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Ep. 16 | What Movies to Watch on Family Movie Night · The Family Teams Podcast

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  Hey guys, welcome to the 5-Minute Fatherhood Podcast. I'm your co-host, Jeff Beth Key, along with my friend and mentor, Jeremy Pryor. Join us Monday through Friday as we chat about quick tips, skills, and ways to help equip you on your journey as a father to build your multi-generational family team on mission. Stay tuned.
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  Hey guys, Jeff and Jeremy here on the 5-Minute Fatherhood Podcast. And I get this question a lot. Dads are just like, oh, I'm starting to like wanting to have different themed nights. One of them is kind of a movie night, but we keep running out of movies. And so we have a cool father's Facebook group. And so sometimes people will share different movies that have really...
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  resonate with their kids. And, you know, as much as we often try to steer kids away from screens, I think helping them get immersed in epic stories is also really valuable, especially if you're doing it together. So I know we can take potshots at screens and because we spend way too much time on them, but they do have their uses. And one of them is, man, there's some great movies out there that tell amazing stories that we want our kids to hear and be immersed in. And so
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  um and you know there's lots of them so i thought we could jeff and i can go back and forth on some that we really loved one that our family is totally into is kubo and the two strings this is a great little film japanese movie i know jeff wants to take a pot shot at the the style aesthetic go ahead not my favorite not my favorite but hey as long as it's a good story yeah it's beautiful and it's a great story and so that's that's one that we like uh there's a bunch of these so we keep going back and forth jeff what are you guys into i'm
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  For us, one thing that our kids are absolutely obsessed with, and yeah, just real quick thought too, like you said, we're actually pretty hypervigilant, no screen family. We can be with toddlers. They don't really need them at all. But even then, we have one TV in our house. It remains hidden, no cable, et cetera. But we
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  kept it. We almost got rid of all screens, but we kept it because I feel like film is so powerful. Stories are so powerful, especially collectively as a family. There's a huge difference of a family individually being glued to screens and then families partaking together collectively in story and in film. And I can't wait till the kids are older because I think once you start getting into a little bit more serious, realistic films, it's a brilliant opportunity for conversation starters and for let's chat about this. What did you see there, et cetera. But now at our age, yeah. So an
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  Another one that our kids are obsessed with right now is the entire Cars trilogy. It's kind of one of the only movies they've actually seen at this age because they just want to watch that one over and over and over and over again. And everyone in the family gets named based on the Cars. So I'm Kinsley's Lightning McQueen. I think I'm Doc, Alyssa's Sally, if you've seen the movie, et cetera. So yeah, totally immersed in it. They bring that world out into the house. We engage with it. We love it. And that's a good one.
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  I think, you know, it's probably obvious, but I want to say it because I think it's really incredible. And that is The Incredibles. Because I did not mean to do that. Sorry. Somebody edit that. But what's really cool about it is that it's like the first time that I've seen a movie that...
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  whose theme is a family team, where you take all the individual, like literally, and of course in the movies, superpowers, and you see what happens when they work together. That story is, like, that is the story we're trying to tell in family teams. And one of the things I love about...
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  sometimes with films, particularly the epic animation films, is that oftentimes they reflect sort of the emergent longing or the longing that's just about over the horizon that's just kind of emerging right now in the culture. And I think there is this sort of emerging desire to see what is this thing called the family for? And I think that The Incredibles is a really great illustration of, hey, you all got superpowers. We all need to be working together. And that's what those movies are trying to illustrate. It's beautiful. It's awesome.
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  Totally. And then two for us, which I actually think in this, I'm glad Disney actually took a little bit more, started to go a different direction with not just the always the princess, the damsel in distress, the romantic love story, even though those are great. And even though there's elements of things that those are great. I do like that recently they've taken some turns that I actually think elevate family love over kind of just like romantic, you know, um,
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  allure or something like that. Right. And so the two movies I think of that is Moana and Frozen. So Frozen clearly is a, is a movie where she picks family love over the typical, you know, uh, Prince charming, et cetera. Now I'm not talking about, so, uh, so what I like about that is I feel like it, it provides a really cool construct for us to then bring that back to the family and say, Oh, look at this. The family seemed to have a unity and a love and a devotion that seemed to Trump because they weren't married. So that's not, they're not family yet. And
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  That seemed to trump this kind of this this trope of the Prince Charming who actually ended up being a bad guy. And then Moana on the same front, because each each movie, by the way, really comes down to interpretation. I think a lot of times you can knit Christians can nitpick certain movies of like, oh, it's teaching this or it's teaching that. Like, well, it really depends on how what you bring back to the family and say, hey, let's talk about this.
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  And Moana has some weird spiritual themes, of course, but it also has brilliant themes, I think. And one of those, again, is the blend or the tension between individual longing, but also wanting to be connected to your past and a multi-generational family. Moana is entirely about her rediscovering the story of her family hundreds of years ago. And I love, again, bringing that message back to the family rather than maybe some of the more interesting, weird parts. So those are two, I would say.
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  It's crazy that when you see that multi-generate, it's happening more and more, probably the movie where that talk about weird themes, but one that you can really see is that movie Coco. Have you guys seen that one? Oh, yeah. That one's brilliant because again, yeah, Latin America ideology is brilliant at connecting yourselves to multi-generational legacies.
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  Yeah, it really goes deep into that conversation in that movie. So I definitely think that you should check that one out. Just to kind of – by the way, I think Kelsey almost had a conniption. You said Frozen. So all of my girls have some kind of aversion to Frozen. And she doesn't have a mic, so she can't explain this to me. I've tried to ask them. Well, I mean, I will say that –
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  Exactly right. I mean, I went and saw it three times in theaters by myself before we had children. I love the soundtrack. Now, now I think they're there. I think you got overawed by that music, Jeff. Exactly. I got hypnotized. Frozen is weird because it does. Touche. That one does take on two kind of roads where it either is like a hyper princessy movie that some people don't like. Or like I said, I really like the more like familial connection it makes. But yeah, that's funny.
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  So, yeah. So obviously others that are awesome inside out. So fun to talk about emotions. I love the metaphor they created there. There's a movie called Wonder if you haven't seen that. You know, that that is there is a tension that's so interesting between.
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  the the the main character and his older sister that is beautifully done in that movie um so in terms of sibling relationships i think having a conversation around that with wonder and it's got lots of other great themes and then of course if you want to have fun there probably is no more funny movie to our family than the emperor's new groove um absolutely has the best lines of just about any animated movie ever made uh so that's uh that'll round up my listicle on on movies got
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  That's all I got. Some of those inside out is brilliant. That was another one I was going to say, because I feel like it just gives words and language and pictures to be able to really help construct and communicate about emotions to your kids, which are so important. Don't stuff them. You have them. They're important, but they also are not the end all be all. There's different ones. And like, it's kind of an undertone in that movie is there's certain, if you notice at the very end too, when they go through all the different people's brains, different emotions are on the driver's seat in different people's brains, which I think is a really interesting...
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  kind of subtle picture that they, or truth they allude to there, is which one are you letting kind of drive the car per se. So that's all we got, guys. Don't be mindlessly screen-watching people, but let film and story be a beautiful tool to construct conversations and build your family culture.
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