6 - Why Were We Never Taught This?

Masculine Containment · Mar 12, 2026 · 22m · transcript

Most men grow up believing they're bad at relationships.

But that's not actually the truth.

Most men were simply never trained for the moments in relationships that matter the most.

We were trained to compete. We were trained to solve problems. We were trained to push through discomfort and get results.

What we were almost never taught was how to regulate ourselves when emotions rise.

When conflict enters the room. When someone we love is triggered. When frustration, anger, or fear shows up in a conversation.

So when those moments happen, most men fall back on the only models we've seen…