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Navigating Divorce, Dealing with Negativity in Live Streaming, and Reflecting on Addictions · All About The Joy

0:00
Carmen Lezeth: Hi everybody, welcome to All About The Joy.
0:02
Carmen Lezeth: I'm so glad to be back.
0:03
Carmen Lezeth: Hi, Rick Costa, I missed you.
0:06
Rick Costa: Hola, Mr.
0:07
Carmen Lezeth: Tony, Welcome.
0:09
Carmen Lezeth: Welcome to the show Officially.
0:12
Carmen Lezeth: So glad to have you here.
0:14
Carmen Lezeth: You know Ted Hick sent me a text today that he's upset that you're moonlighting on all of us.
0:22
Carmen Lezeth: Officially, Tony will be on the show every.
0:25
Carmen Lezeth: Did we say fourth Thursday of the month?
0:27
Carmen Lezeth: Right, okay, wait, all right.
0:30
Carmen Lezeth: So I'm a little off because I was out last week and let me just tell everybody where I was.
0:35
Carmen Lezeth: I went home to Patty Ann Wernig, I guess is her married name, but I've always known her as Patty Ann Martin passed away.
0:43
Carmen Lezeth: Mary Ann Joann's older sister their parents are my godparents.
0:48
Carmen Lezeth: I grew up with them.
0:49
Carmen Lezeth: They're my family.
0:50
Carmen Lezeth: I love them.
0:51
Carmen Lezeth: And she passed away unexpectedly and so I went home last week and I have to say one of the most amazing things that happened was they had the memorial service.
1:01
Carmen Lezeth: Then afterwards they, they had this hall that they rented out and there was all this food, and then there was a bar and there was this whole celebration of her life, some like drinking wine, coolers or whatever.
1:12
Carmen Lezeth: And at one point I see all the nieces and nephews and they're all singing and they're just singing all these old school songs that were Patty's favorites, right.
1:22
Carmen Lezeth: At one point I looked over and I saw this other generation of kids just absolutely singing and enjoying and loving on all this old school music from our day in honor of their auntie, and it was like it almost felt like surreal in a way, and so I really loved seeing everyone and I want to give a shout out to all the kids.
1:44
Carmen Lezeth: But I want to give a shout out to a few people.
1:45
Carmen Lezeth: So, Kasey Stratton, I know you're watching, so thank you, I miss you, sweet love.
1:51
Carmen Lezeth: And then there's Brendan, Samantha, Ari, Kirsten, Jonathan Trevor I want to say to Linda and Lisa and Lori these are people watch a show and I didn't know that and Sally High, and then, of course, to Greg and Ricky and Mary and Jo-ann.
2:06
Carmen Lezeth: So I just want to give my love to all of them.
2:08
Carmen Lezeth: It was nice to be home with family.
2:10
Carmen Lezeth: By the way, I'm not from New Hampshire, but when I say home, I mean with people you love.
2:15
Carmen Lezeth: You know what I mean Like.
2:16
Carmen Lezeth: So it was nice to be around all them.
2:18
Carmen Lezeth: So, yeah, okay.
2:20
Carmen Lezeth: So now what I would like to do, which I was going to do first, but you know you were so busy.
2:24
Carmen Lezeth: I wanted to talk to Tony.
2:26
Carmen Lezeth: I know people have seen you on the show, but we've never kind of talked about where you're from, what you do, what you love.
2:34
Carmen Lezeth: So why don't you tell us a little bit about yourself?
2:39
Tony Dandridge: I going to preface this by telling you that you and I did this two years ago and I know you can't find it, so I don't mind running through it again.
2:48
Carmen Lezeth: What are we talking about?
2:48
Carmen Lezeth: This is a whole of the group of people I know it is fun, I'm going to do that.
2:53
Tony Dandridge: No, I'm gonna do that for you because this is fun.
2:54
Tony Dandridge: For those of you out there who do not know me, I am a retired Air National Guardsman.
2:59
Tony Dandridge: I was an aircraft mechanic on F 16s in the military for 20 years.
3:02
Tony Dandridge: I'm currently a civil service aircraft mechanic.
3:05
Tony Dandridge: I work on F 15s as a civilian not military, but as a civilian on the military installation.
3:11
Tony Dandridge: So a lot of times when I try to reserve comments or reserve actions because of where I'm at in life compared to where I could be if I didn't do right in the first damn place, some of you may want to follow that example.
3:21
Tony Dandridge: Recently divorced, as of December last year, I'm a father of two boys and a stepfather of a stepdaughter my stepdaughter.
3:28
Carmen Lezeth: Okay, back up right there, Back up right there.
3:31
Carmen Lezeth: So, rick, the other day Tony and I were talking and he said he had the only kid I knew is Jason.
3:39
Carmen Lezeth: How old is Jason, jason's how old?
3:42
Carmen Lezeth: 11?
3:42
Carmen Lezeth: 9?
3:43
Tony Dandridge: 9.
3:45
Carmen Lezeth: 9.
3:45
Carmen Lezeth: Okay, and he's talking about he had a.
3:48
Carmen Lezeth: Did you know?
3:48
Carmen Lezeth: He had another son, he had two other children.
3:52
Rick Costa: I know about the other son that was living with him for a while.
3:56
Carmen Lezeth: He said that I should have known.
3:58
Carmen Lezeth: That he told me before.
3:59
Carmen Lezeth: I do not remember this at all.
4:01
Carmen Lezeth: I would have remembered.
4:02
Carmen Lezeth: That would have made you a much more substantive human being to me.
4:06
Tony Dandridge: You know, you forgot what you did I did not know this.
4:12
Carmen Lezeth: Okay, anyways, go ahead.
4:13
Carmen Lezeth: This is gonna last 10 weeks.
4:15
Carmen Lezeth: If you're watching, you can have your man back she ain't ready she ain't ready.
4:22
Tony Dandridge: She ain't ready.
4:24
Carmen Lezeth: I am not ready for this mess.
4:26
Carmen Lezeth: No, Anyways.
4:28
Carmen Lezeth: Okay, so you have three, kids three.
4:31
Tony Dandridge: I have a stepdaughter is 25.
4:32
Tony Dandridge: She just had a baby, so I'm a stepgrandfather as well.
4:35
Tony Dandridge: My oldest son is yeah, my oldest son is 22.
4:39
Tony Dandridge: He's a college graduate.
4:40
Tony Dandridge: He graduated the film production about two years ago.
4:43
Tony Dandridge: My baby boy is nine.
4:46
Carmen Lezeth: Wow, well, congratulations on being a granddad.
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Carmen Lezeth: Thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you.
4:51
Rick Costa: So you're the two new children I knew nothing about, so did it make you feel old when you found out to your grandpa?
5:01
Rick Costa: Do you feel older?
5:03
Tony Dandridge: At my age.
5:04
Tony Dandridge: Technically, no, it is a trip, it is.
5:06
Tony Dandridge: It is a trip realizing that I'm somewhat of and I say somewhat of a grandfather, because she knows her real dad and he's there.
5:12
Tony Dandridge: I was just a stepfather, so I would say I got a stepgrandbaby.
5:16
Tony Dandridge: I don't try to jump in, but she did come by, I did see him a little bit and you know, the family's there.
5:21
Tony Dandridge: I'm gonna be there regardless.
5:23
Tony Dandridge: So that's just how we're doing.
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Tony Dandridge: So we keep it, we keep it close, we keep it tight and she's always been appreciative of me so I'm always gonna look out for her.
5:30
Tony Dandridge: You know what I mean.
5:31
Carmen Lezeth: Right.
5:32
Rick Costa: So you've been.
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Carmen Lezeth: I didn't know you were divorced almost a year ago.
5:36
Tony Dandridge: Okay, I knew you were in the process.
5:40
Tony Dandridge: I was in the process two years ago.
5:41
Tony Dandridge: We got finalized last year and it's been messing me up.
5:43
Tony Dandridge: I'm not gonna lie.
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Tony Dandridge: You know I tell people a lot, yeah done, yes finalized, but I'll be damned if it didn't have an impact.
5:50
Tony Dandridge: I'll be damned if it didn't bother me.
5:51
Tony Dandridge: I wouldn't be honest if I didn't say that it had me messed up up here.
5:57
Tony Dandridge: I got to change my mindset back to not being married anymore.
5:59
Tony Dandridge: It takes a lot to put your mind there in the first place, especially when you want to be there.
6:02
Tony Dandridge: So when it's over, it kind of throws you backwards and for a lot of people who have been divorced, I understand what they went through.
6:11
Tony Dandridge: Now, until you go through this, you can't relate and I'll tell anybody that this was when you want to be there and it doesn't work.
6:17
Tony Dandridge: This is deeper than losing the job.
6:20
Tony Dandridge: This is deeper than I want to say losing personal possessions.
6:24
Tony Dandridge: You actually do kind of lose somebody in your life and what you had and what you established, what you put down, all of that.
6:29
Tony Dandridge: Okay, can I ask you a question?
6:31
Carmen Lezeth: Is this because you're still in love with your ex-wife, or you're just saying marriage as an institution you liked?
6:38
Carmen Lezeth: Or is it the person you're missing, or is that too personal?
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Carmen Lezeth: I don't know.
6:43
Tony Dandridge: It's a little bit of all of it.
6:44
Tony Dandridge: I'll be damned if it's a little bit of all of it.
6:47
Rick Costa: They used to.
6:48
Rick Costa: They become a part of your identity and it's been like that for so long that it's like a party you feel like missing now.
6:55
Rick Costa: And when you have kids on top of that, then that's even more of a connection which can never go away.
7:00
Rick Costa: Like if you don't have kids, like you didn't have kids, carmen, so for you you should be like cut off or done, but when you got kids, there is no cutting off the connection.
7:09
Tony Dandridge: That's the best way for me to describe it to a lot of people and see, I see what you're saying, technically and biologically, his grandfather still exists and his grandfather is still there.
7:19
Tony Dandridge: That's why I say step grandfather on purpose, I'm not going to step on her dad.
7:22
Tony Dandridge: I never tried to do that ever and he knows that Me.
7:26
Tony Dandridge: I'm actually cool from that, because some dudes come in and be like you, ain't the father?
7:29
Tony Dandridge: No more.
7:29
Tony Dandridge: As my baby I never did anything.
7:31
Tony Dandridge: I hate when dudes do that shit, I can't step in.
7:34
Tony Dandridge: It's blatantly disrespectful to be parent who is still in the life and as somebody who is a mind game on the kids.
7:47
Tony Dandridge: You don't just spend the biological parents when they're still around, even if they go on for a minute and they come through.
7:53
Tony Dandridge: When her dad will come around, I'm like I'll take you to him, there ain't no problem.
7:56
Tony Dandridge: And he already knew he had reservations about me and I don't blame him.
7:59
Tony Dandridge: I don't because you don't trust nobody around your child.
8:02
Tony Dandridge: You ain't supposed to.
8:03
Tony Dandridge: But I was always like you'll see over time it's not a problem.
8:06
Tony Dandridge: Her family was kind of in but as they grew to know me and they saw how comfortable she was and they realized I wasn't the issue.
8:11
Tony Dandridge: They don't have a problem with me.
8:13
Tony Dandridge: That's the best thing about it.
8:15
Carmen Lezeth: So Cynthia said I understand, but it's still your grandbaby.
8:18
Carmen Lezeth: And then Chris just said and our spirit seeks for that perfect love that God showed us from our beginning.
8:24
Carmen Lezeth: It's devastating to be hurt.
8:25
Carmen Lezeth: That's fair.
8:27
Carmen Lezeth: That's fair.
8:30
Tony Dandridge: You will realize people that you've heard over time when you go through something like this.
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Tony Dandridge: I've actually apologized to people for ways that I've been based on what I was going through, how much of an effect they had on me.
8:40
Tony Dandridge: I admit that this was.
8:42
Tony Dandridge: I don't wish this on anybody.
8:47
Carmen Lezeth: I guess I'm still trying to understand.
8:49
Carmen Lezeth: And again, I mean, rick, you're right, I don't have children.
8:53
Carmen Lezeth: I also think it's I don't have.
8:56
Carmen Lezeth: There was no anger in our divorce.
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Carmen Lezeth: It was kind of like we could just tell it was done.
9:02
Carmen Lezeth: You know what I mean.
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Carmen Lezeth: So we both needed to move away.
9:04
Carmen Lezeth: So it was a little bit different.
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Carmen Lezeth: I guess my question is and this again anything you don't want to talk about, you don't have to talk about and we can just cut it off.
9:14
Carmen Lezeth: But my question is are you still in love with your ex-wife or is it the institution of marriage that you're talking about?
9:22
Carmen Lezeth: You said it's a little bit of all of it, but it sounds like I mean we're done.
9:27
Tony Dandridge: I'll be honest, we're done.
9:29
Carmen Lezeth: Okay, we're gonna be there.
9:30
Tony Dandridge: We're gonna be there for our son, but we're done.
9:32
Tony Dandridge: Am I gonna lie and be like I'm not gonna have an issue?
9:37
Tony Dandridge: She moved on.
9:37
Tony Dandridge: I'm not gonna lie like that.
9:38
Tony Dandridge: I can't, because somebody-.
9:41
Carmen Lezeth: Are you moving on?
9:41
Carmen Lezeth: Are you moving on Like?
9:43
Carmen Lezeth: Are you dating?
9:44
Carmen Lezeth: Are you I'm not doing anything.
9:47
Tony Dandridge: I'm not going anywhere.
9:47
Tony Dandridge: I'm not going anywhere.
9:48
Tony Dandridge: All I do is go to work, and I don't feel like it.
9:50
Tony Dandridge: I really don't.
9:51
Carmen Lezeth: That was my question.
9:52
Carmen Lezeth: Are you able to move on and think about dating other people?
9:56
Carmen Lezeth: Yes, okay, okay, I'm just trying to understand where your head's at when it comes to your ex-wife.
10:04
Tony Dandridge: Because what was?
10:05
Carmen Lezeth: coming across was that you were still in love with her.
10:07
Carmen Lezeth: But it's good that you said no, we're done, we're done.
10:11
Tony Dandridge: I could tell you that I meant what I did when I married her and that's the part I got to get over.
10:17
Tony Dandridge: So for people out there who have any confusion, let me be clear.
10:21
Tony Dandridge: When I went to go, say I do, I meant that shit.
10:23
Tony Dandridge: When I went to work and came home and had nothing to worry about, I meant that shit.
10:27
Carmen Lezeth: We can change the subject.
10:28
Carmen Lezeth: Well, I got along with no, no, no, come on.
10:31
Carmen Lezeth: I didn't mean to get into this.
10:33
Carmen Lezeth: I was just part of getting to know you.
10:35
Carmen Lezeth: But we can move into the whole Chandler Bing Friends situation If we'd like.
10:40
Rick Costa: Random friends.
10:40
Rick Costa: Come on, come on.
10:41
Carmen Lezeth: You can ask me.
10:42
Carmen Lezeth: Hi Random Rick, how are you?
10:44
Carmen Lezeth: You can ask no, I think it was interesting because, no, I just know that Carmen knows all about your situation.
10:52
Carmen Lezeth: This is such BS and it's not cool.
10:55
Carmen Lezeth: What?
10:56
Tony Dandridge: Look, I'm not busted at all.
10:57
Tony Dandridge: I'm not busted at all.
11:00
Tony Dandridge: Carmen, you can keep asking.
11:02
Carmen Lezeth: I'm confused.
11:02
Carmen Lezeth: What is happening?
11:03
Carmen Lezeth: I know your situation, boy.
11:08
Carmen Lezeth: This is one of the reasons why I didn't want you on this show, right?
11:11
Carmen Lezeth: It's because all the people you've been doing with you that seem to always have negative issues or whatever, so I don't even know what to say now.
11:20
Carmen Lezeth: We don't change the subject, because I am not in the mood.
11:23
Carmen Lezeth: Oh no, no.
11:24
Carmen Lezeth: No, I do have to because my show isn't going to be a rehash of crap from people who are just so silly, do you?
11:32
Rick Costa: want to hear about how somebody flirted with me on the phone.
11:36
Carmen Lezeth: Who flirted with you on the phone.
11:37
Carmen Lezeth: You made it from work Work.
11:41
Carmen Lezeth: Okay, wait.
11:43
Carmen Lezeth: Will you want a zoom call or would you want a phone call?
11:45
Rick Costa: No, no, no, no, it was a call.
11:46
Rick Costa: It was a call, yeah.
11:48
Rick Costa: So our company moved buildings and this new city is called Mount Dora.
11:53
Rick Costa: So I have to call all these people and say we've moved the dresses.
11:57
Rick Costa: Can you update your system?
11:58
Rick Costa: Blah, blah, blah.
11:59
Carmen Lezeth: Right.
12:00
Rick Costa: And so this one girl, she just seemed really friendly, as it is anyway.
12:03
Rick Costa: So I was like I'll give back to you what you give back to me.
12:05
Rick Costa: And then so I'm telling her Mount Dora.
12:09
Rick Costa: I was like Dora, like D-O-R-A, like Dora the Explorer, and she goes oh, I was just thinking about that, that's so funny.
12:14
Rick Costa: I was like I know, I feel like saying I should say something in Spanish.
12:18
Rick Costa: Can you say blah, blah, blah?
12:20
Rick Costa: She says can you go ahead and say something in Spanish?
12:23
Rick Costa: I said oh, okay.
12:25
Carmen Lezeth: Wait a minute.
12:25
Carmen Lezeth: Okay, I'm still trying to figure out what's going on here.
12:28
Carmen Lezeth: It was weird.
12:31
Carmen Lezeth: Was it weird or were you interested?
12:33
Carmen Lezeth: I mean?
12:34
Rick Costa: it's not like anything will happen.
12:35
Rick Costa: I don't know.
12:35
Rick Costa: It's a phone call, I mean come on.
12:37
Tony Dandridge: It's from.
12:37
Carmen Lezeth: Florida.
12:38
Rick Costa: Hey you know clearly, it's just a phone call.
12:41
Tony Dandridge: It's just a phone call it's just a phone call.
12:43
Rick Costa: It was just funny, it made me laugh.
12:44
Rick Costa: She said hey, you can say something in Spanish to me.
12:48
Rick Costa: I said, oh okay, I was like what should I say?
12:54
Rick Costa: Deals me.
12:55
Rick Costa: I don't know.
12:56
Rick Costa: Okay, wait so do you know this person no like, do you?
13:00
Carmen Lezeth: have to know no, all right.
13:01
Carmen Lezeth: Well, that's not fun If it's not going to go somewhere.
13:04
Rick Costa: I just thought it was very funny.
13:08
Carmen Lezeth: Well, and there was a good try to change the subject, but you know we're going to have to go back to Tony.
13:13
Carmen Lezeth: Tony, you cool.
13:15
Tony Dandridge: Ask away.
13:16
Tony Dandridge: I'm great.
13:17
Carmen Lezeth: I know, I know no you know it's so weird because, like this is, it's like interesting to like talk to you and get to know you, but what's not interesting is having to deal with all the people that you bring to the table when, when when you're on the table, I'm with them, or cool Some of them are cool and then some people act stupid.
13:36
Carmen Lezeth: But just, I feel like this is always going to be an issue.
13:40
Carmen Lezeth: If I have you on the show, we can't just have a like this was kind of a cool conversation right About you and your relationship, and now we got cut off because somehow we can't talk about it because you're going to have people in the comments being ridiculous.
13:56
Tony Dandridge: I never know that.
13:56
Tony Dandridge: I don't let things like that stop me.
13:58
Tony Dandridge: Now, mind you, when I first started live stream with people, I used to see folks go through it all the time.
14:03
Tony Dandridge: It's nothing, they always go through it.
14:05
Tony Dandridge: Matter of fact for a lot of people who are on Periscope, you always saw somebody coming in saying something.
14:10
Tony Dandridge: All you got to do is keep it going.
14:12
Tony Dandridge: You could respond to it, but never let them stop your flow and never let that topic this isn't about me, Tony.
14:18
Carmen Lezeth: This is it.
14:18
Carmen Lezeth: Listen, listen, there's a quality.
14:19
Tony Dandridge: I'm not saying.
14:20
Carmen Lezeth: I'm not saying no, no, but I'm saying there's a quality and kind of show that's kind of fun.
14:24
Carmen Lezeth: This is all about the joy, and some motherfucking people on in the comments don't understand what that means, right?
14:32
Carmen Lezeth: So we're having this nice flow and conversation about your life that might be able to help other people, or getting deep about talking about some stuff, and what I don't like is this constant and this is and I'm going to say it, this is what I hated about haps and the people on haps.
14:50
Carmen Lezeth: Like I don't care if I never see a motherfucking other person from haps ever again in my fucking life, because it's such negativity.
14:58
Carmen Lezeth: It is such anger and sadness and everybody all is about gossip and about tearing people down, and even when you try to be nice to people, they still need to be a bitch.
15:12
Carmen Lezeth: Hi, chris, your wine.
15:15
Tony Dandridge: The way people Shadow.
15:17
Tony Dandridge: I don't know if you're talking to me or you.
15:20
Tony Dandridge: I don't know, I don't know, I don't know, I'm sorry, I'm getting upset.
15:24
Carmen Lezeth: Look at, the reason why I'm getting upset is because the people that just kind of stopped our flow are people who know better, and they're people I don't want near my show.
15:34
Carmen Lezeth: But they choose to be here and they choose to listen and they choose to be negative human beings who are constantly trying to bring people down instead of lifting people up, and the interesting part about it is that they're always going after people who want nothing to do with them.
15:50
Carmen Lezeth: So that's why I'm upset and I'm so not in the mood.
15:55
Carmen Lezeth: I thought what you were talking about was great and I, you know.
15:59
Carmen Lezeth: Again, anything you don't want to talk about personal is always your choice, and I actually don't know everything.
16:07
Carmen Lezeth: Even if I did, even if I didn't know everything, there are people who watch the show who don't know you and might learn something, and I think that's the other part of this that makes me crazy.
16:22
Carmen Lezeth: It's like if you are somebody who's a live streamer, if you are somebody who's a performer who does a show, you understand that when you are talking to people, you are talking Helen, get the fuck off my show, bitch.
16:35
Carmen Lezeth: I'm so over you.
16:38
Carmen Lezeth: I'm over you.
16:39
Carmen Lezeth: You need to let shit go.
16:42
Carmen Lezeth: My God, you are annoying.
16:45
Carmen Lezeth: You are so annoying and now I'm going to attempt to block your fucking ass.
16:51
Carmen Lezeth: You are one of the strangest people I have ever met in my entire motherfucking life.
16:58
Carmen Lezeth: Like you actually have me having more feelings for somebody.
17:03
Carmen Lezeth: Yes, I am too faced.
17:05
Carmen Lezeth: Yes, if that makes you feel better, I don't know why you come on my show, listen to my show and then bitch to Rick and bitch to other people.
17:14
Carmen Lezeth: I want nothing to do with you.
17:16
Carmen Lezeth: I have blocked you.
17:17
Carmen Lezeth: I have stopped talking to you because you are a nasty human being.
17:22
Carmen Lezeth: You are angry, you cannot let things go, you cannot forgive people and you don't like admitting when you're wrong.
17:30
Carmen Lezeth: You asked me a question about Tony.
17:33
Carmen Lezeth: I already spoke to Tony about it and I told you the truth.
17:36
Carmen Lezeth: I'm sorry, you're in love with Tony and you don't want to deal with the fact that he doesn't go visit you.
17:43
Carmen Lezeth: What do you want me to say to you?
17:45
Carmen Lezeth: We can do this.
17:46
Carmen Lezeth: I'm angry with Helen because Helen cannot stop.
17:50
Carmen Lezeth: And Helen, I don't go and watch your show, I don't go and follow you around, I don't go on the show all the time and you're ruining things and I think that's what you enjoy doing and I feel sad for you.
18:02
Carmen Lezeth: And you can call me whatever baby.
18:04
Carmen Lezeth: You can call me whatever Honey.
18:06
Carmen Lezeth: I have been called every name in the book bitch, okay.
18:10
Carmen Lezeth: Wait, you left me a message, tony.
18:13
Tony Dandridge: No, not you, Randall Rick.
18:14
Tony Dandridge: This is actually somebody else's broadcast.
18:16
Tony Dandridge: In the morning I put all my channels on.
18:17
Tony Dandridge: One of the reasons I don't put a lot of my channels on because what happens is sometimes everybody put a lot of channels on because I don't want to mess up.
18:25
Tony Dandridge: I just don't want to get involved in this.
18:27
Tony Dandridge: I just don't want to mess up.
18:29
Carmen Lezeth: I didn't know what was going on.
18:31
Carmen Lezeth: I didn't expect what happened to happen to me and I can apologize everybody.
18:34
Tony Dandridge: Wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, no, no, no, no, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait.
18:36
Tony Dandridge: I'm sorry, did I do something for you?
18:37
Tony Dandridge: Thank, you.
18:38
Carmen Lezeth: You're right, I got all my.
18:38
Carmen Lezeth: I've been holding back on her for a long time, but what she did today, I would have never bothered with her, because she came on my show and wrote on my stream and called me a name.
18:51
Carmen Lezeth: I don't understand the drama involved with people from HAPS and all this crap.
18:58
Carmen Lezeth: I really don't get it.
18:59
Carmen Lezeth: So, tony, I apologize to you, but you know what.
19:02
Tony Dandridge: I didn't say I didn't wanna run it.
19:03
Tony Dandridge: I'm telling anybody not to come on unless they act negative against the broadcast.
19:08
Carmen Lezeth: And you don't think she's acting negatively against the broadcast?
19:11
Tony Dandridge: I think she's giving her opinion and already knew what was gonna happen.
19:14
Tony Dandridge: That's why I started singing.
19:15
Carmen Lezeth: I like, oh, thank you, tony, here's what I'm gonna do, because this is not what I want my show to be about.
19:20
Carmen Lezeth: Baby, as much as I want you on the show, I don't want this bitch and I'm calling you a bitch in the way that it's meant to be on my show.
19:27
Carmen Lezeth: You know what I mean.
19:29
Carmen Lezeth: Like, I don't want her here because she's a negative human being.
19:32
Carmen Lezeth: This woman is upset about something that happened in March when she asked us our opinion about whether or not we thought Tony was using her.
19:42
Carmen Lezeth: So that's what she's upset about, because me and my friend, andrea truth or the truth?
19:46
Carmen Lezeth: Well, because she's in love with you and she wanted to know if she should be pursuing you and we were like have you ever met each other?
19:55
Carmen Lezeth: Why didn't you go to Scotland?
19:56
Carmen Lezeth: You know, I told you about in the LinkedIn thing, you know so, and now and she's still bringing it up because she can't let it go I just told you I'm hella.
20:07
Carmen Lezeth: I don't know why you think I'm hiding anything.
20:09
Carmen Lezeth: I don't know why you think I'm so shy.
20:11
Carmen Lezeth: I've never been shy about nothing.
20:14
Carmen Lezeth: But Tony, tony, here's what I'm gonna do.
20:18
Carmen Lezeth: You're gonna have to really rethink whether or not you want to be on show, and I have to rethink it too.
20:22
Carmen Lezeth: I don't want this.
20:23
Carmen Lezeth: I don't want this woman on my show.
20:25
Carmen Lezeth: I don't want this drama on my show and I am gonna get this upset every time she comes on here and talks bullshit, because she is angry and she can't let things go and she's a nasty human being and I don't know what her drama is.
20:43
Carmen Lezeth: But it's not what I want in my life and it's not what I want this show to be about, and I'm not a big enough person to just keep ignoring her because I want to interact with people on the show.
20:54
Carmen Lezeth: You have to not listen to all of that.
20:56
Carmen Lezeth: Now, you're right, chris.
20:57
Carmen Lezeth: Chris, you're right.
20:58
Carmen Lezeth: The problem is there's a little bit of history here and this woman is in love with Tony and she has issues because we told her what we thought about the situation and you know it is what it is.
21:10
Carmen Lezeth: I think some people need therapy and they get it on social media.
21:15
Carmen Lezeth: I just tried to block her, but for some reason it's not working.
21:19
Carmen Lezeth: I don't know why.
21:20
Carmen Lezeth: It doesn't matter.
21:21
Carmen Lezeth: She keeps, she's gonna keep following.
21:23
Carmen Lezeth: Isn't that weird to have somebody who just continuously trolls, like just for attention?
21:31
Carmen Lezeth: That's like a weird thing.
21:32
Carmen Lezeth: I don't.
21:33
Carmen Lezeth: Rick is like I don't want any phone calls so I'm saying fucking nothing.
21:36
Carmen Lezeth: That's your whole face right now.
21:40
Carmen Lezeth: Look at here.
21:40
Carmen Lezeth: Here's what I feel bad about is I can't do anything to help her.
21:48
Carmen Lezeth: I also don't like her, so and I want, I don't want her in my life and so, tony, that means I don't want you on my show.
21:58
Carmen Lezeth: I know that sounds horrible, but I think this is part of your thing and you don't take a stand.
22:05
Carmen Lezeth: I've had this conversation with you before.
22:06
Carmen Lezeth: You've allowed it because I think you like the ego boost of this woman falling around town.
22:12
Tony Dandridge: What ego boost, what ego boost.
22:15
Carmen Lezeth: Because someone liking you so much you're not gonna.
22:17
Carmen Lezeth: You're like she's just giving her opinion.
22:19
Carmen Lezeth: She's not giving her opinion, she's calling me names.
22:22
Tony Dandridge: I've seen people waiting, waiting, waiting, waiting.
22:24
Tony Dandridge: Remember, when you talk about giving opinions and saying what you want to say every time and you don't care.
22:28
Tony Dandridge: Here's the kicker, and I've said this to her too.
22:31
Tony Dandridge: You can't be like that on everybody's broadcast.
22:33
Tony Dandridge: What pisses me off is when people come on and somebody else is showing.
22:36
Tony Dandridge: Do that shit.
22:36
Tony Dandridge: I don't like that.
22:37
Tony Dandridge: That's why I don't do it.
22:38
Tony Dandridge: I know that and I've told her.
22:41
Tony Dandridge: That's why I just sat back.
22:42
Tony Dandridge: I'm like you know what this is gonna be on her.
22:44
Tony Dandridge: You know why I'm not saying that?
22:45
Tony Dandridge: Because I've told her stop doing this for a year.
22:46
Tony Dandridge: People don't have to believe this out there.
22:48
Tony Dandridge: She's gonna keep doing like you said.
22:49
Tony Dandridge: People have already told me she has changed accounts.
22:51
Tony Dandridge: She has done all that.
22:52
Tony Dandridge: She has done all that.
22:54
Carmen Lezeth: You know that she does it because she's in love with you, right?
22:57
Carmen Lezeth: Actually, this might be a really good conversation after all.
23:02
Carmen Lezeth: Go ahead, baby Rick, I'm so sorry if your phone blows up, but you already know you need the block.
23:10
Rick Costa: We're good so far, so good yeah.
23:12
Rick Costa: So people who are listening?
23:16
Rick Costa: Who are like what the?
23:16
Tony Dandridge: fuck is going on, what you want me to stop?
23:22
Carmen Lezeth: I'm not asking.
23:23
Carmen Lezeth: Look, it feels like we don't have a choice.
23:24
Carmen Lezeth: It feels like we have to have this motherfucking conversation.
23:27
Carmen Lezeth: It's either that or you need to get off the show and I need to go talk about something else.
23:31
Carmen Lezeth: But we're here now.
23:32
Carmen Lezeth: You know what I mean.
23:34
Carmen Lezeth: It's like you don't have.
23:35
Carmen Lezeth: I'm gonna go ahead and say this Look it, I guess my question is to you.
23:40
Carmen Lezeth: It's like it's not people.
23:43
Carmen Lezeth: This is Helen.
23:43
Carmen Lezeth: It's not people, Tony.
23:46
Tony Dandridge: She's not the only one who does this and I'm gonna go ahead and say this I've seen people do this before her and I've told them to stop acting like this before her, Before I went through the situation, I've seen people do this.
23:56
Tony Dandridge: Why are you talking about anyone else but Helen?
23:58
Tony Dandridge: Because every time this happens, we don't talk about that one person.
24:02
Tony Dandridge: I tell everybody on social media they need to stop doing this.
24:05
Tony Dandridge: I just talked about this and tell you it's show up in a month ago.
24:06
Carmen Lezeth: This is not a global phenomenon.
24:07
Carmen Lezeth: Sweetie, I know you.
24:09
Tony Dandridge: It is, it is, it's not my life, my life right now.
24:12
Carmen Lezeth: This is the problem In your life no In your life.
24:14
Tony Dandridge: No, that I see this.
24:15
Carmen Lezeth: This woman is the problem.
24:16
Carmen Lezeth: That's why I've been quiet.
24:17
Tony Dandridge: I see this everywhere.
24:18
Tony Dandridge: That's why I've been quiet.
24:18
Tony Dandridge: I'm tired of telling people to do this, and people want to do it on purpose.
24:21
Carmen Lezeth: They want to do this.
24:22
Carmen Lezeth: Wait, they do this to you all the time.
24:23
Carmen Lezeth: I'm confused.
24:24
Tony Dandridge: I didn't save me.
24:25
Tony Dandridge: I didn't save me.
24:26
Tony Dandridge: I said I've seen this on other broadcasts.
24:28
Tony Dandridge: They used to do this all the time on Periscope before they were doing it on Haps.
24:33
Tony Dandridge: I know, I know, but that's the whole other thing.
24:35
Carmen Lezeth: That's not what this show is about.
24:36
Carmen Lezeth: That's what I'm trying to say.
24:37
Carmen Lezeth: My show is always about what's supposed to be I guess not today, but it's always supposed to be about joy and about bringing happiness and about trying to walk through situations.
24:51
Carmen Lezeth: It's not about this bullshittery, this crap.
24:54
Carmen Lezeth: It's her jealousy.
24:57
Carmen Lezeth: It's her needing to win and be right and not take any responsibility.
25:04
Carmen Lezeth: I'm also going to put some shit on you, which is what I always do.
25:08
Carmen Lezeth: It's also your responsibility because you continue to allow it to happen.
25:12
Tony Dandridge: So I allow it to happen.
25:14
Carmen Lezeth: Well, yeah, because instead of saying Helen, cut the shit, and having a conversation with her, you're like globally, I tell everybody, I tell everybody.
25:25
Tony Dandridge: How many people are running after you and doing?
25:27
Carmen Lezeth: this shit with other people?
25:28
Carmen Lezeth: What?
25:29
Tony Dandridge: I've told her to stop doing this, in private and in public, more than once.
25:34
Carmen Lezeth: I've told many people that's not doing this.
25:35
Carmen Lezeth: She doesn't sell the people on other shows.
25:39
Tony Dandridge: She's done this on other shows.
25:40
Tony Dandridge: Yes, she's not the only one.
25:43
Carmen Lezeth: Well, she needs some help.
25:44
Carmen Lezeth: So what do you think is her issue with doing this whenever you're around?
25:49
Carmen Lezeth: What do you think?
25:50
Carmen Lezeth: Because every time you were around before, if you came on our show and talked on our show, then Rick would have to deal with a whole bunch of text messages or whatever.
26:00
Carmen Lezeth: He would never tell me about it, but I could always motherfucking tell because we'd be having our meeting and he'd be all like pissed off and shit.
26:08
Carmen Lezeth: So here's my question what is it that you think about you?
26:14
Rick Costa: Hey.
26:14
Carmen Lezeth: Ash bring some joy in the room.
26:17
Tony Dandridge: What's up, ash, how you doing.
26:18
Tony Dandridge: What's up, ash, how you doing.
26:21
Carmen Lezeth: What is it that you think is about you, that this comes out?
26:25
Carmen Lezeth: What do you think is happening there?
26:28
Tony Dandridge: I think it's me.
26:28
Tony Dandridge: I think it's me.
26:29
Tony Dandridge: Yeah, I see that Some people just want to do this.
26:32
Tony Dandridge: I don't think it has anything to do with me.
26:34
Tony Dandridge: People can't wait to call people out.
26:35
Tony Dandridge: You think Helen's Bullshitery?
26:38
Carmen Lezeth: Wait, wait, wait, wait.
26:39
Carmen Lezeth: I want to be Kalea.
26:41
Carmen Lezeth: You think Helen's Bullshitery has nothing to do with you?
26:47
Tony Dandridge: I've seen her do this with somebody else on that show.
26:49
Tony Dandridge: We had nothing to do with me.
26:50
Tony Dandridge: I've seen it.
26:52
Carmen Lezeth: Tony, your denial is like incredible.
26:55
Tony Dandridge: I just told you the truth.
26:57
Tony Dandridge: You don't remember it.
26:58
Tony Dandridge: You don't remember it.
26:59
Tony Dandridge: I saw it, I've seen it.
27:01
Carmen Lezeth: I saw it before too, because she was mad at what's his name and he was being me.
27:05
Carmen Lezeth: That's not what we're talking about.
27:06
Carmen Lezeth: This is a whole other thing.
27:07
Carmen Lezeth: This is a whole other thing, but that's my thing.
27:09
Tony Dandridge: You always talk about this.
27:10
Tony Dandridge: Right now, I'm telling you, I've seen the pattern with people no-transcript.
27:14
Tony Dandridge: This is a social media.
27:14
Carmen Lezeth: So you're saying Helen does this on other shows all the time, so she has a problem.
27:19
Tony Dandridge: No, I've seen it nicely all the time.
27:20
Tony Dandridge: No, no, no, no.
27:23
Carmen Lezeth: No, because you can't just admit that she has a problem.
27:26
Carmen Lezeth: Instead, you want to make it a lot of people.
27:28
Tony Dandridge: I just said.
27:29
Tony Dandridge: I've told her about this more than once.
27:31
Tony Dandridge: I didn't say that.
27:34
Carmen Lezeth: Rick, we need to.
27:35
Tony Dandridge: That's what I'm trying to do.
27:36
Tony Dandridge: No.
27:36
Rick Costa: I know I know, I know.
27:39
Carmen Lezeth: No, I mean, you're so right.
27:41
Carmen Lezeth: You know what I mean.
27:42
Carmen Lezeth: You know what?
27:42
Carmen Lezeth: Helen Rick is being quiet because you're a fucking idiot and you like to harass people and fucking send text messages to people to hurt them.
27:52
Carmen Lezeth: And you want attention, bitch, I'm going to give you motherfucking attention.
27:56
Carmen Lezeth: You are so evil.
27:58
Carmen Lezeth: You have me feeling bad for someone else I hated Like.
28:04
Carmen Lezeth: Now I realize why he went after you because you're fucking ridiculous girl.
28:09
Carmen Lezeth: You need therapy.
28:11
Carmen Lezeth: You need some help, sister, you need to get some help.
28:15
Carmen Lezeth: You are out of your fucking mind.
28:17
Carmen Lezeth: You're out of your mind to be following people who don't want to talk to you.
28:23
Carmen Lezeth: I've blocked you on everything, bitch, blocked you on everything, and you still are trying to sit here and have a fight with people, and you know what.
28:35
Carmen Lezeth: I'm happy because, in a way, I've needed to say this to you.
28:37
Carmen Lezeth: I wasn't going to fucking text you and email you and all the other shit that you do to people.
28:42
Carmen Lezeth: If you lived across the fucking street, I'd walk across the fucking street and tell you because you are a nasty human being, nasty human being, and I wish that you get all the help and whatever love it is that you're missing in your life.
28:57
Carmen Lezeth: I hope you receive it, honey, because you need it.
29:00
Carmen Lezeth: You need someone to really love you, to understand what it is to have real friendships and to have real good people in your life, because that's what you're missing, baby.
29:10
Carmen Lezeth: You missing really good friendships, and I'm going to tell you right now I would have been a good friend to you, but you're so stupid you're missed out.
29:19
Carmen Lezeth: I hope, helen, that you get whatever help you need, because you really do need it.
29:23
Carmen Lezeth: You need help.
29:25
Carmen Lezeth: I cannot say it anymore.
29:27
Carmen Lezeth: Andrea said it to you, we all said it to you.
29:30
Carmen Lezeth: You need to get some real motherfucking help, and your denial and your name call isn't going to help you.
29:36
Carmen Lezeth: You can call me whatever you want.
29:37
Carmen Lezeth: No one's going to believe you Nobody, nobody.
29:41
Carmen Lezeth: Ash says people are allowed to have an opinion, but going into people's lives to create drama doesn't put light on this.
29:48
Carmen Lezeth: It just makes the instigator look immature.
29:51
Tony Dandridge: Chris let me respond.
29:53
Carmen Lezeth: It's a confirmation to him.
29:56
Carmen Lezeth: He likes that attention.
29:57
Carmen Lezeth: He needs to feel empty, gap inside himself, confirmation to feel okay.
30:01
Carmen Lezeth: Are you, chris?
30:02
Carmen Lezeth: Are you talking about Tony?
30:03
Carmen Lezeth: She told my mix.
30:04
Carmen Lezeth: That's interesting, I can respond to that.
30:06
Tony Dandridge: I can respond to that.
30:08
Carmen Lezeth: I don't know if she's talking about you, but it sounds like she is talking about you.
30:12
Tony Dandridge: People are allowed to have an opinion, but going into people's lives to create drama doesn't put light on this situation.
30:16
Tony Dandridge: It just makes the instigator look immature.
30:18
Tony Dandridge: Ash, paul, that's why you shouldn't go up there and speak like this on social media.
30:22
Tony Dandridge: I addressed this on a lot of occasion and this one of the things I just tried to do when I was on the other platform.
30:27
Tony Dandridge: People told me to stop doing it because it wasn't working.
30:29
Tony Dandridge: I have tried to stop people from going on people's broadcasts and doing this.
30:33
Tony Dandridge: They don't damn stop.
30:34
Tony Dandridge: They do not.
30:35
Tony Dandridge: They want to do what people think.
30:36
Tony Dandridge: They could, just say what they want to say, do what they want to do, speak what they want to speak, and they don't care who it is or when they do it.
30:41
Tony Dandridge: That's a problem to me.
30:42
Tony Dandridge: I want to respond to Chris.
30:44
Tony Dandridge: It's not about what you need to feel content in your own life.
30:49
Tony Dandridge: Chris, I'll be honest with you.
30:52
Tony Dandridge: I have content in my own life off of the internet, in all honesty and I'm not being funny, I'm not being sarcastic, I'm not being arrogant there are a lot of people I've known in my life before I came on the internet.
31:02
Tony Dandridge: A lot of people.
31:04
Tony Dandridge: I come up here for fun and recreation.
31:06
Tony Dandridge: I come up here to enjoy myself.
31:07
Tony Dandridge: I come up here to have conversation with folks and to not be a stagatory in the conversation.
31:12
Tony Dandridge: If people don't notice anything on social media, people come into conversations just to start a damn party.
31:18
Tony Dandridge: What's up, tory?
31:19
Tony Dandridge: How you doing?
31:19
Tony Dandridge: Ash?
31:21
Tony Dandridge: I know where you're coming from.
31:21
Tony Dandridge: You're good.
31:22
Tony Dandridge: I'm going to be honest with you about that, chris.
31:24
Tony Dandridge: Even when I've tried to end things with people or disassociate myself with people, a lot of of us do still stay linked for some of the decent conversations that we have had.
31:32
Tony Dandridge: Some of the stuff like this happens just towards everything off, just like what Carmen's feeling right now.
31:36
Tony Dandridge: I don't go with the people's broadcasts doing this.
31:40
Carmen Lezeth: I do not, I do not.
31:42
Rick Costa: If I don't like somebody, I just don't go on their broadcast.
31:46
Tony Dandridge: It's so weird.
31:46
Tony Dandridge: The kicker is it is so hard.
31:48
Tony Dandridge: It is so hard for some of these want to be grown folks to not go into a conversation without starting shit or saying some shit.
31:55
Tony Dandridge: It's hard for people to do that.
31:57
Tony Dandridge: All you got to do is watch, and I watch a lot of people's broadcasts.
32:00
Tony Dandridge: I've been watching people's broadcasts for the past three years myself, and not just talking about people that I know, people that I've known, who they know.
32:09
Tony Dandridge: I'll watch and I'll listen.
32:10
Tony Dandridge: All you got to do is pay attention to a bunch of these conversations.
32:12
Tony Dandridge: Just watch how we twist.
32:13
Tony Dandridge: People can't have decent conversations without starting a damn argument.
32:18
Tony Dandridge: It's mind blowing to me.
32:20
Tony Dandridge: Leave it to the topic, Leave it to the conversation.
32:22
Tony Dandridge: Move on from that instead of being a stagatory in your words or in your comments.
32:26
Tony Dandridge: It's not that hard to me, but for other people it is.
32:29
Carmen Lezeth: I think people enjoy being able to be behind their keyboard and being nasty.
32:34
Carmen Lezeth: You know what I mean, because there's no real responsibility.
32:36
Carmen Lezeth: None of these motherfucking people would ever say any of this shit to my face.
32:42
Carmen Lezeth: That's what I always think about.
32:43
Carmen Lezeth: Would that person ever say shit to my face?
32:46
Carmen Lezeth: They wouldn't.
32:47
Carmen Lezeth: They wouldn't Because my hood shit would come out.
32:50
Carmen Lezeth: You know what I mean.
32:51
Carmen Lezeth: But that's what trolling is, this weird, strange power behind a keyboard to be a nasty human being.
32:59
Carmen Lezeth: If I don't like what somebody's saying and somebody's like it's happened on Ted's show, right, ted, or whatever, they'll start talking about something and I'm like I'm out, I just, I just leave, I don't even say I'm leaving because I'm mad or I don't like it.
33:12
Carmen Lezeth: I'm just, I'm out, I'm out.
33:15
Tony Dandridge: I just don't want you to know If I don't like the show.
33:17
Tony Dandridge: I don't want you to know If I don't like it, I don't even comment on it.
33:19
Tony Dandridge: But people can't do that.
33:20
Tony Dandridge: They cannot do that.
33:24
Carmen Lezeth: They don't entertain crazy encounters.
33:26
Carmen Lezeth: No, then don't entertain.
33:28
Carmen Lezeth: You're right, chris.
33:29
Carmen Lezeth: Ashley the greed if I don't like someone, I don't want to be around them and I'm not going to demean myself by acting up.
33:34
Carmen Lezeth: Thank you, thank you, go ahead, girl.
33:38
Carmen Lezeth: Melanie said does anyone watch TV?
33:39
Carmen Lezeth: Not like the program and yell at the TV instead of changing the channel?
33:42
Carmen Lezeth: Just curious, melanie, that was good.
33:44
Carmen Lezeth: Just change the channel right Instead of screaming.
33:46
Carmen Lezeth: I like that, it's actually really good.
33:56
Carmen Lezeth: Chris just said just food for thought.
33:57
Carmen Lezeth: Slow down, pray to God for clarity.
34:00
Carmen Lezeth: You can eliminate some of this.
34:01
Carmen Lezeth: No, you're absolutely right.
34:02
Carmen Lezeth: You know what I got upset and I think it's because it's been a long time coming.
34:07
Carmen Lezeth: What's been really good is that person hasn't been coming on my show.
34:11
Carmen Lezeth: I'm sure they've been watching it because you know this is what some weird people do.
34:16
Carmen Lezeth: But you know it's been fine.
34:18
Carmen Lezeth: I think this was kind of I had to say what I had to say.
34:21
Carmen Lezeth: I'm kind of glad I did Like I got it out of my system.
34:23
Carmen Lezeth: But you're absolutely right, I wish I was kind of bigger than that ignoring, but it's really hard to like.
34:31
Carmen Lezeth: Either I'm going to ignore everyone in the chat or I'm going to be talking to everybody in the chat, right?
34:38
Carmen Lezeth: And Rick did a really good job of teaching me to talk to people in the chat, so I kind of had to address that.
34:46
Carmen Lezeth: I have people blocked all over on all my things, so I guess that person was able to come on because Tony was connected to that.
34:56
Tony Dandridge: I have my, I have my channels on, so that's my fault.
34:58
Tony Dandridge: So I can apologize to everybody else.
34:59
Tony Dandridge: It's not your fault, I will tell you, I got you.
35:01
Tony Dandridge: Let me tell you this you can take the channel, the screen, so you ain't got to see it like that, and it can be backstage and not up in front of everybody.
35:09
Carmen Lezeth: No, because I want to have my channel.
35:12
Tony Dandridge: That's why I used to keep mine on.
35:13
Tony Dandridge: I agree, that's why I used to keep mine on.
35:16
Carmen Lezeth: I'm not going to do that.
35:17
Carmen Lezeth: All these other good people are giving me spirit at Chris and Ash and Melanie, and there were a couple of other people who are giving like beautiful, uplifting things that are reminding me, that are keeping me in a better space, and Cynthia you know what I mean.
35:32
Carmen Lezeth: So, no, we have a lot.
35:34
Carmen Lezeth: This is the highest See swearing and yelling.
35:36
Carmen Lezeth: You can't do so many viewers.
35:42
Rick Costa: And I can't get the Maya Angelou quote out of my head when someone shows you who they are.
35:50
Carmen Lezeth: Believe them.
35:51
Carmen Lezeth: Believe them, baby, when someone shows you who they are.
35:55
Carmen Lezeth: Believe them the demo plays on your luck.
35:58
Carmen Lezeth: Whatever it is, he will march ahead, Just know.
36:01
Tony Dandridge: I try to behave on Carmen's show for everybody.
36:03
Tony Dandridge: For those that don't know, I do try to behave up here, but I had to go get my beer.
36:08
Carmen Lezeth: You can have your beer, because I want a beer right now too.
36:11
Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, yeah, yeah.
36:11
Carmen Lezeth: It's okay with you drinking.
36:14
Carmen Lezeth: What wasn't good with Tony's to do back in the day was he would be full.
36:19
Carmen Lezeth: He would eat like fried chicken there it is and then he'd be like flossing.
36:24
Carmen Lezeth: And I was like okay, and he'd be on other people's show.
36:27
Carmen Lezeth: So it was fine.
36:28
Carmen Lezeth: But I was like please don't, please don't, yes you did.
36:32
Rick Costa: That's what I wanted to award, though.
36:35
Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, but we got you.
36:36
Carmen Lezeth: You save girl, you save.
36:37
Carmen Lezeth: Look at so much Cheers.
36:39
Carmen Lezeth: I'm not being angry because I think I had a right to be angry.
36:45
Carmen Lezeth: I do apologize for anyone's ears who might have not liked some of the verbiage I used when I come from.
36:53
Carmen Lezeth: So yes.
36:54
Carmen Lezeth: Thank you for all of you who have been here.
36:58
Tony Dandridge: Maybe we'll get a sponsorship and I could stay on the show, somebody.
37:00
Tony Dandridge: All about enjoy.
37:08
Rick Costa: Hornets nest.
37:09
Rick Costa: What happens?
37:10
Rick Costa: Don't be poking on hornets nest if you don't want.
37:15
Tony Dandridge: I do want to throw this out there for people in social media you got to stay away from being a staggatorean conversations.
37:21
Tony Dandridge: I really do try my best to live that way.
37:24
Tony Dandridge: When I do broadcast, it's crazy as I am, as reckless as I am, and even with the people that abroad cancer I do that.
37:30
Tony Dandridge: Try to come on there and being a staggatorean.
37:32
Tony Dandridge: What you want to do is be contributory to the conversation Over in staggatory to a conversation.
37:37
Tony Dandridge: If you remember that, you'll see social media in a much better life and how it is being still type, especially on the news in the people's office.
37:45
Carmen Lezeth: Melannie said, there is someone who doesn't want me, doesn't want me following them, yet they follow me on another point, which is I really use Hmm, exactly see me.
37:54
Tony Dandridge: All about the guys.
38:00
Carmen Lezeth: Don't encourage him.
38:01
Carmen Lezeth: Look, here's a thing.
38:05
Carmen Lezeth: I think it was Chris, he said it earlier.
38:07
Carmen Lezeth: Look at, there's always gonna be trolls.
38:09
Carmen Lezeth: That's not what this.
38:10
Carmen Lezeth: I want to be really clear.
38:12
Carmen Lezeth: This is not some random troll.
38:15
Carmen Lezeth: This is a long-standing, ridiculous situation with someone who is connected to Tony and they've never been able to come on the show because I blocked them a long time ago and they hate me because I told them what I thought about their relation, her relationship with Tony, whatever.
38:36
Carmen Lezeth: So this isn't just a troll.
38:39
Carmen Lezeth: This is someone who you know, if anything, you know, if you're religious at all, whatever you believe in.
38:45
Carmen Lezeth: I'm sending them joy and hope.
38:47
Carmen Lezeth: I mean I'm not cussed around because she needed to be cussed out and I needed to let that out, but I still praying for her.
38:54
Carmen Lezeth: I still wish her the well.
38:55
Carmen Lezeth: I told I, rick, have I ever once wished ill will on that woman?
39:00
Carmen Lezeth: Never.
39:00
Carmen Lezeth: I always want her to find her way and To figure it out.
39:05
Carmen Lezeth: And the anger towards me?
39:07
Carmen Lezeth: Here's the irony the anger she has towards me and Andrea, which somehow Andrea was thrown into this, by the way and Ray, who doesn't know her from a hole in the wall.
39:15
Carmen Lezeth: But the reason why she's angry is we told her a truth that she didn't want to hear, but she asked us about it.
39:22
Carmen Lezeth: So we said the truth, and it's been months.
39:26
Carmen Lezeth: It's been when was it, rick March?
39:30
Rick Costa: It's been a while yeah.
39:31
Carmen Lezeth: I haven't talked to her since, but she ain't.
39:33
Carmen Lezeth: You know.
39:36
Carmen Lezeth: This is someone who needs prayers and love and and, and, and joy, and Good juju or whatever you call it.
39:43
Carmen Lezeth: You know what I mean like good, beautiful spirits.
39:45
Carmen Lezeth: I wish her well, whatever.
39:56
Rick Costa: But I guarantee you, when you get Out of your life, your life is gonna be so much better, and I had to learn that the hard way.
40:03
Carmen Lezeth: Oh, yes, you did.
40:04
Carmen Lezeth: I'm glad you learned it though.
40:06
Rick Costa: So yeah.
40:08
Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, oh my god, I'm already exhausted.
40:10
Carmen Lezeth: Look at we wasted 50.
40:11
Rick Costa: I'm trying to bring what a handle this better.
40:14
Carmen Lezeth: Who.
40:15
Rick Costa: Chandler, bring Chandler bang.
40:16
Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, I, you know, I didn't really want.
40:18
Carmen Lezeth: Oh my god, I have too many text messages.
40:25
Rick Costa: Girl call me late explain.
40:29
Carmen Lezeth: Wait, you know it's a funny is I had an agent reach out to me while I was away, which is very interesting.
40:35
Carmen Lezeth: So I hope he's not watching the show, but I have a feeling he is watching the show because he was interested in and having a conversation with me, and so in my head a part of me is like so well, now you can see the full flavor of All About the Joy, all the side.
40:57
Rick Costa: I think Chandler Chandler would have been like go away.
41:01
Carmen Lezeth: I Didn't.
41:06
Carmen Lezeth: You know, I did not.
41:20
Carmen Lezeth: Not regularly, but I saw a lot of episodes, so I mean yeah, I mean I, of course, we all know who friends are or whatever, and I think what's really cool is the newer generation, like my, my niece, Juliana.
41:31
Carmen Lezeth: She's obsessed with friends.
41:33
Carmen Lezeth: So, you know, 15 years old, they all love that show.
41:36
Carmen Lezeth: And, Cynthia, I knew you would love that show.
41:38
Carmen Lezeth: It's not that I didn't love this show, I just.
41:40
Carmen Lezeth: I think I was more of a Seinfeld person, you know, but it was always must see what was.
41:45
Carmen Lezeth: It was like Thursday nights or something.
41:49
Tony Dandridge: And I was going to work doing those hours on.
41:51
Tony Dandridge: During the 90s I was at work.
41:52
Carmen Lezeth: Oh, you worked at night back then.
41:54
Carmen Lezeth: Wow, is that when you were in the military?
41:57
Tony Dandridge: When I started in the military, when I used to work at the door track in Alabama we always work like a swing schedule it was over like two-thirds of the bin that right right, right right.
42:04
Tony Dandridge: So I was always working.
42:06
Tony Dandridge: That was Sunday, and Thursday was my night off, and Friday, saturday for the busy nights.
42:11
Carmen Lezeth: So I think the reason why people this is just my opinion, because, you know, even I felt bad I think it's because he had so many struggles with his alcohol and drug addiction.
42:23
Carmen Lezeth: We wanted him to win.
42:25
Carmen Lezeth: Yes, you know what I mean Like, and I think, no matter what happened or why he passed away right when they do the talks, it doesn't matter.
42:33
Carmen Lezeth: I think there's a part of us that always wants to see the person who's trying so hard to beat something.
42:40
Carmen Lezeth: It's a question and so for him to pass away.
42:46
Rick Costa: Is he was saying it was hard for him to try to watch the show because he could just look and see like, oh, I was doing alcohol, then I was doing pills.
42:54
Rick Costa: Then by how skinny he was, by how not skinny he was, it was like wow.
42:58
Rick Costa: But, yeah and he's only a year older than me.
43:03
Rick Costa: That's the part that freaks me out.
43:04
Rick Costa: When somebody guys close to my age, I'm like whoa.
43:07
Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, I just felt bad.
43:08
Carmen Lezeth: I was shocked at how many people like I think, what what Tony just said?
43:12
Carmen Lezeth: I felt bad, that people were so, so many people were impacted by his death, but it's.
43:18
Rick Costa: International like.
43:19
Carmen Lezeth: I didn't know that.
43:21
Rick Costa: I watched the movie with him and Selma Hayek fools rush in it.
43:24
Rick Costa: Oh yeah, yeah, that was a good movie.
43:27
Carmen Lezeth: That's a good one.
43:28
Carmen Lezeth: That's a cute romantic comedy.
43:31
Tony Dandridge: Anyway, I didn't feel the impact everybody else did, but I understand this arresting piece to heaven, all honesty.
43:36
Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, is there any addiction that?
43:41
Carmen Lezeth: Do any of you have an addiction that you want to share, like I have an addiction to I won't lie chocolate cake.
43:48
Carmen Lezeth: Okay, I don't mean an addiction like him, but I was just saying like it was so interesting, I started thinking about all the things.
43:57
Carmen Lezeth: Like I'm not, I don't have a very Addictive personality, but I can't resist certain things, is there something you have an addiction to, in a light-hearted way, you know?
44:06
Rick Costa: I have a hard time.
44:08
Rick Costa: Cookies for me.
44:10
Carmen Lezeth: Chocolate really from a certain place, or any chocolate chip cookie any I mean I don't matter.
44:16
Carmen Lezeth: Someone said to me do you prefer cupcakes or slice?
44:21
Rick Costa: I'm like it doesn't matter as long as the word cake is in there, we're good there, all the matters.
44:26
Carmen Lezeth: What were you saying?
44:27
Carmen Lezeth: One, two, three, four, what are your addictions?
44:30
Tony Dandridge: Money, food, sex, smoking, wait, all travel it yes.
44:35
Carmen Lezeth: Money.
44:35
Carmen Lezeth: You're addicted to money.
44:37
Tony Dandridge: I don't like being broke.
44:38
Tony Dandridge: I've been broken more than one occasion.
44:40
Tony Dandridge: It is, it's.
44:43
Tony Dandridge: It's when you don't worry about it and you have a situation where you did it and nobody will help you.
44:48
Tony Dandridge: It would change you, so for me, I got Go make money.
44:51
Carmen Lezeth: Okay.
44:52
Tony Dandridge: Even when I'm at right now, I'm at a conference.
44:54
Tony Dandridge: I'm at a conference for the union on my job and and it's kind of covered I wasn't going to come.
45:00
Tony Dandridge: I wasn't gonna be able to come if it wasn't covered.
45:03
Tony Dandridge: So I'm up here, we're teaching each other, we're helping each other.
45:05
Tony Dandridge: This is actually fun.
45:07
Tony Dandridge: When I go to work, I normally work overtime.
45:09
Tony Dandridge: I've had a lot of emergencies in my life to where the first thing people would tell you is you should have planned better or you should have saved up more.
45:15
Tony Dandridge: So my focus and I will say it's like an addiction.
45:18
Tony Dandridge: You got to focus on that.
45:20
Tony Dandridge: Now, if I'm wrong on that aspect, let me go ahead and throw out there.
45:22
Tony Dandridge: I got a heavy addiction to sugar.
45:24
Tony Dandridge: I will eat any and every type of candy Well, I ain't gonna say any and every type, but I love my hot tamales, my Mike and Iks, my red hot, my lemon heads, cherry heads the apple heads, the cherry ones.
45:35
Carmen Lezeth: When he said hot tamales, I didn't think he meant the candy.
45:37
Rick Costa: Yeah, I was taking a second to say that.
45:38
Rick Costa: I got confused.
45:40
Carmen Lezeth: Confusion.
45:41
Carmen Lezeth: You look at that.
45:42
Rick Costa: You love Halloween, then Halloween's your favorite.
45:45
Tony Dandridge: When I get the candy out at the door.
45:46
Tony Dandridge: I will swap candy with the kids.
45:49
Tony Dandridge: They'll be like trick or treat.
45:50
Tony Dandridge: I'm like bitch, I'm looking for this.
45:51
Rick Costa: This is what I got.
45:52
Carmen Lezeth: Wow.
45:53
Tony Dandridge: You know what we?
45:53
Rick Costa: should have this one that is that's just wrong.
45:58
Tony Dandridge: No, it isn't.
45:58
Tony Dandridge: They have fun.
45:59
Tony Dandridge: They don't want chocolate.
46:01
Rick Costa: Kids can negotiate.
46:03
Carmen Lezeth: Yes, I also sent you guys a message about.
46:07
Carmen Lezeth: You know we're into the last two months of the year, right?
46:11
Carmen Lezeth: So it's November, december and I was wondering what do you want to accomplish in the next two months?
46:20
Rick Costa: Just to get my finances more in order than it is, and I'm slowly but surely working on it.
46:25
Carmen Lezeth: So that's cool.
46:27
Carmen Lezeth: Chris said sugar.
46:28
Carmen Lezeth: I did that for a few years.
46:30
Carmen Lezeth: I'm like oh, you quit sugar, that's hard.
46:33
Carmen Lezeth: Quitting sugar is hard.
46:34
Tony Dandridge: I actually did a fast on myself one year for Lent and because I'm one of these Catholic, so we do Lent, I quit every sugar habit I had.
46:45
Tony Dandridge: I mean it's candy gum, tea, sweet foods, cold cereal.
46:48
Tony Dandridge: I just didn't do it for 45 days.
46:51
Rick Costa: When I was sick when I was sick last week I had no appetite, and when I don't have an appetite, I just simply won't eat.
46:56
Rick Costa: I didn't eat for five days and I lost 10 pounds.
47:00
Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, but that's not good way to lose weight.
47:01
Carmen Lezeth: Oh, I know, I know that that's a bad thing, being sick and losing weight is not a wish for anybody.
47:09
Rick Costa: Yeah, I don't even try to.
47:11
Carmen Lezeth: I don't try to eliminate anything Like.
47:15
Carmen Lezeth: I'm never gonna not eat sugar.
47:16
Carmen Lezeth: I can't even think about that.
47:19
Tony Dandridge: Take a break, it'll help you.
47:20
Tony Dandridge: It will do something.
47:21
Tony Dandridge: When I did a detox, the first thing- I've never done a diet in my life.
47:24
Tony Dandridge: I know, but if you ever do a detox, one of the first thing they'll tell you is avoid sugar.
47:29
Tony Dandridge: It's five different types of sugar.
47:30
Tony Dandridge: I thought it was only four.
47:31
Tony Dandridge: I didn't even know there's five different types of sugar.
47:34
Tony Dandridge: I was like okay.
47:35
Carmen Lezeth: The only time I stopped eating something was when I had to have the first colonoscopy.
47:39
Carmen Lezeth: That was the only time I ever did anything like where you have to-.
47:43
Tony Dandridge: Save that conversation I had to have a lot to eat.
47:45
Tony Dandridge: I know I'm just saying, but I don't have a thing, One of the worst times, because I couldn't eat like I wanted to.
47:51
Tony Dandridge: I was losing my mind.
47:53
Rick Costa: We were all cracking on Tony.
47:55
Rick Costa: I remember that.
47:58
Carmen Lezeth: Well, I don't remember this.
47:59
Carmen Lezeth: He did it on Haps.
48:01
Rick Costa: They must have been on Haps, yeah.
48:03
Tony Dandridge: Really, I think we might have been on Haps.
48:04
Tony Dandridge: Yeah, I was on going through it and they were like what's going on?
48:08
Tony Dandridge: I said I can't eat.
48:08
Tony Dandridge: They told me don't go to work.
48:10
Tony Dandridge: I had this big inch jug full of that fluid.
48:13
Tony Dandridge: I'm like okay, they said.
48:14
Tony Dandridge: I said should I go to work?
48:15
Tony Dandridge: They said no, don't go to work.
48:16
Tony Dandridge: I said okay.
48:16
Tony Dandridge: So I'm sitting here thinking I'll be all right.
48:20
Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, no, it is, you are.
48:22
Tony Dandridge: I actually told them.
48:23
Tony Dandridge: I'm so mad that, as much as I was in the bathroom, I didn't leave you two days later with a body like Captain America.
48:31
Tony Dandridge: I said this is bullshit, ain't no way to have a body like that for this much, and I don't have a six-pack.
48:36
Tony Dandridge: Looking like Lex Luga, I was like this is I was pissed, but I couldn't, and all you could do was drink that fluid.
48:42
Tony Dandridge: So then I finally did have that.
48:43
Tony Dandridge: I'm gonna tell you this story.
48:44
Tony Dandridge: This is gonna be funny, I don't care.
48:46
Tony Dandridge: I went to the doctor and I'm sitting here like waiting over there, and the girl said you have no idea.
48:52
Tony Dandridge: So they told me to put the road bar.
48:54
Tony Dandridge: I'm already mad.
48:55
Tony Dandridge: I got to wear a robe, cause everybody know where the hospital road is.
48:57
Tony Dandridge: It's open in the back and I told them y'all better hurry up, because I'm only I'm clenching and I don't know how long this is gonna be, for you gotta get one of them absorbing pads over there.
49:06
Tony Dandridge: You better get one of them absorbing pads over there, because when I go to sleep I won't be tense, you'll be fine, I'll worry about it.
49:14
Tony Dandridge: So I'm laying on the table and I'm looking around.
49:16
Tony Dandridge: Right, that is it.
49:17
Tony Dandridge: What's wrong with you?
49:18
Tony Dandridge: I said I'm counting all you motherfuckers, cause if I wake up and I don't feel right, I want to know who the hell I got to go.
49:23
Carmen Lezeth: Who's ass do I have to pick Like literally?
49:29
Rick Costa: Chris said it's hard but it was weird.
49:31
Carmen Lezeth: I started it due to another indulgement that I stopped.
49:33
Carmen Lezeth: I shifted, but then I realized and stopped the alternative.
49:36
Carmen Lezeth: No listen, I propped to you on the sugar thing.
49:40
Carmen Lezeth: I have other friends who've stopped sugar and dairy, whatever.
49:43
Carmen Lezeth: I've just never done any of the things and now that I'm older I'm like I'm not gonna, I'm never gonna do it unless a doctor tells me this movie called what to health.
49:53
Tony Dandridge: I stopped drinking milk after watching what to health.
49:56
Carmen Lezeth: I don't.
49:56
Carmen Lezeth: I'm not a big milk drinker.
49:58
Carmen Lezeth: I drink almond milk.
49:59
Carmen Lezeth: I used to be Like in my cereal, whatever, but I don't really.
50:01
Carmen Lezeth: I've never been a big milk person.
50:03
Carmen Lezeth: Although, don't give me fake ice cream, Like I'm gonna eat ice cream.
50:06
Carmen Lezeth: I want regular ice cream.
50:07
Carmen Lezeth: You know what I mean, but I don't want to be good.
50:09
Carmen Lezeth: Right, right right.
50:10
Rick Costa: I remember the question now, Is there anything?
50:12
Rick Costa: Any new update as far as Sagaftra?
50:16
Carmen Lezeth: They're still negotiating.
50:17
Carmen Lezeth: They had a really good conversation, so we get notifications every day from Fran Dresser and from the SAG committee telling us where they're at.
50:27
Carmen Lezeth: So they still haven't finalized anything, but hopefully they're gonna come.
50:32
Carmen Lezeth: I feel like it's close.
50:33
Carmen Lezeth: It seems like the sticking conversation right now is about AI.
50:38
Carmen Lezeth: That's what my gut says and the stuff that I was reading.
50:41
Carmen Lezeth: But I feel like we're so close and I really hope that the strike is over with.
50:46
Carmen Lezeth: So many people have been out of work.
50:48
Carmen Lezeth: It's not just the actors but, yes, all of these actors have been out of work, but it's all the crews and all the producers and it goes all the way down.
50:56
Carmen Lezeth: It hits marketing, it hits all the restaurants when you go film somewhere.
51:00
Carmen Lezeth: So it really is, I think, starting to affect people.
51:03
Carmen Lezeth: So I hope you know, woo-hoo, hope and pray that this happens, hopefully soon.
51:11
Carmen Lezeth: I'm feeling it.
51:13
Carmen Lezeth: I'm feeling it.
51:13
Carmen Lezeth: I want it to be.
51:14
Carmen Lezeth: You know what I mean?
51:15
Carmen Lezeth: I wanted to read one thing that I got was interesting because and then we're gonna stop it.
51:20
Carmen Lezeth: So I read this in the paper this morning On Sunday, gary Hobish, 70, collapsed during a weekly swing dance gathering in Golden Gate Park here in Northern California.
51:33
Carmen Lezeth: His friend, tim O'Brien, raced to the nearby D Young Museum in search of a defibrillator, pleading with a staff member to let him use the lifesaving device.
51:44
Carmen Lezeth: The staffer checked with his boss and delivered a firm answer the defibrillator was not to leave the building.
51:54
Carmen Lezeth: Mr O'Brien returned empty-handed and Mr Hobish died.
51:59
Carmen Lezeth: So this museum is getting a lot of backlash.
52:04
Carmen Lezeth: It's called D Young Museum.
52:07
Rick Costa: It's about to become the old museum, Old museum, old ass museum right.
52:11
Carmen Lezeth: I was shocked that the staff person went and asked somebody if they could use it Like don't you think that's weird?
52:19
Carmen Lezeth: But I read that because I think it's kind of a microcosm of what I think our country is in right now.
52:25
Carmen Lezeth: We're in a really weird place, but imagine your grandfather, your father, your brother, whatever it is, 70 years old, died because somebody wouldn't help him.
52:40
Rick Costa: Yeah, isn't that weird, that's true.
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Rick Costa: But if the owner was offsite they would have been like, yeah, go ahead.
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Carmen Lezeth: It doesn't even make any sense to me.
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Carmen Lezeth: Was the staff person young and didn't know?
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Carmen Lezeth: To me it doesn't matter.
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Carmen Lezeth: I don't know how young could you be working at a museum?
52:55
Carmen Lezeth: Let's say you're 18.
52:57
Carmen Lezeth: Let's just.
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Carmen Lezeth: I'm sure they weren't, but let's say you're 18.
52:59
Carmen Lezeth: Have we gotten to a place in our lives that someone is asking for a defibrillator?
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Carmen Lezeth: That means somebody is having a heart moment.
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Carmen Lezeth: They are about to die, Like, I don't care how old you are, you save a person's life.
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Carmen Lezeth: Yes, Chris, I think we're in a bad place and I think I wanted to read that.
53:23
Carmen Lezeth: To bring that up.
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Tony Dandridge: Chris is correct.
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Tony Dandridge: Now, the thing with the defibrillators is you have to be certified to use them.
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Carmen Lezeth: No, the whole point of the defibrillator is that they're easy enough to help anyone, so they're always around.
53:36
Tony Dandridge: You gotta be certified to use them.
53:37
Tony Dandridge: But you gotta be certified to use them.
53:39
Tony Dandridge: I gotta get training on the area.
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Carmen Lezeth: If somebody came to me and asked for a defibrillator.
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Carmen Lezeth: I would give it to them to try to help.
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Tony Dandridge: Because what's the worst?
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Carmen Lezeth: thing that can happen the person could die.
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Rick Costa: So I don't have to be in a state Okay.
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Carmen Lezeth: But Tony, do you see?
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Carmen Lezeth: Okay?
53:54
Carmen Lezeth: But here's my point.
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Carmen Lezeth: You're doing exactly what I'm afraid of.
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Carmen Lezeth: I don't wanna get sued, so I'm not gonna try to help someone.
54:02
Tony Dandridge: I'm with you.
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Tony Dandridge: You can do CPR without the defibrillator.
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Carmen Lezeth: No, the reason why we have a defibrillator is so that we can try to help someone who's having a heart issue.
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Carmen Lezeth: That's the whole point of having them around.
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Tony Dandridge: I understand.
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Carmen Lezeth: They're everywhere.
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Carmen Lezeth: You know what I mean.
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Carmen Lezeth: Like that's the whole point.
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Carmen Lezeth: Should you know how to use one?
54:18
Carmen Lezeth: Yes, should you?
54:19
Carmen Lezeth: Right, the person went to ask for one because he knew his friend was dying.
54:24
Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, here's my thing.
54:27
Rick Costa: If I get fired for saving somebody's life, then fire me.
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Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, exactly, if I'm having a heart issue or you think I'm dying, I want you to do everything you can to try to save me.
54:38
Carmen Lezeth: Okay, and I'll put it out there in public.
54:40
Carmen Lezeth: I will not sue you if I die.
54:42
Rick Costa: I don't know.
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Rick Costa: We have it on record.
54:47
Carmen Lezeth: We have it on record.
54:47
Carmen Lezeth: Now I just think we're in a bad place.
54:51
Carmen Lezeth: I remember when we valued life so much that you wouldn't question something or we wouldn't even be having an argument.
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Carmen Lezeth: Can you?
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Carmen Lezeth: Could you have to?
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Carmen Lezeth: Don't you have to be certified?
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Carmen Lezeth: The whole reason why defibrillators are around us because they're so easy to use.
55:07
Carmen Lezeth: Right?
55:08
Carmen Lezeth: And, by the way, doing CPR is very different now than when we were growing up, where you were breathing in people's mouths, Like I don't think people have been certified in a long time.
55:17
Carmen Lezeth: You don't do that anymore, right?
55:19
Carmen Lezeth: You just do the compressions on the chest.
55:20
Carmen Lezeth: You do not breathe in someone's mouth anymore.
55:23
Carmen Lezeth: Go ahead, you don't breathe in people's mouth anymore.
55:28
Tony Dandridge: You get a face mask thing.
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Tony Dandridge: I just had a training issue.
55:32
Carmen Lezeth: I know, I know.
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Carmen Lezeth: But, tony, if me and you were out hanging out, do you have a face mask to put on me?
55:37
Carmen Lezeth: That's what I'm saying.
55:38
Rick Costa: At least we're defibrillating and don't break nobody's ribs either.
55:42
Carmen Lezeth: Right, you don't break anybody's ribs Just watching every episode of emergency qualify me too.
55:47
Rick Costa: Yes, I certify you right now.
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Tony Dandridge: If it does, tell me.
55:50
Tony Dandridge: If it does.
55:51
Carmen Lezeth: I watch emergency e-ar cold red, all of that mess traffic dog and then you see nothing else Is the emergency keeping on anymore yeah, in the old TV channel.
55:59
Tony Dandridge: Yeah, what's that me?
56:00
Rick Costa: too, Cynthia thank you.
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Carmen Lezeth: Cynthia works in a hospital.
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Carmen Lezeth: Correct compression only, exactly, yes, yeah, because now that you don't put your mouth to another person's mouth anymore.
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Carmen Lezeth: Anyways, I just wanted to mention that, like, I just feel like we're in a really weird place and there's so much hate and anger and I just exhibited all of mine in the beginning of this podcast, so clearly, we all have a lot of work to do with our own selves as well.
56:29
Carmen Lezeth: I'm going to say goodnight to everyone.
56:31
Carmen Lezeth: Can you hear us?
56:33
Tony Dandridge: Yes, my earpods died.
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Tony Dandridge: Oh yeah, I'm here.
56:36
Carmen Lezeth: Okay, all right.
56:36
Carmen Lezeth: Thank you everyone for stopping by to a fantastic and crazy show.
56:43
Tony Dandridge: I got it Great numbers, great numbers.
56:48
Carmen Lezeth: You know what?
56:48
Carmen Lezeth: I'm just going to start this show off every week screaming at somebody.
56:51
Carmen Lezeth: I guess I should just start yelling and screaming and, like you know, just getting really gang and ghetto-fied or whatever, like back in the day and get our numbers up and look at people who are still here.
57:04
Carmen Lezeth: So that's good.
57:05
Carmen Lezeth: It's really weird.
57:06
Carmen Lezeth: Thank you for stopping by.
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Carmen Lezeth: I really appreciate you all.
57:08
Carmen Lezeth: I miss you and, yeah, we'll do it again next week.
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Carmen Lezeth: Bye everyone, thank you.
57:14
Rick Costa: Good night.
57:15
Carmen Lezeth: Good night.
57:15
Carmen Lezeth: Good night, thanks for stopping by.
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Carmen Lezeth: All about the joy Be better and stay beautiful folks have a sweet day.