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How narcissists use their emails · The Mental Healness Podcast

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  What is going on, beautiful people?
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  Today we're going to be talking about how narcissists e-mail.
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  I've done a video about texting today.
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  We're talking about how narcissistic people e-mail you.
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  Stay tuned. If you're new here.
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  My name is Lee Hammock. I'm a clinically diagnosed
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  narcissist. And welcome to another episode
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  of The Narcissist Code. So boom, Welcome back, welcome
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  back. Welcome back, folks.
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  Folks. Folks, yes.
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  No, this is not click bait, Lee. I never thought I'd see the day
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  when you made clickbait, clickbaiting, narcissistic stuff
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  for you. Just add into the stigma, blah
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  blah blah poo poo poo BB no, this is not clickbait.
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  This is me. It's anecdotal, but this is me.
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  And from what I've observed over the last four years of dealing
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  with narcissistic, toxic people dealing like breaking down
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  hundreds and reading, then there's thousands of text
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  messages and emails and also being a sender of certain emails
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  as well in the past. So this is me coming from my
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  perspective, to help you decipher and let you know when
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  narcissistic people, when they're emailing you, how
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  they're emailing you, how they're trying to communicate
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  with you through emails and whatnot.
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  Y'all because this subject is important.
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  It really, it really can't help you out and understand the
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  mindset and the dynamic of how narcissistic people, the inner
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  workings of their minds, can help you heal and help you grow.
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  So because e-mail is a direct form of communication, because
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  let's let's key it off right here.
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  Some narcissists absolutely will, only will.
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  You have to have seen the movie 300 to get this reference 300 to
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  300 Spartans. You'll remember how they had the
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  like the phalanx, how they it was only 300 Spartans versus 10s
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  of thousands of Persians. And the Spartans were winning,
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  right? They funneled them down to make
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  it even, you know. They funneled them down to make
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  the battle more even on their side, right?
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  If you want to come get you want to fight me, you have to come
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  through this tunnel right here where we're fighting in the damn
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  cave, right? With no back.
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  So that's how a lot of narcissists will do you right
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  there, right? Or they'll just end up.
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  This is the only form of communication.
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  I've had people dealing with narcissists, right?
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  Where the narcissists will only e-mail, no texting, no calling,
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  no WhatsApp, they will only e-mail you.
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  Because e-mail you can create fake emails all the time.
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  Easy. It's easier to create a fake
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  e-mail than it is to create a fake phone number.
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  Nowadays you can make multiple fake emails.
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  Lee Hammock 1. Lee Hammock at Gmail 1.
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  Lee Hammock 2. Lee Hammock 3.
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  Lee Hammock 4. You see what I'm saying?
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  I can just add on to it to communicate with you.
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  So some narcissist will absolutely revert resort to
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  emailing you because there is y'all.
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  Y'all know it's stressful to change your e-mail, especially
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  if you had it forever. Pardon the Interruption, just
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  want to let you know that I do have courses and support groups
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  available as well. Courses to help you understand
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  what you went through and support groups to help you
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  during or after the toxic relationship.
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  Link in the description and back to the video like.
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  Especially if you had the e-mail address forever, you're more
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  likely not going to want to change it because you had it for
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  business. You had it for work, especially
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  it's a work e-mail there you had it for business.
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  All your other friends and families are connected to the
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  e-mail like it's a IT. It would be a hassle to change
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  their e-mail, and a lot of narcissists understand that.
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  So they bombard your emails because they know that you're
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  going. Like I said, they know that
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  you're going to. If they they can block you.
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  You can block them everywhere. You can block their phone
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  number, you can block all this stuff.
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  But they choose to e-mail you because they know you're more
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  apt to not want to change that because it's y'all.
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  Y'all know it's tough as hell to change an e-mail.
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  So narcissist. Some of the narcissist will
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  resort to emailing you because they know it's hard to block
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  even if you send me the spam. If I assume you send me this,
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  ma'am, I'm going to create another e-mail.
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  Lee Hammock 1. Lee Hammock 2.
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  Lee hammock 3. Lee Hammock 4.
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  Take me back five I love you 6. I miss the cheeks.
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  Seven. I miss the I miss the
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  sweetcheeks@gmail.com. I miss your sweet cheeks.
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  forever@gmail.com. I know, yeah, I know it sounds
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  super ignorant, but that's how a lot of narcissistic people's
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  mind works right there. They will start doing things
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  like that because they know it works.
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  They e-mail you because it's a disconnected form of
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  communication and a lot of narcissistic people will do
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  that. Y'all.
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  And it's me being real, doing any of this stuff.
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  I shouldn't say this is the beginning, but doing any of this
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  stuff in the emails and whatnot, it doesn't make you a
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  narcissist. It just doesn't.
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  This is not just a telltale sign of narcissist, but this is what
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  I have observed from narcissist. It just is, you know, So they
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  choose e-mail to communicate because that's their only form
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  of communication. Because you block them
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  everywhere else so they can bombard your emails.
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  They can use their emails to exhaust you.
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  A lot of narcissist, the way they e-mail you is to exhaust
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  you into responding because you get tired of open up your
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  e-mail. Bing, Bing, Bing, Bing.
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  You got a bunch of emails from me communicating and like some
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  narcissists will funnel you to emails like on the other side of
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  the dynamic. The narcissist will only
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  communicate with you through e-mail sometimes because they
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  can hide it from their new supply if they've moved on, if
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  they're disconnected from you, if they just say, I would rather
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  just talk to you through e-mail because it's easier.
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  And you know they have someone else because they're trying to
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  hide what they're saying to you. They're trying to keep their
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  conversation with you private because emails can be hidden
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  very easily. You know that, You know they can
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  just, they can send you the spam and they can send you, they can
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  send all your stuff to the spam. They can go read it anyway.
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  You know, they can send you the spam and they can just the spam
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  box will be their inbox for you. So they, some narcissists use
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  their spam box to cheat. There's a cheating box.
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  They would just send their other like they're cheating on you or
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  they have a new supply. They can be cheating on you or
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  they didn't have a new supply. They can just send the other
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  person's emails to spam and they just check.
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  They're just consistently checking the spam box because
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  they know where it's going to be.
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  You know, that's what happens sometimes.
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  Y'all it's the mind of a narcissist and how they e-mail
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  it, whatnot. So it just covers it up right
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  there, right? So this is what also happens
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  too. And this is another technique
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  that narcissists will do. Some narcissists e-mail you like
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  somebody else is going to read them.
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  This is a very covert way that a lot of narcissistic people send
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  you emails in a very covert, coveative way because they think
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  that you're going to let somebody else read it so they
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  watch what they say. Again, this does not make you a
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  narcissist if you said narcissists will absolutely try
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  to expose you what you see. But narcissistic people seem
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  like they are trying to be abusive.
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  The intent behind the emails matter.
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  If your abuser is sending you emails, they they send you coded
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  emails because they think that you're going to show it to
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  somebody else. So they'll leave out certain
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  things. If you're responding to them and
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  you're asking them direct questions and they're just going
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  around the question, they know they think that you're going to
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  show it to somebody else. Narcissists are paranoid, yo.
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  So Mary, Mary, imagine a paranoid person behind an e-mail
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  account thinking that you're going to expose them because
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  they know they've been doing wrong.
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  They know they've wronged you. They know they've been horrible
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  to you, right. So they think that you're going
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  to expose them. So they watch what they say to
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  you because they can see. They think you're going to just
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  show the world who they really are.
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  So the threat of exposure for narcissists is extremely high.
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  So they e-mail you like other people are watching, right?
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  They e-mail you like other people are going to be there
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  doing this type of stuff. They do all this stuff here.
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  That's what I'm just telling you.
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  Narcissistic people are going through the system.
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  They continuously do the same thing over and over again
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  through these emails because this is how they communicate
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  with you. They can send you little, like
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  especially if they're trying to cheat with you or cheat on you.
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  They're sending things like you going to find it or somebody
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  else is going to see it. So they can be, they can
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  deflect. If you discover this, they can
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  deflect it, right? They can deflect it and gas like
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  you and manipulate you because they send certain things.
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  They send things in certain ways to be deflective, to be sneaky.
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  They sneaky like a little. They are literally little sneaky
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  snakes, little sneaky snake narcissists, you know, So this
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  is such a disconnected form of e-mail because like, they will
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  absolutely use emails to cheat with.
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  Y'all just like and the easiest thing to do it, the easiest way
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  to do it is to have like, you know, I have, you know, I have
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  two phones, right? They have different iCloud
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  e-mail addresses, It's 2 phones, two different phone numbers.
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  So I can like literally do it right there.
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  I can literally can do it right there.
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  I can just, oh send things from the other e-mail address.
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  And this is another thing that toxic, narcissistic people will
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  do. So be careful with this right
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  here. Y'all on the same phone.
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  I can just create a new e-mail address and text message you if
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  you block my number, if you block my my phone right here.
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  Because there's a lot of narcissistic people will do.
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  They will just change their e-mail on their iCloud and start
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  messaging you again. Yeah, I'm just telling you, I've
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  seen so many just deceptive, covert ways that narcissistic
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  people use their emails to get back into your life.
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  Lee Hammock at icloud1leehammock1@icloud.com or
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  you block me. Lee hammock2@icloud.com is my
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  new e-mail address that I registered my registered to my
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  phone. And now I can message you again
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  because you haven't blocked this number.
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  You blocked my number. You blocked that first e-mail,
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  but now you you haven't. You can't block my SIM card so
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  I'm just going to create a new e-mail address to be able to
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  message you. I'm just telling you This is why
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  the way they would use it to circumvent blocks.
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  They will use their emails in very covert, sneaky ass ways to
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  do what they need to do to get through to you.
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  Then they can just change it back and keep their keep their
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  relationship with their family dynamic going on.
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  Or you can have two phones and on one phone you can choose to
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  continuously switch the e-mail on.
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  Just be very careful. Y'all code the narcissistic
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  people. They use their emails in very
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  specifically covert ways to continue to continue the cycle
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  of narcissistic toxic abuse. They absolutely can.
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  You know, they absolutely 100% can do that.
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  They they really can't. They.
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  This is like they post separation abuse when a
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  relationship ends. They can still be abusive
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  through their emails and nobody knows.
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  Like you show them the e-mail and like that doesn't This
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  e-mail is abusive to you because they think other people want to
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  watch it. The narcissists are a lot of
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  narcissists are paranoid as hell, so they think that you're
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  going to show people what they're saying to you.
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  So they use very coded dog whistles in their emails and
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  messages to you so they they can, they can continue the cycle
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  of abuse and just get away with it.
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  Dog whistles talk about you, your relationship with your mom,
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  your dad, whoever it is to mess with you through these emails.
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  And even if you show them to somebody else, nobody else will
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  understand it. They will understand.
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  Like, this doesn't look abusive to me.
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  Like what do you? You're going to be seeing
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  something I'm not because this doesn't look abusive to me.
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  You see, just be very careful when you're emailing the
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  narcissist like, and I'm sorry to say this, y'all, but
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  sometimes if you can't get harassment charges to out on
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  them or it's restraining order, sometimes it could be best to
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  change your e-mail address to be able to stop this flow of
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  communication that is coming in towards you or change your
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  number or you change your iCloud address.
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  You see what I'm saying? To counteract it, I just made
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  this video to give you some tips and tricks.
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  Because when they resort to emails and changing their
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  emails, this is how you can protect yourself.
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  This is how you can circumvent it, because you can like like go
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  back and listen. I'm not telling you go back.
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  They might retraumatize you, but if you're still in contact with
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  your narcissistic X because y'all have the Co parent or
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  whatever, just look at the something they said to you.
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  Not just the e-mail, but look at the stuff they send to you in
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  text messages. They're very they can be very
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  coded and covert to try to continue the cycle of abuse
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  while being outside the relationship with you.
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  So watch out for that. Y'all hope y'all enjoyed this
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  Peace.