Episode 44 | You're Not "The Technician" — So Stop Telling "The Universe" How To "Fix" Your Life

Your Effin’ Love Story · Jul 9, 2026 · 15m

My day job is tech. People bring me broken laptops and then stand there telling me how to fix them.

They don't know how to fix them. That's why they brought them to me. And yet — the suggestions keep coming. The hovering. The anxiety about whether I'm doing it right. The complete inability to go get a cup of coffee and trust that someone who knows what they're doing is doing it.

I let them talk. And then I do what I was going to do anyway.

This episode uses that exact scenario to talk about the thing most self-concept work eventually runs into: control. Not the obvious kind — the kind that…