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Bonus - The Secret To Being Magnetic · Unshakeable with Human Design - A Human Design For Business Podcast

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  Welcome to Unshakeable with Human Design, the show dedicated to
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  helping entrepreneurs use human design to shift from hustle to
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  flow without sacrificing results.
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  Come here to become an unshakeable human and build an unshakeable business
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  according to your human design.
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  I'm your host, Nicole
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  Laino.
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  Hello.
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  Welcome to the show.
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  This is Nicole.
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  I just wanted to leave a little message here at the beginning of
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  this episode, introduce it for you.
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  This is one of our encore episodes that we are doing.
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  We are just taking a very tiny short little break here in the
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  middle of July, I needed a little breather, took a little vacation.
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  And we have some encore episodes.
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  These are some of our favorite episodes, the ones that get requested the most,
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  the ones we get the greatest feedback on.
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  We wanted to bring them to you.
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  Once again.
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  This episode is for anybody who has wondered or heard that being
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  magnetic and human design go together and how does that actually work?
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  So if you've been following your human design and you have found it
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  difficult or you still don't feel like you are drawing things into you the
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  way that it's been promised to you or made you feel like it should be done.
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  If you don't feel like you're getting those results, this episode is very
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  foundational in the sense that it will break down how it works, why following
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  your design is making you magnetic, and why maybe you are not magnetizing
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  the way that you want, what you can do about it, and why that may be happening.
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  So it's a really great check-in for you to follow along and see,
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  are you following these concepts?
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  And what can you do to make some shifts to really starting to become
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  magnetic in your life, in your business?
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  We also have a really special sale going on right now.
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  Christmas in July is what we are calling it.
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  We are bringing a blowout sale of some of our most popular programs all on sale for
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  you during these middle two weeks in July.
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  We'll send you the details there or go to nicolelaino.com/july and you
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  can grab all of the details there and everything will be linked up in
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  the show notes for you of course.
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  So thank you.
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  I hope you enjoy this episode and we will talk to you soon.
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  Hello and welcome to Unshakeable with Human Design, everybody.
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  I'm your host, Nicole Laino, and we are talking about magnetism today.
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  And really we're going to talk about this, I'm calling this
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  the secret to being magnetic.
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  And what I really want to break down for you are two things.
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  Before we start this, if you're interested in being magnetic, we
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  do have a centers series that's going on on the podcast right now.
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  And if you haven't been following along with that, this
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  is a bigger concept episode.
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  If you're looking for deeper dives into the aspects of human design, like the
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  nine centers, we're toward the end of a series that we're doing on the nine
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  centers in the human design body graph.
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  So you can go back.
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  We are this week, I think we hit our seventh center.
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  Uh, every Wednesday we have been releasing these episodes.
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  So go back and listen to those if you want deeper dives into each of the centers.
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  And we actually did a profile line series about two months
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  ago in April, I think it was.
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  So if you're interested in those, go back and listen to those if
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  you want those deeper dives.
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  But this is one of those.
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  Concepts, because we can get a little bit lost in the details sometimes of
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  the specific aspects of human design that we forget, why does it matter?
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  And magnetic is a word that gets thrown around a lot.
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  And I do think that it's gotten a bit garbled, maybe a little muddled,
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  maybe it's been bastardized just a bit, where some people have made it
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  sound like something that it's not, because magnetic doesn't actually
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  mean what most people think it means.
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  It's linked with these other things that actually are not really what we're talking
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  about when we're talking about magnetism.
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  And I want to break that down for you here today.
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  And then the second thing that we're going to break down is there is an
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  energetic game being played in life.
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  This is why life looks easy to some people and not so easy to others.
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  That's why maybe you feel like you've had to work harder than others, maybe.
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  Or maybe you feel like you're one of those people who's had it a bit easier.
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  There is an energetic game being played in this life, in business, in all things,
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  just in the world, in the universe.
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  And the question is, are you playing it?
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  And we're going to unpack both of those things in this episode today.
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  So I hope that you are in for this because we're really going to talk
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  about what it means to be magnetic.
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  What does that actually mean?
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  Why should it matter to you?
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  How can you start to become magnetic, and your own version of that?
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  I talked about this common misconception when we started the episode.
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  To me, there's a lot of talk, a lot of imagery that magnetism means that
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  you are super sexy, that magnetism equals money, magnetism equals
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  sexy or sexual, that it has to be this luxurious, over the top thing.
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  And I certainly know from people who come into my world, there is
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  a disconnect because they're just like, that doesn't feel like me.
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  But we're attracted to the result that they're getting, right?
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  They say that they're making millions.
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  So we want to be a part of that because we want to make millions too.
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  But usually you don't even want that.
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  You want to feel like your needs are being met.
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  I want the money so I don't have to worry about money anymore.
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  I don't necessarily want to step off of a private jet.
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  I don't need all of that.
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  Although it might be fun.
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  So we get confused with magnetism, meaning these external results.
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  No, the external results are a byproduct of your magnetism.
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  And those results may look different for you.
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  I don't know what you want to attract.
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  And that is part of a bigger conversation about what are you tuning into and
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  what are you trying to attract.
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  But magnetism does stem from you being truly authentic to who you are.
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  That you are being so grounded and so clean in your own energy that you start
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  pulling in exactly what is right for you.
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  Exactly the right people, the right opportunities, the right wisdom.
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  You start being interested in the right things.
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  This is how you get into the flow of life.
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  You find your own brand of magnetic, not somebody else's, which may
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  look a certain way on Instagram, in their emails and the things that
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  they're choosing to share with you.
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  You might see it that way, but don't get confused.
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  What somebody else says they have is not necessarily how you will become magnetic.
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  It's not the same thing.
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  And human design can help demystify this process of how
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  we actually become magnetic.
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  Because when we start looking at those external results, we think
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  that the way to become magnetic is to be like those people.
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  So we sign up for their courses, we sign up for their programs, or coaching
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  with them, or something that they're doing, and then we try to be like them.
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  And it doesn't work for us the same way.
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  And the reason for that is that what we are doing is we're trying
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  to build our house on their land.
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  We're trying to put up our own business standing on a
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  foundation that's not our own.
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  And then that leads to a business, a life that doesn't really feel right to us.
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  And like I said at the beginning, magnetism is the
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  mechanics of your energetics.
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  So rather than looking at the external results that somebody got, the process
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  of doing, what did they do to get there?
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  Instead of looking at those things and trying to hack their process or pay them
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  to give you their process, recognize that there are energetic mechanics to
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  you being in alignment with yourself.
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  Being in alignment really just means authentic for you.
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  Now you have people like Gabby Bernstein who will tell you feeling good is the
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  secret and that's absolutely true.
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  It's particularly true if you're a generator like she is.
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  That is the path for her.
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  And what she does is she gets you trying to figure out what feels good to you.
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  So she is having you check in intuitively with yourself, tuning into your intuition.
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  Absolutely.
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  Whereas some people are giving you more steps of what you can do in this 3D world.
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  Take these steps, post these things, write this way, do it this way.
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  This is how I did it.
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  Follow my 10 steps and you'll make a million dollars too.
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  But that's not an authentic path for you.
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  Gabby is much closer to how you get this.
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  And her way works.
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  Intuition absolutely works.
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  Everybody has their different paths with this.
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  But you're listening to this show, so I think that you are interested in
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  the human design path because you've realized that sometimes it can be very
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  difficult to tune out the outside world.
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  What we've always been told, what we've always felt, the challenges
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  that we've been grappling with, which can seem like forever, it can be hard
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  to tune all of that out and figure out what is authentically me now?
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  How do I even find that?
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  And human design gives you a few things.
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  Human design starts to tune you into your gifts.
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  It starts to tell you what you are here to be all the time, that's honest
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  for you, that's authentic for you.
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  This is what you're meant to put out in the world.
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  And it tells you what you are here to not put out in the world all the time.
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  Meaning where are you meant to lean back?
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  Where are you meant to be an evaluator of things as opposed to
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  being the contributor all the time?
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  So it gives you this framework to start understanding your gifts, to
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  start understanding your natural shadows, how they will come
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  up, and how to navigate those.
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  But then it gives you this wonderful, very simple yet I won't say that
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  it's easy process of following your strategy and authority and
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  understanding how your energy works and how you start to pull things to you.
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  It gives you a step by step to energy mechanics.
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  To the energetic game.
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  I asked you at the beginning, there's an energetic game.
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  Are you playing it?
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  Human design, above all other tools, and I've used tons, I have more
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  than dipped my toe in the waters.
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  I have been swimming in the pool for a long time.
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  And there was nothing that helped me coach myself through the
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  energetic game like human design.
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  That was what I was so drawn to.
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  There's so much truth in this.
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  But I also get how I see myself get pulled out of alignment to know what
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  that is, to be able to coach myself through that moment because I know
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  what I'm supposed to do in that moment.
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  I know what it looks like for me.
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  And it helps me to build that muscle memory of saying, I
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  know how I am supposed to feel.
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  I know what feeling good feels like.
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  I know what alignment feels like.
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  I know what authenticity feels like.
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  Now what comes from that is you get this beautiful permission to be authentically
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  you, and only you know what that is.
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  So I'm going to throw this in here.
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  This is something that has been on my heart for a while, and this might be a
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  little spicy as far as what I'm saying here, and it might ruffle some feathers.
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  This might trigger some of you.
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  But it needs to be said.
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  I find it ironic that so many people come to me and they want me to tell
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  them what is authentic for them.
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  I find it really ironic.
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  And I'm not mad about it, however, I get asked so much, and I have been there too.
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  I wanted somebody to tell me who I was for a long time.
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  Because I was so unsure and I was so deep into my conditioning that
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  it didn't feel safe to really be me And quite frankly, I didn't really
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  trust that who I was, was worthy.
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  There was so much there.
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  And now your reasoning, if you're listening to this and that feels
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  true to you, that you're like, yeah, I kind of do want somebody to give
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  me a reading and tell me who I am.
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  I get that.
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  And if you fall into that category, it may look a little bit different
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  to you as far as why you feel that way than it did for me.
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  But the truth is that If I tell you what's authentic for you,
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  it's not authentic for you.
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  That is a journey.
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  No one could tell me either, no matter how badly I wanted them to.
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  Tell me why I'm special.
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  Tell me how I'm special.
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  I can't do that.
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  I can help you find it yourself.
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  Cause that's where magnetism starts.
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  It starts from this amazing acceptance of ourselves, because I want you to
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  understand that conditioning, that feeling of not enough, that feeling of I should
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  be more, that feeling of I shouldn't be too much of this, all of that holding
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  back or pushing out of force, all of that creates an energetic frequency of ick.
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  To the universe and to the people around you.
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  And it is what keeps you from being magnetic.
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  All the work that you're doing on magnetism, if underneath you are still
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  fighting with yourself, internally questioning yourself, that will
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  inhibit the flow of energy in you.
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  It will mess with your frequency, so to speak.
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  It's going to mess with everything that you do.
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  It's going to make life harder.
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  It's going to make it feel hard when you go to do something.
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  It's going to feel like when you do something, you don't get the
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  results that you think you should for the amount of work you put in.
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  You're working harder than you need to.
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  And the reason is you are not playing the energetic game.
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  Well, you are, but you don't know you are.
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  You're not using energy mechanics to your advantage.
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  You're ignoring them.
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  And you're using them to your disadvantage when you ignore them.
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  So that needs to be said.
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  That human design allows you to have a process for going through
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  that path of self discovery.
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  True self discovery, not surface level, but really understanding yourself.
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  I know what makes me tick.
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  I know what constricts me.
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  I know what expands me.
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  I know how to get into flow.
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  There is so much power in this.
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  And if you are constantly thinking about what you need to do, if
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  you're constantly worried, confused, forcing, anxious, frustrated, angry,
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  bitter, disappointed, stuck, then your energy is working against you.
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  And all of the magnetism work that you're doing, you're probably not
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  doing it, you're thinking about it.
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  You're trying to figure it out from a mental place.
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  And that's not the energetic game.
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  And that's what human design frees you from, is the mind game that will
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  keep you stuck playing a disadvantaged hand in the energetic game.
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  Human design will open you up to your own brand of magnetism, to your
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  true authenticity, and if you've been searching for that for a long time,
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  if you've been trying to dig in and really connect with who you are on a
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  soul level, what you have to offer in this world, how to make things easier
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  for you, your family, in your business.
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  I hope that this episode inspired you.
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  I hope that you enjoyed it.
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  I hope that you are fired up about activating your own magnetism.
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  Because it is in you.
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  It is possible for you.
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  It is something that you were born with.
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  It is your birthright.
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  It's time you claim it.
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  So I hope that this inspired you to do that, to go and claim your birthright,
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  that is your authenticity and your innate magnetism that comes with
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  being truly authentically who you are.
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  Everyone deserves to be themselves.
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  Fully and completely.
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  And you get rewarded by life.
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  All right.
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  Thank you so much for being here.
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  I appreciate you.
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  And remember, in order to have an unshakeable business, you must
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  first become an unshakeable human.
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  So thanks for letting us help you become unshakeable with human design, everyone.
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  We'll see you next time.
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  We'll see you there.