
  again.
• 42:02
  It's
• 42:02
  something
• 42:02
  that
• 42:03
  can
• 42:03
  take
• 42:03
  you
• 42:03
  through
• 42:03
  life.
• 42:04
  It's
• 42:04
  one
• 42:04
  of
• 42:04
  those.
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  One
• 42:05
  of
• 42:05
  the
• 42:05
  things
• 42:05
  in
• 42:06
  school.
• 42:06
  I
• 42:06
  learned
• 42:06
  a
• 42:06
  lot
• 42:07
  in
• 42:07
  school
• 42:07
  that
• 42:07
  I
• 42:07
  will
• 42:08
  never
• 42:08
  use,
• 42:09
  but
• 42:09
  that's
• 42:09
  something
• 42:09
  that,
• 42:10
  if
• 42:10
  it
• 42:11
  is
• 42:11
  taught
• 42:11
  early
• 42:11
  enough,
• 42:12
  can
• 42:12
  really
• 42:13
  change
• 42:13
  the
• 42:13
  course
• 42:13
  of
• 42:13
  someone's
• 42:14
  life.
• 42:14
  Yeah,
• 42:14
  absolutely.
• 42:15
  So,
• 42:17
  okay,
• 42:17
  so
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  you.
• 42:18
  Obviously,
• 42:18
  you.
• 42:18
  It
• 42:19
  sounds.
• 42:19
  I
• 42:19
  really
• 42:19
  enjoyed
• 42:20
  it.
• 42:20
  I
• 42:20
  would
• 42:20
  recommend
• 42:21
  it.
• 42:21
  I
• 42:21
  would
• 42:21
  give
• 42:22
  it
• 42:22
  a
• 42:22
  10.
• 42:22
  This
• 42:23
  is
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  the
• 42:23
  first
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  10
• 42:24
  I
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  have.
• 42:25
  I
• 42:25
  have
• 42:25
  handed
• 42:25
  out.
• 42:26
  Yes.
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  Oh,
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  good.
• 42:27
  Okay.
• 42:28
  Okay.
• 42:28
  Well,
• 42:28
  I
• 42:28
  would
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  give
• 42:29
  it
• 42:29
  a
• 42:29
  10,
• 42:29
  too.
• 42:30
  It's.
• 42:30
  It's
• 42:30
  a.
• 42:30
  It's.
• 42:31
  It's
• 42:31
  kind
• 42:31
  of
• 42:32
  a
• 42:32
  central
• 42:32
  idea
• 42:33
  that
• 42:33
  if
• 42:34
  you
• 42:34
  have
• 42:34
  it,
• 42:36
  you
• 42:36
  know,
• 42:36
  you
• 42:36
  just
• 42:37
  build
• 42:37
  it
• 42:37
  into
• 42:37
  your
• 42:38
  everyday
• 42:38
  discussions
• 42:39
  with
• 42:39
  your
• 42:39
  child
• 42:40
  and
• 42:40
  the
• 42:41
  way
• 42:41
  you
• 42:41
  encourage
• 42:41
  your
• 42:42
  child.
• 42:42
  Yeah.
• 42:43
  You
• 42:43
  can
• 42:44
  make
• 42:44
  a
• 42:44
  huge
• 42:44
  difference
• 42:44
  in
• 42:45
  their
• 42:45
  life.
• 42:45
  So
• 42:45
  I.
• 42:46
  I
• 42:46
  would
• 42:46
  say.
• 42:46
  Absolutely.
• 42:48
  Absolutely.
• 42:49
  Let's
• 42:49
  go
• 42:49
  with
• 42:49
  it.
• 42:49
  Highly
• 42:50
  recommend.
• 42:52
  Okay.
• 42:52
  Thank
• 42:52
  you
• 42:52
  guys
• 42:53
  so
• 42:53
  much
• 42:53
  for
• 42:53
  joining
• 42:54
  us
• 42:54
  for
• 42:54
  this
• 42:54
  episode
• 42:55
  of
• 42:55
  Other
• 42:55
  People's
• 42:56
  Parenting,
• 42:56
  and
• 42:56
  we
• 42:57
  hope
• 42:57
  to
• 42:57
  see
• 42:57
  you
• 42:58
  next
• 42:58
  week.