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Season 2 - Episode 218 - Interrupting the worry patterns · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Welcome to the Good Morning From the Chicken Coop Podcast with
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  Kim Johnson, your creative strategist and master mindset
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  coach. Filled with inspiration,
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  distinctions, perspectives, and possibilities, we help you to
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  cultivate a mindset that leads you to create the best version
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  of yourself you could ever imagine.
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  Join Kim every morning from one of her favorite happy places,
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  her chicken coop along with all her chickens.
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  Hey everybody, good morning from the chicken coop.
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  So today I want to talk to you about worrying and I want you to
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  know I am a warrior by nature. I'm sure if you've listened
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  before, you've heard me talk about this.
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  I have no doubt in my mind that I can worry with the best of
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  them. I like to say I'm somewhat of a
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  reformed warrior because I've taught myself over the years
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  about. The the sickness of worrying.
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  And it really is a sickness when it comes down to this, because
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  it gets in you, it becomes part of you.
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  So what does worrying do for you and what does it give you?
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  Well, first of all, it gives you tons of anxiety.
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  It gives you stress, it gives you heart disease.
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  It gives you. The open door for illness in
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  your body because you're spending so much time in acidity
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  that your body is getting unhealthy.
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  So this this opens the door for lots of things to worry about.
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  Which is ironic, right? Because you're worrying because
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  you don't want them to happen, but by worrying you're opening
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  the door to them happening. Plus, from just a spiritual
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  standpoint, being a warrior. It means you don't believe in,
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  trust in the things that you say that you believe in.
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  Trust in this is such a critical part of understanding it.
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  Because if I say I have faith, if I say I'm spiritual, if I say
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  I believe that God in the universe take care of me, then
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  why am I worried, right? Like it doesn't make any sense.
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  It just doesn't make sense because I know I've got, you
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  know, the universe constantly conspiring for my greater good.
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  So what the hell am I worried about?
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  Well, worrying is a habit. It's learned and.
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  Those of you who have listened before understand that I learned
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  this from my mother. She was a professional warrior
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  and she taught me to be a professional warrior.
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  So I've had to unlearn what I've learned.
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  As Yoda said, you must unlearn what you have learned.
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  And do I ever think that I'm over it?
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  Let me say this No. Because just like the whole
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  concept of emotions and the bus. When we talk about who's driving
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  your bus, they are there to always help us, so you cannot
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  kick them off. Worrying is actually something
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  that can be useful because it makes you stop and it makes you
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  go okay what if? And it gives you a little bit of
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  insight. The trick is not to stay in it.
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  But this is where we get hung up, as as human beings, we get
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  hung up because we think we'll have to pay attention.
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  I have to worry. But past that first few minutes
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  of understanding what it's trying to tell you and making
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  the plan, do you need to keep looping back to it?
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  Absolutely not. Because there's nothing.
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  Nothing that's going to help you with it.
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  It's just going to be one of those things that you keep
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  focused on and boom, there you go.
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  As Mark Twain famously said, I've had a lot of worries in my
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  life, most of which never happened, and that is the truth.
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  They don't happen. So what do you do when you just
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  can't seem to stop obsessing on something?
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  Like what do you do? So first of all I will tell you.
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  The obsessive thoughts around it are just because you keep trying
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  to gain the certainty that you've got it handled.
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  So you keep using certainty as another emotion that teams up
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  with anxiety, that teams up with the worry, and all of a sudden
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  there you go, you've got this. A professional trio managing you
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  and talking about it and saying, Oh well, we have to stay on top
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  of this. We have to stay on top of this.
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  If I keep thinking about it, then I'm going to be able to
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  find out if there's any other ways to not have it happen.
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  But you can never do that because you're putting your
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  direction right at it. So just like the race car
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  drivers who are learning to drive cars for the first time,
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  one of the things that they are always told to do is if you go
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  into a spin, don't look at the wall.
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  Because if you look at the wall, you'll hit the wall.
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  Do not look at the wall. Focus your attention, your
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  intention and everything on the direction you want to go.
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  So what I trained myself to do with this is to be in the
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  moment, get out of worrying what could happen and stay in the
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  moment. Because like right now, here I
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  am with you. I'm in the chicken coop, I'm the
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  girls. Half the girls have left and
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  they're out already walking around.
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  The other half are still inside messing around.
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  There's a line starting to happen for egg laying and there
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  are some that still haven't gotten out of bed yet because I
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  do have that group of girls. There's 123-4567 who are the
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  late goers and they just will hang up there until they feel
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  like they really want to come down.
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  And usually it's about an hour and a half after everybody else
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  goes now. This used to drive me crazy.
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  I used to say to them, come on, you have to go.
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  You have to go. You're going to miss breakfast
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  snack. And I was worried about what the
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  chickens were doing. Why the hell am I worried about
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  what the chickens are doing? They are chickens.
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  They know better. They know best for themselves.
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  I don't need to know what's best for them.
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  They know what's best for them. So I had to really focus on the
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  fact that no, I'm not managing them.
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  So when I'm out here and I'm like just.
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  Being myself and choosing not to worry, I have to stop and pause
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  and look around and say wow, I am so in this moment.
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  I look at the flowers that I've planted for them.
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  I look at their window boxes. I look at them while they're
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  eating their breakfast snacks. I look at what I need to do out
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  here, like just reading and cleaning up and stuff like that.
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  But I am not. 25,000 steps ahead In my day, I'm not thinking
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  about the fact that I need to go to Costco or I need to fold
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  clothes or I need to do something else before.
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  All I'm doing is focusing on being here and now, here and
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  now. The present moment is a healing
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  moment and spend your time in the present moment.
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  Find gratitude. Find gratitude because it always
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  works. If you can, be grateful for the
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  flowers, the chickens, whatever's around you.
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  If you can be grateful for really cool sneakers that just
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  slip in so you don't have to worry about tying something in
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  the morning, whatever it is. Be grateful for it and it pulls
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  you out of it. And you.
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  Multiple times a day, multiple times an hour, multiple times in
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  in a moment. You just keep pulling yourself
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  back to this and you say I'm in the moment.
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  And even if you can't find gratitude, just look at what's
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  around you. You could just stare at it.
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  You can just be in the moment with it.
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  Just be like, OK, I'm here. There's nothing in this moment
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  to worry about. I'm here.
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  I don't need to worry about anything.
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  I'm just here. I hope this is helpful my
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  friends. And I hope that you find peace
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  in your day. And I hope that you really
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  interrupt those worry patterns. And this is the way to do it.
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  All right, my friends. I will see you tomorrow.
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  Bye.