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Can You Actually Be Trusted With More? (S5) S35:E2 · Inspirations for Your Life

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Well there, hello everyone, and welcome to the
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ever-popular Inspirations for Your Life show.
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It is Sunday, August 23rd, 2026.
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What does that mean?
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It means we're in the second day of
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our brand new master topic, which we'll get
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to in just a moment.
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If you're thirsty or hungry, feel free to
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go grab yourself something.
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I have an arrow of water here with
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some fresh lemon, delicious.
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If this is your very first time here
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today, I want to take the opportunity to
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say thank you, and I want to say
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the words, welcome, from the bottom of my
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heart.
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If you've been here one time, five, 10,
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100, or maybe even more, I'd like to
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say thank you and welcome, but I'd also
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like to say the words, welcome back, yes.
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Welcome back.
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It's always great to have everybody here that
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So great to have everybody here, really, really
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great to have everybody here with me.
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Without any further ado, guys, let's kick this
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show off, all right?
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So become someone your future self can depend
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on.
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This is series five, and the granular topic
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is, of course, series five, show 35, episode
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number two.
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Can you actually be trusted with more?
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Welcome, everyone.
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As I said to the ever-popular Inspirations
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for Your Life show, I am John C.
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Morley.
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I am a serial entrepreneur.
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I'm an engineer, marketing specialist, video producer, podcast
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host, coach, keynote speaker, graduate student at Montclair
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State University, a passionate lifelong learner, and so
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grateful now to be a published author.
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Before we officially get into the show, I
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want to give a shout-out, because today
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is Sunday.
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On Sundays and Thursdays, we give shout-outs
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to local businesses in the area, and the
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reason we do this is we like to
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let them know what they do, thank them
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for being in business, but also ask them
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to go out to jcmacademy.com, click on
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the Contact Us button, and to learn what
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we do and to invite us into your
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shop or restaurant so we can do a
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live show, and then after that, of course,
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an author talk, author Q&A, and an
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author signing.
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Today we're giving a shout-out to Mocha
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& Co.
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They are actually open at 10 p.m.
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tonight.
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They're in Englewood, New Jersey.
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They have a very interesting type of shop
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that I can see here just from looking
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at it.
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Pretty nice-looking.
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They're open Monday through Sunday.
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This is what's interesting.
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Monday through Saturday, 7 to 10, and Sunday,
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8 a.m. to 10 p.m. That's
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really cool for a coffee place, because a
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lot of times, these places, they don't stay
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open very long.
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The Yemeni coffee difference, this is what they're
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called.
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According to their website, when their founder came
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to the United States from a family of
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Yemeni coffee farmers, he came with history and
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tradition, but also an extremely fine-tuned palate
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for exquisite coffee.
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It's safe to say they know coffee.
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All coffee plants in the world could call
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Yemen home, but on the mountain slopes of
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some of Yemen's most famous coffee towns, Jaffa,
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Haima, and Ismaili, to name a few, ancient
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plants still grow ancient flavors.
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In some cases, these plants are over 1
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,000 years old and boost a flavor hearkening
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not just to the difference of a place,
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but a difference in time, preserved through family
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tradition, but also through some very ferociously steep
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mountains that keep Yemeni coffee incredibly rare.
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They have an interesting menu, and I was
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just looking at their menu here.
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They have traditional Yemeni coffee with tea brewed
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with unique spices.
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They have a brew bar.
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They have signature lattes.
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They have refreshers, tea brewed with unique spices,
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matcha lattes, drinks made with rich espresso and
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steamed milk, frozen blends, Yemeni coffee and tea
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brewed with unique spices, espresso bar, drinks made
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with rich espresso and steamed milk, comfort bar,
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Yemeni coffee and tea brewed with unique spices.
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Sounds pretty interesting if you ask me.
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So again, they have some interesting coffees.
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I was looking to see if they had
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anything else.
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It looks like I can at least here
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on the site, I just see coffee.
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I don't know if they actually have anything
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else beside coffee.
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They may.
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So Mocha and Company is a franchise.
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And so it's basically called a Yemeni cafe.
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And really interesting to see the kinds of
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stuff that they have.
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They have like a shop too and some
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other things.
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So pretty interesting.
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You may want to check this out if
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you're in the market for some foreign coffee.
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So again, Mocha and Co., I hope you'll
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come over to jsimacademy.com, click on the
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contact us button and invite us in to
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do a live show at your place.
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All right, guys.
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So our master topic of the week, as
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I said, is become someone your future can
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actually depend on.
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And today I'm asking a question that might
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make you think differently about the opportunities you're
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asking for.
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Can you actually be trusted with more?
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That's the big question.
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Can you be trusted with more?
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What goes through your head when I say
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those things?
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Like when I say that, what really comes
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through your head?
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Does anything come through your head or does
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it kind of like just stop?
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I mean, seriously, does anything really go through
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your head when I say that?
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Or do you be like, I don't know,
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I'm not really sure.
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What does that actually mean?
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I think that's an important thing for us
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to realize.
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So let's dive into this a little bit
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deeper, okay?
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So again, a big welcome to everyone to
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the Inspiration to Your Life show.
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And I want to let you know that
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each week we come up with a brand
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new master topic.
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And then on top of that, we basically
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have a granular topic every day that links
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into the main master topic.
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So become someone your future can depend on.
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Can you actually be trusted with more?
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That's the question we're asking.
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Now, a lot of people want more responsibility,
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authority, influence, freedom, control.
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But before asking for more, answer this one
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question.
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What are you doing with what you already
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been given now?
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Responsibility doesn't just test your ability, it reveals
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your character.
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30 points that I think you guys are
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going to really enjoy.
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Responsibility reveals character, talking about what you do
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if you were in charge, let's say, and
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making it easy.
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Actually being in charge shows who you are.
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Earn trust before asking for authority.
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A title gives you authority.
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Only consistent behavior earns trust.
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Handle small responsibilities well.
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How you treat today's tasks determines whether anyone
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trusts you with tomorrow's.
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Stop wanting influence without accountability.
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If your voice matters, you own what happens
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when people act upon it.
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Be careful with what others entrust to you.
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Information, money, projects, confidence.
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Treat each as the risk it represents to
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the giver.
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Make reliability visible through action.
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Don't claim it.
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Show up, follow through, communicate, and don't require
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reminders.
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Respect access that has been given to you.
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Access is a privilege, not entitlement.
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Don't confuse being let in with being owed
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a seat.
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Don't misuse somebody else's confidence.
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Trust takes years to build and seconds to
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destroy.
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Protect what isn't yours to share.
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Become dependable under pressure.
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Anyone looks reliable when things are easy, guys.
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Yeah, real dependability shows up when the plan
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falls apart.
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Take ownership when something goes wrong.
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Don't hunt for someone to blame.
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Ask, what happened?
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What can I control?
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What needs fixing?
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What changes next time?
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Stop hiding behind your position.
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A title should raise your accountability, not shield
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you from it.
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I think a lot of people miss that,
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right?
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They miss that whole concept and they don't
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necessarily know what to do.
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Treat responsibility as something earned.
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It's often evidence someone believes in you.
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And I think when you learn that, it's
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like, oh my gosh, I actually get this.
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This makes sense.
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And now I'm able to do something pretty
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powerful, right?
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That's a pretty cool thing.
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But you have to first understand where it
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comes from, okay?
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Where does it come from?
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What does it mean to you?
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Like, what does it mean?
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I think it just makes people think differently.
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I think that would make anyone change their,
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hopefully, their trajectory, okay?
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Prove your current responsibility is safe in your
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hands before asking for more.
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A lot of people I know want more,
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but they can't even handle it.
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So because of that, it's like, oh my
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gosh, what do they do?
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What are they supposed to do?
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And again, that's a very big thing to
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think about.
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If we can't be responsible for what we
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have now, how can we dare ask for
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more, right?
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How can we dare ask for more?
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I think that's an important thing for us
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to all realize right now.
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How can we ask for more?
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How?
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How do we ask for more?
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And more is about how it makes us
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better.
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I think that's something that a lot of
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people miss.
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But I think it's something we really have
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to pay attention to in our lives and
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everybody else's lives.
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Learn to keep confidential things confidential.
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I know so many people, you know, you'd
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share confidential things and then they have to
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blow them out just because it's who they
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are.
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Doing that destroys the trust, okay?
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It destroys the trust and that's a big
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problem.
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And then nobody wants to come back and
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share anything with you, unfortunately, right?
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I think that's a problem that many people
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face each day is that, you know, they're
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trying to act cool, but then they didn't
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realize that they blew their responsibility and you
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don't get a second chance to show people
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you're responsible.
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That's the thing.
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Knowing something doesn't mean it belongs in the
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next conversation.
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Knowing how and when to keep your mouth
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shut, I think that's a very positive thing.
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But, you know, maybe when you're younger and
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people said stuff to you and you're like,
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oh, well, that's no big deal.
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I used to know somebody I would share
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something with and it was private, confidential, just
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something I didn't want to get out.
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And five seconds later, it was blasted.
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So a good way to get something out,
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I would say, look, this is a secret.
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Don't tell anybody.
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And in five minutes, the whole thing went
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out.
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Don't tell anybody.
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We've got cookies and the cookies are only
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$2, but don't tell anybody because they're going
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to be $5 after three o'clock.
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Bam, it went right out.
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Knowing when not to speak matters as much
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as knowing what to say and when to
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say it.
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This comes down to your personality.
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It comes down to respect, OK?
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And these are things, again, a lot of
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people, they just, they miss it.
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They miss it.
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Ladies and gentlemen, learn to make decisions people
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can trust.
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Yeah, make decisions people can trust.
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Not just something you're going to do for
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today, guys.
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Something you're going to do time in and
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time again.
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Why is trust so important?
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I think trust is so important because if
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you're not trusting, then other people won't trust
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you, OK?
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That's a very important thing.
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If you lost trust with somebody, would you
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give them a chance to do it again?
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I probably wouldn't.
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It could take not just hours and days
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and weeks, months, maybe years to build trust.
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Why would you destroy that in the fraction
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of a second?
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The question is why?
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Why would you destroy that?
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That's the question.
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Build a reputation for weighing facts, not ego.
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Convenience or emotion.
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Don't use authority to feed your ego.
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If a power dynamic changes how you treat
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people, it didn't create that feeling.
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It exposed one already in you.
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The power that you're given maybe when you're
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in a role.
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That power exposes who you already are.
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You're already doing things like that before the
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power.
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But now that you have this power and
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you abuse it, it's saying something about your
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character, OK?
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Remember that access creates obligation.
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More access to information, resources, or people means
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more responsibility to use it as well.
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I say something a lot, guys.
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You know what that is?
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And that is just because we can doesn't
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mean we should.
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Just because we can does not mean we
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shouldn't.
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I think that's a real big one that
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so many people are like, well, of course
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we can do it.
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Maybe it's not the best thing to do,
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OK?
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Maybe that's what it's about.
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Maybe.
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Maybe you're missing a point.
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I think it's about recognizing who we are
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and then understanding that whole concept that just
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because we can doesn't mean we should.
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Learn to protect what has been placed in
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your care.
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Guardians have trusted things with you because they
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believe that you're a person of high character
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and moral regard.
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Don't make them regret that they decided to
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choose you.
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A relationship, a project, someone's confidence, a reputation,
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guard it with your life.
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Guard it with your life, OK?
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I think that's an important piece, guys.
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Guard it with your life, all right?
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Become trustworthy when nobody's checking.
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You know, I think the easiest way to
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be trustworthy is when everybody's watching you, OK?
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You know you're on stage or you're on
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camera or somebody's just checking up on you.
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You know that you want to keep doing
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the right thing because people are watching.
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But when you want to keep doing the
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right thing, regardless of whether somebody is watching
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or not, that is showing your character.
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And your character of your morality and your
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ethics comes through.
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And what you do in private shows in
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public.
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The real Tesla, gentlemen, is what you do
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when no one will ever know you did
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it.
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Use influence to improve situations.
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Don't exploit it with your influence.
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Don't let your ego become the tool that
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could be a wrecking to you, OK?
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These are important things.
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Bring clarity, solve problems and challenges, connect people,
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move good ideas forward.
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Stop confusing status with leadership.
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I know lots of people being an ego
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scout for many, many years.
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I remember when I was in a patrol,
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that's what they call it.
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And I remember this one person who had
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an ego.
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And then when I was in his patrol,
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I'm like, oh, this is going to be
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like, you know what?
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And he abused his patrol leadership on me.
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So much to the fact that he kept
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giving me KP duty, which is kitchen patrol.
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But he wasn't being fair about it.
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And guess what happened?
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Other leaders learned, why is John on KP?
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Oh, because, you know, he's a jerk and,
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you know, he didn't listen to me.
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And you just gave him KP?
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Yeah, for the whole week.
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That's kind of rotten.
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Yeah, well, you know.
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What about the other guys?
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Oh, well, you know, I didn't do it
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to them.
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I thought you'd think that's a little unfair.
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And as that happened, something changed.
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I crossed the line of becoming a leader.
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And when somebody in my patroller squad stepped
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out, I wanted to help them.
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I didn't want to just damage them and
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give them KP.
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I say, look, guys, there's some duties here.
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KP is not fun.
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So what we're going to do is we're
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going to rotate them.
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No one's going to have KP more than
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once on a trip.
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Status is your spot on the card, interest
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on the card.
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Can you believe that?
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I think that's a real important thing for
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you to actually understand.
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I think that's an important part that many
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people miss.
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They miss that.
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They miss that whole concept.
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Leadership is what happens because you're in the
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room.
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The trust, judgment, and responsibility you bring.
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Let responsibility sharpen your judgment.
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Each responsibility teaches you what needs urgency.
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When to speak or listen.
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When to move fast or slow down.
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Be accountable without being chased.
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If people have to keep checking on you,
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that's not real ownership.
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Close your own loops.
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Think about who your decisions affect.
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Employees, clients, family, colleagues.
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Leadership means weighing impact beyond yourself.
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Use power carefully.
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Money, information, authority, access, expertise, influence.
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All are power.
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The more you hold, the more carefully you
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must use it.
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Earn the next opportunity through this one.
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Don't neglect what's in front of you while
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chasing what's next.
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Handle this one so well the next becomes
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obvious.
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Become someone others can safely rely on.
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Can people trust your word, your judgment, your
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presence even when things get hard?
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Carry responsibility without becoming arrogant.
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More trust should bring more humility, not superiority.
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Your decisions now affect more people.
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I think we've got to realize that.
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I think that's a very important thing for
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us to understand.
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And that's important, guys.
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And I say that to you because it's
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something most people don't get.
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I think that's really the most important thing
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that I want to share with you.
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And now that we know that we could
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be more responsible, make trust worth giving you.
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Protect what's given.
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Keep commitments.
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Communicate clearly.
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Own your mistakes.
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More responsibility requires more character.
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As stakes rise, small lapses in judgment cost
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more.
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Build character alongside skill.
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Become someone people can trust with more.
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Don't answer based on what you hope you
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do.
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Look at the evidence.
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Do you keep commitments, protect confidences, take ownership,
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communicate, stay dependable, under pressure, use influence, responsibility,
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and hold your standards when no one's watching?
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Or do you just do when people are
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keeping up with you?
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Just curious about that comment.
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What does it mean to you in your
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life?
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How do you treat those kinds of things?
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That tells you if you're ready.
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Most people think they're ready, but you know
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what happens?
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They're not.
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They think they're ready, but they're really not
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ready.
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They're really not ready.
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I think that's something that most people don't
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know.
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You don't know until you know.
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Do you know what I mean?
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That's the whole key.
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You don't know until you know, but sometimes
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it becomes all about an ego.
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It becomes all about an ego.
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That's a problem, guys.
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It's a very, very big problem.
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One that most people are going to miss.
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So let's think about that for a minute.
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I get that the ego might seem like
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it satisfies the community.
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This is what I want to know.
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What does it mean to you?
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If you don't know what it means, then
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maybe you're going to be like, how do
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I make this change?
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And you're kind of like, you're doing something
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because you're doing it for the reason, right?
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So I want to get ready to close
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the show out here today.
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Maybe you want something more right now.
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A bigger role, more freedom, more influence, more
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money, a bigger project.
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Instead of asking, why haven't I got my
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opportunity yet?
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Ask, what can I do with what I
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have right now that proves I'm ready for
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more?
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You don't control every opportunity or every decision
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someone else makes.
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But you control who you're becoming while you
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wait.
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You can grow more reliably, sharpen your judgment,
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communicate better, own things faster, protect people's confidence,
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and use whatever influence you already have to
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make things better.
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Trust isn't just given.
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Your behavior teaches people whether they can give
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it to you, whether they should delegate it
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to you.
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Once they learn they can, that reputation becomes
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so powerful for you.
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They'll know you'll show up.
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They'll tell the truth, protect what needs protecting.
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Stay when things get uncomfortable.
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Take responsibility when things go wrong.
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And hold your standards even when no one's
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checking.
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When no one's checking, that's a real mouthful
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there.
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Leisure, what is that?
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That's character.
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This week's topic is become someone your future
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self can depend on.
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Bigger opportunities bring bigger responsibilities.
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So prepare your character, not just your resume.
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Don't ask for authority.
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Become worthy of it.
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Don't chase status.
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Feel reliability.
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Don't demand influence.
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Demonstrate judgment.
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Use today's opportunity to prepare for tomorrow's.
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Ladies and gentlemen, I'm John Seymour, a serial
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entrepreneur.
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Thank you so much for joining me for
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another amazing episode of The Inspirations for your
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life show.
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And one last question I have for all
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of you.
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If someone watched how you handled things, what
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would you already have?
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Would they trust you with more?
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If yes, keep strengthening that character.
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If not, now is your time to change
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and begin anew.
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Handle the small things well.
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Protect what's entrusted to you.
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Be accountable without being chased.
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Use influence carefully.
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Take ownership when things go wrong.
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Make your word mean something.
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Become someone people can trust with more.
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Please go check out believemeachieve.com for more
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of my amazing, inspiring creations.
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Take care, everyone, and be well.