Latest / The Kathie Owen Perspective Podcast / 228.The Truth About Anxiety | Interview with Mark Pinto | Relief is Here!

Transcript

228.The Truth About Anxiety | Interview with Mark Pinto | Relief is Here! · The Kathie Owen Perspective Podcast

• 0:00
  Hello.
• 0:00
  Hello and welcome back to Kathie's Coaching podcast.
• 0:03
  Today is something.
• 0:05
  Super special.
• 0:06
  Super close to my heart.
• 0:09
  I am interviewing one of my fellow mastermind from Flow Base Prosperity Mastermind with Joseph Rodriguez.
• 0:17
  This name is Mark Pinto and he's a coach on anxiety, and I have been working with him and he has.
• 0:24
  Awesome stories.
• 0:26
  I mean, his stories are the best.
• 0:28
  And as storyteller myself, I could tell you, you're in for a real treat today.
• 0:33
  So without further ado, let's get into the episode.
• 0:48
  Speaker View & Screen Share: All right, so here we are.
• 0:52
  Speaker View & Screen Share: I'm interviewing my mentor and my coach on anxiety, and I'm, I'm just gonna say this right here, right now, y'all know me, you know, I'm open, you know, I share myself and my story and my vulnerability.
• 1:08
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And the thing is, is co getting a coached on anxiety just makes me a better coach in general.
• 1:15
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Um, just all of my coaches, and I've worked with all of them inside our mastermind.
• 1:21
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And so I'm gonna share a little bit of my journey that has gone on with my coach, mark Pinto.
• 1:28
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And so welcome today, mark.
• 1:29
  Speaker View & Screen Share: How you doing?
• 1:30
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Thank you for having me.
• 1:32
  Speaker View & Screen Share: I'm good.
• 1:32
  Speaker View & Screen Share: I'm, I feel good.
• 1:33
  Speaker View & Screen Share: It's a nice day.
• 1:34
  Speaker View & Screen Share: It's sunny outside.
• 1:35
  Speaker View & Screen Share: You know, honestly, I, I enjoy, I only used to enjoy the sunny days, but now I enjoy the rainy days.
• 1:42
  Speaker View & Screen Share: The cloudy days.
• 1:43
  Speaker View & Screen Share: I just enjoy nature a lot more now.
• 1:46
  Speaker View & Screen Share: I know, right?
• 1:47
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And me too.
• 1:48
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And in fact, mark and I had a coaching call the other day where it started raining on him and he just went with the flow.
• 1:56
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And I love that.
• 1:57
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And I, I wanna talk to, today I wanna talk about, um, how we find inspiration even in the middle of anxiety, even in the middle of a lot of stress.
• 2:09
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Because I don't care who you are, you are experiencing anxiety in some way, shape, or form.
• 2:15
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And when you become aware of that, you get to find your own energy and you get to find a lot of power.
• 2:23
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And as Mark likes to say, you're not thinking in this little brain.
• 2:27
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And he holds up his little iPod case.
• 2:30
  Speaker View & Screen Share: I have that.
• 2:31
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Yeah.
• 2:32
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And then yeah, there's the iPod case.
• 2:35
  Speaker View & Screen Share: So.
• 2:36
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Uh, instead, let's think with our bigger brain, he uses a notebook, but honestly, I like to think of it as intelligence, which is bigger than the notebook, but the visual is very helpful and really makes you see.
• 2:52
  Speaker View & Screen Share: So, um, the very first thing I wanna ask you, mark, is how, how do you start when you're coaching on anxiety?
• 3:02
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Like, do you, how, how do you find your questions?
• 3:05
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Because I just felt right at home with you when I, when I talked to you, and it was like really a good journey that we went through together.
• 3:12
  Speaker View & Screen Share: So let's, how, how do you find out what, where somebody is on their anxiety scale?
• 3:20
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Well, uh, the first thing I do is, um, is like I always.
• 3:25
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Say a little prayer in my mind when I'm talking to somebody and I say, God, give me the, give me the message that you've been trying to give to them that they haven't received.
• 3:34
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Right.
• 3:34
  Speaker View & Screen Share: So that's something I do silently, you know when I'm talking.
• 3:37
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Yeah.
• 3:37
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Even if it's just a stranger in the street.
• 3:39
  Speaker View & Screen Share: 'cause sometimes you're just talking with some stranger and you're having to talk a conversation about nothing.
• 3:45
  Speaker View & Screen Share: But then all of a sudden it just turns into something and you realize that this person needs something.
• 3:51
  Speaker View & Screen Share: They, they're dealing with something.
• 3:52
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And then I say that silent prayer and sometimes they're not even talking about anything.
• 3:56
  Speaker View & Screen Share: But I can feel that there's something that's they need.
• 4:00
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And I'll say that silent prayer again.
• 4:01
  Speaker View & Screen Share: So that's the first thing I do is say that silent prayer.
• 4:05
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And then the next thing I do is I just ask them like what they've been going through, like, explain it to me.
• 4:10
  Speaker View & Screen Share: 'cause when I can hear how you speak.
• 4:13
  Speaker View & Screen Share: I can hear, I can, I'll know where you're at.
• 4:16
  Speaker View & Screen Share: You know, like if you're saying my anxiety and you know, which you're identifying with the anxiety and you're saying, uh, this happened to me and it made me really anxious, then I know that you think that circumstances are creating your anxiety and it's not how you, not the story about the circumstance, but you think it's the thing, you know.
• 4:35
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And so as you speak naturally and tell me about what's going on, I can feel through the, your words, like exactly where you're at, you know?
• 4:44
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And then I start to intuitively know where we need to go and, and where we need to get started.
• 4:50
  Speaker View & Screen Share: But, you know, it's like, it's just like ourselves, you know?
• 4:53
  Speaker View & Screen Share: When we get connected and we get guidance, God never gives you like the, the whole like steps from A to Z, you know, God gives you like the first step, you know?
• 5:02
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And then when you take that step, then you get to see the next step.
• 5:04
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And then, so I do the same thing in, in my coaching, you know, so it's like, you know, I know where we are going.
• 5:11
  Speaker View & Screen Share: But we have to start where we're at, you know?
• 5:15
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Ooh, I love that.
• 5:16
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And, you know, um, I like the reframe that Mark helped me identify because when you stop calling it my anxiety, it shifts everything.
• 5:28
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And it's like the anxiety, the anxiety becomes your teacher.
• 5:33
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And so, um, there's lessons always to be learned.
• 5:38
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And one thing I really love about my journey with Mark is he emphasized.
• 5:44
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Um, doing nothing, number one.
• 5:46
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Number two is also getting in nature to get your answers to anything.
• 5:52
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And so, especially on a call the other day, he told me about how he got an answer to a question he was thinking about, and I really liked how he, um, he framed it where you don't go in demanding the answer, give me the answer, gimme the answer.
• 6:10
  Speaker View & Screen Share: So I want Mark to tell us about that and kind of give us an idea of what.
• 6:16
  Speaker View & Screen Share: That situation looked like because he's an awesome storyteller, by the way.
• 6:22
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Thank you.
• 6:23
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Thank you.
• 6:24
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Yeah.
• 6:24
  Speaker View & Screen Share: So, um, so I, I've been working on getting, uh, getting back in shape like how I used to be.
• 6:30
  Speaker View & Screen Share: I'm 47, so in my thirties, in my early thirties, I was in amazing shape, six pack and everything.
• 6:36
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And I've been working to get back and intuitively I've been guided to, to track my macros.
• 6:41
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And as I'm tracking my macros, I'm just really enjoying it and I'm, I'm hitting my macros every day and I'm going to the gym and I'm, I'm doing everything and I'm, I'm losing weight.
• 6:51
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And then a couple days, uh, I gained like 0.2 pounds, 0.3 pounds and 0.5 pounds.
• 6:57
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And so the second day that I saw, I gained, uh, 0.3 pounds.
• 7:02
  Speaker View & Screen Share: I was upset, like immediately I can feel the aggravation and the, the discouragement and all that stuff.
• 7:08
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And I was gonna go to the gym that morning.
• 7:10
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And then it was like, why are you even bothering?
• 7:12
  Speaker View & Screen Share: It's a waste of time and things like that.
• 7:14
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And then I immediately, I kind, I realized that this is not me.
• 7:18
  Speaker View & Screen Share: This is, um, this, this is, um, discouragement talking.
• 7:22
  Speaker View & Screen Share: This is discouragement talking.
• 7:23
  Speaker View & Screen Share: 'cause all emotions come with a story, right?
• 7:26
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And they come with words and they come with thoughts.
• 7:28
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And these are not you.
• 7:30
  Speaker View & Screen Share: These are just the energies trying to take you over, trying to hook you.
• 7:34
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And so when I realized that there was discouragement, I said, okay, let's, let's put some space in between this.
• 7:40
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Let's like relax.
• 7:41
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And I was like, okay, what should I do now?
• 7:44
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Because discouragement is like, just stay home.
• 7:46
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And as I relaxed, I was like, you know what?
• 7:48
  Speaker View & Screen Share: I'm going to the gym even though I feel aggravated, even though I feel discouraged, I'm going to gym.
• 7:54
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And I knew that also, when I go to gym, I go to the sauna first and I sit in there and I stretch.
• 8:00
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And the sauna is a place for me that helps me to get intuitive guidance because it brings me in the moment.
• 8:06
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Anything that brings you in the moment helps intuitive guidance to come to you in the present moment.
• 8:11
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And that's why I love nature.
• 8:12
  Speaker View & Screen Share: 'cause nature is so present, right?
• 8:15
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And so nature just helps.
• 8:17
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Anybody to get in the present moment a lot easier.
• 8:20
  Speaker View & Screen Share: So while I was in the sauna and I'm just sitting there relaxing and stretching and breathing, just being present, I get this intuitive message that says, Hey, look up on YouTube.
• 8:31
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Um, what should, um, wait.
• 8:33
  Speaker View & Screen Share: WA yourself every day.
• 8:34
  Speaker View & Screen Share: So I, I look up, it is very, very specific title.
• 8:37
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Weigh Yourself every day.
• 8:38
  Speaker View & Screen Share: So I put in Weigh Yourself every Day.
• 8:40
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And I looked that up and about three videos down I see a video from a guy.
• 8:45
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And I was like, you know, I think this is the video.
• 8:46
  Speaker View & Screen Share: The first video is like, uh, uh.
• 8:48
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And then I was like, oh, this looks like might be one.
• 8:50
  Speaker View & Screen Share: So I click on that and this guy proceeds to say, he's like in my community.
• 8:55
  Speaker View & Screen Share: He has a weight loss community in our community.
• 8:57
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Anytime somebody new comes into the community, they start to, uh, lose weight and they feel good.
• 9:02
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And then inevitably they have a day that they gain weight and they get discouraged and like, I'm not doing this anymore.
• 9:09
  Speaker View & Screen Share: They're like, I've been hitting my macros.
• 9:10
  Speaker View & Screen Share: I've been working out and I still gain weight.
• 9:12
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And I was like, holy crap.
• 9:14
  Speaker View & Screen Share: This is exactly what I was thinking.
• 9:16
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Right?
• 9:17
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Or what the, the discouragement was thinking.
• 9:19
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Let's say it like that.
• 9:20
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Right?
• 9:20
  Speaker View & Screen Share: That's what the discouragement was saying to me, right?
• 9:23
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And he said, but anybody that's been through this program that's lost weight, that's been doing this for a while, all of our older members that's been here for a while knows that you are going to gain weight.
• 9:33
  Speaker View & Screen Share: It's just part there will be fluctuations.
• 9:35
  Speaker View & Screen Share: It's just part of the journey.
• 9:37
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And so what you have to do is continue hitting your macros, continue going to the gym, continue being that fit person, and eventually you'll like lose weight.
• 9:47
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And sometime you'll spike up, but then you'll lose more and the spike up and then you'll lose more and eventually you'll get to the weight you want.
• 9:52
  Speaker View & Screen Share: But you just have to like, um, disregard those that, that, those days when it goes up and just keep doing what you know is right.
• 10:00
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And I was like, wow, look at that.
• 10:02
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Just like that, I got the answer.
• 10:04
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And when I got the answer, I was like, now discouragement has lost so much power over me.
• 10:10
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Because that was one of the things that used to discourage me a lot going on the scale.
• 10:14
  Speaker View & Screen Share: But now that I know the truth and the way that the perfect video of the guy talking about everybody that's been through this knows this already, it's kind of like, okay, well now I know it too.
• 10:23
  Speaker View & Screen Share: So that's no longer work.
• 10:24
  Speaker View & Screen Share: I know once I hit my macros, once I work out, once I'm in the calorie deficit, every day over time, I will lose weight and I'm not worried about my results every single day.
• 10:35
  Speaker View & Screen Share: I'm worried.
• 10:35
  Speaker View & Screen Share: I'm more concerned with my results overall, I.
• 10:38
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And this is what I tell people with anxiety, it's the same thing you are.
• 10:43
  Speaker View & Screen Share: I always say as, as you do the the work, you're going to have more peace.
• 10:47
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Your peace is gonna rise, but it's gonna be upward trending.
• 10:51
  Speaker View & Screen Share: It's not gonna be a straight line.
• 10:53
  Speaker View & Screen Share: It's gonna be one day.
• 10:54
  Speaker View & Screen Share: You feel lots of peace.
• 10:55
  Speaker View & Screen Share: The day you may feel a little anxiety, then you feel a lot more peace.
• 10:59
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And another that you may feel tremendous anxiety.
• 11:01
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And if you trust, if you listen to those days, you have anxiety, you'll say to yourself, this is not working and you'll give up.
• 11:08
  Speaker View & Screen Share: But the truth is, the days that you feel the most anxious when you do the work is the days that you kick anxiety in the butt the most, you know, because you are continuing to be the person regardless of circumstances.
• 11:21
  Speaker View & Screen Share: That's what creates the sharp upward trend and a lot of like, like a, like a quantum leap, which, yeah, which, which I have had since working with Mark.
• 11:31
  Speaker View & Screen Share: I've had quantum leaps in my anxiety journey and I just have to commend him.
• 11:37
  Speaker View & Screen Share: He's awesome storyteller.
• 11:39
  Speaker View & Screen Share: So I love how he reframed that discouragement.
• 11:44
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Was it, it, it wasn't him.
• 11:47
  Speaker View & Screen Share: He didn't identify with it.
• 11:49
  Speaker View & Screen Share: It was his thoughts about it that he caught on and he has an awesome story that I want him to share that talks about that.
• 11:59
  Speaker View & Screen Share: It's our thoughts about things, and I want him to share the story and how he re helped me reframe something that was going on in my life with this simple story.
• 12:09
  Speaker View & Screen Share: You're gonna be blown away when I, when, when we talk about this, and actually he's probably got more, and I, I can think of two right now, two stories I'd love for him to tell, and I'm gonna make him tell both of them.
• 12:22
  Speaker View & Screen Share: So the first one I want you to tell is about the bug in your car.
• 12:27
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Bug in the car.
• 12:28
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Oh, that was a good one.
• 12:30
  Speaker View & Screen Share: All right, so the bug in the car, that would just happen recently, right?
• 12:33
  Speaker View & Screen Share: That was just like a month or two ago, if that long.
• 12:36
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And so in Florida, in the rainy season, like all the bugs, all the palmetto bugs, which are like big roaches, they, they come into your home, right?
• 12:45
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And so apparently one came into our car, right?
• 12:50
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And I'm driving my daughter to school, my 9-year-old daughter to school in the morning.
• 12:55
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And uh, I'm driving, we are having a wonderful, beautiful day is normal.
• 12:59
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Then all of a sudden she's just like screaming and, and pointing and I'm like, oh my God, what is there like a terrorist attack going on?
• 13:06
  Speaker View & Screen Share: It was like so dramatic.
• 13:08
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Like I thought something like insane was happening.
• 13:11
  Speaker View & Screen Share: So I'm like, I'm staying calm.
• 13:12
  Speaker View & Screen Share: I feel my adrenaline spike, but I'm staying calm'cause I have to stay in control of the car.
• 13:17
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And I look around and then I look up and there's a huge roach, like palmetto bug and like right in front of my visor.
• 13:23
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And at the same time, I'm shocked.
• 13:25
  Speaker View & Screen Share: I'm also relieved because I'm like, nothing's exploding.
• 13:28
  Speaker View & Screen Share: There's no kind of crazy things happen.
• 13:30
  Speaker View & Screen Share: So I'm like, all right, just calm down.
• 13:33
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Like, first of all,'cause that first wave of anxiety shot up.
• 13:37
  Speaker View & Screen Share: So I was like, all right, let's calm down.
• 13:38
  Speaker View & Screen Share: But you have to stay relaxed'cause you driving your, your daughter and you can't like think.
• 13:43
  Speaker View & Screen Share: So I was calm down and then when I realized the roache is like right there and they can like drum drop on me, I'm like, all right.
• 13:50
  Speaker View & Screen Share: It's okay if it drops on me, like I'm not going to die.
• 13:53
  Speaker View & Screen Share: It'll be a little gross, but I have to stay, I have to stay calm so that I drive this car properly and I don't get us injured, right?
• 14:02
  Speaker View & Screen Share: So it's crawling around and my daughter is freaking out and now it's crawling back to her and, and it's going all the way back and then it crawls back into the trunk, right?
• 14:13
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And so now she's crying.
• 14:14
  Speaker View & Screen Share: She's all like in a whole different state.
• 14:17
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And for me, you know, once you start to like, uh, because anxiety helped me to have this emotional intelligence, and once you start to meditate, you start separating yourself from your feelings and your thoughts, you start to realize that like, this is what I need to teach my kids because this is going to help them to have so much of a better life if they learn to have this emotional intelligence, if they learn how to be in charge of themselves and not let emotions take them over.
• 14:44
  Speaker View & Screen Share: So for me, this is an opportunity.
• 14:47
  Speaker View & Screen Share: I'm like, she is terrified right now.
• 14:49
  Speaker View & Screen Share: She's crying.
• 14:50
  Speaker View & Screen Share: This is a great opportunity for me to, to help her.
• 14:52
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And so she's nine.
• 14:54
  Speaker View & Screen Share: I've been doing this since she can speak.
• 14:55
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Same thing with my son who's 16.
• 14:57
  Speaker View & Screen Share: So they kind of know what we're gonna go through.
• 15:00
  Speaker View & Screen Share: So I'm like, okay, first of all, calm down.
• 15:02
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Let's calm down.
• 15:03
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Let's start breathing and relaxing.
• 15:05
  Speaker View & Screen Share: They know how to breathe and relax.
• 15:06
  Speaker View & Screen Share: So we're, and she's crying.
• 15:11
  Speaker View & Screen Share: She's crying this tears, and she's trying to breathe as much as possible.
• 15:14
  Speaker View & Screen Share: So after a couple minutes of breathing and relaxing and she calms down enough, then I start talking to her.
• 15:20
  Speaker View & Screen Share: You know, a lot of times, you know, parents, they're trying to talk to their kids when they're like angry or they're scared or something like that.
• 15:28
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And the same thing with ourselves.
• 15:29
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Like, you're not gonna get anything to go into subconscious.
• 15:33
  Speaker View & Screen Share: You're not gonna be able to reason until you calm down.
• 15:35
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Right.
• 15:36
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And so once we get her to calm down, now, I asked her, I said.
• 15:39
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Okay.
• 15:40
  Speaker View & Screen Share: What did you think about what was going on?
• 15:43
  Speaker View & Screen Share: You know, when you saw the roach and she was like, well, I thought that it was gross and it might jump on me.
• 15:50
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And so I was like, okay.
• 15:51
  Speaker View & Screen Share: So now thinking those type of thoughts, that this is gross and this is gonna jump on you, how is that gonna make you feel?
• 15:58
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And she said, oh, it's gonna make me scared.
• 16:00
  Speaker View & Screen Share: I said, exactly.
• 16:01
  Speaker View & Screen Share: You know, and so I was like, so what made you scared?
• 16:04
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Was it the bug or was it that the bug jumped on you?
• 16:07
  Speaker View & Screen Share: That, that, that the, uh, was it the bug actually being present or your story about the bug?
• 16:13
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And she was like, it's the story about the bug.
• 16:15
  Speaker View & Screen Share: I was like, exactly.
• 16:16
  Speaker View & Screen Share: So if we change the story about the bug, would you, did your feelings change about the story?
• 16:21
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And she's like, yeah, and this is only she's saying, yeah.
• 16:24
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And things like,'cause we've done this hundreds of times over the years.
• 16:27
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Right.
• 16:28
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And so then I can't remember, do you remember what I changed the story to?
• 16:31
  Speaker View & Screen Share: 'cause I told you when it was fresh, I.
• 16:33
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Um, I think you changed it to something like, um, you, you, I know the lesson you taught her was, it's just my thoughts about the bug.
• 16:43
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Yeah.
• 16:43
  Speaker View & Screen Share: It's just the bug.
• 16:44
  Speaker View & Screen Share: It's not, it's not the bug itself.
• 16:47
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Like, it's just my thoughts about it.
• 16:48
  Speaker View & Screen Share: It's not jumping on me, it's not getting me.
• 16:51
  Speaker View & Screen Share: So I'm just, I'm making this story up in my head.
• 16:55
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Yes, yes.
• 16:56
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And I told, and I always help with, to make a story.
• 16:58
  Speaker View & Screen Share: So I, I can't remember exactly the story, but maybe let's say the story was something like, you know, um, what if you had a dream and you dreamed that when, uh, a big roach was in the car with you and your dad, and if that roach jumped on you, that you would get all the toys you've ever wanted, like that day, you know, and then she started laughing.
• 17:18
  Speaker View & Screen Share: It was something like that.
• 17:19
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And she started laughing and I was like, exactly.
• 17:21
  Speaker View & Screen Share: You see.
• 17:22
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Like, you'd still be a little bit like, uh, but you'd be more excited, right?
• 17:26
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And she's like, yes, because you have a whole different story in your head.
• 17:29
  Speaker View & Screen Share: So I was telling you like, it's always a story and that's what I, I try to, that's what I do with my kids all the time.
• 17:35
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Every time they have something, we go through that entire process.
• 17:38
  Speaker View & Screen Share: 'cause I always want them to know that your body is only reacting to the story in your head.
• 17:44
  Speaker View & Screen Share: It's not reacting to circumstances.
• 17:46
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Circum one person, it's raining, it's bad luck.
• 17:49
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Another person is raining and it's good luck because it's, you know, it's their farm needed it, you know, but, so it's, it's always your story and it's not the circumstances.
• 17:59
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Ooh.
• 17:59
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Yes.
• 18:00
  Speaker View & Screen Share: It's always the story, the always the story.
• 18:03
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And the thing is, it's identifying that you're actually telling a story because we fall unconscious and we don't even know we're telling a story.
• 18:12
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Yeah.
• 18:12
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And for my trans surfing audience, I wanna point out that what he is talking about here is the pendulum in reality, trans surfing.
• 18:21
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And the pendulum only wants your energy.
• 18:24
  Speaker View & Screen Share: So, uh, dissatisfaction and lack of fulfillment are the pendulum's favorite dishes.
• 18:31
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And remember how he mentioned discouragement, or I'm scared, or I'm afraid, but let me go back to the very beginning of that.
• 18:40
  Speaker View & Screen Share: We've gotta identify the story so we know what's making our body go like.
• 18:45
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Into this crazy thing.
• 18:47
  Speaker View & Screen Share: But when you identify the story, then you can break it down and go, okay, this is just a story, it's just my thoughts about the story.
• 18:54
  Speaker View & Screen Share: I can change it.
• 18:55
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Mm-hmm.
• 18:55
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And one of the greatest ways to stop a pendulum from swaying is to laugh and have a good time.
• 19:02
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And feel good and feel good.
• 19:04
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Feeling good will help you, um, help you, uh, come up with solutions to whatever you're going through.
• 19:12
  Speaker View & Screen Share: So the first thing before we tell the other story, I'm gonna talk about, I want you to teach us floating and what is it and why it helps and why knowing the story will help you go get into floating easily.
• 19:28
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Well, Dr.
• 19:29
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Claire Weeks, um, when I was going through like the, the worst anxieties, like, it's terrible.
• 19:34
  Speaker View & Screen Share: I was like, agoraphobia.
• 19:35
  Speaker View & Screen Share: I couldn't even leave the house.
• 19:36
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Um, I, I remember there was a moment that I just was like, I can't live like this anymore, you know?
• 19:42
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And at that moment when I was like, I can't live like this anymore.
• 19:46
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Like, I could hear it, it's like a voice, but it wasn't a voice.
• 19:48
  Speaker View & Screen Share: It was just like a knowing.
• 19:49
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And it was said, and this is before my spiritual journey, so I didn't know anything.
• 19:53
  Speaker View & Screen Share: I just, I was a person that always followed my gut, but I wasn't like a spiritual person.
• 19:58
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And I, and it said, if you can be this bad, think of how good you can be.
• 20:04
  Speaker View & Screen Share: You know, there's always another end of the spectrum.
• 20:06
  Speaker View & Screen Share: So we're saying like, you're the other, the, the bottom of the barrel right now when it comes to peace and there's a whole nother level, uh, like, and you can go all the way to this side.
• 20:16
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And so as soon as that.
• 20:17
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Message came to me.
• 20:18
  Speaker View & Screen Share: I was like, oh my God, I'm gonna find out to get there.
• 20:21
  Speaker View & Screen Share: I'm gonna figure that out.
• 20:22
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And I just went and started buying books.
• 20:24
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Like, I started researching books and learning about anxiety.
• 20:27
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And this one book, I can't remember how it happened, but it was synchronistic.
• 20:31
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Like it just came outta nowhere seemingly.
• 20:33
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And it's from Dr.
• 20:35
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Clear Weeks and it was, um, you know, you know it'cause you bought it.
• 20:40
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Yeah.
• 20:40
  Speaker View & Screen Share: I'll have a link to it in the show notes and description below because I know I have the book too.
• 20:45
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Yeah.
• 20:46
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Yeah.
• 20:46
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And, and the other book that you told me, the dare book, he talks about Dr.
• 20:51
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Claire weeks and floating in it as well.
• 20:54
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Yeah, I'll have links to both of those in the show notes and description below.
• 20:57
  Speaker View & Screen Share: So, yeah, so yeah,'cause this was like 16 years ago, but when I, um, when I read that book from, uh, Dr.
• 21:04
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Claire weeks, it helped me to like heal myself.
• 21:08
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And one of the things she talks about in there is floating and floating is basically allowing, like if you ever read another good book.
• 21:15
  Speaker View & Screen Share: To kind of help you with floating would be the Sedona Method.
• 21:19
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And Sedona Method doesn't call it floating, but what they do is they welcome the feeling.
• 21:23
  Speaker View & Screen Share: So, and they have a little, they have a little affirmation to welcoming the feeling and then allowing the feeling to pass.
• 21:30
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And so when you're floating, all you're doing is no longer resisting.
• 21:34
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Whatever you resist persists.
• 21:36
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And when you have anxieties, you wanna resist it.
• 21:39
  Speaker View & Screen Share: When you resist it, it gets worse.
• 21:41
  Speaker View & Screen Share: When you try and run from it, it gets worse.
• 21:43
  Speaker View & Screen Share: So what you have to do is allow it.
• 21:46
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And so floating is allowing when you stop and you breathe, just relax.
• 21:53
  Speaker View & Screen Share: You know, deep belly breaths, don't breathe in your chest.
• 21:55
  Speaker View & Screen Share: That creates more stress.
• 21:56
  Speaker View & Screen Share: You breathe deeply into your gut and you relax it, and that's it.
• 22:01
  Speaker View & Screen Share: You just basically breathe in and relax in your muscles.
• 22:04
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Like you, most of us are holding ourselves like this all the time.
• 22:07
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And then you can just relax your shoulders, relax your jaw, and just let it come.
• 22:13
  Speaker View & Screen Share: You know, let it come, let it do whatever it's gonna do.
• 22:17
  Speaker View & Screen Share: It always passes.
• 22:18
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Anybody that has suffered with anxiety knows that no matter how bad it is, it always passes.
• 22:23
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And so your goal is not to make it go away,'cause it's gonna go away in its own.
• 22:28
  Speaker View & Screen Share: But when you float, what you're really doing is just relaxing.
• 22:31
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And you may not feel relaxed, but you are being relaxed.
• 22:35
  Speaker View & Screen Share: That's the most important thing because being, whatever you are, being, you are going to get whatever you are experiencing is from your pathways of being, right?
• 22:46
  Speaker View & Screen Share: So if you are being anxious in the past, you are experiencing anxiety now and it has momentum.
• 22:52
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And as you start to decide to be a different person, and that's what anxiety taught me.
• 22:58
  Speaker View & Screen Share: It taught me how to be a peaceful person.
• 23:00
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Because at first when I started to do this, I didn't know what a peaceful person thought like.
• 23:05
  Speaker View & Screen Share: You know, I really didn't.
• 23:07
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And that's what all that research did.
• 23:08
  Speaker View & Screen Share: It helped me to think like, what peaceful,'cause you know, affirmations are just self-talk, you know, or self-talk is just affirmations that you're saying inside your head.
• 23:18
  Speaker View & Screen Share: So I didn't have a whole bunch of peaceful self-talk, you know, I had anxious self-talk, like, I gotta do this.
• 23:24
  Speaker View & Screen Share: What am I doing?
• 23:25
  Speaker View & Screen Share: How am I gonna get this done?
• 23:26
  Speaker View & Screen Share: No worries, lots of worries.
• 23:27
  Speaker View & Screen Share: You know, lots of trying to figure things out.
• 23:30
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Lots of trying to figure things out for hours and days, and just thinking the same thing over and over again.
• 23:35
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Those that's, that's, that's anxious thoughts.
• 23:38
  Speaker View & Screen Share: That's anxious ways of being.
• 23:40
  Speaker View & Screen Share: So when I learned how to be at peace and when I learned how to find my answers in peace and I started being peace, even when I was anxious, what I was doing was I was no longer fueling the anxiety cycle.
• 23:54
  Speaker View & Screen Share: So now I'm being peace and I'm anxious and that's okay.
• 23:57
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And as I keep being peace, even though I'm anxious.
• 24:01
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Eventually the anxiety starts l lessening and lessening and lessening and eventually it goes away.
• 24:07
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And then you'll be like, oh my God, I haven't felt anxious in so long.
• 24:10
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And then you feel anxious again'cause you haven't felt anxious.
• 24:14
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And then you just relax into that'cause that's okay too.
• 24:17
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And then eventually you don't have to deal with it anymore and you'll always have anxiety, but it won't be this big anxiety that's taken over your life.
• 24:24
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Everybody feels everything everybody has.
• 24:27
  Speaker View & Screen Share: I just saw something where they said, the Dalai Lama says that he feels anxiety, he feels sadness, he feels anger.
• 24:33
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Everybody always feels emotions.
• 24:35
  Speaker View & Screen Share: There's nothing wrong with negative emotions.
• 24:37
  Speaker View & Screen Share: The problem is what is when you let negative emotions take you over, when you identify with them and you, when you start being anger, when you start being anxiety, that's a problem.
• 24:48
  Speaker View & Screen Share: If you are experiencing, if you are experiencing anger, if you are experiencing anxiety, but you are being peace, that's okay because it's not taking you over.
• 24:58
  Speaker View & Screen Share: It's just a natural thing that happens in life.
• 25:00
  Speaker View & Screen Share: It's gonna come up and then eventually it's gonna fade away.
• 25:04
  Speaker View & Screen Share: That's right.
• 25:05
  Speaker View & Screen Share: That's right.
• 25:05
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And I love that because what you're being is where it comes from and Yeah.
• 25:10
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Uh, anxiety doesn't go away.
• 25:13
  Speaker View & Screen Share: You still have it.
• 25:14
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Yeah.
• 25:14
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And, but it's the story you tell, so you catch yourself off.
• 25:20
  Speaker View & Screen Share: This is a story, start to float.
• 25:22
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Mm-hmm.
• 25:23
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And really what helps me is I just go, okay, this story is just, I'm scaring myself.
• 25:29
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Yes.
• 25:29
  Speaker View & Screen Share: You get scared of the scared of the scared of the scared, and then you spiral and the floating helps you stop.
• 25:36
  Speaker View & Screen Share: So I wanna hear the other story.
• 25:38
  Speaker View & Screen Share: I wanna hear you tell it about your tire blowing out on the Oh, oh, yeah.
• 25:44
  Speaker View & Screen Share: That's a, that's one of my favorite stories because.
• 25:47
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Uh, I didn't realize how much anxiety money was giving me.
• 25:52
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And so, um, there was a, it was a, it started like a few, uh, few weeks before that because what I was meditating on the beach and when I was meditating on the beach, this, uh, message came to me and it said, um, and that was such a great meditation.
• 26:07
  Speaker View & Screen Share: I never told you, but it was like I was just filled with joy.
• 26:11
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Like I was sitting on the beach, it was sunny, blue skies, the sun was right on me.
• 26:15
  Speaker View & Screen Share: I was sitting close to the, to the waters, to the water was lapping up on me.
• 26:19
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And I was sitting yoga style, and I was just like, in bliss.
• 26:22
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And, and I wasn't always feeling that,'cause I, I wasn't going to the beach regularly in the morning at that time yet.
• 26:28
  Speaker View & Screen Share: I just started.
• 26:29
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And I just was like, this feels so amazing.
• 26:32
  Speaker View & Screen Share: I was just filled with joy.
• 26:33
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And then this message came to me and it said, um, man shall not eat by bread alone.
• 26:37
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And I grew up Christian, so that, like, I, that rang a bell and I was like, I know that's from the Bible.
• 26:43
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Let me go look it up.
• 26:44
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And when I looked it up.
• 26:46
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Basically what it, it was saying to me what I interpreted it as.
• 26:49
  Speaker View & Screen Share: 'cause I, I used to interpret dreams too.
• 26:51
  Speaker View & Screen Share: I don't know if, if I ever told you that, but so, um, I started interpreting it like I interpret a dream.
• 26:57
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And so as I interpreted, what I felt like it was telling me is that, that, um, in that situation I was treating God, I was treating money as God, you know, man shall not live on bread alone by, by every word that come from the Lord's mouth or something like that, right?
• 27:13
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And so it was telling me to start to listen to God, put God first.
• 27:17
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Listen to your intuition.
• 27:18
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Stop listening to money, you know?
• 27:20
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And so all the money worries I had was me trying to figure things out by whatever I had in my bank account and whatever money I thought I could, could or couldn't make, you know?
• 27:31
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And so it was just like, give this to God and instead just trust God when you have money problems, go to God first.
• 27:37
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Don't try and figure out what, what you have in your account or how to make money go to God first.
• 27:42
  Speaker View & Screen Share: So I was like, okay, that sounds great.
• 27:44
  Speaker View & Screen Share: So I got tested really quickly.
• 27:47
  Speaker View & Screen Share: So, so I'm driving off to, uh, to the office to meet a friend or something like that.
• 27:54
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And as I'm going, my tire gets flat, right?
• 27:58
  Speaker View & Screen Share: I tire flat and I pull over to the side and I'm like, oh my God.
• 28:02
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Like, what am I gonna do?
• 28:03
  Speaker View & Screen Share: 'cause I have no money in my account, right?
• 28:05
  Speaker View & Screen Share: I have no money in my account.
• 28:07
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And so I start to have these things go through my head, like all the board, like, what am I going to do?
• 28:12
  Speaker View & Screen Share: I have no money.
• 28:14
  Speaker View & Screen Share: I, I can't tow the car.
• 28:15
  Speaker View & Screen Share: I, how am I gonna replace the tire?
• 28:17
  Speaker View & Screen Share: No, I was supposed to have an appointment.
• 28:19
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Like, all these things started going on.
• 28:20
  Speaker View & Screen Share: I was like, Nope, man.
• 28:22
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Shall not live on bread alone, right?
• 28:24
  Speaker View & Screen Share: So let's wait, let's see what happens, right?
• 28:27
  Speaker View & Screen Share: So instead I sit in the car and I'm floating now, right?
• 28:30
  Speaker View & Screen Share: I'm floating and I'm just allowing this anxiety about money to come up and just, it's talking, it's trying to hook me.
• 28:38
  Speaker View & Screen Share: It's saying all types of like, what are you doing?
• 28:40
  Speaker View & Screen Share: How's this helping you?
• 28:40
  Speaker View & Screen Share: You know, like all these things, you know.
• 28:44
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And I'm just like, Nope, you can say whatever you want.
• 28:47
  Speaker View & Screen Share: I'm just allowing you to come up and go.
• 28:49
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And as it's coming up, and again, it starts to get quieter and quieter, and then I get an idea.
• 28:55
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And the idea is to call Tesla and find out if they can tow my car.
• 29:00
  Speaker View & Screen Share: You know?
• 29:01
  Speaker View & Screen Share: 'cause it's, it's still a, it's still what's under 50,000 miles, you know, if they can tow a car and how much it's gonna cost.
• 29:07
  Speaker View & Screen Share: So then I called them.
• 29:09
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And, uh, and I'm like, Hey, you know, my car is down.
• 29:12
  Speaker View & Screen Share: I need a tire thing.
• 29:13
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And he's like, yeah, we can, uh, tow your car for free up to a certain amount of miles.
• 29:17
  Speaker View & Screen Share: So I was like, all right, well, that's great.
• 29:19
  Speaker View & Screen Share: That's one thing down, right?
• 29:20
  Speaker View & Screen Share: I don't need money for that.
• 29:22
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And then he's like, and for the tire, it's gonna be something like$1,200.
• 29:25
  Speaker View & Screen Share: It was something like, I was like$1,200.
• 29:27
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Like, I was like, all right, the anxiety comes back up.
• 29:32
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And it was like, see, what are you gonna do?
• 29:33
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Blah, blah, blah.
• 29:34
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And I was like, all right, uh, I'll let you know what I wanna do.
• 29:37
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And he's like, all right.
• 29:38
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And I hang up.
• 29:39
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And now the anxiety's like, what you, how are you gonna do this?
• 29:41
  Speaker View & Screen Share: $1,200?
• 29:42
  Speaker View & Screen Share: You don't have any?
• 29:43
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And I just was like, Nope, man.
• 29:45
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Shall not live in bread alone.
• 29:47
  Speaker View & Screen Share: I'm going to God, right?
• 29:48
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And so I sit again and I float and I relax.
• 29:54
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And then another idea comes to me, which is a, a a a Christian tire shop that I used in the past.
• 30:00
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And I know they have good rates and stuff like that, so I called them.
• 30:03
  Speaker View & Screen Share: 'cause you know, you always have to replace two tires, even though one popped you, you can't replace one, you always have to replace two.
• 30:09
  Speaker View & Screen Share: So I called them and I say, Hey, you know what happened or how much his tires can be, and it saved$400.
• 30:16
  Speaker View & Screen Share: I was like, okay, that's much better.
• 30:17
  Speaker View & Screen Share: You know?
• 30:18
  Speaker View & Screen Share: But now my thoughts are still like, well, what you gonna do with, you don't even have a$2, so how you gonna do this?
• 30:23
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Right?
• 30:23
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And so I'm like, all right.
• 30:26
  Speaker View & Screen Share: I, I know I can tow it for free from Tesla to the, to the place, to the, uh, tire shop, and it's only 400 as opposed to$1,200.
• 30:34
  Speaker View & Screen Share: What am I gonna do?
• 30:36
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And, you know, there's things I can do, like I can call somebody and ask them to borrow money or something like that, but I never do anything like that unless it's inspired, because if I do that, that's because I'm, I'm in fear and I think that this is the only way I can be provided for, right?
• 30:51
  Speaker View & Screen Share: So, again, the anxiety's coming up, I don't know what to do, and I just sit there and I float again, and I'm floating.
• 30:57
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And over this whole process is probably like a hour that all of this is happening, right?
• 31:01
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And I float again.
• 31:02
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And once I'm floating, then another answer comes to me.
• 31:05
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And, and the another thing I wanna say is that I'm never trying to get an answer.
• 31:09
  Speaker View & Screen Share: All I'm doing is relaxing.
• 31:12
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Like, God, what, what do I need to do next?
• 31:15
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And then I let that go.
• 31:16
  Speaker View & Screen Share: You know, I relax.
• 31:18
  Speaker View & Screen Share: I'm not like, God, what?
• 31:19
  Speaker View & Screen Share: What's the answer?
• 31:20
  Speaker View & Screen Share: What?
• 31:20
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Why don't you tell me?
• 31:21
  Speaker View & Screen Share: No, that's not relaxing.
• 31:23
  Speaker View & Screen Share: You know, what do I need to do next?
• 31:24
  Speaker View & Screen Share: God, I'm listening, and I relax, and that's it.
• 31:29
  Speaker View & Screen Share: There's no more talking.
• 31:30
  Speaker View & Screen Share: The anxiety is coming up, the thoughts is coming up, and I don't give into them.
• 31:33
  Speaker View & Screen Share: I'm just breathing, relaxing, and relaxing my body.
• 31:36
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And then another idea comes up for an idea to do some kind of sale for my business, my online business that I've never done before.
• 31:45
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And the sale would've made me a a max of$800 if everybody bought it right.
• 31:52
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And so I was like, okay.
• 31:53
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And I did it on my phone.
• 31:54
  Speaker View & Screen Share: It was really quick, did it on my phone, something I've never tried before on my phone.
• 31:59
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And within five minutes I get a sale for like$450.
• 32:04
  Speaker View & Screen Share: It's something like, it was crazy.
• 32:05
  Speaker View & Screen Share: It was like a little bit more than I needed.
• 32:07
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And I was like, oh my God.
• 32:11
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Just like that.
• 32:12
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And then I called the Tesla.
• 32:14
  Speaker View & Screen Share: I said, Hey, can you tow it to this place, not to you tow it to the tire place.
• 32:18
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And I called the tire place and say, Hey, the car is coming.
• 32:20
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And like, great.
• 32:21
  Speaker View & Screen Share: I had not only enough money to pay for both of those tires, I had enough money to pay for Uber to pick me up later to get to go get the car.
• 32:30
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And that walk home, nobody could say anything to me.
• 32:33
  Speaker View & Screen Share: I was on top of the world.
• 32:34
  Speaker View & Screen Share: I was totally in the present moment.
• 32:37
  Speaker View & Screen Share: I saw the birds chirping.
• 32:38
  Speaker View & Screen Share: It was like a mile and a half walk home.
• 32:40
  Speaker View & Screen Share: After the tow truck picked up the car.
• 32:42
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Uh, birds were chirping.
• 32:43
  Speaker View & Screen Share: The sun was beautiful.
• 32:44
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And I just was enjoying every moment of everything.
• 32:47
  Speaker View & Screen Share: 'cause I was like, I can trust God.
• 32:49
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Like it was so, it was such like.
• 32:52
  Speaker View & Screen Share: After that message I got at the beach, it was so like, this is obviously what just happened, you know?
• 32:58
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And it was like, I can actually trust God.
• 32:59
  Speaker View & Screen Share: I don't have to trust my anxious thoughts to help me to survive.
• 33:04
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Whoa.
• 33:05
  Speaker View & Screen Share: I love that.
• 33:06
  Speaker View & Screen Share: I love that in that I go back to that story so many times.
• 33:10
  Speaker View & Screen Share: It's like that's where the magic happens.
• 33:12
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And I love how he said, I don't demand an answer.
• 33:16
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Yeah.
• 33:16
  Speaker View & Screen Share: I start floating because it's gonna feel like you wanna demand an answer.
• 33:20
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Please, please give me out of this.
• 33:22
  Speaker View & Screen Share: But you start floating and then you let the answer come and notice how he didn't go with the first answer.
• 33:29
  Speaker View & Screen Share: It was more like guiding him towards the way.
• 33:32
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And, and, and here's another thing I wanna add, is that storytelling really helps us.
• 33:40
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Put ourselves in that situation.
• 33:42
  Speaker View & Screen Share: 'cause we can all relate to that on, in some way, shape, or form.
• 33:46
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Yeah.
• 33:46
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And we've all been there.
• 33:48
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And so it, what happens with me and with my coaching with Mark is I'll take his stories and I'll remember them and I will use them on myself if I start find myself telling a story.
• 34:01
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And here's one that is super powerful and um, I really wanna hit home on this because Mark's been coaching on anxiety for a while and he had a client who had really bad anxiety and something happened to her brother and she was able to handle that with zero anxiety.
• 34:23
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And I'm not gonna tell you the details because I want Mark to tell you.
• 34:27
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Yeah.
• 34:28
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Also I wanted to tell you,'cause this came up, so I was like, maybe this is important to share, but I wanna tell your viewers like.
• 34:35
  Speaker View & Screen Share: If I had listened to anxiety with that tire story, this is what anxiety told me to do.
• 34:40
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Anxiety told me to drive the car with a flat home'cause I was only like a mile and a half from home and park it in the garage and ask somebody for money.
• 34:50
  Speaker View & Screen Share: So this would've been the, if I didn't sit and wait and float and relax and have that wonderful outcome, what would I probably would've did is destroy my rim, maybe even get into another accident, and then stress out and ask people to borrow money and feel ashamed and all kinds of, and this is what anxiety does when you, when you follow it, it just makes everything worse.
• 35:11
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Right.
• 35:12
  Speaker View & Screen Share: So I just wanted to throw that in there.
• 35:14
  Speaker View & Screen Share: 'cause that just came up for me.
• 35:15
  Speaker View & Screen Share: I was like, you know, you have to see the difference between what anxiety will tell you to do and what God will tell you to do.
• 35:21
  Speaker View & Screen Share: You know, and that's why I could walk home feeling on top of the world because I, I, I, I, I took the guidance of abundance and love instead of anxiety and fear, you know.
• 35:33
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Yeah.
• 35:35
  Speaker View & Screen Share: I love that.
• 35:35
  Speaker View & Screen Share: It just makes me feel better in the moment and, um, I hope it, it resonates with you.
• 35:42
  Speaker View & Screen Share: I, I trust it resonates with you as well as, as the viewers.
• 35:46
  Speaker View & Screen Share: So tell us about your client.
• 35:49
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Uh, what happened with her and her brother?
• 35:52
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Yeah, so I had this client, and I'll tell you from, uh, how she started because it's important to the story because she, I had another person that I helped with anxiety, and then she, uh, this is like a family friend that was going through anxiety too.
• 36:07
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And she said, you know, mark, to help me, she can, he can help you too.
• 36:10
  Speaker View & Screen Share: So I started, the first day I called, I remember she had just.
• 36:15
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Quit school, college because her anxieties were so bad that she felt like she couldn't continue in college.
• 36:21
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And um, and I was talking to her and telling her, you know, that I had anxieties too and you know, and I can help her.
• 36:28
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And, you know, I know that she doesn't feel like she's a normal person and know,'cause you know, when you're anxiety, a lot of times you look at other people and you're like, I just wanna be normal like that again.
• 36:39
  Speaker View & Screen Share: You know?
• 36:40
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And I knew she wanted, she wanted that.
• 36:42
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And I would say that.
• 36:43
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And at the end of the conversation she said, you know, the way you speak, I.
• 36:48
  Speaker View & Screen Share: You feel so happy and you have all this peace.
• 36:51
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And I would can never believe that you can, you can have more anxiety than even I have right now from your story.
• 36:58
  Speaker View & Screen Share: The only reason I even believe you is because you're saying things that only an anxious person would know.
• 37:02
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Like saying like, I wanna be normal again.
• 37:04
  Speaker View & Screen Share: You know?
• 37:05
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And she's like, that's the only reason.
• 37:07
  Speaker View & Screen Share: But other than that, I would think you're full of it.
• 37:09
  Speaker View & Screen Share: You know?
• 37:11
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And so, and even talking about anxiety, she's like, you can talk about anxiety and this.
• 37:15
  Speaker View & Screen Share: I was like, yeah.
• 37:16
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And so, so I was like, and you will be able to too if you just do the work that I, I give you to do.
• 37:22
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And so she was like, okay.
• 37:23
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And so she was really good.
• 37:25
  Speaker View & Screen Share: She was really diligent, just like Kathy is like, she does the work, you know?
• 37:28
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And like, and no matter what I told her to do, she was always doing, she's very, very consistent.
• 37:33
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And so, uh, this is months has passed and she calls me and I'm not even speaking to her that much anymore because she's just so much better.
• 37:41
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Right?
• 37:42
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And, um, one day she calls me and she's like, mark.
• 37:45
  Speaker View & Screen Share: I gotta tell you a story.
• 37:46
  Speaker View & Screen Share: She's like, I was at the club with my brother, you know, and some friends and they're in New York and, and um, somebody was shooting in the club and they shot my brother by mistake and my brother is shot and everybody's freaking out.
• 38:01
  Speaker View & Screen Share: There's like stamping people running out and I am there calming everybody else down.
• 38:06
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And she was like, I was calming everybody else down, mark.
• 38:11
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And I was like, wow.
• 38:13
  Speaker View & Screen Share: I was like, do you see?
• 38:14
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And she's like, that's Incr.
• 38:15
  Speaker View & Screen Share: I can't believe that I was the one calming everybody down.
• 38:18
  Speaker View & Screen Share: The one that's supposed to have the anxieties.
• 38:21
  Speaker View & Screen Share: I'm the one that's calming everybody down.
• 38:23
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And I told Larry, I said, that's because it's never about the situation.
• 38:27
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And this was a huge, huge, like showing of that, that it had nothing to do with the circumstance and it has to do with who you are being.
• 38:36
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Right.
• 38:37
  Speaker View & Screen Share: It's not about what's happening to you, it's who you're being during the circumstance.
• 38:42
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And because she has been training to be peace and allow things to come through her and pass and to think like through a lens of peace and centeredness, since she's been learned, taught that for months and weeks and things like that.
• 38:55
  Speaker View & Screen Share: When she had the opportunity to do this, it was already embedded in her.
• 39:00
  Speaker View & Screen Share: It was already habitualize.
• 39:01
  Speaker View & Screen Share: She didn't even have to think about it.
• 39:03
  Speaker View & Screen Share: She knew she got in the present moment, she probably was breathing and relaxing.
• 39:06
  Speaker View & Screen Share: She probably was saying affirmations like, I can handle this.
• 39:09
  Speaker View & Screen Share: I can handle this.
• 39:10
  Speaker View & Screen Share: You'll be okay.
• 39:11
  Speaker View & Screen Share: You know, and then those, those affirmations probably was externalized to the people around her because now she is being peace.
• 39:18
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Right.
• 39:18
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And so when you are being peace, you, you reduce anxiety within yourself and in your circumstances because you are the person that's taken everything and filtering it through calmness.
• 39:30
  Speaker View & Screen Share: You know, you're just like, calm everything down, right?
• 39:33
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Because this is who you are.
• 39:34
  Speaker View & Screen Share: But when you're anxiety, it doesn't matter how small the thing is, you will blow everything up'cause you're taking everything and you, you're filtering it through anxiety and you turn, you're turning, uh, molehills into mountains now, you know?
• 39:46
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And so, and, and even in the end of, there's even something that I think is really beautiful with her story too.
• 39:52
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Not only that,'cause she was so proud of that, but I called her like a couple years after, you know, we stopped coaching just to check up on her.
• 40:00
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And she had casually said to me, uh, she's like, oh yeah, I just graduated from, uh, college, you know, I.
• 40:08
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Uh, last month or something like that.
• 40:10
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And she said, and she's like, oh, and I have a baby on the way.
• 40:13
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And like I started like tearing up, like I started like getting emotional and she wasn't emotional at all.
• 40:19
  Speaker View & Screen Share: But she doesn't remember the first conversation we ever had was her saying she left college because of anxiety and she couldn't do it anymore.
• 40:27
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And I didn't even know she went back to college.
• 40:29
  Speaker View & Screen Share: I didn't know this part, you know.
• 40:30
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And so now that she was Grant and now like it feel like God was telling me like, this is what can happen when you help people.
• 40:37
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Like she, you changed the whole trajectory of her life because of what you went through.
• 40:42
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Because you were able to heal yourself and then you shared it with somebody else.
• 40:46
  Speaker View & Screen Share: You know?
• 40:47
  Speaker View & Screen Share: So that's that story that, and that last time I spoke to her really helped me to continue with my coaching.
• 40:53
  Speaker View & Screen Share: 'cause it felt like more of a responsibility now.
• 40:55
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And just instead of just something I was doing for money, you know.
• 41:00
  Speaker View & Screen Share: I absolutely love that.
• 41:02
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And that is the truth.
• 41:04
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Hands down, that works.
• 41:06
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And so my journey with Mark, he's in my mastermind, in the flow-based Prosperity MAs mastermind.
• 41:13
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And I would hear him talking about his journey with anxiety and I'm like, oh my God, that's me.
• 41:19
  Speaker View & Screen Share: I know he knows what he's talking about.
• 41:22
  Speaker View & Screen Share: I ha I, my anxiety was off the charts, even though everything in my life is like really, really great and things are fine and everything, you know, it just seems like it.
• 41:32
  Speaker View & Screen Share: But what happened was the neural pathways were just like so ingrained in my head that I had to rewrite my stories.
• 41:42
  Speaker View & Screen Share: I had to start floating.
• 41:44
  Speaker View & Screen Share: I had to start re, I had to start healing from anxiety.
• 41:48
  Speaker View & Screen Share: 'cause it's like, and I did a video on this not too long ago.
• 41:52
  Speaker View & Screen Share: It's like my body became addicted to anxiety and just.
• 41:57
  Speaker View & Screen Share: In a state of anxiety all the time.
• 41:59
  Speaker View & Screen Share: I didn't realize it, and now that I'm healing from it, I, I'm like, oh wow, this feels so much better and I can remain in peace despite the things that are going on around me.
• 42:13
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And I'm also starting to see that my peace.
• 42:17
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Is starting to affect everybody else in my world, even if I don't even say anything.
• 42:22
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Yeah.
• 42:23
  Speaker View & Screen Share: I don't even have to say anything.
• 42:24
  Speaker View & Screen Share: It's just a mere presence that goes on, and it is the presence of God and it is the presence that is, it's the, it's the most powerful presence and it's the peace that passive all understanding, all understanding.
• 42:40
  Speaker View & Screen Share: It's definitely that because anxiety is it, it it, it is the teacher.
• 42:47
  Speaker View & Screen Share: It's not mine, it's the teacher and it's guiding you to the truth, which is where the peace that passes all understanding comes from.
• 42:57
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And I'm.
• 42:59
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Feeling that and I've it, uh, that's amazing.
• 43:02
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Yeah.
• 43:03
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Did I tell you this, that story, the piece that passed it all in the standing?
• 43:06
  Speaker View & Screen Share: No.
• 43:06
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And I can't wait to hear it.
• 43:09
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Oh my God.
• 43:10
  Speaker View & Screen Share: I guess you just, it triggered the story.
• 43:12
  Speaker View & Screen Share: I thought I told you about that.
• 43:15
  Speaker View & Screen Share: So when I was having anxiety, you know, I, I had this thought that kept coming to me, that peace that passed, all understanding, the peace that passed, all understanding.
• 43:26
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And that kept coming to me, right?
• 43:28
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And I was like, what is that?
• 43:30
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Like how do I get that?
• 43:31
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And I started reading the Bible, the piece that passed all understanding.
• 43:34
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And I started like really like wondering what is the piece that passed it all understanding.
• 43:39
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And then one day I'll scroll on the internet.
• 43:41
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And I saw an ad for tm, which is transcendental meditation.
• 43:44
  Speaker View & Screen Share: That's the meditation that Oprah does.
• 43:46
  Speaker View & Screen Share: How it stern does Arnold Schwarzenegger, like all these celebrities and CEOs.
• 43:50
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Um, uh, and so, and it said that there's a, um, scholarship, right?
• 43:55
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Because I had no money.
• 43:56
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And so it's like there's a scholarship that you can fill out.
• 43:59
  Speaker View & Screen Share: So every TM center, there's TM centers in different cities all over, all over the world.
• 44:05
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And so there was one in my county too.
• 44:07
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And so I fill out this thing for a scholarship.
• 44:09
  Speaker View & Screen Share: I went to go see them, uh, go, go to it, and they, they approved me to pay for the whole thing, which was very rare.
• 44:16
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Usually they pay it for a little bit, but they paid for the whole thing.
• 44:19
  Speaker View & Screen Share: I was like, thank you.
• 44:20
  Speaker View & Screen Share: So I was so grateful.
• 44:21
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And then we went through the training for how to do this meditation, and over the couple days we're doing this meditation.
• 44:28
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And then one day I'm sitting there and I'm doing this meditation.
• 44:31
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And, and I feel this is the first time this I felt the separateness.
• 44:36
  Speaker View & Screen Share: So I'm sitting in meditation doing tm, and then I can feel the anxiety starting to come up, you know?
• 44:41
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And the panic starting to come up.
• 44:43
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And I stay in meditation doing the TM technique, and then I can feel it, and then it finally passes.
• 44:51
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And I was like, and like the whole thing didn't pass.
• 44:54
  Speaker View & Screen Share: But you know, like the, like I tell you, the edge comes off, right?
• 44:57
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And I didn't feel as anxious anymore.
• 44:59
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And I felt like I got operate again.
• 45:01
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And then I opened my eyes and I'm like, oh my God.
• 45:05
  Speaker View & Screen Share: The peace beyond understanding.
• 45:07
  Speaker View & Screen Share: That's what it is.
• 45:08
  Speaker View & Screen Share: It is literally the, the secret is in the words, it's the peace beyond understanding.
• 45:14
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And before that moment, I used to try to understand my way to peace.
• 45:19
  Speaker View & Screen Share: You know, so I'm anxious about money.
• 45:21
  Speaker View & Screen Share: I'm like, well, you know, I'm gonna, a check is coming and, you know, and, and maybe I can sell something like that.
• 45:27
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And, you know, it'll be, it'll be okay.
• 45:29
  Speaker View & Screen Share: It'll be okay.
• 45:30
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Or, you know, somebody's sick.
• 45:32
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And I'll just be like, you know, well, you know, we do, we will go to the doctor and we'll get these drugs.
• 45:36
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And I was always trying to understand my way into feeling better, you know, and when I sat there in meditation and I felt the anxiety come up and I didn't get involved in it, and I just allowed it to be there, and then it eventually dissipated.
• 45:50
  Speaker View & Screen Share: I realized in that moment, the peace beyond understanding is not trying to understand your way into peace.
• 45:57
  Speaker View & Screen Share: It is just allowing peace to rain, basically.
• 46:01
  Speaker View & Screen Share: You know, when you are allow and you relax, then anxiety will pass.
• 46:05
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Anger will pass.
• 46:07
  Speaker View & Screen Share: No d depression, feeling down will pass and you will be left with the peace that you already are.
• 46:13
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And so that, that's, I, I totally forgot about that, but that was my first time ever realizing that I am not my feelings and I am not my thoughts.
• 46:22
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And it was led to me from that piece beyond understanding.
• 46:27
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Yeah.
• 46:28
  Speaker View & Screen Share: I love that.
• 46:29
  Speaker View & Screen Share: That is a, um, that is what.
• 46:33
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Will happen if you just allow the emotion to come through and let it just rise.
• 46:40
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And it's been proven that it takes 90 seconds for emotion to go all the way through your body.
• 46:48
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And so that 90 seconds of floating, I mean, real floating.
• 46:52
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Yeah.
• 46:52
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Because when he says, take the edge off, I know from experience it doesn't just go away.
• 46:58
  Speaker View & Screen Share: It's still there.
• 47:00
  Speaker View & Screen Share: But I see it subsiding.
• 47:02
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And when he talks about that, um, journey, it's an upward journey.
• 47:06
  Speaker View & Screen Share: You're gonna come back down and hit anxiety again.
• 47:10
  Speaker View & Screen Share: But it's the teacher, it's the teacher that's guiding you where to go to the piece that passes all understanding.
• 47:17
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And I think, uh, you know, I, I wanna respect your time and I think this is a good place to stop.
• 47:23
  Speaker View & Screen Share: 'cause we could definitely go on for a long, long time.
• 47:26
  Speaker View & Screen Share: But I, I, I definitely want you to come back on the channel and we'll talk about the journey that's gonna.
• 47:33
  Speaker View & Screen Share: You know, go, go through with this and we'll see what happens.
• 47:37
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And I, I look forward to talking to you again on the channel.
• 47:40
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Um, so where can people find you?
• 47:42
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Uh, to, and I definitely will have the links in the show notes and description before below.
• 47:47
  Speaker View & Screen Share: But go ahead and tell us where people can find you and where they can work with you.
• 47:53
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Uh, you, well, you can find me on, uh, manifested mark on YouTube.
• 47:57
  Speaker View & Screen Share: I don't really have a lot of like, you know, Kathie's actually might help me with this'cause I don't really have websites and all this stuff set up.
• 48:04
  Speaker View & Screen Share: I have a Calen, Calendly, am I saying it right?
• 48:07
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Yeah, yeah.
• 48:07
  Speaker View & Screen Share: I have a link that you can book, uh, with me, uh, a meeting, a discovery meeting, and she'll put the link below.
• 48:13
  Speaker View & Screen Share: But I honestly, people come to me through word of mouth and through just guidance.
• 48:18
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Like people are guided to me and that's how I get most of my clients.
• 48:21
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And I, I don't, I try to, you know, do like the way a coach is supposed to do a couple times and I just didn't like it.
• 48:29
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And so I just was like, you know what, God, if you want people to work with me, then people will work with me.
• 48:33
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And that's exactly what happens.
• 48:35
  Speaker View & Screen Share: People just come to, matter of fact, today when I was sitting in the Zen Garden that I knew, one, I found that I told you about.
• 48:41
  Speaker View & Screen Share: I got a message that somebody is going to, somebody that I used to work with is gonna come back and work with me again.
• 48:47
  Speaker View & Screen Share: So I'll let you know if that happens, because usually when I get a, a message like that, that somebody's gonna call me or something, it, it usually happens, you know?
• 48:54
  Speaker View & Screen Share: So I was like, oh, we'll see.
• 48:56
  Speaker View & Screen Share: You know?
• 48:57
  Speaker View & Screen Share: But, uh, one thing I do wanna say before we close is that I just wanna let anybody that's watching this, that you have, you may be experiencing anxiety.
• 49:05
  Speaker View & Screen Share: I want you to understand what it is.
• 49:08
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Anxiety is not trying to de to destroy you, it's your friend.
• 49:13
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Honestly, actually.
• 49:15
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And even the girl that her brother got shot in the nightclub, which she's okay by the way.
• 49:19
  Speaker View & Screen Share: I didn't say that, but he's okay.
• 49:22
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Even her, I remember telling her that one day you're gonna call anxiety the teacher.
• 49:27
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Because it's actually trying to help you.
• 49:29
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And she was like, mark, that's never going to happen.
• 49:31
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And now every time I speak to her, she's like, the teacher.
• 49:34
  Speaker View & Screen Share: The teacher, you know?
• 49:35
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Because what happens is that the, your way of being is stressful for your body and your soul.
• 49:44
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And your body.
• 49:45
  Speaker View & Screen Share: When you start experiencing anxiety, your body is telling you when you have a pain somewhere in your body, it's not just being a pain just to be a pain.
• 49:53
  Speaker View & Screen Share: It's being a pain to tell you something.
• 49:55
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Your body's communicating with you.
• 49:57
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And we've lost the art of listening to our body in our society, but our body's always talking to us.
• 50:03
  Speaker View & Screen Share: So this anxiety is telling you alert, there's something wrong.
• 50:06
  Speaker View & Screen Share: The way you're doing something is something wrong.
• 50:08
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And the way that like messages work is that first it's a whisper, and if you don't listen, eventually a bus hits you.
• 50:15
  Speaker View & Screen Share: So when you're having this terrible anxiety, it's from not listening to your body for a long time.
• 50:21
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And so now you're sensitized, your body's very sensitive.
• 50:25
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And I believe this is all I, what I believe from healing myself two times and from talking to people, you know, um, is when your body's really sensitive, it's because it's trying to get your attention.
• 50:37
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And when anxiety gets so big, it takes over your entire world.
• 50:41
  Speaker View & Screen Share: It's because it's like something needs to change.
• 50:44
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And when you start listening to it, when you stop running from anxiety, when you stop fighting anxiety and you start listening to it and being like, what is it that you're trying to teach me?
• 50:52
  Speaker View & Screen Share: God, what is it?
• 50:53
  Speaker View & Screen Share: What is it that I need to know?
• 50:55
  Speaker View & Screen Share: You'll start to know the things.
• 50:56
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Maybe you should stop drinking alcohol, right?
• 50:59
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Maybe you should take down less caffeine.
• 51:02
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Maybe there's certain people around you that you don't need to be around anymore.
• 51:06
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Obviously you're not talking to yourself nicely.
• 51:08
  Speaker View & Screen Share: You're not being loving and kind to yourself in the way you speak.
• 51:11
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Maybe you're not eating in a way that's really good for your body.
• 51:14
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Maybe you're not moving and exercising all these things.
• 51:17
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And then what you start doing when you start taking care of yourself is you start healing yourself.
• 51:22
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And what anxiety is just helping you to do is to listen and to love yourself.
• 51:27
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And when you listen to yourself and you love yourself over and over and over again, and you start to be the person that is listening to yourself and loving yourself, then anxiety has no longer a reason to be there.
• 51:38
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And it reduces and reduces, and reduces, and reduces.
• 51:42
  Speaker View & Screen Share: 'cause you're a different person.
• 51:44
  Speaker View & Screen Share: You've learned your lesson.
• 51:45
  Speaker View & Screen Share: So I just want to tell everybody that because there's a lot of information and anxiety that makes it feel like something you have to fight when it's the actual opposite.
• 51:52
  Speaker View & Screen Share: It's something you should listen to and embrace.
• 51:54
  Speaker View & Screen Share: I.
• 51:55
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Oh, whoa.
• 51:58
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Bomb exploding.
• 51:59
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And I have to tell you that working with Mark has taught me all of that.
• 52:04
  Speaker View & Screen Share: So I enjoy alcohol, I like to drink, but right now I'm healing from anxiety and I know that it makes it worse.
• 52:11
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Another thing that happened was I was caffeine.
• 52:15
  Speaker View & Screen Share: I did a pre-workout in the morning before I got, you know,'cause I don't drink coffee, but I drank a pre-workout.
• 52:22
  Speaker View & Screen Share: I drank an energy drink.
• 52:24
  Speaker View & Screen Share: I went in my supplement.
• 52:25
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Store the other day, and they were like, Kathy, you want your energy drink?
• 52:29
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And I said, oh yeah, I forgot.
• 52:30
  Speaker View & Screen Share: I don't drink those anymore because of my, I'm healing from anxiety.
• 52:34
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Yeah.
• 52:34
  Speaker View & Screen Share: I knew it.
• 52:34
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Yeah.
• 52:35
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And honestly, to tell you the truth, what happened was my body just started feeling better and it started, I, I, I started taking care of myself.
• 52:45
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Like he said, it's all about self-love.
• 52:47
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And it starts there.
• 52:48
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And when I started doing that, those habits just fell away.
• 52:53
  Speaker View & Screen Share: I didn't even realize, I got up one morning and I was like, I didn't, I went to the gym and I didn't even have a pre-workout.
• 53:00
  Speaker View & Screen Share: What?
• 53:01
  Speaker View & Screen Share: That's, that hasn't happened in years.
• 53:04
  Speaker View & Screen Share: In, in years.
• 53:05
  Speaker View & Screen Share: I'm not kidding you.
• 53:06
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Probably at least five or six years.
• 53:09
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And I'm like, Hmm, I don't need the caffeine.
• 53:12
  Speaker View & Screen Share: I did not have headache withdrawals because I was taking care of myself because I was doing meditation.
• 53:17
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Exactly.
• 53:18
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Mm-hmm.
• 53:18
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And because I was like, um, to your rest.
• 53:23
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Yeah.
• 53:23
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And getting my rest and my sleep is so much better.
• 53:27
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Yeah.
• 53:27
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And you know, I still have, you know, bouts with anxiety, but I know what it's, what it's doing now.
• 53:33
  Speaker View & Screen Share: It's just, it's what it is, is this, the ego just clawing for its dear life.
• 53:39
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And I see it.
• 53:40
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And I love how the book Dare teaches you this.
• 53:44
  Speaker View & Screen Share: How?
• 53:44
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Yes.
• 53:44
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Uh, okay, whatever.
• 53:46
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Uh, come on, bring it on.
• 53:48
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Lemme see what got.
• 53:49
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And then also to ta um, there's a part in that book, and let's talk about this real, real quick before we go.
• 53:56
  Speaker View & Screen Share: But, um, there's a part in the book where.
• 53:59
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Anxiety has you give it this little voice and let it talk and let it tell you what's going on.
• 54:05
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Because I still have anxiety, especially when I first wake up, like my brain is going, oh God, we gotta do this.
• 54:12
  Speaker View & Screen Share: We gotta do this, we gotta do this.
• 54:13
  Speaker View & Screen Share: But now I'm in the habit of taking care of myself first thing in the morning, and I'm letting go of a lot of like old limiting beliefs.
• 54:22
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Like, I've gotta get paid by the hour and I've gotta go to work and I've gotta show up to work because I've been in corporate for so many years, but now I'm an entrepreneur.
• 54:31
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And an entrepreneur is so much more kind to you than a freaking boss and corporate telling, you gotta clock in, you gotta clock out, and we don't care about your mental health, whatever.
• 54:42
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Just come on.
• 54:43
  Speaker View & Screen Share: But my brain was, those neural pathways were so engraved that when I wake up in the morning, it'll, it'll hit.
• 54:50
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Mm-hmm.
• 54:51
  Speaker View & Screen Share: It'll hit me.
• 54:51
  Speaker View & Screen Share: But I'm like, okay, teacher.
• 54:53
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And so real, real quick.
• 54:55
  Speaker View & Screen Share: If, if we can do it real quick.
• 54:57
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Yeah.
• 54:57
  Speaker View & Screen Share: How, um, how does dare tell you that the voice goes and you have the conversation with anxiety?
• 55:04
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Well, the DARE is the book that, uh, it came to me like, uh, maybe like, I don't know, maybe like 10 years after I had anxiety that first time I had it again.
• 55:14
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And it was, it wasn't as bad as the last time, but it was pretty bad and it was really confusing.
• 55:20
  Speaker View & Screen Share: I was like, why am I experiencing this?
• 55:21
  Speaker View & Screen Share: I, I thought I took care of this, you know?
• 55:24
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And um, and then I learned that, you know, I really, the last time I, the way I got through it is I, I read that Clear Weeks book.
• 55:32
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Um.
• 55:33
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And I read only one chapter and one chapter.
• 55:37
  Speaker View & Screen Share: In that book, it was basically telling you how anxiety is a cycle.
• 55:40
  Speaker View & Screen Share: So something triggered you, you had anxiety, and then you start being afraid of the anxiety and that creates more anxiety.
• 55:47
  Speaker View & Screen Share: So there's a spiral.
• 55:48
  Speaker View & Screen Share: So as soon as I read that, I was like, oh, I know what I need to do, and I just ignored it.
• 55:53
  Speaker View & Screen Share: That's all I did.
• 55:54
  Speaker View & Screen Share: I ignored it at every moment I could.
• 55:56
  Speaker View & Screen Share: I listened to music, I would sing along with the music.
• 55:59
  Speaker View & Screen Share: I started doing things I enjoyed.
• 56:00
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Like I started fishing.
• 56:02
  Speaker View & Screen Share: I started playing basketball, you know, just doing as many things I enjoyed.
• 56:06
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And then what really took me, uh, to like a hundred percent as I got a job that I really loved, it was my dream job at that time.
• 56:13
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And that job, I loved it so much that I was always present in the job and I just forgot that I even had anxieties, you know?
• 56:22
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And then that's what really got me out that cycle, and I didn't up experience it again.
• 56:26
  Speaker View & Screen Share: So the second time it happened, what happened is that I did not learn all the lessons I needed to learn.
• 56:33
  Speaker View & Screen Share: You know, and so when I found the steer book and I joined their community, they have a great, the book is great and they have a community that's really great.
• 56:41
  Speaker View & Screen Share: I joined the community and I started listening to the stories and the testimonials and real, what they're saying.
• 56:47
  Speaker View & Screen Share: I started to learn that there was way more to it and to, what she's talking about is the talk.
• 56:51
  Speaker View & Screen Share: So when anxiety starts talking to you, you know,'cause every emotion has some kind of story, has some kind of talk they tell you to stop and they tell you to, um, to change your story and say something different.
• 57:02
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And what they got from is cognitive behavioral therapy.
• 57:06
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And so, and I started reading a book on that too.
• 57:09
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And all cognitive behavioral therapy is, is basically.
• 57:13
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Writing down all your negative thoughts because all these thoughts that's coming to you, all these anxious thoughts, it's the same thought over and over and over again.
• 57:20
  Speaker View & Screen Share: It's probably like, you know, one to 20 of the same type of thought going over and over again in the loop.
• 57:26
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And so you write that down and then you write something that's the opposite of that, that's that relaxes that, that anxiety in that area, you know?
• 57:35
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And when you learn to have something else,'cause when you float and relax, you need to replace it.
• 57:42
  Speaker View & Screen Share: You know?
• 57:43
  Speaker View & Screen Share: You don't wanna just float and relax and then go ahead thinking the same way you thought before.
• 57:48
  Speaker View & Screen Share: 'cause that's gonna create more of the same, right?
• 57:50
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And so you need to float and relax and then you need to be the new person.
• 57:54
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And Dr.
• 57:54
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Joe talks about this too, right?
• 57:56
  Speaker View & Screen Share: To get up from your meditation as the new person.
• 57:59
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And so you have to be that person that thinks in a way that's opposite to the way you were thinking before that got you in this place, in the first place.
• 58:07
  Speaker View & Screen Share: I.
• 58:07
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And so that's what they talk about in that book.
• 58:09
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And that was really p that is a really powerful thing because people, especially if your anxiety, the anxiety experience is not very dramatic.
• 58:20
  Speaker View & Screen Share: You can heal just like that because like the source of those, those thoughts, as soon as you change them, there's no more anxiety to be created.
• 58:28
  Speaker View & Screen Share: You know?
• 58:29
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And even if you have a lot of anxiety, all that means is that your body's very sensitized.
• 58:34
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And like she, like Kathy was saying, you're in a habitual pattern.
• 58:37
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Like you got addicted to anxiety.
• 58:39
  Speaker View & Screen Share: You know, it's like habitually coming up even when there's no reason to come up.
• 58:43
  Speaker View & Screen Share: So now you just have to learn to relax every time that comes up and think the new thoughts and practice a new feeling.
• 58:49
  Speaker View & Screen Share: So when you think those new thoughts, when you practice peace, when you practice joy, as you relax and practice peace, relax, and practice joy, relax, practice peace, relax, practice joy.
• 59:00
  Speaker View & Screen Share: You are creating a new habitual pattern within your body.
• 59:03
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And now what's gonna happen is you're gonna have spontaneous feelings of deep peace.
• 59:08
  Speaker View & Screen Share: You're gonna have spontaneous moments of joy for no reason, because this is what you're practicing now.
• 59:14
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And that that book has a, and you know, in that book, in the end of that book, when you read that dear book, in the end of it, he says basically that all of this basically boils down to you loving yourself.
• 59:28
  Speaker View & Screen Share: That's what he says.
• 59:29
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And I'm just like, wow.
• 59:30
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Like every single thing.
• 59:32
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Like there's a this Louise Hayes, which you know, I love, and I give Louise Hayes to everybody and she says, you know, I used to fix this about the person and this, you know, when somebody's worried about their weight, somebody's worried about relationships, somebody's worried about money.
• 59:45
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And she's like, once I start teaching people to love themselves.
• 59:49
  Speaker View & Screen Share: All of those things just start to fall away, and I didn't have to work on this and on that and that.
• 59:54
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And the longer I go on this journey, the spiritual journey, the more people I help, the more times I help myself, I realize that this is true.
• 1:00:01
  Speaker View & Screen Share: It all is just loving yourself.
• 1:00:03
  Speaker View & Screen Share: When you start loving yourself as much as you can every single day and growing in that love, everything starts falling away and everything just improves.
• 1:00:12
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Because if you love yourself, you want to have you, you can only allow the best people in your life.
• 1:00:17
  Speaker View & Screen Share: If you love yourself, you're gonna make sure that you have a good wage and you have, you earn a good living.
• 1:00:22
  Speaker View & Screen Share: You know, if you love yourself, you're gonna make sure you're healthy and you take care of your body.
• 1:00:26
  Speaker View & Screen Share: You know you're gonna do everything you need to do and more.
• 1:00:29
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Whoa, that's a good place to leave this because that is the truth.
• 1:00:34
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Bottom line, because you are God, you are the universe and that is where you, your power comes from.
• 1:00:43
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And when you realize that, it's like, wow, everything falls into place.
• 1:00:46
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Just like he knew what to do with the tire.
• 1:00:48
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Just like the girl knew what to do with the her brother getting shot, just like he knew what to do with the bug.
• 1:00:53
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And on top of that, he taught his children.
• 1:00:57
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Very valuable lessons that they can apply later in life.
• 1:01:00
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And it that's true.
• 1:01:02
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Uh, as a coach myself and a wellness consultant and a wellness coach, that's all.
• 1:01:07
  Speaker View & Screen Share: If, if you can teach somebody to love themselves, then all your work is done.
• 1:01:14
  Speaker View & Screen Share: It's just, and you could just watch this video, watch it again, watch it again, watch it again, and, and you will start to feel that self love that we're talking about, because that has changed everything.
• 1:01:26
  Speaker View & Screen Share: When I started working with Mark, I wanna say just two months ago, and people are already noticing a difference in me that don't even know that I.
• 1:01:36
  Speaker View & Screen Share: I did that.
• 1:01:37
  Speaker View & Screen Share: You know, I went through this coaching, but I dramatic change.
• 1:01:40
  Speaker View & Screen Share: It's just a matter, it's just a matter of finding that self-love that I had lost because I beat myself up so many times.
• 1:01:48
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And that's all anxiety is doing is is beating you up.
• 1:01:51
  Speaker View & Screen Share: But when you ask it to teach you the lesson, it guides you too.
• 1:01:56
  Speaker View & Screen Share: That, so that's where we're gonna leave this today, and I promise you we'll have Mark back on because we're still on this journey and I, it's never a destination.
• 1:02:06
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Right.
• 1:02:06
  Speaker View & Screen Share: I want you to remember that too.
• 1:02:07
  Speaker View & Screen Share: It's never a destination, it's just a journey.
• 1:02:10
  Speaker View & Screen Share: And fall in love with it because I can tell you when you do, woo, it's where the magic happened.
• 1:02:16
  Speaker View & Screen Share: That's right.
• 1:02:17
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Alright, thanks Mark.
• 1:02:19
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Thank you so much.
• 1:02:23
  Speaker View & Screen Share: Okay.
• 1:02:26
  Okay.
• 1:02:26
  Okay.
• 1:02:27
  So thank you for watching.
• 1:02:28
  I trust that you found it helpful, and in fact, I hope you watch it again or listen to it again and.
• 1:02:36
  Just soak it in because that is some powerful information you just heard.
• 1:02:42
  All the links will be in the show note and description below.
• 1:02:45
  I will also have a short blog post on my blog that includes all of the bonus extras, including the bonus resources, the books that we talked about, as well as how to find Mark and also to start working with him.
• 1:03:00
  And maybe some coaching programs that I have going on at the same time.
• 1:03:04
  Anyways, thank you very much for watching.
• 1:03:08
  I trust that you found today's episode helpful, and until next time, I will see you next time.
• 1:03:15
  Peace out and Namaste.