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Autism Inertia - Do You Make These Mistakes! · Aspergers & Autism Podcast [The Aspie World] AuDHD

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  You have arrived. Welcome to the Aspy world.
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  Here's where we talk about anything and everything ASD in
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  an upbeat and informative way. And now here's your man on the
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  spectrum, your autism ambassador, Daniel Morgan Jones.
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  So autism and inertia, do you make these mistakes?
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  Because I have a feeling you probably do so.
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  OK, let me sit down here properly.
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  What is going on, guys? OK, so inertia, I've done a few
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  videos on inertia, right? And a lot of people each fix
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  this camera. I feel like you guys are far
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  away. Are you far away?
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  OK, good. So I feel like a lot of people
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  would be like inertia. I think I I think I know what
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  that is, or maybe I do. But look, inertia is the the
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  moment where you want to do something, but you can't start
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  it right? You can't start a task.
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  And autistic individuals, ADHD individuals, you know what I'm
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  saying? So how do we come?
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  How do we overcome this? Well, there's ways we can
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  overcome this. And I'll link you to a video
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  where I give 5 hacks on how you can ace life having this inertia
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  and how to overcome it with five simple steps, which is really
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  good. Then I've implemented these.
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  But there are things that we do in our life.
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  There are things that we do in our day-to-day life, which
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  actually impact our ability to overcome inertia.
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  And it then reshapes how we think about it and reshapes how
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  it actually impact our life. Which by the way, I'm going to
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  add I I'm going to help solve you right now.
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  So three main pieces. So just want to interrupt this
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  video and say, guys, if you are already following me, thank you
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  So go please check me out on there.
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  I do daily videos on there too. Now, when we think about
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  inertia, I've said this in a video before, inertia is
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  basically when Newton kind of coined this term inertia.
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  He said that when there's an object in motion, it stays in
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  motion, right? And what that means is if we
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  break it down to autism inertia, it's kind of like this.
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  You have autistic people who are hyper focused on something and
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  then they can't deviate from that, right?
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  Which means that they're on a task or they're on a hyper focus
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  and they can't switch off that, right?
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  Because they to something else, like because they're so involved
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  in it, right? Again, something in motion is
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  constantly in motion. Or if they're not doing any task
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  at all, it's hard to start a task because again, they're in
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  motion from not doing something and they can't BBA from that.
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  And so this actually does lead to a lot of issues.
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  Actually, inertia was probably one of the most debilitating
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  parts of having autism next to my OCDI always say this like my
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  OCD is like my my biggest thing like that that really gets me
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  down with with autism and really impacts me a lot.
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  But in terms of inertia, it's probably the biggest ones, kind
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  of like having writer's block, right?
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  So I remember trying to start a task I had, you know, basically
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  with with YouTube, it's it's all kind of ranking stuff, right?
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  If you know anything about YouTube or ranking videos on
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  YouTube, you basically have to know what titles you use to make
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  the best titles and keywords and all this SEO stuff.
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  And it kind of becomes quite overwhelming.
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  But when you're trying to make YouTube videos, you have to take
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  these things into consideration. Now, one of the things is I
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  really love that type of information, but I also really
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  want my child to do well. So I have to sit down and create
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  video metadata, which is basically like all the stuff
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  that goes into the description and the title and all that kind
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  of stuff. How do I do that, right?
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  How do I do that if I've got inertia?
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  So what was happening was I'd be sitting down and be like, OK, I
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  need to plan this video out. And then I'd just be sitting
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  there doom scrolling on Facebook.
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  Like I'd get my phone out. I'd be like, oh, there's a cute
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  cat, blah, blah, blah. You know, and I wouldn't get
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  anywhere because I'd be doom scrolling the whole time, which
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  sucks big ones. But at the same time, it's not
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  my fault initially, it's just inertia because I was making
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  mistakes, a lot of mistakes. I'm going to go through all
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  three of them right now. So the first mistake and I've
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  written down here, so you see me looking over because I'm looking
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  at my computer in my notes. First one is you sit and stoop
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  as soon as you feel you cannot get a task done.
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  Oh my goodness, this is what I mean.
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  So I sat down on my computer and I was like, OK, I'm going to do
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  this task now. And then I felt overwhelming,
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  like I have to do keyword research, then I have to do
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  title research and I have to test the title.
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  Then I have to do an AB testing, then I have to get the right
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  thumbnail, then I have to get the right metadata for the
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  videos. And all this kind of became a
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  huge, daunting task. And I was like, do this on my
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  own. It's just me.
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  And again, it's this big scary world of all these things.
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  How can I even do this? And then I just sat there and
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  stooped and I felt sorry for myself.
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  I was like, oh, well, you know, I'm never going to overcome
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  this. I'm never going to feel good.
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  So that's it, I'm done. OK, Wrong, wrong, wrong, wrong,
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  wrong, wrong. This is not to do you definitely
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  make this mistake because when you feel this moment of inertia
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  where you're like, I can't stop this task or I have no
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  motivation to do this task, it's not a lack of motivation.
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  It's this object in motion issue, right?
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  So how do you stop an object in motion?
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  You stop it by touching it or creating a different path for it
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  to be on. And that path for it to be on
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  could be stopping still. So this is what I did.
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  I was like, OK, I know what I'm doing, but I need a little bit
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  of a kick up the bum. And so I went onto YouTube and I
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  looked for gurus who were releasing videos or books or
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  podcast about SEO and title making that were more up to date
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  than what I'd already know. Right?
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  Because I already knew this information, but I want to know
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  what has changed. So then I found some new
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  exciting bits that showed me different tactics and techniques
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  to help increase those video keyword optimization, which is a
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  big word that basically just means how how well a title looks
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  so that people will go, OK, I understand what the video means.
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  I understand what the video is about, what trying to do, trying
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  to make sure that you know, you see the video, you know exactly
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  what it is when you see the title, the thumbnail.
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  So that got me excited. I got excited about new
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  information, new data. So as soon as I was like
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  stooping around, I'd be like, oh, I can't do this, can't do
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  that. Then I was like, OK, get me
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  excited about something. So I deviated.
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  I, I took the, the, the, the motion, the object that was in
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  motion, which was me standing still being grumpy, and I put it
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  into a different set of like a different timeline, a different
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  track. Ban going motivated.
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  I wanted to test something out because it's something new,
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  something exciting. That's probably the biggest
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  problem. We sit there as stupid because
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  we don't have that exciting thing.
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  It's not new for us. It's something kind of mundane,
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  right? And if that's the case, just
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  switch it to something that makes you exciting or get
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  something new about that that's exciting.
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  And they're something new about everything.
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  Even like yarn and cotton and stuff.
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  You can probably find a new article in a magazine somewhere
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  I'm just handing it over to you. OK, let's get on with it.
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  So #2 And this is really interesting as well.
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  You do not take regular sensory breaks when hyper focusing on a
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  task or project. Oh, this is so interesting.
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  People who are in motion, when they do the task, they will get
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  blindsided. Like so this is basically what
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  it is. You'll be on a task and then
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  suddenly you'll stop the task and you can't then restart the
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  task. But why, what, why is this?
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  And it comes from the fact that when you're in motion, when
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  you're, when you're doing something where you've started a
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  task, right? And the task could be, oh, I
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  don't know, you're writing a book, for instance, and you're
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  sitting there writing the book. And then you, you go for a
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  coffee break and you come upstairs.
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  Your mind is just disconnected from the thing and you can't get
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  back to it. Why?
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  Because you're exhausted. Your mind, your senses are
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  overloaded with the information that you've just sat down for
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  hours just absorbing. But you spent too much time
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  focusing on that thing without implementing regular breaks for
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  sensory destimulation or a decompression or sensory
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  stimuli. Because writing a book is
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  demanding. Sitting there is demanding.
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  Having to do something to a deadline is demanding, right?
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  But if we allow ourselves a small little 5 to 10 minute
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  breaks of complete silence away from the task that we're doing
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  just to give our brain a little bit of decompression and a
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  relaxation. What then happens is you will
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  shift away from this kind of like motion of where you stop a
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  task and then to try and start back up a task.
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  It's never going to happen. How many half finished products
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  have you got? Right?
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  I have so many, but that stops now because I know all these
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  hats, right? But you know, exactly.
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  Look, give me a thumbs up on this video if you know exactly
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  what I'm talking about. And also subscribe to this
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  channel if you're finding this video interesting and you want
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  to see more from me like this. That being said, this is how we
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  do it. Take a regular sensory breaks.
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  It doesn't take a lot. It takes 5 minutes, 10 minutes.
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  It's going to be way worth your while and you're going to get so
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  much more out of it. So try and do that implement as
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  soon as possible and you'll be in like the sun.
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  OK, so the last one is practiced list building and task
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  management. This is probably the biggest
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  one. And and we know this because
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  autistic individuals, ADC individuals will have list upon
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  list upon list upon list. You'll have a list on your
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  phone, they'll have a list on real life.
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  You'll have countless notepads. You'll stack a note pads in your
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  in your house with just all the lists and stuff on it.
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  The problem is you've never said, OK, this is the thing I
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  have to do. And then you've never got a
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  deadline or a timeline. You ever said I'm going to do it
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  by this day, this time, and this is how I'm going to action it.
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  So with each item on your To Do List, write the item and then
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  write I need this completed by certain date, right?
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  Give yourself a deadline and then say to yourself, these are
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  all the ways I need to do it right.
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  OK, the car needs a valet. So the car needs a valet by the
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  weekend. So what I need to do?
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  I need to reach out to the valet, book a date, organize a
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  lift to take it in there and come home or an Uber or
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  whatever. That's it.
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  And you just do those tasks because every task has small
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  broken down pieces or computational pieces, which
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  basically means that we break it down into smaller manageable
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  pieces that you're going to be able to actually overcome.
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  And this is how we do it. And the thing about task
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  management, it's how you write it down into into more
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  manageable pieces. And then you say, OK, I'm going
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  to add this to my calendar that needs to be done by this day.
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  And then you just set up alert. I mean, you can even ask Siri on
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  your phone to like tell you like, oh, OK, well, it's going
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  to be done by this day. I know I use my iPad because
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  it's a lot easier to kind of deal with.
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  But like, like literally you get your phone to do it.
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  You can organise it into the calendar on your phone.
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  Jobs are good and you're good to go.
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  That is typically the most effective way to task manage.
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  If you've got like lists going out of your, you know, ears and
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  stuff and consolidate your list, get all your lists together.
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  Write a big, old long list. You'll notice that some of them
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  have been written twice on multiple lists.
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  So you don't have many lists. You have like one large list,
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  not an obnoxiously big list. OK.
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  And that is how you overcome it. And those three mistakes, all
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  the things that you're doing that are not allowing you to
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  progress forward. So you just constantly stuck
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  kind of peddling water, not getting anywhere.
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  And then the pressure of that and then the embarrassment of it
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  and the humility like, oh, I want to get to all these things
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  and doing it doesn't matter. You're never going to be able to
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  unless you have those three mistakes, the reverse options,
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  which are the things I've given you and hey, you'll be with like
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  the sun you get through your tasks on autism.
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  Inertia will be a thing in the past, I promise you.
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  I just want to suggest in this video here to let you know that
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  confidence is one of the main issues that hold autistic
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  individuals back from their full potential.
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  one. Peace.