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A Perfect Match In Paradise with Jess Edwards and Spencer Conley · The Ben and Ashley I Almost Famous Podcast

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  Speaker 1: Before I get into the paradise chat, I just want
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  Speaker 1: to give a shout out to our hotel. We're staying
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  Speaker 1: at the Porto Fino Hotel and Marina. At the Portofino
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  Speaker 1: Hotel and Marina and Redondo Beach, every moment comes with
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  Speaker 1: a view from your elegant guest room. Gaze across the
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  Speaker 1: Pacific and watch the boats drift by at Beleen Kitchen,
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  Speaker 1: dying steps from the marina, and savor coastal inspired Soacao
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  Speaker 1: cuisine for a touch of adventure. Dockside Adventure Center offers kayaks, paddleboards,
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  Speaker 1: and complimentary bikes for a scenic coastal ride. Then return
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  Speaker 1: to the hotel's living room, where the Portofino poor self
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  Speaker 1: served tapwall invites you to unwine and soak in a
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  Speaker 1: breath taking coastal sunset. Discover your seaside escape at the
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  Speaker 1: Porto Fino Hotel and Marina. Now let's get back to
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  Speaker 1: our interview.
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  Speaker 2: This is the Ben and Ashley I Almost Famous podcast
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  Speaker 2: with iHeartRadio.
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  Speaker 1: Everybody's been here with the Almost Fi podcast. We have
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  Speaker 1: one of the very successful couples from pair, Jess and
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  Speaker 1: Spencer with us today. You just got off the reunion show.
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  Speaker 1: I was not worried about Green Show for you too,
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  Speaker 1: Were you worried about it for other people?
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  Speaker 3: Oh?
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  Speaker 4: Definitely.
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  Speaker 5: I honestly expected a little bit more chaos than we got.
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  Speaker 5: I got anxiety hives a few times, so hopefully you
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  Speaker 5: can't see that when they when they release the video footage.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah.
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  Speaker 3: I was proud of everyone for keeping it way more
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  Speaker 3: tame than I thought.
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  Speaker 1: There were moments, there were moments I think it could
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  Speaker 1: have really spiraled. Here's one of my favorite parts of
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  Speaker 1: the season that never got talked about, and it happened
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  Speaker 1: with you, Spencer, and it includes drama.
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  Speaker 3: Me and drama.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, the I think whatever they're calling the judges, what
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  Speaker 1: did they call the judges that came.
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  Speaker 4: The Parliament of Paradise.
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  Speaker 1: They come out and Sean and Alicia start doing their talk,
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  Speaker 1: and they flashed to the current contestants and it shows
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  Speaker 1: Spencer kind of in the back of the TV and
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  Speaker 1: you're standing there looking like you want to shrivel up
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  Speaker 1: into a ball and disappear because it's so awkward.
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  Speaker 3: I mean, as soon as we got to the point
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  Speaker 3: of airing out people's personal details that weren't part of
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  Speaker 3: the season. Yeah, I was cringing from the inside out.
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  Speaker 3: I was like, oh God, this is so many, Like
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  Speaker 3: can I just go hang out with my friends? Because
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  Speaker 3: when they all showed up, I was actually.
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  Speaker 5: So we were so excited, and then it was like, well,
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  Speaker 5: now we're plummeting going down, and I was like.
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  Speaker 3: Can we just excess stage righte? And can we can
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  Speaker 3: we go hang out somewhere else? We're not gonna show
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  Speaker 3: us anyway, So it's like the.
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  Speaker 1: And I do I want to be in all sincerity,
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  Speaker 1: congratulations to the two of you. I mean thank I
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  Speaker 1: just got off recording with Wells and we were talking
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  Speaker 1: about you two as a couple. And I think one
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  Speaker 1: of the the markers for a successful season of Paradise
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  Speaker 1: or Bachelor or Bachelorette should be and always has been
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  Speaker 1: the couples that come out of it. And I think
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  Speaker 1: this season, and if that is our marker of success,
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  Speaker 1: has been one of the most successful seasons we've ever
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  Speaker 1: had because the two of you, uh just seemed to work.
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  Speaker 1: And I will say this Paradise tried to make it
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  Speaker 1: look like you two.
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  Speaker 4: Weren't gonna work.
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  Speaker 1: I know it was a little bit really hard hard,
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  Speaker 1: and I think I think when you walked up the stairs.
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  Speaker 1: I think so many of us felt emotional because the
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  Speaker 1: two we could see it that your connection was real.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah, there was. Honestly, there was no question for me
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  Speaker 5: on whether I was choosing love or money. I just like,
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  Speaker 5: I've never felt the way that I feel about him
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  Speaker 5: with anyone, and like, I just think that that's a
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  Speaker 5: once in a lifetime thing for most people, and there's
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  Speaker 5: no way that I could I could choose money over
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  Speaker 5: what what we found.
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  Speaker 4: It was never a question then, never a question.
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  Speaker 3: Jesse and I started laughing when he offered me the money. Yeah,
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  Speaker 3: it wasn't a question for me.
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  Speaker 1: The behind the scene spencer, for you standing there in
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  Speaker 1: that moment, I'm, you know, just being on the show previously,
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  Speaker 1: I know they're really good at makings you get inside
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  Speaker 1: your own head. And I don't think it's manipulative. I
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  Speaker 1: think it's sometimes really fun if you look back on it.
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  Speaker 1: I'm assuming you were standing there waiting for her to
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  Speaker 1: go up the stairs for a while.
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  Speaker 3: I was there for a while. Yeah, I was like,
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  Speaker 3: have they got the shot they need already? Because I
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  Speaker 3: mean I was so confident that she was going to
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  Speaker 3: be coming up those steps that if she hadn't. I
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  Speaker 3: had way bigger issues than her not showing up, because
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  Speaker 3: my judgment of everything and anything is so out out
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  Speaker 3: of line and I need to like reassess my life
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  Speaker 3: as a whole. So I was beyond confident that she
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  Speaker 3: would show up. They kept me up there for a while, though.
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  Speaker 3: Did you ever start to doubt it? No. I thought
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  Speaker 3: they were like trying to get another shot. Maybe they
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  Speaker 3: need a different angle, Maybe they need me to look
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  Speaker 3: down at the money. Like I was like, I'll work
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  Speaker 3: with you all, let me know, let me know what
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  Speaker 3: you need. I'm nervous here. I'm proposing soon.
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  Speaker 4: So oh my goodness.
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  Speaker 1: I mean that moment of a proposal, knowing the situation
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  Speaker 1: that was in front of you. We had seen as
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  Speaker 1: viewers the morning where you had mentioned, hey, today's day,
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  Speaker 1: we might get engaged or we could be become engaged,
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  Speaker 1: and we had seen teasers that you were in your
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  Speaker 1: own head about it. Yeah, and then that was solidified.
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  Speaker 4: As you laid in bed and went.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah, okay, so let me speak on that. I am
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  Speaker 5: the worst morning person in the entire world. I don't
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  Speaker 5: speak until I've been up for at least like an
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  Speaker 5: hour and a half, Like he's he learned that very nonverbal.
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  Speaker 3: I'm nonverbal.
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  Speaker 5: Honestly, we we thought we started dying laughing when we
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  Speaker 5: saw that part of the episode because we're like that
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  Speaker 5: just that checks so much, because I'm just like, I'm
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  Speaker 5: a different person from the hours of like seven am
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  Speaker 5: until around like ten am.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, that's a ten am.
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  Speaker 3: I'm like my normal I'm like good.
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  Speaker 5: And so it was honestly, like obviously because we knew
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  Speaker 5: the conversations we had had the night before. He got
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  Speaker 5: to speak with my both my parents, I got to
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  Speaker 5: call my parents. We were in a really good place.
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  Speaker 5: We were confident about the decision that we were making
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  Speaker 5: the next day.
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  Speaker 3: And we discussed the engagement at that point.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah, watching that clip, we were it was so funny
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  Speaker 5: to us. We were like, oh my god, that's just
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  Speaker 5: that's so funny that they used me half asleep, like
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  Speaker 5: my non morning person self.
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  Speaker 4: But she loved it. They're like, this is perfect. Don't
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  Speaker 4: give her coffee. We have no coffee this morning.
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  Speaker 5: Seriously, I was the last person going to walk out
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  Speaker 5: in the main area every.
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  Speaker 3: Morning, sitting there with her breakfast travels. I already got
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  Speaker 3: done with a five mile runs.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, show like three.
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  Speaker 5: Times, and I'm just like finally getting up.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, you'll appreciate that in ridge one day, because you
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  Speaker 1: get your morning time, you get your own time, You
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  Speaker 1: get to do what you gotta do. You can you
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  Speaker 1: can go run, you can do yours, you can read, write,
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  Speaker 1: and then all of a sudden she wakes up to
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  Speaker 1: start half your day.
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  Speaker 3: And looking like this takes time. So I'm understanding, you know,
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  Speaker 3: I get it. Rome wasn't built in a day.
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  Speaker 1: dot com. It's interesting too to me how different people's
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  Speaker 1: experiences on Paradise are for the two of you. And
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  Speaker 1: correct me if I'm wrong here. I'm just a viewer
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  Speaker 1: and a fan. You walk through Paradise fairly unscathed. You
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  Speaker 1: had a really beautiful love story it, you know, was
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  Speaker 1: always kind of adding in depth. You were great in competitions,
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  Speaker 1: You stayed out of the drama, you watch from the sidelines.
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  Speaker 1: You just had this like wonderful vacation. And others also
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  Speaker 1: went like and had a really rough experience right alongside
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  Speaker 1: of you, same house, same bar, samepool, same beach, really
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  Speaker 1: rough experience for somebody like the two of you who
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  Speaker 1: come out of this engagement and love and can look
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  Speaker 1: back with a smile on your face.
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  Speaker 4: What is it like also sitting alongside of.
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  Speaker 1: People today going we lived in the same house and
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  Speaker 1: you're it was not the same for us.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah, honestly, I have to say I'm just said thinking
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  Speaker 5: he's such a good human in general. I just didn't
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  Speaker 5: have to worry about his intentions on anything. So I'm
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  Speaker 5: very thankful. And I mean I could have had I
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  Speaker 5: very well could have had one of the experience that
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  Speaker 5: some of the other people had, but I had this guy,
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  Speaker 5: and he's just the best. And also I will say
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  Speaker 5: I think that this go round, I really wanted people
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  Speaker 5: to see the real me. I didn't want to get
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  Speaker 5: involved in all the other stuff. But I will say
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  Speaker 5: it was surprising to see, like all the conversations that
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  Speaker 5: are going on while we were just focused on each other,
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  Speaker 5: Like we just literally kept our focus on building our relationship.
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  Speaker 5: And that's at the end of the day why we
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  Speaker 5: didn't face those hurdles as much.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, and I think at the end of the day
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  Speaker 3: we both had a mutual understanding that whatever we were
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  Speaker 3: deciding to do was for what we viewed as the
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  Speaker 3: betterment of us as a couple. And there's never been
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  Speaker 3: anything just has been upset about that. I've been sitting
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  Speaker 3: there wondering, Hey, this is so outline, Like where did
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  Speaker 3: that come from. She's a very rational, reasonable person, and
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  Speaker 3: of course, you know, emotions can grab a hold sometimes,
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  Speaker 3: but at the end of the day, everything that she does,
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  Speaker 3: I can, while I might not agree with everything, step
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  Speaker 3: back and be like look at it and say, I
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  Speaker 3: understand where that's coming from. And when you come from
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  Speaker 3: that place, I think you can work on it together
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  Speaker 3: to get to a place of mutual understanding. And I
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  Speaker 3: think that, like, different relationships move at different paces, and
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  Speaker 3: you run into obstacles at different times within the relationship,
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  Speaker 3: and that's so unique to the people that are in
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  Speaker 3: the relationship. And Paradise was honestly the reason I was
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  Speaker 3: fighting so hard to be able to stay and the
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  Speaker 3: reason that when Sean said her name, I was like,
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  Speaker 3: oh dude, you're done. Like I don't care how strong
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  Speaker 3: your relationship is. I don't care about anything, because every
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  Speaker 3: single day we had in Paradise it was like a week.
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  Speaker 3: It was like a week the real Yeah, like legitimately
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  Speaker 3: of when else are we going to have this time
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  Speaker 3: with no phones, no jobs, no like, no work calling us,
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  Speaker 3: no family burden, no anything like. Our whole job was
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  Speaker 3: to get to know each other. And I was fighting
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  Speaker 3: tooth and nail for every single day that I could
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  Speaker 3: be there with her to grow our relation relationship at
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  Speaker 3: this expedited rate and just get to know more about
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  Speaker 3: her in this awesome, unique scenario that we found ourselves in.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah. I think Wells described you as like what a
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  Speaker 1: golden retriever?
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, people have said that.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, like a very like golden retriever meets clerk Kent.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah that's a good And I also saw Wells with
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  Speaker 3: royalties for that.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, I also saw I'm just thinking about this now.
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  Speaker 1: I think during the season I got a clip sent
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  Speaker 1: to me of maybe is it your mom? That also
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  Speaker 1: is like I can't believe this is my son, and
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  Speaker 1: it's she's so proud of you, which is she's really
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  Speaker 1: proud of you right now? So, how did I mean
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  Speaker 1: your families? You haven't met her family yet, right.
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  Speaker 3: So I have talked to both of her parents facetimed, Okay.
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  Speaker 5: Because I have some family in California. So he's met
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  Speaker 5: my aunt who I'm super close with, and my two
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  Speaker 5: cousins that are like my little brothers and my gigi.
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  Speaker 5: But my parents he has only met on FaceTime.
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  Speaker 3: I haven't met mamma, have met mamma or mom and dad.
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  Speaker 1: So you're getting ready to fly out from here to
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  Speaker 1: go meet mamma and your mom and dad.
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  Speaker 5: But you have met his Yeah, I've met all of
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  Speaker 5: his He has three brothers and I met all of them.
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  Speaker 5: I met his mom and dad, I've met his grandparents.
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  Speaker 5: I met his best friends, and yeah, they're.
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  Speaker 1: Has been like for like you And what's the feedback
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  Speaker 1: that you've gotten on Jazz?
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  Speaker 3: So so one thing about me and my brothers and
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  Speaker 3: my friends, we're all kind of weird.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah.
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  Speaker 3: So when I was going into Paradise, I was like, man,
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  Speaker 3: the reason I went into it thinking that, you know,
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  Speaker 3: an engagement probably won't come of this is there's qualities
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  Speaker 3: that I'm looking for in my future wife. And then
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  Speaker 3: when you pile on top of that, you have to
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  Speaker 3: be able to tolerate a little bit of the weird
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  Speaker 3: and give a little bit of it back. And our
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  Speaker 3: first competition, our first conversation. She told me about the
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  Speaker 3: biscuit making competition she won in fifth grade, and when
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  Speaker 3: she started diving, that's why I was like, Oh, she's perfect.
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  Speaker 5: She's so weird, that's crazy.
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  Speaker 4: That's a that's a beautiful, beautiful story.
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  Speaker 3: So she's a winner.
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  Speaker 1: I mean, I think you said during the reunion that
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  Speaker 1: your family has fully adopted her in and that's such
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  Speaker 1: a great thing. People you had mentioned it that obviously
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  Speaker 1: Paradise was fast and it is expedited.
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  Speaker 4: In a day there does feel like a week and
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  Speaker 4: it is.
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  Speaker 1: But the cool part it is, I do believe you
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  Speaker 1: can find love there because I think if you had
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  Speaker 1: asked me a week and to meet my wife, would
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  Speaker 1: you marry her?
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  Speaker 4: I'd say yeah tomorrow, Like you just know when you
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  Speaker 4: know you know?
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, when you know you know? And do you feel
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  Speaker 1: today more confident than ever that you know.
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  Speaker 3: Absolutely one percent? It's like you said, it's that when
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  Speaker 3: you know you know feeling And I don't know if
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  Speaker 3: it's love at first sight. I know so much goes
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  Speaker 3: into love, so it might not be that. But from
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  Speaker 3: our first conversation, she just felt like home. Yeah, and
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  Speaker 3: she was like so welcoming. And it's like this familiar
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  Speaker 3: familiarity with a person that like, I don't know where
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  Speaker 3: it came from. I don't know why I feel like
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  Speaker 3: I know you. I don't, but I do know that
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  Speaker 3: you're the only person I want to talk to and
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  Speaker 3: I want to sit here for hours just getting to
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  Speaker 3: know everything about you. Unprompted, we were talking about all
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  Speaker 3: of our trauma and have happened in our life that's
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  Speaker 3: like made us the people that we are today. And
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  Speaker 3: that was like five hours into a conversation where we
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  Speaker 3: were just sitting there talking and I don't know, she
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  Speaker 3: just makes me so comfortable and I love being around her.
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  Speaker 3: She's my absolute best friend. I don't care if we're
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  Speaker 3: sitting in bed rotting watching Vampire Diary. Yeah yeah, or
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  Speaker 3: if we're going to the nicest dinner, if we're in
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  Speaker 3: Costa Rica on the beach, like, I don't care what
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  Speaker 3: it is, but I want her there with me. And
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  Speaker 3: it's like, yeah, when you know, you know, and.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah.
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  Speaker 1: It's a really incredible thing. And for anybody out there,
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  Speaker 1: any listeners, any fans that say, can the Bachelor really work?
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  Speaker 1: Can Bachelor in Paradise really work? I think you two
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  Speaker 1: again are an incredible example of that.
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  Speaker 3: Now.
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  Speaker 1: I do wanna as we close up here, bring up
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  Speaker 1: something that was not discussed really on the show, but
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  Speaker 1: was written into us. Actually there's a rumor out there.
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  Speaker 1: Maybe it was discussing the show and I just missed it,
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  Speaker 1: but there's a rumor out there that you slid into
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  Speaker 1: his DMS before this show started.
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  Speaker 4: Is that true?
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  Speaker 3: I did.
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  Speaker 5: I think the first message that I sent him was
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  Speaker 5: about his dog. I was like, hey, I was like, oh,
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  Speaker 5: she's such a pretty girl. Will you give her a
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  Speaker 5: boop for me? Like a boop on the nose, cute boop, Yeah,
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  Speaker 5: cute boop. And he's like, oh, yeah, I'll do that
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  Speaker 5: for her right now. And I go, oh, and tell
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  Speaker 5: her that she's beautiful, and I think he said something like, oh,
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  Speaker 5: she'll love that coming from you, and I was like,
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  Speaker 5: and that was like, that was literally it. I think
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  Speaker 5: like maybe he I remember I made muffins one time
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  Speaker 5: and he set up and was like those look delicious.
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  Speaker 3: Just stupid? Wait you remember that? Funny? Yeah? Well, and
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  Speaker 3: it's I know for me. So I had only met
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  Speaker 3: two people from two women from the Bachelor universe in person,
• 17:51
  Speaker 3: and that was at our tell all. And so of
• 17:54
  Speaker 3: course you like follow people, you'll dem with people, like
• 17:57
  Speaker 3: react to a story whatever. We all have this weird
• 18:00
  Speaker 3: mutual shared experience. But I wanted to make sure that
• 18:04
  Speaker 3: I went into Paradise without too many preconceived notions about anyone.
• 18:08
  Speaker 3: I know, Thank God, I know that in my edit
• 18:13
  Speaker 3: or how I was portrayed on the show, I look
• 18:16
  Speaker 3: super boring, and I'm like, I know for a fact,
• 18:18
  Speaker 3: like I was the loudest person there. I was yapp
• 18:20
  Speaker 3: and all the time like everything. And you know, I
• 18:23
  Speaker 3: had talked to people that work at ABIES who are
• 18:26
  Speaker 3: close friends now and they're like, you, honestly just have
• 18:28
  Speaker 3: to go there. Give everyone a fair go at it.
• 18:31
  Speaker 3: So I was just living my life in Dallas, and
• 18:35
  Speaker 3: as soon as anything the prospect of being able to
• 18:38
  Speaker 3: go to Paradise came up, I was like, okay, we'll
• 18:40
  Speaker 3: just like go in blank slate. Yeah.
• 18:43
  Speaker 5: It's funny to see the comments though, Like I've seen
• 18:45
  Speaker 5: a few of people being like, oh, they definitely talked before.
• 18:48
  Speaker 4: They definitely need each other.
• 18:49
  Speaker 3: They have each other's numbers. I had to get our
• 18:52
  Speaker 3: number after we're in the hotel room. After I'm like,
• 18:55
  Speaker 3: so I kind of need your numbers.
• 18:58
  Speaker 4: At least we knew him the government name.
• 19:05
  Speaker 1: I mean, I think I think that's just a good tidbit.
• 19:08
  Speaker 1: But you didn't know, like when she walked in then
• 19:11
  Speaker 1: and you saw her there, were you like, Okay, I
• 19:13
  Speaker 1: kept my mind open for five minutes and now I
• 19:15
  Speaker 1: see her.
• 19:16
  Speaker 3: So it was like her energy and what she brought
• 19:20
  Speaker 3: walking into a room only so much can be conveyed
• 19:23
  Speaker 3: over social media and stories and photos or whatever.
• 19:28
  Speaker 4: It was.
• 19:28
  Speaker 3: The she was like a magnet for me. She walked out,
• 19:32
  Speaker 3: I was like, I need to go talk to her.
• 19:36
  Speaker 5: See, I already wanted to talk to him because I
• 19:37
  Speaker 5: thought he was cute.
• 19:38
  Speaker 4: I think he's cute, and I.
• 19:41
  Speaker 3: Mean she's she's beautiful, and obviously that's like you need
• 19:46
  Speaker 3: that sort of attraction and relationship. But for me, it's
• 19:50
  Speaker 3: so much beyond that. Yeah, and it was just me
• 19:55
  Speaker 3: and her person. I was like, man, I wish I
• 19:56
  Speaker 3: would have known you were this cool. We could have
• 19:58
  Speaker 3: just like we could come on.
• 20:01
  Speaker 4: Yeah, but you got some more money out of it.
• 20:03
  Speaker 3: They got a lot bit moneyla.
• 20:07
  Speaker 1: Final question for you. You know there were conversations that
• 20:10
  Speaker 1: were happening about you two moving in together, who would
• 20:13
  Speaker 1: be moving where and when and how? And also kind
• 20:16
  Speaker 1: of family if you're going to be starting a family.
• 20:19
  Speaker 1: I think Spencer was very excited about starting a family.
• 20:21
  Speaker 1: I have a seven month old daughter. I will tell
• 20:24
  Speaker 1: you it is amazing. I would recommend it to anybody
• 20:29
  Speaker 1: on Sleep right now doing great.
• 20:32
  Speaker 3: It is.
• 20:33
  Speaker 1: It is nothing but a blessing. So catch us up now.
• 20:37
  Speaker 1: Shows done airing we know you're engaged.
• 20:39
  Speaker 4: What's next?
• 20:40
  Speaker 5: So we went back and forth the entire time since
• 20:44
  Speaker 5: filming wrapped, and we talked about San Diego, we talked
• 20:48
  Speaker 5: about Dallas, we talked about maybe a new city, and
• 20:51
  Speaker 5: I think for our future right now, Dallas just makes
• 20:53
  Speaker 5: the most sense. I'm really excited, you know, I haven't
• 20:57
  Speaker 5: been able to do much there because we have to
• 20:59
  Speaker 5: stay inside, but I'm really excited to see the city more.
• 21:04
  Speaker 5: And it's a lot cheaper than California.
• 21:06
  Speaker 1: So so.
• 21:08
  Speaker 5: We did the sign on Dallas, and I'm going to
• 21:11
  Speaker 5: be moving to Dallas at the first of the year
• 21:14
  Speaker 5: when his lease is up.
• 21:15
  Speaker 3: Yeah, and then with everything else, we're taking a step
• 21:18
  Speaker 3: we haven't been on date yet, Like, let's let's go
• 21:21
  Speaker 3: on a date. Let's be able to move in together,
• 21:24
  Speaker 3: get our footing, and then kind of take things from me.
• 21:27
  Speaker 1: Is that your honest opinion, Spencer? Are you still kind
• 21:29
  Speaker 1: of like, hey, let's get this thing.
• 21:30
  Speaker 3: I mean, I would love to be able to I
• 21:33
  Speaker 3: think that the thing I will excel most at in
• 21:37
  Speaker 3: life as being a father, and I can't wait for that.
• 21:39
  Speaker 3: But I also know that I want her to be
• 21:42
  Speaker 3: that person, and I want her to be comfortable and
• 21:44
  Speaker 3: be on board. So just like with the move as well,
• 21:47
  Speaker 3: I was like, hey, let's like, let's weigh all of
• 21:50
  Speaker 3: our options.
• 21:51
  Speaker 5: Yeah, he's been so patient with just like because I
• 21:53
  Speaker 5: think everyone saw me doubting quite a bit, you know.
• 21:57
  Speaker 5: That was kind of like the devil on my shoulder, Like, hey, girl,
• 22:00
  Speaker 5: you did this once before, it didn't work out. See
• 22:02
  Speaker 5: where that got ya. But just like trusting my gut
• 22:05
  Speaker 5: and knowing that I have such an amazing partner and like,
• 22:08
  Speaker 5: this is exciting and this is a good thing, and
• 22:11
  Speaker 5: just let it be what it is and stop worrying
• 22:13
  Speaker 5: about your past failures or past things that have happened.
• 22:19
  Speaker 5: And yeah, so we're we're with all that being said,
• 22:22
  Speaker 5: we are excited for the future. We don't want to
• 22:25
  Speaker 5: put timelines on anything. I think that we both get
• 22:27
  Speaker 5: really excited though, and you can see that with him.
• 22:30
  Speaker 5: He's very vocal about it, and I am as well too.
• 22:32
  Speaker 5: I don't want anyone out there to think like I'm like, whoa, buddy,
• 22:36
  Speaker 5: calm down, because I get really excited too. It's just
• 22:39
  Speaker 5: realistically well, it's also like she's twenty six.
• 22:44
  Speaker 3: Yeah, I was saying kids in the next two years,
• 22:47
  Speaker 3: which would make her twenty eight, and she says she
• 22:49
  Speaker 3: wanted kids before thirty. So the delta there, it's not insane,
• 22:53
  Speaker 3: it's not crazy.
• 22:54
  Speaker 4: You're in the same.
• 22:55
  Speaker 3: Yeah, it's the same. Like I can give her take
• 22:57
  Speaker 3: a couple of years, honey, exactly.
• 22:59
  Speaker 1: It's not to give unsolicited advice. But here's my advice.
• 23:03
  Speaker 1: Let it be good. It is good, it seems good.
• 23:06
  Speaker 1: Just let it be good. And if it wasn't good,
• 23:08
  Speaker 1: somebody would tell you, and they haven't yet, and I
• 23:11
  Speaker 1: won't tell you.
• 23:12
  Speaker 4: This has been the Almost Famous podcast.
• 23:14
  Speaker 1: We have an incredible couple from Paradise that we will
• 23:17
  Speaker 1: all celebrate and we are celebrating. Congratulations again on the
• 23:20
  Speaker 1: engagement and also the one hundred and some thousand dollars
• 23:22
  Speaker 1: that you walk away away. That's pretty exciting. Justin Spencer,
• 23:27
  Speaker 1: thank you for joining us.
• 23:31
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• 23:34
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