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Hypnosis for Teen Confidence - The Champion’s Forcefield · The Hypnotist

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  Welcome to The Hypnotist, the show that gives you inside
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  access to cutting edge hypnosis with real clients facing
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  genuine. Issues.
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  Brought to you by The Hypnotherapist, demanded by
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  celebrities, CEOs and even royalty, Adam Cox.
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  These recordings took place live from Evans Clinic in London's
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  world famous Harley Street. So get yourself comfortable and
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  enjoy today's episode of The Hypnotist.
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  Hi, it's Adam here and this hypnosis session is where I was
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  working with a younger client, a teenage boy that was being
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  taunted. Some people would have used the
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  word bullied. I didn't and I wouldn't because
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  sometimes it can just be interpreted that way.
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  There was verbal abuse, verbal teasing, verbal criticism, and
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  that was knocking their confidence.
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  And that can become very circular because if you're in a
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  situation where your confidence gets lower, then people that do
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  like to kind of dominate in that way will read that as a victory
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  and it kind of emboldens them. So this hypnosis session has
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  various components. There was a holiday that they
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  could recall where they felt very confident.
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  So we regress back to that. There's a visual metaphor of
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  breathing and confidence and exhaling anything that might be
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  insecurities or stress or worries.
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  They had a role model that was a footballer that was a smaller
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  football player that was very confident and definitely
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  wouldn't have been bothered by opponents or even the crowd, you
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  know, chanting at them or criticizing them.
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  So we've got a role model there as well.
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  And we've also got a visual metaphor of a force field so
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  that they can imagine feeling confident within their force
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  field. And also one of the things that
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  this client particularly liked is this idea that sometimes it's
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  insecure animals that try and overcompensate.
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  So we started thinking of this person that was kind of teasing
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  and taunting them. There's a bit of a yapping
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  Chihuahua so that rather than them being afraid or worried by
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  the the verbal taunts, they could smile and not be bothered
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  by it. Because a yapping Chihuahua
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  isn't really a threat to anyone and the biggest dogs don't need
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  to bark. So we can even always frame this
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  person as an insecure person trying to dominate other people
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  as well. Obviously it was created for a
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  school aged teenager. You might also be able to
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  resonate with this if the power dynamics are off.
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  And I've worked with people where the power dynamics were
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  off with a colleague, a family member, a partner, even a boss.
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  And therefore it doesn't have to only be relevant for school aged
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  children or teenagers. This is relevant for anyone that
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  feels that words are knocking their confidence.
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  So if you can connect with that, it would be useful.
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  But equally I think children at school, if they are being teased
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  or taunted, will get more value of this, particularly if they
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  can identify with some of the metaphors included.
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  It was created for an individual, therefore some of
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  the references, some of the suggestions, particularly
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  regressing to a beach in Nice, are incredibly specific to the
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  client I was working with. So if you like the idea of
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  working with me directly, or perhaps if you're a parent
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  watching this or listening to this, you know, for a child,
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  there will be a link in the description where you can
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  schedule a completely free consultation call.
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  We'll have a chat and it might be that I end up working with
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  you or your child to do some hypnotherapy.
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  For now though, find a quiet, comfortable place where you
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  won't be disturbed. Relax and enjoy the session.
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  Take a deep breath in, and as you breathe in, breathe in that
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  feeling of calm relaxation, and as you exhale, feel a wonderful
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  feeling of release, as if any tension, stress, or worries
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  adjust, leaving your body as you breathe out, breathing in
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  relaxation, and exhaling any tension.
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  That's it. And I want you to focus your
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  attention on the tiny muscles behind your eyeballs.
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  Really focus on that point. And as you imagine all those
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  tiny muscles around your eyeball, I want you to imagine
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  breathing in a color that represents resourceful
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  relaxation. And as you breathe in that
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  color, imagine it going in through your nose down into your
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  lungs. And then just imagine your heart
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  is distributing that resourceful relaxation all across your body.
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  But I want you to focus on those tiny muscles around the eyeball,
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  almost like it's relaxing those muscles.
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  Because when your eyes are relaxed, when they're really
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  relaxed, sometimes vision improves, or perhaps the speed
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  at which vision changes is reduced.
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  And I want you to feel that you are helping your eyes be healthy
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  and clear. That's it.
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  Focus on the back of your eyeballs and on the next outward
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  breath. Just release that breath,
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  feeling any tension leave your body, noticing that the deeper
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  you breathe, the more relaxed you become.
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  And the more relaxed you become the deeper you breathe, each
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  breath taking you deeper and deeper, relaxed.
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  And as your body relaxes, your imagination awakens.
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  And I want your imagination to take you back to a memory.
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  Just allow yourself to drift back to a warm sunny beach in
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  Nice. You know that your physical body
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  is where it is, but imagine that your imagination is somewhere
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  else. And maybe you could imagine
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  feeling the sun on your skin. Perhaps you could imagine waves
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  or blue skies, maybe even the sound of the sea rolling in and
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  out just like a calm, steady breath.
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  Imagine wearing any clothing that is suitable for that beach.
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  Maybe your barefoot, Maybe you could imagine feeling the sand
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  beneath your feet, even in between your toes.
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  And they're on that beach. Every breath enables your body
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  to relax even more, and the sound of the waves become like
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  the rhythm of your own heartbeat.
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  Calm, regular and relaxing. But I want you to imagine
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  walking along that beach in your imagination with a very relaxed,
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  confident way of walking. And just notice how free you
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  feel here. Light, confident, completely
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  yourself. And I want you to imagine.
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  Every step on that beach enables you to feel stronger and more
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  confident. And every time a wave breaks,
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  just relax the muscles in your neck and your shoulders.
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  Feel your head being held high, your chin going up and your arms
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  relaxing and your mind becoming clear.
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  And I want you to imagine feeling twice as confident as
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  you felt there on that beach. You were already confident
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  there, but now imagine twice the confidence as you start to feel
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  that same energy returning. That feeling of confidence, that
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  feeling of it's completely fine to be you.
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  And I wonder there on that beach, if you are able to
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  imagine breathing in a combination of white and yellow,
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  almost like bright white light and a glowing white gold.
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  Imagine this is no longer relaxation, but concentrated
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  confidence. And as you breathe in at white
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  and gold, I want you to imagine the glowing light of white and
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  gold there in your chest, right in the middle of your rib cage,
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  close to your heart. And as you breathe out, just
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  imagine dark shadows. And that represents any fears,
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  insecurities, any worries. So you're breathing in bright
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  white gold and you're breathing out dark shadows, each breath
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  making you feel more confident and releasing any old stresses
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  and worries. And I wonder if you can feel
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  what it would be like if each breath in fills you with power
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  and calm, and each breath out releases tension in glowing
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  confidence and out anything that doesn't serve you.
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  And as you continue breathing this way, you can imagine that
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  glowing light spreading outwards from your chest, forming a
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  bright protective bubble all around you.
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  In fact, I wonder if you could imagine a force field of pure
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  golden energy. And inside the bubble, this is
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  your space. Inside it you are calm, strong
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  and untouchable. And outside it, any words, any
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  taunts, any criticism, just bounces off like raindrops
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  sliding off glass or like tennis balls hitting a solid wall and
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  then just bouncing away. I want you to feel feel that
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  depending on who you are changes what other people say and what
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  other people do. A wise man once said.
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  Lions don't consider themselves with the opinions of sheep.
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  To allow words to hurt you, they have to be given power.
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  And what if we take all of that power away?
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  And I want you to notice how good it feels to be surrounded
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  by that glowing white and gold force field, feel that strength
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  and power and that same kind of focused energy that the very
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  best football players feel when they step out onto the pitch.
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  In fact, you might think of a specific player that you
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  consider confident, resilient, that words will not affect
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  whether they appear on the field or play the game well.
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  And these top players don't get distracted by the crowd or what
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  the opposing players say because they are in the zone, calm,
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  powerful and ready. And you would like that too.
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  That force field, that bubble of light reminds you that it's up
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  to you to decide what gets in. If someone says something
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  unkind, just imagine their words hitting the bubble and bouncing
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  away. You stay calm, you stay cool,
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  you stay focused, like a top player in control in the game,
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  no matter who they are playing against.
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  And I wonder if you can imagine they're on the beach.
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  Someone is a trying to taunt you there.
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  You are on the beach inside your bubble.
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  But I want you to imagine a person that's been saying words,
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  but I want you to shrink them down to the size of a little
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  Chihuahua. The same words, but now from a
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  tiny little dog. Just imagine when they're that
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  size. Whatever they say seems to make
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  you smile. You can even imagine their
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  voices. Yappy.
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  Squeaky. Imagine them as that yapping
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  Chihuahua. And then imagine that person
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  with those unkind words. They're outside the bubble, and
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  even if they're full size, you still think of them as that
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  small yapping dog. You consider them harmless.
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  They are no real threat, they are just background noise that
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  you can choose to ignore or even better, smile at.
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  You already know that truly confident people don't need to
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  bark loudly, don't need to put other people down.
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  So every time you hear that person saying anything, whether
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  it's on the playground, a football pitch, or perhaps even
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  on some chat platform, you can smile.
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  And in your mind, you think of them as that small yapping
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  Chihuahua. And you'll remember that their
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  behaviour is all about them and not about you.
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  And just like your favorite player, that confident athlete,
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  you focus on your game, your moves, your goals.
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  So there on the beach, I want you to imagine taking on the
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  posture if you had triple the confidence.
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  Now just imagine standing tall, head held high, chin up,
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  shoulders bag, with your back straight and strong like a
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  champion. And I want you to feel what it
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  would feel like to have that power pose lock into place,
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  activating that posture of confidence.
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  And I want you to really believe that when you stand like that,
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  you're not trying to be confident.
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  You are confidence. So from now on, whenever you
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  stand tall like that, feel that glowing white, yellow energy
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  rise up inside you, instantly activating that bubble of calm
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  strength. Each breath becomes slower and
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  deeper. Each heart beats steadier, each
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  thought clearer, like it's automatic, natural, and just who
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  you are. And I want you to imagine seeing
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  yourself now, perhaps back at school, maybe see yourself on a
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  playground. But you're the observer now, and
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  I want you to see that that future version of you looks
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  different. You're smiling more, your facial
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  expression is relaxed. The way you walk, run or move is
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  just more deliberate, more confident.
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  And I want you to imagine seeing yourself playing with friends,
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  maybe football, and then see someone else there also playing
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  that is trying, trying to dominate you or criticize you.
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  It just doesn't work. And the harder they try, the
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  more you smile, the more unbothered you look.
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  If anything, it makes you play better just to prove that they
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  can't get to you in any way. And every now and then you'll
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  choose your response. If they attempt to taunt or
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  tease you get to decide how you respond, and with a good
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  response that you've prepared or thought through or just comes to
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  you in the moment. Notice how quickly that version
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  of you turns teasing into banter.
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  Because that future version of you?
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  You are in control. Someone can try and dominate
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  you, but that doesn't mean you have to be dominated.
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  And each time you handle things calmly, you build more inner
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  strength. You gain more respect from
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  others and build more belief in yourself.
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  And I want you to imagine seeing yourself in different situations
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  and when people try, try and taunt, tease, criticize, or do
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  anything, it doesn't work in the same way it used to see yourself
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  unfazed, unbothered, looking confident.
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  And then when you see yourself confidently dealing with
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  something that used to bother you in the past, let me know by
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  nodding your head. And I want you to imagine
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  stepping into that version of you.
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  You're now in your body, but perhaps at school.
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  Imagine someone attempting and just notice you shift your
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  posture, chin up, head up, back straight, smiling and imagine
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  them attempting trying their hardest to get to you and you
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  smile. You feel confident.
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  You imagine them as a a yapping Chihuahua.
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  Your force field keeps you strong and confident and you can
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  choose to respond if you want, but you don't have to because
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  you have nothing to prove. You are confident, you are calm,
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  and you feel good. You feel good in your own body
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  and you accept everything about you.
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  And the harder they try, the less effective it becomes
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  because it activates confidence in you, not submission.
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  And when you can imagine that, feel what that would feel like
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  to handle things differently in your future.
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  I mean, no, but not in your head.
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  That's it. And whenever you do that pose,
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  that posture, these feelings will come back immediately.
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  It's time to leave this place in your imagination.
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  And in fact, also the beach there in Nice.
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  Imagine floating all the way back into the here and the now.
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  So take a deep breath in through your nose and out through your
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  nose as very soon I will count from 1:00 to 10:00 to awaken
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  you. You will feel confident.
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  You will feel that no one can get to you unless you allow it.
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  You will almost look forward to the next time that someone
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  attempts to challenge you because you will remain unfazed.
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  Starting to count to awaken you. 123 Waking up 456 More alert 7-8
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  Open your eyes. Open your eyes. 910 Wide awake,
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  wide awake, wide awake. Thank you so much for joining me
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  on today's episode of The Hypnotist.
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