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When a narcissist starts crying when you leave them · The Mental Healness Podcast

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  What is going on, beautiful people.
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  Today we're going to be talking about the mind of a narcissist.
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  When they start crying, when you want to leave them, or when you
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  actually leaving them. If you're new here, my name is
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  Lee Hammock. I'm a self aware narcissist and
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  welcome to another episode of The Narcissist Code.
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  Go and hit the subscribe button already out if you haven't.
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  But yes, when a narcissist, a narcissist, a narcissist starts
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  Boo Hoo, crying when you are leaving them, when you're when
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  you're on your way out the door and they just lose their minds.
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  They lose the they lose control of their tear ducts, their,
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  their, their gastric, whatever they, you know, they, they start
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  throwing up, crying, begging, pleading, farting everywhere.
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  What's going on inside the mind of a narcissist when they do
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  that? Like if you are not ready if,
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  what if a narcissist is not ready for you to leave and you
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  actually do leave them, right? Let's say you do decide to dip
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  out on them and bounce and they're not ready for it.
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  They can lose their minds because they narcissistic
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  people, right? Toxic people, most of them.
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  Most of us hate being by ourselves.
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  We hate being alone. Like one of a narcissist's
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  biggest fears is aloneness. Like being alone by ourselves is
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  scary as hell, you know, It just is one of those things that is
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  extremely scary as hell for us. So we hate it.
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  Of course, you know we hate when we are by ourselves.
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  So the tears that are coming out are not for the person that's
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  leaving us. They are for they are for us.
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  They are for us. If you catch us cheating, if you
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  catch us lying or manipulating in some way, shape or form and
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  we start boohoo crying, it's not because we hurt you.
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  I can't believe I hurt you like that.
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  This you just discovered the cheating.
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  They might have been cheating for years, years, and you just
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  discovered it and now they boohoo crying because you found
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  out and you want to leave. They're not crying because they
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  hurt you. They're crying.
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  The tears are running the flatulence.
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  The flatulence is flagellating because they or their life is
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  about to implode. Their life is about to change
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  dramatically and they didn't want the life to change.
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  So they're Boo Hoo crying, begging and pleading for you to
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  stay with them because they're not.
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  They don't want to be by themselves.
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  They really don't. They hate it.
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  It's like the the thought of you leaving.
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  Not only are they crying because you're leaving and they don't
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  have to be by themselves, the thought of you leaving means
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  they have to think and consider you being with someone else.
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  That thought right there be tearing a lot of narcissists up.
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  It really do. That thought right there tears a
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  lot of narcissists to pieces. Like the thought of you being
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  with someone else, clapping cheeks, raising the family,
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  experiencing this happiness that you've been giving me, all the
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  things that you've been giving me, that I've probably been
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  taken for granted, that I probably just got used to and
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  expected them from you. All this stuff is going through
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  my head about you doing this for someone else.
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  So I'm crying because I'm going to be mad at you, at the other
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  person, and I'm going to be. Not very rarely are they going
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  to be mad at themselves. Y'all you know, very rarely.
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  Or is the narcissist or toxic person going to be mad at
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  themselves? They'll they might hit
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  themselves in the head or just start crying like.
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  I I don't want to be. I don't want to be here anymore.
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  Wait, wait, wait. Tears are flowing.
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  They're crying because you are leaving and they're going to be
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  by themselves. They got to deal with the
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  consequences of their actions. The consequences you leave when
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  you leave out the door. Like when you're leaving out the
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  door with your stuff packed right and they're boohoo crying
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  they are expecting as soon as you shut the door on your way
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  out, or you say you kick them out or whatever it is.
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  The consequences of their actions show up.
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  Either to pick them up in the Uber if you kick them out or
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  they knock on the door if you leave.
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  Like soon as you close the door, the door behind you when you're
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  leaving. Is this you, baby?
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  Baby. Come on in.
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  No, it ain't. It ain't your baby, bro.
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  It's me. The consequences of your action.
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  Go ahead and open the door real quick.
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  Got to talk to you about. Got to talk to you about
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  something real quick. Go ahead and open the door real
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  quick. I don't want you to come here.
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  I want my baby back. You see what I'm saying?
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  It's the the consequences of their the consequences of their
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  actions are knocking on the door, right?
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  It just is. It's one of those things that's
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  going to continuously happen to people.
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  You know what I mean? Narcissistic people, toxic
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  people don't want to face the consequences of, of their
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  actions. They don't want these, these
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  thoughts of you being with someone else.
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  They don't want this type of stuff to come true.
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  So they're going to fight it. They're going to fight.
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  They're going to try to fight you leaving them, even though
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  it's their fault that you're leaving, even though it's their
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  fault that you're leaving, they're going to fight the fact
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  that you're leaving. They just are.
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  It's one of those things that that's going to continuously
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  happen. They're going to keep doing this
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  thing over and over again because they're going to fight
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  and face it. And they're hoping that these
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  tears, this salt water, this, this, this, this toxic Sprite,
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  it ain't even real tears. They're like, they're Sprite.
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  This is, this is like, this is salt with salt water.
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  You know what I mean? This is water with baking soda
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  in it. You know what I mean?
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  It's water with baking soda leaking from their eyes.
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  It's not even real tears. These are tears of manipulation.
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  These are not tear drops. These are manipulation drops.
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  You see what I'm saying? It's fake.
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  It's false. They're crying not because they
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  hurt you. If they y'all, if they didn't
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  want to hurt you, they wouldn't have hurt you.
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  I didn't know what I was doing. I didn't know what I was risky
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  when I did this. I didn't know that I was
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  standing a chance of losing you. So you didn't think that
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  cheating on me was going to lose me?
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  No, I didn't tell you I didn't want to do it.
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  They took Yeah, yeah, I'm telling you they'll start making
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  them lies. They'll start like when the lies
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  and stuff don't work, they'll start it.
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  They'll start like to get big, might get angry.
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  So if they can tell that their fake tears are not working
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  right, they shift to anger. A lot of times they shift to
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  anger or trying to blame you. They get mad at self.
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  The tears don't work. You see me?
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  Cry. You don't see me hurting.
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  You know what? You know what?
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  You never gave a damn about me, did you?
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  You didn't care about me. You didn't care about me at all.
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  You didn't care about me at all. Tears are salty.
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  You didn't care because you don't care if I'm crying.
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  You don't care if I'm over here about to hurt myself because you
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  were leaving me. Wow, you must have never cared
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  about me. Get the hell out then.
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  Bye bye. Bye.
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  You deserved it. You did this to us.
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  You may. You stop talking to me.
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  You stop loving me. You stop giving me affection.
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  So this is your fault. Bye bye bye.
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  This is the type of stuff that they'll keep doing and keep
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  blaming you. Why wouldn't they?
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  You see what I'm saying? There's the type of stuff that
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  they'll continuously do and put it on to you.
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  They'll get angry when it and it's like this is one way you
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  can tell that the tears are fake because when they get angry,
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  like I said, the tears would go away.
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  It's kind of like the tears be dropping down their eyes, right?
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  Y'all imagine a tear with my glass off real quick.
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  Imagine a tear rolling down your narcissist's eyes.
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  You haven't seen them cry before, right?
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  You haven't seen them cry. So you are assuming that is
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  real. I've never seen them cry.
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  They must be really in pain. The tears are dropping, right?
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  And they see the tears not working.
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  The tear goes suck right back into the tear, the tear ducts,
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  the tears get sucked back into the tear ducts.
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  And here comes the anger. They got to save this for later.
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  If these don't, I can't waste tears.
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  Look, I don't cry a lot. I don't cry a lot.
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  I can't waste the tears. So I got to save them for later.
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  I might need these to manipulate somebody else.
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  I might need these tears to manipulate the new supply to
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  come. Let me live with them because
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  I'm getting kicked out. I might need these tears for to
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  to let my mom and daddy know I'm coming home.
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  I need someone to stay. My sister, my brother, whoever
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  it is. I need these tears.
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  I can't they're not working on you.
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  I got to save them. You still see the streak, the
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  residue. You can still see the residue of
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  the tears in my face. But that's it.
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  You know, make up running. You may mention your, your, your
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  ex partner is woman and she's like boohoo, crying, make up
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  running and then she gets angry because it's not working.
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  And then the tears start. The tears come back in her eyes
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  and then the makeup is still laying on her face.
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  You see what I'm saying? Men work makeup too, y'all.
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  This is not me trying to be, you know, sexist or anything like
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  that. But imagine that.
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  Imagine them crying. You can see the streak of makeup
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  coming out and then they they start, they, the tears don't
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  work. So they suck them back up and
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  you can see the other streak of them going back up.
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  Yeah, if they don't work, I'm telling you, if the tears don't
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  work, this is the type of stuff that will happen in the mind of
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  a narcissist. They're always thinking of ways
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  that how this can serve them. How how do I get out of this
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  situation? That's why crying help.
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  Crying helps. Like they get themselves in this
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  deep emotional mess in the crying.
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  They feel like crying work. You haven't seen me cry before.
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  You haven't seen this vulnerability because
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  narcissists know that vulnerability works, right?
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  Vulnerability works on empathetic people.
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  So if I show, if I feign a little bit of vulnerability
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  here, it, it might work on you and you might come back to me.
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  You might allow me back into your life.
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  You might allow me back into your space because you're
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  vulnerable, right? Why wouldn't you?
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  I mean, not you're vulnerable. Well, you're vulnerable now
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  because I'm vulnerable like my vulnerable.
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  I, I expect my vulnerability to open up your vulnerability.
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  I expect my vulnerability to to I expect my vulnerability to
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  touch your soul and allow me to get back into your life.
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  That's what I expect my vulnerability to do.
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  My eyes are burning. I'm like my eyes are burning.
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  I expect my vulnerability to touch your soul.
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  It's my kids book. Remember, it's not your fault.
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  Check it out on Amazon. They they, they will weaponize
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  their vulnerability against you. Y'all they will.
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  So that's what I'm saying. These tears are manipulation.
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  And do people fall for them? Yeah, you going to fall for
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  them, especially if you haven't seen this person cry.
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  If you're not well versed on the dynamics of narcissism or toxic
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  ass people, these tears are probably going to work.
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  They just are, you know, and all those a lot of people going to
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  drop in the comment sections were like, well, Lee, you're
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  not, you're not wrong. They worked on me.
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  They damn sure worked on me, Lee, because I, I, I've never
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  seen them cry before. So I've never seen them cry
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  before. So I knew it.
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  I I, I figured that they were telling them the truth.
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  I never seen him cry before, so I figured that they were telling
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  the truth and then so that Boo Hoo crying right And then you
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  hug them right? Let's say you hug them and they
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  behind like you hugging them like you right.
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  Damn it, y'all know, I like to get y'all know, I like to get
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  interactive with this stuff. Let's say you crying, right?
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  I'm sorry I heard you. I'm so sorry.
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  I heard you, baby. Please, can I touch you?
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  Please? Let me touch you.
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  Please. Can I hug you?
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  Please, you forgive me. I'm going to clap them cheeks
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  later, baby, go to the backroom. They take pleasure in getting
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  over on you. They take pleasure in being
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  extremely manipulative and horrible and getting away with
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  it. So their tears, like if they, if
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  the tears do work, they get satisfaction from it.
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  They feel good about it, like the anger goes away and is
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  replaced with this is replaced with this weird feeling of
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  fulfillment, this weird, like duper's delight.
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  I get happy on the inside, 'cause my plan worked.
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  I got, I got the clap somebody else's cheeks and I and you
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  forgave me. You're not going to leave me
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  because I started crying. So they can stop.
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  They can stop crying and just be happy.
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  Now go to the bedroom, girl. Let's go ahead and let's, let's
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  consummate this new, this new beginning.
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  Let's go and consummate it. Please, please don't let the
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  tears work out. I know it's easier said than
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