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Listen When You Feel Like Giving Up: Powerful Insights for Personal Growth & Success · Motivation Mindset Podcast

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  Speaker 1: Just keep doing the right thing and the good thing,
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  Speaker 1: it'll happen.
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  Speaker 2: The reason people change is because of pain.
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  Speaker 1: My relationship with pain runs deep, and it's complicated. On
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  Speaker 1: the one hand, I love pain. I love trying to
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  Speaker 1: push the outer edges of the envelope of what the
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  Speaker 1: pain experience is in a physical sense, and it's also
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  Speaker 1: been my greatest teacher in terms of things that I've accomplished,
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  Speaker 1: but also my errents ways as well. Pain is truly
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  Speaker 1: the only thing that's ever gotten me to change, So
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  Speaker 1: it's been my growth accelerator as well as my reminder
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  Speaker 1: of when I've gone a strove.
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  Speaker 2: Okay, so there's a difference between pain and suffering. There's
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  Speaker 2: a difference between in there. We're all suffering. We all
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  Speaker 2: have suffering. We all have an emptiness or dark place
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  Speaker 2: or corners inside of our spirit in our mind that
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  Speaker 2: are not fulfilled and watered and full like. We all
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  Speaker 2: can relate to that. And when I'm talking about pain,
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  Speaker 2: I'm not necessarily talking about suffering, but acknowledging our suffering.
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  Speaker 2: Being in touch with the pain, that's enough to say,
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  Speaker 2: when you're really honest, that's enough to say I can't
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  Speaker 2: do that. I don't want to do this anymore, like,
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  Speaker 2: this is not the person I want to become and
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  Speaker 2: be on a regular basis. If that's the case, if
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  Speaker 2: that assumption is right, then as a loved one, my
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  Speaker 2: job is to help you get real and experience those
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  Speaker 2: places as often as you can so that you make
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  Speaker 2: the declaration to say no, no, no, no, no no, that's
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  Speaker 2: not okay for me to feel and be this way
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  Speaker 2: on a regular basis.
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  Speaker 1: You know, we're so conditioned to avoid pain. Every message
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  Speaker 1: that we every billboard, we see, every advertisement that we're
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  Speaker 1: exposed to, is telling us that happiness can be purchased
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  Speaker 1: through comfort, through luxury, through ease. And that's sort of
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  Speaker 1: implicit in that is that that's how we find happiness.
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  Speaker 1: And I can tell you that I'm happiest and most
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  Speaker 1: alive when I'm butting up against the outer edges of
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  Speaker 1: my pain threshold and I'm not afraid of it. And
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  Speaker 1: so when I start to feel that sensation, rather than
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  Speaker 1: shirk away from it, I realize that's an opportunity to
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  Speaker 1: experience a heightened sense of myself and my environment, to
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  Speaker 1: really be in a position where everything else falls away
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  Speaker 1: and it's just you and your ability to take one
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  Speaker 1: step forward. There's a purity to that that again is
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  Speaker 1: another great teacher. And so in terms of techniques, I've
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  Speaker 1: just learned through experience that, just like David Goggins says,
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  Speaker 1: when the signals that you're receiving are telling you to stop,
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  Speaker 1: that you don't necessarily have to pay attention to that.
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  Speaker 1: That you are capable of so much more if you
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  Speaker 1: can develop the acuity, the presence of mind, and the
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  Speaker 1: wherewithal to then take that next step, and when you're
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  Speaker 1: on the other side of it, to realize you're still okay,
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  Speaker 1: and you can take another step and a whole your
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  Speaker 1: horizon extends, and you realize that there's a whole world
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  Speaker 1: of potential and possibility available to you that you weren't
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  Speaker 1: previously aware of.
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  Speaker 3: Never should never exist in your world. If you want
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  Speaker 3: to improve, if you can see yourself being better, never
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  Speaker 3: should even be in the picture. You have the power
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  Speaker 3: to do anything possible, the power to transfer into somebody
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  Speaker 3: capable of anything. You can imagine this, This is the
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  Speaker 3: power you deserve. Let your success, let your mindset be
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  Speaker 3: the beginning. The journey doesn't end here. This journey doesn't
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  Speaker 3: end when the sun goes up when the sun goes down.
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  Speaker 3: It doesn't end when you close your eyes. Doesn't end
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  Speaker 3: for one second, because hard work waits for nobody. Let
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  Speaker 3: yourself be heard. Let your power speak for itself. Let
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  Speaker 3: your beginning be the potential to take you further and
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  Speaker 3: further along your path to success. You are the only
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  Speaker 3: inspiration you need. You are the only force it takes
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  Speaker 3: to be someone more, to have so much more. Remember
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  Speaker 3: your worth as a person, Remember the possibilities of your power,
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  Speaker 3: the fruitful future that lingers over your shoulders. This is
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  Speaker 3: where you never say never. Never say never to any possibility,
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  Speaker 3: to any opportunity, to any mistakes, to any fear. You
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  Speaker 3: say yes this, This is the only way to grow.
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  Speaker 1: I think that most people set the wrong goals for themselves,
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  Speaker 1: and it's because they're disconnected from who they are. They
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  Speaker 1: are living someone else's life, or they're living a life
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  Speaker 1: that's so disconnected from who they are it becomes very
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  Speaker 1: difficult to set the right goal. So I think in
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  Speaker 1: order to reconcile that you have to look inward, and
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  Speaker 1: that can be different for everybody. That can mean consistent
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  Speaker 1: meditation practice, that can mean therapy, that can mean you know,
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  Speaker 1: starting to do yoga. It can mean many many things,
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  Speaker 1: but I think there's no.
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  Speaker 4: And ron around the very difficult, long process of really
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  Speaker 4: trying to be honest with yourself about who you are,
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  Speaker 4: what's important.
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  Speaker 1: To you, or what you care about, and then beginning
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  Speaker 1: to breathe life into those things, as frivolous as they
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  Speaker 1: may seem. To bring expression to the things that you
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  Speaker 1: do care about that get you excited in the morning.
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  Speaker 1: And that doesn't mean you quit your job tomorrow, but
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  Speaker 1: the more you can foster something that has personal importance
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  Speaker 1: to you, I think that's the first step in trying
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  Speaker 1: to move past whatever it is that's holding you back,
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  Speaker 1: whether it's professionally or personally, to being a more integrated,
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  Speaker 1: authentic version of yourself.
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  Speaker 3: Let this be the moment you remember show yourself as
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  Speaker 3: the rocket in your own life. This is the journey
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  Speaker 3: you're on. You control the progress you make. You strengthen
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  Speaker 3: the path that transforms you into the person you've been
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  Speaker 3: waiting to become, the person that allows you to become
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  Speaker 3: someone new. You have the skills to be more, the
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  Speaker 3: strengths to grow faster, the power to be stronger. The
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  Speaker 3: journey you've waited for is here here for you to
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  Speaker 3: be something better. This is the opportunity in front of you.
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  Speaker 3: This is your future, staring at you face to face,
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  Speaker 3: waiting for the power to be granted to you. Your
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  Speaker 3: power is welcomed, welcome by your progress, your progress that
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  Speaker 3: guides you towards your future. Be someone you can take
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  Speaker 3: pride in. Become someone you know that you can become.
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  Speaker 3: This is the journey you have, the journey you're on.
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  Speaker 3: Take the first step towards success. Take the first leap
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  Speaker 3: of faith into the risks of your life. Push past
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  Speaker 3: the limits, move toward a future you can imagine, a
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  Speaker 3: future you've designed. This is your power.
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  Speaker 1: Self reliance is everything. Don't expect anybody to do anything
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  Speaker 1: for you. I'm the only one who can get it done.
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  Speaker 1: And if you just buckle down and go the extra mile,
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  Speaker 1: you will solve the problem and you will make your
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  Speaker 1: way in the world. You know, we all have a
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  Speaker 1: unique song. And I think most people to echo the
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  Speaker 1: words of Henry David Dureaux are leading lives of quiet
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  Speaker 1: desperation and go to the grave with the song still
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  Speaker 1: in them. And I find that tragic. And so if
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  Speaker 1: there's anything that my work is about, it's about helping
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  Speaker 1: people become cognizant of that and to take action so
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  Speaker 1: that they don't become that person leading a life of
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  Speaker 1: quiet desperation, which I think I don't know. I wouldn't
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  Speaker 1: want to say most people, but a lot of people are,
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  Speaker 1: and I find out heartbreaking. You know, what's your major
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  Speaker 1: malfunction right now? What's the thing that keeps you up
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  Speaker 1: at night?
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  Speaker 5: Who do you the most?
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  Speaker 1: What are you afraid of? What do you want to achieve?
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  Speaker 1: What's in what do you think is in your way?
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  Speaker 1: You know? I think just by asking people questions and
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  Speaker 1: and and and then holding a vision for that better
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  Speaker 1: life for them to say, I believe in you. I'm
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  Speaker 1: not here to tell you what to do or how
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  Speaker 1: to live your life, but I believe in your greatest expression,
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  Speaker 1: and I'm going to hold space for you. To give
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  Speaker 1: people permission to be honest, to be vulnerable. We're so
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  Speaker 1: afraid of being vulnerable. We're terrified of being honest. We're
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  Speaker 1: so used to being judged and being held to a
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  Speaker 1: standard that society sets for us that we don't give
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  Speaker 1: ourselves permission to even ask these questions, let alone answer them.
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  Speaker 5: What have you done today to be different? What have
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  Speaker 5: you done to step outside the conventions that you set
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  Speaker 5: for yourself, the conventions and the rules set by your past.
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  Speaker 5: Today you have the power to move on. Today, you
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  Speaker 5: have the power to move away from your past and
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  Speaker 5: move towards a successful future. This is your decision, your
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  Speaker 5: call to make in your future. This is how your
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  Speaker 5: life can gain its own direction. And this is where
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  Speaker 5: your life can be so much.
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  Speaker 3: More, so much better.
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  Speaker 5: You can make it better. You have always had the
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  Speaker 5: potential to take one more step, the potential to take
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  Speaker 5: the risks others are too scared to take, because you
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  Speaker 5: are more, and you are stronger, and you have the
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  Speaker 5: determination and the courage to be so much more