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If one child goes to private school, should all the kids get the same opportunity, regardless of who their biological parents are? · Anele and the Club on 947

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Speaker 1: Wake up with a bang.
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Speaker 2: And the clap on nine four seven.
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Speaker 3: So, because we are in twenty twenty six, right and
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Speaker 3: from here onwards until the three thousands, really we are
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Speaker 3: gonna become one big melting pot of blended families. Correct, Oh,
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Speaker 3: we need to start.
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Speaker 1: It's gonna happen.
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Speaker 2: It's gonna happen, Ti Bigilli.
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Speaker 3: Somewhere down the line, you're going to have a Chinese
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Speaker 3: relative relative Babe Wae.
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Speaker 2: See, it's just gonna happen. It's just gonna happen.
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Speaker 1: I want to ask, what's wrong with that. I'm trying to.
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Speaker 4: See them in the Eastern tape with my father's side
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Speaker 4: of the family.
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Speaker 3: They're gonna have to go there and save us up
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Speaker 3: to the ancestors.
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Speaker 2: So when I.
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Speaker 3: Heard about the story, I was like, whoa, this is
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Speaker 3: a tricky one. So I'm gonna put you smack bang
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Speaker 3: in the middle of this household and you have to
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Speaker 3: be one of the members in this household and let me.
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Speaker 2: Know how you would react.
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Speaker 3: You came into the relationship with the child, your partner
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Speaker 3: also came into the relationship with the child.
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Speaker 2: Right your child goes to a private.
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Speaker 3: School, your partner that you end up marrying their child
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Speaker 3: is not in a private school, right, And you guys
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Speaker 3: get married, and then your wife says, my child also
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Speaker 3: has to be put in a private school, and you say,
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Speaker 3: but I can't afford it.
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Speaker 2: I can only afford this one, you know.
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Speaker 3: And then she's like, well, something needs to happen. Either
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Speaker 3: your child must come out of private school and be
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Speaker 3: in public school with my child, or my child has
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Speaker 3: to also go to a private school. But we can't
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Speaker 3: have kids who live in the same household going to
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Speaker 3: two different offerings of school.
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Speaker 1: Why why can't we have that? I'm just I'm asking.
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Speaker 3: I suppose it's because the kids that must be a
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Speaker 3: liveling ground, because there's a notion that private schools are
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Speaker 3: better than public schools. You know, there's a liveling ground.
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Speaker 3: Everybody us be equal in here.
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Speaker 2: Welcome to the what's yours is mind?
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Speaker 1: Bit of marriage?
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Speaker 4: My children and I agree, Oh, really, we're either all
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Speaker 4: going public or all going private. Because unfortunately, when you
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Speaker 4: guys stood there in front of us and lied about
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Speaker 4: how far you're willing to go for worse.
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Speaker 1: Where you are.
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Speaker 4: If you lay your head in a mansion or in
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Speaker 4: under a bridge, I shall be there with you. These
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Speaker 4: are the choices you're going to have to make, Because.
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Speaker 2: What if.
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Speaker 3: Frankie, whose child is going to a private school, he
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Speaker 3: pays half and the mother of the child pays the
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Speaker 3: other half, so he can't afford it, and if that
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Speaker 3: mom wasn't helping out, he really wouldn't be able.
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Speaker 1: To afford it.
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Speaker 4: I think that's different if you and the other parent
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Speaker 4: are going, But if you are paying for it all
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Speaker 4: on your own. And you guys say you want to
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Speaker 4: raise your kids together in a blended family, you have
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Speaker 4: to make those decisions on schools as well together, unless,
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Speaker 4: of course you're all saying we're all together, but we're
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Speaker 4: each making decisions for our children separately, Because when do
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Speaker 4: you start an end in terms of this is my
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Speaker 4: child and this is the decision I make for my
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Speaker 4: kid that are brought into the marriage, because then it
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Speaker 4: should apply to everything else, even though discipline then my
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Speaker 4: rules are different. So then as a step parent, don't
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Speaker 4: get involved because teas and c's.
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Speaker 2: Apply as when it comes to my how you parent.
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Speaker 5: I think we just have to be careful here because
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Speaker 5: then I think there's this notion that private school is
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Speaker 5: better than public school, which isn't always true.
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Speaker 1: Which is not always true.
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Speaker 5: Like I think there are many public schools who are
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Speaker 5: exceptional and often better than most private schools. So but
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Speaker 5: I can understand how in the household we want the
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Speaker 5: kids to maybe go to the same school for logistically
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Speaker 5: for us because it's easier, but then also so that
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Speaker 5: they are I suppose in the same place, right little bit.
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Speaker 3: For you here, when it comes to public and private schools,
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Speaker 3: I think private schools are only better in terms of
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Speaker 3: the grounds and the bells and the whistles and the icing.
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Speaker 2: The offering of education is the same.
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Speaker 1: Right, very similarly.
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Speaker 3: But now when you are a child, those are the
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Speaker 3: bos and whistles that I'm looking out for. The little
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Speaker 3: hats that they have at Rodine, you know what I'm saying.
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Speaker 3: The yeah, the school trips that you go on. You
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Speaker 3: guys are going to Greece on an art tour. We're
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Speaker 3: going to the Karua, right, do you know what I'm saying?
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Speaker 3: And children care, Yes.
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Speaker 2: Children care.
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Speaker 3: So when you're an adult you know full well that
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Speaker 3: Brian Even Primary School is a really good public school.
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Speaker 3: When you're an adult, when you're a kid and your
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Speaker 3: brother's going to say Sydians.
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Speaker 2: You are like, but they get.
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Speaker 3: To do this, and they have the Eastern Rugby Festival,
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Speaker 3: and there's there's that, there's.
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Speaker 2: That, there's that. So that is the issue about the
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Speaker 2: leveling ground.
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Speaker 5: Look, I've got to say, I'm pretty sure we're going
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Speaker 5: to find a lot of people that have had this situation.
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Speaker 6: The situation, I think it's a very very tough one
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Speaker 6: because let's say Frankie and I get married, we have
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Speaker 6: a kid, we get divorced, are then married Tembekille. Frankie's like, okay, cool,
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Speaker 6: you can marry Tembekille. But my child is going to
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Speaker 6: go to a private school because I can afford it.
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Speaker 6: So just because Tembekille can't afford to send his children
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Speaker 6: to public school though they all live together, why should
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Speaker 6: my child?
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Speaker 2: But because that's what I want for my child.
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Speaker 6: And it is very difficult to be raising them all
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Speaker 6: together because there is that hierarchy of mine is better
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Speaker 6: perceived better than yours.
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Speaker 3: It's your your oh one one eight thirty eight, nine
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Speaker 3: four seven. Now that you are smack banging in this
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Speaker 3: household and you are one of the family members, what
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Speaker 3: is your take? Are you currently experiencing something like this?
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Speaker 3: Did you grow up in a situation like this, Yeah,
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Speaker 3: exactly where you are one or the other right zero
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Speaker 3: eight four double zero double zero nine four seven.
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Speaker 2: Let's suck.
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Speaker 1: That is not my child, Liza, No, thank you.
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Speaker 2: That's situation supposed to be talked about before for the
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Speaker 2: marriage case. It's the things you discussed prior.
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Speaker 4: And it's also I'm fair because what if my ADS
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Speaker 4: is I need and it's paying one hundred percent of
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Speaker 4: this private school, what must I do compromise my child's.
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Speaker 2: Education because of you?
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Speaker 7: CAUs The debate isn't where the public is better than perpose.
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Speaker 7: The debate is that the woman has said, my child
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Speaker 7: also needs to go or your child needs to change
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Speaker 7: this oak needs to get with the program.
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Speaker 1: Oh wife is spoken.
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Speaker 2: Also, I'm.
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Speaker 3: The one red flag in this entire situation, and I'm
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Speaker 3: understanding of all parties, is.
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Speaker 2: There's no ways a child must come down. I don't know,
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Speaker 2: like there's another way to say it. Now change their life?
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Speaker 1: Yeah, because let's say they've been in school, in the
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Speaker 1: school for three years.
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Speaker 3: My friends are there, I'm naturalized here, my sporting life
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Speaker 3: is here, my academic life is here, and then there
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Speaker 3: is a discuss that could lead to me leaving here
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Speaker 3: to appease someone else.
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Speaker 4: Guys don't go into blended like families if you're not
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Speaker 4: ready for the mango and the apple to go together.
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Speaker 2: Remember blended.
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Speaker 4: Eh, it's a smoothie baby, but you want to separate
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Speaker 4: it when it's convenient, but it's joined when it's nice.
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Speaker 4: And unfortunately these are to the earlier point. These are
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Speaker 4: the conversations you do have to have because they are
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Speaker 4: the politics of family, even with kids who are related
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Speaker 4: by blood. These are the politics that come up. Who
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Speaker 4: goes to which varsity or who gets which ways, which school,
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Speaker 4: et cetera.
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Speaker 2: GA's what car goobus you're north riding? Good morning, Good
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Speaker 2: morning Anela?
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Speaker 8: How are you?
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Speaker 2: We are great globins.
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Speaker 1: How are you?
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Speaker 8: I'm very well thanks to complaint.
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Speaker 2: Talk to us. What do you think about this?
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Speaker 8: So I grew up like that. Basically my stap mother
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Speaker 8: gave my father conditions that myself and my brothers had
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Speaker 8: to leave the house. We had to go to boarding
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Speaker 8: school and her children basically was staying and there you
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Speaker 8: went to a different school than us. We were actually
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Speaker 8: quite far away from him. I don't know that was
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Speaker 8: strategic or not. Hours of boding school from grade two
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Speaker 8: right to great Drafthmetric. Similarly to my brothers and then
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Speaker 8: her two children and subsequently my half brother. They were
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Speaker 8: all schooled from home, not home school, just.
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Speaker 1: Stay at home.
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Speaker 8: But it's a pretty common thing in the Africans community.
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Speaker 8: I think, you know, the the step children often ends
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Speaker 8: up in boarding school and either the stepfather or stepmother's
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Speaker 8: children stayed at them.
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Speaker 1: How old were you? How old were you were you
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Speaker 1: and your dad remarried?
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Speaker 8: Oh gosh, I was in grade too.
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Speaker 1: What was that?
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Speaker 2: Also? That was quick? She said, I do, and then
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Speaker 2: sent you're packing?
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Speaker 8: Yeah, I was ever married before we even found out,
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Speaker 8: I think.
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Speaker 2: And then what about university?
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Speaker 8: No, we didn't go, my step siblings third, but myself
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Speaker 8: and my siblings we did not. We were not afforded opportunity. Well,
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Speaker 8: that being said, also, my father passed away in ninety
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Speaker 8: eight when I was a trick. You know, my brothers
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Speaker 8: left school ahead of me, and by the time I
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Speaker 8: left school, you know, he passed on. So that wasn't anyway,
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Speaker 8: not an opportunity or a reality that we were faced with.
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Speaker 3: And what's the relationship now with your half siblings and
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Speaker 3: step siblings?
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Speaker 8: No, there's none, there's absolutely nothing.
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Speaker 1: You know each other.
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Speaker 8: We don't know each other.
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Speaker 1: No, you spent twelve years away apart.
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Speaker 2: From each other.
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Speaker 8: Just we we we went home on holidays, and those
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Speaker 8: going home were a lot of the times either with
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Speaker 8: family or with friends.
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Speaker 2: Oh your dad left them my friends?
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Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, to see And that's so that's our saying.
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Speaker 4: I think carefully about whether you want to diventibly.
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Speaker 1: Blended families are not for everyone.
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Speaker 4: They're not even with our biological siblings, right, they're always
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Speaker 4: She's going to come up in adultoo about who was
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Speaker 4: the favorite, who is not? What more?
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Speaker 1: When you're not a blood relation?
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Speaker 8: Probably boarding school. Boarding school for me was a it
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Speaker 8: was fun which which school?
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Speaker 2: So okay?
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Speaker 8: It was in different ones from primary. We was in
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Speaker 8: the Platland, so it was Dana Ravel and Sunny is
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Speaker 8: off and from standards seventh symmetric wasn't back a high school.
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Speaker 3: So what do you say now about this situation that
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Speaker 3: we're talking about. Do you think that all everybody must
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Speaker 3: be afforded the same school, so either everyone goes to
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Speaker 3: private school or everyone goes to a public school.
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Speaker 8: I think it must be the same. You know, there's
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Speaker 8: definitely some latent treatings about it. It's not very treatment.
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Speaker 8: You can't expect the one to be treated the one
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Speaker 8: way and the other one the other way. It's a
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Speaker 8: form of bullying, I believe. So you can't. You can't
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Speaker 8: offer ultimatums in a relationship that's.
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Speaker 1: Not just just not right. Right. So you you say,
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Speaker 1: come from both kids have got to go together. Gobas. Uh,
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Speaker 2: thank you so much for calling in. Gobas. On the way,
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Speaker 2: Michelle from Lindmeyer is going to weigh.
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Speaker 9: In on this.
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Speaker 6: If he eke his money to just stay there with
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Speaker 6: him or her until the kidd is finished school and
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Speaker 6: then leave.
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Speaker 1: It's quite simple.
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Speaker 3: And teacher being in a public school can actually be
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Speaker 3: quite a change if he's always been in a private school.
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Speaker 2: Like, you're just getting to stress the child, guys.
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Speaker 10: Let's be honest.
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Speaker 7: Most of the time it's the wife that helps with
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Speaker 7: their homework and the school tasks.
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Speaker 2: And the speeches and stuff and backst lunches. So I
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Speaker 2: think whatever the wife says should that should be the answer. Interesting,
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Speaker 2: interesting take. We're going to lind Mayor Michelle. Good morning, Good.
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Speaker 11: Morning for some on the radio, first time on the radio.
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Speaker 3: Thank you guys for mine, that's yours, it's yours or yours?
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Speaker 2: Talk to us? What do you think about this?
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Speaker 10: This should have been discussed before they got married, especially
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Speaker 10: I come from a prendant family, so what happened to
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Speaker 10: the children have been born within the marriage between the
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Speaker 10: boss of them? What are you going to decide on?
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Speaker 10: So this is definitely that should have been discussed before
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Speaker 10: they got married. They're both coming in with children, and
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Speaker 10: it's quite critical when you're coming when children are involved
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Speaker 10: and they're from previous relationships, because it affects how you're
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Speaker 10: going to raise your children born within that marriage. So
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Speaker 10: we need to think about that as well. And I'm
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Speaker 10: a teacher. I'm I'm a credochist teacher, so I know
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Speaker 10: a family that you know, they come from a disadvantaged
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Speaker 10: background and only one child got a busy to go
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Speaker 10: into a private school, and obviously they send that child
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Speaker 10: to the private school while the others are going to
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Speaker 10: public schools because they just know that, you know, it's
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Speaker 10: an opportunity for that one kid. So it's something that affects,
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Speaker 10: you know, the marriage itself, because you could have to
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Speaker 10: think about how you're going to range your kids and
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Speaker 10: are you doing it together or is it separate thing
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Speaker 10: on how my values and what I believe in. So
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Speaker 10: they should have been discussed before they got married.
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Speaker 3: So would you say the only time you it's kind
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Speaker 3: of acceptable the situation with one child is in a
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Speaker 3: public school and the others in a private school is
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Speaker 3: if the other parent is fourteen half of the bull
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Speaker 3: or all of the bull. So then it makes things
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Speaker 3: a little bit more peaceful here at home because I'd
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Speaker 3: imagine the same situation where if we're a blended family
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Speaker 3: and our holidays are in Cape Town, right because that's
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Speaker 3: what we can afford. But because your dad on the
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Speaker 3: other side at the other home, you guys go to
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Speaker 3: Paris and Japan and Australia Anda, but when you come
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Speaker 3: back here you are integrated with children who don't go
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Speaker 3: to those places. But then what we do so now
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Speaker 3: is my child not allowed to go to these holidays
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Speaker 3: because here the furthest we can go is Cape Town.
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Speaker 10: No, I think you know, it's the child. It's the
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Speaker 10: other side of the family.
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Speaker 8: Can afford Paris, then go to Paris.
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Speaker 10: If I can afford Cape Town, then that's what I
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Speaker 10: can afford, you know. And I think you can intellise
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Speaker 10: your child to be a fecially a way to be intelligent,
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Speaker 10: like emotional intelligence is important, and you have to teach
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Speaker 10: your child those values because they're going to go on
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Speaker 10: end the world and think, oh, this is much better
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Speaker 10: than this is the like the way of easy. No,
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Speaker 10: you know, if someone can afford Kept Town only, then
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Speaker 10: that's what they can afford. And someone can afford Paris,
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Speaker 10: then great, you can do both, you enjoying both of
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Speaker 10: both worlds. So I don't see the problem with that.
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Speaker 5: I see for me, the thing is, though, I here's
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Speaker 5: the thing with these With the example of the holidays,
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Speaker 5: that is an event for me. That that's so, that's
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Speaker 5: an event, that's I mean, it happens, you got two
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Speaker 5: weeks whatever. Oh you don't know, children, my angel, but
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Speaker 5: that schooling is that's every day.
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Speaker 1: That's life.
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Speaker 3: No, you don't know, it's not an event. That's all
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Speaker 3: we ever gonna hear about. That's all that's that's that's it.
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Speaker 3: They trust me every week. It's going to be an
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Speaker 3: ongoing thing of this is where I went. Those are
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Speaker 3: children because they're excited, right, and there's there's there's memorabilia,
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Speaker 3: there's photos, there's stories, there's memories, there's comparisons.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, so everything is going to happen.
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Speaker 3: So what Michelle is saying, you're right is that comparisons
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Speaker 3: are going to happen. You need to raise your child
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Speaker 3: to be able to realize that not no one, no one.
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Speaker 1: In the world is equal. Yeah, you know, but no
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Speaker 1: one's better than you.
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Speaker 2: No one is better than you.
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Speaker 3: At the same time, Michelle, thank you so much. We
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Speaker 3: wrap it up with the guys in Germanstan.
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Speaker 2: Good morning, How hi guys.
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Speaker 9: How are you?
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Speaker 11: I'm super duper so yo, guys, why are you triggering
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Speaker 11: us for early in the morning.
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Speaker 2: I'm so sorry.
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Speaker 9: We're so funns it is and I love analyst point
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Speaker 9: now that we have to teach our kids to have
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Speaker 9: emotional intelligence and then just highlights to them that yes,
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Speaker 9: we're all in those world, but we're not equal here.
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Speaker 11: Yeah.
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Speaker 8: So I also grew up.
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Speaker 11: In a blended family, so two of my step siblings
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Speaker 11: went to a multi racial school and we went to
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Speaker 11: a public government school. Like mindus everything I hear all
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Speaker 11: the points that are being raised that why should my
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Speaker 11: child downgrade? Why should my child do this? And all
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Speaker 11: of that. Guys, these things affect the psyche of the kids.
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Speaker 11: At the end of the day, it's not about we
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Speaker 11: as parents. We see it as I can afford, I
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Speaker 11: have the financial means to it and all of that.
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Speaker 11: But to the kids, it's like, oh am I not
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Speaker 11: good enough?
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Speaker 2: Am I not of this?
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Speaker 6: Yes?
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Speaker 11: Am I not worthy of this? And actually it took you,
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Speaker 11: guys having this conversation to realize that, actually this is
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Speaker 11: what I used to think when I was young. And
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Speaker 11: as a child, you get to a point whereby you
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Speaker 11: always want to do your best because you want to
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Speaker 11: prove to these people, your step siblings. You'll have siblings
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Speaker 11: that you know what. I'm also, I'm also do living
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Speaker 11: because I'm intelligent. I can do this with a minimum
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Speaker 11: that my parents.
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Speaker 2: I'm performative.
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Speaker 11: But what do you I mean you become performative?
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Speaker 5: You were in this right, and this is what's great
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Speaker 5: to speak to you because you were there right. So
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Speaker 5: what do you think would have been a better solution?
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Speaker 5: For you guys growing up, like do you think they
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Speaker 5: should have come to your school or you should have
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Speaker 5: gone to their school?
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Speaker 1: Does it not matter? Just as long as all you
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Speaker 1: were in one school.
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Speaker 11: Okay, that's at the end of the day with it.
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Speaker 11: They we all want to get We all want to
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Speaker 11: be in vessels that come with the other school. It
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Speaker 11: was not Yeah, it was not something that could have
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Speaker 11: been done because of the cost at the time, and
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Speaker 11: my mom was worth working and my dad was the
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Speaker 11: only one that was working. Do you understand And coming
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Speaker 11: back to to to the dealer points, I think the
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Speaker 11: family needs really strategic for parents, like you need to
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Speaker 11: a point and realize that are we're going to be
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Speaker 11: able to provide a healthy environment for these kids?
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Speaker 2: True?
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Speaker 11: Yeah, like you need to look at it in a
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Speaker 11: point great by Okay even both of us for mind,
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Speaker 11: are we going to be able to provide the same
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Speaker 11: life inok for these kids that no one feels like,
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Speaker 11: oh this is my steppe or this is my step mum,
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Speaker 11: or they loved us one more than just one. Is
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Speaker 11: it something that we can both see because for me,
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Speaker 11: it's deeper than the finances. It's the emotional and psychological.
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Speaker 3: You all you guys are so in love and you
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Speaker 3: think that your love is the only thing that you
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Speaker 3: need and the only thing that matters, and.
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Speaker 2: It's the only fuel you need to make this family work.
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Speaker 2: But absolutely not. You know, the logistics, maturity, you know,
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Speaker 2: like the dropping of ego.
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Speaker 3: There are so many things that go into making a
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Speaker 3: blended family work, especially after marriage, because marriage says.
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Speaker 2: We all equal here.
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Speaker 1: Now we're together, you know, now.
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Speaker 3: You're absolutely all equal, we're in this together type of things.
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Speaker 3: So those conversations really need to happen. Kara Gussie, thank
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Speaker 3: you so much for sharing your story, and I'm so glad.
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Speaker 8: You know.
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Speaker 3: My favorite line from what you said was only only
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Speaker 3: after listening to this conversation am I realizing what what
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Speaker 3: what I was feeling in my childhood of always wanting
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Speaker 3: to prove myself to my siblings that I am as
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Speaker 3: good as you.
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Speaker 2: I may not to have the things that you have,
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Speaker 2: vitam as good as you. Thank you for that.
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Speaker 3: I think you helped so many people deal with their
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Speaker 3: own you know, triggers. And we're not rewarding you because
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Speaker 3: you're amazing. Rewarding you because.
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Speaker 2: Everybody's getting filled.
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Speaker 3: Today, girls, everybody's getting avaulted.
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Speaker 8: On me.
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Speaker 2: My Way is shot into saying Nella, we got your boy.
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Speaker 2: Go back to making your morning. And the club on
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Speaker 2: nine four seven