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Help I'm trapped in my parents house without a plan after high school where do I start? · Connor with Honor: AI, Real Estate and Real Life

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  SPEAKER_00: A lot of you might be wondering what you're gonna do next.
• 0:03
  SPEAKER_00: You're probably in a position in life.
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  SPEAKER_00: You came through COVID.
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  SPEAKER_00: Maybe you did that when you were in high school, and now you're in your early 20s.
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  SPEAKER_00: And you're striving, you're hunting, you're trying to find something in between the times you're trying to distract yourself with the video games you're watching, the vape, maybe the pot, maybe you're doing something a little bit different, something a little bit harder, but you're just trying to take that edge off.
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  SPEAKER_00: You're trying to find some reason you're here.
• 0:31
  SPEAKER_00: Well, I get that.
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  SPEAKER_00: And while I didn't go through COVID young, I did go through COVID.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I also watch people close to me go through COVID, and those questions are very important.
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  SPEAKER_00: Those concerns are very important.
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  SPEAKER_00: You being stuck in your current situation, that's very important.
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  SPEAKER_00: So don't think for a second, and when people are putting online talking about how they're in their mother's basement and they're vaping all day and playing video games all day, and they don't have a life and they don't have any direction, they don't have anything to do.
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  SPEAKER_00: Even though some are trying to make fun, downplaying it, that is a real concern.
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  SPEAKER_00: And it should be the biggest person that should be concerned is you.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because don't give up before you failed a few times.
• 1:22
  SPEAKER_00: Failing is huge.
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  SPEAKER_00: You got to get out there and get kicked in the teeth a little bit.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I know it's uncomfortable, but the more you do it, the better off you're going to be.
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  SPEAKER_00: Don't run out into the street without looking both ways.
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  SPEAKER_00: Don't take something somebody gives you that you're not sure what it is when they're promising that it's going to make you feel great, it's going to be the game changer in your life.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because sometimes whatever they're giving you those types of things, those types of things people believe like that, it's only to get you addicted.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's only to get you to pull you in so you want more.
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  SPEAKER_00: And then they've developed a dependency on you, and then that's all you're going to be wanting from that moment on.
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  SPEAKER_00: So don't give into that stuff.
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  SPEAKER_00: Furthermore, if you're stuck in a rut, if you're watching and you sit down and you're going to have to do this exercise, you're going to sit down and you're going to look at your day.
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  SPEAKER_00: What does your day look like?
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  SPEAKER_00: And was it the same yesterday?
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  SPEAKER_00: And I know if somebody asked you to drive them somewhere, or somebody asks you to make to call them and to check in, or if you got a weird, obscure phone call from an old friend, that's great.
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  SPEAKER_00: But do your days look the same?
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  SPEAKER_00: Like yesterday you did the same thing.
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  SPEAKER_00: Today you're kind of doing the same thing, except watching this video, of course.
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  SPEAKER_00: And then tomorrow might look a little bit like today.
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  SPEAKER_00: Maybe you want to switch it up a little bit.
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  SPEAKER_00: So if your ritual every day is opening up your eyes, grabbing your phone, you might want to say, you know what, I'm going to put my phone somewhere else so I don't grab it first thing in the morning.
• 2:53
  SPEAKER_00: Maybe you should get a regular analog alarm clock.
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  SPEAKER_00: I think they still make them.
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  SPEAKER_00: You plug it in if you're worried about not getting up on time to do whatever it is you do.
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  SPEAKER_00: Maybe an analog alarm clock would be better than using the alarm clock on your phone.
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  SPEAKER_00: And most of you watching this probably not iPhone fans.
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  SPEAKER_00: I would say you're probably Android fans because you're more programmers in nature, at least from what I've experienced.
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  SPEAKER_00: You don't like people telling you what to do like the iPhone crowd does because they build it such a way that old farts like me can really enjoy and not have to worry or concern ourselves with it.
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  SPEAKER_00: You're probably the other type of programmer.
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  SPEAKER_00: That being the case, get yourself that analog clock.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's kind of retro, it's kind of cool, it might not be bad.
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  SPEAKER_00: Get the one that have the numbers that flip down, that's kind of neat as well.
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  SPEAKER_00: But that can be your alarm clock and just make that small change.
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  SPEAKER_00: And then the next day, maybe live with that for a few days, see how that works out for you.
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  SPEAKER_00: You will notice more calm in your life.
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  SPEAKER_00: You'll notice that it's not going to be so stressful because that opening your eyes to get to the phone, who knows, you might even sleep deeper because you know the phone is not something you're going to be accessing immediately when you open up your eyes.
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  SPEAKER_00: You're going to have to wake up and walk to it and then access it.
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  SPEAKER_00: So that might not help.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I don't know if during the night you wake up and look or you get notifications on it.
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  SPEAKER_00: Again, most everybody's going to be able to wait till the morning.
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  SPEAKER_00: When I grew up, we didn't have an answering machine for a very long time because the technology wasn't there.
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  SPEAKER_00: I was born in 69 in a small town in New Mexico.
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  SPEAKER_00: So there we were on a party line.
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  SPEAKER_00: Everybody on our block had one phone line.
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  SPEAKER_00: So when the phone rang, everybody's phone rang.
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  SPEAKER_00: When people would pick up their phone, we would wait to see who was actually calling for whom.
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  SPEAKER_00: And then that person, if they were home, would chime in.
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  SPEAKER_00: And if they weren't home, we would say, well, it looks like Barbara's not home.
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  SPEAKER_00: Then I answer and you'll have to call back later, whatever it may be.
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  SPEAKER_00: So then it would go away.
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  SPEAKER_00: But sometimes you pick up the party line, you hear some interesting things.
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  SPEAKER_00: So that kind of became a little game as you were a kid back then.
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  SPEAKER_00: Then the lines separated.
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  SPEAKER_00: We had our individual phone number.
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  SPEAKER_00: And at that time, that's all we had.
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  SPEAKER_00: There was still no answer machine.
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  SPEAKER_00: So I remember my dad, when he would get home from work, if he was expecting a call, we wouldn't dare be on the phone or he would lose his mind.
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  SPEAKER_00: Things have changed.
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  SPEAKER_00: We're always connected now.
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  SPEAKER_00: But we had to wait.
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  SPEAKER_00: If we were going out and had to make a phone call, we couldn't do it.
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  SPEAKER_00: We would stop and use a payphone.
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  SPEAKER_00: I actually saw a payphone in uh Fresno a couple days ago outside the court building.
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  SPEAKER_00: They're still there.
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  SPEAKER_00: And uh it was interesting to look at because I hadn't seen a payphone in a long time.
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  SPEAKER_00: But that's how we made calls if we really had to.
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  SPEAKER_00: This was pre-pager.
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  SPEAKER_00: So we would go out and we would not have any contact with the people except the ones that we ran into or talked to as we were on our daily venture, whatever that is, going to the office and so on.
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  SPEAKER_00: Of course, there were phones at other places.
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  SPEAKER_00: But as far as the connection points, they just weren't there.
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  SPEAKER_00: So we were able, we survived not being around a phone.
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  SPEAKER_00: We survived not having a phone all night long.
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  SPEAKER_00: And yeah, so you get the news the next day, and you start to second, you start to doubt yourself.
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  SPEAKER_00: Oh, I wish I would have gotten that phone call.
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  SPEAKER_00: If you're expecting some bad news, maybe you need to get a different alert system or you bring the phone back.
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  SPEAKER_00: But usually that's not the case.
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  SPEAKER_00: And maybe in your age range, if you're young enough, you're probably not gonna have to worry about that for the next 30, 40 years.
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  SPEAKER_00: Right now, that's a concern because a lot of the people I know they're getting up there in age, they're not taking care of themselves, and not that that's the solve all end all for everything, where you're gonna survive everything if you take care of yourself, but it is kind of a big deal.
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  SPEAKER_00: Imagine if your 10-year-old in the future self came and paid you a visit, what would they say?
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  SPEAKER_00: That's a good exercise, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: So you're on your current trajectory, whatever that is, and I'm not in your house.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm not looking, I'm not standing behind you as you're watching this video.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm not there.
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  SPEAKER_00: But what if you could go 10 years in the future, even five years, what would they say?
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  SPEAKER_00: Would they give you a high five and say, brother, thank you so much for getting on the stick and fixing all this?
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  SPEAKER_00: Because look at us now.
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  SPEAKER_00: Look at how great we have it now.
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  SPEAKER_00: Or would they say, Ooh, man, I really wish 10 years ago you would have set this up, because now these are all the problems that I have.
• 7:36
  SPEAKER_00: We can dream like this, we can make that a reality, but you just have to start.
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  SPEAKER_00: And you don't have to start all at once.
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  SPEAKER_00: My dad used to tell me, he used to give me an allowance, 20 bucks every two weeks, and he would hand me this crisp$20 bill, and he would say, You don't have to spend it today.
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  SPEAKER_00: You can wait till tomorrow to spend it.
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  SPEAKER_00: You can even save it until the next time I get paid, then you'll have$40, and then you can go blow it.
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  SPEAKER_00: But he was making a point that you don't have to do it all right now.
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  SPEAKER_00: Patience is a big deal.
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  SPEAKER_00: If you can hold off on things long enough, most things fix themselves.
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  SPEAKER_00: Most things come in and make it work.
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  SPEAKER_00: Now, nobody's gonna come do this for you.
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  SPEAKER_00: Nobody's gonna bang on your door and take you out and say, listen, this is what you need to do 100% of the time.
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  SPEAKER_00: The best you're gonna get are little videos like this, trying to at least ignite something in you.
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  SPEAKER_00: Now you might be on fire, but you might not know where to direct that fire, so you're using it on the online gaming platforms.
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  SPEAKER_00: And that's great.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's fun to go out there and blow people up and run around and try to be creative.
• 8:49
  SPEAKER_00: And although that seems like where the trajectory of the world's gonna go, and maybe that's something you want to call as a career, there's also something really special about walking barefoot in the forest.
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  SPEAKER_00: Just say it.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm Connor with honor.
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  SPEAKER_00: We will see you in the next one.