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Autism Sensory Survival for Social Events · Aspergers & Autism Podcast [The Aspie World] AuDHD

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  Hey guys, this is my autism century survival for social
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  events guide. This is going to be everything
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  we'll need to help prepare you and get you through those
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  horrible social situations that come awkward and potentially
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  triggering. Let's get into it guys.
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  Welcome back to the ask me world.
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  What is going on? My name is Dan.
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  I have autism ADHD and I make weekly videos all about this
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  stuff because I'm passionate about helping improve the lives
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  of autistic people. So if you want to come along for
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  this journey with me, help empower other people, make sure
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  the social media. Platform I upload 4 videos every
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  day. OK, Stop Autism Century Survival
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  now. You know, there's different
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  times of the year that come up. You know we're approaching the
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  holidays, we're approaching different types of things.
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  There's going to be parties, family gear, togethers, events
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  to go to like school events, plays, outings, festivals, you
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  name it. All the stuff happens over the
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  holidays. Between November and December
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  it's packed. There's all kinds of stuff going
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  on, so I'm here to help you digest and create some kind of
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  landscape of how you can actually do this.
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  I've actually written down 10 things that you can really take
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  into consideration when you're trying to survive these social
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  events, especially for century people, right?
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  So the fitting at the top of a year is plan and prepare.
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  Now, preparation is key. If you can prepare, you know
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  what to do. Like I'm going to take this for
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  me and say what we mean. I'm going to make sure that I've
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  got backup food if I need to eat in case the food there I don't
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  agree with or something like that.
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  You've got a taxi book or you've got friends to take you home.
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  You know exactly what you're going to do in that situation.
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  If you plan ahead and you prepare for some eventualities
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  like I call it the ABC list. So you have plan A, Plan B, and
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  plan C, you know always one of those is going to work.
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  If all of those fail, then I'm sorry, you can come back and
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  kick my butt on this video. But typically if plan A fails,
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  Plan B will always work and Plan B fails and plus he will be the
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  one you take. Now, the next one is using
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  calming techniques. When you're in a social
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  situation, when you're in a crowded social event, it's
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  always difficult to kind of keep your calm.
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  I get super anxious about everything.
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  But when you're in a social event like that, it's hard to
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  maintain your stability. So I would say using calming
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  techniques, not my best one, is to breathe in, hold your breath
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  and breathe out. If you can do that five times,
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  you win every time. And I'm telling you now, no
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  matter where you are, what you're doing, if you could just
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  hold your breath for a minute and then breathe out just at
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  least three times, what I'd say to do five times, you will
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  instantly carry yourself down and really reduce a lot of that
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  anxiety. So #4 is kind of like a no brain
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  there. I love this one, but it's
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  dressing comfortably when I go anywhere, I dress for comfort
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  and ease of me. I don't dress to oppress anybody
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  because I don't care what I look like to anybody.
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  I just want to be able to survive that situation.
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  So if I I'm going to a party or something, if I'm going on a
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  plane, I'll just dress in pajamas.
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  I don't care because like I want to be comfortable.
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  I don't want to be sensory trigger by wearing jeans and I
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  don't want to wear jeans or if I'm wearing like a tuxedo, like
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  no way, no way, Jose. If I go to weddings, I'm wearing
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  trainers. I don't have a tie on, you know,
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  I'm wearing a baseball cap. Like I have to be super, super
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  comfy to be able to relax and survive the situation.
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  And so should you, You come first and you're #1 make sure
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  you do that. But these #5 is remembering to
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  bring headphones or Earpods. You know, headphones are
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  amazing. I love noise casting headphones.
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  These are the Apple ones, but you can get a whole bunch of
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  ones. I use the Bose ones for years
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  and years. And you can also get the small
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  Airpod ones a bit more discreet, like the small Apple ear ear
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  ones. They're amazing because they got
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  like a noise cancellation feature, which is just
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  fantastic. So always remember to bring
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  headphones with you because if it's getting too loud, just put
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  The number six is planning for breaks, making sure you take
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  small interval breaks. That means going outside the
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  party, getting out to fresh air, getting out to a quiet room.
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  It could even just be going to the bathroom for a break.
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  It's just giving yourself a sensory break or a buffer of
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  sensory deregulation. So you can just kind of
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  decompress a bit and then go back to the chaos.
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  It's like if you break it up like that, things become way
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  more manageable and you're not getting overloaded the whole
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  time. You have a decompression tire
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  and you can recuperate as and when you feel like it.
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  Very interesting. OK, so #7 is visual schedules,
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  if you're, you know, going to an event and there's a lot of
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  things to do, like sometimes I work with Google and YouTube and
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  MIT and stuff like that and other types of charities.
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  I will go to an event and I'll be like dinner and then a
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  presentation and then something else.
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  And then we'll have to have speeches and there's a lot of
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  stuff going on and I get really confused with things like that.
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  So if I write it down and draw it down and make it more visual,
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  then I have a visual planet, a visual expectation of what's
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  going to happen on that date. I'm either you just get emojis
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  or gifts and I just put them into a Word document.
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  I just poop, poop, poop or go to Google Docs, just put them in
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  there and say time, you know, this is what's happening.
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  Picture of dinner, you know, that makes everything way more
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  knowledgeable because I can see what's happening.
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  I have a visual representation of what I expect to happen.
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  And that's so cool. OK, so #8 is practicing social
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  scripts now, scripting is really interesting because I use this a
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  lot. Before I go anywhere, before I
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  do anything, I go over and over and over in my head what I want
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  to sound like. How do I want to come across?
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  Am I going to sound like I'm saying what I want to say?
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  And any way to do this comfortably is to make sure that
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  you know in your head what you're going to do in a social
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  situation. Hey, I'm done, this is what I
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  do. Nice to meet you.
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  OK, We've all see the next people.
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  This whole kind of like idea of socializing in parties is kind
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  of just a small thing of getting to know people on networking and
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  maybe just relaxing. So I would always practice
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  social scripts. Maybe we have two.
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  We have one follow one in follow.
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  What I mean by that is one for like people who you know you
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  want to be friends with and people who you want to maybe I
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  don't know, partner up with or network with.
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  You're very important and it's great.
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  And also it's kind of like a business building tip as well.
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  If you're an entrepreneur or a self-employed person #9 there's
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  a no brainer which is bringing a support person with you.
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  Now, I don't really go anywhere alone.
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  I always have an assistant with me because it's really good to
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  have someone to kind of bounce ideas off or talk to.
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  If you're kind of getting a bit freaked out or you need to do
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  something, you should refer to them and say, hey dude, help me
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  out. I need some help because I'm
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  feeling like this A lot of people are amazing.
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  Always ask a family or friend to come with you and you just wait.
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  It's super awesome. Last, but at no means least make
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  sure to focus on having fun, enjoy yourself, relax.
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  This is your time to kind of hang out, see people, maybe make
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  new friends. It's always important to have
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  the bigger picture in line and the bigger picture is that just
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  to enjoy yourself. This is your wife.
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  Enjoy it guys, if you think this is awesome, please give it a
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  read every single one. If you want to tell me
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  something, all right, see you in the next video guys.