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Season 4 - Episode 52 - This method didn’t work for me · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Hey everybody, welcome to the good morning from the Chicken
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  Coop podcast. My name is Kim Johnson and I am
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  a mastermindset coach, creative strategist, and also happened to
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  be a farmer. This is my chicken coop and I
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  come out here every day to record a podcast to teach
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  distinctions, possibilities, new ways of thinking, and just bring
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  some joy into the world. So welcome to the coop and let's
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  start your day off in a fantastic way.
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  Hey everybody, good morning. So today we're talking about
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  Dale Carnegie and his view of how to stop worrying this.
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  I obsess on reading old books and finding old information
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  about things. I just, I don't know, it's a
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  weird thing for me. I love old books.
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  I love the information going back to the originals who wrote
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  it. So here I am going through and
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  looking at the science of worry and what it does for us.
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  Because of course, even though I understand this at a very deep
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  level, I always want to know more about it.
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  I always want to know what other people think about it.
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  And I run into this theory that an engineer came up with to help
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  Dale Carnegie and engineer was name was Willis Carrier.
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  And he comes up with this whole three-step process about
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  banishing your worries. And he says, first you have to
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  analyze the situation before you decide that it's the worst
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  possible outcome. Like you, you want to look at it
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  like, what's the go to the worst possible outcome?
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  First analyze it and really accept the worst case scenario.
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  Like, OK, if this is the worst case scenario, great.
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  What does it actually mean? Figure that part out.
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  Then you go to accepting the worst case scenario.
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  OK, so this is what it is. Put it in perspective.
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  Like if you were going to lose your job, OK, you're going to
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  lose your job, but is that really the worst case scenario?
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  You can always go get another one or look at it from the
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  perspective of OK, this is it. And lastly, you improve the
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  worst case scenario by reframing it as a positive.
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  So you say, OK, well I can always go get another job.
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  I can always find a better job and maybe I'll find one that's
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  even happier. Now, I don't disagree with this
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  this theory at all, and it's been taught to a lot of us over
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  the years. But what happens if you are
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  constantly catastrophizing all of these things and you don't
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  move past the worst case scenario?
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  Well, you know he Dale Carnegie's also famous for
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  saying you know, the the worst case scenarios in life rarely
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  happen. However, you know, understanding
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  them helps you. And again, I, I don't disagree
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  with any of this stuff because it's important to recognize what
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  works for one person does not always work for another, which
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  is why I love to give different points of view here.
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  Where I personally struggle with this is that I would obsess on
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  that catastrophe when I was in my, the height of my dysfunction
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  of anxiety many years ago. I would obsess on that and I
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  would just keep thinking about it, thinking about it and
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  thinking about it and thinking about it.
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  And when I ran across this, this document that I was reading and
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  I picked it up and I was like, I remember this book.
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  And then I remember that I read it so many years ago when I was
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  deep in the weeds with that. And it did nothing for me.
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  It did nothing for me because I just kept thinking about that
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  worst case scenario. And even though I had a path of
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  the better stuff, I didn't want to go there because my brain was
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  too wired in fear. My, my brain was just hunkered
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  down in something else. So I had to figure out other
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  pathways out of it. And again, everyone is different
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  with this. But for me, one of the things
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  with this is, yes, I can think about the worst case scenario,
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  but I no longer choose to allow myself to go into that space at
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  all. Because if I do, I tend to
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  obsess on it. And I can say, oh, I got to be
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  cautious, got to do that, got to do that.
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  For some people, it's OK. For me, it's not.
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  So my strategy is, Nope, we're not going there.
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  We're not even giving that little weed a piece of time to
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  grow. Unacceptable.
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  And I tell myself those words. What I say instead was use the
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  powers that you have. Focus on the creativity, focus
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  on, you know, you're connected. Focus on your imagination and
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  make it use its powers for your greater good.
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  That is a completely different framework.
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  So I want to pull the weeds while they're tiny, even in my
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  garden. I will go out there and I will
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  take out weeds when they're super small as opposed to when
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  they get bigger and thicker because I don't want to do that
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  hard work. It's harder when those weeds are
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  bigger. So yes, this is a possible
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  theory to think about the worst case scenario, but for me, it
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  does not work. I prefer this method.
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  Pull the weeds while they're tiny.
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  Kill the monster while it's small.
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  Don't let yourself go there. Use your imagination for a
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  higher, greater power. I personally believe that
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  imagination and creativity are like some of the greatest
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  magical gifts that we have been given by God in the universe.
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  And if we're not using them in the right way, they, they can be
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  used for evil. But I don't want to use them
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  like that. So turn it around, don't think
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  of it that way, and recognize that, hey, you know what?
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  This is another possibility for me.
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  Kill those monsters and weeds while they're tiny.
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  All right, my friends, I hope you have a blessed day and I
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  hope this was helpful and I will see you all tomorrow.
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  Bye.