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Soulworker Stacy says Abby is talking to her husband in her DMs!! · Scotty and Abby UNFILTERED

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  Speaker 1: Pampa Bay's Best music is magazine.
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  Speaker 2: And welcome to another episode of Scotty and Abbey Unfiltered.
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  Speaker 2: If you heard the last episode, it really made me
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  Speaker 2: want to kick off this conversation by acknowledging our own
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  Speaker 2: crazy Oh no, well, because we got to talk to
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  Speaker 2: our friend Miranda. We did got to show so much
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  Speaker 2: love and honestly respect for her coming in here and
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  Speaker 2: being as transparent and honest from what she did in
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  Speaker 2: her her little fling.
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  Speaker 3: I love that she's she's unjaded by the world. Absolutely,
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  Speaker 3: She's like, let me just let you guys know what's
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  Speaker 3: going on in my data life, which I love.
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  Speaker 4: It's perfect for this kind of content.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, And I think for us it's like a reminder
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  Speaker 2: because I said that on the air earlier. I was like,
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  Speaker 2: none of us could act like we have not done something.
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  Speaker 2: Maybe not to that extent, but we've all been cringey
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  Speaker 2: when it comes to our feelings for someone.
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  Speaker 1: When you think back, what comes to mind for you?
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  Speaker 3: I remember, are set alerts on Instagram for a guy
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  Speaker 3: I had to crush on, Crushes on a guy I
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  Speaker 3: had to crush crush on.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, I like questions in general.
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  Speaker 4: His favorite NFL team.
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  Speaker 3: Like anytime, let's say it was the Raiders, anytime the
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  Speaker 3: Raiders would post, I would get a notification that they posted,
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  Speaker 3: and I would always like it, so that when he
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  Speaker 3: would go to like it, it would say the Abbey
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  Speaker 3: Murphy or whoever liked.
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  Speaker 4: Like the post.
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  Speaker 2: You know what, it worked, honestly to stay top of mind.
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  Speaker 2: Like in this day of age, I feel like it's
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  Speaker 2: harder than ever to try to keep someone's attention. I
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  Speaker 2: know a lot of people are like having trouble with that.
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  Speaker 2: If you're on like the dating apps and like, as
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  Speaker 2: soon as you start to have a connection with somebody,
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  Speaker 2: the problem is they might go on Instagram and be like,
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  Speaker 2: oh hey, yeah, so to.
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  Speaker 1: Stay top of mind. Honestly, that's actually kind of genius.
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  Speaker 3: Just like micro dosne images of me in his head.
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  Speaker 3: Every time he sees the Raiders who he loves, he
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  Speaker 3: would think of me, And so it's like Pavlov's dolls.
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  Speaker 3: Or maybe it's a good or bad thing depending on
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  Speaker 3: how the Raiders are doing.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, I could also go in the bad way.
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  Speaker 2: I was trying to think of some of the cringy
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  Speaker 2: things I did, and I've done a lot.
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  Speaker 1: Of cringey things.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, like relationships to college relationships to previous in my
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  Speaker 2: twenties relationships.
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  Speaker 1: If you've had.
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  Speaker 3: Relationships, so they've worked. Whatever you're doing is working.
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  Speaker 2: I think of mainly the things I did in the beginning,
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  Speaker 2: like let's say in high school and high school, some
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  Speaker 2: of the cringier things as you're trying to find your
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  Speaker 2: way of like either showing up and watching every practice
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  Speaker 2: for your partner because they ask you too, so it's
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  Speaker 2: a way of support. I look at that and I'm like, oh,
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  Speaker 2: that's cringey.
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  Speaker 1: That's awkward.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: Fighting in a parking lot, that's cringey. That's awkward. Yeah,
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  Speaker 2: Because I used to be in a relationship where literally,
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  Speaker 2: like I would have coaches like see me and my
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  Speaker 2: like high school girlfriend, like just yelling at each other.
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  Speaker 2: God knows what we're in high school, Like what the
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  Speaker 2: hell could we have done at that point to be
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  Speaker 2: that upset? And they would talk to me after be
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  Speaker 2: like y'all good, Like we were that couple. And I
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  Speaker 2: look at that, I'm like, that's cringey for me. Where
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  Speaker 2: you're sitting all night texting back and forth, or you
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  Speaker 2: have to leave friend groups. This happened so many times,
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  Speaker 2: So like for Miranda to say that she was just
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  Speaker 2: sending texts. I'm like, girl, at least your friends didn't
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  Speaker 2: even know, or you weren't leaving your friends to go
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  Speaker 2: do it.
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  Speaker 1: No, no, no, I would.
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  Speaker 2: Leave and be on the phone for like hours, Oh
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  Speaker 2: my god, trying to call like I don't know, calm
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  Speaker 2: the situation down, fix the problem.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, no, crazy.
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  Speaker 4: What she did was kind of funny.
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  Speaker 3: Now he from his end, it's probably like, oh my god,
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  Speaker 3: who's this psycho? Like if a man ever did that
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  Speaker 3: to me, I would be afraid from my life.
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  Speaker 4: But because she's just like a girly, it's just kind
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  Speaker 4: of funny.
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  Speaker 2: And she literally like, if you hear the way she
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  Speaker 2: said it, that's the girly, like fun flirty PoCA. Oh
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  Speaker 2: my god, I'm so sad, like text me back, you know,
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  Speaker 2: that's funny.
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  Speaker 3: I do feel bad, But I wonder what he was
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  Speaker 3: going through on Saturday that made him not respond, or
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  Speaker 3: maybe he was just waiting a couple hours because he
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  Speaker 3: was busy with family. And so it was funny because me, me.
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  Speaker 4: And Miranda are in our twenties.
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  Speaker 3: They think, oh, like, there we are similar, but I
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  Speaker 3: forget how much younger twenty two is whereas at twenty nine,
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  Speaker 3: in my head I would have thought, oh, he's like busy,
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  Speaker 3: let me like text him later.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: I think that's the part that I find in And
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  Speaker 2: everyone's different when it comes to like how you like
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  Speaker 2: to be responded to. But as I've learned, as I've
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  Speaker 2: gotten older and we are busy, like I don't expect
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  Speaker 2: to be texting all day. It's like every other hour
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  Speaker 2: you might get her like an update. We're hey, here's
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  Speaker 2: what I've been doing, here's a couple questions, here's a
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  Speaker 2: couple of pictures.
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  Speaker 1: All right, probably talk to you in a couple hours. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: where it's you heard her.
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  Speaker 2: Yesterday and she's like, yeah, I expect to go back
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  Speaker 2: and forth.
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  Speaker 1: I'm like all day.
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  Speaker 3: But in college that's normal and so it's funny like
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  Speaker 3: these early twenties experiences, you have to go through that
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  Speaker 3: stuff to learn that it's normal. So when you're my age,
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  Speaker 3: you're not sending fifty eight text messages.
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  Speaker 4: Going where are you? What you're doing?
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  Speaker 2: Why?
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  Speaker 3: An't shocking to me because at twenty nine, I've had
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  Speaker 3: the experience of knowing, Okay, it's normal for a guy
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  Speaker 3: who's twenty five to maybe go six hours without texting me.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, And that's the part I think, as we get older,
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  Speaker 2: we actually kind of want it.
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  Speaker 1: You've said that before, which I find so perfectly.
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  Speaker 3: I love it when a man doesn't talk to me
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  Speaker 3: and they're doing a really good job at it. Because
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  Speaker 3: it's been a week since the last guy I was
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  Speaker 3: talking to you sent me a passage mother Pearl.
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  Speaker 2: I was gonna say, because I heard over was it Brunch,
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  Speaker 2: that there might have been another, like another text going on,
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  Speaker 2: but that kind of fizzled out, too.
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  Speaker 4: Did I not?
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  Speaker 3: Did I tell you about the second sales setup from
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  Speaker 3: the same person.
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  Speaker 1: I don't know if we got the update from it,
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  Speaker 1: I don't remember.
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  Speaker 3: I think I updated on my substack, but I don't
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  Speaker 3: think I updated here. So the same person that set
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  Speaker 3: me up with the last we called him sales setup guy,
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  Speaker 3: that's right, and we were keeping a running tally of
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  Speaker 3: how many days it had been since he had texted me,
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  Speaker 3: and I think we gave the update on that because
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  Speaker 3: we had to stop counting because it just because it was.
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  Speaker 4: It was like day thirties, like he's just not responding out.
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  Speaker 3: So this was a coworker who tried to set me
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  Speaker 3: up so apparently his girlfriend or extra girlfriend came back
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  Speaker 3: to the picture and that's why he went mia, which
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  Speaker 3: was weird because I'm like, oh, he seems so interested,
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  Speaker 3: and it like went away immediately. So I guess maybe
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  Speaker 3: he just didn't know how to explain that, and they're
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  Speaker 3: getting back together.
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  Speaker 4: I don't know. So anyway, she has.
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  Speaker 3: This other guy who just got out of a relationship,
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  Speaker 3: and he started texting me and he seemed somewhat interested,
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  Speaker 3: but also like I understand, like your mom's friend is
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  Speaker 3: trying to set you up with his girl.
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  Speaker 4: You don't know.
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  Speaker 3: And I have kind of a very upfront social media presence,
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  Speaker 3: so you can tell if you like me or not.
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  Speaker 1: Ye know what I mean. True, Like you could literally
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  Speaker 1: see this is who I am, this is what I
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  Speaker 1: like to do.
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  Speaker 3: Give me with no makeup, you can see me hungover.
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  Speaker 3: There's there's nothing you're not going to see on my
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  Speaker 3: social media. And we were talking and I think it
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  Speaker 3: was last Thursday. I was waiting for a text back
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  Speaker 3: from him and he never texted back.
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  Speaker 2: Because okay, because that's where I think we were. We
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  Speaker 2: left off on the podcast because it was like, okay,
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  Speaker 2: it's been what it was like twelve hours at that point,
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  Speaker 2: that twelve hours is growing.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, so it's been a week now, all right, Well
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  Speaker 3: that which is it's fine. I mean, if I really
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  Speaker 3: thought he was the one, I'd be panicking. But here's
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  Speaker 3: what's funny. Is our mutual friend, Soul Worker Stacey. Oh yeah,
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  Speaker 3: so she was at our live show on Friday, Yes,
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  Speaker 3: and she came up to me and I said, girl, like,
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  Speaker 3: where's my husband? You said I was going to meet
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  Speaker 3: him in six to twelve months, which I guess we
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  Speaker 3: still have like six more months.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, that's true.
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  Speaker 4: We call her what in like April?
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, I forgot about that. We need to call her
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  Speaker 2: back because I've had way too many weird dreams that
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  Speaker 2: I'm dying.
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  Speaker 3: So yeah, in March of April. Which I have something
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  Speaker 3: to add on to that in a second, the whole
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  Speaker 3: dying thing.
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  Speaker 1: Yes, so let me let me.
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  Speaker 4: Pivot back to Soul Worker Stacy.
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  Speaker 1: Yep.
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  Speaker 4: So it has nothing to do with you.
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  Speaker 3: It actually might make you feel better good because I
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  Speaker 3: thought I was going to die at one point in
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  Speaker 3: my life and I did not die, so I.
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  Speaker 1: Looked I don't.
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  Speaker 4: I was going through religious eye.
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  Speaker 3: Coaches anyway, So I what was I saying I was
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  Speaker 3: so soul Worker Stacy. We did an episode a couple
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  Speaker 3: months back where our medium friend called up and she
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  Speaker 3: read Scotty because Scotty thought he was going to die
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  Speaker 3: and I thought I was going to die alone. And
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  Speaker 3: she called up and said, you're going to meet some
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  Speaker 3: guy in six to twelve months, and like, I really
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  Speaker 3: feel like you're supposed to be here in Tampa and
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  Speaker 3: like you're going to build your life and your family.
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  Speaker 3: And I'm like, oh, that sounds so great, thank you.
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  Speaker 3: Like where the fuck is he though? So anyway, I
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  Speaker 3: run into her on Friday and I said where's my husband?
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  Speaker 3: And she goes, girl, like, you're talking to him right now?
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  Speaker 3: And I was like what because I'm not because I'm
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  Speaker 3: like my phone is so dry.
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  Speaker 4: I'm like, I'm not talking to anybody.
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  Speaker 3: I mean, I was talking to that guy, but he
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  Speaker 3: went at a and she goes, there's two guys and
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  Speaker 3: I can just see them floating around you right now,
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  Speaker 3: and like we've got to talk.
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  Speaker 4: And I'm like, oh, there's two guys.
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  Speaker 1: Wow. When you get them too, there's compound.
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  Speaker 3: But I'm wait, I'm like, are these guys that I
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  Speaker 3: met in the past that I'm not thinking of or
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  Speaker 3: like did I talk to them and passing like at
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  Speaker 3: publics or something? And you know what I mean, I'm
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  Speaker 3: like doing the math in my head because I'm like, girl,
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  Speaker 3: you don't understand.
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  Speaker 4: There's like nobody right now.
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  Speaker 1: There's not even a single message on my phone.
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  Speaker 3: There's not a single person I could be thinking of
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  Speaker 3: that I'm like, yeah, that's my person.
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  Speaker 4: So she seems to think that I'm talking to my
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  Speaker 4: husband right now.
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  Speaker 2: That's fascinating to think because it makes you wonder like
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  Speaker 2: are your circles overlapped with somebody else's but you're just
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  Speaker 2: not even looking in that direction.
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  Speaker 3: But she says, I'm talking to them. She said, you're
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  Speaker 3: talking to them right now.
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  Speaker 2: And I said what, I'm like, let me get all
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  Speaker 2: woo wooh. Maybe your souls are talking. Maybe your souls are.
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  Speaker 1: I don't know I'm talking. I don't.
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  Speaker 2: Like, I'm trying to think of, like what have you
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  Speaker 2: done recently where you've been out either in a social
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  Speaker 2: situation and you've maybe been interacting with a bigger group,
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  Speaker 2: because like, what does your day look like on like
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  Speaker 2: an average week where it's like this guy could be popping.
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  Speaker 3: Around, I'd come here, I talk to you, we're not
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  Speaker 3: getting married, and then I go home and everybody else
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  Speaker 3: I talk to is either a woman or day.
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  Speaker 2: Well, okay, that makes it a little harder. Is there
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  Speaker 2: any any cut boys?
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  Speaker 1: Solid core?
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  Speaker 4: They're gay?
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  Speaker 1: Dang it?
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  Speaker 4: Okay, so unless one of them wants a lavender marriage.
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  Speaker 2: Was there anybody at the live show that you looked
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  Speaker 2: at and thought, damn, they're in the audience looking at me?
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  Speaker 3: No?
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  Speaker 1: Okay, then respectfully, no, yeah, yeah.
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  Speaker 4: Our listeners are. All of our listeners are hot.
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  Speaker 1: Absolutely.
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  Speaker 4: But that's what she said.
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  Speaker 3: She's she said, you're talking to them right now, and
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  Speaker 3: so by that, I assume we're dating right now. Like
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  Speaker 3: when people say talking, they say dating. Do you want
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  Speaker 3: me to get her on the phone right now? Yeah? Yeah, Actually,
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  Speaker 3: let me see, eating me up, let me see if.
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  Speaker 2: She's available for a quick call, because I'm gonna put
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  Speaker 2: her on the spot because I also have questions. I
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  Speaker 2: literally have a note on my phone of like all
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  Speaker 2: the things that I've drump recently. I'm like, I this
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  Speaker 2: can't be good, Like either somebody's about to leave my life, yeah,
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  Speaker 2: or I'm about to make a huge shift and I
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  Speaker 2: don't know if I'm ready for that.
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  Speaker 1: Let me see, hey, quick.
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  Speaker 4: Call and then I can help you feel better about
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  Speaker 4: not dying.
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  Speaker 1: Okay, as I'm texting to that, like explain the quick
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  Speaker 1: dying thing.
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  Speaker 3: So when I was twenty two, I started going through
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  Speaker 3: what I can only describe as religious psychosis, and I
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  Speaker 3: started experiencing a kind of like impending doom and anxiety
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  Speaker 3: to where I thought something bad is about to happen,
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  Speaker 3: which is ironic because then the pandemic happened the next year,
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  Speaker 3: But I thought something bad was going to happen to me.
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  Speaker 3: I started getting all this insane flight anxiety. It all
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  Speaker 3: weirdly started right after I watched like a nine to eleven.
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  Speaker 4: Documentary Good Lord.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, and I just started freaking out about like plane
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  Speaker 3: crashes and I had to fly a bunch that year,
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  Speaker 3: and I just thought, like, I really feel.
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  Speaker 4: Like I'm gonna die.
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  Speaker 3: And I had this date in my head for some reason,
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  Speaker 3: of the date You're gonna die. This makes me sound crazy.
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  Speaker 3: I recognize it sounds crazy.
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  Speaker 1: You're not the only one, though, I do want to.
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  Speaker 3: I do want to talk about it because I remember
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  Speaker 3: feeling so incredibly anxious that something was going to happen
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  Speaker 3: to me. That I wish somebody. I wish that I
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  Speaker 3: knew somebody else went through it. Like I was watching
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  Speaker 3: like episodes of Long Island Medium trying to figure out,
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  Speaker 3: like can I talk to somebody who can maybe read
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  Speaker 3: me and tell me, like if somebody's gonna happen, So.
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  Speaker 1: You're really anxious about it, if you're going to that far?
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, I know like I was. I was on like
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  Speaker 3: freaking fire and Brimstone. TikTok like or Chiktok wasn't evenything.
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  Speaker 3: It was like YouTube. This is would have never happened
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  Speaker 3: if TikTok had bit I think by them figured out
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  Speaker 3: in the day. The reason why I'm bringing this up
• 11:39
  Speaker 3: is I got a Snapchat memory. So if you have Snapchat,
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  Speaker 3: you know, it'll show you like this day in history.
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  Speaker 3: And it's weird because I don't. I must have taken
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  Speaker 3: this photo six years ago August third, twenty twenty. Wow.
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  Speaker 4: And I used to what I call religious psychosis journal.
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  Speaker 1: Oh that's good. At least you get the thought out.
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  Speaker 4: I'd be like, I think this is gonna happen, and
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  Speaker 4: I want this stop? Is this one?
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  Speaker 3: I'm pretty bar It's just a lot. I need to
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  Speaker 3: find those journals because I bet you they're highly entertaining.
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  Speaker 3: Oh I bet so, God, this is this might be
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  Speaker 3: the most embarrassing thing I've ever revealed ever.
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  Speaker 1: Oh my god.
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  Speaker 3: So this is my snapchat memory and it's a journal
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  Speaker 3: entry and in big letters, because I just wanted proof
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  Speaker 3: that I knew.
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  Speaker 4: It was going to happen.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, there you go. Of course they have.
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  Speaker 3: I felt like it was going to happen, or if
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  Speaker 3: it actually happened. So it's titled October first, twenty twenty.
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  Speaker 4: I can't see what this as.
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  Speaker 3: I think it might say twenty nineteen, and it says
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  Speaker 3: ever since September twenty nineteen, I have had crippling anxiety
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  Speaker 3: about October first. I feel like this is so embarrassing.
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  Speaker 3: I feel like God is calling me to.
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  Speaker 4: Die by that day.
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  Speaker 3: Oh my god, this is if you grew up at
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  Speaker 3: the church, you know, this is like just the kind
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  Speaker 3: of vernacular you use all the time. I'm praying God
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  Speaker 3: will grant me more time. But his will is his Willlujah,
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  Speaker 3: We're not even done yet.
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  Speaker 4: And then I left a note for my mom.
• 12:56
  Speaker 3: Mom, if you read this, oh wait, I don't even
• 12:58
  Speaker 3: know what this means. So this is a Miranda's age,
• 13:01
  Speaker 3: so I can't even judge her there sending the fifty
• 13:03
  Speaker 3: eight ghosted messages because I'm thinking I'm gonna die.
• 13:06
  Speaker 4: I'm like leaving notes from my mom.
• 13:08
  Speaker 3: Mom, if you read this, please don't go telling everyone
• 13:11
  Speaker 3: all the gory details.
• 13:12
  Speaker 4: Is my mom such a gossip?
• 13:13
  Speaker 1: I'm like, oh, this is how happy died.
• 13:16
  Speaker 3: So anyway, I was going through intense religious psychosis, So
• 13:20
  Speaker 3: what's the right side of this? Then the right side
• 13:22
  Speaker 3: is I didn't die, and that weird because I literally
• 13:25
  Speaker 3: woke up every single day feeling like something horrible was
• 13:29
  Speaker 3: gonna happen.
• 13:30
  Speaker 1: That's scary. Yeah, that's not even like a oh my
• 13:33
  Speaker 1: like mine is. I have weird dreams. I think people
• 13:35
  Speaker 1: are gonna leave my life.
• 13:37
  Speaker 3: The dying part you like you have you feel like
• 13:39
  Speaker 3: your girlfriend's gonna break up with you.
• 13:41
  Speaker 1: No, not that.
• 13:42
  Speaker 2: I think there's friendships shifting in my life literally and
• 13:45
  Speaker 2: I'm watching it happen. It's not one of those where
• 13:46
  Speaker 2: you're like you look back, You're like, oh wow, I
• 13:48
  Speaker 2: guess like, if I look back, I could see that
• 13:50
  Speaker 2: friendship shifting. Yeah, I look at it now and I'm like,
• 13:53
  Speaker 2: oh my god, I'm in the middle of the friendship shifts,
• 13:55
  Speaker 2: like do I call it out? Let me call Stacy
• 13:57
  Speaker 2: because I think she's gonna be able.
• 13:58
  Speaker 1: To have to help with this.
• 13:59
  Speaker 4: Can she give us a ring right now?
• 14:00
  Speaker 1: Or she yeah, she's in Yeah.
• 14:03
  Speaker 3: So anyway, I tell you that highly embarrassing tidbit because
• 14:07
  Speaker 3: a all roads.
• 14:08
  Speaker 4: Lead back to my iron deficiency.
• 14:10
  Speaker 3: I was extremely iron deficient at that time, and increase
• 14:13
  Speaker 3: your anxiety.
• 14:14
  Speaker 4: It made me feel physically anxious.
• 14:16
  Speaker 1: Your iron deficient at that time.
• 14:17
  Speaker 3: I didn't know at that time, but I remember that fall.
• 14:21
  Speaker 3: I started feeling better because I got on like a
• 14:24
  Speaker 3: like a like a vitamin plant or something, and I
• 14:26
  Speaker 3: started taking iron again.
• 14:28
  Speaker 1: Oh and all of a sudden, like all of a sudden,
• 14:30
  Speaker 1: maybe it's my iron.
• 14:31
  Speaker 3: I was like, well, A, I didn't die in October,
• 14:33
  Speaker 3: so I was like, I must be fine. I got
• 14:35
  Speaker 3: my premonition was wrong, and then I started taking iron again.
• 14:37
  Speaker 2: It's so interesting that like you had an exact date though,
• 14:41
  Speaker 2: Like that's the part for me that I'm like I
• 14:43
  Speaker 2: always had, Like yeah, and Stacey will probably say this,
• 14:45
  Speaker 2: like she says I'm gonna live a long life, which
• 14:46
  Speaker 2: I hope. So, but every now and then I get
• 14:48
  Speaker 2: this thought, I'm like, I think I have such a
• 14:50
  Speaker 2: rush to do all these things, to accomplish this or
• 14:53
  Speaker 2: do that, because I'm.
• 14:54
  Speaker 1: Like, maybe I don't have that long. That's morbid. It's
• 14:57
  Speaker 1: called Stacy. Jesus. All right, here we go.
• 15:00
  Speaker 3: But Stacy said, I'm going to meet my husband, so
• 15:02
  Speaker 3: I mean I must make it past October first, twenty
• 15:04
  Speaker 3: twenty six.
• 15:06
  Speaker 1: There we go. Let's see. I hope you make it.
• 15:08
  Speaker 1: Passed off to her.
• 15:09
  Speaker 3: Now I'm freaking out because I have a flight on
• 15:10
  Speaker 3: September eleventh.
• 15:11
  Speaker 2: Oh my god.
• 15:15
  Speaker 1: Well, good morning, Stacy.
• 15:17
  Speaker 2: You are on the podcast with us right now because
• 15:19
  Speaker 2: Abby and I were going back and forth and we
• 15:21
  Speaker 2: had some questions for you, because you're the only one
• 15:23
  Speaker 2: that I've actually answered this.
• 15:25
  Speaker 1: So first off, Stacy, how are you?
• 15:28
  Speaker 5: I'm great, how are you well in.
• 15:30
  Speaker 2: This very moment decent, but also conflicted with emotions and
• 15:34
  Speaker 2: not just me, So we both have questions.
• 15:36
  Speaker 4: We could be doing better. That's what we're trying to say.
• 15:38
  Speaker 1: Yes, there's always room for improvement.
• 15:40
  Speaker 2: There was something that Abby brought up that you two
• 15:43
  Speaker 2: talked about at the live show.
• 15:46
  Speaker 5: I knew it. I could feel it.
• 15:48
  Speaker 2: See, that's why we had to call you you always know,
• 15:50
  Speaker 2: So okay, Abby catches, Oh what was the conversation.
• 15:53
  Speaker 3: Yeah, so I bumped into you in the middle of
• 15:56
  Speaker 3: the live show or the beginning of the live show,
• 15:57
  Speaker 3: and I jokingly said to you, I said, said, I
• 15:59
  Speaker 3: was going to meet my husband where he at, although
• 16:02
  Speaker 3: I guess we still have like a year left. We
• 16:03
  Speaker 3: still like six months left, so there's still time. But
• 16:06
  Speaker 3: you looked at me and you said, well, there's two
• 16:08
  Speaker 3: people and you're talking.
• 16:09
  Speaker 4: To him right now.
• 16:10
  Speaker 3: And I was like, oh my god, I don't know
• 16:11
  Speaker 3: what that means.
• 16:12
  Speaker 5: You're kitty chatty. There's there's somebody in your DMS that
• 16:16
  Speaker 5: you're talking to.
• 16:18
  Speaker 1: Pop open those DMSL here's the thing.
• 16:20
  Speaker 3: There's guys in my dms, but they always ask me
• 16:22
  Speaker 3: out and then they ghost, and so there's late like
• 16:24
  Speaker 3: there's nobody recently that I was like currently talking to.
• 16:28
  Speaker 3: But I mean men have certainly hit on me in
• 16:30
  Speaker 3: the dms for sure.
• 16:32
  Speaker 4: So if he's just lingering, I.
• 16:33
  Speaker 2: Don't feel like he's a satellite like just orbiting around
• 16:37
  Speaker 2: Abby's life.
• 16:37
  Speaker 5: He's orbiting around. Yeah, it's not time just yet, but
• 16:40
  Speaker 5: he's gonna make an appearance. It was so weird too,
• 16:43
  Speaker 5: because as soon as I saw her and I hugged her,
• 16:46
  Speaker 5: I was like, oh, there's rings around her in address
• 16:49
  Speaker 5: and I'm like.
• 16:49
  Speaker 1: Oh, thank god, she's met him, Oh my god.
• 16:52
  Speaker 5: Or there's been contact.
• 16:54
  Speaker 1: M So you might have had a conversation.
• 16:56
  Speaker 2: Maybe it's not daily, but like there's somebody that's popping in,
• 17:00
  Speaker 2: popping out.
• 17:01
  Speaker 1: You see them about Do you think.
• 17:04
  Speaker 2: That Abby's actually met this person in person?
• 17:07
  Speaker 5: No, that helps.
• 17:09
  Speaker 4: See and that's on him. He asked.
• 17:10
  Speaker 3: He probably asked me out and then he whisted out.
• 17:13
  Speaker 5: Do you guys have a banter? It's gonna be like
• 17:15
  Speaker 5: good chemistry like that kind of like, hey, he can
• 17:18
  Speaker 5: pick on you the way you can pick on him.
• 17:20
  Speaker 2: Yeah, they're gonna need to need They're gonna need to
• 17:23
  Speaker 2: be smart and quick.
• 17:25
  Speaker 1: I think to make better.
• 17:27
  Speaker 4: Let's not forget hot, not.
• 17:28
  Speaker 2: Forget hot, probably shirtless and sweaty.
• 17:32
  Speaker 1: Oh my gosh.
• 17:34
  Speaker 2: Now do you think it's still a reality for the
• 17:37
  Speaker 2: next we got four months left to twenty twenty six?
• 17:40
  Speaker 2: Is Abby gonna be able to at least go on
• 17:43
  Speaker 2: a date.
• 17:44
  Speaker 1: With this person? What do we think?
• 17:45
  Speaker 4: What's end it that can she at least go on
• 17:46
  Speaker 4: a day?
• 17:48
  Speaker 5: Because she got a drink, you will be going on date,
• 17:50
  Speaker 5: but you have to start singing yes too.
• 17:52
  Speaker 1: Oh we gotta be open to the universe.
• 17:55
  Speaker 5: Abby No, because she gives her weird feelings. And I
• 17:58
  Speaker 5: don't blame her. She's not stupid.
• 18:01
  Speaker 1: Oh no, she's not. She's it's actually she's almost too smart.
• 18:04
  Speaker 1: That's the thing.
• 18:05
  Speaker 2: And I thing a lot of guys, and I think
• 18:06
  Speaker 2: that's the problem though. A lot of guys pop around
• 18:08
  Speaker 2: and are like, god, man, guys, A ruin this for
• 18:09
  Speaker 2: the rest of the guys, because not even want to
• 18:10
  Speaker 2: give guys a chance.
• 18:14
  Speaker 5: He's like, oh my gosh, is she good? Am I
• 18:16
  Speaker 5: good enough for her? Am I going to be able
• 18:18
  Speaker 5: to face her? It's like that.
• 18:22
  Speaker 1: Now that makes a lot of sense.
• 18:23
  Speaker 3: That would make sense, because I'm like, I don't understand
• 18:25
  Speaker 3: why these guys ask me out and then they just go.
• 18:28
  Speaker 4: And so my assumption is they have other hoes and
• 18:31
  Speaker 4: I'm not top Ho. I'm trying to be top Ho.
• 18:33
  Speaker 1: Has anyone ever said.
• 18:34
  Speaker 5: I need them also understand that you put a prishona
• 18:37
  Speaker 5: up on the air and you're not exactly that way
• 18:40
  Speaker 5: behind closed doors. That's something people need to understand.
• 18:44
  Speaker 1: Okay, okay, okay, different character.
• 18:47
  Speaker 3: Well, hopefully, how is there a way I can get
• 18:49
  Speaker 3: this man to ask me out again?
• 18:50
  Speaker 4: Or ask me out? Period? Is like, is there? What
• 18:53
  Speaker 4: do I have to do?
• 18:54
  Speaker 5: Nothing?
• 18:55
  Speaker 4: Nothing.
• 18:55
  Speaker 5: It's so cool that you actually brought me on to
• 18:58
  Speaker 5: have this conversation. So maybe hopefully this going there. I
• 19:03
  Speaker 5: know you're listening.
• 19:04
  Speaker 1: He's a fan of the podcast.
• 19:07
  Speaker 3: No freaking way, that's exciting.
• 19:09
  Speaker 4: Okay, dude, hey can we can we heard this? The
• 19:14
  Speaker 4: hell up?
• 19:15
  Speaker 5: Yeah?
• 19:15
  Speaker 2: Just make the ask like, oh my god, I will
• 19:18
  Speaker 2: throw up if before twenty twenty seven, when.
• 19:23
  Speaker 5: Have I been wrong? Knock on wood?
• 19:25
  Speaker 1: Look, well, here's any time I talked about you.
• 19:27
  Speaker 2: I'm like, Stacy has shown me things in life that
• 19:29
  Speaker 2: I'm literally living it right now.
• 19:30
  Speaker 1: It's nuts.
• 19:31
  Speaker 3: It's one thing for my love life to maybe be
• 19:33
  Speaker 3: taken a long time, but Scott's freaking out about life
• 19:36
  Speaker 3: and death.
• 19:37
  Speaker 1: Oh God, Stacy, I haven't meaning to reach.
• 19:39
  Speaker 5: Out Scott's life. That's because Scott's been dreaming stuff. God's processing.
• 19:44
  Speaker 5: We haven't even talked.
• 19:45
  Speaker 1: I know, I know.
• 19:47
  Speaker 2: I got let me throw some things at you, because
• 19:49
  Speaker 2: I do have my notes on my phone of the
• 19:51
  Speaker 2: things I've dreamt recently that I'm like, y'all, what the
• 19:54
  Speaker 2: hell is going on? And I want to throw this
• 19:56
  Speaker 2: one at you, Stacy, because I have no idea what
• 19:59
  Speaker 2: this could mean or if I'm actually in danger and
• 20:01
  Speaker 2: I need to get security.
• 20:02
  Speaker 1: Can I throw this at you?
• 20:05
  Speaker 5: Yes, and let's throw it out. We have not talked,
• 20:07
  Speaker 5: we have discussed about any of this.
• 20:09
  Speaker 2: Yeah, it's true because some of these things I just
• 20:11
  Speaker 2: kind of throw on my phone and I hope for
• 20:13
  Speaker 2: a day that it makes sense. But the one note
• 20:16
  Speaker 2: that I had this was from Okay, just last month,
• 20:18
  Speaker 2: actually not that long ago. It says we were at
• 20:21
  Speaker 2: my dad's and we caught word of some people starting
• 20:27
  Speaker 2: fires and lighting houses on fire. And then I see
• 20:31
  Speaker 2: them in the back of my house starting my house
• 20:34
  Speaker 2: on fire.
• 20:35
  Speaker 1: I run out there.
• 20:37
  Speaker 2: For a battle with the hose and they have like
• 20:40
  Speaker 2: this can and a lighter.
• 20:42
  Speaker 4: Well, how you're saying battle?
• 20:43
  Speaker 1: I know because it was I remember like I was
• 20:45
  Speaker 1: like telling them.
• 20:45
  Speaker 2: I was like, do not do this, because I think
• 20:47
  Speaker 2: in my head, I was like, do not do this,
• 20:49
  Speaker 2: because if you do this, then I'm gonna have to
• 20:51
  Speaker 2: show aside of.
• 20:51
  Speaker 1: Me that I don't want to show.
• 20:52
  Speaker 2: And I remember in the dream, y'all, this is gonna
• 20:54
  Speaker 2: sound dark, I know, but this house wasn't the dream.
• 20:57
  Speaker 2: I warned them, I said, don't do this, and they
• 20:58
  Speaker 2: lit my house on fire.
• 21:00
  Speaker 1: I killed them. Okay, I literally warned them.
• 21:02
  Speaker 2: I was like, do not do this, and then I
• 21:05
  Speaker 2: killed them because I was like, well, I told you
• 21:08
  Speaker 2: not the f around and now you found out.
• 21:09
  Speaker 1: I don't want to be that guy. You made me
• 21:11
  Speaker 1: that guy? The hell does that mean?
• 21:12
  Speaker 2: So?
• 21:13
  Speaker 5: Remember how I always talk to you about positive or
• 21:16
  Speaker 5: positive came out of death in dreams?
• 21:18
  Speaker 3: Yeah?
• 21:20
  Speaker 5: Okay, First of all, your caterpillary, you're evolving. That's a
• 21:23
  Speaker 5: part of that. Next the fire, the dream your dad.
• 21:28
  Speaker 5: That's a warning about your dad. Either you feel threatened
• 21:32
  Speaker 5: into your family and like you have to protect them,
• 21:36
  Speaker 5: or this is about your private love life that you
• 21:39
  Speaker 5: feel like you have to protect.
• 21:42
  Speaker 4: Do you feel protective over your private love life?
• 21:45
  Speaker 1: Hundred? My love life is yeah.
• 21:48
  Speaker 3: But do you feel like you have to be more
• 21:51
  Speaker 3: protective than usual?
• 21:52
  Speaker 1: And if so, Lie, that's a good question.
• 21:54
  Speaker 2: I do think I'm more protective because I care about
• 21:57
  Speaker 2: this more than anything.
• 21:58
  Speaker 1: There's never been a moment all.
• 22:00
  Speaker 5: Around her too. It's very interesting crowds, yeah.
• 22:04
  Speaker 2: Oh yeah, especially around big crowds, but I think what
• 22:06
  Speaker 2: it is is like I just don't It's so interesting
• 22:09
  Speaker 2: because I really do like Brionda is my person. And
• 22:13
  Speaker 2: the feeling that sometimes I get with other people, I'm like,
• 22:16
  Speaker 2: this is the thought I've had reason I'm like, why
• 22:17
  Speaker 2: are other people And this is the unfiltered podcast. I'm
• 22:20
  Speaker 2: gonna say this as it comes to my head. Why
• 22:22
  Speaker 2: are other people trying to fuck with my piece? That's
• 22:24
  Speaker 2: literally my thought process where I'm like, it's like, you're fine,
• 22:27
  Speaker 2: Like I could say this transparently. I am the happiest
• 22:30
  Speaker 2: I've been in a I don't know, maybe ever, yeah,
• 22:34
  Speaker 2: like literally ever. Like and to see some people that
• 22:37
  Speaker 2: I thought I was like, I thought you would at
• 22:39
  Speaker 2: least have my best interest in mind, or you care
• 22:42
  Speaker 2: and not the name, the name specifically, but name a
• 22:45
  Speaker 2: couple of people, name them a couple of.
• 22:47
  Speaker 5: People to care about me and kind of feeling you
• 22:50
  Speaker 5: get the loyalty.
• 22:52
  Speaker 2: Yeah, And there's just some people that I'm like, wait,
• 22:53
  Speaker 2: even you were just you were a friend too, and
• 22:55
  Speaker 2: like why are you why are you deliberately trying to
• 22:58
  Speaker 2: upset me?
• 22:59
  Speaker 1: And and it just feels off.
• 23:01
  Speaker 2: It feels off in that realm because I'm like wow,
• 23:04
  Speaker 2: like I have so much happiness in one area of
• 23:05
  Speaker 2: my life and now other areas are like starting to shift,
• 23:09
  Speaker 2: and I'm like, oh god, dang, it can't just all
• 23:11
  Speaker 2: be at level ten. I know, it's son of a gun.
• 23:14
  Speaker 5: You need to be thankful that it's not all a
• 23:16
  Speaker 5: little level ten because that way there's always something going
• 23:21
  Speaker 5: so nothing can go on.
• 23:22
  Speaker 1: That's true.
• 23:23
  Speaker 2: I can't just be perfect, but it is so fascinating
• 23:25
  Speaker 2: where I'm like, wow, you know, some people in my
• 23:27
  Speaker 2: life have been waiting for me to have these moments,
• 23:29
  Speaker 2: and all of a sudden they want to shift.
• 23:31
  Speaker 5: That's a part of the fires. That's the warning you're
• 23:34
  Speaker 5: going to be dreaming of. Snake was wasp. These those
• 23:38
  Speaker 5: are another kind of signs.
• 23:40
  Speaker 1: Is there anything I can do about it?
• 23:41
  Speaker 3: Like what.
• 23:44
  Speaker 5: Be very careful about the people you surround yourself with.
• 23:47
  Speaker 1: Man amended that that's just show.
• 23:49
  Speaker 5: Up for those who show up for you.
• 23:51
  Speaker 2: The story period, hands down, And I know, well, I
• 23:55
  Speaker 2: don't know. This podcast has listened to so many people
• 23:58
  Speaker 2: that will never admit that they listen to it.
• 24:00
  Speaker 1: Oh my god, yeah, let me just have my peace,
• 24:02
  Speaker 1: let me be happy.
• 24:03
  Speaker 3: I'm only shocked at the people that listen but never
• 24:07
  Speaker 3: talk to you directly.
• 24:08
  Speaker 2: Oh my god, until you say something that like really
• 24:11
  Speaker 2: sparks it.
• 24:11
  Speaker 3: Then they let you know.
• 24:12
  Speaker 2: Oh man, Well, I don't know how reassuring that makes
• 24:15
  Speaker 2: me feel. I definitely feel a little anxious.
• 24:17
  Speaker 5: But I'm glad, honestly good piece. I mean, you're gonna
• 24:22
  Speaker 5: have to hit some rocks through all this gut. I
• 24:25
  Speaker 5: mean it's going to be the only way I know
• 24:27
  Speaker 5: this is going to be completely lifelong good for you,
• 24:31
  Speaker 5: because if you're not hitting some rocks in the process.
• 24:34
  Speaker 1: That's true.
• 24:35
  Speaker 2: It all puts it in perspective, and I think it's
• 24:36
  Speaker 2: the lessons that come along the way. Dang, Stacy, Is
• 24:39
  Speaker 2: there anything that Abby and I should both be looking
• 24:41
  Speaker 2: out for as we close not close out twenty.
• 24:43
  Speaker 3: Twenty six, but snake swapsake.
• 24:49
  Speaker 4: Apparently, men of my dmso buzz buzz ye girl.
• 24:53
  Speaker 1: Yes, Okay, Well, if anybody's.
• 24:54
  Speaker 2: Willing to, you know, reach out and have their lives
• 24:58
  Speaker 2: kind of examined and made more sense of, how can
• 25:01
  Speaker 2: people get in touch with you, Stacy, hit.
• 25:03
  Speaker 5: Me up on Facebook or on Instagram at.
• 25:07
  Speaker 2: I will absolutely love to hear, especially if you're listening
• 25:10
  Speaker 2: to the podcast and like, I'm just been curious on
• 25:12
  Speaker 2: something because I will say, Stacy, you said something to
• 25:15
  Speaker 2: my girlfriend Brionda at the live show that we got
• 25:18
  Speaker 2: in the car, and she was like, oh my god,
• 25:20
  Speaker 2: how can you share?
• 25:21
  Speaker 5: It was my heart? I love her.
• 25:25
  Speaker 4: Brian is great.
• 25:25
  Speaker 5: Oh my gosh, she's amazing.
• 25:27
  Speaker 2: Yeah, guys, thanks, sure, she's gonna love hearing that's a
• 25:30
  Speaker 2: fresh air. Oh yeah, the freshest. Oh my gosh, I
• 25:33
  Speaker 2: feel so oxygen oxytenen.
• 25:36
  Speaker 5: Want to all the time because she's just a yeah no.
• 25:39
  Speaker 2: I mean, she was super impressed by the fact that
• 25:43
  Speaker 2: you It was kind of more along the lines of,
• 25:45
  Speaker 2: like you knew how hard she has worked to get
• 25:47
  Speaker 2: to where she is and to really like appreciate and
• 25:51
  Speaker 2: know that she's worth what she's doing right now.
• 25:55
  Speaker 5: I just wish she would see it.
• 25:57
  Speaker 1: It's hard.
• 25:57
  Speaker 2: It's hard for us creatives because we create every day and.
• 26:02
  Speaker 1: That means we also get criticized every day. Yeah, well
• 26:04
  Speaker 1: she appreciated that.
• 26:05
  Speaker 2: So you definitely have some more fans in your corner,
• 26:09
  Speaker 2: and we just want to say thank you, Stacy, and.
• 26:12
  Speaker 1: It's big thank you.
• 26:13
  Speaker 2: As long as this man pops up in Abby's life,
• 26:15
  Speaker 2: then it's gonna be a huge thing.
• 26:17
  Speaker 5: I want to see one more thing, just this this stir.
• 26:22
  Speaker 3: Everyone who's listening to is going to think that it's
• 26:24
  Speaker 3: them now they're like, oh well.
• 26:25
  Speaker 5: She said, take the initiative, make the initiative, make the initiative.
• 26:31
  Speaker 5: Stop being as That is.
• 26:33
  Speaker 2: Such a good point and that goes for so many dudes,
• 26:35
  Speaker 2: and again as somebody that used to not.
• 26:37
  Speaker 1: And used to be passing. One of the greatest things
• 26:39
  Speaker 1: I learned is you step up in the confidence.
• 26:42
  Speaker 2: Let's go, make the moves, shoot your shot, be brave,
• 26:45
  Speaker 2: and see where you lie afterwards. That's awesome, Stacy. Any
• 26:47
  Speaker 2: closing words before we let you go on with your
• 26:49
  Speaker 2: amazing day.
• 26:50
  Speaker 5: Find the piece, find the happiness, and if you can't find.
• 26:53
  Speaker 1: It, make it preach Stacy, thank you so much. You
• 26:56
  Speaker 1: go have a stellar rest of your week.
• 26:58
  Speaker 2: Die y'all.
• 27:00
  Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, that was needed.
• 27:03
  Speaker 4: Do you feel better that you're not going to die now?
• 27:04
  Speaker 2: I feel better that I'm not gonna die. What upsets
• 27:07
  Speaker 2: me is that I think it is very accurate. On
• 27:10
  Speaker 2: There are people that I'm like, why are you messing
• 27:13
  Speaker 2: with my aura?
• 27:14
  Speaker 4: Like your friends?
• 27:15
  Speaker 2: Yeah, like some friends in my life that I'm like,
• 27:18
  Speaker 2: do you want me to be upset.
• 27:19
  Speaker 3: People that you consider to be close friends.
• 27:21
  Speaker 1: Yes, where it's.
• 27:23
  Speaker 2: Like I'm just so curious on like why they want
• 27:26
  Speaker 2: to shake things up right now, whether it's just things
• 27:29
  Speaker 2: that they've said or actions that they have or haven't
• 27:32
  Speaker 2: done that, Like it's just so opposite from who they
• 27:34
  Speaker 2: are that I'm like, huh.
• 27:37
  Speaker 4: And it makes me wonder.
• 27:37
  Speaker 1: I'm like, did I do something? Yeah?
• 27:39
  Speaker 2: And my whole thought process and this is actually, let
• 27:41
  Speaker 2: me go ahead and run this by you, because let's
• 27:43
  Speaker 2: say there is a shift and a friendshift, and let's
• 27:46
  Speaker 2: say we don't really talk anymore. They haven't said I've
• 27:51
  Speaker 2: done anything wrong. Who is it on to then go
• 27:54
  Speaker 2: ahead and make that conversation happen, Because if I don't
• 27:56
  Speaker 2: know I've done anything wrong, all I know is that
• 27:58
  Speaker 2: there's a shift in our relationship. If I recognize that
• 28:01
  Speaker 2: maybe I did do something, Am I the one that's
• 28:03
  Speaker 2: supposed to bring it up?
• 28:04
  Speaker 3: Or?
• 28:05
  Speaker 2: In my head, I think the mature thing is if
• 28:07
  Speaker 2: somebody upset me, I should let them know, because That's
• 28:10
  Speaker 2: what I'm waiting for them, Like, if I upset you, like,
• 28:12
  Speaker 2: let me know, Yeah, fix it.
• 28:14
  Speaker 3: I think most people don't say anything because they don't
• 28:18
  Speaker 3: want to progress the relationship, do you know what I mean? Like,
• 28:22
  Speaker 3: I've had that happen before. And it's very common with
• 28:24
  Speaker 3: women to where they just like build up a story in.
• 28:26
  Speaker 4: Their head about why they're upset with you, and then they.
• 28:28
  Speaker 3: Just like wait for something to happen so that they
• 28:31
  Speaker 3: can bounce from the relationship and then just blame it
• 28:34
  Speaker 3: on that. They can blame it on that situation and
• 28:37
  Speaker 3: if that makes sense, it does. But it's never just
• 28:39
  Speaker 3: like one thing or one thing that happens that makes
• 28:41
  Speaker 3: it blow up. They're just like, you know what, I've
• 28:42
  Speaker 3: been over with this friendship or this relationship for a while,
• 28:45
  Speaker 3: so now that this has happened, this is my out.
• 28:46
  Speaker 1: That's why.
• 28:48
  Speaker 4: So they may just be waiting.
• 28:49
  Speaker 3: For something like that to happen so they can find
• 28:50
  Speaker 3: a reason to leave, because people are fickle, like they
• 28:54
  Speaker 3: they're up and they're down, and sometimes they're into a
• 28:57
  Speaker 3: friendship and sometimes they're not. And then you know, there's
• 29:00
  Speaker 3: really no way to break up with a friend because
• 29:02
  Speaker 3: it's not like you can only have one friend, like
• 29:04
  Speaker 3: when you want to break up with a partner, you
• 29:05
  Speaker 3: break up with them, because for most people, you can
• 29:08
  Speaker 3: only have one that's true, you know, Polly blah blah blah,
• 29:10
  Speaker 3: all the things, m M. But with friends, you can't
• 29:13
  Speaker 3: really break up with a friend because there's no there's
• 29:17
  Speaker 3: no reason.
• 29:18
  Speaker 4: Too, if that makes sense.
• 29:19
  Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, because there's level Some people are closed, some
• 29:22
  Speaker 3: people are very close, and I think just being like, hey,
• 29:24
  Speaker 3: I don't want to talk to you anymore just comes
• 29:25
  Speaker 3: off like really brash.
• 29:27
  Speaker 1: Yeah. Well that's why I'm like sitting here wondering.
• 29:28
  Speaker 2: I'm like, okay, look, I feel like I should just
• 29:31
  Speaker 2: reach out and just have the question, but it just
• 29:33
  Speaker 2: feels like a weird question, like did I do anything
• 29:35
  Speaker 2: that I've set you?
• 29:36
  Speaker 3: But do you want to be friends with this person?
• 29:38
  Speaker 1: Yeah? Absolutely?
• 29:39
  Speaker 2: But that's why I'm like, it just feels because here's
• 29:42
  Speaker 2: what in my head, here's how it goes. And this
• 29:44
  Speaker 2: is again this is a lesson because I don't think
• 29:46
  Speaker 2: assuming this is gonna get me anywhere, But in my head,
• 29:49
  Speaker 2: it goes, reach out, did I do anything that upset you?
• 29:53
  Speaker 1: No, we're good?
• 29:55
  Speaker 2: Okay, Well now it's weird because why the hell, like,
• 29:57
  Speaker 2: what the hell happened? If there's nothing that that I
• 30:00
  Speaker 2: did And this is now like the normal our relationship.
• 30:04
  Speaker 1: I don't even know what's worse.
• 30:05
  Speaker 2: I'd rather me have done something wrong so we could
• 30:08
  Speaker 2: talk about it, yeah, and then move on from it.
• 30:10
  Speaker 4: Gee, is this a guy?
• 30:11
  Speaker 1: Yeah?
• 30:11
  Speaker 3: Okay, so I'm assuming guys don't really talk about their
• 30:15
  Speaker 3: feelings a lot. But I think these kinds of conversations
• 30:18
  Speaker 3: always go over really well when it's led with why.
• 30:20
  Speaker 4: You're bringing up the conversation.
• 30:22
  Speaker 3: So if I was going to go back and do
• 30:23
  Speaker 3: any of these conversations that I've had with women where
• 30:26
  Speaker 3: I feel like they're kind of soft ghosting or just
• 30:28
  Speaker 3: wanting to get rid of the friendship for whatever reason,
• 30:31
  Speaker 3: I would always lead with. And I'm not saying this's
• 30:33
  Speaker 3: gonna work, because trust me, I've had all the conversations
• 30:35
  Speaker 3: in the world where someone just like decides that it
• 30:37
  Speaker 3: just don't want to be friends with you. I think
• 30:40
  Speaker 3: leading with I really want to feel close to you,
• 30:43
  Speaker 3: like you're somebody I really value in my life, so
• 30:45
  Speaker 3: that you're leading with like this is why I'm bringing
• 30:47
  Speaker 3: it up. Like I'm not bringing it up to be
• 30:48
  Speaker 3: confrontational or to make you feel a certain way, or
• 30:51
  Speaker 3: to get defensive, because naturally people are going to get defensive,
• 30:55
  Speaker 3: and everybody's defense mechanism is different. Some people shut down,
• 30:58
  Speaker 3: some people fire things back, and so the best thing
• 31:01
  Speaker 3: to say is just something kind, which is just I
• 31:03
  Speaker 3: would like to feel close to you. I would like
• 31:05
  Speaker 3: for our relationship to feel like we have closeness again.
• 31:07
  Speaker 3: And I don't really feel like that. And I don't
• 31:10
  Speaker 3: know if it's maybe something that I've done or what,
• 31:12
  Speaker 3: or maybe if things are just off in your world,
• 31:14
  Speaker 3: but that's where I would really like to be. And
• 31:16
  Speaker 3: then I feel like that gives somebody an easy and
• 31:19
  Speaker 3: to be like, oh I want that too. Sorry, life
• 31:20
  Speaker 3: is just crazy, and if it's on them, they can
• 31:23
  Speaker 3: just be like, oh, he's noticing something. Let me just
• 31:25
  Speaker 3: like pivot, or if there is something, then they can
• 31:26
  Speaker 3: bring it up.
• 31:27
  Speaker 2: That's actually a great way to bring it up. I
• 31:29
  Speaker 2: like that you could bring up the direct thing that's happened. Yeah,
• 31:32
  Speaker 2: here's why that I've actually noticed. Yeah, this is what
• 31:35
  Speaker 2: it's making me think, instead of here's what I'm thinking.
• 31:38
  Speaker 1: The hell is going on?
• 31:38
  Speaker 2: They're like, who whoa whoa whoa whoa nothing? Why would
• 31:41
  Speaker 2: you think that? Because I think that's where the conversation
• 31:43
  Speaker 2: would go. I'm gonna try it, and I'll give you
• 31:45
  Speaker 2: all an update here, because I'm like, this is to me,
• 31:47
  Speaker 2: it just feels off and what it does, and I
• 31:49
  Speaker 2: think that's what's causing these dreams is like I'm getting
• 31:51
  Speaker 2: so anxious where I'm.
• 31:52
  Speaker 1: Like, what the hell did I do?
• 31:54
  Speaker 2: Nobody's telling me I don't know. If I don't know,
• 31:56
  Speaker 2: then how am I going to fix it? Because innately
• 31:58
  Speaker 2: I'm a fixer. I automatically just want to be let's
• 32:02
  Speaker 2: get to the root, cause we could fix it. We
• 32:04
  Speaker 2: could heal it and then move on. Yeah, but dang,
• 32:07
  Speaker 2: is it awkward right now causing me to dream of
• 32:09
  Speaker 2: fires and killing people?
• 32:10
  Speaker 1: And I don't want to do either.
• 32:13
  Speaker 4: Not really in your character, or maybe it is.
• 32:14
  Speaker 1: Maybe I don't know this about you. Maybe I'm just
• 32:16
  Speaker 1: the secret What is an arsenal arsonist? Yeah, that kind
• 32:20
  Speaker 1: of guy.
• 32:21
  Speaker 4: Charges do not define you.
• 32:22
  Speaker 2: I don't have any charges. I've already had the background check.
• 32:25
  Speaker 2: All right, that's all I got. Dab you got anything
• 32:27
  Speaker 2: else that you want to bring?
• 32:27
  Speaker 4: Think that's really it.
• 32:28
  Speaker 3: I guess I'm going to scroll through my DMS.
• 32:31
  Speaker 2: Yes, actually, okay, give it one swight to see if
• 32:33
  Speaker 2: anybody's actually here's the thing.
• 32:34
  Speaker 3: There's there's one person I can think of, and I've
• 32:37
  Speaker 3: talked about him on here. He asked me out and
• 32:39
  Speaker 3: then he bounced, and I was very interested in him,
• 32:44
  Speaker 3: but he.
• 32:44
  Speaker 4: Never followed through.
• 32:46
  Speaker 2: Well maybe that's the word that Stacy said, like take
• 32:49
  Speaker 2: the initiative.
• 32:49
  Speaker 4: Well, what am I going to say?
• 32:51
  Speaker 3: Hey, dude, a psychic medium thinks should my husband?
• 32:54
  Speaker 4: How's drinks Thursday?
• 32:55
  Speaker 2: Oh gosh, I don't think you're supposed to do anything now.
• 32:58
  Speaker 2: I think you're supposed to just sit back and let
• 33:00
  Speaker 2: that person make the move.
• 33:01
  Speaker 3: I know, now all the dudes listening to this be like,
• 33:03
  Speaker 3: it's me, it's me, and then the actual guy's gonna.
• 33:05
  Speaker 4: Be like, well, I don't want her to think I'm creepy.
• 33:06
  Speaker 4: You know, I listen to this podcast. So I'm not
• 33:08
  Speaker 4: gonna say anything for like a month.
• 33:10
  Speaker 1: Yeah, and it's gonna be too long.
• 33:11
  Speaker 2: I think that's well, so many girls someone to gals
• 33:15
  Speaker 2: and guys they're dealing with exactly that, Like, how long
• 33:17
  Speaker 2: are you willing to wait before you find your person?
• 33:19
  Speaker 3: Wouldn't it be nice if we could just like get together,
• 33:22
  Speaker 3: don't you want? I like, we could spend the holidays together.
• 33:24
  Speaker 3: I think we get It's perfect cuffing season, right, now
• 33:27
  Speaker 3: it's August fifth.
• 33:28
  Speaker 4: We start talking.
• 33:31
  Speaker 3: Let's say he really does what I think he's gonna do.
• 33:33
  Speaker 3: He's gonna wait a month because he's gonna be go.
• 33:34
  Speaker 3: Don't whatter to think I listened and think I'm creepy,
• 33:36
  Speaker 3: so to be right after I get back from Italy,
• 33:38
  Speaker 3: I can finish off my hawk Girl summer. We're just
• 33:40
  Speaker 3: in time for like couples costumes for Halloween, and then
• 33:43
  Speaker 3: you can come to Georgia to meet my family, and
• 33:46
  Speaker 3: then we can spend the holidays together.
• 33:48
  Speaker 4: We can be engaged by January. Few years together.
• 33:50
  Speaker 2: I think the last part story, he's like, wait a second,
• 33:53
  Speaker 2: wait what hey?
• 33:55
  Speaker 3: She said rings and dresses and I said, apps a
• 33:57
  Speaker 3: fucking lately, I would like to be married before three five?
• 34:00
  Speaker 4: Here you go.
• 34:02
  Speaker 3: You got.
• 34:03
  Speaker 1: So much time. Well, if you're listening, send the message.
• 34:07
  Speaker 1: Why wait? Life is too short to wait. Let's get
• 34:09
  Speaker 1: on with it.
• 34:09
  Speaker 2: And you waited so long to find your person When
• 34:11
  Speaker 2: you do, make it happen all right? If you ever
• 34:14
  Speaker 2: listen to the podcast, you think, wait a second, I
• 34:16
  Speaker 2: would love to be able to interact more.
• 34:17
  Speaker 3: Wait, I have an update, not about me, I have
• 34:20
  Speaker 3: a Miranda update.
• 34:22
  Speaker 4: Really should I wait? Untill tomorrow.
• 34:23
  Speaker 3: Should this give us content for tomorrow? No, because we
• 34:26
  Speaker 3: have our friends, the guests.
• 34:28
  Speaker 4: Coming on tomorrow.
• 34:28
  Speaker 2: Okay, yeah, give us the other So I will give
• 34:31
  Speaker 2: you the.
• 34:31
  Speaker 4: Tease and then we'll have her in either tomorrow or Friday.
• 34:35
  Speaker 1: Okay.
• 34:36
  Speaker 4: Miranda just texted me.
• 34:38
  Speaker 3: She said, we sent the podcast to Superman on a
• 34:41
  Speaker 3: fake number.
• 34:42
  Speaker 4: I will update.
• 34:43
  Speaker 1: Oh my god.
• 34:44
  Speaker 4: If that can't get his attention, nothing will. She's gold.
• 34:48
  Speaker 4: She's gold for our podcast.
• 34:49
  Speaker 2: Literally, is she interested in radio? Because girl, come on,
• 34:52
  Speaker 2: I told her, was like, you could be our producer
• 34:54
  Speaker 2: for real. That's hilarious. That is a bold ass action,
• 34:58
  Speaker 2: which damn you know what. I guess it's better no action.
• 35:01
  Speaker 2: I guess we'll have that the later the week.
• 35:03
  Speaker 3: It's