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My Brother Almost Died · JLJ This Morning

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  Speaker 1: So my worst fears came to life. Hi, I'm James
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  Speaker 1: add Junius is jail j this morning. I've been I've
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  Speaker 1: been filming them vertically, just for something different. You guys
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  Speaker 1: watch on your phones, your tablets. It looks different right. Plus,
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  Speaker 1: I'm sitting near my couch. I'm in pain right now
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  Speaker 1: because of my knee. I can't really sit on it
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  Speaker 1: right now. I just wanted to talk to you guys.
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  Speaker 1: You guys have seen some stuff, heard a few things,
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  Speaker 1: and I thought, let me share with you. And this
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  Speaker 1: is just a good story to share with people that
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  Speaker 1: maybe going through the same thing. So in my life
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  Speaker 1: here in La, I'm a very small family and that
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  Speaker 1: I that I we will work with my younger brother
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  Speaker 1: and I live together and uh and we take care
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  Speaker 1: of our mother. Maybe you guys know that already. Miss
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  Speaker 1: Benita Jr. You know him. And one of my worst
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  Speaker 1: fears came to light last week last Wednesday, when I
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  Speaker 1: woke up to my brother or why is my phone? Oh?
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  Speaker 1: My phone was going off when my brother Jr. I walked.
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  Speaker 1: I just woke up, get ready to do my morning routine.
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  Speaker 1: Apparent he was going to go to dentist that day.
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  Speaker 1: He does no job right now. So he's going to
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  Speaker 1: a dentist and I'm getting out. I haven't made my
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  Speaker 1: coffee yet. I take my pills, my morning pills, and
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  Speaker 1: I take a couple took those, about to go out,
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  Speaker 1: make my coffee. Open open the house that was going on,
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  Speaker 1: see if he was here, also just leave. He was
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  Speaker 1: here in the front and the door front door is
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  Speaker 1: wide open, and he's sitting in a chair, slumped over,
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  Speaker 1: bleeding all from the side of his face looks horrible.
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  Speaker 1: And my neighbor, who I didn't recognize at first, is
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  Speaker 1: standing right there, like who the fuck is you? Cause
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  Speaker 1: I didn't have my glasses on anything, Like what the fuck?
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  Speaker 1: And it was my neighbor, and he had helped bring
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  Speaker 1: him in the house and they were looking for me.
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  Speaker 1: Now my house was ready. I was one of those
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  Speaker 1: shot and this was a long house and I'm wait
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  Speaker 1: in the back. So I didn't hear anything that was
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  Speaker 1: going up front. I didn't hear anything, and so I'm
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  Speaker 1: like what And so I had to kind of wake up.
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  Speaker 1: I was like, just my hair crazy everything. I'm just
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  Speaker 1: like I'm like I'm just having like to like, yo,
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  Speaker 1: it's my words. Fear that one day I'll go to
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  Speaker 1: the front and find him heard or dead or something.
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  Speaker 1: Because we live by ourselves. We live by ourselves, and
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  Speaker 1: we have like our own parts of the house. So
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  Speaker 1: I did. I had to go into action. I had
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  Speaker 1: to go right into action, and and I was trying
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  Speaker 1: to wake up up at the same time, communicates. My
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  Speaker 1: neighborhood speaks al mostly only Spanish. I speaks to Spanish
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  Speaker 1: that I will handle this, and like she call paramedics.
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  Speaker 1: I don't know what's going on, Like I don't even
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  Speaker 1: know what's going on. I'm like, I look because he's
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  Speaker 1: kind of talking, and which is a good science. He's talking,
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  Speaker 1: that's a good sign. But I'm like, I'm trying to
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  Speaker 1: figure out what's what and let me look at his face,
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  Speaker 1: and you have a former nurse. I'm trying to figure
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  Speaker 1: all this stuff out. And this is a nine to
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  Speaker 1: one one situation because you know, paramas costs a lot money.
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  Speaker 1: And I'm like, I don't even know where to take him,
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  Speaker 1: like I have no I don't know anything about his
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  Speaker 1: medical history whatever. So I make the decision we gotta
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  Speaker 1: take him to the er or urgent care or something.
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  Speaker 1: I come my Cynthia and I was like, girl, can
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  Speaker 1: you get with my sister? And weren't homes I say,
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  Speaker 1: can you come? G r I hurt himself. We gotta
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  Speaker 1: take them whatever, And she said, I guess if we
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  Speaker 1: said in our hospital, she's nearby, and I brother, we've
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  Speaker 1: never done it. I've never done that. We don't have
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  Speaker 1: this kind of stuff. So like it's so weird for me,
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  Speaker 1: and so I take them. We take them over there,
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  Speaker 1: go to the er. I have to say, Santela Hospitals,
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  Speaker 1: the great pervitation isn't the greatest. Let's just say that,
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  Speaker 1: but I will say the times I took my mother
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  Speaker 1: to the er for the du Kaiser and this experience
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  Speaker 1: with him was much better. This was I have to
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  Speaker 1: say that morning staff were amazing. They got us in
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  Speaker 1: right away. They had to see us right away because
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  Speaker 1: he could barely walk. They got us in, got us
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  Speaker 1: in the it was like the room was crazy and
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  Speaker 1: the person in that room was crazy. But before we
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  Speaker 1: got there was a little nuts. We got him in there,
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  Speaker 1: they got ivy going, started taking all these tests to
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  Speaker 1: e KG everything. The nurses were great taking blood. Our
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  Speaker 1: family has these hard retrains they got and they have
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  Speaker 1: the blood so I was like, we're there. I was
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  Speaker 1: there for hours with them. They say they're gonna admit them,
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  Speaker 1: They're gonna get in bed. But it took a while.
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  Speaker 1: So I had left to run a couple of errands
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  Speaker 1: that I needed to run a couple of things, and
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  Speaker 1: then I went back. My aunt Cynthia was the best.
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  Speaker 1: She was wonderful, but he was nervous and scared and
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  Speaker 1: just like, we know what's going on. So he told
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  Speaker 1: us that day. The one thing that came back was
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  Speaker 1: low potassium. And I know from my mother her emergency
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  Speaker 1: thing last year she had had high calcium. So I
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  Speaker 1: guess any any abnormality can make you lethargic. And that's
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  Speaker 1: the thing, folks. So the day before it was really
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  Speaker 1: hot and you guys just been hot everywhere, right, and
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  Speaker 1: my house gets hot and in the front half there's
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  Speaker 1: no condition up there, and so I thought I saw
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  Speaker 1: him laying around all day. My gut was telling me
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  Speaker 1: something was off. Was this is it's not even hindsight,
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  Speaker 1: I'm going, No, I remember my gut going, he's just
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  Speaker 1: kind of laying around. But he would say hi to me.
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  Speaker 1: Okaj when I was walking through, I was I was
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  Speaker 1: working out doing my thing and now and he's always
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  Speaker 1: had a job, so it's not like I don't know
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  Speaker 1: what his thing he does on his days off is
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  Speaker 1: aroundy and it was like it was really hot. So
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  Speaker 1: I didn't think much of the leagus drink. Idn't tell it.
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  Speaker 1: But I really was like everybody like, but he's saything
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  Speaker 1: to me. He said he thought he had food poisoning
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  Speaker 1: and when he described me, that was not food poisoning.
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  Speaker 1: So he has no idea. I was. So I was like, okay,
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  Speaker 1: so then either way, you need to hear her there.
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  Speaker 1: So now he's in there getting treated. Yeah, I was like, okay,
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  Speaker 1: I think we're in good hands. I think we're in
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  Speaker 1: good hands. And they get room eventually, and they gave
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  Speaker 1: him his own room. It's on the top floor in
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  Speaker 1: the corner stone the hospital. He had his own room.
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  Speaker 1: It was a nice little room. The chairs were high
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  Speaker 1: back chairs and a window outside, a TV to sink,
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  Speaker 1: his own bathroom. Oh. I was like, you lucked out.
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  Speaker 1: Maybe he has good insurance. I don't know, but it
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  Speaker 1: was just like wow. It was like this was amazing.
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  Speaker 1: So when people were visiting him over the next so
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  Speaker 1: they came him for like two or three days they
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  Speaker 1: kept him. They released him Saturday. His blood pressure was
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  Speaker 1: super high. We're talking like to eighteen over. They couldn't
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  Speaker 1: understand it for two days how to get it down,
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  Speaker 1: and he was just laying there. Now. I don't know
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  Speaker 1: if he was stressing out about stuff because he didn't
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  Speaker 1: want to be there anymore or whatever, but he just
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  Speaker 1: is blood pressure was not going down, and they were checking.
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  Speaker 1: They did echo cardio grady, all kind of stuff, and
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  Speaker 1: all that was kind of back fine, just a little
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  Speaker 1: potassium and actually the potassium was going up and they
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  Speaker 1: were irving it into him. So, I mean, everything else
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  Speaker 1: was everything else checked out makes pretty decent. Just the
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  Speaker 1: high blood pressure, and they were not going to release
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  Speaker 1: him because of course that's almost like negligence on there
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  Speaker 1: and somebody has high blood pressure. We don't want this
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  Speaker 1: happened again. I didn't want to happen again either. He
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  Speaker 1: had a nurse that was wonderful most of she was
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  Speaker 1: there most of the time. One doctor hated him, but
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  Speaker 1: he placed with doctor liked him. So now he's been
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  Speaker 1: home a couple of days, and the thing about it
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  Speaker 1: is is he has no appetite. He's eating a little fruits,
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  Speaker 1: these fruit balls. You can get rouse and stuff, and
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  Speaker 1: that's fine. It's something, but it's mostly water. Right, He's
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  Speaker 1: drinking water, which is good. So he's peeing and stuff,
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  Speaker 1: but he hasn't pooped, you know. I'm like, you have
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  Speaker 1: to create food poop. He wanted pizza one day, I
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  Speaker 1: got a pizza. He's barely eating the pizza. He's barely
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  Speaker 1: eating the pizza. And he's drinking the boots drinks. Those
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  Speaker 1: boots drinks and have protein, as I say, drink one
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  Speaker 1: of those in the morning and drinking one at night.
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  Speaker 1: She minds me my mother when she was not eating
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  Speaker 1: and just and the thing. People are like changes, I
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  Speaker 1: gotta eat. I'm like, I know, but I can't shove
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  Speaker 1: the ship down their throats. They're grown ups. I'm doing
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  Speaker 1: the best I can, and I just keep checking on them.
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  Speaker 1: And so like right now I'm perfs for this. At nighttime,
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  Speaker 1: I think he's asleep or he's laid down on the TV,
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  Speaker 1: and so I can't fully relax, just can't. I might
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  Speaker 1: wake up the next morning and something happens, or make
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  Speaker 1: the middle of the night, he may come in here
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  Speaker 1: and say he needs help. I feel like I'm on call.
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  Speaker 1: And that's how it was my mother when she first
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  Speaker 1: came out of the hospital and was sick, like you're
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  Speaker 1: you're on call, like you're just not you guys know that,
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  Speaker 1: you guys, it's like having a baby like you just
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  Speaker 1: you don't sleep, and I'm like, oh my god. So
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  Speaker 1: that's kind of the what I've been going through for
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  Speaker 1: last week or so. It's been tiring because I am
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  Speaker 1: trying to handle him and watch him and all that
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  Speaker 1: stuff is on there, all the back and forth to
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  Speaker 1: the hospital, having do some research for them, trying to
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  Speaker 1: figure outcause I don't know his not I noise medications.
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  Speaker 1: Now I know all this stuff. I didn't know any stuff.
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  Speaker 1: I wasn't he was his own man. I wasn't. I
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  Speaker 1: was taking care of my mother. And that's been increasing.
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  Speaker 1: I've been handling her stuff, not his, but hers. So
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  Speaker 1: now I got both of them at the same time
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  Speaker 1: with different there is things going on that I have
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  Speaker 1: to be in charge of and have to handle, and
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  Speaker 1: it's it's a it's a lot, and that's my you know,
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  Speaker 1: and I'm I'm gonna do it. This is my my
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  Speaker 1: this is what is my family members. So I'm gonna
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  Speaker 1: domp take care of them. And you know, there's some
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  Speaker 1: people who have been wonderful on my end help me
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  Speaker 1: get around a little bit and stuff. I'm telling you
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  Speaker 1: it is. It costs me out of a car. So
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  Speaker 1: I'm doing all this on my own. So doing you know,
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  Speaker 1: getting ubers and lifts, money, situation for food here and there,
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  Speaker 1: making sure that he's come to getting some supplies for him,
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  Speaker 1: you know. Things For me, I had my own dostippointment
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  Speaker 1: with my knee. I've a torn moniscus tear. So I'm
• 10:47
  Speaker 1: dealing with that right now. I'm funny with my drugs
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  Speaker 1: because I have work is still continue. I mean, I
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  Speaker 1: have people coming at me for work. It's like life
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  Speaker 1: still goes on. You know, that doesn't stop. It's just
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  Speaker 1: it's it's a lot. It's a lot. And I I
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  Speaker 1: had a couple of moments where I broke down. I
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  Speaker 1: will tell you guys, I broke down in tears. But
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  Speaker 1: I mean, I'm at that point where I'm like, I'm
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  Speaker 1: afraid to I'm afraid to cry and break down because
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  Speaker 1: I feel like I won't stop because everything is so
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  Speaker 1: heavy right now for me. I feel like my life,
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  Speaker 1: I have my own health issues. I'm dealing with right now,
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  Speaker 1: and I get my brother because my brother was my
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  Speaker 1: co anchor in this at least he was okay relatively,
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  Speaker 1: and we were both handling my mom. So now I
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  Speaker 1: don't have I have sake care of him. And so
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  Speaker 1: I got to my mom and you know, and still
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  Speaker 1: learn at my work. And like tonight, I was like,
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  Speaker 1: I have a script to write. I almost forgot. I
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  Speaker 1: write that script, and I have interviews coming out, and
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  Speaker 1: I have my appointments coming up, and I go manage
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  Speaker 1: all that. But I have a list already a mile
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  Speaker 1: long of things that we have to accomplish, for him,
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  Speaker 1: for her, for me. Days ago by so fast. It's
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  Speaker 1: like just not a time in the world. I closed
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  Speaker 1: my eyes, but I don't sleep heavy. I just don't.
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  Speaker 1: Right now. It's just not not happening. I did have
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  Speaker 1: one night for about five hours, I had time with
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  Speaker 1: a friend and it was really nice. It was really
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  Speaker 1: I mean, it was just right. That friend was just
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  Speaker 1: wonderful that I almost forgot about a situation for a
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  Speaker 1: little bit and that was that was nice. That was
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  Speaker 1: kind of that was kind of it was like I
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  Speaker 1: needed that and a nice conversation, night out, dinner, friendship
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  Speaker 1: and that came in handy. I will say that, but
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  Speaker 1: then I feel like, oh no, back to my life again.
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  Speaker 1: It's it's a lot and the weather being hot half
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  Speaker 1: the time, say it rained a little bit today is
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  Speaker 1: like kind of crazy. I'm trying. I'm trying to hang
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  Speaker 1: in there. I'm trying to and this is just it's
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  Speaker 1: funny how life you're just you're just be bopping along
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  Speaker 1: and then something goes down out of nowhere, and sometimes
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  Speaker 1: from somebody you just you did not expect. So folks
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  Speaker 1: just you know, for those guys who have lives that
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  Speaker 1: are somebody care free and you're able to do whatever
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  Speaker 1: the fuck you want and do it. I have friends
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  Speaker 1: who are traveling over the country, over the world they're
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  Speaker 1: doing I'm like, do it. Do it while you have,
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  Speaker 1: while you're unencumbered. I feel like that person like from
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  Speaker 1: the future is like, please, I had no idea of
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  Speaker 1: fifty seven in my life like this, Well, all I
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  Speaker 1: do is caregive or run or I'm not scared to
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  Speaker 1: or run something. That's all I do. Work or caregiving,
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  Speaker 1: that's all I do. And I don't have I don't
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  Speaker 1: have a relationship. I have nobody. My kids live somewhere else.
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  Speaker 1: It's it's sometimes I feel very alone. They had nights
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  Speaker 1: like this when it's nighttime and it's like there's nobody
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  Speaker 1: here and for me, and I just have to deal
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  Speaker 1: with it. I can't run away from it. I can't
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  Speaker 1: walk through it. There are times I want to run
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  Speaker 1: screaming and just say fuck everybody and leaves, like by
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  Speaker 1: I don't care anymore. Leave. But I would never do that.
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  Speaker 1: I would never do that obviously, but I do feel
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  Speaker 1: that way sometimes, and it's just it's a lot. It's
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  Speaker 1: a lot for one person to handle. I do have
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  Speaker 1: God and he helps me get through stuff. To you
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  Speaker 1: I couldn't do by myself. So just want to share
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  Speaker 1: that with you. I wish I had great news and everything.
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  Speaker 1: I don't, but I want to share that with you guys,
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  Speaker 1: because I do share stuff with you my lotties out there.
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  Speaker 1: If you want to help, I mean, I don't care
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  Speaker 1: if it's five dollars, ten dollars whatever, Buy me a
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  Speaker 1: get like five dollars at a time. They can help
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  Speaker 1: me with things that I need and I'll put up
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  Speaker 1: and all that kind of stuff. If you want to
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  Speaker 1: send a few bucks over to help me. Just handle
• 15:35
  Speaker 1: all this stuff here and there. The big stuff we
• 15:37
  Speaker 1: got taken care of is just I mean, it's it's
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  Speaker 1: and that and last minute pills and things. It just
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  Speaker 1: if you want to, you can. I'm not asking like outright,
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  Speaker 1: just saying if you want so you can. For the
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  Speaker 1: rest of you, guys, I know, I know I have
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  Speaker 1: Please continue. Other ways you can help me. Watch my
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  Speaker 1: money for me also, so you know, listen to those
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  Speaker 1: you know that's watched. I I have all kinds of content.
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  Speaker 1: money to Instagram the same thing. So there's there are
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  Speaker 1: ways that you guys can help me, just as they
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  Speaker 1: get through this difficult time. So but I'm hanging in there.
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  Speaker 1: Of course, I'm strong, light bull I love you guys.
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  Speaker 1: I'll talk to you soon,