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The Lonely Side of Building a Business With Your Spouse | EP. 08 · Pillow Talk 2 Profit: Power Couples Build Empires

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  SPEAKER_01: Welcome to another episode of Pillow Talk to Profit with Evans and Gigi.
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  SPEAKER_01: I am excited about this one and I can't wait for you guys to hear the topic.
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  SPEAKER_01: What we're gonna talk about is like when you can't trust anybody when you're in a power couple or working together.
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  SPEAKER_01: Are you excited about this event?
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  SPEAKER_01: I am.
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  SPEAKER_01: If you guys don't know, this is my amazing co-host, my baby daddy, my best friend.
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  SPEAKER_01: Are you ready for another exciting episode?
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  SPEAKER_01: I am, I am.
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  SPEAKER_01: Let's get into this conversation.
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  SPEAKER_03: Welcome to the Pillow Talk to Profit Podcast, where couple-led businesses come to grow and build empires together while turning their pillow talks into profit.
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  SPEAKER_01: So, one of the things too, like after speaking to um power couples in business and also just coaching and mentoring, one common factor that we always see is that there's always that isolation, right?
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  SPEAKER_01: That loneliness, even though it's me and you, we are power couples, and the more you elevate in your business, the more you realize your circles become smaller.
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  SPEAKER_01: Smaller, yeah, right?
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  SPEAKER_01: And sometimes you don't know who to trust.
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  SPEAKER_01: Like, I can't go to my employees and say, you know, hey, Events and I are having an issue, or this is a disagreement, or whatever it may be, or even if we want to expand or scale, because now they're looking at us like, yo, you guys are supposed to know what you're doing.
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  SPEAKER_01: You know?
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  SPEAKER_01: Can't go to family members because they're always gonna have their opinions.
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  SPEAKER_01: You know what I'm saying?
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  SPEAKER_02: And everything is is a hundred percent okay with the business or with what you're really.
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  SPEAKER_02: Exactly.
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  SPEAKER_01: You can go to your clients because your clients is like, yo, I'm paying you to offer me a service or a product, not like, you know, to to to help solve this problem.
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  SPEAKER_01: So one of the things too is that realize that it's hard as power couples to trust individuals or to share common things with individuals because they don't understand what's going on.
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  SPEAKER_01: What are your take on that?
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  SPEAKER_02: Um, you gotta find, you gotta find people, like you gotta find people that's even though your circle is small, you gotta find somebody that's that you you could trust.
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  SPEAKER_02: Yeah.
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  SPEAKER_02: Because it's hard, like we say, it's hard to find those type of people.
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  SPEAKER_02: There's some people, there's people out there that's just like a like me and I.
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  SPEAKER_02: Um, which is recently we were just having a conversation uh with two individuals, and those two individuals, like some people have great ideas, but they don't know who to share with because people might judge them.
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  SPEAKER_02: Now people might not understand what the vision that they they want to put out there.
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  SPEAKER_02: Yeah.
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  SPEAKER_02: No, so you have to keep the the thoughts, the vision to yourself as as a to individual as a couple.
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  SPEAKER_02: But when you meet that that it could be mentor, it could be a mentor that you could trust, right?
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  SPEAKER_02: And you could have those conversations because that person might already uh been in that place before.
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  SPEAKER_02: Yes.
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  SPEAKER_02: So have find somebody on that on that on your circle that you could have that conversation with.
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  SPEAKER_02: Somehow it's hard.
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  SPEAKER_02: It really is.
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  SPEAKER_01: I think that's one of the real reasons too.
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  SPEAKER_01: One of the reasons why we create our Pillow Talk to Profit community.
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  SPEAKER_01: Um, we created these podcasts, you know, because sometimes you have to step out of your immediate circle and find people within that community who understand you.
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  SPEAKER_01: You know, like we were talking to somebody and they were like, man, like I really wanted to get this out, but I didn't know who to tell it to.
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  SPEAKER_03: Yeah.
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  SPEAKER_01: Because I know this person's gonna shoot it down, this person's gonna start questioning this, but it's it's when you have like-minded people, you're like, I have a space, safe space where I can share this information, where I can get feedback, where I can get critiques, where I can get the resources.
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  SPEAKER_01: And the thing is that you understand exactly where I'm at.
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  SPEAKER_01: Because people will look at your business and say, your business is succeeding, and it is nothing wrong with your business.
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  SPEAKER_01: Yep.
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  SPEAKER_01: Your partnership, your marriage is succeeding, and nothing may be wrong with it.
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  SPEAKER_01: But if I come to you and say, Hey, I want to scale this product or this service, they may say, You're already doing a good job.
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  SPEAKER_01: Or, hey, if you decide to take this venture off, what is your husband gonna say?
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  SPEAKER_01: What's your wife gonna say?
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  SPEAKER_01: Um, they're not gonna like that.
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  SPEAKER_01: And it's and it's hard to to move past those things because now you feel like, man, I if I was a solo portra solo portrainer, yeah.
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  SPEAKER_01: Yes, if I was working by myself, and if I wasn't working with an individual, it would be so much easier.
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  SPEAKER_01: But but that's something too.
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  SPEAKER_01: Like, as couples who are in business, no matter what the dynamic is, it's hard to find people or community who understand what you're going through and to offer advice and do all these things without them judging you and you feel like you have a safe space.
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  SPEAKER_01: Like our community, people get it.
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  SPEAKER_01: Yep.
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  SPEAKER_01: Our pillow talk to community.
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  SPEAKER_01: People get it because you realize that you're not the only one.
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  SPEAKER_01: You know, you're not the only one who's going through these.
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  SPEAKER_01: Because sometimes, like, we're not just talking about like the sometimes it's even like sometimes I know we had a couple who was like, men, like they they kept constantly count constantly going, and they're like, you didn't even celebrate the wins.
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  SPEAKER_01: And they didn't even think about that.
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  SPEAKER_01: They're like, you know what?
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  SPEAKER_01: I didn't even think about yo, as a couple, we need to celebrate the wins.
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  SPEAKER_01: You know?
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  SPEAKER_02: Yeah, because th those things are uh matter.
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  SPEAKER_02: We can't just keep keep going, keep going.
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  SPEAKER_02: Uh, you gotta celebrate the small wins.
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  SPEAKER_02: Yeah.
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  SPEAKER_02: Cause it the business is always gonna be there.
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  SPEAKER_02: It's along along the journey.
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  SPEAKER_02: You gotta, as a couple, you gotta you gotta take a break and and look, man.
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  SPEAKER_02: Look, here's what we did as as a couple, as a team, as a company.
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  SPEAKER_02: Uh celebrate.
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  SPEAKER_02: Yes, take a break, take a breathe.
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  SPEAKER_02: Like, hey, yes, you know, because we can't keep going, but just celebrate the winners and like find a way to take a pause and and and celebrate those wins.
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  SPEAKER_00: Now, back to the episode.
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  SPEAKER_02: Some words like what we have we have quarter meeting now.
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  SPEAKER_02: Every quarter we have a meeting.
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  SPEAKER_02: Um and every month, like every Sunday we meet.
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  SPEAKER_02: So we talk about, okay, how how was your week?
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  SPEAKER_02: What did you do?
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  SPEAKER_02: What was the three things that that you that you uh uh uh um accomplished?
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  SPEAKER_02: Or what did those things like on the weekly, monthly, and a quarter, uh quarterly basic.
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  SPEAKER_02: Yeah.
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  SPEAKER_02: Um, we talk about these things so we could know, hey, we did that.
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  SPEAKER_02: Yeah.
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  SPEAKER_02: Uh here's what we did.
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  SPEAKER_02: Because if we haven't done that, yeah, like I don't know where we would be uh right now.
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  SPEAKER_01: Like I then sometimes too, it's the win that's that actually gave me motivation because I'm like, yo, like even if it's like a big win, I'm like, this is the goal, this is the task that we have, the time frame.
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  SPEAKER_01: And once we accomplish those things, I'm like, you know, then I know one of my big win is vacation.
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  SPEAKER_02: Vacation, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
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  SPEAKER_01: I'm telling you, like that motivate you.
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  SPEAKER_01: That vacation, you know, if you want something motivate me, shorty attach a vacation as the end goal.
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  SPEAKER_01: Because I'm telling you, I will go full keep going, you know?
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  SPEAKER_01: And and that's the thing too.
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  SPEAKER_01: Like, some couples too, like, these are the conversations that you need to have.
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  SPEAKER_01: Because even if you go, if you have as a couple, like you said, hey, we just celebrate this win.
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  SPEAKER_01: You go to your um, your family, your friends, hey, we just celebrate this win.
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  SPEAKER_01: They're like, oh, that's great.
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  SPEAKER_01: I mean, like, they don't understand.
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  SPEAKER_01: And they don't understand the dynamic, they don't understand the things that they don't even understand the battles to get those wins.
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  SPEAKER_01: They don't.
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  SPEAKER_01: And then when you find a community, you find people who understand, they're like, yo, girl.
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  SPEAKER_01: I'm not the only one.
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  SPEAKER_01: I'm not, I'm so proud for you.
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  SPEAKER_01: And then you take, and then you tell them, yeah, and then you know, and then we're taking like a week off when we're going off, they're like, man, you deserve it.
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  SPEAKER_01: Because I know in that situation, and then it motivates them too, like, yo, yo, this is what we're doing.
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  SPEAKER_01: Because I've no, I there's so many couples that we've talked to who said, you know, I have not gone on vacation since we started this business.
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  SPEAKER_01: I'm like, and then I and then we tell them, yo, we ain't judging here because there's no judge-free zone.
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  SPEAKER_01: Because we did that.
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  SPEAKER_02: That's how we work for five years straight straight.
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  SPEAKER_02: We we put the the sweat, we put the work in, say, no what?
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  SPEAKER_02: We're not, we're not gonna take vacation for the next five years.
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  SPEAKER_02: Just put your hair down, head down and work.
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  SPEAKER_01: And then we were and then it it it worked because we had our goal, but we were burnt out.
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  SPEAKER_01: Yeah we were burnt out.
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  SPEAKER_01: There was some resentment, there was a bunch of things, and then it was you that said, Hey, we need a vacation.
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  SPEAKER_01: And I was like, I we don't have time for a vacation right now.
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  SPEAKER_01: Like, we got this, this, this, this, this, this.
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  SPEAKER_01: See, that way you gotta step back and say, hey, look at all the things that we've done in five years.
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  SPEAKER_01: You know, we need a break.
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  SPEAKER_01: The whole family needs a break.
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  SPEAKER_01: And then we went on on vacation.
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  SPEAKER_01: Uh, I think we spent like eight, nine days, whatever that vacation was.
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  SPEAKER_01: We unplugged from everything.
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  SPEAKER_01: We knew our team could handle everything.
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  SPEAKER_01: I mean, tell you something, now I got addicted.
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  SPEAKER_01: Now I'm like, yo, we need to do this vacation thing because, like I said, you you need people you need that people to say, this is what you guys.
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  SPEAKER_01: If somebody, if another couple had come to us and said, you know, year one, year two, this is great, you guys are grinding, but you didn't take a break.
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  SPEAKER_01: Because it was that break that elevated our business because our minds was clear.
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  SPEAKER_01: We were, we, we relaxed, you know what I mean?
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  SPEAKER_01: Like our mental state was okay.
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  SPEAKER_01: Now the ideas started flowing, the process started going, you know, and stuff like that.
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  SPEAKER_01: So just having that circle of finding that circle for couples, and there and there's a bunch of couples out there, and we didn't even know because you don't really see it.
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  SPEAKER_01: Yeah, it's not being marketed like that.
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  SPEAKER_02: It's not like celebrate the win in any way that you can.
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  SPEAKER_01: Yes, and find your community.
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  SPEAKER_01: And if you're looking for a community, join our pillow talk to profit community, and that's for power couples and business, building empires together, no matter what the dynamic is.
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  SPEAKER_01: Okay?
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  SPEAKER_01: Eben, any last words?
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  SPEAKER_02: Look take a break, celebrate the win along the way and enjoy the process.
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  SPEAKER_02: Find your community that you could talk to, find your tribe that you could talk to.
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  SPEAKER_02: Uh, cause some some family members, some friends, they're not gonna they're not gonna understand.
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  SPEAKER_02: They're not gonna understand is you and your spouse that's running the business.
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  SPEAKER_02: Understand, find that community, and when you find that community, lock in with that community.
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  SPEAKER_01: All right.
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  SPEAKER_01: All right, well, welcome.
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  SPEAKER_01: Thank you so much.
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  SPEAKER_01: Listen to our podcast, watch us on YouTube, follow us on social media at dynamicduospeaks.com.
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  SPEAKER_01: I'm Gigi.
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  SPEAKER_01: And I'm Evans.
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  SPEAKER_01: Thank you.
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  SPEAKER_03: That's it for this episode of Pillow Talk to Profit.
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