The Cost of People-Pleasing_ Choosing Yourself Without Guilt _ Janessa Neighbors

Soul + Systems™ with Jenn Fix · Jul 25, 2026 · 14m

For years, Janessa Neighbors carried responsibilities that were never truly hers. As the oldest daughter, she became a second mother, managed other people’s needs, and learned to earn love by always saying yes.

Then she made a different choice: she chose herself.

In this deeply relatable conversation, Janessa joins Jenn Fix to discuss recovering from people-pleasing, healing from parentification, setting boundaries without guilt, and discovering she was neurodivergent later in life.

Together, they explore what it means to calm a nervous system trained for hypervigilance, stop responding to…