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How Narcissists Trick You Out of Your Money! · The Mental Healness Podcast

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  Yes, y'all narcissistic people will absolutely con you out of
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  your money. They will take what you give,
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  take what you don't give, and they will use it as their own.
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  That's what we're talking about today, y'all.
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  Financial abuse and narcissistic people, of course.
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  If you're new here, my name is Lee Hammock.
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  I'm a diagnosed narcissist. And welcome to another episode
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  of The Narcissist Code. Let's get it.
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  Woo, I'm back, the intro is back.
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  Y'all welcome to another episode of the Narcissist Code with your
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  favorite self aware narcissist, me.
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  What's going on y'all? Y'all narcissist will
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  absolutely. And this is not me BS and you,
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  they will absolutely con you out of your money.
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  And this is true. Look, you're not new to this.
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  You're true to this. I promise you, so many people
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  have experienced this right here.
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  There's so many people out here own the own the world in the
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  field of narcissistic abuse, toxic relationship dynamics that
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  have lost money dealing with narcissistic people, dealing
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  with your toxic narcissistic partner.
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  You know, and a lot of people can attest to this as well,
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  right? Am I, am I right?
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  So many people are going to experience this and so many
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  people have experienced this, right?
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  I did a one-on-one the other day with a lady, right?
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  I still do my one on ones. You can find
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  those@mentalillness.net. I did a one-on-one with a lady
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  the other day and she was telling me how her narcissistic
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  y'all don't judge her, don't judge her because I know y'all
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  don't judge, but she's a her narcissistic partner came into
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  the relationship with nothing. He had nothing to offer.
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  Nothing. He just told her he was down on
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  his luck and that he was going to work on things and that he
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  was going to do all everything he could.
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  He just needed a he just needed a little bit of help, right?
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  He just needed something to get something to get his business
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  started. He was on, he followed following
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  on hard times. Yep, following on hard times.
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  And she was like, you know what we're going to be together.
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  I trust you, I love you. So she gave him part, she went
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  into her four O 1K, gave him part of her four O 1K, right?
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  You know what happened? He took it in depth.
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  He took it as soon as he got the four O 1K check, ghosted her
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  never hear from him again. I think she ended up having to I
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  think she ended up knowing who he was and end up suing him or
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  something like that because he signed like he actually she she
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  was smart. She made him sign like a
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  contract. He was going to pay it back.
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  So he thought he could just dip out.
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  She end up suing him and I think he got he got liens following
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  him everywhere. So he can't buy anything or sell
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  anything without her getting her money back.
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  So good for her on that. But she conned him.
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  He was just like I just I fell on I fell on hard times.
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  You know the world, the world is tough out there, right?
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  The world is so tough and I'm trying to make it all.
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  I needed somebody to believe in me.
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  I haven't believed in everybody else my whole life, and nobody
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  believed in me. Nobody has believed in me.
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  But you know what? I just need one chance, one
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  opportunity. Oh, you believe in me?
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  You do. I'll pay you back.
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  I probably. I'll sign anything.
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  I'll pay you back soon. As soon as the business take
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  off. I got you back.
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  Yep, it was all an act. It was all an act, Patrick says.
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  Do you consider yourself healed? No, I don't consider myself
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  healed. I'm just working on, I'm working
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  on myself. I'm in therapy, right?
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  But this is what goes on, y'all. I'm telling you, they will make
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  you feel bad for them, make you want to donate to their cause
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  because you believe in them. They look, they pray on your
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  trust. They prey on the fact that you
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  trust them and you believe in them and that you that you see a
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  future together. They said that, yeah.
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  This is where this is where future faking comes into play,
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  right? This is where future faking
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  absolutely comes into play in these situations right here.
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  They will sell you a dream of the future to keep you here in
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  the present and take advantage of your empathy and your
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  finances and whatnot. Delbrah, if you believe in we,
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  we going to be together anyway. Your money is my money and my,
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  my thoughts and prayers of money or your thoughts and prayers of
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  money too. And that's how they get you.
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  They'll drag you into the relationship dynamic just like
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  that. This is this is exactly how they
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  will play in your face. It absolutely is and this is
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  going to keep happening with toxic narcissistic people.
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  They fake the future, they sell you a dream of the future to
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  keep you here in the present right now.
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  Right and sometimes they actually have their own money
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  out, but they will still try to con you out of yours.
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  He absolutely is right. He did hide money when we lived
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  together and stole money out of our kids bank.
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  The the man stole money out of kids piggy banks.
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  Ain't that horrible? They still on the piggy banks
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  too? Damn.
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  Damn, that's wild. And yes, Chiquita, I have a lot
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  of videos on my YouTube channel about Co parenting with a
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  narcissist. Go to my YouTube channel, type
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  in Co parenting with a narcissist Lee Hammock.
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  I promise you something comes up Co parenting with a narcissist
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  mental illness, something comes up.
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  I promise you. You know, and this is what.
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  Yeah, I'm just telling you, they try to sell you a dream of the
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  future to keep you stuck with them in the present.
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  Right, Because you want to believe in them, right.
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  And sometimes they'll be, like, another way they're conning you
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  out of your money is y'all? They'll be addicts.
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  They'd be. Yeah.
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  They'd be hiding drug addictions.
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  They'd be hiding alcoholism. Yeah.
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  One woman told me she's like, you know what?
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  I was married for five years, and my husband would spend all
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  his money, like, where'd your money go?
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  I'll be checking a bank account. He'd be.
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  He'd be withdrawing money I had to hire lately.
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  I hired a private investigator to follow him around, right.
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  And he made more. Yeah, he made more money than
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  she did, right. But he was always claiming that
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  he was broke the joint bank account, we didn't have nothing
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  in it. So they had to split bank
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  accounts because he was he was spending her money.
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  He was spending all his check. She's like, where are your money
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  going? He's like, I don't know, I'm
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  paying the bills. And I guess what happened, She
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  hired she hired a private investigator, followed this man
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  around. He and he, he and the alley
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  literally in the alley by meth. It ain't buying.
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  It ain't buying. They buying math with the money
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  with the money. Appreciate it, April.
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  Yeah, every you can find all things mental illness at
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  mentalillness.net. Coaching courses, one on ones.
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  Everything's going to be a mental illness.net.
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  Shout out to April. He's out there buying meth.
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  Yeah and I I hope he can like I said, he he end up going to
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  rehab and stuff like that. I don't think he got out of it,
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  you know, but they will hide. They will con you out of your
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  money to support their vices and their addictions.
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  You know one of the addictions that so many people have
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  gambling be gambling the shit away.
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  Be gambling. I thought I was CN double.
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  Both of y'all named Crystal. Oh no, it's two.
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  It's the same one that's not behind meth.
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  Yeah, gambling the money away, baby, please.
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  Look, I need me scratching and shit, baby.
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  Look, I just need I just need $100.
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  I'm a bet it all on black. I just look, I lost the mortgage
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  money. I just need you to pay the
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  mortgage this month and I got it back next when I'm a win, right?
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  If you don't give me the gambling money, if you don't
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  give me money to gamble, you don't believe in me, you don't
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  love me. They'll gamble your shit away,
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  then they'll blame you. Why would you?
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  They'll gamble your money away and then they'll blame you.
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  Why would you give me money? You know I'm an addict.
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  You know I'm gambling with money.
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  Where? Why would you give me money?
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  That's your fault. They'll con you.
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  They'll take you for anything that you're willing to give.
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  They'll take it from you. Seriously, they will.
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  Anything that you're willing to give them, they will absolutely
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  take it from you. That's what ends up happening in
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  these situations. You have to wake up and like I
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  said, protect your money. Look, another way.
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  It's not even really something. This is financial.
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  This is like a financial con with it that they'll do.
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  They'll have you cosigning for shit.
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  Yeah, if you y'all OK, let's get I got to make my I got to make
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  my voice a little deeper right here.
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  Y'all look, y'all look, see, I understand deep, deep voice.
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  Lee look, y'all look ladies and gentlemen look when they come
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  out here y'all if you meet somebody you if you just meet
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  them and they start talking about Co signing for a car or
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  credit card or house or something right, Don't do it
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  yeah. If you just and you just meet
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  this person and y'all just started sleeping together and
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  they started you know what my life would be easy if I had a
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  call. If my credit is 4/14 I got a 414
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  credit score. Y'all will be asking no
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  questions. Y'all don't ask no questions
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  like how you credit score get the 414.
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  Yeah. If they got a 414 credit score,
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  why would you think they going to pay you back?
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  They ain't paid a bank back or credit card or card.
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  They ain't never paid nothing. Yo, to get in the four hundreds,
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  you ain't never paying nothing, right?
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  You ain't never paying nothing. And you won't expect them to pay
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  you back. Come on, we got to keep it real.
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  They not going to pay you back. I'll pay you back.
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  I'll pitch you, I mean fluctuating you.
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  I would fluctuate between deep voice Lee and high pitched Lee.
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  High pitched Lee is serious using love against you.
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  Yeah, they'll they'll use look, they'll this is the this is
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  narcissistic currency right here.
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  You just inspired this April. You, you just you just inspired
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  this. This is narcissistic currency.
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  They exchanged love for money, right?
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  They exchanged love for money. They they they like here's
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  here's some love. I expect $40 back.
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  They're exchanging love for money.
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  They're emotional. They're emotional escorts.
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  They expect you to pay them for love, not in comfort and stuff
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  like that. Yeah, this is what happens.
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  This is the mentality that they go to.
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  They'll cheat on you. Like, let's just say you're
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  paying a narcissist bills, right?
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  You're paying all the bills, right?
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  And they'll cheat on you and they don't have any.
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  Look, they'll cheat on you, don't have any other way to
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  support themselves. They'll absolutely cheat on you.
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  You'll find out, dump them, and they'll still expect you to take
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  care of them. Look, I know I cheated on you.
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  I know I got my cheeks clapped to the highest of mountains.
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  I know I clapped them cheeks to like a bingo drum.
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  Everybody can hear the cheeks getting clapped.
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  I know I did that to you. I'm sorry, but can you please
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  pay my bills for more six more months, please.
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  Let me get back to my feet, please.
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  And will some people do that? Yeah.
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  Yeah, some people would do it. I'm not judging, but some people
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  would do it. They'll absolutely take
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  advantage of you. If you have any siblings of
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  empathy, they will absolutely take advantage of you.
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  They absolutely will. This is what goes on.
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  You mean can you take care of it till I get back on my feet?
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  I just need look, just need a little while to get back on my
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  feet and that'd be good. Yeah, I I just want my money
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  back. Look, you might have looked, you
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  might have to write it all, but you what's, you know, the tax
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  form you send to, you send to. There's a tax form that you send
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  the people that you give money to that they don't pay you back.
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  You did. Now, now they're your, they're
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  now they're your employee. Now you can send them a tax
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  form. They say, hey, look, I'm not
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  Look, you owe the government. Now I know you ain't going to
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  pay me back. I'm going to say I'm going to
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  come take your car, though. You owe me $40,000.
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  Look, I wrote it off. I had to turn in the tax form,
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  though, and to give I had to give them your information.
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  You probably going to be hearing from Uncle Sam here pretty soon.
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  You know what I mean? You're probably going to hear
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  from Uncle Sam here pretty soon. Just keep keep the line open.
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  Don't don't change your number, right?
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  Don't change your number. You probably won't hear you.
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  You ain't got to pay me back. No MO.
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  Uncle Sam coming to get you. They're going to come get you.
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  Don't worry about me anymore. We still we cool.
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  Me and you. We squared away.
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  Uncle Sam is You probably go here for Uncle Sam though.
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  He'd be lying open. He sold both my wedding bands.
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  I haven't worn a wedding band for years.
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  Oh no, it was gracious. This sucks.
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  That really does suck y'all. But yeah, they will con you out
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  of your money if you allow them to.
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  Britt says. How do we?
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  How do they not know you will find out?
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  But she asked my mother to promise to not mention it to me
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  because I was already stressed while while working 1000 miles
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  from home. They do think you'll find out.
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  They just try to, they try to to delay the inevitable, right?
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  Oh, you said he scammed my mother out of $1200 for
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  installing hot water heater while I was in Albuquerque
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  working. Yeah, they know you're going to
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  find out. They try to delay you finding
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  out, right? They're trying to delay it.
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  They're just trying to delay the type of stuff right there.
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  You know what I mean? And that's what ends up
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  happening, you know. So I got a few minutes for some
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  questions, y'all, but then I got to hop off this thing.
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  Well, it's good. Here be some questions.
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  My son is kind of me. That's tough right there.
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  When the kid when it's the kid. It's so tough to say no to your
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  kids sometimes. I know it is.
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  You got to start them early. They got to start hitting that
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  word no early. When they when they when they
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  first start asking for a bottle. Bye bye, bye, bye no.
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  When they when they first, when they asking for a bottle, bye
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  bye, no. These are my boundaries.
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  You got to start setting boundaries on the babies now.
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  Yeah, I started setting boundaries when the previews the
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  pre prepubescent. I can't talk to y'all.
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  You know this. We got to start setting
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  boundaries early. Mom's got a new supply and she
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  she cried already after four months of being a pick me sis
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  and stress and hey, that's going to happen.
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  Sometimes they think they're going, they think the grass is
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  greener. They think it's greener then
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  then they they think the grass is greener on the other side of
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  the fence. Then they realize it's
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  artificial grass. They're like this ain't real.
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  This one this one was car it's a grass carpet.
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  They're trying to come back to you.
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  There's like can I come back home?
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  No, hell no. Go mow your artificial grass
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  over there. Get the hell out of my face.
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  What's your other channel called?
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  My other channel is called Lee actions.
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  I have another YouTube channel y'all Why do reaction videos?
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  It's called Lee actions. It's right here on the screen.
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  I'll drop the link. I'll drop the link right here.
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  What is it? Damn it.
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  I have a code for it. I think it's.
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  Dang it. I thought I had it.
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  MHAU. Yeah.
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  I forgot what the code was. You're welcome.
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  They crave something different, and then that ain't it.
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  Yep. Absolutely.
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  They realize it ain't it, but it's too late.
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  Then it's absolutely too late. Then you're not come back.
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  You know you're not. You're not come back here.
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  Do you think a woman should spend money on the day after
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  being offered to be taken out when they clearly just went out
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  of their friends and had drinks but claimed they didn't use
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  their money? No, I'm not, like I said.
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  So it really just depends on your relationship dynamic.
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  I'm always a whatever works for your relationship, right?
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  I'm not going to sit here and just say no, don't spend money
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  on your boyfriend or your man. I'm not going to say that,
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  right? Whatever works for y'all, you
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  know? I know some women will hop on
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  here and just like you don't ever spend money on your
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  partner. But y'all, I feel like whatever
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  works for you in your relationship.
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  I'm not here to judge your relationship dynamic.
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  Have not seen or spoke to mine in 15 years.
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  He just found out I'm dating through his kids and now he
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  going crazy even though he has a new baby.
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  Yeah, of course. They always think you.
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  They always think you belong to him.
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  You know what I'm saying? They always think you.
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  They always think you belong to him, no matter what has
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  happened. You know what I mean?
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  So, yeah, I do. Got to get ready to hop off this
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  thing again. You can find my.
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  tried everything, you probably haven't tried my course.
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