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How to dump an energy vampire · Silver FM 100.6

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  Speaker 4: No, okay, we're just you're just talking.
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  Speaker 5: But I feel like this is very actionable advice.
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  Speaker 1: Thank you, thank you. This should be the bonus tip.
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  Speaker 5: Actually okay, well, Hi, it's Mary el Segata. Welcome to
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  Speaker 5: another edition of Dear Life Kit. This series where you
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  Speaker 5: and Detagle is here. Hi, Andy, Hey Mary, and we've
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  Speaker 1: Hello.
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  Speaker 5: Let's get right into it with our first question, Andy,
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  Speaker 6: Okay, Dear Life Kit. This is going to sound super petty,
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  Speaker 6: and it kind of is. But I'm worried about losing
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  Speaker 6: my friends when my life is going better than theirs.
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  Speaker 6: One of my friend's parents is having health issues. Another
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  Speaker 6: friend is struggling with bills. And another is caring for
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  Speaker 6: their grandparents. I've become scared to share things with them
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  Speaker 6: because my problems don't feel as big, and I've recently
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  Speaker 6: had some positive things happened in my career. We're all
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  Speaker 6: in our early twenties, and I know it's not abnormal
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  Speaker 6: for everyone to be on different paths and such, but
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  Speaker 6: I'm still worried about stoking resentment.
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  Speaker 2: What do I do?
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  Speaker 5: Yeah, I mean, I get this, and it's going to
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  Speaker 5: be very common in all of our lives that sometimes
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  Speaker 5: when you're up, other people are down and vice versa. Right,
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  Speaker 5: and also sometimes even within your own life, often parts
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  Speaker 5: of your life are up and parts of your life
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  Speaker 5: are down. Like I have had personal experience with when
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  Speaker 5: I got cancer, people close friends of mine feeling like
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  Speaker 5: they shouldn't tell me certain things in their lives. And
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  Speaker 5: actually it wasn't even good stuff happening. It was bad stuff,
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  Speaker 5: but stuff that they thought.
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  Speaker 4: Didn't compare to having cancer at thirty.
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  Speaker 5: Four, So they were like, well, she's going through chemos
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  Speaker 5: so I can't talk to her about my breakup. And
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  Speaker 5: I didn't feel that way at all, like I was.
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  Speaker 5: I remember saying to them.
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  Speaker 6: It's like paint Olympics, and they're like, yeah.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah, that's not how I see the world. And I
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  Speaker 5: do think fundamentally that we have to be able to
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  Speaker 5: be there for the people we love, whether their lives
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  Speaker 5: are up or down. That it's just as much of
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  Speaker 5: a service to others to show up for them when
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  Speaker 5: the good things happen and not hold it against them.
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  Speaker 1: Well, I have a question about that, because, like, if
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  Speaker 1: you do go through a breakup and then you see
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  Speaker 1: that all your friends are getting married or getting with people, yeah,
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  Speaker 1: I don't want to hear about your the fact that
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  Speaker 1: you're getting married, right, Like, why is it in that
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  Speaker 1: situation that it's kind of normal to like not want
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  Speaker 1: to hear ah, gosh, they're getting married. But then, yeah,
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  Speaker 1: it's interesting that you're saying that when you were going
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  Speaker 1: through cancer and going through this horrible thing, that it
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  Speaker 1: was okay for you to hear about other breakups. Is
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  Speaker 1: it because the context was totally different?
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  Speaker 5: I think the context being different helps, And I also
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  Speaker 5: had no problem hearing about the good things in people's lives.
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  Speaker 5: It actually just reminded me that there was good on
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  Speaker 5: the other side of what I was going through, Like
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  Speaker 5: my friends being in Europe you know, with their kids
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  Speaker 5: and sending pictures. I was like, oh my gosh, I
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  Speaker 5: can't wait to go there when I'm done with treatment.
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  Speaker 5: But I think, yeah, you want to make sure with
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  Speaker 5: your friends that you're also showing up for them and
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  Speaker 5: not just asking how are you? Like if if awful
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  Speaker 5: things are happening in their lives, then you want to
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  Speaker 5: be present and think about like what you're good at
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  Speaker 5: and practical ways you could show up, Like if they're
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  Speaker 5: going to a lot of doctor's visits, maybe you're you're
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  Speaker 5: good at being pushy and advocating for someone, or maybe
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  Speaker 5: you're good at organizing the meal train, or maybe you're
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  Speaker 5: really good at emotional support. You want to think about
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  Speaker 5: the specifics of the situation that they shared with you
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  Speaker 5: and how you can show up for them.
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  Speaker 6: A trick that I found helpful with this is something
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  Speaker 6: that I got from the team what is it? And
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  Speaker 6: it was just ask in the reverse situation, would you
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  Speaker 6: be offended? You know, like, if something bad was happening
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  Speaker 6: to me and something good was happening to my friend,
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  Speaker 6: would it hurt my feeling?
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  Speaker 2: Would would I want to bring my friends down with me?
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  Speaker 1: Like?
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  Speaker 6: Of course, not like I would I would you know
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  Speaker 6: if someone is in your corner. I found in my
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  Speaker 6: personal experience, like, if someone is in my corner, they're
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  Speaker 6: in my corner no matter what. And if someone wants
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  Speaker 6: to yuck on mym, they're gonna yuck on my m
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  Speaker 6: no matter how well they're doing, you know what I mean?
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  Speaker 1: That's true. Also, it's a good This is maybe a
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  Speaker 1: good litmus test too. It's like if she can come
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  Speaker 1: to these people her friends, and like she feels comfortable
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  Speaker 1: enough to celebrate with them no matter where they are,
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  Speaker 1: and they like, yes, I think reciprocate is important, And
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  Speaker 1: I think that's like a sign that like it's a
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  Speaker 1: good friendship. But if they're like, if she doesn't feel
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  Speaker 1: comfortable in that space too, then maybe it's also not
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  Speaker 6: Dear life kid, how do you deal with people you
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  Speaker 6: can't stand but are forced to interact with on a
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  Speaker 6: regular basis. I'm in high school and there's this person
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  Speaker 6: who I have many classes with, share mutual friends with,
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  Speaker 6: but she's an energy vampire. She loves to one up
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  Speaker 6: me and as a mean sense of humor. How can
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  Speaker 6: I set clearer boundaries or make my interactions with her
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  Speaker 6: less painful?
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  Speaker 1: Okay, So I tell you guys something I like attract
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  Speaker 1: energy vampires. I don't know how and why, but they
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  Speaker 1: come to me, they dump on me while they're like
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  Speaker 1: like they vent at me and they talk at me,
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  Speaker 1: and then like they don't let me leave me any
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  Speaker 1: room to speak. And I think that it's because I'm
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  Speaker 1: way too nice, like I don't and I don't have
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  Speaker 1: any like boundaries with friendships too. It's like I'll just
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  Speaker 1: like keep hanging out with a person because I feel obligated.
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  Speaker 1: So for this high school student, I spent a lot
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  Speaker 1: of time looking through all of our friendship episodes, and
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  Speaker 1: I found the perfect advice for you. I'm ready from
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  Speaker 1: an interview with the writer Rachel Wilkerson Miller, who wrote
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  Speaker 1: the book The Art of Showing Up, How to Be
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  Speaker 1: There for Yourself and your people, and her advice was this,
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  Speaker 1: break up with a friend like you would break up
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  Speaker 1: with a partner. Here's what you might say to this
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  Speaker 1: energy vampire. Listen. I appreciate that you want to be
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  Speaker 1: friends with me, but I'm just not feeling the connection.
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  Speaker 1: I know we're in a lot of classes together, so
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  Speaker 1: let's try to be cordial with each other when we
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  Speaker 1: see each other. But for now, i'd appreciate if you
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  Speaker 1: gave me a little bit of space. I hope you understand.
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  Speaker 5: Hmmm, that seems like maybe easier to say over text.
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  Speaker 6: Yes, I mean I think that your response, Malica. I
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  Speaker 6: also think it's a.
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  Speaker 2: Mature one, maybe a little too mature. Yeah, here's the thing.
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  Speaker 4: Okay.
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  Speaker 6: So my initial thought was I think it's it's a
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  Speaker 6: mature one and I think it would be very good
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  Speaker 6: in an in an ideal world.
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  Speaker 2: Right, but high school.
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  Speaker 6: High school is very far from an ideal world, right,
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  Speaker 6: I think you right? Yeah, I think it's very far
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  Speaker 6: from an ideal world.
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  Speaker 1: So what what would you do?
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  Speaker 2: Okay?
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  Speaker 6: So my solution the first thing that came to my
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  Speaker 6: mind one stick with me, okay. But the first episode
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  Speaker 6: that came to my head, the first advice that came
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  Speaker 6: to my head, was my the episode on How to
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  Speaker 6: Raise the Toddler, on how to Talk Toddler.
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  Speaker 1: Oh my god, that is not the connection I thought
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  Speaker 1: you were going to make. But say more please, Okay.
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  Speaker 6: This person can be really sounds really irritating, sounds like
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  Speaker 6: they're being really illogical, like they're being really nonsensical, not
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  Speaker 6: very far away from a toddler. And when you are
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  Speaker 6: communicating with a toddler and you want them to change
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  Speaker 6: their behavior, you have to be really creative. So sometimes
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  Speaker 6: that means you have to like outwacky.
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  Speaker 2: They're wacky.
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  Speaker 6: Sometimes we can distract them or give them like a
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  Speaker 6: hard time limit or oh yeah, in the case of
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  Speaker 6: like an all out tantrum, Like if this person's being
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  Speaker 6: really mean, then what you have to do is like
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  Speaker 6: mentally disengage, protect your piece, you know, do nothing to
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  Speaker 6: fan the flames. Yeah, Or I might try to like
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  Speaker 6: positively reinforce someone else's behavior, you know, like I might
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  Speaker 6: like go to someone who I actually think is cool
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  Speaker 6: and like try and talk to them about that thing
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  Speaker 6: that I thought.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, but you know what I mean, Like I might.
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  Speaker 5: I might not respond to what they said and literally
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  Speaker 5: be like they tell me, you know, you say something
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  Speaker 5: mean about me, Molica.
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  Speaker 4: I know I can't imagine it.
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  Speaker 5: I surely can imagine happening, But you say something mean
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  Speaker 5: to me, or you you one at me and I
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  Speaker 5: just literally like don't respond to you, like eyes glaze
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  Speaker 5: over and.
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  Speaker 4: I'm like, Andy, I love your jumpsuit totally.
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  Speaker 6: Yeah, you know, yes, Like don't don't you don't have
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  Speaker 6: to laugh at the joke, right, like if you don't
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  Speaker 6: have to laugh at the joke.
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  Speaker 5: Or even like even if I was just talking to you,
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  Speaker 5: I could be like, did you say that you were
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  Speaker 5: going to the beach this weekend or just something like that, Like.
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  Speaker 4: The distraction thing I think could be really helpful.
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  Speaker 5: Sometimes when people are mean, I feel like it's coming
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  Speaker 5: from an insecure place and like trying to prove you're
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  Speaker 5: so cool place and so just being hard with them,
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  Speaker 5: like being a little like like you can be. There's
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  Speaker 5: this meme that I saw that I really love. It's
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  Speaker 5: a bunny rabbit holding a medieval weapon. Like it's like
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  Speaker 5: it has like a chain and with like a ball
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  Speaker 5: on the end and a bunch of metal spikes, and
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  Speaker 5: it says soft but not available for mistreatment.
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  Speaker 1: And I love that. Do you know what? That's how
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  Speaker 1: I feel. That's how I feel like I am, like, yeah,
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  Speaker 1: I feel like they That's why I attract the energy vampires.
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  Speaker 1: I think it's because I think they can just sort
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  Speaker 1: of like, yeah, dump on me, but like I think
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  Speaker 1: that I have to have like a boundary, like this
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  Speaker 1: is the thing about this person. It's like you're very
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  Speaker 1: nice to like entertain these kinds of treatment, but like yeah,
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  Speaker 1: so let her know, yeah your soft, but like don't
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  Speaker 1: mistreat me.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah, all right, let's go into question three.
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  Speaker 2: Okay, let's do it. Dear life kid.
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  Speaker 6: I have a coworker who I absolutely adore, and we're
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  Speaker 6: friends outside the workplace as well. She has three young children,
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  Speaker 6: and she prioritizes being a good mom over things at work.
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  Speaker 6: But when she has to call out for doctor's appointments,
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  Speaker 6: sick days, or holidays, the job of picking up the
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  Speaker 6: slack at work tends to fall on me. Our boss
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  Speaker 6: doesn't see the problem, and I realize it's my own
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  Speaker 6: fault for taking things on. I have a lot of
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  Speaker 6: trouble delegating or asking for help, since I often find
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  Speaker 6: myself so stressed that it's easier just to do things myself.
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  Speaker 6: I'm happily childless myself, and I want my friend and
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  Speaker 6: coworker to be able to prioritize her family, and I
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  Speaker 6: feel terrible for feeling resentful. How do I stop this
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  Speaker 6: cycle of stress?
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  Speaker 2: Quit your job?
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  Speaker 4: Just kidding, kidding, Okay.
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  Speaker 6: I think this is a really juicy question, and at
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  Speaker 6: first glance, it kind of it seems like a parent
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  Speaker 6: versus child free values type of question, I think, But
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  Speaker 6: I think, actually this is a you versus you question.
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  Speaker 2: Personally, I think that's what it. Do you do? You
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  Speaker 2: do you?
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  Speaker 8: Yeah?
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  Speaker 1: I agree, Yeah, I agree.
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  Speaker 6: It's a you versus the perceived expectations of you, the
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  Speaker 6: largely unstated expectations of you let a writer, and I
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  Speaker 6: want to just start by saying the people pleaser in
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  Speaker 6: me sees the people pleaser in you.
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  Speaker 2: Just say.
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  Speaker 6: Something I learned recently from our episode on the book
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  Speaker 6: Drained from a professor named your Repanner is that sometimes
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  Speaker 6: when it comes to the mental load, sometimes you need
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  Speaker 6: to separate out what is required of you, what you're
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  Speaker 6: taking on out of obligation, and what you actually want
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  Speaker 6: to be doing. Like, does it really have to be
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  Speaker 6: on you to take on this work besties?
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  Speaker 2: Load? You know?
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  Speaker 6: Do you have to raise your hand every time? Does
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  Speaker 6: anyone have to raise their hand for this work?
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  Speaker 1: You know?
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  Speaker 2: Are your deadlines real deadlines? These are the things that
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  Speaker 2: I'm thinking of. What about you guys?
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  Speaker 5: And I think ultimately, like I know, sometimes if we
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  Speaker 5: care about our jobs, or even if we're diligent type
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  Speaker 5: of people, we feel like the work is our responsibility
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  Speaker 5: and if it doesn't all get done, then it's on us.
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  Speaker 5: But ultimately it's the company's responsibility and it's the company's
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  Speaker 5: problem if it's not all getting done. Yeah, and their
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  Speaker 5: challenge to figure out.
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  Speaker 6: Right, That's exactly what I said, is like it sounds
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  Speaker 6: like you need to talk to your boss about this.
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  Speaker 6: It sounds like you have tried before and it has
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  Speaker 6: been successful. Like one conversation, it doesn't have to stop
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  Speaker 6: at one conversation, right, So like it seems like it's
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  Speaker 6: time to ask your boss for a meeting. Give yourself
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  Speaker 6: time to have to think about what you want to say,
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  Speaker 6: and when you do that, data is your friend. Keep
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  Speaker 6: your receipts if you haven't already, arm yourself with information.
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  Speaker 6: If you feel like you've been doing a lot of
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  Speaker 6: the work for a lot of the time and you're
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  Speaker 6: okay with that, then maybe it's time for a new role,
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  Speaker 6: a new title, more money so that you can feel
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  Speaker 6: less resentful.
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  Speaker 1: Let the spear flag flag yeah.
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  Speaker 6: Or if you're not, then let your boss know I'm
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  Speaker 6: doing way too much and it's time to pair back.
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  Speaker 5: I think that another point here is often in the workplace,
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  Speaker 5: people who have kids are given more leeway or more
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  Speaker 5: like help, And I understand that they do need the support,
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  Speaker 5: but that doesn't mean that someone who's child free should
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  Speaker 5: just automatically have to work more than someone who has
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  Speaker 5: Absolutely Like, yeah, we've done an episode on how to
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  Speaker 5: be child free, and part of that is just reinforcing
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  Speaker 5: that that is a valid choice, and it doesn't make
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  Speaker 5: you a better person and more upstanding member of society
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  Speaker 5: or more important because you have kids versus someone else.
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  Speaker 1: Maybe you need to hear that. Actually, maybe the letter
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  Speaker 1: writer needs to hear that.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, I had the exact same thing to say.
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  Speaker 6: Brittany Loose, the host of It's Been a Minute, came
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  Speaker 6: on to Dear Life Kid a few months back and
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  Speaker 6: she had this great line. She says, I'm going to
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  Speaker 6: give as much as I can lovingly, and no more,
• 15:22
  Speaker 6: because if you give more than what you can give lovingly,
• 15:25
  Speaker 6: you're either going to it either means to conflict or
• 15:27
  Speaker 6: you end up feeling short changed. So I think it
• 15:30
  Speaker 6: applies to these friends here, like it applies to work,
• 15:32
  Speaker 6: It applies to friends, it applies to family.
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  Speaker 2: You know.
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  Speaker 6: I will, I'll give you as much as I can
• 15:36
  Speaker 6: that I can give lovingly, But as soon as I
• 15:38
  Speaker 6: as I feel any like any, any sort of bitterness
• 15:41
  Speaker 6: in my mouth, that's the line.
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  Speaker 2: That's the line.
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  Speaker 6: It doesn't matter if I have kids, if I don't
• 15:45
  Speaker 6: have it like whatever I can give lovingly, yeah, once
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  Speaker 6: I'm unhappy about it, That's that's the line to stub.
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  Speaker 2: Then you're asking too much.
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  Speaker 1: Wow, that also applies to the other letter writer with
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  Speaker 1: the energy vampire.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, probably applies to all of them.
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  Speaker 1: That's right, that's good.
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  Speaker 2: I think so too.
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