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Dear Banya: Breaking Free · Scrubbing In with Becca Tilley & Tanya Rad

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  Speaker 1: Scrubbing in with Beta Tilly and Tanya rad and iHeartRadio
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  Speaker 1: and two time People's Choice Award winning podcast.
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  Speaker 2: That's right, two times People's Choice Award winning podcast. Here, Hello, everybody, WHOA.
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  Speaker 3: We really throw the people off with that intro.
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  Speaker 2: That's why I could keep everybody on their toes like
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  Speaker 2: a radio host, toesy news.
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  Speaker 4: Like a professional radio host. Intro was giving Ryan Seacrest.
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  Speaker 4: That's right, Annie Seacrest, thank you.
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  Speaker 5: We got podcast right here for you, buddy.
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  Speaker 3: I was giving auctioneer nice. Sure, how you doing do
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  Speaker 3: a great?
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  Speaker 2: Can't wait for a date night?
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  Speaker 4: Same, We're heading to the Subarina Carpenter concert tonight.
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  Speaker 2: That's right.
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  Speaker 3: Short and sweet, Short and sweet. She is so short
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  Speaker 3: and sweet.
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  Speaker 2: She's like a pollypocket she is.
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  Speaker 3: It's so I wish that they did a live action pollpocket.
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  Speaker 2: They have to use her. I agree.
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  Speaker 6: Do you see the photos of her and Taylor out
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  Speaker 6: in New York and she's.
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  Speaker 3: Like the edits of it?
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  Speaker 4: Like I was having I can't remember what happened, but
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  Speaker 4: I was just feeling down one day and I would
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  Speaker 4: just go look at that picture and I'd bring me.
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  Speaker 2: Back happiness and joy because.
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  Speaker 3: She's so cute, and Taylor looks so tall in that photo.
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  Speaker 6: I saw people posting this is lady Gita.
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  Speaker 2: I don't get it.
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  Speaker 6: It's a tiny picture of lady.
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  Speaker 2: I don't get the Internet sometimes.
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  Speaker 3: Dona's response to things that's like, so it really is
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  Speaker 3: just being chronically online and shold me that I don't
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  Speaker 3: get it, and I'm.
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  Speaker 4: Like, go away, Yeah, let me just be silly, and
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  Speaker 4: it doesn't need to be gotten.
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  Speaker 2: Clearly it needs to be gotten.
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  Speaker 4: No, it's just tiny little Sabrina being cute and polly
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  Speaker 4: pocket and then Taylor.
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  Speaker 3: Being already tall and wearing the tallest deals.
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  Speaker 2: I didn't understand. I now do because you forced me
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  Speaker 2: to go, like, understand, Julie is not.
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  Speaker 3: I didn't say anything. Yeah, so that's okay. Yeah, you
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  Speaker 3: said I don't understand. I said that's okay.
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  Speaker 2: But it's not okay because then I feel left out.
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  Speaker 2: Well I can't fix that.
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  Speaker 4: I can't fix that part because I wish I was a.
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  Speaker 2: Little left out.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, I wish I was kind of left out from
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  Speaker 3: chronically online.
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  Speaker 4: You know.
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  Speaker 2: I'm actually, let's check back in January and see if
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  Speaker 2: you actually do this, But because a lot of December,
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  Speaker 2: I'm going to be taking off. I want to put
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  Speaker 2: a time limit on my phone of like how much
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  Speaker 2: I can be on social media a day. And I'm
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  Speaker 2: going to give myself forty five minutes a day. WHOA,
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  Speaker 2: that feels like nothing.
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  Speaker 3: It is nothing.
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  Speaker 4: One.
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  Speaker 3: That's one session for me.
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  Speaker 2: How many sessions a day do you have multiple?
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  Speaker 6: I have the thing on Instagram where like at an hour,
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  Speaker 6: it says like that's enough for today, Oh wow, and
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  Speaker 6: I hit fifteen more or forget it for the day.
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  Speaker 2: I need to get that. Is that an app?
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  Speaker 6: No, it's on your phone, the Instagram app.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah.
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  Speaker 4: I had it just in my settings on my phone
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  Speaker 4: and I hit ignore basically every it was like snooze.
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  Speaker 4: I was snoozing my alert. Yeah, but you should get
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  Speaker 4: the Brick. I've already told you about the Brick. It's
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  Speaker 4: like a thing that you put on your phone and
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  Speaker 4: it like locks it until it's just more.
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  Speaker 3: It's more.
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  Speaker 2: I want to be able to engage with my text messaging.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah you can.
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  Speaker 4: You can engage with your text messaging with the Brick.
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  Speaker 4: You can choose what apps you want.
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  Speaker 3: Okay, okay, yeah, so it's like your choice.
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  Speaker 4: If you're going, hey, I'm noticing I'm spending a lot
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  Speaker 4: of time on Instagram. I'm going to put the brick
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  Speaker 4: to where I have a certain set time for that.
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  Speaker 1: Got it?
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  Speaker 2: Okay? Yeah, yeah, So that's a little bit about my
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  Speaker 2: goals for de summer. Thank Yeah.
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  Speaker 3: You can do hard things.
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  Speaker 2: Thank you? Well, can we all can? Oh? Yes, Well,
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  Speaker 2: I was just thinking, like Thanksgiving is next week, and
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  Speaker 2: then basically before you know, it's Hanuka, it's Christmas, it's
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  Speaker 2: the new year. This is the time of year where
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  Speaker 2: we start like vision boarding, picking our words of the year,
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  Speaker 2: like all that stuff. Maybe we do that for the
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  Speaker 2: podcast in December.
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  Speaker 3: Which is what we typically do.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, but it's now the time start thinking about it
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  Speaker 2: in brainstorming.
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  Speaker 3: Thank you for the heads up.
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  Speaker 2: No problem.
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  Speaker 4: Haley has this thing where she goes, she if it's
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  Speaker 4: in her calendar, she is like, I'm gonna do it.
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  Speaker 4: So she'll go, you should just put that in your calendar,
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  Speaker 4: and I go, that does not do anything for my
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  Speaker 4: calendar's empty, because I'm like, what I'm just if it's
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  Speaker 4: like She'll go, if I put a workout at a
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  Speaker 4: certain time in my calendar, then I'll if it's in
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  Speaker 4: my calendar, I'll do it.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, same, yeah, and I'm like I just go, h, well,
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  Speaker 3: the time.
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  Speaker 2: Passed, Like if I there's like, let's say the weekend
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  Speaker 2: goes by, and oh, there's a couple of emails that
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  Speaker 2: I want to have, like her priority to me, like,
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  Speaker 2: I'll put them in my calendar for Monday morning so
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  Speaker 2: that I remember to like respond to these people Monday morning,
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  Speaker 2: and I'll do it.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, you don't have that nothing. I don't know. I
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  Speaker 3: need some meds or something. I don't know. Something's wrong,
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  Speaker 3: something's not going on in here.
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  Speaker 2: Interesting, Hayley tried to get me.
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  Speaker 4: I felt like a child whose parent was trying to
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  Speaker 4: wrangle them yesterday because she was really trying to clear
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  Speaker 4: out this junk room because when we moved everything from
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  Speaker 4: the garage for the construction, I just went into this
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  Speaker 4: I call it the chaos room, and she wanted to
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  Speaker 4: clear it out, and I was all before yesterday. I
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  Speaker 4: was like, yeah, let's do it on Sunday. And then
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  Speaker 4: the time came and I was like I just don't
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  Speaker 4: want to.
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  Speaker 3: I have more laying to do. I just it doesn't
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  Speaker 3: feel right.
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  Speaker 4: And she was like, Babe, we have to get this
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  Speaker 4: done and you have to go through things. I can't
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  Speaker 4: do it on my own, so she had to wrangled me.
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  Speaker 3: You did it.
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  Speaker 4: I did it nice, but I got distracted and I
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  Speaker 4: was like clearing out the air filter and then I
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  Speaker 4: was folding laundry, so I was doing productive things. Just
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  Speaker 4: I didn't want to do that. And I have this
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  Speaker 4: thing about not wanting to be told what to do.
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  Speaker 5: Including your calendar telling you what to do.
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  Speaker 3: I think there's something I think what is that though?
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  Speaker 2: Is there maybe your whole life you were told what
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  Speaker 2: to do and now you're like rebelling.
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  Speaker 3: Breaking free. Yeah, we're breaking free.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah. It was Soman fine.
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  Speaker 3: In There's not a sovereign Heaven that we cambreach.
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  Speaker 2: High School Musical, Ah, yes, I never watched it.
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  Speaker 6: That's the only song I know from it.
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  Speaker 5: I haven't seen.
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  Speaker 4: I would say, y'all are missing out. I would also
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  Speaker 4: say high School Musical three is cinema.
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  Speaker 2: I feel like I passed the mark of it, do
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  Speaker 2: you know what I mean? Like, I feel like I'm so.
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  Speaker 3: Far past No, you're not. Sometimes I'll just put it
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  Speaker 3: on really. Yeah. That and the Hannah Montana.
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  Speaker 6: Movie, Oh We're Talking.
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  Speaker 4: And Lizzie McGuire movie, which, by the way, my initial
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  Speaker 4: response to mature was just kind of like it's I
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  Speaker 4: like it.
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  Speaker 3: It's fun boppy, but I'm really into.
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  Speaker 2: It now so good. It's like a certified bop.
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  Speaker 4: Maybe that's also something with controls. People telling me that
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  Speaker 4: it's amazing, but I need to decide for myself.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah, you should talk.
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  Speaker 2: I think there's something there.
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  Speaker 2: We'll get all them.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, well you're you know.
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  Speaker 2: Why would you be the first to talk about Gilmore
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  Speaker 6: I watch the episode, I go through and I talk about.
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  Speaker 6: I do not. I'm colorblind too. That's the other thing
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  Speaker 6: I'm going through, going like, man, there's a part at
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  Speaker 6: the town meeting Laura is She's wearing a brown shirt
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  Speaker 6: and it looks cool.
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  Speaker 5: This is it? People text you and say, it's a
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  Speaker 5: purple shirt.
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  Speaker 6: Actually, you know, because of this show, I got an
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  Speaker 6: me what color it is, because or because I'm sick
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  Speaker 6: of asking Al's and what color the thing is. But
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  Speaker 6: I also don't know how to talk about the fashion.
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  Speaker 2: I don't know fashion.
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  Speaker 6: I'm not a fashion guy. But I'm doing the damn
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  Speaker 6: show and I've been doing it for a few months.
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  Speaker 2: Oh my gosh, that really was unexpected today.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, so we get to let's decompress on that info.
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  Speaker 5: Well, let's take a break before the first one will
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  Speaker 5: tease it? How about this? How about this for a tease?
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  Speaker 5: How do I support my sister's affair but you don't?
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  Speaker 2: What are you gonna do? He's having an affair. We'll
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  Speaker 2: talk about it, Okay, after this.
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  Speaker 4: All right, we are back after finding out that Easton
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  Speaker 4: is a fashion podcast host.
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  Speaker 6: That's right. You know. Actually, if you are watching season
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  Speaker 6: one of Gilmore Girls, episode ten where they go to
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  Speaker 6: a Christmas party, Rory's wearing a vintage visiting that is
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  Speaker 6: to time.
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  Speaker 2: They're also color blind, know what about you?
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  Speaker 1: A layer? I just don't.
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  Speaker 3: Honestly, that's such a smart act.
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  Speaker 6: It's called color blind pal in case anyone else out
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  Speaker 6: there suffers from the same ailment.
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  Speaker 3: Honestly, Yeah, I'm not trying to make a joke. I
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  Speaker 3: hope you know.
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  Speaker 2: I'm not trying to make a joke of your color
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  Speaker 2: my disability. But like it's just so whoa, that's really cool.
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  Speaker 6: It uses your camera and like point you just point
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  Speaker 6: out something and it'll tell you.
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  Speaker 3: This happened on your nose. Do you want to know
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  Speaker 3: what it says? Faint orange? Shut up?
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  Speaker 2: That is not orange.
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  Speaker 3: I'm just a colored blind pal.
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  Speaker 6: Color blind pal says it's orange.
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  Speaker 2: Oh man, I hope you know I'm not making fun
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  Speaker 2: of you.
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  Speaker 6: I do not at all. Okay, this is I feel
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  Speaker 6: the exact same way.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, that's crazy. This is also crazy. Our first dear bonnet.
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  Speaker 5: Okay from anonymous Dear scrub squad Becatania Market, Eastern. That
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  Speaker 5: seems to be the default order right there. I could
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  Speaker 5: really use your advice. In late twenty twenty three, and
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  Speaker 5: my sister went on a dating app even though she
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  Speaker 5: was married. She ended up meeting a married guy and
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  Speaker 5: they had an affair for about nine months till her
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  Speaker 5: husband found out. My sister and her husband tried to
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  Speaker 5: work things out. It did not last. They are almost divorced.
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  Speaker 5: Recently she told me she and the guy she had
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  Speaker 5: the affair with have reconnected. He's now recently divorced as well.
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  Speaker 5: And they've started a real relationship. She is thirty five,
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  Speaker 5: he is fifty six. Normally, age gaps don't bother me,
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  Speaker 5: but with everything that's happened, this one really does. My
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  Speaker 5: husband and I have two little kids, four and one,
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  Speaker 5: and we're honestly struggling to process at all. We're worried
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  Speaker 5: about what happens if things get serious she starts bringing
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  Speaker 5: them around. My sister also wants kids, but she's admitted
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  Speaker 5: that if she stays with him, that's probably not going
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  Speaker 5: to happen. What makes this even harder is that our
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  Speaker 5: mom was cheated on and divorced our dads. It really
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  Speaker 5: hurts all of us that my sister would do this
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  Speaker 5: after see what our mom went through. I love my
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  Speaker 5: sitters so much, but I'm torn. I'm scared that if
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  Speaker 5: I don't support this, I'll lose her. But it's hard
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  Speaker 5: to watch her make these choices. I wouldn't normally be
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  Speaker 5: won to write in for advice, but she's only told me,
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  Speaker 5: my husband and our mom so far. I just don't
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  Speaker 5: know what to do with all of it. How do
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  Speaker 5: I support her without feeling like I'm agreeing to what
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  Speaker 5: she's doing? Or do I just need to accept it
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  Speaker 5: and hope for the best. Thank you all, and thanks
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  Speaker 5: in advance Anonymous and Day one scrubber ps. Your podcast
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  Speaker 5: has gotten me through so many rough newborn nights. Sending
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  Speaker 5: baby dust to you. Tanya.
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  Speaker 4: This is interesting because the only thing she mentions about him,
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  Speaker 4: aside from the fact that he also was married when
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  Speaker 4: they had the affair, is that he's fifty six. But
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  Speaker 4: she doesn't really talk about anything personality wise.
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  Speaker 3: So I'm trying to figure.
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  Speaker 2: Out she doesn't like him because creepy. I think it's
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  Speaker 2: his character that he also was cheating on his.
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  Speaker 4: Marriage, right, But I guess if you're fine with your
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  Speaker 4: sister being around your kids and she did the same thing,
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  Speaker 4: you know what I'm saying.
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  Speaker 2: I don't think she is. I don't think she I.
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  Speaker 4: Think she's fine with her sister. She doesn't want to
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  Speaker 4: hit her bring somebody else. So without having context of
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  Speaker 4: why she doesn't like him other than we just know
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  Speaker 4: he's fifty six and she did on his wife. But
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  Speaker 4: I the thing about this is that you don't have
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  Speaker 4: to like what they did, and you don't have to
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  Speaker 4: agree with what they did. But if you love your
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  Speaker 4: sister and you want a relationship with her, and this
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  Speaker 4: is the choice that she's making, then I think that
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  Speaker 4: you be around her. But if you're if there's something
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  Speaker 4: that makes you feel weird about having him around your kids,
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  Speaker 4: then just make sure he's super like make sure that
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  Speaker 4: they're not alone with him, you know what I'm saying.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, again, without any context about the guy being like
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  Speaker 2: creepy or anything like that. I feel that you can't
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  Speaker 2: punish your sister for the choices she made. Like she's
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  Speaker 2: in her she's living in her choices, you know what
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  Speaker 2: I mean. Like she's already dealing with the backlash of
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  Speaker 2: having an affair, breaking up her family, all the things.
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  Speaker 2: So I feel like you can't really well, I mean,
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  Speaker 2: if you do anything.
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  Speaker 4: If you want to have a relationship with your sister,
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  Speaker 4: I think you have to like get to a point
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  Speaker 4: where you accept that that's the choice that she's making
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  Speaker 4: and you don't have to agree with it.
• 16:16
  Speaker 2: But she's she's saying it's super sensitive because her mom
• 16:19
  Speaker 2: got cheated on, so she suset and I understand all
• 16:22
  Speaker 2: those things, but also you can't.
• 16:25
  Speaker 4: And I think it's if you and your sister are clothes,
• 16:28
  Speaker 4: I think it's even worth having a conversation being like,
• 16:30
  Speaker 4: I want to be there for you and I want
• 16:32
  Speaker 4: to support you in the choices you make, but I
• 16:34
  Speaker 4: am having a really hard time because we watched Mom
• 16:37
  Speaker 4: go through this and we know how hurtful it was,
• 16:40
  Speaker 4: and I'm I'm struggling to make sense of it and
• 16:44
  Speaker 4: accept it. And I just wanted to be upfront and
• 16:46
  Speaker 4: honest with you. But I love you, and I you
• 16:48
  Speaker 4: know you're my sister. Yeah, but I don't think that
• 16:52
  Speaker 4: you have to support her affair or you know, they're
• 16:56
  Speaker 4: both a divorce now so it's better now than it
• 16:59
  Speaker 4: was before or Yeah, and unless he's doing something that's
• 17:03
  Speaker 4: like super creepy or puts anyone in danger, I think
• 17:08
  Speaker 4: maybe you give give him a chance to see maybe
• 17:13
  Speaker 4: why your sister went through all that to be with him.
• 17:16
  Speaker 2: Yeah, Which I get it.
• 17:18
  Speaker 3: It's hard, it's it's not like an easy thing.
• 17:20
  Speaker 4: But I just I think you want to have a
• 17:22
  Speaker 4: relationship with your sister, and I also think that you
• 17:24
  Speaker 4: can't control what she does. And I think if you
• 17:26
  Speaker 4: say he's not invited, he's not welcome in our home,
• 17:30
  Speaker 4: you're gonna lose.
• 17:31
  Speaker 3: Your relationship with your sister. So I guess am.
• 17:33
  Speaker 4: Picking out choosing what is gonna, you know, be be
• 17:39
  Speaker 4: the best for you and your family. But also your
• 17:42
  Speaker 4: relationship with your sister is gonna you know, either it's
• 17:47
  Speaker 4: either gonna thrive and you're gonna learn to love her
• 17:50
  Speaker 4: in spite of her decisions, despite despite yeah I said
• 17:56
  Speaker 4: despite despite.
• 17:57
  Speaker 3: Her decisions, or you who don't have a close relationship with.
• 18:02
  Speaker 5: Her agreed, and your kids are gonna be fine. That's
• 18:06
  Speaker 5: just who Auntie Louise is dating. Okay, so her boyfriend.
• 18:10
  Speaker 5: The kids don't care. Yeah, ah, this is from Demi
• 18:14
  Speaker 5: or perhaps to me. I don't know and never will know.
• 18:17
  Speaker 5: She's a very defeated scrubber, though she says, Hi friends,
• 18:20
  Speaker 5: Day one listener, and my love for you all grows
• 18:22
  Speaker 5: every episode. You're the only podcast I listened to religiously
• 18:25
  Speaker 5: every week the day it comes out. You hear it
• 18:26
  Speaker 5: all the time, but I feel like you are truly
• 18:28
  Speaker 5: my friends, all four of you. I'm thirty three. When
• 18:31
  Speaker 5: I was thirty one, I met someone who I really
• 18:33
  Speaker 5: thought was the one. For six months, things were amazing.
• 18:35
  Speaker 5: We were long distance, two and a half hours apart,
• 18:38
  Speaker 5: but it felt like we had found our home in
• 18:40
  Speaker 5: each other. And then things got rocky. Right around the
• 18:42
  Speaker 5: time I was thinking about ending it, I got pregnant,
• 18:45
  Speaker 5: and it's been even more rocky. I said most of
• 18:47
  Speaker 5: my pregnancy depressed, wondering if I was making a mistake,
• 18:50
  Speaker 5: if I should do this as a single mom. When
• 18:51
  Speaker 5: I was seven months pregnant, he proposed. I said yes
• 18:55
  Speaker 5: because I loved him and I wanted to make a
• 18:57
  Speaker 5: family work, but also because I felt like I couldn't
• 18:59
  Speaker 5: say no. After my baby was born, I left my job,
• 19:02
  Speaker 5: which I loved, and moved to where he lives. I
• 19:04
  Speaker 5: uprooted everything, and now I'm not sure we should even
• 19:07
  Speaker 5: be together. We have good days, but just as many
• 19:09
  Speaker 5: bad ones. Every time we hit a new stage, I
• 19:11
  Speaker 5: tell myself things will get better, and they never do.
• 19:13
  Speaker 5: I love him, but I don't know if I've ever
• 19:15
  Speaker 5: been in love with him. We're so different in our
• 19:18
  Speaker 5: love language, his attachment styles, how we communicate, what we prioritize.
• 19:22
  Speaker 5: He drinks a lot, even at home with our baby.
• 19:24
  Speaker 5: It makes me wonder if he's unhappy too. He says
• 19:26
  Speaker 5: he loves me, he wants us to work, but I
• 19:27
  Speaker 5: feel alone even when he's right next to me. We
• 19:30
  Speaker 5: are not connecting. My baby is fourteen months old, and
• 19:33
  Speaker 5: I still don't know what to do. If a friend
• 19:35
  Speaker 5: told me this, I'd say, you only get one life.
• 19:37
  Speaker 5: You deserve to feel loved and excited every day. But
• 19:40
  Speaker 5: when you're a mom, you'll do anything to keep your
• 19:42
  Speaker 5: family together. And part of me thinks we could have
• 19:44
  Speaker 5: a good life. But when I hear the way Becket
• 19:46
  Speaker 5: talks about Haley or the way Tanya talks about Robbie,
• 19:49
  Speaker 5: I've never felt that way about him. So I'm torn
• 19:52
  Speaker 5: between staying and hoping love grows, or leaving and starting over,
• 19:55
  Speaker 5: leaving me and shared custody, missing time with my baby,
• 19:58
  Speaker 5: splitting holidays, rebuilding from s Do I love my baby
• 20:02
  Speaker 5: enough to accept a relationship that doesn't feel like that big,
• 20:05
  Speaker 5: deep love right now? Can that kind of love grow
• 20:07
  Speaker 5: if you nurture it? I would love your input. Love
• 20:10
  Speaker 5: to me or DEMI a very defeated scrubber boy. That
• 20:13
  Speaker 5: is a tough email.
• 20:18
  Speaker 2: I'm gonna shoot it to you straight because I think
• 20:21
  Speaker 2: you said it already to yourself. If this was a
• 20:24
  Speaker 2: friend coming to me with this situation, I would tell
• 20:27
  Speaker 2: them to leave. And I think that that's what you
• 20:30
  Speaker 2: know deep down that you should do, because here's the thing. Yes,
• 20:34
  Speaker 2: you will have to split custody. So it does mean
• 20:37
  Speaker 2: missing time with your baby one hundred percent. It does
• 20:40
  Speaker 2: mean splitting the holidays. It does mean rebuilding everything from scratch.
• 20:44
  Speaker 2: But you have so much life ahead of you, and
• 20:47
  Speaker 2: kids are so resilient. What you have control over is
• 20:51
  Speaker 2: if you split up, you can still make it doesn't
• 20:54
  Speaker 2: have to be a nasty split up. You can try
• 20:57
  Speaker 2: and make that as cordial and as good as you
• 20:58
  Speaker 2: possibly can, and then you can have a very happy
• 21:02
  Speaker 2: and loving home for that time that you do get
• 21:05
  Speaker 2: to have your baby with you, and you can also
• 21:08
  Speaker 2: have that love and that relationship and those experiences for
• 21:11
  Speaker 2: yourself too, because eventually your baby's gonna grow up. Your
• 21:14
  Speaker 2: baby's gonna turn eighteen. And I mean, I don't know,
• 21:16
  Speaker 2: but like probably want nothing to do with you, you know,
• 21:19
  Speaker 2: like not want nothing to do with you. But their
• 21:22
  Speaker 2: kids grow up, they build their own lives, they leave
• 21:24
  Speaker 2: the house, they leave the house, and then what you're
• 21:26
  Speaker 2: just left with this guy that you don't like.
• 21:30
  Speaker 4: That's what I was gonna say the same thing too,
• 21:32
  Speaker 4: Like your child is gonna grow up and they're gonna
• 21:36
  Speaker 4: did he say?
• 21:36
  Speaker 3: She hears?
• 21:37
  Speaker 2: She she said baby. So I'm just gonna the baby.
• 21:39
  Speaker 3: Is going to grow up and become an adult.
• 21:41
  Speaker 4: And then, like, let's say you're still in the same
• 21:45
  Speaker 4: mindset that you're in now, and you go through eighteen
• 21:47
  Speaker 4: years of raising this child with this man that you're
• 21:50
  Speaker 4: just tolerating, and then the the baby leaves the house,
• 21:55
  Speaker 4: are you instantly gonna say, I'm gonna go live my
• 21:58
  Speaker 4: life and find the love that I've always wanted. Are
• 22:00
  Speaker 4: you going to wait eighteen years, seventeen years to go
• 22:05
  Speaker 4: after the love and find the love and that you
• 22:07
  Speaker 4: deserve and have always wanted. Because I think if you're
• 22:10
  Speaker 4: having a tough time and you're in a relationship where
• 22:12
  Speaker 4: y'all are not connecting, you don't know each other's love languages,
• 22:15
  Speaker 4: you don't feel seen, the baby is going to become
• 22:19
  Speaker 4: a perceptive child who is going to feel the lack
• 22:22
  Speaker 4: of connection and love in the home. So I'm I'm
• 22:26
  Speaker 4: all for keeping the family together and fighting through hard times,
• 22:30
  Speaker 4: but if it's just always hard.
• 22:32
  Speaker 2: Yeah, it seems fifty to fifty, which feels.
• 22:34
  Speaker 3: Like, I mean, my thing is, can you nurture a relationship? Sure?
• 22:39
  Speaker 4: I think so, I think you can nurture I think
• 22:41
  Speaker 4: you can go to couple therapy. I think you can
• 22:43
  Speaker 4: find ways to connect in levels that you don't connect on,
• 22:47
  Speaker 4: like maybe you find things that you have similar and
• 22:49
  Speaker 4: common interest in.
• 22:51
  Speaker 3: But I also just don't think that if.
• 22:54
  Speaker 4: Your whole life, like if your whole life of raising
• 22:57
  Speaker 4: this child, is you going, should I stay?
• 22:59
  Speaker 3: Should I go?
• 23:00
  Speaker 4: Like, you just have to make the decision. Either you're
• 23:02
  Speaker 4: going to commit and you're going to water the relationship
• 23:05
  Speaker 4: and nurture it, or you're gonna do what's best for
• 23:10
  Speaker 4: you and ultimately the baby right now and get out
• 23:13
  Speaker 4: of that relationship.
• 23:14
  Speaker 3: Yeah, what do you think, Mark, I don't know.
• 23:18
  Speaker 5: It's really difficult because you know a lot of women
• 23:22
  Speaker 5: stay in these situations because they can't imagine, you know,
• 23:26
  Speaker 5: say she splits up with this guy, this guy's going
• 23:28
  Speaker 5: to find someone else. Someday suddenly that new random woman's
• 23:33
  Speaker 5: going to have a maternal relationship with her baby. Like
• 23:35
  Speaker 5: that's one of those things that's very difficult. And I
• 23:37
  Speaker 5: get how difficult that is, But it seems to me
• 23:41
  Speaker 5: that you want to envision your life in five years.
• 23:44
  Speaker 5: You know, I've given that advice one hundred times on
• 23:46
  Speaker 5: this show, And imagine your life in five years with
• 23:49
  Speaker 5: him by your side and your baby now five six
• 23:51
  Speaker 5: years old, and without him, can you get your old
• 23:54
  Speaker 5: job back? Are you doing that? Are you making things happen?
• 23:57
  Speaker 5: You're a single mom doing it? Like you know, I
• 23:59
  Speaker 5: think that's sounds more appealing to you right now, and
• 24:01
  Speaker 5: so maybe you can get past that other stuff. I
• 24:03
  Speaker 5: don't know. I'm very torn on this when I go
• 24:05
  Speaker 5: back and forth, but I think you just got to
• 24:06
  Speaker 5: envision what your future is like with him and your
• 24:08
  Speaker 5: future without him, because you know, I'm We're an empty
• 24:12
  Speaker 5: nester fairly soon, and I'm very not excited about that
• 24:16
  Speaker 5: because it's going to be sad to see them go.
• 24:18
  Speaker 5: But that reconnection with my wife and that connection we
• 24:20
  Speaker 5: had before we had kids, I really am looking forward
• 24:23
  Speaker 5: to that. I'm looking forward to just being the two
• 24:25
  Speaker 5: of us and we can do whatever we want to do.
• 24:26
  Speaker 5: That's exciting. So if you don't have that excitement in
• 24:29
  Speaker 5: your mind, then yeah, maybe it's time to head back
• 24:31
  Speaker 5: to your old where you used to live.
• 24:34
  Speaker 4: Yeah, Like if being alone once the baby is gone,
• 24:38
  Speaker 4: if being alone is more daunting than exciting, like the
• 24:42
  Speaker 4: thought of, like, oh, one day we're going to get
• 24:44
  Speaker 4: back to who we were before having a baby and
• 24:46
  Speaker 4: our connection. If that feels more like a horror film
• 24:50
  Speaker 4: then a romance rom com, I would just I.
• 24:56
  Speaker 3: Would cut the cord now. Yeah, But then there's a
• 25:00
  Speaker 3: they're part of me that feels like she didn't say
• 25:02
  Speaker 3: it's all bad, right, and I feel like thirteen months
• 25:06
  Speaker 3: those are that's probably the hardest year. Yes, I hear
• 25:09
  Speaker 3: everyone say the.
• 25:10
  Speaker 4: First year having a baby is like you're adjusting to
• 25:14
  Speaker 4: so much, and like your relationship goes through it because
• 25:16
  Speaker 4: this baby has entered and that becomes their whole world.
• 25:19
  Speaker 4: And I'm like, do you wait till you're out of
• 25:23
  Speaker 4: the thick of.
• 25:25
  Speaker 3: Newborn?
• 25:26
  Speaker 5: I think the couple's counseling idea is an interesting thought
• 25:29
  Speaker 5: because maybe there is something there that you guys can find. Yeah,
• 25:32
  Speaker 5: and maybe you give yourself a deadline.
• 25:33
  Speaker 2: Let's try this for right, maybe by the time the
• 25:35
  Speaker 2: kid's three, and maybe you'd revisit the situation.
• 25:39
  Speaker 3: And like put put like actual action items to work.
• 25:43
  Speaker 2: It notunds like she does want to do that, But
• 25:45
  Speaker 2: it takes two to tango, so we don't know if
• 25:47
  Speaker 2: this guy is also down for the task.
• 25:48
  Speaker 6: Yeah, sure, he's just right, Like he's.
• 25:51
  Speaker 2: Just like I'm just going to live my life and
• 25:52
  Speaker 2: do what you want to do.
• 25:53
  Speaker 5: You know.
• 25:53
  Speaker 4: Well, yeah, I mean if he if she brings up
• 25:55
  Speaker 4: the idea of going to couples counseling and he's like,
• 25:57
  Speaker 4: I'm not doing that, then you have your answer. You
• 25:59
  Speaker 4: can't you can't force someone to want to work on things.
• 26:03
  Speaker 4: But if he's like, yeah, let's do it. I want
• 26:05
  Speaker 4: to be with you, then I think there's a way
• 26:07
  Speaker 4: of nurturing something and maybe finding something in each other
• 26:10
  Speaker 4: that that you are able to love him in the
• 26:13
  Speaker 4: way that you want to to love and be loved.
• 26:17
  Speaker 3: But I'm sorry, that's really really challenged. H keep us
• 26:21
  Speaker 3: updated if you want.
• 26:24
  Speaker 5: Yeah, we'd love that.
• 26:25
  Speaker 3: Yeah. Yeah, I feel like we should take a break
• 26:28
  Speaker 3: and do We'll do a fun one, a fun one
• 26:31
  Speaker 3: when we return.
• 26:50
  Speaker 2: We're back, Yes we are. Mark.
• 26:59
  Speaker 3: I feel like I'm drunk, legitimately drunk on life.
• 27:07
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 27:07
  Speaker 5: I thought we did this last one? Is that cool?
• 27:09
  Speaker 3: Yeah?
• 27:09
  Speaker 5: Three set this in Hi, Tanya, Mark, Beca and Easton.
• 27:14
  Speaker 5: When you were playing Becca Trilvia and you read those
• 27:16
  Speaker 5: questions from the Bachelor interviews, it had me wondering what
• 27:19
  Speaker 5: all of your answers would be and what Becca's would
• 27:21
  Speaker 5: be today. Would love to hear everyone's answer. Sincerely, Brie,
• 27:25
  Speaker 5: a longtime listener, former Grays and Bachelor watcher Sunshine Mind Book.
• 27:29
  Speaker 5: A sign attendee at the Grove, enthusiastic listening to Mark's
• 27:34
  Speaker 5: advice and thankful for Easton's love of life and his
• 27:37
  Speaker 5: reminders to do the random things and enjoy the moments
• 27:40
  Speaker 5: we have. Wow, thanks for being part of my life
• 27:42
  Speaker 5: all these years. We love bre Love you, Bri. All right,
• 27:45
  Speaker 5: tattoos you have you had to? Now you have fewer
• 27:50
  Speaker 5: than two?
• 27:51
  Speaker 3: Yeah, I don't have any zero zero.
• 27:53
  Speaker 5: All right, Tanya zero Easton three. I also have zero,
• 27:58
  Speaker 5: So Easton, tell us about yours.
• 28:00
  Speaker 6: They're all on my lower lower hemisphere. I got one
• 28:05
  Speaker 6: on my foot. It's the face from the Indiana Jones
• 28:07
  Speaker 6: ride at Disneyland, the big face you see that you're
• 28:10
  Speaker 6: not supposed to going to the eyes.
• 28:11
  Speaker 5: Yeah, naturally, Mara common tattoo.
• 28:13
  Speaker 6: And then on my shin I've got a big old
• 28:15
  Speaker 6: skeleton also from that ride where that shoots the darts
• 28:18
  Speaker 6: at you. And then on my upper thigh, I've got
• 28:20
  Speaker 6: a woman's face with spider legs coming out of it.
• 28:22
  Speaker 2: I had a dragon. No on your leg.
• 28:27
  Speaker 6: No, it's got flames on it. It's it's a skeleton.
• 28:29
  Speaker 5: Oh yeah, the woman's face is that from? What is
• 28:32
  Speaker 5: that from?
• 28:33
  Speaker 6: You know? It was Halloween and there's a sheet of
• 28:35
  Speaker 6: the pictures and I got it was thirty one dollars
• 28:38
  Speaker 6: and I got it.
• 28:39
  Speaker 5: Wow.
• 28:40
  Speaker 6: Yeah, it doesn't mean anything, just a impulse, tattoo impulse all.
• 28:44
  Speaker 6: You know, we went down there to get tattoos that
• 28:45
  Speaker 6: day it was gonna happen, but I didn't know when
• 28:47
  Speaker 6: I was getting util I got down.
• 28:48
  Speaker 5: Wow. Crazy, I can't live without Becka. Originally, of course
• 28:52
  Speaker 5: said food, family, friends, Wi Fi, and Netflix. So crazy.
• 28:58
  Speaker 5: What would you put on that list? Now?
• 29:02
  Speaker 3: I mean food? I feel little passionate about that.
• 29:05
  Speaker 5: Water. Also, sure if you.
• 29:07
  Speaker 2: Need not including people like, let's not include people Phoebe
• 29:13
  Speaker 2: or dogs?
• 29:13
  Speaker 5: Oh so no mammals allowed this question?
• 29:17
  Speaker 4: Okay, Well, I'm just gonna make it kind of silly
• 29:20
  Speaker 4: and lighthearted and I'm not going to go too deep
• 29:22
  Speaker 4: since you're taking away my essentials.
• 29:25
  Speaker 3: Fine, Okay, I'm gonna.
• 29:27
  Speaker 4: Say my silk pillow case, specifically my pillow because I
• 29:33
  Speaker 4: literally have to travel with it.
• 29:34
  Speaker 3: I can't not travel with it. It's a huge, it's
• 29:37
  Speaker 3: a thing.
• 29:40
  Speaker 4: I would say perfume, yeah, just like smell and nice.
• 29:47
  Speaker 3: Unfortunately I say my phone, Yeah, I can't live without it?
• 29:51
  Speaker 3: About why would I? You know? And I would say
• 29:57
  Speaker 3: this is really hard. I'll let you've taken away my essentials.
• 30:00
  Speaker 4: I'm gonna say soda, m yeah, I need it, love it, caffeine,
• 30:05
  Speaker 4: and my final.
• 30:07
  Speaker 3: Pick would be.
• 30:14
  Speaker 4: A dryer, washer and dryer because I don't like to
• 30:19
  Speaker 4: smell of outside. You have to wash your clothes.
• 30:24
  Speaker 2: You you didn't even pick clothes, so you don't have clothes,
• 30:28
  Speaker 2: so you'd just be washing yourself close.
• 30:32
  Speaker 3: You said I had I'm not picking food, but are people?
• 30:34
  Speaker 3: But I get to have that's not an essential?
• 30:37
  Speaker 2: Yeah?
• 30:39
  Speaker 3: What what are my rules?
• 30:40
  Speaker 2: Understand the question what.
• 30:42
  Speaker 5: You couldn't live without? It's very simple. Doesn't have to
• 30:46
  Speaker 5: like we don't have to pick shelter, but we couldn't
• 30:50
  Speaker 5: live without it. Like there's certain things that are.
• 30:54
  Speaker 3: Soda. I love food.
• 30:58
  Speaker 5: I love to lay, so the couch would maybe be
• 31:02
  Speaker 5: an important thing.
• 31:03
  Speaker 3: My skincare, I don't know what is yours mine?
• 31:06
  Speaker 2: Simple, it's my orthotics.
• 31:08
  Speaker 3: Just one do you shoes?
• 31:11
  Speaker 2: Do you understand? These were the most uncomfortable shoes I'd
• 31:14
  Speaker 2: ever worn in my life. Okay, but you I put
• 31:17
  Speaker 2: my orthotics in these bad boys, and I felt like
• 31:19
  Speaker 2: I was on a cloud at the Sabrina Carpenter Show.
• 31:22
  Speaker 6: They're inserts.
• 31:23
  Speaker 1: Yes, wow, and.
• 31:24
  Speaker 2: These ones aren't even like I can go to a
• 31:26
  Speaker 2: store where they mold them to my feet.
• 31:28
  Speaker 3: It's not as good though. I don't like them when
• 31:30
  Speaker 3: these are not.
• 31:30
  Speaker 2: These are just regular ones that I bomb. But I'm like,
• 31:32
  Speaker 2: I can't even imagine the orgasmic heaven that would be
• 31:36
  Speaker 2: if I got ones made for my feet, Like.
• 31:38
  Speaker 5: Are you jelling?
• 31:39
  Speaker 6: What are you jelling?
• 31:41
  Speaker 2: No, they're they're not gel No, I don't think so.
• 31:45
  Speaker 2: I don't know, but that's really all I need. Okay,
• 31:47
  Speaker 2: so just your simple gal. Yeah, I don't need my phone.
• 31:50
  Speaker 2: I don't need a TV. I do need a washer
• 31:51
  Speaker 2: and dryer. Just my orthotics.
• 31:53
  Speaker 6: Wow wow, and some flaws.
• 31:55
  Speaker 5: I don't know. I love baseball so much. I'm going
• 31:58
  Speaker 5: baseball and TV and my.
• 32:00
  Speaker 6: On yeah phone, popcorn? Uh uh. The eminem's character is
• 32:07
  Speaker 6: just to look at.
• 32:09
  Speaker 4: Okay, next one, I mean when you when you're when
• 32:12
  Speaker 4: your baseline is food, family friends by a Netflix that
• 32:16
  Speaker 4: can only go up.
• 32:18
  Speaker 5: Biggest Date fear. You had said having stomach issues and
• 32:21
  Speaker 5: clogging up a toilet like a dumb.
• 32:23
  Speaker 4: And dumber this Actually, I don't think I would take
• 32:27
  Speaker 4: this back.
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  Speaker 3: I can't think of something worse.
• 32:29
  Speaker 5: I'm with you on this, maybe pooping my pants even
• 32:32
  Speaker 5: with on a date night with my wife, if I
• 32:34
  Speaker 5: had crippling stomach issues and had to run to the bathroom,
• 32:37
  Speaker 5: like what a what a? What a mood kill.
• 32:42
  Speaker 3: And your orthotic and.
• 32:44
  Speaker 6: Before my athonic into my life, your mind was always like, uh,
• 32:48
  Speaker 6: if there's a problem by credit card or something like
• 32:51
  Speaker 6: it got locked out, or like, uh, yeah, I was
• 32:54
  Speaker 6: always afraid something like that. Even even when I knew
• 32:56
  Speaker 6: everything was fine, I still was always afraid, Like what
• 32:58
  Speaker 6: if it comes back declined? That's my problem?
• 33:01
  Speaker 3: And you know that fear and comes from having being declined,
• 33:04
  Speaker 3: and I relate to that.
• 33:06
  Speaker 6: Yeah, never gonna escape that.
• 33:08
  Speaker 5: She could be any animal. What would you be? Beca
• 33:10
  Speaker 5: picked a dolphin? They're beautiful and supposed to the twenty
• 33:13
  Speaker 5: percent of their brains brilliant.
• 33:15
  Speaker 2: It's just as me. My biggest date fear.
• 33:18
  Speaker 5: Oh, I thought you were saying the stomach things.
• 33:20
  Speaker 2: No, I said, that's happening me.
• 33:22
  Speaker 5: Okay, it's not fear anymore.
• 33:25
  Speaker 2: I was always afraid I was going to go up
• 33:27
  Speaker 2: to the wrong person because I never knew exactly what
• 33:31
  Speaker 2: the guys looked like. Yeah, I was always scared of Wow,
• 33:36
  Speaker 2: especially mister Wilsher, because the first time I met him
• 33:39
  Speaker 2: it was like in a park and I was like, oh, hell,
• 33:41
  Speaker 2: like a lot of park with a lot of people.
• 33:43
  Speaker 3: Oh my god.
• 33:44
  Speaker 2: I was like, if I don't get this right, it's
• 33:45
  Speaker 2: gonna be so embarrassing.
• 33:47
  Speaker 3: And you all just met through a car window.
• 33:49
  Speaker 5: Yes, yeah, all right, what animal would you be, Tanya?
• 33:51
  Speaker 3: I'm glad you're alive. By the way, you had some
• 33:55
  Speaker 3: questionable to Totally.
• 33:56
  Speaker 6: I think it's on the dude to approach to come
• 33:58
  Speaker 6: up to you during the day.
• 34:00
  Speaker 2: They I was weirdly, I was always the second one there,
• 34:04
  Speaker 2: like the guys are always like seated.
• 34:06
  Speaker 6: But still he should stand up and be like hello,
• 34:08
  Speaker 6: a tan yea.
• 34:09
  Speaker 2: You know no, even Robbie didn't do that.
• 34:11
  Speaker 6: Wow, it's this world coming too, And I was sure,
• 34:13
  Speaker 6: what do you look like?
• 34:14
  Speaker 2: Either? If I could be any animal, I would be Sunny,
• 34:19
  Speaker 2: my dog. I just just to get into her head
• 34:22
  Speaker 2: and know what she's thinking about.
• 34:25
  Speaker 3: I would stick with my original answer of a dolphin.
• 34:28
  Speaker 3: It's just the my.
• 34:29
  Speaker 4: Little things at the end, dumb and dumber, brilliant. It's like,
• 34:35
  Speaker 4: why not just answer the question. You don't need these
• 34:37
  Speaker 4: little taglines. But I do stink with stick with dolphins
• 34:42
  Speaker 4: the hell free.
• 34:43
  Speaker 5: Monkeys seem like they're having a good time. Yeah, i'd
• 34:45
  Speaker 5: be a monkey. Plus, they're awfully similar to us. Yeah
• 34:48
  Speaker 5: a monkey.
• 34:49
  Speaker 6: I'd be a gorilla. Oh wow, very similar to my
• 34:53
  Speaker 6: body type.
• 34:53
  Speaker 5: Yeah, you're a gorilla of them. Man, If you won
• 34:56
  Speaker 5: the lottery, what would you do with your winnings? You know,
• 34:59
  Speaker 5: I'll tell you I would do much. I'm very happy.
• 35:02
  Speaker 6: Yeah.
• 35:02
  Speaker 5: I like my car, I like my house. We would
• 35:05
  Speaker 5: expand the collegiate options for my daughter if I won
• 35:08
  Speaker 5: the lottery. But I don't see us moving into a mansion.
• 35:11
  Speaker 5: I don't see buying a maserati. I don't see any
• 35:14
  Speaker 5: of that stuff. We would travel sooner and better, that's
• 35:17
  Speaker 5: what we would do. And I love my job, like
• 35:20
  Speaker 5: I need something to do. But I think we would
• 35:22
  Speaker 5: travel more and in a higher class of travel. That's good,
• 35:28
  Speaker 5: that's what we would do.
• 35:28
  Speaker 3: Yeah, I would travel.
• 35:29
  Speaker 4: I would buy a home in a couple of different
• 35:31
  Speaker 4: places sure, and then gives them away to Tanya mark Innistan.
• 35:38
  Speaker 3: Yeah, my family, scrubbing in family.
• 35:41
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I would definitely get houses for my family, Robbie's family,
• 35:44
  Speaker 2: Like make sure everybody's set up in a home, like
• 35:47
  Speaker 2: a nice home. Then I would do what mister Beast does.
• 35:53
  Speaker 6: Open a theme park inside of your always.
• 35:56
  Speaker 2: Yeah, the money money always. Yeah.
• 35:58
  Speaker 3: My sister entered one. She goes, I have a feeling
• 36:01
  Speaker 3: I'm gonna win.
• 36:01
  Speaker 2: So there's a couple of the other there's a couple
• 36:05
  Speaker 2: others of them that do it as well, but I
• 36:08
  Speaker 2: don't I don't know their names YouTubers, but yeah, like that.
• 36:13
  Speaker 5: It would be cool.
• 36:14
  Speaker 3: Yeah, it would be fun.
• 36:15
  Speaker 6: Yeah yeah, Eastern uh yeah, traveled by people's houses.
• 36:20
  Speaker 5: Blah blah, what's they really dorky stuff you would do
• 36:23
  Speaker 5: really dorky stuff. You buy cheesecake factory, franch eyes or that's.
• 36:28
  Speaker 3: Hard though, you have to work hard to like maintain them.
• 36:30
  Speaker 6: Yeah, yeah, I don't dream of that, but I do
• 36:33
  Speaker 6: you know a bed that looks.
• 36:36
  Speaker 4: Like a croc What about Easton Eats and it's just
• 36:39
  Speaker 4: all your favorite foods as a restaurant.
• 36:41
  Speaker 6: I mean that would be fun, but also that's a
• 36:43
  Speaker 6: lot of work to do. You know what I would do?
• 36:45
  Speaker 4: The uh?
• 36:46
  Speaker 6: In Back to the Future Part two, there's these nikes
• 36:48
  Speaker 6: that lace themselves, are called Nike Mags, and they made
• 36:50
  Speaker 6: them for real and they sell for like thirty grand.
• 36:53
  Speaker 6: If a pair of those backs wear them around, that's
• 36:56
  Speaker 6: a good purchase, actually, and they just invest the rest
• 36:59
  Speaker 6: or something like a go Greek machine.
• 37:01
  Speaker 2: Just have it on tap at your house.
• 37:02
  Speaker 6: That'd be great.
• 37:03
  Speaker 5: Yeah, does They don't have a most embarrassing moment to share?
• 37:07
  Speaker 5: Becca had several this quiz. Once I was getting gassed
• 37:11
  Speaker 5: and the guy asked, what kind of gas do you like?
• 37:13
  Speaker 5: And I thought he asked what kind of guys do
• 37:15
  Speaker 5: you like? So I responded the tall, dark, and handsome,
• 37:17
  Speaker 5: and he stared at me and repeated the question.
• 37:21
  Speaker 3: It's so cringe and also just funny, tall, doorcing handsome.
• 37:27
  Speaker 4: That's just funny. Embarrassing moments in Helen, Yeah, you don't
• 37:36
  Speaker 4: get embarrassed, not part of your personality.
• 37:40
  Speaker 3: Do y'all have any.
• 37:41
  Speaker 5: Nothing comes to mind? Look like I tried out for
• 37:44
  Speaker 5: the high school baseball team and it went horribly wrong
• 37:46
  Speaker 5: and I was terrible. And I also like a like
• 37:49
  Speaker 5: a runny nose at the time, and I couldn't kind
• 37:51
  Speaker 5: of keep up with that, and it was just an
• 37:53
  Speaker 5: awful day. I remember that being an awful embarrassing day.
• 37:58
  Speaker 6: I also don't get embarrassed it easily. But uh, a year,
• 38:01
  Speaker 6: many many years ago before we moved to La, I I
• 38:03
  Speaker 6: went to it. I didn't open mic at stand up.
• 38:05
  Speaker 6: I tried sam comedy. Wow, I didn't. I didn't tell
• 38:07
  Speaker 6: anyone about I just did it, went by myself. And
• 38:09
  Speaker 6: let me tell you, guys, I absolutely destroyed. I killed
• 38:12
  Speaker 6: and I was like, oh, this is it. I'm doing
• 38:15
  Speaker 6: this now, this is it. So I did. I came
• 38:17
  Speaker 6: back like a month later. I told my friends, and
• 38:19
  Speaker 6: oh my god, how poorly I did that second time?
• 38:24
  Speaker 6: So bad? Nobody laughed. It was terrible. I was like
• 38:27
  Speaker 6: fumbling around and I was so embarrassed. But that's every
• 38:30
  Speaker 6: stand up comic story it is. And I realized at
• 38:32
  Speaker 6: that point I was not built for that. So interesting,
• 38:35
  Speaker 6: so I never did it.
• 38:36
  Speaker 5: Every other standup comedy realizes that they can endure that embarrassment,
• 38:41
  Speaker 5: yeah and get back up.
• 38:42
  Speaker 3: You were.
• 38:42
  Speaker 6: That's it for me, that's it for you know. I'm like,
• 38:44
  Speaker 6: there's gonna be more of these down the line. And
• 38:45
  Speaker 6: I don't think I'm I don't think I'm built for this.
• 38:49
  Speaker 3: You trigger something in me.
• 38:51
  Speaker 4: For my most embarrassing it was when Amy had me
• 38:53
  Speaker 4: fill in for k t LA the entertainment portion as
• 38:58
  Speaker 4: like I filled him for Sam Rubin.
• 39:00
  Speaker 6: Wow.
• 39:00
  Speaker 3: And I had no hosting a bit.
• 39:03
  Speaker 4: I had no experience reading a prompter, and it was
• 39:07
  Speaker 4: so painfully bad. I was like, I will never When
• 39:12
  Speaker 4: people are like, would you want to host TV? She's like,
• 39:14
  Speaker 4: you should host, you should host, I'm like never, Wow,
• 39:17
  Speaker 4: shut me down.
• 39:18
  Speaker 2: I remember that was as bad as she's making it's
• 39:22
  Speaker 2: pretty bad, but it wasn't that.
• 39:24
  Speaker 5: That was bad.
• 39:25
  Speaker 4: I interviewed Alie Simpson, Cody Simpson's sister. Yeah, she was
• 39:31
  Speaker 4: promoting something, but she was really sweet.
• 39:33
  Speaker 2: But it wasn't as bad as you think. But I
• 39:36
  Speaker 2: could see the panic in her.
• 39:38
  Speaker 3: Yeah, like you could tell it was very uncomfortable.
• 39:41
  Speaker 6: Yeah, would you do it now?
• 39:42
  Speaker 3: And I'm looking it up Mark, we're trying.
• 39:46
  Speaker 6: No, you have so much more experience as a host now,
• 39:49
  Speaker 6: and you're so good.
• 39:51
  Speaker 4: Well, you could host a comedy special and I also
• 39:56
  Speaker 4: have experience, and you could host a fashion show panel.
• 40:02
  Speaker 5: You could, by the way, you're a color blind fashion commentator.
• 40:06
  Speaker 5: You can do anything.
• 40:08
  Speaker 3: Literally, people believe in you.
• 40:13
  Speaker 5: And finally, what is your greatest We get everybody on
• 40:16
  Speaker 5: that one. What is your greatest achievement to date? Becca
• 40:19
  Speaker 5: said at this date, staying at home, staying and living
• 40:21
  Speaker 5: alone in California, when my sister and brother in law
• 40:24
  Speaker 5: went back to Louisiana.
• 40:27
  Speaker 3: I would say buying a house in California. I feel
• 40:29
  Speaker 3: very a.
• 40:29
  Speaker 5: Major accomplishment, very achieved.
• 40:33
  Speaker 3: We're doing that.
• 40:33
  Speaker 5: We've asked this before and I've always said I and
• 40:36
  Speaker 5: I continue to say, my marriage of twenty three years,
• 40:41
  Speaker 5: thank you, thank you, and my daughters.
• 40:43
  Speaker 2: Yes, I think Mine's my book.
• 40:49
  Speaker 5: That's a good one.
• 40:50
  Speaker 2: Really hard to do, and it was, Yeah, it was hard,
• 40:55
  Speaker 2: challenging in many ways.
• 40:57
  Speaker 6: I have the Sunshine. Mine is on my bookcase in
• 40:59
  Speaker 6: my office at home, and sometimes I hold like I
• 41:02
  Speaker 6: pick it up and hold it in my hand and
• 41:03
  Speaker 6: I think about that, like you can pick up this
• 41:06
  Speaker 6: thing that Tanya creating and hold it in your hand,
• 41:08
  Speaker 6: and it's like, that's just such an incredible thing.
• 41:10
  Speaker 2: It was so much time and effort, like more than
• 41:14
  Speaker 2: I put into I feel like anything.
• 41:16
  Speaker 6: Yeah, yeah, and it comes through in the work.
• 41:19
  Speaker 2: Thank you. So much.
• 41:20
  Speaker 6: Uh, you know, I think sometimes I think about my marriage,
• 41:24
  Speaker 6: but that's not a really an achievement. That's like I
• 41:25
  Speaker 6: tricked somebody into it. But yeah, I guess I'll buy
• 41:29
  Speaker 6: a house in California that I was pretty I'm proud
• 41:32
  Speaker 6: of that.
• 41:32
  Speaker 5: Yeah, in a classic house.
• 41:33
  Speaker 6: Yeah yeah, a a historic home, one hundred year old
• 41:36
  Speaker 6: house that we've painsectly restored.
• 41:42
  Speaker 3: Well, that was a really fun prompt.
• 41:44
  Speaker 4: I mean, I hate revisiting that interview that I did,
• 41:46
  Speaker 4: but I'm grateful for redo.
• 41:48
  Speaker 5: Thank you, Thank you, Bri.
• 41:50
  Speaker 4: And if you ever want to submit dear Bonia questions, comments, concerns, games,
• 41:56
  Speaker 4: et cetera, please dms on Instagram at scrubbing in pot
• 41:59
  Speaker 4: or email tell us at scrubbing In at iHeartMedia dot com.
• 42:03
  Speaker 3: Everyone's going to go home and lay and we hope
• 42:08
  Speaker 3: you have a wonderful weekend. And we love you so much.
• 42:13
  Speaker 4: You love you.
• 42:14
  Speaker 2: Bye bye