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What About Your Friends · We Talk Back

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  Speaker 1: Welcome to We Talk Back Podcast, the production of iHeartRadio
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  Speaker 1: and The Black Effect Now.
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  Speaker 2: So we're just two unapologetically black women with an opinion
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  Speaker 2: who talks. What's up y'all? Thank you for tuning in
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  Speaker 2: for a new.
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  Speaker 3: Episode and We Talk Back the show dedicated to you
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  Speaker 3: dreamers and chasers. This is your co host aj Holiday.
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  Speaker 3: What's up, Tam Bam.
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  Speaker 2: You can never be too sure who we're gonna get
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  Speaker 2: in the beginning. Are we gonna get bitches and hoes,
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  Speaker 2: dreams and chasers? I think we should come up with
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  Speaker 2: something new for the new year. You know I agree that. Yeah,
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  Speaker 2: so let's do We'll come up with it anyway. It's
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  Speaker 2: Dan Bam, y'all. I love y'all, motherfucking as. I'm gonna
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  Speaker 2: keep telling y'all that in the mid year every year.
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  Speaker 2: How about your weekend?
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  Speaker 3: It was great. I did all these wonderful things from
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  Speaker 3: my bed.
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  Speaker 2: Oh yeah. She sent me a video of her and
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  Speaker 2: her cat. Laid up. Girl like her cat ate her
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  Speaker 2: up in the video. I ain't even gonna lie. The
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  Speaker 2: cat was like staring into my eyes in the video.
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  Speaker 2: That's a beautiful cat.
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  Speaker 3: I really feel like I do have like the prettiest
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  Speaker 3: cat in the world.
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  Speaker 2: That cat is. Yeah, I'm not talking about her v
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  Speaker 2: joinny you guys, I've never seen that. I'm talking about
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  Speaker 2: her her cat dotcha meat. She is, man, but that cat.
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  Speaker 3: Cats are different, man Like, if you ain't never had
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  Speaker 3: a cat, you thought she was gonna get like a
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  Speaker 3: cat dog. The type situation like these is two different.
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  Speaker 3: This bitch is a bitch, man Like, when she don't
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  Speaker 3: feel like getting touched, she be acting real stink and
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  Speaker 3: I be real mad about that because I want cuddles.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, like not right now, nah, bitch.
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  Speaker 3: And but waking me up three o'clock in the morning
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  Speaker 3: to get rubbed up shit like that, Like she literally
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  Speaker 3: stand on my chest and just yeah, I love her. Man.
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  Speaker 2: It looks like your love. And that's excellent. That's how
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  Speaker 2: I get a cat.
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  Speaker 3: That's all I did. And I did do some writing, okay, y'all.
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  Speaker 3: I am trying to write at least an hour today.
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  Speaker 3: So for Black Friday, I bought some vitamins from Vitamin Shop.
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  Speaker 3: I got fifty percent off of my trading view app
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  Speaker 3: that I pay every year. I wait till Black Friday
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  Speaker 3: every year because that shit is five ninety nine five
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  Speaker 3: hundred and ninety nine dollars, so I buy it. You know,
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  Speaker 3: it does seventy percent off of Black Friday. And then
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  Speaker 3: another subscription I added was Final Draft. Uh, it's for
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  Speaker 3: like screenplay writing. Now I've committed because I've spent money.
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  Speaker 3: See that, Like I do shit when I got to
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  Speaker 3: pay for it. Okay, So yeah, I like a little
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  Speaker 3: tool on their that it asking me you first signed, like,
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  Speaker 3: you know, like the whole you're accountable. So I'm getting
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  Speaker 3: like dings like bitch, you ain't right yet today.
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  Speaker 2: Oh no, I like that.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, that's not the right time.
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  Speaker 2: Procrastinates, you know me.
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  Speaker 3: Because I saw a post that said, even if the
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  Speaker 3: do date is five years from now, I'm still doing
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  Speaker 3: that ship the night before.
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  Speaker 2: That's me. I don't know why I'm like this. You
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  Speaker 2: work better under pressure, that's all. That's how I like
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  Speaker 2: to view it.
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  Speaker 3: But I be stressed the fuck out, but it gets
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  Speaker 3: done and it'd be.
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  Speaker 2: Good, but it gets done better because you're stressed.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, that's how.
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  Speaker 2: That's how I rationalize it to make it okay.
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  Speaker 3: The bullshit. So those are some of the things I
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  Speaker 3: don't want to do in twenty twenty five. I need
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  Speaker 3: to stop I just need to do do what I
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  Speaker 3: say I'm gonna do.
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  Speaker 2: We're gonna get it. We're gonna have an episode on
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  Speaker 2: that for sure. What did I do this weekend? Oh?
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  Speaker 2: I did all the girlfriend things, you know. I'm like
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  Speaker 2: got a lot of friend circles that I belong to
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  Speaker 2: and all our I had two Christmas parties this weekend.
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  Speaker 2: One of them was a girls house, like we had
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  Speaker 2: gingerbread houses, but it's woodn't and we had to decorate
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  Speaker 2: and paint it and whoever did it the best won
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  Speaker 2: a gift, and of course I want. I did a
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  Speaker 2: cute little barn house and I put Santa's footprints on
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  Speaker 2: top of the house to me, and I put little
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  Speaker 2: lights on it, and it was just so cute. I
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  Speaker 2: had so much fun at that party. She had it
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  Speaker 2: curated so nice. She had like a rose at your
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  Speaker 2: seat with a little chalkboard with your name on it.
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  Speaker 2: It's so cute.
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  Speaker 3: That sounds nice and cute.
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  Speaker 2: It was super cute and we were drinking. It was
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  Speaker 2: very merry. Then the next night it was my other
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  Speaker 2: girls group. It was our fourteenth annual Girlfriend's Gift Exchange
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  Speaker 2: and we do the secret Sanna get a secret Santa
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  Speaker 2: give each other gifts, and we keep the amount low
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  Speaker 2: fifty dollars minimum. You know, that's the minute you can go.
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  Speaker 2: You can spend ten thousand if.
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  Speaker 3: You want, but I think giving ermaz bags.
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  Speaker 2: Oh no, no, we keep it cute. It'd be between
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  Speaker 2: fifty and one hundred dollars they spent. We spend on
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  Speaker 2: each other. A lot of them have kids. They can't
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  Speaker 2: afford to be like, you know, going crazy for their
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  Speaker 2: friends when they got children, to buy four and stuff
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  Speaker 2: like that. So we keep it cute and not go
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  Speaker 2: too crazy. And we did the Old Lady Gang this year,
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  Speaker 2: and they had a decorated cute like they had like
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  Speaker 2: we all dressed as old bitches, gray wigs, canes. I mean,
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  Speaker 2: it was so much fun. And they had like urine
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  Speaker 2: sample shots. They had like uh the needle like a shot, yes, syringe,
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  Speaker 2: it was a shot. They had chill peel like the
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  Speaker 2: medicine bottle and it had candy in it and they
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  Speaker 2: had your name on it and your birthday.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: They also had like atry seat and let you know
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  Speaker 2: where you were sitting. They took pictures off our social
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  Speaker 2: media and aged us. So it's like this old lass
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  Speaker 2: lady with my face. It's supposed to be me as
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  Speaker 2: a granny.
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  Speaker 3: I was like, that ain't me.
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  Speaker 2: That ain't how I'm a look.
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  Speaker 3: But that's how you sound as Helen. It ain't me.
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  Speaker 2: That's how I learn. Y'all heard that. I know y'all
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  Speaker 2: heard it.
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  Speaker 3: Whatever the old last lady came out of there, that
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  Speaker 3: ain't how I look.
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  Speaker 2: So it's Helen. That was fun and that was my
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  Speaker 2: weekend for real. Oh and I have not told anyone
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  Speaker 2: of this, but I guess I'll share it here right now.
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  Speaker 2: I I auditioned for an acting academy in New York
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  Speaker 2: and I got here. Oh shit, No, So I started
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  Speaker 2: February fourth in New York.
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  Speaker 3: You'll know I'll be all over.
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  Speaker 2: Doing anything. Yeah, I'm going to action school starting February
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  Speaker 2: fourth in New York City on Broadway.
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  Speaker 3: I hear that girl so lately I've been trying to
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  Speaker 3: you know, so in South Carolina, you don't have to
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  Speaker 3: have any certification for apparentegal cause I'm like, damn it,
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  Speaker 3: I'm not gonna be a little lawyer tomorrow.
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  Speaker 2: Maybe I can do that, do it.
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  Speaker 3: So I actually have a paralegal interview coming up.
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  Speaker 2: Excellent, excellent, man, I like, we're going into our second life.
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  Speaker 2: You know, we've done the first one, and this is
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  Speaker 2: our second lifetime. In this lifetime, yep, you know.
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  Speaker 3: So maybe at some point I might have to move
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  Speaker 3: to a damn state where I can legally get a
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  Speaker 3: California did cha. I'm not going back to school, fuck y'all.
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  Speaker 3: I'm not doing it. But I need to do some
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  Speaker 3: kimk shit because I definitely I just feel like there's
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  Speaker 3: a lot of hidden things that you don't know until
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  Speaker 3: you get to these other levels. Not there's okay, I
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  Speaker 3: know a lot of hidden things, right, but then there's
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  Speaker 3: still things that you don't know and understand till you
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  Speaker 3: actually experience them.
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  Speaker 2: So I feel like there's.
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  Speaker 3: Some some secret stuff I want to learn. Legal, of course,
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  Speaker 3: of course, so maybe I could be your entertainment lawyer.
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  Speaker 3: Bitch yep, I will let you do all the contract
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  Speaker 3: you know.
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  Speaker 2: I hate that shit. Let's get in the scene.
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  Speaker 3: The people is coming for gas. And when I say
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  Speaker 3: the people, so this attorney what is his name, big
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  Speaker 3: booty hole?
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  Speaker 2: What's his name?
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  Speaker 3: Tom Busby?
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  Speaker 2: So?
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  Speaker 3: Uh he actually put up I think he wasn't he
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  Speaker 3: the same attorney that Tony Buzzby. Excuse me, wasn't he
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  Speaker 3: the same attorney that put up like the hotline for
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  Speaker 3: people to call in who were allegedly violated by Diddy
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  Speaker 3: or jay Z?
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't know. I didn't, I wasn't. I wasn't.
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  Speaker 3: Pretty sure is this guy? I'm pretty sure? So imagine
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  Speaker 3: what type of crazies came through the hotline, right, Not
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  Speaker 3: to discredit anybody who actually had some crazy ass experiences
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  Speaker 3: at any point in their lives with these people, because
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  Speaker 3: I mean, we don't know, right, but I think when
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  Speaker 3: you open some shit up like that to the public,
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  Speaker 3: you will have.
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  Speaker 2: Yes just calling in trying to see how they can
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  Speaker 2: get a piece of the pie.
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  Speaker 3: So you then discredit the people who actually have suffered, yes,
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  Speaker 3: and then also like y'all not coming from no criminal well,
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  Speaker 3: judity is in jail, right, So this is for more
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  Speaker 3: recent things. But the thing that they're that Diddy is
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  Speaker 3: being sued for the civil lawsuit of this thirteen year
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  Speaker 3: old girl that came out a couple months ago. They
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  Speaker 3: have now edited that and added jay Z to it.
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  Speaker 3: The same Yeah, So what they're saying is what the
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  Speaker 3: Tony Buzzby is saying, is that they tried to do
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  Speaker 3: a mediation with jay Z. They reached out to him
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  Speaker 3: and his lawyers and wanted to do a mediation. They
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  Speaker 3: weren't asking for any money. What what the fuck y'all
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  Speaker 3: want mediation when there's a civil lawsuit? What else you
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  Speaker 3: want to talk about other than ways to make this
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  Speaker 3: go away?
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  Speaker 2: Right?
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  Speaker 3: So they send a demand letter saying, Hey, if you
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  Speaker 3: don't pay such and such or don't sit down and
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  Speaker 3: have this conversation with us, we're gonna go public with it.
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  Speaker 3: I guess jay Z said, fuck it, we'll public with it.
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  Speaker 3: And I think this may be the first time we
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  Speaker 3: saw an actual statement from an accuser, not accuser, excuse me,
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  Speaker 3: an actual statement from the person being accused jay Z.
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  Speaker 3: You know it wasn't from an attorney, so he put
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  Speaker 3: out a stationment.
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  Speaker 2: It just almost seems like a witch hunt, you know,
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  Speaker 2: like you know, I would. Jay Z is one of
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  Speaker 2: my favorites. Did he was too, So it's just very
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  Speaker 2: sad to see all of this take place. And I
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  Speaker 2: hope it's not true, but you never know. But I
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  Speaker 2: just hope this is definitely just another attemp to take
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  Speaker 2: down a black man and not true. He don't He's
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  Speaker 2: never appeared to be the type that like children, but
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  Speaker 2: who knows. You never know what's lying beneath the surface.
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  Speaker 3: Okay, so let's do some math and let's just take
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  Speaker 3: a look at some historical events. So I think Diddy,
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  Speaker 3: I'm not Diddy. Jay Z is like what fifty five now, right,
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  Speaker 3: So they're a legend that this incident happened over two
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  Speaker 3: decades ago, in two thousand, right, So we're talking twenty
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  Speaker 3: five years ago. Jay Z and Diddy would have been
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  Speaker 3: like thirty at that time. This young girl was at
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  Speaker 3: Grammy's or a VMA party, like what you're doing there?
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  Speaker 3: A friend dropped her off and she called her dad
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  Speaker 3: to pick her up after the incident, like these are
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  Speaker 3: the things that are in the lawsuit. Why were you there? Right? Right?
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  Speaker 3: So sometimes we have to take accountability for the things.
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  Speaker 3: And this is not victim blaming, but you cannot put
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  Speaker 3: yourself in risky situations, right because it sounds like you
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  Speaker 3: ended up in somebody's hotel room, in a back room somewhere,
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  Speaker 3: and you know, let's not forget that shit.
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  Speaker 2: How old was Foxy Brown? Mm hmm? How old was Beyauncey?
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  Speaker 2: How old is Aliyah?
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  Speaker 3: So we're not gonna act like grown men don't be
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  Speaker 3: at little girls because both of us, right have been
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  Speaker 3: young girls looking older mm hmm unless you lie your age.
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  Speaker 2: I could definitely remember a lot of grown men trying
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  Speaker 2: to see what was up with me as a young.
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  Speaker 3: Girl, knowing your age and not knowing Yes, yes, mm hmm.
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  Speaker 3: Don't do it, bitch, because there's a lot of people
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  Speaker 3: out here that would be shamed.
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  Speaker 2: Okay, yes, I can remember. I'm not gonna tell this. No,
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  Speaker 2: telling here is terrible. I ain't gonna tell it.
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  Speaker 3: I don't know, man, Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: Me neither. I'm just speechless on that. But you know,
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  Speaker 2: every dog has a day, so we'll see what happened
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  Speaker 2: with that.
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  Speaker 3: And you know, the adult, the adult is so the
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  Speaker 3: responsible party, yep, right, But you know it took you
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  Speaker 3: twenty five years to want to do this, to file
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  Speaker 3: these lawsuits and stuff like that, because now it's just
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  Speaker 3: a it just doesn't look credible right at the.
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  Speaker 2: Smith apart, that's the part. It just don't look credible
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  Speaker 2: at all. But I just feel like every man who
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  Speaker 2: has influence should probably be like holding his nuts tight
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  Speaker 2: right now, especially if he ever even did the smallest
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  Speaker 2: infraction of anything. Like that shit could come back to
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  Speaker 2: haunt you twenty five years later.
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  Speaker 3: And see, that's my thing though, you know when they say, oh,
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  Speaker 3: they're trying to take the black man down, right, why
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  Speaker 3: is there anything out there that could possibly incriminate you? Why?
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  Speaker 3: Why do why do those things exist? Because I do
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  Speaker 3: understand that, you know, they could create stuff, But we
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  Speaker 3: saw videos of Diddy's stumping Cassie like you, actually we
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  Speaker 3: did that in a public place, and if you didn't
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  Speaker 3: give a fuck about who saw it there, I can
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  Speaker 3: only imagine the things that you did to.
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  Speaker 2: Her and public in private, in private?
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  Speaker 3: Right, So why do they have these things on y'all
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  Speaker 3: in the first place? And if you want to say
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  Speaker 3: it's the powers that be, these niggas stop playing the game.
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  Speaker 3: They try to suit this one and then all of
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  Speaker 3: a sudden these charges come up.
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  Speaker 2: We know they do this to us.
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  Speaker 3: And this is why I still say, niggas don't want
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  Speaker 3: to knock all this shit over and start a new
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  Speaker 3: They just want close proximity to whiteness so they can
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  Speaker 3: do the dirty shit that them people do mm hm.
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  Speaker 2: And that's the problem.
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  Speaker 3: So before we could talk about any other community, we
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  Speaker 3: need to clean our porch.
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  Speaker 2: Better sweep around your own front door.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, like we gotta clean our porch. Because that's the
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  Speaker 3: grand scale, right, Let's just talk about on the small
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  Speaker 3: micro level, like within families and how we know we
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  Speaker 3: got predators in these.
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  Speaker 2: Families, in our families, in our families.
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  Speaker 3: Did you see that freestyle from that little girl, the
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  Speaker 3: young girl rapping and she was talking about it's it's
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  Speaker 3: going viral right now because I know a little duval
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  Speaker 3: just posted it.
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  Speaker 2: I know I sent it to you.
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  Speaker 3: She had like blonde hair or something. But she was
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  Speaker 3: rapping about like how the families be protecting the demons
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  Speaker 3: while they violating the angels, like within the family and
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  Speaker 3: they get protected the women. The women protect these men.
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  Speaker 2: Mm hmmm.
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  Speaker 3: A lot of the times they.
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  Speaker 2: Know exactly who.
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  Speaker 3: We know exactly who these niggas be.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, we do. That's the truth.
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  Speaker 3: Baby got a couple of dollars. People overlook a lot
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  Speaker 3: of things.
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  Speaker 2: Mm hmm.
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  Speaker 3: But this is the age of the query's baby. Ain't
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  Speaker 3: nothing hidden, no more.
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  Speaker 2: Than everything everything. Yep.
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  Speaker 3: I just hope my fucking irs don't come after me.
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  Speaker 2: But I think you know it's it's unfortunately men like women.
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  Speaker 2: You you know, we going on through life. It's like,
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  Speaker 2: if I've become very successful and super rich and famous,
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  Speaker 2: I ain't did shit to nobody that's gonna come back
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  Speaker 2: to like haunt me in this way. And it's just like,
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  Speaker 2: how do you not be able to go through life
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  Speaker 2: without violating people? You know you can though, That's what
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  Speaker 2: I'm saying. Men, it just seems why they can, right,
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  Speaker 2: I don't know. I don't know. I don't know why
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  Speaker 2: that is.
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  Speaker 3: But I mean, we we're talking about like like Diddy
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  Speaker 3: for instance, Like he made a living off that, off
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  Speaker 3: the party life. That's how the songs were created. Right,
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  Speaker 3: Ain't no party like a Diddy party? Like that's what
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  Speaker 3: he's literally known for and he's being prosecuted for that now.
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  Speaker 2: Hmm. That's to be more careful. You gotta be careful, man.
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  Speaker 3: And also, just like Drake, Jake be having these bitch
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  Speaker 3: aside paperwork, so maybe you got to get some more
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  Speaker 3: NDA's out there. Yeah, before you violate them, get him
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  Speaker 3: to sign some paperwork that.
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  Speaker 2: They be violated, because some people like that kind of shit. Anyway.
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  Speaker 2: The shades are gray. An influencer drops nineteen K on
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  Speaker 2: the surgery to become an I put in heavy quotations.
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  Speaker 2: A virgin again what a doctor warns of the risks involved.
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  Speaker 2: So this girl renewed her v card so to speak,
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  Speaker 2: by having a nineteen thousand dollars vaginal rejuvenation operation basically
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  Speaker 2: to uh recorrect her hymen right to like make it
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  Speaker 2: a new.
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  Speaker 3: So I guess the next time after the surgery, whenever
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  Speaker 3: she has sex, she'll bleed again.
• 17:43
  Speaker 2: Why I don't get it. That's so stupid. That's a
• 17:46
  Speaker 2: waste of nineteen thousand dollars because.
• 17:49
  Speaker 3: You're not mess somebody. Yeah, and then now it's like public,
• 17:53
  Speaker 3: so now like it's not like you're about to get
• 17:55
  Speaker 3: a husband, like, hey, you're getting a virgin and no, bitch,
• 17:58
  Speaker 3: we know that you had ury to get that Gucci back,
• 18:01
  Speaker 3: and are you going to get it tightened? Also like drivenation,
• 18:05
  Speaker 3: Well she only twenty three, it should still be very.
• 18:08
  Speaker 2: Oh yeah elastic. Oh yeah, twenty three, that's it's still
• 18:13
  Speaker 2: super tight. Yeah, it depends.
• 18:16
  Speaker 3: She might be a porn star and I had a
• 18:18
  Speaker 3: lot of dick because why, like, what is the point.
• 18:25
  Speaker 2: So you brush your teeth, does that mean you haven't
• 18:29
  Speaker 2: you never had given hand? If you brush your teeth
• 18:32
  Speaker 2: every day, it's starting over. I guess every day we
• 18:36
  Speaker 2: live in a society, you get to decide what reality
• 18:40
  Speaker 2: is every day. So she's a virgin again? Who am
• 18:43
  Speaker 2: I to told her she's not at this point?
• 18:46
  Speaker 3: And I wonder when she planned on having sex again.
• 18:48
  Speaker 3: I wonder when she planned on busting and wide open again.
• 18:51
  Speaker 3: I don't remember ever having that though. I don't remember
• 18:53
  Speaker 3: ever like bleeding bleeding me neither, because I feel like
• 18:57
  Speaker 3: there's other ways outside of sex to.
• 19:00
  Speaker 2: Because we were like and all that stuff, But I
• 19:03
  Speaker 2: still don't remember it bleeding from that, you know, So
• 19:06
  Speaker 2: I don't know. I don't know, y'all. I'm no pride
• 19:10
  Speaker 2: to you with your new pussy. Yeah, congratulations.
• 19:15
  Speaker 3: So would you go to a church that has like
• 19:18
  Speaker 3: an AI Jesus?
• 19:20
  Speaker 2: Excuse me? Say come again? Say what? So?
• 19:24
  Speaker 3: Look this church, says church has an AI Jesus for confessions.
• 19:28
  Speaker 3: It gave me so much advice. One user says, so
• 19:33
  Speaker 3: is this the messiah they put ai? Aya says, just
• 19:38
  Speaker 3: in case, artificial intelligence hasn't been taken over taking on
• 19:42
  Speaker 3: enough jobs lately. Now it's replacing the almighty. A church
• 19:46
  Speaker 3: in Switzerland is now using an AI hologram of Jesus.
• 19:51
  Speaker 3: I wonder what color they got him to take confessions
• 19:55
  Speaker 3: A hologram Jesus wife to take confessions from athletic worshippers,
• 20:01
  Speaker 3: as seen in a wild viral video, and one user says,
• 20:04
  Speaker 3: I was surprised it was so easy, and though it's
• 20:08
  Speaker 3: a machine, it gave me so much advice.
• 20:11
  Speaker 2: Yeah, check GPT do that shit too. Yeah, That's what
• 20:14
  Speaker 2: I'm saying. Is yet GPT Jesus right?
• 20:17
  Speaker 3: So yeah, so they got like the image. There's a
• 20:20
  Speaker 3: video out there, y'all. This is on n y Post. Also,
• 20:23
  Speaker 3: it says before entering robo Jesus cautions do not disclose
• 20:31
  Speaker 3: personal information under any circumstances this service. Oh, use the
• 20:36
  Speaker 3: service at your own Oh. I cannot fucking read. What
• 20:38
  Speaker 3: is happening?
• 20:39
  Speaker 2: Girls acting like.
• 20:44
  Speaker 3: The whole time we've been doing this shit, they resided
• 20:48
  Speaker 3: really well.
• 20:49
  Speaker 2: You always be like, what is happening? No, But I
• 20:51
  Speaker 2: feel like some days it's worse though.
• 20:54
  Speaker 3: It's like I be It's not that.
• 20:57
  Speaker 4: I'm not seeing ahead of the coming out of your mouth.
• 21:01
  Speaker 3: I feel like that's what it is like. Maybe what
• 21:03
  Speaker 3: is it called dyslexic?
• 21:04
  Speaker 2: A little bit? I don't know. Oh, I can't say.
• 21:07
  Speaker 3: Your hand bitch, and we got a new administration. We
• 21:10
  Speaker 3: could say all the bad words now, Okay, that's.
• 21:14
  Speaker 2: Fucked up, Okay, it says.
• 21:16
  Speaker 3: The futuristic Shrine features a confessional booth with a screen
• 21:21
  Speaker 3: displaying the face of Jesus and Who's I just want
• 21:23
  Speaker 3: to know, like who determined? Like the face of Jesus
• 21:28
  Speaker 3: through the great Before entering robo, Jesus cautions, do not
• 21:35
  Speaker 3: disclose personal information under any circumstances. Use this service at
• 21:39
  Speaker 3: your own risk. Press the button if you accept.
• 21:43
  Speaker 2: Okay, So you.
• 21:44
  Speaker 3: Can go there and tell this Jesus all the things, okay,
• 21:49
  Speaker 3: and he's going to keep all your sins and secrets.
• 21:52
  Speaker 2: I would go in there and tell him all kind
• 21:53
  Speaker 2: of shit they wouldn't true, just to see what Jesus
• 21:56
  Speaker 2: is gonna say.
• 21:58
  Speaker 3: Jesus is supposed to say, like you're forgiven every time?
• 22:01
  Speaker 2: Right, I don't know what a Jesus is gonna say.
• 22:05
  Speaker 2: I kill somebody and see what happened, and see if
• 22:09
  Speaker 2: AI Jesus called the police on me, because Alex will.
• 22:14
  Speaker 3: If you tell the police Alexa done her a bitch,
• 22:19
  Speaker 3: getting her ass whooped and called the police before.
• 22:22
  Speaker 2: Well that's good on Alexa, because yes, we need some
• 22:25
  Speaker 2: more support out here. Good. Yeah, that's wold and the
• 22:32
  Speaker 2: earth is in shambles at this point, zero stars.
• 22:37
  Speaker 3: I don't know. Maybe God will come look at me
• 22:39
  Speaker 3: like that.
• 22:40
  Speaker 2: Y'all ought to be shamed with y'allself with that one.
• 22:43
  Speaker 2: He don't even look like me. And I ain't coming
• 22:46
  Speaker 2: back there, y'all ghetto.
• 22:48
  Speaker 3: Y'all be looking for me, and I ain't never coming back.
• 22:51
  Speaker 2: Talking about I'm coming back. I'm not coming back there.
• 22:54
  Speaker 2: Y'all show out too bad. Hmm. So we heard that.
• 23:02
  Speaker 3: The gen Zers are having problems finding and keeping like
• 23:06
  Speaker 3: real life friends, and I don't feel like that's just
• 23:10
  Speaker 3: exclusive to their group, because I feel like we might
• 23:12
  Speaker 3: have went through the same type of shit, or we
• 23:14
  Speaker 3: still have grown people who be out here putting on
• 23:16
  Speaker 3: the internet how they don't got no friends.
• 23:18
  Speaker 2: And no friends, Like I just see a lot of
• 23:21
  Speaker 2: young girls, especially in the hair salon, and like my kids,
• 23:27
  Speaker 2: my friends kids and stuff like that, Like they say
• 23:29
  Speaker 2: I don't have no friends, and it's so often I
• 23:32
  Speaker 2: hear that, and I just think that's the strangest thing.
• 23:35
  Speaker 2: And I think it's important. It's so important for us
• 23:38
  Speaker 2: to have friends. I couldn't imagine my life without friends neither.
• 23:44
  Speaker 2: It's weird. It's very weird, and it's sad. So I
• 23:48
  Speaker 2: wanted to have a conversation about it, and you know,
• 23:51
  Speaker 2: get our gen Z listeners and some grown women too,
• 23:54
  Speaker 2: you know, to help them find friendships and find your
• 23:59
  Speaker 2: tribe you need now more than ever. Yep, we'll be
• 24:04
  Speaker 2: right back.
• 24:09
  Speaker 3: So you know, personally, I have never had problems making
• 24:16
  Speaker 3: or keeping friends. Now I have lost some friends over
• 24:18
  Speaker 3: the years, and I think that the more fucking friends
• 24:21
  Speaker 3: you lose it gets easier. But I do mourn the
• 24:24
  Speaker 3: loss of those friendships still, right but because.
• 24:28
  Speaker 2: Question death, especially with someone that you know you loved,
• 24:31
  Speaker 2: you know what, it's almost like someone died. There are
• 24:34
  Speaker 2: relationships right now that I like. Some of my closest
• 24:38
  Speaker 2: friends in life I'm not even talking to and I'm
• 24:40
  Speaker 2: too stubborn to reach out.
• 24:44
  Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm never I don't really, I don't have ego
• 24:48
  Speaker 3: when it comes to people I love. But now you
• 24:50
  Speaker 3: just be straight disrespecting me, like I'm gonna have to
• 24:53
  Speaker 3: cut your ass off. I have a lot of tolerance
• 24:55
  Speaker 3: for bullshit. It's a lot like I as long as
• 24:58
  Speaker 3: I know who you are, I'm gonna deal with it
• 25:00
  Speaker 3: so we can continue on. But when the shit get
• 25:02
  Speaker 3: a little bit too hectic, I gotta get out of there.
• 25:06
  Speaker 2: I just be feeling like I be working too hard
• 25:09
  Speaker 2: to make relationships work, and now I just at a
• 25:11
  Speaker 2: place where I just I'm okay with my circle being
• 25:16
  Speaker 2: smaller and more quality, you know, I don't have to
• 25:19
  Speaker 2: have because I have like a ton of friends, you know.
• 25:23
  Speaker 2: So now I've over my life, I've had like more
• 25:27
  Speaker 2: friends than the average beer right. But that's because one
• 25:31
  Speaker 2: I'm coolest fuck, and two that because the environment that
• 25:35
  Speaker 2: I work in is just always women, you know. So
• 25:38
  Speaker 2: I always make relationships with women. But everybody ain't your friend,
• 25:43
  Speaker 2: you know. So sometimes at this age, I'm okay with
• 25:48
  Speaker 2: letting a couple of them going with their life, you know.
• 25:52
  Speaker 3: And see, maybe that's what the younger generation is recognizing
• 25:54
  Speaker 3: that though we know these people and we might even
• 25:57
  Speaker 3: congregate with them, sometimes are they really our friends. It's
• 26:00
  Speaker 3: like the hood Healer on Instagram put up a post
• 26:02
  Speaker 3: earlier and was like, listen the zodiac of your most
• 26:06
  Speaker 3: dependable and then list the zodiac that you get into
• 26:11
  Speaker 3: it with the most, and really like it's the same
• 26:15
  Speaker 3: fucking people like I can say cancer is dependable, but
• 26:19
  Speaker 3: also I get into it with a motherfucking cancer, like it's.
• 26:22
  Speaker 2: The same person.
• 26:23
  Speaker 3: But I just feel like maybe the younger generation is
• 26:29
  Speaker 3: just like, oh, we're just associates. Maybe they don't really like.
• 26:33
  Speaker 2: But I'm but not even that, because I will hear
• 26:36
  Speaker 2: young girls say I'm like, why then you don't go
• 26:38
  Speaker 2: out sometime? I don't have nobody to go out with,
• 26:42
  Speaker 2: Like they don't even have bitches to hang out with,
• 26:44
  Speaker 2: like and now I would in my day, I would say,
• 26:48
  Speaker 2: this ain't my friend. We just go out, you know,
• 26:51
  Speaker 2: we cool and we go out, but I don't call
• 26:53
  Speaker 2: her to cry on her shoulder. You know, did you
• 26:56
  Speaker 2: have relationships with like girls that you would just put
• 26:59
  Speaker 2: your part friends when you know in the twenties.
• 27:02
  Speaker 3: I feel like in my twenties, I like people with
• 27:07
  Speaker 3: I had like people here and there that I would
• 27:09
  Speaker 3: go out with, But it's not like somebody I talked
• 27:11
  Speaker 3: to on a daily basis, Like maybe we were like
• 27:14
  Speaker 3: trying to see if we would be friends type thing.
• 27:17
  Speaker 3: Like like when I moved to Atlanta and you meet people,
• 27:19
  Speaker 3: you know what I'm saying, So you kind of like
• 27:20
  Speaker 3: leaning through people, y'all? Might hang out a couple of times,
• 27:23
  Speaker 3: but they're not really my friends. I didn't have. I've
• 27:25
  Speaker 3: never had any women that I actually hang out with
• 27:28
  Speaker 3: consistently and not consider them my friend.
• 27:32
  Speaker 2: I would, Yeah, that's fair, I did. I knew I
• 27:36
  Speaker 2: would have women that we would go out, but that
• 27:39
  Speaker 2: would be our relationship, that we part of the relationship. Yeah,
• 27:44
  Speaker 2: we party, but I'm not me and her not going
• 27:46
  Speaker 2: to church together. You know we're not. I'm not telling
• 27:50
  Speaker 2: you when somebody died in my family. I'm not calling
• 27:53
  Speaker 2: you for that. You know you're not that friend, but
• 27:57
  Speaker 2: you're still a friend. You're my party friend. We get
• 27:59
  Speaker 2: in the clubs for you together.
• 28:03
  Speaker 3: You know these levels to this ship. It's levels to friendships.
• 28:07
  Speaker 3: But to be a young person and just not have
• 28:11
  Speaker 3: no Yeah, as women, women, that's the one thing we
• 28:14
  Speaker 3: have on men, right, men. I don't think men really
• 28:17
  Speaker 3: cultivate like healthy relationships like women do throughout their lives.
• 28:21
  Speaker 3: They always say we're gonna die aloge, but usually we
• 28:23
  Speaker 3: got somebody, Okay, it's gonna be a bitch bestie, We're
• 28:26
  Speaker 3: gonna be old as fuck and the nursing home together
• 28:29
  Speaker 3: like y'all niggas being there by y'allself. But I feel
• 28:32
  Speaker 3: like women, over the course of their lives, they do
• 28:34
  Speaker 3: cultivate healthy relationships, especially Black women, Like we all got like,
• 28:41
  Speaker 3: how do you get through life without girl friends? Yes?
• 28:46
  Speaker 2: I need I got me air, Like I was talking.
• 28:53
  Speaker 2: So I was on the phone with this guy I've
• 28:55
  Speaker 2: been talking to, and I was like, so excited about
• 28:59
  Speaker 2: the gifts that we at giving each other because we
• 29:01
  Speaker 2: always get each other like little Christmas glasses or ornaments.
• 29:04
  Speaker 2: And I was just telling him all the stuff I got,
• 29:06
  Speaker 2: and I got some really cute like a shot glass
• 29:09
  Speaker 2: and a really pretty cup, and he was like, y'all
• 29:12
  Speaker 2: gay as hell. I was like, what.
• 29:15
  Speaker 3: Niggas always think women gay? And he was like, I
• 29:19
  Speaker 3: mean you're gay back, like everybody ain't gay?
• 29:22
  Speaker 2: Yeah I am. I'm not gay gay. I just be
• 29:24
  Speaker 2: drunk gay one game. So he was like, could you
• 29:29
  Speaker 2: imagine I just come here and talk about a year
• 29:31
  Speaker 2: about homeboy brought me this cup. But maybe y'all niggas
• 29:36
  Speaker 2: need to be like do that with each other. I
• 29:38
  Speaker 2: was like, that's that's the problem. That's why y'all be
• 29:40
  Speaker 2: so angry because y'all not doing nice things and with
• 29:43
  Speaker 2: each other. You'd be like, nah, y'all gay as hell,
• 29:47
  Speaker 2: bought each other some cups, Like.
• 29:51
  Speaker 3: You cannot tell niggas that women don't be eating each
• 29:54
  Speaker 3: other couchie on friends on girlfriends trips and stuff like,
• 29:57
  Speaker 3: are y'all sick?
• 29:58
  Speaker 2: I'm never eating my friends on a vacation with them.
• 30:01
  Speaker 2: I'm pretty sure that shit goes down.
• 30:03
  Speaker 3: And some people friends groups like they I don't know
• 30:06
  Speaker 3: if that's a friend though, Like what is that?
• 30:09
  Speaker 2: I don't know.
• 30:10
  Speaker 3: I'm pretty sure it goes down. But the majority of
• 30:14
  Speaker 3: the time absolutely fucking not. Okay, this is going to
• 30:18
  Speaker 3: get away from yall, niggas.
• 30:20
  Speaker 2: Okay.
• 30:23
  Speaker 3: I found this article on very well minded dot com
• 30:26
  Speaker 3: and it says I don't need friends. Why you might
• 30:31
  Speaker 3: feel this way Sometimes it feels better to be alone. Now.
• 30:35
  Speaker 3: I am one for isolation a little bit me too,
• 30:38
  Speaker 3: But if it's like a mental health thing, why you're isolating, like,
• 30:42
  Speaker 3: you'll find that actually being with people like mine, you
• 30:47
  Speaker 3: got some things in common with, can actually pull you
• 30:49
  Speaker 3: out of at the place face yeah, because if it's
• 30:53
  Speaker 3: a healthy isolation, like you like, look, I got deadlines
• 30:55
  Speaker 3: for shit, like I'm I'm grinding, I'm focused. But if
• 30:59
  Speaker 3: it's a I'm depressed. I don't have no friends type
• 31:02
  Speaker 3: shit in the house every weekend.
• 31:04
  Speaker 2: That might be a problem.
• 31:05
  Speaker 3: You might need to if you don't have any friends,
• 31:07
  Speaker 3: at least get a therapist.
• 31:09
  Speaker 2: Sometimes I isolate myself because my social barometer is just
• 31:13
  Speaker 2: completely diminished. Like I don't have nothing. I talk to
• 31:16
  Speaker 2: bitches all day. Listen when you do hair, you are
• 31:18
  Speaker 2: a therapist. I don't care what nobody say. I listen
• 31:21
  Speaker 2: to people's stories. I laugh the inn. I always tell
• 31:24
  Speaker 2: them the entertainment is free because I'm always in here
• 31:26
  Speaker 2: entertaining while I'm doing the hair. But then I have
• 31:28
  Speaker 2: my friends, my relationships, and like me and you had
• 31:31
  Speaker 2: a conversation yesterday and it was really about some personal shit,
• 31:34
  Speaker 2: you know, that we talked about. And sometimes it can
• 31:37
  Speaker 2: be heavy, and then I'm talking over here, I'm talking
• 31:40
  Speaker 2: over there. Sometimes I just have to go in the
• 31:42
  Speaker 2: house and shut the fuck up. Then I gotta come
• 31:45
  Speaker 2: on this shit and talk to y'all. Sometimes I just
• 31:48
  Speaker 2: have to shut the fuck up for a little while
• 31:50
  Speaker 2: and just close all communication off because I'm over stimulated. Yes,
• 31:55
  Speaker 2: that's meager.
• 31:56
  Speaker 3: I definitely get tired of talking, okay, especially some shit happened.
• 32:00
  Speaker 3: I feel like I got a call everybody I know
• 32:01
  Speaker 3: tell them what happened. But I am learning to not
• 32:04
  Speaker 3: do that. You sound like a broken record after a while, Like,
• 32:08
  Speaker 3: and I really have anxiety at the end of the
• 32:10
  Speaker 3: day after I talk to all these bitches about the
• 32:12
  Speaker 3: same thing and total same fucking story.
• 32:14
  Speaker 2: M M. Have you ever called somebody to tell the
• 32:16
  Speaker 2: story and then before you started, You'm like, I don't
• 32:19
  Speaker 2: even want to tell that story, an Moore, I'm tired
• 32:21
  Speaker 2: of telling it. I like, you know what, never mine,
• 32:23
  Speaker 2: don't even worry about it.
• 32:24
  Speaker 3: Don't worry about it, man, I'm sick of it. I'm
• 32:27
  Speaker 3: actually over it.
• 32:28
  Speaker 2: No love story short, Fuck that, nigga.
• 32:32
  Speaker 3: That's what I was calling to say, exactly. So it
• 32:35
  Speaker 3: says there are many reasons you might say I don't
• 32:38
  Speaker 3: need friends, or you may simply wonder why don't I
• 32:42
  Speaker 3: have friends. One explanation is that you might feel that relationship,
• 32:46
  Speaker 3: that friendship doesn't offer a lot of value in your life.
• 32:49
  Speaker 3: Another is that you could already have plenty of social
• 32:53
  Speaker 3: support from family. Family and friends is different things, so
• 32:57
  Speaker 3: you don't need a wide circle of friends or acquaintances.
• 32:59
  Speaker 3: Whatever your reasons, it can be helpful to learn why
• 33:03
  Speaker 3: you might feel you don't need friends or don't have friends.
• 33:07
  Speaker 3: To understand how calmon this is and to know some
• 33:10
  Speaker 3: of the benefits of making friends, we also share things
• 33:13
  Speaker 3: you can do if you decide to add more friendships
• 33:16
  Speaker 3: to your life. So it says reasons you feel like
• 33:19
  Speaker 3: you don't need friends. It says if you feel like
• 33:21
  Speaker 3: you don't have friends in your life, there are a
• 33:23
  Speaker 3: few different reasons why you might feel this way. They
• 33:26
  Speaker 3: include you prefer solitudes. We just said that, So it
• 33:29
  Speaker 3: says some people prefer solitude over being in the company
• 33:32
  Speaker 3: of others, particularly people who are more introverted. I hate
• 33:36
  Speaker 3: all these labels, so I'm introvert and extrovert. I think
• 33:39
  Speaker 3: the word is actually imbivert like you both. Like I'm
• 33:44
  Speaker 3: gonna be in a social setting and social seting social setting,
• 33:46
  Speaker 3: and all of a sudden, I need to fucking recharge, bitch,
• 33:49
  Speaker 3: and I'm sneaking out the back. Don't I't even telling
• 33:51
  Speaker 3: nobody I'm leaving. I'm out because I feel like way
• 33:54
  Speaker 3: every time I go someplace, like I'm entertainment every time.
• 33:59
  Speaker 3: Like if I go and don't talk, it's a problem,
• 34:01
  Speaker 3: Like which wrong, don't you, bitch?
• 34:04
  Speaker 2: See I can't just never be off. Oh no, I
• 34:07
  Speaker 2: will shut off. Like when I get into social environments.
• 34:10
  Speaker 2: I kind of like got to fill the room out
• 34:13
  Speaker 2: before I get the cutting up. So I'll just I'll
• 34:16
  Speaker 2: look or I'll observe for a long time before i
• 34:20
  Speaker 2: even let people see my personality. You real quiet in
• 34:27
  Speaker 2: the corner, and now drugs bitch is alcohol? Speaking of friends,
• 34:38
  Speaker 2: let me just say this before you continue. I just
• 34:40
  Speaker 2: want to thank so many of y'all slid into my
• 34:45
  Speaker 2: DMS and sent me encouraging words after listening to me
• 34:49
  Speaker 2: crying on the Thanksgiving episode. I know, and I really
• 34:55
  Speaker 2: really y'all don't know how much y'all touched me with
• 34:57
  Speaker 2: y'all encouraging words and all you're you know, sharing your
• 35:01
  Speaker 2: own situations with me. So I really really really love y'all.
• 35:05
  Speaker 2: Y'all my friends.
• 35:07
  Speaker 3: I love your community.
• 35:09
  Speaker 2: And I really appreciate that. But okay, go ahead with
• 35:11
  Speaker 2: your listen.
• 35:12
  Speaker 3: So it says you fair disappointment. Like other social connections,
• 35:17
  Speaker 3: friendship comes with expectations and a need for give and take.
• 35:22
  Speaker 3: If you're afraid that you can't live up to these
• 35:25
  Speaker 3: expectations or think that others will let you down, you
• 35:29
  Speaker 3: might avoid friendships as a way to minimize the risk
• 35:32
  Speaker 3: of being disappointed or disappointing others.
• 35:37
  Speaker 2: What do you think about that as a different mechanism.
• 35:44
  Speaker 2: I think that's you know, a lot of people are
• 35:46
  Speaker 2: in romantic relationships for the same reason you know, So yeah,
• 35:50
  Speaker 2: I think that's a real thing, because sometimes I find
• 35:54
  Speaker 2: myself like spending time with men who I know I
• 35:58
  Speaker 2: don't see nothing with because it's safer.
• 36:07
  Speaker 3: Full of ship, bitch, is what I heard.
• 36:10
  Speaker 2: No, because I be scared. I'd be scared.
• 36:12
  Speaker 3: I'd be scared. So for me, my romantic relationships versus
• 36:18
  Speaker 3: my friendships, I require the same thing, love and respect.
• 36:25
  Speaker 3: I might want a little extra from the men, though
• 36:27
  Speaker 3: I need some motherfucking money and protection. Okay, but I
• 36:30
  Speaker 3: don't really have high expectations from women. But I have
• 36:35
  Speaker 3: had friends who are very, very, very needy friends, and
• 36:42
  Speaker 3: it can get exhausting emotionally trying to cater to or
• 36:49
  Speaker 3: it's like you're walking on eggshells with a woman, Like
• 36:52
  Speaker 3: I don't fuck bitches. I don't want to have to
• 36:55
  Speaker 3: be in a.
• 36:57
  Speaker 2: No.
• 36:58
  Speaker 3: Uh, let me give example. Well, one of my friends
• 37:02
  Speaker 3: who I'm no longer friends would like I mean this
• 37:04
  Speaker 3: was a best friend. This is like a bitch I'm
• 37:05
  Speaker 3: talking to every day for years. We met in two
• 37:08
  Speaker 3: thousand and five. I think we started being friends like
• 37:12
  Speaker 3: during COVID sometime. So imagine like this person being constant.
• 37:17
  Speaker 3: It's devastating. It's like, bitch, you know my life. I
• 37:20
  Speaker 3: don't like that, Like why you get the store walking around?
• 37:22
  Speaker 3: I know what I said that. I mean that shit though, Like, bitch,
• 37:25
  Speaker 3: you know my secrets. You're just out here with my
• 37:27
  Speaker 3: fucking secrets. I got a problem with that. Yeah, but
• 37:30
  Speaker 3: she was so needy and the things that came out
• 37:34
  Speaker 3: in the days leading up to us, like breaking up.
• 37:38
  Speaker 3: It was the weirdest thing for me, you know, because
• 37:41
  Speaker 3: I give people space. I give people like if I
• 37:46
  Speaker 3: and let me go back a bit because one of
• 37:49
  Speaker 3: my guy friends I was texting with his dad died
• 37:53
  Speaker 3: last year, right, and he had texted me he was
• 37:56
  Speaker 3: saying that and he's my Gemini twin, So he had
• 38:00
  Speaker 3: put on social media that he was he was sitting
• 38:03
  Speaker 3: in front of his dad's grave and he was like,
• 38:04
  Speaker 3: he didn't realize he was depressed until he's like said
• 38:07
  Speaker 3: some things out loud at his dad's grave and he
• 38:10
  Speaker 3: was saying how he lives in New England, so he
• 38:14
  Speaker 3: was like, you know up north. He was saying how
• 38:16
  Speaker 3: he didn't realize like the people he thought he had
• 38:21
  Speaker 3: here back.
• 38:21
  Speaker 2: In Charleston just weren't his friends because they didn't really.
• 38:24
  Speaker 3: Call and check on him. Now, I remember I didn't
• 38:25
  Speaker 3: call him when his dad died. I text. And that's
• 38:29
  Speaker 3: because when things happened, I kind of and this and
• 38:31
  Speaker 3: this is emotional intelligence, right that I may have lacked
• 38:36
  Speaker 3: in that moment, right because I was thinking about like
• 38:38
  Speaker 3: how I would want because what can you do when
• 38:40
  Speaker 3: somebody family passed away? You gonna get a hundred text
• 38:44
  Speaker 3: messages and calls the same thing, and nothing can make
• 38:47
  Speaker 3: that pain go away, especially the loss of a parent. Right,
• 38:50
  Speaker 3: So at the time I was just thinking like what
• 38:52
  Speaker 3: I would need in that moment, and then now knowing
• 38:55
  Speaker 3: that he was he's actually depressed, and I didn't call, Like,
• 39:00
  Speaker 3: I feel like I dropped the ball because at some
• 39:02
  Speaker 3: point I should have called, but I didn't because I
• 39:05
  Speaker 3: just feel like, like when I'm out the shell, I
• 39:07
  Speaker 3: reach out to people like when I need my downtime,
• 39:10
  Speaker 3: but not everybody needs us. You got to just know
• 39:12
  Speaker 3: your personnel. You got to know what your friend what
• 39:15
  Speaker 3: your friend needs. But guess what, people have to explicitly
• 39:19
  Speaker 3: state in all relationships what it is that they need,
• 39:22
  Speaker 3: because otherwise you want to always be disappointed with unreal real,
• 39:26
  Speaker 3: unrealistic expectations of people that you did not tell them
• 39:31
  Speaker 3: what you need. Right, That's the same thing in your
• 39:34
  Speaker 3: romantic relationships. So I'm telling you, in the world, I
• 39:37
  Speaker 3: do not require much, but there are some people that
• 39:41
  Speaker 3: require a lot out of everybody, and it can get exhausting.
• 39:46
  Speaker 3: So I don't want those type of friends. So I
• 39:48
  Speaker 3: want to be around more people that's kind of like
• 39:52
  Speaker 3: cool with like your best friends you really don't talk
• 39:54
  Speaker 3: to every day.
• 39:56
  Speaker 2: I just said to let one of my closest friends go, honestly,
• 39:59
  Speaker 2: and I just felt like, no matter how hard I
• 40:02
  Speaker 2: tried to show her that I loved her and that
• 40:05
  Speaker 2: I supported her, there it was never enough. The cuff
• 40:10
  Speaker 2: was never there's a hole in the bottom of it
• 40:12
  Speaker 2: and I can't feel it, and no matter how hard
• 40:15
  Speaker 2: I try to feel it, it's just, you know, I
• 40:18
  Speaker 2: just can't do it.
• 40:19
  Speaker 3: So I had ever ending bottomless pit.
• 40:23
  Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, so I don't know.
• 40:28
  Speaker 3: I can't. I can't do that with women especially be
• 40:30
  Speaker 3: cause y'all ain't given me no dick.
• 40:31
  Speaker 2: Like, why am I jumping? I can't give you.
• 40:35
  Speaker 3: I don't want no goddamn dick off all nine like
• 40:39
  Speaker 3: it gotta be warm with veins. I got that the
• 40:45
  Speaker 3: black dick caused more come overving no white strapper like yeah,
• 40:51
  Speaker 3: I like, I don't fuck women, so to have to
• 40:53
  Speaker 3: cater to women's like attitude. I understand some of the
• 40:55
  Speaker 3: shit men say about women. I definitely do because you
• 40:59
  Speaker 3: experience of those things. I don't know why people think
• 41:01
  Speaker 3: that they are different and they were friends in their
• 41:04
  Speaker 3: friendships versus in relationships with other people like that shit
• 41:07
  Speaker 3: kind of translates sometimes. So your homegirl might be telling
• 41:12
  Speaker 3: you some shit that she going through with her boyfriend.
• 41:13
  Speaker 3: You'd be like, damn bit you good that to me?
• 41:16
  Speaker 2: Right? Some people have like character flaws man a lot.
• 41:20
  Speaker 2: I mean, I think we all have some type of character.
• 41:24
  Speaker 2: For absolutely, there's no life perfect friends, but there is
• 41:30
  Speaker 2: people who try to be the best version of friendship
• 41:32
  Speaker 2: that they know how to be. And that's all I want.
• 41:34
  Speaker 2: You know, when you make a mistake, say you sorry,
• 41:38
  Speaker 2: and as long as you ain't fun or slapping my mama,
• 41:41
  Speaker 2: we could get passed just about anything. But it's just
• 41:45
  Speaker 2: when I feel like I can't do enough, that's when
• 41:49
  Speaker 2: I got to go.
• 41:54
  Speaker 3: This next one says you're close to your family, you
• 41:56
  Speaker 3: might also feel like your family members are your friends.
• 42:00
  Speaker 3: If they give you the connection and support you need,
• 42:02
  Speaker 3: you may feel less of a need to seek friendships
• 42:05
  Speaker 3: outside of your family circle. That's possible, you know, growing
• 42:11
  Speaker 3: up as a black woman with a black mama, my mom,
• 42:15
  Speaker 3: I remember having like a few friends growing up, but
• 42:18
  Speaker 3: for the most part, like one of her nieces was
• 42:20
  Speaker 3: like one of her best friends, and then her sister,
• 42:23
  Speaker 3: well actually her both of her sisters were like best friends.
• 42:26
  Speaker 3: My oldest her oldest sister, and my aunt passed away
• 42:28
  Speaker 3: a while ago, but she still has like her youngest sisters,
• 42:31
  Speaker 3: so like they're like besties. So your family could definitely
• 42:34
  Speaker 3: be friends because I feel like even first cousins are
• 42:36
  Speaker 3: like friends best friends.
• 42:38
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I disagree with Yeah, I disagree. You can your
• 42:40
  Speaker 2: family because your family don't have to be your friend,
• 42:42
  Speaker 2: you know, right, sometimes you don't even like your family exactly.
• 42:46
  Speaker 2: If you got a family member who's also a friend,
• 42:49
  Speaker 2: you're just blessed. That's a blessing as far as science.
• 42:52
  Speaker 3: So yeah, Like I reconnected with one of my first
• 42:54
  Speaker 3: cousins last year and me and her have been like
• 42:56
  Speaker 3: this ever since, Like around this time when the October
• 42:59
  Speaker 3: last year, my male cousins had a birth, I had
• 43:01
  Speaker 3: a wedding and from that point on, girl, we be
• 43:05
  Speaker 3: that's my BESTTI, Like, that's one of my best friends.
• 43:08
  Speaker 2: I feel like me and my sisters like right now,
• 43:10
  Speaker 2: we've always been close, but we're the closest as adult
• 43:13
  Speaker 2: women than when we were like young girls and stuff
• 43:16
  Speaker 2: like that. We just having our own And I was
• 43:18
  Speaker 2: telling my little sister Tany y'all, was like, girl, we are,
• 43:21
  Speaker 2: like you're my best friend. Like I call you every
• 43:22
  Speaker 2: I talk to you every day. I was like, I
• 43:24
  Speaker 2: let you down. She's like, I was thinking about that
• 43:26
  Speaker 2: you used to beat my ass when I shouldn't fuck
• 43:29
  Speaker 2: with you.
• 43:31
  Speaker 3: Girl, the young sister always get all the abuse and
• 43:34
  Speaker 3: you the middle middle sister. That's about right, bitch, because
• 43:37
  Speaker 3: I've been trying to tell my sister Sam, she's the
• 43:40
  Speaker 3: middle child, right, I'm the youngest, how she used.
• 43:42
  Speaker 2: To abuse me. Yeah, my sister said, I'm lucky that
• 43:46
  Speaker 2: she even talk to me.
• 43:48
  Speaker 3: Yes, Like, but you really used to literally was just
• 43:51
  Speaker 3: talking about this ship yesterday. Bit you was abusive as
• 43:53
  Speaker 3: fuck to me until I realized I could fight.
• 43:57
  Speaker 2: I was like, I was just making you tough for her.
• 44:00
  Speaker 2: The world is hard, prepare you for retarded?
• 44:05
  Speaker 3: Nobody can ever love the middle child enough.
• 44:07
  Speaker 4: Yeah, I to this day like I'm my daddy's baby
• 44:12
  Speaker 4: and my oldest sister is like, she's close to my mama,
• 44:15
  Speaker 4: and so Sam just in the fucking middle feeling like
• 44:17
  Speaker 4: nobody knows her all the time.
• 44:19
  Speaker 2: Mm hmmm, y'all weird.
• 44:23
  Speaker 3: This next one says you don't want to get hurt.
• 44:24
  Speaker 3: If you've been deeply hurt by a friend in the past,
• 44:27
  Speaker 3: you might have trust issues. As a result, you might
• 44:30
  Speaker 3: be hesitant to begin new friendships with others.
• 44:33
  Speaker 2: I like meeting new people. Me too. I like hearing
• 44:37
  Speaker 2: people little stories and ship like.
• 44:38
  Speaker 3: I'm nosy, bitch, Tell me I'm never like a no
• 44:43
  Speaker 3: new friend type bitch.
• 44:45
  Speaker 2: How you get that scar on your leg? I want
• 44:46
  Speaker 2: to hear about it. I'm not like I want to
• 44:49
  Speaker 2: hear about everything that happened in life.
• 44:52
  Speaker 3: I have friends that I met through other friends and
• 44:58
  Speaker 3: friends no more, and I'm still friends with both of them.
• 45:03
  Speaker 2: So I don't know, i'd be me and friends.
• 45:05
  Speaker 3: I mean, when I moved to Saint Louis, I met
• 45:06
  Speaker 3: my homegirl Ryan in the club, met a whole friend, and.
• 45:14
  Speaker 2: Yeah, that was my first friend I met em.
• 45:18
  Speaker 3: You're too busy. Building and maintaining friendships takes time, and
• 45:21
  Speaker 3: y'all twenty five year old bitches ain't doing shit. H
• 45:24
  Speaker 3: takes time and effort. If you are busy with other
• 45:27
  Speaker 3: obligations such as family, work, school, you might simply feel
• 45:30
  Speaker 3: like you don't have time or energy to devote to friends.
• 45:34
  Speaker 2: I have a friend who is my ex boyfriends. Uh,
• 45:39
  Speaker 2: well they were girl. It was his girlfriend and he
• 45:41
  Speaker 2: introduced me to her and we became friends. And now
• 45:46
  Speaker 2: they don't go together either, and me and her are
• 45:48
  Speaker 2: still friends, but we both dated him. This comes a
• 45:53
  Speaker 2: wild right, did y'all have a No? It was not
• 45:57
  Speaker 2: that a little throble, this says.
• 46:03
  Speaker 3: According to the twenty twenty one American Perspective Survey, forty
• 46:07
  Speaker 3: nine percent of adults said they had three or fewer
• 46:11
  Speaker 3: friends close friends.
• 46:14
  Speaker 2: With this breakdown.
• 46:15
  Speaker 3: Generate generalation, general girl generalation pounded out baby generationally, that's
• 46:24
  Speaker 3: not that's right, I don't know generational generationally, there you go,
• 46:30
  Speaker 3: I got there.
• 46:31
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I say yay.
• 46:33
  Speaker 3: Twenty seven percent of millennials reported having no close friends.
• 46:38
  Speaker 3: Twenty two percent reported having no friends at all. That's millennials,
• 46:42
  Speaker 3: that's US. Sixteen percent of Generation xers report not having
• 46:47
  Speaker 3: any friends. Nine percent of Baby boom mercee they have
• 46:51
  Speaker 3: no friends.
• 46:53
  Speaker 2: That's so sad. How How how do y'all not have nobody?
• 46:59
  Speaker 3: Like? And maybe that's one of the events events. I
• 47:02
  Speaker 3: feel like we talked about that before, like doing like
• 47:04
  Speaker 3: a friend show.
• 47:06
  Speaker 2: Let's say, yeah, let's make friends, speed speed.
• 47:09
  Speaker 3: Friends, because how do you get through life without somebody?
• 47:12
  Speaker 3: You gotta have somebody you can call and talk to,
• 47:16
  Speaker 3: like outside of a therapist. That might be where it
• 47:19
  Speaker 3: starts for a lot of people, because you need to
• 47:21
  Speaker 3: explore why it is that you can't make real connection
• 47:25
  Speaker 3: with other people aside from being busy in school and
• 47:30
  Speaker 3: all those other things.
• 47:31
  Speaker 2: Right, Like, because even in those environments you know, you
• 47:35
  Speaker 2: make relationships or work, you have work friends. You know,
• 47:38
  Speaker 2: some people go to work and don't talk to nobody
• 47:40
  Speaker 2: and don't come home. And I saw this thing where
• 47:43
  Speaker 2: a woman said that she had roaches and those were
• 47:46
  Speaker 2: her only friends.
• 47:47
  Speaker 3: Girls shut up, not Joe's apartment.
• 47:50
  Speaker 2: Who Joseph, this was a woman.
• 47:53
  Speaker 3: I know Joe's apartment, ass bitch, Like what your roaches is?
• 47:56
  Speaker 2: The friends? It? Girl? It was so it was the
• 47:59
  Speaker 2: saddest thing and nasty. It was nasty, but it was
• 48:03
  Speaker 2: sad because these were the only friends she had in
• 48:06
  Speaker 2: the world.
• 48:07
  Speaker 3: Wait were they in he marriam or like running in
• 48:10
  Speaker 3: the house?
• 48:11
  Speaker 2: Roaches? She had a roach infestation in her home and
• 48:15
  Speaker 2: she viewed them as her friends. And she didn't have
• 48:17
  Speaker 2: no family, and she worked and come home and didn't
• 48:20
  Speaker 2: have no friends. And she just said that that was
• 48:23
  Speaker 2: the only friend she had was in roaches in her house.
• 48:25
  Speaker 3: I'm pretty sure she was taking some of them roaches
• 48:27
  Speaker 3: to work with her and they when people saw that shit,
• 48:31
  Speaker 3: people didn't want to be your friends. Got that shit, Like, girl,
• 48:34
  Speaker 3: we see roaches in your car in the parking.
• 48:37
  Speaker 2: Lot, Yeah, they got the roaches. She didn't because her
• 48:41
  Speaker 2: infestation got so bad because she didn't want to get
• 48:43
  Speaker 2: rid of them because then she wouldn't have nobody. Ain't
• 48:46
  Speaker 2: that sad? That poor baby? That thing broke my heart
• 48:49
  Speaker 2: for her. Look at your face? What's the next thing
• 48:53
  Speaker 2: on the article?
• 48:53
  Speaker 3: Because if she would clean that damn house. She would
• 48:55
  Speaker 3: have some friends. You can't invite people over that. See,
• 48:59
  Speaker 3: that's she had a mental health issue. I she didn't
• 49:02
  Speaker 3: have any friends. It didn't have nothing to do with
• 49:04
  Speaker 3: like nobody not wanting to be her friend and she
• 49:08
  Speaker 3: can only depend on roaches.
• 49:10
  Speaker 2: But just how lonely it must be to decide that
• 49:15
  Speaker 2: the only friends you have is these roaches in your house,
• 49:18
  Speaker 2: and that's why you don't want to get rid of them.
• 49:20
  Speaker 2: She was depressed. That's so sad that that was. And
• 49:24
  Speaker 2: she was a black woman too. I know.
• 49:32
  Speaker 3: You're terrible, but you little fucking figure as empathy.
• 49:36
  Speaker 2: Oh my god. No, you had to see what was
• 49:41
  Speaker 2: on the Instagram. I can find that video. She was like,
• 49:45
  Speaker 2: I don't have anyone else and it was just so sad.
• 49:49
  Speaker 2: It wasn't fake, all right.
• 49:52
  Speaker 3: So anyway, so here now are the benefits of actually
• 49:55
  Speaker 3: having friends, right, so you don't have to have roaches
• 49:58
  Speaker 3: as your friends. Somebody p I don't know, okay, It
• 50:02
  Speaker 3: says reduced stress and anxiety. Even if you think you
• 50:06
  Speaker 3: don't need them, having a social circle to support you
• 50:09
  Speaker 3: can be important for your health, for your mental health
• 50:13
  Speaker 3: and well being. Research has found that having a social
• 50:15
  Speaker 3: support system is associated with less stress and anxiety. So
• 50:20
  Speaker 3: when men said they don't have anybody to talk to,
• 50:23
  Speaker 3: y'all need to get some fucking homeboys that have actual
• 50:26
  Speaker 3: sense that you can have a conversation with, you can
• 50:29
  Speaker 3: converse with. I feel like women do a pretty good job.
• 50:32
  Speaker 3: I mean, because you you you good at it. You
• 50:34
  Speaker 3: call and be like, girl, can I impack on you?
• 50:37
  Speaker 2: You got a moment? You got a mental health break moment?
• 50:39
  Speaker 2: For me, I always I try to ask and I'm like, hey,
• 50:45
  Speaker 2: how you doing. You have to bandwidth on you right now?
• 50:51
  Speaker 3: That is so considerate, Like, bitch, Yeah, because I had
• 50:55
  Speaker 3: a friend who had who I had to let go of. Bitch,
• 50:57
  Speaker 3: I'll be because I am one of those people who
• 50:59
  Speaker 3: don't tell people what I'm going through. I just get
• 51:02
  Speaker 3: through it and I might tell you about it when
• 51:03
  Speaker 3: it's over. Like one side, I got through, Like, girl,
• 51:05
  Speaker 3: let me tell you what the fuck I've been going
• 51:07
  Speaker 3: through for the last six months.
• 51:08
  Speaker 2: That's me.
• 51:09
  Speaker 3: But I would literally be going through shit like driving
• 51:12
  Speaker 3: or something, and she's like calling me with a whole
• 51:14
  Speaker 3: mental health crisis on the phone, and I'm like, bitch,
• 51:18
  Speaker 3: you can't do this to people. You can literally like,
• 51:21
  Speaker 3: you don't know other people's mental state when you add
• 51:25
  Speaker 3: an extra peace, don't because everybody's going through something. Everybody
• 51:31
  Speaker 3: is going through it. May may it be that they're
• 51:33
  Speaker 3: you know, verbal about it about it or not.
• 51:36
  Speaker 2: People be going through shit. Man, You're not the only
• 51:38
  Speaker 2: one I know. And I started practicing that to ask
• 51:43
  Speaker 2: people can they handle it first before I do that,
• 51:46
  Speaker 2: because just by being a hairstylist, people coming here and
• 51:49
  Speaker 2: dump on top of me boom boom, Well grandma, dad
• 51:53
  Speaker 2: and my husband cheese, somebody sick. This happened like all
• 51:57
  Speaker 2: day long. I'm just listening to people problems. Some times
• 52:00
  Speaker 2: I leave feeling so heavy, and I know, like that's
• 52:03
  Speaker 2: kind of part of the job a little bit. Sometimes
• 52:06
  Speaker 2: I'll be like ready to just put on a movie, girl,
• 52:08
  Speaker 2: watch this. I can't handle nobody else shit. But so
• 52:13
  Speaker 2: I started practicing that just because I get dumped on
• 52:15
  Speaker 2: so much. You know, have you ever.
• 52:18
  Speaker 3: Stopped somebody like while they dumping, Like, girl, I really
• 52:21
  Speaker 3: don't got it today, Like I have the capacity today
• 52:24
  Speaker 3: for this.
• 52:25
  Speaker 2: I have, yeah that It ain't that I don't care.
• 52:30
  Speaker 2: I just I can't handle it today. I'm so sorry.
• 52:33
  Speaker 2: I love you. I love you so much, and I
• 52:36
  Speaker 2: want to be there for you, but right now I'm
• 52:39
  Speaker 2: trying to be there for me a little bit, and
• 52:40
  Speaker 2: I can't help you today with that. But I can
• 52:43
  Speaker 2: try to put something on that can uplift us both.
• 52:46
  Speaker 2: Would you like that? Like maybe I can put music
• 52:49
  Speaker 2: on or a movie that might uplift both of our spirits.
• 52:53
  Speaker 2: And that's how I deal it. And usually, I mean,
• 52:55
  Speaker 2: you can't get mad at that, Like, baby, I do
• 52:57
  Speaker 2: not have it for you today, So that's not selfish.
• 53:04
  Speaker 3: Less loneliness friendship is also linked to less loneliness. Loneliness
• 53:08
  Speaker 3: can excuse me. Loneliness has been shown to take a
• 53:11
  Speaker 3: serious toll on health and mortality. Studies have found that
• 53:15
  Speaker 3: people who have quality friendships are better able to cope
• 53:18
  Speaker 3: with stress, and are even less likely to experience stress
• 53:22
  Speaker 3: in the first place. Being happy is a choice, that's
• 53:27
  Speaker 3: my cursing.
• 53:29
  Speaker 2: So every day you got to you.
• 53:30
  Speaker 3: Gotta do something like that that you like doing that
• 53:34
  Speaker 3: makes you smile, or just actually just practice smiling.
• 53:39
  Speaker 2: Right, that might attract some friends.
• 53:40
  Speaker 3: They said, black one be around here with rest and
• 53:42
  Speaker 3: bitch face, Like you're not even inviting to make a
• 53:45
  Speaker 3: friend smile, bitch, But y'all, niggas don't be telling women
• 53:49
  Speaker 3: to smile.
• 53:50
  Speaker 2: Ain't for y'all. This is where women don't be telling us.
• 53:53
  Speaker 2: We're talking to YouTube nigga when we say loud, bitch, smile,
• 53:57
  Speaker 2: bitch better.
• 54:00
  Speaker 3: Emotional support. Friends can also offer emotional support when you
• 54:03
  Speaker 3: need it. Friends can help validate your emotions, listen to
• 54:06
  Speaker 3: your problems, and do things to help you feel better.
• 54:09
  Speaker 3: So now we all want friends that just be yes men,
• 54:11
  Speaker 3: though I don't think that's healthy even so, when you
• 54:13
  Speaker 3: fucking up like you should have a solid group of friends,
• 54:16
  Speaker 3: gonna tay girl, you want some bullshit right now and love, relationships, finances,
• 54:21
  Speaker 3: whatever it is, like if they just feel like you're
• 54:23
  Speaker 3: just not showing up as your best self, like your
• 54:27
  Speaker 3: friends should be able to tall they know you, they
• 54:29
  Speaker 3: know you. Yeah, a feeling of belonging. Howing friends can
• 54:36
  Speaker 3: help you feel as if belonging to something that brings
• 54:39
  Speaker 3: purpose and connection to your life. We need telling you
• 54:41
  Speaker 3: to go join the crips or I get a nice,
• 54:43
  Speaker 3: solid group of women that's actually actively doing shit out here.
• 54:47
  Speaker 2: But your community no basically going to jail.
• 54:51
  Speaker 3: They're really gonna have like a lot of friends for
• 54:53
  Speaker 3: a long time.
• 54:54
  Speaker 2: But I know people will or love me all right, I.
• 55:02
  Speaker 3: Improve physical health. Having strong friends will tell you your
• 55:05
  Speaker 3: back is getting big as a bitch. You know it's
• 55:08
  Speaker 3: just having strong friends can also that article really say
• 55:14
  Speaker 3: it also help you to improve your physical health. Friends
• 55:16
  Speaker 3: might increase the chances of you doing daily tasks such
• 55:19
  Speaker 3: as exercise and eating well. Even if it's a competition. Bitch,
• 55:23
  Speaker 3: if you're won't be fat and your friends can, I
• 55:26
  Speaker 3: think it.
• 55:28
  Speaker 2: I think me and you compete to see who can
• 55:29
  Speaker 2: get the fattest. Bitch.
• 55:33
  Speaker 3: I've worked out today, okay today, and I'm gonna try
• 55:37
  Speaker 3: try real hard tomorrow. But your friends do hold you accountable,
• 55:41
  Speaker 3: like it is like when you have friends that like
• 55:44
  Speaker 3: everybody on the same little workout kick, like you do
• 55:47
  Speaker 3: tend to lose weight when you need to if everybody
• 55:50
  Speaker 3: on the same wave ship.
• 55:52
  Speaker 2: But you also can make friends in the gym if
• 55:55
  Speaker 2: you if you're enough, you think, well, all right.
• 55:59
  Speaker 3: The black women don't speak in the gym. And I'm
• 56:02
  Speaker 3: saying black women because I'm only speaking from our perspective,
• 56:04
  Speaker 3: Like I do have one white friend, but I'm just
• 56:07
  Speaker 3: saying in our community. Because you know, you love a
• 56:09
  Speaker 3: devil's advocate.
• 56:10
  Speaker 2: In the gym.
• 56:12
  Speaker 3: There are white women and black women. When I tell you,
• 56:14
  Speaker 3: the white bitches they know they see you four days
• 56:16
  Speaker 3: out the week. They're telling you hi girl. The black
• 56:20
  Speaker 3: women don't give your eye contact to say hi. Ever.
• 56:26
  Speaker 2: You know what I be looking at walking to talk
• 56:30
  Speaker 2: about that in the gym. I don't really have friends
• 56:33
  Speaker 2: in the gym with spin class. Oh yeah, I mean
• 56:36
  Speaker 2: friends and spin. Yeah yeah, it's more. I guess it's
• 56:41
  Speaker 2: because of the same petition. Yeah yeah, so I missed
• 56:46
  Speaker 2: my spin class. I can't I can't wait to get
• 56:48
  Speaker 2: this foot back to roller.
• 56:54
  Speaker 3: No, I know you gotta wrap this up, but listen,
• 56:55
  Speaker 3: the one thing, one other thing I wanted to add
• 56:57
  Speaker 3: to this, which is a whole other article, and I'm
• 56:59
  Speaker 3: not gonna get in the whole thing, but I think
• 57:02
  Speaker 3: one problem, right, maybe the depiction of black women when
• 57:09
  Speaker 3: it comes to friendships right on teaching, Right, we got
• 57:14
  Speaker 3: some nice shows like uh, living Single, Like that's our generation.
• 57:19
  Speaker 3: You know what I'm saying, Girlfriends should set it off, bitch, Okay,
• 57:24
  Speaker 3: Like that's still girls depending on each other.
• 57:29
  Speaker 2: I don't know if that was the best exit.
• 57:33
  Speaker 3: Might have to set it off one day you don't
• 57:35
  Speaker 3: know where friends, You're gonna call us set it off?
• 57:37
  Speaker 3: I do shit, Priscilla, Priscilla ready to set the ship off. Bitch,
• 57:44
  Speaker 3: that's a whole witch name right there, Bitch. You ready?
• 57:49
  Speaker 2: Yeah? I do think. Like shows like Baddies and Bad
• 57:54
  Speaker 2: Girls Club and even the Love and Hip Hops, you
• 57:58
  Speaker 2: know they don't paint the most positive pictures of friendships
• 58:03
  Speaker 2: and relationships between women because oftentimes they show them fighting.
• 58:08
  Speaker 2: You know that the conflict resolution is always physical violence,
• 58:14
  Speaker 2: and people in other places in the world might assume
• 58:17
  Speaker 2: that that is how the only way Black women handle conflict,
• 58:20
  Speaker 2: and it is a part of how we do it
• 58:22
  Speaker 2: handle conflict. I won't sit here and pretend like shit,
• 58:25
  Speaker 2: don't jump off when she gets crazy, because it can,
• 58:28
  Speaker 2: but that is just not the go to, especially between
• 58:31
  Speaker 2: women who are friends. We might argue, we might even
• 58:34
  Speaker 2: cuss at each other, you might even be a bitch,
• 58:37
  Speaker 2: but physical violence. If we hit each other, we are
• 58:41
  Speaker 2: no longer friends.
• 58:42
  Speaker 3: Absolutely not. You throw a drink in my face, yes
• 58:45
  Speaker 3: it's over.
• 58:47
  Speaker 2: If you put your hands on me one, I'm calling
• 58:49
  Speaker 2: I'm too old. I'm not fighting no more. I feel
• 58:51
  Speaker 2: like I'm too old. I already broke my foot. I'm
• 58:54
  Speaker 2: calling the police on you.
• 59:00
  Speaker 3: Life long injuries from fighting on that page of my
• 59:03
  Speaker 3: life is done. That is the workout. Could you imagine
• 59:07
  Speaker 3: that boxing for a minute?
• 59:11
  Speaker 2: I do not want to do it. First of all,
• 59:15
  Speaker 2: I feel too pretty to be participating in that type
• 59:18
  Speaker 2: of foolish period. And the second of all, my body
• 59:21
  Speaker 2: is just that I don't want to fight, litten. Can
• 59:24
  Speaker 2: we talk talk about it? So?
• 59:28
  Speaker 3: This is from Baystate Banner dot com. It says how
• 59:33
  Speaker 3: are reality TV shows affecting society's perception of black women?
• 59:37
  Speaker 2: So?
• 59:38
  Speaker 3: It says, while black women are clearly underrepresented in films
• 59:42
  Speaker 3: and on prime time comedies and dramas, the same cannot
• 59:46
  Speaker 3: be said of our representation on reality reality television. The
• 59:51
  Speaker 3: sheer number of reality programs on television today makes it
• 59:55
  Speaker 3: difficult to determine if we are in some way over presented. However,
• 1:00:02
  Speaker 3: black women have been entertaining American households through this genre
• 1:00:09
  Speaker 3: from its inception and continue to do so today. So
• 1:00:12
  Speaker 3: we've gone from Tammy on the pilot of the real world.
• 1:00:18
  Speaker 3: Remember Tammy, I don't if y'all know Tammy Roman. That's
• 1:00:20
  Speaker 3: what she got it, Poppa. She's the original reality TV
• 1:00:24
  Speaker 3: Queen Okay, and then now on Basketball Wise. It says
• 1:00:28
  Speaker 3: some of the shows that focus primarily on black women
• 1:00:31
  Speaker 3: are The Real Housewives of Atlanta, Love and Hip Hop Alanta,
• 1:00:34
  Speaker 3: The New Atlanta, and Married to Medicine, even Married to Medicine.
• 1:00:38
  Speaker 3: These are professional black women. What the fuck?
• 1:00:41
  Speaker 2: I see the Real four this current season.
• 1:00:45
  Speaker 3: Why are y'all growing ass ladies fighting forty and fifty
• 1:00:49
  Speaker 3: year old people?
• 1:00:50
  Speaker 2: Yeah, that's insane.
• 1:00:51
  Speaker 3: The men about to get into it too. I can't
• 1:00:55
  Speaker 3: do reality TV, Like, I think I'm too much of
• 1:00:58
  Speaker 3: a real nigga for that. And I and I really
• 1:01:00
  Speaker 3: like they make a juice network.
• 1:01:02
  Speaker 2: I feel like they set up situations to make people
• 1:01:05
  Speaker 2: who normally would not be fistfighting take it there can
• 1:01:11
  Speaker 2: like you got.
• 1:01:13
  Speaker 3: Uh sprinkling a couple of baby daddies and husbands. It's
• 1:01:17
  Speaker 3: just real messy the way that black people are depicted.
• 1:01:22
  Speaker 2: But that baddies is just the worst. It is the worst,
• 1:01:25
  Speaker 2: And I keep watching it. I keep watching it like
• 1:01:28
  Speaker 2: on the stair climber, that is my stair climber. Why, though,
• 1:01:34
  Speaker 2: why it makes you get through the stair clan? Yeah,
• 1:01:37
  Speaker 2: because I can't believe what I'm seeing what is gonna
• 1:01:40
  Speaker 2: happen next, I forget. I'll be on the stair climber
• 1:01:43
  Speaker 2: our watching baddies. So yeah, so I guess I'm part
• 1:01:47
  Speaker 2: of the problem giving them views.
• 1:01:51
  Speaker 3: I don't watch that shit, Like I think the most
• 1:01:53
  Speaker 3: I watched was Real Housewives of Atlanta, the one year
• 1:01:58
  Speaker 3: that we had a couple of people on the show.
• 1:02:01
  Speaker 2: Other than that, I haven't watched me. I ain't gonna
• 1:02:05
  Speaker 2: lie against me anxiety. I can't like watch like if
• 1:02:08
  Speaker 2: there's a season, I can't watch like two episodes back
• 1:02:11
  Speaker 2: to back because it's only so much oh bitch, bitch,
• 1:02:15
  Speaker 2: fucking bitch that I can take in, you know, an hour,
• 1:02:19
  Speaker 2: because they really be customing the other out.
• 1:02:21
  Speaker 3: So is this really how black friendships are?
• 1:02:25
  Speaker 2: Because that's just not true. That is not true.
• 1:02:29
  Speaker 3: But that's what the world season. Maybe just maybe the
• 1:02:33
  Speaker 3: younger generation have internalized these scenes because they actually grew up. Yeah,
• 1:02:39
  Speaker 3: they grew up in reality TV.
• 1:02:42
  Speaker 2: Yeah right, so now they think this is how they're
• 1:02:45
  Speaker 2: supposed to handle their relationships.
• 1:02:46
  Speaker 3: Yeah, and as the bitch don't want to have to fight,
• 1:02:48
  Speaker 3: they frame all the damn time. You might you might
• 1:02:50
  Speaker 3: stay away from having friends friends.
• 1:02:53
  Speaker 2: Yeah, we got to do better. That is not normal.
• 1:02:58
  Speaker 2: That is not how you people you love, You communicate,
• 1:03:02
  Speaker 2: you use your words. If you're that upset, walk away
• 1:03:05
  Speaker 2: and come back later. You know, you know, because I
• 1:03:09
  Speaker 2: know almost came to blows with friends before, but it's
• 1:03:11
  Speaker 2: never went there. You know, it's never gone to like
• 1:03:16
  Speaker 2: actual fist fighting.
• 1:03:18
  Speaker 3: Now, you don't talk about having to fight a friend before.
• 1:03:21
  Speaker 2: Now which friend? Which when you was drunk?
• 1:03:24
  Speaker 3: Y'all he was drunk and then they ate outside of
• 1:03:27
  Speaker 3: waffle house or some ship.
• 1:03:28
  Speaker 2: You was eating grits at your hand.
• 1:03:29
  Speaker 3: Oh, I like you were the drunk aggressor.
• 1:03:39
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I was on He and J. Man, that's the
• 1:03:42
  Speaker 2: only time I drink here Jay in my life.
• 1:03:46
  Speaker 3: That gotta be some college shit, because bitch, why you
• 1:03:48
  Speaker 3: haven't got no money to get some good drinks? I
• 1:03:54
  Speaker 3: don't know, Man, start with therapy, like therapy is always
• 1:03:57
  Speaker 3: the thing. If you feel like you have a tough
• 1:03:59
  Speaker 3: time making friends, go talk to somebody else first, right,
• 1:04:05
  Speaker 3: that can may maybe help you guide you through.
• 1:04:11
  Speaker 2: I don't know.
• 1:04:12
  Speaker 3: Do they just walk up on people like I feel
• 1:04:14
  Speaker 3: like I meet people I have friends like even social media.
• 1:04:17
  Speaker 3: I think that maybe if the younger generation, they might
• 1:04:20
  Speaker 3: have more online friends and they have like real friends
• 1:04:23
  Speaker 3: in real life. So but even Yahoo, I have a
• 1:04:27
  Speaker 3: whole group of friends from Yahoo that I'm still friends
• 1:04:30
  Speaker 3: with today.
• 1:04:32
  Speaker 2: There's a woman Lexi Nicole. Shout out to Lexi Nicole.
• 1:04:36
  Speaker 2: She listens to the show, and we became friends on
• 1:04:38
  Speaker 2: Instagram and we're going to get cocktails on Friday. And
• 1:04:42
  Speaker 2: that's really how it happened, you know.
• 1:04:44
  Speaker 3: So yeah, my friends, if you want to you have
• 1:04:47
  Speaker 3: to put it, put forth a real effort if you
• 1:04:51
  Speaker 3: actually want some friends, right, because I feel like they're
• 1:04:55
  Speaker 3: you're gonna find. I think there's only like maybe like
• 1:04:57
  Speaker 3: five different characteristics of people out here world for real,
• 1:05:01
  Speaker 3: and you can pick one right and find that you
• 1:05:04
  Speaker 3: can find that characteristic of those characteristics in one hundred people. Right,
• 1:05:10
  Speaker 3: So it starts with you. It starts with them. They
• 1:05:12
  Speaker 3: ain't gonna do with nobody outside of you in because
• 1:05:15
  Speaker 3: all black women caddy and black women be backstabbing and
• 1:05:18
  Speaker 3: all these things that we might have been taught from
• 1:05:20
  Speaker 3: the older generation that you can't trust each other. Mm hm,
• 1:05:24
  Speaker 3: you know, cause I feel like, do these pitches, these
• 1:05:27
  Speaker 3: old pitches, do these baby boomers they don't got no
• 1:05:31
  Speaker 3: friends neither per that survey.
• 1:05:34
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I wonder why. I know, Like one of my
• 1:05:38
  Speaker 2: friends and her mom don't have no friends. My mom doesn't.
• 1:05:43
  Speaker 2: My mom got too many damn friends. There's always people
• 1:05:45
  Speaker 2: at her damn house. And she's happy.
• 1:05:48
  Speaker 3: Your mom seems like a happy person.
• 1:05:50
  Speaker 2: Yeah, she is happy, you see.
• 1:05:52
  Speaker 3: So it plays a role within your mental health when
• 1:05:55
  Speaker 3: you have the outlet of friends you can go to
• 1:05:58
  Speaker 3: and talk to an incomegate and go out.
• 1:06:01
  Speaker 2: And they go out to eat a different restaurant every Friday.
• 1:06:05
  Speaker 3: Yeah, that's fun and that's something to look forward to. Yeah,
• 1:06:09
  Speaker 3: aside from just sitting up and sitting up in the
• 1:06:11
  Speaker 3: house and being a fucking racoust.
• 1:06:13
  Speaker 2: Like, get out of there, my mama, y'all. My mom
• 1:06:18
  Speaker 2: does not have a Washington dryer still because on Sunday
• 1:06:22
  Speaker 2: morning her and her friends go to a laundromat and
• 1:06:25
  Speaker 2: wash their clothes and that's part of their girls time.
• 1:06:30
  Speaker 2: I mean, look, it works.
• 1:06:33
  Speaker 3: It'll take you about about two hours, two three hours
• 1:06:36
  Speaker 3: to wash clothes with coffee.
• 1:06:38
  Speaker 2: We get our coffee and wen'kay, you're whatever make you have.
• 1:06:43
  Speaker 3: They waste their money, though, I'm gonna tell you that
• 1:06:45
  Speaker 3: maybe not because if you're calculating the water bill when
• 1:06:50
  Speaker 3: you wash clothes. I bet y'all water bell probably so
• 1:06:53
  Speaker 3: the same. I bet you her water bill is so
• 1:06:54
  Speaker 3: the same. If she had a washing drying, it might
• 1:06:57
  Speaker 3: not be saving the money and the money used Washington dollars.
• 1:07:01
  Speaker 3: Do you one probably gonna listen to this episode switch
• 1:07:07
  Speaker 3: up like I might bitch the next time I'm in
• 1:07:11
  Speaker 3: home people they be having those floor display sales man,
• 1:07:14
  Speaker 3: you can get you a little sat for five hundred.
• 1:07:18
  Speaker 3: I might call you, ass bitch, I got two fifty,
• 1:07:21
  Speaker 3: or your mama wash your sheet the dryer, playing with Sarah.
• 1:07:25
  Speaker 2: Hey girl, get y'all some motherfucker friends.
• 1:07:30
  Speaker 3: That's my last office. Oh yeah, yeah, yeah, bitch before
• 1:07:34
  Speaker 3: we get up out of here. Okay, all right, all right,
• 1:07:36
  Speaker 3: So y'all, I want to go back. This is another
• 1:07:39
  Speaker 3: segment that we had. I might have only done it
• 1:07:41
  Speaker 3: one time. Remember it was eminem messy meme. I want
• 1:07:44
  Speaker 3: to get back to doing that. So because I'd be
• 1:07:46
  Speaker 3: seeing a whole bunch of funny ship that I'd be
• 1:07:51
  Speaker 3: wanting to share. Y'all probably not seen it. Maybe No,
• 1:07:53
  Speaker 3: I feel like i I've seen the whole internet. People
• 1:07:55
  Speaker 3: be sending me ship and I'm like girl, I've seen that.
• 1:07:58
  Speaker 3: So y'all listen to this right quick. So yes, I
• 1:08:00
  Speaker 3: am reading again.
• 1:08:04
  Speaker 2: Story time.
• 1:08:05
  Speaker 3: It says, it says he doesn't know we're married. That's
• 1:08:09
  Speaker 3: how the story begins.
• 1:08:10
  Speaker 2: It says.
• 1:08:11
  Speaker 3: So we dated for about two years, and I decided
• 1:08:15
  Speaker 3: I was ready to get married and settle down. She
• 1:08:19
  Speaker 3: singularly decided. Okay, about three years ago, he told me
• 1:08:24
  Speaker 3: that he was saving up for a ring and that
• 1:08:26
  Speaker 3: he wanted to surprise me with the proposal of my
• 1:08:29
  Speaker 3: dreams lo and Behold. A few months passed and still
• 1:08:33
  Speaker 3: no proposal. I asked him when he planned on doing it,
• 1:08:38
  Speaker 3: and he told me he had simply changed his mind.
• 1:08:43
  Speaker 3: Simply changed his mind. Why would he buy the cow
• 1:08:47
  Speaker 3: when he is already getting the milk for free?
• 1:08:50
  Speaker 2: She says.
• 1:08:51
  Speaker 3: I felt like he scammed me. I was done letting
• 1:08:56
  Speaker 3: men scam me. Fed up, so I just to take
• 1:09:00
  Speaker 3: matters into my own hands.
• 1:09:02
  Speaker 2: I found a man.
• 1:09:03
  Speaker 3: Y'all, listen, listen, it is very close. I found a
• 1:09:07
  Speaker 3: man on the internet who looked just like him, and
• 1:09:11
  Speaker 3: while he was sleeping, I went ahead and took his
• 1:09:15
  Speaker 3: ID along with his birth certificate. Okay, she took her
• 1:09:19
  Speaker 3: boyfriend's ID and birth certificate, and she found a man
• 1:09:24
  Speaker 3: online that looks like him. Clarified, I feey' all okay.
• 1:09:29
  Speaker 3: She then offered this lookalike, who was pretty much homeless,
• 1:09:34
  Speaker 3: one thousand dollars to come to the courthouse with her,
• 1:09:38
  Speaker 3: and we did the thing, she says, with praying hands
• 1:09:41
  Speaker 3: in the praising hands okay, cartwheels and smiley faces emojis.
• 1:09:47
  Speaker 3: We've been married now for almost two years, and I've
• 1:09:52
  Speaker 3: never been happier. I am moving and behaving like a
• 1:09:56
  Speaker 3: wife in every since. I've been cooking every day, washing laundry,
• 1:10:01
  Speaker 3: and taking great care of my husband. He has complimented
• 1:10:06
  Speaker 3: me many times on how amazing I am and how
• 1:10:09
  Speaker 3: well I perform my duties as his lady. On Valentine's
• 1:10:12
  Speaker 3: Day this year, he even decorated our room and he
• 1:10:15
  Speaker 3: had the word wife written with flowers.
• 1:10:19
  Speaker 2: I thought, how ironic.
• 1:10:22
  Speaker 3: Little does y'all know exactly little does he know? I'm
• 1:10:25
  Speaker 3: his wife?
• 1:10:27
  Speaker 2: She said.
• 1:10:28
  Speaker 3: My question is how do I tell him we are official? Now?
• 1:10:32
  Speaker 2: This is two years later. Now, shouldn't I just hope.
• 1:10:35
  Speaker 3: That he changes his mind and eventually proposes on his
• 1:10:38
  Speaker 3: own once he sees how amazing I am.
• 1:10:41
  Speaker 2: We are past the one.
• 1:10:43
  Speaker 3: Year mark, so I no longer have to worry about
• 1:10:45
  Speaker 3: in an omen, which is great. We went on vacation
• 1:10:48
  Speaker 3: about a week after our ceremony. She still talk about
• 1:10:52
  Speaker 3: her boyfriend. Ceremony was with some nigga off the internet
• 1:10:55
  Speaker 3: she met that looked like her boyfriend, and for me,
• 1:10:59
  Speaker 3: it was our honey. We've never been happier. I just
• 1:11:04
  Speaker 3: really need him to I just really need him on
• 1:11:09
  Speaker 3: board with all of this. He noticed I was wearing
• 1:11:12
  Speaker 3: a ring on my ring finger and I told him
• 1:11:15
  Speaker 3: it was to keep other men away. He jokingly mentioned
• 1:11:18
  Speaker 3: how good it looks. I'm tired of keeping our marriage
• 1:11:21
  Speaker 3: a secret, and I feel like he has a right
• 1:11:24
  Speaker 3: to know. Any advice appreciated.
• 1:11:26
  Speaker 2: You're so dumb, you are really dune for she looks crazy.
• 1:11:31
  Speaker 2: That is insane. This is all right, We're supposed to
• 1:11:35
  Speaker 2: sit in dumb shores. But some of this is just insanity,
• 1:11:39
  Speaker 2: because how how you marry somebody without telling them, like
• 1:11:45
  Speaker 2: why you want to be a wife that bad.
• 1:11:49
  Speaker 3: Girl?
• 1:11:49
  Speaker 2: You want to jail, that you committed fraud? Yes, ain't
• 1:11:57
  Speaker 2: you telling people the internet?
• 1:12:01
  Speaker 3: And you're putting pictures that with your ring and the
• 1:12:03
  Speaker 3: flowers made out a wife made into wife.
• 1:12:09
  Speaker 2: Cannot be real.
• 1:12:11
  Speaker 3: I don't know, man, but yeah, but you're going to
• 1:12:14
  Speaker 3: jail whenever the man you need to go. You married
• 1:12:17
  Speaker 3: him two years ago that he doesn't know you married him.
• 1:12:20
  Speaker 3: You got his social and all that shit as people
• 1:12:22
  Speaker 3: worked down there at the courthouse, right, but he still
• 1:12:26
  Speaker 3: hasn't proposed to you still two years later. Y'all been
• 1:12:29
  Speaker 3: together for three It's now two years after the fake marriage,
• 1:12:32
  Speaker 3: and he still has not proposed you after five years.
• 1:12:36
  Speaker 2: Girl, he don't want to marry you.
• 1:12:40
  Speaker 3: Because you fucking crazy.
• 1:12:42
  Speaker 2: Bit that probably he probably making a good decision, because girl,
• 1:12:53
  Speaker 2: I flabbergasted at this story.
• 1:12:57
  Speaker 3: Girl, he is there because of obligation. He wrot all
• 1:12:59
  Speaker 3: fuck with you like that, and he know you nuts.
• 1:13:02
  Speaker 3: That's why he changes mind.
• 1:13:06
  Speaker 2: And you just man, if you want to do it
• 1:13:09
  Speaker 2: or not, it's done, it's done.
• 1:13:15
  Speaker 3: I want to see that the girl who you want
• 1:13:17
  Speaker 3: to marry that bad you want to fake a marriage?
• 1:13:19
  Speaker 2: Who? I mean impressed with the dedication? Though you gotta
• 1:13:25
  Speaker 2: really be dedicated to this man to marry him without
• 1:13:30
  Speaker 2: him or crazy? It's two things can be true. It
• 1:13:36
  Speaker 2: once I feel.
• 1:13:37
  Speaker 3: Like she will kill him. I feel like if he leaves,
• 1:13:41
  Speaker 3: she'll do something to him because you wanted that man
• 1:13:44
  Speaker 3: that bad.
• 1:13:47
  Speaker 2: Yeah, he might be in danger straight up.
• 1:13:49
  Speaker 3: Yes, snapped and look at her picture.
• 1:13:54
  Speaker 2: The man who went and you complicit. Whatever happened to
• 1:13:58
  Speaker 2: bro code. You need to go to jail too, both
• 1:14:04
  Speaker 2: of y'all.
• 1:14:05
  Speaker 3: Thousand dollars, one thousand dollars, that's all she got money to.
• 1:14:11
  Speaker 2: Waste because he signed, He signed the paperword right, he
• 1:14:14
  Speaker 2: had to sign at the courthouse. Yeah, you need to
• 1:14:17
  Speaker 2: go to jail, sir, you need to be arrested.
• 1:14:20
  Speaker 3: Police who really committed the fraud at that point?
• 1:14:24
  Speaker 2: Both of them? The fuck went down there and perpetrated
• 1:14:29
  Speaker 2: the fraud.
• 1:14:30
  Speaker 3: Real shame, y'all.
• 1:14:33
  Speaker 2: Don't be crazy. Don't be fucking crazy, y'all.
• 1:14:36
  Speaker 3: All right, y'all, don't be fool Go make some motherfucker
• 1:14:39
  Speaker 3: friends in twenty five man, stop, please, don't be delusion.
• 1:14:43
  Speaker 3: Or ain't nobody hating on you neither?
• 1:14:45
  Speaker 2: Okay?
• 1:14:46
  Speaker 3: I think that'd be half the problem with black women.
• 1:14:48
  Speaker 2: Man.
• 1:14:49
  Speaker 3: Somebody always hating on your.
• 1:14:50
  Speaker 2: Mother, girl, You ain't got that. If nobody hate on anyway.
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