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FULL SHOW: We're Celebrating 4/20, Nyla Symone Drops By And More! · The Breakfast Club

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  Speaker 1: Good morning Usa yo yo yo yo yo yo yo
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  Speaker 1: yo yo yo yo yo yo yo yo yo yo
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  Speaker 1: yo yo yo yo yo yo yo yo yo yo
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  Speaker 1: yo yo yo yo yo yo yo.
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  Speaker 2: Yo yo Charlamagne the god piece to the plane in
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  Speaker 2: this Thursday. Yes it's Thursday, and happy four twenty Today
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  Speaker 2: is twenty.
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  Speaker 1: Ah man dropping the clues bombs of four twenty. Sleute
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  Speaker 1: everybody out there who don't care that it's four twenty,
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  Speaker 1: because it's four twenty every day.
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  Speaker 2: That is true.
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  Speaker 1: They wake and bake every day, that is true. But
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  Speaker 1: you got something you don't smoke though, No, I don't
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  Speaker 1: sm like flower. I like edible.
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  Speaker 2: What you got, you know, this is my pre rolls.
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  Speaker 1: Give me some flower anyway, I give it to you.
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  Speaker 1: Good gifts, a good.
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  Speaker 2: Fourth pre rolls, just you know, like we call them
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  Speaker 2: dog walkers because they short enough that when you walk
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  Speaker 2: the dog, you can smoke and get your little smoke on.
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  Speaker 1: It, like dog walking on when you was beating somebody
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  Speaker 1: ass a dog walked that home.
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  Speaker 2: We call them dog walkers because they they short sized
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  Speaker 2: and you can smoke him, and you know, by the
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  Speaker 2: time you get back to the crib, you done.
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  Speaker 1: Short size, but you can smoke him.
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  Speaker 2: There you go.
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  Speaker 1: She call them charlamagne. What with charlamagne? Your mouth?
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  Speaker 2: What short size? So shout to the staff. I gave
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  Speaker 2: all the staff some happy four twenty uh good gifts.
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  Speaker 2: Thank you, sir for the staff and everything like you, sir.
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  Speaker 1: Turbo blue rolls slurred. I can't smoke, man. You know
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  Speaker 1: why I can't smoke because the way my anxiety is
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  Speaker 1: set up, that anxiety creeps in too fast when I smoke.
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  Speaker 1: I've never had a good experience smoking. But really with edibles, yes,
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  Speaker 1: because edibles is a nice body high. Yeah, and you
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  Speaker 1: know how much you're taking. You know what I'm saying,
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  Speaker 1: and it creeps up on you over the hour. That's
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  Speaker 1: what I like that we hit you too fast when
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  Speaker 1: you smoke it. I can't smoke it. I like edibles.
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  Speaker 1: But thank you. All right, we'll go for twenty gifts.
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  Speaker 2: If you in Detroit, you can hit up Mary Jane.
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  Speaker 2: That's how most of the dispensers in Detroit has my
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  Speaker 2: my actual strains. So shout to them. And if you're
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  Speaker 2: in Vegas, heart Dean, my wife is mad at me
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  Speaker 2: right now. Or you know, we've been talking about colonoscopies
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  Speaker 2: and I took a colonoscopy earlier this year and they
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  Speaker 2: found two pilyps.
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  Speaker 1: YEP, I got one in December. I had no pilyps,
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  Speaker 1: no redness, no cancer, no nothing.
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  Speaker 2: It could have. I didn't have any cancer redness, but
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  Speaker 2: one of the polyps could be pre cancerous. So I
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  Speaker 2: have to go back and five years just to make sure.
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  Speaker 1: Which yours is short? I think your might be three
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  Speaker 1: three years.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm going back in three five.
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  Speaker 1: You go back in three.
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  Speaker 2: But long story short, when they found that, I'm making
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  Speaker 2: everybody I know go get coldonoskar as you should. I'm like,
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  Speaker 2: I can't talk if you don't, because I just want
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  Speaker 2: to make sure my friends are feeling man around. So
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  Speaker 2: I made my wife go. Now, my wife is not
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  Speaker 2: the age to go, but I just made her go anyway.
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  Speaker 2: So today is her procedure. So you know last night
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  Speaker 2: she had yesterday she had to take those tails. Oh
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  Speaker 2: my goodness, ooops, sit it. She wasn't shoop. She wasn't
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  Speaker 2: ready for that loose boots. She wasn't ready for that.
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  Speaker 2: She doesn't curse me out, you know, she wasn't ready
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  Speaker 2: for it.
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  Speaker 1: It's funny when you try to explain people the prep
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  Speaker 1: of colonos because they don't understand what we're saying when
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  Speaker 1: we say diarrhea, like they're just thinking about, Okay, I've
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  Speaker 1: had diarrhea, but nah, this is different. This is literally
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  Speaker 1: every ten to fifteen seconds. Maybe maybe maybe if you're good,
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  Speaker 1: every ten to fifteen seconds, every time you sit down,
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  Speaker 1: you're gonna get back.
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  Speaker 2: She is so mad at me right now. Yes, man,
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  Speaker 2: she is so mad at me. And I guess you know.
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  Speaker 2: She she did the suit tab. With the suit tab
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  Speaker 2: is where you have to take the pills. Some people
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  Speaker 2: take a look that to take the pills.
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  Speaker 1: So so the.
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  Speaker 2: Pills didn't agree with her stomach, so she she kind
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  Speaker 2: of she was like almost vomiting and then she pooping.
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  Speaker 2: Oh my, she's mad at me right now.
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  Speaker 1: But the beauty is boil. When you wake up this morning,
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  Speaker 1: that stomach gonna be on flat flat.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, she's gonna be on flat.
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  Speaker 1: You're gonna be on flat flat this morning when you
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  Speaker 1: wake up. Yes, any work you've been doing in the
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  Speaker 1: gym on your abs, you're gonna see it this morning.
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  Speaker 1: You're gonna see it to day after you do prep
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  Speaker 1: for a coldon we believe that. Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: So she's she's a little tight with me this morning.
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  Speaker 2: She's very techable.
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  Speaker 1: Why they let her go early because y'all got a
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  Speaker 1: history of it in your family.
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  Speaker 2: No, that's why.
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  Speaker 1: That's why I was able to go earlier, because I
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  Speaker 1: won't be forty five till this year.
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  Speaker 2: I'll be paid for it, just paid for it, because
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  Speaker 2: you know, it was one of those things I'm nervous
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  Speaker 2: after see in Chad with Bosman and all these brothers
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  Speaker 2: are dying from more different things. I'm checking everything when people,
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  Speaker 2: I love to check everything because I want them as
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  Speaker 2: around as long as possible.
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  Speaker 1: I'm with you now. Today is for twenty Yes, did
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  Speaker 1: they put the song in? Then? I want it? Oh
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  Speaker 1: good man, what's on? You want to because today is
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  Speaker 1: our good brother Killer Mike's born day man and dropping
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  Speaker 1: the clue Mi, I damn sure want to start with
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  Speaker 1: Killing Mike because today is Killing Mike's actual B day.
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  Speaker 2: I want to start with styles P.
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  Speaker 1: I get high.
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  Speaker 2: But we can do Killer Mike. We can we can
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  Speaker 2: do styles PI.
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  Speaker 1: Killer Mike put out a new record for his B
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  Speaker 1: day Man called Don't Let the Devil with lp uh.
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  Speaker 1: You know the whole run the Jewels movement because Killer
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  Speaker 1: Mike has album coming out called Michael, But happy born
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  Speaker 1: Day to Killer Mike. We don't celebrate our people enough
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  Speaker 1: when they are here Killing Michael, killing treasure to our community.
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  Speaker 1: It's a pleasure to call him a friend and brother.
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  Speaker 1: And he's one of my top five favorite seeds of
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  Speaker 1: all time. And this song is hard.
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  Speaker 2: Before you play it, I want to salute to Killer Mike.
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  Speaker 2: I just want to tell you all a quick story.
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  Speaker 2: We got ten seconds. Uh there was somebody getting people
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  Speaker 2: in Atlanta, uh where they would act like they were
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  Speaker 2: investing people's money and really wasn't doing it. And Killer
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  Speaker 2: Mike went down to that individual and got so many
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  Speaker 2: people at money back. Nobody ever talked about it. And
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  Speaker 2: Killer Mike he's a good brother, a hero, and he
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  Speaker 2: continues to do things like that. So Killer Mike, I
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  Speaker 2: love you.
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  Speaker 1: Michael Renda is a real life superhero.
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  Speaker 2: And let's get this joint on right now now. If
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  Speaker 2: you bet right now, you have to google it later.
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  Speaker 1: Called Don't let the Devil feature in LP. Let's go
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  Speaker 1: hit when the clues bombs for that. It's the Breakfast Club.
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  Speaker 2: Good Morning from Patriots is next. All right morning, everybody,
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  Speaker 2: It's the dj n V, Charlemagne, the God, we Are
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  Speaker 2: the Breakfast.
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  Speaker 1: Club, Killer Mike Happy born Day, Killer Mike dropping the
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  Speaker 1: clues bombs for killing Mike.
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  Speaker 2: Man.
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  Speaker 1: That's Killer Mike in LP. Don't let the devil man.
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  Speaker 1: Let me tell you something. Michael Rinder Killer Mike has
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  Speaker 1: a new album coming out called Michael. I'm not gonna
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  Speaker 1: put too much sauce on it because you'all gonna say
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  Speaker 1: I'm biased because that's my partner in one of my
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  Speaker 1: top five favorite them seas of all time. But man
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  Speaker 1: crazy when he drops, you'll see.
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  Speaker 2: Alright, Mayon, I'm sure killing Michael stopped the man and
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  Speaker 2: drops that album.
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  Speaker 1: Mayan.
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  Speaker 2: All right, Well, let's get in some front page news.
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  Speaker 2: Hey Testling, figure out goom Onland, figure out the hood
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  Speaker 2: was Farrock.
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  Speaker 3: Good morning, Charlemagne, the God, DJ MV, Breakfast Club and
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  Speaker 3: the ET.
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  Speaker 2: Now, I just want to start off with some quick sports.
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  Speaker 2: Last night, the Bucks beat the Heat one thirty eight
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  Speaker 2: twenty two, the Nuggets beat the Timberwalls one twenty two,
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  Speaker 2: one thirteen, and the Grizzlies beat the Lakers one O
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  Speaker 2: three ninety three. Of course, Brooks and Lebron kind of
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  Speaker 2: with chirping at each other all game and after the game.
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  Speaker 2: This is what Brooks said about Lebron.
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  Speaker 4: Changed their people out there that say maybe maybe you
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  Speaker 4: shouldn't do that with one of the better players in
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  Speaker 4: the game.
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  Speaker 5: I guess, what's what were you thinking of?
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  Speaker 6: I don't care he's old, you know. I mean that's
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  Speaker 6: I was waiting for that. I was respecting him to
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  Speaker 6: do that Game four, game five. He wanted to say
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  Speaker 6: something when I got my four to five should saying
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  Speaker 6: that earlier on I PopEd bears. I don't respect no
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  Speaker 6: one until they come and give me forty.
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  Speaker 1: Wait, why they gotta call him man? Oh now, Broun,
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  Speaker 1: I need you to drop forty next game.
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  Speaker 2: But that's the thing.
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  Speaker 1: You gotta show up for us old his next game.
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  Speaker 2: That's the thing. Now, God damn Now, Dylan Brooks last
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  Speaker 2: night scored twelve points one rebound. Now that old man
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  Speaker 2: dropped twenty eight on you in twelve rebounds. How you
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  Speaker 2: call him?
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  Speaker 1: You got to drop forty? I didn't. I never thought
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  Speaker 1: I would get to the point where Lebron would be
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  Speaker 1: up here with us. OG's all right, but I guess
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  Speaker 1: he is at this point. Right, He's considered old in
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  Speaker 1: the league. You've been there twenty years, Bron, you got
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  Speaker 1: to drop forty? Next game? And how the Lakers lose
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  Speaker 1: to the gridlies without I'm rent and did Yanna's play
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  Speaker 1: last night?
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  Speaker 2: I fell asleep at nolaylast I'm old man.
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  Speaker 1: And then in the heat the Bucks beat the Heat.
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  Speaker 5: Wow.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, Lebron, don't let that Canadian told.
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  Speaker 1: You like that game? Brun And I ain't no Laker fan,
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  Speaker 1: but I want to see you drop forty, Brun.
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  Speaker 2: All right, what else you got task?
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, it was a really really good game. I just
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  Speaker 3: want to say my special happy birthday all say. Also
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  Speaker 3: the Killer Mike, I'm glad you guys did that special
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  Speaker 3: shout out. So I will be going to Atlanta for
• 7:28
  Speaker 3: the sold out Black Effect podcast festivals.
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  Speaker 7: So don't be surprised if I'm reporting live.
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  Speaker 1: From the I'm being there with you the Blue.
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  Speaker 3: That's right, and his wife, my sister Shay shout out
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  Speaker 3: to him.
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  Speaker 8: Yep.
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  Speaker 3: So Biden issues an executive order to make child and
• 7:48
  Speaker 3: home care cheaper. So I wanted to give some good
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  Speaker 3: news with President Biden signing and executive order Tuesday to
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  Speaker 3: advance affordable caregiving and support workers Now. The order includes
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  Speaker 3: cabinet level agencies taking steps to fix the nation's childcare
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  Speaker 3: and long term care system, such as lowering co payments
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  Speaker 3: for services, and other provisions that will seek ways for
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  Speaker 3: Medicare and Medicaid dollars to go further. Now, take a
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  Speaker 3: listen to what President Biden had to say about the
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  Speaker 3: executive order.
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  Speaker 4: The executive Order I'm about to sign is the most
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  Speaker 4: comprehensive set of actions any administration is taken to date
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  Speaker 4: to increase access to high quality childcare and long care,
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  Speaker 4: current care and support for the caregivers.
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  Speaker 2: You know.
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  Speaker 4: Under this order, almost every federal agency will collectively take
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  Speaker 4: over fifty actions to provide more peace of mind for
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  Speaker 4: families and dignity for care workers and who deserve jobs
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  Speaker 4: with good pay and good benefits. The executive Order doesn't
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  Speaker 4: require any new spending. It's about making sure taxpayers will
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  Speaker 4: get the best value for the investments they've already made.
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  Speaker 3: Okay, yep, so good thing this was you guys may
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  Speaker 3: remember when they were pushing the infrastructure bill early on
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  Speaker 3: in the administration. This was pushed to the side and
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  Speaker 3: so it wasn't able. They couldn't get support early on,
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  Speaker 3: so now they bumped it back up as they should
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  Speaker 3: as Democrats prepare to run in twenty twenty four. So
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  Speaker 3: I'm excited about this and thought folks should know people
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  Speaker 3: spend a lot of money on childcare every year, about
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  Speaker 3: seventeen thousand dollars, so this should be pretty help.
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  Speaker 1: And hope hopefully that trickled down to the people who needed.
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  Speaker 1: And when I see the people who needed, the black
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  Speaker 1: people in the hood.
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  Speaker 7: That's right, yeah, that's right.
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  Speaker 2: All right, Well we'll see in a little bit, Testling Figure.
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  Speaker 2: I know who's a short one. We were talking news.
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  Speaker 2: We're doing a couple of minutes, all right, all right,
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  Speaker 2: please all right, get it off your chest. Eight hundred
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  Speaker 2: and five eighty five one O five one. If you
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  Speaker 2: need to vent phone lines or wide open, it's four twenty,
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  Speaker 2: so get your ass up, light up, and it's for twenty.
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  Speaker 2: It's the Breakfast Club going to be eTOD morning. Everybody
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  Speaker 2: is DJ Envy call I mean the guy. We are
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  Speaker 2: the Breakfast Club. Let's get in some front page news.
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  Speaker 7: Now.
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  Speaker 2: We got Testling Figure on the line. Good morning, test
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  Speaker 2: the Hood Whisperer.
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  Speaker 7: Absolutely, good morning, family.
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  Speaker 2: Just go through some quick sports to Grizzlies beat the
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  Speaker 2: Lakers last night one O three ninety three, the Bucks
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  Speaker 2: beat the Heat one thirty eight, one twenty two, and
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  Speaker 2: the Nuggets beat the Timberwolves one twenty two, one thirteen.
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  Speaker 1: I can't believe that the Heat beat I mean, the
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  Speaker 1: Bucks beat the Heat with Alliannis, and I can't believe
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  Speaker 1: the Lakers didn't seize the moment and beat the Grizzlies
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  Speaker 1: without John Morant.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, they lost by ten. They were down by like
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  Speaker 2: twenty or something at one point, twenty one. At one
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  Speaker 2: point they came back. But yeah, it was it was
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  Speaker 2: a very physical game. It was an early game too,
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  Speaker 2: forty five last night. Your game started seven thirty. I
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  Speaker 2: think it was really really early.
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  Speaker 1: Was surprising.
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  Speaker 2: All right, Now, what are we starting with? We start
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  Speaker 2: with this the guy that, uh, the inmate that passed
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  Speaker 2: away because of bed bugs.
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  Speaker 3: Yes, wow, break yourself for this one. It just even
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  Speaker 3: reporting this makes me queasy.
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  Speaker 1: Uh.
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  Speaker 7: The family of thirty five year old Georgia.
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  Speaker 3: Man Lashawn Johnson, who died in a bed bug infested
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  Speaker 3: jail cell last year, is now demanding a criminal investigation
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  Speaker 3: until his death, as well as closure and replacement of
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  Speaker 3: the jail now. The family attorney, Michael Harper, said that
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  Speaker 3: Thompson was found unresponsive in his filthy sale on September nineteenth,
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  Speaker 3: twenty twenty two, after being eaten alive by insects. He
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  Speaker 3: went on to say that the jail sale mister Thompson
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  Speaker 3: was housed and was not fit even for a diseased animal.
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  Speaker 3: When Thompson was arrested three months earlier, he was put
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  Speaker 3: into a psychiatric unit of the jail because officials had
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  Speaker 3: determined that he had mental health issues. His attorneys said
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  Speaker 3: that officers and medical staff at the jail noticed Thompson
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  Speaker 3: was deteriorating, but they did nothing, and when they found
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  Speaker 3: his body unresponsive, they did not administer CPR because.
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  Speaker 7: In her words, she freaked out. The correction officer actually
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  Speaker 7: said she freaked out.
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  Speaker 3: According to Fulton County Medical examiners report, Thompson's body was
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  Speaker 3: covered in bed bugs with no obvious signs of trauma,
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  Speaker 3: and they did determine his death as undetermined now. In
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  Speaker 3: the meantime, the Sheriff's office said that they have taken
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  Speaker 3: it mediate action, which includes spending five hundred thousand to
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  Speaker 3: address the infestation of bed bugs and new protocols for
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  Speaker 3: security rounds, and adding additional staff to help on over crowding,
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  Speaker 3: and so today they're also doing a press conference to
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  Speaker 3: demand a federal investigation.
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  Speaker 1: I'm so confused. How do you determine somebody's death undetermined? Right?
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  Speaker 1: That's number one? And number two, this man had to
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  Speaker 1: be screaming for help, right, Like, you're not gonna get
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  Speaker 1: eaten alive by anything and not be yelling and screaming
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  Speaker 1: as you know, at the top of your lung, screaming
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  Speaker 1: for your life. So they just ignored the brother.
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  Speaker 7: Yeah, it was a slow process.
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  Speaker 3: You know, it wasn't like all you know, at one time,
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  Speaker 3: but having the infestation, you know, slowly eating away, slowly deteriorating.
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  Speaker 3: They said he deteriorated over time, but he just never
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  Speaker 3: got the medical help and basically just let him, you know,
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  Speaker 3: stay there in field until eventually it took over his body.
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  Speaker 3: And so that's what the federal investigation will do. We'll
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  Speaker 3: actually go back in and you know, I assume have
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  Speaker 3: the medical examiner make a determination, and once they do that,
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  Speaker 3: they can continue with that lawsuit and see if there's
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  Speaker 3: any criminal charges that they can file as well.
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  Speaker 1: That's how I mean, jails aren't supposed to be the
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  Speaker 1: rich Carlton but you know, jails shouldn't be a death stinist.
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  Speaker 1: If you're not saying this to death, you know what
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  Speaker 1: I mean?
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  Speaker 2: Bugs and now, but you know most jail, a lot
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  Speaker 2: of jails are whether it's roaches, whether it's infested with mice,
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  Speaker 2: whether it's bedbug, which is disgusting, god, oh my goodness.
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  Speaker 1: I mean, at least make them livable human condition. Like
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  Speaker 1: I said, it ain't supposed to be no five star hotel,
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  Speaker 1: but at least make them livable conditions for a human damn.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, all right, what else we got? What else? Were
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  Speaker 2: talking about? Facebook? Yes?
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  Speaker 3: Facebook, In case anyone wants to see if they can
• 13:42
  Speaker 3: get the bag from Facebook.
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  Speaker 7: Facebook users who had an active.
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• 13:50
  Speaker 3: December twenty twenty two can now apply to receive a
• 13:53
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  Speaker 3: twenty five million dollar settlement related to the Cambridge and
• 13:59
  Speaker 3: a political scandal now Meta in December agreed to settle
• 14:03
  Speaker 3: a long standing class action lawsuit which accused Cambridge who
• 14:07
  Speaker 3: worked with the Trump campaign to access private user information
• 14:10
  Speaker 3: of more than eighty seven million Facebook users as an
• 14:13
  Speaker 3: attempt to influence the presidential election.
• 14:16
  Speaker 2: Now.
• 14:16
  Speaker 3: The claim form, which will only require a few personal
• 14:19
  Speaker 3: details and information about your Facebook account, can be filled
• 14:22
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• 14:37
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• 14:42
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• 14:44
  Speaker 3: I thought this was an important story, submit that claim
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• 14:48
  Speaker 2: All right. And lastly, you got to talk about this
• 14:50
  Speaker 2: Toronto Bluejay's picture and his wife. You got to talk
• 14:53
  Speaker 2: about this flame. I just thought this was disgusting.
• 14:55
  Speaker 3: Yeah yeah, so many of you may have seen it
• 14:58
  Speaker 3: on Twitter.
• 14:58
  Speaker 7: I wanted to see what the family so.
• 15:00
  Speaker 3: Toronto blue Jay's pitcher, Anthony Bass, has sparked heated debate
• 15:04
  Speaker 3: on social media after claiming that a United Airlines employee
• 15:08
  Speaker 3: made his pregnant wife clean up a food mess left
• 15:10
  Speaker 3: by his children on the flight. Now, Bass wrote on Twitter,
• 15:13
  Speaker 3: the flight attendant at United just made my twenty two
• 15:16
  Speaker 3: week pregnant wife traveling with a five year old and
• 15:19
  Speaker 3: a two year old, get on her hands and knees
• 15:21
  Speaker 3: to pick up popcorn mess by my youngest daughter. But
• 15:24
  Speaker 3: not everyone. Dj MV agreed with the outrage, and they
• 15:27
  Speaker 3: took the social media to say that he is responsible
• 15:29
  Speaker 3: for his own mess. One user commented, be a decent
• 15:32
  Speaker 3: human and if you're going to give your kid popcorn
• 15:35
  Speaker 3: on the plane, be prepared to pick it up. Another
• 15:37
  Speaker 3: person said, pregnant women can ben that may not want to,
• 15:40
  Speaker 3: but the solution to that is not to give your
• 15:42
  Speaker 3: child popcorn on the plane, and another user who identified
• 15:46
  Speaker 3: themselves as a former flight attendant, said that a flight
• 15:48
  Speaker 3: attendant is there for safety, not to pick up after
• 15:51
  Speaker 3: your children. So do you think you should pick up
• 15:54
  Speaker 3: after your own damn kids?
• 15:55
  Speaker 1: I mean what I can see both sides. Yes, I
• 15:58
  Speaker 1: think that you should pick up after your own damn kid.
• 16:00
  Speaker 1: But I do think you have to take into consideration.
• 16:01
  Speaker 1: The young lady was pregnant, so if it was difficult,
• 16:04
  Speaker 1: and have you ever seen you know, I traveled with
• 16:07
  Speaker 1: my family, so when I when my wife is pregnant,
• 16:09
  Speaker 1: you know, and we got you know, two other kids
• 16:12
  Speaker 1: at one point three other kids. I see how it is,
• 16:15
  Speaker 1: how difficult it is for her to do certain things.
• 16:17
  Speaker 1: So I'm there to pick up the popcorns. If I
• 16:19
  Speaker 1: was the flight attendant and I saw a pregnant woman
• 16:21
  Speaker 1: with some other kids, I probably would help, you know
• 16:24
  Speaker 1: what I mean.
• 16:25
  Speaker 2: Yes, she's twenty two years she's twenty two weeks pregnant,
• 16:27
  Speaker 2: she has a two year old and a five year old.
• 16:29
  Speaker 2: The popcorn I'm sure fell out. Yes, I get it,
• 16:32
  Speaker 2: And I'll be honest with you. I've been on some
• 16:35
  Speaker 2: of them planes and I've been seeing messes on some
• 16:36
  Speaker 2: of them planes, crumbs and all types of stuff. And
• 16:39
  Speaker 2: not to say that the flight attendant had to pick
• 16:41
  Speaker 2: it up, but there is a cleaning crew before and
• 16:43
  Speaker 2: after that. That's their job. They're supposed to clean up
• 16:45
  Speaker 2: the plane, and they could clean up the plane. That
• 16:47
  Speaker 2: child was two years old and five years old, and
• 16:49
  Speaker 2: it's not.
• 16:50
  Speaker 1: Like difficult, and it's not like she was encouraging the
• 16:52
  Speaker 1: kid to s pill popcorn.
• 16:52
  Speaker 2: I should say to the popcorn, I'm the kid dropped
• 16:55
  Speaker 2: it by at exactly we on a flight, and you
• 16:57
  Speaker 2: want me to bend down on my knees pick it up. No,
• 16:58
  Speaker 2: I'm not picking it up now.
• 17:00
  Speaker 3: And I thought that was my point of view, Like
• 17:02
  Speaker 3: when were you supposed to pick it up because you
• 17:04
  Speaker 3: can't get out your seat. You know, there's only certain
• 17:07
  Speaker 3: times you can get out with your seatbelt. So did
• 17:08
  Speaker 3: they want them to do it before they got off
• 17:10
  Speaker 3: the plane or like, where was the time that she
• 17:13
  Speaker 3: was really going to have for anybody pregnant or not
• 17:16
  Speaker 3: to get on their knees and pick it up. I
• 17:18
  Speaker 3: just think about, like if you got to catch another flight,
• 17:20
  Speaker 3: you got to get off the plane, you know, where
• 17:22
  Speaker 3: was the time I guess that she wanted her to
• 17:24
  Speaker 3: pick it up.
• 17:26
  Speaker 1: So many these flight attendants be nasty for no damn,
• 17:30
  Speaker 1: I've been seeing that, experiencing that. I understand that you
• 17:33
  Speaker 1: might be having a bad day, but you know, you
• 17:34
  Speaker 1: don't have to project, you know, that bad day onto
• 17:38
  Speaker 1: the passengers of the airplane because we all just trying
• 17:40
  Speaker 1: to get to where we're going. That's it.
• 17:41
  Speaker 2: And I'll be honest, if I was on that flight
• 17:43
  Speaker 2: and see that pregnant woman on her hands and knees
• 17:45
  Speaker 2: picking up the popcorn, I would have helped them because
• 17:47
  Speaker 2: I know what it is to have kids and have
• 17:49
  Speaker 2: young kids and trying to handle everything together. You know,
• 17:51
  Speaker 2: I got six of them, so I would have helped
• 17:53
  Speaker 2: on that.
• 17:53
  Speaker 1: I would have counted the colonels first. If there's only
• 17:55
  Speaker 1: like two colonels left, I was like, oh, she got it.
• 17:59
  Speaker 1: She already that she got it. You know what I'm saying.
• 18:02
  Speaker 1: I would account of the current, that's all, would acount
• 18:04
  Speaker 1: the current help. I would have looked and be like, oh,
• 18:06
  Speaker 1: it's only two lefts, she got it. You know what
• 18:07
  Speaker 1: I mean? To help them, I'm like that sometimes when
• 18:09
  Speaker 1: you sit in your seat and I'm gonna tell you
• 18:11
  Speaker 1: something else. You know, you be sitting down and you
• 18:12
  Speaker 1: be offering to help women with their bags. I got
• 18:15
  Speaker 1: to the point where I stopped doing that because women
• 18:17
  Speaker 1: don't be wanting help.
• 18:18
  Speaker 7: Some women want to, Yes, we do.
• 18:20
  Speaker 3: I'm every time somebody don't help me, I'll look and say,
• 18:22
  Speaker 3: I mean, are you gonna help?
• 18:23
  Speaker 1: Okay, Yeah, that's how I am. Some of these women
• 18:26
  Speaker 1: be like I got it, I got it. I don't.
• 18:27
  Speaker 2: I'm like, okay, But most of the time they do
• 18:30
  Speaker 2: need help, and I have no problem helping them.
• 18:32
  Speaker 1: I have no problem helping them either. You know, I've
• 18:33
  Speaker 1: just been scoring because some women just be like, I
• 18:35
  Speaker 1: don't need your help.
• 18:37
  Speaker 2: They probably feel like you and you probably can't reach
• 18:39
  Speaker 2: the upper end of the of the placee. So that's
• 18:41
  Speaker 2: why they probably feel that.
• 18:42
  Speaker 1: That's what they can be right about that.
• 18:44
  Speaker 2: See, well, thank you Tas, We appreciate you.
• 18:48
  Speaker 7: No problem.
• 18:49
  Speaker 1: All right, we'll see it tomorrow and make sure you
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• 19:05
  Speaker 2: All right, now, now when we come back, we have
• 19:07
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• 19:10
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• 19:12
  Speaker 2: It's the Breakfast Sloan BT call out a name or
• 19:17
  Speaker 2: you gossip chatting.
• 19:20
  Speaker 5: This is the rumor report.
• 19:21
  Speaker 9: I mean, I guess we're on the breakfast Club. This
• 19:23
  Speaker 9: is where the tea spells.
• 19:23
  Speaker 1: Right on the Breakfast Club.
• 19:26
  Speaker 2: Now in more Jonathan Major's news. Now, his attorney filed
• 19:30
  Speaker 2: evidence on Wednesday that appears to show Jonathan's accuser uninjured
• 19:34
  Speaker 2: and partying in a club after their alleged altercation. Now,
• 19:39
  Speaker 2: af you go to a ball Alert, Hollywood Unlocked or
• 19:41
  Speaker 2: Shade Room, you can see pictures of this alleged woman
• 19:45
  Speaker 2: in a bar or club. After you call it an
• 19:48
  Speaker 2: alleged woman, why don't I just want to say allege
• 19:51
  Speaker 2: because to make sure I don't want to be like
• 19:52
  Speaker 2: that wasn't me and the photo that wasn't.
• 19:54
  Speaker 1: Alleged victim the woman the woman, yes, alleged will mentioned.
• 19:57
  Speaker 2: Uh in a bar or club partying after the incident happened,
• 20:03
  Speaker 2: so they basically say she really didn't have any injuries. Now, Also,
• 20:07
  Speaker 2: they're saying sources close to the case are saying that
• 20:10
  Speaker 2: more victims of Mages have come forward following his March
• 20:13
  Speaker 2: arrest and a cooperating with Manhattan District Attorney's office. Yikes,
• 20:18
  Speaker 2: So I don't know what's happening, but they're saying more
• 20:21
  Speaker 2: people are coming up, but I don't know.
• 20:24
  Speaker 1: Yeah, all of this is very unfortunate, but the reality
• 20:27
  Speaker 1: is you are innocent until proven guilty. Sorry, Internet, I
• 20:30
  Speaker 1: know y'all think otherwise, but there's still a thing called
• 20:33
  Speaker 1: due process in this country. And that's whow when I
• 20:35
  Speaker 1: see Hollywood and all these people separating themselves from Jonathan,
• 20:38
  Speaker 1: I'm just reminded that innocent until proven guilty and due
• 20:41
  Speaker 1: process is only applied to certain people.
• 20:44
  Speaker 2: Yeah, and you know, it's it's crazy because when you
• 20:47
  Speaker 2: see something like that, it seems like it's a media
• 20:50
  Speaker 2: attack on him like this, it seems like a planned
• 20:52
  Speaker 2: attack on him, the way that everybody's coordinated.
• 20:54
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean, it's definitely a coordinated media I'm not
• 20:59
  Speaker 1: gonna say attack, but it definitely is a coordinated media
• 21:02
  Speaker 1: blitz blitz. Yes, yeah, all these press releases coming out
• 21:05
  Speaker 1: at the same time, and you know, you see the
• 21:08
  Speaker 1: management in the PR team on one accord with one
• 21:11
  Speaker 1: press release, like yeah, and they're using one outlet I
• 21:14
  Speaker 1: think the outlet they usually users variety. Yeah, so absolutely,
• 21:19
  Speaker 1: but once again, innocent until proven guilty. That's supposed to be.
• 21:23
  Speaker 1: That's what it's supposed to be in this country. Supposed
• 21:25
  Speaker 1: to be doesn't always apply to certain people, and the
• 21:27
  Speaker 1: people that usually applies to aren't black. Yeah, I'll tell
• 21:30
  Speaker 1: you that much. But we'll see.
• 21:31
  Speaker 2: Now, Javonte Davis and Ryan Garcia are fighting this weekend.
• 21:35
  Speaker 2: If it's wait a second, now, yesterday they were on
• 21:39
  Speaker 2: live ig live. They were on Kai I think his
• 21:42
  Speaker 2: name is Kay Sanats Live and they were talking about
• 21:45
  Speaker 2: wagering their perse. So if you don't know what wagering
• 21:47
  Speaker 2: their purses. They're going to make a certain amount on
• 21:49
  Speaker 2: this fight. Now they're talking about betting, not real persons.
• 21:53
  Speaker 1: I know that we live in this era where you know,
• 21:54
  Speaker 1: you might think that two men are absolutely betting their
• 21:57
  Speaker 1: actual persons right right, you know, But then I do
• 21:59
  Speaker 1: carry versus in twenty twenty three, men.
• 22:01
  Speaker 2: Do carry persons. But they're actually talking about betting whatever
• 22:04
  Speaker 2: they would make on that fight.
• 22:07
  Speaker 1: You want to bet, yeah, let's do it, dude, the
• 22:10
  Speaker 1: whole person. That's a bit.
• 22:12
  Speaker 10: Yes, let's bet you hear.
• 22:14
  Speaker 1: Me on the lot.
• 22:14
  Speaker 10: Let's bet so everything for sure.
• 22:16
  Speaker 1: Let's make a contract, let's sign up both of us.
• 22:18
  Speaker 1: Let's do it.
• 22:19
  Speaker 7: Okay, And if you don't really want it, we can't.
• 22:28
  Speaker 1: The young boys thought the goddamn are you sure? I
• 22:31
  Speaker 1: don't speak twice for myself.
• 22:32
  Speaker 5: You know, your boy, anything you're gonna you're gonna win.
• 22:37
  Speaker 1: I am a one. Them young boys thought, they goddamn
• 22:40
  Speaker 1: I yeah, they matter of fact, I'm not evenna bring
• 22:41
  Speaker 1: God into it. Them young boy thought they devil damn.
• 22:43
  Speaker 1: I okay, let me tell you something. You don't train
• 22:46
  Speaker 1: all those weeks, okay, you don't train all those months
• 22:49
  Speaker 1: that go in there and bet your person. I don't
• 22:52
  Speaker 1: care how sure you are, because guess what, if you lose,
• 22:55
  Speaker 1: you definitely deserve the money, and if you win, you
• 22:58
  Speaker 1: definitely deserve your money. Got it out? Anybody ever really
• 23:01
  Speaker 1: done that? Because I hear people say that if you
• 23:03
  Speaker 1: beat me, I bet you my whole person. You know,
• 23:05
  Speaker 1: I bet you my whole person, I'll beat you. Does
• 23:07
  Speaker 1: anybody ever really give up their whole person when that.
• 23:09
  Speaker 2: Happens, I hope not. There's no manager, there is no attorney,
• 23:12
  Speaker 2: there's no agent, There's none, none of them that would
• 23:15
  Speaker 2: advise you to do that.
• 23:16
  Speaker 1: None, not at all, none, none, none, whatsoever. That's good, listen, man,
• 23:20
  Speaker 1: that's that's ass betting all day long. Because I promise you,
• 23:22
  Speaker 1: if I lose, I don't care what I said on Live,
• 23:24
  Speaker 1: you ain't getting this, this hard earned money that I
• 23:26
  Speaker 1: got and I got my ass kicked.
• 23:28
  Speaker 2: For no way, Because we all know any given Sunday,
• 23:30
  Speaker 2: any lucky punch can swing and I don't matter. You
• 23:32
  Speaker 2: could be the nicest, you can knock me out and
• 23:34
  Speaker 2: you take everything.
• 23:36
  Speaker 6: No.
• 23:36
  Speaker 2: I can't wait to watch the fight though. Yeah, I
• 23:38
  Speaker 2: can't wait to watch the fight too. Now. Also, Young
• 23:40
  Speaker 2: Miami confirms that her and Diddy have split.
• 23:45
  Speaker 1: Girl, Tell me more. I'm a fan. Tell me more, girl,
• 23:51
  Speaker 1: hold on, you get to get it together. Tell me more, girl,
• 23:55
  Speaker 1: get it together. Tell me She.
• 23:57
  Speaker 2: Says we are still friends. We are good friends, but
• 24:00
  Speaker 2: she says we are single. That is not my man
• 24:04
  Speaker 2: when she said that. Uh, this was in the Cut.
• 24:07
  Speaker 2: The sources the cut she did a magazine for. She
• 24:09
  Speaker 2: did an interview with a magazine called The Cuts.
• 24:13
  Speaker 1: Was they have an official couple?
• 24:15
  Speaker 2: I don't know they were. Remember she said they go together,
• 24:17
  Speaker 2: but they single.
• 24:18
  Speaker 1: That's what I said. She said they go together. She
• 24:20
  Speaker 1: said we go together real bad. So they don't go
• 24:23
  Speaker 1: together real bad.
• 24:24
  Speaker 5: No more.
• 24:24
  Speaker 2: Nah, they don't go together real bad anymore.
• 24:28
  Speaker 1: You look disappointed about this.
• 24:29
  Speaker 2: One liked them together. I did like them together. Tell
• 24:32
  Speaker 2: me more about I did like them together. I just
• 24:34
  Speaker 2: thought that they complimented each other. I thought, you know,
• 24:36
  Speaker 2: she kept Ditty younger, and you know that's impossible.
• 24:39
  Speaker 1: Don a lie that she did. See that's what you
• 24:41
  Speaker 1: think that Beijing can do for y'all too. You think
• 24:42
  Speaker 1: he keeps you all younger, But don't just look stupid.
• 24:44
  Speaker 2: Did he had a different swag? He had a different bod? Yes,
• 24:46
  Speaker 2: he did he did, absolutely did. Yes, he did look
• 24:49
  Speaker 2: like the old man. He was still shaking a little bit.
• 24:51
  Speaker 2: He was shaking a little better.
• 24:52
  Speaker 7: Yes he did.
• 24:53
  Speaker 1: Yes, he did look more tired to me. If young
• 24:55
  Speaker 1: girls wearing them.
• 24:55
  Speaker 2: Out, did he look did he look a little younger?
• 25:00
  Speaker 2: Young Miami, I.
• 25:02
  Speaker 1: Don't believe none of that. Well, we wish them the best.
• 25:06
  Speaker 1: Is what y'all is? Now, that's a good question.
• 25:09
  Speaker 2: I don't know what they is. But they're not together,
• 25:12
  Speaker 2: and that is your rumor report. While you got the
• 25:14
  Speaker 2: fail like that, and.
• 25:15
  Speaker 1: You were telling that you was feeling that tea about
• 25:17
  Speaker 1: the relationships, girl, I had to get into it.
• 25:19
  Speaker 2: I got some more for you too, because there's a
• 25:20
  Speaker 2: lot going on today. Give me give me where's my fan?
• 25:23
  Speaker 1: We might not need an old woman in hell if
• 25:24
  Speaker 1: you keep giving me this feminine energy fan.
• 25:26
  Speaker 2: Who's my fan? I need a fan. I'm gonna go
• 25:28
  Speaker 2: give me a fling in flame, Morolean. I don't want
• 25:30
  Speaker 2: to show your fan. When we come back, we got
• 25:32
  Speaker 2: front page news, Sessling figure will be joining us, and
• 25:34
  Speaker 2: we're gonna open up the phone lines. It is four
• 25:36
  Speaker 2: twenty so eight hundred and five eight five one oh
• 25:39
  Speaker 2: five one. We want to hear your high stories. We
• 25:41
  Speaker 2: want you to finish this sentence. One time I got
• 25:44
  Speaker 2: so high that I what will take your calls out
• 25:47
  Speaker 2: the front page news. So don't move. It's to breakfast Club,
• 25:49
  Speaker 2: Good morning on.
• 25:50
  Speaker 1: B E T morning.
• 25:52
  Speaker 2: Everybody is cej NV Charlamagne to God. We are the
• 25:56
  Speaker 2: Breakfast Club's four twenty, So I be four twenty to everybody.
• 25:59
  Speaker 2: I was happening now. Four twenty is a day where
• 26:03
  Speaker 2: most people celebrate cannabis, marijuana and people get high. It's
• 26:06
  Speaker 2: usually a time on people that don't usually smoke get
• 26:08
  Speaker 2: a chance to smoke and try it out.
• 26:10
  Speaker 1: But it's a damn shame that marijuana is not decriminalized
• 26:13
  Speaker 1: on a federal level. It's a damn shame that marijuana
• 26:16
  Speaker 1: is not legalized on a federal level. And I don't
• 26:18
  Speaker 1: think there's no greater hypocrisy than these states that have
• 26:22
  Speaker 1: a legalized marijuana for medicinal and recreational youth. But you
• 26:25
  Speaker 1: still have people in prison for marijuana. That's right insane
• 26:29
  Speaker 1: to me.
• 26:30
  Speaker 2: Absolutely, So we are asking today eight hundred five A
• 26:34
  Speaker 2: five one five one shout to everybody out there, everybody,
• 26:36
  Speaker 2: all the stone is out there, and shout to my
• 26:39
  Speaker 2: I got my own strain of marijuana cannabis. It's called slur.
• 26:42
  Speaker 2: You can get it out in Detroit House Mary Jane
• 26:45
  Speaker 2: or any of the dispensaries out in Detroit and Detroit,
• 26:48
  Speaker 2: Michigan should have slurred. If they don't definitely ask for it.
• 26:51
  Speaker 2: But we're asking. One time I got so high that
• 26:54
  Speaker 2: I what that is the question? Eight hundred five A five,
• 26:57
  Speaker 2: one oh five to one. I'll tell you the story.
• 27:00
  Speaker 2: When I was up, I think I was laughing for
• 27:01
  Speaker 2: four or five hours. It took me about twelve hours
• 27:04
  Speaker 2: to get home that day. My wife does not smoke
• 27:07
  Speaker 2: or take edibles. She had a bad trip one time
• 27:09
  Speaker 2: I gave her an edibull and man, she was all
• 27:12
  Speaker 2: over the place. She was one minute she was crying,
• 27:15
  Speaker 2: then she was happy, then she was mad at me,
• 27:18
  Speaker 2: then she was happy. It was the craziest trip. My
• 27:21
  Speaker 2: kids were there, they didn't know what was going on.
• 27:22
  Speaker 2: It was the weirdest thing. So we're asking, what is
• 27:26
  Speaker 2: the craziest thing. What's go with charlomage?
• 27:28
  Speaker 1: Well, you know, I don't like to smoke. I like
• 27:30
  Speaker 1: to do edibles because when I smoke, it hitched me
• 27:31
  Speaker 1: too fast, And you know, I have really bad anxiety
• 27:34
  Speaker 1: and really bad panic attacks. So I like to do
• 27:37
  Speaker 1: edicles indigo. But the last time I did smoke was
• 27:40
  Speaker 1: during COVID, you know what I mean. And I smoked
• 27:44
  Speaker 1: during COVID because I was bored, you know, and you
• 27:47
  Speaker 1: couldn't tell me I wasn't gonna die. You could not
• 27:49
  Speaker 1: tell me that this was not going to be the end.
• 27:51
  Speaker 1: I really thought that I was going to overdose on
• 27:53
  Speaker 1: marijuana because this new weed. I don't know what's in
• 27:56
  Speaker 1: this new weed. So it was winter time and I
• 27:58
  Speaker 1: had on some short pants a hoodie, and I figured,
• 28:01
  Speaker 1: you know what, I need to go ground myself. So
• 28:03
  Speaker 1: I went outside barefoot with just a hoodie and shorts
• 28:07
  Speaker 1: on and the freezing winter in New Jersey, trying to
• 28:09
  Speaker 1: ground myself. And then I went to my favorite tree
• 28:12
  Speaker 1: and I put my back up against my favorite tree
• 28:14
  Speaker 1: and had my head up against my favorite tree, and
• 28:16
  Speaker 1: I just remember, I don't know how long I was
• 28:17
  Speaker 1: out there. I just remember my wife saying, get drink
• 28:19
  Speaker 1: in this house right now. She's literally came doing she said,
• 28:22
  Speaker 1: get prenking in this house right now. And so I
• 28:24
  Speaker 1: went back in the house and I lived. So now
• 28:27
  Speaker 1: that's the last crazy thing I remember doing.
• 28:28
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I remember one time taking it on a plane
• 28:31
  Speaker 2: and I just remember I was sitting first class. I
• 28:33
  Speaker 2: was by myself, and it was a big I'm sorry
• 28:35
  Speaker 2: I got to use this word. It was a big
• 28:37
  Speaker 2: fat family on the planet.
• 28:39
  Speaker 1: Family the clumps. I was certain next to the clumps
• 28:42
  Speaker 1: on the plane.
• 28:42
  Speaker 2: It was they were all big, and it just felt
• 28:45
  Speaker 2: like they would just keep getting bigger and keep getting
• 28:48
  Speaker 2: getting bigger, and I couldn't breathe it. I was by
• 28:50
  Speaker 2: myself and my manager wasn't with me, Junie. I just
• 28:52
  Speaker 2: remember a like, why are you here? And they just
• 28:55
  Speaker 2: kept getting bigger, and then they were taking all the
• 28:57
  Speaker 2: oxygen on the plane.
• 28:58
  Speaker 1: How could six the half.
• 29:00
  Speaker 2: They had like five cs?
• 29:01
  Speaker 1: God damn it would be and there's only two of them.
• 29:06
  Speaker 1: I just remember that if you thought it was a family,
• 29:08
  Speaker 1: but it was really one of hers, one of the
• 29:11
  Speaker 1: big old beast person on the planet. Ify was so
• 29:14
  Speaker 1: high he thought it was a whole family.
• 29:15
  Speaker 11: Man.
• 29:15
  Speaker 2: That messed me up so crazy.
• 29:18
  Speaker 1: Let's go to the phone line that is horrible.
• 29:20
  Speaker 2: Hello, who's this.
• 29:22
  Speaker 6: This is Libby.
• 29:23
  Speaker 2: Good morning, Libby, good morning. We're talking Today's four twenty
• 29:27
  Speaker 2: before twenty mama happy.
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  Speaker 12: Before twenty is the best of the year.
• 29:31
  Speaker 2: I ain't gonna say all that now now.
• 29:33
  Speaker 13: Yeah, oh yeah, definitely, I'm not going I can't believe it.
• 29:37
  Speaker 2: Now we're asking one time I got so high that
• 29:40
  Speaker 2: I would.
• 29:42
  Speaker 8: Man?
• 29:43
  Speaker 14: Last year for twenty, me and my homegirl, we were faded.
• 29:48
  Speaker 12: We had eight edibles.
• 29:49
  Speaker 14: We were smoking going down the highway and I stopped
• 29:52
  Speaker 14: at a green light.
• 29:54
  Speaker 1: Why was you driving high?
• 29:56
  Speaker 10: Man?
• 29:57
  Speaker 14: Was better to drink?
• 29:59
  Speaker 2: Listen?
• 29:59
  Speaker 12: No, no, no, my bad. It's better to smoke and
• 30:02
  Speaker 12: fly than drink and drive.
• 30:04
  Speaker 1: That's right. No, No, I mean I mean smoking flod
• 30:07
  Speaker 1: like if you're in a plane and somebody flying.
• 30:11
  Speaker 13: Man, when I'm high, I drive better, I know, like.
• 30:18
  Speaker 1: Green lights. But you say you drive better exactly.
• 30:20
  Speaker 14: You stopped too, messed up, putting me on a different level.
• 30:25
  Speaker 1: Yes, that's why you shouldn't have been driving, crazy, your
• 30:27
  Speaker 1: crazy tail self.
• 30:28
  Speaker 2: My goodness.
• 30:29
  Speaker 1: Hello, who's this? Hey?
• 30:32
  Speaker 12: This is ahm man sleep.
• 30:34
  Speaker 2: And what's up? Brother? We're talking about one time I
• 30:36
  Speaker 2: got so high that I want man?
• 30:39
  Speaker 1: One time I got so high man. I was riding
• 30:42
  Speaker 1: in the call my wife. She started asking me questions,
• 30:46
  Speaker 1: saying that I was sounding different, like answering me question.
• 30:49
  Speaker 1: I'm like, what do you mean I found different?
• 30:51
  Speaker 13: She's like, yeah, every time you say how you sound different?
• 30:54
  Speaker 15: Make a long story short. She got me so high
• 30:57
  Speaker 15: I was convinced that I was somebody else.
• 30:58
  Speaker 2: I can even tell who I want the man?
• 31:01
  Speaker 12: Are you really?
• 31:01
  Speaker 14: Am I really somebody else?
• 31:03
  Speaker 13: I'm thinking paranoid, like mug, I'm riding in.
• 31:05
  Speaker 14: The color like my alco ego just came out.
• 31:08
  Speaker 1: Damn it. That's the beauty of weed.
• 31:10
  Speaker 8: Though.
• 31:10
  Speaker 1: You should turn into somebody else, start freestyling, start rapping.
• 31:14
  Speaker 1: That happened to me one time. I did. I think
• 31:15
  Speaker 1: about it all the Columbia, South Carolina, and I got
• 31:17
  Speaker 1: so high. I used to have a grade Silver hundred six,
• 31:21
  Speaker 1: and I was high, and I was driving and I
• 31:22
  Speaker 1: shouldn't have been, like twenty years ago, and I thought
• 31:27
  Speaker 1: I was speeding. And I looked to the passenger seat,
• 31:31
  Speaker 1: and I saw myself in the passenger seat, and myself
• 31:34
  Speaker 1: looked at me and said slow down. So then I
• 31:38
  Speaker 1: started driving slow. And then I realized I'm doing like
• 31:42
  Speaker 1: thirty on the highway what I'm saying. And then I
• 31:46
  Speaker 1: got paranoid cause I'm like, I'm driving so slow to
• 31:48
  Speaker 1: police gonna stop me. So then I start speeding up.
• 31:51
  Speaker 1: So I just started playing a game with myself the
• 31:53
  Speaker 1: whole time while I'm speeding up, slowing down, speeding up,
• 31:55
  Speaker 1: slowing down. But I made it home.
• 31:57
  Speaker 2: Jesus Christ, eight hundred and five abby four twenty. We're
• 32:02
  Speaker 2: asking one time I got so high that I what
• 32:06
  Speaker 2: call us up right now? It's the Breakfast Club, Good morning,
• 32:09
  Speaker 2: good morning. Everybody's dj n G charlomade gud. We are
• 32:13
  Speaker 2: to Breakfast Club Avenue four twenty. That was a four
• 32:17
  Speaker 2: twenty mini mix, by the way, So we're asking eight
• 32:20
  Speaker 2: hundred five eighty five one five one. One time I
• 32:22
  Speaker 2: got so high that I what We're going to the
• 32:25
  Speaker 2: phone line today? Hello, who's this? Hey, Tatiana? Good morning,
• 32:31
  Speaker 2: Good Mary. We're a One time I got so high
• 32:37
  Speaker 2: that I.
• 32:37
  Speaker 14: What I had drove to the chicken turn out right?
• 32:43
  Speaker 14: I was racking head.
• 32:46
  Speaker 2: Wait, we drove to a chicken joint and then you
• 32:48
  Speaker 2: walked home? Yes, but you forgot you drove I did,
• 32:55
  Speaker 2: Jesus Christ, that's high I got head.
• 33:01
  Speaker 1: You must not have lived too far from the place.
• 33:07
  Speaker 1: Lord have mercy. Well, God bless you. I'm glad. I'm glad.
• 33:11
  Speaker 1: You made it out alive. That sounds crazy.
• 33:13
  Speaker 5: Hello, who's this?
• 33:16
  Speaker 8: This is trying?
• 33:17
  Speaker 2: Hey, take us off, Carolina.
• 33:19
  Speaker 1: Hey eight four three, what's happening? Take us off?
• 33:22
  Speaker 2: Bluetooth of speaking? You got us on that, Mama.
• 33:26
  Speaker 12: You can't hear me?
• 33:27
  Speaker 2: Now we can. We're talking about one time I got
• 33:29
  Speaker 2: so high that I what.
• 33:32
  Speaker 12: So one time I got so high that my son
• 33:35
  Speaker 12: came downstairs and asked for a bowl of leading and
• 33:39
  Speaker 12: I made it, set it back upstairs, and I made it,
• 33:42
  Speaker 12: and then I sat down, not realizing that I made
• 33:46
  Speaker 12: the news for him, and I sat there and ate
• 33:48
  Speaker 12: the whole thing with my cup of kool Aids. And
• 33:52
  Speaker 12: then eventually he came.
• 33:53
  Speaker 13: Downstairs, asking like, well, my what's I newle that? And
• 33:55
  Speaker 13: I was looking them sounded like, oh, just give me
• 33:59
  Speaker 13: a minute hour make it for.
• 34:00
  Speaker 12: What I went.
• 34:01
  Speaker 13: I made the last pack of noodle, so I just
• 34:05
  Speaker 13: ended up giving him McDonald's.
• 34:06
  Speaker 15: Anyway.
• 34:07
  Speaker 2: So wait a minute, So your son asked you to
• 34:09
  Speaker 2: make noodles. You was so high that you made noodles
• 34:11
  Speaker 2: for him, and then you ate his noodles and then
• 34:13
  Speaker 2: you had to go get a McDonald's.
• 34:15
  Speaker 14: I did.
• 34:16
  Speaker 1: I did, first of all. First of all, First of all,
• 34:18
  Speaker 1: I don't see nothing wrong with what you did. Because
• 34:20
  Speaker 1: when you hide them children snacks be hitting. Okay, when
• 34:24
  Speaker 1: you when you hide the things you make for your
• 34:26
  Speaker 1: kids be hitting. Then you turned around. It was a
• 34:28
  Speaker 1: great mom and got him McDonald's. And I know you
• 34:31
  Speaker 1: got you a little something for yourself from Mickey D's too.
• 34:34
  Speaker 2: I did what you got apple pie.
• 34:36
  Speaker 1: I loved him High Meals, which McDonald.
• 34:39
  Speaker 13: I did get an apple apple pie best, but I
• 34:42
  Speaker 13: just got apple pie French fries.
• 34:45
  Speaker 2: That's all that. That is the high meal. People, apple pie,
• 34:49
  Speaker 2: some French fried.
• 34:49
  Speaker 1: And people will go to McDonald's high and order a
• 34:51
  Speaker 1: quarter pounded with chieze and an apple pie and put
• 34:53
  Speaker 1: the apple pie on the quarter pounds. That's a sweety
• 34:55
  Speaker 1: meal in it.
• 34:56
  Speaker 2: I think that might be a sweety meal.
• 34:58
  Speaker 1: Carol, Good morning, Good morning.
• 35:01
  Speaker 2: How you feeling this morning?
• 35:03
  Speaker 14: Tired?
• 35:04
  Speaker 2: But I'm here happy for twenty So tell us to
• 35:06
  Speaker 2: the one time I got so high that I.
• 35:10
  Speaker 14: So one time I got so high that I came
• 35:14
  Speaker 14: home and my dog was with me, and I was
• 35:17
  Speaker 14: watching a TV show with another dog in the show,
• 35:21
  Speaker 14: and the dog in the show was barking, and I
• 35:24
  Speaker 14: felt like the dog was talking about me, and I
• 35:27
  Speaker 14: thought my dog was sitting on the floor, not defended
• 35:30
  Speaker 14: me to this dog.
• 35:32
  Speaker 1: I love it.
• 35:32
  Speaker 14: So I locked my dog up and put him in
• 35:34
  Speaker 14: the cage and I went upstairs with the sleep. And
• 35:36
  Speaker 14: the next day I felt so bad.
• 35:38
  Speaker 1: No, I'm with you, so you punished your dog for
• 35:41
  Speaker 1: no reason.
• 35:42
  Speaker 7: The dogs on the TV was talking about me.
• 35:44
  Speaker 13: He definitely was talking about me.
• 35:45
  Speaker 1: First of all, if that dog on the TV was
• 35:47
  Speaker 1: balking that your your the dog in your house should
• 35:49
  Speaker 1: have been balking too.
• 35:50
  Speaker 7: Just in case, okay, oh my god, in case.
• 35:53
  Speaker 5: I said, I'm with you dog that the night in
• 35:58
  Speaker 5: the cave.
• 35:58
  Speaker 1: See nothing wrong with what you did. You did a little.
• 36:00
  Speaker 1: You just did a little overnight staying a little bit and.
• 36:03
  Speaker 2: A little bit.
• 36:04
  Speaker 1: Hello, who's this?
• 36:06
  Speaker 2: My name is hey, Jane's good morning? Where you call
• 36:09
  Speaker 2: them from from?
• 36:12
  Speaker 1: Oh?
• 36:12
  Speaker 2: You don't want to say, all right, well, what's the
• 36:14
  Speaker 2: one time I got so high that I what?
• 36:18
  Speaker 11: Oh?
• 36:19
  Speaker 14: Well, what's up?
• 36:20
  Speaker 15: Me and a friend of mine we took an edible
• 36:23
  Speaker 15: at work. And I can say this now that I
• 36:25
  Speaker 15: don't work with a job in AVIAG work a few years,
• 36:27
  Speaker 15: but I was totally doing interviews for people's and whatnot.
• 36:31
  Speaker 15: And I was at my desk. Then why don't people
• 36:34
  Speaker 15: sitting in the front.
• 36:35
  Speaker 1: Lobby so them people ain't get their food stands because
• 36:38
  Speaker 1: your ass was hot, you fell asleep.
• 36:41
  Speaker 15: Somebody's coming with me up. But I got the job done.
• 36:44
  Speaker 15: But yeah, I was, I was in the clouds.
• 36:48
  Speaker 1: What if I told you that we used to be
• 36:49
  Speaker 1: high as hell up here at the breakfast club all
• 36:51
  Speaker 1: the time, back in the time. I'm sure you believe it.
• 36:57
  Speaker 2: Was a bad time.
• 36:58
  Speaker 1: We used to be on them edibles and head trip
• 37:00
  Speaker 1: and you hear me, definitely. I mean tripping, tripping, tripping,
• 37:08
  Speaker 1: saying anything to make each other laugh and dying laughing
• 37:12
  Speaker 1: like it was the funniest thing in the world for
• 37:14
  Speaker 1: no reason. It was all funny games till I passed
• 37:17
  Speaker 1: out in this goddamn studio one day, Not this studio,
• 37:20
  Speaker 1: the old studio, till I passed out in this studio
• 37:22
  Speaker 1: one day and had to be rushed at the hospital
• 37:23
  Speaker 1: for dehydration. I bet y'all ain't know that. I thought
• 37:26
  Speaker 1: y'all didn't know that. Maybe I told you I don't
• 37:28
  Speaker 1: remember that.
• 37:28
  Speaker 2: Yeah, you took like two days off I had to,
• 37:30
  Speaker 2: and then you ain't want to play no more.
• 37:32
  Speaker 1: I don' won't play no more. Was ling. We was
• 37:35
  Speaker 1: in and out of the clubs late at night, getting high,
• 37:38
  Speaker 1: doing edibles, right before we came on air, bringing the
• 37:42
  Speaker 1: club with us in hit drinking, having a ball. But
• 37:48
  Speaker 1: that's all AI. Any of that old stuff y'all heard
• 37:50
  Speaker 1: from back then, that's AI.
• 37:51
  Speaker 2: It ain't even that was a That wasn't really us.
• 37:53
  Speaker 1: That was the other mean even though all right, Well,
• 37:56
  Speaker 1: I also would like to say, please keep in mind
• 37:58
  Speaker 1: that it is ridiculous, absolutely ridiculous that there's so many people,
• 38:02
  Speaker 1: so many states in this country that has legalized weed
• 38:05
  Speaker 1: in some way, shape or form, whether it's from addictional
• 38:08
  Speaker 1: or recreational, and there's still people locked up for marijuana
• 38:11
  Speaker 1: in America. That is absolutely positively ridiculous. And I know
• 38:14
  Speaker 1: Joe Biden did a mass pardon of everybody who's in
• 38:18
  Speaker 1: jail for simple marijuana possession, but the reality is there
• 38:21
  Speaker 1: is nobody in jail on a federal level for simple
• 38:26
  Speaker 1: marijuana possession. So if Joe Biden wanted to, he could
• 38:29
  Speaker 1: literally pardon every single person that is federally jailed for
• 38:32
  Speaker 1: a non violent weed offense. He could pardon every single
• 38:36
  Speaker 1: body if he wanted to, you know, and that's what
• 38:39
  Speaker 1: he should do, because, like I said, it's ridiculous for
• 38:41
  Speaker 1: people to still be in jail for marijuana in a
• 38:43
  Speaker 1: country that is legalized marijuana recreationally and additionally in so
• 38:47
  Speaker 1: many different states. All Right, they're so silly. Look at
• 38:50
  Speaker 1: me right now. I'm sitting here with a pre road
• 38:52
  Speaker 1: joint in my hand from Envy's pre road line. But
• 38:56
  Speaker 1: there's people in this state locked up for marijuana.
• 38:58
  Speaker 2: That's right.
• 38:59
  Speaker 1: That don't make no damren no.
• 39:00
  Speaker 2: Sense at though. All right, Well, happy for twenty Now,
• 39:03
  Speaker 2: when we come back, we got your room of report.
• 39:05
  Speaker 2: We got to tell you why they keep taking down
• 39:07
  Speaker 2: Ice Spices of pictures and videos. It's kind of crazy.
• 39:10
  Speaker 2: We'll tell you why when we come back. It's the
• 39:12
  Speaker 2: breakfast club on morning.
• 39:16
  Speaker 1: Or you've gossip beating. This is the rumor report.
• 39:20
  Speaker 9: I mean, I guess were on the breakfast club.
• 39:21
  Speaker 2: This is where the tea.
• 39:22
  Speaker 5: Spells right on the breakfast Club.
• 39:25
  Speaker 2: Now Ice Spices post the last couple of days have
• 39:28
  Speaker 2: been getting removed Charlamagne. You know why. Nope, because she
• 39:33
  Speaker 2: put a caption that said ao isis So I guess
• 39:36
  Speaker 2: Instagram take took it down because they thought that she
• 39:39
  Speaker 2: was talking about I guess iis what is she talking
• 39:42
  Speaker 2: about herself? That's her name, that's her real name. Her
• 39:44
  Speaker 2: full name is isis Nija Gaston. But I guess they thought
• 39:49
  Speaker 2: ices was referring to the group that are terrorists.
• 39:52
  Speaker 1: I think they did that to me before when I
• 39:54
  Speaker 1: when I be calling no, I call those white domestic
• 39:57
  Speaker 1: terrorists that likes storm the capitol and stuff, I call
• 39:59
  Speaker 1: them vanilla. I I feel like they took one of
• 40:01
  Speaker 1: my polls to get down. I don't know. I feel
• 40:03
  Speaker 1: like they have taken a poll down. I guess it
• 40:05
  Speaker 1: was for the same reasons.
• 40:06
  Speaker 2: Yeah, they said it violates Instagram's community guidelines on violence
• 40:10
  Speaker 2: or dangerous organizations. But that's her name.
• 40:12
  Speaker 1: It is her name. But better safe than sorry because
• 40:14
  Speaker 1: ao icis sound crazy. Eo isis like sound like you're
• 40:17
  Speaker 1: calling the troops.
• 40:18
  Speaker 2: But yeah, but that's her name.
• 40:20
  Speaker 1: I get it. Yeah, but they don't know that.
• 40:22
  Speaker 2: Now Serena Williams is shopping her memoir and they're saying
• 40:25
  Speaker 2: that they could catch up to ten million dollars money.
• 40:28
  Speaker 2: Now this is just months after retiring from professional tennis.
• 40:31
  Speaker 2: The twenty three times Grand Slam singles champion. Serena Williams
• 40:35
  Speaker 2: is shopping it around, so she's expected to get ten
• 40:39
  Speaker 2: million or.
• 40:39
  Speaker 1: More easy money, and she deserves it all. You have
• 40:42
  Speaker 1: a book in print. I don't have no ten million dollars.
• 40:45
  Speaker 1: I don't have no ten million dollar budget from no
• 40:47
  Speaker 1: both you get it back though. I got good budgets,
• 40:49
  Speaker 1: but not no ten million.
• 40:50
  Speaker 2: No, no, not ten million.
• 40:52
  Speaker 1: I mean, but it's not too many people can fetch
• 40:54
  Speaker 1: ten million dollars anyway. Now, Serena Williams is you know,
• 40:56
  Speaker 1: once in a generational talent, right, you know what I mean.
• 41:00
  Speaker 1: It's one of the greatest athletes of all time period.
• 41:03
  Speaker 1: You know, some say top five greatest athlete of all time.
• 41:05
  Speaker 1: I don't see why you wouldn't put her in that category. So, yes,
• 41:08
  Speaker 1: that sounds about rights of all time. Yeah, ten million
• 41:10
  Speaker 1: dollars for a book that's not about right.
• 41:11
  Speaker 2: Just side note, if you had to put three athletes
• 41:13
  Speaker 2: greatest of all times, what three would you put up there?
• 41:17
  Speaker 1: Greatest athletes of all time? Ooh, Michael Jordan, definitely Jordan.
• 41:24
  Speaker 1: I would do Serena. I would Michael Jordan. I'm not
• 41:27
  Speaker 1: mad at Serena. I have to think about that. I
• 41:29
  Speaker 1: don't know who would be who I consider great, because
• 41:30
  Speaker 1: you know, you'd have to put like track and field
• 41:31
  Speaker 1: people in there. I would have to put bicyclists because
• 41:34
  Speaker 1: you know, athletics to me mean you know, stamina and conditioning, like.
• 41:38
  Speaker 2: I would do Floyd Box.
• 41:41
  Speaker 1: I don't know if I put Floyd up there, I'll.
• 41:43
  Speaker 2: Do Floyd, I would do Michael Jordan, and I would
• 41:45
  Speaker 2: do Serena Williams.
• 41:46
  Speaker 1: The three greatest athletes of all time, and I disagree with
• 41:48
  Speaker 1: that list.
• 41:49
  Speaker 2: I put Tom Brady in there.
• 41:51
  Speaker 1: I definitely would put parody in there. But some people
• 41:54
  Speaker 1: even talk about that they feel like Brady's not the
• 41:55
  Speaker 1: most athletic person, which I think is ridiculous. But I
• 41:58
  Speaker 1: don't know. I have to think about that one. That's
• 42:00
  Speaker 1: a lot of sports because you have to put football
• 42:02
  Speaker 1: players in their football soccer, that's football whatever. You know,
• 42:06
  Speaker 1: what the hell I was trying to say, The athlete
• 42:08
  Speaker 1: means something different, like it's not about who was the
• 42:11
  Speaker 1: best in their field. It's like, I don't know what
• 42:13
  Speaker 1: the hell athlete mean. I just know that I wouldn't
• 42:15
  Speaker 1: put Floyd in that great athlete though I don't know
• 42:19
  Speaker 1: if he's top three all the time. But great athlete.
• 42:21
  Speaker 2: All right, now, George Santos. You know who George Santos is, right,
• 42:25
  Speaker 2: the elected official, Yeah, the elected official. He is trying
• 42:29
  Speaker 2: to do a bill called the Nicki Minaj Act or
• 42:32
  Speaker 2: Minaj Act. Now, the Minaj Act comes after a Nicki
• 42:35
  Speaker 2: Minaj was talking about the vaccine during the pandemic. Now
• 42:39
  Speaker 2: she posted this. She said, my cousin in Trinidad won't
• 42:41
  Speaker 2: get the vaccine because his friend got it and became impotent.
• 42:44
  Speaker 2: His testicles became swollen. His friend was weeks away from
• 42:47
  Speaker 2: getting married. Now the girl called up the wedding. So
• 42:49
  Speaker 2: just pray on it and make sure you're comfortable with
• 42:51
  Speaker 2: your decision, not bullied.
• 42:53
  Speaker 1: They ever find that swollen that man.
• 42:55
  Speaker 2: I don't know, so, Santos said, the purpose of the
• 42:58
  Speaker 2: Minaj Act is to us ablish a developmental period of
• 43:01
  Speaker 2: new vaccines in order to generate public confidence.
• 43:05
  Speaker 1: I don't know what the hell you're talking about.
• 43:07
  Speaker 2: I just told you he was creating an act called
• 43:08
  Speaker 2: the Menajac, And he tells you what the Menajack is
• 43:10
  Speaker 2: supposed to do. But it's based off of Nicki Minajs posts.
• 43:13
  Speaker 1: Let's go back to the Greatest Athletes's conversations greatest athletes
• 43:16
  Speaker 1: of all times, Michael Jordan, Dion Sanders, Dion definitely, Sanders
• 43:23
  Speaker 1: was all world in football and basketball. I gotta put
• 43:26
  Speaker 1: Bo Jackson in there too, you know what I'm saying.
• 43:29
  Speaker 1: Deon Sanders, Bo Jackson, Michael Jordan, Muhammad Ali.
• 43:33
  Speaker 2: Some people will go Muhammad Ali. Some people will say
• 43:35
  Speaker 2: author Ash for tennis. Some people would say Babe Ru
• 43:38
  Speaker 2: from baseball. Some people say Tiger Woods golf. I don't
• 43:43
  Speaker 2: consider golfers athletes, golfice athletes. Don't do that.
• 43:46
  Speaker 1: Christianna Ronaldo.
• 43:48
  Speaker 2: Some people say Christiano Ronaldo. What's the other one that
• 43:50
  Speaker 2: must up MESSI messy? Some people say, I mean for
• 43:53
  Speaker 2: me definitely.
• 43:53
  Speaker 1: When I think about it, Mike, I don't know why
• 43:55
  Speaker 1: Deon Sanders and Bo Jackson of the two that stick
• 43:57
  Speaker 1: got the most of me, just because they played two
• 44:00
  Speaker 1: sports at high, high levels. Deon Sanders might be the
• 44:03
  Speaker 1: greatest athlete of all time. Deon Sanders might be the
• 44:07
  Speaker 1: greatest athlete of all time because I know a lot
• 44:09
  Speaker 1: of times, yes, a lot of times, when we have
• 44:11
  Speaker 1: these conversations, Michael Jordan is a great athlete, of course,
• 44:14
  Speaker 1: but we think about the championships and everything else, even
• 44:16
  Speaker 1: though Deon won championships two in football. But just we're
• 44:19
  Speaker 1: talking athletic athletic ability. Deon Sanders might be the greatest
• 44:23
  Speaker 1: athlete of all time. He played football in baseball at
• 44:25
  Speaker 1: a supremely high level, sometimes at the same time. Yeah, Jack,
• 44:29
  Speaker 1: I couldn't be making this up, But I feel like
• 44:31
  Speaker 1: Deon used to play a football game in the day
• 44:33
  Speaker 1: in a baseball game at night. Sometimes I feel like
• 44:36
  Speaker 1: I remember this. Deon Sanders is the greatest athlete of
• 44:38
  Speaker 1: all time.
• 44:38
  Speaker 8: Y'all.
• 44:40
  Speaker 1: Deon Sanders is the greatest athlete of all time. Oh,
• 44:45
  Speaker 1: I can't even say all time. I've only been a
• 44:46
  Speaker 1: live forty four years, so this is a in my lifetime.
• 44:49
  Speaker 1: Deon Sanders is the greatest athlete I've ever seen. Yes,
• 44:52
  Speaker 1: I was born in nineteen hundred and seventy eight. Michael
• 44:54
  Speaker 1: played basketball in baseball. He didn't play my basketball and
• 44:57
  Speaker 1: baseball at the same time, and he didn't play professional baseball.
• 45:00
  Speaker 2: He played for the White Sox.
• 45:01
  Speaker 1: Man shut up play for the Barons.
• 45:03
  Speaker 2: White Birmingham Baron. He played for the Chicago White Sox.
• 45:07
  Speaker 2: Google it. I got the jersey. Google it, Google it
• 45:13
  Speaker 2: and take that should look stupid.
• 45:15
  Speaker 1: With that in your mouth like that, you sounds stupid.
• 45:16
  Speaker 1: I'm not arguing with you about this. Michael Jordan did
• 45:18
  Speaker 1: not played for the Chicago White Sox. He played for
• 45:20
  Speaker 1: the Birmingham Barons. Okay, I knew this before I saw
• 45:23
  Speaker 1: the last dance. The Barons jerseys looked like Chicago White
• 45:26
  Speaker 1: Sox Jersey Cargo White. Bet you, but bet you? But
• 45:32
  Speaker 1: bet you? But no, bet you butt cheeks.
• 45:36
  Speaker 2: No, Michael Jordan. Jordan's decision. This is ed. Jordan did
• 45:41
  Speaker 2: his time on the ground in a stint with the
• 45:42
  Speaker 2: White Sox as a light hitting rookie in Double A ball,
• 45:47
  Speaker 2: so he played for the White Sox just white.
• 45:49
  Speaker 1: He played for the Birmingham Barons.
• 45:52
  Speaker 2: He played Double A White Sox. He played for the
• 45:54
  Speaker 2: White Sox. Oh you should have bet you, but it
• 45:56
  Speaker 2: was the Double A Birmingham Barons.
• 45:58
  Speaker 1: Man. Shut up, many, I'm not talking to y'all no more.
• 46:03
  Speaker 2: He played one season with the Double A Bird. He
• 46:05
  Speaker 2: played one hundred and twenty seven games. He just hit
• 46:07
  Speaker 2: two O two You right, I'm I'm glad I ain't
• 46:09
  Speaker 2: bet my butt, all right? And that is your rumor
• 46:12
  Speaker 2: report now, Charlamann, who are giving that down?
• 46:15
  Speaker 1: Talk you. You know, that's why therapy works so well,
• 46:17
  Speaker 1: because i't even gotta argue. I knew I was right.
• 46:20
  Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying. You almost have my blood
• 46:21
  Speaker 1: pressure off for two seconds, but it ain't work. It's
• 46:25
  Speaker 1: over here, minded my goddamn business. Okay, For after the hour,
• 46:28
  Speaker 1: you know who Donkey of to Day is going to.
• 46:30
  Speaker 1: The Donkey of the Day is going to an unidentified
• 46:32
  Speaker 1: man who really pissed me off when I read this
• 46:34
  Speaker 1: story because he was on the Southwest flight dough Orlando
• 46:37
  Speaker 1: and he was bothering people that he don't need to
• 46:39
  Speaker 1: be bothering. Okay, and we'll talk about it for after
• 46:41
  Speaker 1: the hour.
• 46:42
  Speaker 2: And Jordan did sign a contract with the White Sox.
• 46:45
  Speaker 2: It was just the Double A team.
• 46:46
  Speaker 1: I don't remember anything about that. I just remember the
• 46:48
  Speaker 1: Mermanham Barons. You should have bet, you should have bet
• 46:50
  Speaker 1: some butt. Then I'm good, Okay.
• 46:52
  Speaker 2: I'm right, all right, Rumor report donk of to Day
• 46:55
  Speaker 2: when we come back.
• 46:56
  Speaker 1: It's the Breakfast clubgal.
• 46:57
  Speaker 5: Boying, wake that ass up in the morning.
• 47:00
  Speaker 1: Breakfast Club, the breakfast club. Bitch.
• 47:04
  Speaker 5: You don't here to day with Charlam Hayne a guy.
• 47:06
  Speaker 16: I don't know why y'all keep it, letting him get
• 47:08
  Speaker 16: y'all like.
• 47:08
  Speaker 1: This don't here today for Thursday, April twenty or four
• 47:11
  Speaker 1: twenty goes to an unnamed Orlando man. Okay, but if
• 47:14
  Speaker 1: y'all know his name, please let me know because I
• 47:16
  Speaker 1: can update this story later. Because this story pissed me off.
• 47:20
  Speaker 1: Why because I got four daughters, okay, ages fourteen, seven, four,
• 47:24
  Speaker 1: and about eighteen months. So even my children. Okay, so
• 47:28
  Speaker 1: even though my children are pretty good on flights, all right,
• 47:30
  Speaker 1: there's times well, of course they have cried on planes.
• 47:33
  Speaker 1: I'm sure your kids have cried on a plane before
• 47:35
  Speaker 1: and were absolutely Why because that's what babies do. They
• 47:38
  Speaker 1: can't communicate, they don't know how to use their words
• 47:40
  Speaker 1: because they don't know how to talk yet, so they cry.
• 47:42
  Speaker 1: They'll let you know they want something. Was its food? Sleep? Hell,
• 47:45
  Speaker 1: maybe on a plane their little ears are popping and
• 47:49
  Speaker 1: they don't know what else to do because they don't
• 47:51
  Speaker 1: know what they are experiencing. Okay, but I was reading
• 47:53
  Speaker 1: the New York Post today and I saw the headline
• 47:56
  Speaker 1: man on Orlando flight throws a fit over iron baby
• 48:01
  Speaker 1: f that that's literally the headline. It's got the f
• 48:03
  Speaker 1: that in there and everything. See, this man was on
• 48:05
  Speaker 1: a Southwest Airlines flight, aka his first mistake. Oh that's
• 48:08
  Speaker 1: where it was, right there. Southwest Airlines ain't nothing but
• 48:11
  Speaker 1: a Greyhound bus in the sky. Matter of fact, I'm
• 48:13
  Speaker 1: not even gonna do Greyhound like that. Okay. Southwest Airlines
• 48:15
  Speaker 1: ain't nothing but a Peter Pan Bus Matar bus in
• 48:17
  Speaker 1: the sky. Okay. And ghetto is as ghetto does. And
• 48:20
  Speaker 1: if you ain't never been to the ghetto, don't ever
• 48:23
  Speaker 1: come to the ghettocause you wouldn't understand the ghetto. So
• 48:24
  Speaker 1: stay the f out of the ghetto. Now replace ghetto
• 48:26
  Speaker 1: with Southwest and it's the same damn thing. Okay. And
• 48:29
  Speaker 1: this video that went viral is proof of that, because
• 48:31
  Speaker 1: this unidentified man on this Southwest flight the Orlando is
• 48:35
  Speaker 1: upset that a baby is crying on the plane. Listen
• 48:38
  Speaker 1: to this fool.
• 48:50
  Speaker 2: Wasn't on this.
• 48:55
  Speaker 5: Stop That's what.
• 49:02
  Speaker 10: Can you show work that listens not no, no, no,
• 49:10
  Speaker 10: let's be you want to be no, no, no, no,
• 49:15
  Speaker 10: no no, I'm telling you we are. We are in
• 49:20
  Speaker 10: a tim king with a baby and a goddamn echo chamber,
• 49:26
  Speaker 10: and you want to talk to me about being.
• 49:28
  Speaker 16: Kidd Okay, because you're yelling.
• 49:31
  Speaker 7: So the baby did that?
• 49:34
  Speaker 1: Mother? First of all, First of all, yelling baby, let's
• 49:41
  Speaker 1: not even get to that part here. First of all,
• 49:42
  Speaker 1: I know you ain't complaining about not being served nothing
• 49:44
  Speaker 1: on the Southwest flight. I know you're not complaining about
• 49:49
  Speaker 1: not being served nothing on the Southwest flight. Second of all,
• 49:52
  Speaker 1: you can't be upset that the baby is throwing a
• 49:54
  Speaker 1: fit and then throw a fit like a baby. Okay,
• 49:56
  Speaker 1: the actual baby is just doing what actual babies. That
• 50:00
  Speaker 1: baby had a reason to be crying and throwing a fit.
• 50:02
  Speaker 1: The reason is because it's a baby. But what's your problem, sir?
• 50:06
  Speaker 1: The flight attendant told you you are a man, and
• 50:09
  Speaker 1: you are indeed a man, unless, of course, you identify
• 50:11
  Speaker 1: as a baby, which could possibly be the case because
• 50:12
  Speaker 1: it is twenty twenty three. But for you to be
• 50:15
  Speaker 1: upset that a baby is crying on a plane, I'm
• 50:17
  Speaker 1: really starting to wonder what's up with your empathy. Okay, yes,
• 50:20
  Speaker 1: a baby is crying on a plane. That's normal. Okay,
• 50:23
  Speaker 1: but mind your business. A baby just can't stop crying
• 50:25
  Speaker 1: on demand, and a parent can't make a baby stop
• 50:28
  Speaker 1: crying on demand. Okay, you got to figure out what's
• 50:30
  Speaker 1: wrong with the baby, and then you handle it. That's
• 50:32
  Speaker 1: the way it works. And then you got the nerve
• 50:34
  Speaker 1: to say that that baby pay extra to cry, probably
• 50:38
  Speaker 1: because it's Southwest, all right. But that is also why
• 50:41
  Speaker 1: you really one hundred percent grade a sucker in my book,
• 50:44
  Speaker 1: because you would not try any other baby like that, Okay,
• 50:48
  Speaker 1: not little baby, not side a baby, especially not dub baby.
• 50:52
  Speaker 1: The baby would smack fire out you and birdman baby,
• 50:55
  Speaker 1: the number one's donner. You would put all respect on
• 50:57
  Speaker 1: his names, So stop playing. Main reason I don't like
• 51:01
  Speaker 1: this story, the main reason you get in the biggest
• 51:03
  Speaker 1: he hall, is because it feels like it's a man
• 51:07
  Speaker 1: picking on a woman flying by herself, because if that
• 51:10
  Speaker 1: woman was with her husband, or it was a husband
• 51:13
  Speaker 1: traveling along with one of his babies, which I've done,
• 51:16
  Speaker 1: you wouldn't play with that man like that. And you
• 51:18
  Speaker 1: damn show wouldn't play with that woman if she was
• 51:20
  Speaker 1: with her man. This is how a convo would have
• 51:22
  Speaker 1: went on Southwest, if she was with her baby father.
• 51:29
  Speaker 10: In a ten king a baby and a goddamn echo chamber.
• 51:34
  Speaker 10: And you want to talk to me about being y'all
• 51:38
  Speaker 10: gonna die in the hood you lived your whole life broke.
• 51:41
  Speaker 1: You ain't suck y'all.
• 51:46
  Speaker 2: They gonna never make it out the hood.
• 51:47
  Speaker 5: That's right.
• 51:48
  Speaker 2: He's gonna die broke.
• 51:49
  Speaker 1: That's right. That's right, Big soldier boy s M D energy,
• 51:53
  Speaker 1: suck my d from the.
• 51:54
  Speaker 5: Back like a path of fire.
• 51:55
  Speaker 1: Who the baby?
• 51:56
  Speaker 3: Now?
• 51:57
  Speaker 1: Okay, I have you crying uncontrollably. You'll be bad. Give
• 52:00
  Speaker 1: me to burp you all right, do a whole rector
• 52:02
  Speaker 1: temple your check on you tomorrow of the story is
• 52:05
  Speaker 1: leave mothers and their babies alone. Okay, trust me. The
• 52:08
  Speaker 1: only thing you should be doing when you see mothers
• 52:10
  Speaker 1: attempting to mother in public is mind your business. Please
• 52:14
  Speaker 1: give this unidentified man that was on this Southwest Airlines
• 52:17
  Speaker 1: flight door Orlando really being a baby the biggest he
• 52:20
  Speaker 1: hull that director temperature check got you excited?
• 52:29
  Speaker 2: I mean, don't excite somebody with a good time you. No, No,
• 52:32
  Speaker 2: he might like it, but anyway, he won't play game.
• 52:34
  Speaker 1: No, I don't want to play.
• 52:34
  Speaker 2: He won't play. Why you don't play games?
• 52:36
  Speaker 1: Because the credits is rolling on BT right now, The
• 52:38
  Speaker 1: credits rolling on BT, the credits rolling right now.
• 52:40
  Speaker 2: You don't play game.
• 52:42
  Speaker 1: I don' won't play a game.
• 52:44
  Speaker 2: What do you think is?
• 52:45
  Speaker 1: What do I think he is?
• 52:46
  Speaker 11: Well?
• 52:46
  Speaker 1: I saw the video, so I know what. He is.
• 52:49
  Speaker 1: A nigga baby, you know what?
• 52:51
  Speaker 5: Wake that ass up in the morning.
• 52:54
  Speaker 1: Breakfast Club Morning.
• 52:56
  Speaker 2: Everybody is Steve j Envy Charlamagne the guy. We are
• 53:00
  Speaker 2: Breakfast Club. We got a special guest in the building.
• 53:02
  Speaker 2: That's right and all thought. He has a new book
• 53:04
  Speaker 2: out right now, Monsters in Love Resma Mennequin welcome.
• 53:08
  Speaker 1: Brother.
• 53:08
  Speaker 16: Hey man, it's good anytime I get a chance to
• 53:11
  Speaker 16: spend some time, which all is always good for me.
• 53:13
  Speaker 2: Man, No, thank you. I missed you last time I
• 53:15
  Speaker 2: was traveling. But you're hear now. How are you doing?
• 53:16
  Speaker 2: How are you feeling?
• 53:17
  Speaker 1: Brother?
• 53:17
  Speaker 16: I'm doing good, Brother, I'm doing really well. You know.
• 53:20
  Speaker 16: The book's doing well. All of my books are doing
• 53:21
  Speaker 16: really well. I am. My family's good, My wife's good,
• 53:26
  Speaker 16: my kids are good. You know, I can't complain.
• 53:29
  Speaker 1: Man, Redmond is not just an author to me. He's
• 53:31
  Speaker 1: a teacher and a healer. Absolutely, you know, tell me
• 53:34
  Speaker 1: talk to people about what Manster's in Love is about.
• 53:36
  Speaker 16: So Monster's in Love, Man, Monsters So a lot of
• 53:38
  Speaker 16: people don't know. But I started a lot of my
• 53:41
  Speaker 16: work started as a therapist. So I've been doing therapy
• 53:45
  Speaker 16: for thirty two years and primarily a lot of my
• 53:49
  Speaker 16: work was in couples, working with couples, and a lot
• 53:53
  Speaker 16: of the stuff that I saw out there brother that
• 53:55
  Speaker 16: was that was especially as it relates to black people
• 53:58
  Speaker 16: and bodies of culture. It was just basically giving people tips,
• 54:04
  Speaker 16: you know, and a lot of times, man, when you
• 54:07
  Speaker 16: in long term relationships, have been in a long term
• 54:09
  Speaker 16: relationship is different than being in a dating relationship, right,
• 54:13
  Speaker 16: And a lot of the tips are about how you
• 54:15
  Speaker 16: rekindle things as opposed to how do you grow up?
• 54:18
  Speaker 16: And so I wrote a book a number of years
• 54:21
  Speaker 16: ago called Rock the Boat. Rock the Boat was really about,
• 54:29
  Speaker 16: you know, some of the same stuff that Monsters is.
• 54:31
  Speaker 16: But what happened was is that once Rocked the Boat
• 54:34
  Speaker 16: came out and it didn't really sell that well. But
• 54:39
  Speaker 16: what ended up happening was is that over the course
• 54:41
  Speaker 16: of the last ten twelve years, I've grown as a person.
• 54:44
  Speaker 16: I've grown as a therapist, I see things differently. I've
• 54:46
  Speaker 16: grown as a husband, I've grown as a father, and
• 54:50
  Speaker 16: I've grown as a black man who's trying to do
• 54:52
  Speaker 16: liberatory work. And so when I got the rights back
• 54:55
  Speaker 16: to my book. I was like, let me put the
• 54:57
  Speaker 16: stuff in that I've learned over the last five years.
• 55:00
  Speaker 16: And that's what monstersm are.
• 55:01
  Speaker 1: Oh wow, you say in the book, you say, no
• 55:04
  Speaker 1: matter what you do or who your lover is, eventually
• 55:06
  Speaker 1: your partnership begins to hurt.
• 55:08
  Speaker 16: Yes, right, why is that?
• 55:10
  Speaker 1: And how do we deal with that?
• 55:11
  Speaker 16: So so you know, we've been conditioned to believe that
• 55:15
  Speaker 16: all we gotta do is try and rekindle or try
• 55:20
  Speaker 16: and you know, let's start having date night and let's
• 55:23
  Speaker 16: start doing all that different type of stuff. And what
• 55:24
  Speaker 16: you find is that those that that that purpose of
• 55:28
  Speaker 16: relationships at the beginning is to draw you two together.
• 55:31
  Speaker 16: That's the purpose. That's the only purpose. And you start
• 55:34
  Speaker 16: and the way that you draw each other together is
• 55:37
  Speaker 16: that you start you usually only tell each other about
• 55:41
  Speaker 16: the similarities or you like underwrought or basket weaving, or
• 55:44
  Speaker 16: you like this and you I like that too, right,
• 55:47
  Speaker 16: But what happens after about a year or two years,
• 55:49
  Speaker 16: what you start to find is that you start to
• 55:51
  Speaker 16: show the differences. And that's when we start to think
• 55:54
  Speaker 16: something's going wrong. Nothing's going wrong, it's just the machinery
• 55:58
  Speaker 16: of relationships doing what it is, and it's designed to
• 56:01
  Speaker 16: squeeze you, so you get pasture on adult developmental immature issues. Right.
• 56:07
  Speaker 16: But it don't feel good, and it takes a long
• 56:10
  Speaker 16: time before people are willing to actually say, you know,
• 56:13
  Speaker 16: there's pieces there. How do I be the person that
• 56:16
  Speaker 16: I want to be at the same time that I'm
• 56:19
  Speaker 16: connected to somebody that I love more than anything else.
• 56:22
  Speaker 16: It's easy to do it by yourself, right. It's a
• 56:26
  Speaker 16: whole lot harder when you're in with somebody and over
• 56:29
  Speaker 16: the course of time you start to notice, Hey, I
• 56:32
  Speaker 16: love this person, but I also hate them. There's some
• 56:36
  Speaker 16: hate between us.
• 56:38
  Speaker 6: You know.
• 56:38
  Speaker 2: Yeah, really it's healthy.
• 56:41
  Speaker 1: Brother.
• 56:41
  Speaker 16: Let me say this. Y'all been married a while, right,
• 56:45
  Speaker 16: two years, twenty two years. I've been married, been with my.
• 56:47
  Speaker 1: Wife for twenty five, but we've been married four year.
• 56:50
  Speaker 16: Yep, I've been I've been with my wife for thirty years. Right.
• 56:55
  Speaker 16: One of the things that I learned through the course
• 56:57
  Speaker 16: of that is that over time, so relationships end up
• 57:04
  Speaker 16: at the beginning, or relationships at the beginning end up
• 57:07
  Speaker 16: being this thing where you think that the design is
• 57:12
  Speaker 16: for the person to make you happy, right, But the
• 57:15
  Speaker 16: design of It is designed to make you grow up.
• 57:20
  Speaker 16: So when you say to a person, I choose you,
• 57:26
  Speaker 16: it's just me and you. There's nobody else. At that moment,
• 57:29
  Speaker 16: the relationship becomes more finite. More of what I do
• 57:32
  Speaker 16: impacts you, more of what you do to me impacts me.
• 57:35
  Speaker 16: When you get to finite relationships, when a when a
• 57:40
  Speaker 16: person doesn't want to do what you think they should do,
• 57:43
  Speaker 16: you are tested. Right, that's where the hatred comes in
• 57:47
  Speaker 16: at because what ends up happening is you want to
• 57:50
  Speaker 16: find a way around it. Your partner wants to find
• 57:52
  Speaker 16: a way around that pressure, that critical mass. And what
• 57:55
  Speaker 16: happens is is that over time you either learn how
• 57:58
  Speaker 16: to grow up through that or you blow it through
• 58:00
  Speaker 16: your partner. Right. That makes you start to make choices
• 58:04
  Speaker 16: about how you want to be and who you want
• 58:06
  Speaker 16: to be with. That only happens in the long term relationship.
• 58:09
  Speaker 16: That doesn't happen in the infant relationship when you just
• 58:12
  Speaker 16: dat know, you out here screwing around and you're doing
• 58:14
  Speaker 16: what The reason why people screw around is that they
• 58:17
  Speaker 16: what they do is that they bring in the third
• 58:19
  Speaker 16: person to handle the heat that two people should be handled.
• 58:22
  Speaker 1: Explain that brick that down.
• 58:24
  Speaker 16: That's not like, yeah, no, but that's what that's what
• 58:27
  Speaker 16: he's saying, but that is that's exactly what I'm saying.
• 58:29
  Speaker 16: So if something is happening between it, and that's why
• 58:31
  Speaker 16: I wrote the book, I wrote the book. I wrote
• 58:34
  Speaker 16: this book to address not just heterosexual relationships. But what
• 58:38
  Speaker 16: I did was was look at all of the people
• 58:41
  Speaker 16: that came into my office, both both trans relationships, gay relationships,
• 58:46
  Speaker 16: heterosexual relationship and I said, you know what, there's this
• 58:48
  Speaker 16: patterning regardless, right. If it's not where things go, is
• 58:53
  Speaker 16: it is that when when you get into a relationship
• 58:56
  Speaker 16: with another person and you say I choose you, that
• 58:59
  Speaker 16: pressure increases, right because because it matters what they think
• 59:03
  Speaker 16: about you, it matters what you think about them, right,
• 59:06
  Speaker 16: So what ends up happening is is that when we
• 59:09
  Speaker 16: start to look for ways around it to take the
• 59:12
  Speaker 16: heat out, what you're really doing is taking the heat
• 59:14
  Speaker 16: that can actually transform the relationship. So if I can't
• 59:18
  Speaker 16: handle stuff that's happening between me and you, I bring
• 59:20
  Speaker 16: a third person in. Now that heat is being carried
• 59:23
  Speaker 16: by three people, but it should only be carried by two, right, right,
• 59:27
  Speaker 16: And what we try and do is find a way
• 59:28
  Speaker 16: around stuff as opposed to going through it.
• 59:32
  Speaker 5: And you know that.
• 59:33
  Speaker 16: I mean y'all been in relationships long enough, you know
• 59:35
  Speaker 16: there are times where you were the easy way out.
• 59:38
  Speaker 16: We're trying to get around. It looks good, but you
• 59:42
  Speaker 16: find that when you do it that it undercuts your development. Right,
• 59:49
  Speaker 16: it undercuts like like the pressure, the pressure. I'm not
• 59:53
  Speaker 16: saying you always should have pressure, but I'm saying the
• 59:55
  Speaker 16: pressure actually creates opportunities for you to say who do
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  Speaker 16: I want to be? And not only who do I
• 1:00:01
  Speaker 16: want to be, but who do I want to be
• 1:00:03
  Speaker 16: with you? Right?
• 1:00:04
  Speaker 2: So when Layman's turns, you're basically saying, you know, in
• 1:00:07
  Speaker 2: some relationships, let's say they're having problems sexually inship, and
• 1:00:11
  Speaker 2: instead of keeping the heat in the relationship, a woman
• 1:00:14
  Speaker 2: might step out with somebody else that solves that problem
• 1:00:17
  Speaker 2: instead of dealing with it at home.
• 1:00:18
  Speaker 16: I solves the problem, so takes the heat out of it, right,
• 1:00:24
  Speaker 16: Because if I if so, so, a lot of times
• 1:00:28
  Speaker 16: people steal each other's choices, right. So it's one thing
• 1:00:32
  Speaker 16: if we're in a relationship and I come to you
• 1:00:36
  Speaker 16: and I say, look, I want to deal with somebody else, Right,
• 1:00:42
  Speaker 16: I'm giving you the choice to you you wanted to
• 1:00:46
  Speaker 16: have a monogamous relationship, I'm giving you the choice to
• 1:00:49
  Speaker 16: decide whether or not you want to continue to be
• 1:00:52
  Speaker 16: in a monogamous relationship. I've made a decision. I no
• 1:00:54
  Speaker 16: longer want to be in a monogamous relationship, right, So
• 1:00:58
  Speaker 16: what I do what we do. A lot of times
• 1:01:00
  Speaker 16: we don't give our partners that choice. We steal it
• 1:01:02
  Speaker 16: from them. We say, you don't get a choice to
• 1:01:04
  Speaker 16: be in a monogamous relationship anymore. You have to be
• 1:01:07
  Speaker 16: in a choice. You have to be in in a
• 1:01:09
  Speaker 16: poly relationship.
• 1:01:10
  Speaker 2: Right.
• 1:01:10
  Speaker 16: And so the moment that I do that, I take
• 1:01:13
  Speaker 16: the heat out, right, and if I stay with that person,
• 1:01:17
  Speaker 16: that here's the here's the here's the catch. That heat
• 1:01:20
  Speaker 16: always comes back because it's not the heat around getting
• 1:01:23
  Speaker 16: people to do what I want to do. It's the heat,
• 1:01:25
  Speaker 16: it's the call to grow up as a person being
• 1:01:29
  Speaker 16: connected to another person, not being disconnected, but being connected
• 1:01:34
  Speaker 16: to another person.
• 1:01:35
  Speaker 2: You mentioned something earlier. I want to go back to
• 1:01:37
  Speaker 2: when you. You said when you when you talk to couples,
• 1:01:39
  Speaker 2: and a lot of times that the answer for couples is, well,
• 1:01:43
  Speaker 2: let's have a date night. The date night will fix that,
• 1:01:45
  Speaker 2: and you said, that's not the answer. So that's the
• 1:01:47
  Speaker 2: first thing couples usually say, like, those are the tips.
• 1:01:49
  Speaker 2: We have kids, we work too much spending time with
• 1:01:52
  Speaker 2: each other, Let's do a date night. But just saying
• 1:01:53
  Speaker 2: that might not be the answer.
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  Speaker 16: So so so so, so think about it like this.
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  Speaker 16: When we were first dating, we had infinite choices. There
• 1:02:06
  Speaker 16: are things that we could do. At some point, I
• 1:02:09
  Speaker 16: could make a decision I don't want to be I
• 1:02:11
  Speaker 16: don't want to do this normal go date somebody down
• 1:02:14
  Speaker 16: the street. Right, But when you make a commitment like this,
• 1:02:18
  Speaker 16: have y'all noticed this? And we and we've heard this before.
• 1:02:22
  Speaker 16: When we were first dating, everything was cool, and the
• 1:02:25
  Speaker 16: moment we moved in together, the moment we started, the
• 1:02:29
  Speaker 16: moment we said I do stuff change, sex change, the
• 1:02:35
  Speaker 16: perceived respect change, like all of this stuff change. And
• 1:02:38
  Speaker 16: what I tell people is that that is an important
• 1:02:41
  Speaker 16: element in long term relationship. Isn't that It's absolutely normal.
• 1:02:45
  Speaker 16: It is absolutely normal part of relationship. But we've been
• 1:02:48
  Speaker 16: conditioned to believe that when that happens, something's going wrong.
• 1:02:52
  Speaker 1: Right.
• 1:02:52
  Speaker 16: But when you when you say to another person, I
• 1:02:55
  Speaker 16: choose you, you get right up against your own development.
• 1:02:57
  Speaker 16: Because if you do something like it's like like this.
• 1:03:00
  Speaker 16: This is why people can go out to a club
• 1:03:03
  Speaker 16: and tell that tell a person in the club all
• 1:03:05
  Speaker 16: their secrets, but the person that's laying on the pillow
• 1:03:08
  Speaker 16: next to them, they won't say nothing about why because
• 1:03:11
  Speaker 16: if I say that to you, if I say something
• 1:03:13
  Speaker 16: to you something about either sex or something about the
• 1:03:16
  Speaker 16: way I want to have a baby, and I know
• 1:03:18
  Speaker 16: you don't want to have a baby. I want these
• 1:03:20
  Speaker 16: particular things, and I say it to you and you
• 1:03:22
  Speaker 16: tear your face up, right, then if I don't have
• 1:03:26
  Speaker 16: a clear sense of myself in that moment, I'm eventually
• 1:03:30
  Speaker 16: I'm gonna stop saying that to you because what you
• 1:03:32
  Speaker 16: reflect back to me I can't tolerate.
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  Speaker 2: Correct.
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  Speaker 1: I wonder you know.
• 1:03:37
  Speaker 16: That makes it?
• 1:03:38
  Speaker 2: That? That makes it?
• 1:03:40
  Speaker 1: I wonder when you talk about that, that that rough patch.
• 1:03:42
  Speaker 1: How do you know the difference sometimes because like some
• 1:03:44
  Speaker 1: people will get divorced and they'll say irreconcilable difference.
• 1:03:47
  Speaker 16: That sounds that's right, so so so the way that
• 1:03:51
  Speaker 16: you sometimes you could you only know the differences as
• 1:03:55
  Speaker 16: you go through it. Right, This is what I say
• 1:03:57
  Speaker 16: that that relationships are people growing machine. Right, I'm not
• 1:04:00
  Speaker 16: the same dude I was when I met my wife. Right,
• 1:04:03
  Speaker 16: Hopefully I'm I'm a little bit more and hopefully I
• 1:04:07
  Speaker 16: can tolerate things a little bit differently. Hopefully because of
• 1:04:11
  Speaker 16: the arguments, because of the fight, because of some of
• 1:04:13
  Speaker 16: the some of the what I call the kind of
• 1:04:16
  Speaker 16: critical mass that comes into the relationship, Hopefully I've been
• 1:04:20
  Speaker 16: able to say that when we go through it, that
• 1:04:23
  Speaker 16: there's a purpose to it, right, And it takes a
• 1:04:26
  Speaker 16: minute to to find, Like when we're going through stuff
• 1:04:30
  Speaker 16: when my wife, when when when something is important to
• 1:04:33
  Speaker 16: my wife or important to my partner and we're grinding
• 1:04:37
  Speaker 16: on each other like like like there are things in
• 1:04:41
  Speaker 16: a relationship that you're not going to get through over
• 1:04:45
  Speaker 16: just because you agree to disagree. You're gonna have to
• 1:04:48
  Speaker 16: get through it because you're grinding on each other, Right,
• 1:04:51
  Speaker 16: You're gonna have to get through it because you're because
• 1:04:54
  Speaker 16: this is not a choice. This is not about making
• 1:04:57
  Speaker 16: you know, quote unquote choices. This is really a while.
• 1:05:02
  Speaker 16: This is about us growing up in a way that says,
• 1:05:05
  Speaker 16: I actually now can handle what it is that you're
• 1:05:08
  Speaker 16: bringing the table. Before when you brought it to the table,
• 1:05:12
  Speaker 16: I would need you to change in order for me
• 1:05:14
  Speaker 16: to be all right, I need for you to agree
• 1:05:16
  Speaker 16: in order for me to be all right. Well, long
• 1:05:18
  Speaker 16: term relationships, you don't get that. You don't get that bargain.
• 1:05:21
  Speaker 16: People actually have to grow up and transform in order
• 1:05:25
  Speaker 16: and be the person that they want to be to
• 1:05:27
  Speaker 16: tolerate the conundrums that are happening right now. Right it's
• 1:05:31
  Speaker 16: not about just behavior change. And that's one of the
• 1:05:34
  Speaker 16: things when I would be working with couples. Couples come
• 1:05:37
  Speaker 16: in thinking that your job is to protect or your
• 1:05:41
  Speaker 16: job is to fix something that's working in a relationships,
• 1:05:45
  Speaker 16: So to give you this frame and your job as
• 1:05:47
  Speaker 16: a therapist. And what I realized over time is that
• 1:05:49
  Speaker 16: my job as a therapist is not to just take
• 1:05:52
  Speaker 16: their frame the as what the problem is that there
• 1:05:56
  Speaker 16: is historical stuff that's happening. There's intergenerational stuff that's happen happening.
• 1:06:00
  Speaker 16: There's persistent instant especially if we're in black skin, brown skin,
• 1:06:03
  Speaker 16: indigenous skin, there's persistent institutional weather ring that happens to
• 1:06:08
  Speaker 16: us and in our bodies. And then there's our own
• 1:06:11
  Speaker 16: personal pieces that all show up at the same time.
• 1:06:14
  Speaker 16: You're not gonna weather, You're not going to deal with
• 1:06:17
  Speaker 16: that by just agreeing to disagree about something.
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  Speaker 2: But let me ask you a question. You know, you
• 1:06:21
  Speaker 2: being a therapist and talking to couples and married couples,
• 1:06:25
  Speaker 2: do you feel like couples give up too fast because
• 1:06:30
  Speaker 2: of the things that you just said that you know,
• 1:06:32
  Speaker 2: people don't want to grind. Yeah, let's agree to disagree.
• 1:06:36
  Speaker 16: They need to try and find ways around at least the.
• 1:06:38
  Speaker 2: Fire somewhere around.
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  Speaker 16: So do you feel that Here's what I would say,
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  Speaker 16: I would I So there are times when I've been
• 1:06:45
  Speaker 16: in a in a session with a couple and I go,
• 1:06:51
  Speaker 16: they may need to get away from each other right
• 1:06:54
  Speaker 16: then that I don't recommend it. I don't say that.
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  Speaker 1: I don't think you're.
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  Speaker 16: You need to go over there. No, no, no, I
• 1:07:06
  Speaker 16: don't recommend it. But but but but as a therapist,
• 1:07:09
  Speaker 16: I'm working with the energy that's in the room, right,
• 1:07:13
  Speaker 16: I'm working with what's showing up in the room. I'm
• 1:07:15
  Speaker 16: not I don't have these like this kind of table
• 1:07:18
  Speaker 16: that's okay, this this, this isn't happen. You don't need
• 1:07:20
  Speaker 16: to be together, you don't need together. What happens is
• 1:07:22
  Speaker 16: is that people end up making that decision because they
• 1:07:26
  Speaker 16: end up coming up against things that say, if I
• 1:07:30
  Speaker 16: stay with this person and I allow them to keep
• 1:07:33
  Speaker 16: eating my heart the way that they're eating my heart,
• 1:07:36
  Speaker 16: I'm probably not going to be the person I want
• 1:07:38
  Speaker 16: to be on the other side of this. Wow and
• 1:07:41
  Speaker 16: so and so in those situations people stop being together
• 1:07:44
  Speaker 16: and so so. To answer the question around whether or
• 1:07:47
  Speaker 16: not they give up too soon, I'm not. I don't
• 1:07:50
  Speaker 16: think that this is not about resma saying y'all need
• 1:07:54
  Speaker 16: to stay together no matter what. This is about being
• 1:07:57
  Speaker 16: being able to key into things that say, when we
• 1:08:02
  Speaker 16: get to this place, am I willing or not willing
• 1:08:06
  Speaker 16: to give up the most precious parts of me? And
• 1:08:10
  Speaker 16: and and there. You know, there comes a time in
• 1:08:13
  Speaker 16: a relationship when you're in there, when I'm in there
• 1:08:16
  Speaker 16: with a couple, and I end up seeing a pattern
• 1:08:20
  Speaker 16: play out, and the one person in the in the couple,
• 1:08:25
  Speaker 16: because they're so busy fighting, does don't see that the
• 1:08:29
  Speaker 16: other person just grew up in that second.
• 1:08:32
  Speaker 1: You can grow up in a second. Oh yeah, okay,
• 1:08:33
  Speaker 1: oh yeah.
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  Speaker 16: There are there are things. There are things that happen
• 1:08:37
  Speaker 16: in a in a in a in an office where
• 1:08:40
  Speaker 16: the I'll give you an example about about two years ago,
• 1:08:45
  Speaker 16: I was working with this with this couple and they
• 1:08:48
  Speaker 16: kept arguing about and the thing kept coming up around
• 1:08:51
  Speaker 16: wanting to have a child, right. He wanted to have
• 1:08:55
  Speaker 16: a child. She didn't, right, And she kept saying soon
• 1:08:58
  Speaker 16: as my career we can have as soon as we
• 1:09:01
  Speaker 16: get a house, we can soon as it. And he
• 1:09:04
  Speaker 16: was like, okay, this is going this is five years now,
• 1:09:08
  Speaker 16: and every time I bring it up, you keep acting
• 1:09:10
  Speaker 16: like you don't and you're saying you want to have it,
• 1:09:12
  Speaker 16: but you keep acting like you don't want to have it,
• 1:09:15
  Speaker 16: and I keep coming to you trying to get you
• 1:09:17
  Speaker 16: right now. In the typical, in a typical situation, the
• 1:09:20
  Speaker 16: therapist would be saying, well, you know what do you want,
• 1:09:23
  Speaker 16: and let's just try and figure this out, and let's
• 1:09:26
  Speaker 16: write down or let's use ice statements and write they'll
• 1:09:29
  Speaker 16: do that stuff. I didn't do that because I knew
• 1:09:31
  Speaker 16: that the heat was important. This was this, This was
• 1:09:34
  Speaker 16: an issue that they can't agree to disagree about. This
• 1:09:37
  Speaker 16: was an issue that was you're gonna have to grow
• 1:09:39
  Speaker 16: up through this.
• 1:09:40
  Speaker 2: This is gonna be a deal breaker.
• 1:09:41
  Speaker 16: This was gonna be a deal but but not a
• 1:09:42
  Speaker 16: deal breaker in that a deal breaker, will you get
• 1:09:45
  Speaker 16: away from each other? A deal breaker was in that
• 1:09:47
  Speaker 16: this is important, correct do you understand what I mean?
• 1:09:51
  Speaker 16: And so what ended up happening was there was a
• 1:09:52
  Speaker 16: moment in time where she said, he said. He said,
• 1:09:57
  Speaker 16: She said, well, you can't make me have a baby,
• 1:10:01
  Speaker 16: and he did this thing and it was very subtle.
• 1:10:04
  Speaker 16: He did this thing. She said, you can't make me
• 1:10:07
  Speaker 16: have a baby. He said, you know you're right, And
• 1:10:17
  Speaker 16: I'm going to stop making trying to make you have
• 1:10:20
  Speaker 16: a baby. I'm going to stop trying to make you
• 1:10:23
  Speaker 16: have a baby with me and stop trying to make
• 1:10:26
  Speaker 16: you be with me. Here's what I'm going to do.
• 1:10:29
  Speaker 16: I'm going to start doing the thing. I'm going to
• 1:10:31
  Speaker 16: start acting in accordance with what I say I want.
• 1:10:35
  Speaker 16: I'm the one that's responsible for the birth control in
• 1:10:38
  Speaker 16: this relationship. I'm the one that always has to put
• 1:10:40
  Speaker 16: the condoms on. I'm the one that always has to
• 1:10:42
  Speaker 16: do these particular paces. I'm no longer responsible for that.
• 1:10:46
  Speaker 16: So if we're going to start to have a child,
• 1:10:47
  Speaker 16: I'm going to act in accordance. I want to have
• 1:10:49
  Speaker 16: a child, I'm going to start acting like it. You
• 1:10:52
  Speaker 16: don't want to have a child, you've been acting like
• 1:10:54
  Speaker 16: you haven't wanted to have a child. You haven't. You haven't.
• 1:10:58
  Speaker 16: You haven't come to me about having a child. You
• 1:11:00
  Speaker 16: haven't worked it. You know, we haven't talked about how
• 1:11:03
  Speaker 16: we get the fertile and all that. We haven't talked.
• 1:11:06
  Speaker 16: So you're acting in accordance with what you want. I,
• 1:11:09
  Speaker 16: on the other hand, have not been acting in accordance
• 1:11:11
  Speaker 16: with this. This happened in a second. This is what
• 1:11:13
  Speaker 16: you did. I haven't been acting in the chords. I'm
• 1:11:15
  Speaker 16: acting in the course. She goes, what would would You're
• 1:11:17
  Speaker 16: gonna make me have a baby. He goes, no, I'm
• 1:11:19
  Speaker 16: gonna make me have a baby. You get to make
• 1:11:22
  Speaker 16: whatever choice you need to make. I'm no longer responsible
• 1:11:26
  Speaker 16: for the birth control. Now, that's one thing that sounds
• 1:11:30
  Speaker 16: like an ultimatum. That is not an ultimatum. That's the ault.
• 1:11:33
  Speaker 16: If it is a ultimatum, it's an ultimatum to him. Right. So,
• 1:11:37
  Speaker 16: so long story short, they start going through it, right,
• 1:11:42
  Speaker 16: they get it engaged in, you know, sex and all
• 1:11:45
  Speaker 16: that different type of stuff, and he says, and she
• 1:11:48
  Speaker 16: looks at him. She goes, you got the condom. He goes,
• 1:11:50
  Speaker 16: I'm not putting a condom on, right, and she goes,
• 1:11:53
  Speaker 16: get up, We're not we're not going to have sex.
• 1:11:55
  Speaker 16: We're not gonna do these pieces right. And he says, okay,
• 1:11:57
  Speaker 16: but I'm not gonna do this forever, right, and they
• 1:12:00
  Speaker 16: keep nothing's going wrong When that's happening, you're.
• 1:12:03
  Speaker 1: Making sure you're giving people a chance to make choice.
• 1:12:06
  Speaker 16: That's right, that's right, and your and in the part
• 1:12:09
  Speaker 16: and the process, she gets to say I really don't
• 1:12:13
  Speaker 16: want to have a baby or I don't want to
• 1:12:15
  Speaker 16: have a baby with you, and those hard arguments start
• 1:12:18
  Speaker 16: to have start to write nothing's going wrong in that moment.
• 1:12:23
  Speaker 16: People are growing up as adults in real time, and
• 1:12:29
  Speaker 16: that that particular couple, what ended up happening is is
• 1:12:32
  Speaker 16: that they've ground on that for like a year, going
• 1:12:35
  Speaker 16: back and forth like that, looking for ways out, looking
• 1:12:38
  Speaker 16: for you know, I don't bl blah blah, you can't
• 1:12:40
  Speaker 16: make And then at one point he got to a
• 1:12:42
  Speaker 16: place to where he said, look, I love you more
• 1:12:45
  Speaker 16: than anything on this planet, and I want to have
• 1:12:48
  Speaker 16: a baby. I understand you're you're saying you don't want
• 1:12:52
  Speaker 16: to have a baby, and I can't make you have
• 1:12:54
  Speaker 16: a baby. I want to have a baby. And I'm
• 1:12:56
  Speaker 16: going to act like I want to have a baby,
• 1:12:58
  Speaker 16: and I'm telling you that. And they got and they
• 1:13:00
  Speaker 16: got through it. They ended up having a child, right,
• 1:13:03
  Speaker 16: but through the grind, not because they found a way
• 1:13:06
  Speaker 16: around the grind. Or you can't agree to disagree about
• 1:13:09
  Speaker 16: the things that are central. Can't agree to disagree about children,
• 1:13:13
  Speaker 16: can't agree to disagree about money. You can disagree to
• 1:13:16
  Speaker 16: disagree about in laws. Right, you can't agree to disagree
• 1:13:19
  Speaker 16: about those things. You're going to have to go through
• 1:13:21
  Speaker 16: those things and grow up.
• 1:13:22
  Speaker 2: We look, I ask a question, you know, and a
• 1:13:24
  Speaker 2: lot of time in relationships, you know, you always hear
• 1:13:27
  Speaker 2: a lot of older people right called them the ogs
• 1:13:29
  Speaker 2: to say, sometimes losing an argument is winning a battle.
• 1:13:33
  Speaker 2: Sometimes apologizing when you're when you're not wrong is winning
• 1:13:36
  Speaker 2: the battle. Sometimes just pretty much saying that person is right,
• 1:13:42
  Speaker 2: women or men is not necessarily losing the battle is
• 1:13:44
  Speaker 2: not it's not losing the wars, just winning that battle whatever.
• 1:13:47
  Speaker 2: Maybe what are your thoughts to that When people don't
• 1:13:49
  Speaker 2: necessarily be certain one hundred percent honest, but they say
• 1:13:53
  Speaker 2: certain things just to stop the argument or so that
• 1:13:55
  Speaker 2: person win it all.
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  Speaker 16: This is the vibe piece can let me ask you,
• 1:13:58
  Speaker 16: Let me ask you a question, Yes, sir, can you
• 1:14:03
  Speaker 16: tell when you and your wife are dealing with something
• 1:14:09
  Speaker 16: that's important and vibratorily, she just placates you. She just
• 1:14:16
  Speaker 16: blow it. She's like she gives in. But the sweetness
• 1:14:19
  Speaker 16: that you really want it has been taken away, of.
• 1:14:22
  Speaker 2: Course, you know.
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  Speaker 16: So sometimes we say we want something from our partner, right,
• 1:14:26
  Speaker 16: and they give in, and we say that felt nasty.
• 1:14:30
  Speaker 16: They felt like you just did something to me, right,
• 1:14:32
  Speaker 16: that's the sweetness that's been with hell.
• 1:14:34
  Speaker 2: Right.
• 1:14:35
  Speaker 16: So those types of like tips like just give in
• 1:14:37
  Speaker 16: and stuff like that your partner, if you're with your
• 1:14:39
  Speaker 16: partner over three years, you're not just languaging with them
• 1:14:43
  Speaker 16: in terms of what you say out of your mouth.
• 1:14:44
  Speaker 16: You're picking up on vibes and vibrations. You're picking up
• 1:14:48
  Speaker 16: on sensation and the body. You're picking up or you're
• 1:14:51
  Speaker 16: picking up on a whole different embodied language. You're not
• 1:14:54
  Speaker 16: just picking up on what they're saying. So when people
• 1:14:56
  Speaker 16: give in, right just to get so one of the
• 1:14:59
  Speaker 16: things that you to say in my in my relations
• 1:15:01
  Speaker 16: this is in my uh when I work with couples,
• 1:15:04
  Speaker 16: was this kind of dynamic. There would be a time
• 1:15:07
  Speaker 16: where the person a person would give in. If you're
• 1:15:10
  Speaker 16: talking about sex or something like that, the person would
• 1:15:12
  Speaker 16: just give in, right he say, okay, you want sex
• 1:15:14
  Speaker 16: all as much, Okay, I'm gonna give you sex, right
• 1:15:16
  Speaker 16: and one. And what I call that dynamic is and
• 1:15:18
  Speaker 16: I would say to the partner, I say, oh, I
• 1:15:20
  Speaker 16: get what you're doing. You're getting on your back to
• 1:15:22
  Speaker 16: keep your partner off your back. Your partner always knows that,
• 1:15:28
  Speaker 16: whether they can articulate it, they always knows when you
• 1:15:31
  Speaker 16: withheld those pieces from them, because what you really want
• 1:15:34
  Speaker 16: is the sweetness from them, not just them giving in.
• 1:15:38
  Speaker 16: But you can't articulate that so so so so so
• 1:15:42
  Speaker 16: when it happens, you don't know what else to say.
• 1:15:44
  Speaker 16: You just take it. And every time you take leftover
• 1:15:48
  Speaker 16: sex or leftover things from a partner, you break your
• 1:15:51
  Speaker 16: heart and your partner's heart. You know it when when?
• 1:15:55
  Speaker 1: When?
• 1:15:55
  Speaker 16: When? When? When?
• 1:15:57
  Speaker 1: When?
• 1:15:57
  Speaker 2: When? You?
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  Speaker 16: When you when you take something from your partner that
• 1:16:01
  Speaker 16: you know they're not really giving themselves or giving themselves
• 1:16:05
  Speaker 16: to the relationships, or giving them you know, the sweet
• 1:16:08
  Speaker 16: parts of themselves, and you take it. Your partner goes.
• 1:16:14
  Speaker 16: You don't even deserve the good stuff that I got
• 1:16:17
  Speaker 16: because you're taking the crumbs right. There's nothing going wrong
• 1:16:22
  Speaker 16: when that happens. So but but we think little tips
• 1:16:25
  Speaker 16: like that, let's do this, let's do that, and everything
• 1:16:28
  Speaker 16: will be right. But eventually the critical mass will build
• 1:16:31
  Speaker 16: back up and you'll be deal. Have you noticed you
• 1:16:34
  Speaker 16: have some of the same arguments some sameness to you too.
• 1:16:37
  Speaker 16: Have you noticed you have some of the same arguments
• 1:16:38
  Speaker 16: now with your partner that you did when you first started.
• 1:16:42
  Speaker 16: Not the same exact ones, but the patterning it's the same, the.
• 1:16:45
  Speaker 11: Things because you're not only are you learning each other,
• 1:16:50
  Speaker 11: but it's because it's because those things are important, and
• 1:16:54
  Speaker 11: the things that you could normally go oh, that's not
• 1:16:57
  Speaker 11: you know, that's not that's not that important, or or baby, this,
• 1:17:00
  Speaker 11: that and the other.
• 1:17:01
  Speaker 16: Right, that's already done. The only thing that's left is
• 1:17:04
  Speaker 16: the hard stuff now, the stuff that you can't play case.
• 1:17:08
  Speaker 16: So that's why you keep going over and over and
• 1:17:10
  Speaker 16: over again.
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  Speaker 1: I love I love everything you're saying, man. And you
• 1:17:13
  Speaker 1: have a section called how therapy really works? Yes, And
• 1:17:18
  Speaker 1: in the chapters of When Therapists cop out how how
• 1:17:21
  Speaker 1: do therapists often fail? Couples?
• 1:17:24
  Speaker 16: Tips?
• 1:17:24
  Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, yeah, what you're giving sounds like real tangible
• 1:17:29
  Speaker 1: things that can apply.
• 1:17:30
  Speaker 16: Chris, this stuff marriage. Marriage forces you to develop a
• 1:17:35
  Speaker 16: thick skin, a fortified mindset, and a malleable heart.
• 1:17:41
  Speaker 1: Do you understand what I mean?
• 1:17:42
  Speaker 16: That malleable heart is the key piece. Some of us
• 1:17:45
  Speaker 16: develop a thick skin in relationship. Some of us develop
• 1:17:48
  Speaker 16: a fortified mindset and a hardened heart. Right, it's much
• 1:17:54
  Speaker 16: harder to be in a relationship. Most of us that
• 1:17:57
  Speaker 16: are in long term relationships are in long term relationships
• 1:17:59
  Speaker 16: with at some point that hurt us.
• 1:18:03
  Speaker 1: Absolutely right.
• 1:18:04
  Speaker 16: This isn't a relationship with somebody you just meet. This
• 1:18:07
  Speaker 16: is a relationship with somebody that you had the opportunity
• 1:18:10
  Speaker 16: to hurt them and you and they have hurt you
• 1:18:12
  Speaker 16: in some way or another, right, and you still in
• 1:18:15
  Speaker 16: the relationship. That's a whole different process of working through
• 1:18:19
  Speaker 16: than dating.
• 1:18:20
  Speaker 1: Right.
• 1:18:20
  Speaker 16: The way that therapists cop out is that here's the
• 1:18:24
  Speaker 16: dirty little secret. Most therapists are not as conditioned to
• 1:18:29
  Speaker 16: deal with the heat and the trauma in relationships. They've
• 1:18:34
  Speaker 16: been trained and got their PhD, they've been trained and
• 1:18:37
  Speaker 16: got the lcs W. They've been trained in those pieces,
• 1:18:40
  Speaker 16: but not trained in conditioning around conditioning their body to
• 1:18:44
  Speaker 16: be able to deal when all that heat shows up
• 1:18:46
  Speaker 16: in the room. Think about it like this. If you've
• 1:18:49
  Speaker 16: ever been if DJ, if me and you were boys, right,
• 1:18:54
  Speaker 16: and I came to you one day and I said, hey, man,
• 1:18:56
  Speaker 16: I'm thinking about running the marathon. And you'd be supportive, right,
• 1:19:00
  Speaker 16: you both will be supported, And you say, hey, go man,
• 1:19:02
  Speaker 16: bu But I know this dude, and you know I
• 1:19:04
  Speaker 16: ran a marathon, right, you give me all the support.
• 1:19:06
  Speaker 16: And then I looked at you in all seriousness, and
• 1:19:08
  Speaker 16: you looked at me and you said, hey, man, when
• 1:19:10
  Speaker 16: you're thinking about running a marathon? And I looked at
• 1:19:12
  Speaker 16: you in all seriousness, and I said, tomorrow, I'm going
• 1:19:16
  Speaker 16: to run this tomorrow. The first question you're going to
• 1:19:18
  Speaker 16: say is, well, have you been running before? And I
• 1:19:20
  Speaker 16: looked at you and I said, no, I haven't run it,
• 1:19:23
  Speaker 16: but I did to hear podcast on it, I read
• 1:19:26
  Speaker 16: a book on it.
• 1:19:27
  Speaker 1: Right.
• 1:19:28
  Speaker 16: You know I'm grea ready to be in some trouble. Right,
• 1:19:31
  Speaker 16: I'm I'm my whole mind. You know that I'm not
• 1:19:34
  Speaker 16: conditioned to deal with what I'm getting ready to put
• 1:19:38
  Speaker 16: myself through. Marriage and race and sex is no different.
• 1:19:43
  Speaker 16: Most of us are not conditioned to deal with long
• 1:19:47
  Speaker 16: term relationships and sex right, and so that includes therapists.
• 1:19:53
  Speaker 16: So when that stuff all comes into the room, when
• 1:19:56
  Speaker 16: all that he comes into the room, we've been trained
• 1:19:58
  Speaker 16: to teach people I stay, I was I say, rather
• 1:20:04
  Speaker 16: than me saying you know you do when you do this,
• 1:20:06
  Speaker 16: this is a can you use an ice stament? Say
• 1:20:09
  Speaker 16: how you feel?
• 1:20:10
  Speaker 1: Say I feel got you? You got you, got you.
• 1:20:14
  Speaker 16: The moment you do that, couples know, oh, you can't
• 1:20:17
  Speaker 16: handle the heat that we're bringing into the relationship, so
• 1:20:20
  Speaker 16: they start taking care of you.
• 1:20:25
  Speaker 2: Right.
• 1:20:26
  Speaker 16: That's how And most therapists are trained in that way.
• 1:20:30
  Speaker 16: They have not been conditioned to actually work with the
• 1:20:34
  Speaker 16: heavy heat that shows up most of the time when
• 1:20:37
  Speaker 16: people come into the come into our office, or come
• 1:20:40
  Speaker 16: into the office. Y'all think about this most of the
• 1:20:42
  Speaker 16: time when you go see a therapist, that stuff has
• 1:20:45
  Speaker 16: been going on for four, five, six, seven, eight, nineteen
• 1:20:47
  Speaker 16: years before that's all that heat coming into the room.
• 1:20:50
  Speaker 16: Most therapists are not conditioned to deal with a lot of.
• 1:20:52
  Speaker 1: People go to therapy, a lot of couples because they
• 1:20:55
  Speaker 1: want to learn how to communicate better. But you say,
• 1:20:57
  Speaker 1: you don't you against that.
• 1:20:58
  Speaker 16: They want, They don't want to know how to communicate better.
• 1:21:01
  Speaker 16: They figure they done tried to do this for ten years.
• 1:21:04
  Speaker 16: They figure they'll pay you two hundred dollars an hour
• 1:21:06
  Speaker 16: for you to figure out a way around.
• 1:21:07
  Speaker 1: It too, figure out a way instead of going to
• 1:21:10
  Speaker 1: through going through it to find a way around it.
• 1:21:13
  Speaker 5: Right.
• 1:21:13
  Speaker 16: So and so what ends up happening is is that
• 1:21:17
  Speaker 16: And then most therapists are I think that their job
• 1:21:20
  Speaker 16: is to figure is to help them or to fix
• 1:21:23
  Speaker 16: them right, rather than helping them create a containers. So
• 1:21:26
  Speaker 16: the stuff that happens, literally every everything that happens in
• 1:21:30
  Speaker 16: a relationship has a function. Everything. There's not one thing
• 1:21:36
  Speaker 16: that happens in a relationship that does not have a function.
• 1:21:39
  Speaker 16: And most of the time therapists have not been conditioned
• 1:21:42
  Speaker 16: to look at what's the function of this particular thing,
• 1:21:45
  Speaker 16: whether it's whether it's good, bad, whatever, How does it function?
• 1:21:50
  Speaker 16: And once I know how it functions, then I can
• 1:21:53
  Speaker 16: work with it and see if the function can be changed,
• 1:21:56
  Speaker 16: if it can be worked with, if it can be
• 1:21:57
  Speaker 16: grown up some that's not where it's arts though.
• 1:22:01
  Speaker 2: MM. We don't want to give them too much. I did.
• 1:22:04
  Speaker 2: I did have one last question for myself, I wanted
• 1:22:08
  Speaker 2: to know. You know, of course we're on BT, so
• 1:22:10
  Speaker 2: a lot of couples watch on BT and listening on
• 1:22:13
  Speaker 2: the radio a lot of things that when people call,
• 1:22:15
  Speaker 2: they always say they have a problem in relationship for
• 1:22:18
  Speaker 2: one or two reasons. One is financially, they feel like
• 1:22:20
  Speaker 2: their their spouse is not working at potential and they
• 1:22:25
  Speaker 2: feel like they have to be too much of a
• 1:22:26
  Speaker 2: of a support system. And the other one I realized
• 1:22:31
  Speaker 2: a lot of people feel like their spouse doesn't understand them. Right.
• 1:22:34
  Speaker 2: You know, Let's say you're a woman and you're taking
• 1:22:36
  Speaker 2: care of two kids and you're working, and then you
• 1:22:39
  Speaker 2: come home when you're tired and your husband doesn't understand that.
• 1:22:41
  Speaker 2: Or your husband and you're working and you're working two
• 1:22:44
  Speaker 2: three jobs and when you get home, you're tied and
• 1:22:46
  Speaker 2: you want that break and your wife doesn't understand that.
• 1:22:48
  Speaker 2: How do you help people in that situation?
• 1:22:50
  Speaker 16: So so so you know, that same pattern also happens
• 1:22:57
  Speaker 16: in the gay relationships and U and the trans relationships
• 1:23:01
  Speaker 16: that I've worked with in my office. So it's not
• 1:23:03
  Speaker 16: just you know, male female right. This idea of communication
• 1:23:09
  Speaker 16: is one of the things that I think really Jaxaside. Right,
• 1:23:13
  Speaker 16: we think that communication is verbal like communication is, if
• 1:23:18
  Speaker 16: I tell you what I need, that's good communication. In actuality,
• 1:23:23
  Speaker 16: if I already know what my wife thinks about me, right,
• 1:23:27
  Speaker 16: she's communicated, whether it's verbally, nonverbally, whether it's through vibes
• 1:23:31
  Speaker 16: or whatever, she has communicated, I know exactly that I
• 1:23:34
  Speaker 16: know my wife does not like a particular thing or
• 1:23:38
  Speaker 16: does not like me. Right, change it, right, I could
• 1:23:43
  Speaker 16: change it. If I could change it, I probably would
• 1:23:47
  Speaker 16: have changed it. Right the easier things I would have
• 1:23:49
  Speaker 16: changed my wife because I know that from my wife.
• 1:23:53
  Speaker 16: That's good communication. She has communicated to me that she
• 1:23:57
  Speaker 16: doesn't like me. The problem is I can't tolerate what
• 1:23:59
  Speaker 16: she's communicating.
• 1:24:01
  Speaker 1: Right.
• 1:24:01
  Speaker 16: That same thing is I say in relationships happens in
• 1:24:05
  Speaker 16: the two scenarios that you well. We think that if
• 1:24:09
  Speaker 16: I say to my partner I'm tired, then they should
• 1:24:15
  Speaker 16: in some way respond by making me not tired, or
• 1:24:19
  Speaker 16: at least helping me. When I say, I'm communicating that
• 1:24:23
  Speaker 16: I'm tired, And what I tell people is is this
• 1:24:26
  Speaker 16: what I say? The thing about about conditioning, most of
• 1:24:29
  Speaker 16: us are not conditioned to pick up on when our
• 1:24:33
  Speaker 16: partner is really getting to a place to where this
• 1:24:37
  Speaker 16: is a to use your term, this is a deal breaker, right,
• 1:24:41
  Speaker 16: like not deal breaker and that I'm going to leave,
• 1:24:42
  Speaker 16: but a deal breaker in that I don't know what
• 1:24:45
  Speaker 16: I'm going to do, but I know I ain't doing
• 1:24:46
  Speaker 16: this no more right. That's not anything going wrong. That's
• 1:24:50
  Speaker 16: an important element because what it does is helps people
• 1:24:54
  Speaker 16: be very clear this right here, I've been doing this
• 1:24:57
  Speaker 16: for ten years. I'm no longer doing this no more
• 1:25:00
  Speaker 16: with you. I'm not leaving, but I ain't doing this right.
• 1:25:05
  Speaker 16: And what happens is is that a lot of times
• 1:25:07
  Speaker 16: when this stuff is showing up, people want to find
• 1:25:10
  Speaker 16: ways around it. They want little tips, they want little
• 1:25:12
  Speaker 16: things to try and figure it. The way around it.
• 1:25:14
  Speaker 16: There is no way around that piece. You got to
• 1:25:17
  Speaker 16: grow through that. You have to get to those places.
• 1:25:20
  Speaker 16: That build up has to happen, and people have to
• 1:25:24
  Speaker 16: be able to get to a place to where they go.
• 1:25:26
  Speaker 16: You know what.
• 1:25:28
  Speaker 2: This is.
• 1:25:28
  Speaker 16: You're important to me. I'm important to me too, though,
• 1:25:32
  Speaker 16: and that is a lifelong thing. Right that happens. So
• 1:25:36
  Speaker 16: the four things that get people into conundrums and in
• 1:25:39
  Speaker 16: difficult situations for things, money, sex, kids, and in laws
• 1:25:43
  Speaker 16: You can't agree to disagree about.
• 1:25:45
  Speaker 2: Those things, money, sex, kids, laws, can't.
• 1:25:49
  Speaker 16: Agree to disagree somebody. I don't like your mama, But
• 1:25:53
  Speaker 16: for the last ten years she been coming and staying
• 1:25:55
  Speaker 16: with me and giving her opinion about stuff, and I've
• 1:25:58
  Speaker 16: been getting around and I've been scooting around, been scooting
• 1:26:00
  Speaker 16: around it, and I've been trying to say something about it.
• 1:26:04
  Speaker 16: Now I'm at a place now were ten years in.
• 1:26:06
  Speaker 16: I'm at a place now where I have enough in
• 1:26:09
  Speaker 16: me to where you're important to me. I'm important to
• 1:26:12
  Speaker 16: me too. I can now say to you, I don't
• 1:26:15
  Speaker 16: like your mama. I don't want her coming staying with
• 1:26:19
  Speaker 16: us for five weeks, I don't like I don't like
• 1:26:23
  Speaker 16: the way she deals with me right, and I'm willing
• 1:26:26
  Speaker 16: to fight with you about that. Do you understand what
• 1:26:29
  Speaker 16: to me, it's important that we fight about this.
• 1:26:32
  Speaker 1: Glad you keep using the word fight.
• 1:26:33
  Speaker 16: That's gonna be absolutely But it's an important fight. It's
• 1:26:37
  Speaker 16: not a fight that about something's going wrong. It's a
• 1:26:40
  Speaker 16: fight about You're important to me. This is important to me,
• 1:26:44
  Speaker 16: and I'm important to me.
• 1:26:45
  Speaker 1: At the same time, I got a few more questions
• 1:26:48
  Speaker 1: because I know people will hit this and they'll be like,
• 1:26:49
  Speaker 1: is Monsters in Love just for couples in conflict?
• 1:26:53
  Speaker 16: No, okay, Monsters in Love. Monsters in Love is really
• 1:26:56
  Speaker 16: about how how you develop and understaning of the architecture
• 1:27:01
  Speaker 16: of how relationships actually function. That's that's that's the primary thing.
• 1:27:05
  Speaker 16: Monsters in Love. All of my books are about you read.
• 1:27:08
  Speaker 16: You read pieces. You know this, show man, you read
• 1:27:10
  Speaker 16: parts of my book. You have to put it down, right,
• 1:27:13
  Speaker 16: because the most important part of my book are the activities,
• 1:27:17
  Speaker 16: the practices. It's not just it's not just reading. There
• 1:27:20
  Speaker 16: are parts of my book. You you pick it up,
• 1:27:22
  Speaker 16: you look at it. You got to put it down
• 1:27:24
  Speaker 16: because it works on you. It's about, oh man, I there,
• 1:27:27
  Speaker 16: here are the ways I've moved around this, right, And
• 1:27:30
  Speaker 16: so that so Monsters in Love was really my take.
• 1:27:34
  Speaker 16: So so Quaking. So my Grandmother's Hands was really about self.
• 1:27:41
  Speaker 16: Quaking was about kind of like community. This one is
• 1:27:45
  Speaker 16: about couples, the more intimate relationship, right, and but they
• 1:27:49
  Speaker 16: work with some of the same skills, some of the
• 1:27:51
  Speaker 16: same practices, some of the same pieces. And so this
• 1:27:54
  Speaker 16: was just my take on it. And uh uh, yeah,
• 1:27:58
  Speaker 16: it's not about just being a conflict. It's about understanding
• 1:28:01
  Speaker 16: how conflict actually functions as opposed to all of the
• 1:28:04
  Speaker 16: things that we've been kind of conditioned to believe.
• 1:28:06
  Speaker 2: It is.
• 1:28:06
  Speaker 1: Can you tell the people what are are five anchors?
• 1:28:08
  Speaker 1: Real quick?
• 1:28:09
  Speaker 2: Yeah?
• 1:28:09
  Speaker 16: So yeah, so so so one of them? So I
• 1:28:13
  Speaker 16: said it earlier. Maintain a clear sense of yourself while
• 1:28:17
  Speaker 16: connected to an important other. Right, tolerating pain for growth.
• 1:28:23
  Speaker 1: Yeah, that's the one people I feel like people will
• 1:28:25
  Speaker 1: disagree with. That's why we got to go through pain
• 1:28:27
  Speaker 1: to grow right, right?
• 1:28:29
  Speaker 16: Right? So envy you you built a a uh real
• 1:28:41
  Speaker 16: estate empire. You're you're working on it, right, Yes, sir?
• 1:28:45
  Speaker 16: Every day you got to do a little bit of something.
• 1:28:47
  Speaker 16: You can't do everything. You can't build a road. You
• 1:28:49
  Speaker 16: can't say I'm building road. Now, I got it, right,
• 1:28:52
  Speaker 16: You you learn from the mistakes from the Oh I
• 1:28:54
  Speaker 16: could have done it, I could have done right. There
• 1:28:56
  Speaker 16: is there is, there is something to be gleaned from
• 1:29:00
  Speaker 16: even the difficult pieces. Right. That's a painful process because
• 1:29:06
  Speaker 16: it is the pain of growing up as a human being.
• 1:29:09
  Speaker 16: Not the pain, not the not the pain that not
• 1:29:13
  Speaker 16: just pain without a purpose? Right, And so relationships are
• 1:29:18
  Speaker 16: really about how do I begin to have the I'm
• 1:29:22
  Speaker 16: going to. So it's the choice between what I call
• 1:29:24
  Speaker 16: clean pain and dirty pain. Dirty pain is the pain
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  Speaker 16: that you get by going around something right, having a
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  Speaker 16: fair out of relationships, stealing your partner's choices, spending money
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  Speaker 16: that you know you ain't got, and not telling your
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  Speaker 16: partner all these different pieces. Stealing your partner's choices. That's dirty.
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  Speaker 16: And we all know the dirty piece clean pain. And
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  Speaker 16: as adults, we don't get a choice between pain and
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  Speaker 16: no pain. When you're trying to grow up, you get
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  Speaker 16: a choice between clean and dirty. I know that when
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  Speaker 16: I'm doing this, it's going to be painful, but it's
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  Speaker 16: the pain that can build capacity, not the pain that
• 1:30:01
  Speaker 16: takes me around it. Those are two different pains. And
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  Speaker 16: so for those of us, so for those of the
• 1:30:07
  Speaker 16: listeners saying, well, with paint, love shouldn't be pain, of
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  Speaker 16: course it is. There is, but it's a capacity building pain,
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  Speaker 16: not a not not one that that that keeps you immature, right.
• 1:30:19
  Speaker 16: And so those that say pains, you know in a
• 1:30:22
  Speaker 16: marriage you shouldn't have pain or there should be no pain,
• 1:30:25
  Speaker 16: are people that that that I want to stay immature, right?
• 1:30:31
  Speaker 16: And so so those are the two, those two anchors
• 1:30:34
  Speaker 16: I think are the most important ancers, like those like
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  Speaker 16: having a clear understanding that this piece is about growing up.
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  Speaker 16: Like one of the things that I've realized and I
• 1:30:43
  Speaker 16: just like over the last ten years of realized was
• 1:30:46
  Speaker 16: my wife, is that I realize that in a good
• 1:30:51
  Speaker 16: long term relationship, the outcome of a good long term
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  Speaker 16: relationship is that one of us is going to bear
• 1:30:56
  Speaker 16: the other one. That's the outcome of a good long
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  Speaker 16: term relationship.
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  Speaker 8: That that that that that that our our our our
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  Speaker 8: work with each other is we're growing ourselves up, growing
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  Speaker 8: each other up.
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  Speaker 16: And and the payoff at the end of that is
• 1:31:17
  Speaker 16: that one of us is going to bury each other,
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  Speaker 16: and that hopefully at the end of that our hearts
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  Speaker 16: are light enough to we say good job.
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  Speaker 2: Wow, Wow.
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  Speaker 1: I'm glad you didn't give other three because because I
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  Speaker 1: want them to go by. One more question. What's the
• 1:31:30
  Speaker 1: one biggest piece of advice you have for couples who
• 1:31:33
  Speaker 1: are going through conflict, difficult time.
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  Speaker 16: Slow down, slow down, just breathe. White body supremacy. And
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  Speaker 16: I haven't talked about this, but and this is the
• 1:31:43
  Speaker 16: more larger pieces. White body supremacy one of the one
• 1:31:47
  Speaker 16: of the primary things of white. Body supremacy is urgency.
• 1:31:52
  Speaker 16: Urgency is what is how this whole thing, especially with
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  Speaker 16: our bodies, right, That's how this whole thing was was founded.
• 1:31:59
  Speaker 16: Right the plantation. What I tell people is that the
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  Speaker 16: plantation was actually is actually was actually a sanctioned rape factory, right.
• 1:32:10
  Speaker 16: And we a lot of us come from bodies, come
• 1:32:13
  Speaker 16: from bodies, bodies, bodies, bodies, bodies who were for two
• 1:32:17
  Speaker 16: hundred years raped and used as product. What makes us
• 1:32:21
  Speaker 16: think that those bodies weren't conditioned around that trauma? And
• 1:32:26
  Speaker 16: what makes us think that that stuff is not going
• 1:32:28
  Speaker 16: to show up in our relationships?
• 1:32:30
  Speaker 1: Right now?
• 1:32:31
  Speaker 16: Those conundrums, those pieces, those pieces around body sovereignty. Do
• 1:32:35
  Speaker 16: I have body? Do I have sovereignty over my own body?
• 1:32:38
  Speaker 16: Or do you have sovereignty over my body? That's the
• 1:32:41
  Speaker 16: whole thing right now. And so what I tell people
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  Speaker 16: is one of the first things that I do when
• 1:32:45
  Speaker 16: I'm working people is slow down, quiet, it's all right. Yes,
• 1:32:52
  Speaker 16: it feels like you're gonna your body is gonna be
• 1:32:54
  Speaker 16: ripped apart. Yes, yes, you think that you're not going
• 1:32:58
  Speaker 16: to survive this. Slow down, learn the things that you
• 1:33:02
  Speaker 16: need to learn, and you have time.
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  Speaker 2: Wow, appreciate you.
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  Speaker 1: I don't want to overload y'all, but go get Monsters
• 1:33:13
  Speaker 1: in Love, Go get the Quaking of America, Go get
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  Speaker 1: my Grandmother's Hands. And this I didn't. I haven't seen
• 1:33:19
  Speaker 1: these albums.
• 1:33:19
  Speaker 16: Yeah, so so so that so the dismembered that and unarmed.
• 1:33:24
  Speaker 16: So I don album with each book. Either I get
• 1:33:27
  Speaker 16: with other other musicians and I train them on the
• 1:33:30
  Speaker 16: practices in the book, and then they go and create
• 1:33:33
  Speaker 16: songs about those things. So that's dismembered in the arm.
• 1:33:35
  Speaker 16: And then Pharaoh Dreams is actually a I kind of
• 1:33:38
  Speaker 16: looked at it as remember Balancing the Bullet by Malcolm X.
• 1:33:42
  Speaker 16: Just all of his speeches. That's what That's what Pharalh
• 1:33:45
  Speaker 16: Dreams is about all of my speeches. And so you
• 1:33:48
  Speaker 16: can doubt so if you buy the album, you can
• 1:33:50
  Speaker 16: download it on your phone or it's it's also at album.
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  Speaker 1: So for people that love your culture quote, I'm sure
• 1:33:55
  Speaker 1: that's on it. That culture quote is everywhere.
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  Speaker 16: Thank you many, thank you, it is. It is. That's
• 1:34:01
  Speaker 16: every place man. And and and it's one of those
• 1:34:04
  Speaker 16: pieces man where I actually have a thing on my
• 1:34:06
  Speaker 16: website where people can sign up for all of my
• 1:34:09
  Speaker 16: quotes three hundred and sixty five days a year for free.
• 1:34:11
  Speaker 16: You just you just get a quote on your phone.
• 1:34:14
  Speaker 16: And it's designed to help particularly black and brown and
• 1:34:16
  Speaker 16: Indigenous people understand that we're not defective, right, that we
• 1:34:20
  Speaker 16: live in the culture where we've been taught and have
• 1:34:23
  Speaker 16: been uh connected to bodies that have been taught that
• 1:34:27
  Speaker 16: we're defective. And one of the things I want to
• 1:34:29
  Speaker 16: do with my books and with my music, with the
• 1:34:32
  Speaker 16: music and everything is to say we're not defective. We
• 1:34:34
  Speaker 16: don't need to start from that place. That's not that's
• 1:34:37
  Speaker 16: not what's happening. So all right, that's right.
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  Speaker 2: Resma Minicum, we appreciate you for joining us.
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  Speaker 1: Make sure you follow on what's what's the instagram.
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  Speaker 16: Resme dot com if you go to resume dot com,
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  Speaker 2: All right, it's the breakfast Club. Good morning on b
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  Speaker 2: ett of names or you gossip been on you chatty?
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  Speaker 1: Oh god, this is the rumor report.
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  Speaker 9: I mean, I guess were on the breakfast club. This
• 1:35:03
  Speaker 9: were the tea spills right on.
• 1:35:05
  Speaker 1: The Breakfast Club.
• 1:35:07
  Speaker 2: And shout to DJ nih Le someone who's in the building.
• 1:35:10
  Speaker 2: With us for a little bit, came through to stay
• 1:35:12
  Speaker 2: with see it now, Kylie Jenna. She addresses the misconception
• 1:35:16
  Speaker 2: that she's had so much surgery on her face. Now
• 1:35:21
  Speaker 2: the twenty five year old shut up I know to
• 1:35:26
  Speaker 2: talk about, she says. Listen, listen, shut up. She says,
• 1:35:30
  Speaker 2: I think it's a big misconception about me is that
• 1:35:33
  Speaker 2: I've had so much surgery on my face and that
• 1:35:36
  Speaker 2: I was some insecure person and I really wasn't. Yes,
• 1:35:40
  Speaker 2: I love full lips and wanted full lips, but growing
• 1:35:42
  Speaker 2: up I always uh what she said. I was always
• 1:35:46
  Speaker 2: the most confident person in the room. I was the
• 1:35:48
  Speaker 2: girl performing for everyone. I had my one lip insecurity thing.
• 1:35:52
  Speaker 2: So I got a lip filler, one lip, and it
• 1:35:54
  Speaker 2: was the best thing I've ever want done. She says.
• 1:35:57
  Speaker 2: I had my one lip insecurity thing.
• 1:36:00
  Speaker 1: She got one lip, so.
• 1:36:01
  Speaker 2: I got lip filler, and it was the best thing
• 1:36:03
  Speaker 2: I've ever done. I don't regret it. But I always
• 1:36:05
  Speaker 2: thought I was cute.
• 1:36:06
  Speaker 1: There's people out here with one lip. I know white
• 1:36:08
  Speaker 1: people got real thin lips, but one.
• 1:36:10
  Speaker 2: Lip so that so she's that's all she's got was
• 1:36:13
  Speaker 2: lip filler.
• 1:36:15
  Speaker 1: Okay, I don't care, but Collie Jenner's business is people
• 1:36:19
  Speaker 1: being in our business. So you know she's sharing her
• 1:36:21
  Speaker 1: business for people to be in it.
• 1:36:22
  Speaker 2: Yes, yes, but I thought she had it, Like, like,
• 1:36:24
  Speaker 2: her whole face changed, didn't it.
• 1:36:26
  Speaker 7: And it's a misconception.
• 1:36:27
  Speaker 1: We watched it, watch your whole family. Also a kid.
• 1:36:32
  Speaker 1: We've seen her since she was a kid. That's what
• 1:36:34
  Speaker 1: happens when you grow up kids faces.
• 1:36:36
  Speaker 2: Are you gonna say with it?
• 1:36:36
  Speaker 1: No, I'm sure she probably got something, but kids' faces
• 1:36:39
  Speaker 1: do change. You haven't been watching her since she's been
• 1:36:40
  Speaker 1: a child, too. Now you do realize that, right, that's
• 1:36:43
  Speaker 1: just stuff.
• 1:36:43
  Speaker 17: Nobody's denying that.
• 1:36:44
  Speaker 2: But her whole face changed, brocul we saw a different person.
• 1:36:47
  Speaker 2: You saw us, and she was like kid, right, Okay.
• 1:36:50
  Speaker 2: Like I'm saying though, like people do go through puberty
• 1:36:52
  Speaker 2: and things change. Like you literally saw hers since she
• 1:36:54
  Speaker 2: was a child. And I'm not saying she didn't get
• 1:36:57
  Speaker 2: no surgery. I'm just saying you did see her since
• 1:36:59
  Speaker 2: she was a kid. He has probably lip filler coming
• 1:37:01
  Speaker 2: out on compete.
• 1:37:02
  Speaker 17: Even got nothing to say to that, but maybe she
• 1:37:05
  Speaker 17: I don't think necessarily the low self esteem has anything
• 1:37:07
  Speaker 17: to do with the changes you wanted the changes because
• 1:37:11
  Speaker 17: you like you're different. You know you wanted something more exaggerated.
• 1:37:14
  Speaker 17: That don't got nothing to do with your low self esteem.
• 1:37:16
  Speaker 1: Oh y'all do care about this story? I didn't know.
• 1:37:18
  Speaker 2: No, just reporting first of all, you being if you
• 1:37:23
  Speaker 2: had one lip too.
• 1:37:26
  Speaker 1: No, I don't like how you so judgmental with that
• 1:37:28
  Speaker 1: young lady. Just now, she got one lip, okay. If
• 1:37:31
  Speaker 1: you got one lip, you want more than one lip.
• 1:37:33
  Speaker 2: Okay. Now Glorrilla is being sued by a New Orleans
• 1:37:36
  Speaker 2: rap group over the song Tomorrow. Now. They're saying she
• 1:37:39
  Speaker 2: sampled the song Tomorrow and they didn't get clearance.
• 1:37:42
  Speaker 1: So let's play Tomorrow first classic card and.
• 1:37:48
  Speaker 2: You would think with school for character?
• 1:37:50
  Speaker 1: All right, good as hell? Did they just sent my
• 1:37:55
  Speaker 1: nigga five at taps? Now?
• 1:37:57
  Speaker 2: This is this song. It's called Street of the west Bank,
• 1:38:00
  Speaker 2: and it's saying that it was sampled without permission. I
• 1:38:04
  Speaker 2: heard it the West Bank to something like days away back.
• 1:38:09
  Speaker 1: What year was just recorded? Nineteen hundred and four. That's
• 1:38:12
  Speaker 1: what I'm saying you to say, piano, hey man, somebody
• 1:38:16
  Speaker 1: got some explaining the dude just the fair, you know,
• 1:38:18
  Speaker 1: give him, give him their credit.
• 1:38:19
  Speaker 2: That's all all right now. We reported this story earlier,
• 1:38:22
  Speaker 2: and I want to say it in depth. So we
• 1:38:24
  Speaker 2: reported earlier that Young Miami confirms that she split from Diddy.
• 1:38:27
  Speaker 2: Giving my fan.
• 1:38:30
  Speaker 1: Oh lord, you're telling this story again. You really got
• 1:38:32
  Speaker 1: to get the fan together. The other side of the way,
• 1:38:35
  Speaker 1: other way, by the way, unexcepted, by the way, o
• 1:38:37
  Speaker 1: the way, give me the goddamn give me a fan.
• 1:38:41
  Speaker 1: Come on, man, act like you know, act like you're
• 1:38:42
  Speaker 1: a damn lady for once. Okay, there you go.
• 1:38:46
  Speaker 2: There, all right, all right, so Young Miami, let me
• 1:38:50
  Speaker 2: do it right, Young Miami girl, she talks about her
• 1:38:53
  Speaker 2: split from Diddy. She says, that's not my man. She
• 1:38:56
  Speaker 2: put this comment out well, she was doing her enemy.
• 1:38:58
  Speaker 2: She says, I want everything. I want to be an actor,
• 1:39:02
  Speaker 2: I want to be an artist and an entrepreneur.
• 1:39:05
  Speaker 1: I love it.
• 1:39:06
  Speaker 2: It's just my work ethic that's going to determine my success.
• 1:39:08
  Speaker 1: Get what you deserve, Young Miami.
• 1:39:10
  Speaker 2: I never expected to be an artist. I will say
• 1:39:12
  Speaker 2: that I'm an infested being famous. I always thought maybe
• 1:39:16
  Speaker 2: i'd be somebody's baby mama or wife, girlfriend or something
• 1:39:18
  Speaker 2: like that, or justin in foals. A lot of people
• 1:39:22
  Speaker 2: don't understand it. And they say it takes me being
• 1:39:25
  Speaker 2: like illiterate or not being able to talk properly. I
• 1:39:28
  Speaker 2: always think about it. I'll be like, I'm gonna do it,
• 1:39:32
  Speaker 2: but I never followed through. I can't disguise my voice
• 1:39:35
  Speaker 2: even if I wanted to.
• 1:39:36
  Speaker 1: You don't need to boo be you. You are an original.
• 1:39:38
  Speaker 1: God made you who he made you to be or
• 1:39:40
  Speaker 1: who she made you to be. Okay, you are one
• 1:39:42
  Speaker 1: on one Young Miami, and being Young Miami has got
• 1:39:45
  Speaker 1: you this far. Okay, you deserve it all because every
• 1:39:48
  Speaker 1: day the sun don't shine. But that's just why we
• 1:39:49
  Speaker 1: love the mark. That's right.
• 1:39:51
  Speaker 2: And we're talking about Diddy. We still friends, were still
• 1:39:54
  Speaker 2: good friends or we're single, and that's not my man.
• 1:39:58
  Speaker 2: We had our own situation way shown.
• 1:40:00
  Speaker 1: That's right.
• 1:40:01
  Speaker 2: I'm not gonna put a title on it.
• 1:40:03
  Speaker 1: He touched on my butt.
• 1:40:04
  Speaker 2: We were effing with each other hard, hard, We were
• 1:40:09
  Speaker 2: together every day. At one point, talk to him. He
• 1:40:11
  Speaker 2: supported me.
• 1:40:12
  Speaker 1: I supported him. There you go, I supported him. I
• 1:40:15
  Speaker 1: love it. I love it.
• 1:40:16
  Speaker 2: Let the Internet call it whatever they want to call.
• 1:40:19
  Speaker 2: That's right.
• 1:40:20
  Speaker 1: You one young Miami, you one, you won, you won
• 1:40:23
  Speaker 1: dropping on the kuzban for young Miami. You go ahead, Kresha,
• 1:40:27
  Speaker 1: you do you boo.
• 1:40:28
  Speaker 2: And lastly, I got to talk about this girl the
• 1:40:36
  Speaker 2: Daily Show. I heard about it the week of May fifteenth.
• 1:40:42
  Speaker 2: I heard about this. Guess who hosted I heard about
• 1:40:44
  Speaker 2: this Guess who hosted red? Can you guess who hosts it?
• 1:40:47
  Speaker 1: Now?
• 1:40:47
  Speaker 2: You can't guess?
• 1:40:48
  Speaker 1: Nah?
• 1:40:48
  Speaker 2: Look can you guess who hosts it?
• 1:40:49
  Speaker 7: No idea?
• 1:40:51
  Speaker 2: I'm talking about the girl with the big hips.
• 1:40:53
  Speaker 1: Come on now, gig hips in here noticing things? Noticing it?
• 1:40:59
  Speaker 2: What but the slim waist?
• 1:41:01
  Speaker 1: Oh me more envy. Flattery will get you everywhere. Tell
• 1:41:07
  Speaker 1: me Charlomagaye, drop a bomb for him.
• 1:41:11
  Speaker 8: The girl.
• 1:41:14
  Speaker 2: Charlamagne is gonna be hosting the show?
• 1:41:17
  Speaker 1: Why you laughing? You don't know what I identify as
• 1:41:20
  Speaker 1: you see. That's your problem. That's right. I don't respect people.
• 1:41:22
  Speaker 1: That's twenty three. You don't know what I identify?
• 1:41:25
  Speaker 7: Ask what do identify?
• 1:41:26
  Speaker 1: You? You say it?
• 1:41:29
  Speaker 2: Whatever I want, whatever he wants, I said, the girl
• 1:41:32
  Speaker 2: with the big hips and slip, the big thick slip.
• 1:41:34
  Speaker 1: What have you heard?
• 1:41:35
  Speaker 16: What I said?
• 1:41:36
  Speaker 2: The week of May fifteenth, Charlemagne to God, drop a
• 1:41:38
  Speaker 2: bomb for him?
• 1:41:39
  Speaker 1: Yess I am looking forward to see who I piss
• 1:41:41
  Speaker 1: off that week when I host the Daily Show, I
• 1:41:44
  Speaker 1: need all listeners of the Breakfast Club and brilliant idiots
• 1:41:46
  Speaker 1: are in the NYC area to pull up and get
• 1:41:48
  Speaker 1: tickets to the Daily Show for that week. If you
• 1:41:51
  Speaker 1: plan on watching me to tell me I suck. I
• 1:41:52
  Speaker 1: appreciate that too.
• 1:41:54
  Speaker 2: That's right, So you can tune in again the week
• 1:41:56
  Speaker 2: of May fifteenth and a week airs eleven pm Eastern
• 1:41:59
  Speaker 2: Time on Comedy Central. So again, drop a bomb for
• 1:42:02
  Speaker 2: Charlamagne the God and all one lit people are welcome
• 1:42:06
  Speaker 2: to shut up, shut up? All right, Well that is
• 1:42:10
  Speaker 2: your rumor report. Now when we come back, we got
• 1:42:12
  Speaker 2: the people's choice mixing.
• 1:42:13
  Speaker 5: Let's go wake that ass up Earth in the morning.
• 1:42:16
  Speaker 1: Breakfast Club