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Instant Friends · Let's Ask the Mamas!

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  Speaker 1: We got a question for American mamas, your mama's. Have
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  Speaker 1: you ever met a stranger and felt an instant connection
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  Speaker 1: to them?
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  Speaker 2: Well, let's ask American mama's.
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  Speaker 3: Mama, mama, she said, joining us now our American mamas,
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  Speaker 3: Terry Edville and Kimberly Burlason.
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  Speaker 1: So this is kind of it's not like love at
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  Speaker 1: first sight, but maybe it's a friendship at first sight.
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  Speaker 1: You ever ever had that situation.
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  Speaker 2: Like a kindred spirit connection, I guess is Okay.
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  Speaker 4: I feel like I've met people where I feel an
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  Speaker 4: instant connection to them. But I also know that people
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  Speaker 4: say that when you feel an instant connection with somebody,
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  Speaker 4: it's because of the way they listen to you. If
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  Speaker 4: somebody acts fully interested in what you're saying, fully invested
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  Speaker 4: in what you're saying, you feel a connection. Because one
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  Speaker 4: thing about Bill Clinton I've heard one of the positives
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  Speaker 4: is that he's always been the very best at making
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  Speaker 4: people feel seen and heard because he locks in when
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  Speaker 4: he's talking to you.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, maybe basically the best retail politician of our life.
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  Speaker 4: Absolutely, and that was his actual gift. But I also
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  Speaker 4: noticed that the people I tend to like are the
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  Speaker 4: people that seem interested in me and what's going on
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  Speaker 4: in my life, and then in turn I like to
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  Speaker 4: give it back. But I instantly like them. And it
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  Speaker 4: seems like the people that are more focused on themselves
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  Speaker 4: and talking about themselves, I don't feel that way.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, okay, No. Interesting.
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  Speaker 5: We had a celebration of life for a friend as
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  Speaker 5: a He's a Streetport legend, Dennis Beckman. And what was
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  Speaker 5: so interesting. You know, he and his sister dad, they
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  Speaker 5: own in Tanna Garden down in Streeport, and we all
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  Speaker 5: gathered and she asked some of us to say a
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  Speaker 5: few words. It was so fascinating because everybody had the
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  Speaker 5: same thought of one. The first guy that got up
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  Speaker 5: there said, you know, Dennis was that person. It didn't
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  Speaker 5: matter what else was going on in the It didn't
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  Speaker 5: matter who else was in the room. If you were
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  Speaker 5: talking to him, you were all that mattered in that moment.
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  Speaker 5: He was listening. So when you said that, I thought that.
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  Speaker 5: So we all noticed that about Dennis as he listened
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  Speaker 5: no matter what. And I heard the same thing about
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  Speaker 5: Bill Clinton. And it makes you strive to do that.
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  Speaker 5: Oh yeah, you know, like even if you have a
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  Speaker 5: little touch of that ADHD or whatever, if you have
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  Speaker 5: that mindset of I want this person to feel important
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  Speaker 5: while I'm speaking to them.
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  Speaker 2: It goes back to that Maya Angelou quote.
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  Speaker 5: People may not remember what you said, people may not
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  Speaker 5: remember what you did, but they'll always remember how you
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  Speaker 5: made him feel.
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  Speaker 2: And Dad would always.
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  Speaker 5: Say, let people leave your presence feeling better about themselves.
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  Speaker 2: Right, So that is I think that's probably why people
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  Speaker 2: did have such a connection to Dad, you know.
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  Speaker 4: And I think that's why he was so successful with
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  Speaker 4: his magazine, and he was able to get multi millionaires
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  Speaker 4: to tell them their blueprint of their success. He was
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  Speaker 4: so genuinely interested, but they were willing to tell him
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  Speaker 4: anything in everything. But I was also thinking about one
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  Speaker 4: thing you just said. I was with Steele yesterday, Terry's son,
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  Speaker 4: and he's interviewing right now to go to all to
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  Speaker 4: find his residency where he wants to go, and he
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  Speaker 4: is just being absolutely people want him that he is
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  Speaker 4: being so recruited, and he said one of the doctors
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  Speaker 4: yesterday asked him, you know, what is a quote that
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  Speaker 4: you take with you in life, and he said that
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  Speaker 4: Lane Burrow's his coach in baseball at Louis Annetech, said
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  Speaker 4: when you walk into a room. Are you walking in
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  Speaker 4: as a light? Are you walking and taking the light
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  Speaker 4: from others? Are you a life vampire or are you
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  Speaker 4: a life giver? Yeah, and he said, and I always
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  Speaker 4: think about that when I walk into a room. I
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  Speaker 4: want to be a life giver. And I feel like
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  Speaker 4: if you just walk into a room thinking that you're
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  Speaker 4: there already.
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  Speaker 1: Very interesting. So there are individual people then that you
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  Speaker 1: can think of if this is somebody had an instant
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  Speaker 1: connection with.
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  Speaker 2: Right, I'm trying to think if I had I have
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  Speaker 2: that a lot.
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  Speaker 5: I mean, if you in my family, I had tons
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  Speaker 5: of friends, and I mean sometimes that can hurt you.
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  Speaker 5: If you're if you're open to everybody and you feel
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  Speaker 5: like you have a connection with everybody, well you're bound
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  Speaker 5: to get hurt just because of the numbers game, you know,
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  Speaker 5: Like kim Kimily would say that to me sometimes when
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  Speaker 5: I said, I don't know why you know, She's like, well,
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  Speaker 5: because you're you open yourself up to everybody. And I
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  Speaker 5: just I've always felt a connection with uh, everybody. I mean,
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  Speaker 5: there's really not a lot of people I don't.
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  Speaker 4: So if you're in I'm opposite of Terry. So Terry
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  Speaker 4: loves everybody. Terry will have friends and every that's my
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  Speaker 4: new best friend. Yeah, and then she'll introduce me.
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  Speaker 1: And I'm like it seems like a perfectly normal yeah,
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  Speaker 1: and I'm like, I don't see the problem.
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  Speaker 4: No, that's not your best friend. That's not and it's
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  Speaker 4: just like me, I'm like yeah, no, no, no no, And
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  Speaker 4: she's like, why do you do that? And I'm like,
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  Speaker 4: I'm telling you, And every time I'm right ninety nine percent,
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  Speaker 4: I am right on the money with that particular thing.
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  Speaker 1: So let me let me just throw out a possibility
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  Speaker 1: idea here. You, Kimberly, are better at recognizing other people
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  Speaker 1: who are that light giver in a room, and Terry,
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  Speaker 1: you are more focused on being the light giver in
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  Speaker 1: the room when you and so, because you're so interested
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  Speaker 1: in being the person people are interested in, you don't
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  Speaker 1: necessarily always have that that discernment about what the other
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  Speaker 1: people are actually like.
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  Speaker 5: Deeptails, Yeah, I trust everybody until you know she trusts everybody,
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  Speaker 5: but missing it hurts me because I feel like she's
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  Speaker 5: also easily hurt by these people.
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  Speaker 4: And it's like, there's that big sister. I want to
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  Speaker 4: protect her. It's like, no, you don't want to be
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  Speaker 4: friends with that vampire.
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  Speaker 1: And I have a little bit more of an ego
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  Speaker 1: than Terry does, so I'm just like, they don't hurt
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  Speaker 1: me because I'm like, well, they don't like me, that's them.
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  Speaker 1: I like to ask car America was a question got
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  Speaker 1: to our website. Americaground reader dot com says, mama is
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  Speaker 1: a click on the Ask the Mamas. But Terry Netivie,
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  Speaker 1: Kimberly Brother listen.
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  Speaker 2: Thank you so much, Thank you