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The MOST IMPORTANT stats about narcissists · The Mental Healness Podcast

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  What is going on, beautiful people.
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  Today we're going to be talking about some of the most important
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  numbers in narcissism. The numbers and percentages that
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  you will cover in narcissism. Five of the most important
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  statistics of narcissism and narcissistic personality
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  disorder. If you're new here, my name is
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  Lee Hammock. I'm a self aware narcissist and
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  welcome to another episode of The Narcissist Code.
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  So boom welcome back folks, welcome back welcome back
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  welcome back yes, yes, yes numbers in narcissism.
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  I've been thinking about doing this episode for a while.
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  Y'all with some of the most important numbers and statistics
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  that we, that people talk about it and when it comes to dealing
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  with narcissist narcissism in general, narcissistic
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  personality disorder in general and whatnot.
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  Because the numbers can vary and these are like not going to be
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  exact numbers, y'all. These are estimates.
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  These are a lot of these are estimates right here.
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  One of them is going to be exact, but a lot of these are
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  estimates and whatnot. So the very first number that
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  we're going to cover is the percentage of people that are
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  diagnosed with narcissistic personality disorder.
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  They did a study on the national from the National National
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  Institute of Health where it says 6.2% out of 34,000 / 34,000
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  people tested were diagnosed with narcissistic personality
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  disorder. So that's, that's kind of
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  coincides with the, the studies that you've seen previously of
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  between 0 and 5%. So it's a little bit around
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  there, give or take. 6% of the population in this study had
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  narcissistic personality disorder.
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  So it says 3 thirty, 4653 adults were tested and 6.2% of them
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  came back with narcissistic personality disorder.
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  That seemed, it doesn't seem like a lot, but you saw it going
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  on the the macro scale of things.
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  Six percent, 5% of the population of the world, y'all
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  is a lot of people. People keep trying to make it
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  seem like that's a very small number and that's just diagnosed
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  y'all. So non diagnosed narcissists are
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  going to be even higher. You see what I'm saying?
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  So just because somebody hasn't been diagnosed does not mean
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  that you haven't dealt with a narcissist.
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  You know, narcissist rarely go get diagnosed.
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  So just because you haven't dealt with a diagnosed
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  narcissist like myself doesn't mean that you haven't
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  encountered a narcissist in your life.
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  You know, you know, you know what you dealt with.
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  You know the behaviors you've experienced.
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  You know the gaslight of the manipulation, all of these
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  tactics, the lack of empathy. You understand it.
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  You've been through it. You've survived it, right?
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  So you know what you've been through.
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  You're a survivor of narcissistic toxic abuse.
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  You understand what you've been through 'cause people keep
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  making it seem like, oh, 1% of the population, I hear 1% as
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  well. 1% of the population is diagnosed and RC.
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  Yeah, even if it's one percent, 1% of 7 billion is still
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  millions and millions of people. 7 billion.
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  You see what I'm saying? 1% of 7 billion is a lot of
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  people. It it just is.
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  What's 1% of seven billion? 1% of 7 billion is 70 million.
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  That's going to be my guess. 70 million narcissists worldwide.
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  So in the United States, 1% of 330 million, you know, six
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  percent, 5%, those are large numbers.
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  So that like in, in case people try to invalidate you and say,
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  oh, you know, only 1% or 5% of the population of narcissists,
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  there's still a lot of people. Stop letting people gaslight you
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  and make you seem like 1% is a small number. 1% of 1 is small,
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  but 1% of a billion, If I give you, hey, I give you 1%, I give
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  you 1% of this $1.00 bill, you'll be like, hey, keep, keep
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  the penny. But I was like, oh, not $1.00
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  bill, this $1 billion bill, 1% people.
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  Oh, give me, give me, give me, give me you say give me.
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  You see what I'm saying, people Perspective matters right there.
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  Y'all perspective matters. The second number I have now is
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  7. Seven.
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  The second number is 7 because that's the average number of
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  times it takes somebody to leave.
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  The average number of times it takes a victim of domestic
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  violence or narcissistic abuse, toxic relationship dynamics, It
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  takes them an average of seven times to leave and stay going
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  for good. That's an average, y'all?
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  Yeah, I know, you know, you know the numbers of averages.
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  You know the averages. So if we have two people here
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  and it could take somebody one time, you be you could be one
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  and done and it could take the the next person 13 times to
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  leave or more. But let's say it takes one
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  person one time takes the other person. 13 * 13 + 1 is 14 / 2.
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  You get the average of seven. Those numbers can vary out.
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  Like I said, it could take somebody.
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  You mean some people don't get into relationships.
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  Some people last longer. You know, some people stay
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  longer sometimes, sometimes take more than 13 times, sometimes
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  way less, but seven is the average number of times.
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  So if you left and went back one time, don't beat yourself over
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  the head now. So don't take this as an excuse
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  like, oh, I'll I left and went back one time, so I got six more
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  times. Let's get it.
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  No, you want to, we trying to bring this average down right
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  here. We're not trying to increase
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  this average. We're trying to bring the
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  average down. So you want to be, you want to
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  be one of the ones that 123 times maybe don't want to be one
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  of the ones 13141516 times. Hell no.
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  You see what I'm saying? You want to keep the number low.
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  That's why you empower yourself. That's why you, that's why
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  you're watching videos like this to get the knowledge to get, you
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  know, to to realize what you're going through, to realize what
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  you've experienced. That's why you're watching this
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  video, That's why you're growing.
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  That's why you're joining support group.
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  I have a support group called the Mental healers.
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  You can find it at courses.mentalhillness.net.
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  You can check that out. My support group and my courses
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  over at mentalhillness.net. But yes, that's part of it right
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  there. Y'all seven times to leave for
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  good, for good to be done. And that like I said, the higher
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  the number, the more it benefits the narcissist.
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  The higher that number, the more the narcissist benefits from it.
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  All right, so the next thing, the next number, the next
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  important number I have on here, the third one is 700%.
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  Lee, how do you go from 7 to 700%?
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  You're 700% more likely to be UN alive by you by your your
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  partner if they put their hands around your throat and squeeze.
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  If they strangle you, they're 700% more likely to UN alive you
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  700%. So if they strangled you, they
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  put their hands around your throat and squeeze in a non
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  consensual way. I know some of y'all would like
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  to a little freaky freak. I know somebody I like to look
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  lately, I like a little, I like a little, I like a little hand
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  around the third. That's different, that's
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  consensual. But even if it's consensual,
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  they can take it above and beyond.
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  They can violate your consensual boundaries in that space right
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  there. But some people like say if it
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  goes above and beyond the space, like 700% more likely to take
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  your life. Even even if it's an accident.
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  There are so many people who who say, oh, they, they wouldn't do
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  that to me. They wouldn't do that.
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  I don't think they would do that.
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  They will. If they hit you they will and
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  they strangle you, they are 700% more likely to take your life.
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  So going back into a Tasha relationship dynamic where they
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  put their hands in your throat and squeeze and cut off your
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  airflow or maybe you blacked out, they are 7 / 700% more
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  likely to take you out of here to send you to meet your maker,
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  to leave your kids with one less parent or two parents, 2 less
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  parents. If they take your life and then
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  they go to jail or they take their own life, you see 700%.
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  And this is my not me trying to victim blame.
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  I'm just bringing the number to you so you can understand that
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  you can see it. So you know how real it is when
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  they put their hands around here and they try to take you up out
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  of here. I don't care.
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  And this is the part right here. I feel like I got to do some
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  cussing here. So buckle up.
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  I don't give a fuck what excuse they gave for strangling you.
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  Fuck them. You know what I mean?
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  Nobody. You don't deserve to be
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  strangled. No, I don't care what the excuse
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  they gave. I just lost my mind.
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  You get me so angry. No, no, no.
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  There's me looking directly at you.
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  I want you to be safe as possible.
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  I want you to leave and escape if you so, if you so choose to
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  leave and escape, I want you to be as safe as possible when you
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  so choose to do that. OK, the 4th number I have right
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  down here is five. The number 5.
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  I know we're bouncing around. We went from the percent
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  diagnosed the seven times the leave, the 700% more likely to
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  five. Leave five What?
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  It takes five out of the 9 traits to be diagnosed with
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  narcissistic personality disorder.
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  You don't have to. There's nine diagnosable traits
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  of narcissistic personality disorder, right?
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  There's five you. You see what I'm saying?
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  What are the I should have had this up there, shouldn't I?
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  Like, what are you doing? What are you doing?
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  Like you should have had that up.
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  You should have already had that up, but I'm not going to read
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  out of the list. You can Google the list, but
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  only takes five y'all. You don't have to have nine out
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  of nine to be diagnosed as a narcissist. 5 interchangeable 5
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  out of nine. You don't have to have nine all
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  nine to be diagnosed with narcissistic personality
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  disorder. You can be, you can have all
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  nine, but it takes is five, five of these markers you have to
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  get, you have to meet five of the traits of this criteria to
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  be clinically diagnosed with NPD.
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  And just because you only have four or three doesn't mean that
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  you're not a toxic person. If you manipulative and have a
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  lack of empathy and you have delusions of grandeur and you
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  abusive as hell. You see what I'm saying?
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  You have an exploitative personality where you exploit
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  people. You know what I'm saying?
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  That doesn't mean you're not a good you're a good person.
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  Like 5 out of nine is all it takes.
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  Five out of nine, not $5 foot longs 5 to be clinically
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  diagnosed with narcissistic personality disorder.
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  It doesn't seem like a lot, does it?
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  I know people just like, well, you have to have nine for no,
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  you don't Five out of nine to be clinically diagnosed with
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  narcissistic personality disorder.
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  And the crazy thing about NPD, it's typically it, it can be
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  comorbid with a lot of other disorders.
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  So you can have MPD plus something else, right?
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  You have MPD plus this, MPD plus that, MPD plus this.
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  I have MPD plus general anxiety disorder, plus some schizoid
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  traits, plus clinical depression.
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  I got a lot of stuff going on in my mind.
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  You and I seem like I'm well put together, but I'm, I'm, I'm
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  rattling around on inside. There's a, there's a marble
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  shaking around here going crazy within my mind.
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  And the last number I have, it's like it's the last number I have
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  is a range 11 to 13. The 5th number I have is 11 to
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  13. Like what the hell is that?
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  11 to 13 is typically the emotional age of a narcissist.
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  Even if they are 60 years old, their emotional age is between
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  11 and 13 years old. You see what I'm saying?
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  That's crazy, isn't it 11 like you like that's why it seems
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  like you're talking to a teenager or a kid sometimes.
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  That's why when you're arguing with a narcissist like do do
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  they say and do childish things? They behave in a very childlike
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  manner. Like act like a teenager like
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  you like what the hell is wrong with you?
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  Be an adult grow up just because their body gets older, they
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  might grow up. They might be extremely
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  educated. You know, they might have an
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  extremely high intellect. It doesn't mean doesn't having a
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  high intellect doesn't necessarily correlate to having
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  high emotional intelligence. It doesn't.
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  It doesn't always, you know, like I said, correlate to having
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  a high emotional age. You'd still be emotionally
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  stunted. A lot of narcissistic toxic
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  people, a lot of narcissistic people have, you know, arrested,
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  experienced Arrested Development where they, they had some type
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  of trauma in their, in their younger days that made them a
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  narcissist. They created the narcissist that
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  you were dealing with. They created the highly
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  narcissistic person that you're dealing with.
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  Whatever age they got hurt at, whatever age they got
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  traumatized at, that's typically the age that they got that they
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  are emotionally. It could be younger than 11 and
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  13. It could be a little bit older,
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  but it typically is around 11:00 to 11:00 between 11 and 13.
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  Or it could be younger. You could be dealing with an
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  emotional 7 or 8 year old you, you could have, you could be
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  married to a 65 year old rocket scientist and they still have
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  the emotional age, still be emotionally between 11 and 13
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  years old or younger. You know, this happens y'all.
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  This is a different dynamic. This is the unique video I did
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  too. I, I just had this idea.
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  Let me do the numbers of narcissism.
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  You know, if there's any numbers I missed or something, I could
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  do a Part 2, drop some numbers in the comment section that you
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  that you think are important. These are just the one I said,
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  you know, I thought were important.
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  I was just thinking of numbers and these are the first five I
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  wrote down there. I know there could be more.
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  If I missed the number that you think is important that could
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  help people. I will put it in a Part 2.
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  You know I can absolutely put it into Part 2.
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  But anyway, y'all thank y'all for me to the end of this video.
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  Y'all know I truly appreciate every single thing y'all do for
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  me as much as y'all thank you. Learn from me.
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  I learned even more from you, which is why I'm asking you for
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  advice. You drop them, drop them numbers
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  in the comment section for me. You know what I mean?
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  y'all. Mental illness is out.
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  Peace, Thank you so much for making it to the end of my
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