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Losing weight after babies with PFN Client, Karli Todd · SAY GRACE | Weight Loss + Health for Overwhelmed Women- Stress, Busy, Consistency, Realistic, Motivation, Starting Over, No Restrictions

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Music.
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On today's episode, I have such a special treat, y'all.
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One of PFN's longtime members, Carly Todd,
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who has lost over 40 pounds with us twice after having both her babies,
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is joining me to discuss all things realistic weight loss, mental health, and motherhood.
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Carly's energy is contagious, and I literally loved every minute of this honest
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conversation with her. So here we go.
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Welcome, Carly. We are so, so excited to have you on today's episode of Say Grace podcast.
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Thank you for having me. Okay, y'all, we are in for a treat with this one.
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Carly has been with Perfect Fit for how long? When did you? Four years, I think.
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At least Mason was born in 2020.
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And I started that in November and I started in January 21.
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Okay. So Mason is her oldest. And so she came to us after having him.
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And then, I mean, really, I think you were just with us, right?
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And then you got correct. Like you lost your weight, but you just stuck around
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and then you got knocked up again.
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And we did the whole thing over again. Okay. And I'll never forget.
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I was like literally three pounds away from my goal weight the first time.
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And I was like oh man I'd be like yes I'm so happy but I was like I was so close
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like well I'll do it again,
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right right and too I did I feel like I don't know I'm sure you feel this way
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but like just the knowledge and the tools and everything that you had from the
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first pregnancy it was easier during the second pregnancy right to like not
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spiral about all the weight you gain while you're pregnant, you know.
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And at some point, I was just like, you know, it is what it is.
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I know I can do it. I'll do it again.
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We'll deal with that later. I love it. Okay.
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So let's tell the listeners just a little bit about you, who you are,
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what you do, what's your family and, you know, family life, work life,
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your daily routine, just kind of give us a rundown of Carly.
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Okay. So my name's Carly, obviously, and I've been married to my husband,
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Jareth, for eight years, almost nine in May.
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We have a four-year-old, Mason, and a two-year-old, Maddie Ray.
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I work as a nurse practitioner for a cardiothoracic surgery group in Mobile.
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So my job is really demanding and busy, as well as my personal life,
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I guess. Yes, my husband works for the power company, but most mornings he has
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to be at work much earlier than me. So I do...
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Get the kids up and ready and off to school and then go to work and have to
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be at work by 7 30 in the morning.
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And I run around all day at the hospital and then get home and I still get home
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a little bit earlier than Jareth.
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So I start the process of dinner and get the kids melting down because they're
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tired and hungry and all this stuff.
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And so that's kind of my typical day to day.
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Try to work in like maybe a boot camp class here or there lately.
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That's what I've been doing.
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So that's me. You know, I forgot where I was. That's okay. That's okay.
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So like, I feel like a big highlight here for you is that what time does Jerry get home?
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So he usually gets home about five or 530, kind of depending on where he works.
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He works throughout the state kind of.
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So it just depends on where he's at. At the time, I usually get home with the kids around 430.
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So it really isn't it's not too long but it's that process
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of everybody's tired in the afternoon and want something
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or another so we do a lot of that we
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get dinner and all that stuff and then get the kids in bed Maddie Ray gets in
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bed about 7 30 Mason to 8 30 and then I try to prep as much as I can for the
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day the next day and then go to bed and do it all again yeah yeah so like I feel like a big,
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a big resounding theme there is that specifically during the week, right?
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Like you don't get a whole lot of time to yourself, right?
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It is very much when you, when your feet hit the floor, you go in.
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And it's first all for someone else. And you know, I'm a huge,
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this is not nutritional related, but I'm a huge therapy person.
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I've been in therapy for probably as long as I've been.
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Girl, you know I am too. I feel like they go hand in hand. And that is a resounding
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thing that she and I talk about is making time for myself and doing a lot of
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things to make sure that I'm feeding into myself too,
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because my kids take a lot of my time.
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My patients take a lot of my time. My surgeons definitely take a lot of my energy
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and time. I'm taking care of everyone.
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And then I have to think at the end of the day, who's taking care of Carly?
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And so that's a big thing that I'm constantly learning how to do for myself.
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I will say I echo that completely. Like it is, it, my therapist and I have talked about it as well.
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You know what I mean? And it's like when you serve for me and I feel like I
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serve so many people in so many capacities, right?
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And I can just open any app on my phone and have a question from somebody about
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something. You know what I mean? Just like me. No.
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No. But it's like, at what point are we, this is something that I've really
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been ruminating on lately.
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It's like, at what point are we saying we don't have time for ourselves?
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Or at what point are we feeling uncomfortable with allowing ourselves to just like love ourselves?
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Or, you know, like it's different, right? Right.
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Like, sure, we're busy most of the day, but like there are, you know,
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10 minute pockets here and there.
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What are we choosing to do with it? Like, are we mindlessly scrolling till,
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you know, our time is up or could we be doing something a little more beneficial for ourselves?
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So that that's what me and my therapist are doing. And I have almost put this
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app in the group, in the Facebook group almost.
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And it's, it's actually like titled like a PTSD app or something,
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but she gave it to me because it's through the veteran affairs.
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And, but she gave it to me because it has several different like mindfulness activities.
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Like they're short, like 10 minutes, a 10 minute mindfulness walk.
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And you just, it just prompts you just with words. There's no music.
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There's no like stream, you know, and there's none of that.
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And all it tells you is like, focus on your breathing. Focus on the way your
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foot feels when it hits the ground, like things like that, like getting in tune
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with your body or ones where you can just like sit in silence.
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And it's that has been so helpful to me, I feel like. And I've almost sent it
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into the group every like.
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Do it. Do it when we hate you. But it's and it's free.
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It's great. And there's so many other like activities and things that you can
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like services that you can use through the app.
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But a lot of my process or issues that we've talked about is I don't make time for my feelings.
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It's something as simple as like taking 10 minutes at the end of the day to
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feel whatever feelings.
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A lot of times I have to push my feelings down during the day,
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during my work day, especially in bad situations where I may have a patient
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death or things like that.
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But I can't be sad in the moment because I have to be the professional person
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to discuss with family and give them the education and all that stuff.
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So a lot of it is me saying, OK, put it away, put it away, put it away.
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And then I'll just have these huge breakthroughs and questions at the most random times.
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Well, because you've also you're conditioning yourself at work, right?
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Put it away, put it away, put it away. So like if you at home or you in a family
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or a friend situation, like you're conditioned to also still say,
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put it away, put it away, put it away. Right.
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It's like we talk about in the group sometimes like, you know,
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brain pathways, like we are training our brains to respond and to think certain ways.
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And so it's very hard if that's your typical MO is to just like shove it down. Right.
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Right. And two, I mean, I think we all have like childhood things that that magnify that even more.
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But you know, it's really hard to do the opposite. Right. So I,
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I'm so proud. I don't think you and I've talked much about that.
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Um, I'm so proud of you for just like diving in on that.
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And I, you know, and I'm going to do a little plug here. That fruitful journal
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has been, it really has. It has really been a great time for me.
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It's hard for me to sit and do
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nothing, you know, like to just sit and meditate or just be or whatever.
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Like I can't do that. And so like if I have something to lead me in that direction, I can do it.
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And so like I feel like the time where you have your quiet time and you just
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talk to God, I'm just like, all right, now it starts.
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That's my time that I've been using lately to like feel my emotions or to feel
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whatever it is that's like,
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on my heart that day. So that's been helpful. I love it.
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And so for those who aren't familiar, Fruitful is the faith-based gold journal
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that we released at the end of 2024.
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I'll try to remember to put the link in the description, but thank you for saying that.
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You know, it's always nice to just like hear that, you know,
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it's impactful for people. It really is.
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Okay. So give us the rundown on
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your just like past with
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weight loss before you found perfect fit like what what
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was your life you're gonna laugh so hard when I tell you oh I can't
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wait so all right so I
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feel like the first time I did any sort of
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diet was Atkins diet okay you and everybody else age-driven generation like
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that was it like Atkins I was in middle school doing Atkins diet and I was thinking
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about it today i was like i remember my carb goal for the entire day was like 34 grams.
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Please i cannot no absolutely is
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is middle school i remember trying the slim fast
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diet and like i remember kids doing
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middle the slim fast stuff and now i think about it i'm like who
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is doing this like where was our parents you know my parents my mom bought the
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book she was like we're gonna do it together i was like all right let's eat
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a bunch of cheese and meat cool yeah yeah and then this is so random i don't
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know if you remember this is probably like,
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fraudulent something but i don't know how long found this thing,
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they did it in raymond mississippi i'll never forget wait you know that's where
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i'm from really yeah there are these ears The ear pair says, yeah, it is. I was like.
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My mom got it done okay well spoiler alert it's crap it doesn't do anything
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so there's there are these little ear things and they're supposed to press on
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your nerve for those people who don't know you press on like a nerve or something
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that decreases your hunger sensation or something.
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So we did it and then like obviously nothing
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happened i was like i'm ready to get these things out of my head like can
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we go back well they closed the thing right was
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like what do we do you know like it's like in
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your ear in your cartilage so my dad literally they're
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laying me on the bed and got these pliers to like rip them out of my ear like
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I remember screaming so loud in my house oh my god rising so like that was another
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thing wow good work and then.
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The probably the most successful I've ever been on
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another diet other than this one I did keto when I got ready
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for my wedding I did keto lost a ton of weight
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and I always say like I looked probably the best I've ever looked in my life
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but it's unsustainable like I immediately as soon as I got married I went back
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to like regular right gained everything plus back because at that time I had
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started into nurse nurse practitioner school right after that and so it was
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like all the stress, all the whatever.
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And I was like, I don't need to. And I was like, literally the heaviest I've
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ever been other than pregnancy at that time.
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And then I've done, like, I've tried a few of the little like MLM,
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like multiple, whatever.
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But I feel like it always, for me, other before PFN, everything was back to
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like, low carb, low carb, low carb.
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I was like, my body just doesn't tolerate carbs. That's just the way my body
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was made. It just doesn't work.
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Which is not true. You know, like, this is why God made us and he made these
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carbs and they're like a nutrient.
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Like, why would my body not like that? He knew, he knew how many carbs we,
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we'd be needing. You know what I mean?
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Right, right, right. You know what I'm saying? Yes.
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And so, you know, but, but you cannot fault yourself because you don't know what you don't know.
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Right. Like up until that point, that's kind of all you hear, right.
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Is carbs are bad. That's what we've heard for a really long time.
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And it's because, Carly, and you know this as a practitioner, right?
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Like, it's something you can say quick. You can say, just cut your carbs. Just reduce your carbs.
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And so people immediately take that as carbs are bad.
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But the reality is, is nobody has time to explain. Like, yeah,
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you may be eating too many carbs, but it's multiplying out to be too many calories
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and too much energy consumption.
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You know what I mean? Yeah, right. Yeah.
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And that's where the weight gain is. And so, yeah, but, you know,
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I'm dead. I am dead over the, over the piercing. I did.
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Because, but like, I remember that as I remember my mom getting it done and
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I'm sitting here trying to think how she got hers taken out.
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But like, it just speaks to that level of like desperation.
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Like we all are so desperate that we, you know, we're in like,
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it's kind of a new, you know, and I've talked about this often on, you know, on my social.
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But like everybody's like willing to go get these shots and like inject themselves
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you know out of like the desperation right now you know that's fine if i'm throwing
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my guts up across the room in the meantime like the people that get so sick
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on them and they're like oh so worth it i'm like.
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Like yeah well what's worth it is that they're feeling better about themselves
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because you know yeah the thing that i keep like,
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since starting perfect fit, I was like, it doesn't have to be that hard.
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Like it doesn't have to be, it doesn't have to be so sacrificing.
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Like you don't have to feel like you're doing anything. So I found out about,
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can I go into this about how I got it?
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Yeah. I found out about perfect fit through the La Leche group in Jackson.
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And that's like a frequent question. I'm sure you're tagged on there all the time. Yeah. Yeah.
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How do I lose my baby weight while I'm breastfeeding? And yeah,
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I found that and I was like, all right, let's go.
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And I'll only forget that you were having like a sign up thing or whatever.
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And I was already messaging you before I signed up. And I was like,
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are there a limited number of spots? Like, I want to make sure you get into this.
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I have got to get in this because I gained a lot of weight with my son.
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And I was like, well, this is my new body.
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Like, this is what I'm going to be like, you know, I'm going to be a mom and
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I'm going to be sad and I'm going to be frumpy and I'm going to just be ugly.
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You know, I'm just going to be like whatever now. And this is motherhood.
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Right. And I'm thinking, and if I don't want that, then I must have to do something
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extreme like keto or whatever.
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So, and then you're like, but I'm too freaking tired to do any of that.
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I'm too overstimulated.
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Well, let me tell you what, when I got my first little thing from y'all for
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my breastfeeding, I have like over 2000 calories to eat in a day.
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And there were days where I was like, I got to eat something.
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I have to find something else to eat. And it wasn't like a snack.
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It was like, I feel like I need to add another meal or else I don't have enough
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calories for my day. Yeah.
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I wasn't hungry and neither was my baby because I was a milk machine girl.
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I consistent. I mean, like I had an oversupply for both my kids while losing weight. Like.
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We were doing it, girl. What a blessing. Okay.
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And so with Mason, how much did you lose before you got pregnant again?
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50 pounds. That's what I was going to say 50, but I wanted to hear you say it. Yeah.
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And I'm think, I think, so Maddie's two, but after I had Maddie,
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we started building a house and then moved into the house.
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So I feel like I had some, I've hit, I think I've lost around 40 with her.
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So I'm almost, I'm like, I've been sitting at this like last 10 pounds for like a year now, I feel like.
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And I know that you see me on the thing and I'm like, I'm just going to punch
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the scale out the window. Yeah.
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But I feel like the process of like building a house, moving and having children
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and a full-time job, all the things.
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And I feel like last year too, you went through just a spot where you just like
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weren't as motivated, right? Like you just didn't.
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Oh yeah. I had this like, just love, like life in general.
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And this is, I just, I don't know. I just like lost a lot of the motivation for a lot of things.
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I had taken a long break from my therapist, not for like any other reason other than like,
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I don't know. I was just in like this rut for whatever reason.
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And I can't, I don't even know, you know, I would, I would be like,
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all right, these challenges, this is it. This is it, Carly, like this next challenge, you're doing it.
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And I'll do it for like a week and I'll be like, nothing matters.
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Like whatever. And so I would go through these like little phases,
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but I feel like I finally kind of hit my stride here again recently.
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I finally have found like a good exercise routine.
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I finally, like, that's a big part of it. I like, I feel like I need to have
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some movement in my life.
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And like, along with a community, you know what I think it was,
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you know, when I was doing hot work. So I think we talked about that.
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And I was isolated a lot doing those workouts.
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I was alone. Yeah. And the little pods and the little pods.
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And so I was alone, you know, I don't know about you, but I feel alone as a mom a lot.
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I feel alone like as like a lot of stuff and
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I just felt like really isolated from things
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and I've just recently started this kind of boot camp
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workout with a lady that lives down the street from us and it's like a
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bunch of people just in our area and it is like just women and we're fun and
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like play really great music and we're just acting a fool and like whatever
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but like that I feel like is what needs is a need in my soul is to like be around
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people and like talk and even the normal I don't want to,
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like, I don't want to, I'm like, oh, I just want to like lay in my bed by myself
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and like not talk to anybody, but I push myself to go and it's really kind of turned things around.
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Yeah. And I mean, and so I have another, I did another interview today that
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will come out later on, but we talked about this like seasons,
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you know, we all have different seasons of our lives.
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And so sometimes like we can't expect the same things of ourselves in one season as we do in the next.
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But I think I feel like you have really even even though you've had like low
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seasons or, you know, slower progress than you'd prefer seasons.
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I feel like you have just like stuck to it ish.
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You know what I mean? Like you are showing up for yourself in the way that,
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you know, you can right now.
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And that's what I feel. Even though I'm having these like or was in these ruts
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or had these really busy times of building the house and doing all this.
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I've not gained weight back. I've still been able to maintain.
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And so that's what kind of keeps me going.
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And like, even if I'm not tracking, even if I'm not doing all the things, I'm still,
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there's a baseline knowledge that I've developed through all of this that somehow
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works in my brain to like, make a good decision or cut it off at a certain point,
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you know, make, make smarter choices or things like that.
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And I feel like that's just kind of gotten ingrained in myself now.
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So I think that's been kind of the saving grace.
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Yeah. And that takes time, right? Like, you know, additionally, okay.
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When I did all of this with Mason and I lost, and I like got three,
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three pounds away from my goal weight.
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I didn't have a toddler also. So like I had Maddie and then I also had a toddler.
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And so it was very, you know, that was a hard season. And I find myself,
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you know, instead of feeling my feelings, I might go to the pantry and have
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like a little cracker or whatever.
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And talk to my therapist about this And you probably know this,
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but like your number one dopamine creator, I guess, is in your stomach.
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So she would tell me, she was like, it's no wonder that your body wants you
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to go like eat something when you're low on that dopamine hit. Yeah.
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So then you just have to, you say, all right, look, I'm not hungry.
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I'm just sad. Yeah. And then what can I do about that?
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That makes me feel better. So to go find, go get a little dopamine hit,
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go walk around in the sun, go put my bare feet on the grass,
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you know, things like that.
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And too, I mean, that's a whole different topic that I know you probably go
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on forever, but it's like, you know, we feel like we should just feel joy 24
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seven with our, with our children around.
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And like, sometimes it's, sometimes it's stressful. Sometimes it's overwhelming.
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Sometimes you like want to rip your hair out.
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So yeah, if you're automatically where, where can I find the dopamine hit to
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pull myself out of these crap feelings that I'm feeling. Right.
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And we've trained ourselves that the pantry is the place, baby.
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I mean, you know, and I will say like at two
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and four you are in the thick of it with that you
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know every time I remind I keep talking about my therapist I'm
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gonna have to like give her a plug here like every time I tell her she's like
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remind me their ages again when I'm talking about struggles and she's like oh
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yeah she was like that's that's tough and she's like you're like baseline it's
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hard so like add on the other expectations you put on yourself and you're really
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in for it so right we're working on that right,
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Okay, and so that kind of leads me into, because you talked about just like
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now with all the tools and the things, you're able to just navigate food and
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life better, even though we've got toddlers, right?
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So if you could just give like the one most impactful thing that you have learned
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in all your years with us, if you could say it, what would it be?
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I really think at the bottom of it, the thing that's most helpful for me is planning.
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Planning planning planning so every Sunday I sit
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down and I look at our week to come I look at
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my week the kids week Jareth's week and I say all
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right we've got this on this night so I need to make I need to have a crockpot
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meal or have something really really easy so that we can get home we can still
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have a good meal but not a lot of steps to it or whatever or you know just things
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like that or I had this at work or hey we have a lot of reps that come through
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I know that this rep is coming this day.
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So like, if I want to eat whatever they're bringing, I need to pick lighter
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stuff on the, on the round it.
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So Sundays I sit down, I look at everybody's schedules. I make a grocery list.
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I plan kind of my, I have this really great, I think you have like a tool with
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the PFN where you can like make your menu and then your grocery list on the other side of it.
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I have one of those and I just like go through and do it all and make my list
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and I stick to it. And I plan, I prep as much as I can on Sunday.
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Sunday's a busy day for me, but I plan as much as I can. So I'll make most of
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my lunches that I can just grab them out of the fridge and go in the mornings
24:47
because mornings are like a huge struggle. So all I need to do is just grab it.
24:52
And I even got to the point where like, if I have, if I'm making like a skillet,
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I mean, not a skillet, a sheet pan, something, it has a lot of chopped vegetables.
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I will chop all those vegetables up on Sunday and put them in the thing.
25:04
So all I have to do is like grab it and throw it on the sheet or like,
25:07
girl, it's a game changer.
25:08
Like chopping, like I'll cut it. I'll prep all of my meat and have it all split
25:12
up and like sorted or however I need it. So.
25:15
All I have to do is just pull it out of the fridge with our freezer and I'm ready to go, basically.
25:20
Right. And so I went down to the point where I'll even have like a big seasoning
25:24
or like a marinade or something.
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I'll mix all those seasoning together and have it a little baggy.
25:29
So all I have to do is just like toss it on there. That is awesome.
25:33
That is awesome. So that's what's helped me because I get really,
25:37
if I'm overwhelmed, I'm like, you know, oh, I see all these steps and I'm just
25:42
hungry and I just want it to happen. And I like, I'll just pick something easy instead.
25:46
But if I already have all this done, it's like, oh my gosh, all I'm just going
25:49
to do is throw this together.
25:50
Right. Because by the time we cook dinner, we're freaking tired.
25:53
You know what I mean? Like we don't want the steps. We don't want the extra effort.
25:57
And so I will, I do just want to like remind the listeners that like that,
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like what Carly just described is meal planning and then like mild meal prep.
26:06
So a lot of people don't understand that like chopping your vegetables is meal
26:10
prep. Like you don't pull out all your 40 black containers and pre-portion all
26:15
this stuff you've cooked and, you know, make it extra stressful.
26:19
It's just like, OK, while I'm already cutting vegetables for Sunday's dinner,
26:23
I may as well cut for Tuesday and Thursday dinner, too.
26:26
And that decreases my dishes time and all this stuff.
26:29
So I'm decreasing all my chores all the way around by doing it on this one day.
26:32
A hundred percent. and like the planning piece
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I think it is so crucial not
26:39
only for your meals but but for your meals right but a lot of people just go
26:43
into their week not even like ready you know like we don't know what's coming
26:48
on just willy-nilly like I'll ask a friend at work I'm like what do you have
26:50
for supper night she's like oh I don't know I'm like what do you mean you don't
26:54
plan every moment he was like,
26:58
She's like, I'll probably just grab something at the grocery store on the way
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home. I was like, what? I don't know.
27:03
No, but so, you know, aside from knowing what you're going to eat,
27:07
it's just kind of like, you know what to expect for the week.
27:10
So if there's anything else you want to do, like goals or, you know,
27:14
work on getting to the gym or go to the therapist, like you're already mentally
27:19
preparing for these things because you've sat down and you've looked at your
27:22
planner and you've kind of made it.
27:24
It takes five minutes. It doesn't take long, you know. Right.
27:28
So I love that. I love that planning is your like, it's been my big one. That's the one.
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If anything else, I'm a plan for it. I love it. Okay. And so I want to hear from you.
27:38
What is like your favorite thing about what we got going on?
27:42
Because you have been around, you've been around for all the things, right?
27:47
Like we did some transitions while you've been with us. Yeah.
27:51
I think, and it's not, I mean, it's not like one thing in particular,
27:55
like it's not the, you know the challenges are fun the
27:58
little like fun little water challenge like all the different
28:00
things those are fun and it brings a different level of accountability I
28:04
think but I think the thing that I love the most about perfect fit is that it
28:09
improves I feel like it improves you as like a whole person it's not just focused
28:15
on weight loss because we're more than that like we are so much more than what our weight is.
28:23
And like, we're women and we're mothers and we're, you know,
28:27
all of these different things, professionals, like stay at home moms,
28:30
all of these things that we're, we're busy.
28:32
And I think some of the like really intense programs or whatever are like,
28:39
push, push, push, do, do, do, no matter what, like stick with it.
28:43
But like, I remember a day we were doing a tracking Tuesday or something and.
28:47
I wrote in there, I was like, I plan to go to the gym or to do a workout,
28:51
but I had a really bad headache. And I came home and I had 30 minutes before I had to go get the kids.
28:56
So I sat in the quiet and just like got myself together before I went and got the kids.
29:01
Instead of someone saying, that was 30 minutes you could have been exercising
29:04
or whatever that you've lost out on.
29:06
Like Stacey wrote in and was like, hey, you listen to your body.
29:10
And I feel like those are the things that people need to hear sometimes that
29:13
it's not just like, get your goal at all costs.
29:17
It's like, this is a marathon, not a sprint.
29:20
And it's like, take care of yourself too. But the spiritual part of it.
29:24
The like, I mean, you came out with a freaking, you know, journal with all and
29:30
like, there's always, you know, we've always we've had multiple times where
29:33
we've done devotions and just different things.
29:35
And I mean, I wrote in there a couple of weeks ago, asking for devotion recommendations from people.
29:41
And I mean, people was on fire, many things.
29:45
And I've, I've started them and it's just like, this is such a positive impact
29:51
on me as a whole person and doesn't just narrow us women down to what we look like. Yeah.
29:59
Yeah. Because I think that's that's just like when I talk to people about it
30:03
and I'm like, listen, like the weight loss is like a great added benefit.
30:07
But like you have all these other benefits, too, of like we learn things and
30:11
how to how to do things and new things and create good habits and all of these
30:16
things that just improve your life as a whole rather than just one portion of it. Yeah.
30:23
Oh, thank you for saying that. Like I went to this marketing thing,
30:28
like just trying to understand marketing because I really don't.
30:31
And I really hate it. You know what I mean?
30:34
Describing the program. I'm just like, it's just like everything.
30:38
Like it's, you know, they're like weight loss is a saturated market.
30:41
So you're going to have to really narrow in on your message.
30:44
And I'm like, how do I say, you know, we, we do Jesus, we do grace.
30:48
We talk about alternative movement ideas.
30:52
We, you know, we talk about it's okay if you ate, you know, three sleeves of
30:57
cookies in the pantry. Like, how do I do all that? Right.
31:00
And I do want to say, though, I want to just add this in because I feel like
31:05
we, a lot of times we focus. And when I'm talking to people,
31:07
I'm like, we give each other grace. I'm like, it's cool if you're having like a day or whatever.
31:11
But like, y'all, I've been in some posts where Constance will be like,
31:14
all right, guys, I was like, grace is great and all, but like also like reel it back in a little bit.
31:19
Like don't make grace an excuse, you know, whatever.
31:23
So there's accountability there, but it's also like, all right,
31:26
if you've had a really terrible day and you just want to go like veg out on the couch.
31:30
Want, you know, and have a moment, then that's fine. But make it a moment. Don't make it the rule.
31:35
Right. It's not like we just easy peasy, like just do whatever you want.
31:40
It's a challenge. It's a daily challenge of asking yourself,
31:43
especially when you've been here a while, right. And you kind of settle into our rhythm.
31:48
It's a daily challenge of asking yourself, is this grace or is this disregard?
31:52
Right. Like, am I having grace for myself or am I purposefully looking the other
31:57
way on myself because that's a difference, right?
32:00
Some days we just need it. Some days it's like we literally are,
32:03
the roof is about to blow off of this place. And so we just need a minute.
32:06
But then other days it's just like, oh, you know, I'll claim grace and start over tomorrow.
32:10
Like that ain't it, sis. Like that's not how we progress forward.
32:14
So yeah, I love that you take that to heart.
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I just want people to know that we're not just willy nilly in here.
32:21
You got to do the work, but it can also be fun and it can also be, you know, a difference.
32:28
There's them babies. There's them toddlers. Okay.
32:32
As we were about to head off into the Q&A, but I do have one more question for you before we do that.
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If you could give like your best advice to someone who feels like they have
32:44
tried everything for weight loss, what would your number one tip be for starting
32:49
next time? Try Perfect Fit Day Trish.
32:56
Like I don't know that's what I want to tell people though like it I don't know
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like there's not there's not a magic trick that's that's probably the thing
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that I think I think people,
33:06
who I think I don't know maybe I'm overgeneralizing and you can tell me if I'm
33:10
wrong but like I feel like the people who just like continuously like fail fail
33:13
fail are the people maybe I'm being maybe I'm saying this wrong but I think
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it's a lot of people who are doing keto or who are doing the very,
33:21
very like strict,
33:23
completely take something out of your diet, things that are not,
33:27
sustainable, like find something where you can have a glass of wine,
33:33
you know, and still fit in with your calorie.
33:35
I have eaten a meal from Whataburger and my calorie count, like,
33:40
and continue to lose weight.
33:42
Like, so cutting, there's not a magic trick or magic pill.
33:46
Like you have to learn the things I think about your nutrition,
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see it as a holistic picture.
33:52
Don't look at yourself. You have to look at yourself.
33:57
I think, I think this isn't just like one tip, I'm sorry, but like realistic about your goals.
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Like don't say I'm going to lose 20 pounds in two months.
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And then like, like, unless you're doing something crazy,
34:11
like chill out, take a step back,
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learn the foundation and the basics of everything and then
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just put it to work I think that's if I could like
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really kind of say it in the easiest way right
34:24
it's there's there's there's no magic pill magic shot
34:27
it may look like it yeah but it's gonna it's too good to be true most of the
34:32
time you know like or it's a catch or those people now because we see a lot
34:37
of it you know on our news feed and everything those people are like there's
34:41
this lady on my timeline right now and I don't know how I know her,
34:45
but like, she's talking about how she don't eat after 12 o'clock every day.
34:49
And for dessert, she gets a popsicle made out of applesauce and blueberries.
34:55
Like, ma'am, when I was doing my keto thing for my wedding, my dessert every
35:02
day was a little thing of, like, sugar-free jelly.
35:05
Yeah. That was my treat. That's disgusting. Oh, come on. There are so many better
35:08
options than that. Right. Or, like, actually beneficial to the body.
35:13
Yeah. So, yeah, but this lady has lost a lot of weight. Like,
35:17
her before and after pictures are awesome.
35:19
Right. And so what's going to happen is in a few months, she's going to have
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quit that and regained it all.
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And so that's kind of how we all operate. Like we think, okay,
35:30
I've got to sacrifice to lose it.
35:32
And then when I get sick of sacrificing, I'm going to gain it back.
35:36
Like that's the mentality.
35:37
So it's really hard to rip people out of that way of thinking. You know what I mean?
35:42
Yeah. And I think, you know, whenever I first started after Mason,
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I was like, this, this is too good. This is too good to be true.
35:50
Like I can't be eating all this and still losing weight. And I wasn't girl that
35:53
breast, that breastfeeding.
35:56
And I was like, I am losing weight and I am eating good girl.
36:01
Like this is, this is it. This is the thing. But you got to trust the process.
36:08
That's why we force y'all to try to understand it first. Because if you have
36:14
no understanding, you're not going to trust me when I say, like, you can eat this much.
36:19
If I'm telling people about it, they're like, oh, so she writes your meal plan. She does this.
36:22
I said, nope, she doesn't do anything for you other than provide you with the
36:25
tools to know how to do it.
36:28
Because Constance isn't always going to be here for me for the rest of my life
36:32
to be able to make these decisions. and.
36:34
You know, consciousness isn't going to be with me when I'm on the road with
36:36
my kids and our only option to eat is what a burger or whatever.
36:41
You know, I need to have the mentality and the knowledge to be able to make
36:44
the appropriate choices to feed my body. You are equipped. You are equipped.
36:49
I have the knowledge to have the foundation and that's all I need.
36:54
You could have another day.
36:56
My husband will say like, well,
36:58
I mean, like, I feel like you're doing really great with perfect fit.
37:00
And he was like, do you still feel like you need it? And I was like, yes, I need it.
37:04
Always I was like I will be a perfect fit and he
37:07
was like even when you reach your goal weight and I was like always so
37:11
I'll always be there but the truth is this is what
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I was about to say the real truth of it is Carly is
37:16
you could you could have another baby and you could you know
37:19
start out at your you know post baby weight
37:23
and you could do it all on your own like
37:26
you wouldn't like if we shut down tomorrow you wouldn't
37:29
need to do it right it's just right it's
37:32
the support it's the fun yeah yeah yeah
37:36
I love that okay anything else before
37:39
we move into these Q&A questions I don't think
37:42
so I lost my list of my questions okay so guys we each brought three questions
37:48
to the table we do not know the other person's questions and it's just going
37:51
to be like a rapid fire like she asks me one I ask her one questions and so
37:56
do you want to go first or do you want me to I'll go first okay okay.
38:01
Do you have a secret talent or a party trick? Oh, my gosh.
38:07
I don't know. Give me an example. What's your party trick? I don't know.
38:11
Can you, like, do the worm or, like, a funny dance or, like, a cherry stem in a knot?
38:18
I can tie a cherry stem in a knot. Yes. I just love that.
38:22
You know, like, people can, like, do the knife and, like, get the champagne
38:25
bottle. I, like, have nothing.
38:26
Like, if somebody asked me to do something cool, I'd be like,
38:28
sorry. I can't. I got nothing.
38:31
You got nothing. And like, well, I hate my husband. Jess can do like the double
38:36
jointed thing with his tongue and like they can, him and my kids too.
38:40
And can touch your nose with your tongue. I can't do that.
38:44
Like I'm, I'm. I know. Jared, we were at a friend's house one time and I didn't
38:48
know this. We've been married and like together for years and somebody brought a yo-yo out.
38:51
My husband's like a master yo-yoer. And I was like, what the heck?
38:57
Because everyone had a yo-yo when we were in middle school. I was like, okay.
39:02
That is amazing. Did he do the thing where he like made it like swing between the two? Yes.
39:08
He can do it all. He can do it all. I was like, everybody was standing there like, that's so great.
39:13
That's so cool. Your husband can do that. I was like, I never knew. Never knew. Never knew.
39:18
Still growing in your marriage. Here we are. Okay. My first one for you is what
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food, one food, If you had to pick one food that you could not live without.
39:30
Can I make the food into like anything I want? Yes.
39:35
Potatoes. Oh, yes. Yes.
39:40
Tell me why. Any form of potato. Like that's it for me. I love it.
39:45
All the stuff. Yes. Baked potato. Mashed potato. I'll do it all. I love it. I love it.
39:52
Okay, what's your go-to karaoke song? Like, if you were good when you do karaoke, what would it be?
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I am, like, really, I love some 90s country. Yes!
40:07
Anything Reba is what I'm going to say. I was just about to say, I love to sing Fancy.
40:13
Yeah, anything Reba or, like, I don't know. I love Garth better than George
40:19
Strait, but I'll do, like, either one.
40:21
You know what I mean? So funny. Randy Travis.
40:26
Perfect. Okay. I lost the questions. Hang on. Let me scroll back up.
40:32
Okay. I think you kind of answered this one already, but what is your favorite
40:39
form of movement right now?
40:43
So I, anytime, like as far as anything, I love a good, like kind of HIIT workout.
40:49
But I've been doing this boot I keep
40:53
calling it boot camp I don't know what it's really called we call it the shop because
40:56
it's in her shop in the back of her house but it's
40:59
just it's it's a hit workout we have it's all
41:02
weighted stuff but it's like like eight
41:06
to 15 pounds it's nothing crazy but it's it gives
41:09
you like a cardio but a strength training you know
41:12
push at the same time I say boot camp because it's like it's
41:16
kind of like a hit slash Tabata almost
41:19
so it's something that makes me feel like I'm getting stronger and I like to
41:27
sweat because like I feel like that's how I I've like oh I've worked I've really
41:31
done something right I feel like I've sweat and like got my heart rate up and
41:34
been like a little you know winded that makes me feel like and then it makes me feel good after.
41:39
Love that. Love it. All right. Last one. Okay. What is the weirdest thing you've ever eaten?
41:47
Oh, okay. Where were we?
41:51
We were somewhere in another country and I feel like you would be like an adventurous
41:58
food, Jai. Are you? I'm really not.
42:01
I'm not. And so in fact, like Jess and I, we laugh about it all the time because my palate is so basic.
42:08
In fact, okay, I was at Costco last week and I have been saying for two years,
42:13
and this is not an exaggeration, I really want to learn how to cook like other cuisines.
42:20
You know what I mean? Like I want to, like we have Indian restaurants around
42:23
here and I'm not, we do not go to an Indian restaurant. You know what I mean?
42:27
And so I keep telling Jess like, we should try butter chicken because that's
42:31
an Indian recipe that is I think the most,
42:35
Like, I think it's the first one you would try, you know? And so I've been,
42:39
I've had a recipe in my recipe app.
42:42
Like I am continuing to say, we're going to try butter chicken.
42:45
We're going to try butter chicken. And I have not.
42:47
And so I was at Costco last week and they have these butter chicken sauce pouches there.
42:53
And I text him. I'm like, okay, they have just this pouch with the sauce already made.
42:57
Should I get this? And maybe we'll actually do it. And he was like,
43:00
yes, go for it. And Carly, I still left it. I did not.
43:05
Oh I did not buy it oh no
43:08
and then Jess was probably like where's the butter chicken right I
43:11
really think he would love it you know and so
43:15
it's been really funny actually like our as we've evolved in
43:17
our marriage like I was pushing him to try things
43:21
which I'm talking like broccoli right and and salads
43:24
but now he's getting to this point where his boss
43:27
is from LA and so when he when he goes to work with
43:30
him his boss eats the wildest food and so
43:33
he is now you know advanced yeah yeah
43:37
but okay i can't remember what it
43:40
was like was it a cricket like i can't we were
43:43
somewhere and i yeah yeah it was like a big
43:46
to do i don't know i don't remember i don't think i've ever eaten anything like
43:50
further like crazy than like a deer meat like i don't but see i don't eat i
43:57
don't eat seafood i don't like i have something i'm just like really weird like
44:01
You are by the water and you do not eat seafood?
44:05
No. And it makes Jareth so sad because he's always wants to go get seafood.
44:08
And I'm like, no. I don't know if we can be friends anymore.
44:14
I'm appalled. I'm sorry. It's just like a mental thing.
44:18
Like there's some sort of like mental block there. And I just like, dude, I've tried it.
44:22
I just, it's not for me. So are you picky?
44:26
I don't know. I'm picky. I did not know that I knew you were picky.
44:29
I'm picky. Oh my God. Especially when it comes to me, like me,
44:34
like I cut my chicken apart when I'm prepping it.
44:37
And Jareth is like, are we going to have any chicken left to eat?
44:41
Yes, I promise. But like, I'm
44:42
cutting all the weird stuff off because I don't want it. I don't want it.
44:45
I'm good. That is, you learn new things. That is awesome. Yeah. Okay.
44:52
So my last question is, what, this was, we're going to end on a heavy one.
44:59
What is the best advice you have ever received?
45:04
Ever. Like not, it doesn't have to be weight related or whatever related.
45:07
I know that's a, that's one you're going to have to think about a minute.
45:10
I know you should have given me that one before.
45:12
So I've recently heard this thing on, I think it was on Facebook and it was,
45:17
I need to look at her name too, because it's like, it's great.
45:20
And she posts a lot of these videos, but she was saying like,
45:24
the first start of the thing was, Hey, were you just feeling guilty because
45:28
you're not able to do everything all at once or everything all at once?
45:31
And she said, nobody has it together like that's not a thing and I was like
45:37
okay so like I feel like we get into like all the childhood stuff therapy stuff
45:44
but like the way I was raised.
45:47
My mom it looked so easy for her to do everything she was great at everything
45:52
she touched and nothing was hard and blah blah which is not reality she just
45:58
didn't show me those parts And so,
46:00
and when being a mom was hard and being a wife was hard and being all this stuff,
46:04
I'm like, whoa, whoa, whoa, like I am not doing this right.
46:07
And so like, I've had to literally retrain my brain to say like,
46:12
you're doing the best you can.
46:14
And that's enough. and I think that
46:18
has been like something that I keep trying to
46:20
tell myself and this this video I've scrolled
46:23
through it at one point and I thought that was just really
46:27
impactful to say like hey don't
46:31
look at everybody else because nobody else has it together either like it's not
46:33
a thing it's all it's all fake like it's all on the
46:36
spot if it looks like that right so I think
46:40
I think that's my favorite advice is that
46:43
that is so good right and
46:46
like I think for so my mom was the same way right
46:49
like she we had there were three of us and she had a full-time job and my dad
46:54
owned a business and I don't know man it just she just never really looked like
46:59
anything was wrong you know what I mean like it just yeah yeah and I she but
47:05
and so I just think though that that era of parents,
47:08
they weren't told that they could say anything was wrong.
47:12
You know, like, whereas we as parents, like, I feel like we are being,
47:15
you know, encouraged to tell our kids, like, I'm sorry, if I,
47:19
if I was at fault, if mommy was at fault, mommy can come and say, I'm sorry.
47:24
This is, you know, I shouldn't have done this, whatever. But like,
47:27
in that era, it wasn't the same. Like, you know, they were the authority.
47:32
And, you know, this was the persona they they gave us.
47:36
And so, yeah, but I love that, that like, there are people out there now that
47:41
are just constantly reminding us that like, it really isn't how it looks for
47:46
anyone, you know what I mean?
47:48
Yeah, that's a good one. That's a good one to end on. I think so.
47:52
Anything else you want to add or talk about? I don't know. I just love you.
47:58
And I love all that you do for I mean, you are so giving and so thoughtful with
48:06
everyone. I feel like you have intentions behind everything and that are good.
48:10
And I'm just I'm really thankful that I have you in my life.
48:15
Oh, I am literally so absorbing that. So I will never forget it because,
48:21
you know, I'm just like you.
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I feel like, oh, my gosh, I'm not doing enough. You know what I mean?
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So thank you for saying. Girl, you're doing the most.
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You can do a lot. And it is good. And it is all good.
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Thank you. So keep doing what you're doing because it's great.
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Thank you. I know you keep coming out with new things. And I'm like,
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what is this girl doing now?
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But I can promise you, like, the Fruitful was...
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Now we're just going to fine tune everything. You know what I mean?
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I can't layer on much more else right now and be sane. You know what I mean? Yes.
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So, all right. Well, thank you for coming on, Carly. And everybody,
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as always, remember to say grace.
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