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5 Laws Every Woman Should Know · Two Broke Chicks

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  Speaker 1: This podcast is recorded on gadigle Land Always was, always
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  Speaker 1: Stu wrote cheeks to show that shares life lessons and
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  Speaker 1: tips to help make you rich in life. I feel
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  Speaker 1: like I've developed a competition with myself.
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  Speaker 2: Oh, like you need to amp it up.
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  Speaker 1: But like, how quickly can I say that shares lesson
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  Speaker 1: is his death? Now that thank you pronunciation? Yeah, I'm good.
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  Speaker 1: I'm good. Good vibe and thriving vib.
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  Speaker 2: Ready for the weekend?
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  Speaker 3: Can we?
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  Speaker 1: Except this episode comes out on Tuesday, So you guys,
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  Speaker 1: that's okay, you'll be likering Friday. Yeah, j wow, do
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  Speaker 1: you benefit? I'm happy after listening to that. Yeah, I
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  Speaker 1: listened to that On Tuesday. I'll be like, yeah, do anything.
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  Speaker 1: I can do anything. Any day is a Friday. If
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  Speaker 1: you just believe that, I'm currently writing a bridesmaid slash
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  Speaker 1: unofficial made upon a speech the title of bestow upon myself,
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  Speaker 1: and I keep baking that joke, like just like to
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  Speaker 1: anyone around me like that, look at us?
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  Speaker 2: What is the key to like a good meeting?
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  Speaker 1: I'll let you know when it's started. If it's a hit.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, Okay, it's a tough job.
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  Speaker 1: Hey, I'm not drinking. If anyone before that might, no,
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  Speaker 1: shut the fuck.
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  Speaker 2: Up, bitch, need a crystal ball.
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  Speaker 1: Okay, So today we're coming at you with a little
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  Speaker 1: bit of a different episode. We're going to be talking
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  Speaker 1: the five laws that every woman should know, but not
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  Speaker 1: like legal binding laws don't park near a sidewalk, but
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  Speaker 1: more philosophical laws that are good to live by. I
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  Speaker 1: feel like these are good north stars to have in
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  Speaker 1: your brain. They kind of restructure the way that you
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  Speaker 1: look at things, problems the world, if you will. But
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  Speaker 1: before we get into the episode, of course, we must
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  Speaker 1: just scares are obsessions of the week, So sally about
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  Speaker 1: like butt on, exaltmatee and love My Love?
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  Speaker 2: What's up?
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  Speaker 1: Was that?
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  Speaker 3: My obsession always fully ghost Face from Scary movie Smash Bass,
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  Speaker 3: Smash Man. I was gonna say, people who are at
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  Speaker 3: the live show, they know he featured at one point,
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  Speaker 3: but energy one, what's under that cloak?
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  Speaker 2: Yeah?
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  Speaker 1: But is it the one from Scream or the one
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  Speaker 1: from Scary movie?
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  Speaker 2: The one from Scary movie? Definitely?
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  Speaker 1: And he's like, oh fuck, He's like can you see
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  Speaker 1: me now?
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  Speaker 2: And his legs are like underneath the curtain.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, the voice, his voice is hotter. Oh yeah, Like
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  Speaker 1: I don't know what's up with that. That says a
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  Speaker 1: lot more about us than it does about the movie.
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  Speaker 1: Then that's about the movie.
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  Speaker 2: Okay, I mean what don't find it?
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  Speaker 1: But aside from him, my obsession of the week is
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  Speaker 1: actually like a cute gift idea and it's me Yeah, well,
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  Speaker 1: I know, like shit, maybe I should have kept this
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  Speaker 1: one in the vault. Yeah. Well, it's called Star Day
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  Speaker 1: and it's a candle company and you can order specific
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  Speaker 1: candles by birthday. So I got one for my birthday
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  Speaker 1: and it's like March nineteenth, and it has my star sign.
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  Speaker 1: But then it is very specific to the actual day
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  Speaker 1: that you were born. And the thing that I love
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  Speaker 1: about it is that it has strengths on it, but
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  Speaker 1: it also has weaknesses and it like I was pissing myself.
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  Speaker 2: It was amazing, Caroline.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, but it's kind of like standard.
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  Speaker 3: It's very like yeah, like, for example, so it has
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  Speaker 3: your name on it, then it has your birthday, and
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  Speaker 3: then it has like the theme of the day, So
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  Speaker 3: mine is the day of the human paradox. There we go,
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  Speaker 3: and then it has like your ruling planet your strengths,
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  Speaker 3: your weaknesses. My strengths were apparently charming, persistent, and assertive.
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  Speaker 3: My weaknesses were unaware.
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  Speaker 2: Realistic, and impulsive.
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  Speaker 1: Unaware, unrealistic and impulsive. So it's a read.
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  Speaker 3: It was pretty funny, also accurate, and then it has
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  Speaker 3: your element. But then it also has your compatibility.
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  Speaker 2: And guess what my compatibility was?
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  Speaker 1: Berries?
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, fire nights baby, fire nae baby.
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  Speaker 1: But yeah, I thought I want to know what my
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  Speaker 1: theme of the day was. Oh, yours is the day
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  Speaker 1: of the Dreamer. How cute is that?
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  Speaker 3: Yeah?
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  Speaker 1: Really cute gift idea.
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  Speaker 3: They're like an Australian brand and on the back it
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  Speaker 3: has like a whole description about you.
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  Speaker 2: It has your tarot ruins.
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  Speaker 1: There are horoscopes, there are zodiac lucky colors.
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  Speaker 2: What are they?
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  Speaker 1: So the aries lucky color is red?
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  Speaker 2: I was gonna say, is it red? Yah?
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, Oh my god, I never knew that you could
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  Speaker 1: get horoscope lucky colors.
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  Speaker 2: That is so cool. Oh mine's light green.
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  Speaker 1: Or aquamarine apparently, yeah that makes sense. Oh my god,
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  Speaker 1: how fun. Everyone needs to go and look up their
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  Speaker 1: horoscope lucky color and wear nothing but that, or like
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  Speaker 1: when you've got a job interview can wear like a
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  Speaker 1: pair of redishes or something. It'll just a red shirt. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: I guess, but you want to you want to be
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  Speaker 1: to be like I know something you don't know exactly,
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  Speaker 1: like just for me anyway.
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  Speaker 2: Okay.
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  Speaker 1: My obsession of the week is the Palma's Tahitian vanilla
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  Speaker 1: moisture drenching body oil. Oh yes, yes, I've seen this,
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  Speaker 1: as I think everyone on this podcast probably knows by
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  Speaker 1: this point in time, I am a slut for a
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  Speaker 1: body oil. I love it like I love getting out
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  Speaker 1: of the shower with damp skin and putting body oil
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  Speaker 1: on and drying myself with a towel. And I will
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  Speaker 1: die by that routine. If you want soft shuple sorry
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  Speaker 1: about that, soft and supple. Yeah, if you just want soft, gorgeous,
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  Speaker 1: beautiful smelling skin, there you go. It's a really good,
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  Speaker 1: affordable option. It's like twenty bucks from chemist Warehouse. And
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  Speaker 1: I do really love the Loxaton one, but I also
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  Speaker 1: understand we we mix it up, play around, but yeah,
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  Speaker 1: and it just smells so nice. It smells chef's kiss
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  Speaker 1: and a little bit goes a long way. You don't
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  Speaker 1: need to use heaps, I think whenever I say, like,
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  Speaker 1: use a body oil when you get out of shower.
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  Speaker 1: Everyone's like, you're pouring oil on the floor and you're
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  Speaker 1: gonna slip. No, if a little bit in your hand
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  Speaker 1: and you go section bisection. Yeah you know, yeah exactly.
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  Speaker 3: If you're not already watched this on YouTube so you
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  Speaker 3: can see the tutorial.
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  Speaker 1: I'll feel myself in the shower and then everyone's like
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  Speaker 1: block blacked.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah yeah, no, I love that. Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: So that's my obsession for this week. For this week,
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  Speaker 1: shall we get into our little okay, stop being naughty?
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  Speaker 3: Okay, back, not believable for my coffee you start okay
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  Speaker 3: law number one, Parkinson's law.
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  Speaker 2: I thought you're gonna spit out your coffee then okay. Oh.
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  Speaker 3: This is definitely one that we've learned the hard way,
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  Speaker 3: and it's that work expands to fill the time.
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  Speaker 2: You give it. Oh fucking oath. Fair income. Honestly, that
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  Speaker 2: is a faired income war.
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  Speaker 3: Your life isn't busy. Your time lines are just too loose.
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  Speaker 3: There is always enough work to fill your day.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, maybe you'll find it.
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  Speaker 3: You'll be working for his name tonight, but that's the point.
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  Speaker 3: The term was created by historian Cyril North Cote Parkinson.
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  Speaker 1: Let's bring back that name, Cyril. Cyril got me cerrul.
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  Speaker 1: It's a cute name for a dog.
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  Speaker 2: It is cute.
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  Speaker 1: He's like, okay, oh, it's fine. He's dead. Yeah. Sorry,
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  Speaker 1: wait fifty five. Maybe I don't know.
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  Speaker 2: I've got no concept of time.
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  Speaker 3: But yes, the term was created by historians Cyril Northcote
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  Speaker 3: Parkinson in nineteen fifty five after he wrote it in
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  Speaker 3: a humorous essay.
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  Speaker 1: Oh he loved that joke, then, Yeah, he's a funny guy. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: Cyril's funny.
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  Speaker 3: He's basically he's basically a stand up comedian.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, he's giving tom glease. I've always said that about Cyril,
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  Speaker 1: and I always said that Cyril. Yeah, classic, that's like cereal.
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  Speaker 3: But in the article, he tells a story about a
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  Speaker 3: woman whose only task for the entire day is to
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  Speaker 3: send a postcard.
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  Speaker 1: Oh my god, this is how accurate that task should
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  Speaker 1: take a.
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  Speaker 3: Few minutes by Instead, she spends an hour finding the card,
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  Speaker 3: another thirty minutes looking for her glasses, ninety minutes writing it,
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  Speaker 3: twenty minutes deciding whether she needs an umbrella for her
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  Speaker 3: walk to the mailbox, and so on, until her entire
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  Speaker 3: day is filled It also explains why we procrastinate. When
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  Speaker 3: we feel like we have plenty of time for a task,
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  Speaker 3: we start delaying it, which I think Cyril just read
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  Speaker 3: me for filth. Actually I think he wrote this about us.
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  Speaker 3: We were the lady with the postcard seriously, which, like,
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  Speaker 3: I can think of.
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  Speaker 1: So many fucking examples of how that happens.
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  Speaker 3: I've also been seeing this trend on TikTok, which I
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  Speaker 3: don't know if this has come across your fyp as well,
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  Speaker 3: but it will be like, hey, guys, it's eleven am
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  Speaker 3: and I've got the gym and I was going to
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  Speaker 3: go to the gym at three o'clock but I start
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  Speaker 3: work at seven.
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  Speaker 1: Do I have time to go to the gym? And
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  Speaker 1: I was like, oh no, no, no, like you've left
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  Speaker 1: it way too late, and I'm like, fuck, that is
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  Speaker 1: so true.
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  Speaker 3: Like we get into these cycles of like procrastinating and
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  Speaker 3: feeling our time or like taking way longer on tasks
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  Speaker 3: than you need to because either you're like procrastinating putting
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  Speaker 3: it off, or like you're being.
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  Speaker 1: A perfectionist and getting stuck on the small details, which
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  Speaker 1: like take a yeah, hey ma, market mea yeah.
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  Speaker 3: Literally, so a big tip to avoid falling into the
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  Speaker 3: parkins of the trap is by starting with momentum. So
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  Speaker 3: there's a few different techniques that you can use. One
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  Speaker 3: of them is the Pomodoro technique. Love that name love
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  Speaker 3: It sounds like an Italian dish, don't you reckon?
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  Speaker 1: It reminds you of a Pomeranian also love them Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: pasta or cute dog. Either way, I'm happy with the association.
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  Speaker 3: But the Pomodoro technique it breaks work into focus twenty
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  Speaker 3: five minute intervals called pomodoros, which are separated by five
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  Speaker 3: minute breaks, with a longer fifteen to thirty minute break
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  Speaker 3: after four pomodora sad. Yeah, yeah, so actually factoring in
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  Speaker 3: those breaks so that you can stay focused and productive.
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  Speaker 3: But then also because you know how, you'll be like
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  Speaker 3: you'll be working on a task and you're like, oh,
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  Speaker 3: I'll pick up my phone and look at something.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, and then literally.
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  Speaker 1: Someone goes can you help me with this?
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  Speaker 3: Yeah?
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  Speaker 1: And then four years goes by and then you're like fuck,
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  Speaker 1: Like it's four point thirty PM and I still haven't
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  Speaker 1: finished that one task. Yeah, that probably could have taken
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  Speaker 1: me thirty minutes. So you have to be like, sorry,
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  Speaker 1: it's not Pomodoro time exactly bombed the water. Don't appropriate
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  Speaker 1: my culture, so sorry.
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  Speaker 2: Me into a van. So fair.
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  Speaker 1: Also a big part of this is adjusting your environment,
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  Speaker 1: like removing all distractions.
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  Speaker 2: Absolutely will do this.
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  Speaker 1: I see a focus mode on your phone, Yeah, make
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  Speaker 1: twenty five minute intervals on your phone and be like no, no,
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  Speaker 1: be quiet, and then you can be like oo done
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  Speaker 1: or even just had a timer. Sometimes we don't have
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  Speaker 1: to deep it as much as we do, because like
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  Speaker 1: even the idea of you know, setting up a focus
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  Speaker 1: time and blocking these apps, you'd be like nah, yeah,
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  Speaker 1: exactly too many steps. Yeah, So like just I do
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  Speaker 1: think like we over complicate things more now, and like, also,
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  Speaker 1: the convenience of things means that we're just like oh,
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  Speaker 1: whereas like we used to like fuck, I'm such an
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  Speaker 1: old man being like like going to the DVD store,
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  Speaker 1: you know, like that was friction in our lives or
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  Speaker 1: that was something, Whereas like now we have so much
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  Speaker 1: convenience that to even pick a movie sitting on your
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  Speaker 1: couch probably actually ends up taking you longer than it
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  Speaker 1: was to even just drive to the video store, pick
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  Speaker 1: one of the fucking hot new releases and go home
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  Speaker 1: with some hot chips and gravy.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, completely agree. It doesn't have to be a big
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  Speaker 3: complicated thing. If you want to set up focus modes, great,
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  Speaker 3: If you want to track a timer on, yeah you can.
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  Speaker 2: Also do that.
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  Speaker 1: But yeah, big part of that is also adjusting your
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  Speaker 1: environment removing any sort of distractions. I know that if
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  Speaker 1: I really need to like lock in and focus, got
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  Speaker 1: to make sure the space is clean, because if there's
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  Speaker 1: a specador in like my periphery.
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  Speaker 3: Or I just started twitching, no sick fuck, but that's
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  Speaker 3: just how my brain works.
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  Speaker 1: So all the same, like make sure you're starting with
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  Speaker 1: a clean.
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  Speaker 3: Starting with a clean space, or like removing all distractions,
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  Speaker 3: d n D, whatever you need to do.
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  Speaker 2: Pomodoro bitch.
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  Speaker 1: Law number two okay, low number two is the law
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  Speaker 1: of detachment. This is releasing the need to control outcomes,
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  Speaker 1: letting go of attachment to specific timelines, and cultivating sparkle
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  Speaker 1: in a piece. Sparkle. So it's not giving what you want.
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  Speaker 1: It's about wanting something and being at peace if it
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  Speaker 1: takes time or doesn't come to you when you planned it.
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  Speaker 1: And the first thing I can think of with this
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  Speaker 1: is how, especially for women, a timeline is projected onto
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  Speaker 1: us of you know, a successful life if you will,
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  Speaker 1: of being like cool, go to high school, have lots
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  Speaker 1: of friends, go to UNI, meet a partner, get married,
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  Speaker 1: have babies, done that. It's like, that's fine if that's
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  Speaker 1: your timeline and that's what you want as well. That's
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  Speaker 1: absolutely not what I'm saying, but also like one timeline
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  Speaker 1: and what you want looks completely different for everyone. But
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  Speaker 1: because we get set this like checklist of success, if
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  Speaker 1: we don't meet those things by a certain time, a
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  Speaker 1: lot of women feel like a failure of being like
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  Speaker 1: oh like so many women into their thirties and the
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  Speaker 1: like I don't have a partner, like oh my god.
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  Speaker 1: And it's like that's just such a backwards way of
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  Speaker 1: looking at life. Because there is also I don't know
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  Speaker 1: if we're going to get into it in this episode,
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  Speaker 1: but there's another law which is a last name that
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  Speaker 1: I cannot say, and it's the fact that everything takes
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  Speaker 1: longer than you think it will. Absolutely it's like Herjinskin's
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  Speaker 1: law or something like that. Some type podcast is done
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  Speaker 1: for today. You Bewitched me, fuck Offer, I love you.
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  Speaker 1: I wonder if if everything we're like actually fighting, when
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  Speaker 1: we'll be like fuck off, stop. I hope not.
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  Speaker 2: I'd hate that.
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  Speaker 1: Maybe just playing. Maybe it's flirting, it's kinky. Oh, anyway,
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  Speaker 1: it's full played anyway. Yeah, there's another law where it's
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  Speaker 1: like everything takes longer than you think it will. No,
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  Speaker 1: no matter what you're doing, it always will take longer.
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  Speaker 1: And so it's like, if we also apply that to this,
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  Speaker 1: you're kind of setting yourself up for failure by needing
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  Speaker 1: to control the out and by relying so emotionally on
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  Speaker 1: when you think you need to have something. You could
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  Speaker 1: look at it in terms of career as well, like
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  Speaker 1: you know, when by the time I'm thirty, I want
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  Speaker 1: to be editor in chief at a fashion magazine the
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  Speaker 1: two thousands and really in this Yeah, So it's like
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  Speaker 1: that just is so ingrained in us because this law
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  Speaker 1: comes from the Seven Spiritual Laws of Success by Depak Chopra,
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  Speaker 1: and so the spiritual teacher and author Sahara Rose also
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  Speaker 1: suggests that apart from achieving your professional goals, the law
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  Speaker 1: of attachment is also handy as the world gets more
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  Speaker 1: and more chaotic. So it helps you actually pick out
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  Speaker 1: what matters most to you and lets you go let
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  Speaker 1: go of things that don't because like so many of us,
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  Speaker 1: so many women as well, like don't want to get married,
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  Speaker 1: don't want to have babies, and realizing that you can
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  Speaker 1: let go of that timeline is actually really freeing because
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  Speaker 1: it means you can focus on things like traveling, eat,
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  Speaker 1: I love the shit out of your life, go, you know.
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  Speaker 1: And it also applies to all areas of life, including
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  Speaker 1: romantic So if you're someone who starts planning your wedding
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  Speaker 1: after the third date, then like this might be a
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  Speaker 1: law for you. Yeah, you know, I don't mind. I'm
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  Speaker 1: not going to tell anyone you can, but maybe don't
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  Speaker 1: live by that law, you know, because if it doesn't
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  Speaker 1: end up working out. And I'm definitely someone who like
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  Speaker 1: I came out the womb with my hopes up, you know,
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  Speaker 1: like my hopes have never been down when I want something. Ever,
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  Speaker 1: if someone gives me an inch of like yeah, maybe
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  Speaker 1: we could go to Disneyland.
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  Speaker 2: Next year, We're going.
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  Speaker 1: We're going to Disneyland next year.
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  Speaker 2: The is a purchase fast pass booked.
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  Speaker 1: Booked. Like I literally whenever someone says yeah, maybe but
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  Speaker 1: like don't care your hopes up too fucking late, I
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  Speaker 1: am always like, what do you mean we're not going now. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: they're like, my heart was set on it. I'm like what, No, Like,
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  Speaker 1: I literally always have my hopes up and so it's like,
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  Speaker 1: this is something that I need to ingrain because it
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  Speaker 1: doesn't mean something's not happening. It just means it's not happening. Now.
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  Speaker 1: Do I like that? No? But is it something that
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  Speaker 1: I do believe myself and maybe others need to become
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  Speaker 1: more comfortable with. Sure, hmmm.
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  Speaker 3: It just makes it easier to deal with when things
• 18:27
  Speaker 3: don't occur within the timelines.
• 18:29
  Speaker 2: But also I find that.
• 18:31
  Speaker 1: A lot of people who do live by really strict
• 18:34
  Speaker 1: timelines and deadlines in their life, they end up following
• 18:38
  Speaker 1: the timeline instead of the intuition, and then they settle
• 18:40
  Speaker 1: for something that isn't right. Wow, you're so real for that.
• 18:44
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 18:45
  Speaker 1: That's a good one one. Yeah, in a nice job. Yeah,
• 18:49
  Speaker 1: all right, Moving on Gilbert.
• 18:52
  Speaker 2: Moving on law number three.
• 18:54
  Speaker 3: Gilbert's law problems are part of the plan, not proof
• 18:58
  Speaker 3: you're off track.
• 19:00
  Speaker 1: Love this. Basically, our biggest issue is that we don't
• 19:02
  Speaker 1: think there should be any issues.
• 19:05
  Speaker 3: I feel like we've spoken about this kind of on
• 19:06
  Speaker 3: the pod before, Like we don't plan for shit to
• 19:09
  Speaker 3: go wrong. When we're planning something, it's assuming that every
• 19:13
  Speaker 3: single thing is going to go right. So this law
• 19:16
  Speaker 3: is a realistic approach that problems aren't exceptions, they're the rule.
• 19:20
  Speaker 3: Like there is always going to be a fuck up
• 19:22
  Speaker 3: in every single plan. They very rarely go exactly how
• 19:26
  Speaker 3: we want, and our resistance to problems happening is actually
• 19:31
  Speaker 3: probably a bigger obstacle than the problem itself. And trying
• 19:34
  Speaker 3: to like resist that shit's going to fuck up and
• 19:37
  Speaker 3: really focusing on like, no, everything has to be perfect.
• 19:40
  Speaker 2: That's actually probably going to cause.
• 19:41
  Speaker 1: You more issues than the actual problem yourself. You have
• 19:44
  Speaker 1: to kind of account but that's not going to work out. Like,
• 19:49
  Speaker 1: and I know this is such like a niche example,
• 19:52
  Speaker 1: but like when we.
• 19:53
  Speaker 2: Do our live shows.
• 19:54
  Speaker 1: I think the first one, we were so stressed and
• 19:57
  Speaker 1: we were like no, no, no, this is and that
• 19:59
  Speaker 1: is that and this is an that is that, And
• 20:00
  Speaker 1: we ended up getting to the venue and our entire
• 20:03
  Speaker 1: presentation didn't work, like the entire computers did not connect
• 20:06
  Speaker 1: to the screen. We're like, that's the whole shot that
• 20:09
  Speaker 1: we were like, oh my god, and so like that
• 20:12
  Speaker 1: sent us into such a tizzy. And then the second
• 20:15
  Speaker 1: one we went into and we were like watch your gatre,
• 20:19
  Speaker 1: like come up, he's gonna suck it up. And I
• 20:23
  Speaker 1: think there was like four things that fucked up over
• 20:26
  Speaker 1: the tour that we were just like okay, yeah, like
• 20:30
  Speaker 1: move it up, move it on.
• 20:31
  Speaker 3: I think what we realized is that when we did
• 20:33
  Speaker 3: have fuck ups in the first one, nothing was derailed.
• 20:36
  Speaker 1: Yes, no one cared anything that sort of went slightly
• 20:40
  Speaker 1: wrong in the show.
• 20:41
  Speaker 3: People were like, oh, I thought that was part of
• 20:42
  Speaker 3: the show, or they thought it was funny and human
• 20:44
  Speaker 3: like whatever it was.
• 20:46
  Speaker 2: And we were like, oh, okay, that was the worst
• 20:48
  Speaker 2: thing that happened. And one now we know to like prepare.
• 20:52
  Speaker 3: For those things, but also we know that the other
• 20:54
  Speaker 3: things that we can't prepare for or that we didn't
• 20:56
  Speaker 3: think of, it'll be fine.
• 20:58
  Speaker 1: She'll be right, mate, She'll be right mate. Also also
• 21:02
  Speaker 1: known as Gilbert's law. Also that's what gilvit said. He
• 21:07
  Speaker 1: always said that he's a good Gillie gil Gil you.
• 21:15
  Speaker 2: Throw back, throw back.
• 21:19
  Speaker 3: But yeah, it impacts us in many facets of life
• 21:21
  Speaker 3: and can show up in so many different ways. Productivity
• 21:24
  Speaker 3: is a huge one, like not factoring in those things
• 21:27
  Speaker 3: that can go wrong or not factory in room for
• 21:31
  Speaker 3: breaks or maybe like things that are going to be
• 21:33
  Speaker 3: more complicated or you might not understand or you need
• 21:36
  Speaker 3: help for not having like backup tasks for those days
• 21:39
  Speaker 3: when you just like can't be fucked. You're like, I
• 21:42
  Speaker 3: can't tackle this today, and then so you really try
• 21:44
  Speaker 3: and force yourself to do this one task instead of
• 21:46
  Speaker 3: being like, you know what, let me just put that
• 21:48
  Speaker 3: aside for tomorrow and I can.
• 21:49
  Speaker 1: Get some of this like admin stuff done.
• 21:52
  Speaker 3: Also, like relationships and friendships is a big one to
• 21:56
  Speaker 3: being impatient with other people's feelings, not factoring in like
• 21:59
  Speaker 3: seasons of life and that you'll have ebb and flows.
• 22:02
  Speaker 2: Yeah, in relationship.
• 22:03
  Speaker 1: The thing that I really love in terms of that
• 22:06
  Speaker 1: as well is I remember Alexis one time. I can't
• 22:09
  Speaker 1: remember if it was on her podcast or she said
• 22:12
  Speaker 1: it when she was a guest or ours, but she said,
• 22:15
  Speaker 1: if you were ever annoyed with a friend or a
• 22:17
  Speaker 1: partner about something, have a think of if you've ever
• 22:22
  Speaker 1: done that.
• 22:23
  Speaker 2: So she was like, if.
• 22:23
  Speaker 1: You're annoyed that a friend didn't reply to your text,
• 22:28
  Speaker 1: or if your friend got their fifteen minutes late to
• 22:31
  Speaker 1: any planned have you never in your life done that, Yeah,
• 22:35
  Speaker 1: because I think chances are you have If you haven't,
• 22:40
  Speaker 1: then that's probably a good indicator that that's actually not
• 22:42
  Speaker 1: a good thing that they did. Like if they you know,
• 22:45
  Speaker 1: said something really really mean about you behind your back,
• 22:48
  Speaker 1: or told a secret that you really didn't want them
• 22:50
  Speaker 1: to tell. If you're like, no, I've never done that,
• 22:51
  Speaker 1: then that's probably a good indication that yet what they
• 22:53
  Speaker 1: did was wrong. Whereas if they're like showing up fifteen
• 22:57
  Speaker 1: minutes late or they forgot to reply to a text,
• 22:59
  Speaker 1: It's like, does that really make them a bad person
• 23:03
  Speaker 1: when you've probably also made that mistake in your life too. Glasshouses, Yeah,
• 23:08
  Speaker 1: like that.
• 23:09
  Speaker 2: Like that, like that.
• 23:13
  Speaker 1: Stones stones and shiit not pebbles. I like that. Law
• 23:36
  Speaker 1: number four is Kidlan's law. If you write a problem
• 23:39
  Speaker 1: down clearly, then the matter is half solved. I think
• 23:43
  Speaker 1: this one's pretty straightforward. I think so often I sit
• 23:48
  Speaker 1: there and I go, I'm anxious about something, but I
• 23:52
  Speaker 1: don't know what, and then when I like, remember, oh okay.
• 23:57
  Speaker 1: But I think writing it down adds a different to it.
• 24:00
  Speaker 1: So putting your thoughts into words helps bring clarity and
• 24:04
  Speaker 1: makes otherwise overwhelming tasks feel more manageable. It stops you
• 24:08
  Speaker 1: from not only spiraling and discouraging yourself when you feel
• 24:12
  Speaker 1: like you're snowed in with your workload or demands of
• 24:15
  Speaker 1: your life. But it's different from a traditional to do list,
• 24:19
  Speaker 1: as these typically just list out the things you need
• 24:21
  Speaker 1: to do. Kidlin's law, on the other hand, helps with
• 24:24
  Speaker 1: breaking down those bigger tasks into smaller, bite sized pieces.
• 24:29
  Speaker 1: So I think, again, this one's very straightforward. But when
• 24:34
  Speaker 1: you're feeling feelings of nerves or sadness or anxiety, they
• 24:38
  Speaker 1: often very much like swirl around inside you and can
• 24:41
  Speaker 1: kind of like create this like tornado on your brain
• 24:44
  Speaker 1: and you're like, I don't know what I'm thinking. I
• 24:46
  Speaker 1: just know I'm thinking yeah, and you're like, can't tell
• 24:49
  Speaker 1: you what it's just it becomes a physical feeling like
• 24:54
  Speaker 1: that is what that turns into. The problems become a feeling,
• 24:58
  Speaker 1: not necessarily an extern problem to you. So when you
• 25:02
  Speaker 1: write it down on a piece of paper, it's basically
• 25:05
  Speaker 1: taking that tornado out of your brain and re establishing
• 25:10
  Speaker 1: it as an external problem. Yeah, problems don't live inside you.
• 25:14
  Speaker 1: They exist and you deal with it. Yeah most of
• 25:17
  Speaker 1: the time. Yeah, so true. Yeah, it's a very like
• 25:20
  Speaker 1: aris like you have a problem, that's very telling your deal.
• 25:25
  Speaker 2: You'll fix it, You'll fix it.
• 25:27
  Speaker 1: Yeah, so yeah, I do love that one. I have
• 25:30
  Speaker 1: always thought writing it down and also problems shared, a
• 25:33
  Speaker 1: problems halved. So I'm not saying go to your friend
• 25:35
  Speaker 1: and be like I put everything on black and now
• 25:39
  Speaker 1: I'm pork and I'm moving in with you, but like
• 25:41
  Speaker 1: I'm saying, like you know, when you lean on other
• 25:43
  Speaker 1: people again, it also creates that, like this doesn't just
• 25:46
  Speaker 1: exist inside me, like I can rely on other people
• 25:50
  Speaker 1: to help me as well. Yeah, yeah, totally. And a
• 25:53
  Speaker 1: lot of the time, whether you're writing it down or
• 25:56
  Speaker 1: you're talking it out with someone, it makes you realize
• 25:58
  Speaker 1: that the problem isn't as big as what you think,
• 26:01
  Speaker 1: or the solutions just become so much clearer once you
• 26:04
  Speaker 1: can actually verbalize it in any.
• 26:06
  Speaker 2: Sort of way.
• 26:07
  Speaker 1: It also kind of can help you realize if it's
• 26:10
  Speaker 1: actually a realistic problem, Like sometimes like we think these
• 26:14
  Speaker 1: things are going to happen and it's like a blue
• 26:16
  Speaker 1: alien is going to come down from the sky and
• 26:18
  Speaker 1: abduct me and oh no, yeah that it's like, actually,
• 26:23
  Speaker 1: what are the chances of that happening? And a really
• 26:25
  Speaker 1: good strategy to dealing with those things is writing out, okay,
• 26:31
  Speaker 1: what happens if that does happen, Like journaling out okay,
• 26:35
  Speaker 1: let's say I lose my job tomorrow, right, what happens?
• 26:39
  Speaker 1: And when you ride out what happens, it actually helps
• 26:42
  Speaker 1: you realize, Okay, well, even if that is the worst
• 26:47
  Speaker 1: case scenario, it's not a lot of the time, hopefully,
• 26:52
  Speaker 1: I would hope for a lot of people it's not
• 26:54
  Speaker 1: as bad as you think. That you can actually deal
• 26:57
  Speaker 1: with that scenario. Yeah a bit.
• 26:59
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 26:59
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 27:00
  Speaker 3: I also love like what you can control and what
• 27:02
  Speaker 3: you can't control. Oh yeah, like little mind map in
• 27:05
  Speaker 3: those situations too. So like when you have the problem
• 27:07
  Speaker 3: split down in the page into halves, write all the
• 27:10
  Speaker 3: things you can control in one side, all the things
• 27:12
  Speaker 3: you can't control, And it makes you realize that a
• 27:15
  Speaker 3: lot of like either shows you what you can do
• 27:18
  Speaker 3: and what you have to do, or helps you, like
• 27:20
  Speaker 3: release some of that pressure and expectation being like, well,
• 27:22
  Speaker 3: I can't actually control it, so what's the point of
• 27:25
  Speaker 3: really worrying about it? All?
• 27:27
  Speaker 2: Right?
• 27:28
  Speaker 1: Last one?
• 27:29
  Speaker 2: Last one?
• 27:30
  Speaker 1: Law number five, the law of assumption.
• 27:33
  Speaker 3: Love this one, and I think it's a beautiful way
• 27:36
  Speaker 3: to kind of wrap the episode as well. Whatever you
• 27:38
  Speaker 3: assume to be true and deeply feel to be true
• 27:41
  Speaker 3: becomes your.
• 27:42
  Speaker 1: Reality aka manifestation.
• 27:45
  Speaker 3: Yes, it's like you are the author of your own story.
• 27:49
  Speaker 3: It's kind of like what you were saying when you
• 27:51
  Speaker 3: were like, I came out.
• 27:53
  Speaker 2: Of the womb with my hopes.
• 27:55
  Speaker 1: Up and kind half the time what I want to
• 27:59
  Speaker 1: happen happened.
• 28:01
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 28:02
  Speaker 1: That's why I'm such a spoiled brat, because I'm like, no,
• 28:07
  Speaker 1: I want it to happen. Example number one, Shannon Nol
• 28:12
  Speaker 1: singing at my fucking birthday because by the time this
• 28:16
  Speaker 1: episode comes out, that will vingin himpid. Yeah, and we'll
• 28:22
  Speaker 1: give you the whole Telda on My Birthday episode that
• 28:25
  Speaker 1: we're doing, which is thirty lessons by the time I
• 28:27
  Speaker 1: turned thirty. But I walked into the head at Disney
• 28:31
  Speaker 1: and I said, I want to make history. That's the
• 28:33
  Speaker 1: second time I've done that in this recording. And I said,
• 28:37
  Speaker 1: I want Chadda know, literally, at my birthday party. I
• 28:41
  Speaker 1: want him to come and do three songs and guess
• 28:44
  Speaker 1: what it happened. It fucking happened.
• 28:46
  Speaker 3: Yeah, this is something we've been manifesting for years and
• 28:50
  Speaker 3: something people would be telling us, like what.
• 28:51
  Speaker 1: The fuck, Like, what's why? So why aren't you? What
• 28:56
  Speaker 1: about aren't you?
• 28:56
  Speaker 2: Yeah? What about me?
• 28:57
  Speaker 1: What about the lift? You got to drive and you
• 29:00
  Speaker 1: gotta ask go about me?
• 29:01
  Speaker 2: Yeah, okay, that's the sixth law. Wrap it into the episode.
• 29:05
  Speaker 3: Yeah, but the term was popularized by Neville Godard. But
• 29:08
  Speaker 3: I think it's something that we have heard more and
• 29:11
  Speaker 3: more and like the importance of manifestation or even just
• 29:15
  Speaker 3: like speaking things into the universe.
• 29:17
  Speaker 1: But there are actually several.
• 29:18
  Speaker 3: Studies finding instances in which our brains can't tell the
• 29:22
  Speaker 3: difference between imagination and reality.
• 29:25
  Speaker 2: Oh shit, yeah.
• 29:27
  Speaker 1: Okay, lot of stuff in my life is making sense now.
• 29:32
  Speaker 3: But seriously, the key is to hold true to an
• 29:34
  Speaker 3: assumption long enough that we allow our physical world to
• 29:38
  Speaker 3: catch up with it.
• 29:39
  Speaker 2: And like, if you are constantly telling yourself like, oh.
• 29:42
  Speaker 3: This isn't going to happen, this isn't going to happen,
• 29:44
  Speaker 3: or assuming the worst case.
• 29:47
  Speaker 1: Scenario, that's what's going to happen. Probly what is going
• 29:50
  Speaker 1: to happen?
• 29:51
  Speaker 3: You need to fake it till you make it in
• 29:53
  Speaker 3: so many situations and holding onto that assumption or manifestation
• 29:59
  Speaker 3: or get your hopes up. That is the motivation to
• 30:02
  Speaker 3: actually get you to take the steps to do whatever.
• 30:04
  Speaker 2: The thing is.
• 30:05
  Speaker 1: There's so many like sayings that you can tie into this,
• 30:09
  Speaker 1: like fake it till you make it or closed mouths,
• 30:11
  Speaker 1: don't get fed, or shoot your shot. Like I just
• 30:16
  Speaker 1: stand by this, this law of assumption so much because
• 30:22
  Speaker 1: if you do nothing, nothing changes. Like again, oh there's
• 30:26
  Speaker 1: another one for you. So if you want something, get
• 30:31
  Speaker 1: your hopes up, get them up, get them up to
• 30:34
  Speaker 1: the sky, live them them, got live, you gotta live.
• 30:44
  Speaker 1: I want to sing the song how hard aching.
• 30:52
  Speaker 2: I miss you. See, we haven't even met him yet.
• 30:55
  Speaker 3: We're manifesting that we're gonna have an amazing time and
• 30:58
  Speaker 3: it's going to be the absolutely because.
• 31:01
  Speaker 1: Yeah, is it stupid?
• 31:02
  Speaker 2: Of course?
• 31:04
  Speaker 1: Is it so much more fucking fun to live life
• 31:06
  Speaker 1: being like, yeah, that's gonna happen for me. I don't
• 31:09
  Speaker 1: know when, because the other one that we talked about
• 31:11
  Speaker 1: before doesn't have to have a timeline. Two years ago,
• 31:15
  Speaker 1: we wanted Shannon Nole to perform at our live show,
• 31:20
  Speaker 1: and we didn't even ask a question because another person
• 31:23
  Speaker 1: was like, it's just not gonna happen, Like that's insane.
• 31:24
  Speaker 1: That's not happening.
• 31:25
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 31:26
  Speaker 1: And then this year I was like, no shooting my
• 31:29
  Speaker 1: shot with Shannon, Oh yeah, to celebrate the exit of
• 31:32
  Speaker 1: the womb, and the hopes of the up are said,
• 31:35
  Speaker 1: bring me nolsy, you know exactly. So yeah, I feel
• 31:46
  Speaker 1: like that's the best note to end this episode on,
• 31:49
  Speaker 1: because I just wanted to be the kick of sparkly
• 31:52
  Speaker 1: motivation up the chicks bit.
• 31:54
  Speaker 3: Yeah, and I love these If some work well, like
• 31:58
  Speaker 3: in tandem together, I can apply at different times in
• 32:02
  Speaker 3: your life.
• 32:02
  Speaker 1: We believe you can hack the main frame of your life. Yeah,
• 32:06
  Speaker 1: I reckon you can manipulate the energy atoms of the
• 32:08
  Speaker 1: universe around you just to get whatever the fuck you want.
• 32:11
  Speaker 2: Witch it yeah, which it good. And on that note,
• 32:19
  Speaker 2: thanks to your cheeks for having us in the ear holes.
• 32:21
  Speaker 2: We love to be here.
• 32:23
  Speaker 1: We love it and we'll I see you on Thursday, eh, chicks.
• 32:27
  Speaker 2: Bye,