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Episode 376 "Deiondra Sanders" · The Baller Alert Show

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Speaker 1: They called me.
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Speaker 2: Broadcasting live from Atlanta, Georgia. This is the Ball Alert Show.
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Speaker 2: I go by the name of Ferrari Simmons, my co host.
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Speaker 2: You know, BT is out being famous with Bow Wow
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Speaker 2: in New York. But I got some good friends that
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Speaker 2: pulled up. Do y'all dream to build that yond? Saander's
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Speaker 2: my bad in the building. Make sure I say it right.
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Speaker 2: Chanelle and Nicole Scott? What's up, lady? How y'all doing? Now?
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Speaker 2: You pulled up relationship matters? You got some cards you're from,
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Speaker 2: play some games we're from talking about We're gonna talk
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Speaker 2: about some stuff today.
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Speaker 3: Yeah, we're gonna talk about sex and we're gonna talk
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Speaker 3: about navigating past pain and trauma.
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Speaker 2: Okay, just a little bit, okay, Yeah? Now when when? When?
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Speaker 2: When I got a call they said, oh yeah, Deandrean's
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Speaker 2: come on the show. I was like cool, But then
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Speaker 2: they was like, she's bringing somebody to I was like,
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Speaker 2: who the hell you finna bring? And now we're talking
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Speaker 2: about you. I get the whole press release and I'm
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Speaker 2: reading through it. I really want to get right into it.
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Speaker 2: What exactly do you do? Are you a relationship expert coach?
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Speaker 2: Are you a therapist.
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Speaker 1: So I like to talk about relationships.
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Speaker 3: I would consider myself to be a conversationalist or a
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Speaker 3: thought leader. Other people may say a relationship expert. I
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Speaker 3: have experiential knowledge, I have personal experiences that I can
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Speaker 3: speak from, and I spend a lot of time in
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Speaker 3: this space.
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Speaker 2: Okay, now, how did you meet this young lady here? Wow?
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Speaker 2: You really want to get into It's a nice combo.
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Speaker 2: I like it, like so uh.
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Speaker 1: As everyone knows.
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Speaker 3: Deandra had something play out on social media, and it
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Speaker 3: was because I do relationship talk, and you know, I
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Speaker 3: spent a lot of time in this space. It was
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Speaker 3: very triggering to me, and so I wanted to connect
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Speaker 3: with her and maybe.
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Speaker 1: Work on a couple of projects.
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Speaker 3: Right. I really focus on the whole idea of operating
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Speaker 3: in purpose because I truly believe that when you operate
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Speaker 3: in purpose, a lot of the stuff that we go
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Speaker 3: through in relationships it has no effect. When you know
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Speaker 3: who you are, when you know who your what your
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Speaker 3: identity is, then you're like, Okay, so you don't like me,
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Speaker 3: or you're mistreating me, then I'm gonna move around. We're
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Speaker 3: not gonna stay we not We're not gonna stick around.
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Speaker 3: We're not gonna overstay all welcome, We're gonna move forward.
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Speaker 3: And so I wanted to connect with her to work
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Speaker 3: on some things. She's working on a journal about pre
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Speaker 3: and what.
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Speaker 1: Is it pre postpartum, pre and post partum.
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Speaker 2: Yes, yes, I definitely want to talk about that. Now
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Speaker 2: you are engaged to a good friend of mine, Jack Queese.
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Speaker 2: I've been knowing this guy since you were like seventeen
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Speaker 2: years old, and uh, whoa, whoa was that?
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Speaker 3: What?
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Speaker 2: We gotta start drinking water for a friend down?
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Speaker 1: I think she's thirsty.
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Speaker 2: Okay, okay, well, I pay attention to it. I pay
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Speaker 2: attention to okay. Cool. And some stuff did play out
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Speaker 2: on social media? Do you care to give us a
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Speaker 2: small summary of what happened?
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Speaker 1: I mean, I feel like everyone.
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Speaker 2: Knows what for the people that may not know, I.
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Speaker 1: Just I just honestly feel like people were giving a
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Speaker 1: platform to say how they feel and I wasn't given
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Speaker 1: a platform to say how I feel. So that's kind
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Speaker 1: of why I said the stuff that I said, you know,
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Speaker 1: on social media, which.
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Speaker 2: Which tends to when you say things on social media,
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Speaker 2: people take it all the way to tea.
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Speaker 1: You know that they misinterpret my stuff they do it,
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Speaker 1: I will say, though I probably shouldn't have done that,
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Speaker 1: but I don't regret what I said because that is
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Speaker 1: how I felt at the time. But I do take
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Speaker 1: you know, responsibility and accountability for I shouldn't have handled
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Speaker 1: it that way. Wow, what about?
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Speaker 2: It's just something that feels good when I hear the
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Speaker 2: opposite sex say I take accountability and responsibility. Wow.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, But I just you know, the reason why, like
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Speaker 1: I said, I felt like I did it is because
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Speaker 1: I wasn't given the opportunity to say how I feel.
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Speaker 1: And it honestly just started, you know. I just people
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Speaker 1: read the comments. Someone asked where was your fiance? So
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Speaker 1: I thought the need to respond, like so that's kind
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Speaker 1: of how it's started from there, and then just going forward,
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Speaker 1: it's just like different stuff that I've heard. I've seen
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Speaker 1: stuff that has you know, in the past, stuff just
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Speaker 1: like how I said before, just how she moves. I
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Speaker 1: just feel like as women we should support one another,
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Speaker 1: especially knowing the situation that he is in now, you know,
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Speaker 1: becoming a family man. If you're his real friend, then
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Speaker 1: you should be happy and accept the person that he chooses,
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Speaker 1: you know, to live his life with instead of you.
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Speaker 1: Don't even want to meet me. You can't even address
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Speaker 1: me by my name. You say all his women, all
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Speaker 1: this kind of stuff. That's just kind of like you're
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Speaker 1: not a girl's girl. Like like I said on my
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Speaker 1: other interview, I went to her, approached her and introduced myself,
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Speaker 1: and she didn't want to meet me, like he had
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Speaker 1: to be like dage. She's saying, you know what I'm saying.
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Speaker 1: So that's the whole thing that I just don't really
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Speaker 1: like the image that's getting viewed of me when I've
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Speaker 1: actually tried to do it the right way. So it's like,
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Speaker 1: if y'all are going to say this, how my daddy say,
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Speaker 1: put it on the table, Let's tell the true truth.
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Speaker 1: I was learned to put stuff on the table, say
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Speaker 1: the truth, and it is what it is. So that's
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Speaker 1: the whole thing with that.
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Speaker 2: When you put things on the table. How was it
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Speaker 2: received on your fiance side? What was his response?
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Speaker 1: It wasn't good. But you know we've talked about between us,
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Speaker 1: like why it wasn't good, it.
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Speaker 2: Wasn't good, or you didn't like what he say? What
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Speaker 2: he said?
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Speaker 1: I mean, well I feel like that it wasn't good.
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Speaker 1: I didn't like what he said, But once we talked
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Speaker 1: about it, it's like, I won't say I'm more understanding,
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Speaker 1: but it's just like it's certain things that you know,
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Speaker 1: he kind of got to make sure to make sure
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Speaker 1: that this project goes through. And that's all I'm gonna say.
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Speaker 2: Okay, shout out to my wife Tanisha. She just had
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Speaker 2: a baby not too long ago. I mean it's actually
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Speaker 2: over a year. But I was telling her I was
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Speaker 2: an interview. She was like, you know what, you should
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Speaker 2: ask her about this, And I'm gonna ask you, now,
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Speaker 2: how is postpartum? And do men take that for granted?
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Speaker 1: It's real? It's I didn't really think it was that
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Speaker 1: real because I was like, oh, I have a lot
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Speaker 1: of help, you know, I don't think I'll be going
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Speaker 1: through it. Baby. It hit me hard. It hit me
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Speaker 1: very hard. Still, I had so much help and I
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Speaker 1: still have so much help, And it's still thoughts that
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Speaker 1: I'm like, why do I think like this? Even in
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Speaker 1: the very beginning, I'm like, I feel like I should
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Speaker 1: be happier me having a new baby. Why do I
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Speaker 1: feel like this different emotions that I had. It's very real,
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Speaker 1: and no one really tells you how to deal with it.
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Speaker 1: No one tells you, like a lot of stuff you
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Speaker 1: will feel it is not real. No one tells you
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Speaker 1: that a lot of thoughts you will think about it's
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Speaker 1: not real. Just this is your emotions and your hormones
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Speaker 1: trying to get back in tech. So you feel things.
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Speaker 1: I felt things one hundred times more, stuff that I
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Speaker 1: probably wouldn't even care about. It's like it stays in
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Speaker 1: my mind, you know what I'm saying. And I've never
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Speaker 1: been that type of person, so it's very real. And
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Speaker 1: like I said, I had all the help, so it
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Speaker 1: doesn't matter the help you have, it's still I could
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Speaker 1: have someone you know, helping me with my child, and
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Speaker 1: it's still the thoughts that I have about just done
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Speaker 1: lost my identity me being a new mom? Should I
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Speaker 1: be happier? Like I don't lost myself? Do is what
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Speaker 1: I ever become the person I was, you know before?
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Speaker 1: Which I realized I never will like that, DeAndre before
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Speaker 1: Snow is gone, and I have to be okay with
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Speaker 1: that and start to live in my new person as
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Speaker 1: a mother. You know what I'm saying. But it definitely
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Speaker 1: is a lot, and I think one of the biggest
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Speaker 1: things is just for a new mom that's never had
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Speaker 1: any kids, just you know, losing your identity and trying
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Speaker 1: to regain it as a mother.
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Speaker 2: What are some things that you did or happened that
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Speaker 2: you got through it or are you still dealing with
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Speaker 2: it now?
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Speaker 1: I feel like I'm still dealing with it, but it's
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Speaker 1: on the lower end. I feel like when I did
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Speaker 1: have that in the beginning, and when everyone's say my
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Speaker 1: crash out or whatever, I.
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Speaker 2: Do feel maybe I just call it a moment.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, my moment, because I'm like, I don't yet my moment.
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Speaker 1: I feel like that was probably that month was probably
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Speaker 1: the highest peak because I really couldn't control my emotions.
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Speaker 1: And I've always been the type that worked on myself mentally,
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Speaker 1: so I've always been able to control myself. But it's
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Speaker 1: like postpartum. I don't know what's going on. So a
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Speaker 1: lot of things that I have done to help it,
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Speaker 1: I feel like, is like Chanelle said, finding something to do,
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Speaker 1: walking in my purpose, praying to God. I'm a journaler.
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Speaker 1: That's why if a journal come alout, writing down my thoughts,
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Speaker 1: writing down my stuff that I feel like no one
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Speaker 1: will understand, but I can write it out, you know,
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Speaker 1: give it to God. Pray about it and just really
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Speaker 1: just do more things to where I'm just not sitting
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Speaker 1: around taking care of my child having an idle mind,
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Speaker 1: because that's when it gets you have too much time
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Speaker 1: to think about, too much negativity.
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Speaker 2: With someone like yourself to have as a dad that
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Speaker 2: is extremely popular, that takes so much public criticism. Did
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Speaker 2: you call him or talk to him about any things
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Speaker 2: like that? You give you some advice?
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Speaker 1: Yeah, you know, my dad always gives me advice. My
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Speaker 1: dad knows me, so he's.
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Speaker 2: Always, Oh, somebody won't you, somebody won't you? Oh, what's up? Dog?
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Speaker 2: What's up?
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Speaker 1: Man?
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Speaker 2: Fascinated? They I'm good with babies. I got five. Wow,
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Speaker 2: I don't even get me started.
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Speaker 1: But yeah, you know, my daddy knows me. So when
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Speaker 1: I did have my moment, he was like, I knew
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Speaker 1: it was coming sooner or later. But you can't do that.
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Speaker 1: You have to you know, you have to go about
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Speaker 1: it like this. You can't just go off when you're
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Speaker 1: mad like that, you know, Deandra. So we talked about it.
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Speaker 1: He told me different ways to you know, handle stuff
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Speaker 1: when I'm provoked, and just how to just kind of
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Speaker 1: like walk away and just I need to just you know,
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Speaker 1: get more back to me.
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Speaker 2: Now, are you practicing these things that he told you?
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Speaker 1: I'm practicing me because it's a lot of stuff I
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Speaker 1: wanted to stay on social media that I haven't lately,
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Speaker 1: So I would definitely say I'm practicing these things.
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Speaker 2: And are you and jack Ueeze in a good space
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Speaker 2: right now?
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Speaker 1: You know, we're working on it, and I'm like I
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Speaker 1: said before, I'm gonna let God take control and we're
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Speaker 1: gonna see. We're gonna see what is what we see?
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Speaker 2: Now, you guys gonna be good? Man. Okay, I'm ready.
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Speaker 2: I'm ready. Come on, let's play.
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Speaker 1: Okay, so we'll go start light.
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Speaker 2: Start light. Yeah, what's the difference in colors? What's the
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Speaker 2: blue color and the purple color?
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Speaker 3: So the purple is dealing with sex. The conversation started
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Speaker 3: on sex and relationships.
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Speaker 1: My daddy might see this, and.
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Speaker 3: Then it's a little bit deeper hell and journey navigating
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Speaker 3: past pain and trauma.
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Speaker 2: Okay, I've been in therapy, so I'm good. Oh lord, Okay,
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Speaker 2: we're gonna go blue. Yeah, Okay, can my wife be mad?
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Speaker 2: I gotta read this.
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Speaker 1: Yeah.
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Speaker 2: Have you sought professional help or therapy to address your
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Speaker 2: past pain or trauma, and how has your that experience
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Speaker 2: been for you. This is great because I just graduated
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Speaker 2: from weekly therapy to once a month. I have had
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Speaker 2: a lot of like personal trauma that I feel like
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Speaker 2: guarded me from trusting people one hundred percent. I still
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Speaker 2: don't even take it all the way to one hundred percent.
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Speaker 2: But I had really bad trust issues. I had bad temper, Okay,
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Speaker 2: So I just understood that I had to channel my energy.
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Speaker 2: But I didn't close a lot of things that were
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Speaker 2: kind of still open and passed relationships, friendships. A couple
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Speaker 2: of my good friends passed away. One of them was murdered,
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Speaker 2: so I never really got over it and then talking
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Speaker 2: it out, crying it out. You know, I think as
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Speaker 2: men like you just taught not to be emotional or cry.
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Speaker 2: So in this therapy session, I was crying and I
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Speaker 2: just kept getting mad every time I cried. Wow, So
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Speaker 2: I kept saying damn, like what's going on. So by
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Speaker 2: the time I graduated through it, I ain't trying to
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Speaker 2: get too deep. But I graduated through it. I was
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Speaker 2: learning how to channel my emotions and my temper. And
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Speaker 2: that's what I did. I did seek professional help. It's
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Speaker 2: the best thing ever happened to me?
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Speaker 3: Okay, and I would ask in a situation like this,
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Speaker 3: how does that play out in your relationship?
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Speaker 2: It plays out and everything, because now when my wife
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Speaker 2: and I have a moment, I'm not saying things I
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Speaker 2: shouldn't say. I'm not saying things that I don't mean
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Speaker 2: in that I don't mean in the heat of an argument.
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Speaker 2: I'm just taking a little breather because I'm over here,
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Speaker 2: like you know, I really do love you. This is
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Speaker 2: a ridiculous argument. Were gonna be cool in twenty minutes.
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Speaker 2: So you know that has helped me that way, because
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Speaker 2: now we went from little small moments to I barely
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Speaker 2: even have an issue with my wife. Yeah, she truly
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Speaker 2: is my best friend. So yeah, it helps, man, it helps.
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Speaker 2: But you gotta want to you gotta want to grow too,
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Speaker 2: damn man. Man, Dad, I try to get too deep
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Speaker 2: too early.
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Speaker 1: Man, because a lot of black men don't believe.
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Speaker 2: I didn't believe until a long time. To me a
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Speaker 2: long time, just like.
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Speaker 1: Just giving you your flowers, because it takes a lot
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Speaker 1: to really go to therapy and even like you said,
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Speaker 1: continue doing the work.
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Speaker 2: Look, I got multiple baby mamas that used to be
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Speaker 2: a bad I don't say a bad guy. I was
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Speaker 2: outside and I never I kept realizing it's the same
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Speaker 2: argument with a different person. It's me. Yeah, So I
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Speaker 2: went and got help. So I know I have a platform,
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Speaker 2: so I got to say it as much as possible
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Speaker 2: per platform, because when I do say these things, people
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Speaker 2: do DM me and say, hey, bro, I appreciate you
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Speaker 2: saying that on that particular episode, I went and got help,
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Speaker 2: so I appreciate that, yeah, for sure.
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Speaker 3: So that's the epitome of what it is that I do,
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Speaker 3: having you articulate that and allowing other people who have
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Speaker 3: similar experiences as you do hear you say that that
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Speaker 3: you just planted a seed.
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Speaker 2: I just couldn't. I didn't. It took me so long
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Speaker 2: to mentally articulate myself to be able to receive it too,
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Speaker 2: because I just I'm just trying to get money, Like
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Speaker 2: we just think, I get money, you know girls and
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Speaker 2: go to the crib and just repeat and just get
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Speaker 2: some money and some girls. You know. That's literally all
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Speaker 2: I thought in my head. I didn't think legacy, family,
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Speaker 2: I didn't think that deep into who I am and
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Speaker 2: leaving a legacy for people to say, Okay, wow, that
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Speaker 2: what he did when he was here meant something. Yeah,
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Speaker 2: and he touched a lot of people. So I I
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Speaker 2: really didn't pay attention to it until I was at
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Speaker 2: an age where I don't even think it was an
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Speaker 2: age thing. I think I was at a moment in
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Speaker 2: my life while I was ready to receive it. So
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Speaker 2: I don't know. I think men we all mature differently.
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Speaker 2: Some men never really mature fully to say, Okay, I'm
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Speaker 2: cool with receiving this type of advice or mentorship or
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Speaker 2: dealing with conflict. You know, a lot of men issues
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Speaker 2: are conflict resolution. It's just dumb arguments that lead to
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Speaker 2: death that has nothing to do with it. Could have
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Speaker 2: just been a quick conversation. Absolutely, If you really look
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Speaker 2: at what we argue about as men, it's like the
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Speaker 2: dumbest stuff ever. Yeah, it's like streets and neighborhoods and yeah,
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Speaker 2: you looked at me wrong, and now I'll shoot you
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Speaker 2: and your dad, and it's the cycle continues. There's literally
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Speaker 2: stuff like that.
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Speaker 1: So yeah, all right, so let's do something a little lighter.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, let's go lighter man. Now, let's let bro the
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Speaker 2: hell I feel I feel like I'm getting interviewed.
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Speaker 1: What are your views on the importance of sex and
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Speaker 1: a romantic relationship.
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Speaker 2: Damn, go ahead this one.
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Speaker 1: It's not that bad my views are. You know, how
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Speaker 1: important is it? It's important, but I will say that
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Speaker 1: it's very important. I also will say that when you
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Speaker 1: love someone and the chemistry is there, I feel like
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Speaker 1: the other stuff is gonna, you know, be there as well.
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Speaker 1: It's no way you're weird about. Especially if you have chemistry,
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Speaker 1: then you know the sex is gonna be great because
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Speaker 1: y'all have that type of chemistry.
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Speaker 2: Oh so you're saying you and Jack have great sex?
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Speaker 2: Is that what you're saying? That's how, that's how, that's
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Speaker 2: how the baby got here.
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Speaker 1: Well, y'all know how the baby got It's like I
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Speaker 1: feel like, I mean, y'all should know the answer to that.
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Speaker 1: We want to hear you say it, but it's like,
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Speaker 1: I'm scared because my family might watch this.
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Speaker 2: Oh my god, I.
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Speaker 1: Know, but I don't want to talk about it. But
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Speaker 1: I mean, shoot, y'all know what that nigga talk about
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Speaker 1: sing about? Yeah, I know what's going on.
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Speaker 2: Okay, everything on top.
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Speaker 1: But yeah, so I just want to say it is
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Speaker 1: it is very important because I have had a relationship
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Speaker 1: like I said before, in the past where we had
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Speaker 1: no sexual chemistry. It even got to the point where
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Speaker 1: I felt bad for not you know, like having sex
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Speaker 1: with him. And I was like, you know what, you
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Speaker 1: can have sex with someone else if you will WHOA
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Speaker 1: Because I was like, you know, I know you're a man,
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Speaker 1: I know you have needs, but it's just it's not
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Speaker 1: there for me, Like it's not there for me. But
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Speaker 1: so then you're in the relationship though. I mean, the
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Speaker 1: thing is he treated me so good.
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Speaker 2: She's not talking about Jack Quice. Guys, definitely not you
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Speaker 2: know what I'm saying.
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Speaker 1: Definitely not talking about him. But I was like, God,
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Speaker 1: please let it in. Oh wow, Like, please do something
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Speaker 1: where its naturally where I don't have to like you know,
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Speaker 1: break him and stuff like that. And to what you
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Speaker 1: pray for, a god will do. So God let it in.
17:36
Speaker 1: Something natural happen where we ended, and you know, it
17:38
Speaker 1: was what it was. It wasn't ended on super horrible terms.
17:41
Speaker 1: It was what it was.
17:42
Speaker 2: So my turn, I'm going purple. I'm going purple. Do
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Speaker 2: you have any boundaries or limits when it comes to
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Speaker 2: sexual activities? I definitely got some boundaries for sure, Like
17:57
Speaker 2: what I don't you know I don't like you know,
18:01
Speaker 2: I mean, I mean I feel like I feel like,
18:06
Speaker 2: don't touch my butt. Okay, well I don't touch don't
18:09
Speaker 2: touch like, don't touch back there. You know what I'm saying.
18:13
Speaker 2: I would just like to say I have great sexual
18:15
Speaker 2: chemistry with my wife. I've been with her for a
18:17
Speaker 2: long I love the way she smelled, taste all types
18:20
Speaker 2: of man. Savannah one time for Tanisa five years, six
18:26
Speaker 2: years this year. But again, she's the first woman I
18:30
Speaker 2: really said. I was like, wow, like I okay, this
18:32
Speaker 2: is this is when someone says my person right. I
18:35
Speaker 2: didn't know what that felt like until I met her.
18:38
Speaker 1: Talk about that.
18:38
Speaker 2: I just was I was outside a lot. You know,
18:40
Speaker 2: baby mama's child supports all type of shit. I'm good,
18:43
Speaker 2: but I just say that to say, you know, when
18:45
Speaker 2: I met her, I was like, wow, okay, one of
18:47
Speaker 2: my grooms men is back there, Jay Rock. I cried
18:50
Speaker 2: when I was saying the vows, like I was perfectly
18:54
Speaker 2: fine until I had to talk. You know what I'm saying.
18:55
Speaker 2: He was getting married, So like, you know, she cool.
18:58
Speaker 2: I feel like we have great chem street and everything.
19:00
Speaker 2: I can literally sit down and talk to her for
19:03
Speaker 2: an hour straight person. I don't want to embarrass. I
19:07
Speaker 2: don't want to make her feel sad. I don't want
19:09
Speaker 2: her to I don't want to hear her feelings. You
19:10
Speaker 2: know what I'm saying.
19:11
Speaker 1: Again, Yeah, say it again.
19:15
Speaker 2: You know I'm not I'm not an R and B
19:17
Speaker 2: group singer. Man, Okay, I don't have a female audience.
19:21
Speaker 1: I just want to hear what I didn't hear it.
19:25
Speaker 3: You'll get into that, man, say that because you don't
19:29
Speaker 3: want to what I want.
19:30
Speaker 2: Her her feelings.
19:32
Speaker 1: But again, you know that's beautiful.
19:34
Speaker 2: But don't don't do that.
19:35
Speaker 1: I don't want to because I'm just saying.
19:38
Speaker 2: I'm just Jacquice has a female audience. That's a completely
19:42
Speaker 2: different thing. When he hit the stage, I got that.
19:48
Speaker 2: I got that part. But I do know that that
19:50
Speaker 2: thing it's like a sometimes it's a thing that you
19:53
Speaker 2: guys gotta I feel like you just guys gotta have
19:55
Speaker 2: a nice, open, broad conversation about everything. I think everything
20:02
Speaker 2: that'd be on table, y'all gotta put everything on the table.
20:06
Speaker 2: Have y'all had that conversation yet? Everything on the table?
20:10
Speaker 1: I mean I feel like I do. I'm very honest people,
20:13
Speaker 1: I've said that in many of my interviews. I'm too honest. Okay, So,
20:16
Speaker 1: like my daddy taught us, put it out on the table,
20:18
Speaker 1: So I've done that from the very beginning.
20:20
Speaker 2: You think he does that? Is he guarded a little bit?
20:23
Speaker 1: I don't know.
20:24
Speaker 2: Okay.
20:25
Speaker 1: I feel like I thought he did it, but now
20:27
Speaker 1: I honestly don't know.
20:28
Speaker 2: Okay, Okay, but yeah, is your turn friend, Yes, ma'am, Yes, ma'am.
20:36
Speaker 3: Prior to you, meaning your wife, did you consider or
20:40
Speaker 3: think about that's gonna make her sad? Like I want
20:42
Speaker 3: to know what was it that made the light.
20:44
Speaker 2: Bulb clicked in my head when I said, oh why really?
20:47
Speaker 2: You know what I'm saying, like like she's my she's
20:51
Speaker 2: my lady. And then I kind of just I don't know,
20:52
Speaker 2: I just got soft for her. I don't, I don't.
20:56
Speaker 2: I'm not. I'm very aggressive, like I don't give a
20:59
Speaker 2: fucke person, you know, very hardcore, don't care about nobody
21:03
Speaker 2: feelings type thing, because in this industry you kind of
21:05
Speaker 2: have to be hard body like that, because that's just
21:08
Speaker 2: how it is. But I went when I met her,
21:11
Speaker 2: you know, I mean one time we had a conversation,
21:13
Speaker 2: I was like, man, you heard my feelings. I don't
21:15
Speaker 2: even think I ever said that before to somebody, you know,
21:18
Speaker 2: when we was just talking about something. She kind of
21:19
Speaker 2: aggressive too, though, like she like she from my th
21:22
Speaker 2: She on the east side. She don't play. Said go
21:28
Speaker 2: in the middle.
21:30
Speaker 1: Let's see what you got. How do you envision navigating
21:35
Speaker 1: potential challenges that may arise in our relationship due to
21:38
Speaker 1: our reprospective past pain and trauma?
21:44
Speaker 2: Mm hm. We said that at the same time.
21:51
Speaker 1: Come on, man, oh this is a deep one.
21:56
Speaker 3: Is there anything that has transpired in your previous relationship
22:00
Speaker 3: that you find showing up in your current relationship?
22:08
Speaker 1: Who I wish he could get this card? Honestly, No, okay,
22:20
Speaker 1: I've my past relationships were yeah. No, not really, not
22:27
Speaker 1: not on my end.
22:29
Speaker 3: So you can honestly say that everything that you you've
22:32
Speaker 3: experienced in this current relationship was brought on by this
22:36
Speaker 3: current relationship, like this is new.
22:38
Speaker 1: I won't even just say the relationship. I will say
22:42
Speaker 1: because in this relationship, it's been a whirlwind of emotions.
22:48
Speaker 1: I was pregnant, you know, emotions changed.
22:50
Speaker 2: Then it's no proposed.
22:53
Speaker 1: Yeah, no, it's not a secret. Everything I went through
22:57
Speaker 1: in the beginning, which was very you know, traumatic to
23:00
Speaker 1: me being pregnant, going through everything, new proposal, new move,
23:07
Speaker 1: new baby. It's like, I feel like I went through
23:09
Speaker 1: so many life changes that it probably affected my mentality
23:14
Speaker 1: and my emotions as well. So I won't just say
23:16
Speaker 1: just the relationship, but yes, I have definitely been differently
23:20
Speaker 1: in this relationship and experience things differently than any of
23:23
Speaker 1: the relationship I've been in.
23:26
Speaker 2: I like this game. Is this for me? The crib? Okay,
23:32
Speaker 2: so you have to participate. You to participate, miss, I
23:37
Speaker 2: want you to do.
23:38
Speaker 1: We need the guru answers. The purple is not really.
23:42
Speaker 3: Yeah, fine, just because I'm single and have been for
23:45
Speaker 3: a while. Okay, all right, Can you share with me
23:49
Speaker 3: any significant experiences of pain or trauma from your past
23:52
Speaker 3: that have shaped who you are today?
23:54
Speaker 1: Absolutely?
23:56
Speaker 3: I think over time I have experienced a tremendous amount
23:59
Speaker 3: of rejection and that has shaped That's very honest how
24:03
Speaker 3: I approach relationships. You know, sometimes I have to do
24:06
Speaker 3: self talk and say, Okay, that wasn't personal.
24:10
Speaker 1: They're not rejecting you, they're not ignoring you.
24:12
Speaker 3: But maybe it's just your hyper sensitive to certain experiences
24:16
Speaker 3: because of past.
24:17
Speaker 1: Pain and trauma.
24:19
Speaker 3: I have this complex about not being chosen like you,
24:22
Speaker 3: Why did you choose her and not me?
24:24
Speaker 1: And I have had that happen.
24:25
Speaker 3: That's like a pattern in my life any significant relationship,
24:31
Speaker 3: there was always another female involved.
24:33
Speaker 1: Always. Oh wow, rejection is protection. I learned that because
24:37
Speaker 1: I used to think like that too in the past
24:39
Speaker 1: and as time when now, Oh, God has protecting me
24:42
Speaker 1: from this because it would have went a whole different ways.
24:44
Speaker 1: So rejection is protection sometimes I.
24:47
Speaker 3: Have God has blessed me to be able to see
24:49
Speaker 3: how some of those scenarios and those people over time
24:54
Speaker 3: have turned out, and he was protecting you because I'm like,
24:58
Speaker 3: this situation didn't age well to day as well, and
25:01
Speaker 3: I probably would want a divorce, you know by now.
25:05
Speaker 3: So I'm able to see that now, But for a
25:07
Speaker 3: long time I always personalize it or internalize it and
25:11
Speaker 3: made it about me. He didn't want me and what
25:13
Speaker 3: could I change about me?
25:15
Speaker 2: So wow, I appreciate you guys, Miss Chanelle, Nicole, Scott
25:19
Speaker 2: Dean and just Sander's pulling up on the ball or
25:21
Speaker 2: show before we go, Shadure NFL Draft. What team you
25:27
Speaker 2: want him to go to? They say he's top five.
25:32
Speaker 2: What team do you not want? Him to go to.
25:34
Speaker 1: Top two and not number two. I don't really have
25:39
Speaker 1: a team. I just so proud of him for the
25:42
Speaker 1: way he works hard and his worth ethic and it's like,
25:45
Speaker 1: he's really done this thing right. You know, you always
25:48
Speaker 1: have my dad to lead you, but you gotta want
25:50
Speaker 1: it as well for sure. So he's done this thing right.
25:52
Speaker 1: So I'm just proud of him where ever team he goes, Like,
25:55
Speaker 1: I just you know, want him to go where he
25:58
Speaker 1: would like to go. That's the best fit for him,
25:59
Speaker 1: And I'm just proud of him matter where he goes.
26:02
Speaker 2: Shout out to your family, man. You guys are very
26:04
Speaker 2: supportive of everybody, man the whole. I'm gonna be sad
26:07
Speaker 2: to see everything dismantled a little bit because I mean,
26:11
Speaker 2: when goes, is DeAndre I mean he's mister Junior going
26:16
Speaker 2: with him? Or is he staying with dad?
26:18
Speaker 1: We're gonna have to see.
26:19
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's Deion Sanders junr Is going with dad or
26:22
Speaker 2: with his brother.
26:23
Speaker 1: We're gonna have to see.
26:24
Speaker 2: And I know you're gonna support everybody.
26:27
Speaker 1: I mean, I'm gonna support your door and Shilow. This
26:29
Speaker 1: is really huge.
26:30
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, Shiloh too. So Sharlow's working out, yes, okay, okay.
26:33
Speaker 1: Okay, Shadow's definitely working out. He's you know, Headache gang
26:36
Speaker 1: all day.
26:38
Speaker 2: Yeah yeah, okay, so yeah, I.
26:40
Speaker 1: Mean I support both of them. I'm still gonna support
26:42
Speaker 1: my daddy as well. I'll still be at the Colorado Gang.
26:44
Speaker 2: Okay, Okay, I just have to split my time in
26:46
Speaker 2: between that. I like that new quarterback you got though.
26:49
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, yeah yeah, I like that.
26:51
Speaker 2: Okay, any shout outs, any last words, I do something
26:53
Speaker 2: called the mental health check in. But hell, we just did.
26:55
Speaker 1: We did.
26:57
Speaker 2: That's real. Yeah, I don't go to do nothing really. Yeah.
27:01
Speaker 1: Mom's how y'all feeling with postpartum?
27:04
Speaker 2: Thank you for addressing that. That's a big deal.
27:06
Speaker 1: You know know you're not alone for sure. Moms out there.
27:09
Speaker 3: Follow You can follow me at Chanella Colescott and all
27:11
Speaker 3: social media platforms of.
27:13
Speaker 2: Course follow me. They're already following her. Ball. You guys
27:19
Speaker 2: got to come back together. This was cool, Yes, that
27:21
Speaker 2: was This was cool, and we went viral first. She
27:24
Speaker 2: was our first viral interview back in twenty twenty three.
27:28
Speaker 2: I don't want to talk about it because I want
27:29
Speaker 2: because we was. It is everywhere, man, everywhere. But you know,
27:35
Speaker 2: you are a family of the show, and miss Scott
27:38
Speaker 2: you are now family to show as well. We can
27:40
Speaker 2: do this live now on our own way right here,
27:42
Speaker 2: a hearty. We got a whole lounge and there we
27:44
Speaker 2: could do this live too, and we can have a
27:46
Speaker 2: whole little yeah yeah yeah, let's put that on this
27:51
Speaker 2: calendar that for summertime or something. Yeah, after the draft.
27:55
Speaker 2: So having ball alert, peace, Oliver al al al a