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Your Plan vs The Universe. Guess Who Wins? A Reminder to Trust the Timing. · The Nadia Chapman Show

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  Welcome back to the Nadia Chapman Show. I am Nadia. And before we dive in, let me just say this.
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  Life has been absolutely wild lately. I don't know if you can relate.
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  And not in one direction, not just good or just bad. It's been everything at once.
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  Big highs, heavy moments, unexpected opportunities, weird plot twist, you name it.
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  But here's why I wanted to do this podcast today. I want to share with you my
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  new way of thinking when things don't necessarily go my way.
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  And hopefully after this episode, you too can have a brand new perspective on things,
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  obstacles, challenges, unexpected turns of events, because this is what shifted
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  for me. This is what I want to share with you.
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  I stopped trying to control every outcome.
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  I stopped worrying about how everything was supposed to unfold.
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  And finally, I decided to ride the waves that come towards me instead of panicking
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  every single time that the ocean changes direction, if I can say.
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  Because the more I live, the older I get, the more I see that maybe,
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  just maybe, things really do happen for a reason. Maybe we're being guided.
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  Maybe we're being redirected. And maybe sometimes the timing is smarter than we think.
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  And to be honest with you, when you sit back just a little and let life move,
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  it becomes a whole lot easier to see the meaning behind the chaos.
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  So today, let's talk about just that.
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  Let's talk about trusting the timing when life doesn't make sense,
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  because sometimes it doesn't.
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  When it feels unfair, when it feels random, or when things are falling apart,
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  or that you're falling behind, because you're not.
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  And in this episode, I want you to remember that. All right,
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  let's get into it. Here's the thing.
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  Life rarely goes according to plan that we make in our head.
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  That's it. And we all like to think that we're in control of everything,
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  that if we do the right work and we make the right choices, everything will
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  unfold exactly when and how we expect.
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  But that's just not how life works.
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  Timing has its own personality. It's on intelligence. It's on agenda.
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  And to be honest, timing is usually a better decision maker than we are.
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  And just for a second, think about the moments in your life that absolutely
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  confuse you or upset you or threw you out completely off track, okay?
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  The breakup you didn't want, the job you did not get, the medal you didn't win, I don't know.
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  The opportunity that slipped through your fingers, the move you didn't plan, the delay you hated.
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  And then later, when enough time passed, you look back and thought,
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  oh my God, that actually worked out perfectly.
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  I just couldn't see it then. I'm sure you've had that moment.
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  That's what I mean when I talk about trusting the timing.
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  Sometimes you're not being rejected. You're being protected from something.
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  And sometimes you're not being slowed down. You're being prepared.
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  And sometimes you're not behind. You're actually being lined up for a much bigger
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  moment than the one that you thought you wanted.
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  But when you're in it, when you're waiting or when you're hurting or when you're
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  confused, it's really hard to see any of that.
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  We don't say, oh, wow, this delay must be divine.
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  Of course not. We think, why is this not coming? What did I do wrong? Why isn't this working?
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  Why is everyone else's moving forward but not me?
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  And the truth is, you're not behind.
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  You're not too late. You're not off your path.
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  You're in the middle of becoming someone who can actually hold that next chapter.
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  So I want you to hear me right now. And maybe that's your writer downer for tonight.
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  You're in the middle of becoming someone who can actually hold the next chapter.
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  So that waiting period that you hate, that's growth.
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  And that confusion, see that as redirection.
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  So if you are in a slow season, for instance, maybe that's protection,
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  maybe that's preparation, or maybe it's both.
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  So trust me, I get it. It's uncomfortable when we don't get what we want right
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  away, when we feel lost or disappointed.
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  We're human, so we can certainly, we want timelines and we want control.
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  But when you loosen up that grip, even a little, when you stop trying to force
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  everything around you, when you stop panicking every time that things shift,
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  you start to see the big picture. And that's what happened to me lately.
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  I said, I'm not going to let all these things that I think are not going my
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  way as something negative.
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  When you start to notice that the things that fell apart actually made space
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  for something better, hmm that's pretty awesome when you start to recognize that the people who left.
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  Weren't meant to stay for your next chapter that's a big eye-opener and when
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  you start to understand that the timing that you fought against was actually helping you,
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  That's unbelievable. And here's the part that people don't talk about enough.
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  Sometimes life slows you down because speeding up would have taken you into
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  the wrong direction. See it that way.
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  Sometimes life rearranged people or will rearrange situations around you because
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  you need a different foundation for what's coming next.
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  So it doesn't mean that you failed. It means that you're being shaped. See it that way.
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  You've got to understand that timing isn't always comfortable.
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  The in-between seasons, like I call them, the waiting room moment,
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  they can feel, they can suck.
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  Let's be honest. They can feel endless.
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  But that's where all the internal shifts happen. That's where your identity is strengthened.
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  That's when your resilience is being built. That's where your values solidify.
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  That's where that version of you who can handle that next chapter is actually formed.
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  So if you're in a weird season right now, if things are uncertain,
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  if plans change, if you feel like maybe everything is on pause,
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  I want you to ask yourself something.
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  What if this is actually working out for me?
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  What if I'm being protected from something I can't see?
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  What if I'm not late? What if I'm right on time?
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  And you don't need to know the answer today. Of course not.
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  You just need enough trust, just a little, to stop treating every single shift
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  in your life like a disaster. And that's what I start doing.
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  And it feels so cool to be on that wave that you cannot control,
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  but you're just surfing and just trusting.
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  Sometime in life, a shift is your biggest blessing.
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  And one day, you're going to look back at this moment, the moment that you doubted
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  and the moment that frustrated you or the moment that you felt like everything
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  was falling apart and you're going to say, oh,
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  that's why, that's exactly why it had to happen this way.
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  Life always makes sense backward, guys, so trust it a little more forwards.
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  Thank you for spending this time with me today. If this episode gave you even
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  one breath of relief or maybe a moment of clarity, take that with you. Share it with someone.
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  Maybe you've got somebody in your life who's going through a rough time and
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  needs to hear this, needs to have a reminder.
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  Make sure to subscribe and follow The Nadia Chapman Show. Thanks for listening.
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  Trust the timing. trust the shift, and most importantly, trust yourself.